A Time to Text, A Time to Talk

A Time to Text, A Time to Talk

September 8, 2017

“When the hour came, Jesus and his apostles reclined at the table.” Luke 22:14 (NIV)

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I decided to try an experiment. I would bring my phone to dinner and bury my head in it to see how my family would respond.

Our dining table is a phone-free zone. My husband James and I don’t bring our phones to meals, and our kids don’t own phones. I was certain they would comment within seconds: “That’s so rude to bring your phone to the table.”

But to my surprise, no one said a word.

We blessed the food, and everyone started eating. James asked the kids about school. I felt more and more embarrassed by my anti-social behavior, even though no one else seemed to care. I was ready for my family to reprimand me about my phone preoccupation — except no one was giving me any grief at all. My face got red hot.

I blurted out, “Hasn’t anyone noticed I’m on my phone when I shouldn’t be?!”

They calmly answered yes. James said, “I figured you had something important and time-sensitive to finish up.”

My family members weren’t the ones agitated about my phone use. I was! I felt cut off from the conversation. I was waiting to be chastised and brought back into the family discussion. I wanted someone to notice my absence.

My brief experiment showed me my family gave me the benefit of the doubt since it wasn’t my usual practice to use my phone at dinner.

It also taught me it doesn’t feel good to use a phone while eating with loved ones.

There are many times recorded in Scripture when Jesus ate with people. Granted, they didn’t have phones back then, but if they did, can you picture Jesus preoccupied with texting instead of talking? Me neither. Jesus reclined at the table with tax collectors and sinners (Mark 2:15-17), lepers (Mark 14:3), Pharisees (Luke 7:36) and close friends (John 12:2).

Jesus communed with people, often by sharing meals with them. It was over the last Passover meal from our key verse in Luke when Jesus introduced what is now known as the Lord’s Supper. As Jesus took the cup and bread and gave thanks, His disciples were paying attention. Our key verse says, “When the hour came, Jesus and his apostles reclined at the table” (Luke 22:14). They weren’t distracted by taking photos of this pivotal moment in history (#LastSupper) or tweeting quotes from Jesus.

Drawing inspiration from the famous words of Solomon in Ecclesiastes 3, I wrote a poem about the need for discernment in this digital age:

There is a time for everything technological,

And a season for every activity under your roof:

A time to take photos and a time to refrain from taking photos,

A time to text and a time for long conversation,

A time to install apps and a time to uninstall apps,

A time to limit and a time to use,

A time to watch funny cat videos and a time to read thoughtfully in a corner,

A time to delay gratification and a time for lavish gifts,

A time to keep and a time to throw away,

A time for Facebook and a time to shut Facebook down,

A time for Skype and a time for getting on an airplane,

A time for digital advances and a time for silent retreat.

Friend, there is a time to text and a time to talk. May we have the wisdom to tell the difference.

Lord Jesus, forgive me for sometimes using my phone too much and my voice too little. Help me be fully present with people, especially when we gather around a meal. Create in me a desire to listen unhurriedly to the concerns of others. Show me if I need to make any changes to the way I use my phone and other devices. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens … a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak.” (NIV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
It’s easy to become consumed and preoccupied with our devices. So we begin to suppress or ignore what’s most important, focusing instead on the urgent and sensational. If you’re seeking balanced technology use, resulting in a more balanced life, you’ll enjoy Arlene Pellicane’s book, Calm, Cool, and Connected: 5 Digital Habits for a More Balanced Life. It’s available in our bookstore.

CONNECT:
Enter to WIN a copy of Calm, Cool, and Connected: 5 Digital Habits for a More Balanced Life by Arlene Pellicane. In celebration of this brand-new book, Moody Publishers is giving away 5 copies! Enter to win by leaving a comment here. (We’ll randomly select 5 winners and email notification to each one by Monday, Sept. 11.)

Get a free printable of Arlene’s poem on her website today.

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
What is your usual practice with phones and screens at mealtimes? If they are banned from the table, carry on. If they are a regular part of the meal, try putting them away one day this next week, two days next week and so on — until you find yourself enjoying uninterrupted time with family, friends or colleagues. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but keep at it, and watch your relationships improve.

© 2017 by Arlene Pellicane. All rights reserved.

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Comments

  1. Peter Owiredu-Yeboah says:

    This article by Arlene is very direct and timely. Has opened my eyes. I will discuss with the family and make a conscious efttort to improve our table life as family. God bless everyone

  2. If you are fortunate enough to enjoy a meal with someone, take the time to enjoy being with them while you’re eating. Your conversation could be life-changing for one or both of you.

    • JW, Thank you for your insightful comment. That’s a game changer. I never considered what a blessing it is to have someone to have someone to eat with. So many people are lonely and wanting companionship, and here we are with our faces in our devices while we have company around us. We don’t use phones at the table, but I am guilty of using a phone at other times when I should be spending time with others.

    • JW, you have touched my heart. I’m so sorry you don’t have someone to eat with. My brother is the same way, and he only has a regular cellphone that he barely uses. There isn’t any one to call him either, besides me. He has family but no one that is interested in him. People rush through life, throw others away, without a thought, and don’t enjoy what they have, when they have it. I will be praying for you, that God would send someone into your life. There is just my husband and I and we never take our phones into restaurants. But we eat in front of the TV, while at home, we never did that when our boys were little. I think, like the phones, the TV can be a bad distraction too. We have too little time together on this earth, and we lose sight of what is really important. God bless you, JW and Ann.

    • JW, you have touched my heart. I’m so sorry you don’t have someone to eat with. My brother is the same way, and he only has a regular cellphone that he barely uses. There isn’t any one to call him either, besides me. He has family but no one that is interested in him. People rush through life, throw others away, without a thought, and don’t enjoy what they have, when they have it. I will be praying for you, that God would send someone into your life. There is just my husband and I and we never take our phones into restaurants. But we eat in front of the TV, while at home, we never did that when our boys were little. I think, like the phones, the TV can be a bad distraction too. We have too little time together on this earth, and we lose sight of what is really important. God bless you, JW and Arlene.

  3. I would love this book! I’ve tried limiting my time on social media but it’s time to move to the next level!!

  4. Lindsey Fether says:

    What a great reminder!

  5. I’d love a copy of the poem and change to win the book

  6. This is soooo good!! I mean it got me to comment because I feel like there are so many people who need to read this (and I will share this!) including myself. I always see groups/families everyone in their phone & I think to myself, “that’s so sad” people don’t talk to one another anymore – everyone is in their own “mobile zone” – it’s like they’re stuck there and can’t get out of it – so I suppose the name “CELL-phone” is correct – we remain prisoners of our own devices & we lose touch with others. I pray that we would use less of our phones and be intentional to speak to each other – I pray this for everyone in the world, especially for my family. Thank you for such an important devotional!!!!!!!!

  7. Calm, cool and connected.

    Book I’d like to win.

    • To every season… Yes. Thank you for reminding us Jesus is a God of relationships that aren’t limited to a hashtags and limited characters. To God be the glory!

  8. I would enjoy reading this book and sharing it with my family. The phone seems to be making more and more appearances during family time and it makes me sad.

  9. Peggy Cuomo says:

    This was so good! I am going to be more specific on where I use my phone!!!

  10. I’d love how to manage better in this digital age.

  11. Otilia Caraveo says:

    I need the discipline of phone useage and to get in the habit of praying more instead of running to phone. And to listen effectively instead of just hearing.

  12. Samantha Smith says:

    Sadly, I know I have too much phone time. I really need to work on being present for my kids and husband more often. It’s just such a habit that it’s hard to break!

  13. Ours has always been a phone free zone a the house. But when we go out to eat with family I don’t feel I can govern family members about their use. I do make comments every so often tho. I try! I think it’s rude to ignore your dinner mates. Its one thing to watch for an important message but don’t bury your face in it!

  14. We don’t allow phones at the dinner table but also we require they be turned on silent, even a chirp can change the mood and everyone gets the urge to check what the reason was. If a phone makes a noise during dinner the owner puts a dollar in the jar, if you touch the phone or answer to talk it’s $2. We use the funds for a family activity once there’s a bunch!

  15. Kimberly Brownstein says:

    Thank you for providing me with encouragement for my personal use as well as allowing my Husband to graciously see this post(read it first before sending,)and providing me with creative ideas to make our dining table, no matter what time of day or meal, a tech free zone. I am humbled and proud to initiate this new rule, beside my Husband and his very valued help,with our family. Setting and becoming the best example and role model inspires me to want to do more, without tecnology, just like the fun and creative days of growing up and childhood. Thank you Father God for this important message and filling our Author’s heart with such purposeful words to write, and challenge us, as we grow in You , in my Marriage and with my Family! Amen!

  16. I desperately need this book to help me with my preteen grandson who is with me every day after school. He and his immediate family are consumed with cell phone use. I need help to establish cell phone boundaries while he is in my home. Maybe they will carry over when he goes back home!

  17. Vivien Monroe says:

    Great devotional this morning! Would love to read the book.

  18. Ricardo Rhoomes says:

    Timely word for a fast paced world. Blessings

  19. Reupah Philips says:

    Thank you for the timely word. I have just finished a counseling session for a family who had issues because of their excessive use of phones which caused a disconnect between them. After reading your article I plan to conduct a research in my country regarding several aspects of digital life and then wish to suggest them to read your book.
    Thanks again.

  20. Vicki Frohling says:

    A Time To Text…..

    I Would love to give this to my church library ! Such an important issue families face today.

  21. Thank you for sharing this devotional. I don’t have a cell phone and don’t plan on getting one until I really need one. It is sad to see how people are so glued to their cell phone and not talking when you are around others. I would love to read your book and share it with my daughter.

  22. Karen Stevens says:

    Applause to you for penning a book long over due! Can’t wait to read it. So glad God laid this on your heart!

  23. Nancy Sanford says:

    I use my phone mostly for devotions. I am looking forward to reading the book. Thanks

  24. Oh how I want to be more disconnected from technology. I’d love to read and learn from your experience.

  25. This book sounds like a great read, especially for this day in age!!

  26. Karen S. says:
    September 8, 2017 at 5:11

    It is obvious where the disconnect begins when you are having dinner out; just look at others sitting down for dinner and texting.

  27. W W J T
    What would Jesus text?

  28. I’m good at keeping my phone away at dinner but glued to it the rest of the time. I need to put it away more thru out the day and focus more on my family

  29. Tammy Leiphart says:

    This devotion was a good reminder to lay the electronics aside and get back in the game of life with our family.
    My family and I when on vacation had a no phones at the table when we went to restaurants it was a great way to focus on our family considering our kids are 20 and 18.

  30. Stephanie Britt says:

    I really enjoyed the devotional. I would love to read her new book. Thanks!!

  31. Enjoyed this devotion, while I don’t text while we’re eating dinner there are times I spend too more time on Facebook than I should. This confirms what God has been saying to me….Spend more time with Me instead of Facebook

  32. Anna Rodgers says:

    I know I spend too much time with my phone and I am guilty of texting when I am with someoneelse. I want to get better about not doing that. I enjoy reading your devotional every day. I was reading your blog and I went through a divorce last year. My husband was abusive.

  33. Brooke Mason says:

    Great read. It is soemthing I struggle with and should pray daily for.

  34. Great reminder to focus on what is really important. Technology can so easily take over these days!

  35. I think this is so true! I struggle with the balance of social media and real life and have turned off FB and IG since Lent. While I feel somewhat “free” not have those “distractions” now I also struggle with feeling left out or that I’m missing something.

  36. I would like one of the books please.

  37. This is a great reminder for everyone. When you go to restaurants most people are not talking anymore but are on their individual phones. I see every member of the family on phones. So sad to see that. We need to have the decency to at least put our phone down when eating dinner with our family. I would love to have this book Thanks

  38. Vicki Hannon says:

    I’d love to have it!

  39. DEANNA Vitale says:

    I have a commitment to listen with my ears and see with my eyes the person in front of me. The addiction to the social media world robs us of precious moments that cannot be reclaimed.

  40. Laura Posthumus says:

    I wish to be more balanced in my life with technology.

  41. Cheryl Walker says:

    Would love to get the book!

  42. Thank you for the gentle reminder.

  43. I am curious to see what the book has to offer. I see our young folks in the educational setting being “tied” to their phones. As one of an older generation, it has taken me much longer to get into the texting thing. I fought it for quite a long time, but finally gave in to keep more “connected” with my family.

  44. Great reminder!

  45. Exactly what I needed hear at Proverbs 31 this morning. I know I’ve been on my phone too much, even I don’t like it and I’m bored. Would love to read your book.

  46. I need help with this. I am addicted to my phone and have been asking God for liberty from it. It takes me away from other things that I need to focus on.

  47. Oh to find the balance! If we’re not careful we easily fall prey to yet another addiction in disguise, the compulsive use of social media over time spent in relationship with loved ones. How can we move about and have our being in Him if we are focused in our tech worlds, oblivious to the moments and people He places before us?

  48. Jennifer Ratcliff says:

    A great devotion on a topic that is relevant to our lives today! Great job on the poem!

  49. I really loved today’s post. It is so true.

  50. Rachel Alexander says:

    Phones need to be regulated. Thanks for the reminder.

  51. Today’s post was so timely in my life. i find myself consumed with my phone instead of hanging out with my kids or talking to my husband. I definitely need to adopt habits to focus in on my life more than my phone.

  52. Wow…amazing poem! Would love to share bok with family and friends. We really do need to be aware of technology use while home with family.

  53. My family needs this book. Digital distractions are destroying my marriage:(

  54. Jennifer Ingram says:

    Well said! Its sad to see how technology has changed how we interact with people.

  55. Really enjoyed this devotion today. Thanks!

  56. Shelly Carpenter says:

    This reading is a great reminder to connect with family, friends and God. Too many times I’m caught up in looking on my phone ‘real quick’ to check on email, comment on a post, or send a brief text. Our time with others is lost, never to be replaced if we don’t enjoy the moments together. God bless and may you be healthy and happy!

  57. I am so guilty of this. Very good devotional and reminder. Sounds like a very interesting book!

  58. A great reminder of how we should use technology with discernment! Thank you.

  59. Terry A Gwathney says:

    My eyes are opened wide! Thank you!

  60. Phones can be a major disconnect between parents and teens. My teen is not allowed to be on her phone when we sit down to eat. It’s basically the only time we get to talk so I cherish it.

  61. So true and sad! Would love the book!

  62. We have a phone-free, no TV dinner table – surprisingly, the 14-year-old grandson is usually the one to remind others. I love it!

  63. My husband and I went to dinner one evening where some of the staff recognize us and we chat with them. They told us that it was so refreshing when we come in because we talk to each other. They said that there were couples that would come in “on a date” but hardly speak 2 words to each other because they are on their phones. It made me sad. We enjoy our phones but I guess there’s still something in our brains from growing up in a simpler time. But I have gotten used to it quickly. If I leave home and not have it, I feel the anxiety creep in. Strange how we start to depend on something we haven’t always had. I’m thankful that I have always had direct communication with our Lord. No charges or worry about data overage. 😀 God bless!

  64. Love you 😘

  65. I loved the poem and would love the opportunity to read.

  66. Mindy Hewitt says:

    I agree that non screen time is important. Would love to read the book.

  67. Meagan Ridgeway says:

    First time reader, just googled searched Proverbs 31 womens devotions and was sent here. Its a win win fot me either way, i love reading books that improve my life and I found a great devotional website to go to in yhe mornings.

  68. Helaine Lummus says:

    What a great poem.

  69. Jada Seaton says:

    I would love to win this book.

  70. Heather Smith says:

    With 5 people in my family and 4 of us with phones, I would love to have a copy of this book. We need to disconnect and get connected.

  71. Edna oliveira says:

    Certainly, I agree. But I also thank God for technology when its time to take a plane but you are not allowed to. Then you can enjoy the FaceTime and see your loved ones who lives far abroad. 🙏🙏

  72. Joy Griffith says:

    Love this! Some mornings i struggle to not check facebook or messages until after my time with God. That’s why i love and appreciate p31 and first 5 apps. They’re right there and i go to those first and take time to reflect and talk to God.

  73. Device free dinner is something we’ve accomplished but I want a few minutes each night we put it all away and connect with each other. I’m met with whiny and uncooperative family members. I’m really ready to make this experiment work!

  74. Janice Edingfield says:

    WOW!! This really hit home with me. Been thinking about deleting my FB app from my phone. Definitely confirmation that’s what I need to do. Thanks!

  75. I feel so disconnected from my family due to phones. When I try and take them away, my husband always finds a reason to need his. 😤

  76. Loved the poem!

  77. Very creative – though provoking poem

  78. Lori Simmons says:

    Technology certainly has been a good tool and a bad tool. Thank you for this devotional reminding us to create healthy habits and set limits for our families.

  79. Amber Mirra says:

    What a truly enlightening message for time around the family table. Thank you for this today!

  80. Hunter hannig says:

    Thank you – I needed this reminder! Great story

  81. ShmHly Radford says:

    Dear Eileen,

    Could not agree with you more for the need to disconnect from the electronics. We had to see our daughter off last night on her flight to England. We will not see her until Christmas. Those precious minutes before her flight could have easily cost us treasured memories. The three of us were challenged and being rewarding when ever they were tucked away. Thankful for the electronics while she traveled and again this morning while she is still traveling to her destination. Praise God that we can lift them in prayer. I look forward to having the honour to receive your book. Chairein! Heather

  82. Sheryl Harris says:

    What a great reminder of there is a time for everything! Thank you. 😊

  83. I’ve definitely noticed times recently in which my phone was a big distraction. I am intentionally trying to mute my phone more, leave the emails and texts alone, and be present in the moment.

  84. Emily Ellis says:

    Very thought provoking. I appreciate it.

  85. Jamie Haarmann says:

    I am always irritated at phone use when having meals with friends and family. I try to put my phone on silent and hide it way when at meals. I want to be fully present in the moment with I am with those I love.

  86. Loved the poem! Especially know the time to tell
    The difference – these gadgets are addicting – I don’t want my kids to see this phone in front of my face when they should only see my face <3

  87. This has always been a eye opener for me. It just shows how people can value you and your time vice versa. I can be guilty of this sometimes. After reading this devotion I want to create a phone free zone at dinner with my husband as well. Thank you for sharing.

  88. Thank you for sharing your story. This was a very good reminder of what’s really important-people! I’m looking forward to reading your book.

  89. I appreciate proverbs31 and love the daily inspiration! God bless you

  90. My son told me I’m “attracted to my phone” last week. He meant addicted and it truly convicted me. I’ve been leaving my phone in my purse when I get home from work until they go to bed. I want to set a better example for my kids when it comes to technology use.

  91. So good! I’m definitely guilty of using my phone at the dinner table. Thanks for the reminder!

  92. Mary Black says:

    I used to bring my phone to meals, but I realized wheat I was really missing out on was time I would never get back with my family. Now, I only bring it out if I need to look up something that pertains to our topic of conversation. My son asks a lot of questions, and Google/Wikipedia had come to my aid on more than one occasion. My phone usually stays tucked away in my purse if we are eating out, or in my room when we are eating in.

  93. Theresa Mason says:

    Thank you for this blog! I love the grace shown by family and it is a great reminder to me as a mom, I am not the only one capable of grace. The poem is perfect! I am going to share it with my kids & grandchildren. Have a blessed weekend!

  94. Holly Cantell says:

    Calm, Cool, and Connected sounds like a read for the ages. After I read it I’ll pass it on to my girlfriend who needs it as much as me.

  95. I love Ecclesiastes 3 and am thankful for the wisdom in your modern day poem based on the cadence of beloved scripture. I do need to use my phone as a phone more often instead of texting paragraphs.

  96. Yes I believe 💯% no phones at dinner! I do struggle throughout the day to have more balance as part of my job is coaching people with nutrition. I would love to learn some healthy boundaries to help me not feel a need to always be available. Thank you for the opportunity!😊

  97. marah hubbard says:

    My husband and I are empty nesters and I recently noticed how much time we both spend on our phones. We now ignore them at meal time and each evening after dinner. Phone time can really interfere with relationships.

  98. Tameka Shelton says:

    I would love to win a copy!

  99. Norma Lloyd says:

    Your article is a reminder to me that involves my teen grandson- I caught myself listening to him halfway as I was playing a game on my phone. One of the Love Languages of Teenagers is TIME.

  100. No phones at the dinner table is a great rule. One I wish we would have had before my recent divorce. Communication is so important and we all should make “face time” important.

  101. Anne Taylor says:

    Thank you for sharing your heart and your wisdom A great reminder for me to be present in every conversation. I’m blessed to have people in my life that enjoy communicating with me. God bless you!

  102. Pattie Jager says:

    Thank you for addressing this issue. Thank you for bringing God into the habits of our lives.

  103. Thank you for the poem and the opportunity of a free book. I’d love to read it and then share with some with a few others.
    God bless

  104. Melissa Unger says:

    I love the idea behind this book! It the most refreshing thought as I head into a new school year! I have been fasting from social media for 3 days and I’m not sure I want to go back on!

  105. Lorraine Wright says:

    Thank you for this devotional. Although we do have a ‘no electronics’ meal time I do find that I have become addicted to electronics. I find myself feeling that I have to be available to EVERYONE all the time and i sometimes wish I could go back to the days of our household having one phone stuck to the kitchen wall. Back then, our telephone time was more restricted and conversations had time limits because you weren’t the only one who had rights to it. As a teen, I remember having to walk down to the closes get together place to see what my friends were doing and I didn’t necessarily know EVERY little thing that EVERYone was doing or did within minutes of it happening which seems to have gossips in their glory. I feel I had more time to read and just rest my mind.

  106. Great reminder!

  107. Chelsey Kolbet says:

    Thank you for this great reminder.

  108. Martha Parrish says:

    This was a wonderful lesson. I find myself halfway listening to my family and halfway(or more) paying attention to my phone. I need to change my habits! I would love to read your book.

  109. I had just prayed about this when I opened Facebook and saw this devotional.

  110. Phyllis Ashby says:

    I would love to read this book. I think it would help me through this slump I am in.

  111. Ashley Masters says:

    Thank you for sharing your God given gift of teaching and serving others. This devotional has made a wonderful difference in my family and myself. We have a no phone rule for dinner and we are going to expand it to ensure we are really “hearing” when in fellowship with others.

  112. What a great devotion in such a connected yet disconnected age.

  113. Linda Oertel says:

    I Hope i Win!!!

  114. Tara Rolan says:

    I’d love to read this book!

  115. With 2 phones myself (work and personal), my husband having a phone and our tween son having one, finding the balance is the biggest struggle in home. This is so throught provoking! Thank you!

  116. Karen Vogel says:

    I’d love this book. My family has had some serious trials in the past two years, and we have used our electronics to avoid time together and to cover up the pain. This would be a great way to wean us off our devices!

  117. I love this! I am going to make an effort to discern if I am using technology in a healthy way. I want to be present and a good example for my family.

  118. Rondia Little says:

    This sounds wonderful in this digital age we live in! I find it so frustrating when trying to communicate with folks who constantly have their eyes on their gadgets. Satan is using these things, which in and of themselves aren’t wrong, to tear the human race apart, and, sadly, it’s working!

  119. I would love to read what you have to say about this topic.

  120. We never have our phones at meal time.

  121. we have a lot of phone/social media issues in our family. I am sure this would be a good read!

  122. Oh my gosh… a topic that speaks to my technology-loving heart! I would love to win a copy!

  123. I definitely would love to read this book. We have to many electronics in our home and need to find a good balance.

  124. Deb Bieker says:

    I would love to have a copy of Arlenes book. This devotion is so True! Thank you!

  125. Please, please, please…..my husband and I need to read this book so much. We are addicted to technology and time is slipping away too fast with our small children. Thank you!!

  126. Kathy Lamarand says:

    I have an unsaved husband who has complained about me using my cell phone and Facebook too much. I am sure this book can really help me to have better control of my time!

  127. How great that this topic is being addressed! Our digital world is a blessing and a curse almost at times, so how smart to point out a balanced life with it. Would love to read your book!

  128. I would love to read this book because our lives are consumed by electronic devices from home to work and beyond.

  129. Interested in reading the book. Love your poem about technology in the blog. I logged off facebook about a year ago and at times have considered logging back in but I know I have trouble limiting my time and “looking” at other people’s ideal lives (in their profiles) is not helpful to me in anyway. Thank you for the encouragement to remain in His love!!!

  130. Today’s devotion and the topic of this book is exactly what I need! I have wasted hours these last few weeks on my phone and laptop. It has kept me from quiet time with God, interacting with my family, and grading student papers. Last night I was convicted of how desperately in need of balance I am in this area – among others.

  131. God speaks so timely. Yesterday I removed Facebook from my phone so that I could become more balanced and this morning here was the word reinforcing that! I would love to read your book. Thank you

  132. Would love to read this since I have 2 teens & I work with teens in church.

  133. Lynn Walker says:

    Thank you so much for this reading. I love your poem. I love meal times with my family and how connected it makes me feel.

  134. Paige Davis says:

    I wholeheartedly agree that balance is the key! No phones allowed at our table. It’s time to connect with each other. Thank you for this message and I look forward to reading the book.

  135. Kim Holmes says:

    This is so true, we need to unplug more and connect to people

  136. Thanks for this devotional. I look forward to receiving it daily and sharing with friends. I have definitely felt a conviction concerning social media as a whole. I am working on limiting my time “scrolling” as I am noticing how much of a time stealer it is. Blessings to you!

  137. Deb Boerema says:

    I love this poem. I’m not a big technology user. (My family members tease me because I avoid texting.) But I appreciate the desire to keep others off their devices, especially at mealtime.

  138. Technology really has become an addiction for many. I would love to read this book

  139. Denise Czapla says:

    Love this, it is so true! Looking forward to the book!

  140. Melissa Kier says:

    Thank you for the opportunity to win 🙂

  141. Thank you for this tug of conviction. I’ve been guilty of spending too much time on my phone. While it hasn’t had much impact my earthly relationships, it has had a significant impact on my relationship with my Heavenly Father. Working on my phone and computer takes away from my time with God. And I’ve noticed recently that even when I am having my quiet time with Him, I’m distracted because I’m thinking about getting back on my devices to continue where I left off whether it was on Facebook, surfing shopping sites or reading idle stories. Thank you for the reminder that there is a season for everything.

  142. Annie Carpentier says:

    These are words of wisdom…I love it! It is so rude when someone you are spending time with to is more concerned with what’s going on on her phone than to pay attention to being in the moment. Thank you God for technology as it allows for many blessings and YOUR name to be proclaimed across the whole world – protect us from the distraction it can cause in our lives….

    Thanks for the reminder! 🙂

  143. I don’t mind my husband and i having a cell phone but it really hurts me when he is glued to his phone all evening. We are in a room together and whatever is on his phone is more important than spending time with me. When my children come over they’re on their phones constantly. Why come over for a visit if your going to bury your face in your phone. No one gives the attention or respect to the other person. Most days I get annoyed with my phone. I would rather hear a voice, than text. How much time is being wasted with our faces being buried in our phones. Sad

  144. I’d love to enjoy Todd’s book to share with others!

  145. Marianna Rivera says:

    It’s often difficult to not use my cell phone. Lately I’ve been trying to stay off my phone when I’m out with my boyfriend. I often tend to take pictures of my meals and share them on my social medias. I’d like to discipline myself to refrain from relying on it so much. Sometimes it’s a way of showing off or a way to show off where you are or what you’re doing. It’s little things in life that show us how to enjoy life. I’d like God to guide me to live a better life and to not rely on a screen that won’t bring me joy.

  146. Karen Jeffries says:

    Excellent article. Will definitely pass it on. Thank you.

  147. Jackie Johnson says:

    Thank you for sharing your heart. I hope to practice this and put down my phone for often.
    God Bless

  148. Ironic as I always read these on messages on my phone 🙂
    Thank you for the opportunity to receive the book.

  149. Great lesson! I no longer choose to use my phone at the kitchen table. The phone takes priority over my husband and family when I am distracted. Thanks for the reminder that I make that choice! I make the choice to change!

  150. Lynn Avery says:

    This book would be wonderful to receive.

  151. I’d love to read this book! Balancing working from home and mothering three little ones can be tricky when it comes to technology.

  152. Thanks enjoying the daily e!

  153. Jennifer Bullard says:

    Wow.. stepping on my toes and it actually feels good. I needed this!

  154. Jill Kerns says:

    Would love to win a copy !

  155. I so need to read this! I have been thinking a lot about technology use and realize that between work and tv and my phone AFTER work, I don’t give myself much unplugged time. I need to change the way I use and view technology.

  156. Wow, this one spoke to me and my whole family! There is a time to read the Word from Bible Gateway, and a time to read from the page worn Bible your mom used when she was young. Thanks again for this one.

  157. What a needed conversation! With 3 teenage daughters who love technology I yearn for more “talk-time” but dont know where to start. Thanks for creating something to guide us in that area. Blessing!

  158. Kim Flasch says:

    I would love a copy!

  159. Debra Little says:

    The devotion was sent to me by a friend. I smiled as I read it because it brought confirmation to my soul in several areas: having those long conversations instead of send a long text message; Jesus ate with a diverse group of people. He didn’t limit His association only to those like He was. He was and is our example.

  160. A great message for today as my family just purchased smart phones.

  161. I would love reading the book. I feel the struggle of disconnecting with Facebook. I am tired of “it’s okay to voice my opinion but I don’t want to hear yours ” philosophy. The struggle is I think I will miss out on something.

  162. Rose Hardin says:

    With just my husband and I in our home now it becomes easy to Facebook or have Netflix on. He enjoys his phone I believe more than I enjoy mine, so there are times I request his presence of mind because it does feel very disconnected when your sitting together but distracted.

  163. Rachel Davis says:

    Sounds very timely! Would like to read and share.

  164. I would love to read this book, my mom struggles with staying connected too much and the family has said things numerous times but it falls on deaf ears. I would like to learn habits I can pass onto her and to my 7 yr old daughter. Who knows, maybe we can teach the next generation to desire a time for digital disconnectedness. (Is that even a word?)

  165. Love this topic! So important to remember and be aware of!

  166. This is such a refreshing read. Our children don’t own phones, either. However, I know fully that their Father and I lead the example of spending too much time on our phones and not in the moment. Prayerfully dealing with this and dither encouraged to put the phone after reading this.

  167. Great reminder! It’s a constant battle to find balance in these things. Would love to read the book.:)

  168. Courtney Mooring says:

    I would love to read this book. It’s so hard to put down our toys and actually see what is going on right in front of us.

  169. Love today’s article really hones in on how we can stay present and not let electronics preoccupy life !

  170. Sometimes we can forget the Wonderful benefits of fellowship….which is priceless! I thank God and you for the reminder…and Jesus and the Word for the examples of Love in action.

  171. Jenni Pike says:

    Love your fresh new insight to this topic, Arlene. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us as readers.

  172. Martha Swenson says:

    I love this!!!! I’m going to print it & share it w/ our youth (&some adults) in Sunday school!!! t
    Thanks for sharing! &GOD BLESS!

  173. Thank you for this post, I get frustrated sometimes when we are having a family time and people are using their phone instead of talking with us.

  174. Linda williams says:

    I read devotionals and use my bible app and I do get distracted by other things on my phone. It’s definitely a blessing having a bible with me everywhere I go. It is another opportunity to pray each time I open my phone to praise God for the technology but keep me from distractions as I focus on Him and His Word.

  175. Becky Slone says:

    For years, I did not want a cell phone. Then, the day came when I bought one. Now, I don’t see how I ever existed without it. UGH! That is not how I wanted my life to be connected. I wanted to connect with real people, in real time, in real life! Now, I constantly look to see who has emailed me, and what they need/want. I am connected to my work email also, and so I feel like I am at work all day until I go to bed, instead of an eight -hour work day, I am basically “on call” for at least 16 hours a day. No one can balance their life like that! I love the poem that Arlene shared in this article. I am going to share that at the next staff meeting! Not only I needed to read those words, but others, I’m sure do also!

    Thanks for sharing!

  176. Technology has it’s place, but sometimes I long for the good old days when you weren’t connected allday, all the time.It’s relaxing not to all other oncall 24/7. Thanks for the reminder. I’m gonna try harder to disconnect more often.

  177. I’d love this book!

  178. I live in a neighborhood where we can watch people taking walks
    past our house. I am floored at how many moms are pushing a stroller with another child in tow and are talking on their cell phone! Even at the storesI I have seen moms busy talking on their cell as the kids follow behind her. This is PRECIOUS time that she should be engaged with her children! Why has time on cell phones become more important than time talking with those around them?

  179. Heidi Mendez says:

    Very timely! I’m reevaluating my online usage right now! I’d love to check out her book.

  180. What a meaningful and poignant play on this scripture for our modern times. I will be sharing this with my children today! And post it in our kitchen! Thank you – fingers crossed I win the book!

  181. Holly Bird says:

    This broke my heart. I pray that God will help me find balance in my life – both digitally and in all areas. Thank you for this critical reminder in our busy lives.

  182. Patricia Mees says:

    I love your poem. Would love to win the book.

  183. Jessica Palmer says:

    Loved the devotional and the poem! A great reminder the important of quality time with family, especially our children.

  184. I am a WAHM and find myself bringing my work to the dinner table. I need to put this to an end and enjoy dinner time with my family and not be disengaged behind a screen.

  185. Ohh This book sounds great. This seems to be my biggest current struggle with myself and my family.

  186. michelle k quattlebaum says:

    I love Proverbs 31!!

  187. I would love to have this book!

  188. Gloria Collier says:

    Reading about limiting time with technology this morning was a good reminder for me. I would like to read more and share with my family and friends.

  189. michelle k quattlebaum says:

    I love proverbs 31!!!

  190. Point on!! Technology has its place as a tool but is an inadequate substitute for human connection and fellowship. How can we do the Lords work through words on a screen? Lovely, well written and something to share! Thank you!!

  191. Valerie Weisman says:

    Great article by Arlene that is easy to relate to with my own heavy reliance on my mobile devises. We practice the no phone rule at our house during meals and it does help with communications. I would like to get a free copy of her book to learn about other good ideas. Thank you.

  192. Brandie Burkhalter says:

    Wow! I needed this post this morning. I know I need discipline with my technology use, so this is definitely convicting, but also encouraging!

  193. Dena Busic says:

    I long to be more connected with my family and for ALL of us to put down our phones at the dinner table. Your daily devotionals are always on point with what is going on with my life. I enjoy them so much! Thank you!

  194. Sirley Micks says:

    This devotion was so needed. This morning I actually let out a quick prayer to the Lord, to help me stay motivated to get my house organized, because as a wife.. I haven’t helped my husband in that way because of my connection just with social media. Thank you so much for sharing and encouraging us to have a time for everything and to walk out in the wisdom that God has provided for us.

  195. Dorothy' Schepmann says:

    I enjoy Proverbs 31 Ministry and especially “A time to text and a time to talk”.

  196. Lisa Almonte says:

    What an amazing share! It has been in my heart for awhile now and this confirms that I need to truly analyze my time and what I do with it especially with technology! I would love this book!

  197. I’d love to receive Arlene’s book. I feel all families should create a no tech zone(time).

  198. Patricia Estes-Garretson says:

    It is so easy to allow our cell phones to consume us especially when around friends and family. This devotion reminds me to be aware of those situations…to make the choice to put my phone away and converse with those around me. Relationships are important and aren’t not going to grow if we’re all on our phones.

  199. I could definitely use this book!! My phone is taking over too many hours of my day….addiction…I think it may be. Sounds silly but because I’ve lost my career due to physical problems it seems to be my only friend…my only connection to life….I’m lost and alone….I know God is with me…but I go to my phone for “human” contact….as many friends I found were not really friends as they disappeared when my physical problems confined me to home. Help me please.

  200. I’d love this! Planning on teaching on this subject at youth group this year!

  201. Angelica Rodriguez says:

    I have noticed that I am addicted to my phone. Checking social media constantly. I am pretty sure it’s a problem and I want to fix it…just not sure how.

  202. Learning the balance is difficult, especially with children who are a product of this age. I try to limit time, but our environment often fights me.

  203. Terry Dinsmore says:

    Loved this post! My husband is notorious for getting on his cell phone when we sit down to eat, so I started getting my phone out & silently taking his picture. It annoyed him but didn’t stop him, so I joined him and get on my phone whenever he does. It has slowly improved, as he realizes it doesn’t feel good to have the others at your table so disconnected.

  204. What a great reminder “A time to text and a time to talk”. I work in a high school and our students are not allowed to have their phones out, but as soon as I’m home, I’m on mine, taking time away from my family. I will definitely and with prayer be making some changes.

  205. Jessica DeWitt says:

    I would LOVE to win a copy of this book! I think it would bless me and my family tremendously. I also think I could pass on valuable information to my husband too!

  206. Shirley Warr says:

    At a business seminar several years ago the speaker made the statement, “Wherever you are, be there!” In order to do that we must give full attention to the person in front of us and not look continually at the phone screen.

  207. My whole family is getting consumed by electronics. Phones always there, it seems like they rarely leave my husband and 1 sons hands. YouTube, gaming, or even just reading information. So very much. I am so heavy hearted, but I’ve always felt like I’m fighting a losing battle. So, I’ve sort of joined them.

  208. This sounds amazing! We spend way too much time in front of screens. What are we teaching our children?

  209. Shannon Farmer says:

    Such a great devotion today and so practical!

  210. Nikki J Earley says:

    This devotion hit so close to home. My family is a very tech-y family. iPhones, iPads, computers..we definitely try to not use them when we are having conversations but that is not always the case. Whether it is someone on social media or reading news articles.

    I have a habit Of taking my phone EVERYWHERE I go. Even when I take the dog outside I take my phone. One night I was putting my 7 yr old to bed and we were reading. I had my phone while she read and she said to me ‘do you have to have your phone right now while we read?’ Ouch!! I put it away right then and try not to take it in her room when we read. She wasn’t rude about it but it let me hear that she knew I wasn’t all there in the moment.

    I really liked the poem and am going to be forwarding the devotion to several friends..

  211. Dianna Chambers says:

    I have special plans for this book, if I’m chosen to receive a copy. I believe many people of all generations have lost touch with what is most important in life; spending time verbally communicating with their families and friends.
    I was born in 1960 and I’m so thankful that the technology of today was not available in the years when I grew up. Families spent time verbally talking, sharing and had moments of precious time together. I’d enjoy using this book to help share ideas with those who need a reminder of what is most important before they are grown and gone. God Bless.

  212. Thank you so much for addressing the use of phones during meals. It’s a huge problem in my family and everytime i bring it up, we start arguing and talk about things that actually make angrier! I’m slightly guilty of It too)
    I’ll try to suggest this again today!

  213. Coki LaFave says:

    This devotion hits home and applys to so many in our current society. I make an effort to put my phone down,to disconnect, on daily basis so I can be present in my family’s lives. I only wish they could do so also!

  214. This devotion really spoke to me. I’m always looking for inspiration and ways to ‘unplug’ with my family. Thank you for today’s inspiration.

  215. Jeanne Wiles says:

    Such a great devotion, and very convicting. I am definitely guilty of being on my phone, and not being present for my family. I don’t want to miss anymore!

  216. Love the poem! Hate seeing families out to eat with all of them on their phones instead of talking

  217. It’s a shame that we have to suggest to people to put their phones down during a family meal. I pray that our families and relationships can get stronger together and stop being ruined by technology.

  218. Tracy Patrick says:

    I would
    Love a copy of Calm Cool and Connected.
    I want to be engaged and present with those whom I am speaking or listening too!

  219. Dottie Thomas says:

    Thanks for this devotion. I struggle with over doing it on my phone & tablet. My husband & I try not to use our phones at meal time. It is so sad to see whole families with their heads “buried” in their phones. Time to make a change. Kids need parents to be present more than ever.

  220. My husband and I both need this book. I think phone time tends to be a boredom thing for most people. Then it gets to be a habit that people don’t even think about. Thank you for that poem today! Very True!

  221. Sara Barrera says:

    Just what I need to read this morning. I feel I am always stuck to my phone with everyday life. How sad!
    Thank you,

  222. Sandra Martinsen says:

    This article has hit very close to home for me this morning. My daughter just had a new born son, Aug 26th. I live in Hawaii and she lives in Florida. Through technology I was able to FaceTime with my daughter real time to experience the birth of my first grandson, Elijah Kenneth. I was in awww and I thank God every day for the ability to do that. Because she is only 21 and a single mom, which I was, me as a mother needed to come to her and do what I can to help her thru this amazing, but difficult time for her. I flew from Hawaii to Florida, with understanding but conflict from my husband, to be at her side. To no ones knowledge I came into the weather of a hurricane. We sit and wait for a category 5 hurricane as it approaches.
    Her cell phone is attached at her hip, does not put it down unless she is feeding Elijah. I am on my 5th day and it continues to be a daily occurrence. Not sure how to approach this without causing conflict. I am praying for intervention from our Lord above. This article fits so very well. I think she will benefit from this book. If I do get a copy I will spend time and try to pick and choose parts of it to send to her. At the end of the day I will send this book to her.

  223. Connie Ferris says:

    I would love to win a copy of the book. At school last year I supported a student-led lesson for each of my classes called Screenagers. The students were very receptive to the data presented and when examining the time on screens the time averaged 6.5 hours a day. And that was without homework! All agreed that their screen habits were not contributing to building the kind of relationships they yearn for.

  224. Caitlin Sullivan says:

    Love that poem!

  225. Would love to win this book!

  226. Michelle Augustus says:

    This message and poem truly bless me.

    Thank you

  227. Bethany Holmes says:

    In our family we don’t do social media, but we do play a few app games together. We find technology both fun and frustrating. Thank you for taking a stand and showing us ways to do the same, so we aren’t ‘the only family’ with screen rules.

  228. Pat Barnard says:

    Thanks for the reminder!!

  229. This is something I need to be better at, along with my significant other. Loved today’s message!!

  230. Cindy Clark says:

    LOVE THIS!!! Everyone needs to realize we are missing the point of life with all our technology! I love technology but its devouring our precious time! Thanks for this!

  231. What a timely reminder. I am a part of local women’s bible study and we just started Priscilla Shirer’s study, Breathe. In her first message she talks about being enslaved to things God gave us to enjoy, gifts. We were instructed to write things we may find ourselves being enslaved to and Technology, my phone in particular, was first on my list. … I vowed instantly to work on this problem, starting with not allowing myself to use my phone on Sundays. Thank you for the message.

  232. Jennifer W. says:

    Thanks for the great message–this is something I was “raised” to do automatically–except for movie nights, no screens at the table, although in my day it was just “sit at the table to eat, not in the family room”. I am thankful that our new house is older and not the open floorplan my family is used to–so therefore NO TV viewing from the table and hopefully with that the upholding of no screens period! 🙂

  233. Excellent article!! Would love to read that book!

  234. Karen Huff says:

    Think I could use this book. Need to prioritize my life.

  235. Brenda Gosser says:

    What a wonderful reminder, I hope to have the opportunity to read this book.

  236. cheryl weaver says:

    I love your poem. I am going to print it and hand out to all my friends

  237. So eye opening. Love the poem.

  238. What Arlene wrote is very true. It is a reminder that even if I have the option to communicate these days in various ways (e.g., text, email, via facebook, skype, etc.), which is great, I also have to take time out and make sure I spend quality time with family, friends through face-to-face conversation or phone calls. It really makes a difference to see them and hear their voices. Thanks, Arlene!

  239. Deanne Evarts says:

    Love the poem and so greatly needed.

  240. This is an area I really need to work on! I would love to read this book.

  241. Helen Franchois says:

    As I sit in Panera with my tablet–but not with family or friends–I realize that this is very timely advice! Would love to share with grandchildren who prefer to text rather than call! Although, truth be told, hearing from them in any fashion makes me smile!

  242. Donna Green says:

    Very well said!

  243. Karen Kalar says:

    I don’t like how technology has taken over our social lives. I decided to stop & pray every time I had an urge to look at Facebook then only use social media at designated times.

  244. Love this and I agree completely. I LOL at the #lastsupper!!

  245. This devotional hits home. While I haven’t tested my family by being on the phone at dinner, I have been told by my husband and daughter (who is only five!) that I’m on my phone too much. Social media can become an addiction and trap into comparison of your everyday life against everyone else’s highlight reel. I have spent a season refraining from social media, and just this week I deactivated altogether. Other than not quite knowing to do with idle time, it has been freeing. It opens up margin for more communion with God and fellowship the old fashioned way. I feel more refreshed than I have in a long time given the circumstances of life. I would love to win this book to continue this journey stepping away from the devices!

  246. Rachel Boden says:

    Loved the poem and reminder of enjoying the moment and putting away the electronics! I suffer with this on a daily basis and am continuing to work on it! Thanks !

  247. I too try not to have a phone when eating. With kids and husbands the best time of the day is when all are together.

  248. Communication is the key to connecting with family, and friends, except with the fast paced world, there seems to be no time for connections. I believe this book will open the readers eyes and see what God sees. He created us humans to love others as He loves us. Thank you. I am blessed to receive this book in Jesus name. Amen.

  249. Maggie Garrett says:

    Creative and much-needed poem. I struggle with refraining from being on my phone around my son. The thought of the disciples taking pictures of the last supper or tweeting quotes from Jesus made me laugh. It is comical to think of because , as you said, even if they had been able to do those things, they probably wouldn’t have.

  250. Kerry Stanton says:

    The poem will be a great reminder of what’s more important, interaction with human beings. There are days I lose sight of that when as an adult I should be a better example!

  251. This book sounds like a wonderful read! I just may add this book to my Christmas list for each of my 3 adult children❤️

  252. Laurie Summerlin says:

    Love the poem!

  253. I really enjoyed this article and poem. It was something i definitley needed to read today after recently realizing how hard it is to hang out with friends and family in this age because everyine is constantly on their phones. I just completed a rehab program where we were not permitted to have phones and going out in public with our group and actually having to communicate with each other instead of being on a phone was so eye opening.

    I’d LOVE to win a copy of the book.

  254. Lynn Davis says:

    There is indeed a time for everything under the sun. For me, this is the time to read and build myself up in the holy faith. But is anytime an easy time. Everything requires time and effort under the sun. So give time your ultimate best, for no one knows the time or seasons except we see them.

  255. Michelle Villalba says:

    So many times I find myself buried in my phone. Time and time again I take fasts or day to myself today I am putting my phone down, and then I fail miserably. I would love to read about balance and how I can be better at being more present.

  256. Sidney Milton says:

    What a great reminder that people still need other people!

  257. Thank you for this post. In our family, we rarely have a phone at the table although once in a while we’ll look something up together. I imagine there are other times when we should put them down tho. Im very interested in your book! And I loved the prayer at the end of the devotional 🙏

  258. Theresa Reed says:

    What a great devotional. I hope it makes each reader think if not only phone use at meal time but at all times. I sure made me think of tones that I have had my nose in my phone instead is listening to someone right in front of me.

  259. I am a scheduler so I am working on a device all-day and cant wait to get home and reflect on my day and word not my devices.

  260. Grandma Cindy says:

    I needed to be present in the moment. I plan ahead so much, I miss today.
    Thank you. Today is the day tat the Lord has made let us rejoice and be glad in it.
    Lord help me to enjoy today, family,friends,coworkers,customers,present today.

  261. Excellent!!

  262. Great reminder!

  263. Jana Waddell says:

    Perfectly timed! I’d love a copy of this book!

  264. Love this. It’s crazy how easily we can be consumed with what’s around us and the norm of using your phone so much. I’ve learned to live in the moment and not miss an opportunity. Because sometimes our opportunities spending that time with them is the only chance we have.

  265. Dianna Feuerhelm says:

    I totally agree I think our society especially the younger Generations have a difficult time connecting. We’re also having a very difficult time balancing time. Our technology allows us to work 24/7 and we are not allowing for God to give us rest.

    Thank you!

  266. Great reminder that we do rely on our phones too much. I’ve seen in my children and their friends that they are losing the skills needed to actually communicate face to face because they text too much. Our family faces this struggle daily to put down our phones and enjoy talking with each other. Your book will help us to step away from our devices and enjoy more conversation time. Thank you.

  267. Shalee Purin says:

    Thank you for today’s message.

  268. Thank you for your incite. We are finding ways to enjoy no tech time together and it’s a blessing!

  269. Thanks for the insightful thoughts to put perspective on my day!

  270. This is inspiring and thought provoking, and an area in which I struggle. Not at the dinner table, but throughout the rest of my day. I’m working on being more present with my family and less disconnected from them. Thank you for these words of wisdom and encouragement.

  271. Thank you so much for the awesome poem, thank you for sharing.

  272. Christine DeGarmo says:

    What a great idea for a book.

  273. Bravo for taking no a stand on technology. It is a sad thing that some of us can’t even take time to share a meal with the ones we love most.

  274. I would love a copy of this book! I’m always trying to find ways to unplug. I’ve taken Facebook off my phone for months at a time over the last year, uninstalled all the games on my phone and tablet. This has helped me a lot with connecting more with my family. I feel like I still have a lot to learn!

  275. Wendy Morrison says:

    Sounds like this book is full of wisdom!Good news!

  276. I work in technology and believe in the opportunities that it presents, but I also agree that there is a time and a place for everything and balance is an art that many have not achieved in relation to technology. I’d love to read the perspective this book offers.

  277. Debbie Floyd says:

    What a timely and much needed book. Sounds like one I will definitely recommend to customers at the public library where I work as well to friends across the country.

  278. Kristin Moore says:

    Love this! This is something I have been working on myself. I downloaded an app to track how much time I spend in a day on my phone and I was shocked with what I saw on the first day! I always pride myself on being the one in my family who uses their phone the least. At the end of day 1, I opened the app and discovered I had spent almost 2 hours on my phone!! I always complain that I am so busy and that there is never enough time in the day! Kills me to think I wasted 2 precious hours of my day on my phone!

  279. Kori Williams says:

    I love the poem the author wrote. It hit my heart.
    Thank you for your devotions; I appreciate them daily.
    Blessings,
    KW in Minneapolis

  280. Diane Lockard says:

    I am definitely in need of setting my technical priorities – a time and a place…

  281. Thank you for sharing your devotion. It is insightful and helpful for me. I can apply this information to situation with my teenage daughter. Balance is organic… as a parent I need to help my daughter be balanced in her life. A healthy balance can help her now and in the future. Time management skills are so important in our life.

  282. I love this, I have been guilty myself of having my phone out when I shouldn’t. what is really that important to miss out on your family or loved ones. Thank you for this devotional <3

  283. Can I get an AMEN?! Thank you for such a practical application of these verses, both in Luke and Ecclesiastes. We also don’t allow phones at the table and if something rings or dings, it waits til everyone is excused. Good stuff!

  284. Melissa Lopez says:

    I’m needing to learn how to spend more time in Gods word and not on my phone.

  285. Amen! Thank you! Very relevant to today’s life!

  286. I needed this thank you

  287. Brenda Vanlandingham says:

    So true. The advances in technology may be good in so many ways, but seems to breaking down the very essence of what “family” is all about. Texting is a great way to stay in touch, but can be so misunderstood. Actually hearing a person’s voice is much more rewarding

  288. Linda Vermillion says:

    This was very good. I really liked the poem.

  289. Good morning!! Hope you are having a great day.
    I would LOVE to win a copy of this book!!!
    Thanks so much:)
    Have a blessed day!!

  290. Poem printed and on the fridge! We don’t have phones at the table either, our kids don’t have phones at all, but we can all use this reminder. Thank you!

  291. This is really a good poem. It makes you think about how you connect with family at a meal. Its only my husband and myself at our meals since the kids have moved out, but when we all get together, we do not take our phones to the table. I feel like we’re ignoring each other if that would happen. Thanks for reminding me that it is important to communicate, listen and be attentive to those around you when the cellphones are not at the table. Thank God that there is a time for everything in its season.

  292. A much needed devotional today. Too many people are glued to our phones and we are teaching our children the same.

  293. Suzette Buff says:

    I love your poem! I just read Ecclesiastes 3 yesterday. God is so good!!

  294. Marjorie Hilbourn says:

    What an on time devotional this morning!!!! Thank you!

  295. Louise McCoy says:

    I love this site and enjoy my daily devotionals.

  296. I get lots of texts but I crave a voice. I have ovarian cancer and going through chemo. I don’t have alot to talk about right now but you do. Conversation about your day adventures are uplifting and joyful and it gives me connection and strength. Just a thought

  297. Marci Baumann says:

    This poem that was written on the topic of connection (based on Ecclesiastes “a time for everything…”) needs to be printed and displayed on our home. I’m as guilty as anyone as getting digitally unbalanced. Thank you for sharing this!

  298. That poem is appropriate for today’s world! It’s so easy for me to become lost in my phone and forget about those around me, whether it be at home or out in public.

  299. Melissa Harvey says:

    I’ve been super convicted as of late to stop being on my phone so much when I’m with others. I know it bothers me when I’m trying to talk to someone whose eyes are on their phone rather than on my face and yet, I often do the same. Thank you for another reminder to focus and love on the people who actually like me, rather than paying too much attention to those who “like” my posts.

  300. Morgan Richardson says:

    I love this & would love your book. Thanks for the encouraging words & the ludicrous image of Jesus or his disciples texting during one of their meals. LOL.

  301. Thank you! I am going to share this with my husband whom I ask to stop checking his work site when home. Also, made me more aware of not hurrying my conversations (e.g. fitting in a conversation while running from store to store)!

  302. Genie Lubach says:

    Such a great reminder that we all need! I would love to get a copy of the book. Thank you. Blessings, Genie

  303. It’s just my husband and I at home. We aren’t often on our phones during meals but it does happen. I am trying to get in the habit of being less attached to my phone and hope that my husband will be as well. I also like that when our kids/grandkids are home. Our time together is little and precious and we need to focus on each other not social media. We also have discussed picking up the phone and calling our kids (especially those we don’t see as often). It takes more time and is hard to know when it is most convenient for them but I do enjoy hearing their voices and hearing that all is well instead of getting the text response “I’m good, nothing new, nothing going on…” or something to that effect 🙂 I love the poem and think it is very timely!!

  304. Karrie Lambert says:

    Thank you for the opportunity to win this book. As a young family we are trying to establish phone rules 😊

  305. Connie Nelson says:

    I would love to learn the appropriate technology usage when with family. It’s hard to know where to draw the line.

  306. Susanne Moore says:

    There has to be a balance in using technology. I like the personal approach much better.

  307. This is such a touchy subject for so many. The patriarch of our family passes a basket before our holiday meals for everyone’s cell phone. The basket doesn’t come out until we’ve enjoyed our meal and good conversation. I love it!

  308. Thank you for this timely devotion. Definitely something I need to work on…being more “unplugged”!

  309. So many things vie for our attention that it is sometimes difficult to choose what is most important. The person sitting next to you is always more important than whatever is on your phone. God, give me Your grace to choose what is best!

  310. I would love to learn more about how to balance all this technology and social media and use it to glorify God.

  311. Liliana Carrillo says:

    Totally need this for myself and my boys!

  312. My teens have caught me at times using technology instead if engaging in conversation with them. Humbling to say the least! The most important interactions we can have are with the ones directly and physically in front of us.

  313. I would like to add one:
    “A time to shop on Amazon and a time to take care of the home office”
    So no more Amazon until the filing is done. I’ve been procrastinating.

  314. Jennifer Langley says:

    Love your poem.

  315. Time to get off Facebook and call your mother ! ❤️😘

  316. Emily Manuel says:

    Love!

  317. Oh how my family and I need to learn how to balance our use of the phone without getting into disagreements over it! The phone has become a necessity but an area of contentiousness! I would love to read the book Calm, Cool, & Connected.

  318. Vanessa Perry says:

    Technology can be addictive and I certainly am guilty of it. A book addressing time management with technology is a wise message I’d like to heed. Thank you

  319. Nykesha Jones says:

    I have said that phones are a major distraction. I am currently attending college anx decided that I would limit my phone use. When I announced my hiatus from social media, someone I thought was a friend question MY choice. Again it is my choice to concentrate on my goals and if you can not respect that, it is your choice. That does not change what I have to do. I am the one person irritated by phones at the table. It is a time to connect and interact.

  320. Sandi Suganuma says:

    The poem was so powerful! Isn’t it funny how assumptions can effect relationships and interactions. The family thought the best of the author, gave her the benefit of the doubt that she normally wouldn’t bring her phone to the table so didn’t chastise her as expected. As in the experiment, sometimes our own assumptions will cause us to behave in certain ways that cut us off from relationship, but needlessly so.

  321. Jacqueline Robinson says:

    Replying to the book give away.

  322. This speaks volumes into my life right now. I need to find balance with my business which is the main reason I’m always on my electronics. There has to be balance and this book seems like an answer to my problem.

  323. Kathleen Ewing says:

    Technology keeps on moving on but somewhere in the rush we have forgotten time for Jesus and His Word ,family and friend , and serving Jesus time. I see I Phones and other devices “with strings on them” and people are pulling them ever closer to them and away from others. I am a visual person and see all these strings getting tangled with others and what a hold they have on their owners. Thank you for the beautiful poem and keeping us grounded. Your gift of words and poetry will be a wake up call to people I know and myself.

  324. Our family of 5, which includes 3 teenagers, struggles with this even as we are intentional about putting phones away for family time together. Thank you for the extra reminder of how precious this family time is!

  325. Carryl Johnson says:

    This really hit home for me and it was written so well! I’m going to share it with my 13 year old daughter. It was written lovingly and not with condemnation. Thank you for this very fresh look at technology!

  326. Connie Burke says:

    Love the poem!

  327. Etta Thompson says:

    I love GodVine. . .it gets me through the day! Todays devotional is my absolute favorite!

  328. Stacy Riley says:

    That was perfect! Thank you. May I share your poem in my support group? I will credit it to you of course.

  329. This is something I need to constantly be reminded of since I’m self employed and much of my work is done through FB and texting. Thanks for this word today. I want to be focused on the people I am with!

  330. Janette Nieves says:

    Omg! How this devotional has spoken to my mist inner being. As a HS teacher( recently retired) I would have to rely on technology and the use of my cel phone was on going 24/7. I hardly has time for reading God’s word. As I settle into retired life I would bring my cel phone to the table and between breaks from reading the bible I submerge myself in my phone. Forgive me Father and help me put my phone where I can’t even reach for it. I long to hear your voice more than anything else, in Jesus name.

  331. MARIPOSA♥ says:

    Thank you for this devotion…. Guilty.. What a great reminder that family shld be more important than technology♥

  332. Heather Luth says:

    Thank you for this … with 3 teenagers, this is a constant struggle in our home.

  333. Technology is certainly a great convenience, yet it has sadly replaced face to face communication in pivotal areas of life. Thanks for your words today as they are so important.

  334. Patricia Williams says:

    Oh my goodness, loved your poem; I’m guilty! My husband n daughter tell me I go from my phone to my pad; oh my…. Help !

  335. We have the same rule, but I’m the one that gets upset when the kids are on their phones. I can’t imagine at their age what is so important that it cant wait an hour. Thank you for sharing this.

  336. Technology was a big problem in my family but with God and prayer it’s not anymore. Thank you.

  337. Debbie Zarnay says:

    What a great poem! I will be sharing it in my yoga classes!

  338. I will Bless the Lord at all times and His Praises will forever be in my mouth! This was great… Thank you Lord for this “Awesome” Devotional. I Love It!!!

  339. Thank you Arlene for these reminders. Very well written. We have a family rule as well and do not allow cell phones at the table. My husband started doing a family devotion right after we eat and we all have to comment how we interrupt the devotion and how it can apply to us individually. ~Lisa~

  340. Great reminder about life balance. Look forward to checking out the book.

  341. Wilhelmina myrick says:

    You took the words out of my mouth.I tell my family about time for particular things in life, a d especially use of technical devices But God knows you said it best n reflecting scripture was awesome,May God continue to bless n inspire you.

  342. We have always had the same rule at our house. However as our schedules pull us in different directions and when we do have a chance to sit down together, we ALL succumb to the temptation of using technology. Thank you for the reminder especially as the parent, to prioritize the people around me. Thanks again!

  343. Cora Thurber says:

    Wow, this sounds like exactly what me and my family needs!

  344. Linda Fortune says:

    I really struggle with not spending to much time on Facebook and have even been praying for guidance if it’s something I just need to give up. My attempts to limit it don’t go to well. Please pray with me for wisdom!

  345. Thank you for your devotions. It was such an eye opener and we don’t use that much technology. Thank you for reminding us that there is a season for all of this technical stuff. Thank you for doing the give away!

  346. Cynthia Fuentes says:

    I struggle while using my phone, I really want to stay on it all the time to see if someone online. In means of a boyfriend…checking to see if he is chatting with someone. I hate myself for this because it just brings me down. I really appreciate this devotion today. Thank you Arlene. Have a bless day.

  347. Arlene’s book Calm, Cool, and Connected has been an awesome resource for me and the family. Great reminder that there is a time for everything!

  348. Laura Lewis says:

    Loved the Technological Version of those verses from Ecclesiastes!

  349. Jeanne Allera says:

    I’d love to read this book.

  350. Sandra Asidilla says:

    I appreciate this centering. I struggle with not only my balance but to teach and enforce this with my teenage children as well. If there is some way to bring scripture into my teachings for my kids, I am utterly grateful!

  351. I loved your devotion today because I can relate. I tell my kids all the time there’s a time for everything. Thank you!

  352. Joan Helton Hicks says:

    Thank you!

  353. Melanie Mayer says:

    Yes yes yes. Such a good word. Thank you

  354. Nelly Kasper says:

    I am commenting just after reading your devotion of the day. We don’t spring electronic devices to the table when we eat. And we have long practiced no electronic devices on Sundays. It is nice to be free from them. Today I took a walk outside and it was beautiful to just be in the sunshine and feel the breeze.

  355. DeLinda Leu says:

    Sounds like a good resource in this technology age.

  356. Hello,
    I’m feeling a little defeated as a single mom of 3 teenagers. Their electronics are a priority in their life and I’m fighting an uphill battle. I’m hoping “Cool, Calm and Collected” might have some helpful tips for me. Thank you!

  357. Andy Walsh says:

    This so reminds me of my favorite words: ” BE still and know God.” I have a necklace that I wear every day and it reminds me to stop and be present. It is all going to be ok.

  358. Anne Whitley says:

    I relate to this post. I’m guilty of being on my phone to much while my boyfriend is trying to talk to me. I believe it’s a anxiety thing. Not that I’m proud of it. I would like us to set aside our phones at the end of the day and just talk like we used to do before life got hectic. I pray that we can connect again. I know it’s God’s will for loved ones to connect.

  359. Janet Dunn says:

    It seems if it is not the phone it is our TV on at all times. Some days I just want no outside noise but just enjoying the sound of my family. Too many times, things are taken out of context as well when we are not effectively communicating with our voice. It find it annoying for my child to be in the next room and send me a text to ask a question or just make a comment. Would love to read this book!

  360. Parney Hundhausen says:

    I read Encouragments daily & try to apply the messages to my daily life.

  361. Very true & helpful!

  362. Very helpful & true!

  363. Beth McIntyre says:

    I would love to win this book.

  364. Stacy Goebel says:

    Excited for this!!!

  365. Very True

  366. nancy carey says:

    I look forward to your daily devotional. I am sure the book would a great benefit to me.

  367. This was great & very much needed. With the ways of the world & increasing revolvement around & dependency on phones & other mobile devices, we definitely need more devotions like this. I am so glad to learn that you have gone even further & written a book on the subject. I will undoubtedly be needing to invest in this book for both my husband & myself to read. And I’m sure it would be a great idea to keep it for my daughter(s) to read when she/they are older. Thank you for writing such amazing books (& all other forms of writing). God has surely blessed you with such a tremendous gift!

  368. I agree with all of this Arlene, but I fear we are working backwards trying to undo what has already been done to this generation. Many have found they need rules to set down for their children using cell phones, as well as themselves, but for the majority that I see there is no rules and no boundaries in so many lives. I don’t think most parents have even given it a thought about how destructive or even unhealthy cell phones and facebook and screen time can be. I’ve read several articles about how it affects the health of young children, not only psychologically but physically as well. I think cell phones came on so sudden that people did not have time to set rules, guidelines and boundaries for themselves or their children, and now are paying the price.
    I keep praying…
    Thanks for your insight as well and for getting the truth out in such a nice way. 😉

  369. Melissa tenney says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book.

  370. Our table is a “phone free” zone as well. But I definitely use mine too often as it is. Could use this book to help set proper boundaries and priorities. Thanks!

  371. Ellen Distante says:

    I have to remind myself of this! Thank you

  372. Brittany Hatcher says:

    This is amazing.

  373. Jennifer Huston says:

    thank u

  374. Sarah Armour says:

    This sounds really good – and hopeful.

  375. A lot of great thoughts in this post today. So interesting that your family thought nothing of it, or perhaps that you had something important that couldn’t wait. And yet you felt left out. The door had been closed to you and you were not able to enjoy time with your family. Such a good point!

  376. Julie Applegate says:

    Thank you so much for today. A great reminder. Would love to win the book, too.

  377. One word: AMEN!

  378. Kathleen Schaeffer says:

    Such a good reminder. I love to download those nice spiritual apps, but instead of searching for more, I need to use the ones I have. Technology can sometimes be so distracting but beneficial at other times.

  379. Amen. Thank you for sharing!

  380. Mandy Fender says:

    I would love to have a copy. I could really use this for my family with 3 boys (two which are teenagers) right now!

  381. Marg Logan says:

    An amazing word , taken from Ecclesiastes 3. The poem is incredible and is the truth . It would touch young adults in a powerful way …. I love the words…,, Praise God !

  382. Such a good reminder! Thank you for sharing!

  383. Lerin Mosser says:

    Thank you for your wise words. With 6 kids and 3 owning their own phones, I want to keep these things in mind.

  384. Sherry J Wright says:

    You are so true!!! I hate when my “kids” and grandkids have their phones at the table and instead of engaging with family they are glued to their phones, hence, The name cell phones!

  385. And a time to comment? I agree with you, Jesus would not be using his cell phone during meals.

  386. I’m convicted by this, especially for what it models to my children about the value of fully-engaged conversation. I’m guilty of multi-tasking (read: doing many things at once, and none of them to the best of my ability). It’s striking the response I notice when I actually stop what I’m doing/typing and turn my face and body fully toward my child. Their whole demeanor responds positively and we really do connect. And I’m more apt to remember what they said because I’m not just half-hearing them.

  387. I’m sharing this w/ everyone I know…Thank you!

  388. What a thought provoking use of Ecclesiastes 3! Thank you for the good word!

  389. Awesome, awesome, awesome!!! Do you know how many people I wanted to tag with this???! Including myself at times- I am fully guilty as well. Would love to see more suggestions on how better to be aware of when we are missing out on important things and how to set limits that allow social media use/ Phone time without interfering with real time with people!

  390. Patty Lynn says:

    I am so thankful. I work from home for an online company, so a lot of my connections are through instant messaging, email, screen sharing, etc…but today this very day a dear friend who i have worked with for 8 years said, (via IM) hey do you have time to chat? I thought she meant to continue chatting via IM. She called me! Over the phones….heavens! We both were thinking of each other and where we are today in this online environment and she turned me on to this site. We cried and laughed and it felt so great, a real conversation, no emojis! I am so thankful….have I already said that? We are doing one of the bible study groups together. I am looking forward to many more phone calls with her. We are in two different states so an in person is not that easy. I am thankful to her and her telling me about this site. Thank you P31

  391. Rosetta Reeves says:

    Boy oh boy do I ever need this book. I have a relationship with my phone yet no true human relationship to speak of. 🙁

  392. Glenda Johnson says:

    My birthday is Sunday, would be a nice gift!
    Enjoyed your story! Too many people are obsessed with social media!

  393. sharon hoffman says:

    Am so curious about this book and advice on teen screen time. Thank you sharon

  394. Good reminder and too often I’m guilty of not being fully engaged if I’m distracted with my phone. Thank you for sharing.

  395. Family time first!

  396. I love the poem! And all the wise words in your post! This is so timely because the phone addictions seem to be hampering social and family gatherings. With your suggestions, relationships are bound to improve. I would love to read your book. Thanks so much!

  397. Desiree Flora says:

    My husband and I have a no phone rule at dinner. We do make exceptions if it when I share my kids or grandkids pictures. That adds to conversation and maybe the only time I can share them with him.

  398. Rhonda lanham says:

    I wish cell phones had never been invented. They are totally stripping our children of any social skills needed to form and grow relationships

  399. My husband and I differ so much in this regard. I desire for screen free meals and he doesn’t see the problem with it. I feel that screens have caused us to grow farther apart in this busy season of life.

  400. I would use this book in a study for busy moms or teen class. Thank you.

  401. I think I need this book.

  402. This is absolutely my BIGGEST addiction. And to be sure, it IS an addiction. I would love this book, this was straight to my heart tonight, because I struggle with this daily. Thank you.

  403. I shared the poem (with credit to its source) and the link to the blog post on my FB page because it was so timely. As the parent of a high schooler I am all too familiar with how gkued to technology we have become. Unfortunately, I have to be included in the phenomenon.

  404. It is very hard to stay calm ,cool and connected in the world that we live in today, however ; regardless of the world we live in if we’re going to survive and become anything in life we must by Gods Grace stay calm, cool and be connected.

  405. Mundy Price says:

    What a striking thought – of Jesus at the table with his disciples in a digital age. No, he would not have been staring at his phone, nor would his disciples have been distracted by devices. Thank you for the reminder that we should give our undivided attention to our family and friends – and do our God, just as Jesus gave to his disiciples then, and as our Heavenly Father gives to us now.

  406. Grace Crapitto says:

    I would love to read this and share with my 6 grandchildren who are texting all the time and not present in our conversations. I miss their conversation so much! This sounds fabulous.

  407. I have been dealing with my kids using their electronics everywhere, everyplace, and all the time, which seems like forever. When I met my current boyfriend he literally loved on his phone. His constant use drove a wedge between us. Things are improving, but it’s a source of contant issue with us. Sometimes, even I find myself on my phone more lately. This is a great article that I will be forwarding to all of them, including to my email, as a reminder of how precious it is to actually talk/listen to your family in friends in person as Jesus did, and not to miss this opportunity, because of advanced electronics.

  408. Thank yoooou!

  409. Robyn Faith says:

    Amen to that..

  410. Kathryn J Nyman says:

    What a timely message. Families need time to connect , we need time to be thoroughly engaged in a person’s life, & most importantly to shut out distractions & get in God’s Word and steep ourselves in being taught by His truths. Thanks fir this article.

  411. I especially love your poem!

  412. Elaine Steeves says:

    Thanks for insight into a growing problem.

  413. Jennifer Bilbrey says:

    Love the poem. Love the inspiration. Love the challenge. Thank you for ministering to us today.

  414. Thank you Arlene for bringing God’s word to life and giving it meaning in today’s world. I get this to a T. Time is my love language so for me I love being in the moment at the table with my loved ones. What’s hard for me is to see them so distracted by technology. So I continue to set the example for others to follow. I would love to read more about your tips in your book. Thanks! Diana

  415. Thanks for this timely remind. We can all benefit from using our phones less. I try to take a phone Sabbath once a week and it always feels so good to do that. I’d love to read the book and hear more on this subject

  416. Stephanie Hayhurst says:

    Beautiful, thank you!

  417. Thank you, for reminding me, that there is a time and place to text and take pictures. I don’t get to see my grand children often and when I do I keep my phone on to take pictures because I want to capture every moment. It is not until I get home and meditate on the day that I remember, that I did it again! …I like the poem. I am going to copy and paste it to my notes on my phone so I reminded to work on this. Blessings!

  418. erin terrell says:

    I am always striving for balance. These days we are all so easily consumed by technology,while it can be a blessing allowing you to connect with people that you otherwise would not be able to. It can take over your life if you do not know how to balance it.

  419. Annora Null says:

    Thank you so much for the devotionals you send me each day. They are a definite encouragement. I have shared these resources with my ladies’ Bible Study Group as well. Annora

  420. Shawn Marie Remely says:

    Thank you so much for this reminder! It’s easy to get caught up or want to capture all the special moments that we forget to LIVE in these moments! God bless!

  421. Misty Brechbill says:

    What a wonderful poem and timely devotional. I will be sharing both with others. So they to can be challenged to make the change to have those deep, meaningful relationships with others. God wants so much more for us all! Thank you so much!

  422. I love this devotional! I have often that I am out of balance with my phone and this has inspired and challenged me to do something about it!! 🙂

  423. joanna kearns says:

    Our family has been through soo much suffering and still is now and now hurricane irma please help us to be blessed for once and not cursed!

  424. Patty Hanson says:

    I enjoy reading the daily devotional for women. So much of what is talked about pertains to myself and family. Thank you.

  425. Great reminder! Thank you!

  426. Thank you for the timely message!

  427. Thank you for this devotional! We do get to consumed by cell phones and don’t take time for conversations.

  428. I could use that🤗

  429. Patti Barker says:

    I loved this message and it was one I truly need to hear daily. We have a 16 year old who will be leaving for college in a few years so we have committed these last two years he is at home, to being as device-free as possible when we are together as a family (although I admit I am guilty of snapping a quick photo of these family tomes because I want to remember these times forever). We have device-free family game night once a week and we are making memories I will cherish forever.

    • I think it’s wonderful you are trying to enjoy the most of the time you have before he goes of to college. And don’t worry about the pictures your taking. What difference does it make if you picked up your phone or an actual camera. You absolutely deserve to have pictures of these moments and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

  430. I have such a love/hate relationship with my phone. This just confirms what the Lord has been telling my heart. Please pray that I listen, acknowledge the problem, and obediently follow the Lord to limit my phone use.

  431. Judith Losh says:

    Sounds like a great book!!!

  432. Patricia Jaracz says:

    The poem is spot on!

  433. A thought provoking read. Thanks

  434. Jessie McDaniel says:

    If only we could/ would be more like Jesus. Thank you for taking the time to encourage others. What an eye opener. Thank you! And may God bless you richly.

  435. Jessie McDaniel says:

    What a true statement. To be more like Jesus. Thank you for being a blessing.

  436. It sounds like almost everyone needs a copy of this book. I go out to eat at restaurants and I see too many families on their phones. One time, I saw a husband and daughter both on their phones and the wife just sitting there. No one speaking, the food came, the phones were put down, forks picked up and again no speaking, just eating. When they were done, phones were picked up. The whole time I was there not a single word was spoken at that table except to the waitress. I found it to be so sad. Is this what our families are becoming?

  437. Thank you for writing this book and for the opportunity to win a copy. Definitely will be a worthwhile read –

  438. I amazed there is such a need for these kind of books now. This has become a problem in our home too. I never would have dreamed this technology age as a child many years ago.

  439. This is ME exactly. I set phone free zones and am more upset by my own phone usage and no one seems to notice. I would love to win a copy of this book to see how I can overcome the anger I feel towards technology.

  440. This week has been a really tough one when I have had no choice but to call out to Jesus in tears to come in and intervene, making my spirit man stronger than my flesh man. This morning is cool and calm with my coffee, finished book and now online devotions. I just randomly googled devotions for women to find another one to add my to toolbar and stumbled upon this devo at the home page of Proverbs 31. This topic is something I’m very passionate about and have been trying to find the right words to express the importance of putting away social media and our phones when necessary. I myself am challenged by this as well. I would absolutely love to win a copy of this book to further challenge myself and be able to share the reassuring words of how important this is to those around me.

  441. Frankie McLain says:

    I find our adult children using phones inappropriately. I am concerned especially for the impact on the children when the dads are playing games on them EXCESSIVELY. As they become angry when their wives talk to them about it, I wonder if a book could help. I would love to have your book so we can have more communication, and strengthen family relationships, not continue in the opposite direction.
    THANKYOU for addressing this important topic that is negatively impacting family life.

  442. Funny how as moms we are the one that feels left out.

  443. Missed it yesterday and made it up today. Phone usage is definitely an issue as I am a guilty party in that area.

  444. When I come home, my phone is almost always put away and doesn’t come out again until everyone’s asleep. I don’t like the temptation to be distracted by it. It can cause other’s to be frustrated when they call or text me because my response doesn’t come immediately. But to me, it’s worth it. My time with my littles and my husband is limited and precious. I won’t interrupt it.

    • Barbara Watkins says:

      From the time that cellphones came along, I have felt that they were an inconvenience sometimes. I was never one to wanted to be available 24 hours a day. When I am sharing a meal with family or friends, my phone is turned off or turned to silent. The people in front of me deserve all of my attention. I do not allow grandchildren to use cell phones or tablets, etc. during meals. I think that we have lost the art of conversation because of the tendency to text. Unfortunately, a lot of the meaning is lost in texts. Conversation is so important to me.

  445. THIS WAS A WONDERFUL REMINDER OF WHAT NOT TO DO AND WHEN NOT TO DO IT. IT REMINDS ME OF WHAT THE LORD SAYS: HE SAYS WE ARE MEANT TO “BE” . HOW CAN WE “BE” AND HEAR THE LORD’S DIRECTION IF OUR MINDS AND MOUTHS ARE SO BUSY WITH MANY TIMES NOTHING OF IMPORTANCE AND SOMETHING THAT CAN REALLY WAIT UNTIL A MORE APPROPRIATE TIME. THERE IS AN OLD SAYING ‘ MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO’ THIS IS OUR CHILDREN– WHAT IND OF AN EXAMPLE ARE WE SETTING FOR THEM? ARE WE REALLY PUTTING GOD FIRST IN OUR LIVES AS WE STAY PRISONERS TO OUR CELLS OUR?

  446. Twyla Foss says:

    The days and hours of life are so precious and the digital world is shutting us off from so much there is to enjoy with one another whether it be letting our grandparents tell of times past or looking into the future when robots will be roaming around in our daily life. Always remember who is number one in your life…give him time FIRST everyday and then spend time with at least one person you love each in time, speech or sharing a meal as Christ did.

  447. Betty A Smith says:

    This is so true in our day and age. We really need to be more aware of those around us and shut the phones off.

  448. Josephine F Reynolds says:

    Would appreciate being chosen to receive a book. Probably spending too much time with my phone and computer and not enough time with family and God

  449. Cindy Vincent says:

    Thank you, just what I needed to hear. Usually is. Blessings

  450. Thank you….I love this post!!! We need to put our phones down and focus on the people in front of us!!!!

  451. Ruth Slezak says:

    Amen and Amen! Everyone using this technology should heed this advice.
    Families and loved ones are more important than a machine!

  452. Chelle Schefcik says:

    I REALLY feel that this book would benefit our entire family! Excited for those that end up winning the giveaways and hoping we get the blessing of being one of them. I LOVE the verse adaptation re: technology in the connected post. Words of wisdom.

  453. My beloved husband is always on the phone & text when we are having meals. I tried so hard to convince him to stop, but was unsuccessful. I really want to read this book and I am sure I will gain some insight. Hope I will win!

  454. Kerri Pruitt says:

    Sounds like a fabulous book I need to read.

  455. Rhonda Goodwin says:

    I just want to say thank you in advance for allowing me to add another tool to my library that will help keep my eyes on Christ and His call. God bless I pray to continue to seek wisdom in Jesus name.

  456. Teresa Baston says:

    Thank you, Arlene, for sharing this important wisdom, which I know the Holy Spirit revealed to you. It grieves me when I go out with someone and I’m put aside for texting or reading messages, or when we see so many in a restaurant engaged in their phones rather than in each other. Each person is important, their thoughts, their joys and their sorrows, and their life experiences. Thank you for giving to the Lord.

  457. Claire Jividen says:

    This Devo spoke Loudly to me! Thank you!🙏😊

  458. We never have phone’s etc. at the dinner table. The rest of the time….. devices are a problem most days. 🙁

  459. Jada Mullins says:

    I have a teenager, a preteen, & a husband who all love their phones! This would be a great dinner devotional for our family!

  460. J Edward Chowning says:

    So, I’m a guy but I’ve become more attracted to my wife because of teachings like this and proverbs 31 ministries. This one in particular is a BIG issue for our family of 5 and we are thankful for the encouragement and a book like this to continue “edging out the Galaxys” and bringing each other back to the “Apples of our eyes”…lol. Blessings, J Chowning

  461. Kathleen Edmiston says:

    We’re struggling with balance in technology use in our retirement. Good article.

  462. Nikki Holloway says:

    If only more people felt this way. What a different way we would live and show love. Thanks!

  463. D. C. Jackson says:

    Very good reminder to stop with the technology and acknowledge what’s or who’s right in front of you. We use our technology to “connect” with others, but interstingly enough, they are the very things that are most responsible for our disconnect with others.

  464. This describes my family. Please send me a copy. I think it would be so helpful!

  465. beth warren says:

    When I eat I eat no phone. But I usually am alone other than my four legged side kick Shadow who keeps me busy. Dinner I eat and then fix husbands plate and put in the microwave (I cannot wait til 7PM to eat due to meds) So weather we are home or out he has his phone (many times I forget mine) and it is on table out or by his side…I believe the worse was when he and our grown son were sitting on two pcs of furniture in the same room not more than4ft apart and were facebook/messaging each other. That is when I lost it. I have mentioned it to my husband how “date night is the two of us and his phone” for a few times he has kept in pocket but still it is put on table. Of course I have taken picture of him sound asleep while I was talking took a picture and my caption was “boy I must really be exciting “

    • Don’t lose heart. Give the situation to God and ask Him how you can help your husband understand where you are coming from. Other than that allow God to handle it for you. He knows exactly what it will take to get the message to your husband. Sometimes it’s not that we’re not important to others. It’s just that they’re too caught up in technology. Especially since our work now involves technology constantly.

  466. Chris lowry says:

    Thank you for writing this devotional

  467. I’m feeling that I need to uninstall a game that I play. It’s a colossal waste of time. Time that I could be in the Word or inviting a neighbor over for a visit. I needed to hear this devotional. Thank you.

  468. This devotuon was eye opening. I especially loved the poem based based on Ecclesiastes. As I’ve matured in my Christian walk I’ve found myself with more bible apps than games. There sure is wisdom in knowing when and where to text or talk.

  469. Peggy Ozaki says:

    This devotion was so important and timely! I would love to read the new book. 🙂

  470. Sarah Brown says:

    I am so relieved to see this devotional. I recently deactivated my Facebook due to it distracting me from life. I asked God to reveal to me what my biggest distraction was and that was it. I’m so thankful I did that and I believe I can go back to it with a healthy heart, soul, and mind. God Bless you and the Proverbs 31 team 😊

    • Good for you! We often don’t want to ask God to reveal things to us because we really already know what they are and don’t want them confirmed. This shows your heart and that you are willing to do what it takes to stay on that path He has placed before you.

  471. Robin Browning says:

    Thanks for the wisdom

  472. Thank you for the reminder! Priorities in proper order helps keep connection with those most important!

  473. Bethany Crandell says:

    I’ve recently asked my nearly fifteen year-old daughter to ride up front with me when we’re driving somewhere (she likes sitting in the back ??) and to put her phone away. At first she was reluctant, “There’s nothing to do…” but now find that great conversations happen when you’re driving.

    • How excellent! Even when my kids were growing up and technology was not so prevalent I didn’t feel I had enough communication with them no matter how I tried. Good for you for taking this action! She’ll have many great memories in the future.

    • Shannon GOOd says:

      Times have sure changed! I remember so many great conversations with my dad while driving and can’t imagine trading them in for any social media. However cell phone weren’t in the hands of many back then and I was never much into social media, even now but I see it as such a growing problem with kids and young adults today. The new addiction. To the point that young adults have a hard time having an actual conversation face to face. So many of us hide behind a screen to say things we’d rarely say to someone’s face and likewise to say really meaningful things we need to say to their face that would make the comment more dynamic. Keep up the good work mom and keep encouraging your daughter!

  474. A positive message about today’s technology. Thanks.

  475. Thank you for sharing. My husband and I are struggling to get this point across to our boys – there is a time for technology, but when it comes to interacting with people, nothing beats face to face interaction.

  476. Allyson Hemric says:

    Love this reminder!

  477. Sarah Parlane says:

    I appreciate the encouragement. Keeping our focus in the right direction and a balance in our home is extremely important. We need a good reminder!

  478. Loved this word. Spoke to me and made me reflect upon my own habits and things my husband and I need to change. We always start off on a good note and after a few months fall off the wagon and phones start to creep back into the important places in our fellowship time. This is a great reminder at an appropriate time. Thankyou.

  479. Being an older adult I really do notice when people are always on their phones and not connecting with others. I guess they feel it’s important because usually they are ‘connecting’ with others they know. But I always feel it’s such a shame they are not interacting with the live people around them.

  480. Shannon GOOd says:

    This is a huge area of frustration for me in our home. My husband spends more time on his phone than with me and our boys. I pray for realization of what’s truly important for him

  481. Angela Atkins says:

    This was a really great reminder about being intentional with our time and giving attention to those that matter most in our lives.

  482. debbie giro says:

    what an inspirational article and poem. I love the writings of Solomon and am in awe of the wisdom He was gifted with. Thank you for sharing your story. We have a no phone rule at our table also. My children are older and I wish I had the Proverbs 31 Ministries to encourage me when they were young, but its never too late to receive such love and encouragement from my sisters! Deb

  483. Giovanna Di Santo says:

    Would love to have a copy of your book.
    Would love to go back to the old times a quality time with the loved ones at the table .
    Life is too precious need to spend with family .
    Amen

  484. Jeanette Flores says:

    My sister sent this to me one because I know she loves me two because I do use fb way too much so yes I think I definitely need your book. Although I must say god works in mysterious ways because as of lately do to my job I find myself just not having time and honestly it doesn’t really bother me. 🙂

  485. This sounds fascinating!

  486. Debbie Duran says:

    Phones are not allowed at our table during mealtimes, especially when we are dining out. Sometimes our daughter sneaks hers to text, but she puts it down right away. 🙂 We always say a blessing over our meal, even at restaurants.

  487. Diana Jeffery says:

    I never allowed the children to read a book at the dining table but since the kids have grown up and left home the use of technology has crept into our lives whilst dining in or out. We used to talk more but now we share the news from Facebook as a way of catching up on what family are doing as they live in different parts of the country. This stops us having heart to heart conversations or time to encourage and build up one another. I want to stop my habit of doing this and simply focus on the precious time we have together.

  488. Sounds great for my family!

  489. Would love to read that book! Seems like something I could need!

  490. Terri Septer says:

    I use my smartphone for everything technological! I read my bible on the Bible app, read books on the Amazon Kindle app, ck emails, Google everything, ugh!! I would really like to read this book to maybe help me actually get out my Bible instead of using apps for it all!! Think I need hwlp!!

  491. Dometta Blacka says:

    I need inspired to be less distracted and more focused on conversation..please help!

  492. Fantastic article! Great insight!

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