Combating Loneliness

Combating Loneliness

December 20, 2013

“My eyes are ever toward the LORD, for he will pluck my feet out of the net. Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” Psalm 25:15-16 (ESV)

Don’t look his way, her heart and mind insist.

She doesn’t want to look. Then again, she does. Though my friend did not check the “Plus One” box on her RSVP card, she wishes she had. Why had she come to this party alone? Maybe then she wouldn’t gravitate to him.

He’s reckless and destructive. My friend knows better, but he’s the only one who can relate to her. Even so, she avoids eye contact, hoping to make him believe she doesn’t need him anymore.

She succeeds until another round of laughter fills the Christmas party. Her resolve walks out as he walks up to her, extending a knowing hand. Fingers entwined, she falls in his snare. She can’t stand him … this companion called loneliness.

In the midst of listening to marriage, baby, vacation, life-is-grand stories, she hears the voice of loneliness, high above the conversations: You’ll never have this. You’ll be lonely forever.

She had promised herself she wouldn’t turn her eyes to him this time. As she was getting ready for the party, she put this truth on: “My eyes are ever toward the LORD, for he will pluck my feet out of the net. Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” (Psalm 25:15-16 ESV)

But she forgot this hopeful promise as she fell into the trap of loneliness.

By the time the clock chimed an acceptable hour to bid her goodbyes, she was eager to be gone. One step out the door and she lowered her guard too soon. Loneliness had saved his best for last. Powerfully, he pummeled lies until she believed: You will always be lonely.

When he trotted off, leaving her alone, a different hand reached down. One that is gentle and healing. Let me help you up. Rough night, huh?

She looked up to see His scarred hand extended.

How’d You know I was here?

He tells her He’s been there the whole time, always near, at the ready to rescue any time she looked to Him for help. As she faced Him, He began to untangle the false claims of loneliness with truth: I am near (Psalm 145:18). I will never leave (Deuteronomy 31:6). I am your joy (Psalm 16:11).

Hollow parts of her heart filled with the confidence of Jesus. She knew it was time to break-up with loneliness for good. Not just at parties, during holidays, or weekends with nothing planned.

Maybe it’s your time too? Truth is, loneliness can tag along whether you are alone or surrounded by family and friends, on special days and ordinary days.

There’s only one way to keep loneliness from being a constant companion in life. It is to make sure our “… eyes are ever toward the LORD …” Psalm 25:15a (ESV).

Let’s keep our focus on God and call out to Him when we feel loneliness setting a trap for us: in the festive times, in the quiet times, at all times.

Dear Lord, my eyes are ever toward You, for only You will release my feet from the trap of loneliness. Will You please turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted? Thank You for being near and being my joy. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:
Do You Know Jesus?

Encouragement for Today: Devotionals for Everyday Living is a great way to connect daily with the Lord.

Reflect and Respond:
Christmas can be a time when loneliness is overwhelming. If you struggle with this, what can you do to combat loneliness?

Choose a Bible verse to memorize that you will use to fight loneliness. Write it on a piece of paper or make it your phone/computer screen saver as a constant reminder of the nearness of Jesus.

Power Verses:
Deuteronomy 31:8, “It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” (ESV)

Lamentations 3:22-26, “Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, ‘The LORD is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.’ The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.” (NIV 1984)

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  1. As I was praying (actually, I was crying to God) tonight, I confessed that while I know life is never easy, it seemed to be getting unbearable trying to do this alone. Loneliness was reaching up and trying its very best to choke the life out of me tonight. I pray you will somehow know what a blessing this article was to me tonight. Thank you for being a willing vessel for our God :) While I am still alone, I am not overcome with loneliness right now and can rest much more soundly tonight with the promise that He will never leave me and that I am loved ringing in my ears…and the most empty places of my heart…
    May He continue to utilize you to be a blessing … Merry Christmas

    • I just prayed for you that God puts someone amazing in your life. I am excited to see who he sends. Good things happen to those who wait. So your up next. Take care. :). Tracy

      • Thank you so much. I think the words “I just prayed for you…” are among the most beautiful and comforting words in our language. I appreciate you. Have a Merry Christmas :)

      • God will supply all our needs, even filling a voided space in our hearts. I too am alone and often think and wish for companionship. I am patiently waiting for my “Boaz”. For I know while God is preparing me he is preparing him for the day of our first meeting. In the mean time and between times, I’m not going to allow loneliness to take over and consume me. Though at times I am weaken by my thoughts, imagination and emotions I will not be over taken. I will remain strong and faithful in the lord!

    • Amelia Nicole says:

      Thank You for Posting This. It was a timely Word! May God Continue to Bless & Use You! Blessings To All!

    • Loneliness can be overwhelming during this time because people may not be able to ee their families like they’d planned originally. It can make them feel isolated and abandoned… from their friends and family. Unfortunately, I sometimes struggle with this because I haven’t been able to see my family in over a year, as they live in Sheboygan, Wisconsin,which doesn’t have a train station lose to where my parents are. Unfortunately, my husband’s family lives a bit far from us, too, making it difficult for us to get away for Christmas. Combatting loneliness is sometimes difficult for me and my husbanw, Ron Smith ; however, we know that we’ve always got one another- even our four-legged baby (since we can’t have children of our own) leopard gecko kid. “Myy eyes are ever toward the LORD, for he will pluck my feet out of the net. Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” Psalm 25:15-16 (ESV)
      I ♥ what this verse is telling us. Though we may be feeling lonely at this time of year, God will pull us out of this feeling to enjoy all that this time of year brings. We may feel like we’re stuck in a mess of being lonely; however, people will be more than willing to comfort us when we may not be feeling like we can go on without someone to turn to. Today, let us thank God for the grace he’s placed upon us- sharing it with others.
      Here at the Mary Bryant Home For the Blind and Visually Impaired,we had a party to celebrate Christmas. Me and my husband, though missing family, enjoyed being in the company of our church friend, Julie Paulis. I ♥ being around such a powerful woman of God. I wish I could sing in the The Pentecostals of Springfield choir like she does. I think that would be entirely awesome, if I do say so myself. I’d have life no other way. Ultimately, God knows where we are in our lives, regardless of how we may be feeling during this festive time of year. … eyes are ever toward the LORD …” Psalm 25:15a (ESV).
      I ♥ this portion of scripture. Let’s always keep our eyes on God, no matter what may be going on in our lives. Today’s party brought several welcomed surprises of presents that me and my wonderful husband were definitely wanting, even if one present didn’t come true for us. God brought us many surprises, some of which we weren’t really expecting. I was able to give a puzzle to our friend, Julie, and she definitely enjoyed the pecial surprise that we had in store for her throughout the course of today’s Christmas party’s festivities.
      “Dear Lord, my eyes are ever toward You, for only You will release my feet from the trap of loneliness. Will You please turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted? Thank You for being near and being my joy. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”~Lysa TerKeurst This is God’s way of telling us that we’re not alone, that He is with us through whatever circumstances we may be going through during this special time of the year. Deuteronomy 31:8, “It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” (ESV)
      God comes before us, even goes after us. Whatever we’re doing, we’re not alone whatsoever. God’s always watching what we’re doing at all times. I ♥ how we can pray to Him if we’ve got issues in our life that we need guidance with. I am glad God brought me and my incredible husband back together- reuniting us so many years after graduation from ISVI. Now that we’re together for all time, our lives are completely put together.
      God’s love never fails, His love is a positive consumption that we can take as much of as we’re wanting to get from God. God’s compassionate, and his compassion never ceases to exist. God’s faithfulness is great, even at the start of a brand new day. God’s portion is more that’s neverending. God comes to us, even when our hope is completely in His love and patience. We need to wait patiently for Him to answer our prayers at all times.Like · Reply · about a minute ago..See More

  2. Thank You! ….This is a powerful post that hits home with me…I realized yesterday that many many people struggle with loneliness which seems so much more painful this time of year…
    So grateful for the quotes …I will copy later after work and keep them with me…
    My prayer is that everyone can feel the presence of Jesus as He walks with us through this Holiday Season
    It is His Celebration! We are His Special Guests
    God Bless All and A Very Peaceful Joyous Holiday Season
    A very very special Thank You to all of the women who sent words of encouragement and love to me yesterday….
    It meant so much
    Stay close…we are not alone!

    • Shelly Green says:

      Ann Marie, your response today brought a smile to my face. I can feel the peace and joy that surround you now. It is such a blessing to be able to share hurts and find comfort, renew your spirit, and face life with the Spirit and grace of God. What better group of people to reach out to, those who have been there and all those who have prayed for you.

      • Shelly,
        So grateful for your kind response…and you are right…I am feeling more peaceful and with purpose!
        Holiday Blessings to you with much love!
        ann marie

  3. This was a very comforting reading. I am 49 years old and my husband and I are divorcing. It’s been a difficult holiday season so far, and loneliness is certainly lurking every day. Today I will try harder to focus on God, and allow my head and heart to accept that I am never really alone. Thank you for this post.

    • I was in your shoes just two years ago. My husband left after 22 years of marriage one week before Christmas. I can’t say it has been an easy journey but I have come to lean on Jesus more. May God bring you strength at this time.

  4. Isobel Shaw says:

    This post caught me just at the right moment. It is perfect for me. Thank you. I’m amazed ( and I know I shouldn’t be ) that Christian FB posts are popping up at the very moment I need God’s help and assurance. I have been seeking God’s guidance and help in my life and each day He gives me a verse of scripture and a devotion , as if it was put there especially for me! : )

  5. Thank you for an excellent, uplifting article. It goes right to the heart of lonliness and our only Cure.

  6. Thank you for this article, I am separated and this Holiday season my ex is taking our daughter with him to visit family and I am going to be alone for Christmas. I keep telling myself it’s just a day and I will have her on the 26th, but it’s still hard. In this time of loneliness I will seek God and turn to him for help and comfort. I needed this today.
    Thank you!!

    • Audrey – On the years that I am alone at Christmas, I volunteer at the Salvation Army and serve dinner to the homeless – it has helped me through the day – Be strong and know that even tho we are lonely, we are never alone.

  7. Thank you for the understanding that you can feel loneliness even when surrounded by family. I have struggled with that for years. No one seems to understand. So thank you.

  8. Perfectly stated…I’ve been divorced now for ten years and as a forty-something would like to one day be married again. Many years it has taken to get to a point to lean towards God when lonely comes a calling. But best to do so anyway during the holidays as it keeps our mind focus on Jesus. Merry Christmas and may 2014 be a joy-filled and prosperous new year!

  9. Thank you Samantha – My youngest son left in January and for the first time in my life i have lived alone for almost a year now – Loneliness is rough, and I ask God , when? when will he come, my soulmate? And then i hear Him – “Have Faith in Me, my timing is never late”.
    Be strong and have faith all of you single women – God loves each and every one of us, and He is always with us.

  10. Thank you I needed this. I know that most of my loneliness is self imposted and that I have let my circumstances lead me to this stage in my life. The holidays have been hard the last 7 years been hard from married to single and the lost of family members. I can been a room full of people and still feel alone. I working on drawning close to God and living for the momont not the furture. 22014 will be a new year with new beginings and I’m looking forward to it. Merry Christmas and God Bless.

  11. Thank you for this beautiful and heartfelt message. And wonderful timing! Christmas has always been a difficult time for me with various family funerals at this time. Your writing about “Loneliness” touched my heart and brought tears. I’m widowed and retired now and actually in a relationship with a very kind man, also widowed. But the pain and memories are still there and I’ve learned that the empty place in my heart can only be filled with God. Your daily messages and prayers help to keep me focused but I still stray too often. Keep up the great messages and may God keep and bless all of you at Proverbs 31. With deep thanks, Karen

  12. Thank you for this post. And on a Friday is perfect. After work on Fridays is when it hits. Even though work, (Post Office), is incredibly tough this time of year and I’m exhausted by Friday, I end up waiting for Monday. It seems last weekend was especially tough and I cried out to God all weekend. You put into words the emotions I feel so deeply. Thank you, and God bless you.

  13. Great devotion! Lonliness IS a trap. I think it’s important to note that no matter what our relationship status is, we can all feel lonley at times. Even right in the middle of marriage, we can still feel lonely. I thank God that Jesus is right there. Now, when I know I’m not getting the companionship I long for from my spouse (and this can be a very long time) I pray, and give God a call and let him know that I’m lonely and I want to stop focusing on my estranged spouse, and instead focus on Him. Usually I’ll get wrapped up in helping with something going on at church or plan more activities with just me and the kids or go to dad’s house and look for things that need to be done that he can’t do. With Jesus at the center, we are never alone. Merry Christmas!

  14. Thank you so much – this was surely written for me today. Let me say that loneliness knows no borders. Seventeen years of marriage and five children, and at times loneliness threatens to consume me. I married as a terribly backslidden maybe-believer and though I am now without a doubt saved, my husband is not. This spiritual divide as well as my husband’s selfishness and lack of attention to me is a chasm that leaves me feeling lonelier than I ever felt as a single woman (and I did not marry until the age of 30). Single women, please, please hear me: Wait on the Lord. Do not step out from under His umbrella of protection by disobeying His commands, particularly the command to NOT be yoked with an unbeliever. You will save yourself great heartache.

    • Hi Sandy, totally understand, and I give the same warning to other young sisters in Christ about this.
      It is very hard to sit at church service after service without your spouse. It is hard to see them not
      interesed in the Lord. It’s painful. I have cried so much to the Lord about this, and waiting for my
      husband to be set free and dedicate himself to God. But I am married now, and may God use me and my
      testimony to bring my husband to Him. All will work for our good in the name of Jesus.

  15. Rosemary Stevens says:

    As I sit here feeling sad, I came across this shared by friends in my bible study. Perfect timing thank you Robyn and Vickie, for the much needed reminder.

  16. Having read this I feel compelled to comment. I can totally relate to the feelings of loneliness. What I cannot relate to is the “Jesus being able to fill me up” part. I know the scriptures (“I will never leave you nor forsake you”, etc) that depict Jesus being with us, and I have the “head knowledge” that He is “in” me. But to be honest, the lonely feelings are REAL, and brutally painful, and cut straight to the heart. Whereas I have NEVER experienced the joy and comfort of Jesus “filling me up” in any way comparable to the way the loneliness engulfs my very soul. I’ve been divorced for 27 yrs. Im now 50. I’ve had a few long term relationships but none that led to marriage. I have no children. So to listen to friends talk of their families and their plans, etc is very disheartening. I have spent years trying to be genuinely happy for them while combating feelings of disappointment wondering why this doesn’t happen for me. Of course now, there won’t be children of my own given my age. I wasn’t raised in a Christian home and only became a Christian about 12 years ago. Over the course of these years I have spent ALOT of time in the Bible, growing in my faith, praying, and TRYING to gain some understanding of how the “words” that I read in the Bible will ever make it from head knowledge to a true heart experience. I can read about how Jesus “rescues” us from the snare, and fills us with joy, and pours His love into us, etc but my real life experience in no way reflects that. I feel more like a hypocrit when I tell unsaved people about “the life they can have in Jesus”. I am grateful for salvation and knowing I’ll spend eternity with God in Heaven, but there’s supposed to be “life more abundantly” here on earth as well, and I simply cannot attest to that in my experience of becoming a Christian. Life has gotten infinitely harder and I mostly feel like I’m holding on to my faith by my fingernails. Didn’t mean for this to discourage anyone, but I’d just like to know does it EVER get better or do we only have the afterlife to look forward to?

    • Dear Wendi,

      I understand your frustration in not “feeling” the joy of the Lord. However, when we talk about salvation and our faith, it’s not a “feeling” it is not only a way of life but it is a mindset. I observe that many Christians seem to believe that once they are born-again that we become these supernatural beings and for the most part will enjoy joyous and fulfilling lives. However, the truth of the matter is that we all remain very much human, living in a sin-sick world but our faith in Jesus Christ makes the difference.

      How is your prayer life? You state you study the Word of God alot but what about communing with him – one-on-one? Is the Holy Spirit (Acts 1:8) active in your life which gives us power to stand against whatever satan throws our way? I can personally say that when I am lonely I talk to God and pray and that is when he lifts me up. So I would suggest crying out to God, talk to him just as your wrote your comment and then be still and listen to what he will tell you… it may be through the Holy Spirit, he may lead you to a scripture, he may give you a song or he may have some person give a sermon or testimony that will be the answer to your prayer. When we focus on Christ, we take the focus off ourselves and in him you will find joy. Your circumstances possibly will not change but the inner-woman will have changed; your perspective/mindset will have changed. This takes intentional effort and it’s something worthwhile to strive for. Please don’t think it cliche but prayer does change things! I’ve tried it for myself and it works!!!

      Blessings to you and yes it does get better!!!

      • Thank you Rosie and Pam for your responses. Both are encouraging and I appreciate you taking the time to share some of your insights with me. I know that we “walk by faith and not by sight” and therefore are not to be looking for “feelings” to validate our Christian experiences. At the same time I struggle with thinking “Ok, I KNOW I wasn’t promised an easy walk as a Christian, but with the tsunami of things that have come against me in the last 15yrs or so, SOMETHING has to give sooner or later.” I suppose I could take comfort in the fact that through ALL of these perpetual trials, I’m still sane — that must speak of God’s faithfulness. I realize that Abraham waited 25 yrs (I think it was), Joseph’s trials lasted, what, 15 or so? And the same with David being chosen as king but not being installed for so many years later. Those could be encouraging and yet I also pray “Dear LORD, PLEASE don’t make me go THAT long before some bit of enlightenment comes for my life!” lol I know He’s building what needs building in me, but my goodness this whole process is excruciating. As for getting quiet and hearing God in prayer, I fully admit it is nearly impossible for me to stop my mind from racing when I try to get quiet. And when I do finally get quiet, I fall asleep! Yes, sitting right on the couch where I’m trying to pray and focus. That’s been the repetitive experience for years. I simply cannot seem to get quiet, listen AND stay awake. As for “being in His presence”, I truly do not understand what that means. I have no sense of being in His presence, it’s just me in an empty room. And when people talk about “hearing God” say this or that. I believe He does speak that way because once about 28 yrs ago (before I was even saved) I heard a voice deep inside (not in my head) speak a 5 word sentence to me. But that was 28yrs ago! Is it possible to actually be so connected with God that you can have “conversation” with Him about everyday things (such as when asking for direction in specific matters) and not only “hear” your end of the conversation but actually hear His voice in response? Or are people who say they “talk WITH and HEAR from God” really just THINKING they’re hearing Him respond?

        • Wendi,

          Pam gave you wonderful advice. The “hearing” like I said in my previous message comes from various sources. For instance, I have had questions about life and even scripture and God has answered literally by directing me to a certain passage of scripture or just spoke the answer in my spirit. And like many of the women that comment on this site, literally the very “Word” I needed for that particular day, trial or season I have found the encouragement, instruction and at times even correction through one of the devotionals. Although some people have heard an audible voice, more often it is deep within your spirit, through the Scripture, through a sermon, devotional or song. And sometimes he even sends a person to minister to one-on-one. So please don’t think that when people say they are hearing from God its not always a loud booming voice. And how we know we hear God’s voice is the results…if it is truth.

          As far as settling yourself and getting quiet there are various ways to do that. Ask God for a plan to spend time with him. Again, not everyone will awake at 4:00 AM to read or pray on a daily basis. Not everyone will have a proverbial prayer closet. Many of us who are working away from home 9 to 12 hours a day with husbands and/or children and stay at home moms that basically have a 24/7 job, there is not much opportunity or you are too exhausted for even a 30 minute quiet time by yourself at home, therefore, you must be creative. One of my favorite places to meet the Lord is the SHOWER – I love to pray and sing in the shower and yes God meets me there. Sometimes your quiet time maybe when you first awake and instead of turning on the news for traffic and weather, that can be time to commune with him. I have a bit of a commute to work and God led me to turn off the radio, turn off the CD player, refuse to use my bluetooth and pray and sing and again God has revealed much too me during my commute. So basically I want you to know that if you open up your heart and mind to however God wants to meet you, he will show up. Throughout your day bless him, whisper a prayer, trust and acknowledge him (Proverbs 3:5-6) and if you listen you will hear him.

          And I understand about long seasons – they will pass. I waited so long for a husband that by the time I was blessed with a marriage most of my peers children were graduating from high school or were already in college. The nieces and nephews who I thought were going to be my flower girls and ring bearers were all ADULTS by the time I walked down the aisle – LOL! We all have our own journey and if you hold to God’s hand he will help you go through those trials and lonnngggg seasons. Be confident that you are one of His – you are his daughter and he is with you! I hope this helps and I will keep praying for you Wendi. Much love and many blessings my sweet sister!!

    • Dear Wendi, I read your post and wished that I could wrap my arms around you and pray with you. I have been where you are, so afraid and filled with doubt. I promise you it can be better because He promises! I had to learn to quiet my “head” and open my heart because faith is a heart matter. When all those words move from your head to your heart you will feel it, the amazing peace and joy that only Jesus brings. The abundance is all around but you have to take the risk and step out. He is right there waiting for you to turn and ask, to surrender everything to him. I know how hard it is to give up the illusion of control, I also know that nothing changes until you do. He never said that our lives would be easy but He will do all things for our good and never leave us to deal with it alone. When I find myself going over and over a situation in my head trying to fix it or find the perfect solution I have to say Stop and ask God to take it, the verse I use the most is Philippians 4:4-10, …Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petiton,with thanksgiving, present your request to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus… Then I pray, I know He knows what is on my heart. He knows what is on yours too. Don’t try to figure it out just give it away to Him and relax in His Peace. You have studied all the words now put them to work. The circumstances around you may not change but how you feel about them will. Praying for you.

  17. This has been a great devotional! Greetings all the way from a hot Cape Town South Africa….my heart is broken and the end of year festivities has taken a toll on me. I battle with loneliness! Thank you so much for this

  18. lisa johnson says:

    how i wish I knew the promises of Psalm 25, of god being there for me all this time, How he would never leave me and I didn’t have to fall into the trap of lonliness. It would have saved me a lot of heartache growing up. But I thank God for knowing it now.

  19. As Christmas gets closer and closer my tears become more and more heavy. The holidays remind me of my mother. I lost her to cancer 1 1/2yrs ago. She loved the holidays and since she passed away I tend to get this over whelming sadness. I miss her so much. Today when I read your message I really connected with it. It’s like it was written with me in mind. Thank you so much for amazing work!

  20. Paula Stanton says:

    Thank you for sharing this today.
    My husband of 44 years passed into Jesus arms one month ago after a 14 month battle with cancer.
    I have a two married daughters with seven grandchildren between them, although they live far away; wonderful church family, small group women’s Bible study and a couples Bible study group that my husband and I were leaders of. I also have great work buddies, and live in a neighborhood full of caring people.
    However, I am so terribly lonely for my husband:
    simply for his presence in my life. holding hands when we spent time together, for his arms around me and being “my other half.” God made us truly into “one flesh.” I cannot imagine ever feeling whole again.
    I have really seen God’s mercy in so many ways during this trial and I know He is with me always. I know Tim is with Jesus and has no more sickness, but all I feel is that he’s gone.
    So, I get through one day, sometimes one moment at a time and hold onto my favorite scripture promise: “God works all things together for good…” Romans 8:28. I don’t understand why or how, but I know GOd’s word is true.
    Thank you for letting me share my heart.

  21. Thank you so much for this; God definitely knows when I need to read something. Loneliness is a major struggle for me right now. I’m single and while I know quite a few people, I don’t really have any real friends. On top of that I’m an only child, so I don’t have any siblings. And in my job situation I work with one other person (my boss), so there are days I feel like I don’t really see anyone. When I’m saying my prayers, I pray for “my future husband and my future friends” because I have to have hope that I’m not going to be alone forever. I know I have God in my life and I am very thankful to have Him, but sometimes I want someone here on earth as well. Thanks again!!!

  22. I am not single, but married and have two small children – and yet there are days I feel VERY alone. Alone in motherhood, alone as the only adult in the house (my husband works full-time and I stay at home with the kids). I believe loneliness is something that all of us women deal with; at all walks of life. The important thing is we all have God. Without Him I just don’t know how I would do it sometimes. Thank you for this wonderful message – and it’s nice to know I am not the only one. I think the devil wants us to believe that lie sometimes – that we’re the “only one” that feels lonely, that we’re not “normal” (whatever that means right? What’s normal anyhow? lol), or that we’re crazy and beyond hope. Let’s abolish those lies with God’s truth!! “He will not leave you or forsake you!” Good words indeed.

  23. This is my first time to this sight. My daughters actually recommended it. I have been divorced for almost 15 years. And now that all my children are grown. More than ever before I feel alone. Sometimes very lonely. But I also feel very loved and cherished by the Lord. Sometimes I just get away to a quite place and sing that song ” he loves me, he loves me, Jesus loves me….” and just let the truth if it sink in. I can sense the presence of the Lord. He Iis a ever present help in trouble!

  24. I have to say thank you for this blog of loneliness. I am lonely although I have family ; I am a caretaker of many so it is “do this,do that” . I do not get the respect of feeling human and cherished just an expected care for us “job” in my family. So , I normally feel more happy with strangers because they talk of the same things I do ; I am a caretaker and do not feel appreciated -it is nice to know you are not in fact feeling lonely all the time all alone;there are others. Sometimes it is as if you feel like no one would notice if you slipped off the face of the Earth. Unless they needed you to do something for them. I know I sound a little poor me – yet , I know I am not appreciated just for my company within my own family. It hurts but I HAVE GOD,JESUS, the almighty always !! I just talk to him and it reminds me of the hymn ..and he walks with me and he talks with me and tells me I am his own….and the joy we share as we tarry there no other has ever known !!! Thank God for God. Period. God bless you all with a good person friend / family member who just wants to be with you out of love , Merry CHRISTmas !! – a. oh yeah – Jesus was lonely , we cannot expect not to be either. We can all talk to him and feel more in company than those who seem to have more company than us ! Not that I wish they did not know of the true company – Jesus – I want that for all ( :

  25. Oh Samantha. Thank you for sharing this story that God placed on your heart. Just last night, I was feeling that emptiness that comes with feeling lonely. For one reason or another, I’ve often found myself in lonely situations and I too have believed that lie: “I’ll always be alone”. But thanks to this devotional I’ve now got a new power verse to recite whenever that emptiness tries to weasel its way back into my heart. God’s love and our relationship with the Lord is FAR greater than any of the lies the Enemy tries to throw at us. I’m grateful that there is a website like Proverbs 31 to remind us all of that truth.

  26. Bettie Carter says:

    This is great, my husband and I decided the same thing and it has worked great. It’s so sad when Parents choose to be so selfish and demanding and add stress to holidays that are already stressful. It doesn’t matter when you celebrate as long as you do. God Bless

  27. Darian Richie says:

    In the midst of the Festive season as a singleton, never been married woman, one can easily feel so lost, even when surrounded by family. Thank you for reminding me that God is always our Saviour, Redeemer and Healer…especially when we feel lonely….


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