Escaping the Anxiety Trap

Escaping the Anxiety Trap

March 28, 2016

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear.” 1 John 4:18a (NIV)

He cried all the way to school, and I cried all the way back home. Day after day, my 7-year-old’s fears loomed large in our lives. The latest fear was of school, but his other fears had kept us from normal life routines for years.

My husband and I tried everything we knew to reassure our son, but we were exhausted and out of ideas. Finally, in desperation, we turned to a Christian counselor.

During one of our first meetings, she asked me to make a complete list of our son’s fears. I started the list, and then I listed some more. And I listed. And I listed. I was stunned when I saw the full scope of his anxieties.

I finally got the courage to ask the questions weighing on my heart from the start. Through tears I asked: “Is this just the beginning? I need to know what to expect. Will these fears continue to grow for the rest of his life?”

Our counselor smiled, explained that childhood anxiety is usually short‑lived and then told me a story. She had a friend who had struggled with overwhelming fear and anxiety since childhood. As her friend grew up, she came to a saving knowledge of Jesus followed by a calling to missions.

Even though the friend overcame her fear enough to move to a foreign country, she confessed that there was constantly a gap of time between God speaking to her and obedience while she overcame the fear of change.

The counselor gently reached for my hand and said, “Amy, you’re doing the right thing helping your son to face and overcome his fears now. If my friend had gotten help as a child, she would be able to obey God with joy instead of fear. That’s the goal!”

I sobbed with relief and stoked my determination to fight his fears (and mine) to the death. If you’re in those shoes today, I want to encourage you. Fear can be vanquished, and it’s worth the work. Just keep your eyes on the prize …

We can conquer our fears to follow God fearlessly. If you or your child feels overwhelmed by fear, here are steps our family took to find freedom:

Memorize Scripture. Knowing key Scripture verses by heart was essential. We’d say the verse, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear …” (1 John 4:18a). And then I’d ask our son to say who loves him, starting with God. The power and truth of Scripture is calming.

Harness thought patterns. We talked about how fear is like a snowball rolling down a hill. The longer it rolls, the larger and faster it gets. When our son would start to panic, we’d say, “Let’s not let the snowball roll down the hill. Let’s talk about/think about something good.”

Enlist the help of a Christian counselor. Our family hired a Christian counselor when we ran into a problem we couldn’t seem to solve ourselves. In our case, we only saw the counselor for a very limited time before we were back on our feet again. I’m a huge advocate for the power of outside help!

Today, our son is a thriving college freshman. He didn’t overcome his fear and anxiety overnight, but we haven’t seen signs of them in years. He’s eager for his story to be told to help other people, so he gave me full permission to share it here. He wants you to know that freedom is achievable. God loves you and wants you to walk free from fear as you take steps of trust today.

Lord, I want to be free from anxiety and fear. Teach me to trust Your Word and to give You my anxious thoughts. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Psalm 3:6, “I will not fear though tens of thousands assail me on every side.” (NIV)

Psalm 139:23-24 “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (NIV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
Is your fear pushing you away from God, rather than drawing you closer to Him? Uproot fear and anxiety from your mind using the Proverbs 31 Ministries’ 30-Day Devotional: Overcoming Fear. Click here to get your copy today for a gift of any amount.

Amy Carroll invites you to visit at her blog today where she is doing a giveaway of Lysa TerKeurst’s children’s book, It Will Be Okay: Trusting God Through Fear and Change and sharing some resources for Christian counselors.

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
What are some things that feed your fears?

What activities help you fight your fears? Choose to implement at least one of these today.

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  1. This was a great blog with some very important truths of overcoming fears. I know this information will help my grandson with his fears.
    Thank you!

  2. sally lewin says:

    I appreciate your words. I’m fighting the fear of cancer returning. As I go through treatment, each step seems to lead to another and another. It’s so hard not to allow my mind to think about the worst. This last week has been especially difficult. You’re right, God is under control and His perfect fear casts out fear. He has more power than my oncologist and knows my body since the very beginning. May He be glorified no matter where this journey takes me.

  3. Praying for you Sally.

  4. Lila Oliveira says:

    This is exactly what I need. I’m facing a difficult fear and this is exactly what I need to focus on. Is it possible to get the book digitally? I live in Canada.

  5. I have anxiety and fear as I await for my test score for my degree. I get 5 attempts and this test is my 3rd attempt. I know that God wants me in this profession because He allowed me 5 1/2 years of education. I let anxiety take over and it’s hard for me to give it all to God. I have 3 state tests to take and I need much prayer to move these mountains.

    • Praying for you!

      • Grateful Scholar says:

        Misty,
        I hope that all is well with you. Remember God allows for certain doors to close and open at very specific times in our lives. There isn’t a day he has not seen in your future – Trust in Him! He has and always will provide all that you need. From one scholar to another I understand the pressure and anxiety tests may bring. However, I know God is stronger than any fear and anxious thoughts a professional degree may bring. Praying for you and your continued success! NEVER give up, God will be faithful to complete what He has begun in your life. Blessings to you this holiday season!

    • Grateful Scholar says:

      Misty,
      I hope that all is well with you. Remember God allows for certain doors to close and open at very specific times in our lives. There isn’t a day he has not seen in your future – Trust in Him! He has and always will provide all that you need. From one scholar to another I understand the pressure and anxiety tests may bring. However, I know God is stronger than any fear and anxious thoughts a professional degree may bring. Praying for you and your continued success! NEVER give up, God will be faithful to complete what He has begun in your life. Blessings to you this holiday season!

  6. Ashly Espinoza says:

    My son has,severe anxiety with trying new food. He is 9 years old and has struggled with this all his life. He only eats 5 different main dish items,which he is starting to get tired of, and will not try anything new. We have tried everything from Occupational therapy,threatening,punishment,waiting him out.Nothing works. He will starve himself,give himself a headache,and end up throwing up stomach acid because he refuses to eat anything new. We don’t know what what to do, any suggestions?

    • Aimee Patrick says:

      Have you already tried a children’s cookbook and let him look at the recipes? We had one that made the food into different shapes of animals, designs, things like that. It helped us for awhile. They felt they had control over their choices and it was fun for them to make sandwiches with an Elmo cutter that made a face of him in their sandwich. We got a waffle iron at Walmart that makes them in Spider Man shapes… We also got different food containers that had little compartments for them to put finger foods in with the silicon muffin tins inside and they liked to pick their own colors and also eat some of the finger food with toothpicks. Just a few things we do.

    • Would it help, Ashly, if your son got involved earlier in the process? At 9, he is old enough to participate in gardening, shopping and cooking. Can he Google the items he does eat and find new recipes? Or find a different way to cook an egg every morning for a week? I know there is a risk in this–raw chicken lacks charm. But a carrot grown from a seed planted by one’s own fingers is amazing.

      This boy is your child, Lord. You know his mind. Grant Ashly the wisdom to handle this issue with the least possible drama and the most possible love. Amen.

    • Julia York says:

      Ashley!

      This is actually an eating disorder that I have. It’s called selective eating disorder. I started seeing someone and it’s helped a lot. I would suggest that!

      Praying!

  7. This is a timely encouragement for me for what I am going through. My son has a severe anxiety disorder. He is fearful of socializing and struggles in school. He would rather stay home and will not attempt in any way to make friends. School projects that require speaking in front of the class terrifies him to no end. At times I would intervene and speak with the teacher if there is a way to report the projects one on one with the teacher. I get really confused because at home he is a chatter and won’t stop talking. His grades are good though because he makes up at tests and anything that does mot require speaking in front. Praying with him before school helps , still I am not sure whether we should seek a Christian counselor.

  8. You are so right about memorizing Scriptures. Awhile back when I was dealing with a particular fear, the Scripture that really helped me get through it was 2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (NKJV) I was told by my Uncle John (who is a Christian) to speak the Scripture out loud so that I could ‘hear’ it; and so I did that. When that fearful thought would pop up, I repeated that Scripture out loud and made it personal by saying: “For God has not given ‘me’ a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Then something great happened…the thought occurred to me that ‘If God didn’t give me the spirit of fear, then who did?’ I immediately realized that the enemy did. That realization made that fear leave–glory to God! I am so thankful for His Word.

    • I am so glad you commented and I am going to share this with my 13-year-old daughter, who has great anxiety and fears. It is absolutely wonderful that you realized and pointed out where ‘the fear’ is coming from…the enemy! We need to call it out and rid ourselves of the power of the enemy and give it back to God! Thank you!

    • Thank you so much for helping me understand through the verse of 2 Timothy 1:7! I have been fighting with anxiety and fears and that verse just opened up my way of thinking and I believe with all my heart I have been released!!!

  9. I have spent the last hour on Pinterest looking up resources for my 5 year old’s anxiety, Then I popped over here to read today’s devotion, and here are your words on childhood anxiety… God at work?? I think so!! Thanks so much for these encouraging words, for letting me know that we are not the only ones experiencing this, that there is hope and that God never leaves nor forsakes his children. This devotion truly blessed me tonight!!!

  10. Childhood anxiety and “picky eating”
    have just been added to my 6 year old granddaughters list of struggles.
    Speech and fear of change have been on her list 3 1/2 years.
    I will add reading these scriptures aloud with Her name to my prayer toolbox.
    Children deserve childhoods.
    Thank you for your encouragement and prayers.

  11. My 6-yr-old twin sons are experiencing horrible anxiety and it’s been progressing to the point where we haven’t been able to figure out what to do. One sees an OT and the other one is now getting worse.
    After two terribly stressful weekends in a row, I laid in bed last night and prayed to God for some help; I haven’t been leaning on him as I should be.
    I woke up to this devotional in my inbox. I will forever be indebted to how He speaks to me when I need him the most. Thank you!

  12. This morning I awoke at 3:30 to great fear–knowing He is the answer to my fears, I turn to His Word… “When I am afraid, I will trust in You. In God whose word I praise, in God I trust, I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?” Ps. 56:3-4. It’s a struggle to hold on; to KNOW He has not left me. Your devotional reminds me. He is Here in the struggle; He will never leave nor forsake…

  13. Angela Raphael says:

    To Ashly, might I suggest that you start by having your son confess,” I like food that is healthy for my body. I don’t like food that is unhealthy for my body.” There is lots of scripture that contests to the power of our words. He can say that even as part of saying grace at his meals. I would also encourage you to only confess victory over this area. So you would say things like,”my son has a great appetite and eats a variety of healthy foods, in Jesus’ name,” and never say,” he never eats anything, we continue to struggle.”
    I prayed for you and your son this morning. Lastly remember, We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us! Philllipians 4:13

  14. I’m struggling with anxious thoughts right now. It’s the middle of the night and I just want God to honor His word and let all be ok with this baby girl I’m carrying. I’ve lost 3 other babies (the last I was pregnant with at this time last year). So very much wanted and the journey isn’t easy. I’m so thankful for my daughter in utero and just want the anxiety to subside. Death in the family has been hard and, I’ve also been struggling with the silence of supposedly good friends disappearing without a trace has been difficult and I miss the connection and support. Honestly, I wish I “felt” secure in God’s love, but it’s definitely a struggle. Please keep us in your prayers–for a strong finish to this pregnancy, God will bless me with keeping this daughter, that she will be healthy, and he will reconcile and restore those friendships. Praying for you all as well. Thank you.

  15. Whenever I am called to sing in public or in the church, my great enemy who is the FEAR will blow me down. Fear of I don’t have a good voice, am I called to sing, I am singing rough notes, they will laugh at you if you make a mistake. It always starts will cold and anxiety. Please pray with me. God bless you. Thanks.

  16. Michelle says:

    Thanks for sharing your story.

  17. This was my family last year. My daughter is 7 and in 1st grade but in kindergarten at the end of the year she got food poisoning, she was so sick. This triggered a huge fear. We cried everyday to school. We also found out there was a little girl picking on her. I cried and cried, I had her memorize Joshua 1-9, had her see the school counselor to no avail. Finally I spoke to my Sunday School teacher and at the next meeting the entire Sunday School class prayed over me for her. Little by little things started to change. This year it has been much better. In December she started small things again, but once again I asked for prayer. This time I had actually started having anxiety worrying over her. She got sick just recently and she turned to God in prayer…the most amazing thing happened, she faced her fears head on. My advice is don’t stop praying and have others keep praying. It may take years but it is worth it.

  18. A Christian counselor told me that as a child my spirit had been traumatized and I was ok for a while. I’m in my 60’s and fear/anxiety has ballooned. What helps? The wonderful support of this devotional team, scriptures along with prayer. Some days are better than others. Most of all I have to really watch my thought life and stop over analyzing and internalizing things.

  19. A Smitty says:

    Great timing! Over the past few years, I’ve developed anxiety when driving on the highway. Last night I even found myself looking up hypnotists. This fear has limited me in where I drive and visiting friends and family. My goal is to be free from this fear and this devotion helped me realize what steps I need to take.

    • Paulette says:

      I go through the same thing! I will feel myself not doing things that I want do because of places that I may have to go or ride. I am not as bad if I am driving and in control, but if I have to ride, I find myself not wanting to go and sometimes will cancel things due to fear! I, too, am praying about it and memorizing scripture and asking God to remove this paralyzing fear from me! Looking so forward to receiving this devotional.

  20. Good morning to all! Thanks Amy for sharing this devotional today. My grandson is fearful of a lot these days. He does not like sleeping in his room. He says that he is not a big boy yet. He finds his way to my room in the middle of the night.Shopping is an interesting experience. He is afraid of the mannequins. He starts to back away. I am having him evaluated because he is impulsive as well. I am praying that God will give me wisdom as I parent him as a single grandmother. Mom is 25. He is five.

  21. Thank you for this word this morning. Have a blessed day.

  22. What has helped me overcome my fears and anxiety is I join the gym and learn to trust in the Lord and pray a lot !!
    Thank you

  23. Camilla Avila says:

    Oh I see this is what I suffered with growing up.My mother was patient although I don’t think she understood it all. I have always hated and feared change. Since I have come to know the Lord personally I have received help from Him especially memorizing certain verses. Even this morning in First Five devotional was listed God’s promises which I will keep close. Thank you.

  24. Although this piece is speaking about children, my father (who is in his 80s) was diagnosed with anxiety disorder just last week! Reading this gave me insight as to where his fears are coming from and ideas on how to help him. God always shows up right when you need Him!

  25. cindy gb says:

    Ashley- I have a child like your son. Ellyn Satter’s work/books were helpful. It may be simple or complex, either way it is challenging. My child also had food allergies and ate only “safe” foods to her. At the same time food textures and some flavors were off-putting. She has super sensitive taste buds. She recently was diagnosed with gluten intolerance which adds another level of complexity. Maybe a food diary will help as you gather information. Perhaps meeting with a dietician or pediatrician may help too. It’s a journey for sure! May God grant you wisdom and some bible promises to cling to! You are not alone and seeking wise counsel and support will help along the way.

  26. Christy Smith says:

    We too have a child who experienced the most debilitating anxietyvwe had ever seen. Every morning as he rose from bed, we wondered what that day was going to bring. It had escalated over the years and we worried about what his future would hold for him.
    During his 7th grade year we had exhausted every christian counselor, psychiatrist, physician we could to get some answers all the while praying feverishly for guidance and peace. We decided to try an outpatient treatment facility where he would finish the school year and receive daily therapy with other kids experiencing the same thing.
    At the beginning of the next school year we chose a very small private Christian school for him to attend. We felt the class size would be less overwhelming and the staff would be more patient and understanding.
    His psychiatrist was wonderful in helping us to understand and realize that his ADD was triggering his anxiety. He spent two years at this school, each month, a little better than the last.
    When anxiety would show it’s ugly fangs, we reminded his of 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love and a sound mind.”
    I am happy to report that during his 2 years there, he can to trust the Lord. He has made a complete turnaround and is doing wonderfully. Yes, sometimes the anxiety creeps up, but he is armed with the tools and knowledge to know that God is in control and has armed him with power and authority over anxiety. He graduates next year!!

    • Amy Carroll says:

      Thank you for sharing, Christy. I know your story encourages others who are in the midst of the struggle. Like you, we didn’t see overnight healing, but it has been complete. Having those tools you mention is essential.

  27. My husband and I are ever in fear for our son’s life. He is a Type 1 diabetic that is not well controlled. He has extreme highs and lows. We worry we will find him in a coma or dead in his apartment. He suffers from anxiety, depression, is a sensitive person making his blood sugar all over the place. he’s also very sensitive to insulin. His pump has alarms to alert him when he is going dangerously low but he is such a fog by then. He is very thin and we worry all the time. it has taken a toll on the family these last 12 years.

    • Pamela, I don’t believe in coincidences. As I opened up the website to talk about by daughter who is struggling with anxiety, your story was the first I saw…I am an endocrinologist. Please have him see the nurse specialist who helps with his pump. Have His alarms set for higher numbers for his lows so he is not so far gone when they happen. If his lows are currently set at 40 for a low, have them set to 60. If they are set at 60, change them to 80. Also, have his highs set at 10-15 points lower than what they currently are. The goal is to lower his glucose very gradually but in a narrower window. So now if his range is set at 40-315, change that to 60- 300. And so forth. Narrow the window first at a higher level then slowly drop the window down. The huge changes cause a person to be increasingly insensitive to the symptoms. Narrowing the window will improve sensitivity to symptoms AND to insulin and then it improves outcomes when blood glucose starts to be lowered. I hope this helps and I’m lifting him up right now. And you and your husband as well.

      • I was so overwhelmed when I read your reply my eyes filled up and I had to collect myself. Thank you thank you thank you. I have copied and pasted this conversation in my notes so I can give it to him tomorrow. His next appt w/the endocrinologist is in a few weeks. This is truly stunning that you would see and hear our pain, then take time to respond. And pray. I will return the favor by praying for you and your daughter.

    • Amy Carroll says:

      Wow. I love how this community ministers to each other and how God provided such practical help today, Pamela.

  28. Danielle Pion says:

    Love cast out fear. God’s love cast out fear. D

  29. What feeds my fear? I’m 55 & I have back/ neck problems that are seemingly unresolved to a certain degree. I am divorced & clean houses & do janitorial work. These are all I can see to do to make money enough to live on. When I look at my future I know these means will not be sustainable. That feeds my fear. Spending time with the Lord & finding scripture that pertains to my fears & serving Him are what helps me fight my fears. Please keep me in prayer !!! The enemy is always on attack & I often unknowingly give way to him! I often feel “stuck”. I don’t know what I should do or if I have missed an open door somewhere along the way!!

    • Julie,
      I can understand how you feel! I have suffered from back pain and physical limitations which is why I found a job where I don’t have to be on my feet all the time. God is near those in need…. keep looking to Him for guidance and wisdom.. As well you must be very strong to work as hard as you do with neck and back issues. I pray an opportunity opens up that is easier for you and you can live on with less fear. Remember God’s grace flows in to your life and He understands your weaknesses. God bless you 🙂

  30. God is powerfully impacting my life at THIS moment. I am facing a very difficult time at work, which will last at least two months (April and May). Every year we go through this and I have GREAT anxiety each year as April 1st looms larger and larger on the calendar. JUST THIS MORNING, I was praying (actually begging) for God to help me overcome my intense fear and anxiety. I came to work and begin to look through my emails. And then I open this Proverbs 31 encouragement. Seriously?! Is this a coincidence that today the devotion is on fear? Absolutely not! God has spoken to me right here at my desk. I am humbled and so very grateful to Him. I immediately ordered the Proverbs 31 daily devotional on fear. Your obedience to God allows Him to be active and alive in My life. Thank you!

  31. This helped me so much today, thank you!
    I’m a little anxious about future and about the God’s calling for me.
    But I know that if He promisse something to me, He is faithfull and will keep the promisse!
    God bless you!

  32. Danielle Pion says:

    Thank you for sharing your life experience concerning your son. This will definitely help with with my grand children. Bless you. D

  33. Maria Melendez says:

    Thank you for sharing your son struggles.. I too face anxiety and fear everyday. Right now is from school, I went back to school after 20 years. I’m in my fifties and my anxieties has grown bigger than before and they are out of control. I pray everyday but my anxiety seems to get worse than better. I’m in therapy for 4 years and it has helped but it seems that every time I’m doing better I get dragged down again. I pray that in time I get better and I’m able to finish school. As of today, I want to quit school and I pray God give the courage to take a final decision whatever that is.

  34. Christine says:

    Thank you for sharing this… in some ways it enlighten my mind and heart. GOD Bless.

  35. kathy wyg says:

    Good Morning….thank you for this devo…..for me…i appreciate that you gave us the
    end of the story….& let us know what happened…& how your son has fared since then & has done great….thank you….& thank you to your son..for being willing to share..
    his/your guys’ story….

    have a blessed day…………… kathy wyg

    also…to…Ahley Espinoza…Aimee Patrick & Shirlee Abbott…for suggesting a neat & cool way for these kids to be a part of meal planning…& kind of get their hands dirty…
    in a manner of speaking….

    i will say my prayers for all you ladies……..

  36. It is so comforting to open up this devotional and read scripture and to know that God is in control. There is so much fear and anxiety gripping so many. When my daughter experienced debilitating anxiety, we prayed often and had specific mantras that she would recite. I am strong and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Phillipians). Focus on the positive; name specific things to be grateful for. Prayers to all those who struggle and who have spoken of these difficulties.

  37. Tanya Hall says:

    My son who is 19 was just Dx with Myotonic Muscular Dystrophy! As a nurse unfortunately I know what dark days lay ahead for us and especially my precious son! I can’t imagine my life without him and I can’t imagine seeing him in a wheelchair…. I’m anxious all the time; I found myself imagining the worst every time I hear him say “Mom can I go…..with my friends today!” I want to put him in a padded room and lock the door so he can never be harmed or hurt because I know he can’t be put to sleep to fix whatever he breaks or needs surgery for…. I’m in constant fear that he’s hurting of declining in some way that I can’t physically see with my own eyes and he’s not cognitively aware to notice himself to alert me of the decline.

  38. As a teenager I dealt with anxiety to the point where I couldn’t eat. I definitely identify with the snowball of thoughts. In the last year I have really grown in my spiritual walk.
    I would say the biggest thing in controlling those thoughts is recognizing the power of God, and addressing how Satan is trying to bring us down. I put on the armour of God daily(Eph 6) and recognize how we can resist the devil (James 4:7). When I’m in a destructive thought cycle, I recognize it, pray, tell Satan to leave in Jesus name and recite scripture. It has an amazing effect! I also think of 1 Tim 1:7 and how God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love and, a sound mind. Through God’s strength we can be conquerors!!

  39. As I get older, fear and anxiety grip me tight, to the point of paralyzing me from comleting daily tasks. Thank you for your post and advice today. I would love a copy of your book. I feel like you are looking in the window of my life; I strive to do everything to perfection and when I fall short, I become anxious, overwhelmed and nonproductive.

  40. I have struggled with anxiety/panic attacks for years. I am a perfectionist and I like to be in control. I have always been a worrier and afraid of many things. The Lord has taught me through my struggle with anxiety that His ways are not my ways and His plans are not my plans. I am continuing to learn to give my worries and fears to Him. He is my strength and my shield. My favorite go-to verse is 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and a sound mind.”

  41. Jennifer says:

    Thank you for this post. I am in my 30’s and struggle with anxiety that the next act of disobedience will take God’s help away. I am so imperfect and while I believe Jesus paid for all my sins, I sometimes wonder, does God have a time limit on how long he’ll wait for me to completely walk in obedience. This thought has me biting my nails and waking in sweats sometimes. Will I ever “get there”?

    • Amy Carroll says:

      Jennifer, I want to share something that really has helped me. I’m a recovering perfectionist, and the scripture where Jesus says, “Be perfect as I am perfect” always made me nervous until I understood what that word “perfect” meant. It’s actual meaning is “mature, whole and complete”. Wow. That changed the whole ballgame for me. God knows we’re imperfect. In Psalm 103, it says that He knows we are dust. Yep. I know it too. He is our compassionate Father leading us through all our mistakes, sin and imperfection to maturity, wholeness and completion in Him. We can rest in that rather than fearing or wrestling with our imperfection. I hope that helps!

  42. I read this and repent God for not taking
    My son jabin to a council when he was 12yrs old he started to fear and having anxiety attacks where now it grow with him he cant drive work or stay in college
    He only stays in.his room and get offend
    I now encourage him to go for christian council and he refuse and iam praying for a long time and seem like its worse
    Its have took over his life

  43. I deal with fear also but i get God word
    And stand i have lots of fear about doing
    My denist care everytime go i get anxiety
    Fear bloodpressure rise and i leave office
    I need deliver from this now i need a partial afraid to stay in denist chair needle and all

  44. Jabin is 21 yrs old now fear kept him out
    The navy 2014 fear ran bloodpressure up pulse rate and he failed phyical and that
    Really shut him down i will order the material its needed

  45. I can recieve email to reponse

  46. Can you get paypal as option for paying for things? theres some devotionals like overcoming fear but I do not like paying with card directly online

  47. I have struggled with fear and anxiety my whole life. I am now 54 and still struggling. My mom has recently been diagnosed with afib at 78. I worry all the time about losing her. We are very close and always have been.

  48. Thank you for this. I have always struggled a bit with anxiety but the past couple of years it has been much more of a battle. I was having counseling and anxiety medication at the worst point. I am doing much better now, and while there are some other issues I need to work through, I think the main one is having a willingness to trust God and a deep knowledge that I can trust Him. I have a tendency to want to be in control and so situations out of my control induce my anxiety. Thank you for this reminder today and giving some strategies that have worked for your family.

  49. Charlene Cowden says:

    Perfect. Would love “it will be okay . . . ” for my future daughter-in-law for her son who struggle with fear

  50. Colleen Schaming says:

    I am 59 years old and I suffer from anxiety attacks. The first one I had sent me to the hospital, thinking I was having a heart attack. My life has been filled with trauma since I was a young child and continues to this day.I have been diagnosed with PTSD. I always turn to God, praying for His Protection when I feel I am being attacked Spiritually. One trauma after another and I can hardly catch my breath. But Jesus is always there, picking me back up.

  51. I have a 12 year old son and he has anxiety. What were some of the things your son feared?

  52. This was just what I needed today!! My daughter is 10 and has been struggling with anxiety amping up over the last couple of months. We don’t know what to do with her anymore, and worrying over her is making ME anxious daily!

    Then I open this in FB today and it’s talking about childhood anxiety! Perfect timing…God’s timing 🙂

    I still don’t know how to help her but we’re taking steps.

  53. Doubt and insecurities feed my fears. I will look to God, Jesus, the bible and any scripture that I can until I sense relief. Doesn’t take very long.

  54. Tracy Guenther says:

    Ashly, I think you should have your son seeing a Christian therapist. I definitely wouldn’t punish him. I agree with other comments of maybe he can help you cook or shop and pick out foods he might try. I have a 9 year old boy too, this breaks my heart. Stay strong in the Lord. I’ll be praying for you and others here. God bless!

  55. Emily Hamilton says:

    Thank you for sharing! My niece struggles with fear. I wish there was a way to share this blog! ? be blessed.

  56. carole baker says:

    Wow, this is very helpful. I too struggle with driving on the highway. Started when my kids were little. I hate it. I feel like an idiot. I want to overcome it. I will def try the many suggestions.

  57. luanne w says:

    I read this devotion and started crying. My oldest daughter is having a real hard time with figuring out her life right now. I didn’t realize it but I think the root is fear. She feels like she is always fighting the battle against her insecurities and for self-worth. Any time she tries to get near to God, doubts and lies fill her mind. Sometimes she doubts her salvation and growth in Christ. I am asking for your prayers for her.

  58. Praying for your daughter,Luanne! I too have struggled with the same fears. May God touch and heal her in a very real way!!

  59. My son is dealing with anxiety right now. It has been 2 months of the scariest, crazy months. I am wiped out and my “A” honor roll 6th grader can’t get it together enough to go to school. Going to pray the scriptures even though I am very discouraged and we are feeling like God is not listening or hearing us. This was a timely devotional.

  60. I can’t tell you how much this article blessed me. I was like that as a child. I grew up in church, but for what ever reason, my parents did not fill my heart with Scriptures and my life spun out of control, until I was taught the Scriptures and could see who my God was, His Power in my life, and His incredible love for His children. So many people go to secular sources, and/or medicate nowadays rather than use the Power of the Word, that same power that spoke our world into existence is able to speak to and calm the storms in our life. “Perfect love casts out fear because fear has TORMENT”. Without the gospel, the Holy Spirit and the comfort of Scriptures, there is no freedom. But God reassures, ‘you will know the Truth and the Truth will set you free. And, as only our God can He has used my fears to teach so many others His Precious Words. I was able to go overseas, to serve as an EMT on a medical evacuation team, to go to Medical school, and to be a Teacher because through it God gave me a compassion for others who fear. If you look up how many times Jesus said, ‘be not afraid, it is I’, we can see that He understood, and He takes delight in calming our fears. When my children were babes I started teaching them Bible verses about fear, and they learned very early to go to God for His Comfort. Their lives are so blessed as a result, and they are able to run to their Abba Father. “The name of the Lord is a strong tower, the righteous run into it and are safe”. I will never forget how through various trials, the Lord has always given me a Scripture ahead of time to walk with Him through whatever He was calling me to. Ps 23, Ps 91, Ps121 became guideposts for my life. I pray that more parents through this article see the need to ‘feed’ the little souls of their children so they are not spiritually hungry. Just as Jesus told the servants at the wedding feast to fill the pots with water, which he then turned into wine, as parents we are to fill our little ‘pots’ with the water of God’s Word so that Jesus can transform their lives into His Image. “Let the little children come to Him, for such is the Kingdom of Heaven”.

  61. Amy, what you shared about your son is very similar to the journey we’ve been on with our now 24 year old son. He, too, seemed to outgrow (with the blessing of Christian counseling, Scripture meditation, and prayer) his battle with depression and anxiety. He was doing so, so well during his junior high and high school years. When he went away to college, the depression and anxiety began to show itself again, but this time in a much more severe way. Long story short, just prior to graduation, it was necessary for our son to withdraw from college, come home, and recuperate. The journey the Lord has had our family travel these past few years has not been easy. Our son spent one week in a treatment facility, received wonderful help from the staff there, and is now on medications that help keep his chemicals balanced and enable him to live a happy, normal life. Christian counseling, Scripture meditation, and prayer are still vital components of his well-being, in addition to medication. Now he is getting ready to graduate from college, and is engaged to be married soon. My message is this . . . do not be afraid to seek the professional help of psychologists and psychiatrists. It was indeed scary for us to take that route, but we were out of options. We’ve realized that, just as other illnesses are at times treated with medications, so must mental illness be treated at times with medication. These situations need to be taken case by case, with much prayer and counsel involved. Another message I’d like to convey is to everyone who’s experienced a mental illness personally, or who’s has had a loved one battle a mental illness. We need to help break the negative stigma surrounding mental illness. My husband and I have felt very isolated at times because people don’t understand (don’t blame them). Going to church has at times been challenging because people don’t know what to say or how to respond to us. I hear prayer requests on a normal basis for physical illnesses, but rarely for mental illnesses. As mentioned, I don’t blame others for not understanding, for not knowing how to minister to us. It’s simply the nature of dealing with something that’s out of people’s comfort zones. I hope this lengthy comment is helpful to someone who is currently, or who may travel a journey similar to ours in the future. We praise God daily for His strength and grace that sustains us everyday.

  62. This couldn’t be more appropriate for right now. I couldn’t be more fearful; any more anxious. I’m trying to internalize this scripture in 1 John. Somehow it sounds hollow. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day. Bless the work y’all do. Keep it up.

  63. Thank you so much for writing this. I am dealing with such anxiety and fear right now…I am terrified that I might have a heart attack or stroke. I suffer from tachycardia, but my EKG says that other than a rapid heart rate, everything is fine. However, Satan uses every flutter or tingle in my arm as a weapon against me and my trust in Him. I know there is healing in His name and I want to proclaim it, but struggle with just letting go. Your words are such an encouragement and I know in His time, He will heal me from these fears.

  64. Caroline says:

    Thank you all for making me realise I am not alone… I have a 17 year old daughter due to take a levels in 4 weeks, she is a high achiever and worries about her grades – anything other than A is a failure …. She had a mental health crisis on Monday and the docs have put her on anti depressants that will make her feel worse before she gets better, side effects are suicudal thoughts for the first 4 weeks – which is when she takes her exams – I am scared, frightened, anxious for her future – she has been brought up in a Christian home but doesn’t have a faith, my husband and I are praying for peace and guidance, I know it’s not the end of the world, and that God is there beside me every moment of every day – please pray ladies that he gives me the strength I need to stay strong and help my daughter, and for her recovery.

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