Five Scriptural Prayers for Your Son

Five Scriptural Prayers for Your Son

March 18, 2014

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12 (ESV)

He looks at me with a “heels dug in” kind of glare. I know if I said, “The sky is blue on a sunny day,” he would try to prove me wrong.

Sometimes, I don’t feel like we’re on the same team anymore, my son and I, and it breaks my heart.

On days like today, when he’s arguing with everything I say and trying his 8-year-old best to do things his way, it seems I’m fighting against him — like there’s a war going on in my house between me and my son — a distance between us I want to bridge no matter the cost.

I know from my education that this process of differentiation is pretty normal. Boys ache for independence from mama and feel ready to “boldly go where no man has gone before.” They want to be strong, assert their opinions and explore their own ideas.

Unfortunately, at my house, we’re currently living in the in-between season, where ideas abound before my son is mature enough to handle the responsibilities that go along with them.

And so we butt heads.

Sometimes, I’m tempted to let our circumstances tell me my son is the enemy — he’s the one I’m fighting. But then I remember Ephesians 6:12, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

When the days of mothering grow long and make a girl weary, and when what you really want to do is lock your son in his room and throw away the key, it’s good to remember this:

Your son is not your enemy. But there is an enemy.

That’s right. Our sons have a real enemy, one that wants to steal, kill and destroy them (John 10:10). Thankfully that enemy, according to the Word of God, has an opponent who’s a force to be reckoned with.


And me. And all moms who are willing to get on their knees and cry out for the hearts of their sons. James 5:16b says, “The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with” (The Message).

The best way we can enter the battle for our sons is on our knees, so let’s start fighting for them right now. Here are five powerful prayers you can use today to fight for the heart of your son:

1. Create in my son a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).

2. May my son walk after You, God, and fear You and keep Your commandments and obey Your voice. May he serve You and hold fast to You (Deuteronomy 13:4).

3. May my son be strong and courageous and not fear or be in dread, for it is You, Lord, our God, who goes with him. You will never leave him or forsake him (Deuteronomy 31:6).

4. May my son walk before You, God, as King David walked, with integrity of heart and uprightness, doing according to all that You have commanded him, and keeping Your statutes and rules (1 Kings 9:4).

5. Like Timothy, may my son be an example to believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity (1 Timothy 4:12).

Heavenly Father, thank You for giving us the tools of Your Word and prayer to fight the battle for our sons’ hearts. Help me see who our real enemy is when we are in a conflict. May You be glorified in all I do. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:
Want to go deeper in prayer for your boys? Read Brooke McGlothlin’s new book, Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most.

Today only, when you purchase a copy of Praying for Boys, you can get the Companion Guide free! Visit Brooke’s blog to learn more.

Looking for prayers to pray over your daughter? Don’t miss tomorrow’s powerful devotion from Lysa TerKeurst. She’ll be equipping us with encouragement and five scriptural prayers for your daughter.

Reflect and Respond:
The next time you feel as if you and your son aren’t fighting on the same team, stop and ask yourself these questions:

Who is my real enemy, and how is he influencing our hearts in this moment?

Given our current situation, what Bible verses can I pray right now over my son?

Power Verses:
Exodus 14:14, “The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.” (ESV)

Galatians 6:9, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” (ESV)

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  1. Just settled into bed after a long day. The last several hours were spent helping our son with homework. It was miserable. We both ended up angry and stressed. I didn’t want to end the evening that way. Looked at Twitter and saw this. Thank you. It was just what I needed. Going to get your book.

    • Jill,

      When I was growing up, I spent many nights at the dinner table with my dad “fussing” and sometimes fighting over homework. It was frustrating at the time, but now, as an adult, I look back at those times with such fondness. They remind me of how much my dad loved me and wanted to see me succeed. Take heart friend, one day he’ll remember and be grateful for a mom who sacrificed for him! Blessings friend!

  2. My husband, Ron Smithand I don’t have any kids; however, I wonder if these prayers would also work for my husband. I ♥ him so very much. Ultimately, Satan is our real enemy, a…nd he can attempt to influence us by placing peer pressure situations in our path- even setting us up with the wrong crowd. My husband and I don’t like to associate ourselves with the wrong crowd because we want to make a positive impact on others- rather than allowing ourselves to fall into a big problem of negative peer pressure that follows us, starting in school. I know that I have to be silent, as God will always fight for me. “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12 (ESV)
    Unfortunately, our fight is against anything evil that may get in the way of our wanting to be positive. I ♥ doing good things for myself and others. Obeying negativity isn’t something that I give in to whatsoever. As my mom would sometimes say “God doesn’t like ugly.” She’d usually say that if my brother ndI were in a bad mood.
    Ephesians 6:12, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”
    Our friends, family, church members, even co-workers- aren’t the enemy, even if we may be feeling like they are treting us wrong. Satan is the real enemy, who is trying to influence people here on earth to do his bidding. He’s ttempting to cancel out the ♥ God has shone upon us in the midst of all our unfortunate circumstances that may make us think our friends are enemies.
    “teal, kill and destroy “~John 10:10 is referring to Satan. He’s only the top peson who wants to destroy our happiness, steal the gifts that God has already given us…even kill the joy that we’ve got in our hearts. Nevertheless, God wants to show the devil that he can’t overthrow the power of love. James 5:16b says, “The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with” (The Message).
    I am living right with God, and there’s absolutely nothing that Satan will ever be able to take away from me. I’m constantly praising God, no matter how I feel. In happiness or sadness, od gets all of my worship and praise.
    Create in my son a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).
    I guess I’ve have to pray this over my husband, as we don’t have children. God, please create a heart of love for you, and renew in him a thirst and hunge for you. I only want my incredible to have a desire to have a want to be in Gods presence always.
    May my son walk after You, God, and fear You and keep Your commandments and obey Your voice. May he serve You and hold fast to You (Deuteronomy 13:4).
    OK, this one I’d have to pray about my brother. Growig up, my mom madeboth of us kids go to a Catholic church just because our grandma was Catholic. My brother wasn’t the least bit into church- not evenwhen we found a church that we liked. To this day, I don’t think he attends church at all.
    May my son be strong and courageous and not fear or be in dread, for it is You, Lord, our God, who goes with him. You will never leave him or forsake him (Deuteronomy 31:6).
    I know that we are never alone. Wherever we go, God goes along with us. I know that God’s with my brother; however, I don’t know if he even realizes that God’s been with him in all that he’s done so far in his life. Nevertheless, God is obviously waiting frmy brother to express a want to seek Him.
    May my son walk before You, God, as King David walked, with integrity of heart and uprightness, doing according to all that You have commanded him, and keeping Your statutes and rules (1 Kings 9:4).
    Unfortunately, I don’t think my brother has been keeping God’s commandments. Growing up, he never got along with me whatsoever. He wanted to bully me st because I have a physical disability that keeps me from being fully independent. My brother was probably jealous that my parents helped me more than they helped him.
    Like Timothy, may my son be an example to believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity (1 Timothy 4:12).
    My husband and I are both examples of good faith and leadership. I’m probably the best example of faith, as I’m always worshipping God when I’m at The Pentecostals of Springfield, Illinois. When I worship, it inspires others to do the same. ”

    “Heavenly Father, thank You for giving us the tools of Your Word and prayer to fight the battle for our sons’ hearts. Help me see who our real enemy is when we are in a conflict. May You be glorified in all I do. In Jesus’ Name, Amen”~Brooe McGlothlin
    I ♥ this prayer. I want the goodness of God to be shown in whatever my husband and I do, no matter what others may attempt to say or do because they joy of God’s all around us. Exodus 14:14, “The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.” (ESV)
    I am so glad to be reminded f this truth. God is always going to fight for us, no matter what we may be dealing with in our life. All we’ve got to do is allowHim to take over nd handle our problems in His own way.
    Galatians 6:9, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” (ESV)
    What this verse is saying is that we’ll reap what we sow. It may wear us out; however, God encourages us not to give up on what we’re doing. I’m always going to be a fighter, and nothing’s ever going to keep me from y goals in life.See More

  3. thrufaithalone says:

    Um, I wouldn’t pray that my son would be like King David. We have a better example: Christ.

  4. Magriet du Plessis says:

    My sons are all grown up now, 43 and 40 years old. I can simply encourage all to not give up no maater how bad things are. My oldest fought us all the way into his adulthood and today he is a lovely son of God serving Him with all his heart and the same can be said of our youngest.
    So, what I am trying to say is, God does intervene even when we feel it is hopeless so keep on pryaing He is listning!

  5. I have two sons and a daughter and todays passages I’ve written down. I pray for them everyday and pray they will someday see that Christ alone was all they needed. One son has biblical knowledge but says he doesn’t believe and the other believes but is bearing little fruit and plays in the world with little thought of anyone else. I will cherish these verses and take them to prayer I’m in Gods waiting room and the wait can be exhausting and long these are words of encouragement for a weary Mom. Thank you Lord for these boys you’ve given me to pray for

    • You’ve just own have the battle, Denise-choosing to look at our kids as blessings, thanking God for giving them to us, and refusing to give up. Thank you for being transparent today. I pray God will meet you there!

  6. My heart has been aching over my oldest son, who is 9 1/2. I ran up on this on Facebook and if I didn’t know better, I would have thought you had written this about us. Thank you so much, it is exactly what I need! The scriptures will definitely be used!

  7. My oldest son is also 8 years old. He has a strong heart after God, already, and sets a good example for ME for reading his Bible and praying for others. My younger son is five. HE is a bit more of a challenge. He is defiant. He walks right up to that line and sticks his toe across it. He is wildly funny, amazingly charming, and SUCH a handful. I had a baby girl ten weeks ago. She is darling. It’s exhausting and exhilarating–this parenting ride. Thank you for the inspiration this morning.

  8. Thank you for this message! I am a mom of 3 boys and these verses will really help me in my prayers for my sons.

  9. Thank you for the insight! My little man is 6 with two sisters nipping closely behind at his heels. I look forward to the prayers for them tomorrow. I started reading this book a little while ago but haven’t had a chance to get back to it. Really appreciate the simple truths and scriptural prayers. The hope that this busy Momma needs to cling to is just fight there. Bless you for sharing with us!

  10. Cara Price says:

    I just left my quiet time 5 minutes ago & I had prayed, Lord, give me scripture to combat the enemy in my son’s life. I am tired & weary of talking to a brick wall about Your ways. Then I opened my email & this post was in my ‘in box’ HE is so faithful. Who could deny that He is living & active when He is so creative to answer through a daily blog post??

  11. Wonderful post. Thank you for the reminder that it is not my 14 year old son I battle, but the enemy.

  12. Thank you Lord for verifying, AGAIN, your love for me. Just yesterday I was in a huge conflict with my grown son. After trying to counsel him on his life and bad decisions that he has made, he kicked me out of his house. My heart was heavy and you Lord have strengthened me with these scriptures, at just the right time! Thank you for reminding me that my son is NOT the enemy! The enemy is satan. Only God and my trust in Him can defeat the darkness that is in my son’s heart. Thank you Father, for your perfect timing! I will pray these scriptures on behalf of my son and wait for God to glorified!!

  13. Patty Thel says:

    Your devotion touched my heart today. I am a grandma of 5 beautiful children. As I started reading I thought that this will be great to apply to my grandchildren. Then I realized I still need to pray these very things over my 36 and 32 year old sons

  14. Author is absolutely right regarding spiritual warfare, and I love the personalized scripture prayers. However, as a mom who raised 3 sons, all in their 20′s now and sold out to God, I have to say this: an 8-year-old boy and his mom should not be butting heads! The child should have been taught already to submit to his parents’ authority. That’s how we raised our 5, and they’ll tell you they loved their childhood. When they got older, high school and college, and actually had more independence, they tried doing some things their own way and learned some hard lessons; but it’s extremely important that they learn from day one to respect their parents’ authority under God. No head-butting allowed!

  15. Laura Naff says:

    Thank you for this message this morning. Much needed as my son is 19 and is in college. He knows it all about everything and I know nothing. We have always been close, but that closeness is diminishing and I grieve for it. I miss all our great conversations. I love all the scripture prayers and am praying them for my son and all of my nephews!

    • I’m so thankful that your prayers cover him, even when he might be forgetting to cover himself.

    • Laura,

      I feel your brokenness, I am also struggling with my 19 year old son. The distance seems to continue to grow between and it is so very hard for me to accept. I am learning that all I can do is pray that The Lord will find this lost sheep of mine. And ask Him to help me during the wait.
      God bless all of you moms. But I must say the younger years with my son were glorious, the teenage years are bringing me to my knees often bringing me closer to The Lord everyday.

      • Thank you so much to the mommas of older boys for sharing. I remember thinking the years with my 3 little boys would be the hardest but now that they are teenagers I’m feeling so overwhelmed –not just the mental exhaustion but also with with fear. Fear for their futures which for the 16-yr old means very soon he will not still live here in our home. It brings me hope to see that other moms struggled then too and while still pray on, they will hopefully wind up as good, healthy & strong Christian men. Oh how I wish you all lived next door…

  16. Brooke,
    Thank you so much for this devotion. I have three boys. My oldest is 9. It is so reassuring to hear that we aren’t alone in this battle or any battle. This was a very encouraging deco and God met me right where I am at (through you). So thank you for sharing and encouraging us with these verses.
    God Bless,
    Julie A

  17. Rosemarie says:

    God surely does love me to send me your devotion at a time when I feel the battle still rages on. I surely did need to see this today of all days in the season I am going through. I recently had decided to stop attending bible studies because of feelings of not being understood or speaking to much or this one doesn’t like me. Yet only to realize the reasons I was feeling this way or that was because of the enemy who was trying to stop the work of the Lord going on inside my heart. I needed to stop listening to the wrong voice and to tune into the Lord’s voice of telling me I am loved, I am precious, etc. As God’s word says, “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against . . . . . the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12 (ESV) Thank you Brooke!!! God Bless

    • Lord, thank You for Rosemarie, and thank You for being the God who bends down to listen (Psalm 116:2). You see Rosemarie, and You love her more than she even knows. Draw her close to You. Provide her with friends to love on her and lead her to You. In Jesus Name!

  18. Such practical encouragement! Thanks Brooke!

  19. Thank you Lord! I have been struggling so much in my relationship with my 11yr old son over the last number of months, and this weekend I felt at a complete loss….the only thing I knew what I could do to help things, was to bring it to God….which I did yesterday, and this morning I read your devotion….God has given me guidance through your words, and I thank you so much :o)

    • That’s what really started my prayer life, Helen…just feeling like nothing was working and wanting to do SOMETHING to reach their hearts. Prayer is that sacred space where we can partner with God for the hearts of our sons. Keep praying, friend :)

  20. I’m not struggeling with my ten year old, however I am very concerned about his internal struggles with himself. These versus are exactly what I needed. THANK YOU. Printing this one out….it will become a daily prayer.

  21. I am in tears reading this!! My sons are 20 & 10 and it seems that a war has erupted between us and my heart is so broken! UNTIL NOW! I am grateful for this devotional and I will be getting the book!!! AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!

  22. Jennifer Willis says:

    Were you hiding in my closet this morning??
    My son is so strong-willed and last nights confrontation carried into this morning and this mom has not stopped crying. Then I read this and cried some more. But this time they are tears of hope; that I’m not alone and someone else feels my pain and that my God can heal all wounds.
    Thank you!
    Jennifer Willis

    • Jennifer, isn’t it comforting to know you’re not the only one? It brings me so much strength and peace to know that other moms are dealing with the same things I am. Praying for peace in your home, friend!

  23. Oh thank you for this, sweet friend. I know what you’re saying about the “heels dug in” look. I see it a lot around these parts, too. These are wonderful prayers – I’m printing this out to pray each morning. Love these -thank you so much!!

  24. Thank you for your words. I have a 7 year old son and somedays it feels like he wants to do nothing but defy me and challenge my authority. I am going to print this out and put it on my fridge. Thank you so much for the encouragment.

  25. Today’s message and instructions are a blessing to me… a mom of a 32 yr old son. It encouraged me to continue fighting (praying) for his life! I awoke with a heavy heart for him (as usual), and reading your message today has given me new hope, focus and perspective. It is a WORD in good and needed season! WE REALLY NEEDED THIS. Thank you!

  26. Thank you for the encouragement and prayers.
    from Debbie, mom of 17 year old Alex who seems to love to argue with me and convince me that he knows WAY more than I do. ;-)

  27. Oh so very true… And how I’ve been there .. Prayer has truly saved me and my son. His middle schools years were rough, but then came high school and oh how I’ve prayed. God heard my prayers.. I even took a day off from work to only pray because we desperately needed God’s intervention… And God showed up.. I know we still have more to go and changes to make, but he is doing much better and I have the peace in my heart that God is with him… And with us.

  28. This is exactly where I am at with my 8 year old son. Thank you for your post, it was the perfect word for me to hear right now. I love the prayers you posted, it really spoke to my heart.

  29. Brooke,
    Thank you so much! This inspiration came at exactly the perfect time. It’s funny how God works that way. I( and all of our family) have been estranged from an adult son, his wife, and my grandchildren for the past year(not our choice), trying to keep the relationship alive, only to be met with indifference and heartbreak. I have lost countless nights of sleep, shed many tears, and prayed many prayers over this situation. After another sleepless night, Today was the day I was going to write the letter to tell him that I cannot do it anymore(this one sided relationship) for the sake of my whole family’s broken heart and let him and my grandchildren go. I may still have no choice but to do that. I feel he has been led astray since he has left the church. After reading this, I will continue to pray for his soul, along with his wife and children, and pray for his return to our family. I do know that the real enemy is Satan and he wants us to give up all hope but deep inside I cannot abandon that hope of my son returning just like the prodigal son. I must wait patiently with open arms and forgiveness and trust in God’s timing.

  30. Brooke,
    Your angst is starting early, I went through the same with my eldest. It started when he was about 11 years old and lasted until he was 15. By 16 we began to grow together again and he matured and understood that I wasn’t the enemy, but a guide to help him along his journey. We still have moments, but he always comes back to me to talk it out. At times we agree to disagree, but he understands my view and respects it. I give all the glory to God for helping me through those days and keeping me prayerful and listening to his instructions on how to guide him. I have another 11 year old son now and its beginning to start all over again, but I’ve learned from experience and I am prayed up and ready to do battle for my son.

  31. So I was sitting at my desk thinking whether to use the remaining lunch time to get ready for the next meeting or sit it prayer for my son and husband. Lunch time is usually time I dedicate to prayer and bible study over both of them. I started to convince myself that I prayed that morning, but the ‘little voice’ kept tugging at me. I stopped and rushed to your blog. The Lord’s ways never cease to amaze me. His plans are so big my small mind sits in wonder. Just yesterday I cried this prayer, again…again… for my son. Once again the God of heaven letting me know he hears my prayers. My job isn’t to save my son (23)- God does the saving, I am responsible for the praying…pray on. I needed this encourgagement more that I can say, but God knew that ahead of time and planned just this moment to let me know He is in control. WOW!

  32. Been there done that Brooke! My baby is 40 years old and a missionary in Bolivia now but it was quite a ride for awhile with him! I used to pray this for him:
    Because of Christ’s redemption,
    You are a new creation of infinite worth.
    You are deeply loved,
    You are completely forgiven,
    You are fully pleasing,
    You are totally accepted by God,
    You are absolutely complete in Christ.

    When your performance reflects your new identity in Christ,
    That reflection is dynamically unique.
    There has never been another person like you in the history of mankind,
    Nor will there ever be.
    God has made you an original,
    One of a kind,
    Really somebody!
    It helped me have God’s perspective on my son and a much better spirit towards him. Maybe others would find this helpful. By all means………..feel free to pray it…………… for boys, girls, husbands, etc. etc. etc. :)

  33. I’m always interested in new ways to pray for our grandchildren. These verses are great to pray for them. Thanks!

  34. Your words inspire and encourage, Brooke! As one who loves her children with all her heart and loves her God desperately, but STILL struggles with her kids, it is such a sweet reminder to know that we can fight FOR our kids, by bringing them before the throne of God- the only One who can instill life change in them. So much love to you! Your heart is beautiful as you faithfully seek to bring glory to God!

  35. Thank you for this devotion, these prayers today; especially now. But I had to change the gender. Said them for my daughter. I feel as though I am not connecting with her recently. In her 5 going on 6 year old world, it seems her opinions are the ones that should count above and beyond all else. She likes to have her independence and this is when we butt heads; query if I am doing all I can to understand her, see life at her level. Seems at those times that she must counteract my decision. The enemy is focused on destroying our children. At times I feel sad. Other times it’s upsetting; wanting her to see that Mummy means no harm. Indeed, we – the mums and dads, are the ones who must stand armed with the Word and in prayer to cover our children. God has given us the tools we need. I’m going to be adding these prayers to the ones I currently pray with her and even during my one on one time with my Father. Raising her primarily on my own, the world has all the stats to say that we won’t make it. So at times when I am trying to teach her certain mores and values, I know I have to keep doing my best with God’s help; to raise a well-adjusted young lady in the years ahead. I love my daughter.

    I won’t give up! To God be the glory!

  36. Such powerful verses! My son is 13 and I will pray these prayers over him and when struggles are upon us I can choose a specific one knowingGod is ßtill in control

  37. Thank you so very much for this devotional! I have two 19 year old young men, and we have had an uphill battle from about 14 on!!!!! I felt it would take a miracle to ever get my relationship back with either of them. It got worse before it got better, but the relationships are mending, thank you God!! It is so good to hear my husband and I are not alone. I asked Proverbs 31 ministries for devos geared toward parents of prodigals. Thank you for hearing and answering. I forwarded this to my sister with boys. I will be printing out and praying these prayers along with those in Stormie Omartian’s book, The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children. There is such power in prayer, and it always brings me peace even when I don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you!

  38. Forever a Mom says:

    I have 2 grown sons; one whose wife has pulled his heart away and against us, his parents, and though they speak as if God is in their lives, their behavior and their lack of love speak otherwise – attacks and twisted truths meet our every effort to be close to them. We walk on eggshells just to keep some contact with our grandchildren. It is so baffling and heartbreaking to be rejected by a son who we raised always with love and prayer.
    Our other son is lost spiritually – our little rebel from an early age, he has such a big heart that he locks behind a wall… though I know he really loves us, and he knows we love him. He wants nothing of God in his life right now, and his poor choices are now coming around to affect his life in very negative ways. He keeps us at distance, as he has for years.
    For these boys – and the extended family – I pray and cry every day… I have for years. I try not to give up, but it is with fresh wounds that I keep coming back to the Lord. This type of hurt does not go away, and the pain is fresh with every new rebuttal of our attempts at relationship with them. I want to trust that God will change their hearts, but I know I am coming up against satan in these battles, and he seems to be winning. I know my God is faithful, and I know He is at work… but how long? The heartbreak is devastating, and I can’t separate myself as a mom from it. How do I pray, and keep my own faith up, when years go by and the loving family and children with hearts for God I yearn for… I don’t see.
    I keep praying… and loving… and forgiving… and asking God to change my own heart, that I will not become bitter, and that I will continue to reach out in love, regardless of the rejection. How can children I love so much, want nothing to do with their own parents… one to the point of hating us, or maybe worse – feeling nothing for us?
    I know the only answer to this plea is continued PRAYER… and wholehearted Trust in my heavenly Father, who knows better than any the heartbreak of children who constantly reject Him. His Peace is with me – most of the time. Ahh, but sometimes I crumble. Back on my knees….

  39. MarineMom says:

    My son graduated May 2013, went to the Marine Corps Boot Camp September 2013 and is currently in school at 29 Palms. He is my last son to leave home, so we are now empty nesters. My heart hurts and it’s only been 6 months since he left. We talk on the phone maybe once or twice a week and text several times a day, just because. I problem is that he is very homesick, and I miss him to tears. I don’t entertain his being homesick because he chose this career and also because other Marine Moms say that it’s the worse thing that you can do. My friends & family do not understand this separation anxiety that both my son and I share. He by no means is a weakling and can handle his own, however he was brought up in Church and went to a private Christian School so he has a very soft side to himself. 4 Years is way to long of time to be feeling like this..

  40. Myrna Gold says:

    My son is 17. Ages 13 through this year – horrible – rebellion, anger, runaway attempts. We’ve wondered, “Where did our loving and sweet son go?” We’re making it through because of prayer. He’s starting to turn the corner. Parents, don’t stop praying for your sons and daughters. This too shall pass. Love covers the multitude of sins. Don’t exasperate your children. His mercies are new every morning. Children obey your parents in the Lord. Scripture saves, we survive, and then we teach the next generation of mothers.

  41. This devotional came when I needed encouragement. Do not grow weary of doing good … God’s timing is perfect

  42. Brooke, The moment I read this, it hit home like a ton of bricks. I immediately sent it to my husband.
    We have not been in communication with our oldest son for like months. It’s like we are his worst enemy. So I forwarded this to him and told him how much I loved him and that I was NOT his enemy. I told him we are not guaranteed tomorrow and that my prayer is that our families can reconnect. I have to believe with my heart that I planted that seed and God will take over from there.
    Thank you for this awesome devotional. It could not have happenend at a better time.
    If God is for us, who could be against us?

  43. Debbie Clothier says:

    Thank you ladies for your post about praying for our sons and daugthers. I found it a little funny that I needed to flopped the days and insert “daughter” where “son” was. So timely to read for my life right now. I repeat to my daughter I am not the enemy but I needed to hear that she is not my enemy. I offer grace for emotions, immaturity, and such but it was eye opening to have the gentle reminder that there is other causing some of this “junk” in our relationship.

    James 5:16b might just become my life verse. We all can get caught up in the drama sometimes and as moms feel defeated. However this verse is awesome because it reminds me to focus on the One who provides the wisdom and strength to get through whatever the battle.

    Thank you again for your words. So appreciate it.

  44. Elizabeth says:

    I need to know what to do with a child who wants to be the parent for everyone in the house. He is not rude or anything like that he just believes he is always right and its his responsibility to correct everyone including his twin brother. This causes arguements which leads to fraustration on mmy part and it feels like I’m in a constant battle….

  45. Lynn Follies says:

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    Question – Moms – Dads
    Along with your own Prayers, what Biblical Instructions are your sons and daughters receiving from YOU?? YES! GOD does call us to pray and our prayers are very important! But I believe there is more than just our praying for our children. Scripture Instructs us to Instruct them!

    *Deu 6:5-7 says: “v5 And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with ALL thine heart, and with ALL thy soul, and with ALL thy might. v 6 And these words, which I Command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: v7 And thou shalt *Teach them diligently unto thy Children, and shalt *Talk of them *When thou sittest in thine house, and *When thou walkest by the way, and *When thou liest down, and *When thou risest up.”

    HOW and WHEN does this say we are to TEACH them?
    Are you giving your children tools with which to become Doers of GODS Word, so that they are not Hearers only? Are they renewing their minds daily to the Word of GOD? A known truth about changing a nation is that it is done through it’s children . So in order to change our nation GOD MUST become the Desire of the Hearts of our children!

    In 2Tim.3:16 GOD said: “All SCRIPTURE IS IN SPIRED BY GOD!!” – meaning GOD Breathed = (given by His inspiration) and is PROFITABLE for:
    *Teaching – Instruction *
    Asking – What did I learn?
    *Reproof – conviction of sin *
    Asking – Where do I fall short in what I Believe?
    *Correction – of error and discipline in obedience *
    Asking – What will I do about it? How will I take what is wrong & make it right?
    *Training in Righteousness *
    (in Holy living, in being conformed to GOD’s will in thought, purpose, and action),
    Asking – How can I make this Biblical Truth a consistent part of my life? How will I walk in the Light of what God has said is right?
    How will I seek to Glorify GOD today?
    How will I Honor GOD by Honoring His Word?

    If you don’t know where to begin, I will leave a few web pages at the end of this post.

    ~Do your children *set their Own eyes upon the SCRIPTURES?? Looking into GOD’S Word daily to SEE ALL HIS commands to them!
    ~Do they KNOW how to Love GOD with ALL their Heart, ALL their Soul, and ALL their Might??
    ~Have they *read about HOW the Rebellion of Israel againt GOD’S instruction took them into
    70 years of capacity?
    ~Have they *read about HOW a Great Fish swallowed up Jonah, because of his Rebelling against GOD’S instruction to him?
    ~Have they *read about HOW GOD is HOLY?
    And do they *know that HE said, we too are to “BE HOLY for HE is HOLY”?
    ~Have they *read that GOD’s Specific COMMAND to them is that they are to Obey “You” their parents!

    Do YOU know if your child is daily hiding the Word of GOD in their heart ~ So that, they might NOT sin again HIM! What fruit is visible to your own eyes? Do they Purpose in their hearts to Obey the Words of Their LORD GOD?

    I pray for you who are struggling in your parenting! I know it is Not easy being a parent in the times we live in!! And that is why it is so “VITAL” that they “KNOW” the GOD of the Bible! That our children are Prepared, Knowing Biblical Truths for themselves!! So that GOD is the very Delight of their being!

    May “GOD CAPTURE” our CHILDREN’S “HEARTS” by HIS WORD!” And may GOD “CAUSE” them to Yield to the SPIRIT of the LIVING GOD!!! Thank YOU O my LORD GOD – that YOU draw our children and our grandchildren to YOURSELF!! May they have eyes to “SEE” YOUR HOLINESS!!!

  46. Lynn Follies says:

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    I study and teach Inductive Bible Study. Which is asking the Bible WHAT HAS GOD SAID? So that I will be able to apply GODS Biblical Truths to my life. If my understand of the Scriptures is incorrect – what is the result of applying Scriptures then to my life? Inductive Bible Study is a Line Upon Line- Precept Upon Precept Study of GOD’S Word! That I May KNOW it for myself. It teaches that we should first PRAY – then OBSERVE What GOD has said – then INTERPRET What we Observesd – then APPLY with Prayer those Truths to our life.


    For children someone came up with S.O.A.P. method. Which is the same as Inductive, but two steps are one.
    Watch this video link- S.O.A.P. kindergarten doing her Bible Study.
    copy/paste. S.O.A.P. kindergarten

    How to S.O.A.P. – web site – type/copy
    smockityfrocks how-to-use-the-s-o-a-p-method-of-bible-study-with-children

    For yourself – doing a more indepth Bible Study view this link.
    precept about_inductive_bible_study

    The Holy Bible is Endless in its Riches ~ that it is Simple enough for a child to Comprehend, and yet Deep enough to Spend ones Lifetime Exploring without ever Exhausting this Great Biblical Treasure! <3

  47. I absolutely needed this devotional and the comments. To know that I am not alone and that there is hope is priceless. I certainly know that it is Satan we are in battle with and he is trying so hard to win my son’s heart! My son Zack is 18. He accepted Christ when he was 10 and over the next several years that followed, there was no doubt that he was going to have a great impact for the kingdom of Christ. He was on fire! A natural leader in his youth group and at the camps and retreats he attended. However, things happened (too much explanation for here) and slowly over time he slipped away from all that he believes and knows. My heart is broken!! Our relationship is strained; he avoids me. I think it is because he knows that I hold him to a higher standard. He has the wrong friends, listens to awful music, and puts things in his body that are illegal! Things were a little rocky, but last August he disclosed to me that he had been molested as a child. Since then, things have just gotten worse. Last fall he was in counseling, but he quit going because he’s “18 and Mom can’t make me.” This boy of mine is broken and I can’t fix it! He has many resources available to him but he choses to self-medicate and wants me to leave him alone so he can live his own life. The worst part is that he said that he no longer has faith in God. That breaks my heart. If you don’t have that, then you have nothing. I have cried more in the last eight months than I have cried in the last eight years. I’m not sure how much longer I can survive the struggle. Some days are better than others. My faith is strong and I know that Zack will turn his heart back to God and all things will work together according to His purpose. I know something beautiful will come out of this. It’s the waiting, hoping, and watching that wears me out sometimes. If anyone happens to read this (I realize the devotion was more than a week ago), I covet your prayers. I will also pray for the sweet women who have already posted. Thank you, Brooke. I will definitely use the verses to pray over Zack (and my 22 year-old son and 17 year-old daughter.)

    • Debbie,
      I will pray for you and your son. (& other 2 as well). Like you, I found this post a week later and have been moved by it. I so appreciate the moms of older sons posting, because there is so much about new moms with young children, but not much for moms of teenagers or young adults. My oldest is 16 and having some of the same power struggles, although by very different circumstances. He is also refusing counseling even though I know he has a serious problem and needs it desperately. I have so much fear for him going into the world without being equipped to deal with it. I don’t want to be running alongside him or picking up the pieces for his whole life. Praying for guidance on how to best parent these guys when they don’t really want our help or think they need it. In the meantime, I share your waiting, watching, and hoping…I know how draining and hard it is. Hang in there!

  48. Wow I needed this today! I just had a fight with my teenage son, I took a stand I should have just let go: over a phone charger! He told me I was selfish and a terrible person. It hurt so bad, I felt terrible, I couldn’t sleep. I should have let him have my phone charger, even though he lost his. My fight is not with him! My fight is with the oppressor, the enemy. Thanks for the reminder!!

  49. I just wanted to say thank you so much for this post! I so needed this today. I’m going through this with my 9 almost 10 year old whom I NEVER thought would go through this. Plus side my 12 year old just came out of this “stage”….so I know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Printing this out and sticking it in my bible for a quick reference. Thank you thank you!

  50. As a new mom, my sweet boy is only 4 months old these scriptures touch my heart. I also love the advice of being on our knees for our sweet boys, a long with praying over my sweet husband as well. Thanks!

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