How Do I Let It Go?

How Do I Let It Go?

June 26, 2017

“Do not remember the former things, Nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness, And rivers in the desert.” Isaiah 43:18-19 (NKJV)

Devotion Graphic

Three-year-old Elle arched her arm and pointed her fingers. “You’re frozen, Gaga!”

I stopped in place, one arm behind me, the other in the air. She giggled, then quickly unfroze me.

If you’ve been in the vicinity of anyone under the age of 6, you’re probably familiar with the movie, Frozen. In it, two sisters struggle in their relationship with each other and in finding acceptance.

At one point Elsa, the older sister, sings these words: “Let it go, let it go … And I’ll rise like the break of dawn … ”

Let it go.

Those are words I sensed God speaking to me years ago.

“Let go of the past that you cannot undo.”

“Let go of the warped view you have of yourself. It doesn’t match the one I have as your Heavenly Father.”

“Let go of the hurts that hold you too tightly.”

Just as I playfully stood frozen while my granddaughter giggled, there was another time when I felt frozen. I couldn’t take a step toward healing.

“Let it go, sweet daughter,” was a whisper I heard from God to discover the Suzie He saw me to be.

Maybe you’ve sensed God asking you to let something — or someone — go.

“Let go of the mistakes you once made. I’ve forgiven you.”

“Let go of the anger that’s consuming your thoughts.”

“Let go of condemnation, so you can live free.”

You want that desperately, but it can be hard to let go when you don’t know what that means. May I share my definition of letting go with you? It was freeing for me when I finally understood it.

Letting go is giving up what is beyond our control to embrace what we can change.

In Isaiah 43:18-19, God spoke to His people through the prophet Isaiah saying: “Do not remember the former things, Nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness, And rivers in the desert.”

The people held so tightly to the past that they missed the new things God wanted to show them.

God speaks the same warning and truth to us. We can’t control the past, but we can focus on the miracles around us today.

We can’t unhear the words that once shaped our hearts, but we can replace them with truth from Scripture.

We can’t control negative people, but we can choose joy for ourselves.

Letting go isn’t easy in the beginning, because holding on is our natural response. But there’s so much hope! Just as the prophet Isaiah describes new roads in the desert and rivers in the wilderness, as we give up what we can’t control to embrace what we can change, new ways of thinking, relating and living are carved into our very being.

And the beautiful thing about letting go?

It doesn’t just change us.

It has the power to alter the next generation, and the next after that, like the cute little blonde-haired, blue-eyed darling chasing her Gaga through the house, singing, “Let it go!”

Dear Jesus, I’ve wanted to let go for a long time, but I didn’t know how. Now that I do, I’m ready to take that leap of faith. I give up what I cannot control to embrace what I can. Thank You for carving new roads in the desert of my heart and new rivers in the wilderness of my life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Philippians 3:12-14, “Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (ESV)

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REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Write down one thing you’ve been trying to control. Now, list those things that are within your influence.

Write one way you can give up trying to control what you cannot change and embrace what you can.

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Comments

  1. Duvk Dynasty and shed deer antlers bracelets for sake

  2. Juliana Falcon says:

    Write down one thing you’ve been trying to control. Now, list those things that are within your influence.

    Write one way you can give up trying to control what you cannot change and embrace what you can.

    Wow WOW wow is all I can say. I have been holding on to past hurts a lot lately asking God when will it be my turn to be blessed and theirs to justice. I realize there are things I must and just need to let go in order to experience the joy and happiness he has for me.. It’s something so old yet continues to repeat in hurting me. However, I am sure the one that hurts me intentionally is joyous while I’m fretting or maybe not even aware… whom knows. Just a reminder that once more it is time to let go and let God. Thank you for that.

    • Lord, thank you for Juliana, and for the new that you are doing in her. Together we please those things that have a hold on her heart and thoughts, and open our hands for the new.

      In Jesus’ name, amen.

  3. Cori Gershon says:

    Not even 5 minutes passed between the time I gave up sleeping for the night (3:20 AM!) and had begun to yell at God for not helping me enough and I turned on my computer — finding the email from Proverb 31 about “letting go”
    and opening to what comes next. While I was yelling at God, I realized I was angry with him because I thought
    he wanted me to be a pastor, started the admissions process for the seminary, and then discovered that the seminary path really was not for me. I decided not to apply — not because of loss of faith; but, due to language requirements and costs of attending. I felt proud of wanting to go to the seminary and had let others in on my plans…a “calling” I had held onto since grade school. For nothing. Now, it feels as if God led me on and has abandoned me to feel like a fool coupled with tons of sadness. These days, I feel as if God is refusing to give me
    a sign as to what comes next. I guess I react with anger when I believe he is not sending me signs I can decipher.
    I’m tired of “doing” my life alone.

    • Jodi Kidd says:

      I have learned that God calls us in different ways. There have been times in my life that I absolutely knew that He was putting me in a specific job and when He was telling me that my job was done and to move on. The times when I felt like I should make a decision and He was quiet, I would get angry and frustrated too. I am in a “quiet time” right now and find myself asking God to just tell me what to do already! Point me in the right direction! Give me some guidance! And nothing knew has come. I can only take that to mean that I am supposed to sit tight and allow Him to work through me right where I am. Even if it is not where I think I am supposed to be. I encourage you to look at the people around you and interactions that you have and see the work that you are already doing. You don’t have to go to seminary to minister to people that need to hear God’s word. You are probably doing it daily and don’t know it. You don’t have to know the meanings behind all of scripture to tell people that God loves them and how they can get to know Him. You can still do God’s work without a degree in theology. I am pretty sure that none of the disciples went to college and you don’t have to either Cori. I think that sometimes God just tells us to dig in where we are and to make do with what we have. That He has given us enough of what we need to do what we need to do.

      • So well said, Jodi! Thank you! I needed to “hear” that as my job I have grown to love is coming to an end & I am back in the search & interview process. Trusting God knows where He wants me sure takes the pressure off. ♡

    • I have also experienced where I felt God was calling me to pursue a certain action and yet a complete turnabout happened. I strongly felt that he was calling me to homeschool my twins and therefore I went to several meetings and did research to prepare myself before they were school age however when they turned 3 I heard God tell me to put them in to public preschool. I fought it immensely. Surely I had heard God wrong about preschool. However God gave confirmation through my husband that they were to attend. It has been a struggle however God was gracious enough to provide me in a job in the school system so I could keep a closer view of what they were being taught. Plus he provided opportunities for me to minister to children who would probably not have received love and encouragement elsewhere. As for times of not knowing what to do next is when I think that we are supposed to just stay still. You don’t take a step forward or to the side or to the back. Just remain where you are until he moves you.

    • Cori, sometimes God places things on your heart years before he’s ready for you to actually do them. Maybe you need to look more at what you still need to do in yourself (i.e.overcome language barriers) and keep looking into how you can afford to go to seminary. Can is suggest you visit http://pienthesky.blogspot.com.au/ and watch Melisa Garcia’s story about what God put on her heart 10 years before he actually made it happen? I think you will find it encouraging. Praying for you to have the patience and endurance to continue to wait on God’s good timing. God bless.

    • Kari Massengill says:

      Yes, if God placed this on your heart, He will help you achieve. As a missionary, I know from 20 years of experience…where He calls, He provides.

  4. You’ve heard of warm fuzzies? I know someone who collects cold pricklies. And he takes them out every day and looks them over to make sure they are still cold, still prickly. And he wonders why he isn’t in a happier place. I pray that he’ll follow your lead, Suzie, and let those cold pricklies go, making room in his heart for God’s warm fuzzies.

    • Shirlee, I love the warm fuzzy story. I haven’t thought about it for years! It just struck me that the dust bunnies and puff ball cat toys in my home can be a reminder to pass along the warm fuzzies instead of cold pricklies. Thanks for mentioning this!

  5. Thank you Suzie!!! I so needed this as I have been holding onto things beyond my control. I like your definition of letting go….”Letting go is giving up what is beyond our control to embrace what we can change.” ~Lisa~

    • It just leaves so much more room for the transformation part. It’s not easy, and I won’t pretend that it is. Transformation comes with bumps, bruises, and mountaintops. It’s all valuable. We learn from our mistakes, and grow through those discomfort zones, and have freedom to celebrate every aspect of it.

  6. The term “Let it go” seems so trite and simple when dealing with 20 years of undoing the hurts of the past…however, I am aware that it is worth the effort. Letting go of self condemnation that unknowingly began because of an abusive situation. Letting go of the anger that is currently gripping me because those closest to me refuse to accept and understand the realities that I now face…without them. Truth is there and I am gripping it with all my strength, yet too often it slips away and the process of healing sometimes feels endless…but worth it. Worth it for my marriage. Worth it for my children. I refuse to allow generational sins to continue to devastate my family. Holy Spirit, continue to help me to let go of the hurts from my past. Release the grip little by little and replace it with the gentle touch of your love and grace.

    • You are right, and I’ve walked this path, Kara. If it seems simple, then that underestimates the power of transformation, which is hard won. That’s why I shared that we let go as many times as we need, until we are truly free. I hear the words of a faith-filled warrior in your comment. Reaching for a hug, and praying for God’s provision over those faith-filled words.

    • I take this a little deeper on my blog at http://www.tsuzanneeller.com

  7. Cindy Oliver says:

    Oh, the truth you speak! My very first P31 Bible Study was Let.It.Go…..during a time in my life that I was trying to control so much. My co-workers were so supportive of me in my endeavor to Let.It.Go and give it to God. They posted signs all over our tiny campus with those 3 simple words. This opened the door for me to be able to witness to so many. Praise God! It took years and lots of prayer to totally and completely let go of my grasp on everything. Lol! Only to realize that I have no control over anything anyway. Let go of your past hurts, your past sins, your past mistakes. God has a new Road for you, and I promise you that you will be amazed and in awe of what only He can do. But you can’t see the fullness of this until you let go.

  8. My husband and I are separated. We’re now in 2 separate states and I have my young daughter with me. He wants me to go back to the state we’re from, but not to work on the marriage but just so it’s easier for him to see his kid. Meanwhile I have no one there, no job, no home and no family. So I’m currently with my family where i am, with a job and trying to get thru day by day. I have a very hard time making decisions and I get scared and anxious. I have a hard time letting go of this marriage and my husband and my original hometown. He is in a complete spiritual war fare and it’s heartbreaking. I feel helpless and hopeless. Please pray for me that God will show me the correct path and will give me peace with my decision

    • Sandra, my heart literally skipped a beat when I read this because it is WORD FOR WORD, exactly what I’m going through. Currently laying in bed at 3am in a hotel, in my husbands state, about to go to court this morning over this exact issue. My young daughter and I are with my family in my home state, because my husband asked me to leave. Now he is mandating we come back, where I have absolutely no support system, all because it’s easier for him.
      Through all of this, I have been pressing into Jesus. Clinging to Him because He is the only way I can get through. I am completely out of control. But I have Hope. Because even though it seems I am on the losing side, I have God on my side and He is more than enough! He will provide! I have faith He will let us stay where we are. But if not, I have faith He will provide for my girl and I, wherever we are.
      I am praying so feverently for you right now, as I know the Lord has used this devotion to connect us. Stay strong!

    • Hi Sandra I really feel your pain. I am displaced right now. After 44 years of marriage my husband has turned against me. He chose our marriage over a grown son from a previous relationship. The son is about to turn 46 years of age. He abused his financee of 5 years with whom he has a son and my husband took his side. His son has an evil spirit and he has entangled my husband into his web of lies. Therefore my husband who used to know the Lord turned against me and now at the age of 66 I am trying to let go. I will pray for you and I ask that you pray for me. Spiritual warfare is what we both are dealing with but in the mighty name of Jesus I rebuke Satan.

    • I am in a similar situation. I am separated and moving to a different town. My son is 22 and staying with his dad. We lost our daughter in a car accident 7 months ago. We have struggled for a long time. But his spiritual war put me in danger. I love him so much. But sometimes my love is unhealthy for both of us. Letting go is so hard. I so needed the reminder I cannot be in control. I must have faith and embrace what God has in store for me.

    • Jennifer Palacios says:

      Oh Sandra, I am also in a similar situation. My husband and I have been separated for the last 2 years. We have tried several times, but it isn’t working. He, too, is in a spiritual warfare. My faith has strengthened as God pulled me out of depression and darkness when we initially separated. I do not want to go back there. I do not want to let go of how far I’ve become. We don’t have kids together, but I have my 12 yr old daughter and he has his 16 yr old son. I needed to read this today to remember I can’t be in control. If temptation and sin is where my husband wants to stay, I can’t do anything about that, but distance myself from this toxic relationship. God will work this out.

      I pray for us all who are in this difficult season. I know that holding onto God and continuing to strengthen my faith has kept me going. I am stronger for it. My husband makes money and has watched me struggle and file bankruptcy during this separation. So, sometimes I feel the temptation to go back to him for stability. But, keeping my eyes on the Lord helps me realize that God will provide for me and my daughter, wherever I am. I will pray for you!

    • Sandra, I have been through a separation and divorce. You will be in my prayers.

  9. This devotion really touched my heart this morning. We strive so hard as women to balance and control so many variables in our lives. The illustration of being frozen is so true. His peace is at hand and so ultimately available 24-7, yet our fears and anxieties can become chokeholds. Isn’t it beautiful to know the chokeholds do not have to become strongholds, and that often when He sifts through our broken places He reveals His love, compassion, and joy to see us grow? On an old fashion note….I can recall playing Freeze Tag as a child and how you would stay frozen until you were tapped on the shoulder to continue running in the game. I think today through this devotion our Father has gently tapped all of us in the places of our heart where He wants to heal for only healing resides near surrender.

    • That’s how I often feel: like my fear and anxiety has become a chokehold. Perhaps even now a stronghold. But, I know someone who keeps telling me to “Let it Go” because He is a lot bigger and in control than I am. Isn’t that awesome.

  10. Many times thoughts from my past creep into my mind and try to hold me captive. When this happens I remind myself to “let It Go.” Sometimes it’s a matter of just saying the words, “Let It Go,” and sometimes I have to ask God to take the thoughts from me. Another excercise I learned from a pastor was to clench my fist and then throw them forward and open my hands. A physical process of “letting go.”

  11. Again, God is speaking to me and I need to really to listen. My son is struggling and battling alcohol and other things, I’m afraid. I have to let him go. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I sure could use some prayers. Thank you all. 🙏

    • My son struggles as well Mignon. Its heartbreaking. I’ve been working on letting go of trying to control his actions and decisions. I have not let go of loving him and or praying for the Holy Spirit to work in him. God is good and He loves our boys even more than we do. I will pray for peace for you (and me) and for physical and spiritual healing for both of our sons.

    • Letting go of an addiction (in another person) that we can’t fix is so hard. Yet it leaves room for that person to realize their own need. It leaves room for prayer, which is powerful and effective. It leaves room for rest in your thoughts and heart, as you release that person to God.

      Praying for your mama’s heart today.

  12. Living to let go! Thank you

  13. Shirley Stallworth says:

    What an impactful piece Suzie! If you ask God for help he will send it and LET IT GO!did just that for me.

    Thank you

  14. Very timely for me. I haven’t worked in nearly six months (by choice) and had looked forward to spending my first summer ever with my kids instead of warehousing them at various day camps. But recently, an unexpected job opportunity dropped into my lap, and despite my best efforts to find a compelling reason to say no, I couldn’t. I am grateful for the chance to work flexible hours with no weekends or call, but I am grieving the chance to do summer things with the kids, as the employer wants me to start in just a few weeks. My husband keeps telling me to “let it go”, but it kind of stinks that this once in a lifetime chance to have a “real summer” has been snatched away from me and I just can’t stop mourning it. I know God has a plan, but my heart is with my kids. They are at a crucial period where they really need me, and I feel like once again, I have failed them and let them down. Please, please pray for me to have peace about this transition.

  15. This email is only the 4th or 5th confirmation that God has given me within the past week or two. I have held onto something & someone for so long – knowing God was wanting me to release, but like you said feeling frozen and in a cage not knowing how to let it go. Also, the verse you shared today is also a verse that God has been also bringing me to very often the past 2 weeks or so, and my heart is excited every time I see it – because I know God has good things in store for me and my life. I love how the verse says, behold I am doing a NEW thing – before it springs forth I TELL YOU OF IT. He’s been telling me over and over the past two weeks that he is wanting to do a new thing and that its coming. I’m ready Lord to let go of the old, so I can receive the new. Please remember me when you pray as God continues to help me release this situation and person over unto him each day. God bless you for being obedient today.

  16. Thank you for the reminder to let it go! I need to improve on that so badly! I have many things that I can let go, but some big ones that are harder. And it’s all about control, I’m trying to control my life and not let God have His way. I pray that “let it go” always comes to my mind!

  17. Pat Vogel says:

    This devotion to come at this time in my life was no mere “coincidence.” I felt it was written just for me! These reminders of God’s love for me, His promise to help me “dig deep” to let things go, and then being right beside me as I actually do it. My problem is that I do let go, but then grab it back because my reactions to my situation have become so automatic that I almost feel more comfortable in the dark place. This devotion not only told me to “let it go” but gave me the tools to actually do it! It would be so great to be able to meet the beautiful ladies who have commented on this topic. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone…

  18. I tried to control how people should treat me. I have some very cruel and jealous people in my life. Everything I do they tend to try to mess it up. Putting me down and just plain want to see me break. These are friends who should not be like that but I don’t understand some people. How can they try to hurt me, I’m like always being friendly and I love to help people. Is it because they want me to just hurt me or see me cry. Some of our family and friends turned against my husband and I when we got married. We thought people would be happy because we all come froma christian family and there’s a ministry blooming. But no, it turned out like my parents, his parents, his sisters, brother and a few friends were happy for us. But the rest of our families just stop talking and they don’t want anything to with us. So I’m like confused and hurt at the same time. I know I cant control emotions and all. But its just hard when you walk into a room and people start looking and whispering to each other. Sometimes at church. Its not supposed to be like this. My husband talks to me and says just forget it and get on with our life. Don’t worry but its hard. I want to just let it go today.

  19. I haven’t read but a few of the replies and it seems like most of you are feeling the same way I feel.
    If only I could put my finger on what it is I need to “Let go ” of. I have let go of so many things and daily give over my whole being to let Holy Spirit guide me.
    All I can ascertain from this is that the evil one is trying very hard lately to kill, steal and destroy the mighty women of God. I see it all around me in my community. The believing women are the ones struggling the most. I believe it is because we are recognizing the writing on the wall. The signs of a second coming and the evil one does too. He’s knows he’s going to loose the war; so he’s giving it his best effort to win the little battles amoungst us who are seeking deeper relationships and obedience to Father God.

  20. Georgette says:

    I’ll be 25 in two weeks, I’m a college graduate bouncing between jobs just trying to find something that brings me some sort of joy till the rest of my life starts to begin.. I feel like I’m behind most others my age because they all seem to have passions and callings and career aspirations that they are working towards, but I have never been career driven. What I want is a family, but it’s hard knowing that that’s not something I can “work towards” and that it’s something I just have to leave up to God and trust that it will happen when it’s supposed to happen.

    • Amen Georgette Let that go and relax and move on. Proverbs 18:22 says He that finds a wife finds a good thing. You don’t have to spend time searching for someone. Wait on the Lord and trust God that He will bring the right person to you in His timing. Also their is nothing wrong with wanting a family and you don’t have to feel that you are behind others. God has an individual plan and purpose for each one of us. So we don’t have to compare ourselves to anyone else. As long as you are doing what God wants you to do that’s what matters the most.

  21. Latisha says:

    I have a 17yr old son thats been on drugs since he was 14. I love on him and be patient with him to show him l love him no matter what he’s doing. I also talk to him about his choices.. and the consequences. Nothing’s changed yet… I’ve also tried to set up to take him places for help… He refuses to even try.. but I have 2 young daughter’s that see the things that he’s doing,and I don’t want them to think it’s ok to do those things.. I pray for him constantly that the Lord have his way in his life.. So I want to send him with his dad.. would I be wrong for making him go even though he doesn’t want to? I’m tired of my girl’s​ complaining about the things I’m allowing him to do.. I don’t want them to continue to see his ways under my roof.. and it destroys there behavior..

  22. I’ve been trying to control and fix things for so long, it would be so freeing to stop. These things are not in my control. Please pray as I learn to let go, God will show up.

  23. I think in many ways I’ve been trying to control how God will use me and my story. In having chronic health issues I felt “out of commission” for Gods work feeling like I was just out of the game stuck in my world of pain. I’m letting go of my preconceived notions or expectations of what usefulness looks like to me. I’m choosing to let it all go and see what God will do

  24. Lord thank you for this post. Lord with the help of your Holy Spirit help each one of us let go of everything that you are telling us to let go of. So that we can go forward. In Jesus mighty name Amen

  25. Johanna Miller says:

    I cannot let my husband’s disinterest in me or our teen family of 4 continue to be a burden to me. Jesus loves each of us more than anything and He is the constant ever present loving interested supporting listening husband and father. While I can pray for my husband his constant self absorbtion and annoyance of us that may impede him from following his own way each day is what I need to let go. It is not a reflection of any fault in me or the family God has given us. The Lord will help me navigate how to let others treat me and where to draw the line of serving and drawing close to the Lord. I can only change by embracing God’s love for me. And trust Him to provide me the words, strength, heart and prayers to be the parent interested in their lives and constantly point them back to the cross.

    • Thanks for these words. I am going through something similar and I have never looked at it this way. Praying for both our families.

  26. To me, it’s about letting go of good things that have passed too, and embracing the new and unknown. I have been grieving my kids growing so fast. I miss the baby years but know kids grow as part of His plan. I will let it go and embrace the new phase we are in. Thankful for this beautiful verse so full of hope!

  27. Thank you for the encouragement today and the Scripture reading, it blessed my soul…I’ve learned to disassociate myself from things and people, who only want to cause confusion and block me from receiving the things of God…I know that God is fully in control of my life, and all things are new because of Him!…I’m fully persuaded that nothing can separate me from God’s love….and I’m continuing to walk in the path He’s set for me…bless you my dear sister in Christ!….

  28. It is time to truly open my hand & let go of a relationship. The only person I’ve ever called my best friend, the other pea in my pod, my sister friend who knew me better than anyone. God-I totally release her & our relationship into Your hands. I do not understand. I am broken inside. I feel lost without her. I feel worthless to her-thrown out like yesterday’s garbage….of no value whatsoever to her. So I ask that You direct her steps & mine…both to finding You & Your truth in what is out of my control.

  29. Letting go is hard, my husband of 33 years decided he no longer wanted to be married in November. He just keeps dragging this out, I think if he wanted out so bad he would be ready to get the whole thing settled. The week after he had papers served on me, my dad passed. So the last 7 months have been hard. I was able to stay at my parents home since they both at the time was in a nursing home. I am in the process now of getting my own place, hoping this new start will help me let go of the past. If is so hard because in one moment I hate him for what he has done but then still love him and I have to let go. God has plans and I have to keep by faith and believe he is doing things for me that I cannot see right now. The divorce part was a totally shock to me, I didn’t even know it was coming, I am so heart broken.

    • Judy Nevarrez says:

      Thank you for this article. I pray every day to forgive myself formy past mistakes, and my ex husband for the divorce. I pray to God to help me heal. Thank​ you God for your grace and mercy AMEN

  30. Suzie, thank you so much for this encouragement! My girls were 4 and 2 when Frozen came out… so that reference made me giggle (I definitely relate!) I think the phrase “let it go” has become so overused in our culture that we forget how important it is. Yet in our culture as Jesus-followers, it can really be another way of saying, “Forgive.” I know that’s what it’s meant for me. Let go of the past, let go of the hurts that hold you back… then you’ll find, they’re not holding you back as much as you thought they were. This is just what I feel the Lord’s been speaking to me. So thank you for the words of wisdom… and by the way, Unburdened Heart is on my reading list for this summer! Thank you again! Blessings!

  31. Melissa says:

    Letting go is something just recently I have struggled with….relationships and family matters to be more specific and it all came to a head this past weekend. I was lying in bed early Saturday morning thinking I could not feel anymore alone then I do in this moment and then Monday morning I wake up and see this devotional in my email. Like God was tapping me on my shoulder and saying “hellooo I’m right here”. I needed this. Thank you.

  32. My divorce, which I filed for, will be final this week. In my heart, I don’t feel its over but the door has been closed by us both. This article was sent to me by a Christian – is God saying to just accept my marriage is over? The pain is palpable. I want the pain to end. Sadness to end. Thoughts to stop. And, more . . .

  33. Susan G. says:

    Thanks for this. I too am in the midst of trying to “let it go”…and with God’s strength and His Word I am getting there. My sister rewrote my mom’s Will, when my mom was in the middle of dementia, and my brother was dying of cancer…and took everything. She stole my brother’s and my inheritance that mom’s original Will had divided everything equally among us. I have gotten over the anger mostly, but have had days of heartbreak not having anything of my moms and dads. The Lord has reminded me these things too shall all be destroyed anyway in the end when He comes. I’m focusing on Him, His Word and being who I am supposed to be. He is enough.
    I needed this reminder today.

    • I am thinking of you. I am in a similar situation. My Dad died 10 years ago and everything was to be split equally. Over the years, my Mom has changed the will and has favored my brother by giving him part of his inheritance already. She keeps her will a secret… Probably so she can keep changing it in his favor. It hurts tremendously seeing her “favor” him. And I ask God “why”? He sees it, and doesn’t fix it (at least not in my eyes). I too struggle to let go of the pain and unfairness and mental games my head plays on me (you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy). It’s fueled when she gives me the silent treatment for months on end. She doesn’t understand what her favoritism does, or doesn’t really care. I will be praying for both of us as we try to let go.

      • Thank you both for your posts. I am in a similar situation and so embarrassed about it that I don’t share it with anyone. I am 61 years old and feel like I shouldn’t care that my mom and sister have completely shut me out of their lives. They lives close to each other and my mom has always favored my sister. My mom is beginning to differ from dementia and other illness and has moved in with my sister. Neither will communicate with me. My sister has total influence over my mother and both have decided everything of my mom’s that was to be split equally should go to my sister. I am so ashamed by how this has hurt me. I feel like I am too old to care abiht how my mom feels about me and that I shouldn’t be so “greedy” over her material things. I regularly plead with God to help me let it go as my past attempts to change it have availed me nothing. I don’t understand why God has allowed this situation.

  34. Shashuna says:

    One thing I have tried to control:
    I have held on to a relationship for the last two years that has not move forward. I take every phone call or text as a sign that this relationship is healthy and moving forward. Lord, help me to let go of people you have not planted in my life. Help me to deal with the feelings and move forward. I need your help to let go and move forward. I cannot move forward on my own.

  35. I don’t know how I can do it especially when I feel so overwhelmed. Everything around me does not feel as it should be. I had hope and dreams until my world came crumbling down. I thought I was strong and would pick myself up but the hurt will not go away. I feel so angry at myself at times. There are times when all I can do is just cry to God and He is silent. So many questions but no answers.

    • There are answers….in His word. Sometimes I would just say a quick silent prayer and open the Bible and read. That’s how I found verses I loved and would go back to time and time again (Romans 8:31-33 & 35-39, Phillipians 4:13 and many verses throughout Psalms.) Also, seeking counsel from a Godly mentor or counselor can help too. Don’t give up. Don’t let discouragement win! God wants to you to hear Him, just stop, be still, and listen! Praying for you

  36. Nancy Gitau says:

    Thank you very much for this scripture. Am so much in debts that at times I wonder how I reached there. I cant get a way out I have tried and tried but its all in vain. I cry to God almost everyday to get a promotion or transfer where I can get an extra cent. Its all in vain. I don’t know where to go or who to go to for help. I pray every now and then but its like God is not responding or He is not hearing my cry. Help me get out of this financial breakthrough. Please I really need help.

    • You may find help Nancy through Dave Ramsey “Financial Peace” Classes. Also, there are several books on his website available. My husband and I went through a course and knocked out our debt through him!

    • The place to start is with the smaller debt then you can use that money to start attacking the larger debt. God does hear you He brought you here for answers. Just Keep praying and He will show you what to do and bless you when you honor him! Lots of love and prayers for you on this journey.

  37. Thank you so much for this article! I received a link to it this morning, ironically enough, it came from the very being who has caused so much pain in my life. After reading this article I felt an array of emotions, first anger, I thought to myself, it is easier said than done. How can I possibly let go of all of this hurt that has consumed my life for a couple of years?! Then, something drew me to this article again and this afternoon, I came back to this article and after reading the prayer at the end of the article, all I could do was cry like a little girl!!! I sat in my kitchen table, pouring myself to God, walking him through all of the pain and anguish I have experienced these couple of years. I know He knows, but I felt a great urge to sit down with Him and share everything I have been bottling up. And for the first time, I experienced a sense of peace. I was drained, but I was at peace.

    I have been hearing for years that I need to just fix it and let it go…I didn’t know how to do any of that. I have felt so lost and at times, so hopeless. I have felt anger not only at the man who caused so much pain, but also, I am embarrassed to say this, but it needs to be said in hopes it helps someone else… I have been angry at God. It is stupid, I know. God is a loving God, a faithful, merciful, full of grace God! I know, I have a lot of things to work on. This article has helped so tremendously.

    Today, I have been able to sit down and share all of this with my Lord. Thank you so much for giving me a starting point. I pray for mending of my broken heart, for healing and mending of a relationship I once cherished, for a close relationship with God. I pray all of the women who made comments on this article find peace and a closeness with God. I pray we all seek Him always. Thank you!!!

  38. Shanda Pressley says:

    I have for about a year or so now have had my mom come live with us. She lives in a little cottage connected to our house by the back deck. My mom is younger only 59, but cannot control her own meds bc of addiction in the past. She was sickly from wow maybe my pre teens? Always in bed, or hospital…. passing out holding a cigarette and is having to wake her up… I believe I have a lot of anger bc of that… it was ok in the beginning bc bf she came here I put her in a nursing home to get her off all the strong medication, and quit smoking. And she’s been doing good, has gained weight looks great doesn’t look strung out. But lately I feel a little smothered like she’s always telling me what to do, or how to do it… you can’t say anything without her having done it or knows someone who had it worse etc…. I find myself biting her head off when she talks, my patience is short. I feel so bad, she can tell I don’t want to talk! I’ve been praying for God to take this feeling away! I don’t know what to do I love her , and I want to be a good example for my children. I just feel so overwhelmed and smothered. I feel like the anger in my heart why should God love me I feel almost evil 😭 I don’t know what to do, I want to let it go and change!!!! I want to have a good relationship with her, but also feel like I still have my space and feel grown. I’m so lost!!!

    • I have read every single comment on this whole entire post, waiting for one to resonate with me, and this one has bells and whistles going off in my head. You just told my story. My first ever memory of my momma was seeing her slumped over in a chair, having overdosed on Valium and drank a bottle of rubbing alcohol. My grandparents had adopted me due to her lifestyle and for my whole life ( I am 39) I have had the most conflicted feelings about her. One of the funniest and most loved by all people that I know, this woman is the most precious woman in my life and I have been watching her slowly kill herself. She had the most amazing voice, a real gift from God, and she lost it due to poor health from alcohol and pills.

      Fast forward to last week, random call to her and she says to me, ” I went to church Wednesday night and…”, I was FROZEN in shock! Wait, whuuuut did you just say? She said she had been going and had just finished reading the entire book of Job, which was totally appropriate for her with all the ailments she has. She stated that she was in a new place in her life and that she was no longer going to allow anyone or anything to steal her joy.

      I always LONGED for her to be my mother yet she never was. God blessed me throughout my life with so many mother figures, women who were strong and soft, and great mothers. But they weren’t her! But guess what? She makes me lunch now on occasion and does momma type things. I tell you all this to soften your heart and be thankful that your mother is willing to offer (unsolicited as it may be) her advice. Our mommas have been through a whooooole lot of crap and they know way more than we do, just from life experiences. I used to get so mad whenever she would try to advise me on anything. I felt as if she had no right to since she chose a party lifestyle over me. But God has softened my heart and head and I can see a glimmer of hope and a renewed spirit in her that I knew would never come. But it is coming because my heavenly Father knows my earthly mother!

      I pray that God will prick your heart to receive the good she has to offer, while she still can. Believe me that “she thinks she knows it all” feeling is VERY familiar to me, but I am seeing that she may not know it all but she knows more than me. Sending love and prayers for you and your momma<3

  39. Thank you so much for this encouragement today. This is one of my favorite verses. I ve been in a dry spell for several years. Yesterday the Lord showed me a glimmer of hope…today gave me even more hope. This verse reminds me that the wilderness I m in right now, He is creating a new road to Him and those in my life. I thought for so long He was away from Me but today He s showing me even more..He s been there beside me and working all along. And in the deserts in my heart He is my living water! And His promise to do a new thing….is awesome to me…because I know His promises are true and He will truly show me He will make all things new in My life if I let Him….New opportunities, new experiences, new relationships and so much more. Oh what an awesome God we serve.

  40. I find it hard to trust that the deer 🦌 antlers were simply foraged for in the forest and collected when The Duck Dynasty TV show reveals the family men hunting and tracking animals in an unfair manner with dogs and guns. Their business is one to aid in hunting animals.

  41. This was a wonderful read Ms. Eller, I am re-training myself to trust God and letting go of the past is the part I am currently working on, the blogs here are usually so helpful and this one was no exception. 🙂

    On a personal note, I have a niece named Ellie and her grandmother’s nickname is Gaga as well, its a very small world isn’t it? lol

    God bless!

  42. When I read How to Let Go it made me cry. This is truly a stronghold on me, whether it be a divorce after 29 years of marriage broken and co dependency latched on me. I want to go to the next chapter of my life totally with the Lord God and connect to the promises of His Word. The new marriage of the Bride of Christ and seeing the goodness of the Lord the one that loves me unconditional and unbreakable Agape Love Story of all time.

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