How to Experience Unending Love

How to Experience Unending Love

March 15, 2017

“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19 (NIV)

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My wedding day was far from perfect. It rained. Actually, it poured.

An intense Oklahoma thunderstorm caused the church to lose electricity and the indoor dance floor to flood. Our powerless chocolate fountain hardened, emergency lights lit the reception hall and the only music for our first dance came from two small laptop speakers. There were skies full of storms, but our hearts were full of love.

My husband and I were crazy about each other.

As a matter of fact, on my wedding day, no one had to tell me, “Just try to be nice to him. Smile when you see him. Pay attention when he talks. Maybe find time to hold his hand if you can.”

Can you imagine how a bride might respond if she were given that advice on her wedding day? She might wonder, Why wouldn’t I be nice or smile? Why wouldn’t I pay attention to him? Why wouldn’t I want to be affectionate? Those things often come naturally in the beginning of a relationship and require little effort.

The truth is, I might not have needed those words on my wedding day, but 10 years of marriage and three kids later, that counsel is often just what I need as a busy wife and mom. Because so often we are running in different directions and focusing more on our children than our relationship, our marriage doesn’t always get the attention it deserves or needs to thrive. Sometimes we need reminders for simple things like paying attention and listening to each other.

Our love has changed since the beginning. Now we must be more intentional. We must keep the cycle of love active in our marriage. I must continue showing my husband love, so he can respond to me in love, and he must continue showing me love, so I can respond to him in love.

Despite our best efforts, some days we just don’t get it right. Some days I’m preoccupied with the kids. Some days he’s too busy with work. Some days our schedules just don’t line up, and we don’t even get to see each other at all. And often this creates space, breaking our cycle of love.

I believe our hearts are designed to love “back.” When someone loves us, we respond by showing them love in return. But on the days when we don’t necessarily feel loved by our spouses, how do we keep showing them love? How do we give love when we don’t necessarily feel loved? How do we love first? The simple answer is: We don’t.

Scripture says in 1 John 4:19, “We love because he first loved us.”

It doesn’t say we love our husbands because our husbands first loved us. It doesn’t say we love our friends because our friends first loved us. It doesn’t say we love our children, our families or our coworkers because they first loved us. It says we love because God first loved us. Even on the days I don’t necessarily feel loved by my spouse, I can love him in response to the love God shows us all. We can love others because He first loved us.

And what happens if we’re loving our spouse in response to God’s love that’s endless and unchanging and pure? Then no matter the distraction or the space or the schedule, and no matter if it has been five years or 15 years or 50 years, we can treat each day with our spouse as if it were the first. We can experience love unending in the middle of every storm.

Lord, thank You for loving us so well. Thank You for demonstrating endless and selfless love for us. I pray that You would strengthen our marriages. I pray that You would hold all of our relationships together in Your grace. Help us love one another in response to Your love for us. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

John 13:34, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (NIV)

1 Corinthians 13:4-5, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (NIV)

For practical grace-filled truth, check out Becky Thompson’s new book, Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood.

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  1. Christina Chastain says:

    What a great read. I would Love to have this book!!! Tha,k you for sharing.

  2. Theone Kohne says:

    This article spoke to me. I see more clearly now. About loving someone else in RESPONSE to Gods love for us. Not because that person loved us first. Thank you.

  3. Marie Bradley says:

    Thank you for sharing. This is so true that we get so busy with work, children, meals, take care of the house, paying bills, etc.. that we don’t find the time to spend with our spouse. My husband and I have set up a date night each week to connect and focus on each other. I show my husband that I love him everyday by making his lunch and snacks the night before so he can have them ready in the morning (he leaves for work at 4:45 am and I am usually still in bed). During the day I would text him and ask how his day is going and let him know how much I appreciate him (his love language is Words of Affirmations). It helps to know our spouse’s love language. Today I will show my husband that I love him by making his favorite dish.

  4. Denise Faison says:

    Much needed counsel right now. Thank you.

  5. Helen Gooddine says:

    Right on time. God knows what I been needing. Thank you.

  6. Christine C. says:

    This is so true! Sometimes it can be soo difficult trying to love our spouse and making our marriage a priority above kids, housework, and working schedules, and even our own personal “me time” we long for, but by looking to God’s FIRST LOVE for us is always a beautiful reminder of what kind of love we ought to have with our spouse, and then our kids and family, and friends and so on.

    And in reflection to today’s devotion, some ways I know I can respond to God’s love by showing my husband I love him today is just simply by cutting him some slack. Lately it’s been soo stressful at home between 4 kids (9, 8, 4, and 2 years of age) and both of us working full time, myself taking the overnight shift, and just thinking about the housework that’s never ending, the pups that also need caring for, kids’ after school activities, and youth ministry is A LOT taking in all at once, but instead of complaining of what ISN’T done, I will be thankful for what IS done and whatever help he gives me – which he always does sooo much more, than I can ever give credit for!

    I have been soo blessed by this week’s daily devotions I’ve been getting in my emails, as it really has been soo helpful and beneficial to keeping my heart and my spirit in check – as lately I’ve just been letting all my emotions run rampant all over my family, and just letting all the chaos and stress get the best of me, to the point I can’t even find a balance anymore to a lot of things, truthfully, but this has truly and genuinely helped me out a lot get back on track, especially in just this week alone, as I really searched my heart and came to conclude that I really really need to HIGHLY prioritize this Me Time with JESUS, and since then, it’s gotten soo much better!

    Thank you so much for this wonderful devotion, and to all you wonderful women (and men) behind Proverbs 31 Ministries, for you are truly touching and changing lives everywhere!

    I look forward to my daily email devotions, and looking forward to read and grow more with you all! Blessings to you all! 🙂

  7. Kelly M. More says:

    Really convicted me. Thank you! Graciously said

  8. Thank you! May the Lord continue to bless you and encourage your heart.


    I would love to have this book,it was meant to be me to see this. Because of god getting me ready for relationship and marriage.

  10. Amanda jones says:

    Would love to win. Just had our end child and really need this book.

  11. Patricia says:

    Thank you for the beautiful devotional. I am not married anymore as my husband passed away years ago. But I am engaged and this devotional just reminded me of how
    need to treat my future husband. Loving one another as Christ loved us to all things and people we know is how it should be everyday.
    Oh I would really love to win this book so useful for me right now and I thank you for the chance to win it. I so enjoy my devotions in my email box everyday and Bless everyone writes them for us everyda

  12. Sound like a great book!

  13. I read all that is sent still learning at 71 years old

  14. Great reminder. So very true. I get so busy trying to take care of the everyday “stuff” and the kids, that that I definitely put my relationship with my husband on the back burner. Thank you for a great devotion 🙂

  15. Thank you for sharing this devotional. I would love to read your book and share it with my daughter.

  16. Miriam Chilongo says:

    Thank you very much for today’s readings and prayer above; the readings and prayer have strongly reminded me what I find very challenging ie, to love because HE loved us ‘first’. I shall meditate on this daily.

  17. I needed to hear this! A Momma of 3 kids ages 3 and under and a very busy and different schedule than my husband, we often miss each other. Thanks for the encouragement!

  18. Mateashia Hunter says:

    Thank you so much for today’s devotional. Such a gentle and sweet reminder of love and how to be intentional about love even though things change with time. God’s love is truly that and never changes.

  19. Gina Harrison says:

    This devotion is EXACTLY what I needed today. With a 2 year old and a 7 month old, my marriage seems to get put last on the list. I could really use your book!

  20. Beda Roberts says:

    What a great devotion to remind us of God’s love for us FIRST! Many trials put marriage love to the test, but being reminded of this love of God gives me the strength to show HIS love as he has loved me.

  21. Just what I needed to read today. Feeling down about my relationship with my husband lately.

  22. Good advice, Becky.

    Let me add–we love our rebellious, stubborn, I-hate-you teenagers because God first loved rebellious, stubborn, I-hate-you-God us.

    • Yes, Shirlee! After a really emotionally exhausting day with me 17 and 21 year olds, that was my thought exactly when I read this! In my life, loving my husband is the easy part. We are on the same team-the kids, not so much! But I need to stay filled and connected with God so that I can continue to love them and persevere in prayer even when I feel beat up and like I want to quit.

  23. Thank you for this devotional! Such a good reminder to love others because He loved us first! I can tend to put the love of my husband last. Not intentionally! but it slips through the cracks when we get caught up taking care of our children, church family, coworkers, etc. God spoke to me through this! Hope to read your book, Becky!

  24. Elisabeth Shroyer says:

    This was exactly what I need to hear. My wedding sounds so similar but, nothing deterred my love for him on that day. Now ten plus years in and two kids later, I’m in the thick of all you are saying! Thank you for this reminder to love BECAUSE God loved me, not for any other reason!

  25. My ex- husband and I separated 5 years ago for the same reasons described in this article. This book could be a very interesting read

  26. Marlinda says:

    I would enjoy reading about love as I had to struggle at one time to get there. But thank you to my awesome God .. I have found love again. It would be a book to share with family n my friends whom might be in need or lost love. . Thank you and God Keep Blessing you. ☺

  27. Sometimes we each need a reminder of God’s great love so we can continue to show love to others. Thank you!

  28. Kim Timmons says:

    What a wonderful resource!

  29. Wow, God is so awesome! This was exactly what I needed today.

  30. Walepaul Oyeola says:

    Its very inspirational & informing, God bless.

  31. Thank you for these small devotions. They are always timely, just as God always is.

  32. Sharee Gaiser says:

    Showing my husband respect is one of the best ways for me to respond to God’s love toward me. God’s love is unending and I would love to learn how I can love my husband in an unending way too.

  33. I wish I had read this and paid attention years ago. After 27 years and 3 children my husband and I are separated for the reasons mentioned here. I hope and pray God restores our marriage, but my husband doesn’t think he loves me or that things can change. God can move mountains, I’m sorry we created one.

    • Sandy D. says:

      “God can move mountains, I’m sorry we created one.”
      That is a very profound statement! I pray that his heart will soften, and that, no matter what happens, you will find peace.

  34. Once again, on time! Thank you for the wonderful devotion.

  35. Beth LaManna says:

    I really needed this…this season of motherhood, 3 kiddos (4, 2, 7m) makes it difficult to connect with my husband sometimes.

  36. Marianne says:

    I am thankful for having had the opportunity to read this article. It truly spoke to my heart. I thank God for my blessings in my life especially for my husband and our family. It is true that we can love others because He first loved us. My husband and I have been married for 23 years and counting….it hasn’t always been smooth sailing. I still realize through all the ups and downs and stresses from our busy lives of work, raising our three daughters and taking care of our two cats( who I treat as my “sons” because they are part of the family) is that we have to purpose in our hearts to do what God wants us to do for our spouses as well.. He has allowed us to experience and be loved and blessed by the gift of Holy matrimony. I am amazed and awed at the fact that God sees the gift of marriage as sacred and it is truly possible to be married to our spouse till death do we part because He’s our first love and has shown us His unconditional love for us. Marriage takes a lot of hard work, commitment , dedication, devotion and Godly love; which is unconditional. When we realize that we are all individuals who are not perfect but indeed sinners saved by His grace, only then can we experience and show Godly love for others. I look forward to reading your new book soon.

  37. Carol Elburg says:

    I would love to get this book.

  38. Exactly what I needed to read this morning.

  39. wonderful post today! how i needed this reminder this morning! i would LOVE to read your book 🙂

  40. Great devotional topic! It’s a blessing for me to read this piece as I totally relate with how difficult it is to remember that before the children came and the house chores multiplied….it was just you and your spouse! For me it is even doubly difficult because my spouse and I are living in different continents for work reasons and I have to take care of our 3 children alone (all under 12) and it takes the grace of God to not focus on being the one who’s got the hard end of the bargain 🙂

  41. Rebekah Eddy says:

    Awesome devotional that can apply to us all. It serves as the perfect reminder that not only are we never alone, but also never unloved. Marriage is a roller coaster with ups, downs, and a variety of loops. Days can be dark and dreary, but God’s love for us shines through the darkness in pure reassurance. It is an answer to all of our prayers. Thank you for helping me to find the light.

  42. Kay Meyer says:

    Oh so true. 32 years later with 21 and 16 year old children our marriage has certainly been tested. But, God is so good!!

  43. Thank you for your honest words. I really love the title of this book. As a wife and mom it is very intriguing!

  44. I felt like this was written for me. Thanks for sharing!

  45. This book sounds wonderful!

  46. Melise Bain says:

    This is so greatly written. Thank you. It is so hard but needing to show love is important. Despite kids and busy schedules I have to make time for my husband

  47. You nailed it! So now we must be intentional in showing love.

  48. This was such a timely and powerful message!!! I plan on sharing it with a marriage class my husband and I are facilitating. Thanks for the words of wisdom Becky!

  49. In this world we live in we need all the help we can get to keep families and marriages together. Keep writing …

  50. The never ending love that God has for us mere mortals cannot be fathomed unless we are living and breathing in the way of the Holy Spirit. We can and then get a glimpse of the endless love that God has for us,

  51. Amber Lucento Hudson says:

    This is the season we are in! With 4 kids & busy work schedules, we often forget the early days of our love. Thank you for this great reminder!!! Would love to read your book ❤

  52. Interesting timing for this message. My husband and I were discussing life changing situations and the newness after as well as the search for self.

  53. Thank you for reminding us that God’s love is limitless. We do not have to manufacture the love He asks us to give to others. He is the unending supply and we must simply put God first and receive, receive, receive! It is when I think that I am the focus of my life that that supply dries up and I quickly find myself without the supply I need and just putting on a front and desperately hoping no one will see that I am flailing and failing.
    God is so good! He supplies our every need.

  54. If the Holy Spirit is not directing our lives then we are simply living a fool’s life.

  55. Thank you for sharing this message to love because God first loved us. Needed this reminder. God bless!

  56. Perfect devotion for my heart today. I need to love my husband first because God loves me 🙂 I needed that reminder. THank you. I would love to win the book. Our marriage is struggling 9 years and 3 kids later….

  57. Dee Dee McGinnis says:

    Thanks for a greAt devotion. I would love to read the book.

  58. Thank you for sharing your heart. I am blessed with a marriage where loving my husband is easy, but I don’t take it for granted and always strive to grow more. I see so many marriages falling apart. I pray that God will use us as an example and that we can share God’s love with others.

  59. So very true. It is so easy reflect the love that we are given by others or justify our actions of withholding it, but a great reminder that we need to reflect the love that God shows us everyday!

  60. Morgan Muir says:

    I could use this book for my marriage. I love my husband with all my being but I can see how I let motherhood get in the way all too often.

  61. Thank you for this encouragement! As a mom of four kids i needed this reminder. My husband is pastor and is always taking care of everyone else and i always assume he is fine but he trys to remind me that the most important person he needs love and attention from is me…his wife

  62. Gail Honey says:

    I could use this study

  63. Kim Logan says:

    Thank you for the reminder of who our first love is and how He gives us love unselfishly and unconditionally.

  64. Thank you.

  65. Alyssa Wengerd says:

    Great words.

  66. Great read…and reminder on how I should be towards my husband daily…not just when there’s time. I must MAKE the time to show him I love him…because God first loved me ❤

  67. Johnware says:

    I really need a lot of help with my marriage my wife left we have been separated for over a year but I’m still believing and having faith in are Lord and Savior Jesus Christ that he has other plans than what has been going on. I will never stop loving her she is my best friend and soul mate. So I’m praying I am able to get this book to help me out the best way God leads me. Thank you very much have a blessed day.

  68. Glenda turner says:

    His love has changed me 🙌

  69. Beautifully written

  70. Christie says:

    I am not surprised that this devotion came today. As I pray for my children, I am reminded that my spouse comes first. That is so hard as we sometimes feel “mom guilt” for choosing our husband over our kids, but it’s necessary! My husband and I are both committed to being intentional in our love for each other, while parenting they way God has designed.

  71. I’ve been wanting to read this book for months!

  72. Stephanie B. says:

    This sounds like an amazing book!!

  73. Debbie W. says:

    My husband and I have been married 23 years this October. Our schedule often don’t line up and our relationship is often out of sinc but we always kiss goodbye in the morning and goodnight before bed. Alway try to make a connection however small. Pray to God to rekindle the spark and show you ways to show your husband love. It works!

  74. Very powerful words for every married couple.

  75. Brandi Duke says:

    I strive to have God’s love towards all people, especially the hubs and those little ones closest to me. The struggles are real, but God helps me overcome everyday!

  76. Great devo! Would love to win this book! Especially with our baby on the way 🙂

  77. Jennifer Moody says:

    Oh how need this. Twenty years and I need it more than ever. Thank you, simply, thank you.

  78. Christine treichler says:

    Would love to read this book!

  79. Interested in learning more as I am trying to comprehend the importance of understanding how to love others because He first loved us. I John 4:18 ‘There is no fear in love.’

  80. April Gibson says:

    Hope to win this book. Thank you!

  81. I would Love to read this book. I think everyone needs a little reminding!

  82. Brenda Butler says:

    Would love a copy!!

  83. Love this, it’s often that my husband and I r ships passing in the night, thanks for this reminder to love and keep loving.

  84. This is exactly what I needed to read today

  85. Thank you for these reminders this morning. I’d love to win a copy of the book. Love is a choice, daily and I pray to continue to make the best choices.

  86. A good reminder and something I needed to read today. So easy to get caught up in the busyness of everyday.

  87. Cheryl Cantilli says:

    Thank you for the reminder. My small group would love this book!

  88. Thank you! This is exactly what I needed. I’m 11 years into my marriage with an almost 3 year old. We are both building businesses and feel like we are complete strangers due to the constant demands of life. I am further along in my walk than my husband. So I feel like I need to be the one to show love even though I find it to be so difficult when I’m feeling frustrated or angered by him. This is the one area of my life that is in shambles and I feel like I have no control over it. But I know that God is with me and will give me the strength to persevere and save my marriage.

  89. Thanks for sharing…God’s love is what gets me through everyday and the reason I can love everyone I meet.

  90. Thanks for your message today! I’ve been married almost 30 years and your words reminded me to let my husband know I love him daily, even when life gets messy, busy and challenging! I would love to win a copy if your book to read and then pass on to a friend. God bless!

  91. Brittany says:

    I really needed to be reminded of this today. Thank you. 💛

  92. Oh I wish I would have had this book when I was a young mother. Thank You.Would love to share with my daughters who are now the young mothers

  93. Judy Rogers says:

    God’s love covers all things.

  94. This was such a good, well chosen devotion for me today in the midst of work and motherhood this week.

  95. Victoria says:

    The Living Word got to my heart–not easily angered…. I’m going to have to meditate on that one. Thank you for the great start to my day. God Bless.

  96. So true ! Only perfect love comes from God. He refreshes us so we can get through those times

    • It does take experience to know that women must rely on God’s unfailing and unchanging love for them to be equipped to love their spouses and family in the right way! Knowing this truth is comforting and it sure gives me the courage to fight the good fight and win!

  97. Great devotional!! Thank you!

  98. Sandy D. says:

    I am not a young mother. Our children are grown and gone; we have grandchildren now. We retired, and with seemingly endless time on our hands, you would think that we wouldn’t have the issues of ‘drift’ in our marriage, but we do. We struggle even more in some ways because we are together ALL THE TIME. I never understood the stories of women who, when their husbands retired, said, ‘go find something to do!’, but now I get it! It makes the differences in our personalities and energies and interests all the more apparent. When you strip away all of the ‘busy-ness’ of life, new things become clear, and you have to assess all over again. (But on the positive side, stripping away all of the ‘busy-ness’ gets rid of the distractions that often keep us from developing our relationship with God, so there is a positive to all of this.) Thank you for devotionals that allow me to look at our relationship through God’s eyes and see what I cannot see on my own. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 is relevant to remember even now, when the distractions of youth are behind us!
    If I could offer a prayer of hope to younger wives, I pray that you can have the wisdom during your working years to recognize the unimportant ‘busy-ness’ for what it is, the understanding to be able to keep what’s really important in perspective, and the beauty of God’s love to transition through all of the wonderful phases of life in loving partnership with your husband.

  99. Exactly my life right now!

  100. Deb Packard says:

    Great reminder of the unconditionally love we should show each other as God does to us.

  101. jennifer says:

    Yes, please.

  102. Leanne blake says:

    Luv it

  103. I’m about to add the title of mom to my title of wife in 4 weeks for the first time, and I would love this book. This devotion was a great reminder.

  104. Joyce Walker says:

    My husband is a good guy.

  105. Laura Powell Lee says:

    Thanks for this beautiful reminder of God’s love for us and how we can be inspired to love others. May God continue to bless your writing!

  106. I was encouraged by today’s devotional so thank you for sharing! It gets so easy to put your husband second when you are in the midst of taking care of little ones all the time. I would love to win a copy of the book.

  107. Thank you for such a great devotion today! I would love to read your book. Rediscovering our marriage in the midst of parenthood is exactly what my husband & I have been working to do lately. It’s so easy to get caught up in the responsibilities of parenthood and forget to nurture your marriage.

  108. Mallory Allen says:

    What a beautiful reminder of th comparison of God’s love and that in our marriage. Loving others first instead of waiting for them to love us is living out God in our lives..Thank You!

  109. Melynda Drenk Galioto says:

    In the middle of a second marriage 4 kids and the business of life plus him working out of state – I sure should use some thing to keep us together.

  110. Thank you for the gentle reminder this morning and blessing my day! I would enjoy reading more in your book.

  111. Read Becky’s first book and loved it. Went straight to this Mama’s heart! Would love to read this one.

  112. Kay Coward says:

    Good reminder to keep my marriage fresh. Loving because He first loved me, how can I argue with that?

  113. Amen, sister! Sounds like a wonderful book!

  114. Bobbi Ann Arms says:

    Next month will be our 25th anniversary. We are having to make time with each other. Kids getting married, kids moving away, kids still in school and add a new puppy on top of the cake.

  115. Janelle Vanderveen says:

    Would love to win!

  116. Real encouragement​ to always show love even when things aren’t going right.

  117. This is great advice for moms who need to remember to be wives too.

  118. I am in dire need of this book. I’m struggling daily with loving my husband. I have three children and I own a business so at the end of the day I feel lucky to be alive.

  119. Faith Stewart says:

    This is so hard isn’t it? Can wait to see what the book has to say.

  120. This word was so needed this morning. I admit I fall into this way too often. I would love to read this book. Thanks.

  121. Lori Maples says:

    I really 😊 enjoyed your insight on marriage.My husband and I have been married fifteen years and only due to Gods great 👍 love ❤️ and grace given. 😎 We truly love ❤️ one another but because God says love ❤️ one ☝️ another as I have loved you. He also says that as man leaves 🍃 mother and joins his wife in marriage that the two shall be united but become as one. We have lived our marriage on Gods vows, promises,word,love and truth and are very happy 😊 and blessed! 😎 God is good.

  122. What a beautiful message and reminder! It sounds so silly when you put those comments in the context of no one had to tell me that on my wedding day 🙂 I shared this message with my husband as well.

  123. I would love to read this book!

  124. Priscilla says:

    I have heard this from many husbands and wives about being more focused on the children than the marriage. It’s easy to do that since we naturally want to care for our children. If only we could devote that same level OR MORE of care and attention to our spouse. The possibilities of that relationship would be endless….Like our relationship with God. Thank you for the reminder.

  125. Leigh Keil says:

    I am getting married in a few weeks and this would be so helpful to me on this marriage journey.

  126. Jen Kellett says:

    Thank you for your great words of wisdom.
    I really enjoy reading them.

    Have an amazing day.

  127. Linda Farrow says:

    Would lo to win this book for my dil

  128. I would love to win a copy of the book! Balancing life…marriage and kids has been a big focus of mine lately! Loved the devotion today!

  129. I love this! And I would love to win your book because I have have been working on this in my marriage. 20 years together and married almost 18 years. And 4 kids. It a hard balance some days!

  130. I’ve been married almost 8 years, and marriage is not at all what I thought it would be like. Marriage is hard,but it’s worth fighting for. Out of our 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen only 1 besides my husband and I are not divorced. It breaks my heart. At one point they all had a really good relationship. I wouldn’t have expected any of them to divorce. Thank you for the wisdom on loving because He first loved us. So practical!

  131. JacquelineDurgin says:

    This message touched my heart not with my husband but with my adult children. To keep a long story short I will just fill you in a bit. My daughter and her family moved in with me last year. Shortly after they decided that we all needed to move from New England to North Carolina which we made in November Again to make a long story short. It has been a disaster . After that move my life has not been the same. I have been very depressed and have had no will to go on. Thank you for this message of encouragement I am holding on to it’s promises. Jackie Durgin

  132. I loved this! We have been going through a rough patch lately…just as you said in the devotion, I’ve spent too much time focused on kids, him too much on work, we moved to a different state 7 months ago and we’re living apart for 6 weeks, and our marriage has just not been a focus of our time and energy. And unfortunately it’s taken its toll. We still choose each other ever day, but we are taking a marriage class at church and have been spending more time communicating with each other about things that matter, I’ve been listening to podcasts on marriage, reading my Bible and it’s been getting better day by day. It’s amazing what happens when you put a little effort into your marriage and it is easier to love my husband back when he does something first. But you totally hit the nail on the head for me here. the truth is, I’m called to love because God loved first….I’m acting in response to him, not to others!

  133. This devotional is just at the right time. Thank you for sharing. Would love a copy of the book!

  134. Abby Stevens says:

    Becky and Proverbs 31 together, I love it! I would love to win a copy of your book. Thank you for the blessing of this devotion and your ministry through Scissortail Silk. <3

  135. Thank you for this perspective and for sharing your story.

  136. Sara Beiswanger says:

    This devotional spoke to me today! I must have needed this. This is all so true! I would love to win a copy of your book and continue being fed!

  137. Thanks for the encouragement.

  138. I needed this reminder today! So often I fail to love first unconditionally. This not only robs others of my love but robs me of the joy and experience to love that God would have me to experience.

  139. Gloria Sheff says:

    I couldn’t agree with you more. It is very important to make sure connecting with our husbands is a priority. I would be very happy to win a copy of your book.

  140. I would love to read this book. Have been married 27 years and I Need to be more intentional.

  141. Good Morning… I receive the daily Encouragement’s and I love them… I share them with my family members and friends.
    My son and daughter n law are newlyweds with 2 small children. I bring my grandson to church with me every Sunday, he loves church… He will be 3 years old in April. I pray for all my children to experience the Love that the Lord has for them. I pray that my grandson’s love for church will rub off on his parents to attend and become a part of the body of Christ. My life is fulfilled with Jesus in it. I could not imagine it any other way. Thank you for your steadfast desire to share your knowledge and encouragement each day with all of us. Blessings and Thank you. Miss Mary

  142. Anonymous says:

    Would love to read your book!! Celebrating 20 years of marriage this year, it would be a gift to both of us.

  143. We been married for 37 years, mostly wonderful times. My oldest daughter is about to be married for the first time, with 2 children, and pregnant already with their baby. I KNOW they will be able to gain inspite into their lives and learn to love even more, following God’s simple commands. Thank you so for writing these simple truths that we all need to be reminded of in this devotion, and in your new book.

  144. Jamie Mahoney says:

    Loved this simple, yet powerful reminder. How do I show my family love (while maintaining healthy boundaries) when I don’t feel their love? I have noticed that when I’m filled with God’s love, it overflows…. love everyone, always.

  145. Amanda Geerlinks says:

    I’m planning my wedding right now and your wedding story sounds like a nightmare!

  146. Tina McDonald says:

    Thank you for your encouragement today from your writing. Thank you more for your obedience to God, your honesty , and transparency. I needed to hear what you wrote.
    Please pray for my family and me.
    You are a blessing.

  147. Kelly Miller says:

    I truly needed this reminder today! The busyness of life has left me no time to see the beautiful love that is given to me daily. Lord, let me not overlook the beautiful love of my family today due to the busyness of my life!

  148. Angie Johnson says:

    This book has popped up into my awareness twice in one week! I think that might be a sign. My heart has been heavy for a while now regarding the status of my marriage. Today’s devotional is a great reminder!

  149. Janelle Volkers says:

    Thank you for a great reminder!!

    • Joni Heath says:

      What a blessing to be able to share your words with women like myself. As I read your devotionals it fills in the blanks I’m somehow missing.
      Thank you

  150. Kimmy chandler says:

    Thank you so much for this gentle nudge from above. Timely words spoken at just the right moment. Can’t wait to read your book!

  151. Summer Brown says:

    Great reminder. Perfect timing for most of us! Thank you. ☺

  152. Amber Donnelly says:

    Would love to read and share this book!

  153. I truly believe the devotions on marriage have given me new insights on how to see my husband through God, and have given me a new hope to save my marriage.

  154. Gloria Galvan says:

    Thank you for your encouragement today. After almost 37 years of marriage, I need that Godly reminder to love my husband everyday, like God loves me! I would love to read your book!

  155. Ellen Hall says:

    Thanks for the encouraging words.

  156. Love this book already based on title alone. 🙂

  157. Mandie Avila says:

    Being intentional about loving a spouse is a huge challenge. It’s so easy to get carried away in the day to day monotony and we take our spouses for granted. Such a great reminder!

  158. Emily Oliver-Jones says:

    What a beautiful message! I need to be reminded STOP being mom, friend, volunteer, business woman, etc. first and be WIFE FIRST.

  159. Mila Dzyadyk says:

    Thank you for the encouragement, so totally needed!
    God bless you even more!

  160. Jennie VanDeVelde says:

    Thanks for a great reminder!

  161. Marlene Beckner says:

    Thank you for the fresh insight into this verse! I always thought it simply meant we love GOD because He first loved us. I never carried that over to all my other relationships and considered that is the basis for loving OTHERS!

  162. I’m still single but today’s devotional is a timely reminder for me that the wedding day is just the beginning of a life-long journey and I ought to love my future husband in obeidience to God’s Word. I am confident I’ll have a fulfilling marriage with God’s help. Thank you for the daily lessons through the daily devotionals.

  163. I so love my hisband, but there are moments it is hard to like him. What can I do in these moments? How can I change? Because that is all I can…

    • Me too! I’m sure there are many wives who feel this way. When this happens I say a silent prayer to God asking Him to help me see my husband through His eyes, to remind me that God loves him the same way that God loves me. There have been times when I have had to ask God to love my husband for me. God always helps me with this.

  164. I would ❤️❤️Love to win a copy of the book!

  165. Shellie Acocello says:

    I would love to have a copy of Love Unending!

  166. I would love to win this book. Work, small business and one year old has us needing it!

  167. This devotion was something I needed today and it sounds like the book is as well! It’s so hard to show love when you don’t feel loved. This is a great reminder that my source of ultimate love I’m seeking is already here! God loves me beyond anything anyone on earth could ever show me.

  168. Please clarify this counsel on when spouses continue to sin against each other. Emotional abuse and physical abuse habitually done and no repentance shouldnt be accepted in God or the person who is being hurt. We all sin but not at the expense of tearing someones soul apart to make someone come to Christ is wrong teaching and not Gods design for healing souls. Im still being healed and yes i still sin but that doesnt mean that i have a self righteous attitude but im not and will no longer believe that God wants me or any other human being to continually be wounded in our souls,when he came to heal and set free and forgive and love but not to be wounded constantly by spouses or any person.

  169. J Kangas says:

    Perfect reminder to love when life’s not prefect. When life gets messy and our relationship gets edgy someone needs to stay focused on God and create loving comments, loving looks, & loving touches. Someone needs to reel the other in again…. We carelessly let life pull us away. It’s called nvesting in US again.

  170. I have been struggling the past few weeks as a wife and mother. Feeling like I am, “doing it all,” while my husband is living this “easy” life of going to work, coming home relaxing, just spending time with the kids. My heart has been so hardened toward him and angry with him. It’s not even his fault! He doesn’t know I am feeling this way because I haven’t told him. I have been praying fro guidance and for the enemy to be bound in this way of my thinking. This is the message I needed today and will continue to need throughout the next 50+ years of my marriage. These devotions have truly been a great blessing in my life and I am so thankful for them, for the women who minister!

  171. Wendy Savage says:

    This is so what can & does happen with Oklahoma weather! Thanks for the reminder to love no matter what because He first loved us – no matter what we do.

  172. This topic is such a big topic…. I took Sharon Jayne’s romance challenge and I figured out if I want something from my spouse I need to make sure I am GIVING IT as well!! Many times I complained about HIS neglect in the love dept. when I needed to look within and see what I was lacking in the attention I was giving him. If I treated him a certain way I found I received it in return..sometimes all it took was a simple compliment to perk things up! Go back to what you did when you were falling in love….. I would love to see what you have to say as your methodology seems similar… Blessings to all who seek God in their marriages… Please raise them up and make them yours God!!

  173. Lisa Wick says:

    Thank you Becky for this amazing article! My husband and I’s marriage started out very rocky. Our wedding day was less than perfect as well, since my Mom was passing away. Thank you for this amazingly written article and for pouring truth out to all of us who may be struggling.

  174. Great advice. Thank you

  175. Needed this reminder, and great perspective. I tend to link that verse to others, since it seems like common sense to love your spouse. But definetly need to be more intentional. Especially when we’re in a busy season. With children, school, and sports we tend to put eachother on the backburner. Balace.

  176. Amanda Eades says:

    So needed to hear this. Really struggling right now. Would love to have this book!

  177. Jeni Hill says:

    Today’s devotion…..WOW!
    I know God used you and today’s message to speak right to me… was like – yesterday God and I talked, and today He gave me His perspective on my situation!
    Thank you for allowing God to use you! What a blessing!

  178. Sheila Copenhaver says:

    Thank you for this reminder! I’m a mom of three boys (4, 3, 7 mo) and am married almost nine years. Starting in a couple weeks my husband will begin the role of pastor at our church. I would love your prayers as I support him in this role, especially in the midst of caring for little ones.

  179. Lindsay Hodges says:

    My husband and I just had our third baby a few weeks ago, so this giveaway couldn’t have come at a better time!! I would love a copy of this book 🙂

  180. I needed to hear that this morning. On a day when I feel like my husband needs space first thing in the morning, it’s hard to show love.

  181. Kara Smith Wyckoff says:

    Would really benefit from this book. I’ve neglected my husband intimately for wat too long. I’m so tired- every night! I want the Lord to restore what I’ve lost as a blessing intended for good between us. I’m ashamed, but God is faithful!

  182. Judy Grivas says:

    This year we’ll be married for 50 years…And your words are so true! Jobs and children overwhelm us when younger but now, we still need to be aware of each other’s needs and remember that early love that brought us together.

  183. Joyce White says:

    My husband and were married 4 years this month. 5 months after our wedding he was diagnosed with cancer. The Lord has blessed us with a wonderful love for one another and has brought us to Him in fantastic love. Be thankful for every day your have your spouse. Tell him everyday no matter how busy you are how much you love him. Thank the Lord everyday for him.

  184. Goodmorning, I felt extremely compelled to leave a comment today (which is something I never do) simply because the story hits all to real to me. I remember our wedding day also being quite chaotic, but I also tend to think at times with two people whom love each other so much as we do, how do we remember the loved GOD bestowed upon our hearts for on another in our most times of anguish in our marriage? I ask myself what is marriage supposed to be & are we truly loving & honoring GOD, our marriage, & one another the way we are supposed to? And then seemingly GOD has a way of clearing all doubts in my head & reminds me of the love & divine connection he’s put in my heart through the love my husband & I share… So although it’s a work in progress, when we lose sight of that magical yet chaotic day that was so filled with unconditional love & joy (our wedding day) for each other, GOD always seems to divinely (as only GOD can) bring us back to that moment to remind us how true, real, & genuine our love is because he himself (GOD) not only allowed, it but ordained it that way.

  185. Amber Junk says:

    Your message came at the perfect time! Thank you for the reminder!

  186. I so appreciated Becky’s devotional this morning. I’ve been married 25+ years, and everything you said is true! You’ve encouraged me to keep trying to be intentional in loving my husband – it’s worth it!

  187. Sally A Little says:

    Love is all we need…

  188. Amy Park says:

    This is a truth I needed to read today. In the midst of raising 3, not little ones but ages 18, 15 & 11, I think it’s harder than when they were small. What resonated was that we are wired to respond to love, but someone needs to initiate it. Why not me?

  189. Would love to win this book, helping to remind me why we need to love more!!

  190. Thank you Lord… always take those nudges from You!!

  191. Jessica Box says:

    Thank you for this devotional this morning! I really feel like I would benefit from this book. We have been married a little over 3 years, and our son just turned 1. I find myself really struggling to show him love when he can be so distant or resistant, angry, tired, etc, for so many different reasons, and instead of showing him the love I “know” he so desperately needs, I respond in kind with distance, hurt, anger, tiredness, etc.

  192. Love is a topic which many groups are trying to redefine right now. However, this truth remains: God is love. Those who stand up to proclaim this truth are blessed indeed!

  193. Caitlin B. says:

    My husband and I will have been married for 10 years this June 16th. We do not have any children, however we do have busy lives. We can easily get swept up in the day to day and “just having each other around” and forget to spend that quality time together to make each other feel loved. This is a wonderful reminder!

  194. summer stuart says:

    Loved your blog, it speaks volumes. Thank you!

  195. Brandy Beekman says:

    I thoroughly loved this devotional. Thank you.

  196. Melinda Prince says:

    Thank you for reminding me how important God placed our relationship with our spouse. In the busyness of children, friends, church and all of their needs, prayers for my spouse daily can often get pushed aside. There has been past hurts from affairs, I have chosen to love and forgive, my marriage needs a boost and reminder, as I always teach my children, love is an action, not a word. Bless you and thanks for sharing

  197. Kendra Horner says:

    Great reminder to find time to pay attention to each other and listen to each other.

  198. Brandy Beekman says:

    I thoroughly loved this devotional. Thank you very much. I would lo e to share this book with my church sisters.

  199. SUCH a timely post! My husband and I are eight years in with two small children and we have to make a conscious decision each day to show each other love. We trip up all the time so by remembering that we can love each other because God loves us, we can reconnect and keep our marriage healthy. I will definitely keep in mind the wedding advice for any new couples we celebrate. It will definitely cause them to pause and think about the future. Maybe they will be able to build a stronger foundation together earlier before they are blessed with children. I love when blog posts speak exactly to what I’m going through in life – God is always speaking to us!

  200. God is Love!

  201. I love the premise behind this book; and I greatly enjoyed today’s devotional. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for the chance to win this book as well.

  202. Amanda D. says:

    Such God timing! My poor hubby is going thru a storm right now! As his wife it hurts cause I can`t help. All I can do is love him and pray him thru it.

  203. This is a great message to show us unconditional love as reflected by our Heavenly Father.

  204. janet beck says:

    Thank you for this study today. As I wait in the cardiac lab for my husband, whom I’ve been married for 12 years.
    I pray that they see what’s wrong & fix it asap today. No waiting. I realized that helping my 50 year old husband putting on his socks & shoes this morning. Was an act of love. He broke down & was crying. He feels he should be the one taking care of me. Not the other way around.
    I would share this book with others as a small group Bible study if I was chosen.
    If not, thank you for the opportunity though.
    Jan Beck

  205. Veronicajuarez says:

    I enjoyed reading this devotional I need to win this book

  206. Amy Bryan says:

    Just what my heart and head needed to hear this morning. My husband & I are going to marriage counseling now and we’re both trying to first see each other through His eyes & love. I’m standing firm that this is one marriage the deceiver won’t win!

  207. Excellent testimony of love, I have learn they love simply grows more with your spouse when you have God in the center of your marriage. Is it easy, NO but it sure glides better when you both confront a problem and you come to the Word and read verses, then God speaks throu it ,we been happily married for 37 1/2 year’s and I thank God every day for this man!!!

  208. Thank you for reminding me to love because God first loved me. Sometimes it isn’t easy but with with His help, all things are possible!

  209. What a timely and encouraging message. I would love to read the book! Thanks for a hard truth, loving message!

  210. This devotional entry spoke to my heart today. As a mom of a newborn and a two year old, it is easy to prioritize their needs above our marriage and relationship. Thank you for the reminder to take a pause and reinvest in our love, our commitment to each other.

  211. Cecilia Bellon says:

    Thank you for reminding me to love, and love everyone. So often we get in a hurry and we don’t stop to remember how Jesus loves us and that we’re to love others in the same way. Have a blessed day.

  212. Ashley Martin says:

    This is what I needed to hear this morning. Combining a mixed family has provided so many challenges this year, and made us like roommates in the chaos. We have to take the time to nurture the love that brought our families together.

  213. This really hits home right now. My husband and I have a lot of stress in our lives right now. When I get stressed I want to curl up in a ball and hide. He wants more affection. I need to remember it isn’t just me struggling and be the wife God wants me to be.

  214. God’s love is so pure and perfect and sweet. Once you truly accept God’s love, you will fall in love with God. This will strengthen your love for the people in your life and the new people God brings into your life. God’s love is amazing

  215. Felt like I could have written this. Love … just show it everyday even when it’s hard. Make the time to love your husband:)

  216. AnnMarie Harper says:

    Beautiful advice for a good marriage. My husband passed in October 2016. I have some guit and regrets. Would love my daughter to read this.

  217. Sally Tyndall says:

    Perfect and on time reading. Thank you for sharing. Our family is going thru a storm now and I have issues about our relationship. Our kids have always come first and we need guidance. May God bless

  218. Always so good to hear and always such an important reminder!

  219. Wendy LaCroix says:

    Thank you! We have been married 29 years and this summer he had an affair with the neighbor’s daughter(28 years old). I was taking care of my sister who was dying of cancer. It no words could express how I felt. I wanted to stay married and work things out and so did he. Two months later my sister passed and she was my best friend. I have been reading books, counseling for me, marriage counseling, and a lot of praying to help make our marriage whole again. We know it is going to be a very long haul. God bless.

    • Oh Wendy your story made me feel your pain so deep that I cried😢….I’ve prayed for the restoration of your marriage and that our merciful God delivers you through this storm. It’s so hard….

      Sometimes,I asked why? but then I know there are no answers because everything is God’s plans for us.

      Sending you lots of 💕💞💓❤

  220. Such a good perspective! I love that we can’t love on our own, but as a result of God and His grace and love to us, we can.

  221. Such an amazing reminder! Oftentimes I forget to love others and I base it off of THEIR love, not God’s love. Thank you oh so much!

  222. I would love to add this book for insight. I’m doing my part to repair the tattered edges in our 28yr marriage by loving, “in spite of.” But, it’s hard when you don’t speak the same language in love anymore. Maybe the book will help me crack the code and get us understanding each other again.

  223. A good reminder after 30 years…

  224. Katherine Baugher says:

    Loved this devotion today 🙂
    Thank you!

  225. He makes me brave says:

    Unending love, that I need to show my husband through respect…. Certainly a daily reminder needed after 14 years!

  226. Thank you for reminding me how important our marriage is to God. After infidelity and deep pain and hurt, i realized that I needed to show God to my children through my marriage. I tell them all the time that love is an action that we choose, not just a word. In the busyness of children, friends, and church I do not pray as much for my spouse as I should. Thank you for sharing and the reminder of loving always

  227. It is so revitalizing to read a devotional like this. My husband and I have stressors like any usual couple/family, and we have the added stressor of a previous spouse of my husband’s which has stressors all in its own way. Lately seems to have been more stressful than not unfortunately which has caused us to be short with each other. This devotional has come just at the right time for where we are presently in our walk with God. Thank you!

  228. Robin Bracknell says:

    This is a reminder that I need daily! With an 18 month old, a six year old, two dogs, and in the process of buying a house after being married for 7 years – I sometimes forget how important for him to SEE me smile. God help me to remember to show the love you have shown me and to pray fervently for my marriage and my husband. Amen.

  229. Donna page says:

    GReat reminder – something that should come so naturally, but often times doesn’t

  230. Bobbie Elder says:

    Wow, your message today really hit home with me today! We’ve been married for almost 47 years, and although we do love each other, the closeness is missing most of the time. I pray that God will show me how to show my love more freely. Thank you and God bless you.

  231. Janice Dorsett says:

    I would love to win this book for my granddaughter and her husband. They have their first child…,a son eight months old. She is finishing her degree and he works nights. They are wonderful parents but I know it is hard…I love you devotions they are so inspirational… thanks for an opportunity to win a gift that may inspire and help them.

  232. This is just what I needed to read this morning! Thank you.

  233. Elaine Segstro says:

    I very much appreciated your devotional this morning. We love because HE first loved us, demonstrating unconditional love.

  234. Lucretia says:

    What an encouraging reminder that our love flows from the love of God and not the love from a person.

  235. Kathy A. Rusch says:

    We have been married for almost 48 years and need this! God is always calling us higher.

  236. I needed this reminder this morning. I need God’s love to flow through me especially on days I don’t feel like loving my husband.

  237. Debbie Herbst says:

    What a great devo! We have been married for 26 years and our 2 kids are in college. We can attest to the struggles and to the critical priority of being intentional about marriage. However it is easy to be distracted and get off track, in every season. I think this book would be particularly helpful for friends and relatives with young children.
    Thank you and amen.

  238. I’m glad that Jesus loves us so much that He gave His only son to die on the cross for our sins, and rise from the dead to give us victory over satan!

  239. Mary Jane Michalak says:

    Thank you for your beautiful tribute to marriage. We are soon coming upon our 30th wedding anniversary, have 4 children and life still is extremely busy and hectic. We need to make time to tell our spouses they we live and cherish theme. As often as I pray I am learning g yo pray differently. I wish I knew about Gid Vine years aha. My oldest son is engaged and what a beautiful gift the would be for the new couple as they start their life together. Thank you for your beautiful story.

  240. Pat Gates says:

    Because of the love God has for my husband ,he is able to love me as no human being has ever loved me and I feel that this is God’s love coming through my husband to me. It is very special and because of the Love that Jesus has for me I am able to show it to others.

  241. This really spoke to me and I will apply this important truth in my marriage! I would love to read your book and learn more!

  242. Leslie Yazzie says:

    What a blessed morning indeed to start off with such words of encouragement. I love it. I know there are related scriptures as well so more time in the Word for me. God is good all the time. Thanks

  243. Such a great devotional to share about intentionality. Exactly what I needed to read today. Just seems we are too busy with our own lives anymore and connecting just doesn’t seem to happen much. We don’t listen or share much. I love him and he loves me but we are just coasting. I will pray for an intentional heart between both of us. Thank you!

  244. Debbie myhre says:

    Love this devotion today. Needed the reminder

  245. Ashley Jarrell says:

    Thank you so much for the reminder to love because He first love us. It is so easy to get caught up in our daily schedules and wound up in our emotions and self that we forget that these things are so fleeting. But He is forever and who He calls us to be is more important than all the crazy going on in our lives. So once again thank you so much 🙂

  246. Great Reminder! Would love to read this book.

  247. I prayed to God last night and asked him to speak to me about the way I was feeling and to guide me as to what I can do and to take these feelings away. I opened my e-mail this morning and here was your devotional for the day about unending love!! It truly was speaking to my heart ! I am a mother of 2 young boys, work part-time and my husband is working 2 jobs. It seems that when we are together alone, which is not very often, we don’t really have anything to say to each other or are just preoccupied by everything else in life. Thank you for this devotional, I am going to pray about this more and read more into the scripture. I felt as if God was speaking to me through your words!! Thank You!

  248. My husband and i are walking down a path i never thought possible and im not sure how to show him love right now. I neede these words to remember God’s love for me is always with no strings attached.

  249. Rebecca L says:

    I loved this story so much. I constantly need reminders like this because each day is new. A new beginning, a new day and a new love we can show people. Thanks for this.

  250. Michelle Schultz-Karia says:

    Sometimes, it is hard to feel that same love when you are angry or mad. Sometimes, all I need to do, just pause and look at my husband and I feel the same love I felt the day we got married. I do admit, its not always easy. I would love to read the book so that I can learn to revive our marriage amongst work responsibilities for both of us, kids (one of which experiences major depression) and all of the other obstacles life throws at us on a regular basis.

  251. Cammi Hevener says:

    Going on Spring Break with family!! Great reminder to love one another! 🙂

  252. Judy Kennedy says:

    I want to learn more about the love of Father through Love Unending. Thank you. 😊👏

  253. Jenny McDaniel says:

    I would love to win this book, thank you for the opportunity!

  254. I was just reading ABSOLUTE SURRENDER by Andrew Murray last night, which is a must read for anyone who wants to understand God’s “Spirit of love”. The middle part of the book is about “The fruit of the Spirit is love”. We all need to receive and be refueled by His love for us, so that it can overflow to others.

    Thanks for the great reminder that love for our husband can be refueled no matter how many years of marriage we’ve spent together.

  255. Thankful for a God who always loves me and puts love in my heart for others!

  256. What a beautiful story of your wedding day… After almost 15 years of marriage and seven kids I can relate to this, all to easily. Thank you for this beautiful reminder.

  257. Such a great reminder about why we’re able to love!

  258. It always makes me smile and giggle when God gives me a devotion to read that answers or leads me in the right direction of something I’ve been praying His help with. And today is no different, this devotion comes at a time when I’ve been praying for help in my marriage and reigniting that feeling we once had. To find it together and grow our marriage in God’s love. Thank you!

  259. just what I needed to hear this morning!

  260. I’m thankful for this reminder to focus on God’s love first, as his love never fails and human love so often fails. My husband and I are soon to celebrate our 11th anniversary and it hasn’t always been easy but it’s so worth it to do the hard work of loving each other year after year, with God’s help.

  261. Cynthia Velez says:

    Really needed this in this season 💓

  262. Thanks for this reminder, God has been working on me for the way I sometimes treat my husband. This was another piece He is laying on my heart

  263. I needed this today

  264. Thank you.

  265. Would love a copy of this book! In the midst of working on and choosing marriage when things are SO busy with work, 2 babies, a dog, a new house, both of us in school!


  266. This is just what I need to hear today. Hard sometimes when you don’t feel the love from someone and it makes you feel like things are going to break. A nice reminder of God’s love and how we need to show love to others.
    Thank you!

  267. I loved this reminder to be intentional with our love. I’ve forwarded this to 5 girlfriends. Thank you

  268. I’m floored by what an eye-opener today’s message was. At first, I didn’t think it applied to me, but then it seemed as though I should have been writing it! My husband and I drifted apart and I didn’t even really notice it. Thank you for this!

  269. Shelley Cervantes says:

    I desperately need this book to get my marriage back in track after 10 years and triplets!

  270. Thank you for the great reminder and commandment to love others. This book sounds amazing!!

  271. Thank you for sharing!

  272. Jennifer Henry says:

    That’s so beautiful and much needed to be talked about! For me, after 29 years of marriage & having walked through lots of life stuff…. This is exactly what God has been doing in my heart & what i have been really praying about, that I could really focus and depend on and walk in God’s unconditional, neverending, beautiful love for me, so i can love unconditional, without fear or bitterness from past hurts, because thats how God loves me. If I’m resting in His love its much easier to love others. {and a lot less stressful😊💟}
    Thanks Becky! Keep writing! You are a blessing~

  273. Christine says:

    Thank you so much for this reminder on why and how we should love our spouses. Definately hit home in my season of child rearing, housekeeping, working. It is so easy to get wrapped up in all our things we have to do but it is so important to take the time to show our spouses that they matter for the health of the entire family. Will pray and work on this this week!

  274. I have this book. I think everyone who has been married for more than a few months should read it!!! No matter how awesome your marriage is, it can always get better!

  275. Jaclyn Ink. says:

    Yes!! Thank you for this sweet reminder to LOVE. <3

  276. Erik johansen says:

    Great loving store for today’s read. Your wedding could have been a disaster, but gods love filled your young hearts. Thank you so much for this gift you have given me lord in this story. Thank you Becky for sharing. God bless you

  277. Today is our 3 year anniversary and its definitely been a hard 3 years but rewarding. I gave birth to our 9 month old son last June and he’s made our lives so much more enjoyable. But our marriage has been rocky. We’ve struggled with communication and we always need the reminder that our marriage comes first before our son but its not easy. Having this book would be a great encourager in our marriage and help us.

  278. rebecca duvall says:

    I find myself searching for love sometimes but remind myself I am loved by God first and foremost. I can love even though I might not feel loved by my husband due to his busy schedule or my worn down feelings from taking care of children all day. I would love to read this book 🙂

  279. Thank you Becky for your devotional. The Scriptures you referenced are so encouraging to my heart. Thanks for sharing your insight with us. I would love to be entered into the drawing for a copy of your book. Bless you!

  280. Thank you for speaking to my heart today. As always, God is good, the perfect words at the perfect time. Blessings!

  281. I have recently found Proverbs 31. I am enjoying reading the blog posts & applying the words shared and the scripture to my life. Today’s post about experiencing unending love helped me to put my marriage in a new perspective. Thank you to all of your contributors for being willing vessels to share and teach the Bible.

  282. great story and inspirational. im sure your guests will never forget your wedding day and your reactions were a testimony and an inspiration to all that witnessed it as well as those that read it like myself.

  283. Ann Barnhill says:

    My husband of 34 years is disabled, with increasing dementia from mini strokes, serious heart issues, and peripheral neuropathy in both legs that leaves him unable to walk except with a walker. I am young, only 62, and wasn’t ready to retire, so I hired caregivers for him. God and I struggled for a year over this, as I was reminded of my wedding vows: in sickness and in health. I was self-employed; I knew I needed to close my business and be at home full time, but couldn’t see how we could survive financially. I finally decided to trust God. It has been a little over a year now and God has been more than faithful! I am grateful every day for this wonderful time with my husband, knowing any day could be his last. Jesus is walking with me, one day at a time.

  284. Great reminder!

  285. Andrea Ewbank says:

    This is exactly what I needed to hear! As a newlywed, I often ponder this very subject. Since the honeymoon, we have been so busy and his work schedule has been crazy, leaving little time for us to enjoy married life. I have your first book and absolutely loved it! I have not got the second book but I know there is good stuff in there for this wife and mom!

  286. It’s been a challenge to keep that love in our marriage fresh with kids, ministry, business owners n all the thubgs that life throws at you. Would love to read your book.

  287. Brittany W. says:

    Thank you for this. In the season of two small kids and a husband with a busy schedule, I definitely needed the encouragement.

  288. I really needed this today. My husband and I are really struggling and I desire to be the wife God has called me to be. Some days are just so hard.

  289. Love Becky, and her words always speak to my heart!

  290. Elizabeth says:

    This morning I woke up with lots of tears, remembering last night how my husband treated me like I’m nothing. Thank you for reminding me with great devotion to continue to love because Jesus FRIST loved me!

  291. Great devotion! I would love to read her book.

  292. So good to remember this. The busy life of a working mom and wife requires so much intentionality in marriage!

  293. Alicia Morales says:

    This article was an eye opener. Because God first loved us is all we need to know to love my husband even when I don’t want to. Love the message and comes at a perfect time.

  294. She I read the part about being nice to here soon to be husband, I thought it was strange until I continued reading. Those obvious things aren’t so obvious 17 years later. Nice reminder!

  295. How I wish these “truths” that sound so good in theory were actually true and could be applied in every situation. My husband and I got married 19 years ago because I was pregnant through the result of an affair with him. Needless to say we got married while we were dead in our sin and for all the wrong reasons. We have stayed married for our daughter. But despite getting saved years later and begging God to change my heart and infuse live into our marriage. He has chosen not to do so. I have been angry, discouraged, desperate. But not anymore. I have given up. Most days I don’t care anymore. We live in a state of complete alienation, thinly veiled hostility. We are married on paper only. And I use that term loosely. What I would really like to hear from is someone who is in my shoes. Who is married to someone she never would have chosen had she been following Christ instead of the depravity of the world. Married to someone most days you can’t even stand to be around. So there it is–gut level honesty. So wish I could apply these glowing devotional to real life in the gutter. I am either a complete failure or it’s all just a bunch of hooey!

  296. Christina says:

    Today’s devotion is so appropriate to my marriage. We are getting ready to celebrate 18 years of marriage and it has been a roller coaster ride through the years. We are rediscovering our love for each other and I feel that we are so much more closer to each other now than ever before. Between three kids, a full-time job, and the military, it can really create a lot of space between a relationship. We have realized that we have to consciously work at us all the time. We make it a point once a week to do date night. We have really been working on making this a priority above all the other things that life brings each day. I love my husband and thank God for choosing me to be his wife.

  297. A beautiful remender! Thank you.

  298. Be intentional! That’s my take away!

  299. Sara Zacharias says:

    Thank you for an excellent Devotional on Loving! We NEED Reminders! So true that when our children are at home, we too often focus on them more than our husband. And we NEED to invest in our marriage relationships! That is vital to the well-being of our families! It is clear from God’s Word that after the Lord our husbands and wives need to be #1. We definitely need God’s love and help do it well. God bless you in a special way!

  300. E. Carlisle says:

    This devotion definitely spoke to my heart. My husband of 19 years and I have been stressed lately with life. He’s miserable at work, we have 4 kids, 2 of which are teenagers (that’s a entirely different stress), and we live on a little farm we are trying to keep up. He leaves for work every morning at 5:30 and comes home between 7:30-8 every night. Exhausted! Not wanting to talk or anything.
    I can remember when we dated, feeling like I couldn’t live if I didn’t see him, talk to him almost every second of the day because I loved him so much. It was a different type of love I know. But I definitely miss it sometimes.

    Thank you for sharing your heart.

  301. Jessica Hough says:

    I would love to win. My husband and I struggle at times with being loving and with our attitudes. This article was just perfect and helped me open my eyes. Thank you!!

  302. Alyson Cornelius says:

    Living loved: knowing God is always loving on us is hard, but gives us such a great place to live from. It’s always easier to love when you feel loved yourself.

  303. Velshonna Luckey says:

    I am so thankful for today’s devotional. I decided to participate in the Lenten season for the first time in my life. I have been amazed at the greater understanding I’m learning about God’s love for ME. I’m learning that I still have so much to learn about my Father’s love. This devotional was two fold for me, because it encouraged me in my marriage WHILE also showing me that I do this best when I fully understand Daddy God’s love for me. WOW what an eye opener and a weight lifted. I’ve been looking at the wrong thing, expecting change and love to come from the wrong direction. The most life changing section was: ” It says we love because God first loved us. Even on the days I don’t necessarily feel loved by my spouse, I can love him in response to the love God shows us all. We can love others because He first loved us.” THANK YOU! This truth showed up at a time I was most ready to understand it.

  304. Gwynn Krempasky says:

    Her book sounds like something everyone could benefit from!

  305. Judd Sundine says:

    My wife and I are blessed each day from your encouragement and commitment to Christ’s love working through you! Thank you and we encourage you through our love for you, each other, and Christ Jesus!

  306. Tracitta Crum says:

    I am a recent newlywed. I can definitely learn more steps on how to improve spending my time with my husband in the mist of working and raising our children.

  307. Thanks for your message. Would love this book. I have been married to my husband for 20 years. We have definitely been struggling through some storms recently and could use this.

  308. I have been divorced for a number of years and is seeking marriage. I am interested in someone but really want to make sure I truly understand what love is. I really don’t want to go before God’s will. He led me to you. Thanks

  309. sharon Judd says:

    This really spoke to my heart. Now if I can only put it into practice. I’m saving this so I can write some things in my journal. Thank you!

  310. This is exactly what I needed to read at this time! My husband and I have been married 20 years,sometimes it’s a struggle to love, but this puts it all into perspective. May God continue to bless you as you continue to edify us. Thanks!

  311. Nancy Duncan says:

    After being divorced and single for ver 20 years I could use this book to help me during this current marriage thank you.

  312. Margaret B Prince says:

    Enjoyed your story.

  313. I needed this today. Praise God.

  314. I most definitely have a hard time when it comes to this subject. I look forward to reading this book!

  315. My husband and I have just started marriage counseling. My husband has been dealing with some internal issues and I have tried to remember this very lesson – love him despite what else is going on in his life and between us. Show him love – be intentional about saying it, even it is difficult.

  316. Angie Foster says:

    This it home, as I am divorced. we didn’t keep each other and God as our focus!!

  317. I am always encouraged by Becky’s words. I can’t wait to read Love Unending!

  318. Thank you for the loving reminder and inspiration.

  319. Thank you so much. I have 4 kids ages 8, 5, 3 and 8 months so date night is not in our vocabulary right now! Your book would be so helpful as a busy mom, wife, friend, sister, daughter.

  320. A great reminder that we may show unconditional love because that is what we’ve received!

  321. I read your column with interest. Thank you for so poignantly showing us a snapshot of your marriage. Why do I want a copy of your book? I want to grow in my love of my Lord, my husband, and those around me. My husband has a sweet tender heart that loves unconditionally and it encourages me to become more loving to him and others around me. He also loves the Lord and prays with a true yearning. What is hard for us is that I work 50 miles away which means I am gone 10 to 11 hours a day during the week and have little time to see him so we try to make our weekends special. And, yes, there are definitely stresses in life that cause division. But, as you stated, we have to think of the other person and center on his needs which will lead him to do the same. And that is what I believe the Lord wants for us, to love each other as He loves us.

  322. Megan Carter says:

    Marriage is the best platform to walk out and model love unending!!

  323. Geri Nigg says:

    This reminder spoke volumes to me. So many times I forget to let my husband know how much I love him. We take for granted those we love. Father, help me to love like you love!

  324. Laisa Nacoke says:

    thank you for the devotionals. God has spoken to me through your many devotionals especially this one. My marriage is going through a love winter right now and heading in a disastrous direction and this reminder is invaluable.
    The book will help my husband and i in thawing the winter to make way for spring and summer.


  325. Mary Ann Duffield says:

    Today’s message is very uplifting!

  326. After reading your first chapter online, I know this book will speak directly to me. I’ve been married for 9 years to my high school sweetheart, and we have a beautiful son. I love him so much, but I have a hard time feeling “in love” with him anymore. The advice offered by your dad has changed the way I look at him, and I would love to read the rest of the book! Thank you.

  327. Margaret. Burke says:

    In thisworld that we all live intry to condition our selve to show Gods live in the mist of it to our grown children and Their children . This is one of the most important opportunities to jump in and try to generate to all even in our times of self centeredness that we can fall back on . I am sixty six and hopefully would use this book to help lift others up to living the life of Jesus loved us first .
    What a blessing this book would be . Thank you for having a heart to write this book in Christ’s love.

  328. Carolyn Fitzgerald says:

    Great article and great reminder that we can only love others, because of His love for us. His demonstration of love for us gives us the greatest example. As an empty nester, I look back and see that it was so easy to focus all of my attention on my children, and neglect my husband. But the Lord’s Spirit worked in both of us, reminding that we needed to give each other love, grace and respect. Along with loving others, we also want to show our love for Him who showed us love. I find in my life I need to continue concentrate on growing in my love for my heavenly Father also.

  329. Laural Ann Plett says:

    I constantly need the reminder that we love because He first loved us. Our oldest daughter tested our patience on a recent trip to Florida! She is a single mom with two young children. Because of her choices especially with alcohol we felt her lack of respect on this “family” vacation! My love was not patient and kind. I needed God’s love to love her in spite of her choices! I thank God for His faithfulness.

  330. This is so true, thank you for sharing the truth that I can only love my husband and my family because Jesus loved me first!

  331. Nancy Steffensmeier says:

    After 36+ years of marriage it is more difficult to love my husband when I don’t feel it from him. I want us to be an example for our children but don’t feel we are at this point in our lives.

  332. Nadine G says:

    I read the intro and first chapter sample and am interested in thus book. We will celebrate 10 years of marriage in May, have 3 children between 6y and 7 weeks. It was, convicting, to read you say you realized you look for his help, not HIM. I realized I do that, I love his days off…and realized it’s because I can clean, cook, shop, shower, not deal with all things children, have help with bedtime (he works evenings). And then oh yeah I can see him for an uninterrupted 2 hours maybe, before bed.

  333. Kimberly Matthews says:

    Sometimes because of work and raising our grandkids ages 11 and 9 years old we fail to give each other the attention we need. We take each other for granted because after 34 years of marriage we know we are loved, but it’s still nice to be reminded daily. We get busy and overtired and in the hustle and bustle of life, we know if something has to be cut short or left undone or unsaid, the other will understand.

  334. That insert to the story was amazing and definitely what I needed. With currently planning our wedding, house shopping and my job transferring me. I know God has a plan but ishiukdnt lose the sight and love He gave me in my fiancé.

  335. It has been 2 years since my divorce. I sure wish I saw this Devotional, and put it into practice those many years ago when love walked out on us.
    Thank you. I will read and re-read, commit to memory this Devotional as I submit to God, let Him in to work on my heart.
    Peace & Blessings,

  336. Wow. I just shared with with my praying wives group. True story.. something I work on with my marriage.. practice loving him because I really do.. but key is intention!
    Thank you for sharing! I would love to read this book!

  337. Beth Anne W. says:

    What a great devotional! So needed! I have to CHOOSE to love my husband! I love him best by listening to him and speaking respectfully to him. Communication is huge and we’ve been struggling with that lately…trying to understand what each other is saying and often misunderstanding tone of voice or when something was said. I just keep asking God to give me wisdom and to help me learn how to speak and respond.

  338. Susan G. says:

    Wow Becky! A wedding to remember! 😉
    Thanks for these words today…very good words for me, after 42 years of marriage.
    Bless you!

  339. gayle wheeler says:

    would love to read this

  340. Celeste Burns says:

    What a great reminder!

  341. Renea J. says:

    Wow, God was peeking in my window again 🙂 Such a good and timely word as my husband and I just celebrated 13yrs of marriage on Monday. Thank you for this prickly but sweet reminder.

  342. thanks for the encouragement to be selfless in love to others

  343. Loved this devotion!

  344. Such a good reminder. In the midst of pouring so much love into little ones I often forget that the husband needs intentional love.

  345. Shaundra says:

    Thank you for this today. My husband and I are about to celebrate 10 years, with 9 of them I am serving as the breadwinner and two beautiful girls have joined us. Lately, I have felt discouraged, unwanted, unloved. Not just by my husband, but in my work too. I have a tendency of feeling invisible and disposable. This ministry, and this devotion today, helps me stay on track. Helps me remember that there is the One who loves me, who chose me. And I hope I can find the ability to continue to love as Christ loves us! It’s just hard when you don’t always feel the love from those around you. Thank you, have a blessed day!

  346. It takes a lot of reminders to keep drawing that love from God and not seek it first from my husband. Thank you for the encouragement!

  347. Tanisha Merrell says:

    Yes, 8.5 years into this adventure called marriage definitely requires some reminders. We get caught up in the mundane and craziness of every day, and forget why we married the person we did. Thank you for this! And a side note, my toddler learned this verse “Love one another Luke 13:34” on Sunday in her SS class. How timely!

  348. Christy Scorza says:

    Oh how I would love this…working daily on our marriage. After 19 years we are renewing our vows in September…by Gods grace alone we are still married-this devotion would be a blessing

  349. Thank you 💜

  350. WOW…just what I needed today I celebrate 25 years of marriage thank you for this devotion it hit home!!!

  351. this was much needed. my husband and I have been married four years, had a baby not even a year of knowing one another. so we had it tough and still do in some ways. we went through a lot of issues, what relationship doesn’t if we’re honest? But sometimes I doubt God w various things but I prayed this morning that he would show me something to know he is God. And maybe this is it: His love. I doubt Him and I doubt myself raising three babies now, and I guess I need to hear that Gods love radiates through us, so I need to show my husband his love by not getting on to him about petty things. Mostly due to stress and emotions….jeez. But I think w God these little things he can help us with to show others his love. Thank you for a good devotion.

  352. Barbara keane says:

    I’ve been struggling showing my husband love and respect. I do adore him.

  353. Megan Wiedeman says:

    Pregnant with baby #3 and it is so easy to get wrapped up in my kids, only giving my husband my leftovers. Would love to read this! And definitely a great reminder that I am able to love because of Jesus, not because of my circumstances. 🙂

  354. My marriage has been rough and we almost divorced but God intervened with love and mercy. I wanted out of my marriage because my husband had an affair and I had every right to it (in my eyes) but one day God spoke to me and said “Remember the vows you made on your wedding day, you made them to Me not to him” I cried because I knew that I had to stay in this marriage and I didn’t want to. Then began the journey of letting God heal my soul so I can love my husband again, which was so hard to do. Because God loved me and forgave me of all my sins I had to turn around and give that same love and forgiveness to my husband. Today is our anniversary and we are celebrating 19 year’s of marriage!!! I love him so much and can’t imagine life without him.

    • This is a wonderful encouragement! I hope you get to tell your story to other young couples going through difficulties. May God bless you and your commitment to your marriage!

  355. This sounds like a great book!!

  356. Thank you for your message today it was a great reminder that it is not always easy going on 20 years of message it is a great daily reminder to love as Jesus first loved us.

  357. Great devotion today!

  358. Sally Ann Price says:

    Great devotional. God loved us first. Amen.

  359. Krystan Hamilton says:

    Great read! I needed to hear this today! Would Be great fun for a copy of this book

  360. I love Becky and wouod love to have this book! She is so relatable with myself being married for almost 10 years and having multiple children.

  361. Rebecca Dominguiano says:

    After 20+ years, I never thought in the beginning that it would be so difficult this many years later.

  362. Hope to be able to enjoy this book! thank you for sharing!

  363. This book is exactly where I find myself. 8 years into marriage and four kids later. Looking forward to reading this one!

  364. Amanda Pisczek says:

    I would LOVE to win this book! Thanks for the chance!

  365. Patricia Williams says:

    Dear Father, please break my hard heart and teach me to love as JESUS does, in HIS mighty and matchless NAME, amen.

  366. Michelle Jane says:

    I am blessed with a wonderful family: my husband, our 2.5 yr old daughter and 2 month old daughter. With our new addition to our family sometimes it is hard to feel like we have enough love to go around to everyone and it feels like someone gets cut short. I like how this verse references that it is our responsibility to show love, not because anyone of our family members deserves it or because we’re trying to receive, love in return but because God first gave us love, and that is our model to follow after.

  367. Sounds like what I’ve been looking for! ❤

  368. My husband and I have been married 20 year , but these last 3 years that have passed it’s been a very stressful roller coaster

  369. Michelle says:

    I love these encouraging words…. I am married to my husband for 33 years & I would marry him all over again everyday…. he loves me so much
    I would love to win your book

  370. Jenn Harty says:

    I am in this place right now. I have a 2 1/2 year old and it is really hard finding that balance. We struggled with infertility and it was truly a miracle that I was able to get pregnant. Our son is our one and only so I do admit I get a bit wrapped up with him. I do love my husband very much and want our marriage to stay strong, but we do have struggles due to our son. I would love to win a copy of this book!

  371. Beverly Wright says:

    My husband and I have been married for 3 years and have one son, who is almost 2. As most of you know, lots of things change after you have children. I find myself having to be a lot more intentional with interacting with my husband. It so easy to devote all my attention to our son, because I know he needs my help and relies on me for so many things. My husband gets left feeling ignored. I want to think back to our wedding day when I couldn’t wait to see him, hold his hand, and just want to be with him. Lord, help me find a godly balance!

  372. One way I can my husband more love is Let him know he is appreciated. He is a pastor of our church just starting out.

  373. This book looks like a great read. I would love to be given a copy.

  374. I have always believed in making your marriage a priority, even as a mother, but I had no idea how hard that would be until I became one. I have two very little ones, and by the time I meet all their needs plus the needs of running a household, not to mention some of my own basic needs, I find I have so little energy left for my husband at the end of the day. I hate that I give him leftovers (not speaking about food here…), but sometimes that’s all I have to give! It’s so hard when you have babies who absolutely depend on you for survival. But I know I need to make my husband and my marriage a priority, too. One way or another I have to get this book! I am so excited to read it.

  375. Thank you so much for this post as well as the opportunity to win a copy of this book!

  376. Steph from the Philippines says:

    MY husband and I just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. I thank God that we surpassed the so-called “7 year itch”. I almost gave up on him and our relationship if it weren’t for God’s unending love. God brought us to a couple’s retreat last year, touched our hearts, and made us re-commit our lives to Jesus. True enough, when someone is in Christ, he is a new creation. And after hearing God’s design for marriage during the retreat, we felt like we were newly wed couples again – happily in love.

  377. Our youngest (4th) son is getting married this Saturday, so this will be the fourth and final wedding within the last 2 years and we will finally have an ’empty nest’. My husband and I will celebrate our 30th anniversary in a couple of weeks also, and we are looking very forward to this next season of life together. May I encourage young couples to make a priority of date nights and spending time with together so that you can also look forward to the time together when all the children are not at home. The years go by so quickly and you will be there before you know it!

  378. I’ll be entering the world of motherhood this summer, and I would love a copy of this book!

  379. I unfortunately am not married after two horrible marriages. I tried to keep them working but after 22 years of abuse I finally ask God to show me the way I should go and He got me out. Then I thought I had a good man until I found out he was living with another woman for two years of our 4 year marriage. Now I am waiting patiently for GOD to send a good man my way. Would love to read your book.

  380. Omg.
    How timely.
    Over 23 years of marriage there are lies that come in saying this marriage is falling apart, he doesnt deserve my love because he isnt showing me what i desire and many more i am sure.
    But its nice to have the truth that God first loved us, his love for us is our power source. And that God will love me always so i have zero excuse not to show love unconditionally to others, even my husband.

  381. I hope to win one of the books! God Bless You! 💕

  382. Ellen Reed says:

    Thank you for the post. I will use it in my life.

  383. Would love a copy!

  384. I needed to hear this. Kids are grown but both of us are busy running our business. I don’t give my husband the attention he deserves.

  385. Kimbra Nemmers says:

    Great read.

  386. I have held to this verse many times. My husband and I have had our struggles had challenges. But I am reminded that I must inyentionally love because I was first loved by God. It is a command. It is a covenant in our marriage.

  387. Tanja Whited says:

    My husband and I have been married almost 28 years now. We have had our ups and downs and have survived a lot together. We are still a work in progress but try very hard to make each other a priority.

  388. Teresa julian says:

    Thankfully, he loved me unconditionally!

  389. Debi Greene says:

    I loved your post. Please send your book. ❤️❤️💜❤️❤️

  390. Debi Greene says:

    Please consider me to win one of your books.💜

  391. This book looks perfect for me!! I have been divorced for 7 years, but my ex and I are now trying to reconcile!! ❤

  392. Sharon Gaddy says:

    Thank you for providing up the opportunity to receive this book. I would love to read it !

  393. Cheryl Ryan says:

    I have been convicted about loving my husband unconditionally for a little over 1 year now, and this book would help me to do it better.

  394. Patricia Kenyon says:

    With 25+ years behind us, we finally have time to spend with each other, date nights, jokes! he has a sense of humor!! Our children are grown so now our church family is closer for some reason. (Jesus is the reason)
    Would love to have the book to read and share!

  395. Jody carter says:

    God’s timing is perfect! Hoping to win this for a friend.

  396. This was the bible verse my husband and I chose for our wedding verse! We will have been married 5 years this summer! 🙂 This devo is just what I needed to read today!

  397. Something I really need… Please.

  398. Kimberly Carlson says:

    I’ve been home on maternity leave and as it’s coming to an end I’ve been concerned with the kids transitioning to childcare and getting the house in order etc. After reading this I called my mom to come watch the kids tomorrow night so I can go on a date with my husband. Tonight to show my love I’ll listen with my ears and heart. Thanks for this reminder!
    Lord help me to recognize your grace in my husband everyday!

  399. This sounds like a book I would love to read and learn from.

  400. Would ❤ to win this book!

  401. Great advice!!

  402. Lou Ellen Worboys says:

    We don’t show, demonstrate or feel love for one another after all these years of marriage…46.5 years! We now argue daily +…to go thru all these years and end up like this…disheartening to say the least…two different people!

  403. 13 years of marriage and 5 kids later, this looks like it could be a very interesting read.

  404. Looks good!

  405. grandmaann says:

    I have been married for 34 years and have 7 children. This article is exactly right. One thing I do to help my marriage is that every morning I write 2 things I am thankful to my husband for in a journal which I put in his office. Even if he doesn’t happen to read what I thanked him for, it keeps me focused on the positive and helps me remember what a blessing it is to be married to a good man.

  406. Shelley Sisson says:

  407. The perfect,unending love. This book is on my list to be read. I would love to win a copy!

  408. Kristin Hayes says:

    Great reminders! Thank you for these wonderful devotionals.

  409. Marcia L Morrow says:

    This book sounds so good and applicable to my life. I would love a copy.

  410. Yes we all need to learn super natural way to love one another, especially annoying people

  411. I would love to learn to accept God’s love, and others in that same way.

  412. Needed to read this today. The book sounds like what I need to help refocus.

  413. Stephanie says:

    What a great reminder! You have no idea how much I needed this today! It is so awesome how God works

  414. Courtney Fuller says:

    Oh my goodness! I felt like she was talking to me… three kids, 10 years of marriage! Only we didn’t get married in Oklahoma:) This spoke to my heart as I am sitting in the car after a long day of work with the kids and husband and I just made a not-so-nice comment to my husband! Thank you for the reminder to love because Jesus loves me… unconditionally! I can be kind to my husband, I can be patient with my family, I can be not jealous of the time my husband spends on work… I can strive to be the love of Christ to my family!

  415. Theresa O'Dell says:

    Thank you for speaking these words today.. Would love to have a copy of your book..

  416. Elisha Heffner says:

    What a great article and great reminder. Would love the book

  417. Thank you! Very timely message! Needed to hear this on so many levels! ❤️

  418. Love this

  419. Thank you, Becky. I’ve been struggling with some of these very issues. “We love because he first loved us” was what I needed to hear.

  420. Thank you for the article and opportunity to win what I am sure is a great book!

  421. What a beautiful love it is. He gave me this message when I needed it now that’s love. Thanks Becky for being a wonderful vessel message received on time….God bless

  422. Always good to read or hear a teaching on God’s unconditional love for us, especially in today’s society. Thank you for sharing your article on God’s love! Who He is to us, in us & through us! God is love! God bless!

  423. Lauren Gonzalez says:

    Thank you! Definitely an area I struggle with.

  424. Lori Fleming says:

    What a blessing this would be!

  425. Grace Crapitto says:

    I would love to give this to the mothers of my precious grandchildren, my daughter and daughter-in-law. They are incredibly wonderful mothers and I know would love to read this because they are so busy and this would be just what they need to hear.

  426. Alicia Ohlhauser says:

    Great devotion. We love because he first loved us was a verse at our wedding. Would love this book!

  427. Mary Young says:

    My husband and I will be celebrating our 50th wedding Anniversary in June and I would love to read your book and refresh my love for my husband. He is my first and last love and I thank God for sending me the best man on earth.❤ Thank you and God bless you.

  428. Laura Ray says:

    I wish I could have gotten a hold of a book like this before my marriage dissolved after 26 yrs. Would love to read before any future relationship. Thanks for sharing!

  429. Thank you for this thought provoking read! I would love to read more of this!

  430. Joy Marie Nuqui says:

    Eleven years of marriage , three kids, full-time pastoral family… Never been easy!
    The only way we can stick together is because of the grace of God… <3

  431. C. Johnston says:

    Thank you for the awesome reminder. Needed this today! Blessings and good luck to everyone in the drawing.

  432. Understanding God is an ongoing process built on love.

  433. Definitely needed that reminder!! I’m so stubborn and I struggle to love my husband when I don’t feel loved. Love is an action and a choice- NOT a feeling!!

  434. Ashley Shinn says:

    Could definitely use some inspiration to show love as I’ve been rather frustrated and unloving lately.

  435. Allison Manning says:

    Love this devotion! Needed it today! Would LOVE a copy of your book.

  436. Sounds like a good book with good advice. So hard some days to take care of everyone yet so important to try to.

  437. This is spot on. Only 2 years into marriage and it doesn’t come as spontaneously as it did before…

  438. I loved this devotion. My marriage is super rocky right now. My husband views me as a friend, not a wife or lover. Many reasons why, but this hit home. Trying so hard to live him in spite if the fact he shows nothing in return. I’m praying for the restoration of my marriage. Only God can fix what’s been broken. Only God can give me my husband back.

  439. Kimberley Wilson says:

    I would love to read this book. As a working mother and wife I feel unappreciated and overwhelmed. It is hard to love first when your don’t feel it returned from your spouse. I remind myself every day I need to be thankful for what I have and I can only control my actions but it is hard/. Thanks for the reminder.

  440. Brenda Adkins says:

    I would like to have the book because I have been through a lot in the past few years .

  441. Melissa Doellinger says:

    I am a SAHM to 5 youngsters ages 11-2. Married for almost 13 years! I need this book and would love to read it!

  442. See Yang says:

    Thank you for the Devo. It was heart felt and confirmation from God. May God bless you in your ministry.

  443. I would love to have a copy of the book! What a great perspective, especially about marriage. Marriage is hard. Remembering to love because God first loved me, well, that needs no more explanation. Thank you God for loving us, so that we may show others love in return.

  444. Rachel meacham says:

    Would very much like to read this book!

  445. Sandra H. says:

    Thanks for the opportunity. I’d love to read this book.

  446. An incredible reminder… Thank you😊

  447. Misty Greer says:

    Thank you for this. It’s sort of been on the back burner of my mind and while my husband would never verbalized this I’m sure I’ve made him feel less than #1 in our family. I appreciate your insight and look forward to memorizing the scriptures you referenced and focusing more on my marriage!

  448. A beautiful reminder to reflect on at the end of the day- of God’s love which is freely given to us and how much more we are to love those precious souls that God places in our lives!

  449. Loved the devotional and know I’d love your book.

  450. Thanks for the reminder 🙂

  451. With a 15 month old toddler and an already hectic schedule… this was a good reminder. Thank you ❤️

  452. Melissa Bartmess says:

    I would love this book!!💙

  453. Mindy Denae says:

    This article/devotion is just what I needed today. I have struggled with love for my boyfriend for so long. Not a struggle of living him but a struggle of feeling loved sometimes. Reading this really helps to realize how busy our livea truly are.

  454. Would love to get this book! Just the blurb really makes me think

  455. Would love this book!

  456. Thank you for sharing such insightful truths!

  457. Norma Wolkowski says:

    My husband and I have been married 64 years and still treat each other with respect, admiration and love. Through 4 children, 9 great grandchildren and now 6 great-grandchildren, we’ve certainly experienced our ups and downs. But with Jesus as the head of our household, it has kept us in check to set a good example for our children. I would so appreciate this book so I could pass it along and show a young couple the way to improve their marriage”. Thank you for sharing this book … God Bless

  458. Much needed! It seems like there are many resources on how to survive mommyhood, but not on how to nurture your marriage through that time. Thank you!

  459. You have no idea how P31 has poured into my life these past 6 months! And this article was just another example of God speaking to me thru you. God bless P31 ministries!!

  460. Hefi Thiesing says:

    I have prayed for guidance and on my journey found you. I will continue to read your posts! Very reassuring, thank you.

  461. Thank you! Would love to win a book!

  462. Victoria Walker says:

    Exactly what I needed to hear, thank you!

  463. Great message at the right time!

  464. Vicky Nordeen says:

    This is such a needed message and one not just needed as a reminder to those married but for all of us. It’s difficult to love someone when you don’t feel the love you deserve, but we all have a choice to love. I cannot expect others to love me, but I can choose to love others as God loves me.

  465. Ashley May says:

    Wow! This verse keeps popping up in my life lately. And every time it teaches me to love others. I have been the type to wait till shown love to show love at times. Especially towards people who I feel don’t love me. I am changing thanks to God who helps me. I want to be the one who loves others first. After all I am learning we need to show love to others, it’s what God wants us to do. Thank you so much for this article.

  466. What encouraging words! I’d love to read this whole book!

  467. Love, There are so many different ways we love the people in our lives. So differently, yet we call it love.

  468. Would love to read this!

  469. What a great reminder and encouragement this was for me. Thank you.

  470. What a great reminder and encouragement this was. Thank you!

  471. Ada Montanez says:

    Beautiful reading.

  472. Brandy Baldevia says:

    I really needed this today. Thank you.

  473. Amy Dowty says:

    What a beautiful picture of how to love. Thank you!

  474. Dawn sloboda says:

    Always so timely! A great reminder!

  475. Dottie Russell says:

    I LOVE reading Proverbs 31 stories. They have helped me with my marriage and I hope to one day sponsor a bible study for women on the Proverbs 31 Woman. Thank you so much! Keep them coming!!

  476. Francessca says:

    I love love LOVE this. So true

  477. This is such a great way to think about loving our husbands. I struggle with this every day but this point gave me a new focus. I would love to read this book and hope it would help me all the more.

  478. Need this reminder everyday !

  479. Pick me. I’d love to read the book.

  480. Cristina mikolajczyk says:

    I’d love to red this as I’m going through a tough season in my marriage. Thank you for your encouraging words

  481. Karissa pulliam says:

    Loved this. Such wisdom thank you!

  482. Toni Lakshin says:

    I can show my husband I love him by making his favorite meal, even if it takes a little longer or dirties a few more pans than I want to clean. I can try to notice the little things that need to be done around the house and when he is talking to me, take the time to really listen to him and make eye contact as I would a customer, instead of being distracted by everything else. Thank you for the reminder!

  483. Would love to read this book!! It’s been on my wish list for a while!

  484. Tera Wilson says:

    Loved reading this!! Every married couole makd or female can always need a,little reminder to step it up a,notch and bting that spark back. Woulx love a,copy of your book!

  485. Tera Wilson says:

    Loved reading this!! Every married couple male or female can always use a little reminder to step it up a,notch and bring that spark back. Would love a copy of your book!

  486. Monica Faulk says:

    Just discovered proverbs 31. Would like to read the book. Looking forward to seeing your posts.

  487. Good to read these truths – helps to give perspective on the everyday. Thanks xx

  488. This was a great devotion. My marriage grew apart and he left me for a younger woman. Married women love first and put your husband before your children.

  489. My marriage needs this book!

  490. I would love to receive a copy of this delightful book as an aspiring mother and wife. I would love to use it in women’s meeting to teach and encourage other women. I would be very happy to read it and recoomend the book to women here in Germany and Europe. I think the African women, as well as the Dutch and Germans which I know, would greatly benefit from this wonderful resource. It is an inspiration and I am very excited for a joint cooperation in bringing such marriage books to Germany to bring about a blessed change!

    God’s love and blessings!

    Stephanie from Germany

  491. Thank you for this devotion. There are a few things I struggle with daily and loving my husband is the hardest. Time, business, different interests, he is an unbeliever, amongst many reasons why I struggle. This is a great reminder on where to draw the love I need to love him.

  492. I could show my husband a lot more grace.

  493. Marva Lubben says:

    This was just what I needed to hear today. My husband and I have been struggling because of some choices he made in the past, and this convinced me I need to work harder at restoring our marriage and loving him more. Thank you.

  494. I would love to receive a copy of this. As a fairly new christian, and mother of 2 children under 5 I am always in need of God’s word to strengthen the bond I created 6+ years ago with my husband.thank you!

  495. This would be a truly amazing gift for a friend of mine that is struggling in her marriage. Thank you so much for reminding us of scriptures we should live by daily but seem to forget.

  496. Amanda C Schnable says:

    I would love a copy of this book!

  497. Sarah Ricker says:

    What a helpful reminder to love selflessly the way a Christ loves us!

  498. I would love to win this book.

  499. Today’s devotion resegnated with me especially the way we treat each other now compared to in our wedding day. We haven’t nurtured each other in far to long. Our marriage needs God’s healing grace.

  500. Simone Williams says:

    I needed this reminder. It’s so hard to not think selfishly and only give love when we receive it. Thank you for reminding me that is not how God loves!

  501. Thank you for sharing. Definitely something I fall short of every single day…loving my husband the way God wants me to but I know I can. Striving to be better.

  502. Jessica Bullard says:

    I have been following you on social media for the last year or so and I can’t tell you how many times you have written exactly what I need to hear when I need to hear it. This devotiom was no exception. Thank you for being such an encoutagement.

  503. Isn’t it crazy how the enemy wants us to feel as if we are alone?
    Not only did this resonate with me, I shared this with everyone I know. What a beautiful, honest heart you have. Thank you so very much!!!

  504. When I look at my husband I see him like he looked 35 years ago with so much love. I feel like a teenager all over again. Lately with the stress of have a handicapped adult son with special needs and a teenager my frustration level has been at it’s highest level. I feel overwhelmed and I stopped making our marriage a priority. I miss those special moments we had with each other. The love we shared so strong has disappeared. I never imagined it could happen to us. I don’t feel close anymore like I did. To be honest we stopped spending time with each other. I desperately want it back. I love him so. Help🙃

  505. Thank you for these words of encouragement. My husband and I just retired and we have recently discovered that we both have cancer. We were suppose to take a fabulous vacation and enjoy the rest of our lives. Going to medical appts and feeling miserable all the time was not the plan. I started feeling resentment and anger toward my husband and not loved. He has always been a loving and encouraging husband optimistic about God’s direction in our lives. I don’t know what is going to happen in our next chapter of our lives only God does, but I’m glad we’ll be together and I pray that I instill in my heart God’s words to be there for my husband. Please pray for us.

  506. Great reminder for today! Much needed ☺️

  507. Brittany Webber says:

    What a wonderful read! My husband and I have a 4 month old, I sometimes feel as though I don’t pay him enough attention. This was such a blessing for me to read today.

  508. Heather Phillips says:

    I am in a one year master program with a one year old daughter. My husband works off one month and then home one month. I truly needed to hear this because I get so wrapped up in school and taking care of little one and not much time with my husband. This sample really made me think of how little time I do spend with my husband. Thank you for the chance to win a copy of this amazing book.

  509. Boy, how I need this. There are days I feel it is hard to love……….even when I know I do. What an awesome answer to love!!!

  510. Michaelene says:

    It is often so hard to love first when we don’t feel loved. Thank you for sharing these words of hope and pointing out that God loves us.

  511. What a great reminder!!

  512. Yes!It’s not even about loving God back because He first loved us. It’s about loving…period. And where better than with our spouse?

  513. Esther Bonsu says:

    This is a good reminder, there are days that loving becomes so difficult, but we have to anyway because of God’s love for us

  514. This is beautiful.

  515. I need to read this book!

  516. Thanks for the reminder from I John about we can love because of God loving us first – this is so important. That we respond to love, accept love and give love out of the love we receive from Him. Would enjoy reading this book. Thanks for the offer.

  517. Michelle says:

    I shared this with my roommate this morning as we had Bible Study in our living room. As she prepares for marriage, I think it’s so important to be hearing about more than just the sunshine and rainbows of getting married. We had such a wonderful conversation because of this post. Thank you for sharing!

  518. Lea Hysom says:

    The diagram with line diverging lines was a sobering wake up call! Would love to read her ideas. Thx!

  519. Would love to read this book

  520. Erica Staley says:

    I love the book I hope I’m a winner !

  521. Josephine Mercado-Cruz says:

    Thanks for yesterday’s devotional about unending love. Being a mom, co-worker, daughter and wife is not always easy. This devotional inspires me to make it a point to show more love to others and especially to my husband! God bless and thanks for sharing!!!

  522. Patricia Davey says:

    Wow that is so true
    i would love a book

  523. Kim Morris says:

    Thank you so much for your beautiful words! They speak so much truth and love into my life and marriage with 3 kiddos 5, 3 and 2 and a very ambitious husband.
    I would love to read this book soon!

  524. Mart Craig says:

    God is Love!!

  525. Your devotional has given me food for thought. Thank you for listening to the Spirit when you were prompted to write those words

  526. Thank you so much…I really needed to read that.

  527. Great devotional to apply to my life today! I would love to read your book.

  528. I’d love to read this book! This devotional is great!

  529. Sarah Cate says:

    I definitely need to learn to better love my husband from the love of God and not of myself. Thank you for this reminder.

  530. What a perfect message for me to hear today. Thx

  531. God is Good all the time💖

  532. Darlene Ruthenbeck says:

    Needed to hear this ! busy.. busy.. busy.. serving others, being a caregiver and so exhausted at the end of day Husbands need us to love them ALWAYS Amen!

  533. Marriage is hard, marriage is a blessing. So thankful for the man and marriage God has blessed us with!

  534. So enjoyed this article! Would love to read more!

  535. I needed this reminder! My love for others should be based on God’s love for me, not other people’s treatment of me. Thank you!

  536. Tasha Beck says:

    I loved reading this today. Thank you for this gentle reminder! My wedding day was so similar to yours as it poured all day, but I didn’t care one bit. I was marrying the man of my dreams and that’s all that mattered. My husband and I will be married 13 years in June and have 2 beautiful children. My love for him grows every day but I don’t think I’m doing such a good job of showing him that. We are going through some things right now that are definitely distracting us from loving each other as God loves us. This devotional has helped me see that and I am so thankful. 🙂

  537. Wonderful! We were discussing marriage and divorce in bible study this week and the topic of love came up and how it’s not just an emotion, it’s a choice, a commitment. I need to remember this in the midst of our own 12 years of marriage and three children. I need to remember that it’s not ok to never see him or not to make an effort.

  538. I would love to win this book! I can imagine the blessing it would be for my family. I really do hope I win it!!!

  539. I pray God blesses your ministry of writing and gives you even more wisdom to share!🙏

  540. This devotion really hit home. Thank you!

  541. ShannonK says:

    Great reminder to choose to love and the much greater reason to do so.

  542. Frank Atta says:

    It never occurred to me that 1John 4:9 means we ought to love all because our heavenly father first love us…I have read this verse several times but the understanding now is different.

    Many thanks!


  543. Angela Barrett says:

    Thank you so much for this message! This is exactly where we are! So much going on in our lives. Just lost my mom, two small children (1 & 3 yrs). I needed this more than I can say!

  544. Lynnae Gorman says:

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you

  545. After 18 years of marriage this is true. We are going thru hard times and the enemy is working over time, but I’m fighting. I’m trying so hard to bring back that original, pure love that we shared but my husband is so distracted by all the things we’ve gone thru that he’s living in the past and won’t let go. I know that the enemy is hard at work in him, but God is hard at work in me. But I need help, it’s just tiring and my health issues don’t help.

  546. I would love to win a copy of this book

  547. Danelle Mutchler says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book. I need to re-learn how to love my husband as he is.

  548. Wow. What a kick in the butt devotion. We re three kids in and 8 years of marriage and just feeling all of this with little direction of what to do to help make it better. Thanks for sharing, Becky. Wish we could be friends.

  549. Jo Hoover says:

    Thank you for your continuous encouragement! As my own marriage has been torn apart, I take refuge in the endless love from my savior, Jesus.

  550. Brooke Bakker says:

    Great devotional! Hope to win the book!

  551. Love is not self seeking. I often find myself holding back love because I want love in return but that is not a God kind of love. I am growing in this area. I need to remember to love because God loved not because is get sometime in return all the time. How often do I not show God live?

  552. Absolutely do I love hearing God’s word & scripture through the eyes & hearts of those who are willing to sacrifice pride & humility in order to carry & shine the light of Jesus to His people through their own examinations! What a beautiful example of faith & courage we compassionately demonstrate as we lift others up through our own experiences, Giving God the Glory!

  553. Alisha Britt says:

    This is a great reminder of being intentional with the love we have been given by GOD! Thank you!

  554. Holly Copeland says:

    Great message, would love to read this book.

  555. This is exactly what I needed today! Thanks!

  556. Yes, we do need to be reminded that God first loved us. I agree with you, we also need to remember how we first felt about our husbands to enhance our current love for him.Our love grows in the Lord and intertwines with our love for others.

  557. Debi Milano says:

    Thank you . I saved these encouragements I signed up for a few days ago then had company for a few days altho I was reading my Bible study.”discerning the voice of God” by Priscilla Shrier . I am reading them today and this one & the next on the list were just what I needed to hear!!!

  558. I facilitate my church’s Stronger Together Marriage Workshop for couples that are dating, engaged, or already married and would love to give one of Becky’s books to one of the couples currently enrolled in the workshop. I also can relate to ‘choosing’ to love my husband no matter how he is treating me, because I made my faith commitment over 30 years ago and have known God’s unconditional love in my life more and more ever since which empowers me to love the people that God puts in my life. we will celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary this August, Lord willing and the creek don’t rise. thanks for the encouragement from one of God’s daughters, motivational leader, seminary graduate, wife, mother, grandmother, pastor’s wife and ministry partner of Lakeshore Community Church, Rochester, NY. Remember, you all are loved! Sue DiPaola

  559. This so touched me! I am totally struggling with loving my husband when he doesn’t show me love. We are very busy with 3 kids in sports and various activities and we both work and are active in the community. Time for each other? What is that?!?! My it kills my heart in deep places and I am lonely. I need to check out this book!

  560. Sammy Williams says:

    Wow! Today was the first day I’ve gotten an email from this ministry. I just signed up. I’ve been a Christian since I was 17 and I am 50 today.
    I’m in my third marriage. I never thought I would be married three times never.

    This lesson on love and loving your spouse today is for me! I’ve been so busy finding all his flaws. All the things he doesn’t do right.
    God forgive me, and He has and always does, I know better! I know a mans very first need is honor. I have dishonered my husband ! Thank you for the wake up!
    We use to be best friends, we have had a lot of pressure lately and offence is the bait of satan .I know first hand if I continue doing what I’m doing, devorce won’t be far behind.
    Thank You again!

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