I Want to Quit

I Want to Quit

February 9, 2015

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 (NIV)

I pulled the blankets up over my shoulders, rolled over in bed and just stared at the bright red numbers on my alarm clock. I was exhausted, but couldn’t fall asleep.

An endless stream of thoughts rushed through my mind — one question cascaded over another. Before I knew it, another hour had passed and I was no closer to dreamland than before.

I don’t want to go to work tomorrow. Maybe I can call in sick. I wonder if I can get anyone to fill in for me? My job is hard and I feel unappreciated.

But calling in sick was not an option because my job was motherhood, and the “clients” who would be waiting for me early the next morning were my 4-year-old and 6-month-old boys.

My husband and I were married nine years before our first son was born. I waited a long time to be a member of the Mommy Club. Finally, my dream came true and I was determined to be the best mommy ever!

Nothing brought me greater joy than to see their sweet smiles and bed-head hair every morning. But can I be honest? It was also very challenging raising those little guys.

Despite reading every parenting magazine I could, I still struggled with the day-to-day demands. It seemed my real-life parenting skills didn’t measure up to those moms who wrote the magazine articles.

I quickly discovered motherhood wasn’t for wimps.

Twenty-four hours a day. Seven days a week. Fifty-two weeks a year. I was on duty. And there was no paycheck waiting for me on Friday afternoons.

I was a chef, doctor, storyteller, and when disagreements erupted I’d pull out my referee hat.

I changed poopy diapers, refilled sippy cups and washed dirty clothes. All. The. Time. In moments of weariness, I’d whisper to myself, I want to quit. Then mommy-guilt would flood my heart as I’d settle into a deeper level of discouragement.

Why don’t I feel joy doing something I’ve dreamed about for so many years?

Maybe you’ve experienced those moments when the demands of parenting collide with your stretched emotions and fragile feelings, causing your heart to become weary.

If you’re like me, you realize motherhood is a high calling. You see your children as treasured gifts from God and your home as a gathering place where loved ones are nurtured and blessings abound.

But, there are those days when demands run high, patience runs thin and weariness creeps in. That is when we can hold on to the hope of today’s key verse, Galatians 6:9: “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

Raising children is like growing a spiritual crop with the potential of a priceless, abundant harvest. As moms, we need to care for, watch over and tenderly love our children every day, just as a farmer tends to his valuable crops.

Raising children well requires a daily dose of love, commitment and perseverance. As moms, we can approach each challenge knowing we’re not alone. The Lord is with us and we can call on Him in times of weariness. He is always ready to extend the grace, guidance and strength we need.

As we celebrate the giggles and messy moments of our children, let us remember the great harvest God has waiting for us if we persevere. We may not see immediate results, but if we continue doing good and trust God with the rest, in due time we will reap a harvest of blessings!

Father God, thank You for the priceless gift of my child/children. Help me raise them according to Your will and not my own. When I become weary, fill me with Your strength so that I can persevere in parenting well. Thank You for the promise of a harvest if I don’t give up. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Hebrews 10:35-36, “So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.” (NIV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
In her book, Am I Messing Up My Kids? … and Other Questions Every Mom Asks, Lysa TerKeurst shares how mothers can release mommy-guilt when the bouts of stress come from managing life and home.

Stop by Leah DiPascal’s blog today and discover 5 Ways To Persevere When Parenting Young Children. You can also sign up for a RefresHER giveaway.

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
What is your greatest struggle as a mom? Write down one action step you can take today that will help you move forward as you seek God’s will in this area of challenge.

Is there someone you know who is going through a difficult time in raising her own children? What is one thing you can do today to help encourage and cheer her on in the midst of her own parenting struggles?

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  1. After becoming widowed, raising my daughter on my own. I did get a full time job but we had to move to a town 3 years away. I was still grieving and missing my husband deeply. Doing all this on my own, God had answered giving me a job but I found the people so harsh and mean to work with. This was in a public health medical office where you expect the people to be more professional. I cried buckets. Cried out to God. I have been taking a break from attending church as I feel exhausted by the weekend with problems with insomnia.

    • IJ, I’m praying for you this morning. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate as you try to balance two full-time jobs: motherhood and your position as a health provider. May you be comforted by the Lord as He draws near to you today.

      • Because my husband and I can’t have natural children, we have two four-legged ones…a leopard gecko anda bearded dragon. Unfortunately, it’s a learning process with our bearded dragon because we’ve never had one before. My husband and I feel blessed that we’re doing a good job; however, we don’t want to be bad pet parents whatsoever, doing something that may end up harming our baby. It’s a learning process that will last forever.
        “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
        Amen! What a wonderful way of waking up on this Monday morning! No matter what we go through, we will be blessed if we allow the Lord to do a work in and through our lives at all times.
        “Father God, thank You for the priceless gift of my child/children. Help me raise them according to Your will and not my own. When I become weary, fill me with Your strength so that I can persevere in parenting well. Thank You for the promise of a harvest if I don’t give up. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. “~ Leah DiPascal
        Amen! For those of us who have children, or even just those around us, we should definitely thank God for what He has given us throughout our entire lives. When we don’t think we deserve it, God’s going to most definitely bless us.
        Hebrews 10:35-36, “So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.” (NIV) Amen! How so incredibly true! God wants to bless us with what we deserve when we’ve fulfilled whatever it is that He has a will for us to do. God wants us to shower others with His unconditional love at all times,no matter what their circumstances may be.

    • I too am raising my two young kids full time while working. Their father passed away 2 years ago. It is VERY exhausting and demanding, Many days I am not my best self and then there are those days I think “Man..God you sure have blessed us”. This is a great devotion and the verse really speaks to my heart this morning

  2. I. J.,

    I’m deeply sorry about the loss of your husband. I can’t imagine how hard it must be. However, I know what it’s like to cry out to God for just a little rest, for just a bit of peace. It doesn’t happen immediately, but I’ve found that taking slow, deep breaths and reminding myself that I am the Lord’s quiets and refocuses my mind. God never quits or gives up. We are His! I hope you find peace and rest soon.

  3. This is one of the verses that got me through the toughest parts of the relationship I had to walk away from, after 10 years. I admit, I thought things would go differently, and I didn’t understand why .. but proverbs 3:5 tells me it’s not necessarily for me to understand at this time, and for all I know, it may be that I never do understand it. It will simply be a part of me, of which is wiser.

  4. Suzanne C says:

    As I began reading the “I want to Quit” devotional today I thought, I am not a mom this will not apply to me. But the Lord prodded me to keep reading. I am a working wife with a husband who is no longer able to work because of his cerebral palsy. Many times I have struggled with wanting to Quit, because in addition to my full time job, I am doing most of the chores in the home now. This devotion made me realize that I cannot Quit. The Lord is by my side each time I struggle. He is my refuge and strength! I must press on. Thank you for the devotional for today.

    • Suzanne, I’m so glad you continued to read this devotion. No matter what roles we have in life, we all need to be encouraged by God’s Word and reminded that He is with us every day. You are absolutely right … He is our refuge and strength!

  5. I related to your writings this morning, but have found that remembering child-rearing is like remembering childbirth. I remember those years as the best of my life, forgetting the day to day frustrations and remembering the smiles and notes in crayons. My boys are in their 20’s now but I would go back to those years in a minute – that’s proof of my selective memory!

    • Kristi, thank you for sharing these words of encouragement. I know it will be a source of great encouragement to young moms that read your comments. I’d do it all over again too – raising my boys. I’d just be a little wiser the second go-round. 🙂

  6. What an appropriate devotion this morning. I ask for your prayers for my son. He is struggling badly.

    • Mignon, I’m praying for your son this morning. I don’t know what he’s going through, but God does. He created your son with great purpose and plans. As you pour out your heart like water in prayers for your son, know that God hears you and is ready to help in this time of need.

  7. Kristi,
    That is so encouraging for me to hear! Both of my girls are under 5 and I often find myself looking very much forward to the times that they’re older and independent.
    But thankfully God reminds me that having little ones is a very very short and very blessed season. So I’m trying my hardest to grasp every second!

  8. Thanks so much! Exhausted from being woken up every night for the past 3 days and caring for a special needs child as well when my husband is away on business most of the time.

    • Courtney, I remember those sleepless nights and days when you feel like you’re running on fumes. Maybe it’s time to call in the troops – a friend or a relative that can help. It’s amazing how an afternoon nap or 30 minutes of quiet time can refresh a mom in need of some rest.

  9. Blessing O says:

    I honestly thank God for this message,it has really encouraged me and giving me hope that God is the one that appreciates and rewards all our good works. Two weeks ago I nearly gave up on my marriage because I felt that my husband was not sensitive and appreciative of the works I do both for him and our children but thank God that 2day I have learnt that my works are been rewarded by God if not now but in time to come and I must not QUIT.

  10. Stephanie says:

    I.J,
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I also am a widow since November 2013 and raising two young boys ages 2 and 5. I understand the exhaustion and missing my husband greatly. I also know that the workplace is not always a friendly or encouraging atmosphere. Can I please encourage you to get connected to a solid, Christ centered church. The fellowship and encouragement from believers is vital to our spiritual and even physical health. Read Hebrews 10:24-25. God does not leave us alone and without help. The exhaustion and stress can lead to physical issues also, and I have experienced those too. Another thing that has been very encouraging to myself and many people I know is a grief support group called Griefshare. It is a Christ centered, Biblical support group with others going through similar losses. It is a safe place to share your feelings and struggles.
    I want you to know that I will be praying for you today and as you come into my mind. Once again, I’m sorry for your loss.

    • Stephanie, thank you for taking time out this morning to encourage IJ and others who will read your comments. As you encourage others, may you also be encouraged today. Your boys are blessed to have such a wonderful mommy who knows and relies on the promises of God’s Word.

  11. I understand fully how weary it can make you when you care for a family full of kids but it’s harder to cart them off to a day care every day in order to work outside the home. I would sometimes get frustrated when my stay home mom friends would commiserate about how hard their calling was when I would’ve given anything to have had the opportunity. Being a mom is not a job for sissies and being a single mom is harder. Let’s thank God for all unseen blessings.

  12. I’m a mom of a professional cowboy. Which means our 24 year old son is on the road traveling many miles almost 24/7. Discouragement , when he doesn’t well, is a big problem. But it is his passion. So when I read today’s devotional it was encouraging for me to be able to tell him” don’t give up”. Your race is not over. God will supply his needs for him to continue to do what he loves. Thanks for the encouragement. I’ll pass it along today.

  13. Tiffany R says:

    God was at work this morning. I had just read this verse before I pulled up this blog post and was surpassed to see it here. I have this verse on my refrigerator to remind me that I have to keep preserving when times get tough. Motherhood is not for wimps. I am going to forward this to a few friends that I think could use the encouragement. God Bless.

  14. I wish this reading was enough to get me going again & feel confident again. If only it were that easy. I have 5 children, recently divorced & the struggle is real. My 21 year old is very slow at growing up & causes me great worry, but I’ve decided there’s not much more I can do for her. My 17 year old doesn’t want to grow up & is recovery from being abused emotionally from my ex-husband. He is also full of anger & won’t communicate much. My 11 year old is doing well all around but I worry about her still. My 7 year old is hyper & can’t stay focused & last but not least my 6 year old has anger issues & the school calls me almost every day. I am tired of being tired. I am tired of being ineffective & having no solutions. I simply wish for a little peace.

    • Tresie, as I read your comments I’m reminded of these words in Romans 15:13, May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” I”m praying that as you lay your burdens before the Lord and trust Him to supply all your needs, you heart will overflow with peace for today and hope for tomorrow.

  15. I needed this one today!!! I have had a difficult time lately, with my kids. Then my husband got a promotion, which is great, but it requires months of traveling so I’m about to be doing this on my own… I know, don’t whine. It IS tough, though. Then last night I got about an hour or two of sleep because my 18 month old had me up all night… So I’ll say again, thank you for writing this. It helps keep things in perspective for me.

  16. This message is quite timely for me. I’ve been married now for six years and I greatly desire to have children. My husband and I have had some major ups and downs but God continues to show Himself faithful. After reading this message, I’m reminded that God’s timing is the best timing. I will definitely continue to pray for my future children but for the time being I will patiently rest in God’s arms as He continues to prepare me for my future. Thank you for this reminder.

  17. When I first began reading this devotion I assumed it referred to work outside the home. My thought was, wow, can I relate to that today! I want to stay home today and not struggle through the snow to get to work. As I continued to read I understood the emotions being stated. I have been a parent for 50 years and went through all these. emotional roller coasters. The hardest job in the world is parenthood – no instruction booklet comes with each child – ie, when Jimmy has a melt down turn to page 20…. As each of my children have had children of their own, each has called to say, Mom, “I don’t know how you did it, I am exhausted.” Sending all mothers a great big cheer for all you give and do for your child, children, 24 hours a day, 365 days per year. God bless you all.

  18. Thank you so much for this beautiful post! My twin boys are teenagers now and I’m discovering a whole new set of challenges. I pray all the time for the strength to be the mom they need even when I’m feeling weary and discouraged. This message was very uplifting in its gentle honesty. Thank you!
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  19. @Tessie, I also have 5 kids (11,7,6,3,2). Last year my husband was incarcerated for 8 1/2 months & I had to do everything. All of my family is 4 1/2 hours away & couldn’t do much. I prayed, pleaded, cried, and shouted for some rest & help. God provided a great church family that was there for my family during those months in ways my blood family could not be there for us. I learned so many things about my strength during hard times, accepting my life with all the flaws & imperfections. I felt like giving up so many times & still do at times but God is always reminding me how much my children need me. This devotion is a great reminder why not to give up!

  20. I believe this goes with being a wife as well. Getting ready for 2 is already a lot of work, and I can only imagine getting ready for myself, my husband and my kids when the time is right. I already feel overwhelmed with the daily tasks that come with being a wife. I need a day off, I want to relax, please don’t bother me! But, I know that I need to / want to do these things for my husband to make sure that I fulfill my duty as his wife. I also have to constantly remind myself that I am doing things wife love.
    God, I know when I get home from my day job, my night job does not stop: being a wife to my husband. Please give me the strength I need and the understanding, along with the strength my husband needs and the understanding, to get things done together and with love. In Jesus name, Amen

  21. Dianna Smith says:

    I needed this lesson shared today. It applies not only me the Mommy but also the student, the co-worker, daughter of the Sovereign Lord. I turn 49yrs only tomorrow. While I am so very pleased to see another blessed year Lord Willing, I have allowed my walk with Christ to weary me in my spirit. This lesson reassures me that I will get tired but weary means something different in this context: tarrying in the mind-set of weary will wear you out and make you think giving is an actual viable option. Now I am encouraged to by this refreshing lesson. God Bless this ministry and the time spent away from your own families to uplift all ours. In Christ, Dee Dee

  22. Thank you for your devotional. I also want to quit most of the time. My son’s marriage broke up, and at 53, I was given custody of my only grandson, age 1. Just after he turned 2, my husband fell out of bed and died of a heart attack.
    My 22 year old son with Asperger’s and Social Anxiety Disorder, my grandson, and I moved to an old farmhouse that I manage to buy outright with my late husband’s insurance.
    The house needs lots of work, but it is a roof, and since I am heating with only space heaters, my electric bill is over $500 a month this winter so far.
    I apologize for whining, I just really needed to get it out.
    We found a church that is awesome to my ADHD grandson, and they are good people, I guess I just don’t know how to make friends anymore.
    This house is a mess, and I have prayed and tried to push myself into cleaning, but I have NO energy at all.
    Please say a prayer or two…..I know God loves me!

    • Tammy Harrington says:

      Theresa, I am asking God to send comfort your way and to help you with your sons and grand sons. Also I pray that God will provide you peace in a time that seems like turmoil. I pray he gives you direction to walk in his path. Jeremiah 29:11. Just remember God is on your side. You may want to look at a grief support group in your area because many times we ficus in everyone else but forget about ourselves. Love and prayers going your way.

    • Theresa, I am also praying for you and your family today. I agree with Tammy that your home church would be a great source of help, encouragement and support for your family during this time of need. As the body of Christ, we are equipped by God to help one another. It’s one way we can share the love of Jesus with each other.

      • Thank you Leah!
        It is a very small church, and not very close to home. Great people, but they have busy lives, and I am in introvert.

  23. Vicky Rogers says:

    Good morning all:) The 5 ways to persevere while parenting are very helpful tools for any parent. They all resonated with me in some way. However, if I had to pick one that stood out the most to me in this time of my parenting experience it would be the “Praise Instead of Pounce”. I have a 5 year old little boy and 6 year old little girl. My first reaction to disobedience lately has been anger and lecturing. Two things that do not work for either of these age groups. It makes me think of the scripture that Paul wrote in Romans 7:15 that says ” For what I do not will this I do. But what I hate, this I do.” It can be hard at times to focus on ALL the good things my children do and focus in on just the wrong things. I am thankful to God that He has brought this to my attention and I know through prayer He will work this out in me:) I cant help but also mention the Perfectionism one. I am not perfect, but He is and His Holy Spirit lives in me and He will work His good works through me. I am thankful I do not have to be perfect. What a refreshing reminder that my kids do not need a perfect parent, but they do need a loving parent. Thank you Leah for letting the Lord use you!!

    • Vicky, I can tell by all that you’ve shared in your comments that you love your kids, you love Jesus and He is shining brightly through you! Thank you for sharing with us today.

  24. Jeni zapor says:

    Good stuff. I remember. It has gotten so much easier now that they are 11 and 8 but I think it could be easy to give up without knowing it. When they are so young you almost have no choice but to serve, but when they are older I have to be more proactive with them…when sometimes I just want to be self absorbed. Don’t give up then either.

  25. Thank you for this article! It came at exactly the right time. The last month has been a real struggle because we just moved to a new town and my husband has started his new job and hasn’t had a day off in over a month. I’m weary to say the least and lonely. I’ve seriously considered going back to work because I’m so tired and feel like I’m doing a horrible job with my girls who are both struggling with the new everything and not having their daddy around as much. I feel like so many moms have it all together and anytime I think about how I struggle I feel guilt. Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone. Thank you for sharing your story!

  26. While I sympathize with the author, try doing it with a full time job and 4 part time jobs. I lived on 3 hours sleep for 20 years. I talked to God a lot and with His guidance my two kids turned out great and I now have two adorable granddaughters.

  27. Patty Buessing says:

    I am now 58 years d and have raised 2 wonderful daughters. I can remember many times feeling overworked, exhausted and unappreciated. There were so many more times of overwhelming happiness and joy in being a mom. Now I am my mom’s caretaker full time . So this article was so good to read because I feel like I am a parent all over again:( My mom is 91 with dementia. Some days are so tiring and difficult. I know God renews my strength each morning. The only real difference is that my mom won’t grow up anymore:( I won’t have that joy of seeing her accomplish goals like our children do. Dementia is a cruel disease. Once again, thanks for the encouraging words because I don’t an on quitting:)

    • Patty you are a wonderful mother and daughter. DEMENTIA IS SUCH A CRUEL DISEASE…God’s cotinuous strength, favor, peace, joy, perseverance i pray for you 24hours of each day….Press on terrific human being Patty Buessing!!!

  28. Alicia O'Brien says:

    Thank you so much for today’s message! I REALLY needed to hear that! I have been struggling and feeling this way for the last few weeks, but have been learning that I need to rely on God at theses times. I have 2 boys; 4 and 1 y/o. Motherhood is not for sissy’s! Tough job! I didn’t realize how tough until I had my 2nd son.

  29. Ann Kennedy says:

    Hi I want to thank you for words of incourgement iam 57 a mom of 4 adult childern two grils two boys grown on there own mostly iam grandmother of two grandchildern and one on the way your words of wisdom is helpful and iam able to padt your eords of incouragment my love ones and it helps me known raisning my four adult childern the best way I knew how. I look forward to you everey day . God bless your minsetry nana.ann

  30. Thanks to all for posting! To those weary of the physical challenges caring for spouses and children with special needs , I pray for someone who can enter your life and provide services to give you a break from the burden. For the moms with older children who are reeling from emotional upheaval, please do your best not to get on their roller coaster ride. Please put on your oxygen mask first and allow the Lord to minister to you. To moms of little ones, please treasure the moments as they grow so fast. Sleep when they sleep. One of my favorite bible promises is “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path” which I often prayed as “Lord, Just enough light for the step I’m on, please!”. God bless!

  31. Today’s devotion is an answered prayer. I am a mom of three, a 7yo, 5yo, and 1yo. After much prayer and study my husband and I decided to homeschool our children. We feel very blessed that God led us to this decision over the three precious gifts of stewardship He placed in our care. It has been an amazing journey so far and there have been so many wonderful days, but it is certainly not the easy choice. It requires extreme dedication, structure, perseverance, and hard work every day. It is very exhausting but we feel very convicted about the job we’ve been given. Over the last week I have been tempted by the world to just quit, make other choices for their education, stop working so hard, and just enjoy this time. Thank you so much for the Scripture used today in this devotion and for the encouragement offered to persevere in doing the will of God!

  32. Leah,
    Thank you so very much for this article. It’s nice to know there are other mothers out there and that the mothers struggling are not alone. Reading this article was a breath of fresh air, compared to other articles that make parenting seem like it’s a piece of cake. I have twin 15 month old girls. The first year, I felt like I wanted to give up. It was SO tough on me and my husband. It’s taught us a lot about ourselves and our relationship together as a whole and we continue to strive to be great parents for them as they grow up. For all the moms out there… You’re not alone! The reality is that parenting is tough, but very rewarding and Galatians 6:9 says it all!

  33. Please tell me you saw the movie “Mom’s Night Out”!?!? My kiddos are now 16 & 20 and that movie still hit home! What you have shared here is so true! Someone said motherhood is the toughest job you’ll ever love, and at the time I heard it, it was tough and I was not loving it! I was literally on my face before the Lord many times during the most difficult days (toddler years for me). I had fellowship, ladies bible study, great husband, loving and helpful parents and it was still hard! Thank God He held me up and we are well now…it was worth every tear and struggle to be here today… Our kids are a joy to us! Thanks for your encouragement today.

  34. This is also especially true when parenting a teenager. I have over 12 years between my two children and I swear I don’t remember my daughter being as bullheaded and stubborn as my son is at the same age, lol! It’s columns and Biblical references like these that help me keep my sanity when, yet again, he challenges my thinking, my authority and my very existence, at times! Thank you!

  35. Love the title, love the verse and love the article. Although my husband and I are not (or at least not yet) blessed with children, I agree that Motherhood is a very high calling. And although I haven’t been through it, to me it seems like a hard but deeply rewarding job. Thanks for this reminder of the high calling of motherhood, very cutely written. I need to encourage my friends/family who are stay-at-home moms. And remind them of them that the fruit of their labor goes into eternity, and that “Children are a gift from the Lord” and what a blessing to your children to be able to be with their mommy all day. 🙂

  36. As I read this I was sad by how weary and disillusioned I am. When my marriage ended, my ex actively sought to hurt the children and has left devastation in his wake. If I wrote a book people would believe it was fiction. My older children are on a path of choices opposite of what we’d taught them. Now that my younger one seems to be following suit, I find myself counting the days till I am not responsible for them.
    This is not anything I ever imagined. I am asking God to replace my weariness with hope, because right now I feel I’ve poured out all I have and am empty

  37. Dear Ladies out there, dear Moms, and all beautiful Women who want to learn more about God’s character, I am a married mom of three sons (22, 18 and 14 yrs), who went through some tough times during their growing up time. My husband and I was entirely alone raising the children with no family or relatives in the near. We both worked in shift, I during the day and my hubby in the evening/night. In this way, our children always had one of us at home. There were many times, I wished someone could help us with the boys… however, in the end we managed – although we also went through a difficult marriage time… Our middle son almost died when he was three weeks old, only God saved him under miraculous circumstances. I can only assure you, that after this tunnel of hardship, with all work at home combined with a professional career – it was not always easy. BUT, I truly believe that if we keep on and focus our eyes on Jesus – He, our Saviour, will help us to overcome the most. The core part of our home is Jesus and we regularly visit our international church together with our sons, daugher-in-law and granddaugher. So, never give up – your reward is waiting for you, knowing that each day will be better and better. May God bless you abundantely!

  38. I’m the parent of an adult child. I raised him as a single parent. He was a good child but very stubborn. There were moments when i felt like I could pull my or his hair out. I got a wake up call from the Lord that I felt sorry for him because he didn’t have a father, therefore I would allow certain behaviors. What I considered cute was not so much to the Lord. So I let my son be sassy at times and hit me. This was when he was around 5,6 and 7 yr of age time. One day I got really mad with him and punished him swift and hard. I came from an abusive home and didn’t want to be that kind of mother to my child. I thought what if I tore his butt up too hard? I got an unexpected answer from the Lord. He asked me “Has it ever occurred to you to ask Me how to discipline him”?
    I was stunned at the question and said ‘No Lord, I have not”. He replied and told me if I would get on my knees and ask Him how to discipline my boy, He would give me the wisdom to know what to do. When my son acted up the next time ( he had aimed a slingshot at the neighbors and his their house which did no damage thank goodness, but scared the heck out of the neighbor), I got own my knees and prayed asking the Lord what to do. He told me to sit him and talk to him and that He would give me the words to say. I obeyed and sure enough the Lord did what He said He would do . The words flowed out of my mouth. My son was deeply convicted and repented. I never had another problem with that. Sometimes the Lord would have me apply the rod of correction along with a talk. It was very humbling and amazing what the Lord would do. I no longer screamed or yelled but spoke with conviction and authority in a peaceable manner unlike what I got as a child. My son turned out to be a very fine man. He will make a great father someday. I owe it all the Lord. I’m so glad He stopped me in my tracks and lovingly showed me the way. I hope this will be of help to someone in applying discipline for your children. . Thanks and praise to Him….I give Him all the glory! Friends would ask me how did my son turn out so well…..The One who has all the answers made the difference. Every single solitary I follow His way it turned out beautifully and He was NEVER wrong!

  39. Praised The Lord I have been trying to quit like bunch of times talking to myself how I appreciate life and my family….
    Showing love is the best way to stick with them and direct things to get where we wanted too; feelings of dispair might really be our bodies’ signal that we need to meet some basics needs… Your body needs adequate rest,healthy food,and moderate excersice.
    Being rested sure makes a difference in the way we look at life……God loves you don’t quit!!

  40. This devotional was a blessing. More than you will ever know – Thank you! xo

  41. Helen Allen says:

    I know there are so many advice articles, books, friends, etc available to young mothers today that my generation (I’m 82) did not have. My husband traveled 4 or 5 days each week and I had 3 girls two yrs apart. Maybe girls are easier than boys. “Help” was easier to afford and get back in my day. I had an older woman sit with my girls one day a week. That gave me a free day with other mothers and we could shop, lunch, or just meet and talk, but it was a life saver for me. If you can afford a babysitter for just 4-5 hours each week it would certainly help to relieve your feeling of a 24/7 job.

  42. To an infertile woman, all that you have described would be WELCOMED – poopy diapers included. It gets really hard to keep reading about moms complaining about what they have to do to take care of kids. Some of us would give ANYTHING to be ABLE to wipe up messes, clean diapers, break up scuffles, read bedtime stories. I am happy God has blessed you with kids – not everyone has that gift tho’. The grief/loss lasts a lifetime. Believe me, I know.

  43. God’s timing is so perfect. Just a few days before reading this, I had thrown my hands up to God saying “I can’t do this, I’m just not meant for this!”. I, too, have two boys, 3 1/2 yrs apart (6 and 2 1/2 right now). My husband and I were together 9 years before our first was born and I had prayed so hard for a child and dreamed about how wonderful it would be. Never did I imagine how hard it would be, too, especially once the 2nd one came along. I always considered myself a patient person….until I had children. I just get so wore out and frustrated on a day to day basis. I feel like this is the the area of my life I cry out to God the most about, and I feel like a failure so many times. I know I am making some slow progress, so that is encouraging, as is reading posts like this that remind me I am not alone. I often feel guilty for the way I feel, especially being blessed with two healthy boys and all the resources in the world to raise them. I feel like a spoiled little brat! But after another day of breaking up fights, cleaning up endless messes, and keeping up with life, I feel drained. Thank you for putting this out there, I know my feelings are not alone, and I am trying to enjoy the process. As my Mom always says, this too shall pass, and then I will probably miss it incredibly!

  44. mary ellen golding says:

    Leah, I remember having some of those same thoughts! But now all my girls are grown and out on their own. My “paycheck” has finally arrived! The girls are happy and following God in their own ways. Those that have children have said to me, “Mom, I get it now!”, when thinking about all my “rules”! And those grandchildren…what a huge blessing. Yes, there were hard times but they don’t seem to matter as much as all those wonderful times we had making memories together!

  45. God spoke to me through this devotional. Thank you. My family and I desperately need prayer. I know that God will be faithful. Surgical biopsy on breast next week, teen daughter suffering from depression after medical issues requiring hospitalization, very difficult marriage with years of verbal and at times, physical abuse, wages garnished from old IRS issues from husband’s former business went into effect this week with no warning as letters went to address from 5 years ago, just found out we must move again..and more..feeling afflicted. Trusting God to provide everything.. guidance, wisdom, protection, resources..I know that I am called to rejoice in the trials because Jesus is near and yet I feel worn out physically and emotionally.

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