Miles Apart and Didn’t Even Know It

Miles Apart and Didn’t Even Know It

February 16, 2016

“Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you.” 1 Peter 4:12 (NLT)

Jackie Bledsoe

A couple years ago my wife, Stephana, and I were at a marriage retreat. We were asked to participate in an exercise where we rated the state of our marriage. After revealing our answers to one another, the difference was shocking.

We were miles apart and didn’t even know it.

That little exercise quickly revealed we were in what I call the “marriage danger zone.” It was dangerous because at least one of us was ignorant about how the other person was feeling, how they perceived our marriage and whether or not their needs were being met in our marriage.

The worst part was we’d been there before.

There have been many times when things seemed to be going great for one of us, then a conversation revealed the other was completely dissatisfied, frustrated or hurt. To the spouse who thought everything was going great, it came as a complete shock, and left us wondering, Where did this come from?

On our wedding day, most of us say “I do” or utter heartfelt vows along the lines of, “for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health …”

We think we’ll never forget those words.

Yet it seems we do. Somehow, we forget we made that promise. We forget that challenges are inevitable — especially when the “worse,” “poor” and “sickness” parts of marriage head our way.

Based on our wedding vows and the percentage of married couples who divorce, it seems like we would expect challenges in our marriages. That’s why we vow to our spouses we will be there and will still love them when — not if — these challenges arise. Yet we also know it’s much easier said than done.

As Stephana and I have learned, a lasting and truly fulfilling marriage only happens through persevering. Indeed, marriage is hard and takes work, but great rewards often come as a result.

As our key verse reminds us, we shouldn’t be surprised when we face challenges, as if it were something strange.

One of the biggest challenges in our marriage came during the times we were homeless. Yes, I said “times” with an “s” at the end, as it happened twice.

We went from two regular incomes with some pretty good benefits and financial perks to two very inconsistent incomes with no benefits and zero financial perks. And we had no idea when it would end. Yes, it was a huge obstacle and one that has destroyed many marriages. But our marriage came out stronger in the end.

Difficulties in marriage are hardly positive experiences at the time, yet the Bible paints a beautiful picture of them. The reason is simply because struggles, trials and hard work are part of the development process God uses to get the most out of us and the best for us.

These difficulties are necessary in God’s way of doing things. This includes our marriages as well. As we experience and embrace this, we can approach challenges in our marriages from a completely different viewpoint.

I don’t know what obstacles your marriage may be facing today, but I do know you can overcome them together. What you are facing is intended to strengthen you and your marriage, not destroy it. If you have faced trials before, be encouraged by our story, and get ready to tell your story of overcoming marriage obstacles.

It may be the story that saves another marriage similar to ours and yours. They, too, could be miles apart and not even know it.

Dear God, thank You for how You are working in my marriage, even through trials. I ask for Your help to persevere and see how trials in my life can be used for good. Empower me to choose joy even in the midst of trials because something amazing will be produced. Help me to hold on, not give up and allow You to complete Your work in me through them. Thanks, God, for Your grace, which allows me to persevere during the tough times of marriage. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

James 1:2-4, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (NIV)

Romans 15:5-6, “Now may the God who gives endurance and encouragement allow you to live in harmony with one another, according to the command of Christ Jesus, so that you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ with a united mind and voice.” (HCSB)

From the engagement ring to years after the wedding ring, every season of a marriage requires renewed commitment, fresh perspective and practical biblical wisdom. Jackie Bledsoe’s DVD-driven Bible study and book, The 7 Rings of Marriage, will teach couples to view their marriage with the end in mind.

If you’d like more encouraging thoughts on marriage and parenting, stop by Jackie Bledsoe’s blog.

Enter to WIN a copy of The 7 Rings of Marriage by Jackie Bledsoe. In celebration of this book, Jackie’s publisher is giving away 5 copies! Enter to win by leaving a comment here. {We’ll randomly select 5 winners and email notifications to each one, by Monday, February 22.}

Think of a time when you faced a trial with a positive attitude and a time when you didn’t. How does your attitude make a difference?

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  1. Thanks s much for this today. I am getting married in a few days and we already are facing the possibility of a job loss. Trusting God will use this to His glory has been hard but we are still standing firm in Him.

    • Debbie Pettit says:

      Congrats. on your wedding I have been married for 36 years with God in your marriage it will not fail.I laid my marriage at the foot of the cross on my 25th I was going to leave my husband then I gave it to God renewed our vows new life together with Jesus by our side so very blessed he is my best friend for life. always leave the past behind don’t let it follow you God Bless You

      • Definitely a scary time. He’s been taken off the schedule for the remainder of the week. Hard to wrap my head around enjoying celebrating our wedding when job hunting is happening a few days before and an unknown future looms ahead.

        • Debbie Pettit says:

          Walk by Faith believe the lord is going to workout everything for you . I will keep you in my prayers God Bless You

  2. I’ve been grumbling a lot in my head lately. Feeling like my husband doesn’t get me, or doesn’t care about me. We get stuck in our own ruts, then one day he’ll surprise me by showing me how much he does care about me. I have to almost daily remind myself he shows his love to me in a way totally different from how I want it, and even from how he craves it. He loves me, and I love him. We don’t have a perfect marriage, but we both want to keep trying, and that’s perfect enough for me.

  3. Oh man, talk about trials. I don’t know if we will make it through. I feel like my husband gave up a long time ago. God’s Will Be Done, whatever it may be 🙂

    • Dear sister! I can feel you! going through trials in my marriage now and feeling like you , but I’m not going to give up, we shouldn’t give up, For he who has called us is faithful (1 Thess 5:24). Hang in there sister. God bless

    • I highly recommend renting the new movie that just released not long ago called War Room. It is a Christian movie good for the whole family. We just watched it last night and it truly is a message of the power of prayer and saving a marriage. Definitely worth the investment of time to watch this movie.

      • Tracie Kohn says:

        I fully agree with you on that! War Room was so impacting! Everyone could benefit from seeing the movie. Prayer is such an amazing weapon God has blessed us with that oftentimes is left unused. Praise God for hearing us when we cry out to Him and He is faithful! I can say that for my own life and for the lives of so many around me.

  4. Great read, thank you!

  5. Kathy Wilshire says:

    My husband & I will have our 35th anniversary this year. Why doesn’t it get any easier? I’d love to win the copy!

  6. Thank you for this!!! I am struggling mentally and emotionally. Everything in me wants to quit, but I remember my vows and that God hates divorce. It’s a constant struggle. I feel so alone. Pray for me.

    • Shinita, Pray, pray, pray for your husband. You cannot change him, but God through the Holy Spirit can. Don’t give up on your marriage. God is faithful! After having been through numerous affairs with my husband, I have seen the glory of God work in his life! We have been through more trials than I can name here. I don’t know where we would be without prayer and forgiveness. Can you join a ladies group/ bible study for support? We will be married 33 years at the end of this month.

    • Praying for you

  7. Excellent message.

  8. Amanda Mason says:

    Mine and my husband’s marriage has been full of trials and heartaches and we’ve only been married 6 years but our faith in God has brought through and as long as we stand firm on the word and our faith he’s faithful to us. Even when we ourselves aren’t faithful to God he still loves us unconditionally and for that I am forever grateful.

  9. AMEN! In December 2014 we were in a place that we’d both humbled ourselves enough to say God help us b/c we’re doing this wrong. We took a Christ centered marriage class that was the most painful thing I think either of us had ever done–and also the best. God is SO faithful. He has taken our marriage to a place I don’t think it had ever reached before…so much more than I could have imagined. I truly see marriage now as a glimpse of the intimacy God hopes for us with Him: closeness that cannot be shared with anyone or anything else and that words don’t do justice for. My husband and I just celebrated 17 years, by the grace & goodness of God!

  10. Rebecca Rodriguez says:

    I’d love to win a copy of the 7 rings of marriage. Will be married for 10 years in July ♡

  11. I’d love to win a copy of this book & read it! Thank you for the opportunity!!

  12. Thanks for the encouragement! Blessings

  13. Patti Ingram says:

    After 35 years of marriage we still have things to work on. We have been throw some hard times. Lately we seem not to be able to connect with each other, but we are both committed to our marriage and want to work it out. Would love to get a copy of 7 Rings of Marriage.

  14. Janette Rios says:

    I’d love to win a copy of this book. My husband and I are currently separated and going through a divorce. I’m standing for my marriage and pray that God stops the divorce and restores my marriage.

  15. I’ve been married to a non-Christian for 51 years. We’ve gone through many struggles but have always been able to work them out. I pray for strength to continue on my walk of faith and that God might use me to reach my husband.

  16. Great words of encouragement.

  17. My husband and I are going through difficult times and headed for divorce if he has his way. I am praying for God to draw him back into God’s will. I wuld like a copy of this book.

  18. Peggy Stokke says:

    Thank you so much for the reminder and encouraging words. It is a reminder to seek God’s strength during the trials of our marriage and to thank Him for our spouses.

  19. thank you for your encouragement, I needed it today! And would love to win a copy of this book.

  20. Alissa Sommer says:

    pictuRING myself as one of the book winners 🙂

  21. Thankyou for the chance.

  22. Would love this book for our connect group study.

  23. Hannah Pruitt says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book! My husband and I are in the “new parents” season of marriage, and I also suffered severe post partum depression, so we definitely need some help navigating!

  24. Mandy gardner says:

    Would love to win this book.

  25. Intrigued and needed – must be a blessed reading!

  26. Retha Oelofse says:

    Thanks for your encouragement. So many Marriages around us ends up in divorce. So sad !! Went through a lot of ups and downs in our 22 years of Marriage but if your faith is rooted in Christ you can get through it. your marriage is so much stronger when you wirk through it. I am so grateful for grace and Gods love and encouragement. I am currently helping some people who is going through hard times in there Marriage. Will send this encouragement to them. Thanks

  27. I would love to read this book to improve our marriage. Thank you

  28. Great advice on marriage, as I will be getting married next month. Thanks!

  29. Angelie Reis says:

    Would love to win!

  30. Doris Burd says:

    Loved this devotional today. My husband and I are going through a rough time right now and could use some prayers. We are working on our relationship and it takes prayer and The Lord to get us through.

  31. Michelle Fennell says:

    I have three children under four years old and sometimes I do not know whether I am coming or going. My husband and I pour so much into our children right now that we can forget to pour into each other. Thank you for this read

  32. I’ve been encouraged so much with your story. I do agree marriage is real work and both parties need to play their role for it to work. Please send me a copy of your book, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks

  33. God is continually working in our marriage. During difficult times his grace has carried us through. Praying together really helps us to connect to God and let him guide and control us.

  34. Jennifer Hill says:

    My husband and I could really use this right now!

  35. Erin Mercer says:

    Thank you for the encouragement & the chance to win your book. Always looking for refreshment!

  36. That’s what it has always been like for us, miles apart and not even knowing it. The sad part, communication lacks greatly in our marriage. By getting this book, I know something will be done. I resorted to praying more and I know someday all will be well. God bless you.

  37. I would love to win a copy of this book! My husband and I are still newlyweds learning how to live with each other in a godly way while we make this marriage a happy and healthy one. It’s no walk in the park but we are truly loving it! We would love to use the book for our next weekly Bible study guide 🙂

  38. Becky Brady says:

    Thank you for these encouraging words… my husband and I just had a very long discussion of how much we’ve grew apart because we had forgotten to grow together I’m Him. We’re working on praying together, even if it’s in silence,everyday. I’m thankful for the hard times we have faced because even if we haven’t noticed we have gotten stronger. Looking forward to reading “The 7 Rings of Marriage.”

  39. Yes, I would love to win the book. Getting married this coming May!

  40. I have had some challenges and obstacles in life, but marriage is by far the hardest of them all.

  41. I would really love to win a copy of this book. We can never do too much to strengthen and guard our marriages. We all have seasons of being miles apart. Thank you for these encouraging words.

  42. Candace H. says:

    I’d like to receive a copy of this book as I’d like to be in the know as it pertains to a Godly marriage. I want to be prepared and well informed as I prepare for my God-send mate.

  43. Yesenia Alferez says:

    Gods grace saves marriages. Pray,trust, hope and see God work. Though you might be miles apart and not even know it, like the title of this devotion, God can bring you back together.

  44. My husband and I hit a huge hole in the road but our faith has kept us together. Our motto is “mind, body & soul” and through Christ we’ll make it.

  45. ‘I’ have given up on marriage but I continue to pray for me to change and I know God is working. I have to change before I can expect my spouse to change!


    This message has given me a deep thought over my marriage. I always had the thought of calling it quit because my wife nags at every little misunderstanding which of course I have endured for over a decade of our marriage.
    The message encouraged me to call and discussed issues most especially as it as to do with our finances.
    This in turn makes her see reasons with me moreso when I cheered today’s message with her.
    Thanks a million.

  47. Bojana Trbic says:

    I would love to win your book. Thank you for considering this newlywed for it! My hubby and I would appreciate it! 🙂

  48. It’s interesting to me that I had a hard time thinking of trials were currently facing because to me it’s not really a trial, it’s just apart of the new normal God has given us. I do realize my lack of prayer about the situation though and appreciate how God is constantly using things like this app to get my attention again. I need to remember to simply pray more, especially with and for my husband!!

  49. We are in a trial now. Our second one as well and just as before, my husband is insisting he isn’t coming back. He left Jan. 11th after a horrible and gut-wrenching year in 2015. Just for starters, we lost two babies. I sure would appreciate this book as finances are tight in a split home. And feel I need to read this!! … This email came after a Very tough day and struggling with me giving up. But this blog kept saying, hang in there. Tough it out! I surely think your post was a sign from God for me to hang in there and be patient and wait for Him. Thank you! Thank you so Much for this post!! I needed it!!! … As well as Prayers for Kurt and Nicole. Thank you!!!

  50. This sounds like a book my daughter & son in law need to read. They are experiencing times of difficulties in their marriage.

  51. Karen Hochhalter says:

    My son is getting married on June 5. I would love for him and for his fiancee to have this book as a great foundation as they begin their new life together as a married couple (and even now as they prepare for their future as man and wife). Thank you very much and God bless you for all the help you provide to couples!

  52. we always forget our vovels especially the ,sickeness ,poorer parts we always remeber for richer,heathly but you have reminded me today that its for richer and poorer in sickness and i healthy amen to that.

  53. Renee Cuchetti says:

    I am encouraged by 1 Peter 4:12, My husband, Joe and I have just celebrated 50 years of marriage 2/11/16.
    We battled through many difficult years, sometimes feeling very close and feeling very alone. We were determined not to quite. God helped us go thru the storms and dessert times\ to make us stronger. Our love for each other has strengthened and become deeper.As James 1:2-4, we consider it pure joy now for the trails we faced and continue to face pure joy…pleasing to Our Heavenly Father. I am sure that I have more to learn more and would very much like to read “The 7 Rings of Marriage” by Jackie Bledsoe.

  54. My husband and I have been married almost 11 years now and have just recently had our second child. We are finding life a bit of a struggle especially with illness, working long hours and two young children there seems to not be a lot of time for ‘us,’ it is so important for us to remember our vows to one another.

  55. Thank you for your honest post. I needed to read that and take encouragament from it. I am hoping for my marriage and it is only God’s grace which gives me strength to keep on. It was good to be reminded that God works in all things – even trials. Thank you.

  56. I’ve been married for 5 months now and our current struggle is we’re in a long distance relationship which has a lot of challenges. Really encouraging to read this, thanks.

  57. God centered marriage vows are like that!

    God promises to nurture us with The gift of His presence.

  58. BARBARA CHULU says:

    I have been encouraged by your testimony and experience.. Am motivated to fight for my marriage.. Thank you very much for sharing your testimony may God bless you..

  59. Kim Lefevers says:

    This devotion is awesome and makes one think about their marriage deeper. Thank you!

  60. What a refreshing way too look at troubles in my marriage…. Yes I have troubles… We all do. Thank you for this reminder.

  61. Elizabeth lung says:

    This book would be a blessing in our lives, we have entered an unknown field to us, where dissatisfaction and communication reigns in our home. We are intend on coming through it together, but in the midst of it… We sometimes, maybe daily, we feel we are losing each other.

  62. I NEED that book. Need to work on my marriage.

  63. Thank you for this fresh look at trials and perseverance. It caused me to look back at two seasons we went through with fresh insight…ones that we went through with two opposite attitudes. The first was my diagnosis of a chronic, progressive illness. I went into that with faith that God would be with me, and was not gripped with fear. The other was a drug addiction issue with (two) children. We fussed and fretted and were overwhelmed with fear for years, not giving it over to God but trying to fix it ourselves. It nearly destroyed our marriage as well as our family. How I wish I would have had the same faith as I did during that first season. By the way…God has brought us out of the second wilderness, stronger and grateful!

  64. Look forward to having a copy so as to strengthen my marriage.

  65. Sakina Ferguson says:

    Thank you for this reminder of God’s purpose for trials in marriages. I pray to continue to be enlightened and strengthened so that I too can endor to the end.

  66. Thank you for your inspiration for marriage!

  67. Today’s devotional was soooo on point. I have been feeling very lost and very much miles apart from my husband. I’m trying to embrace these tough times. I can only pray for my husband. I pray that he has an open mind and open heart for marriage counseling. I know our marriage will survive and be strengthened by God’s grace and mercy if only my husband allows it. Thank you.

  68. In this season of difficult times in our marriage and seriously feel like giving up this did give me hope. But still getting tired. 7 rings sounds like s wonderful tool I could use now

  69. As I look forward to the marriage union that is just about to happen, I would love to read this book. More especially, what I have read in the devotion leaves one yearning for more. God Bless.

  70. Beth Boxwell says:

    I would LOVE to win this book!!! My husband & I will be married 20 years in March. It hasn’t always been easy but it has been worth it!

  71. I woke with my marriage struggles on my mind, pleading with God to open my eyes, and felt compelled to rise and read today’s devotional and of course it was just what was needed. Thank you for the reminder that even after 35 years, I have lessons to learn and truly need to keep my focus on the Lord, and not the trials of everyday life. Thank you!!

  72. Thank you for sharing your story Jackie, I am Blessed and encouraged at a time I feel things are crumbling.

  73. Thank you for sharing!!

  74. Pamela Henderson says:

    I truly need this reading to help me through the struggles we are experiencing in our marriage. Needing some helpful words right now.


    Pamela Henderson

  75. What an encouragement it is to know that what we are facing is meant to strengthen our marriage not destroy it. Thanks for sharing your testimony. God’s continual best in your life.

  76. Aprile Futrell says:

    Great article!

  77. Gail Robinson says:

    I am truly grateful for these daily scriptures and life lessons leaning closer to the Lord.

  78. I enjoyed your daily devotion – marriage can be hard sometimes!

  79. Pray…”I ask for Your help to persevere and see how trials in my life can be used for good.”

  80. Such encouraging thoughts! Thank you.

  81. Thanks for the words of encouragement.

  82. Sandy Goldmann says:

    Great story—gives me hope!!

  83. Thank you for this message!

  84. Ma. Imelda O. Javier says:

    I felt sad when I read your article because my husband left us three years ago and he filed for nullity of marriage.
    As you said in your article, I was shocked because all the while i thought we are an ideal couple and family. I did not notice that he is moving away. He was able to pretend until the last moment. He left the house when me and my children were at work. He came back after three days to tell us his decision. The pains was sooooo overwhelming. I thought I died. After two and a half years, through the help and support of my children, family and friends and most of all, through the grace of God, I was able to move forward. Now I realize how God embraced me and held me in my lowest moments. He has given me much much more blessings than I ever imagine. Daily as i wake up, I bless the Lord for His goodness. I still pray for my husband everyday and I will do so until my last breath.

  85. My grandson’s mother is getting married, this book is a perfect gift. Continued blessings and success!

  86. Definitely needed this message and the encouragement from it today!! Thank you.

  87. I really enjoy getting the daily devotional, it always seems to have exactly what I need!

  88. Monique C. Rios says:

    What an awesome study & mindset. This would be perfect to use in small groups for married couples at our church! Especially the young marrieds w/kids!

  89. Mindy Ewing says:

    Thank you for your wisdom and work❤️

  90. So enjoyed your devotion on “being miles apart”. That is where I feel my marriage is right now. I am desperate for help at this point, but know that I still love my husband and that God is in control.

  91. Wilka Iileka says:

    Thank you very much for this. I wanted to give up but this article lifted me up again. I am struggling emotional and I feel a lone . Please pray for me.

  92. Whitney Williams says:

    I would LOVE a copy!!<3

  93. Robert little says:

    Thanks for the encouragement of your articles I really enjoy them

  94. Danette Chambliss says:

    You have no idea how this has just blessed me. Sometimes when you think God dose not hear your prayers, and you open up an email and your answers are right there. Thank you for allowing God to use you for such a time as this. This encouragement is what my husband an I needed. God bless you!

  95. Thank you for your testimony, God bless

  96. Abiola oseni says:

    Jackie you are very correct about miles apart yet close! That was the shocker I received from my hubby before he left . I thought we were in the same boat ..I thought he will recommend me as a jewellery to everyone !but… we were miles apart?A 16years old marriage.we were supposed to be 20 years this year,up to date I still can’t comprehensive the whole story .I guess the book will really be a call to senses before things gets worse with couples .but I still want to know why ..

  97. Cheryl Glaser says:

    This book would be perfect for my husband and me right now as we are dealing with the possibility of my husband losing his job. We need reminders of how to stay strong and remain joyful and thankful.

  98. Thank you for this simple reminder to “check in” with my husband when I feel we may be miles apart.

  99. Abiola oseni says:

    Recommend me as a jewel*

  100. Jenn Kirby says:

    We have been blessed as a married couple to overcome many obstacles. Job losses, bad financial decisions and the like. I’m glad to know there are others who know trouble is only temporary, but marriage should last!

  101. I would love to read this book, it sounds like it would be perfect for fresh thoughts.

  102. Thank you for this! I needed to hear this tonight. My walk with God is wonderful but alone.. My husband and teens are not believers. Sometimes I feel that this will tear our marriage apart eventually. He wants faster cars and more money. I want to retire from working and spend more time doing things for God. Our priorities are miles apart. Yet your words helped me remind myself for the 20- something time that God has a plan. And Some of that plan includes my staying true to my vows.. Regardless of anything!!! I pray that my husband and young adult children will see Him and find themselves in love with him like I am! I have found the truth and happiness and wish they could, too! Every time I read a post like yours I am reminded that keeping my marriage is one of the things that show faithfulness. Thank you.

  103. Thank you.

  104. Cheryl Crawford says:

    Been having issues in my marriage. Would really like some help and this book would be a start.

  105. Could use this book so prophetic and wise <3

  106. Christy Rodgers says:

    Would love a copy of this book!

  107. God’s timing is perfect. I have recently come through a storm in my marriage, and after some calm waters, am starting to see the waves swell again. Would love to read more like this post in this book.

  108. Would love a copy of this book!

  109. Marie Carra says:

    Looking forward to reading this book. It sounds like required reading for all.

  110. This is exactly what I needed this morning. I feel that Satan has been attacking our marraige and we’ve had to remind ourselves that the challenges we face are obstacles that with God’s help we can overcome. We’re in it for the long haul and that helps with how we deal with things in the present.

  111. Khristyanna says:

    God is a loving Father….he is with us through all the trials and troubles of life…..we’ve to let that love flow in us and we’ll surely overcome this trials……….Amen!

  112. Working on 35 years and would love a copy.

  113. Patti Dolan says:

    Have never entered a Proverbs 31 comment/possible winner before, though I read the daily devotions faithfully. This one came on my screen after an enormously pain day and volatile response when I tried to open my heart to my neglectful husband (I am very disabled and yet carry most of our and my weight going on 13 years. It I win, would it be possible to get the overview DVD of all sessions, as he will not read the book or do the study, but will look at a video. I know it’s much more expensive, but we are definitely in that danger zone. Thank you, in case, and blessings on your ministry. I sent him a copy of your devotional.

  114. Debbie Ryan says:

    We too were miles apart. Through a discovery of a new church, counseling, prayer, and hard work we are back on the same page. God is GOOD!

  115. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks so much for writing this. This is us right now. We struggle the most on communication now that the kids live far away and everyday life is mundain. Although I also lost my job and making a quarter of my salary and not a regular income. Daily I keep asking God “what are you teaching me/us. Thank you for this devotion this morning!

  116. Would love a copy!

  117. this will be a book i will keep on my bookshelf for life and share with others

  118. Penelope White Redding says:

    Hi! My husband and I are separated now for 10days in past 2006 to 2007 for 6months WE have been through some very hard times in 3 1/2 year’s.If it not my job it’s his,our extended family involvement(living with us with full financial support) no intimacy for 4 years I last counted,arguing,Lies,deception, addictions he’s check out along time ago. I feel like a fool, Hopeless

  119. I’d love to win this book. My marriage needs some real encouragement.

  120. Marriage is facing some challenges now, we are fighting the good fight. Would love a copy of your book.

  121. Aaron Boyd Mohler says:

    Thank youJust recently married October 24th 2015. Radically transformed by God through knowing christ and the presence of the holy spirit. Please watch at “Divine Intervention with the Trinity” on youtube or God bless and hope to be blessed by a copy of this book.

  122. Blessing that you have overcome many things, including homelessness, in your marriage and that you can use your experience through the valleys to help others with our Lord’s grace

  123. I dated a boy when I was 16 & he was 22. We were kept apart by our moms because of our ages. He joined the army and says he looked all over the world to find his Proverbs 31 wife. God has led us back together 31 years later. We plan to get married. I would love to have a copy of this book to guide us through a Godly marriage.

  124. My daughter and her husband desperately need this book. She doesn’t want a divorce but she does not have any support at all.

  125. Perseverance. Love. Hope. God’s got us right in the palm of His hand even when it feels like we’ve slipped or jumped out.

  126. So true that the trials can bring us together. However, it is the quieter trials perhaps like the ones leading to finding out you are miles apart that feel the scariest. The small, every day difficulties of communicating and connecting are where I feel the trial. I pray God uses this story to help me face those instead of ignoring them because I know how dangerous that can be.

  127. Susan Mitchell says:

    Husband lost his job almost 5 months ago and still looking for a new one. This is definitely a storm in our marriage and struggling to keep it together.

  128. Nancy Barron says:

    We have been married for almost 29 years and are going through the worst time we’ve ever been through. How do you heal a broken heart when you are constantly with the one who broke it? Neither one of us wants to give up yet the hurt from a broken heart is as difficult for the one who hurts as it is for the one who broke it

  129. M husband and I have been married for 35 years and I have to say that it has been through the trials in life that the Lord has brought us closer together and has increased our faith in His provision and intercession in our lives.

  130. C Whitlock says:

    I’m both excited and anxious to marry for the second time. My fiancé and I were blessed to reconnect after 13 years. We are not naive about marriage but view it as a team sport;-).

    We’re praying that God continues to guide us and becomes the foundation for a fruitful marriage.

  131. I would be thankful to win a copy of this DVD/book. My marriage is very important to me and I know how important it is to God as well.

  132. Thanks. Needed to see this today.

  133. I am glad that I opened this email this morning! It has ministered to me. I am being tested in my marriage right now & thought about giving up, but your post has given me something to really think about.


    Thank you for your message today. As my husband of 29 years and I continue to work through a very difficult time in our marriage it brought me comfort. Thank you.

  135. My husband and I have been married for 15 years but we still have so much to learn. His job has us moving a lot (about to do our 10th move this summer) which makes living in community with other believers challenging. But God leads and directs our path. Would love to learn ways to improve our marriage.

  136. Awesome encouragement. I thank God for your obedience in sharing with the world your struggles. Marriages will be changed because of your obedience! Thank you!

  137. I am in that place in marriage. Wanting to move past and reconnect.

  138. Very true statements that marriage tabes work and commitment.retirement has been a big adjustment.worth it for sure.

  139. This word was much needed. My husband and I have struggled. Greatly. and this post hits very close to home. We were married, had great plans, got pregnant and could not afford a place of our own. We had our son and actually had to live in separate homes because of our circumstances. That season nearly ruined our marriage. Fast forward, things are better, we live together and have our family. But we both were going through the motions, never really dealing with our true feelings. We were like ships passing. No real emotions, so things built up and over time we became so distant, and we both had thoughts of leaving each other, but had no idea the other was thinking the same things. But by Gods grace and his unending love, our marriage has been restored and while we still have a long way to go, we are beginning to communicate once again, and we both are putting forth effort. Thank you for your post and the reminder that God does not allow us to go through things without a greater purpose. He wants to strengthen us, to mold us and shape us for his divine purpose. That we may be a light and a testimony for others to see.

  140. I love this. This actually gave me hope. We are having marriage problems as I write this and we both see it. I will definitely be suscribing to the blog but I would love to win also.

  141. I was also going through marraige blues and this email to me was at the right time.

  142. Lamar Grant says:

    If it is meant for my wife and I to read this book.

  143. Tyfanni Penn says:

    It would be a blessing to have and read the seven rings of marriage. I believe it would be a wonderful resource for my fiancée and I A see prepare for marriage.

  144. Thank you for this timely devotional. My husband and I are struggling and I’m praying God will help us and our marriage.

  145. Such wonderful truth! In the Church we sometimes go through the motions for years, pretending things are going well.

  146. My husband and I are in a rough patch. It seems we dwell there and run in circles. I have been praying for guidance and it appears here this morning.

  147. Belena Harding says:

    What a great encouragement! We often buy into the fantasy that marriage is perfect daily without disagreeements, trials, hurt feelings, or even a broken heart. I pray for my marriage and everyone commenting that we come out stronger and more in love!

  148. Thank you for this timely message – my husband and I have weathered through many storms and have grown closer through the experiences with God’s grace. A new trial has emerged – one that has been coming for many years…empty nest and this might be our biggest challenge so far. This may sound trivial amongst life’s problems but I can assure you, because we have not done the preparation for this time in our lives – it has hit us hard. Your book sounds like something that would be very helpful!

  149. Thank you so much for reminding us that trials come into our lives to be used of GOD to strengthen. What an encouraging and strengthening truth, and a wonderful reminder to those in the middle of struggles. GOD bless you for sharing hope in a world that is often so negative about marriage. So refreshing!

  150. Would love a copy of this book!

  151. We’re on the midst of the battle- all battles seemed to be a result of a spiritual one. Holding tight to Gods promise that he will fight for us when we are weak.

  152. Sybrina Knorr says:

    Thank you for these encouraging words and reminders.

  153. My sister and her husband are considering divorce. Perhaps this book could give them a renewed heart for each other.

  154. Hi. I’d love to win a copy of your book. My husband recently lost his job, and although I KNOW it’s God moving him into a new tomorrow, he’s having difficulty seeing it in this light. Our marriage has already survived cancer and a newborn almost dying and he’s bitter with God. Thanks for your consideration and blessings as you continue to serve in strengthening the covenant of marriage!

  155. Kaz Williamson says:

    I’m thankful for this email this morning as I step into the refining fire of Gods love. I’ve been separated from my husband since November and divorce will be final April 30 … I still have hope, and praising God through it all. Make in me a clean heart of God.

  156. My marriage is a mess! My husband has been lying to me and hiding things from me. We have four children and were also “homeless” for a bit. I’m having a hard time finding any love for him, even though I know this is one of those “better or worse” times in our marriage. Just yesterday, I was convinced that I was going to call it quits. Then I received this devotional. Maybe God is telling me something different?

  157. I know my husband and I are miles apart. He has not realized yet. He has been sick for the last 7 years and 2 months. We have been married for 10 years and 6 months. For the last 6 years I have been saying we are not on the same page or even in the same book on all things. He was just diagnosed with stage 4 lung and bone cancer, along with his other health issues I don’t think that things look good for him. He still is fighting everything I say or do. I want to remember him/us as happy in the last few years he as with us. I want the children to see that man that I married 10 years ago and fell in love with 11 years ago. I want him to remember his vows. I have remembered mine. I have been by him this whole time, even thought there have been MANNY times that I wanted to pack up and leave. I remembered my vow, “in sickness..”
    I have never heard of Jackie Bledsoe before yesterday, i saw him and his wife on the 700 club. I was going to look him up and get more information on him.
    This was a devotion/encouragement that I needed, thank you

  158. Felicia Akanmu says:

    I’m not married yet but looking to be married in about a year or so. I’d really love to win this because I want to be as prepared as possible. I come from a family where my parents’ marriage wasn’t necessarily and I deeply want to avoid making such mistakes. Thank you.

  159. Kayla Davidson says:

    This study sounds amazing! Thanks for sharing!

  160. Jaqui rubio says:

    Please choose me!!

  161. Thank you! I do am facing marriage trials and this does help to view the challenges in a new light – we are being developed with each trial and God will use ever one to ‘get the most out of us and the best for us’. AMEN!! Like James said, “Consider it pure joy…”. It almost makes you able to enjoy the challenges because we know that if we persevere we will be COMPLETE and NOT LACKING anything in the end (almost…) 🙂

  162. I love what I read here. I get encouragement every single day. God bless.

  163. Hi Jackie, this devotional surely put me where I needed to be this morning! MARRIAGE and humbly working on it TOGETHER with JESUS tenderly guiding us!?THATS the path I know he wants for us! I would LOVE to receive a copy of 7 RINGS OF MARRIAGE. God is so good!? AMEN!

  164. Marcia Wise says:

    Would love to read your book, ” The 7 rings of Marriage”. My husband & I have been married almost 34 years. I feel we need help in refreshing our marriage. And, my daughter is getting married in June. I would like to pass this book on to her . Thank you.

  165. Patricia letendre says:

    I would love to receive one of these books. My husband has been disabled for the last two years and our marriage has suffered. He has been depressed and communicates differently due to some meds he has to take due to an injury. We just need to refocus our marriage.

  166. leah jeffery says:

    This morning I read a blog on proverbs 31 ministries. I was having horrible thoughts regarding my marriage all weekend. God knew I needed to read this blog. He is truly a loving God!!!

  167. Jackie,
    I would love to receive a copy of 7 RINGS OF MARRIAGE. I’m an elementary school teacher and witness the devastation of the family.

  168. This message could not have come at a better time.

  169. Vanessas Swangles says:

    Would love the book.

  170. Amanda Magyar says:

    Thank you so much for this devotion! It was Exactly what I was needing this morning! It’s amazing how God works! God bless you and your ministry!

  171. I’m always interested in books on marriage. 🙂

  172. This reading is very inspirational. I am going through a tough time which my husband surely doesn’t know. And I am failing to get through to him. I will keep praying for me to find the strength to tell him without hurting or bringing negativity out of him.

  173. Kim Whaley says:

    Loved this article. When I think of my wedding day and the vows we took almost 28 years ago it still makes my heart smile. We were so young and thought we had it all figured out,but you’re right when you said marriage is work. Every day it is work. We’ve had some tough times but God made us and our marriage stronger.

  174. Charlotte Messier says:

    After 20 years of marriage, my husband and I are finally at the most peaceful place we have ever been, but the road has not always been easy. We both spent many years trying to change the other person before finally accepting and loving each other the way God made us. Marriage is a constant effort on the parts of both partners with a common goal of honoring God and each other – that is true marital joy.

  175. Ellen Cole says:

    This is truly important information. Too often, our complacency gets us into significant trouble.

  176. Rasheida Washington says:

    I have been in the place where my husband thought “things were getting better” and was baffled by how he could think such a thing. Thankfully things are getting better but we still have a ways to go. I’m interested in anything that could help me/us along the way and this book seems like a great tool. Although I would live it for my self if I win I way pass it on to a young lady that I just met/encouraged through the first 5 app that is struggling in her marriage.

  177. I would love to receive your book. Me & my fiancé are in the engagement stage. Reading this devotional and your story has opened my eyes and has inspired me to want my marriage set with the right tone & focus from both of us.. I really hope to receive this book??

  178. Thanks for your devotion today. Our 22nd anniversary a few days away, it’s crazy how we still have ups and downs. It’s crazy we have to remind ourselves to hang in there and work together not against each other. You would think we would know that by know.

  179. Would love to have a copy of 7 Rings of Marriage

  180. I am entering this comment on behalf of my daughter who is getting married next year in May. She and her fiance have been dating for 8 years and have a son togethe. They are already in the challenges of knowing what it means to become one. I am the mother of the bride and my marriage ended after 14 years of marriage due to my ex husband infidelity and drugs use. I do not regret divorcing him. I do want my daughter and her fiancé to learn how to persevere with God’s love and help. If they keep him first in their lives, they will not be a part of the divorce statistics.

  181. Would love to win a copy to learn how to work together and persevere in times of difficulty.

  182. Praying I can get this copy for my friend that struggles with staying on track. She is a strong Christian and I believe this book would help her marriage grow stronger.

  183. kim johnson says:

    Would love to won this book

  184. Laurie Debonnett says:

    This is a nice reminder to expect challenges in marriage. I sometimes forget that.

  185. Sounds like an awesome book! Would love to win one!

  186. Sounds like a great resource.

  187. Great read! I recently made a FB post about the struggles of a marriage. We have been married 23 years this month. We still argue, we still have financial struggles, we’ve lost family members, we’ve extended our family, we’ve built a house, we’ve built a business and probably everything in between, but what has survived through it all is the commitment of our marriage. Marriage isn’t easy and doesn’t just work, you have to work it! DR

  188. I need a copy of 7 rings of marriage.

  189. Would love to read this book, we are getting married in August this year after being together for 9 years.

  190. Kathy Colburn says:

    I would ove to have this book for my son and his fiancé

  191. I needed this today. Experiencing trials and praying for perseverance!

  192. Stephanie Roselli says:

    Thank you for writing about your marriage trials. We are in the midst of a severe trial, but God is teaching me that He is greater than our circumstances.

  193. Would love to read your book…

  194. Someone ever close to me is going through an uncertain time in their marriage. I will give them the book if I win –

  195. My son & his wife are going through a tough time. Would love for them to have this.

  196. Yesterday I put away my wedding rings, because I’m convinced that since my husband has told me he doesn’t want to be married to me then my marriage must be over. It is the first time I had come to this decision since our separation; I even prayed that I wanted God’s Will in my life more than my marriage and my husband. Then this morning after reading your devotional I felt like God was speaking to me and letting me know my marriage is not over. I’m just blessed to know that the God Almighty would care enough about me and my life to send me a life line. I’m serious about putting God first, and although it’s been challenging, I’m being reminded everyday what a BIG God I serve and very interested He is in my life:)

  197. What a wonderful reminder for me to work, taking time and daily effort to make my marriage better and to work to make my precious wife happy and fulfilled.

  198. Becky Eanes says:

    I have a nephew getting married this Spring! What a great gift!!

  199. Beth Furmanek says:

    Great words to be reminded of. Would love to get this book and share with other couples in our circle.

  200. Not even a year into our marriage, I found out that my husband had been cheating with women AND men pretty much throughout our 3 yr relationship. We started marriage counseling and continued for a year. After that year, I told him that I just don’t want to be married to him any longer. He had not changed his actions and he did even more to hide things from me. He just recently came out as bisexual via a blog post. He has left our church to join a more liberal one on gay issues. I have gone back and forth with wanting to work it out with him, but we have decided to separate. I pray that God uses this time to strengthen both of our hearts, give us peace, and show us each what it is that we need to change.

  201. This devotion was such a surprise this morning. One because it was written by a man and two because it was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for the honesty! I hope it will truly help to bring about restoration in marriages that are struggling.

  202. Thank you for this encouraging devotion! I would love a copy of the 7 rings of marriage.

  203. Today’s message encouraged me today to pray with my husband and cover him before he faces today’s struggles instead of praying for him at a distance. Hitting the 5 year mark soon and I would love to strengthen our marriage!

  204. Christine Lee says:

    During almost 20 years of marriage we have had many trials…death of our daughter, two boys with Autism, another boy with a 3 year long illness the left us broken and broke, foreclosure. … but we have God and each other and have me it through. We are in another season of hardship and can use some encouragement!

  205. I almost think people take their wedding vows for granted because they are said the same at every wedding. Makes me wonder if writing your own vows might be more powerful.
    What an inspirational testimony that your marriage endured being homeless twice.

  206. Kathleen C. says:

    Love the positive outlook! Life is often difficult and I need to be reminded that it’s an opportunity to strengthen my marriage and my character, and the rewards will be great!

  207. Marriage is hard some times. Especially with three small children involved. I adore my sweetie pie but we do often times “lose” each other. I have wanted to connect us in a new way and it sounds like this book could open us to something fresh as a new perspective. Never give up on marriage. All good things require hard work!

  208. What encouraging words to keep in mind as I live in my marriage. Thank you for this. Opportunity to be in God’s word

  209. After 23 years of marriage I can relate to this Devo. I’d love to read this book!

  210. Married life has never been easy for us in our 33 years of marriage. We are determined still to persevere and hope for great improvements. We have decided to invest purposefully every day in some way. A new book about marriage for us to read together would be great.

  211. What an inspiring devotional! A great reminder that I desperately needed to read, as today like many days, I wonder how much worse can it get.

  212. Maggie Paredes says:

    This is such a great encouragement. J love the practical advice!

  213. We’ve been married over 10 years & would love to read this book to refocus on our marriage – not just the everyday stuff like kids & work.

  214. Brenda Hart says:

    Great devotion! I hope that I might win a copy of this book! Blessings!

  215. Neely Tindall says:

    I would love to win a copy of The 7 Rings of Marriage!!

  216. Deeply touched by this testimony. It’s so easy to forget that struggles are a normal part of life and that we should be prepared to handle them rather than perplexed that they exist…Thanks

  217. Linda Gayhart says:

    As my husband and I enter a new phase – his retirement / my continuation of work – I think The 7 Rings of Marriage might be a very timely read! Looking forward to it.

  218. Help!

  219. I would love a copy of the book about marriage, I suspect my son will soon be engaged and it sounds like a great gift for he and his girlfriend.

  220. Jennifer McLeod says:

    This message came at the perfect time. Thank you!

  221. My husband and I are going through something horrible at this very moment. Of all the days, it just happened on Valentine’s Day. My heart is shattered and Broken into millions of tiny pieces and I just feel that I will never be the same after this. He shattered all trust I had for him and I just don’t know what to do. I know I need to fall on my knees and I have been, but my mind is in all kinds of different places. My heart hurts and I feel absolutely devastated. I honestly feel like my happy life is over. I know God has a great plan for my life, I just can’t begin to think how I will get over this. I would love a copy of the book to help me make it through/make this trial seems a little less scary. I honestly just need to give it all to God, but it’s so hard when I am so unsure. Yearning to be loved by my husband.

  222. Nicole pauly says:

    One time I responded positive was when I just believed God for what we needed and the other I blamed my husband. Believing in God is so much better. Your husband should never be held up as God to provide for you.

  223. Kimberly M says:

    Excellent words of encouragement.

  224. Would love to win a copy!

  225. Excellent article. Even after many years of marriage we face addiction trials. We make it through but it never goes away. Relapses continue to occur and trust dwindles. Anxiety and depression don’t help.

  226. Would love the book. I’ve been married for 30 years as of Valentines day and been and going through the worse, sickness and the poorer part.

  227. Regina Christ says:

    This would be wonderful for our 16th Anniverdary!

  228. Excellent devotion for any marriage – not just those in crisis. Would love to read about the 7 Rings of Marriage. This would be a valuable resource for our coaching program.

  229. My marriage has provided opportunities for the testing of our faith, and my attitude has proven to be in a state of disarray during many of those times. What a difference my attitude can make. Some of the same struggles – communication – are surfacing, but my reactions are so different. My feelings are stretched and twisted, but my actions are not out of whack. Oh, by the grace of God I am able to step back and pray before I speak and not in my own strength but His.

  230. Interesting how each person has a different idea of how the marriage is going. I can see that this is the case with my husband and I. We need yo be more intentional about sharing time together instead of just letting time psss by

  231. Marriages are difficult. How I pray that I will be quick to listen, slow to speak. When I’m not, may the Lord give my husband patience with me. So thankful that the Lord is always patient with us as we seek his guidance in our marriage as well as parenting.

  232. I would LOVE this book! My 2 year old son was recently diagnosed with an esophageal disease, and I recently had s miscarriage. These “fires” have actually brought my husband and I closer to God, I would love to read this book!

  233. I’ve followed your entire writing journey through Michael Hyatt and am so thrilled to see God pouring through you and how obedient you are to His guidance. Thank you for a great devotional to start my day:-)

  234. These words spoke truth. We’ve gone through some tough times, struggled financially, now trying to get on sound footing heading toward retirement but we’ve still got debt to pay off when a job was lost. 4 years we went with only one bread winner and three growing children.

  235. Kristen keifer says:


  236. Thank you so much for this post today. It came at the perfect time, in the middle of the storm.

  237. It would’ve amazing to share this with my husband of 32 years! All our trials have been worthwhile!?

  238. Much needed this morning. Thank you.

  239. So very true. Going on 25 years of marriage and the valleys have been rough and we still feel like we can’t get ahead. We are strong with God and know we will endure.

  240. To say we need something like this is putting it mildly. Thank you for blessing people with your word.

  241. Thanks, Jackie. I am not married yet, but my partner and I are preparing for our wedding (even at our old ages of 42 & 43, this marriage being my first!) and for marriage. We have some differences in our faith, but continue to move forward as a couple. I pray regularly for my partner and on V-Day gave him a prayer letter that let him know how much I pray for his growth in Christ. I thank you for this message as both of us have been homeless at different times in our life and we know how easily we could be there again together. We don’t take that for granted. With thanks, Christa

  242. Candy Bradley says:

    Awesome read this morning….

  243. My first marriage wasn’t able to survive the hard times. I want to do better the second time around if I’m given the opportunity.

  244. Truly need the Lord to lead us through this very hard time. We have been married 42 years and I have let too many things draw me down and take love away from our marriage. Please pray for Danny and me and Lord bring us back to your love, and peace and joy together. And hope this would also give us direction.

  245. This devotional was just what I needed today! I am divorced but trials are a part of life for all of us & my attitude can change my whole perspective. Since my divorce 10 years ago I have been struggling financially. At the age of 55 right now it’s much more difficult to find good paying employment when your husband was the ” bread winner”. So I have been cleaning people’s houses & doing janitorial work at a few local churches… It pays the bills!..Praise God!!! I would appreciate your prayers for my finances please!!!! Also I would love to remarry some day, Lord willing!

  246. This would be awesome to go through!

  247. The timing of this devotion was unbelievable. My husband and I are having a major challenge in our 25 year marriage. A challenge that could end our marriage and send us in two different directions in our lives. I think this devotion sent me the sign that I was just ask God to send me about my marriage. The message to fight for my marriage because God will make it wonderful. Would love to read the book. Thanks.

  248. we just returned from a weekend to remember conference and this just happened to us. One spouse thinking everything is okay and shocked to learn it isn’t okay for the other spouse. How to stop the cycle????

  249. Gladys Brice says:

    Our Marriage has seen it’s share of challenges. 2015 was a rough year but,we made it through by praying together. It’s one of the things I’be been praying for since we’ve been together since 2004. We’ve had financial struggles and we’ve moved at least 12 times.We are still standing & that’s because of God. Amen!

  250. Carla Starkenburg says:

    Would love the opportunity to have this book! My marriage needs help frequently, but I am determined to work at making things better.

  251. This was just what I needed. In our human minds we are like wow but God knows exactly what He’s doing. My husband and are are going thru the trials right now. He has said hes thought of a divorce, but I believe that God can make our marriage new and even better than it was. Please pray for us that we can be more in love than ever before.

  252. Angie bridges says:

    Struggle…ugh! We have had our share and I must admit that in the midst of those struggles, I felt alone and questioning if I married the right man?Infertility, death, depression, financial struggles, a suicide attempt…sometimes these tough places seemed insurmountable! But in the depth of these painful experiences, God always met me there and reminded me that He is the Rock…He never changes…He never leaves us or forsakes us…He remains the One true constant, dependable source of strength in our lives. Living on this earth is HARD….marriage is work…selfless work, but the grass is not always greener on the other side like Satan likes us to believe. I claim the vows I made in my marriage…sometimes I have to do this hour to hour. But God is faithful…He delivers us from sin and death and His promises never fail. I love my husband…sometimes I don’t like him or his ways, but I choose to love as Jesus taught me:-)

  253. I enjoyed todays devotion. I am going some of those hard times right now. Thank You!

  254. This is excellent. Exactly what I needed to read today!

  255. So grateful for this lesson today. I filed for divorce and now my husband says he doesn’t want to. Even though we are still separated he is trying to do the right thing, growing in his relationship with God. So I will patiently continue praying during this “for worse ” season.

  256. Jenny Yarbrough says:

    I would LOVE a copy!

  257. Our marriage is under fire through our children, who ate under attack behavior wise. Please give us the strength to endure this battle.

  258. Sounds like a great book!

  259. Shandy Corcoran says:

    I would love to read this book. Our 20th wedding anniversary is feb 23!! What a great gift this would be!

  260. My husband and I have been married for 44 years. I would love to do this to help us get through the rough times of retirement. This is something I could do with our church family couples that may be finding the road rough.

  261. Amanda Tallman says:

    In sickness has been huge in our marriage right now. We are young and didn’t expect to deal with this type of stuff at a young age, but God has been so faithful and so has my husband.

  262. God is good. HE always knows what I need each morning during my quiet time. HE is amazing. I needed this encouragement this morning. Experiencing a bend in the road.

  263. Jennifer Scott says:

    I would love a copy, thanks

  264. Heather Miller says:

    I would love a book with Bible based advice on improving my marriage so that it may glorify God! I hope I win!

  265. I really need this book right now. My marriage is in deep trouble and I’m my knees in prayer for restoration and knowledge.

  266. A happy, fulfilling Marriage without God’s guidance, strength & grace is difficult. Jesus makes the difference and keeps the commitment from faltering.

  267. Kim Dockery says:

    This morning I prayed and asked God to work on my marriage and low and behold, this email came through. I would love to have this book as my marriage is on the rocks. Thank you for that encouraging email. God bless!

  268. Nancy Keith says:

    I would love the opportunity to dive into this book. My marriage is in an unsteady place and I need to dive in and weather the storm.

  269. Faith. Loving like Jesus. Persevere under trial. Take care of yourself! Marriage is tough but beautiful!

  270. I would love this book! My husband and I always read together and could always use a book on marriage. Maybe we could start a couples study with this! Thank you. God bless you!!

  271. Great advice and encouragement.
    I need more!

  272. Sunny McNally says:

    When my husband and I married 31 years ago our marriage counseling consisted of an hour discussion with my pastor. In that one hour my husband and I learned there will be tough days. We still reference what we learned in that one hour when things are tough. My daughter is getting married May of 2017. I’d love for her to have the opportunity to do your marriage study with her future husband. Blessings and thanks to you for what you do. Sunny

  273. Beautiful ~ thank you for this. It is right where we are ~ miles apart. Praying for God’s wisdom and guidance always. For my husband and myself to lean into God and find love ~God’s love through both of us. thank you ~

  274. I am very interested in The 7 Rings of Marriage. My husband and I are in the marriage ministry at our church and do book studies often. I think this would be a great future study.

  275. KC Armstrong says:

    Would love to read more! My husband and I are pratically newlyweds so I want to keep the right perspective.

  276. Perfect timing for me, great reminder of God’s presence and power. Thank you

  277. Lisa Salcedo says:

    I needed this message today

  278. Need this information

  279. Kelly Angus says:

    Would love to read this book and see if it would be a good fit for a women’s study!

  280. Kim Vucelich says:

    I would love to read the book and watch the videos with my husband

  281. What a wonderful reassurance that every trial we go through will lead to God’s glory if we only allow it. Great information for engaged couples as well as married couples.

  282. Raychel S. says:

    I have been looking for a couples Bible study!

  283. Katie Meeuwsen says:

    We have some lack of communication, help please

  284. Mary Ann Land says:

    This devotional today is perfect for anyone at any stage of their marriage. It is a message of hope that the good times WILL roll again but we must persevere through the rough spots time and time again. I had a person say to me many years ago “and this to shall pass” and it did! I felt like I didn’t love my husband and I wanted to move on. I have been married 44 years. This message is perfect still today for me because life continues to get in MY way. Bless you for this message and praise God that his light is shining through you!

  285. would love the opportunity to read this book….you can never have enough tools to navigate this adventure called marriage!

  286. Thanks for the devotion. Would like to read your book.

  287. I’ve been married for almost 6 years to a man I’ve known for 31 years. We dated in college, our lives went in different directions, and, about 10 years ago, we reconnected. We both lived on our own prior to marriage, so there’s a great amount of independence in both of us. We know what it feels like to think we’re on the same page and be miles apart. We’re so busy all the time, so we both work a lot of things out in our own minds when we should be communicating more together. Thanks for this devotion. I’m going to share it with my husband. I know it will help us.

  288. My husband and I were at Ridgecrest last year and heard you speak. This book would be wonderful to have! Thank you for your encouragement! We’ve also had our trials (and still trying to move past some of them months later), and I’m still, not so patiently, waiting for the glorious unfolding.

  289. Amanda Sharp says:

    My husband and I would be blessed by this dvd!

  290. What a beautiful reminder to be present and “check in” on the state of my marriage before it gets to the point of trial and tribulation! Thank you!

  291. Challenges with job changes, raising a special needs yet wonderful child, anger, selfishness, pride, etc. have rocked our marriage. We’ve learned that staying in the word and connected with other Christian couples and trusting God to use our talents in our work and personal lives is key. A few years into marriage, I was not sure we’d make it but we’re coming up on 8 years of marriage. Looking forward to 10+ and knowing it IS a mutual feeling is the best. God is good!

  292. Nancy Nunemaker says:

    This was a good reminder for anyone! I would love the book-

  293. This hits home for my family right now. I think we are miles apart at times and truly aren’t sure of what the other needs.

  294. Teresa Joachimczyk says:

    Thank you for posting this. My husband and I just came through a very difficult week. This would be a good book for us to read.

  295. Much needed, Thank you for All that you do ,

  296. Michelle M says:

    I would love to win this book!! What a blessing it would be for my boyfriend and I as we plan the next stages of our life together!

  297. Connie Stilwell says:

    My husband and I were married at 19 years of age and our upbringing had been completely different. However, Christ was our common denominator. We held on to a verse, “…in him (Christ) all things hold together.” NIV Our marriage has been through some fiery trials, but we still love each other and will be celebrating our 31st wedding anniversary in March.

  298. Thank you so much for your encouragement Jackie! Perseverance is not something that comes naturally but only when we place complete trust in our Father and continue to run the race He has planned out for us. I would love the opportunity to read & share your book with my husband. God bless you & your lovely bride.

  299. Karen Rogers says:

    Thank you for your inspirational message. My husband and I go thru cycles of trials. We continue to pray for strength to persevere.

  300. It seems like I read a lot of articles about how God so faithfully saved their marriage. That’s what I prayed for, but it didn’t happen for me. What did I do wrong?

  301. I know the Lord is speaking to my heart in this area…thank you!

  302. Debbie Pettit says:

    Would love to win this book Been 36 years the only way to make a marriage work is to put God First Without him you will not make it you learn the hard way, God Is Great Amen

  303. I too would like to read this book.

  304. Theresa Walker says:

    I would love to win a copy I your book–I think our marriage needs it!

  305. Dana Tumlin says:

    Perfect devotion with perfect timing! My marriage is in a very difficult season.

  306. Ana Castro says:

    My husband and I have been married for 15 years. I would like to continue to grow in our marriage as we grow in other areas. I would love to read this book and pass it on.

  307. Looking forward to reading a new prospective on biblical teachings on relationships and marriage. Would love a copy of your new book!

  308. Kathryn Holland says:

    Looking for more incite on marriage. After 42 years we still struggle with communicating .

  309. Our finances was out biggest struggle for 20 years of our marriage. Debt, unwise money management and different views about money constantly put our marriage in a tale spin. Great devotional and it speaks volumes of what God can do.

  310. Sarah Bryson says:

    Loved the devotion today. Marriage is definitely full of ups & downs & we’ve been through our fair share. Would love to win a copy of the book.

  311. K L Redfield says:

    I’d love to receive this book. Thanks for the opportunity to win it!

  312. Laura Snowden says:

    Both our children plan to marry this year. This book would be a blessing

  313. I would love a copy of this book! We are in a season of struggle. Thankfully the conversations have started and we are both aware. We are trying our best to take steps to reconnect. We would love to learn more strategies through this book.

  314. Jessica Wilson says:

    My marriage has been suffering for the past year. I’m desperately looking for guidance on this . My psychologist tells me divorce is my only option but I know that’s not right in gods eyes

  315. Elizabeth Thibodeaux says:


  316. The title alone of today’s devotion spoke volume to me. It’s strange how that happens and seems like there is no stopping it. The danger in the distance is real and painful

  317. My husband and I have gone through so much and this time he chose to leave with a married (now divorced for him) woman. About the time I’m ready to throw in the towel, I come across post like this one that tugs at my heart to hold on to my marriage.

  318. All Christian marriages need to be grounded in faith and committed to love and the Bible. Fellowship and godly advice are welcome tools that help the work be fruitful. Looking forward to tge book.

  319. Thank yon for this today. I would love a copy of the 7 Rings. Thanks!

  320. My pastor just gave me a sample odd this book. Looking to start a marriage ministry soon.Facing some challenges myself in a 13 year marriage.

  321. As a newly wed (4 months) I’m always looking for information on what to expect and how to become a better wife and woman for my husband. It’s an exciting time, though it’s great too to be reminded that my spouse and I wI’ll not always have the same view of our marriage. It’s a growth process and always a work in progress. Thank you for sharing. Amen!

  322. My husband & I are going through trials right now. We are going to counseling and trying to work it out. He is not a Christian and that makes it hard – please pray for us. I’d love to read the book.

  323. P Stallard says:

    God sure works in mysterious ways! This article was received today in my daily email dated today Feb 16th from Proverbs 31.Org….today also happens to be our 31st wedding anniversary!!! We’ve had our share of ups & downs over the years..the last 3 have been the most difficult. God continues to Bless us every day & with his Grace there’s no obstacle we can’t overcome! ?

  324. I love how God says, consider it pure joy when facing trials in today’s scripture James 1:2-4. It makes me ‘lol.’ I sure don’t think of it this way when my husband and I are right in the middle of problems.

    Fresh out of another marriage trial, I can reflect on God’s ways and smile. Today’s devotion reminds me that trials are growing pains, and that our God is always ready to teach, love, heal, restore and more. Focusing on God is the only way to keep things in perspective.

    I genuinely appreciate hearing another married person being honest about what’s not perfect in matriage. The hope and help that God gives through sharing and caring is so amazing! Please Lord help married ‘folk’ to cling to you and hang on tight to their spouse.

    Thank you Lord for being the life partner You are!

  325. Jina Sanders says:

    This could not have come at a better time! I believe my husband and I are miles apart, praying for the Lord to help us find our way back to each other. Thank you for this great devotion!

  326. Elizabeth Jones says:

    I feel like my husband and I are always in a season of struggle….and I get hopeless we will ever have a great marriage.

  327. My marriage seems miles apart. But I too hold on for the hope that The Lord has promised us. He is not finished with us yet.

  328. My husband and I will be celebrating 19 years of marriage in May, unfortunately, 10 of these years we were living in the same house as strangers, as we were both hard headed and did not want to give an inch to the relationship. Thank God he never abandoned us and we have been to talk and break the barriers that kept us apart emotionally for so many years.

  329. Noone can really tell you how much your marriage will change once you have children. We are overjoyed to have two beautiful, healthy toddlers and we try to cherish every moment with them. But moments with my husband seem few and far between these days. We are exhausted. I would love a copy of this book! Hopefully I can stay up long enough to read it.

  330. Thank you Jackie for this inspiring message! And the opportunity to win this, the timing couldn’t be better.

  331. I’m 39 years old and have been married twice. My first husband gave me know choice, marry me or die! My second husband I walked down the aisle repeating I’m doing this for my daughter and after years of a second abusive marriage God gave me the strength to leave. I believe marriage is a beautiful Union designed by God and if we allow God to be first and guide us when choosing our spouse, he will give us the strength when we go through trials and tribulations. In my two previous marriage I made choices I should not have made. My heart and I pray your hearts desire is to allow God to choose for you!

  332. Ginger Lawson says:

    Great devotional today! Marriage takes continuous work. It is so challenging at times, yet rewarding. Learning to pray consistently and consciously that God will reveal what we need to work on in this season of marriage.

  333. We are in a VERY difficult time of marriage right now. We’re persevering but, at times, I feel I’m drowning. I would LOVE to read this book and I am adding it to my reading list!

  334. Emily Francisco says:

    Would love to read this book. It would be helpful and encouraging. Thank you.

  335. Would love a copy!

  336. Donna Byrd says:

    I’d love to receive the book! Thank you so much!

  337. Dana Britt says:

    Sounds like a book that can not only bless my marriage, but marriages around me.

  338. Jessica Young says:

    I’m newly married(7months) for the 22nd and last time. This would be a great addition to our bookshelf.

  339. Nancy Harsh says:

    I enjoyed today’s meditation and plan to share it with my daughter & her fiance’. She is 35 and has never been married… he is divorced with 2 children and will turn 38 on Feb. 22, the day you are giving away the books! Please, please, PLEASE pick me to receive a copy! I would love for them to have it to help assure their marriage will be a LASTING one!! God bless you! P.S. They both help (with a ministry called “Matthew 8:20”) to give out hot meals & clothes to homeless people twice a month, lead the youth group at our church and do so much for others! They deserve a blessing, and this book would be a good start!

  340. My son is getting married in June and I would love for him and his wife to have a copy of this book.

  341. DeEtte Starr says:

    Thank you for your 2/16 devotional. I’d enjoy reading your book!

  342. Thank you for sharing this. My life has man trials I’m facing. But the most important is my marriage. We have been married 18 yrs. Plenty if up and downs. Seems like more downs. I would love to read this book to see what I can learn from it. Learn how to have a solid, godly marriage. It’s been long road. I want to please God in all we do. I would be grateful for a copy. Thank you.

  343. Annette Pierce says:

    Thank you for the amazing message! My husband and I are a part of a marriage ministry at our church. We have just begun this journey helping other couples revive or strengthen marriages. My husband and I have weathered some pretty intense “storms” over our 32 years of marriage. Reading today’s post was a wonderful reminder of our purpose – to share our story, struggles, and triumphs, but mostly, to share how God must be the foundation of our relationship. Again, thank you for your message!

  344. D determan says:

    Thank you for this devotional today!

  345. Beautiful

  346. Great message!

  347. Thank you for this encouragement! I think this book would be a blessing to my husband and me.

  348. Tere Guardado says:

    Great words, would love to read your book. God bless you!

  349. Thank you for sharing this. My life has many trials I’m facing. But the most important is my marriage. We have been married 18 yrs. Plenty of up and downs. Seems like more downs. I would love to read this book to see what I can learn from it. Learn how to have a solid, godly marriage. It’s been long road. I want to please God in all we do. I would be grateful for a copy. Thank you.

  350. Thanks for the giveaway-

  351. My husband and I are facing deep issues with financial and affairs of my husband

    • Tracy Colebrooke says:

      Bonnie, your trust and heart have been broken. I cannot imagine or relate to what you must be feeling, but all I can say to you is only God can bring you through this storm. May I suggest that you find a strong married spiritual female confidante to talk with. Also, cry out to God first and foremost…share all your feelings with him and ask for direction and clarity as you and your husband work through the storm you are in. I will say a prayer for you and ask that God’s will be done and that you trust God with the healing process you both need.

  352. This is so encouraging. Beautiful words.

  353. I woke up this morning feeling like a porcupine!!!! spikes ready to fling out at any one that came near me…. last night was a crusher in our marriage…and I still feel raw from it….then I opened up my email and did not feel like reading proverbs 31 today. (quills were ready to fly at the computer too!) But I did and as I read what you said, I thought, ” could this be true what he is saying????” Is this really a time when GOD wants us to be stronger? Is this a time that I need to dig in and not give up??? I will be seeking GOD now… thank you for saying what you did….

  354. Kathryn R. says:

    Thanks for sharing! It’s always a good reminder that trials WILL come; that’s life. And, it’s true, sometimes we miss that the other spouse is having problems. I’M glad you two stuck to your vows and pulled through! :).God’s continues blessings!

  355. Great devotion. We must make the choice to keep connected to our spouse!

  356. Tracy Colebrooke says:

    I read today’s reflection after being invited to do so by a friend. Thank you for reminding me that my present challenges I am facing in my marriage are all part of the journey to the finish line–til death do us part. Isn’t it ironic that we desire beautiful marriages but are not willing to be refined by the creator to attain such a goal? I am learning that marriage is a journey and requires a team effort. If each individual on the team treats the other as the most important person ever, then love will truly prevail and our marriage will not be a pain but a blessing as intended by God. Thank you!

  357. Lou Ann Holland says:

    I really needed that this morning. Thank you for sharing your story about you and your wife.

  358. I know a sweet young couple going through a difficult time in their marriage. I would like to come alongside of them and mentor them. I was not sure of where to look for a resource and here it was in my devotion. God is good!

  359. Trisa Warren says:

    I’m very excited about this study and feel this is something I need to look into to share with couples at my church. It is so important that God is the center of our marriages!

  360. Ellie Richardson says:

    I would love to give this to my son and daughter in law! They are separated right now.

  361. Wow. I really needed this devotional this morning. God’s timing is so good.

  362. My husband and I will be married 10 years this year, but I couldn’t feel further from him. We have two beautiful children who help me keep my focus on the Lord! I hope and pray that someday we will be able to pray together and work as a godly team rather then always disagreeing with each other.

  363. Our 17 year marriage is hanging by a thread. Was so encouraged by today’s post and trust that God will ultimately bring us back together stringer than ever. Not giving up!

  364. Josh parker says:

    I have heard amazing things about this book! I just went through a daily devotional that referenced it!

  365. Robin Stillwell says:

    I would love to study your book, the 7 rings of marriage.

  366. Jan Gardner says:

    I’m getting many devotionals and conversations about marriage lately, I must need to work on ours! My word for the year is Love, so you’d think so, but really I meant it as in some other relationships I need to love more like Jesus loves. Looks like our marriage is falling into that category also, it will be 48 years in May, so I could use the book.

  367. Next year will be 25 years, at this season of life we are facing financial difficulties and caring for one parent who is at the end of her battle with cancer. Marriage is what we are holding on to, would love the book to carry us into the best years yet

  368. Darla Greenwood says:

    My husband and I struggle with this every day. But we take our vows to each other and God very serious.

  369. We forget sometimes that we have to keep working at our marriage especially when we are going through the tough times. We are going through a “poor and sickness” time right now and sometimes it is hard to just get through the day but I pray that God will be glorified through this season of trial. Thank you for sharing this devotional, it was the encouragement I needed to carry on.

  370. This is so encouraging and full of truth!!

  371. Alma Martinez says:

    We need this book. We are in the “Danger Zone” and your story and scripture is encouraging. Thank you so much!

  372. Marge Henson says:

    Good is so gracious!! My daughter has had many trials in her marriage – a husband who didn’t want to have a steady job, not accept responsibilities,etc. Due to a medical situation she can no longer work so therefore the financial burden but due to her disability she’s maintain HER house. NOW he’s (only 60 as of last Nov.) had a bilateral stroke. Went into hospital w/ pneumonia & had stoke while there. Due to God’s kindness & many Christians’ prayers he’s out of rehab & miraculously walking w/ walker, talking again, but left arm paralyzed but she NOW has taken on stress of caring for him plus she had not driven in 8 years due to her situation BUT now is driving monster truck(which he would not sell tohelpfinancially); making ALL decisions and has come out of her crippled shell, which he of course, wanted her to remain as he controlled her and manipulated her totally. I would love to give her your book as she has been loving,faithful and committed throughout this “marriage”. I am so proud of her and the way she’s handling this situation with all her own health problems. I’ve stepped back, not helping financially and praying for our Lord to keep my mouth shut so He can work in this. Pray for them!

  373. I’d appreciate a copy to improve my marriage and prepare to counsel my own kids when they decide to marry.

  374. Good morning…very impressive devo..awesome discussion on marriage..what I really enjoyed was that a guy writer joined in this time…it is really nice to get a different take on this stuff every once in a while from another point of view..& God willing my hubby & I will celebrate our 40th…in July…thank you again for this neat devo…

    Have a blessed day……..Kathy wyg

  375. Holly Fisher says:

    My husband and I have been married less than a year but together almost eight. We have been through many trials and we are stronger from it. We are completely committed to each other and our daughter.

  376. Would love a copy of your book. We are always trying to improve our marriage, and blessings are always welcome! ❤️?

  377. My marriage has been in trouble for a couple of years now and I feel that this book may be the lifeline from above.

  378. Sounds like a wonderful resource!

  379. Marriage is hard work!Most importantly……Christ must be at the center. Both spouses must be committed for a marriage to succeed.Unfortunately I’m now a statistic…. I became a believer but my spouse rejected and left the marriage. Your book would be an asset to many couples that I know who are struggling.Thank you.

  380. I really enjoyed this devotional and would absolutely love to read Jackie’s entire book. Thank you for this message today!

  381. Soooo true! Marriage isn’t easy, and it’s a choice to work through those tough times! Thank you for the encouragement and the challenge to keep on keeping on!

  382. I truly feel blessed & thankful for the reading this morning. It spoke to me where I wasn’t even aware! God is speaking to me & leading me to the work necessary.

  383. Cheryl Butts says:

    These are encouraging words for every married couple, no matter what stage your are in your marriage; a new bloom or a veteran. When we put God at the center we can overcome all things.

  384. 7 rings, huh? I’d love to know more about that!

  385. Thank you for this post!

  386. I would love a copy of your book! Thanks

  387. Thank you for the touching reminder. I know all trials bring us closer to what God wants for us even when we don’t realize it. Making a commitment to marriage is not always easy, especially when you’re miles apart as my husband and I have also been. It’s all part of God’s great plan! Maybe he wants us to do scripture together or read a devotional as yours or just connect on with love of each other and God.
    I will share your devotions with my husband too!!
    Thank you.

  388. Michele Shelton says:

    I would really love this book to help improve my marriage

  389. Every marriage needs God centered counseling whether by prayer or some other source. Would love a copy for myself and than be able to share with my daughters, etc.

  390. Thank you for such a wonderful devotion. I’m at a good place right now but that’s the result of prayers being answered. I’ve been married 19 years and gone through many seasons of marriage.

  391. My husband and I just celebrated our 11th anniversary. We have been through thick and thin and the Lord has seen us through it all. We are now working with a newly wed couple of only a few months and they are struggling. I would love to have a copy of the 7 rings to use during our mentoring time.

  392. shelia hines says:

    this book sounds like something I would enjoy

  393. Sarah Welty says:

    Thank you Jackie for your encouraging devotional this morning. My husband and I just went through a real rough patch and thanks to Christ, we are coming through it as a stronger couple. It is important to remember to check in with one another and see how the other one is REALLY doing and not just assume they are well. Thank you for your wisdom and for sharing your experiences here.

  394. I needed to hear this today!

  395. Janet Bender says:

    I believe this book would enrich our 20 year marriage. I would love to have a copy.

  396. Wow, as I see all the many comments, it’s striking to see the majority of the posts are from women. It raises the tough question…Where are the men? Are none of “us”, I say us because I include myself taking a stand for our families. I was so touched by the devotional this morning that I feel moved to action. My wife and I have been married for 16 years. We have been on a roller coaster of ups and down placing us many times in the danger zone; however, through it all God’s grace has proven to be sufficient. I am at a point where I feel God urging me to take the lead in salvaging, strengthening and leading my marriage where he wants it to go. A copy of the book would be instrumental in this endeavor. I believe God has a plan for our marriage which includes being a beacon for other couples. I AM READY!! Stay encouraged.

  397. Great devo! My son is getting married in October & recently lost his job. I’m going to forward this to him. Thank you!

  398. This was definitely needed for this single girl. Our society teaches us that marriage is all glitz and glamour but, it’s hard and good work. As, I am entering this season of my life I need all of the godly wisdom I can get!

  399. My husband and I have been married for 23 years. I feel we have hit a roadbock. Last year was hard when our oldest daughter rebelled and eloped. Now we are expecting our first grandchild.
    The hurt has caused great stress on our marriage. Finding a way out of this rut has been hard.
    I hope to be able to get your book soon and work through it with my husband

  400. We have been at here before as well. Our marriage seems to have more trials than most, and I am convinced we create most of our own problems. Still, after 22 years, we are still married. I know God has a plan for our marriage and for us individually. We will, through God’s grace, love and mercy, continue to persevere.

  401. I would simply love to have this book!

  402. Bridget pavelec says:

    Great devotion. My husband and I have had our ups and downs and I’m always looking for new books and techniques to make our love better and work for the glory of God.

  403. Chaplain Cathy Williams says:

    This was topic miles apart and didn’t know it is on time, thank you because that is exactly where my marriage was and I think we both were dissatisfied in our finances but one expressed it more than the other but at the same time God us bringing us together to fight through the trial. Thank God for his Word.

  404. Mark Harper says:

    Blessings abounding through the lessons of marriage and family. Our journey is always a growth adventure. Please consider sending us your book,and we will be sure to be faithful to multiplying its lessons through S.S. & church, the bride.
    Thanks for taking the time to share & invest in God’s crop of marriages. Mark L. Harper

  405. I would love to have a copy of the book to read through with my husband of 30 years. He travels for work and so for the last 3 years we have lived apart. While it is difficult to remain connected we try our best but it is not easy.

  406. I would love to give this book to my newly engaged daughter!

  407. This morning devotional touched so close to home. My husband and I are struggling right now thank you for the hope and great wisdom in what I need to add to my prayers.

  408. I could use this book right now in my marriage.

  409. Wow! Perfect timing! We’ve been married 17 years and are going through another round of making our marriage a priority after having let it slip down the list. Thankfully both of us don’t want to make bad choices and slip down the road towards divorce but it is always such work. It looks easy from the outside but it is a constant effort to make a positive choice. Thanks for the encouragement!!

  410. I was so encouraged by this message today!! I love this ministry.

  411. Lana Jones says:

    Thank you for this post. My husband and I are in this “danger zone” AGAIN – which is why this post was comforting to me because others have been there a time or two as well. It is difficult. I truly just wish we could get and STAY on the same page. Well, anyway, thank you for the encouragement and may God Bless you both as you go through your trials too.
    Lana Jones

  412. Today’s message was perfect for me. My husband had an affair several years ago. I knew something was wrong, but I was so naive I didn’t realize what was happening right under my nose. Somehow, we got through it, and now our relationship is stronger than ever. I wouldn’t want to go through it again, and wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, but this is an example of how good can come from anything.

    • Gayle Meacham says:

      This is so true. Following my husband’s surgeries for carpal tunnel on both hands, and losing his job, our marriage has been one trial and one victory after another. Only Jesus is faithful in all things. Only Father God is in control. Only the Holy Spirit provides all knowledge, wisdom and understanding. Had anyone told me all the changes we would need to make to love so deeply, I doubt I would have said “I do!” But one at a time, God has overwhelmed us with His mercy and Grace. thank you so much for your ministry.

  413. Joanne Hewlett says:

    Celebrating 11 years of marriage this Friday. God’s had us on a remarkable journey. Growing together in Him.

  414. walewska pena says:

    7 rings? I would love to know what are those… Will be very encouraging for sure. May God bless you and your family.

  415. Just celebrated our 34th anniversary. Would love a copy of the book for my adult children.

  416. We will be married 8 years this May. I sometimes feel as if we are miles apart. Thank you for this devotional. We would love to win a copy of the book.

  417. Thanks for such an inspirational message. We’ve been married for 26 years and have been experiencing our most difficult trials this past year. I thank God for these trails because we have gained spiritual growth and have become more united. This book would be a blessing for us.

  418. Linda Hammer says:

    Yes, this book would certainly be a great help in mentoring people and small groups. Thank you for the opportunity to win such a helpful tool.

  419. Lonni Brilrs says:

    Thank you for being transparent. My husband and I have been together 33 years. We have faced infertility, bankruptcy, foreclosure and a dui. Currently we live 150 miles apart due to our jobs. Only by God’s faithful grace and mercy are we still together and walking with Him

  420. Lynn Martinez says:

    I would love to have this tool for my marriage. Thank you.

  421. Thank you for the encouragement. Being married for 38 years, there have been many times of testing and I expect that there will always be trials. The commitment to persevere, to love despite the odds comes from God’s own heart and it takes conscious effort to live this out. It is always worth it.

  422. Loved your message today. I look forward to hearing more encouragement. Thank You.

  423. My husband and I have been through many significant trials but we have come out stronger on the other side from them. And we have learned life always will have trials and to learn to trust God when things are tough or easy.

  424. Two important things: satan is the enemy NOT my husband; and…after 34 years…pray and let God do what only He can do, hands off, don’t lean on your own understanding or anger or accomplishes absolutely NOTHING!
    Great devotional…and from so many responses…..much needed

  425. Michelle Shove says:

    22 plus years of marriage and still studying marriage together, would love to add this book to our collection!

  426. I read your devotions today concerning Miles apart and didn’t even know it. Your offer for the book, Seven Rings of Marriage interested me. Once again, our marriage is being tested! This time through our daughter, who has a rare autoimmune disease. She is the first person in the United States to undergo stem cell treatment for this particular disease (MCTD). Because no one has gone before her, we are traveling a path based on Faith along. HOwever, Satan is trying to create doubt and dissention along the way. (today, through sickness in all three of her little boys) Sadly, a FB friend the age of our daughter, suddenly died from this disease, which hit our daughter very hard, for both girls are in their early 30s, with a wonderful marriage and young family! God can and will guide us through this journey…perhaps with your book?

  427. Marriage is hard work but a beautiful blessing too!

  428. Thank you for your devotion. I would love to read your book & then share with others. God bless you!

  429. Michelle engel says:

    sometimes marriage is like a three ring circus too!

  430. Deborah Griglen says:

    About 7 years ago, a former really close friend of mine called me one day and said “My husband says that marriage is effortless”, I couldn’t believe that I heard her correctly. I almost said “say that again”. She laughed and said “I don’t understand how couples just can’t keep it together”. My first thought was “Did your husband actually say that or did you say it and he just agreed? because one of ya’ll have to be absolutely miserable if there is no effort being made”. The friend and I lost contact over the years and they have moved to another neighborhood, however, I pray that they are still married and happy in their effortless state of being. I do know that ANYTHING is possible with God and their union may be one that He perfected, but for the ones of us that have to work at marriage, He dwells there too.
    As we continue to pray for marriages around the world, this devotional might be a catalyst for someone who doesn’t seem to understand that there is effort on each person to make a marriage work, a give and a take. May we all continue to pray for and share with married couples as God so leads us.

  431. God’s timing is always perfect – and certainly for this devotional. The words spoke to my heart to keep pressing on, that God’s plan is so much better than my plan, and that relying on Him will make us stronger. My husband lost his job in January – the second time in 3 years. I’m working two jobs so needless to say the stress in our marriage has been at a very high level. The encouragement in ‘7 Rings” would be so very welcomed in this difficult time.

  432. I’d love to read and then pass on!

  433. Delia Parker says:

    Thank you for the words of encouragement even though our marriage look like it is over I trust and believe God has the final word. I believe it was God who gave you these words to say THIS day and I believe this book could help US restore and heal our marriage.

  434. Nancy carter says:

    Wow, that was my ne of the best articles I have read! Jackie, you are so right. We experienced a lot of those same things, and many times one of us was ready to give up. Thankfully, never at the same time. I like how you said “when” it happens, not “if”, for I think we have hit them all….sickness, poorer, etc. great article!

  435. Thank you for the encouraging devotion. I will post the scriptures you shared around the house as a reminder of God’s truth.

  436. currently going through a trial and praying for a positive attitude and to be able to look back on this time in the years to come and realize it made us stronger.

  437. Thank you for your refreshing & honest encouragement today.
    Would appreciate winning …

  438. My marriage has been right there! One is oblivious to the fact there are any problems and the other is ready to throw in the towel! Thanks for the encouragement that we are not alone! Would love to win a copy of this book!!

  439. Such a timely encouragement for today!

  440. Seems as though God was speaking directly to me this morning through your message.

  441. Thank you so much for these encouraging words of wisdom. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have been through some painful times. We always come through with the help and love of God and the wonderful people we are surrounded by. The most fatal times of a marriage are when a couple becomes complacent with their spouse and doesn’t communicate and compromise any more.

  442. Marriage is the hardest job I have ever had but is worth all the hard work and effort. I have been married for 24 years to my wonderful husband Dan who has loved me unconditionally as the Lord loves us unconditionally. Never, Never, Never give up on your marriage. When I want to give up, God gives me the strength to keep loving myself and my spouse.

  443. I would love to have this book. I need in how to handle the distance that has come between my husband and me. We live in the same house but I feel like we are strangers sometimes.

  444. Sara Smith says:

    Would love to have this resource for my marriage and to be able to share with the other couples in our Sunday school class.

  445. Thank you for the timeliness of this message. My husband and I are in the midst of a spiritual crisis and it is very difficult. He has told me he is no longer in love with me and doesn’t want to divorce for ther kids’ sake but at the same time hasn’t ruled it out. I’ve been praying and trusting God to fulfill the promises He’s given about marriage. I believe in God’s power to restore and heal our marriage. My husband has agreed to read books about marriage, so I’m hoping that this book would be a resource that can help us. Be blessed

  446. Remembering your marriage vows is a good way to push through hard times. Perhaps we should frame them and hang them on our wall as a constant reminder.

  447. Encouraging words for a weary heart at this stage of marriage.

  448. Pamela Mackenzie says:

    I would love to learn more. I’ve been married going on 36 years. My husband and I raised our children in church. He was baptized in our church. However, after the kids got older he stopped going to church. I’ve tried talking with him, he’s really closed up. I feel we have a good marriage, but you know it’s never too late to learn more. Maybe this book could help me better help him as God would have me do.

    Thank you for your time.
    In Christ’s Love

  449. David Carbee says:

    It’s nice to know enjoying your trials is biblical. I’ve kind of always enjoyed the hard times because I knew they wouldn’t last. And you DO come out better on the other side. I hate arguing with my wife but I do so enjoy the making up.

  450. Attitude makes a huge difference! When I approach things in a positive manner, my husband and I can often focus more on each other than the external circumstances. 🙂

  451. Sharen smith says:

    Would love the book for my daughter and son in law.

  452. My husband and I had some great marriage teaching when we were first married and made a commitment that the word divorce would never if be spoken in our marriage. You are correct that trials do come in our marriages and we have to keep making that commitment we made on our marriage day to each other every time that happens. Thank you for that reminder today.

  453. Casey Hart says:

    I need to read this today. My heart needed this today.

  454. Delouris Goodson says:

    This was awesome and so true, will be sharing with others

  455. Sounds like a very good book. Been looking for something that my husband and I can do together each night that would help us get into God’s word more and talk openly about our marriage. 🙂

  456. This is just what I needed to hear today, cuz we are facing so much I can’t being to tell of all of it. It started with the plumbing, then to one income, to exhausting the savings account down to banking feeds which is now closed. We now have mold, asbestos dust everywhere and facing roofing problems with snow. I notice the hot water is running cold. My darling husband who is doing everything possible tried to light the pilot light but it won’t stay lit. so we call BGE. He came out and replace a part on the hot water heater and it lit, but he had to shut it off because of carbon monoxide not escaping through the chimney. He said there seem to be a blockage and where we had another problem. I’m not complaining! I am reminded to count it all joy when we fall into various trials knowing that trying out of our faith produces perseverance and perseverance produces patient and patient having its perfect work, so we are lacking nothing. Hallelujah! I can’t say my husband has the same faith that I have, so we need your prayers… I hear the Joy Bells Ringing, RING, RING, RING! Joy bells and they are ringing in my heart! Something good about to happen… Please prayer for my husband’s faith. Thank you and God Bless you.

  457. Regina Vollmer says:

    My husband and I have been married for over 25 years. We have had our ups and downs and have always persevered. The challenges in a marriage make it stronger. I Praise the Lord for my husband. Prayer has gotten us through the hard times and brought us to the good times.

  458. Amber Fields says:

    This really touched me and made me think positive of my marriage this morning. Thanks

  459. Sounds like an excellent read and would be great to share it

  460. Andrea Burke says:

    I would love a copy of this book. My husband and I came very close to separating a year ago – we were not communicating and almost called it quits. We realize that in order to get closer to each other we needed to draw closer to God. We started praying together and doing daily devotions… We have a long way to go, but with God’s grace and mercy we’ll get there together.

  461. I have been asked to officiate over a young couple’s wedding this fall. I am going to bring God! (so many of these young couples now are not going to the church for their wedding – so I’m going to bring God!) I would love to read Jackie’s book for ideas on what to share with them!

  462. Rhawnie Harp-Stone says:

    The only thing I can say is Thank you.
    This came at a perfect time

    God is good!

  463. Amber Spaeth says:

    In the hustle and bustle of everyday life it is easy to put your spouse away because at the end of the day you are just too tired. Thank you for the reminder of how important the wedding vows are and that marriage is hard work but it is worth it.

  464. Thank you for your encouraging words. I guess they don’t refer to marriage or life as a rollercoaster for nothing. After almost 20 years of marriage there are times we’ve been so close it seems as you’re sharing a breath and times when we’re on different planets. Either way, I know that my worst day with my husband is better than any fay without. I look forward to reading your book.

  465. I sure could use some marital encouragement

  466. Thank you for this today. I needed these words

  467. Great read for today. We have been engaged for almost two months and are excited to start our real life together. We constantly love to read God-centered material regarding marriage, and this was a great representation. Thank you for sharing!

  468. I would like to win one of these!

  469. Would love to get my hands on this and maybe use in our small group

  470. Lisa Almonte says:

    Marriage is hard and we need guidance.

  471. Stacey Morrison says:

    I need this for the many seasons of my own marriage.

  472. I take my marriage for granted. This book can help keep us on the right track.

  473. Latraivia Cowart says:

    Thank You for this awesome on time Word! I have been interceding for a couple for some time now and this testimony will serve as a witness that with God Everything is POSSIBLE! With 10,000 tongues I say THANK YOU!

  474. My husband asked for a separation on Valentine’s Day. I am believing in God to restore our marriage and heal the hurt. It is hard to show him Christ through my words, thoughts, and actions because of my hurt and anger but that is what I am called to do and His Word says he will work things out for the good of His people. I trust God to show me what I need to do in the process. I will persevere.

  475. Olivia Koenig says:

    I am getting married soon and would love to be fully prepared for the journey that marriage is. This sounds like a wonderful book for us to read together.

  476. I would love to hear more about the 7 Rings and hear the stories about the author’s and others’ marriages and how they became stronger in their marriages through the trials. It seems every married couple needs this kind of encouragement and I know my husband and I would greatly benefit from it.

  477. Whitney Tarkington says:

    Very encouraging words today! Thank you!

  478. Janine Roney says:

    God is helping me and redeeming and restoring my broken marriage! It’s a slow process and a difficult road when you lose trust and love. Your book sound amazing!
    Thank you for this opportunity!

  479. Great reminders to keep all lines of communication open and maybe have a heart check occasionally just to make sure we are all on the same page.

  480. I desperately need this book I’m my life. My marriage never started right , I’ve been heart broken multiple times over 14 years and I want te pain to end. I need GOD in my marriage and his guidance. Confused if I should just go through the divorce or take that leap of faith and get hurt again.

  481. I enjoyed reading this devotion especially since as a man I have read Proverbs 31 for years now(secretly). The devotions are great and this one on marriage is wonderful advice to us men on how we could be “out of the loop” on loving our wife and not even know it. Would love to have the book on the 7 rings of marriage.! Blessings

  482. Katie Hoisington says:

    Would love to have this to read with my future husband!

  483. Rosita Fagan says:

    Great message today! I would love to win a copy of this book.

  484. We would love to have this resource to use in small groups in our congregation and circle of influence!

  485. Sarah Boucher says:

    Jackie, thank you for a healthier perspective on challenges. I have been there before and will probably be there again. What remains constant is God’s love for me, my husband, and our marriage. What has helped is a renewed sense of love and connection to each other after these revelations surface. I would love a copy of your book to continue strengthening my marriage. I have this picture in my head of us as a cute old couple holding hands walking. The idea of fighting for my husband instead of against him is a good one too. Please send any ideas my way. God bless, Sarah

  486. Julie White says:

    It’s funny how God gives encouraging words or stories when you need them most. My husband and I have been together for 10 years now and we are entering our fifth year of marriage. It has felt that a good portion of our time spent together has already survived so much. From drug addiction, depression, and affairs, for a brief moment a few months ago, it felt like we were finally beyond the struggles and the uphill climb until last night when proof of another affair came to light. I’m on the fence on whether ending our marriage now would be better and healthier for us both; However deep in my very being I’ve known that this man was made for me and as I lay in bed last night all I could do was pray and let God know that I was hurting and confused and scared. This morning the first story on my news feed was this post. He heard my cries and He’s letting me know that the fight will be worth it. Thank you so much for sharing your story! It has hopefully helped at least one marriage today.

  487. Thanks for the great devotion!

  488. Would love to read this book!!
    Pick me!!

  489. Lauren Stewart says:

    Just what I needed this morning after prayers last night. He always knows what we need and when to give it.

  490. Proverbs 31 is such a blessing. I am encouraged daily with your devotionals! Thank you!

  491. As we celebrate our 22nd anniversary this week, we will be at a marriage retreat! Owning our own business and working together 24/7, means we have to do all that we can to work on our marriage!!

  492. Would love the book . . . I found that my husband and I were not on the same page. He would agree but not put feet to the verbal. I made commitments that he would try to sway me from following through. Of course, I didn’t see a lot of this until after he died of cancer. I don’t want to walk through those waters again. I want someone that will choose to walk through it, and follow through on a verbal commitment. Thank you for sharing this and the giveaway.

  493. Tara Roberts says:

    This blog came out today just for me because I’m struggling after a year and a half of infidelity on my husbands part and now trying to reconcile at times I think I’m making it and others Satan is whispering and reminding me of what he did.

  494. Thank you for your wise words this morning.

  495. What a great reminder. Thank you for the giveaway

  496. Thank you for powerful words of encouragement and wisdom. We are going through another season of trials and testing. I was ready to throw in the towel and walk away. You reminded me that God is bigger than my pain and He is for us. Thank you! God bless you!

  497. Maxine Bates says:

    I really loved the article and testimony. I can relate. My husband and I have been married for 19 years. We been through some tough times. There were times when I know God kept us together. We recently moved in an apartment after living in a motel for 6 months. My husband worked hard during our earlier years but due to health and an unforseen incident, he has been out of work since 2008. I am thankful that the VA pays for his education so he decided to pursue a bachelor degree at Bible college. I still see that sometimes he may feel like a failure and battles depression. He prays and perseveres. I believe we will soon be in a financial position to bless others families thru the vision of an outrreach ministry. Please pray for us.

  498. I enjoyed this post! It not only speaks to marriage, but every area of our life. Whether married or not, we’re going to face trials, difficult seasons, challenges. We can have joy in the midst because we know that God is with us and will never leave us and will give us grace in our time of need. I’m engaged right now, have been for almost a year, and me and my fiancé have already experienced a “fiery trial”. We’re at the point where we’re unsure if we’re going to proceed with marriage; however, I’m trusting God whatever the outcome may be. I know that something amazing will be produced (as Jackie said in the prayer). It took me a while to get to this point, but through reading God’s word, prayer, participating in an online bible study with Lysa TerKeurst, I’ve been able to fill my mind with God’s truth and one of the things I remind myself daily is to rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for me in Christ Jesus (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Learning to praise God and not my circumstances has been life changing!

  499. Bobbi Wineberg says:

    I think we just take too much for granted, especially with communication.

  500. April Gonnering says:

    Great post!

  501. Amanda Moyer says:

    This is the third encouraging passage of scripture or Bible Study relating to difficulty in marriage strengthening us. I think the Holy Spirit has something to teach me.

  502. Paula durand says:

    Thank you for this devotion!

  503. I needed this today. Thanks.

  504. Cheryl Kraus says:

    What a great reminder to be in tune with our spouse. We’ve been married 25 years. I know there have been times when we’ve been miles apart – and the look on the others face when this is discovered is shock. We continue to work on our communication so that we have fewer ‘miles apart’ moments.

    We’d love a copy of The 7 Rings of Marriage so that we can strengthen our relationship.

  505. I would love t send a copy to my son and his wife

  506. Robin Mooring says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! It has truly encouraged my heart and marriage. Stay blessed!

  507. My husband and I have been through many seasons of trials: financial, job loss, debt, my illness(MS), family stress, long-distance moves, jobs which cause separation, kids….. Perseverance is the word- with God, life, kids, each other…… Our marriage is stronger for it! And so is our faith in God. We would love a copy of this book to have a tool with which to encourage other couples.

  508. Gail Honey says:

    All Marriages can and should be renewed frequently. I would love to have the book.

  509. This was perfect and right on time. We realized this weekend that we weren’t on the same page on several things. God is working in our lives and satan is working overtime trying to undo all that HE is doing. We’re not going to let satan win though…we’re fighting harder than ever before to overcome his lies and deceit and listen to what God is saying instead.

  510. Martha Calvert says:

    Thanks !
    This was very interesting and I’m glad I ran up on this .

  511. Cathy Falls says:

    We are in our 37th year of marriage and are blessed beyond measure. That doesn’t mean we haven’t been challenged in every aspect…parenting, finances, jobs, jealousy and many other struggles have put hardships on our marriage along the way but the Lord has drawn us to Him each time which in turn has drawn us closer together rather than tearing us apart. Would love to go through this study to become even closer to Him and strengthen our marriage even more.

  512. My marriage has been suffering lately. I’ve even went to a lawyer and had papers drawn up, but since then the Lord has been laying it on my heart to wait-don’t file those just yet. I needed this devotion today. It really touched my heart.

  513. We have faced many storms in 45 years of marriage, but God has always brought us through.

  514. Cassandra Johnson says:

    Thank you, this post was right on time. My husband and I are going on 9 years of marriage and have moved 3 times for his job. I’ve remained positive and supportive of his career. Times are tough and his job is very demanding. Prayer Is a key component. Thanks again for your post.

  515. Thank you for the encouragement through this devotion. I would love the opportunity to study The 7 Rings of Marriage.

  516. It’s been a roller coaster during our 28 year marriage and the trials of my husband’s worsening physical health; no affection, passion, attraction or desire left for each other; I’m still battling the bondage of a sexual affair; and now I’m searching for myself, again. These few things have brought us to a place today of needing God even more. I need guidance and encouragement to carry on and to either move on alone or be steadfast and stay with my partner. I am confused and lost. I have hope that this book and prayers will help. Thank you and God Bless <3 ox

  517. An excellent post. Thank you. Sometimes it’s hard to see how this could be for the bettering of our marriage, but I have to hold to God’s promise that He can use all things for good.

  518. I enjoyed reading this. I come from a divorced family and marriage has always kind of scared me. I never really thought I would get married, every time I let my guard down in any relationship I always seemed to get hurt one way or another. Then I met my boyfriend and the love of my life. We have been together 4 years and talking about getting married next year. I think our biggest issue with each other is communication and neither of us want to hurt the other. Just as Jackie stated in his post today about one person thinking everything is going well, but the other one does not. Unfortunately that is our relationship alot, but we both want a happy successful relationship, so we always try and figure out the best solution.

  519. What a wonderful post and a great reminder!

  520. Romans 15:5-6King James Version (KJV)

    5 Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus:

    6 That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Wow I love this verse ” with one mouth” this really stood out to me. My husband hates when I say negative things about myself and or our marriage. I have trouble with trust,trusting my husband and God. This verse gives new meaning to and the two shall be one! I love it when The Word comes to life and just jumps out at me….help me Lord Jesus to honor my marriage and You with my thoughts and my words. Amen

  521. Shawnette Kirkwood says:

    I so want this book. We have been married 21 years and have been really going through something in the last past 14 months. I recently forgave him but it is so hard. He had an “altercation” with Christ which is how I was able to forgive. I totally see the difference but my heart still hurts. I cry everyday and I’m tired of it. I read the Bible but don’t understand much of it. Please keep me in mind to receive one of your books. I really need Christ right now and feel so far from him. I need friends because I have none. Please, if anything, pray for me.

  522. Sara Moran says:

    Thanks for this devotion, it is a great reminder of God’s greater plan through every trial He has for us! I’m so thankful for my husband, God really blessed me with a good one who doesn’t give up when those trials come!

  523. This devotional was very encouraging to me! And the timing of receiving it was perfect! Thank you so much! God really used you to speak to me today!

  524. Very inspirational. Thank You.

  525. Donna Wooley says:

    I enjoyed your devotion.

  526. Oh, we would really love to win your book. I believe it could help in the building of our faith and passing it on to other couples… I can see it! FAITH BUILDERS! I like the sound of that. God Bless you again

  527. Lisa Horan says:

    Excellent article that applies to divorced as well as married.

  528. I’d love to read this book! Thanks!

  529. Toni Gaffney says:

    I thank our Lord for you, Mr. Bledsoe and your timely words. They were to me a refreshing rain on a land besieged by drought. My husband and I received a foreclosure notice a few weeks ago and the tension has been high. I want to follow the Lord through my husband, however, the stress has caused me to desire to take matters into my own hands and at to (at times) view my dear husband as the enemy. I needed your words, and God’s words through you, to bring me back to a proper focus. You have helped me to realize that no matter what happens, God will use it to strengthen us and that I need to rest in the knowledge that He is in control.

  530. Alessandra Goodson says:

    Thank you for this devotional today. My marriage of 29 years is in deep trouble and I’m looking for help. I have faith and this testimony gave me hope, thanks.

  531. I just got engaged and it would a great gift to start our life together with!!!

  532. Suzanne Roth says:

    I enjoyed your devotional. It is good to be reminded about our promise. Yes, please send me a free copy. Thanks so much, Suzanne

  533. Great devotion! I have been married over 44 years and have had many ups and downs. I am married to a very good man, but as two individuals, sometimes we do not agree. I think it is very important for young couples to understand that before you “ride off into the sunset, happily ever after” you will face many obstacles in life and in your marriage. If you can hold on during the hard times, remember why you married each other and depend on God to get you through, your marriage becomes stronger after each hardship. Our families and marriages are under strong attack in these times and we must fight harder to save them, and with God, we can overcome!

  534. Thank you for this devotion and reminder.

  535. Currently I am not married, but I am in a very serious relationship where we know we WILL be getting married. I’m just waiting for him to get down on one knee 😉
    Although I’m not married I believe it is never to early to start working on becoming a better person for that person you are marrying as well as learning and preparing for what can and will happen in marriage. I would love to receive this to begin that. Thank you for the opportunity. Marriage does excite me, but I do know it is not all rainbows and butterflies. It gets tough. Real tough. I have seen it in my parents and even some of my friends that are already married or are engaged, but with God’s strength and direction I plan on having Him help me fight the enemies attacks against my marriage and come out stronger on the other side.

  536. In about 2 1/2 weeks, my son’s marriage will end in divorce. He has been married for over 12 years, and he has a 7 year old daughter. This past 15 months has been agony for me as I’ve watched him, his wife and their daughter struggle with the terrible blight of divorce. It seems so easy for couples to come together, but the tearing apart is so hard especially when 1 of the parties has decided to stop trying. Marriage without solid commitment from both husband and wife is at best temporary.

  537. Tracey Boyer says:

    Would love to read this book!

  538. Sophia-Katherine says:

    I am going thru one of those “fiery trials” right now. My marriage is being hit at all sides. Financial, Trust, Love, Honesty and Communication which is key to a strong marriage. It is getting harder by the day to stay in my marriage. But Im still fighting , still trying to persevere. If I don’t win a copy of this awesome well-needed book I would like to buy one. Thank you so much and God bless.

  539. Margaret Coussa says:

    Excited to read this book!

  540. Kimberly Alexander says:

    Yes, I completely agree! Far too many young couples are giving up because I think it’s easier to get a divorce. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Marriage is truly something you have to work on with your spouse and God. Thank you so much for your story and reminding us it is God’s plan!

  541. Sheryl Frye says:

    My grandson is in the Army and he will be getting married on June 4th this year. I would love to have this book for him. My husband and I have been married 41 years and have been through many trials, but we have always stayed close to each other. WE are going through a ver dark time right now and have been in this place for about a year.

  542. I would love to win a copy or the 7 rings of marriage! One to help strengthen my own but also to share with others who are struggling and need hope!

  543. I would love to win a copy of this book. We have been married for 21 years and it feels like we are just hanging on by a thread.

  544. Linda Ward says:

    I could really use this for my marriage. It has been a real challenge but we have just celebrated our 23rd anniversary. My husband is 12 years younger than I am.
    Would love to win this!

  545. Great read! Thank you for this insight!

  546. Barbara Brannon says:

    Your message today really spoke to me. My husband and I recently re-united after a two month separation. We have decided to persevere and try one more time to make this marriage work. Communication is our major problem and are working diligently to overcome that ‘mountain’. I appreciate your daily message and you in spreading the word of Jesus Christ. I would love to have a copy of this book. Thank you for the giveaway and the chance to win.
    Thanks again –
    Barbara in TN

  547. Michelle Gallice says:

    Thank you Proverbs 31!

  548. Again, I am amazed at the timeliness of the Prov 31 devotions that I love receiving every day! Our marriage is good overall, but we do have our struggles, which I know is normal (“In this world, you will have trouble…”). The past few days have been full of those marital struggles and miscommunication. Then I read this devotional in the midst of this struggle, and think, “Only God!” because the timing is uncanny. Thank you for this–it spoke straight to my heart and my circumstances. Keep up the good kingdom work!!

  549. Debbie Herbst says:

    Great content. We have been married 25 years and I agree about being upfront about the challenges. I love the comments about needing Biblical insights and fresh perspective for each season. thanks

  550. Thank you for you sharing this devotion. It speaks of the reality in marriages that many of us fail to share. I can relate to this and reading it today is all part of God’s plan. I have been married for 14 years and my husband and I have 3 beautiful children. It seems that our marriage, from my perspective, is a roller coaster filled with ups and downs and sometimes I just want the roller coaster to stop. After reading this devotion today, even if I feel like my marriage is a roller coaster, it’s still moving, it’s still active, it’s still going!! Roller coasters are fun, have thrill and excitement!! Before this devotion today, I never looked at my marriage this way, I only viewed the negative aspects. Again, I say thank and I am excited to print and share this devotion to the women in our women’s group. God Bless You

  551. Every marriage will have trials… That’s a guarantee. It’s embarrassing and talking to friends or family is not usually a comfortable option. It’s such a comfort to know God is right there always listening. My husband and I have felt miles apart. Now we are trying to do daily devotions together as we both know Christ is the only resolution. If we’re to relaxed Satan will creep between us and fill our minds with doubt and marriage destroying thoughts. Thank you for your commitment to the marriage ministry. I love the scripture from James that was quoted. What a promise for our trials.

  552. Kasi Queen says:

    Thank you for the beautiful devotional, a reminder that marriage is hard work and beautiful yet fulfilling. I recently bought a bible and I’m head over heals in finding anything I can get my hands on that fills my heart with more love for Jesus. I want to read anything everything and increase my knowledge. I would read, honor, and pass your book on. Thank you.

  553. So true that trials refine and strengthen us. And it keeps striking me, after 13 years of marriage) that the refining just keeps coming. 4 young kids and the routine of daily life have proved a trial that sneaked up on us. But praise God who is faithful always!!! As we work through our discovery of going along miles apart, I keep trying to rest in Gods good promises.

  554. Thank for this wonderful devotion which I intend to share with my son and his fiancée as they are to be married in April. What a true inspiration for all marriages.

  555. Thank you for sharing. This was a very timely and needed message.

  556. Amanda Denham says:

    I am so glad my sister in law introduced me to this devotional. It is so nice to have this be my first email of the day! I have been married for seven years, and we have 3 beautiful little girls. At times I struggle to know if I’m coming or going as a mom and a wife and just as me. This devotional and everything I have experienced through it, I KNOW God is speaking to me through each message to specific things in my life. I would love a copy of The 7 Rings of Marriage! I am grateful for any resource that comes my way to help understand and strengthen my relationship with my Husband.

  557. It is so sad that society looks at marriage as disposable. If things don’t work out…I can always start over. My husband and I have been through hard times and will go through them again as God sees fit. But through the grace of God we always come out stronger because we persevere and not throw in the towel. Thank you for sharing what God has laid on your heart. I look forward to reading your book.

  558. My husband and I have been going through a very difficult time for the past year. There have been MANY discussions of divorce and many times I’ve thought I would be so much better off without him. But instead, I’ve prayed. Things are just now starting to get better for us. We’ve experienced a lot of blessings lately and I just can’t help but be thankful that we haven’t completely given up on each other. Praise God for all of His wonderful blessings and His healing of my marriage.

  559. Sounds like a great book. This post is a great reminder for any marriage! Thank you!!

  560. For whatever reason I have pulled away from reading P31 on a daily basis. I’m so glad I didn’t today. This devotion was exactly what I needed! My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th anniversary at the end of the month. We still have trials and I feel we are currently going through one. Thank you for your words of wisdom! I love God’s timing!

  561. This was a great read! What a great reminder to keep marriage in prayer as I start my day!

  562. Juanita cole says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book. I’ve been married to my husband for 12 years been with him for 15. We both are born again believers and were recently ministering a lot. We have three children together and one each outside. I was married before 14 years right out of high school. Now that I know Christ I know we’re able to overcome all obstacles. Its hard sometimes but there’s nothing to hard for God!

  563. My husband and I have been through a lot more than any married couple should ever have to face with the challenges of being a blended family and trying to merge into one united. Your words and story encouraged me and was exactly what I needed to read this morning through Crosswalk Daily Inspirations. Thank you and may God continue to bless you and your family.

  564. Pat Thompson says:

    As I read this devotional today, it flashed up one of my children. We live in an economically affected community, and to keep from laying off people due to coal mine problems, the employees have been given cuts. Now, layoffs are occurring. Homeless. That is a big word. I pray that my daughter and her family never have to face that. They have had to re-adjust their living style several times. I would love to have this book to read. Thank you for the opportunity to receive it.

  565. I would love to own this book and study it. I am trying to learn this concept and to let go of things instead of holding on to things from the past. The past two years have been a true struggle for my husband and I from a temp separation (his choice not mine) to arguing more than usual over stupid stuff. We have four younger children and I just want to go back to when we first met and both of us showed and acted differently towards each other. The enemy is a liar and tries his best to destroy marriages but I have told him not mine! God is going to strengthen us again!

  566. It was just what I needed to read today. thank you for sharing

  567. This devotional couldn’t have come at a better time for my marriage. We’re going through trials right now and it is inspiring to hear others talk about their marriages going through trials and coming out stronger because of them. Thank you for sharing your story!

  568. Jackie Turro says:

    I feel as though God has placed your beautifuly written words right in front of me just in time. After 27 years of marriage to my best friend we are facing some challenges that have left me feeling exhausted. But, I know that our faith and love is so strong, and will bring us closer to each other and God.

  569. Thank you for the devotional. It is true how sometimes we do think we are on the same page, but because of trials you can go through you tend to be far apart in your idea of where you are in your marriage relationship. Trials can either make you stronger or tear you apart. But if you put God first all things will work out in God’s perfect timing for good!

  570. It would be a blessing and an answer to pray if I could obtain one of these books to give to my son and daughter in law as they are thinking of getting a divorce, which is breaking my heart, they have two children, and my son has some health issues, which is adding to the list of their burdens. My daughter in law has given up on God, she thinks if God loved them he wouldn’t allow all them to have troubles, please pray for them also!!! Thank you

  571. Mary Ellen says:

    Thank you for your devotion today. My husband and I have been married 30 years. It is so easy to just glide along -thank you for your insights! I would love a copy of your book.

  572. Great read! I’m soon to be married so no trials yet (although there were plenty when we were dating). I struggle with keeping a positive attitude when things go wrong even though I know it always makes things worse and drawn out longer. Good reminder to keep praying and be conscientious of my reactions because they impact those around me.

  573. Marriages without Almighty God involved are more likely to fall apart. Both partners leaning on God will forever stand all the trials life throws at you. We have been married 58 years this year. Yes we have had a lot of trying times, but both of us never gave up.

  574. I would so like to read about the perspectives of marriage. Mine failed so now I’m very timid about what marriage would be like if I tried again. Thank you Katie

  575. This devotional spoke volumes to me today. Thank you for sharing your experiences and your wisdom. I would love a copy of the book.

  576. Thank you.
    Your insight and message is timely.
    Supporting each other with words of encouragement(& biblical thruths), through experiences of our own is a true blessing.

  577. Would love to have a copy of this book!

  578. Jodi Smith says:

    Thank you for this devotional! This really spoke to my heart!

  579. I am on my third marriage and thought this would be the last. We have been married 12 years and our marriage is barely hanging on. I am ready to get out and yes that is the easy way. I am looking for strength and ways to hang on. I have in my last two looked for an easy way out and found it. Not any more! I am looking for words of inspiration to work through my own issues to stay and not run again.

  580. I am 83 and my wife is 80. We still go out on dates once per week but we feel this is a challenging time in our marriage. In August we will celebrate 60 years of marriage. I would say that our physical challenges are part of our problem. Thank you for your good words and the challenge that we still need to WORK on our marriage. While we fade physically we are growing spiritually and growing closer to the Lord and to each other.

  581. Challenges are inevitable…perseverance…choose joy…thanking God for grace to help in times of trials.
    James 1:2-4, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (NIV)
    Beautiful message ~ thank you.

  582. Thank you for the opportunity to read The 7 Rings of Marriage. I am looking forward to receiving a copy.

  583. This post spoke to my heart and was needed today. Thank you.

  584. Great message! Definitely need these reminders.

  585. Thank you so much for these timely words. Dale and I have been married 36 years and have had our issues but both are committed to our marriage. It would be awesome to have this resource.

  586. I am 45 and have been married to my husband for five years. I know we all have our struggles in life and in marriage, and I would love a copy of the book!

  587. 20 years and 20 miles apart it seems. Will read and share anything at this time!

  588. Andrea Rueter says:

    I enjoyed this post and would be excited to receive a copy of this book.

  589. I love the transparency! Thank you for sharing.

  590. Loved this reflection and would love a copy of the book 🙂

  591. I would love to get a copy of this–to see not only how it can strengthen my marriage, but to possibly do a small group study to help strengthen others’ marriages.

  592. Thank you for your insite. These are words many could use in their marriage.

  593. Would love 🙂

  594. Laura Zieske says:

    Thank you for the wonderful advice!

  595. after 31 years of marriage, my husband and I are struggling with “joy” in our marriage. I am committed to him and divorce is not an option…but trying to work through things is proving to be difficult. We have grown children and they are God fearing adults who truly love the Lord. We have always been an example of what marriage should be, but the past few years have not been fun. My husband suffered a heart attack, I have replaced both knees, I lost my father, his father is suffering with 2 cancers…and the stress of all that has taken our eyes off our marriage and we seem to have drifted apart. We just need a jump start to get things back on track. When I read my devotion this morning and saw this “7 Rings of Marriage” it excited me about the possibilities in could present. I would love to win a copy to share with my husband and help our marriage get back to what it once was…

  596. Sounds like a great! I am looking forward to reading it!

  597. Shana Goff says:

    It builds my faith hearing stories of struggling marriages as well as having more tools in our belts to make it through the hard and difficult times. Would love to have this resource and book!

  598. Janay Roberts says:

    As a recent new journey in ministry as my husband and I just took on a pastoral position Satan has fought us every step of the way! With my emotions of a Pastors wife, dealing with sudden change in my teenage daughters, and the list goes on and on. I would LOVE to read this BOOK!

  599. Wow, THANK YOU! This truly spoke to my heart. I would like to share this with others as well, thanks for the opportunity!

  600. Dionne Thomas says:

    I was particularly blessed by today’s reading. My husband and I were just discussing the waves that have been crashing against us. We rejoice in knowing that were in this together and that greater is coming. Thank you.

  601. Angela Benjamin says:

    I have seen myself in this article and I’m sooo guilty,because we just take it for guaranteed that our spouses know what is inside of us until we express it.Ive been married for 42 years it is not 100%,but I believe in serious praying,with Psalm 121as one of my mantras.Whenever I find articles like these I love sharing them with my girl friends and so in our devotion times we discuss.I thank you tremendously for this eye opener.

  602. Michele Lengerman says:

    Thank you for today’s devotion. As always, it was perfectly timed. My husband and I had just such a conversation over the weekend, and it was helpful to be reminded that these trials are meant for strengthening the marriage.

  603. Your devotional was spot on. Thank you.

  604. Fiona Long says:

    What a great encouragement to persevere during the difficult the circumstances of our lives, and how God uses them to grow us. They are not wasted but are like ‘treasures in the darkness.’ Thank you.

  605. Chinwe Ogu says:

    Thanks a lot for those words of wisdom and encouragement! Please having a copy of your book would be wonderful and helpful. Thanks again and may God strengthen you as you continue to save marriages through your ministry.

  606. Thank you!

  607. KarinaTaufi says:

    Thank for sharing your story. It was a great reminder that I can choose to keep working on my marriage or I can let it go.

  608. Melinda Palmer says:

    God spoke through you this morning directly to my heart. My daughter and her husband are struggling and I would love to give this book to them.

  609. Oh my goodness! You just don’t know how I needed this today. I have been married to my husband for 25 years. We married young and at the time we thought we would never have problems. Little did we know what was to come. I love my husband dearly but some days are just so hard. We have a really hard time communicating and he was raised that the man is the head of the house and so what he says goes. We have been thru a lot over the past 25 years and he is good man and hard worker and wonderful father but I do wish we were closer than we are. I would so love to have this book! Thank-you

  610. Mych'Iayla Mathis says:

    Your devotional truly blessed me. I am a newlywed and truly believe the book would be beneficial for our marriage. Thank you for being less by God and choosing to share your story. God bless!

  611. Simply well put. Thank you for sharing. I now have a starting point to reflect on my relationship. I know that sometimes our/my selfish ways can hinder growth. I want God to not only bless my children but my who family including my husband.

  612. Margo Johnson says:

    I could put that book into good use in my marriage!!

  613. Thank God for this message this morning as my wife and I are having a Challenge in our marriage at this time. I believe and have tried to whole on to our wedding vows. Thank you so much

  614. All i can think of is help…. My marriage needs help…

  615. Wow! It’s so amazing to me that I have struggles that might be overwhelming in the moment, yet I hear others stories, like Jackie Bledsoe’s and his wife’s, and it is so humbling. My hubby and I have been married over 23 years and we’ve had our struggles, but God has brought us through them – and made us stronger. Hopefully our testimony can be a witness and light for the Lord as their testimony has been to me. One thing I think resounded with me is that we need to be alert and continually checking the pulse of our marriage so we aren’t miles apart.

  616. Elizabeth Weyler says:

    My husband and I are currently separated; this is the second affair he has had in our 25 year marriage. He is in counseling because of his addictions to affirmation/validation needs that lead him to pursuing women and affairs. I am devastated and felt this book might help me to process my part for the breakdown of the marriage.

    • Elizabeth, sweet sister, I am lifting up a prayer for you this morning. Your post grabbed my heart, because there is a marriage in my family that has struggled with the same issue as yours. The husband struggles with affirmation/validation issues. He also chose to have an affair with a women who made him the sole recipient of her attention and praise. A much different situation than a working wife and mother that has many things on her plate. Through much prayer and pastoral counseling the marriage was restored. I know that all addictions are hard, it is just that some are much more socially recognized than others and many people do not understand how hard and exhausting it can be to have a spouse who requires constant affirmation. I hear you and can relate to your devastation and fear. I will continue to lift your marriage up to the Lord.

  617. Becka Harden says:

    I’m getting married in April and want to do all I can to be equipped for a Christ centered marriage that will last a lifetime.

  618. I am going through the hardest trial of my life, my marriage has been attacked by Satan. I have been reading God’s word and christian books in order for God to change me during this long trial. I am standing for my marriage and I will not give in to Satan trying to destroy my marriage. I am waiting on God to move and to restore.

  619. Janet Tomarkin says:

    Today’s First5 message from Lysa TerKeurst could easily enhance this marriage lesson. There indeed is a difference between a period (the end) and … (a pause). Rather than giving up on your marriage would it not be better to use that pause to incorporate God’s understanding and encouragement…

  620. Stephanie Bozard says:

    Really enjoyed this read! Would love to check out The 7 Rings of Marriage

  621. I’ve seen your book advertised in several places and was already interested in it. I would love to glean from the wisdom God has given you. Thanks for this opportunity!

  622. I can totally relate to today’s daily devotion. My husband and I will be married 24 years in May. We are miles apart and while I know it, he lives in his dream world. lol There have been many ups and downs, tears, hurts, but I have peace because I know God is working in our marriage. I would love to have a copy of this book!

  623. Barbara Sanders says:

    I have seen my marriage get stronger with each trial my husband and I go thru. I know there are more to come and would enjoy reading this book for wisdom in dealing with whatever the future holds. Thanks.

  624. This message today was awesome and so powerful. It helped me to see that I am not the only one that faces several trials within my marriage. At times I have felt like a failure because of issues that have come up and it left me feeling hopeless. I have always prayed for strenght for myself but not for my husband. It took me years and reading several articles, books, passages on marriage and God’s view on marriage to see that I needed to go to God on his behalf. A friend of mine has been sending me daily email’s on bible versus and my faith in God and marriage has increased.

  625. DaNae Peterson says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I think it is so easy to go with the motions and assume that the other is doing well (or that they are not doing well) to find the opposite in some cases. Is always good to check in and reconnect to stay in the same page

  626. Thank you for sharing this today. My husband and I are newlyweds (our 6-month anniversary will be on February 22nd), and I don’t want us to ever lose sight of the finish line. Everything is peachy keen now, as we are still in the “honeymoon phase,” but we are not blind and know that trials will come. Thank you for shedding a light on the importance of honesty, and most of all, the importance of communication.

  627. Tammy Dobson says:

    I would love to learn more about marriage and surviving troubles and trials.

  628. My husband and I are currently separated and this brought me to uncontrollable tears. We just went to therapy last evening and my first glimpse of hope in months came from it. This morning I wake to your devotional. The statement that God could use our story in the future touched and impacted me so deeply… this has confirmed I need to keep fighting for my marriage! Thank you!

  629. Debbie Yates says:

    I really need encouragement for a trial my husband and I are facing.

  630. Thank you for the devotional. I would love to share your book with 2 hurting women in my circle of friends. My hope is that they can persevere and their marriages will improve.

  631. My husband & I are going through struggles right now. We’ve been hit hard the last year. After nearly 10 years at a wonderful job my husband was laid off. He then had to have major surgery. He just found a new job, but it is far from where we were just 7 months ago. It has definitely put stress on the two of us individually and on our marriage. We are ready to see the good & stop dealing with the bad that keeps getting sent to us.

  632. My husband left me about two months ago but we still live on the same property because we have a couple of mobile homes and he moved in one and I’m still in ours. It’s so hard seeing him come and go as he pleases, I want our marriage but he says no that he doesn’t love me anymore and he doesn’t want to get back together. I don’t have anywhere else to go so I’m “stuck” and questioning God why I have to Keep being hurt and rejected but still no doors are opening for me to move or afford somewhere else. Even though this is going on I get your posting that there is still hope. How do I find and keep that hope when my husband totally rejects me and tells me he doesn’t love me? That hurts so bad.

  633. I look forward to an opportunity not only to share my experience but mostly your book with others so they may experience the encouragement and hope you offer. Thank you, Jackie, for sharing and may God continue to bless you in His service.

  634. Elease Wallace-Roberson says:

    I read these devotionals every day and they are always on point relative to where I am in my life… As Valentine’s weekend has just come to a cadence, my husband and I still have this disconnect that neither of us can quite make sense of… We are always together, date one another often, yet we lack an intimacy that I just can not understand… I know that we need help because neither one of us wants a divorce…

  635. I love the insight this reading gave me to really check constantly if I’m really giving my husband what he needs from our relationship. It’s embarassing to realize I am selfish at times and only see if My needs are fulfilled, but not his…

  636. Melissa Burleson says:

    Awesome devotion this morning! Really makes you think about you and your spouse plus where you stand with each other!! Really enjoyed it today!!

  637. Katharina MacDiarmid says:

    I know something is missing in our marriage.. Like deep conversation or sharing of our real feelings. Living like roommates!! That’s only after 10 years of marriage. But I am his 3. Wife and he is my 2. Husband! We r both ” older” and set in our ways I guess !

  638. Thanks for the reminder that the challenges make the marriage stronger through perseverance.

  639. I know God can restore any marriage. My husband and I were separated for over a year, I actually filed for divorce, but now we have a strong, loving marriage.

  640. Ana Drumheller says:

    This devotional was very timely and it encouraged and challenged my heart today. I will be sharing this with my husband tonight and hope to get the 7 Rings of Marriage to help us enrich our relationship with God and each other.
    Cant wait to see us grow together again.

  641. Its amazing to me how trial – real trial – can show up in a marriage out of nowhere it seems, and yet it is the result of a million little things left ignored or unsaid that build up over time. In our marriage, we are fighting hard to work through trial and the enemy’s attack on what God brought together. The thing is – even though we both have felt like calling it quits, God came to me and said He is doing a new thing in our marriage and to trust Him and I am going to be faithful to what He says – we will work through it and come out stronger because God Himself ordains it and I believe that with my whole heart and see signs – big and small, one way or another – in every day. I really believe that satan knows if he can break the ‘family’, he will break the world. So we have to fight for our marriages and families with everything we’ve got, knowing that through the dark times, God promises that He Himself fights for us.

  642. Amber Graves says:

    I’ve recently got engaged on January 23rd and I would like to be more prepared for the not so good moments compared to the blissful ones. I know already that we’re in for a challenge. Not wishing anything bad on us, but acknowledging what God has already declared (James 1). I know we (my fiancé and I) would benefit from a copy of 7 rings of Marriage.

  643. Thank you for this! I find this so freeing and encouraging.

  644. I married my spouse at the young no age of 18. Twenty-four years later, we still hold steadfast to our marriage vows, yet it takes so much work. The modern world tells couples that your spouse should make you happy and it your happiness fades divorce is a way out. God reveals trials and testing provide growth and dependence on Him.

  645. God’s timing is always perfect. Thank you for the encouragement and the opportunity for the book.

  646. Lotoya Jones says:

    This devotional was right on time. Coming up on our 2 year anniversary in just a couple of weeks, my husband and I have had many trials. We find ourselves often reminding each other of God’s plans for his married couples and the strength behind Christian marriages. That strength sets the enemy on alert, and any chance we give him to step in and distract us he is going to use.
    Having this Bible study would allow us to become better prepared and in lue strengthen our individual walks as well. Thankn you so much for the time you put into the devotionals you share with us. May God continue to bless and keep you.

  647. Lori McGovern says:

    Thanks for the reminder to check my marriage often to ensure my husband and I are still on the same page. The hardest question to ask a spouse is, “how did I do today as a wife/husband” – but it’s also the most crucial.

  648. Natasha Freeman says:

    Thanks for this reminder on perseverance through the trials of marriage. I agree it’s a good indicator to see where you are in your marriage to have both individuals rate the state of the relationship. It was an eye opener for us as well. Thanks again this was a timely reminder.

  649. Thank you I so needed this- My marriage is on fire and needed these words of encouragement.

  650. Joyce Clark says:

    Thank you for bringing to mind the verse from Peter. I think the reason so many marriages fail today is because they have no conception of our Lord and /Savior in their lives. Would love to win and share your book.

  651. I would like to win a copy

  652. I know I fall short often of being the Proverbs 31 wife I need to be. Thanks for the reminder!

  653. Brooke Marsh says:

    This book sounds great! I would love a copy! Thanks for the message.

  654. Katrina Hilton says:

    My daughter is getting married in January 2017. They are currently doing devotions together from James Dobson’s book for couples. I think this study would be a fantastic way to start their marriage. We all need reminders to stay focused on the Lord.

  655. Great reminder. I’m having to learn to see that sometimes he is having a hard time and it’s not about me, even if his comments and actions feel like it. Learning to support him through it all. Would love to read your book.

  656. Marie Archuleta says:

    As I read your daily reading for the day it also reminded me of my marriage.I have learned and I am still learning that no matter what we go through in our marriage, to see our husband or wife in the eyes of Jesus. When we stand our ground and pray in due time our prayers will be answered.It always gets worse but in the end their is VICTORY! LOVE is always the answer. Marie

  657. Anita Harrington says:

    After 23 years of marriage, ever day seems to be a struggle. My husband and I seem worlds apart, and now I feel as it we are only together for our children, but somehow God has his hands on our marriage. Any encouragement on marriage is a blessing to me.

  658. Great reminder. Would enjoy a copy of the book. Need guidance and strength in my marriage as we battle against the challenges of parenthood, maintaining some independence and making decisions.

  659. I must admit I clicked on yuor name to see if they used the wrong picture for today’s devotion. I have not met any male “Jackies” yet. Your devotion was perfect for me today. My husband of 20 years now is loosing his meneory, deals with depression and high aniexty. This morin’ tears were falling while I ws praying.”Lord this is to hard to deal with”. I am constantly trying new ways to have a joyfull heart as God is refining me. Thanks for sharing. The world we live in is so unstable non of us are exempt from becoming homeless. so glad you were homeless and Godless:)

  660. We have been happily married 53 years, but still love to learn new marriage enrichment tools. We also facilitate a neighborhood group in our Sr’s park and would love to review this book for a future study. A good marriage takes extra work as health and productivity decline.

  661. Renée Cornelius says:

    We have only been married for 4 years, but we face challenges in dealing with our aged parents and grown children. I would like to win a book to read and to share with our children when I am finished.

  662. Barbara Snyder says:

    So true — all good marriages need work; anxious to read your book. Often feel unfulfilled, and my husband just doesn’t seem to understand

  663. Amy Jackson says:

    Would appreciate a copy of the book. Could use help.

  664. Amber Seagle says:

    Thank you for this! I really needed this today:)

  665. Michael Smith says:

    Thank you for this devotion. May it be a blessing to many.

  666. A great encouragement! Would love to be able to read through this book to help strengthen our marriage!

  667. Terri Tucker says:

    I have been married for 34 years (35 in May). We have had many struggles from money, kids, to having my dad live with us after suffering from a stroke. Many times we thought to give up, but we persevered and now we are closer than ever. God has been the biggest part of getting through these times!

  668. I could really use this book.

  669. Sigh. I am currently facing the worst imaginable challenge to a marriage: infidelity. I found out last month and I am in such pain. You always feel like your marriage is immune, but what I’m learning is that no marriage is immune. We are talking almost 3 decades of marriage, two beautiful children, leaders in the church, Etc. Ladies, please do not be naïve. Check your husband’s phone for messages and texts. In Gmail, it is possible to recover permanently deleted messages up to one month using their recovery tool. My husband was my best friend, we had been through many trials together, And I have to say he was one of the most moral people I knew – elder in the church, worship leader, levelheaded, etc. yet he had a sin sick soul and a brokenness neither one of us knew about. If I had known that infidelity affects up to 75% of marriages, if we knew what we know now, we would have been much more proactive about safeguarding our marriage. We are going to go through the EMSO course from soon. If any of you are going through this, it is a wonderful resource. Scratch that. All of us should look at this resource. Please pray for us. This is so incredibly painful, And the road will be long and difficult. Never in my mind have I ever considered the possibility of divorce but the reality is there. I have already forgiven him and the other woman, but the pain of betrayal is actually increasing. Lord have mercy.

    • Star, may I encourage you to really TRUST God!, I have a friend who has gone through a very similar situation with a child being born from the affair. I have had the assignment/blessing of walking with her through this, God has done miraculous things in their lives (all of them). But, she really had to TRUST God, not just in her head or on the pages of the bible. I tell her often God has used her in a way none of us would want or choose, she has learned a lot about herself and her heavenly Father. Not enough space to share like I would like to, but when you think you can’t stand, stand anyway holding the hand of your God who is not taken by surprise at any of our actions. He knows our beginning to our end. Trust His decision regarding your life, & your marriage. He’s got this sister, He’s got you & your husband…the pass, the present & the future. TRUST! TRUST! TRUST! TRUST!

  670. I am in a very similar situation I am the one unhappy and he says it’s only been 3 years it gets better. I do not see how if there is no communication, intimacy, and I feel no support. I am ready to leave.. This can’t be why God intended for me…

  671. Would love to give this book to my daughter whose wedding is next month.

  672. This word of encouragement couldn’t have come at a better time…
    Here I felt alone in my trials and tribulations of marriage… but I’m not?
    Met him 22 years ago, and been married for 13 years and we have 2 beautiful kids.
    But our marriage needs a touch from God… Although we are strong in Faith, sometimes a reminder helps put things in perspective. We can’t give up!! If you were able to send me a copy of your book it would be such a blessing!! God Bless You…

  673. Angela Hankins says:

    Love the title of your book! Can’t wait to read it, and it would be exciting to receive a free copy. Thank you! 🙂

  674. thank you for the insight

  675. Would love to dig deeper into what God has said about marriage.

  676. Thank you for these words of wisdom today…

  677. Needed this today. Thank you.

  678. Thank you for this email today. How timely and encouraging for me. I have been married over 8 years and both of my adult children have gotten married last year. This e mail gives some good advice for me and my husband and hopefully wisdom I can pass onto my children. God Bless you today!

  679. This devotion touched me like the Holy Spirit this morning. My husband and I had a huge fight last night, one of those that makes you wonder whether this is the last time. I couldn’t sleep without dreaming of all the anger and dissatisfaction I felt during the fight. I tossed and turned all night and woke up knowing I had been terribly wrong. I was just asking God why He hadn’t shown me grace during the fight so that I could have stopped it sooner before the harsh words that cannot be taken back were said. Then I saw my email inbox with this devotion. It was like God was showing me his grace. Thank you for your amazingly insightful words today. You don’t know how much they helped.

  680. Josselyn Burch says:

    Years ago visiting with the elderly wife at a 50th anniversary party, I asked her what is necessary for a long lasting marriage. Her answer – perseverance. The way she said it – emphatically! – almost was shocking coming from this wonderful godly woman. I have thought back to that comment time after time. We ALL are sinners in need of mercy.

  681. Yolanda Holman says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book.

  682. Thank you for the post. My husband asked me for a divorce 2 weeks ago. I did not realize our marriage was even in trouble. Would love to have a copy of the book? Really struggling right now with what to do as I do not want a divorce.

  683. Martha VanHoffen says:

    Just two weeks ago, our son’s wife announced that she was leaving the marriage as she was tired of pretending to still love him. Their two little boys will move between the two parents as they grow up. My son had no idea of this situation and the family had just spent 3 weeks in Hawaii on holiday. His wife is determined she does not want to even try to save the marriage. How do you go from feeling like the world is your oyster to dejection, rejection and divorce. Talk about feeling as though you have been shot!!! My prayer is that God has other plans for them than those that seem to be unfolding before our very eyes. We continue to pray for changed hearts and minds. Our son and his wife have not been walking with the Lord and we have prayed for them for many years. May God use this situation to wake them to the reality of their need for Him!

  684. Every relationship takes effort and communication is huge. Thing is we all communicate differently. I have been guilty of assuming my husband should “know” how I feel. I need to communicate In his love language to be understood. And attitude is a choice daily how I do that!

  685. Wow! Just what I needed to read today after coming away from an incredibly stressful weekend. I agree with you that the trials do make us stronger and believe that God will use all of it for his glory. Thank you for the reminder. Look forward to checking out your blog.

  686. Please remove my surname from the comment above! Thanks so much!

  687. Hello Jackie!Your words this morning brought encouragement. I have been separated from my husband for 9 months. We have faced many many fiery trials, and got through them, but this time feels impossible. I’m holding on to God’s promises of Him Restoring, Reconciling, and Renewing. I’m learning not to look at my circumstances, but to walk in Faith. It is hard not to doubt and feel fear, rejection and abandonment. I would sincerely love a copy of your book. Thank you, Jackie

  688. Heidi Steele says:

    Gods timing is always perfect. I needed this today. My husband and I have gone through a lot over the years, and you would think that it would strengthen me, but when he’s having a bad day, I wanna throw in the towel, and give up. I have been working on that with a group, and this affirms all I have been working on.

  689. Your attitude makes all of the difference. If you think you can’t make it through a trial, you might not work as hard to get through it since you’ve already admitted defeat.

  690. This was a timely message for me today! Thank you.

  691. Elaine Junge says:

    My husband and I will celebrate 30 years of marriage this year and, with God’s grace, have come through a lot together! Adversity does make a marriage stronger! That said, we always want to learn more and I’m intrigued by your Devo today and your book!

  692. As we face trials in our marriages it is encouraging to read inspiration like this. Thank you for all that you do!! I would love to win this. I need it as well as I would love to share with the young married class that we teach each Sunday.


  693. Liliana Carrillo says:

    Although I do Know it, that is exactly where I am in my marriage right now, Miles apart…and feeling that I don’t want to go back.
    So much needed word today! God bless you!

  694. Thanks so much for this devotion! Really needed some encouragement. Perseverance is really want we all need to do with marriage and everything in life. May God Bless You!

  695. Grace Crapitto says:

    My husband and I will celebrate our 48th wedding anniversary this year and would love to have this book for both of us to read and discuss. I think it would be wonderful to renew our commitment to each other, with a fresh perspective to our marriage and learn to incorporate the Bible with all of its wisdom in our marriage.

  696. Thanks for the devotion. Much needed.

  697. Diana Rivera says:

    Wow!! This came just in time just in time, I have been married now for 23 years and we have 15 grandchildren and 3 adult men. Our marriage has been tested time and time again and I hold on not wanting to give up I hold my vows to my heart and love my husband. We have been jobless, we have been homeless and we picked up and started all over again and loved on each other. My husband is ill has rheumatoid arthritis and is addicted to pain meds and has not worked now for 5 years, I have been working two and three jobs at a time to be able to support him and myself, its getting really hard for me and I have family members who care about me and telling me to let go, but I refuse to let go I know my husband is a good man and is in a bad place right now. We don’t have medical insurance so he cannot get the help he needs to deal with the pain or the history of going to doctors so Social Security can see that this sickness is really bad for him and caused to him to confine himself to our home and not go anywhere and always be in our room depress. I refuse to give up!! Thank you I needed this email!!

  698. My husband and I have been married just over 4 years. Everyone says the first 7 years are difficult, and looking back, I thought the first one was bad, but then as we’ve worked through the “newly married” issues, it seems like the problems and fights get worse and worse. I know we’ve learned a lot about how to fight fair and talk about things (and when not to), but just last night we had the worst shouting match yet. Then this morning I read the P31 newsletter about working through this test and I am really hoping to push through and find that over this hill is respite from climbing. Even though I do not want a divorce, it’s in my thoughts almost daily. I would love to learn how to turn it off by taking a different approach and try to fix things before it’s too late.

  699. Was encouraged to read an article this morning that mentioned the “7 Rings of marriage” – we are working through our biggest marriage struggle in 23 years. God has been good to lead us to many encouraging resources and is holding us up.

  700. I am currently experiencing some on-going health issues and my spouse is going through some new stresses in a job that he started about six months ago. We have both gone through trials. It seems when we do and we work through them together with God’s help it always makes us stronger in the end. The key is trusting in God “in all circumstances”. We cannot get through them on our own. We’ve been blessed by Him at the end of the trials when we follow His will and advice from His Word. Later often someone shares that they are going through a similar circumstance. That then reassures us that He was there from the beginning.
    We know then that He orchestrated it and wants us to walk beside a couple having similar difficulties.
    What an “awesome God we serve”. He knows our every need and always provides for us. Mary Kasier

  701. Encouraging words and thank you for your transparency. Is not God able? A resounding YES, he is!

  702. Jocelyn Pitts says:

    Discovered your post on F/B. There was a tug to complete the daily verse and then to read Miles Apart and Didn’t even know it. Next month I will be ten years married to my husband and know there is distance between us. I want to close that gap, and replace it with God, through His son Jesus Christ.We need this 7 Rings of Marriage Amen.

  703. My husband and I are currently split up. He left me and I was clueless to his unhappiness. This devotion that I read this morning hit home for me. I am still praying that he will come back but the evidence speaks otherwise. I miss him greatly and love him with all my heart.

  704. I would love to win this book and share it with my husband!

  705. Courtney palmer says:

    I would love to win this book! God used Proverbs 31 to speak to me today. Whatever your facing in your marriage today its meant to strengthen your marriage not destroy it. I so desperately needed to hear that. Thank you.

  706. marriage is work! it takes perseverance, acceptance without hesitation and love without exception!

  707. Attitude makes all the difference. We are new in the adoption world. and it has brought joy and trails with it. At the beginning, I felt as if I was at the end of my rope. I could not remember why I even wanted to venture down this journey. I felt lonely and broken. Out of desperation, I went to my husband and shared my feeling and thoughts with him. I was embarrassed of the way I felt, and almost ashamed to feel so mentally and emotionally exhausted by the process. I like to pretend to be super mom, so when things got difficult, I did not know what to do anymore. That was all I needed to do. I needed to share with my husband, the man God blessed me with in my life. He shared that he has felt the same. It was just a relief to know I was not alone. He said he completely understood my feelings, and he said he would be there for me. Now things are getting easier, and I see the light at the end of the tunnel. My eyes are being opened to the beautiful child of God that our adopted son is. Just sharing with my husband, brought such relief to my heart and mind. I started praying for God to help me bond, to give me patience, and to get me through the rough times. Once, I started praying with my husband, things started changing. God is truly great. His love is faithful and strong, when I am weak, which is all the time. He is a beautiful God. The one true God. Praise Jehovah!

  708. Being married for42+ years, knowing that there are many seasons in marriage. We’ve been through many good times and many trails. Marriage is ALOT of work. And we tell young couples if your not willing to work at it don’t get married. Believing that you need to always put God first, then each other ( which is not always easy) has kept our marriage alive and fresh daily.
    Would love to offer a marriage course for young/middle/oldercouples at our church to help them realize, understand and to truly remain devoted to God and thier marriage.

  709. A great encouragement. God is good.

  710. Sherri Wong says:

    Thank you for sharing your insights & encouragement to marriage & giving me perspective on what or how the other spouse may be feeling.

  711. Great perspective. My wife and I were recently married a little over 4 months ago, and I have found that communication is key to a positive marriage. We took a one-day premarital counseling course, as well as a more exhaustive program on premarital counseling over 4 weeks. In both experiences, it was clear that communication was the highest priority in maintaining a strong bond in marriage. My wife and I talk a lot, we chat throughout the day through social media as well, but there is no such thing as too much communication. The more you communicate with each other honestly, the better the chances you have of identifying inconsistencies and working together to resolve them. God has truly added a blessing to our marriage, and in the early going, we’ve had some challenges, but God has remained at the center of our lives.

  712. Please pray for all your Pastors and wives. The stress ministry takes on the marriage is real. Thank You!!

  713. After being 41 years I could really use this book. Thank you very much.

  714. Carolyn Rhymes says:

    My husband and I went through a very shaky time with him being unfaithful and on an ego trip. I thought we were on top of the world in our marriage with a bond of love that nothing could separate us. I was ready to give up because of others around in our circle knew of his actions and I being the last to know. How embarrassing was that time in my life! But God! As I prayed to God and listen to the Holy Spirit who leads and guides we are going on 46 years strong. I thank God for what he has done for us and I know He is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above what anyone can think or imagine. I have been witnessing to a young wife who is going through right now with some of the same type issues and letting her know God honors marriage and hold to God’s promises that He will never leave or forsake her. If God did it before He can do it again! God’s blessings to you and yours!

  715. Would love to win this! It is definitely work and sometimes you wonder how to keep moving forward. It is a commitment not a feeling!

  716. Would love to read this book! I’ve been married for 25 years & I’m so thankful for that! It’s something that you never stop working on and you never stop trusting God to keep it going!

  717. After 16 years of marriage I can say we’ve had opportunities to call it quits a few times. But by God’s grace and our determination to “make it” here we are still together, still trusting God, still knowing He’s working on me and in me and through me, just like He is my husband. He truly is the author of LOVE.

  718. Lynn Snipes says:

    Thank you for the reminder to check in with my dear husband to be sure we are communicating effectively.
    So important yet I know I’m guilty of taking for granted that I know how he’s feeling. I choose to have a positive attitude going through trials because I know my boys are watching me. Our daughter Phoebe was stillborn at 37 weeks almost 10 years ago. Our oldest wasn’t quite 2 and our youngest was born a year later. I am also a bread cancer survivor and thank God for carrying me through that huge valley. God is good, all the time!

  719. Marilyn Glenn says:

    Appreciated today’s devotion
    It was very encouraging

  720. Marcella Appa says:

    My daughter is getting married March 20, 2016 and I believe with all my heart that your book will be an inspiration to them their ensure marriage!!

  721. After 27 years together, we sure see how it is a lifetime of working through various trials and stresses especially, not a moment. God is faithful and we must be as well.

  722. My husband and I are going through an extreme trial in our marriage, as he separated from our family months ago and I was forced to begin a divorce proceeding in order to support our children. I am nearing the end of what little hope I have remaining. I feel only a miracle of God’s love can save our marriage and family.

    I pray that God will fill me with the endurance of faith to keep believing in my husband and that all our prayers will result in my husband’s heart softening and his eyes awakening to just how precious a gift our marriage and family is.

  723. God always has good timing. I needed this message this morning!

  724. My husband & I have been married for 21 years. We have faced many trails and honestly, are in the middle of one now. I am disabled and my disability affects our relationship in so many ways. I am grateful that God has blessed me with a husband that is devoted and has not given up even if it were the easy way out.

  725. I totally agree that marriage is a lot of work. We just completed our 37 anniversary. We find ourselves in the same situation discussed today. I felt everything was find but he told me a different story within the last month. I would greatly appreciate a copy of your book.

  726. Brenda Tolliver says:

    This book sounds like it would be a great help to any marriage!!

  727. Would love to win this, my daughter’s birthday is right around the corner and she could definitely use the book.

  728. Heather Evenden says:

    My husband and I have faced some pretty tough situations in our marriage. Even now, things are not where we want them to be. We both have vowed to stay the course no matter what and the no matter what is what scares me.

  729. YAY so excited for your book! <3

  730. Leticia Flores says:

    I’ve been through several trials in my marriage and I know that we’ve made it through by the grace of God and I’m thankful for the trials although my husband is agnostic I believe little by little God has proven to him that he is there and I believe my husband will come to know Jesus one day, I can’t wait!

  731. would love a copy of this to enrich marriage—never can work on it enough

  732. I was encouraged by this. Your words help me say the things I feel but am too overwhelmed at times to put into my own words. Thank you. And may you be encouraged.

    Btw please do not share my email. Thx

  733. LaTonya Wilson says:

    Me and my husband have been married for 10 years & the last nine has been so hard & I’m still holding on and TRUSTING GOD for a complete turn around

  734. Thanks for the encouragement-the books sounds great!

  735. Would love to read this book and continue to work on our marriage!

  736. How much is really enough? says:

    14 years of marriage. I saved his life not once but twice ( with the help of God) he would be dead and 6 feet under. How am I respected and thanked for it? He cheats and I find out he has 5 kids with 2 other women behind my back. Oh. He claims to be a man of God. Ok. What God I ask? Broke all his vows, and humiliated me in the process. I don’t believe that all marriages are worth saving. This kind of hurt is one that will forever burden a partners heart. Not once has he ever apologized. This is not worth saving. For what reason? I cannot find one no matter how much I ask God for an answer. Alone, neglected,cheated on, lied to and disrespected. Now he has diabetis and a few other issues. I guess karma really does have a way of working itself around. I am not ugly, I am kind, caring, compassionate and go to the gym daily to take care of myself. I never got married to get divorced. But I never agreed to any of this either. I no longer believe in the unity of marriage or anything that remotely relates to it. He has changed my outlook on a lot of things. I hope no other person ever has to deal with what I. I would love to read this book, simply to hear someone else’s perspective on marriage, but I doubt it will change my mind on how I feel about it. I think being single, raising your children in the right manner and keeping your own faith is better than giving anyone the opportunity to treat you like a door mat is best. Just my opinion. I refuse to be anyone’s door mat ever again. Love to you all and I wish everyone the best. 🙂

  737. We have been married 30 years in May and I am always open to advice!! Love to read ideas about Marriage

  738. My daughter and her husband have faced a trial in their marriage and will now be leading a small group for young married couples. I would love to win this book for them to read and share with their small group. Thank you for sharing your story.

  739. Great article – Miles Apart. Would enjoy reading The 7 Rings of Marriage by Jackie Bledsoe.

  740. Amber Enloe says:

    This is so refreshing…my husband and I are in very similar situations. I lost my job due to an injury in my back and the job I had was very physical that way including sitting for hours on end. My husband just started working at another dealership where he only makes commission. We have bills piling up and we too have been “homeless” staying with my mother in law for 6 months after we said I do…I would love a copy of this DVDs.

  741. Excellent read! Was just talking to my husband about this very thing last night as we celebrated Valentines a day late. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

  742. Gail Bailey says:

    I so much enjoyed your article this morning on marriage. A number of years ago, I was challenged by God with this thought: “what if the highest purpose of your life is to walk beside your husband, supporting him, helping him and praying for him to be all that I have called him to be as a man of God”. This thought changed my attitude towards my husband and consequently, my marriage.

  743. I would love to win this book!! My husband and I have been married a year and a half now. It is so much different than what we thought it would be! I would say we have a pretty good marriage, but I think this book would help us learn how to make it a great marriage. We are about to enter a new season of life too which could change the dynamics of our relationship. My husband is about to graduate from law school and start working full-time, which means we are getting ready to expand our family and have children. Lots of changes coming up!

  744. Your book sounds like it would help me I am brokenhearted and have resolved myself to be unfulfilled in my marriage.

  745. I would love to have this book to give to my daughter and son-in-law who are approaching their 10th year of marriage. Her dad and I started having serious issues in our 10th year. Unfortunately, our marriage did not survive. I would like for my daughter and son-in-law to have the resources we did not have given to us.

  746. April P says: