Tearing Up the Star Charts

Tearing Up the Star Charts

January 31, 2017

“Thus says the LORD: ‘Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.’” Jeremiah 9:23-24 (ESV)

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Our son Cooper was nearly 4 years old the day we first met him. In my head, I was flying to Africa to bring home my cuddly little toddler, only to arrive and realize this was a full-blown kid who had learned how to rule his roost at the orphanage. We’d had no input on any of the 1,400 days of his life so far, then — bam! — just like that, he was our son.

When we brought Coop back to the guest home in Rwanda, words poured out of him without any apparent concern that none of us knew what he was saying.

That first night I cooked “popeyes” for dinner on a tiny skillet. I grew up in Arkansas eating popeyes: over-medium eggs, with the yellow yolk poking out of a little hole in toast. The typical thick porridge he ate in the orphanage didn’t require utensils, but popeyes do. But when I reached to show him how the fork worked, he knocked it away.

My husband Zac quickly corrected him with words Coop couldn’t yet understand but in a tone that he apparently did. That child stood up and started waving his finger and preaching like he was in church. Our strong-willed, gregarious new son was obviously familiar with a good old-fashioned southern scolding.

This was a showdown of wills, and we needed a way to motivate his cooperation. When we got home, Coop had one obsession: a bike. So I printed a picture of the most epic bike any 4-year-old had ever seen, and I made rows of squares with an arrow pointing to the bike. Then, whenever Coop did anything noteworthy — used the potty, used a fork, stayed in bed, shared his toys — he earned a little star sticker toward that bike.

And I will be honest: it worked.

In fact, that star chart still works. He can’t do math to save his life until there is a light saber at the end of 10 stickers. Then he can do long division in second grade.

While this brings out the best in Coop’s behavior and performance, in some ways it also brings out the worst.

My Coop fights shame. Somewhere along the way, Coop decided he was a bad kid. So on the days he earns a star, a grin breaks out, as if this star proved his worth. But if he doesn’t land his star, his head drops, as if the finger-waving scoldings from the orphanage are all true. Yes, Coop wants enough stickers for his light saber, but this ache is bigger. Something in him strives to prove he is enough.

We all have our own version of star charts, something we are trying to get approval for, from our parents, friends, spouses, kids, online acquaintances, coworkers or even from God. Most of us carry that striving feeling all our lives.

But the way we interact with people eventually makes its way into our spiritual lives. So often we try to relate to God through star charts — and we end up feeling shame or disappointment that our performance didn’t bring the outcome we wanted. We try to work harder, achieve more, jump farther, score higher in order to win His approval or blessing. We end up relating to God with an underlying fear rather than full of expectant, childlike, joy-filled faith.

God doesn’t work with star charts. He is not manipulated by our performance. In Jeremiah 9:23-24, He says: “Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the LORD who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the LORD.”

God is not after great performances or great movements. He is after us!

God already knows we aren’t enough, but He’s not asking us to be. We are the ones who have chosen to walk through the desert with enormous packs strapped to our backs full of everything but water. As if the kingdom of God were held up or together by us.

To get to the place where God can be enough, we have to first admit we aren’t. Pretending we are okay is how many of us are making life work. With that illusion gone, we might have to live needing God.

And it might be hard. Strike that. It is hard.

No more performing. No more pretending. No more proving ourselves.

Because we have nothing to prove.

Dear God, I’m realizing it’s not my curse that I believe I’m not enough; it’s my sin that I keep trying to be. Thank You for the reminder that life with You means I can rest, and I have nothing to prove. Will You continue to show me Your freedom, Your power and my need to stop striving to please You and instead just live life with You? In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Psalm 103:12, “He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.” (NLT)

RELATED RESOURCES:
You can order Jennie Allen’s book, Nothing to Prove: Why We Can Stop Trying So Hard from LifeWay, Target, Barnes & Noble, Amazon, CBD or your other favorite book retailers.

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REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Do you feel like God is keeping a star chart based on your performance?

When we see ourselves the way God sees us, we don’t have to strive. Read 2 Corinthians 12:9. How does this verse encourage you? Does it challenge you to tear up the star chart?

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Comments

  1. Sheri tucker says:

    This is a hard one to swallow. God is in control and I need to let him lead the way and follow with joy. I would love to read this book.

  2. Carrie Ross says:

    Yes this reminds me that “it is finished” . Thank you Jesus!

  3. Amy Dowty says:

    Great perspective

  4. Really would like to read the book. I was made to fill like Coop most of my life.

  5. Suzanne Graczyk says:

    It always amazes me that I can talk about something from the word and then usually within hours, I see that same reference. Your truth for the day, Psalm 103:12, “He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west,” is the same exact scripture I mentioned to my friend earlier and a couple days ago to another. God must really want me to remember this very important verse and apply it. Thank you for this confirmation.

  6. Amazed.

  7. Ahaziah Abubakar Suleiman says:

    I am refreshed each time I read from your daily encouragement. Bless you and keep up the good work

  8. I was one of those “star chart” moms. I never realized how much of an influence it had on one of my children in particular. She already felt not quite good enough and I was only causing her to strive all the more. This will be another one of those apology days for me!

  9. Debbie S. says:

    Would really benefit from reading this book.

  10. Deborah Duran says:

    I strive to be better. To achieve an outward sinless skin and I feel that I am failing. I need to let God do what He does. I need to remember that He is in charge not my mental star chart.

  11. Karie Delgado says:

    Jennie Allen you are amazing! Your willingness and truthful reads are so inspiring! thank you for sharing your true heart with us with your words. Everything you write is my joy to read. I learn so much from you. be encouraged my friend. You and your ministry are so loved!

  12. The image of walking through the water with a huge backpack filled with everything BUT water is what struck me. So times I am ill-prepared for my day because I went with my self-will and inner-strength and left my “Living” water home. Lord help me to remember to pack fully by simply using to take You wherever I go. Thank you for putting that picture in my head and reminding me that all I need is Jesus. Have a blessed day all!

  13. That should have been walking through the desert and I typed my email in wrong the first time. (Half asleep ?)

  14. The image of walking through the desert with a huge backpack filled with everything BUT water is what struck me. So times I am ill-prepared for my day because I went with my self-will and inner-strength and left my “Living” water home. Lord help me to remember to pack fully by simply using to take You wherever I go. Thank you for putting that picture in my head and reminding me that all I need is Jesus. Have a blessed day all!

  15. Melissa Hixson says:

    What a great reminder! We all have to get to ‘the end of me’ before we can realize how much we need the Lord- to understand how awesome, so very willing and able to meet all our needs that God is! He has given us a ‘free’ gift that we have to receive- no way to ever earn our salvation, or do enough
    good works to redeem ourselves. The only striving we need to do is be more like Jesus. Praise God for His love, mercy, and perfect plan for reconciling man to Himself.

  16. Thank you so much for this timely message! I have been filled with so much anxiety and shame because my life looks nothing like I planned. Things that “should” have happened by now are so far away. Trusting God during this detour has been so difficult and I often find myself trying to lug that backpack through the desert with everything but water.

  17. Thank you for this wonderful reminder! This is definitely me. Always feeling like I failed. Always trying to be a “good christian”. So sad and disappointed when I fail…again! Even though after 35 years as a Christian I know better. I never really feel like Im ok. Of course this is exactly what satan wants. I wont give up. Always praying for wisdom, strength & courage. God bless

  18. Gail Mattox says:

    I know, I won’t win a book, but all my adult life and my childhood I want scene, notice, to point I am begging all the time with my husband, children, friends, I just don’t think I am worthy or good enough. Thank you for today’s Word to let know in God’s eyes I am.

  19. Thank you for sharing this devotional. I would like to read your book and share it with my daughter.

  20. Janice Elrod says:

    Loved this article! Would love to win a book. Looking forward to Jennie’s FB live event today!

  21. Christina Chastain says:

    Thank you for your insightful information. I would Love to be able to dig further into this subject with you. As a chronic I’ll person with 4 children, I often feel I am not enough. God constantly reminds me I am beautifully and wonderfully made.

  22. Brandi Sereno says:

    I’m a public school teacher, wife, and mom so needless to say my all isn’t even enough most days. Once my relationship with God began to deepen a sense of calmness came over me and then other days when the stress starts to shine through a post such as this comes through. Thank you for this!

  23. I have been struggling for some time with feeling that I am worthy and that I am enough. I feel like I have to divide myself into so many different areas in my life that I can’t do any of them well. I would LOVE to have a copy of this book or anything that will help me with this struggle.

  24. Jennifer Lou says:

    I can relate to this… shared it on my FB page 🙂

  25. Kori williams says:

    Would really love this book; it seems like it is what I need right now!

  26. Connie Wilson says:

    This sounds like a very life changing book.

  27. Grace Low says:

    There’s no need to strive for His love! Thank you for speaking depths into my situation! This has been resounding in my walk with Him recently. May we always be like a child- in awe of His wonders and beauty!

  28. Jerushah W says:

    One of my daily struggles is feeling like I’m not enough; not good enough, not smart enough, not thin enough, not pretty enough. My childhood I grew up being told daily I wasn’t enough that I wasn’t wanted. I came to believe it. Thank you for these words this morning. I have nothing to prove. God knows my heart and I am enough.

  29. Thank you so much for your devotional!

  30. Tammy Gallagher says:

    I would love to win this book. This is a struggle I deal with daily and am in need of guidance and reminders on how to overcome a lifetime of bad habits and choices.

  31. Wow! I’ve never thought what it might be like to adopt a 4 year old… love the comparison to us!

  32. Michelle Jones says:

    The idea that I have nothing to prove is one I have struggled with most of my life. I am encouraged to know that living my life with God without a need to prove my “worthiness” but rather to just live with God each moment so that I can truly experience His love, peace and joy truly sets my heart free.

  33. I am so happy to read this, thank you. I am blessed to know I am not enough; I know it but need the reminder that I MAY NOT BE THE ONE TO HELP MY HUSBAND AND DAUGHTER KNOW THIS FOR THEMSELVES. They are hugely, bravely struggling in their own ways and I know God is helping them. Your post gave me the grace to have more compassion and reminded me perhaps my job is to put them back in God’s hands, thank Him for their presence in my life, and praise God that He knows their struggles better than I do. He alone can and will meet them in their places of need, just as He does for me.

    God alone is their all in all, just as He is mine. May I rest in that. Thank you, Lord.

    Thank you, Jenni, for reminding and encouraging me!

  34. My low self-esteem often gets in the way and causes unnecessary stress. Thanks for the reminder that my confidence should be in Jesus alone.

  35. What a timely devotional. I often feel like I have to work for approval and accolades, I have been doing it all my life. How wonderfully refreshing to know that God is not moved by my trying to be good enough,

  36. Maria Layton Yang says:

    Thanks for the encouragement…truly need some these days

  37. Thank you for this message. I often find myself trying new things and pushing myself to be the best to gain God’s approval. At failures, I come down hard on myself. I guess I am putting unnecessary pressure on myself.

  38. I really needed to hear this truth today. I don’t “feel” this today, but I know it’s true. I am really struggling through relationships, wanting too desperately to be enough and earn the favor of others when I already have the favor of the creator of the universe.

  39. This devotional continues to be a blessing in my life. Thank you so much for reminding me to stop trying so hard and coming to our Heavenly Father in fear. Will really love to read the whole book…

  40. Sounds like a great read!

  41. What a great reminder! Thank you ?

  42. Many of us can understand this struggle. Can’t wait to read this book

  43. Thank you for bringing God’s word to me today. I needed to hear this today. Lord, may I always remember that you’re enough for me.

  44. Thank you for this devotional. Many times I don’t feel good enough.

  45. So very true. One night a friend of my husbands told him that he had married beneath him and that I was a waste of time. I had stood there as I heard that. A waste of time??? Its true I didnt make as much money as him. Had 3 kids already when we got married and my husband worked full time and went to school fulltime. He was perfect…I was “beneath him” ? Those words stung big time and hurt. And it began to ruin our marriage. No matter what I said or did I felt like I couldnt impress him. One day I hit my breaking point. I had been trying to show my husband that I wasnt “beneath him” so much that I lost sight of who I was and in essence who Christ was in me. Words can hurt so much. I now put Christ 1st, and yes on a very bad day I can let those words get to me but I know that no matter what I am a daughter of the King. And He would never say I am beneath Him.

  46. “I am enough.” This phrase is written on Post-It notes throughout my world. Thanks for yet another reminder.

  47. Shelly Carpenter says:

    Thank you for this opportunity to earn this book title!

  48. Cindy Elsheimer says:

    This was a great devotion.

  49. Such an edifying article. Thank you. I look forward to reading and being encouraged and educated from your many devotionals. May you continue to be blessed in Jesus name. Amen.

  50. Ah, Jennie, how your story brings back memories. Our five-year old son, new to our family, was as stubborn as yours. We too used charts. His teacher noticed that when he earned the star, he was great. But if he didn’t make star, he trashed it all. Thus OK’s were added to the chart–only full defiance made no progress. OK’s didn’t move him to the prize as fast as stars, but they proved to him that all wasn’t lost if he wasn’t a star. We and his teacher wanted him to know that he didn’t have to be a star–his normal was OK by us. After all, none of us are stars all the time.

  51. Kate Casey says:

    I loved this post. It’s so very true how we try and prove or worth to others by doing things for people and when they don’t react the way you wanted, you’re devastated. I needed this reminder today that my worth is found in God alone not in what I do for others.

  52. Betsy Keesler says:

    I have recently realized that I have been keeping a Star Chart myself- a grownup version. It is called “Facebook” . While I strive my hardest not to use it as a means of comparison – it had become just that . While I strive to make honest posts without thinking of its popularity, checking the ‘like’ status sent a huge reward to my brain- the reward of approval. And if someone, that was not very attentive to my posts, had far more likes on his/her posts than I did- I secretly felt shame that I didn’t measure up in FB popularity. So 2 days ago – before I read this devotion – I deactivated my account – I tore up my “StarChart” . While there are some pieces of it that I will miss – there is far more that I won’t miss- namely wishing to please or not to displease my friend list. My worth is as a Daughter of the Most High King pleases HIM tremendously. And that, my friends, is the only “like” I really need- and have already received.

    • I can’t agree more, Facebook can be downright toxic sometimes! I have to pray about how I’m using social media. Am I showing off or offering encouragement? There’s also the angle that if I’m truly living an awesome life, I don’t need to broadcast it on social media all the time. We’re living for an Audience of One…

    • Jennifer james says:

      God knows I feel this way!’ So broken

  53. Kristi Thielen says:

    It amazes me each day that something so simple is so peaceful to the mind and soul–and yet so hard to accept and not make complicated in my everyday life. Thank you for the reminder.

  54. Sandra Gerstenmier says:

    I am always trying to earn my stars and this week I want no answers from God, just renewing my relationship with him and answers will come in his time. Thank you for reminding me that God wants the best for me and I don’t need stickers to get it.

  55. Sandy Hutchinson says:

    I had been reading daily devotions for a number of years when a friend shared Proverbs 31 with me recently. From the first day, I find each devotion relates to an issue I am struggling with. I have shared Proverbs 31 with many and I hope they find the strengh I do. Thank you for doing what you do.

  56. Thank you Jennie for sharing your story. Oh how I can relate to approval and measuring up….I struggled with that for years and still do. However, Galatians 1:10 came to mind. ~Lisa~

  57. This was a wake up call with what we are going through with our son in school with behavior charts. Thanks for helping me see this from Gods side.

  58. Mandy Eley says:

    Yes, please.

  59. Beth Reynolds says:

    Thanks for this great reminder today!

  60. Thank you for the reminder. I was told everyday by my mother that she wished I had not been born and I was not as good as my sister or my older brother. you would think after all these years I would get over it by now but I find myself thinking that all the time. I am so glad He loves me just as I am.

    • Marie, I’m so sorry she did that. God created you. Not your mom. She was put in charge of a gift from God and squandered that gift. But to Jesus you are precious. Forgive her and move on.

  61. Mary Christopher says:

    I really loved your devotion and could relate to striving to measure up. I would love to have a copy!

  62. Raymond Bell says:

    Thanks for sharing your story. God continue to remind me that His LOVE is so all encompassing. I can’t do anything to earn it nor can I sin so bad to lose it. PTL for acceptance in the Beloved.

  63. Stephanie says:

    There are days I try so hard not to need Him.

  64. I love reading the daily encouragement. I start my morning off reading. I would love to read your book it would be wonderful! Thank you for helping realize so much and grow in my faith.

  65. Kristina Harding says:

    Such a good reminder. I’ve struggled with seeking approval for years and am recently realizing He already loves me as I am. My time with Him is more special and I have a real desire to spend time with Him each day.

  66. Stephanie says:

    Some days I try so hard not to need Him.

  67. Thank you, this is exactly what I needed today. I have been struggling so bad and is so relieving to hear that it’s OK to need God.

  68. THESE WORDS:
    “I’m realizing it’s not my curse that I believe I’m not enough; it’s my sin that I keep trying to be.”
    are tough to read, but also liberating. I keep falling back into trying, but God, in His compassion, gently reminds me that He has made me “good enough” through His death and resurrection.

  69. Connie Miller says:

    I sometimes feel I’m the only one who strives to be good enough for God to love, others seem to just do it with no effort required ….. Thank you for today’s reminder to rely on Gods strength not my own.

  70. Powerful devotion. Thank you!

  71. Rebecca K says:

    This was exactly what the Lord wanted me to hear this morning. Like many others, I struggle with feeling inadequate on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing this.

  72. The truth us freeing when we begin to see ourselves in light of how God sees us and we stop trying so hard.

  73. I felt as if this prayer came with the salutation, “Dear Pat”. This has been my life long struggle. It is my prayer to be able to stop trying to be enough and just rest in the promise that I already am in my Savior’s eye.

  74. Thank you for this reminder.

  75. As a teacher we use various reward systems & for some students they hang their head low when they didn’t reach blue or stay on green.
    Truly understanding that our best “performance” still can’t be done without God is humbling. We try so hard to show the world “we got this” when in fact that’s when we’re most vulnerable & need God the most. My desire in this year & forever is to be real with God & not “perform” for people.

  76. Judith Evans says:

    I have to keep reminding myself what this prayer was all about. Life is difficult. Trying to be perfect is impossible.

  77. Velvet Whitt says:

    Thank you. I needed this. God has been speaking to me about being enough.

  78. Elizabeth Coley says:

    I can so relate to this devotion. I have 5 children, three were adopted internationally at ages 2, 4 and 6. They have a large hole in their hearts that tells them they aren’t good enough. They strive and strive. As a Mom who loves them dearly, it breaks my heart to see them struggle emotionally and spiritually. I know as they mature in their relationship with Christ, this will heal. We all want love and acceptance. It is waiting for us if only we will release control, trust and receive. Thank you for the timely devotion!

  79. I am so glad to be reminded that I don’t have to earn God’s love as a child earns stickers for a chart! I recognize that I am not enough because our God is MORE than enough! So grateful to His love!!!

  80. Deborah Richetelle says:

    As I hopefully meet with my 24yr old daughter tonight,unless she chooses to cancel or simply not show up.I pray for humility so the Holy Spirit can touch her heart and show her how much she is loved just as she is.

  81. Carolyn Meier says:

    I really look forward to reading this each morning. It seems to always hit the nail on the head!

  82. Thank you for sharing this powerful word today!

  83. WOW. Much needed.

  84. Francie Brooks says:

    Really needed this reminder today.. thank you for sharing His abundant grace!

  85. Thank you for the reminder that living with Christ gives me freedom and power to be all that He has created me for. I will never be enough on my own and I am thankful that I don’t have to strive for that anymore

  86. Jennifer Lane says:

    I would LOVE to try out one of Jennie’s books.

  87. I set out everyday day to live the way want God me to live but before the day is done I have done or said something that is not in God’s way. Maybe I should try the star chart myself at the end of a 2 week period if I have all my stars I will reward myself.

  88. Oh how this “People Pleaser” would benefit from your book…need to just be in the Lord because that is all He wants…

  89. Jody Goodman says:

    Thankful that I ran across your devotional this morning. I have spent countless hours of trying to prove myself to others, to myself and to God. He wants me just as I am. No need to prove myself. I am enough for Him. Thanks for sharing.

  90. I love this!!! And love Jennie Allen. I need to read this book.

  91. I would love to win a copy of this book!

  92. Cindy Herman says:

    I needed this devotional today. He loves and accepts me just as I am, I really don’t have to prove or strive to measure up. Thanks.

  93. I love all of Jennie Allen’s books and devotionals! I would love her new book!

  94. Mella Giannone says:

    God always has a way to pull us in and open our eyes, thank you for refocusing my heart and allowing my thirst to be quenched

  95. Kalessia Chester says:

    Thank you! I’m not cursed into believing I am enough it’s the sin that I keep trying to be! Wow!

  96. Denise Lusk says:

    I am so thrilled to have discovered Jennie Allen! She speaks straight to my heart. I often struggle with performance and thinking “I’m just not good enough”. Today’s devotion really spoke to me. Thank you!

  97. Thank you. I’m definitely a self-imposed star charter sometimes basing my value on the amount of to-dos I accomplish in a day. I would love to read your insights. ?

  98. Thank you for sharing and for reminding me!

  99. I love new books and this looks like a good read

  100. Stephanie C says:

    Can’t wait for this book!

  101. Amber Vincent says:

    Thank you for continuing to share your insights on God’s word.

  102. Melissa Stoltzfus says:

    A very inspiring read for this morning!!

  103. Kelly Batson says:

    My brother and I were talking yesterday about someone concerning your opening verse. I am so excited and love how God talks to me through what I encounter each day, showing me the way I should go. I love He loves me through your encouraging word today. Thank you so much for being the very vessel of His Love. Wow! I’m so joyful right now I could just bust! LOL!

  104. I am always trying to please God. I have been trying to understand this. There are scriptures in the New Testament encouraging believers to work to please God and correcting them fot not doing sad. I am having a tough time with this whole concept.

  105. I needed to hear this today. Thank you for the insight and inspiration!

  106. I am beginning to realize how much fear has played a part in my life! Hopefully I am also learning that God is enough. It is truly a hard lesson.

  107. Thank you for sharing. This is so relatable.

  108. Wonderful message. I, too, had strived to earn a chart full of stickers from almost everyone in my life, including God. Now, finally, in this winter season of my life, I have learned who I am in Christ. I continue to remind myself not to define myself by what others say, but to remember who God says I am.

  109. What a powerful message this morning as I head to work!

  110. Good Morning ~ I read this verse this week and I am touched again by you of our one true need and love. Thank you for inspiring me.

  111. What a great reminder that I don’t need to work to gain God’s approval. I needed to hear this today!

  112. Sigh….this is exactly what I’ve been needing to hear! I’m so thankful there is nothing I have to do to earn Gods love & acceptance. No more star charts for me!!

  113. This devotion couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m struggling with trying to get my new boss to recognize the good and trying to win approval.

  114. Touched my heart

  115. This devotion hit home for me. I would love to go more in- depth with the book.

  116. I needed to read that. Its OK to stop trying to be the perfect Christian & let God do His work.

  117. Kay Coward says:

    Star charts, never thought of trying to please God that way. I realize I don’t need to prove anything to God. To Him I’m already a “star”

  118. This was exactly what I needed to read this morning! Thank u! I definitely struggle with basing my worth on my accomplishments.

  119. Marian Smith says:

    Exactly what I needed to read this morning. Thank you for the chance to win.

  120. Elizabeth Clarke says:

    Oh how I need this! I so want to fill my chart with gold stars. Praying for help to believe I don’t have to earn His love and approval.

  121. This post is spot-on for me this morning after going to bed feeling like I didn’t measure up yesterday. Thanks!

  122. Growing up in an incredibly toxic legalistic environment has left me with performance/perfection scars that are taking a lifetime to hea! Thank You, Jesus, for Your faithfulness and mercy!

  123. Thank you, Jennie.

  124. Renee Williams says:

    This post called Teaing up the charts by Jennie Allen really spoke to me. I would love to receive a copy of her her book!
    Thank you,

  125. All of my life I have struggled with being a people pleaser and accepted by others, even God. A number of years ago I came to realize God accepts me unconditionally, yet overcoming my insecurities and feelings of unworthiness is and has been a growing process. I am gaining in my love of God and his acceptance of me as I lean daily into Him through the Word.

  126. I thank God for your Messages .This is a great message,and reminder book.Would Love to be a Winner .Bless the Woman of God who Wrote all of her Books of encouraging things in Life.Thank you for my blessing .My Church reaches out and teaches us so much .Thank God for them.

  127. Such truth! I will be using this for my devotion at school next week! Would love to have the book!

  128. What an insight! Thanks for sharing <3

  129. Hey there! This is timely and much needed! I am in a VERY BUSY work season, and this message reminds me not to miss the ministry opportunity, both for myself and for others watching me from the sidelines. I work as if unto the Lord! Not man. My striving is irrelevant and creates unnecessary stress in me. God is enough!

  130. I would really enjoy reading this book! I first met Jeanie doing a phone devotional & have been a fan since.This weekend I’m attending the IF gathering. I always find truth with compassion in her lessons.Thanks & God bless

  131. Thanks for sharing your story. We adopted as well and had similar issues even though our girls were from the states. God is getting me to the place where you are now. I wish I would have realized all that sooner.

  132. A great resource for kids on this subject is Max Lucado’s book ‘You Are Special.’ It’s about the Wemmick people and how they go around giving stars and dots based on if others think you are good or bad. It’s a great book.

  133. Sara Impriano says:

    Thank you for this beautiful message. It was exactly what I needed to hear this morning.

  134. Beautiful picture and powerful words.
    Thank you.

  135. Thank You for the reminder! Would love your book!

  136. Oh, how I needed this today. I was up early making my all-important list with the ultimate aim to be productive and of value in the world when He already values me the way I am – no list, no accomplishments – just me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  137. Ruth Mwangangi says:

    This was very
    Insightful, my strong willed daughter would also benefit from this devotional. I’ll be sharing it with her. Thank you!

  138. Great analogy with the behavior chart! Anyone with children can definitely relate to that. Thanks for sharing!

  139. I love how she uses the star chart to show us how we might strive for that star every day and how disappointed we are when we don’t get that star. Put it in perfect light for me to understand.

  140. Rhonda Borgmeyer says:

    I would love to get this info. I try everyday to have the Lord more in my life. I lost a son several years ago. And ever since then I’ve had trouble trusting in God. I always ask, what did I do to deserve this. I feel like he is punishing me for a bad dee

  141. Amy Mathis says:

    Thank you for today’s devotion!

  142. Thank you these words of truth and for the giveaway.

  143. Donna Simmons says:

    I need to learn to love and trust in God.

  144. Theresa Mason says:

    Love Jennie Allen!! Nothing to Prove is on its way to my mailbox today 🙂 That being said, the message that Jennie talked about brought me to Lysa’s teaching about Bread last week and in my “bittersweet” issues allowing God to be all. Jennie said it at the end of the prayer: “…my need to stop striving to please You and instead just live life with You?”. That to me is the Bread of life that Lysa was teaching us.

  145. Oh the dreaded checklist (star chart)…… it beckons me in the morning and reminds me in the night. Get thee behind me checklist! My worth comes from the Maker of heaven and earth. Thanks for the reminder. ❤️

  146. Angela Raphael says:

    I would enjoy a copy of the book.

  147. I am reminded daily that I am not enough. God is my refuge from that pain.

  148. Thank you for sharing your story! I would love to have this book! ❤

  149. Barbara Howard says:

    I believe I am motivated by the Hope God is pleased by my actions. Hoping that he sees Gold Stars for me.

  150. Amy Smith says:

    This was exactly what I needed to read today! I’ve been trying so hard to pretend I’m ok; I just need to realize and admit that I need to rely more on Him and less on my own efforts!

  151. Thank you! I needed to hear this message this morning. I’m trying too hard to perform for God and need to learn to be with Him instead.

  152. I would to have this book! Thank you for sharing your story.

  153. Kimberly mcleod says:

    Love, love, love Jeni Allen!

  154. Really needed this today. Would love to win a copy of this book.

  155. Shelley Lane says:

    Good devotional this morning!

  156. Heidi Mitchell says:

    Thanks for this message today. It is just what I needed to hear and be reminded of today.

  157. Keryl labonte says:

    Hello I would truly luv to read this book as I have gone through life striving to please anyone and anybody. I could use some inspiration in how to stop working so hard and just enjoy this life the lord has blessed me with. God bless

  158. Doris Fuson says:

    Yes ma’am, struggled with this too long – seeking approval and to prove myself worthy! He is the I AM for every part of my life. He is the strength for every weakness and loves when I lay my head on Him in absolute surrender! Thank you for reminding me one more time thst He will always be enough and all Glory is His! ❤

  159. Annette Morrow Sanders says:

    wow, …..I’ve been reading these messages for a few years now and many have touched me and hit home but this one at first caught my attention only later into the reading I was……… I dont know how to express how I felt……you were talking directly to me….I could almost feel you sitting across from me at the kitchen table. coffee cup in hand, talking like my sister and helping me to see myself in these words…….things that I did not even realize were there inside me…..just wow……truly words spoken through you straight form the Father……..words that helped me know something that I did not know I needed to hear. Thank you for loving God and serving Him.

  160. Michelle Olson says:

    I’d love to read this!!

  161. Staci Mize says:

    This has been a struggle of mine for my entire life! I know I need to break the chains that have me shackled to this sin….I just don’t know how to remove 44 years of doubts and fears.

  162. This is something I struggle with daily. Something I long for. I know the right answer. I just keep falling back in the same place. Thankyou yet again for your reminder. I needed that specifically today more than ever. Thankyou for sharing this.

  163. “Like apples of gold in settings of silver” – your words are timely! Thank you

  164. Laura Benjamin says:

    Why is it when we’re on a “right” path with our RIGHTeous God, that we get that all mixed up with our efforts? Why do we feel we need to prove or earn our freely given grace and love and worth? We are worthy because we are HIS, we are loved because we are HIS, we are forgiven because HE is good. I still struggle with waving a big flag to show God and others how good I am, how I do deserve the love He’s given me…I pray your book helps me and many others continue to knock down that lie that binds us.

  165. Julie Williams says:

    Thank you for sharing this story about your son, and God bless you in all you do!

  166. Mallory Allen says:

    What a wonderful reminder that we have nothing to prove! Thank you for this wonderful devotion.

  167. Love this, Jennie! I am such a performer! I know I don’t have to perform for God, but I feel I do. And my lack of perfection gets me down. Thanks for this reminder!

  168. Gena Davis says:

    Would love to have this book!

  169. Thank you for the encouragement.

  170. Thank you, Jennie, for this refreshment and encouragement for today! I’m so happy that our Heavenly Father desires to live with us. ❤️

  171. Jillian Le says:

    I’d love to win a copy!

  172. Thank you for the encouragement

  173. I really enjoyed this devotion! For so many years, I felt like I need to perform to get approval but only to fall short. I would love a copy of this book!

  174. I was so touched by this devotional. I would love to read this book. Lord help me to stop looking for my worth in what others think.

  175. Karen Slusser says:

    What a great reminder that God is the mover of all things good, not me and I need him to lead, love and guide me.

  176. Patricia Simms says:

    I still, after 35 years as a believer, have trouble with this truth. Thanks for the reminder.

  177. Christ loves us all with an everlasting love. His love enough. He first loved us!

  178. Annette Hardy says:

    I feel like this verse from the Bible, I need to be reminded it’s not do,do,do, to live WITH Christ is the answer, I would like to read the book

  179. Thank you for this devotion!

  180. lanai goff says:

    Would love to win one of your copy of nothing to prove book. Thank you

  181. I am sure enjoying these daily devotions

  182. Emily Farmer says:

    I needed this word today! Thank you!

  183. Thank you, Jennie, for this great reminder! God isn’t expecting me to be perfect and I can’t be! Glory to Him for his grace!

  184. Julie Woodman says:

    These words spoke right to my heart. I spend touch time feeling shame because I am not enough and striving to be enough, working to prove I am more than the sum of my past mistakes…it is so exhausting and demoralizing. I want to stopping trying to prove I am enough and live in the freedom of knowing God is enough and all I need.

  185. I have been battling some health issues for a while. Trying to figure out what is going on and not getting clear answers from the Dr. I have let worry take over and am trying to self diagnose my way to a specialist so I can get to feeling better. So far, me trying to be in charge isn’t working. Probably because that never really works. ?”When did I forget that You’ve always been the King of the world?”? Forgive me for trying to take the lead instead of letting go and letting God! His Grace IS sufficient!

  186. Good word. Thanks for sharing.

  187. Good word.

  188. Thank you for this reminder of God’s grace!

  189. Such a needed devotion for me today. Thank you.

  190. I grew up with a narcissistic mother. To this day I will never be good enough. It has affected every relationship I have ever had and continues to be my primary struggle! I am so grateful that I can rest in the assurance that I do not have to earn God’s love. That through HIS GRACE alone I am saved and am HIS daughter. I serve HIM because I get to, not because I have to. What an incredible gift!

  191. Betty Nicholson says:

    Oh, so true!

  192. Thanks so much for sharing this! What a needed and beautiful reminder for me this morning.

  193. You always seem to narrow in on things that I am struggling with in my life…
    I’m currently doing a 21-day fast, and I haven’t been very faithful to it. With this comes tremendous feelings of failure, of letting God down, as if He’s saying, “I knew you couldn’t do it”.
    In the past I have let these thoughts block my path, causing me to stubble off in tears. I would then avoid reading the Bible, going to church, and would withdraw from anything that had to do with the Christian life, thus cutting off anyone who might encourage me in my walk.
    The Lord always pulled me back to His side. He’s so very patient with us…
    The cycle would start all over again, and I would try and try, always in the end left feeling that I just can’t do this! I’ll never be good enough, I’ll never measure up.
    Then almost 10 years ago my father passed away. As devastating as it was to me, the Lord had once again pulled me to His side, but this time He really had my attention. It wasn’t after my father’s death but a month beforehand. He sent me on a search for a new church, and created in me a thirst and hunger for His Word that I had never felt before. Everything He gave me to read was stating that He is my refuge in times of trouble. I didn’t understand what was happening in my life until I got the call that dad had had a massive heart attack. As I was driving to the hospital to be with my mother I prayed, and He revealed His loving care toward me. Not only was He taking care of my father who was in His presence at that moment, but He had prepared me for what was to come.
    I realized then the depths of His love for me. He was not the voice telling me I wasn’t good enough, that I would never measure up. (Oh how the Devil loves to paint the Lord as the villain in our lives!) He was the loving Father who held me in His arms that night. The cross at once had so much more meaning for me than ever before.
    Thank you for the example of your son in your devotion. It was a very good reminder to me of my revelation almost 10 years ago. It was exactly what I needed to start my day. Thank you for letting me share.

  194. Terri Davis says:

    Thank you for this message and inspiration to remind me it’s not the pat on the back I should seek, it’s the grace and mercy to press on toward the Savior!

  195. Finding our worth and our path through Jesus can be difficult. Thank you for your wise words this morning and remembering we have nothing to prove.

  196. Sally Means says:

    This article is like breath of fresh air to me. I literally released a deep breath that I may have been holding all my life. I have always felt I had to prove myself to everyone, never good enough. This devotional helped me realize that JESUS LOVES ME and just wants to be with me. It’s already been proven!

  197. Cynthia Smith says:

    As a struggling single mom it’s all I can do to say I’m ok. It is so hard to get passed striving for gold stars. My need to be valued by my peers is so tangible that at times it pushes God aside. I want to find rest in Him, the one who daily whispers I am loved

  198. Thank you for sharing.

  199. Cindy Essex says:

    I’m a “words of affirmation” love language, so this one is so hard for me to stop seeking approval or validation. But I’m working on it! Beautiful story! I’d love the opportunity to win the book!

  200. What a relief!!! We can rest and just be to live life WITH him. God is good…all the time!

  201. It’s always good to be reminded that Christ loves us regardless of our failures. In college, I made mistakes, I failed and I started thinking that God didn’t love me. It’s not my actions but Christ’s actions. I love the story of your boy.

  202. Thank you wonderful Team of Proverbs 31 in leading us to finding I am..
    The simple revelation of BELIEVING and walking with GOD just as I am opens up
    The promise I always cherished …APART FROM ME YOU CAN DO NOTHING.

    Thank you for teaching the word from the Holy Land which makes the
    Word more deep and profound.
    Bless you all

  203. This is so accurate, especially for those of us who have grown up in highly performance driven families or environments. We come to believe that our entire self worth is measured by how many stars we have on the board. I remember for a long time feeling like I would never be able to make it as a Child of God, I was overwhelmed by how many “star charts” there were and how many days I seemed to be falling short on one of them. But I’m so glad that God, through his Holy Spirit revealed to me that his love for me is secure I already have it. His love for me is not the big prize at the end of the chart is the gift He’s given me just because.

  204. Christina says:

    Everyday I realize a prideful competitive spirit prevents a deeper, more loving relationship with our Lord…and that spills over into relationships with everyone! Would love this book! 🙂

  205. Deanna Hill says:

    Always and forever, accepted, loved, treasured, just as I am.

  206. I would love to win thos book.

  207. Wanda Faye Tolbert says:

    Thank you for this timely devotional. It is the Word of God that keeps me grounded, focused. For most of my life I’ve been on that performance track, running to please. I have to be reminded when others reject me or I don’t for in, God loves and abuses in me.

  208. I still doubt and believe that I am “not enough”. “Lord, I believe”! Help my unbelief.”

  209. Wanda Faye Tolbert says:

    I have one of those phones that types what it wants. That should be fit in and abides.

  210. Praise God, we have nothing to prove1

  211. This sounds like just what I need! I always feel that I just don’t quite measure up.

  212. Sheila Copenhaver says:

    This is a great reminder for me, a perfectionist, as I strive in my relationships with God, my husband, and three little boys.

  213. Sharon Seneker says:

    We are like children feeling love and approval in our homes & churches, but look around and also seek approval from others. We have all we need in Jesus!

  214. I feel that our culture is very much performance/results driven. Whether at home or at school, from the time we’re in diapers, we’re entered into the rat race of life. And it feels that it’s only getting worse (private ice-skating lessons for 3-year-olds, anyone?). Sadly, church culture isn’t much better. So many time son Sundays, I feel like we’re competing for best-dressed, best-singing-voice, most-well-behaved-kids, etc. Sometimes, I forget to simply come to God just as I am, without fancy clothes or makeup, and meet Him plainly.

    Personally, there isn’t anything necessarily wrong with star charts. But you have to execute it with the understanding that approval is not contingent on completing every task. Rather, the child already has your approval, which is the motivation for wanting to do more around the home/school. That is how God treats us; we are free to do the things that please him because we no longer have to earn His approval.

  215. In raising my children that are now 22 & 18. I prided myself on raising them on what I thought, believed , and felt. However as I grow deeper in my relationship with God I realize that I had it all wrong and even though they are practically grown God can show them the right way not only through their relationship with him but also as his light shines through me. I would love this book to aid me in my growth in our Lord Jesus Christ.

  216. Yes I definitely need God and couldn’t do this life without dependence on him. I would live your book. My husband and I adopted two boys 7 years ago at the ages of 11 and 13 and it has been daily reliance on him that we have made it through.

  217. Heather S. says:

    This book sounds amazing. Another woman here who struggles with trying to do enough, be enough, be good enough. The words of the devotional this morning hit home. ❤

  218. Thank you for the devotion and for the opportunity to win the book.

  219. I have lived my whole life feeling like I always have to prove myself. Like I am never good enough and never will be. Thank you for this devotional. It truly touched my soul ♡

  220. Elizabeth Brown says:

    It’s amazing how deeply this spoke to my heart. I’m so grateful for this ministry and the freedom that us available in Christ. I struggle deeply with the need to please and prove myself, especially in my relationship with the Lord.
    It’s neat and encouraging to hear that you are from Arkansas and connected to this ministry. I am from Arkansas as well 🙂

  221. Ruth Martin says:

    Such a good message. Let it go and let God!

  222. I struggle with trying too hard to be a Christian instead of just doing life with God.

  223. Kathy Fain says:

    I would very much like a copy of this. I enjoyed your study on “Tearing Up the Star Charts.” Thank you for sharing.

  224. I definitely needed to remember that I should stop trying to measure up because I never can. Thank God for loving the mess I am!

  225. What a blessing! I SO needed to hear this today. Thank you.

  226. I love this! Thank you!

  227. Suzanne Simmons says:

    Thank you for this devotional. I have been wrestling in my head and heart whether I was good enough…to the point that I start thinking I should not be here at all. This spoke so deeply to me.

  228. Julia Richardson says:

    I really needed this message today. Thank you!!!

  229. Timm Lundgren says:

    Thank you for this wonderful reminder. I truly hope to live WITH God.

  230. Jennifer Mitchell says:

    Would love too win a copy, definitely trying to learn it’s not all about me and to let Jesus be the pilot.

  231. Julia Sullivan says:

    Loving these devotionals!!

  232. A. Wilson says:

    So often we get caught up in the rigor and performances we feel are necessary for us to look good for this world…but we are enough. We don’t have to carry these burdens or loads. Let God be enough and give you that unspeakable joy, that let’s you feel and you know is enough.

  233. Thank you for the encouragement this morning!

  234. Joni Heath says:

    Your ministry is such a blessing to my daily walk. Your daily words are just what I need to stay in the word. God bless you & your ministry.

  235. Thank You Lord for simply loving me, not “stars” on my made up chart. Amen.

  236. Stacy Fortenberry says:

    Striving is an enemy! Would love to read more!

  237. How delightful. You have piqued my interest. Would appreciate a free copy. Thank you.

  238. Good word to start out the morning with. Thank you!

  239. Thank you for this timely devotion.

  240. Thank you for this encouragement today!

  241. I’ve been trying to decide if I should accept a ministry position and I’ve been hesitating because I thought I didn’t have enough stars on my chart yet. I realize that in a way, I’m right: I’m not enough for this position. But God is. So I have no reason to fear.

  242. Jamie L Hitt says:

    I have 2 children and have had a few star charts down thru the years. I loved starting the morning with your reading it has given me an extra little nudge this morning! Thank you so much for that! We are all worth so very much and very few of us give ourselves credit, at least not for the right things. Thank you!! Can’t wait for more!!

  243. Beth Cohen says:

    This was just the message I needed in anticipation of a potentially stressful day at work. Thank you!

  244. Words I most needed to hear!

  245. Great post! Thank you!

  246. Christina says:

    Loved this!!! I have fought shame all my life. I grew up abused physically, sexually and mentally, always feeling unworthy to even touch a bible. Thanks for a reminder of redeeming love.

  247. Anonymous says:

    Often have to remind myself, I’m a daughter of a king, when I don’t feel like I’m Enough or incomplete, he completes us.

  248. Very good devotional today. Thought provoking.

  249. Lindsey Parker says:

    Thank you so much for this reminder. The only way we can know our true worth is in Jesus our Savior. Nothing in this world brings the satisfaction, joy and peace as having a relationship with Him.

  250. This message touched me in such a gentle way. I have strived for many years on a star chart. My church did a 21 day fast. I did not begin until the last seven days. Those seven days gave me focus and clarity. Since then each day there has been a shift in me. Changes I expect…push for! I’m not alone in this journey. He is my anchor. Thank you for the encouragement through your story.

  251. Joanna Beers says:

    Right on point for what I’ve been feeling, and doing. Thank you for the wisdom.

  252. Great devotional, thank you for the reminder that we are enough in Gods eyes. We are his daughters and his love is unconditional.

  253. Teri Moss says:

    I would love to have the book, “Nothing to Prove”.

  254. I would love to read this book!

  255. We grew up with our alcoholic father telling us we were nothing without him. When I got saved at age 26, I realized what a lie that was and knew the truth was, I was nothing without God, my heavenly father. I have lived the last 30 plus years keeping the Lord close as I can, I never want to live without Him first and foremost in my life. For in Him I live and move and have my being. Thank you Lord for my salvation! I love you!

  256. Thank you for such a timely devotion!I love it when my husband comes home with a surprise for me “just because!” Likewise,I’m so thankful for God’s unfailing,unending, unwavering love for each of us…”just because.” ❤❤❤

  257. Anna Payne says:

    We walk through the desert with packs full of everything but water. Love this analogy.

  258. What a great reminder that we do not and cannot earn His love ❤️!

  259. Such a good reminder to start the day with.

  260. I sent today’s devotion to my adult children ??loved it!

  261. I keep telling myself I have nothing to prove. My heart knows this, my head – not so much. Thank you for the great reminder to start my day.

  262. I loved this story this morning and the scriptures that went along with it. I need that book!

  263. Love this devotion–it really resonates with me! Thank you!

  264. Perfect timing for such a great reminder! Thank you for the encouragement.

  265. Deina Samples says:

    Love!!!! Great reminder! Thank you

  266. Maureen Tonelli says:

    This devotion really hit home and inspired me to stop striving and lean on God more!

  267. Such a beautiful reminder that even when we fail, His love never does. Some personal areas in which I struggle might need star stickers to prod me to do (and be) better! 😉 Thank you for this sweet reminder!

  268. Amy Meyers says:

    Learning to lean on God takes practice. I’d love to learn how to do that better.

  269. I needed this word today. God’s timing is perfect – what a great reminder of his faithfulness!

  270. MY Bible study sisters and I are doing Jennie’s ‘Anything’ study right now and it has been truly amazing!!!!!!!!! Would love to win this book to do next! Thank you to Proverbs 31 Ministries for all of the encouraging posts…incredible ladies, all of you!!!!!!!!!

  271. Lori Lawson says:

    Thank you for sharing. This really helped me today!

  272. Sue Peyton says:

    This devotion sounds like what I’ve been striving to do my whole life…please people, please God, do my best always. I want to claim the full, abundant life that God has promised simply because He loves me.

  273. Patricia Williams says:

    Wow, how old is Coop now? Spoke to the Cooper in all of us regardless of our age. Thank you.

  274. Thank you for the reminder that we need to live a life needing God. It is easy to forget sometimes especially with all of the modern conveniences we have to try to fix problems ourselves.

  275. A beautiful devotional and much needed by me!

  276. Such a touching devotion. I would love to win a copy of this book!!

  277. Powerful message….thank you!

  278. Thanks for the encouragement. I have always struggled with performance, but I am learning that I can rest in God’s provision of grace. This is allowing me to realize the joy of my salvation

  279. Love the daily encouragements!

  280. Wow! Such a great word this morning. Thank you for sharing it.

  281. Amanda Cox says:

    Thank you for sharing your story! I’m sure this book is full of more wonderful insights!

  282. Kathryn Abercrombie-Rodnick says:

    Woah boy – I’m 27, married, and a parent and still feel as though I need to keep a star chart! When my husband comes home from work I rattle off the list of things I’ve done during the day, or I tell the kids everything I’ve done in their absence or while they were sleeping… This has been especially a challenge since moving from the work force to the home force, feeling as though I need to “earn my keep” and contribute something noteworthy if I’m not contributing financially. It’s not my curse, it’s my sin. That is an interesting way to halt my performance thoughts.

  283. Kimberly Weih says:

    Oh how this devotion speaks to me! Thank you!

  284. Holly Nacarelli says:

    Using the strength God gives us and forging our way through difficult times with Hope, Grace, and Love is a true testament to our faith in God. Even after some of my darkest struggles I am able to reflect on the goodness that resulted from it. There is aleays a lesson to be learned and Good always overcomes. We learn to rely solely on God and persevere even when things seem impossible. We know that in those times is when we will feel his presence and Love the most. During these hardships is when I have felt the most connected to Him.

  285. Allison Seay says:

    I’d love a free copy of your book!

  286. I’ve always been an “over-achiever” and not sure why. Of course, even if I meet other’s expectations, I never meet my own. We are our own worst critics, right? Thank you for your wise words this morning. Just the reminder that I needed that I do not have to be ….and will not ever be perfect.

  287. Today’s reflection really speaks to me. Trying to prove myself is something I need to “Let go and Let God”. Thank you for the reminder!

  288. Beth Thomas says:

    These words also spoke to me! Life is hard, and we make it harder when we forget that God is on our side!

  289. Sonya Wingard says:

    So very true!! Thank you!

  290. I would like to have a copy of Jennie’s book!

  291. I see this not only in my kids but in myself and my spouse. We always want credit from others for what we do and to show we are useful. This is a good reminder that while our good deeds are important they do not define our worth. I would enjoy a copy of the book.

  292. LaVonna Fields says:

    I have to first say that this devotion came at the right time. I just turned 40 years old this month and I have been dealing with the following question. What have I achieve in my 4 decades of life on this Earth? And after I reviewed the check list, I still felt empty inside. This is because I have been living my life on the world’s standards and not on God’s word. So this reminder that I am enough because God says so has blessed my life. I have sent this devotional out to all of the women I know and my prayer for them is that God touches them like He touched me this morning.

  293. My daughter needs this book ?

  294. This devotion today was truly heaven sent. It spoke directly to my soul! Upon reflection I realized that is a battle that I fight daily. Proving I am good enough on every level of my life. What I need to accept is that I am good enough to be called a child of the Living God and that makes me good enough for all things! Thanks for the reminder!

  295. Such truth! I think this is especially hard for moms these days. Society makes us feel like we have to compete w/ other moms by doing more or doing better. It’s hard to not feel like we have to PROVE ourselves on a daily basis, but these feelings are not of God. They are the enemy trying to keep us in bondage. It’s so freeing to just acknowledge that I am not perfect – no one is – and that’s okay! God wants to use our brokenness to draw us in closer to Him. – Thank you for an awesome reminder this morning. 🙂

  296. Merci Moulder says:

    This is just what I needed today. God is really trying to get this through to me right now. I can’t love and accept myself or others till I accept God’s unconditional love. I don’t need to perform or do all the right things.

  297. Melissa Bentson says:

    Amen! Definitely something I need to be reminded of regularly! I would love a copy of the book!

  298. Thank You for the reminder that life with You means I can rest, and I have nothing to prove.
    Lived my life trying to prove i was worth loving and it was my fault if things went wrong. This give me peace that I can rest. Thank you Jesus!

  299. Mandie Avila says:

    As a teacher, I can relate to this behavior modification easily… It’s easy to get caught up in the strive for goodness and recognition. Thank k you for the reminder that we are never enough. We need to be OK with that.. and that is hard.

  300. Angie Landry says:

    I would love to read this book as I’m always trying to win approval from everyone and it’s so wrong because I don’t need approval because I am worthy. God loves me

  301. Thanks for the sincere message that all we need is Jesus! I’m sure your book shares so much we need.

  302. I needed this. The reminder that I don’t have to earn God’s approval. That he calls me to rest with Him. Thanks p31!

  303. Oh how I need to remember this !

  304. Brandy Zumwalt says:

    Thanks for the reminder that we can never be enough and it’s all about God in us!

  305. I would love this book. I’ve always struggled with feeling like I’m not good enough or doing enough for God.

  306. Alison Baker says:

    I would love to have this book. I need to grow in my walk with God and learn that he loves me and I do not need to gain his acceptance by always trying to out do myself. Loved this devotion.

  307. Stephanie says:

    Love this! I grew up being taught I had to be a certin way and do certain things to be with God one day, check the boxes perfecty. In my heart I knew that I failed EVERY day, and as I reached adulthood I wondered why I tried so hard to go after something I could not reach. When I heard God’s true Gospel, I was changed…It still seems scandalous at times, but I love the comfort Jesus gives me, and I love that I can admit that what I do is not enough-that’s the point, it’s what Jesus did for me, I just have to accept it in my heart and live a life for him.

  308. Intentionally searching our motives is a hard discipline. There’s a line between loving making others happy and striving to. I need to carefully guard my heart and discern God’s wisdom in pleasing Him and what that looks like in my relationships.

  309. This is me. I work for my star charts way too much. God has tried to teach me but I just can’t seem to completely let that need of mine go – the need to earn love and approval. BTW I also grew up in Arkansas!

  310. Cindy E. Slone says:

    I am never enough…at least not on my own

  311. Marcia Whaley says:

    I would love to do her Bible Study on this book! It’s so easy to keep comparing ourselves to other’s or the world and think we don’t measure up. Been there myself (and if am I honest, I find myself still doing just this!). The self negative talk, thinking I am not worthy…..it can be a horrible cycle. As I am working on my Faith to help, not just build myself up, but to help keep my own daughter as uplifted and grounded in her Faith as she grows up.

  312. Carrie Hall says:

    I love this. It resonated with me this morning.

  313. Nicole Tocco says:

    This —> “God already knows we aren’t enough, but He’s not asking us to be.” I LOVE the reminder that God will take me just as I am. I strive everyday to be a great wife, mother, friend, employee, etc…but knowing I don’t have to prove myself to Him and I can come to Him (with imperfections and all!) and He will always love me no matter what, is seriously amazing! Thanks for sharing this message today, I definitely needed the reminder!

  314. Can never get enough of this reminder!

  315. This devotion is such a blessing today! Exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you?

  316. I would like to read this book and I would love for each of my sons to read it. We set ourselves up to fail when we try to prove ourselves. My youngest son said to me just last night that his cousin made him feel like his life was failing and his plans after high school were not adequate. It hurts my heart how others expectations of us can make us feel. God is the only one that matters.

  317. Pamela Roble says:

    Thank you for your sensitive reflection and encouragement to all who struggle with being accepted and “good enough.”. It has taken me a few years and daily repetitions of Zepheniah 3:17* to feel “good enough” in God’s eyes. *The Lord your God is with you. He is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you. He will quiet you with his love. He will rejoice over you with singing.

  318. Sharon Lam says:

    This is one of the biggest misconceptions that many of us women have, to strive to prove our worth to others and to ourselves. Thank you for reminding us that this was never God’s intentions for us. I need to learn to balance my own ambitions and let God lead me and trust Him more. I need to learn to teach my daughter to not fall into this trap as well.

  319. Caitlin Butterworth says:

    I would love to get a copy of Jennie Allen’s book Nothing To Prove. I feel that this book would be very beneficial for where I am in my life right now. Love receiving all of the daily devotions and motivation. You guys are amazing!

  320. Tammy Dyer says:

    I have always felt I am not as good, as attractive, as smart, as charming, as enough to be loved by others. God is working on me. I come off as conceited others say…. Its just I’m too unsure to confess I’m not enough…so I keep to myself if I can’t feel capable. I try too hard at times…then I push them away seeming to not need them….I do. But I know….God’s working on me!! Blessings…

  321. #BLESSED thank you~

  322. Melinda Sarullo says:

    I would love a copy of this book! All of us feel the need to perform, and yet we must realize that His grace is enough. He loves us as we are and where we are.

  323. Teresa Steen says:

    This devotion is such a blessing, so thankful for the daily reminders of God’s everlasting love.

  324. Another devo this morning I read was also talking about this very thing. I definitely can be performance based and “Nothing to Prove” sounds like a wonderful book to help me rest in Him.

  325. Michelle Kelly says:

    Loved reading this as I push off to start a new day. What freedom to focus on what God thinks and believes about me.

  326. Beautifully written

  327. Dorothy Bloomer says:

    Thank you Lord for loving me regardless.

  328. Jessica R. says:

    Thank you for the reminder that there is love for who we are right now not just love awaiting us upon a good performance!

  329. Laura Callaghan says:

    I so needed to hear this today! Right time, right place as God only does! Thank you

  330. Duane Davidson says:

    I am up hours before my wife and often read your emails to her at dunju70@att.net. In December she challenged her daughters and daughter-in-law to each pray for their husbands with her. I am here to tell you that I have already seen God do amazing things in my life – more significant in just 1-1/2 months than He has done in any full year of my life. I thank God for a godly wife who has made and is keeping this commitment yet. She is the love of my life.

  331. Thank you! We too have an adopted son, I have a whole new view of HIS love and compassion through parenting a child, especially one from a hard place.

  332. Candice Para says:

    My specific prayer has been for Him to remove the pressure I put on myself to perform, and allow Him to reveal His glory His way. Thank you for this post. What an answer to prayer it was for me xo

  333. Janice Mains says:

    I really like your star chart story. Sometimes it feels like I have my own chart with heaven as the prize at the end of it. It is only human nature to want to please those we love, but so often we try to please with what we want instead of what they want.

  334. Love this devotion. 2 Corinthians 12:9 is one of my life verses. I grew up as a very anxious child until I met and accepted Jesus into my life. He is my peace, my strength, my refuge, my Redeemer and so much more. May God continue to bless you as you minister and inspire others through your writing.

  335. I enjoyed today’s devotional and would love a copy of the book to read more. ?

  336. Thanks for picking Jeremiah 9:23-24 to go along with this devotion. It’s perfect and I am going to meditate on it today.

  337. Danielle Geissinger says:

    Wow, this is great. I have been going through a time in my life where I feel like I’m just drifting with no purpose. Seeing all my friends land great jobs, get married, have kids, etc. kinda shot a hole in my sense of who I was so I decided to come up with a ‘goal list’ of sorts to try and prove to everyone that I’m not a failure. I have been so consumed by trying to complete these goals that I’ve become discouraged at all that I need to do and at the little that I’ve accomplished. Would love to read this book to help me get back on track to realizing that God loves me no matter what.

  338. You hit my nail right on the head! I’ve always felt that I need to prove my worth others and to myself. I’ve compared myself to others which always leaves myself coming up short. It’s a hard sin to break. Thanks for this wonderful reminder

  339. Love 2 Corinthians 12:9. I would love to win a copy of this book. I’ve already been thinking about ordering it.

  340. Thank you so much for these words. Great way to begin my day!!

  341. I love
    Your illustrations about Cooper and at
    First I see my 3 year old grandson (not adopted but STRONGEST OF WILLS), but as I read, I see me. My lack, my sin, my performances (and they are not all good). Thank you for sharing and for the challenge to try to live with God who is enough….I know this and yet I struggle to live this way.

  342. Brenda Rowley says:

    This was such a good reminder to me today as I woke up feeling like I had to do better, strive more, win favor. It’s time to take up the shield of faith and quench the fiery darts of the enemy. It’s time to listen to what my loving heavenly Father says. Thank you!

  343. I needed this today – I think most of my life I have acted as if God kept a sticker chart on me.

  344. Thank you for today’s devotional. This is exactly what I’m trying to help my children understand. I will be using these wise words to parent later today. We don’t have to DO anything to be loved by God. He loves us just because we exist. Alleluia!

  345. Rhonda Eroh says:

    I think most of us spend our lives trying to prove our worth. I loved this devo!

  346. This is so ingrained in some of us. I’d love to break this with help from the book.

  347. What a great devotion. I am a people pleaser and sometimes it gets so tiring trying to keep everyone happy…it is so refreshing to be reminded we don’t have to “perform” for God..He loves me the way I am, faults and all. Thank you!

  348. Thank you for the great devotional. I needed this reminder. I have spent years feeling like I had to be good enough for my family and friends to love me. God doesn’t ask me to be good enough. He loves me at my best and worst. I can say from experience that it is easier to listen to Him when you are not around people that are constantly telling you how great they are. That’s what I am working on now: seeing myself as God sees me, not trying to live up to someone else’s star chart.

  349. Confirmation on what God has been showing me for months – “It’s not about ME, it’s about HIM”. Everything in my life – no matter what it is – is not about me but about Him, and what He’s doing in and through me. I’m getting it, but haven’t gotten it yet.

  350. CJ Worden says:

    I can’t be perfect except in my faith in a perfect God.

  351. Kelly Brandt says:

    I struggle with this every single day. Thank you for this reminder!

  352. As a Navajo child on the Navajo reservation I grew up in a home with five siblings. I can always hear my dad letting us know we were not good enough. He never abused us physically, but verbally with this phrase. I was six years old when my parents put my sister and I in a Christian boarding school. I never felt so abandoned. It was a strict school and now I look back after reading today’s devotion and realized I felt really bad if I did not behave correctly. Think I remember this is where I learned God was not pleased with me if I did not obey and behave correctly. Now as an adult I learned the meaning of God’s grace and now know God is enough for me and He is for me. At times I still struggle to try and prove myself. I am thankful I am a child of the Most High God!

  353. Christina Shannon says:

    I am learning more and more everyday that through God I am enough. I am learning that I am loved and cherished as a daughter of the King!

  354. Laurie Parks says:

    Would love to have a copy of your book!

  355. I’d love to win! Love Jennie’s books!!

  356. Marcia Valera says:

    What great reminders!

  357. Jackie Taylor says:

    I would love to win this book!

  358. This would be a blessing!

  359. Melissa Fenderson says:

    I’d love a copy of this. It sounds like it is just what I need to understand God’s care for me and what my right response should be.

  360. Karen Macaleer says:

    These are hard words to hear but truly words I needed to hear as this is truly my struggle. I would love to read this book.

  361. Jane Jennings says:

    I need to realize that I have nothing to prove…..I am enough.

  362. Stuck,Chase,Restless

  363. Gina Morrison says:

    Thank you for the devotion today… I good reminder!

  364. Lana Parks says:

    I would love to receive this book to help me along this journey… I’m going through some tough rimes right now…

  365. Christine Cromley says:

    This is my first introduction to you. Even though I am a 68 year motherboard 6, grandmother of 12 (#13 due any day) and a great grandma come September, I can always receive and learn more to help me in my walk Jesus! Thank you for sharing yourself and your heart. I will be signing up for the devotions and checking out your books.

  366. I have been struggling and feeling defeated. There are time I just want to crawl under my cover and said I quit. God has been sending me such amazing encouraging messages through church and devotionals. Thank u for this today. I am going to work on tearing up my star chart and focus my relationship with Jesus.

  367. Love this story about Cooper. Such a great illustration of how we try to live at times. So glad that the Lod lives me no matter what!

  368. Kathy Cheshire says:

    A wonderful story about “being enough” with God.

  369. Amen. Thank you, Jennie. Praise the Lord for his mercies are new EVERY morning and His love endures forever.❤

  370. Kristle Brumley says:

    Very good article! I would love the book!

  371. Have struggled all my life to be enough for everyone, including God. Trying to break free of that. Would love a copy of this book to glean any wisdom from it that I could.

  372. As I teacher ,I used many star charts. I now realize that even though retired, I use them on myself, keeping track of my progress in my brain. I’m tearing them up, wiping them out. I find it only gives me guilt feelings. I’d rather live “with” God and find freedom!

  373. Thank you for sharing. I would love a copy of your book.

  374. The good Lord must have known that I needed to hear your message! Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to keep proving myself to others. Jesus is all I need, and I praise Him for His mercy and grace!

  375. Judy Mitchell says:

    Your article brought tears to my eyes. Would love to read the book and really get a good cry!

  376. K.C. Beecham says:

    I would love to win a copy of your book! I’ve already put it on my “to read” list!

  377. Loved this insight! We weary ourselves trying to perform on a level of perfection so we might earn His approval; approval that he has already given. Instead, He just wants us to know Him and rest in His loving grace.

  378. Ethna Flanagan says:

    If I recognize something familiar in almost everyone I meet, it is that central core belief that we are “not enough”.
    It manifests in one way or another and many are skilled at hiding it behind behaviors such as criticism, anger, judgement, control.
    This prayer you have offered, I will pray daily.
    I have carried this core belief long enough thinking this is part of my cross to bear, now to let this sink in on another level. I know God loves me just the way I am, he formed me in the womb and knew me before I was born. He knew that I would come into the world wearing rejection (only my Mothers faith prevented an abortion) and I can see this as his gift. How this has served me to serve others, it is now my job to accept all of this and to stop trying to be enough for others, because I already am enough for God! The only one that matters. Thank you for this heartfelt gift this morning. Life changing!

  379. Great reminder! Thank you so much for this devotion.

  380. Amanda Lane says:

    Excellent words and great reminders!

  381. Amanda Ramirez says:

    I am in aww right now. I have been feeling like I am not doing enough. Thank you for speaking to my spirit and giving me understanding that it doesn’t matter how much money we give or time we spend doing good deeds but it’s all about him!!!

  382. Jordann Parsons says:

    God is so good, so faithful. I know this, and yet I forget time and time again. I’m months away from getting married, and just about everything in my life is changing- job, name, and my location. I should be so excitied, but I often find myself feeling so unworthy, not enough, and that maybe I should just crawl back in bed and not show up today. But I also know I belong to Christ- that he gave His life so I could be more than that. Thank you for the Devo that spoke right to my heart today. God is good, oh so faithful!

  383. Sherry Johnson says:

    This is a great devotion. Thank you for opening my eyes!

  384. Marissa McCann says:

    I love this devotional and would love to read the book!

  385. Donna Humphries says:

    Thank you so much for this devotional; it is a reminder to me that there is no good in my flesh and that I don’t have to prove myself to God since He’s already approved me as His daughter. Keep up the good work.

  386. I rejoice in the freedom found when laying my performance down at the feet of Jesus! Contentment is the blessing realized in believing I’m loved just as I am, a child of God!!

  387. Your devotional hit me where I live. I have always felt I wasn’t good enough and have even been told that I’m not. While your words impacted me, so did the comments left by so many. I am not alone and I see that there are so many in need of your book. The statement, “I’m realizing it’s not my curse that I believe I’m not enough; it’s my sin that I keep trying to be.”, made me take a step back. I have never equated “my curse” with “my sin” before. Thank you for showing me that I need to re-evaluate my attitude and my relationship with God. I AM worthy and my God loves me just the way I am. Thank you to all who have written in.

  388. Cooper’s story was just what I needed this morning. As a 62 year old woman and believer for 42 years “Not Enoughness” seeps in often. Thank you for reminding me, I am more than enough through Christ Jesus.

    I lead a small group study of Restless and use it in Chapel at a Women’s and Children Homeless Shelter where I volunteer.

  389. Hannah Magann says:

    I absolutely love this! It hit my heart on so many levels, because always seeking to be liked and always worrying about others is not what’s important. I don’t have to do these things on my
    Own! God is with me, I don’t have to be okay all the time! I’m a loud to have bad days!

  390. Kirsten Fox says:

    This is SO me. My pride and insecurity are and cause most of my sin. When I try the hardest to be good is often when I fall flat on my face. Each failure cuts deep and I carry it in the pit of my stomach. We hate realizing that we can’t, by ourselves, BE good 100%, all the time. We want to be worthy, but that’s not possible alone. C.S.Lewis in Mere Christianity said that it’s when we realize this that we have to trust, really trust that God can and will carry us through with Jesus. Our good deeds can then become an outpouring of our love for God, not to avoid punishment from a taskmaster.
    I will be looking into your book!

  391. Annette Hays says:

    Even a 66 year old needs this reminder at times: “God is ENOUGH!”

  392. I am a bit like Cooper and would really like
    To win this boob

  393. The devotional was a good reminder.

  394. Karen Dempsey says:

    I struggle with this every day. Thank you for this devotional that reminds me “I am enough.”

  395. Melissa Poling says:

    Oh how I needed to hear this message this morning! Thank you for reminding me that God is enough, and I don’t have to be. His grace and mercy are perfect, even (especially) when I am not.

  396. I love this story and can totally relate as a parent and a child who was brought up on “star charts.” I never thought about the impact it had on me and my worries of not living up to everyone’s expectations. I have used a similar approach with my children, one who does seem concerned with being “good enough” and one who couldn’t care less whether the star appears or not. Thank you for reminding me to stress the fact that they are enough, with or without stars, on good days and not so good days.

  397. Thanks for this word that really hits home…needed this reminder

  398. Such a good reminder!

  399. Thanks for the encouragement!

  400. I struggle with this..,.Thank you for your good reminder this morning…..

  401. Thank you for reminding me that God is enough and he’s all I need.

  402. Kelley Deichman says:

    Thanks for your insight. Have a blessed day!

  403. Hilda Warkentin says:

    THIS IS SO TRUE . my HEART CRY’S FOR MY DAUGHTERS WHO ARE TRYING TO STRUGGLE through their life by believing Satan’s lie that they can do it on their own. They would benefit from this book.

  404. Christine Herron says:

    Wow. This sounds like a book written just for me.

  405. Leanne Alles says:

    This was light turning on the light —

  406. Anyone else have the song, “I Will Boast” in their head now? 🙂 Singing to myself here at work!!!!
    Thank you Jennie for sharing, What a great reminder of Who it is that is worthy. His love is amazing!!!

  407. Thank you for wonderful devotion!

  408. I’ve come to a point in my life where I’ve realized that without God, I can’t even come close to being enough for anyone, let alone for Him. I am slowly learning that I need God constantly helping me to be the best me I can be for Him, for my husband, for my children, and for my clients. Thank you for this reminder.

  409. This was a wonderful post because I often struggle with am I enough for God, friends, family, or my boyfriend. What a wonderful reminder that when you walk with God you are always enough.

  410. I am shown I am trying to earn ‘stars’ by my perceived success as a mother. I teach them, but they make opposite choices. That pack is too heavy to bear! And God is not asking me to carry it (the choices my children make). No. He tells me to raise them up in the way they should go. The rest is between them and God.
    This is hard! I am humbled. My part is not to orchestrate all of our lives, but to trust the Lord, and to shine for Him… with Spiritual Fruit, not be a Religious Nut!

  411. Becky Richardson says:

    Would really love to win this book!

  412. Beth erlander says:

    Would love to win this book!

  413. Leslie Van Houten says:

    This is the first thing I Read this morning. I needed this. Struggling to live my from a place of peace and not striving is one of the most difficult areas for me to learn. Balance also is another. Both of these are areas I’m asking the Lord to help me learn this year. No comparison toward anyone, no envy, but encouragement and understanding. I ask question for myself. What would it be like to take all my baggage of the past up to this present moment and lay it at down = all of it = at the altar and walk away leaving it all behind, I’m mean all of it? How would I do things differently? What would that look like for me? I don’t know yet, but its a one day, one hour at a time journey using God’s Word getting my strength, and courage from meditating on God’s Word. Also of to help me stay on course is to seek Godly counsel from others who have waslked this course as well.

  414. This is such a blessing to me!

  415. Sue Osborne says:

    Good points Jennie on our God not being impressed with the things we “do”..He just wants obedience Thanks for the reminders ?

  416. I struggle with feeling I am not enough and not worthy of His love and blessings.

  417. Vicki Anderson says:

    I read this recently (author unknown) Jesus plus something equals nothing. We need only His sacrifice to be worthy. Jesus is all I need

  418. Excited to read this book!

  419. I would love to give this book to a dear friend. Thank you for being so open about your life.

  420. Montie Hayhurst says:

    As an only child, this lesson today specifically spoke to me! I am in my early 70ies and still struggle with a “star chart”!!!!

  421. Teresa Froese says:

    How great to know that I don’t have to earn Gods love. He already loves me just the way I am.

  422. Debbie Dickinson says:

    How can a mother of three independent, beautiful young adults not feel “not enough” when her children have all chosen lifestyles that are not reflective of their upbring? Loving children with good jobs and good hearts, but don’t remember the importance of Christ Jesus in their lives. How I love these children with all my heart and soul as I know Christ does also. I will never give up letting them know that they are wonderfully made and loved.
    An older mom, Debbie

  423. Jeweli Mallory says:

    This is definitely something that I struggle with DAILY!
    I’ve noticed that I not only strive to “prove myself” to God, but I also strive really hard to please those around me. I want to please my husband by being the BEST WIFE EVER, or I try hard to show my boss that I can register more patients than any other employee, and the list goes on. So for me, these words that “I DON’T HAVE TO TRY” to be loved and accepted by God, are something I need to daily remind myself of.

  424. Thanks for this reminder. Would love to read this book.

  425. Lauren Hovey says:

    I have been so blessed by these post! Yesterdays post and todays post have made me tear because It is exactly what I am going though right now. I am in a waiting season, but patience is not my virtue. I have worked really hard and I get depressed when it seems like my life is on hold. God has really been working on my heart to be patient, trust in His timing and His plan, and be completely satisfied with Him alone. I have worked hard, but my works do not add up to anything in comparison to the wonderful grace God shows me everyday. Praying God shows me what He wants me to learn in this season of waiting and I am so grateful He is using Proverbs 31 to comfort me and encourage me. Thank you for all ya’ll do! God has definitely used Proverbs 31 to make a difference in my life! <3

  426. Rayna Miller says:

    Wow. This hits home.

  427. Julie smith says:

    This was wonderful. Yes you are right we do not need to prove pretend or perform but guess what that’s what most of us do. Thank you for your Insight and thank you Lord that you are the one that leads us to be us on YOU!!

  428. Great wake-up call! I tend to be one who thinks of myself either as Super Woman OR a toddler, “I can do it myself!!!” What a wonderful and calming thought, and so simple, really! “God already knows we aren’t enough, but He’s not asking us to be.” The reflection that really touched me the most, though, was “full of expectant, childlike, joy-filled faith”. I actually have been filled with expectant, childlike, joy-filled faith many times as an adult, and now I know that it’s OKAY! I’m OKAY! God is good. <

  429. Charmayne McMurray says:

    I have spent my entire life trying to prove I am enough. Why has it taken so long to realize God is enough?

  430. Great wake-up call! I tend to be one who thinks of myself either as Super Woman OR a toddler, “I can do it myself!!!” What a wonderful and calming thought, and so simple, really! “God already knows we aren’t enough, but He’s not asking us to be.” The reflection that really touched me the most, though, was “full of expectant, childlike, joy-filled faith”. I actually have been filled with expectant, childlike, joy-filled faith many times as an adult, and now I know that it’s OKAY! I’m OKAY! God is good<

  431. I really really enjoyed reading this and can really relate to what you shared. I grew up in very works based church and it took a lot of work to finally break away from it and it takes continued faith in HIM to trust that he really loves me not based on what I do. Unfortunately I passed it on to my kids and now they are coming out of it also. I would love to win a copy of your new book, it sounds awesome!

  432. Thanks for the message today . That is exactly who I have been. Didn’t realize it until I read this today

  433. absolutely love this!

  434. Sometimes I feel like I am making so many mistakes that I have a lot to prove. :/

  435. So needed this today after a rough week with my kids and feeling like my worth as a mom was wrapped up in their behavior

  436. Thank you. The Lord is amazing speaking directly to me in this!

  437. As a youth pastors wife, I struggle with being “enough”. Loved this devotion and especially the verse in Jeremiah!

  438. Thank you for these words. It is what I needed this morning. I loved this paragraph:
    “To get to the place where God can be enough, we have to first admit we aren’t. Pretending we are okay is how many of us are making life work. With that illusion gone, we might have to live needing God.”

  439. I love every part of this! Thank you!!

  440. Thank you for speaking Truth. I heard God speak to me today because He used you to write these words. Now I know that all these years of never being enough for anyone have actually been the steps toward the goal of receiving The One Who is Enough! I’m enough for God to love, only because of His love for me! He loved me first, just as I am, and I love Him because He first loved me! Hallelujah for the Cross!

  441. Melissa Garcia says:

    Great read!

  442. Nikki Garfield says:

    Love it ! So needed this on this Tuesday morning

  443. Neena Jones says:

    For a long time, I’ve lived my life knowing that I was never enough. Every day, I pray for reminders like these that I AM enough. Good made me all that I need to be!

  444. Marguerite McLeod says:

    I was procratinating this a.m. because of overwhelm re: what all I needed to do. I read half of this reading and got distracted. I got up and fussed at myself for not doing the “list”! Something told me to sit back down and just finish the reading! I am so glad I listened! Not always so….Wow! Thanks to God for speaking through inspired people!
    I need that book!

  445. Nancy Underwood says:

    I would love to learn more!

  446. This was a great reminder this morning!

  447. This reminder really hits home! I am constantly ‘trying’ with my kids, my husband and my job. Very calming to be reminding that we don’t need to prove anything to God since we can never be ‘enough’ and that it’s OKAY! I’ll be starring this email so I can refer back to it. Thanks!

  448. This one hits home for me. How much I strive to earn my worth and worthiness. God doesn’t want my works.

  449. Beautifully said…so perfect for this morning!

  450. My job has me stressed to do more more more, there is just not enough time in the day! Even taking work home on weeknights leaves me less time for my family. I have read such good things about this book, and would love to sit down and take the time to read it. I would really enjoy a copy. Proverbs 31 thank you for the wonderful devotions.

  451. God made it so simply, yet we make it so hard. We do carry very large packs stuffed full of rocks of shame and condemnation and rejection, etc, and don’t take the living water with us on the journey, nor do we hand over the weights in the pack to Jesus. Thank you for allowing God to use you to write this book.

  452. Tara Aricha says:

    When I read this my heart went out to Cooper when he was four years old. I get so sad for people who always strive to be ” good enough” or feel like they have to prove something to feel like they have any worth. I know I have felt that way too. That is one way I know God is amazing His Grace, Mercy and Love is a gift nothing that can be earned but a gift from a Loving God. That verse reminded me how Blessed we are to know God and the fact He wants a relationship with me is wow no words can explain how grateful I am. Thanks for the devotional. Take care and God Bless.

  453. Lynn Brownlee says:

    Great devotion this morning – thank you!

  454. I’d love to read this book. Definitely something I struggle with!

  455. Peggy Valdes says:

    This devotion was just what I needed. I have been struggling lately and feeling overwhelmed with my many responsibilities. This is a great reminder that I don’t have to earn God’s approval by what I accomplish. Thanks for lifting my burden and helping me to follow God’s plan, not mine. God bless you!

  456. Katherine Baugher says:

    Loved the devotional!!!!
    Would love to read your book 🙂

  457. Kimberly Laughrey says:

    This touched me deeply on many levels. I would love to read the book. Thank you…

  458. Lois duncan says:

    Wow, thank you for your insight. It is so simple and we make it so hard.

  459. Cheri Fenstermaker says:

    Thank you for those ever encouraging words, that reminds me that God loves me just as I am and when I trust and truly seek Him first and can rest and know that He is here for me no matter what. Bless you and your ministry!!

  460. Crazy to realize how silly it is to try to perform for God! As if He doesn’t already know me inside and out. He loves even when I have absolutely nothing to impress Him with. I love that He “practices His steadfast love” with us.

  461. Iris Lovato says:

    Thank you for the refreshing teaching. I enjoy your teaching style and illustrations. Bless you!

  462. Register to win then you book

  463. So true, so true…someone very close to me is understanding God’s personal affection and love for the first time, and it is transformational.

  464. What a wonderful illustration – I still have to check off my “list” or feel inadequate. Praise God for his grace and mercy!

  465. Silvia Maria says:

    Perfectionist. That word described me for most of my life. I would not be second, I always worked hard to be first. And by God’s grace, He lifted me up higher than I deserved. I see that now. In spite of my own self delusion that what I had and had achieved was by own merit, He loves me so much that thru my success, He kindly reminded me that I will never be enough; enough for the world, for my family, for my friends, for my Pastor or even for myself. I am nothing without Him, without His grace, without His love, without His wisdom and without His protection. I am who I am because of Him. My success is His success, His plan and His mercy. And this message says it clearly, He will be our “enough” until we realize we are not, not by a long shot. Bless you.

  466. Dear Kimberley
    Discipline has been a difficult thing for me to come to terms with balancing giving an over all message of love with the structure of discipline. I am now a grandmother and still seek to learn more. I recently came across a very good book by Beckey Bailey called Easy to love Hard to Dicipline. She outlines so clearly this balance. Some inferences indicate a Christian basis.

  467. Sue Holmes says:

    I loved your devotion today! Thank you!

  468. Like Cooper I thought I was a bad kid. I grew up in poverty and abuse and never felt good enough. I tried to be the perfect kid at home thinking that my perfection would overcome the dysfunction and turmoil in my home. A “star chart” was never used as motivation in our home but I think I created one for myself. If I was the “good girl” and did everything right then I felt better about myself. So, I made my bed (and my sibling’s beds), cleaned without being asked to, smiled when I was sad, and always did what others wanted me to do. Of course none of my “good girl” behaviors fixed the problems in my home. Yet, I never saw that as a child, teenager, or younger woman. I kept striving. I became, and am, the definition of an overachiever–a perfectionist–who drives myself relentlessly. Though, I still struggle in this area, this devotional is God speaking to my heart nudging me to let go and let God after all these years. I’ve been praying, asking God to free me from tying my worth to my performance. God has answered and has shown me that His love, provision, favor, steadfastness is not tied to my performance. Yet, it is still hard to lay this mindset and the associated striving down. I’m not one to tell people how to raise their kids but take it from a kid who grew up trying to get favor through performance–that mindset is very hard to break. The sooner Cooper’s star charts go away, the sooner he will learn that he is loved and deserving of good things in life even if all the stars don’t line up on the chart. If when he misses the mark by not doing it all “right.” We have all been given the greatest gift of all, the saving grace of Jesus Christ and he gave it to us while we were still lost in our trespasses and sins. Please surprise Cooper with a reward or gift even if he fails to get it all right.

  469. Sally Ann Price says:

    Thanks for sharing this. This is a great devotional.

  470. Your devotional was very inspiring. It’s so hard to separate performance from God’s acceptance. This was a good reminder that we ARE truly loved and it is unconditional. I’m tearing up my star chart!

  471. The Message: and then he told me, My grace is enough; it’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness. Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ’s strength moving in on my weakness.Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size—abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become.
    I was drawn to 2 Corinthians 12:9 the other day during my prayer time. I have chronic pain and weakness. I have physical limitations that are frustrating. I have been praying for healing and strength but I wasn’t getting any relief. Then this verse came to me and I had an Aha moment! God is making me stronger through prayer and turning my weakness over to Him. Thank you for this wonderful teaching ??❤??!

  472. Nicki Penrose says:

    Thank you for your words of wisdom today and being a vessel from Him to bring me what He needed me to hear today. You have challenged me to seek who I am trying to gain approval from in my life and why, with a certain behavior I have let in my life that God is calling me to give up right now

  473. Faye Lynch says:

    Your devotion was such a good reminder, that we don’t have to prove anything to God. He knows everything there is to know about us and He loves us in spite of ourselves. We just need to run to Him for the widsom and direction to live for Him each day.

  474. Thank you for sharing this touching story and the analogy. It really spoke to me. Yes, I have my own set of star charts. And I need to tear them up, too! Nothing to prove!

  475. Darlene Ruthenbeck says:

    Agree, we ALL need to pray this thanks for the reminder!

    Dear God, I’m realizing it’s not my curse that I believe I’m not enough; it’s my sin that I keep trying to be. Thank You for the reminder that life with You means I can rest, and I have nothing to prove. Will You continue to show me Your freedom, Your power and my need to stop striving to please You and instead just live life with You? In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

  476. Grace Crapitto says:

    I need to win this! I feel so unworthy of God’s love and forgiveness. I feel I can never gain it back. This book sound wonderful!!!!

  477. For me, it’s more of a problem with trying to be & do enough with people. Not God. I have been working, over the past year, on trying to remember & enforce only being concerned about what God thinks & not people. It’s a very difficult process, I must say. No matter how much I work on it, I still struggle significantly. I would love to read your book for some help, inspiration, & encouragement on this matter. Thank you for this devotional!

  478. Thank you Jennie for blessing me today with your words of encouragement. So many times we strive to be enough by ourselves when we can only be enough by the power of God’s grace.

  479. Reminded me of something I sometimes forget:
    Romans 5:8
    But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

    Nothing I can do can earn His love towards me….He loved me already even while I was His enemy.

    Thank you for the reminder.

  480. I am so enjoying daily proverbs31.org. It gives me a calming in a world that can sometimes be overwhelming but it reminds me, “Let go, Let God.”

  481. Loved this. Can’t wait to read this book.

  482. Thank you for sharing. This is a message that resounds with so many of us.

  483. Judith Minchew says:

    Gaining God’s approval is often what consumes us. I have learned to rest in Him, do what I can to follow His way for me, and let all the other stuff go. He loves me/I love Him–that’s all that really matters!

  484. Been struggling with “trying” to please God, even to the point of pushing past His plan and working on carrying out my own to serve Him! The Spirit and the scripture ganged up to let me know this was definitely a no-no! With prayers and tears, the Spirit of Truth made me understand this was just the latest in a lifetime of trying to prove things, mostly my worth. That’s why it seems today’s Encouragement was written just for me!

  485. Good word today

  486. Lisa Meredith says:

    Awesome post and so needed, thanks

  487. Carmen Whitfield says:

    Thank you for your insight. I have worked as a paraprofessional within my local elementary and jr. high schools. I learned from these wonderful children the lessons in life we as adults have forgotten. We have built up walls and set up guards around our hearts to protect ourselves from the outside world. A world that demands perfection. Yet these children see perfection individually not collectively. Therefore; it is attainable. That being said, life is still hard. The answer to their motivation….love.

  488. My cousin is hosting a study of this book starting next week. It was nice to get a preview of what will be discussed.

  489. It’s nice to have a reminder that we are not the performers, but God is the God of all wonders.

  490. Although my star chart exists solely in my head these days, it might as well be a huge canvas on my wall. How freeing this morning’s devotional is. From now on, my mental “to do” star chart will only have 1 thing listed – to KNOW that I am already ENOUGH for GOD – I am worthy and He loves me just as I am! Thank you Jennie for this blessed reminder. It would be phenomenal to have a copy of your book.

  491. Katie Ritoch says:

    After struggling with eating disorders for years I still seem to wrestle with the feeling of worthiness. I always try to be the best “good girl” I can be waiting for praise from anyone. I need to focus on Jesus and realize He always is giving me my worth and that to Him I’m worth dying for. I would love a copy of the book to help with my struggles!

  492. Ruth Barrineau-brooks says:

    This book sounds like exactly what I need to read right now. I’ve been trying to be good enough for fifty-seven years and failing because I wanted to do it on my own.

  493. Mireille Gaboriault says:

    Just this past Sunday’s sermon God opened my eyes, in a way that it almost felt like He had put a golden sticker. It truly felt that I had won the race though I’m in a wheelchair unable to walk. Yet, my emotion of that moment, made me feel as though I was tall enough to give Him a high five! WOW! How gratifying! ?

  494. Amy McGehee says:

    I needed to hear this today. Thank you

  495. Brianna Duron says:

    Such a beautiful devotion for the perfectionist in me.
    Reminding me that it’s not about who I can be but all about who He is. Thank you!

  496. Susan Tapert says:

    Love Jennie Allen’s writing! I am currently doing her Restless study with the women of my church. Such a BLESSING!!! Grateful! 🙂

  497. Kortnie Tesdall says:

    This sounds like an amazing book to win! I would love a copy!!!

  498. Cindy Streid says:

    I would love to win A copy of this book. It sounds like a wonderful and amazing one.

  499. Janet Worthy says:

    Would love to read this book. Sounds like just what I need.

  500. Julie Williams says:

    Living life with God, not having to prove something would release me from my burden of feeling like I can never be enough for God. I live with disabling migraines so my world is much smaller than most peoples. I can not physically do what most can do, which riddles me with guilt. Believing that I don’t have to prove something would release me from that guilt and allow me to live as God wants me to with in my life. Thank you!

  501. Thank you so much for this devotion. I used to subscribe, but then started a job where I couldn’t receieve your emails anymore. I have just recently started a new job which will allow me to read the devotions on my lunch break! Praise the Lord!

    I am still learning that nothing I do will make Him love me more or less! Thank you for this reminder.

  502. Thank you for this message today. The Lord has been revealing to me areas in my life that I need to just bring before Him and let His power shine through my weaknesses. ❤

  503. The scripture that you gave really ministered to me. It is a two part scripture that cannot be left apart. First, we are not to waste our time boasting in ourselves, because without Him we are nothing. But secondly, and most importantly, we are to understand AND know…who He is…not just about Him, we are to have an intimate relationship with Him. Lastly, the verse tells us, HE tells us who HE is…LOVE! In a world where we are always competing with the “Jones” we need His self assurance that we are free to be who he made us andno matter our mistakes, He is here with open arms of acceptance….and I need to know that…daily!!

  504. I am all too familiar with shame and shame based parenting. I would love to read this and share with younger mothers.

  505. Thank you for this message. I really enjoy Jennie Allen’s writing and I look forward to reading her new book!

  506. Really would benefit from this book

  507. Aine Hintz says:

    After a lifetime of trying to earn love and prove my worth I am learning to let God love me like she has been trying to. I’d love a copy of your book. I am also so grateful for proverbs 31. This ministry has changed my life.

  508. I am a 69 year old woman and I’ve struggled with not being good enough. I was adopted as an infant, and was told from day one “that I wouldn’t amount or achieve anything in life. I have been in therapy off and on for years and I can’t escape the mantra about myself. I’m reaching out to you in hopes you can help me.
    Also, I requested the bi-monthly magazine in print. Can you see if that can be changed?

    God Bless You,

    Pam Jones

  509. Jennie, this struck a chord with me… I’d love to read your book.

  510. Would really like a copy of this book! Thanks!

  511. What a great reminder….:)

  512. I am Coop but as a 64 almost 65 yr old woman.
    My mother used to correct me by saying I was “a
    Bad, bad, girl.” This voice haunts me everytime I
    Make a mistake. It’s a horrible sense of shame that
    Overwhelms me as an ocean wave would.
    When I sin I have the same shame based feeling.
    How can God forgive me again????
    I’m working on overcoming this-with the help of God.
    I’m praying I will reach my goal someday.

  513. Hanna Hopkins says:

    Wonderful!!!

  514. Leisa Patrick says:

    This is so hard to understand in our culture – we don’t have to prove anything. We know we are not enough. We can only become Enough when we let God fill our cracks and holes with Him, and then let Him spill out through our every action and thought.

  515. Evette Jackson says:

    Thanks so much for your daily encouragement. May the Lord bless your ministry continually.

  516. Deb Buchanan says:

    Thank you! I needed to hear this today.

  517. Just sounds like a book I have needed my whole life!

  518. Sounds like a book I have needed my whole life!

  519. I am on my quick lunch break between treating morning and afternoon patients. I have drawn away to a quiet room with a computer, to enjoy your daily devotion while I munch my lunch in the short time I have to rest. Thank you for this message! I have a teen daughter trying/striving to recover from an eating disorder that is bigger than she is. I have trying to adjust to my “new normal” as an orphan in this world. My Mom’s Heavenly Birthday was the 20th ~ missing her…her unconditional love was not perfect, like that of our Savior, but was pretty close! She taught me about His unconditional love and my need for Him every hour ~ for that I am so very grateful!

  520. LeAnn Janette Yantis says:

    This is an amazing reminder. We do seek to “prove” our worth to God, and thankfully He loves us as we are. In fact he made us as we are ON PURPOSE

  521. we the members and officials of the Temple Outreach Ministries Inc. Liberia will like to work with you

  522. Eunice Eubanks says:

    Nothing to prove and something. . .the love of God. . .to share. I struggle with this often. I have to catch myself and resist the need to fit it. . .be accepted. . .be good enough. . .simply enough. There is so much pressure to produce, perform. . .be something others think we should. . .when the only one we need to concern ourselves with sacrificed His Son for us and wants for us not from us. If only that angel on my shoulder would just kick that devil back to you know where. . .or at least off of my shoulder and out of my ear.

  523. This so hit home today… perfect timing. I was considering making a star chart today for my young son whose behavior has been less than desirable. So, it’s funny that I sat down to do my devotional and it was entitled “Tearing up the Star Charts”! This devotional was a great reminder for me that this isn’t how God works. Thank you so much!

  524. Thank you for these word, they were exactly what I needed to hear today.

  525. Lori Haley says:

    I am tired of trying to do everything on my own. I know that I alone can never be enough but God is everything and that is all I need.

  526. Alice Deagan says:

    Very thought provoking lesson to be learned. Works of our hands or heart don’t get us closer to a relationship with our Lord. Being who He made us to be and trying to be Christ like does. Thank you for this lesson

  527. BreAnna Burton says:

    Jennie,
    Thanks so much for this beautiful reminder today. It is so easy to get caught up in these thoughts that it becomes difficult to realize that you are doing it. I needed this reminder today more than I knew. Thanks for sharing your heart with us!

  528. After trying to please my employers, working very hard,giving it all and more, I have lost my job of 26 years at 60 years old. As I am readjusting, spending much more time with God and resting in His loving, accepting arms, I feel for the first time in many years, that it is not man that I have to please, but God who gave His only son for me, perfect the way I am not wanting anything from me but to praise and love Him. Thank you Lord for this journey which brings calm, rest and peace to my days. I look forward what you have for me in my future with you.

  529. Nikki Davidson says:

    This is exactly what I think God has been trying to get through to me. I will not be perfect, but I can live life WITH him. Thank you for this article. I may not need a star chart with God, but I definitely think I might try it with my 5 year old!

  530. Aurora Arcilla says:

    Truly God is good. He uses anyone ( like you) to teach us His Word and Ways so that we will live a life that pleases Him and bring Him glory. Your insights reminded once again that there is nothing we can do without Him. In Him alone is our “boast”. More power to you. God bless!!!

  531. Thank you, I needed this today. I’ve been trying to prove my worth to anything and everyone my entire life. This was a great reminder that God expects me to mess up and he loves me still.

  532. Christine Himebrook says:

    Daily I have to work at letting go of me and opening up to God. Daily devotion assists with that aim.

  533. Angelica Montes says:

    What an incredible devotion. I have often been called “superwoman” for all I have done, but I am NOTHING if not for Him! It’s not about works, it’s about our heart! Thank you for reminding me that no matter how much or how little I accomplish the rest of the day, my MOST IMPORTANT TIME is spent at His feet, becoming the child He has called me to be!

  534. Teresa Snyder says:

    I am trying to learn Gods words and put my trust in his hand! I started reading these devotionals just one day ago when I asked my niece for help with learning more about Jesus Christ! My father just passed away and like everyone I have many struggles! Please dear Lord help me to understand and lead me with your loving hands! Amen

  535. I grew up in a very legalistic home. I thank and praise my Gather everyday that He has changed my way of thinking. He has set me free and I no longer judge myself or most important others. Praise God!

  536. Jennifer Williamson says:

    Jennie Allen, thank you for this devotion thru proverbs 31! I so needed to hear this today. We are nothing without God. Us moms always try to do it all and be “superwoman” multitasking everyday, trying to please everyone and get the daily needs met. Thank you for your writing. Your book sounds like a great one!

  537. Since my divorce, I feel like I keep failing left and right-that I’m not enough. Thank you for your words of encouragement reminding me that I am enough and to keep seeking His face!

  538. Sandi Campbell says:

    WOW! Thank you for this truth … how badly we all need to “get” it!! Beautifully written and easily understood even by us hard headed Believers!

  539. Sandi Campbell says:

    Beautifully written …. So even us hard headed believers “get it”!!!!! Thanks so much …. Can’t wait to read book!

  540. What a great devotional! I struggle with this very thing! Would love to read this book!

  541. Patricia Collins says:

    Thank You Lord that I don’t have to be good enough to be Your child! Thank you for saving my soul! Thank you for reminding me that you are all I need!

  542. Michelle Weaver says:

    I would really like to read this book as I believe it could be a great help to me. Thanks for the great word today.

  543. Wonderful!

  544. Virginia Roberts says:

    As a single Mother and Grandmother, I struggle with exactly this feeling, that I’m not and haven’t been ‘good enough’. Thank you for the reminder that with God’s help, I am enough! I would love to read this book!

  545. Stacy Johnson says:

    Great reminder of how God accepts us just how we are and that we are enough!

  546. Oh how desperately I need this book! I struggle with this on a daily basis!

  547. Lori Kistler says:

    Laying it all down so that I can pick up more of HIM. I decided that 2017 is going to be a year of change for me and my family. For so long (15 years!) I have tried to change my marriage (more specifically my husband) into what I thought God would want it (him) to be. Then a few weeks ago I’m in front of the mirror getting ready for work and God revealed to me that it’s not my marriage (or my husband) that needs to be changed….it’s me! For so long I have felt unworthy, never good enough, like a failure, and like a complete disappointment. So instead of focusing on myself…..because in my own mind I knew that I wasn’t worth fixing…I put all my time and energy into trying to change my husband but pointing out all his flaws. How in the world did my husband put up with me for so long! My biggest struggle over the years has been each and every time I “fail God” or “let God down” I beat myself up and then I give up telling myself that I’m never going to be good enough. It can be so exhausting trying to prove yourself everyday only to see it’s not good enough. Can you imagine finally laying a burden down after 15 years and saying God I’m trusting you with changing my life and trusting that you will also take care of this burden. It has been the greatest sense of relief. I am looking forward to what God is going to do and so blessed and thankful for what he has already done. I am even more thankful that I have finally found rest in the arms of my Savior, my Father. It is a rest like none other. It is a peace like none other. I pray that God will show me how to just “be” instead of being so busy trying to prove myself and trying to change my husband into my mold. It’s time to let God do the molding.

  548. Angela Whitney says:

    Oh wow,; Jennie!!! You hit the nail directly where it needs to be with me today!…and EVERY day! I am a gramma, and have been years in the struggle with addictions that I’ve been trying to overcome all by myself. Many reasons…I am a “do it yourselfer” and my false pride has stayed in the way to let our dear LORD have a chance to heal me. I am so ashamed that this addiction has been standing in the way of everything: my relationship with the Lord, with friends and family, and my relationship with myself! I pray that I can let down the barriers that prevent God from intervening in my heart, soul and mind. Praise Him for bringing this all to my attention. In Jesus….thank you…..Angie

  549. Leatha Hansz says:

    Thanks for this devotion. I needed to be reminded of this truth.

  550. I needed to read this today. Ive been feeling overwhelmed and defeated. Praise God I have a Heavenly Father that loves me even when I have fallen short. I need to make changes this year and this just drives home the fact I need to place my trust in Him.

  551. I really felt connected to this devotion, thank you Jennie, the way you connected our efforts to please people on earth making it’s way into our spiritual lives really caught me, thank you for your insight.

  552. Kim K Skinner says:

    I believe this book would help me immensely. I’m a driven individual, a first born, who is a perfectionist. I’m always trying to get more done than I have time to do, and get upset with myself if I don’t. It causes me much stress that affects my physical health at times. I know that at times I expect more of myself than even God does. Two of my 3 part time jobs are in caregiving (elderly and alzheimers patients). I was a single Mom who raised two lovely young women who now have their own families. I could not survive without God in my life. And this morning’s devotional really hit the spot. I passed it on on Facebook to friends.Glad God did not wait until we had enough stars on our chart before sending Jesus to redeem us! Thanks so much for your devotional!

  553. Ann Stapleton says:

    Enjoyed the devotional today: ‘Tearing up the Star Charts’…… I’m part of a Christ-centered recovery program, Celebrate Recovery, and we’re always looking for good devotionals and insprirational stories to share with each other. Thank you for your story. It’s perfect for those of us in particular who struggle with ‘people pleasing’.

  554. Sherri Munoz says:

    A chord has been struck….. Thank you for your eloquent words.

  555. How hard to stop striving, how wonderful to give it all up, how gracious is God to love us as we are.

  556. Darcy Johnson says:

    Lord I have tried for so long and you have been helping me drop the stones out of my pack one by one. I want to take off the pack altogether today. I want your yoke because your burden is light. Thank you for the complete healing of my soul that is coming. That I do not have to prove myself to all these people who have not heard me in my workers comp case. I know you will heal me and direct me to the care I need; for you care for me, even when others do not demonstrate your love. Father forgive them because they really do not know what they are doing.

  557. Chelsea D. says:

    This resonated with me. I hope it isn’t blasphemous or anything but in that verse above I reread it again and again and put my kids names in it and then Mommy at the end because I just had to change my perspective as a mom and how I interact with my kids. I don’t want my children to grow up thinking I will only love them if they do this or that. Or please me. If my Heavenly Father doesn’t love like that I don’t want to either.

  558. When Ibread today’s devotional”star Charts”, it truly hit home with me. I constantly feel that I let God down. I feel that me, in my sinful nature is not enough! How can God love me, when I struggle to love myself.( I am actually crying as I write this.) I know God loves me, I know and believe He gave His Son/Sun for me a sinner. I just love Him so much but I fear let Him down.

  559. This devotion really touched me…but I wanted an end to the story. How did you make your son not feel ashamed?
    What a brave Mother you are and also a privileged one. To be able to the ability to get a child from another country is a true blessing. 🙂 There are so many children needing a good home. It’s a shame it isn’t easier to connect them with parents who truly want them. How lucky we are that our God forgives us again and again…

  560. This is so amazing!!!! I would LOVE to hear more about how you have changed or adjusted your approach with Cooper!! My daughter too feels like she is not enough, even on her best days! These emotions unfortunately come out in unpleasant ways more often than not. The guilt and remorse eat her up at times, and I often feel helpless to console and comfort.

  561. Amazing. This came at the perfect time. It is truly hard going through life thinking that somehow performance and achievements can increase how much God values you or earn you some sort of validation from Him. The moment something does not go the way you planned it, the road to pointless lie riddled self evaluation which only leads away from God is very short. However the moment you realise that no amount of achievement or strife can change the way God sees you is the moment when you begin to truly live as He sees you. Then resting in Him becomes easier once you know that His grace is sufficient and that it’s okay to not be okay because He IS.

  562. elaine newcomb says:

    This devotion is right on tar get for me. I never feel good enough. I would lover to read the book.

  563. You hit the nail on the head in EVERY aspect! I struggle knowwwing I’M God’s…I know that is the ‘roadblock’ to healing and living a fulfilled life.

  564. I definitely try to measure my worth in “stars.” Thank you for the reminder.

  565. Paige Laine says:

    would love to win! Very excited by the theme of this new book.

  566. Debra Hilliard says:

    Thanks for the encouragement.Keep up the great work !
    Debra Hilliard

  567. Maggie Moore says:

    Thank you for this truth and encouragement today

  568. Beautifully & wonderfully said… I am His & I often try to measure my worth. When in fact He already knows me more deeply there is no measuring needed. Thank you

  569. kelly meredith says:

    thank you for the words today.

  570. Great message, especially having been raised in a Christian home, I tend to focus on works and less on relationship with God

  571. Jeannette says:

    This devotional is an eye-opener to the love of God which casts out fear. I am eager to read the book, but more importantly live the truth

  572. Jennie… thank you so much for this! Isn’t it funny how that need to please… we see it in our children… but it never really goes away? It might be a little sneakier with us adults, but still… it can distract us from God’s total, unconditional love. It’s funny, this morning after I read your devotional, I went to my regular reading in John. I read where Jesus tells Lazarus to come out, and when he came out, Jesus said, “Take off the grave clothes and let him go” (John 11:44). I wrote down in my Bible… “people-pleasing is like graveclothes.” Maybe Jesus rescuing me from people-pleasing isn’t comparable to being raised from the dead… or maybe, in some ways, it is. Because I’m free to live for His joy and His alone. Thank you for speaking to my heart today. Blessings to you and your family. ~Laura Jane, howtobless.com

  573. Thanks for this.

  574. Sherry nease says:

    The devotion today touch my heart as my daughter and son-in-law went to Uganda and adopted two children this past April! So I understand where you’re coming from with your son! If we could only understand that daily with our Lord

  575. This was a great devotional that helped me realize that sometimes I am using a star chart to try to please God. I don’t need a checklist. I need a heart filled with genuine love for my Lord and Savior.

  576. Deanna Aguirre says:

    Wow this really spoke to me today. We moved to a new church and sense that one of the ladies is not accepting of me. I questioned if it was that im of a different race than she and the congregation. So I thought to begin to prove myself with showing my skills by sharing what I can bring to the table at this church. Your devotional spoke to be. Don’t prove to them anything, just allow Christ to love through you. Thank you so much.

  577. Love your book

  578. I needed this today. Thank you for sharing. I struggle with everyday. I may have to read you email everyday just as a reminder.

  579. Erin Grass says:

    Loved this!! The story really put that verse into perspective, and I can absolutely relate to her son and his striving. Thank you for sharing that!!

  580. Opeyemi rufus oluwole says:

    All my life, I have always tried to impress someone. My parents when I was small, my teachers while in school, lately,my wife at home and my boss at work. Now I know I do not need to keep pretending to be what I am not. I am not enough. I need God all the way if I must not miss my way.

  581. Beverly Wright says:

    Thank you for sharing!

  582. Regina fisher says:

    I would love a copy of this please!

  583. Jeannie Waters says:

    The subject of this book will undoubtably free many readers! I would love to have a copy!

  584. After 4 consecutive nights of waking and not being able to go back to sleep, I was finally able to see that I created a pattern when I was 15 or so, telling myself ” you shouldn’t have said________, shouldn’t have done________, etc” beating myself up at the end of each day evaluating how I had performed or measured up with someone, anyone I had encountered that day. Then in counseling I was told to accept myself and that I am ok, just the way I am, Jesus died for me!!! Only to develop another pattern of going throughout my days catching myself saying ‘I’m ok, Im fine’. Obviously still dealing with the performance issue. My battle is lost when I don’t seek the Lord for help of every second of my day. It is a Battle! What I’ve just read here will help remind me of that. Thank you for your ministry!

  585. Stephanie says:

    Definitely needed this today! I’ve been struggling lately with not feeling like what I am doing is enough! Would love to have a copy of the book!

  586. Cheryl Jasina says:

    Enough..in God, more than enough! all my life feeling second hand..not being chosen..for baseball, basketball, to the prom, to the team,to the lunch table, to join the group, abandoned, divorced, not good enough, a good job almost to retirement, now not good enough…yet the whisper…God sees me.. I am good enough, beautiful, CHOSEN!

  587. Wendy Ehrenholz says:

    This was an amazing devotional today and exactly what I needed to see today.
    I would love to read more about it.
    Thank you!

  588. Lindsay Swann says:

    God is enough, and he made me as I am. Why do I worry? It’s good to want to improve myself, but he won’t love me more. Or less!

  589. Andrea bland says:

    Such truth in him always pursuing us and telling is we don’t have to do it all! He already has!!

  590. Wow, this really spoke to my heart.

  591. Diana Moore says:

    Would love to have this book.

  592. Laura Miller says:

    I would love to be selected to receive this book!

  593. Very difficult to let go of control, but He knows so much more than I do!

  594. Jesslynn Thies says:

    I loved that you include real life examples. It really helps me to understand the importance of what the verse means.

  595. Thank you for this!! Needed to hear it today!

  596. This devotion touched my heart. Yesterday I received hearing aids to compensate for nerve damage from a chemo drug meant to extend my life. I realized in the first 24 hours, it is not just my brain to ear connection that needs work, but brain to heart connection. I feel I am a victim of life, but really I am a medical miracle to be alive and learning to hear and translate sounds into connection. Lord, increase my faith and continue to grow my heart’s desire to love and do your will today!

  597. I’m so very, very, very glad God doesn’t use any sort of chart to grade our performance. I’m glad our performance doesn’t affect His love for me.

  598. Thank you for sharing.
    I have difficulty feeling I am enough…that I am worthy.
    So thank u for sharing.
    I would love to read your book.

  599. I’m 62 years old and God is still setting me free from trying to earn everyone’s love freeing me from preforming God bless you for telling about your child! Encouraging everyone to see they are not alone

  600. Linda Contreras says:

    This is beautiful. I was just saying today that it is exhausting trying to try so hard to live up to others expectations all the time. Thank you for the reminder that it is a falsehood and to just rest in God’s love and acceptance.

  601. Ohhh how I desire to see HIS DELIGHT!

  602. Shantell Cotton says:

    This hit home for me. It’s funny I never liked me so I would always do my best to be that person in control. The one with all the answers. But in truth I would be feeling terribly lost. I was just keeping up with pretenses so I would not stand out.

    Thanks for sharing your powerful testimony!

  603. Kenneth Loup says:

    Anxiety is the stream of thoughts that can’t stop, even when I tell myself to calm down. Anxiety is being nervous for something and you have no idea why. You know what the voices in your head, what I call “my demons”, are saying isn’t true, but they are screaming so loud it is hard to ignore them. The demons take over. Depression, though… depression is the drowning in those streams of thoughts. It’s the darkness that pulls you in and makes you believe you’re nothing. Unworthy. Depression is the monster that wants to win. When I read the scriptures and listen to God’s word in song, those thoughts and voices go silent.

  604. I really needed this word today. Lately I’ve been struggling with wanting to live a perfect life, and when that doesn’t happen I get frustated. Thank you God because this week you have shown me that I should never forget the gift of grace.

  605. Such a blessing to hear. Thanks for the encouragement.

  606. It is refreshing to have confirmed to me that even as I long to be faithful to Him as He is to me… His faithfulness is not dependent on my performance. Because as a human, no matter my devotion to Him, I go through cycles, ever decreasing though they may be, and I will always falter in some way, even as He’s refining me for the call to ministry. So good and so wonderful to know, and dwell in the truth that His love, everything about Him… God Is not in any way dependent on me. I can always trust in Him just as I am. He is my singular Constant, and I’m just so blessed He doesn’t keep a star chart to make me earn any of His abundant grace. Be still, my heart. ❤️

  607. Oh, to let that truth undo the lies of trying to please God in our own strength!

  608. Kimberly Clark says:

    I really appreciated this devotion today. It spoke volumes.

  609. Thank you so much for this great devotional today.

  610. Striving for perfection, and pretending everything is okay, even when clearly it is not, gets us nowhere. God already knows our true heart… We need to depend on Him, trust in Him, and rest in Him, not in ourselves…

  611. Andrea oestman says:

    Thank you .. I catch myself stuck in striving and that becomes painful because when I am stuck I am in my strength .. not His … seeking wisdom and guidance and encouragement to walk with Him …

  612. Jennifer Mabe says:

    Definitely need to read this book. I often feel that i am not good enough. I actually grew up with someone telling me i wasn’t good enough and it carried over into my adulthood.

  613. Katherine says:

    I just want to feel enough…. Throwing away the star chart is great idea, it helps us to lean toward intrinsic “enoughness”. Trying to bring Him in. So hard today.

  614. Hello,
    Thank you for sharing your post. I have struggled with being a people pleaser. Trying to be everything for everyone and doing it right, even though I never have had it wrong to began with, but deep inside I’ve struggled with feeling like I’m enough. Therefore, I’ve applied this most unrealistic view to my relationship with God. So at times, I’ll feel that I’m not enough or have it all together the way I should for God. I pray for his help, guidance, and strength, but at times instead on relying on him and go forth on my own. Hoping to get it right for God to say, “Look I did it”, (emphasis on I). Something you said in your prayer spoke to me. I have tried so many times trying to live my life to prove myself to God, that all he wants is for me to live it with him not for him. I’m already HIS! I don’t have to prove myself. So now I can live each day with him and know that he is my partner through this journey of life.

  615. Lessley Wagnon says:

    I am just beginning my walk with the lord! I have been very unhappy in life the past few years and finally realized I need the lord to help me with this life of mine!

  616. Kristen Thompson says:

    Wow! Definitely need to read this book!

  617. Stephanie says:

    This is exactly what I needed to read today. In the social media world of unobtainable perfection, maintaining the authentic version of who God wants me to be is hard in comparison to a world trying to adorn my body with things I don’t need to be beautiful, things in my home to define my worth, and an inner self trying to take the reins.

  618. Terri Lockwood says:

    This is do where I am at right now. I would love to read this book. Thank you for your obedience to the Lord . The ministry is truly a blessing!

  619. jw.org

  620. Sounds like a great book! Would love to read further. Raising 3 little ones 3 and under, yeah this mommy doesn’t feel like I deserve stars either many days.

  621. God is speaking to me, ladies. This is the second devotion I have read (in as many days) from completely different websites that spoke about feeling the need to strive for God’s love and acceptance. Even my Bible study lesson this week brought this to the surface for me. I guess I have some work to do remembering that I am a human BEing and not a human DOing. 🙂 Would totally love a copy of this book! Thanks for the powerful words today.

  622. Jennye Lumpkin says:

    Very good devotional. I would love to read your book.

  623. Diane Cunningham says:

    Very inspirational! I would love to win a copy of your book. ??

  624. Thanks for sharing. This sounds like a great book. I would love to read it.

  625. Lori Dunigan says:

    Thoroughly enjoyed reading as well as being very insightful. Just joined today and loving every minute thus far and looking forward to reading many more daily devotionals.

  626. I have seen so many ladies receiving their books today. I can’t wait to read it!

  627. Alyson Carroll says:

    Would love to win. Thank you for the opportunity.

  628. Theresa Stephens says:

    I have worked all my life to earn gold stars and it has been exhausting. I really needed to read this devotion.

  629. Melissa Burton says:

    I have been struggling handing my stresses over to God, I need this book more than ever. My life feels turned upside down.

  630. Jackie Anderson says:

    Great Message. Love reading it.

  631. Amanda Smith says:

    This is a struggle I believe everyone fights! Would love to be able to read this!

  632. As a child I never thought I was enough and it did go with me in my adult life. I lived without a father,mom was a single mom working hard and on her time off she did what she could with us however, she had an emptiness that was never filled and looked to things other than God to fill that void. Not only was I without a father, I was there left without a mother that was present but not present… I strived many years to get the approval of others and was heartbroken time and time again. Unfortunately we will never gain everyones approval. We have to see we are more than enough with God and he created each and everyone of us with a propose. We have the tools, God’s word, prayer, meditation, church, 12 step programs, books, and what we don’t have we can ask papa Dios[Jesus] to give us. Sometimes we have the tools at our disposition however from so many failures we feel we are not worthy enough. We are more than enough. Had we not been, Jesus would’ve never paid for all our sins. When our worries are to burdensome and we can’t see a way out. Must be we our so fixed on our own will and have forgotten God’s will. Thy will be done.

  633. Wow that was awesome to read and can relate would love a book

  634. Chelsea M says:

    This week my life has been flipped upside down by the grace of God. I would love to win a copy to help me grow closer in my relationship with Christ.

  635. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO need to remember this!

  636. I believe we all struggle with “not being enough” in one way or another. Not being enough of a daughter, mother, sister, friend, co-worker, the list goes on and on. Thank you for the opportunity to receive this book.

  637. Thank you for your encouragement! I read Proverbs 31 daily. I just want to rest in who I am and who’s I am.

  638. Wendy Shoemaker says:

    Thank you for the reminder, I don’t have to prove myself to anyone, just love my Jesus!!

  639. Becky Grossi says:

    I shared this devotion this morning, it really spoke to me! I always feel like I need to be enough but of course FAIL! But God comes in to complete His work in me! ?

  640. Katrina Fisher says:

    What a blessing it would be to win a copy of your book. I pray that whoever you select is blessed abundantly by it. Thank you for the opportunity!

  641. Sarah Uwimana says:

    I need to do better at needing God. I too often take the wheel!

  642. The fear of being “too much” & “never enough” is something we assume we’ll outgrow. Maybe after high school.. maybe after college graduation… maybe someday. But in a fallen world it’s hard to fully escape the grip of this fear. Thank you for you insight, honesty, and encouraging words. Your message is wonderful & points us to an even wonderful Savior.

  643. I have often struggled with perfectionism and trying to “be enough” for God and for the people in my life. Praise God that He doesn’t expect that of me!

  644. I have felt “not enough” most of my life. Even as I have a relationship with the Lord, this has been the hardest thing for me to accept. My children are probably the worst at making me feel like this. I have been divorced 32 yrs and raised 3 children alone. I have spent way too many hours working to make sure they have an education and to set them up to be successful and productive members of society. But now, because I am not educated (and they all have master degrees), they tend to make me feel less than and not good enough. I can only pray and hope one day to break this pattern of thought.

  645. Andrea Kelly says:

    Thank you for a thought provoking message.

  646. Angela Stephens says:

    This is so true! Have a long way to go, learning to let go of pleasing others and focusing on being loved by God, that he wants my obedience as an overflow of my love for Him.

  647. Thank you, Jennie. That hit home like an arrow. I love how you ended the devotional today: “Because we have nothing to prove.” I’m going to try to keep that floating in my head for a while, as long as I can. Praise God, He doesn’t give up on us. Thanks again!

  648. Recently the word “rest” has woven itself into the sermons I’ve heard and my studies of the Word. Rest is something hard to find when constantly trying to prove yourself “good enough”; but it is critical to hearing the Spirit of God speak to your spirit. Thank you for the reminder that I am not enough and never will be on my own. But resting in my Saviors arms I am more than enough and have more than enough to face all that assails me. Plan on reading this book!

  649. Grace Shanklin says:

    Such a beautiful devotional. Thank you! What a blessing and delight it would be to win a copy of your book.

  650. Audrey Gaston says:

    Thank you for the reminder that we don’t have to pretend we are okay.

  651. We used Star-Charts with our son, as he responded well to the structure. However, I could see how those charts created a mind-set for “earning” our approval/love, something we also yet needed to in-learn from our own upbringings.
    I SO love Ephesians 2:8-9!!! God’s Grace is SO much better than anything we could try to work for!!! Testing in our dependence on Him and trusting that to be OK, has been the most difficult lesson of our lives!!!
    1Corinthians 15:10,
    DaBee.

  652. Athelia Holmes says:

    This really hit home for me. Thanks for sharing!

  653. I love that for God we don’t have to try. He loves us for who we are!

  654. Trudy Pinkerton says:

    I would like to win a copy of this book, so I can read it and share it with my friends and family.

  655. Thank you God that Your love is unconditional and never changes! Thank you for this honest post, something that’s confirmation for what Jesus is working in my heart.

  656. CATHY LEE TURPIN says:

    I keep losing my focus on prayer due to my constant sense of failure. This just came on suddenly. Maybe has something to do with a new medication. I don’t know. Makes me apologize to God give or six times a day. Anyone else take Gabapentin and have this issue. Makes you feel worthless to God in prayer. So thankful for your article today. Very helpful

  657. I would love to be able to read this book. I’ve constantly strived to be good enough, to prove that I am, being a perfectionist after a lifetime of abuse. Slowly starting to realise that God loves me without cause, and I don’t need to constantly try to be good enough

  658. Deborah Ray says:

    Thanks for sharing your story and reminding me to realize Gods love for me is enough

  659. Jenny Rubalcada says:

    Yes I am tired of trying to be good enough and I am ready to rest in Him.

  660. I never feel like I am enough but I was reminded lately that I am everything I need to be if I trust in Him.

  661. This devotion was just what I needed today. I sometimes get so focused and intent on doing everything perfectly, and failing in the process, since only Jesus is perfect, that I shame myself and berate myself for not “trying hard enough”. But the Great News is that I don’t have to be perfect to get the gift that God offers. I just have to believe in His perfect son, Jesus, as my Lord and Savior.

  662. Reading these comments and relating to so many Christian women. We all need the Lord and seems like I need help prioritizing because I feel like I do nothing well because I am so busy and have so many responsibilities. ” Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added…” God bless all my sister’s in Christ. Keep fighting the good fight.

  663. Joanna P. says:

    A devotion that truly spoke to me! I cannot wait to read the book!

  664. Teresa Cox says:

    Loved this it was my devotion for the day, I really needed this!!

  665. Darlene Bennett says:

    Thank you for the reminder that it is all God andnothingabout me. That is a truth I try to teach my ladies Sunday School class, but you are right it is hard!

  666. Thanks for sharing. I needed that. I frequently feel I am never enough. With so many responsibilities, wife, mom, work, homelife, sometimes it’s hard to just come up for air.

  667. Paul said, I am what I am…yet not I but by the grace of God.

  668. Mandy weiesnbach says:

    I would love to read this book, so far I am hooked!!

  669. Maggie O'Leary says:

    I keep hearing that God is all I need, that He can fill up my empty spaces.
    I’m seeking Him; I’m waiting on Him. But I’m still not filled. I’m doing all the right things. So, when ?? When God?

    Yes, I need to read your book.

  670. Debby Morrow says:

    I really love the way you have put this! I have several friends I am sharing this with because they, too, need to hear this put exactly the way you have put it.

  671. Bethany Marker says:

    An encouraging reminder!!

  672. Laura Labunski says:

    LOVE this! Needed to be reminded of these sweet truths today.

  673. Erin Nachtman says:

    Loved today’s devotional sent to my inbox!!! One absolutely worth revisiting. Couldn’t be more appropriate for me in this phase I am in with my marriage. I am so thankful for the work God is doing in this ministry and through the writers and the Spirit’s work in us all, to connect and deliver His perfect message straight to our souls. Thank you

  674. Mila Sherman says:

    I grew up around needing everything to be perfect whether it’s a perfect housekeeper or a Christian which in return has made me feel very unworthy. My husband and I have 6 children. No matter how much I tried I have always felt like a failure because in my head I knew our house needed to be spotless, our children had to be perfect angels and most of all I wasn’t living up to my families expectations of being a Christian in their eyes. That was until I started reading the proverbs 31 blog. Those walls started falling down. The feeling of being a failure started going away. I’ve released those feelings, rebuked Satan and for once in my life I felt total PEACE!!!!

  675. Love this analogy. This is something I struggle with daily!

  676. Yes Lord!!! Less of me and more of You!!!!!!!

  677. Thanks so much for the encouraging post! I enjoyed it!

  678. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!

  679. My son feels like he is worthless as the school have stopped doing star charts. Yet, if I pry deep inside, I’m in the same place. This is very apt for me today. Thank you Jennie.

  680. My little boy was very strong willed too. Still is at age 21!
    God bless little Cooper. I pray God develops that strong will into leadership skills that help further His Kingdom!
    Love your blog.

  681. Martha Troxel says:

    Great post! Very good reminder!

  682. Natalie Johnson says:

    So very thankful I have nothing to prove!

  683. Wow. Great perspective.

  684. I’ve always had a problem of feeling not quite good enough in so many areas of my life. This was a good reminder that it’s ok. Would love to read the book

  685. After a day of disappointment in myself I really needed to read this. Thank you for reminding me that I am enough.

  686. I really really need this book. I tell myself everyday that I don’t have to prove anything but then I am back at before I can realize it. This was a wonderful post! I really needed to read it. Thanks.

  687. Tina Watkins says:

    This sounds like a great book I’d love to read and share!

  688. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
    Beautifully said! I can relate, although different situations. My beloved first husband went home to be with the Lord. I later then remarried. Within the 3 something years of marriage to my second husband. I found myself as you would explain, “Star Chart.” my life. Everything I would say, everything I did, the house, the texts, the phone call, etc….. All had to be perfect or else I wasn’t a good wife. I wasn’t good enough. I was slow. I was retarded, and so that’s what he thought. He would call me all sorts of names when I’d mess up, he would also find ways to make excuses to leave the house, finding myself telling him that I was sorry. I was always sorry, taking all the blame to please him. Day in, day out I lived this way not knowing that I was in an unhealthy relationship. Don’t get me wrong, there were some good times. But only if it was on his terms, his ways. He made me think that this is what real marriage is all about. That this is true love. But it wasn’t Gods Love, at least I know that now. How could I of let this go on for so long. He became like an idol. I lost focus on God, with myself, I lost my relationship with my kids.(the 3 that I took with me.) Because I was too busy trying to, “Star Chart” everything I did for my second husband. I was so blind, ignorant! Until after the 3 something years, I woke up! I came to my senses! I know the feeling, the life of “Star Chart.” 🙂 This is just a little of my life. I am truly thankful to God our Abba Father. With all that I went through, knowing that its okay if I mess up. He STILL Loves me. He has ALWAYS been with me. He was just waiting for me to look UP! 🙂 I can honestly say NOW, “Once I was lost, but now I am FOUND, was blind, but now I can SEE!!” Thankful to GOD for his Amazing Grace and Mercy endures Forever!!!! HIS LOVE SAVED MY LIFE! 🙂
    P.s I wanted to add this, I forgave my second husband, because I didn’t want him to have control over my life, and most of all because its what the Lord commands us to do. 🙂
    Thank you again for sharing!

  689. I would love to win!

  690. Oh, the heartache of feeling unworthy!!! No matter how much I read my bible, pray, read self-help books, attend bible studies…I have never been able to reach the goals I set for myself in anything, including self-worth, love (a man who loves me purely and unconditionally), a decent home, education, the list goes on. I’m 60 y/o, and I keep praying God will change my heart, my eyes, and mind…

  691. This post resonates and is, at its core, a common theme in my prayers. I try to prove my worth with God, at work (impostor’s syndrome anyone?) and with my friends. I am arrogant to think it’s all about me getting better and really a waste of valuable time and effort. I am God’s daughter! That is enough.

  692. It is so good to hear over and over that I don’t need to prove myself to God and that He has always loved me no matter what. I grew up believing I needed to prove myself to everyone to gain their love. I needed to be the perfect child and when I had even the smallest problem I was treated like ” shame on me for having it”. This has been a horrible way for a child to grow up- not being allowed to fail. And yet God loves us failures and all and will always love us through. There is no shame in Loving God because He proves there is no shame in Him loving us!

  693. This looks awesome! Something I think most of us need to learn more about.

  694. Julie Bryce says:

    By the title of this book: Nothing To Prove, I am confident that this is how I have felt for MANY years!! Then I end up living with a very COMPETITIVE MATE and my world is challenging. I know this read is a MUST FOR ME!

  695. Can’t wait to check out this book! Win or lose the giveaway, I’ll be getting it!

  696. Great read! Great reminder that God is in control. Thank you!

  697. I can not wait to get this book and read it….

  698. Awesome read! what a blessing it is to know I don’t have to prove myself to my Father because of His perfect and unfailing LOVE for me. This takes a lot of weight off knowing I can just be. Giving all praises to the One and only Living Savior! Because of His Faithfulness! He loves me!! Amen!!! cant wait to win and read this book!

  699. Tina Green says:

    Straight to the heart, thank you for this lil message very encouraging

  700. Tina Green says:

    Thank you for this encouraging message

  701. Melissa Rosewood says:

    Thank you for your words!! There is no way that we can manipulate God like we want to manipulate the world.

  702. Leah Fultz says:

    Thank you Father God for sending your son, for extending new life to me..a wretched sinner. Father, I declare….. It’s time for me to stop striving & time to start resting in your full love and acceptance which motivates me toward good works. You are good. I believe. Help me believe. You want good for me.
    In Jesus name.
    Amen

  703. So thankful for Proverbs 31 ministries. The devotionals are so encouraging and challenging. Lots going on in life right now & God knows exactly what I need to read. 🙂

  704. What an encouraging message! I would absolutely love reading this book.

  705. Barbara Swarthout says:

    I would ove to read this book. I’m on medical leave so I have a lot of time on my hands. God Bless and thank you.

  706. Suzanne Clement says:

    Encouraging!

  707. Wendy Davis says:

    It’s interesting how often I still find myself hiding from God in shame. What I know to be true in my head somehow gives way to the wounds of my youth. Jesus is enough to redeem my hurt and lack; He is enough for my healing. Because Jesus is enough, I am enough.

  708. I am a high achiever and how I feel about myself is based on what I do. I wanted to be the best mom and would go overboard doing things for my daughters, trying to prove myself. It wasn’t until much later that I realized they didn’t care if I made homemade cookies for all their friends. What they cared more was for me to spend quality time with them and to listen. It is so hard to change and not base my feelings or God’s feelings for me based on what I do. I will keep trying, stumble, get back up and keep walking.

  709. Geraldine says:

    I keep asking myself and even God, why im so favored, why im in a place i think im not worthy, with people I envy because of their good wills, their achievements which surely God will be proud of. Why He put me in that situation asking to much which i think i dont deserve, that i dont know what I can do, what I can contribute, that Im nothing compare to others.

    But He revealed to me that yes, im not perfect but I just need to obey. Its not me who will move, He just need me to be used.

  710. Sherrin Larson says:

    I could spend the rest of my life trying to prove my worth, killing myself in the process. It is not I but my Savior who has already proved my worth, this bringing me Life & Love forever.

  711. Connie wilson says:

    I’ve always felt I was never enough. I’m still learning this. Thus my adult kids are still learning. I would love to pass this book on to them

  712. Charlotte L Smith says:

    Thank you Jenny for sharing this all too familiar story. Most days are a struggle to finish the never ending to-do list with hopes of “proving” to myself (or more like everyone else) I did it! I’m super mom, wife, employee, daughter, friend, person! What does it prove really? Exhaustion and dread and fear and doubt set in. I am slowly learning (and sometimes I forget, a lot) that God doesn’t require me to complete a to-do list or worry about what I still have left to do. His Grace is already given to me. I only need to seek him and do all I do in His name.

  713. This is truly a blessing! Keep on keeping on Proverbs 31 Ministries.

  714. Alison Merryweather-Clarke says:

    Read this in the waiting room before my Ultrasound appointment where I SO needed to hear of God’s love, immense and free. Thankyou.

  715. Avalee Findley says:

    Wow! This goes right along with what God has been trying to teach me lately to REST.

  716. Chewing those words for sure. I was set back on the prayer its not my curse but my sin I am pondering on how i do try to outdo. Thank you for this food for thought.

  717. Carol Sampson says:

    The I Am OBS is really speaking to my heart. There is design in everything our Lord does, to my amazement I found that in our children’s ministry we are teaching the I Am scriptures to our children in this season.

  718. Maria Neff says:

    God is so good. I needed to here this. We can spend our life, our mortal minutes, trying to prove to ourselves that we belong. We need to realize we already have total security in God. He is our provision, our protector, and our strength. He is everything we need, we have nothing to prove when we surrender to the creator.

  719. Stephanie Landry says:

    I would love to read this book. I’ve been going through some major trauma and I’ve been having a hard time allowing myself to rest.

  720. How does this equate with the Colossians 3 verse that says we are do everything to our very best to please God?

    • Amanda Buchanan says:

      I don’t pretend to know or understand everything about the Bible, but I would say the wording is what’s important from that verse you are referencing. We are to do “our” very best. Not God’s very best. I often feel like what I’ve done is not good enough. This article helped me see that what I’ve been striving for is proving that “I” am good enough. God knows we’re not good enough that’s why He had to send his Son. We are to do “our” best and if we rely on God, He is the only One who can make our best “good enough”. Hope that helps!

  721. Beautiful devotions. I struggle with feeling my Christian walk doesn’t measure up to other people’s. But I am enough. It doesn’t matter that my life isn’t exactly like someone else’s.

  722. Whitney Belt says:

    I can not wait to read this book! Love seeing you on Proverbs 31!

  723. Terrific devotion! Would love to read the book!

  724. Shannon Benfield says:

    Wonderful devotion! It’s so easy to get caught up in the performance trap and so hard to stop. I would love to read this book. I’m so grateful for Proverbs 31 Ministries. I learn something new every day that I can apply in my life and walk with God.

  725. Sometimes we pretend without even realizing. Thank you for the timely reminder.

  726. Thank you. I find myself in the “prove it” cycle so many times and then the defeat and shame kick in. Your words are a timely reminder that I can try in my own strength, but that is not what we are asked to do.

  727. Live life with Christ! That’s all we need to hear!

  728. Sharon Knapp says:

    Thank you so much for this timely devotion! For the last year and a half I have been fighting to save my now 16 year old from a drug and alcohol addiction. A few days ago I read the first chapter of Isaiah and went into a deep depression fuelled by shame and self-loathing, believing that it was my fault that she was seemingly loosing this battle – that I wasn’t good enough so God was turning a deaf ear on my prayers and pleas. Thank you for reminding me that it is NOT about me, that I am NOT good enough, but that God LOVES me (AND HER!) anyways and is FAITHFUL and JUST! Bless you!

  729. I would love to have a copy!

  730. Sherry Calvert says:

    Wow !! I need your book….. I am 54 years old and have been living by a star chart all my life …Whether it be for my Mother or friends or spouce …And at the end of the day (or relationships) I don’t measure up. My relationship with Christ is the same ….I don’t feel like I measure up….But all he wants is me …..That’s enough !! Thank you! Thank you for these precious words

  731. Amanda Buchanan says:

    The article really spoke to my heart. I am a lifetime offender of the never feeling good enough club and the prayer that said “it’s not my curse that I believe I’m not good enough but my sin that I keep trying to be” was honestly mind altering. Thank you for this.

  732. I would love this book for personal growth and to be able to Bless others with this ministry!!

  733. Christal Ritter says:

    When I am weak, He is Strong! God always has my back, and loves me no matter what. Being a parent makes you reflect on Gods unconditional love better than ever before. Thanks for the great read.

  734. Bam! Just what I needed this morning. It’s a whole new revelation to me that God is after me… Jen…
    I get how He can be after everyone else, but He really wants me to get that He’s after me too. He loves me and He wants me to relish in that thought today.

  735. Jamie Howell says:

    Praising God for you Jennie and for God giving you the courage to share your heart! Keep on in the good fight putting on the whole armor of God and leaning on His everlasting arms to do the work. “Come to Me” Jesus says is all we have to do and He promises to lead us!

  736. This post was so timely to the ache of my heart this week. This has been and is one of the hardest things for me to get my head and heart to let go of.

  737. Thank you for sharing! Adoption stories are always inspiring and remind us of what God does for us: accepts us unconditionally even when others abandon us or expect perfection in their eyes. Somehow, though, we struggle with accepting that acceptance for ourselves. Sometimes it hasn’t been modeled in our lives so we don’t know what it looks like. So thankful for the hope found in the promises of God’s word and the faithfulness of others to share that!

  738. I’m a missionary in El Salvador. Talk about feeling the need to consistently prove yourself to EVERYONE. I get a paycheck made up of dollars and cents from supporters back home. I feel like I need to prove to them that my work here is worth their hard earned money. I am supposed to be saving lives for Christ! Making heaven full! But recently, most days, I’m behind my laptop working on the local church website and answering emails. Is THIS the face of a missionary? Shouldn’t I be adopting 14 orphan girls and curing Zika virus?

    So yeah. Turns out this hits home.

  739. Such a valuable lesson. I wonder if it is possible to ever fully live like that, esp in the relation of other people’s expectations to be ”enough to them” for your role in their life or ”good enough” to have a place in their life.

  740. Thank you for this beautiful devotion Jennie! Sadly, this is all of us at many points in our lives. Let us all remember to fix our eyes on Jesus. I would love to read more of your book!

  741. Beautiful words. Thank you for the reminder today.

  742. God has been bringing this truth home in so many ways to me over the last few months. My life doesn’t have to be a show to prove to everyone (and God) that I’m worth ____. But it’s so hard to let go of sometimes. Thank you for the timely reminder.

  743. McNeel Kennon says:

    Thank you so much for this message today, Jennie! It was something I really needed to hear. I am so thankful that we can BOAST in Jesus’ steadfast love and mercy. God bless!

  744. Beautiful words– needed them today. Thanks !

  745. Debbie Bye says:

    Thanks for reminding me that I am enough in God’s eyes!

  746. Me too!

  747. I love how God works. Everything I am reading and studying has all been tied in to how I need to find my satisfaction and wholeness in God and not in doing!

  748. Janice Werner says:

    Wonderful perspective . I would enjoy reading more. Thank you.

  749. I suffer from this all the time. Thinking I can’t live up to GODS love and he will be looking to punish me. It’s a terrible feeling, Guilt, fear, anxiety. I needed to read this passage today for sure.

  750. Kate Kreger says:

    What a great reminder! It’s so easy to get caught up in the not-enough mind game cycle. As a wife, mom, & teacher, it’s easy to feel like I should be doing more. Thank you, Lord, for the reminder that You’re helping us with these loads…You will carry us.

  751. Thank you for the timely reminder.

  752. Wow, this really spoke to me. My son is the exact same way. I appreciate you sharing this and putting perspective on this!!

  753. Michelle McGee - Denison says:

    In Jesus name, Amen #FindingIAmgroup65

  754. Michelle McGee - Denison says:

    ❤️ #FindingIAmgroup65 In Jesus name

  755. When I was 5, I remember my parents gave my sister $5 for getting all A’s on her report card. I felt deeply embarrassed because I wasn’t rewarded, which didn’t make sense because I wasn’t in school yet. However, this devotion helped me to further understand this is a favorite lie of Satan’s to produce anxiety and fear of being embarrassed in front of others in order to keep me from taking opportunities presented by God. Thank you!

  756. Jen Harry says:

    Thank you for this reminder. We are loved and we are His, not because of what we’ve done but because He loved first.

  757. Molly Uliczny says:

    Would love a copy of this book.

  758. Stacey Bray says:

    What a perfect time for this book to come out! I’m struggling with health problems and homeschooling through them. I often feel like I’m not enough. Would love a chance to read this book.❤

  759. Would love to read this book!

  760. What a great reminder that we need to stop trying! Thank you

  761. Amber Donnelly says:

    Sounds like a great book!

  762. Kayla Torrez says:

    Tearing up my star chart! Cannot wait to read this book!

  763. I feel as if I have to earn star charts from the world. And on the days I don’t perform and are not recognized, I feel worthless. Dear Lord help me to overcome my need for wordly recognition and find my worth in You.

  764. This is a powerful message, thank you. I’m looking forward to reading your book.

  765. Marcy Ivey says:

    I would love to win this book…thanks!

  766. Elaine Segstro says:

    I just love your statement: “God is not after great performances or great movements. He is after us!” I needed to hear this!. Thank you.

  767. Kathy Ravan says:

    The enemy whispers “never enough, do more, be more” but Jesus said “It is finished”. I needed to hear this and would love to have this resource you are offering.

  768. This message is exactly what I need to hear! I’ve been struggling through these thoughts lately. Would love to read this book!

  769. This devotion today was awesome.

  770. AMEN?

  771. I need to be reminded daily I’m enough!!

  772. yenny corredor says:

    The verse reakky encourages me, because I have all that I need trough the Grace of Christ and I can rest and not to trying to get for approval from God but to receive His everlasting love!

  773. Jan Binkley says:

    Congrats on the new books. Love reading your books.

  774. Dana Gibson says:

    Such an amazing lesson. I just need to let go and LET GOD… ?

  775. Renee Link says:

    ❤this.

  776. Julie Hamilton says:

    Thanks I needed that one!!!

  777. Julie Hamilton says:

    Thanks! I needed that one!!!

  778. Help us to let go God!

  779. I loved the two articles I just read. Daily devotion for today and yesterday. Dry bones is going thru my head now. Like the story of the deer who awoke. And this one because I have wanted to use a star chart to get better behavior from my kids. This article shows us how we are like them in that way except w God almighty. We want to do our best for Him. We strive to do our best but so often we fall short. So glad we have a loving and forgiving Father when we turn to Him for grace.

  780. Loved this post. As someone who wrestled for a year and a half to get to this point after a dream shattering break up and choosing obedience to God over what I wanted it’s so wonderful to read this and be able to “get it”. I pray other women will be able to internalize God’s amazing grace and love for them too❤️

  781. After having anxiety for so long, this email was needed to adjust me back to letting go and stop trying to prove anything. I can’t handle it alone anymore

  782. So guilty of being a people pleaser, and extending that to my relationship with God. It’s hard to let go. Would love a copy of this book!

  783. Jennie Waters says:

    I love the reminder that we have nothing to prove. All good and perfect gifts are from God.

  784. Missy Miller says:

    This really hits home. I had brain surgery almost 4 months ago and things have started going downhill again. I always feel like I’m not enough, like I’m not able to do enough. I want to do more with my kids and with my husband but sometimes God just wants me to rest.

  785. Shannon Bell says:

    This was such a great reminder that I am nothing without God, and He accepts me the way I am.