“…all our busy rushing ends in nothing.” Psalm 39:6 (NLT)
Recently, my husband and I got into an argument right before we were about to head out the door to go on a date. In the heat of the moment, he announced the date was off.
He no longer wanted to go. And honestly, I didn’t either.
I wanted to go sit in a coffee shop by myself and make a mental list of all the reasons I was right. All the reasons he was wrong. And justify my perspective.
But it’s at this exact moment of resistance an unraveling can begin.
Oh, the unraveling. It can happen so suddenly and with such tragic consequences.
Once, I had a favorite sweater I loved wearing. It wasn’t too bulky but was still warm and cozy. The only problem was the threads were so loosely woven it snagged on things.
I was always mindful of the delicate nature of this sweater when I wore it so I could protect it, make it last, and enjoy wearing it time and again.
Until one day I was in a hurry. I grabbed some things I needed for a meeting and rushed to my car. I tossed all my stuff over to the passenger seat, including a spiral notebook. This spiral notebook had a metal-binding wire that unbeknownst to me caught on my sleeve. As I pulled my arm toward the steering wheel, the notebook came with it and pulled a huge snag in my sweater.
I unhooked myself and assessed the damage.
What I should have done was taken the sweater off, put something else on, and later taken the time to repair the snag the correct way. But in the rush, I made the tragic decision to do what seemed easiest in the moment. I snipped the loose threads and hoped for the best. That tragic decision started an unraveling process that ended the life of my beautiful sweater.
Which brings me back to date night.
Doing what seems easy in the moment often isn’t what’s best for the long term. So, I pushed for us to still go on our date.
It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t easy. There were tears and awkward stretches of silence. But we pushed through the resistance we both felt and eventually talked.
Talked through the snags. The pulls. The things that threatened to unravel us.
There is a delicate nature to marriage. Honestly, there’s a delicate nature to all relationships. It’s so easy to forget that. It’s so easy to take it all for granted and stop being careful. Stop being mindful. Stop being protective. Stop and embrace the unrushed yes of investing in those we love.
Psalm 39:6 wisely reminds us that “all our busy rushing ends in nothing.”
Yes, the unraveling can happen so quickly when we refuse to push the pause button.
My unrushed yes was the best yes for that day. There were eventual apologies and conversations that repaired the snags the right way — tying a knot and tucking it back into the weave of our relationship fabric.
Conversational threads are what make up the fabric of relationships. We must take time — make time — to talk.
Where do we find this unrushed yes? We make it. We make time for relationships by thinking about them when scheduling our lives. Like Louie Giglio said, “Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is worth the less.”
I don’t want my relationships to constantly get my less. And I’m sure you don’t either. So let’s get intentional about leaving enough unscheduled times on our calendars for relationship moments to happen.
Let’s leave space and look for opportunities to give relationships our best yes.
Dear Lord, unrush me today. I want to pause and embrace the unrushed yes of investing in the people I love. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Colossians 3: 12-14, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” (NIV)
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REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Think of a relationship in your life that needs your attention. Decide to give an unrushed yes to investing in that person today. It will be the best yes of your day.
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