The Thrill of an Unrushed Yes

The Thrill of an Unrushed Yes

August 28, 2014

“…all our busy rushing ends in nothing.” Psalm 39:6 (NLT)

Lysa TerKeurst

Recently, my husband and I got into an argument right before we were about to head out the door to go on a date. In the heat of the moment, he announced the date was off.

He no longer wanted to go. And honestly, I didn’t either.

I wanted to go sit in a coffee shop by myself and make a mental list of all the reasons I was right. All the reasons he was wrong. And justify my perspective.

But it’s at this exact moment of resistance an unraveling can begin.

Oh, the unraveling. It can happen so suddenly and with such tragic consequences.

Once, I had a favorite sweater I loved wearing. It wasn’t too bulky but was still warm and cozy. The only problem was the threads were so loosely woven it snagged on things.

I was always mindful of the delicate nature of this sweater when I wore it so I could protect it, make it last, and enjoy wearing it time and again.

Until one day I was in a hurry. I grabbed some things I needed for a meeting and rushed to my car. I tossed all my stuff over to the passenger seat, including a spiral notebook. This spiral notebook had a metal-binding wire that unbeknownst to me caught on my sleeve. As I pulled my arm toward the steering wheel, the notebook came with it and pulled a huge snag in my sweater.

I unhooked myself and assessed the damage.

What I should have done was taken the sweater off, put something else on, and later taken the time to repair the snag the correct way. But in the rush, I made the tragic decision to do what seemed easiest in the moment. I snipped the loose threads and hoped for the best. That tragic decision started an unraveling process that ended the life of my beautiful sweater.

Which brings me back to date night.

Doing what seems easy in the moment often isn’t what’s best for the long term. So, I pushed for us to still go on our date.

It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t easy. There were tears and awkward stretches of silence. But we pushed through the resistance we both felt and eventually talked.

Talked through the snags. The pulls. The things that threatened to unravel us.

There is a delicate nature to marriage. Honestly, there’s a delicate nature to all relationships. It’s so easy to forget that. It’s so easy to take it all for granted and stop being careful. Stop being mindful. Stop being protective. Stop and embrace the unrushed yes of investing in those we love.

Psalm 39:6 wisely reminds us that “all our busy rushing ends in nothing.”

Yes, the unraveling can happen so quickly when we refuse to push the pause button.

My unrushed yes was the best yes for that day. There were eventual apologies and conversations that repaired the snags the right way — tying a knot and tucking it back into the weave of our relationship fabric.

Conversational threads are what make up the fabric of relationships. We must take time — make time — to talk.

Where do we find this unrushed yes? We make it. We make time for relationships by thinking about them when scheduling our lives. Like Louie Giglio said, “Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else. Make sure your yes is worth the less.”

I don’t want my relationships to constantly get my less. And I’m sure you don’t either. So let’s get intentional about leaving enough unscheduled times on our calendars for relationship moments to happen.

Let’s leave space and look for opportunities to give relationships our best yes.

Dear Lord, unrush me today. I want to pause and embrace the unrushed yes of investing in the people I love. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Colossians 3: 12-14, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” (NIV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
Learn more about how to experience the thrill of an unrushed yes in your own life with Lysa’s brand new book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. Click here to purchase your copy.

Relationships nourish us in ways nothing else can. They have the power to force us into a much simpler rhythm … and who doesn’t want that? So grab some of your friends and hold The Best Yes Bible study together! This six-session study includes a DVD with teachings from Lysa, along with an interactive study guide that’s helpful for any group. Click here to get started.

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Think of a relationship in your life that needs your attention. Decide to give an unrushed yes to investing in that person today. It will be the best yes of your day.

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  1. Very touching read and so applicable to so many moments in my life as well. Love the verse you tied with it and I decided to make that my focus verse for today. I tend to always be the Type A personality that is in a rush, and end up snagging on everything; when all I needed to do was take a moment to calm myself, take a deep breath, and move forward a bit slower with my day to avoid the chaos.

    • “There is a delicate nature to all relationships… we must stop and embrace the unrushed yes of investing in those we love.”
      Wow! What a wonderful thought for this late-night hour! No matter how hectic things may get, we need to stop and embrace our relationships. We need to remember and realize what’s most important to us in our lives, even if others may think it’s something crazy.
      “…all our busy rushing ends in nothing.” Psalm 39:6 (NLT)
      Wow! What a very powerful verse! Rushing around doesn’t get us anywhere whatsoever. Being busy isn’t going to give us a happy life over the course of time. We’ll eventually feel like something’s missing amongst our busy
      schedules.
      “Dear Lord, unrush me today. I want to pause and embrace the unrushed yes of investing in the people I love. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”
      Colossians 3: 12-14, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” (NIV)
      Wow! How so totally awesome this is! No matter what circumstances we may be facing, we need to remember that we are God’s chosen. Isn’t it amazing just how wonderful He treats us?

    • Thank you Rachel and Nico … praying for you today!

  2. Toni wright says:

    I want to say than you for allowing God to use you to deliver this message, this message was for me this morning. I do recognize the importance of investing in my marriage and this spoke volumes to me. The next time I am faced with something I will remember this. Thank you and I will be purchasing your new book. Be blessed.

  3. Juanita Hargrove says:

    Just wanted to tell you Proverbs 31, and each & everyone sharing the devotionals with Scriptures each day, is so very wonderfully great and perfect! Today’s on busy rushing Ps. 39:6 caught my eye to open and copy as usual, for later to enjoy more fully…even relating right away to start and end, for time element, in that busy, full life God gives us for His purpose we appreciate! With over a thousand emails yet to open, and trying to keep up a bit, after travels, activities, chores, work, and life more relaxation in older age/season to overcome stress, lack of sleep and dietary needs, to fulfill a happy and too busy life…is hard to get myself to the only computer we have for my hubby and my modern tech “trials!” AND since I love to write too, and share what God teaches, trying to discipline myself for all He gives by His Holy Spirit…each morning, AND through out some days, in resting from a serious health issue just discovered (after 74 years!), by His Hand at a health store in our growing community we all love so! SO THANK YOU, THANK YOU, YES INDEED…THANK YOU! It means so much…so stay in touch, PLEASE! (Not too many free advises around of great value these days!) Am so grateful to a dear Sis in Christ for hooking me up! Has made a difference in my life and our retired lives at home and out! Just something about Jesus, God’s Word, and kindred spirits! A Sisterhood, for sure, to make one’s day all better! Thanks be to God! May His Blessings change and rule your day. For to Him be The Glory…great things He does.

  4. Recently my hubby and I had an unspoken feud. To keep from saying something stupid and blowing the roof of the restaurant, I chose not to discuss my frustration but instead when we got home, I went to bed, quietly.
    This devotional encouraged me to go back and tie a knot and tuck it back into the fabric of our relationship.
    Although, I wasn’t strong enough to discuss it immediately, I do now know that I can always go back later.

    From one Lisa to another Lysa, thank you. I needed this.

  5. Diane L Davis says:

    Just a couple of weeks ago, a group of friends and I were blessed to be able to attend a women’s conference in a nearby town, where Lysa Terkeurst was the speaker. The wisdom that Lysa has been able to glean from God’s Word caught our attention and kept us captivated each time she spoke! I excitedly purchased her new book and have begun reading it as I wait in the parent pick up line each day, after school. The words in her book seem to come to life for me as I carefully read and pause to absorb each morsel of truth. I plan to take the unrushed pathway through these pages, and I can feel God speaking to my heart as I drink in her words. What a novel yet simple idea she proposes to women and moms everywhere…pausing and embracing the unrushed Yes and investing in the people we love! I cannot recommend this book highly enough!

  6. Lynn Lauterbach says:

    I am so happy to see this book. I teach women’s classes at our smaller congregation. We are going to take on your book as a study….but we REALLY wonder if there is something written in a similar way for men! We have done many studies and are wishing our men would do one too. We recently were talking about “Bringing the Best Home” which fits the men much more since they often are the ones heading off to work. Do you know of any suitable titles. I know your book can be used by men, but our men would seek one written by men. Just he nature or our situation. Thanks.

  7. Thank you! I have been struggling with letting go of a ministry I have been taking part of for 19 years. This ministry is an after school activity and now my son needs me when working on homework. Ministry is so important – but our best ministry should always be to those we love and live in our home. Unfortunately — sometimes they get the short end of the deal. God knew I needed this affirmation today – thanks!

  8. Holly Westberry says:

    The relationship in my life that needs attention is my relationship with The Lord and the relationship I have with my self. I need to give an unrushed yes to both relationships.

  9. Thank you so much for sharing your heart, because in sharing your heart God has spoken to mine. I so relate to many of your stories and have been there. I only have one daughter, but try to be there for her and her friends and sometimes I just want to be lazy, but I know God is using us. I just have to say yes to God’s Best Yes for us. Thank you for all your books and devotionals. Thank you for letting God use you.

  10. Jan karsten says:

    Thanks you for this. A bold ‘yes’ from me on this topic. Relationships are important to me; from my husband, to my married children, to my GRANDkids and friends! Intentional time and conversation! A must…and the fruit from being intentional is priceless! More need to know the benefits!!!

  11. This is something that I strugglenwith. Its so easy to just snap when you try to do your best with others and they just dont care. Its hard to take insults from those you love and even harder to keep my mouth shut and act like not happened and invest time with those you love when they dont want to do it themselves.
    Thank you for shariing and encouraging!!

  12. Thank you for being so honest Lysa. Your transparency and commitment to applying God’s truth to every situation sets me free to forgive and draw closer to my Lord. It’s so good to know that I am not alone in my struggles with “relationships”, especially the marital issues!!! :)
    I really love these devotionals, they make me love Jesus even more!! God bless you!

  13. Judy Rothrock says:

    This was awesome. I have the same issues with my husband and your honesty helps me so very much. God bless you.

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