The Value of Showing Up for a Friend

The Value of Showing Up for a Friend

July 20, 2015

“When they saw Job from a distance, they scarcely recognized him. Wailing loudly, they tore their robes and threw dust into the air over their heads to show their grief. Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words.”
Job 2:12-13 (NLT)

Natalie Snapp

“I just needed her, that’s all,” she said with tears streaming down her face. “She didn’t have to do anything or say anything — I just wanted her to sit with me for a while.”

My new friend described the pain of a missing friend, someone she loved, but who was nowhere to be found when her own life fell apart. She was having trouble forgiving her friend for what felt like abandonment.

My friend was not alone in needing her friend. A man named Job, whose story is recorded in the Bible, also needed his friends in the midst of deep heartache.

Job lost most of his family and earthly possessions. When three of his friends heard the news, they went to offer comfort, support and encouragement simply by showing up. Scripture tells us (as we see in our key verse) they sat with him for seven days and nights and didn’t say a word. Can you imagine?

They showed up and were present at a time when Job felt beaten down and alone.

So often, I’m afraid to show up when I know someone is hurting because I worry too much about the “what ifs.” What if I say something insensitive? What if their pain triggers something in me? What if it will require more time and energy than I want to give? Ugly, but true, concerns.

We live in a busy and fast culture of appointments, family activities and other obligations that can dictate our time and energy if we allow.

Running at full speed keeps us from slowing down enough to walk with the hurting. We live a distracted, but less compassionate, life when we have so much going on that we fail to see the needs around us — and I know I’m guilty.

When we close the door on distractions, we open the door to hearing from God because if we’re constantly plugged-in, it becomes harder to unplug.

And it’s true we can utter words that will come off as insensitive but it’s what we do after we say those insensitive words that matters most. A heartfelt apology goes a long way. So does a simple “I don’t know the right words to say, but I’m here for you.”

After seven days, Job broke the silence by lamenting to his friends and wondering why such pain was happening in his life. Yet sadly, all three of his friends followed with thoughts that were less than encouraging.

However, later in Job 32, his friend Elihu stepped in and spoke truth. He lovingly pointed out that Job was not without sin but these trials were not happening because of his sin. Then, he spoke soft truth and reminded them all that “God is greater than any human being” (Job 33:12b, NLT).

Friends speak soft truth — even when the truth is hard. They also show up, stay in the game and offer love for those who are hurting.

In other words, their presence is the present — a gift that will always be remembered by a hurting friend.

Father, may I not be intimidated by the mistakes I could possibly make with a hurting friend and instead just be present for her. Help me to make time to just be there. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Proverbs 17:17, “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (NLT)

RELATED RESOURCES:
Ever had a “friend break-up,” struggled to forgive after being hurt by women or merely wished to learn how to be the best friend you can be? Pick up a copy of Heart Sisters: Be The Friend You Want To Have by Natalie Chambers Snapp today!

If the thought of conflict makes you break into a cold sweat or you simply want to know how to biblically walk through conflict, you’re invited to join the “Five Days of Crawling Through Conflict With A Friend” Challenge. Click here for more information and to register!

Enter to WIN a copy of Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Want to Have. In celebration of her book, Natalie’s publisher is giving away 10 copies! Enter to win by leaving a comment here, letting us know why you’d like a copy for yourself OR whom you would give the book to, if you won. {We’ll randomly select 10 winners and email notifications to each one, by Monday, July 27.}

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Do you have a friend who is currently hurting? What soft truth of encouragement could you offer her today? Drop her a note, send her a text or give her a call — then program a reminder in your phone or write it on your planner to do it again in a few days! Better yet, can you spend some time with her this week?

Add your friend to your prayer list and commit to praying for her daily — and tell her you’re praying. Nothing speaks more love to a hurting person than a friend who is consistently praying for her!

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  1. Healing Slowly says:

    This was one of my favorite devotions. I always read them under Encouragement on the Bible Gateway page.

    This one in particular spoke to me a little louder than the others. A little over a year ago, I was involved in an incident that resulted in me being diagnosed with PTSD and deep depression. Every day is getting brighter and God has already shown me the reason for the incident. Everything truely happens for a reason. That being said, I find the most difficult part of it all wasn’t what happened to me, but the PTSD itself. It’s a mental disorder that has caused me to become paranoid and randomly upset. Its also made me a recluse. I prefer to stay away from everyone and in doing so, have shut GOOD people out of my life. It’s a battle, but one that I am fighting and God is helping me through it. I’m slowly making new friends and building bridges but it’s almost as if I don’t even know how to be a friend anymore. I shut everyone out and woke up in a place where social media can easily replace real friendships and it’s weird to feel like I just don’t know how to be a friend again. I would love an opportunity to read Heart Sisters for myself and then to pass it on to a friend that it may also be able to help through a tough time.
    Even if I’m not selected as one of the winners, I still wanted to pass along that this particular post was very personal for me and very touching and I really appreciate you sharing it. ❤️

    • Me, me! Pick me! I would buy a copy if I won so that my friend and I can do it together!

    • I would love to read this book! So much to learn and put into practice with those I love and those I work with and those that I encounter each day. Thank you for the opportunity!

    • Ramona Weems says:

      I try to be a very good friend, but I know I could be better. Would love to share this with my friend/sister.

    • Monica Smith says:

      This book would give me great insight to things that I have trouble conveying.

    • Nancy Owings says:

      I definitely need to read this book. I feel guilty and often wonder if I’m selfish, when after I’ve had a stressful work day, I spend time alone(and with God) to regroup and refresh, when I should be calling or visiting a friend in need. I need help. Please help me!

    • Would love to win a copy to read and share!

    • Bonnie Lamb says:

      I hate conflict…..too many chances to get it wrong

    • I have a very hard time finding good friends who are women because of many heart breaks and drama with girls in high school. Being married, I also need to respect my husband, so I try not to be too close with my brothers in Christ. So it has been difficult to find friends that I can confide in. I would love to forgive and learn again how to build trust and love with my sisters in Christ =)

    • I have been through a lot of amazing christian friends over the last 10 years. Friends have come and gone due to moving, changing churches or jobs, whatever the case. Each of these women have taught me so much in my walk with the Lord and it has brought great joy to my life, but it has also been a struggle as I have drifted away from certain friends. I sort of feel like I am in a “friends slump” right now and would love to read this book to learn more about how to be the friend that I am longing for in my life right now.

    • I need to learn to be there for my sister and friends. I don’t always show up for exactly the reasons seen in your piece above. I am scared to say the wrong thing or hurt them so I avoid them and only send messages . I hope the book can help me change and be more open towards the in person. Afterwards I always go through guilt feelings because I could not emotionally be there for them as I do not know how…. ( Can you tell me if this book is available to download on Kindle please?)

    • tammie griffith says:

      I would love to win this book as I’m getting involved in a new “Single Moms” Group and feel it could be very helpful and insightful.

    • I would love to win this to share to my daughter age 14 who is struggling w/ the loss of her first childhood best friend, I encourage her that there are more wonderful friends out there and to not close your heart to them!

    • I’ve struggled my entire life to balance friendships with what God wants those friendships to be. I’ve allowed my need for my friends to be greater than my need for God. I’ve tried to do for friends what only God can do for them I’ve turned to them before turning to God. I so want to get it right .. to learn to have healthy God-centered friendships that honor God … that reflect God’s desire for us to be in relationship with one another. Because of failed friendships and the hurt that has resulted, I have become very guarded and reluctant to engage in new/current friendships. Whether I’m chosen to receive the copy of the book or not, I will definitely read this book. I’m hopeful that it will give me insight as to how to be the friend God intended.

    • We were never meant to walk alone in this world. As a Christian, I know that I always have the Father, Son and Holy Spirit to walk with me through the trials and troubles of this life here on earth; but He often uses the relationships I develop with others to teach me what I next need to know in order to grow. Relationships with other women (“sisters”) can be so very rewarding; but they can also be fraught with pain that we carry with us far into the future if they are not nurtured in healthy, holy ways. I look forward to reading and sharing the God-inspired words in this work and becoming the kind of “heart sister” that He would have me be! Many thanks and blessings for allowing God to work through you in this way!!

    • id love to have this book please

    • there are several reasons i would like a copy of this book. 1)my daughter had cancer when she was 19, had several surgeries and was very lonely. A once popular girl now struggled because her young friends didn’t know how to be a friend. 2)i have been that same person as my daughter’s friends, not knowing how to be a friend during a difficult time. 3)i have witnessed the power of good friendships.

    • Maria Shuler says:

      Would love to win a copy to read for myself! Enjoyed this devotion this morning.

    • Jelene Ellington says:

      Losing someone you thought was your friend is heart breaking.

    • Dear Healing Slowly, I would love to pray with you on your path of healing.
      Your post could have been my own! After a series of tragic events, including my father’s suicide, I too am working through PTSD. I have found myself pushing away wonderful people over the years, leaving myself very lonely at times. A few years ago a woman I care about very deeply nearly lost her life to a heart blockage. Although I left her a small gift at the hospital desk, I couldn’t bring myself to go to her room and see her. Events such as that bring me back to the panic feeling and intense fear (fight or flight). God is so amazing! Like you, I am focusing on His word and His plans for me. I so desire to be the friend I know I can be…if I had a little help:)

    • I would love to read this. I went through a “friend break-up” a few years ago and I still struggle with it. She’s tried to reach out to me, but I can’t forget. I say I’ve given it to God and forgiven, but I keep taking it back, even after all this time.

    • Amelia Terry says:

      I’d give this book to a dear friend who has grown away from me but who is struggling with the loss of her mother right now. Even though I’ve moved away and we have grown apart, she is still a sister in my heart and I still pray for her and my heart aches to know she is hurting now. Of course, I’d want to read this myself as well. Thank you for considering me for a copy.

    • Deborah Dantin says:

      It seems God placed us in this neighborhood for many reasons and I found myself making friends quickly with a neighbor. But, she was not what she seemed at first. She began cutting me down, bragging constantly, and began to gossip about everyone. I really need some insight into how to be a Christian witness and influence on her and others. Also, I need instruction on how to grow into a Godly, graceful friend that can teach her that Christian women do not do those things. Thank you!

  2. virginia W says:

    What I do best at any time, good or bad, is put my foot in my mouth and say something inappropriate. I have struggled with this for a long time. As a result, I avoid being around people. I come across as being aloof, uncaring, unapproachable. I am just afraid I will screw up if I open my mouth.

  3. I’m in the middle of conflict with my sister. …I’d love to give her this book.

  4. Savannah Schillaci says:

    I am currently in ongoing conflict with my sister-in-law but I am continuing to seek God’s will and forgive to reconcile the relationship. I would love to read this for more insight as well to re-gift it to someone who could use it just as much!

  5. Crystal robinson says:

    Wow, these issues are so real in my life. I’ve had to set some serious boundaries with women I thought were friends. But after seeing how capable they are of hurting others, I just had to distance myself. It is a real struggle to make friends these days. I am going through an unwanted divorce, and realizing my true friends are few and far between. I so desparately want to be a great friend. Can’t wait to read this book!

  6. Jodene Roeker says:

    I’ve lived with the guilt of not being able to make the time for my best friend when she needed me. What I feel bad about is how I handled it (with anger). I just could not see the truth at the time. And I couldn’t make the time to be w my friend bc my mom was dieing in hospice. I have prayed about it over the years since. My guilt only got better after I prayed for my friend. You see, they were both dieing & were in Hospice. My friend was in a different state, but I had to be at home to help care for my mom. Until I read this devotional I had never really labelled the impact of what I did as abandonment. Now I’m sure that was just how she felt.All these years I thought I hurt her feelings cause I was angry w her for needing me & was mean when I told her I couldn’t help her.

  7. Emily M. says:

    I want to learn ways to be a better, more loyal friend to others.

  8. I stay away from my family. I live with my uncles family and my aunt always seems to hate me and the works i do. She intentionally hurts me and insults me so that i would go away from their house. I made a promise to my parents that i would stay in my uncles house and be obedient and silent no matter what they try to do to me. Its hard to stay among-st so much of hatred but i am learning more how Jesus prayed for the people who crucified him. If i get this book then it will uplift my soul and will be a source of encouragement to me and will also teach me how to forgive them and be nice to them. I like my uncle and aunt very much and i am very grateful for their kindness towards me. I want to be a source of blessing to them and this book will teach me how to forgive and love them more.
    Thank you!

  9. I have been blessed with many such friends, but after moving I feel like I’m starting over.

  10. I’d love to be the best friend that I can be to someone. I’d love to read this book. Then I can pass it along to my other friends to help them through conflict.

  11. Meaghan says:

    I host a moms and babies group at my house and we’ve been talking about how we all are tired of just being mediocre friends to each other and to those around us who we live every day life with. It’s simply like to receive one of your giveaway copies to read amongst our small group and be able to stand strong as friends for one another in a more special way. Thanks for offering your blog and wisdom.

  12. Karissa says:

    I would love this book so I could give it to my sister. She doesn’t have many friends and she just moved so she could use help making friends.

  13. Christi Wright says:

    This was a fabulous devotional! I have a couple of friends that just know. You can call them and just cry. Then after that cry, nothing is ever asked. We just know.

  14. All I ever wanted was to be a true and loyal friend who would always be there when my friends needed me. But every time I have tried to be there to support a friend, my intentions have been misread. People assume I want something from them, or they flat out reject my support. I’ve given up on friendship. We moved to a new town and I’m just not bothering to get to know anyone, my life is so much more peaceful now.

    • Heidi, don’t give up on friendship. But don’t push it on others at your speed instead of theirs. There’s an old African proverb about friends of the heart and friends of the road, that is lifetime friends and those who are walking the same path for a season.

      Lord, enable Heidi to be a friend of the road to others, making that her focus for the moment. If it is your desire to grow one of those relationships into friendship of the heart, give her the patience to take the relationship at your speed. Teach her to be first a foremost, a praying friend, one who brings the needs of others to you first, and follows your direction from there, Amen.

  15. Melissa says:

    Wow, this was very insightful. I would love to share the book with my own sister; we used to be so close growing up and then distance separated us and sometimes I feel like it’s hard to communicate and empathize with her.

  16. I would love a copy of this book to learn how to be a better friend.

  17. Tamarin says:

    I found this devotion really helpful and insightful. It’s so important that we can be there for others in quiet ways sometimes and other times there are things that need to be said. It’s great to know that it is ok to just be quietly present in difficult times.
    I have struggled to make friends over the years because I have been so hurt in past friendships. Now I have made some new friends but find that my insecurities from the past keep creeping up and making it difficult to maintain the friendships.

  18. Carolyn says:

    I was recently diagnosed with a rare autoimmune disease demramytosis it affects the muscles and skin my daughter with her kids pick up and move up north to be my care giver I’m so thankful for her I know this really hard for her but she some how always keeps a smile on her beautiful face I know that give her this book would be gift for her from God I want to say thank u for this opertunity

  19. Would love a copy of the book. It is a struggle for me with the “what ifs”. I tend to want to stay away and pray only cause I’m unsure of how to help, or I wonder what if I am more in the way. Sounds like a good book to help in this department of my life.

  20. I feel like I always show up, but am left abandoned if I have a need. It hurts. I desire close friendships and try to be the best friend I can be, but end up feeling used and with no good companionship. I hope I win this book and it and prayer can heal and help me.

  21. Michelle says:

    This was amazing and I would love to read more. I was hurt by a dear friend and I’m struggling with how to let it go. I think this book is exactly what I need

  22. Out of fear of losing friends I don’t let myself get close to anyone. I’m lonely.

  23. Veronica Garcia says:

    Luv that I found this devotional at the right time…as an adult I feel finding true friends is a lot harder…Would luv to have a copy of this book and later pass it on to someone else. Thx for such great words!

  24. I would love to use this book for a girls Bible Study with the middle and high school girls at the youth group at my church. This is one of the hardest things we ever have to go through with learning how to stick together and be there for each other through tough times. I would love to be able to gather and reflect together on this book and consider how it can help us in our female friendships, which are some of the hardest friendships we have to navigate!

    • What a great idea! I was just thinking what a great read this would be about girl friendships. But, I hadn’t thought to read it with my daughter who is going into 7th grade. I have been considering reading Odd Girl Out which was suggested to me years ago on girl bullying but I think I’d rather start with this book. I’d rather start with a positive. Perhaps there won’t be a need for the other. Thanks for suggesting this idea!!

  25. I love this devotion!! I have a pair of friends who have been right by my side the last 18 months while I navigate a job loss, a permanent health issue and near homelessness. They’ve helped me clean and transform a home that’s rent free for the work we’ve done. Truly I have been ministered to by angels!

  26. Wow! God’s timing never ceases to amaze me. I’m slap-dab in the middle of this huge conflict as I type. An acquaintance who is hurting and truthfully needs more than I have to give. I’m struggling with how to handle this without hurting her more.

  27. Ana Franklin says:

    My sister and I have never been close and due to past pain and brokeness it has made it very hard to express and show love to her. I need to get past this point and heal.

  28. Cynthia Sibanda says:

    Wow this post was just for me oh my! I’ve struggled for many years to comfort my friends cause I never knew what to say. And sometimes I felt that my silence was not enough I just had to say something. But after reading this post I’ve realised that my presence is more than enough. That warm hug that I will give or reaching out to stuff my friends hand will say so much than a thousand words that might just float past her head. I would really love to receive a copy of the boom so as to help me restore a broken friendship. The book will provide guidance in the steps to take

  29. Sarah Jackson says:

    Thank you so much for this post. There is so much I can relate to in what was written here. I was just thinking about this the other day. I would really like to know how I could be a better friend to my dearest friend. I am so thankful to God to have her as a friend.

  30. I have had a few friends that have not been able to deal with my cancer diagnoses. I have some anger towards them. I realize it may be difficult. I think
    This book
    Could help me!

  31. I recently lost my husband of 53 years and reconnected with a very dear friend, she has been her to put a arm around my shoulder and just let me cry, she is there for me and a true friend. No words are needed, she is just there!

  32. Rosemary says:

    I would love the book i think I’m always encouraging but want to learn how to be better. Thank you

  33. Melodie Ocampo says:

    My friend just lost her father. As I read this devotional I thought to myself; I want to be the friend that shows up. Just to sit if that’s all she needs. I want this book so u can understand the meaning of just showing up.

  34. I would love a copy of this book. Going through a friend- break-up – So I would love to learn how to be a better friend.

  35. My story is similar to “K” post. I have never responding to a post before. This post tugged at me. I have been rereading Job as this time in my life is so incredibly hard. I have had the blessing of only one best friend in my life. Over 25 years of friendship. Someone I confide everything to. I recently discovered I had been somewhat betrayed by her. I am having a terribly hard time finding the strength to offer and give full forgiveness. I am left alone on the earth with no one to trust. At the same time, I feel God is showing me that He is where I should put my faith and trust. He wanted me to read Job again. That is why this particular post spoke directly to me.

  36. Kathy Troutman says:

    This devotional was very insightful for me. Life has been tough the past year. I have had those friends who have walked with me but also hurt by friends who deserted me.

  37. Gloria Thiessen says:

    Would love a copy of the book!!

  38. After multiple losses this year, I would love a copy of your book to be a better friend for others who are hurting.

  39. I want to be the best friend I can be…..to my best friend:)

  40. Mary Beth Smith says:

    Would love this book for my daughter and her new roommate. They are both Christians with wonderful hearts, but with different personalities and methods. It would be interesting to see if it can guide them through the ‘getting to know you’ phase.

  41. I’ll buy the book even if I don’t win but finances are tight so I would much rather win and when I am done I can share it

  42. Patricia says:

    I want to become a better friend and attract healthier friends

  43. Karen Hicks says:

    My nine year old daughter and I are moving into a group home for recovering women. I know the women there very little and have very few friends here where we’ve relocated. Because of my addiction and my divorce I’ve lost or pushed away nearly all of my friends. There are a few that I still consider real friends and they know they can count on me to be there for them and vice-versa. With this new journey of being in a group home with women rebuilding there lives I want to be really mindful of building Godly connections and trust again. This book sounds like the exact thing I need to read for guidance and a new understanding of friendship.

  44. Caren Duran says:

    I would like to know how to express my feelings for them.

  45. Lorelie Castil says:

    Lately I was the one needing someone to be there for me and I’m blessed to have few real people to do that. And now I want to learn it too because I know the feeling and I want to do better. I believe this book would speak volumes to me. Lord willing, I will give it to my friend who 2 years ago went to a different church because her parents told her so. I missed her so much. God bless you! (:

  46. Aileen O says:

    I’m heading overseas for mission work from August 2015-August 2017. I’ll be living in a house with several young women who I’ve never met and who come from all over the world. My two sisters also live in different countries as well as most of my friends that I grew up or went to college with. I struggled with relationships among my roommates in college and my sisters at home and it has always bothered me that I have such difficulty being friends with the women I was in closest contact with for years. I want to mend the brokenness I’ve caused between my beautiful younger sisters and myself and learn how to help other women while I’m serving in ministry and as a missionary.

  47. Sarah Mae Velasco says:

    I’ve experience so many hurts, disappointments and pains throughout my life. I know what it feels like to have those and having a friend or a someone that will always be with me through those times is more hurting. Just being there with you, praying for you, listening to every word you say without any judgement and embracing you when you feel so weak and helpless during those trying times are the things that we all do for our friend. I believe that this book will help many people on how to become the best “friend” that we should be. I know I haven’t been a very great friend too, that’s why I’d love to have a copy of this. Thank you so much in advance! God bless! 🙂

  48. I have isolated myself from others. I was hurt by several who I had thought were friends and now I find it difficult to open my heart again. I didn’t want to feel that pain again. But lately I am feeling the need of a close friend or rather friends.

  49. Laura Shifflett says:

    I need to practice showing both verbal & nonverbal warmth during my interactions. I’m not a cold-hearted individual, but could use some help in the area of being a better friend to my current friends.

  50. Belinda says:

    I would want to read it first, then share it with others as it comes up.

    I think people crave true friendship now a days but it’s not recognized very well as a priority in our culture, even among believers.

  51. This book sounds amazing and just what I need. My friends come to me with their issues but it seems they are never around or have time when I need someone. I’ve at times felt hurt and abandoned but I’m so thankful for the comfort of knowing God is always there.

  52. Thembisa Mhleli says:

    I would like to win the Heart Sisters book because I have learnt that I’m guilty of neglecting my dearest friends when they need me most. Simply because I fear I might be bad company and may not give them the help they need,but after reading today’s newsletter about “just showing up” and not say a word helps morethand a thousand eloquent wise words. I’ve learnt that my presence is the best gift I can give a friend in need, to be the friend I want to have.

  53. Debbie Hollingsworth says:

    Up at 3 a.m., going to be tired tomorrow, but opened the Word to do my next section on friendship. It “happened” to be in the book of Job and I “happened” to notate that sometimes the best thing we can do is be there quietly. I then posted on Facebook
    the scripture of Job 13:5 asking God to use this scripture to guide me. I know I will always need to remember it. After typing this, I looked down and saw your post on my Facebook page. Love it when God speaks and confirms. I’m listening Lord, quietly now.

  54. Shirley Y says:

    Went through a very painful ‘break up’ of friendship with a best friend I’ve known for most of my life and currently working on re-defining our relationship some way some how as we’re in a number of ministries together and have to make it work. I’ve subconsciously become a little afraid to invest too much of my heart in people since then, but I still want to learn to be a better friend not just to this friend but also all those around me.

  55. Jennifer says:

    My best friends husband was recently diagnosed with stage 4 bladder cancer.i struggle with knowing what to say and how to be there for her. I want to learn how to be the friend she needs, and to know what to say to help her deal with the circumstances.

  56. Corine Lampers says:

    I would like to be a better friend in times of conflict or trouble. I have sat quietly with friends but I want to be able to offer more.

  57. Stephanie B. says:

    I would love this book. It seems like it can be so difficult to navigate friendships through difficult times and too many people just disappear from our lives.

  58. Within the past week, I have reconnected with a former friend. We became estranged over a year ago, but recently (in part due to the OBS book on mending) we recommitted to rebuilding our friendship. It is one of the only Christian friendships I have, and I really want it to succeed. This post and the resources mentioned are certainly well timed!

  59. In the past two years, My best friend’s daughter died, her sister-in-law died, she had a house fire, her son had a car accident……. I have always struggled to be a good friend, yet she just loves me and forgives my weaknesses. I have been trying to be the friend she deserves, your book would be a great resource.

  60. Sheeba m says:

    The story of Job is on my mind alot for our family. Our life has felt like down the dumps with illness, unforseen expenses, job searches that have fallen through and changes we never expected. Biggest blessing is that my parents are here to give their support in many ways for which i will always be grateful. Today i reminded again of our life by this story.

  61. Natasha says:

    I know this book would be incredible for me in this season where I’ve been struggling with the departure from a friendship group leaving me struggling to trust new friends. I know how important sister friends are & I want to learn how to be a better one while loving with grace. (Loved the email sent out by Natalie, really helpful!)

  62. Robyn M says:

    I went through a very difficult time a few years ago and I felt so alone. I was disappointed that my friends could not be there to support me. I realize now that it was an opportunity for me to lean on God fully. Looking back I see how He was there for me and He brought me through. I had to forgive my friends and let go of any anger/resentment I felt.

  63. uche igbokwe says:

    Here in Africa a lot of things are happening and a lot of people are hurting. A young widow friend of mine with three children and little or no help financially sure needs encouragement all the time. With this book I will learn through the spirit of God how to more encouraging and caring. Thank you.

  64. Thank you for this inspiring message. As of now, i don’t have a friend who has interpersonal problems. I want to have this book because I want to learn more on how to become a great listener with the profession that i chose. I am a Christian and at the same time a psychology professor in a university. There are times that I notice that my co-teachers and some students are down, through your book and through psychology, i want to help. Thank you.

  65. Irene O'Leary says:

    My life is full of work and home pressures (mostly work) that leave me little time and completely drained. Nine times out of ten I take more than I give when chatting with friends; that’s how it feels anyway. My role at church also brings hurting ladies my way. This book would help me for myself as well as prepare me to really be there for others.

  66. I loved this devotion! It really hit home with me. I have had a very close friend for many years. We did everything together with our families. Our kids were the same age and really close to each other also. Over the past year something happened, but I don’t know what. Our kids weren’t getting along with each other, and suddenly there was a problem with our relationship. To this day, I still don’t know why our kids’ relationship affected our relationship…but I do know that it hurt a lot. I have been grieving over this relationship, and have even moved far away…sometimes I wonder if I moved to run away from the hurt of this relationship. It’s amazing how having a great girlfriend can be awesome sometimes…and then hurt so much other times.

  67. I so often do not go because I do not know what to say or I am so wrapped up in my on life..which is so wrong…I want to be a better friend..

  68. I teach middle school, and anyone who has ever been around girls of that age knows is full of drama. I would love to have a copy of this book for my classroom! I have girls that pay attention to and ask to read books that I have on my desk. That’s where I have the “I want you to ask to read this one because it makes you think about your actions” type books!

  69. Heather says:

    I’d share the book & work through it together with a friend with whom I am currently reconnecting after a 2 year friend break up, in hopes that it would help continue the healing process.

  70. I would love to win/read Natalie’s book as it appears I can really relate. When I was going through some tough infertility treatments, I so wish I could have had a friend who had children just be there… Without giving me her take on what was happening in my life … For she had never walked an “inch” in my shoes.

  71. Mari Taylor says:

    My sister is my best friend and we have gone through so much together from having unexpected grandchildren to children with addiction problems to loss of parent to every day struggles in life. I took her friendship for granted when younger but today cherish every minute we have together and truly want to be the best friend I can be to her for the rest of our lives!!!

  72. Your book sounds like something we all need as we build relationships that reflect our relationship with God. Thank you.

  73. I am always looking for material to read to reach out to those the Lord puts in my path.

  74. Leigh-Ann says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book, bacause I am really trying to learn how to be better at making friends.

  75. Barbara says:

    I would enjoy having a copy of this book because my life is as described above as “full of obligations and schedules “. I have a hard time finding the energy and additional time to be a good friend. Then the enemy begins to tell me lies like I am worthless because I don’t spend the time with my friends and l start to believe the lies. Then I become “self-focused” and need help from God and my friends and loved ones.

  76. I would love a copy of this because I have really been struggling with friendships lately and this devotion was just what I needed to read!!

  77. I absolutely loved this devotion today. I’m a small group training fitness instructor and I lead women into healthier relationships with food, family, friends etc…it looks like, from reading the review that this book could be a helpful tool to guide them. Thank you for this opportunity.

  78. It’s always so EASY to share with friends during the good times….celebrations, parties, girls’ nights…but the true test of a person’s character is how they stick with you through the challenges of life. I need a refresher course on how to support others through their dark nights so we can rise together and be victorious. This book will help me improve my efforts!

  79. Madelyn Riddle says:

    i would like this book
    we all have conflicts, would be nice to have another way of handling things…
    thank you

  80. As a military spouse who moves frequently and is constantly having to make new friends and struggles to stay in touch with old ones, this sounds like it would be a very beneficial read.

  81. Bree Wakefield says:

    It would be such a timely blessing to win this book.

  82. Katie b says:

    Always in search of conflict resolution. Especially to those close to our heart.

  83. Jamie Plummer says:

    I would love to read Heart Sisters – I teach an adult (married and single) Discipleship Class,and recently finished studying Job in the context of our own life timelines emphasizing those who were there supporting us, the Lord’s constant presence and how we have supported others through their times of need. I also am a leader in our Women’s ministry, a continual need for support. I believe this resource could become a Bible study topic to help us all understand how to be supportive beyond casseroles. Thank you! 😉

  84. Christina says:

    I am currently hurting from my best friend of 16 years, when she left my life a year ago. Its been difficult trying to understand why someone would just stop caring, calling, and fall off the face of the planet. God has been placing other women in my life to fill the void, but I still feel like Im missing a relationship in my life like we had.

  85. Erica Enos says:

    I’d love a copy of this book because I feel that many friends and acquaintances open up to me about personal struggles. I don’t always know the right things to say or how I can help them. However, I do feel that lately God has given me the wisdom to say the right things. Therefore, I strive to be a better friend, being there for those who have been there for me but also for those who have not.

  86. and i have been going through health issues with our son, I’ve expected family to be there for us and they haven’t been, in particular a couple of women. Would love to learn more about Godly friendship and what I can do to improve!

  87. Jennifer Maguire says:

    Reading today’s message made me realize it’s not only ok to reach out to an old friend who I know is dealing with family trauma, it is something I am called to do. If that isn’t the Holy Spirit working in my life, I don’t know what is

  88. This devoton was so needed today! I miss my friend and somedays, there are no words for the loss. Thank you!

  89. This morning devotional was precious truth! I needed to be reminded that I don’t always have to have the right words to say, just being there is sometimes all that’s needed.

  90. Friends……I miss the ones that knew me when and wish I were geographically closer to the best ones I have now….

  91. Rachel Valdez says:

    For the past few months, I have been a witness to how a good friendship of 3 women in my church community struggled to remain and to survive due to lack of communication. It’s sad to see a good and long friendship crumble and so I always felt led to go to either one of them when I see them sad/affected. They’ve become like true sisters to me. As much as I want to fix their relationship for them, I can only do so much such as just be by their side when they allow me, listen to their hearts/thoughts and give advice when they ask me. But God is always good because as I read through this post, it made me realise that He still makes a big impact in their hearts through me even when I am just there by their side. What a wonderful work of ministry which still requires time and obedience to Him! As I look at them and their friendship, I know that God is still working in them and through them. The friendship is slowly getting better each day.. from what seem like awkward encounters then to sharing simple laughs now. Like what I’ve always believed, God doesn’t allow things to happen without a purpose especially knowing that He works out/orchestrates all things for the good of all those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. In Proverbs 27:17 ‘as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.’ I know that what they’re going through is just a phase/process that is leading them to become better friends to each other and also to lead their friendship to something better than ever. If I get selected for this contest, I would give it to one of them and ask her to give it to another after reading until all of them have read it. I believe there’s so much wisdom in this book on how to handle friendships especially in times of conflict and misunderstanding which they can all get a Godly perspective from so that they can be continually molded and shaped to becoming more like Christ, from glory to glory and from strength to strength. So thank you for this opportunity. God bless! 🙂

  92. Consuella Craig says:

    A group of friends and I are actually going through this strewing another friend right now babe is in s season of hurt, confusion and anger and nothing we say seems to be the right thing. This book would be a blessing to us all.

  93. Terri wood says:

    I would like to be a better friend. Just yesterday a friend said she wouldn’t be able to sit with me at church that she had someone she felt a burden to help. I almost took it personally then realized I should support her and pray for that situation. I need help dealing with selfishness and offense. I feel like this book will help me. Thank u for considering!

  94. Julie Harrison says:

    Heartbreak over a friend that is just not available. Many years of showing up for her and now, in my time of need, she is just not showing up.

  95. Ann Thompson says:

    I would enjoy reading the book and hopefully learning from it. I have such a friend – when my daughter passed away close to 7 years ago, I called and she came and stayed with me all night. We talked about my daughter and we talked about inconsequential things. I have never forgotten the love she showed just by showing up.

  96. Danielle says:

    The greatest thing I have learned abour friendship is to know when to speak and when to just listen.

  97. I have the opportunity to share with a diverse group of women. From the preview alome it appears this would be an ideal topic for our group. Secondly I experienced an heartfelt event with the a couple of life friends and would have loved knowing how to handle this better.

  98. I thank you for a chance to win your book! I’m encouraged by the message today. As a compulsive “doer”, I feel incapable when it comes to women in crisis. I’m hoping this is God giving me a chance to be more useful.

  99. I really need this book bc of a situation I am going through

  100. I would ♡ to receive a copy of this book.

  101. Ruby Durant says:

    I’m struggling to support a friend who is caring for invalid husband. Friend is very independent but needs help now. I’m struggling to find ways to help without being intrusive.

    Perhaps the book would help me be a better friend.

  102. Kara Lankford says:

    I am always looking for ways to be a better friend. I have some gals in my life that I want them to know I am here and if presence is all they need I got it for them. Silence is hard for most people but presence is a present.

  103. My daughter has had her feelings hurt by 3 of her friends. Caroline is a loyal friend so I don’t understand. Hard for a Mama Bear to watch. I’m thinking this may be a good book for her! May we walk in humility to be a good friend to others!!!

  104. Being a faithful friend has always given me more than I gave.

  105. Kelly Roby says:

    I would like to read this book due to a broken friendship.

  106. Terri D says:

    I have 6 sisters, 2 of whom I am very close but they all live quite a distance from me. Close to home I am blessed with 2 Chrisitian friend-sisters.
    I would love a copy of this book!

  107. I recently traveled across the country to be with a friend that was hurting. Sometimes I question whether or not I said the right things or did the right thing. Thank you for your words today. They reminded me that just being there was enough. I would love a copy of your book – being a good friend is something I feel like I’m not very good at.

  108. Ashley wagner says:

    Due to recent comments to a friend I feel our friendship is broken, and I am praying for it to be mended.

  109. I had a friend who I meet in college. We became very close, we were roommates who shared everything. We laughed, cried and did everything together. She was my sistah! I had my first son when I was a senior in college, she of course became the godmother of my son. After graduation, she moved back to New York. We stayed in contact and visited each other often. Life started to get busy and the calls and visits started to decrease. Then I received a call from my sistah that she had been diagnosed with cancer. We talked for hours, crying together and praying together. However I never made it up to New York to visit and the calls started decreasing even more. I knew her life was badly affected by her diagnosis and I guess I really didn’t know what to say and was scared to be insensitive. Thank God my sistah won her battle and years later she told me how hurt she was that I lost contact with her in her time of greatest need! I felt terrible. She said I was a horrible friend and we didn’t really speak after that. Three years ago I was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor and my sistah reached out to me in my time of need. We spoke very briefly on several occasions however it was at that moment in my life that I knew why she felt abandoned and hurt years earlier. I would love to read this book in order to try to fix my relationship with my sistah. I love her dearly and want her back in my life!

  110. Misty Bonds says:

    I think this is just what my Sunday school class needs! We have had a few women quit our class because of insensitive things being said without intent to harm. It’s hard to know what to say and not say sometimes when you don’t know each person as well as you should and feelings get hurt easily. It would be a blessing to get closer to each lady and to learn from each other the wisdom we have all aquired over the years. This study would be wonderful for this purpose. Thank you for being a blessing to so many with your words! You will never know how many lives you touch!

  111. Trying to be more intentional with the girls in my small group and to go deeper with them. This book sounds like it could usher us into more depth in our friendships. We have also had terrible tragedy recently in one of our group’s family and as small group leaders, we can use all the help we can get! Hope to win a copy!

  112. Valerie Rodgers says:

    Me and my best friend have been besties for over 20 years. I am a Christian and she isn’t, yet I find it hard to speak about Christ to her. What kind of friend, better yet, Christian, am I if I can’t share the truth. We get along great. She does her thing and I do mine when we’re not around each other. She respects my beliefs, and never tries to persuade me the wrong way. I know it’s easy to get caught up in everyday life, but I want to be more to her than I am. I want to be the salt & light in her life.

  113. Jennifer says:

    I went through a friend breakup earlier this year. I know I am actually better off on this side of those relationships, but it still hurts at timeS and I do long for a close female friendship. I struggle to know how to be a great friend when I feel so overwhelmed with this stage of life (mother of a toddler, working full time, etc). This sounds like a great book!

  114. Wow! I would love to read this book myself and share with my middle sister. I have two sisters, one is 6 years younger and the youngest is 16 years younger. Of course my youngest sister is “the baby” of the family of 7 children and was spoilt the most….but a dream of a sister. it is my middle sister, however, that I have regrets not being there for her. I love her and wish I could “turn back the clock”.

  115. I have always struggled to build a deep bond with my friends so that when we are apart our friendship remains. I always only had 2-3 friends ever at a time. As a mama, I see the same thing happening in my oldest (8) and my heart breaks for him. I know how it feels to grow up not really being connected to anyone on a lasting and deep level. I would love this book so that I may use it to become a model to him on how to create lasting bonds with others.

  116. I’m actually having dreams about the offenses I feel have been thrown at me from a friend. I know I need to have a talk and work toward forgiveness, but I am having a tough time. Maybe this book could help? Blessings!

  117. Sherree crook says:

    I would love a copy. I’m a pastors wife and I would like to do this with some women in my church

  118. Michelle says:

    I just had a very difficult day yesterday and my bestie sensed it because of a text I sent. She showed up at my house and just came to say “hello”. I would love to give her this book for being such an incredible friend. GREAT DEVOTIONAL TODAY!

  119. Judy Winegar says:

    I would love to have your book. I am president of our women’s group at church and sometimes I feel conflict. I would like to know how to better handle it.
    Thanks!

  120. I struggle with this daily. Ladies that I thought were my friends have abandoned me through a rough time in my life. Greatly, through finding a new church and making new friends at my church the abandoning feel has become easier. I hope this book will help me understand why I have been abandoned by my other friends.

  121. As I become older, I realize, more than ever, the importance of Godly friends to walk through the challenges and triumphs of life. At the same time, the busyness of life and the blessing of alone time mean I have to be very intentional about keeping those friendships alive. It sounds as though this book would be a timely and helpful tool.

  122. Nancy lange says:

    The older I get, the more I value friends.

  123. After my first daughter was born there were complications. We didn’t know what was wrong and the sadness, fear and the unknown were overwhelming. I spent many hours on the phone with my best friend in complete silence (except for the occasional sobbing from either end). It was amazingly comforting to just know she was there. True friends who just “show up” are an amazing gift from God!

  124. I would love a copy of the book so that I can honor my relationships with my female friends. I have been hurt in the past and had to forgive women who have hurt me, however our relationship never recovered from the damage. I believe this book would help me to be a better friend as well as point out qualities I should seek in others who call me friend

  125. Vanessa says:

    Wow! I needed this today! God is amazing and I love how he shows us just what we need. I’d love to read this book and learn how to be a better friend.

  126. Sandi Colwell says:

    I would love to read this book and share it with my 3 daughters. I definitely have not been the friend I would like to have. Thanks for the chance.

  127. Sarah Quick says:

    Natalie has beautifully captured the dilemma we all must face at times when a friend or family member is needing us and we simply feel we don’t have the words to ease one’s pain. Simply be present. Sit quietly. Hold a hand. BE. Breathe deep and pray for the hurt to heal.

  128. Kami Keeley says:

    I would like to win the book for me – sometimes I’m not sure what to do with friendship – I want friends but I don’t have many close relationships. I would like to read her book to see how I could change what I’m doing to be a better friend not just for current friends but for future relationships as well.

  129. Krystal says:

    This was a very truthful devotion. Friendship is a valuable asset to have in ones life. True friends become family.

  130. Phyllis says:

    How I long to learn how to adjust to the loss of many, many friends. It’s so painful!

  131. Christina says:

    I would love a copy of this book! I am someone who chronically avoids conflict. However, I want to be a better friend by handling conflict according to God’s word.

  132. I am a busy mother of three. The pace of life makes it difficult to juggle friendships, however, I see the real need for authentic friendships, support and love within the body of Christ. I have started a women’s discipleship ministry at our church and the most difficult part of this process is getting women to be transparent and take risk in relationships. I would love to review the book as a possible tool for me and the girls to grow in authentic, loving relationships. Thank you for your ministry; I glean many nuggets of gold while reading these devotions. Thanks for considering!

  133. Audra Stone says:

    Relationships are a mess worth making. Knowing how to navigate pain and hurt is the hard part.

  134. Leann Vandemark says:

    I recently had my best friend move 2000 miles away and had some hurt feelings over it. I would love a book about friendship because I’m learning how to try and make new friends and it is very difficult.

  135. Rachel Manfredi says:

    A friend and I have drifted apart. We really have not near as much in common and it’s hard to keep the relationship. A lot of times I do not know what to say. This book really caught my interest and I could see it being helpful with this relationship.

  136. Patricia says:

    Before I broke up with my fiance I tried reaching out to different people for help & prayer but they were too busy…not returning my calls or not having the sense of urgency I had to try & save the relationship. At the end I felt so alone when I called it quits…no one to talk to about how I felt or even to try & figure out what was happening. God sent two people in my life who stood with me in prayer & that reminded me that I am NEVER ALONE, even though the situation looks like no one cares. God is always there even though people will not be there for you as you expect them to be.

  137. Stephanie sudano says:

    Simply sounds like a great book!!

  138. Sandra Zang says:

    My sister has always been my best friend. We’ve shared many beautiful memories together, and then struggled through some dark times as well with an abusive father. But throughout our lives, we’ve leaned on each other and I’ve always been so grateful to have her in my life. Recently, something has changed in her and she’s become distant, harsh, and easily aggravated with those who love her most, including myself. Our friendship is not what it used to be and we’ve grown apart. It’s sad to see something so precious slip away, as I pray for healing forgiveness, and reconciliation between us.

  139. Angela Raphael says:

    I would love a copy so that I could learn to be a more encouraging friends to my friends.

  140. Tara Wilson says:

    I pour so much into family, now I need to do so for friends.

  141. I want to be the friend Jesus would want me to be to my friends.

  142. Jenny Federau Neufeld says:

    I want to learn to be a good friend to the one who’s going thru dark days, so I wont treat my Friends like I’ve been treated in my darkest, hardest days..
    I want to learn to be a friend to and for my Friends like Jesus has been to me!

  143. Leah Wells says:

    Thank you for the encouraging words this morning. I’m thankful for my friends that God has placed in my life and so want to be a true friend to them!

  144. Chrystal says:

    I struggle sometimes with being a good friend. I tend to not call them when I think about them because I always tell myself I will call them later. God is obviously putting them in my head for a reason but I don’t take the time to pick up the phone and make the call. I could use some encouragement and tips on how to be a better friend because I want to have good friends as well.

  145. Moving to a new place brings excitement as well as sadness. It’s been years since I have moved, and still my heart longs for friendship. Praying that God will breath life for friendships that’s founded on Him. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and encouragement about friendship.

  146. melanie aber says:

    Hi, I have a two friends that don’t know the Lord. We’ve been friends for a long time and I love them both very much. I would love to learn how to “speak soft truth”to them. I also often feel like I could be a better friend to the women in my life who do know the Lord. I’d love copy of this book!!

  147. God spoke to my prayers and pain in This message today. Last year I entered into a horrific personal time full of lost, love, pain, and seclusion.u cousin, my best friend in life’s journey was not very present, I was so immersed in the issues at hand I haditerally curled up. It wasn’t immediate that I realized she was not
    Sitting with me, I had partially began conversation with her again, but the underlying conflict which we both cringe at is keeping us from being present with each other again. I wake and it is one of the first thoughts
    On my mind daily, I pray and it is one of the first thoughts
    I share with God, this
    Book would be well used

  148. Michelle says:

    This came at a perfect time. I have a group of friends and one we just lost to cancer and another one who is struggling with the prognosis of her chemo is no longer working and I fel her bitterness. She is bitter at one of our other friends for not being there for her yet in reality this other friend had know clue. I’m going to try and be there quietly to listen and pray. Thank you proverbs 31

  149. I would love a copy!!

  150. Susan Eichensehr says:

    While in Colorado last week, my best friend (residing in Germany) died of what appeared to be an aneurysm. Quick, no warning and far too young. An amazing friend and God’s warrior. She worked with an orphanage in Uganda and was my biggest cheerleader. I always wanted to be the type of friend/person she was to others and now I have to carry the torch as all the “should haves” will get me no where. Onward carrying her torch.

  151. As an introvert and a small group leader for some wonderful ladies I sometimes struggle with the ability to connect as a friend should. I would like to send cards, call, text, or visit but I don’t. I THINK ABOUT IT, but I never get around to actually carrying my plans out. This is a book that sounds like it would give me the encouragement I need to get where I want to be as a loving, caring friend. I personally think I am that way but because I don’t act on my plans to show it know one else gets the message just how much I care.
    Renee

  152. Most of my friendships stay at a superficial surface level. I want deeper relationships with other women, but I don’t know how to take them there. Would love to read what I’m doing wrong so I can develop some true friendships.

  153. Cathy Johnson says:

    I am struggling with an insensitive comment made by my closest friend during my time of sickness and loss. I have avoided having physical contact with her. Our phone contacts are minimal. I want to tell her how it made me feel but I’m not sure how to bring the topic up again.

  154. I love this verse I try to be always there for my friends which is not many of them I have ,my circle is very small but where ever they are and when the need help I do my best to be present , there is this one friend who is kind to me and I appreciate her very much she is not a Christian but she show the quality that a Christian should have ,I love her and if I win this book I will like to give it to her .to show my love and appreciation as a very good friend indeed.

  155. Tricia Roberts says:

    I would love a copy. Being a good friend is difficult in this busy time we live in and a forgotten skill.

  156. This is a book I’d love to read. I always want to be doing the right thing as a friend, but could use some help sometimes. Thank you.

  157. My friend Eve could use this. She has a sister in law who is not really there for family, though they are there for her. Nice devotional, thank you.

  158. Kimberly says:

    Thank you for this devotion….I am blessed with many sisters in Christ….I do need to appreciate them more….God is so good!!!!

  159. Pls help me pray for my friend ny husband who is in prison and is not feeling well. Please help me pray for his health and protection Gods Mercy and favor and compassion and Grace over him and pray God help me to stay loyal and committed long suffering and to persevere and never give up and for me to stay the course and continue praying for my husband. Keep my mind focused on the Lord and not Our circumstances. God equip me to be a friend to my husband as well in Jesus Name I pray. AMEN.

  160. tracy arntzen says:

    To be in relationships, which we are created to long for, in a way that honors God the Father and follows the example of Christ we need the Holy Spirit. Loving others can be difficult and I need the Holy Spirit to do a mighty work in me so I can be a Christ like friend.

  161. This book would be great to give my daughter as she goes to college. She has really struggled to find “good” friends who are there when she needs them. High school girls are so mean and self absorbed and don’t think about what real friends are. My daughter needs a friend whom she can depend on. She tries to be a good friend but doesn’t get the kind of friendship in return. I would give this book to her.

  162. It seems I never know the right thing to say to a friend. Although I try to be compassionate, I have lost friends because of my attempt to be honest. I would like to be honest with my feelings about situations, but look more to the friend and try harder to see within them, especially to them help from a spiritual standpoint.

  163. I’m working on being better at the whole relationship thing and showing love to others. This book sounds like it would be helpful in getting me started.

  164. Sarah vR says:

    I have been the friend who gave everything for everyone for so long, then when i had needs felt very alone! I’m blesseed to have a wonderful husband now, but do so badly miss having real deep relationships with sisters in Christ! I have often thought about how to change things and would love the book to learn a new fresh perspective on being and having that kind of sister friend again!

  165. What a wonderfully written and relevant post. I am coming out of the end of feeling alone during some uncertain times in my life. God is good and when you pray to him, he will send the people that you need the most in your life.

  166. I’d like a copy of your book because I enjoy learning how to make and keep friends.

  167. God is good! This comes at a time when it is needed most. A God Moment in only His perfection. Last week, the horrific events in TN hit close to home. Then over the weekend two friends unexpectedly passed away. On Saturday searching for comfort only He can give, I had found this Bible verse. And to hear it again this morning… The comfort of the words echo in my head. I long to help those families heal. To hug them with everything I have to give. To hold their hand until they let go. Lord, I pray for all of us who are hurting. Heal us through you so that we may heal others who are grieving. Amen.

  168. A friend….. sounds just like the person I want to be!

  169. Currently enjoying heart sisters in a group would love to read this one!

  170. Jacklyn Munson says:

    This sounds like a great book that every woman will benefit from. Thanks!

  171. Carolyn Dotts says:

    I have not one, but three close friends. Over the last 14 years we have worked, traveled, played and cried together. They were there immediately when I lost my husband in a car accident, one of them came to scene of the accident where I was waiting for news of his condition. I am blessed beyond measure and love these ladies. I treasure their friendship and pray that I can be there for them in the time of their greatest need.

  172. I will be starting a new MOPs (mothers of preschoolers ) group in the fall. I will be using this blog post to create discussion and encourage bonding. I would love to have the book to accompany this!

  173. I would love a copy of this book! Too often, I think about how my friends fail me, but I am probably not proactive enough in reaching out & doing for them.

  174. Sonja Harpe says:

    I would love to read this book as I miss so many friends now.

  175. Denise Henning says:

    I am interested in reading this book because I would like to be the friend my friends need. Which I am learning includes my allowing them to pray for me and be there when I need them.

  176. God will always send new friends! He knows who and what you need. Sometimes the people you expect to be there won’t and that’s okay because God’s plan is the perfect plan.

  177. I have a friend that we’ve been together for many years. Both going through a divorce, supporting each other. Recently she was laid off, a heartbreaking event for her. Life now is so busy for both of us. We randomly send a bible verse or a devotional to each other. I often send Proverbs31 to her. I’m pretty sure she and I could write a book.

  178. Charlene Surratt says:

    This entry really touched my heart. It takes a certain amount of courage to offer friendship, live, and support to a “friend/family member” in need. Especially if you do not feel they are inviting you “in” or want your help. I so needed to read these passages and illustration. Thank you for making me know that it is the right to do in “being there”!

  179. I have not had a close friend since grade school. I’m now in my 50’s and still struggling to define true friendship. I have a church home, belong to a Bible Study group, and work outside the home, however, friendship eludes me. I hear others talk about their close friendships and a part of me thinks, “That would be nice,” but another part of me wonders, “Is that really possible?” It’s seemingly easy for me to detach myself from relationships, and sometimes I wonder if I’m too self-absorbed, hard-hearted, or wounded too deeply to take that chance. Obviously today’s posting struck a chord with me, so I think there’s still hope for me.

  180. Wendy G Bronson says:

    I know that any long term relatinship comes with ups & downs. When you’ve hit a bad down it’s hard to turn around in love so there can be another up time. I want to be that forgiving & loving friend that loves at all times, even the not so fun.

  181. I would love a copy! In the busy hustle of this world and social media, we all need to remember that friends are a gift! Would love to have this book to help me enrich the friendships I have! Great devotion today!

  182. Sheeja Thomas says:

    Over the years, I have learned to become a better friend by receiving wonderful and meaningful friendship from others.

  183. Veronica Marshburn says:

    I would really like this book, because I know I am guilty of not always being the best friend. I want to change that. I would also share this with other ladies.

  184. If I won a copy of Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Want to Have, I would read it for myself and then share and apply the information I learned with my friends. As I am in the recuperation stages of an extremely toxic relationship, I have come to realize that I really need my girl friends. And, I have also come to realize that in order for me to be the friend I want to be, I have to work against the grain of acting the way I did in a manipulative, controlling relationship by becoming more Christ-like in my words, actions, and deeds. In an attempt to transform my soul, I found this book to be a very timely offering or suggestion from God about how I can start making some positive changes in my life.
    As I was a stay at home mother for a long time and am trying to get my feet back on the ground financially, I do not have it in my budget to buy Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Want to Have, but I would love to read it, apply its teachings, and share the information I learn with others. Thank you in advance for supporting my endeavors to better myself in my difficult situation.

    Sincerely,
    Karen

  185. I would love to win this book and learn how to be a better friend. This is something that has been on my heart lately and the devotion today was perfect timing. Thank you!

  186. Andrea Beach says:

    I’d love to have this book! My family and I have just moved states after only living in GA for 32 years. I have always had family and friends basically down the street from me. Now I need to learn to reach out and make friendships all over again.

  187. Janine Samuel says:

    I would love a copy if this booK to teach me more about being a better friend in Christ. Thanks

  188. Juanita Draime says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book because this is something that I have experienced on both sides of the issue in my life. I am striving to be a better friend to those few close friends I have but it is a struggle because of the fast-paced world we live in. There are always plenty of good intentions that never get acted on. I wanted to change that and be more purposeful in showing my love and support to those close to me and in reality even those whom are not the close friends but even the causal ones.

  189. Tracy Larson says:

    I would love this book to help remind me of the importance of a loving presence in someone’s life…

  190. I need to forgive someone who was not there or present during a difficult time for me but more importantly I need to learn to be the friend I’m looking for.

  191. Laura Bryant says:

    I lost my Father in March of 2014, it was withour a doubt the hardest time of my life. Before losing him there was a shift in my friend group and I could feel it getting more intense. The death of my father impacted me so much and I started seeing a therapist. While seeing her, I also talked about the issues with my group of friends and how they had hurt me before my dad passed and even more since he had passed because or how insensitive they were. They acted like my dad passing was an event that happened and the day had since passed and therefore I should be whole again. I contemplated addressing these issues bUT with the direction of my therapist (who has a Christian background), avoided the conversations. I later closed the doors with several of these friends, who were also bridesmaids, and have since been feeling regret and hurt.

    I would love a copy of your book to teach me to be a better friend to those who are not as close and sensitive to my needs as I may think they should be. I would also love a copy to learn how to be an amazing, Christian friend to those who stood by my side and continue to be there for me during my hard times.

  192. Natalie’s devotional today really touched my heart. As a Stephen Minister I deal with people in crisis quite often. What a blessing it is to know that just being in a person’s presence is sometimes all we need to do. Usually no words need to be said, only open ears to listen to the person hurting. I will use this devotional to teach other Stephen Ministers. I would love a copy of her book for that purpose. Thank you, Nancy

  193. Thank you for the reminder that sometimes when someone is hurting we don’t have to have the “right words”. Sometimes just being there is the best thing we can do, listening alone can be great therapy for someone hurting. Just giving that shoulder to cry on sometimes is the best medicine and admitting we don’t have a clue what to say. I pray everyone has a blessed day.

  194. Debbie Wright-Diaz says:

    I need to learn how to be the best friend I can be!

  195. Diane Burgess says:

    I want to learn more about being a best friend

  196. Thank you for this devotion and I would love to be a better friend, this book sounds like the perfect tool to read and share!

  197. I know someone that is hurting and your book would really help this person. Thank you.

  198. Thank you for this. I experienced this. I helped a friend through her difficult time. She disappeared when I needed support. I’m learning that Jesus is the friend I need. He is our portion. Humans will disappoint , but God….Thanks to Lysa T for helping me work through the pain of losing a friend. God has provided new prayerful, supportive, loving friends.

  199. Cynthia Nodland says:

    What a blessing this book would be to me after losing my best friend…

  200. Christi says:

    Great words of encouragement. I look forward to reading your book as well!

  201. Margaret Meester says:

    I would love to win this book! I have a friend (who led me to the Lord) that I often have some conflict with. God has brought us LONG way in the four years I have been saved, but I would value this resource to help me be the best friend and sister in Christ that I can be. Thank you!

  202. Rosalyn Price English says:

    Girl friendships are so hard for me! I’d love to learn more about how to do them well!

  203. Friendship is so important. We try to always be there for ppl. In the past co us years because of health issues my friends have been invaluble!

  204. I want to b the best friend to others that I can b!

  205. Susan Morris says:

    I would love to win this book as I struggle with friendships.

  206. Stephanie says:

    I am so thankful for my 2 best friends that I’ve had half my life. I would really like to learn how to be the best friend I can be to them and would be so honored to win a copy of this book to strengthen our friendship and repay them for being there for me especially right now while I’m unemployed and being a stay at home mom to 2 small children. I can’t support then monetarily but this devotion showed me how much deeper of a level my support and our friendship could be. I don’t want to be like Job’s friends and say the wrong thing at the wrong time because I value my 2 best friends so much. I’m looking forward to being the best friend and support for them I can be.

  207. What if you just cant be a friend anymore…? What if her life has gone a whole 180 from even where God wants ANY of us to be…? After 15 years of just awesome craziness…we called ourselves Sister-Soul-Mates….and when she made a decision in her life…I wasn’t the strong Christian I should have been…and she went on to a place I asked her if she was really sure she was supposed to be going….and not just her own drive to just go….and now…after heavy medication they put her on…a complete stranger came to my home for a visit after the birth of my son…my best friend…my only friend…made fun of my newborn, my husband, and me…. She ended up in a mental ward after having a breakdown…called me after 3 days, then decided she wasn’t in the mood to talk for another 3 days…..and it hurt, and killed a part of me…I no longer have anything to with my sister soul mate of 15 years… We were closer then friends….. And now…what do I do…? Am I a bad friend for not being there when she says I am needed…or do I protect my family first..? I would love any kind of help…and if this book would help..then I may just buy it….I have always strived to be the kind of friend I would want…and its not an easy path some days…. Thank you for the Devotion…It has brought up some very long ago memories of some very good times… <3

  208. Elizabeth says:

    Your post made me think of times when I really needed an absent friend and times when friends were there to hold my hand and prayer. I really am blessed to have amazing friends. I pray that I can be a friend when my friends are in need. I would love a copy of the book!

  209. What a wonderful devotional and reminder of the blessing of being a friend … And a reminder that I have allowed
    Busyness to get in the way of being a good friend… I am praying that I might learn to be a good friend and that I will devote the time to friends that God is calling me to devote. Would love a copy of the book!

  210. I would love to give this book to my teenage daughter! In a society where BFF is a term that teens assign to so many people, I would like for her to gain a better understanding from a Biblical standpoint of what a true best friend really is.

  211. Would love a copy of this book! I seem to have trouble in the area of female friends 🙁 I’m not sure what I do wrong but this sounds like it would be a blessing to receive.
    Thanks for hitting the hard and intimate topics with honesty and truth!

  212. Desiree Allmond says:

    I have walked away from friendships out of sheer fear of conflict and fear. I had a best friend that when I moved away and we were both married to men that did not get along we just stopped talking. It makes me sad because we both suffered so much loss that should have been shared together instead of alone. We speak occasionally now but I don’t really know how to repair it

  213. Karen Webb says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book. I work with an office of only women, 18 of us and we are all like family. We share books all the time. And this would be a great one to share.

  214. I’d love a copy to read & share w/ someone. I value my relationships w/ women in my life. But I try not use the word friend lightly; some are associates. Either way I want to be that friend who draws real friends. I want to know where I might be “missing the mark” . After all the bible does say “To have a friend you must show yourself friendly”. Prov. 18:24

  215. Michelle says:

    This devotional really speaks to me. Have some friends going through very tough times. I would love a copy of this book.

  216. I’m constantly replaying conversations and things I’ve said sometimes days after they take place. I try to be very aware of what I say but it is so difficult sometimes. And this has held me back a bit in some of my current friendships – or deterred me from developing new friendships. I’d love a copy of this book as I feel there is definitely room for me to grow in this area…

  217. Jacqueline Camarena says:

    I feel betrayed because a friend of mine has become friends with the woman my husband had an affair with years ago. I’m angry, disappointed and when I see them together I get angry at my husband.

  218. Would love to win a copy of your book. In my work I help people develop and improve their social skills with the ultimate goal being that they develop and keep friendships. It can be a challenging thing for so many but vital to our well being.

  219. I’m interested in this book.

  220. I would love a copy. I just experienced teaching my 8 year old daughter what a true friend looks and acts like and it seemed so much harder because of the thought they may not truly understand. I read a lot of scripture and I feel it went well but this book sparks my interest because I feel there is never enough insight. I would love a copy.

  221. Halona Luna says:

    I was recently in the hospital and my sweet sister friend came to visit twice. Once she managed to have some healthy snacks and a book to read without me knowing. I was so blessed, I would love to win this for her.

  222. Bonnie Mason says:

    I really enjoyed your devotion today! I also have been hurt by friends and family just wanting them to be there to understand what I was going through! Many times I have found myself being at a loss of what to say when I know someone is hurting and being a shy person makes it a little harder.I would really want to be a good friend I ask God everyday to use me to show his glory and give someone hope being a cancer survivor I want to be able to share my story to show everyone what God has done and can do. I would would like to be that person who is being all I can be for the Lord. Would love to win the value of showing up for a friend.Thank you I love proverbs 31 devotions!

  223. I would love to win a copy. I have 2 friends and myself that are all in different stages of the divorce process and although we seem to be there for each other, this book seems to be something that we could pass to each other for encouragement and help for understanding when we get wrapped up in our own worlds.

  224. Good morning P31…I recently had a friend of 40 years hurt me by using by past to hurt me. Yes, I was shocked and after the shock came the hurt and betrayal. I want to forgive her. I don’t know that I can trust her again. Can your book show me how to forgive and trust her again?

    I read P31 devotions and I’m doing the online bible study. I’ve grown so much in my relationship with God with P31’s help. Thank you so much.

    In God’s mighty, matchless name, Amen.

    Lucinda

  225. melissa ward says:

    Wow…..this devotiion definitely was written for me! When I lost my son 2 years ago( tomorrow as a matter of fact) my “best friend” disappeared on me…she did t show for the viewing or funeral….no calls, texts, etc…..when I contacted her she was very distant …..I ran into her at the sdtore a few months ago and have been struggling with rekindling our friendship…..she seems very open and ready to pick up like nothing happened but I am still hurting and very leary of getting too close again…this book may be what I need for us to push through and make a new start! Thank you!

  226. Nancy shuman says:

    Lost through death my very best friend who was always there for me three months before we lost one of our daughters…..so needed her presence and support thru these years. Have tried to be one of those friends but am sure I need to reach out more. My prayer often is asking God for that best girl friend!

  227. I liked this devotion!!! It’s very interesting specially when friends and sisters are broken inside too many miscommunication/ misunderstanding,no listening to support my ideas or discuss a real situation is utopic to follow, need help and do not listen!!!! It’s a frustration I love them and be respect not to argue nor controlling lives being friends need support coming from both of us walking side by side keeping track and love eachother soul, dear Lord thank you for Today’s wonderful devotion praying for friends on their own difficulties on their journey in your hands I trust you know their paths give them the strength to follow and protect them give them the wisdom, discernment and knowledge you have the Power of give generously, of comfort, of heal, of forgiveness, of having eternal life…. Amen God bless you!!!

  228. Wow – I’d like to think I’m there for my friends, but yes, sometimes does get in the way.

  229. Sandie Weeks says:

    I’d love to have this book because I need to learn how to draw closer in Christ with my friends instead of allowing busyness, old past hurts, or assumptions to get in the way of our friendships. I want to have deep connections with my friends, but most of my friendships seem to be surface friendships….only knowing minimal things about each other. If that is an issue in me then I need God to reveal that to me. I also want to know how to pray for my friends….right on the spot….not just saying I’ll pray for you and do it later in the privacy of my own home. I want to know how to jump right in and know way to say to them. 🙂

  230. Katieann Dryden says:

    I struggle with this a lot. My best friend from high school and I drifted apart from living different life styles. We are still friends but not as close as we use to be and I miss our relationship so much. But times change people sadly. She is currently going through a hard time, a sudden divorce and pregnant with her second child. It’s hard because I want to be there for her right now and give her encouragement and support but I feel like I can’t be what she needs right now. She has other friends that she is closer to now and no matter how much I try I feel like I am not the friend she feels like she can turn to. But I can pray for her, and I do, and I send her emails to encourage her and invite her to church, the Father seems to always put a message on my Pastors heart that I need to hear and I’d like to share that with her. I just pray that if she will not turn to me for advice and guidance that she will at least listen to the scriptures I’ve sent her and that she will turn to God for guidance and healing.

  231. Barbara says:

    I have had some wonderful friends in my lifetime who have been so caring. I just moved back to my hometown after 30 years and wanted to rekindle the friendships with my friends from high school. We have kept in touch over the years but now that I live here again it’s some how different. I need to learn to be a new friend to them if I want to continue our friendship.

  232. Shannon says:

    I have experienced 3 friends who have had affairs and divorced (or are in the processing of) their husbands. I am so tired of women right now and this book actually piqued my interest. And the kicker is, I love women and have a heart for marriages, but right now I’m so worn out and tired of the infidelity. I just want what God wants. So yes, I would love a copy of this book!!

  233. Ive always struggled in the area of relationships. Id love to lesrn how to become a better friend!!

  234. God gave me the word “change” for this year. One of the areas in my life that He has convicted me to change is how I treat & pray for my friendships. This book would help me grow in this area of my life. Amazing devotion this morning!

  235. Melinda says:

    A friend as close as a sister I once had. Not a day went by that we didn’t see or hear from one another. We shared so much together and confided in one another. There came a trial in my life and looking back I was not walking with the Lord as I should have been. I shared something in my life very personal that disclosed that with my friend. In an instant it changed every thing from that moment forward. I have asked the Lord for forgiveness since that time. In being in God’s word and fellowship with the Lord I look back now and see that my dear friend did not know what to say but was afraid. I was avoided like the plague. Like a light switch was flipped. I would have loved to have been shown in Gods word and lovingly rebuked from my Christian Sister. I love her to this day and will always love her. I would like a copy of this book for the both of us. I would like for our friendship to be restored and renewed.
    In all of this time I have found a wounderful church family and have become very involved in my church. Gods grace has shown me much. Please consider my beloved friend and I for this opportunity of a blessing.
    Sincerely,
    Melinda

  236. I need to learn to speak “soft” truth. I come off wrong with friends. I need guidance in this area

  237. Laura Leonard says:

    I had a friend who was like a sister to me for 12 years. She was Aunt to my daughter’s. Two years ago, she decided she could not be my friend any more because of a choice I had made to befriend someone who had made a horrible mistake in their life. I chose forgiveness for this person and she could not. It is the most painful experience. I still grieve, even years later. I miss her. Perhaps the book would help me come to terms with this.

  238. Great book to open discussions on what it means to be a friend.

  239. Being a good friend is truly a special gift. Sharing our lives with friends makes every celebration more exciting and every sad day more bearable. I would love a copy of your book so I can learn to use the gifts God gave me to be that kind of treasured friend.

  240. Kathy Buckner says:

    Somewhere along the way i lost close relationships with friends. I don’t really have that one close friend that i know i could pick up the phone at any time. I have lots of acquaintances, but no “best” friend. I want to learn to be that kind of friend again, and i desperately want to have that kind of friend again.

  241. Heather Jurasinski says:

    I would love to have a copy of the book. I want to try to be a better listener. Thank you for this opportunity.

  242. Holly Bauman says:

    This book sounds amazing. I Struggle very much with having good friends and being the best friend I can be. I am often selfish a lot and I know I have qualities I can work on while finding out how to always be there for the people who need me. I would like this book for me so I can bless other through it. Thank you for the devotional today!

  243. ingridverdon says:

    well,in my desire to grow,and become a vessel God can use,i certainly identified with the attitudes unveiled in
    the devotion,and became convicted of being essentially unavailable to minister to the anguished with the
    compassion and wisdom of Jesus.Seems like this book can provide guidance in this area,and I would like to have it.

  244. Christi Will says:

    I struggle with friendships. Past hurts….. I would love to read this book!

  245. I would love to win this book. I need to be a better friend. Thank you for the chance to win.

  246. As a woman who lives with a mood disorder I am not always easy to be around. I struggle with depression that hangs on and pushes me down year after year after year. I often have felt that my “friends” both at church and otherwise avoid me, or “Hey, how are you, did you see …” In other words, they don’t even want to hear how I am, just be friendly, friendly and get on with their life. As much as I can, I have tried to reach out and touch the lives of people around me, and many people have valued me and appreciated me walking with them. But they have been “outsiders” like me, and often have not continued in my life, my town. So I live in the small town where I grew up, with a large church community that I am a part of. When something good happens, there is literally no one that I can think of who I can call and share it with, besides my mom. Being at a better place emotionally than I have been for many years, I would love this book to help me grow towards being a better friend. I know we shouldn’t do things to receive, but maybe I would be able to make real friends.

  247. The exact words I needed to hear this morning! As I’m on this journey to become a better child of God, Virtuous Wife, and now a better friend!

  248. I met my best friend in 3rd grade and we had a break-up our sophomore year of high school. My heart broke when our friendship ended. I am now 40 years old and I still have a hard time getting close to girl friends even though I long to have a best friend again.. I would love to read your book.

  249. Shelley Woods says:

    That phrase, “I don’t have the right words, but I am here for you” speaks to my heart. Many times I have avoided people, funerals, troubling situations, etc. just because I was afraid I would use the “wrong” words. This is huge to me! I will use this in the future! Thank you for the insight!

  250. Christine says:

    I have had some break ups with friends over the years and now my teenage daughters are going through similar issues, I would read this book with my girls so they can learn how to have friends that will last a lifetime.

  251. If I selected to win, it is Gods Appointment for this subject to be shared with others. ❤️

  252. I would love to have this book for myself so I can be a better friend and also so I can teach my daughters how to be a better friend! This is a hard subject sometimes. Thank you so much!

  253. I would like this book so that I can be a friend like I have always wanted. This world can be such a lonely place even in the midst of people. So many people need someone to be their friend.

  254. I have never lost friends through conflict yet I have been living with the struggle of building true friendship as an adult. I often feel disheartened when people I am now trying to build with do things I don’t understand that hurt me or how I can effectively help those ladies that I care about without having ugly or insecure thoughts. For the place of transition I am in my life I would love to read this book.

  255. Merinda says:

    I struggle with my friendships daily. Not just at work but outsiude.
    I never that that people truly do like me for me or as a friend.

  256. I lost my husband many years ago and the experience of people being “scared” to visit me afterwards hurt. One couple never forgot me and now they have walked a journey with cancer and death and I was privileged to be there for them. I have learned that you don’t need to say a lot, just sit quietly and/or listen and be the hands and feet of Jesus. I would share your book with friends who often say they wouldn’t know what to do or say! We don’t go in our own strength, God will be with them and they will be blessed as I have been so many times.

  257. Rene Ball says:

    I can use help in knowing what to say

  258. Jessica says:

    I love The Bible story included in today’s devotion. What a blessing to have friends like Job did. I am blessed to have friends. I know it is only through God that I have such an incredible group of friends. They have loved me through my ups and down, my stubborness, my tempter, my sins, my losses, my gains, and all the times in between. I feel selfish for ever taking them for granted. I praise God for the women He has placed in my life. I know now they are all part of His Plan for me. Thank You Heavenly Father for knowing my weaknesses and my strengths and for finding me friends that would understand them. Thank You for being the BEST Friend I could ever have. I love you.

  259. Tracie Evans says:

    I have always struggled with being a friend due to the environment I grew up in. I came from a single mother home with 11 older siblings. My mother worked a lot and I was left with a few siblings most of my childhood. My siblings weren’t very friendly and as a result I have had problems in my day to day life with not only friends but coworkers and strangers. I know the Bible says in order to have a friend one must show himself friendly. I have loss many friends over the years for ine reason or another. However, in my latter years I’d like to make unshakeable, immovable, faithful lasting friends, and I’d like to be the same to everyone!

    God bless!

    Tracie Evans

  260. I’ve often felt like the “extra” friend. Other women have those best girlfriends to lean on or others in their life and so often I’m the extra friend or third wheel. I’ve lost friendships due to my faith and standing firm in it; however, I’ve gained so many more and my friendship with our God and my spouse has grown exponentially these past few years so I’m slowly becoming okay with being that “extra” friend to others.

  261. Susan McIntosh says:

    I could use a dear friend today myself! I would love to have this book to help me be that friend to someone else who is in need! Thank you

  262. I would like this copy for myself. I have some friends who have been through hard times and sometimes I just don’t know what to say in their presence. I pray for them, but when I see them I feel awkward and uncertain. I think this book could help show me how to be that Godly, encouraging friend.

  263. Conflict is so hard for me. I avoid it at all costs especially with my friends. I would rather ignore it or concede rather than confront. I would love to read this and handle conflict better and with God as my guide. This book sounds great!

  264. Cheryl Royal says:

    I have a friend suffering from severe loneliness after losing her husband and Mom within 9 months.

  265. NANCY S. WETHINGTON says:

    DEAREST PRECIOUS NIECE OF MINE, HOW TOUCHING AND TRUE THIS WORD FOR TODAY IS. BEING A CHAPLAIN, IT RINGS SO TRUE IN MY HEART AND IS EXACTLY WHAT HURTING PEOPLE NEED. TO JUST LISTEN AND SAY “I AM PRAYING FOR YOU.” IS PRICELESS WHEN YOU ARE IN PAIN. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR LOVE, AGAIN. IN HIS UNFAILING LOVE, AUNT NANCYSUE XO

  266. I too would like long lasting friendships, not sure what it is but I find myself without close friendships. Maybe that old saying “be a friend to have a friend”, applys to me. Would like to have a copy of this book!

  267. Deborah Hailey says:

    I would love a copy for myself. I want to be the best friend that I possibly can be, but I do not want to impose or as your devotion suggested, be insensitive or come across as knowing it all. Sounds like a good book. Friends are very important to me!

  268. Great message, thank you for sharing. We need to be the friend we want to have, whether in good times or bad. God bless.

  269. I was just asking the Lord this week to help me to learn how to become a friend.

  270. Kim Long says:

    I would love to learn to be a better friend & not see relationships go away

  271. Ginny Hager says:

    I want to be the best friend I can be. Only God can help us do this. We need to constantly be on our knees asking Him for help.

  272. I had a friend break up about a year ago. I also have a friend who is always there for me and when I tried to be there for her my words hurt her deeply. I thought I lost her at the worst time in her life when only a year before she got me through the worst time of my life. I am not good and never really have been good at making, being or keeping friends. I work very hard to keep the friends that I do have now. It is a lot of work and it feels uncomfortable. Please, this book could help to alleviate some if the stress I feel over friendship.

  273. Melanie says:

    I struggle with close friendships with other women. I’m always so insecure about what I need to say or do, have a hard time being myself and just trusting that they might actually like me. I’m getting better I think, as I try to reach out, but I would love to have this resource.

  274. Cheryl E says:

    I’ve allowed myself to become isolated and I feel God calling me to make time for godly friendship. I would love to read this book and then pass it along to a friend. Thanks for a chance to win.

  275. Oh this book would be so beneficial not only for me but for a friend who made some poor decisions and is living the consequences. Little did she know those would also include several friends “breaking-up” with her. I would love to give this book to her, AND get together over coffee to read it with her…just to be there for her when it seems like the world is against her. But we know Greater is He who is in us than he that is in the world!
    Thank you!

  276. Barbra Moran says:

    I have several heart sisters that are such blessings to me. I want to make sure I do all I can to be a blessing in return. This book sounds like a great tool toward that goal.

  277. Cris Kaster says:

    I could use this book. Due to moves and their bad business deals and life, I feel like friends have abandoned me. I need to learn to be a better friend to FIND better friends.

  278. I want to be the friend to others that I need during my difficult times. Good word, Natalie

  279. Patty Matlock says:

    I enjoyed today’s thoughts. It immediately brought to mind a specific friend – one that can accept soft truths with an open mind. Thank you!

  280. This devotional hit home for me, so many times I have let others be there for “others” because of fear of saying the wrong thing or not saying anything at all & being seen as insinsitive, or not wanting to take the time out of my organized schedule to help someone out. My prayer is to put into action what He has called each of us to do, “love others because He first loved us.” Thank you for your words of encouragement.

  281. I would love to have the book because it would help me to be a better Christain friend to my friends. I always had a hard time to making friends because of my deafness and my speech. The devotional is a great and that what I need to read.

  282. We never can be too young or too old to learn how to be a better friend. This has been my prayer and your book will help me continue to learn. Then I will pass it on! 🙂

  283. Thank you for this devotion. It actually came at the perfect time for me to be reminded to be there or others.
    Thank you!

  284. Sandrea Goree says:

    I would like this devotion so that I can better communicate and express myself without coming off as an insensitive person.

  285. Ashley S. says:

    Sounds like an interesting read. Would love to build closer friendships!

  286. Donna Waldrop says:

    I would love to win a copy of your book. I am a pastor’s wife and friendships do not come easy. The past year has been a very hard year between churches. Friendships have been strained and some have not been what I hoped and needed them to be. Now it’s time to move on but how do I do that? Praying through this hard part of life. Enjoyed your devotion and I think I would enjoy the book!
    Thanks and blessings,
    Donna

    • Joanna Jarvis says:

      Being a Pastor’s wife is never easy but it can be a true blessing and ministry. there are certain expectation placed on you and of course you don’t want to let people down….but it is God to whom we answer to. Follow your heart and do what is pleasing to the Lord, listen and He will direct your paths. We are responsible for what we do and how we act not for other people. How others respond to what we do is their problem not ours. We need only to keep our eyes fixed upon Jesus and be obedient to Him. Have faith, be strong and be encouraged and remember you already have one of the Best Friends ever…Jesus. God bless you sister!

  287. Donna Waldrop says:

    I would love to win a copy of your book. I am a pastor’s wife and friendships do not come easy. The past year has been a very hard year between churches. Friendships have been strained and some have not been what I hoped and needed them to be. Now it’s time to move on but how do I do that? Praying through this hard part of life. Enjoyed your devotion and I think I would enjoy the book! Thanks and blessings, Donna – See more at: http://proverbs31.org/devotions/devo/the-value-of-showing-up-for-a-friend/#comment-291349

  288. Jennifer O. says:

    Five years ago, we moved to my husband’s hometown. We live on the farm in the house he grew up in. Making friends in a small town where everyone already knows each other is so hard. It seems like everyone already has their own circle of friends. I have met many nice people, but I would consider them to be only aquaintances, not friends. Living in the country is very peaceful and beautiful, but it can also be isolating. I have some friends that live a distance away and being intentional about making plans to just have lunch together can be difficult between my 4 kids’ activities, work, and other family obligations (and they have the same busy schedule as me). I would love to read the book and then pass it on to someone else who needs it as well.

  289. Debbie Rosslan says:

    I would like to win the book because right now my sister and I are struggling in our relationship. We both need to learn to be better friends to one another and communicate in the appropriate way.
    God Bless!

  290. shanda heller says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement today. It was a great reminder to plug in to the lives of our friends .
    We should never be too busy to say “I’m here for you” and be able to take a few moments to sit down. We were created for true companionship and to share the love of Jesus. I was convicted today that I’ve been too busy with personal commitments and that has hindered me from shining bright for our Savior in a world of hurting people.

  291. CarrieC says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book so that I could learn to be the same kind of friend that my own “heart sister” is to me!

  292. My two oldest sisters both lost their husbands in the past 2 years and we also lost our Mother in that time. I want to learn how to be there for them after the fact. After all life goes on with everyone around them, but almost stops for them! I want to learn to be a better listener and do-er for not just my sisters in blood, but my sisters in faith. We all need support and to learn to support each other in every circumstance, not just in the devastating ones.

  293. I have lost a dear friend over the last couple of years and I’m not sure why, or to what. I reached out and let her know how much I cherished her and our friendship but received no answers. I think about her and other “lost” friends every day and the pain, guilt and questions remain. I would love to figure out what I can do to ” be there” as a friend.

  294. I have so many “heart sisters ” that God has blessed me with that I don’t want to lose, ever. They’ve held my hand and I need to learn how to hold theirs!

  295. Jean Fitzwater says:

    This is something I struggle with and would love to have a copy.

  296. I’d love a copy of the book. As an introvert, I always need encouragement to put myself out there to make friends.

  297. I would love to win this book, as I have lost a few friendships over the years.

  298. Barbara C. says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book for myself. I went through a really hard time in my life about 7 years about with a suicide attempt on my life. I was hospitalized for 12 days and put on medication. I didn’t tell my closet friends for fear of what they would say to even do. I lived without support during a 3 year struggle to come back to a better me. To this day, I have only told a few people that are close to me, but I have also shared my testimony in the hopes that my story would one day help someone in the same situation. I want to give back the things I have learned that helped me. I know that the Lord was an intrical part of this journey and I would not have come out on the other side without him. I struggle everyday still to let those closest to me in, for fear of rejection or abandonment issued. I think that part of my problem is reaching out and asking for help, I often help others in their situations with prayer or words of encouragement. I think that this book will help me to revive and renew and restore those relationships long forgotten.

    Thank you for giving this devotion today.
    GOD BLESS you continually

  299. D'ana H says:

    Tge struggle is real!!! Would love to win this & then pass it along to all my friends!!!

  300. I would appreciate more guidance on being a better friend! This is an area I struggle with when there is conflict or am challenged to go deeper. Thanks!

  301. I have a friend that went through an affair and then a divorce. Some of our friends separated themselves from her and I believe the hurt is still there. I would love to read and then share the book with her.

  302. Michelle says:

    Thank you for the gift of your words to remind us that our Presence is truly the Greatest Gift we can give another!

  303. Heather Purvis says:

    I lost two good friends about a year ago. I live in a small community and am a stay at home mom, so there aren’t a lot of other women to be friends with. I’m tired of being alone….I’d love some biblical insight to help me change my heart issues.

  304. Melissa Scott says:

    I don’t know the right words to say, but God is always faithful. Thank you for this devotion. I lift up Kim today and her husband Rob. No words…love

  305. It was so interesting that this was the devotional today. I’ve actually been thinking about looking into this book… I know the gal who has helped market it and have heard about it through her. I’ve really been struggling with friendships lately and wondered if it would be a good resource for me but also for the women in my church. I have found that typically, if I’m struggling with something, then someone else is too!
    Thank you for the opportunity to win this book as well as share through the devotionals!
    Blessings!

  306. As women we have to stick together and stick up for one another. My goal is to always speak life and give encouragement in my friends lives, but unfortunately sometimes that isn’t an easy thing to do. I live away from family so my friends have become like my sisters, I would love to be able to be there more for them and my two younger sisters back home. This book would be lovely to have!

  307. I feel as if I can always be a better friend. What a great book and an encouraging way to find out how.

  308. Betsy Bailey Barnes says:

    I want to learn how to be a better friend and just this morning I prayed and asked for the Lord to let me see the more gentle Fruits of the Spirit in my life.

  309. Ginger M. says:

    I have made many mistakes and would like to move forward in a positive manner and have better relationships.

  310. I find Job’s life story similar to what I’ve experienced. As a result of my personality, style/jest for life and care for folk I’ve suffered a friend loss. The relationship was a twenty plus year one. Having helped with my friends’ children, graduations, birthday celebrations, funerals and the like, she has caused emotional anxiety, stress and isolation. I would like her to have a copy to help her understand the impact the loss has had on me and others in our ‘circle of friends’

  311. Karla Kane says:

    I am preparing to go back to Myanmar to minister to women. I feel that all of us are called to “friendship ministry.” This book sounds like a good tool to prepare me to continue my friendship ministry and to teach the concept. Thank you.

  312. I’ve been praying for a “new best friend” for years. Maybe I need to be a new best friend to someone. this would help me know how to be that for someone since my prayer hasn’t been working out for me!!

  313. I’m an introvert and struggle with having the right words often.

  314. Rose Adams says:

    I would like a copy of the book “Showing Up For a Friend” for myself so I can learn more about being there for a friend. Thank you very much.

  315. Rosa Gomez says:

    Great message! I have been feeling guilty lately by not making the time to be with a friend from church. I need to learn how to be the friend that God knows she needs so I can be a blessing to her. For years I struggle with truly/honest friendships myself and I would love to reach out to those ladies that feel alone. Thank you for the daily devotionals! God Bless you!

  316. Abby Hisel says:

    I would love a copy of this book! I struggle with making lasting friendships too. It seems like all my friendships now are through my children’s parents, but they are very surface level and never result in getting together or doing anything outside of when our kids get together. No would love to give the time and respect to people to let them know I care about them not just their kids.

  317. Roxanne Langley says:

    This literally just happened to me this past week. I let someone’s words dictate my thoughts and just needed a friend to sit and be. At the same time in reading this I was reminded I need to be that same friend to another. Thank you.

  318. Mydalis says:

    In our church we are just studying about this. We were talking about when someone has been out for a while because they are going through stuff that we don’t exactly know about, what wors can we give besides we are praying for you? I would love to get a copy of this book, we need all the info when can get our hands on. God bless your hands and continue writing awesome books for his glory.

  319. Jennifer says:

    I don’t always know what to say to a hurting friend/family member. My best way to handle this is to pray and let God.

  320. I sometimes counsel women in ministry as part of my job as a Psychology Resident, and I would love to have this book to provide as a resource to the women I serve. I believe that women need other women, but this is especially true for women in ministry.

  321. Michelle says:

    This message came at a perfect time when I stuggle with how to be the friend God wants me to be even though I have been hurt by these friends. Trying to learn how to let go of these feelings and turn to God for his perfect guidance. Would love to read this book for more insight!

  322. I would love to read this book. I have been praying for God to help me meet some true friends.

  323. I would love to win a copy! Thanks!

  324. Tamy Pollman says:

    Thank you for your message. This message came at a good time. Sixteen years I started going through a rough pass as my husband went into the hospital on July 24 and never came out. He passed away on August 24. During that time our first grandchild was born and we celebrated his 41 birthday on August 13. If it hadn’t been for friends I wouldn’t have made it through that time. They still know this time of year is tough for me and they don’t have to say anything they just know I am hurting. It’s amazing what a hug will do. God bless you.

  325. Joanna Jarvis says:

    There are always times when we inadvertently say the wrong thing to a sister in Christ, for whatever reason. It could be they did something that bothered us, we were having a bad day, what they did reminded us of something we would sooner forget or because what they said or did was something we too were guilty of but did not at the time see. It is good to have scriptural truths to help us to understand and cope with relationship breakdowns among our sisters in Christ. Natalie’s book sounds like it will be a good resource and healing balm. I would very much like to have a copy. God bless.

    • Joanna Jarvis says:

      I also want to add that this message was very appropriate and came at a good time. I have a friend who does not know the Lord who lost her estranged husband when he shot himself in front of her. I do not have the words or even the ability to fully understand what she is going through but the message confirmed that just being there for her is just as important. I told her if she needed anything to call and she has, for help with a yard sale for the belongings in the house. So thank you for your message.

  326. I would give this book to my 23 year old daughter, who is going through some struggles with putting distance between her and some of her friends, who are doing things that my daughter doesn’t want to be a part of.

  327. Michelle says:

    THIS is my season of life right now. I’ve endured a tragedy for the last 12 weeks. Nearly all of my friends have disappeared. In addition to navigating the crisis, I have also struggled with the abandonment and silence of those I thought loved me. I do forgive them, but I won’t forget. And I will use this experience to make me a better friend. <3 I've also learned that in the darkest coldest loneliest places, that is where God became my best friend.

  328. Clara Gonzalez says:

    My very good friend kept something from me and I felt so hurt. After I had been there for her and was there when she needed me even leaving my comfort zone to go places where she wanted. She has been there for me and I appreciated that. But then there were things that bothered me about her but I never wanted to hurt her feelings.She had been complaining for a long time about the circumstances in her life and I just let it go and didn’t address the issue as not to complicate things. I prayed for her and was there so when she denied me information I asked of her that was it I had enough. I kind of brushed her away and since she had kept what I needed from her I did not want to make the situation worse by bringing up all her complaints.So we haven’t spoken in over six months I miss her and I wish I could of handled the situation better.But the complaints got to me because her situation in life was better than mine but I wasn’t complaining about my job and family and finances. But I believe there was a better way to go about it then to stop speaking to her.
    That’s why I would like a copy of this book I am hoping it can help me find a way to approach this situation and apologize to her and work out our differences. That way we can be friends again.
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    Thanks for considering me .

  329. Anita Moore says:

    This devotional was right on point. We have been talking to our daughter on how to be a good friend. I realized that maybe I need a self check. I need to be sure that I am demonstrating to her how to be a good friend.

    I also like the comment to say when you really don’t know what to say to a friend who is hurting. I have also sent texts to friends letting them know I am thinking of them, and then said no need to respond.

  330. Right now I am struggling with friendships. Losing friends and being the friend I desire to have. Really needing this book for clarity and understanding.

  331. Kimberly says:

    I just came out of a season of doubt – we call it my “angry atheist” stage and I’m rediscovering my relationship with God and my girlfriends that have always been examples of Him to me in my life. It’s been so very difficult to humble myself and ask that each one take me back into their life and I don’t feel equipped or deserving to be their friend. I feel like a child learning to walk and talk again. I would love to read this book to help me learn how to be there for them. Thank you so much. Love, Kimberly

  332. Suzanne says:

    I’d love to win this book! I have a tendency of always saying things that don’t come out as I had intended them, and have lost some friends because of it… I need some help on this…

  333. Marilyn Dauer says:

    I facilitate Grief Share at my church. I think this book will have good information to share with those whose friends have left them down. It will also help me to be a better friend to those who are hurting.

  334. Rebecca Maddox says:

    My daughter, 20 yrs old, my husband and I just moved back to the United States after being out of the country for 9 years as a family. A month after we moved, my husband left us and decided he wanted to be “single”.
    Since then, my daughter and I recently moved to Austin to begin a life here. We are both learning to literally start over, especially with friendships. Pray that God will lead us to the right “forever friends” and to help us know how to be a blessing to them too.

  335. Addie Stevens says:

    I felt led to the site this morning after reconnecting with two women, whom I was very close to in college. I had a falling out with both of them, but we chose to forgive one another yesterday. Life is too short. I’m positive this message was meant for me today. I would love to read the book, then pass along to the women that I am working to rebuild a relationship with. What a blessing it would be.

  336. I needed that encouragement today. I need to become the find of friend I want to have.

  337. Rhoda Vaughn says:

    Thank you for this reminder. Too often we run from uncomfortable situations- your presence is the best present to a friend who is hurting.

  338. I was deeply hurt by someone whom I thought was a BFF. AFter reading the meditation for today I realized my hurt is still real and it is still difficult for me to forgive. Betrayal, lies and deceit hurt. This person is a minister.

  339. I’m not going to unload my basket of dirty laundry…my difficulties, or perceived difficulties, with friends and being a friend is a daily burden. I need to learn and act on better ways or I’m going to be even lonelier as time goes on. If I don’t win a copy of this book, I’ll try to buy it. Either way I’ll get my hands on it and let it’s words brush me off, fill me up, and give me the strength I need to become the friend I need to and want to be. Blessings and prayers to all who read the devotion and/or have left a comment.

  340. Wendy Bell says:

    I have a heart for women and would love a copy of this book to help me be their kids do of friend we all need. I’m have been through a lot of hurt in life and know they value of having such a friend.

  341. Friendships are hard no matter the age!

  342. I’m always interested in strengthening my friendships with others and appreciate any advice on how to do so. This would be a great resource!

  343. Susan Monroe says:

    I would love this book. Have a friend that has a conflict in her life right now that has her wondering who her friends are. Maybe this would help her!

  344. Hi there! I woul love to win a copy of your book! I have prayed many years for a real friend. Someone who just gets you. I have always made friends but never true ones. When I hit my thirties God blessed me with a wonderful friend whom I am so thankful for! We really bring out the best in each other and I want to continue to do so for many years to come! Our faith is sharpened by each other and our accountability to stay in faith is cherished. God has helped me through many difficult friendships and gifted me this one in which I am so grateful for having to wait for it! it was worth it!!! <3

  345. Nellie C. says:

    Thanks for this post. A friend recently lost her brother unexpectedly. I was at a complete loss for words. What a great reminder that our presence speaks louder than words during situations of loss, heartache, and pain. Thanks again!

  346. Elaine in North Tx. says:

    These situations come up all the time. Hopefully this will help me be a better friend.

  347. I would also like this book for my two daughters and myself. We all struggle with keeping good friends. We go over board to make them happy, when in return they hurts us over and over. We were taught to treat others as we would like to be treated. Sometimes that doesn’t work. Been praying for my girls.

  348. Sue Athenas says:

    I would be blessed to have a copy!!!

  349. Rachel Z. says:

    I’ve gone through the heartache of breaking up with a friend, crying out to God to help heal my heart, and felt the loneliness that followed. For what felt like forever, I can remember crying in the shower wondering if I was ever going to find another friend who I felt as close to. Little by little another friend cropped up in my life and I watered and nurtured our friendship. I was so overjoyed because God give me a new close friendship. He blessed me with a true genuine loving friendship that I was able to manage.
    I don’t want to ruin this friendship so I would love a copy of your book to help maintain and gain more friends.

  350. Amy Kauderer says:

    After being ostracized is middle school I have long felt and dealt with the abandonment of friends and being lonely yet craving friendships. Now 20+ years later I am leading women’s ministry at our church and have seen how God is using my experiences to reach fearful broken women who need a safe friend. This book could be instrumental in continuing that path of ministry as well as guide other women in our church on the path of reaching women for Christ. Thank you for publishing this book!

  351. Pat Cooper says:

    I read the Proverbs 31 devotions everyday and enjoy them so much! I am not the type to leave a comment but I was so convicted of God’s gentle voice to be more intentional with my friends. I was shocked to read so many women struggling with the same issues with friends that I do. I thought I was the only one who gets too busy or too scared to take the first step for reconciliation or just think I don’t need close friends because I feel left out. Thank you for writing this book

  352. Heather says:

    I have friends drop me and I wonder what I did wrong. I want to learn to be a good friend.

  353. Great devotion. I would love a copy of the book because I want to learn how to be a better friend. Making friends seems so easy when you are a child, but for some reason making adult friends seems hard.

  354. Probably one of my biggest struggles in my Christian walk due to past hurts. I would love to have this book for the insight into healing this wound.

  355. Sheri Baer says:

    Would love to know how to be a better friend to my hurting friends

  356. Rejection? Abandoned? Broken? Tossed away like an old pair of shoes…yes! Lock the doors, close the blinds, turn off the lights! Hurt. Worn. Bleeding. How do I move forward? How can I trust again? How can I forgive? Unfortunately, this is where I find myself today. These are the issue’s I’m dealing with. Those that I have loved the most, are the very ones that have hurt me the most! I am struggling. I would like to read, Heart Sisters, as I seek to restore and renew broken relationships and broken hearts. Thank you.

  357. So needed this devotion today with recent struggles with a friend. Regardless of what I perceive her behavior to be, I still need to be a friend. Would love to have a copy of this book!

  358. Diane Gotschall says:

    I have often needed a friend to be there for me and I have often needed to be that friend for someone else.I don’t always feel that I meet the needs of those around me. I would love to read this book!!

  359. Leslie Harris says:

    Would love to read this book!

  360. Crystal Bruxvoort says:

    I would appreciate the chance to share this book! I would give it to my daughter who is going to college and desires to have meaningful relationships. People, though, baffle her and I am always looking for ways to help her in this way. I think better understanding how to be a friend would help to strengthen her understanding of friendship, and also her understanding of how Christ desires to “friend” her. Thank you for this opportunity!

  361. Joyce wood says:

    I have a friend just like this. But I really don’t think she wants me as her friend. I feel she don’t think I’m good enough for her new group of friends. I was in the delivery room with one of her kids. I was there when she found a lump in her breast ,I went to the dr with her.

  362. Caitlin Newman says:

    I would love to win this book! I have had conflict with a friend for years! She is now my sister-in-law and restoring our friendship seems hopeless after all the damage that has been done. 🙁

  363. Would love to be that girl

  364. Robyn Montgomery says:

    My 17 year old daughter is one of the strongest teens I’ve ever known. She has her own personal disabilities to deal with but you would never know it. That is not what defines her. Abby is a friend to so many and the role model I wish I had as a friend in high school. This year she is serving as Captajn to her dance team but more importantly, she is the team Chaplain. She struggles many times to find the words to put 24 egos in check and encourage young women to lift up each other and not tear each other down. Being part of a team is more than being called a team member. To be successful each girl needs to accept the other despite their differences to work together for a common goal. This can be hard for teens and for girls especially. Healing words are needed more often than necessary. I know our girls would benefit from devotions broight from a healing perspective. “I’m sorry” comes easily sometimes. “I forgive you” is much harder to say. Thank you for considering Abby and her team for a copy of the book to use as a devotional material. It’s so nice that at our school the Word of God is not yet discouraged!

  365. Bjoyce Bonner says:

    I went to bed very late last night. A friend (neighbor) rang my doorbell at 7 am this morning. I was still asleep and started to ignore her ringing. The Holy Spirit said, “get up, and answer her ringing.” She was very confused and did not realize that someone is scheduled to pick her up at 9:30 am to take her to the Senior center. I told her to go back home and wait. Instead, she insisted on walking to the bus stop. As she walked away, I went inside and closed the door. She had to cross some very busy intersections; but I tried to brush this aside and crawled back in bed. The Holy Spirit said, “No! Call her daughter who lives 2 hours away. Being obedient, I called her daughter. She was very troubled because her mother is experiencing mental lapses. I told her I would get in my car and pick her up before she reached the bus stop. I was finally able to persuade her to return to her house. When we got there, the aide was ringing her doorbell. Again, we went through trying to get her to understand that the Center would not open until 10 am; and she needed to get breakfast before going to the Center. She was not very cooperative, but through God’s amazing Holy Spirit, the aide and I were able to bring peace to the situation and allay her fears. My sleep was interrupted! My friend would not listen initially! Her daughter was worrying at a distance! I was thinking that this is going to be a long day and I am already sleep deprived. But thanks be to God, her daughter called back later and I was able to say, “the situation is under control!” After this early morning episode, I settled in to read Proverbs 31 Daily Devotions. And to my surprise the Creator had affirmed my actions through your prophetic words, The Value of Showing Up for A friend. Thank you for validation and inspiration. I would like a copy for my friend/neighbor. May God continue to pour into you what others need to know and hear Now!

  366. Madelyne says:

    This devotional really spoke to my heart. This past year, I had a college friend whom I have known and loved for 25 years and who I supported and considered close to write me a letter “divorcing” herself from me. It was a mean-spirited letter that was like a bullet to my heart and the reasons she gave for ending our friend ship were unclear. The letter truly had my heart shaken. As a Christian, I have asked the Lord for forgiveness for the 10% of truth that was in that letter and to not harbor any bitterness towards her, but to pray for her, however this death has been difficult. I believe I could benefit greatly from your biblical perspective. Thanks so much for writing a book to help Christians with friendship.

  367. I have a child who is hurting so badly over a friend break-up that she thought about suicide. She still struggles with this daily and the feeling of worthless was generated by how this break-up of friendship and sisterhood came to be. We could write a novel about these experiences. I think this book may help her figure out how to clear these things from her mind and change her focus back to God. I would love to give the book to my adult daughter.
    Thanks
    Leslie

  368. Lindsay says:

    I would a chance to win this book because, unfortunately, I have been that friend who is scarce when times are hard. Today’s devotional really spoke to my heart in an eye-opening and heartbreaking kind of way – I realize that I have lost many great friends because I was not there for them when they needed me to just sit with them or tell them I am here for them. Regardless of winning a copy of this book, this is obviously an area I need to work on.

  369. julia bravo says:

    I would like a free copy in order to be a better friend, sometimes I feel I have no true friends, most are family members.

  370. I would love to read this book! I will share it with my daughter who is struggling with friendships.

  371. I would love a copy of the book for myself! But I also think it would be a wonderful small group to start at our church! “Life is better in circles!”

  372. Thanks for this post.
    I would love to read this book and have it on hand to give someone – maybe someone who is a friend of someone else going through a really hard time. Years ago, when I had my daughter who has significant disabilities, I tried to make sense of some of the feelings I had of being disappointed in some close friends and family members who in hindsight, probably just didn’t know what to say or do. Sometimes I think I am still to heal. I think this book could help me make sense of my own difficulties during that time, and also sense of others’ feelings – all in the context of faith in God.
    Thanks for the opportunity to win a copy.

  373. Phyllis says:

    This is one of the best devotional I have seen in a long time. Certainly applicable to many of us. Really hit home in my case. Thank you for the reminder, being present in someone’s life is a great present.

  374. Lynda Shenk says:

    I give time to my daughter by taking care of her four children so she can play and spend time with her biological father. The first 22 years of her life he was not around. Yet she and I never have time to be together without children and spouses. I would hope this book could give me some insight to helping me in this relationship

  375. Yolanda Blatz says:

    My best friend is moving away in a week and it brakes my heart. I really can’t understand why they’re moving cause they had a good job here, alot of friends and a church they say there really going to miss. So i would love to read the book and see if I could take it better and not feeling so hurt and angry at times about it.

  376. I was so touched by your message in today’s encouragement. You pointed out that so many times we allow distractions or fear of what to say and how to respond keep us from being there for a friend. I would love to read more of your work on how to be a better friend as a woman who truly wants to be a Godly influence to other women and especially my friends in time of need. Most importantly to reflect on how to be the friend that God calls me to be on a daily basis in spite of all the demands from being a wife, mother if three and working full time. Just from your post today, I know additional nuggets for thought and response of how to be a better friend are in your book. I would love to be blessed with a copy of it.

  377. Carol B says:

    I would like to have this book. I have really been there for my friend when she needed me. Now I am struggling and need my friend but she’s not here for me. I know He is with me and I’m not alone but it would be nice to have my friend to bounce things off of.

  378. Amy Ambrose says:

    I love having girlfriend get togethers. Love the fellowship.

  379. Timely topic for my current situation. I would love a copy for myself.

  380. Struggling with the reaction of a friend that I had been ministering too, when I realized that I was being submerged under the weight of her trials. I have pulled away and she is so angry. Not a healthy situation but I am afraid to reconnect. She is being loved on by others so I have not left her alone but still her reaction is hurtful.

  381. Michelle Latham says:

    I am very excited about reading this book. I think that true friends are very important to have and I hope that I am always there for mine when they need me.

  382. I would love to have a copy of this!

  383. Melonie says:

    I struggle with this every week. I have so many friends that have needs and I work a full time job. Being exhausted at the end of the day and still having to attend to my own family I feel like I’m failing my friends. There is just not enough hours in the day. I would really like to read this book, perhaps it will give me insight on how I can better juggle my time and find creative ways to be an encouragement. Thank you.

  384. I’m not always a very good friend; I want to learn to become one. I would like a copy of this book.

  385. Love this book and the message!! Would love to win to give as a gift for a friend. 🙂

  386. Rosie Scott says:

    Your devotional on friendship is so special to me today as I’ve been blessed with some dear friends who’ve been with me through cancer and othwr difficulties. I’d love to learn to be that kind of friend. I know your book could help me in this endeavor if I win it.

  387. As we all strive to be better wifes, daughters, mothers, sisters, and friends.

  388. One of my best friends has just been diagnosed with multiple myeloma. Thank you for posting this because in this new technological age, I feel we have all lost personal touch with even our best friends. We have gone into a silent world. This friend of mine has the happiest voice on earth and is a real encourager. I would love to have this book.

  389. Dara Montgomery says:

    I have a friend whose childhood was so different than mine and it would be great to have a book to turn to when she asks me for advice.

  390. Rian Ryan says:

    I coordinate a MOPS group and would love to have this as a book to give away to a mom this year!

  391. Thank you so much for your devotion. It really spoke to me. I have a neuromuscular disease and am unable to drive. I would love to have a girlfriend really be there for me. I have reached out and been there as much as I can for my friends by phone calls, cards etc. but have been hurt many times for feeling “forgotten” I know people are busy with their families etc. and I have accepted that and have really tried to not have any expectations for friendship. Jesus is and always will be my best friend. He never lets me down and is always there for me! I would love to have this book!

  392. I lost 3 family members and then I had surgery all within a months time. I’m recooperating just now. I thought my life group from church would be there for me, but I haven’t heard from anyone. One of the ones I lost was my mother in law. She has worked tirelessly in our church. She was very well known and loved. So, why not even a card in the mail? I’m 54 yrs d and one of the youngest in my life group. These people are 10-17 yrs older than I. I thought they would know how to encourage someone.
    I would love your book because I don’t want to be like my life group. I want to be there for others.

  393. Would really love a copy. Recently lost contact with a friend & not sure what to do with our relationship. Thank you!

  394. I need this book for myself! I let myself get so consumed with my needs and the needs of my family, that I don’t see what is going on with my friends.

  395. Barbara says:

    Friendship is so important, along with listening and being there for a friend. I would like to get a copy to read and then share with those in my life who are struggling with so much.

  396. I have a very difficult time making and keeping true friends. After having finally found the one true friend, she abandoned her family (and me) to go after a high school flame. Even after 5 years, the pain of abandonment is still there.

  397. Mary Ann says:

    Knowing what to say is an area of my life where I need to be better. My mouth seems to get me in trouble without meaning to! Love to read the book to help with relationships..

  398. Keesha King says:

    I would love to learn more about friendships!

  399. Loved your devotional, so many times it’s not what you say, it’s who you are! I would love to read your book!

  400. I am struggling with friendships these days. We moved to Texas a few years ago and I am yet to make a lasting friend here. I have friends from my hometown – just none here. I can really use this book and this study right now.

    Thanks,
    Sue

  401. Melanie A. says:

    I have always been the one to give and be there, but in my times of need have had no one show up. I’ve always been envious of those who talk about how their friends rally around in time of need. My husband and I have been through a few pretty big storms this last year and we’ve pretty much been on our own other than God. I know in my heart He is all we need, but I also know we need friendships. I’d love to have this book for more insight.

  402. serina griffith says:

    I am a new christian and I want to learn how to be a better friend the kind that Jesus teaches us to be. I just had the most powerful experience at church , feeling the LORDS embrace. I felt the depression leave my body as the church Elders laid hands on me. GOD Himself healed me and I want to learn all I can to be a better child to JESUS the LORD GOD !

  403. Thank you for this word today. I desire to be the kind of friend who shows up, but it is something you must purpose and practice. And likewise, I want to surround myself with the kind of friends that can show up for me. It’s something Ive been thinking alot about lately. The traits to look for in others..the ones to develop in myself. The old saying is so true..you must be a friend to have one. And nothing is greater than being and having a true friend.

  404. The one friend I loved and cherished more than any other, spent countless hours with, shared everything, suddenly began to leave our friendship, then moved to another state (and I only found out through Facebook), leaving my heart hurt and bewildered because to this day I have no idea what happened. As I currently go through the worst time of my life, I need that kind of friend and I have none. During this time, I have drawn closer and closer to my Father – the best friend a girl could ever have! Nothing could be better than that! However, I want to BE that earthly kind of friend to someone because I know what it feels like to be alone and friendless and desperately needing that “girlfriend coffee time” with someone who understands and can speak truth and love – sometimes even just in the silence by their very presence.

  405. Kay Hubbard says:

    I am a mom, wife and therapist. I often use truths and principles I learn from God through reading my Bible, as well as, other books to help myself and my clients who are hurting and in pain.

  406. Loriann says:

    I met my best friend ever when our husbands were stationed together as police officers. Just like military wives, we shared the same feelings and fears for our husbands and families. For this reason, we bonded quickly and the bond is strong. Carla is not a Christian, but has always respected my relationship with Jesus and I am always the first person she calls when things go wrong. A few years ago, our husbands had a “falling out”. This put a huge strain on our relationship, but we have always stayed in touch. Our children are around the same ages and have grown up like brothers and sisters. Last year, her 22 year old son died unexpectedly and I immediately was there. Believe me, this was one of those moments there were no words for, but I know that my presence was necessary. I continue to be that presence when I feel called to be, however, I still lack words at times. I would like to have this book to encourage me to keep being there when friends are in need and to share Christ’s love with those who have not yet accepted Him.

  407. Mary Clark says:

    I had a friend like that we were friends for years did everything together Brought her into my family because she had no one Her family wouldn’t talk to her One day on her birthday I didn’t get a chance to call her because I was with my husbands family all day it was Fathers day weekend My sister in law who I never see was in town I did wish her a happy birthday in a message and that I will call her the next day Mind you I celebrated with her the week before took her to dinner knowing I would not see her on her birthday she was camping When I messaged her she was mad and said she would never do that to me and refused to talk to me even though I apologized in a phone call Letter card and text She said my family was more important then her and my husbands family didn’t like her Mind you she is a grown woman I figured God didn’t want her in my life I have met a new friend Who shares the love of Jesus as I do also I met her in a community group through church She has never had a friend she could trust and who had the same interests She had been praying for someone who would come into her life I figured it was God I have forgiven her and have moved on with the hurt

  408. I have struggled with this my whole life and feel I have failed miserably.

  409. I long for a true friendship

  410. Teri Lion says:

    After my husband died, I had many come to visit me. A few friends would just sit with me and pray. I am forever grateful to them. I would like to give back to someone else in need of someone just being there. I would love to read this book.

  411. Thank you for your words today. They hit at the perfect time as I am going to meet a friend who is going through a very difficult time and I was concerned I might not be able to offer what she needs. Today’s devotional was very timely and helpful. I would love a copy of the book as I had a very close friend, we considered ourselves sisters, abandon me eight years ago. After 25 years she went silent on me – not returning calls, cards, etc. It has been devastating and I think of and pray for her daily. I constantly wonder what happened and fear I did something to end our friendship. I want to be the best possible friends to my galpals, and I know this book would be a great resource for me and my twin 19 year old girls! Thank you.

  412. Hilda Ware says:

    I’ve always wanted to be a friend and be that same friend back to them. I have spent most of my life avoiding friendship because of the hurt it brings. I’m learning at age 53 I need that hurt to grow. I would like to know how and more to grow up.

  413. Stephanie says:

    I would love a copy of this book. In February this year I lost a good friend to cancer. She was a very important person to me. She was deaf and communicated through ASL. She was patient with me as I learned ASL. You see technically I am legally deaf. I speak like a hearing person and without my cochlear or hearing aid, I can’t hear nothing. As a deaf friend she accepted me for who I was in Deaf Culture and understood how I felt that I didn’t fit in the hearing world nor deaf world. I tried visiting her before she passed on the be with our Heavenly Father, but she always told me she was tired. So when I got the call to come say goodbye, I had no idea she would not be able to say goodbye back to me because she was in a coma, on life support. It was the most difficult thing I have ever experienced. Now I have a childhood friend whose brother is not doing well. My hearing loss was an issue for us a long time ago. I really need this book to help me be there for her and be the person I want to be.

  414. Rebecca Pineau says:

    i am striving to learn this skill. God has challenged me with the idea of sitting shiva with each other. I have so much to learn and would welcome any help. Thanks

  415. Maria Mcmullen says:

    Hi there, Thank you for this opportunity to possibly win one of your inspirational books! I’m naturally introverted/shy and would love to read your book for insight on how to really appreciate friendship myself at this age and be a valuable friend to others. I burn out pretty fast these days with so much going on and I’m learning through God’s grace to slow down and be intentional. Before everything passes by and there’s too much regret!Look forward to reading your next devotional 🙂

  416. Anonymous says:

    My daughters and I are going through this right now and it’s breaking my heart. I’ve reached out to both of them but one of them still won’t speak to me. I don’t know what else to do except pray for God to touch her heart. Would love to have this book to see if there is something else I can try.

  417. Melanie Clevenger says:

    I’d love a copy of this book! I am part of a rare group of 8 women, all “band moms”, who have become close friends. We spend the night together once a month and enjoy each other, share our troubles and secrets, and love and encourage each other. Recently, one of our ladies has temporarily removed herself from the group as she goes through what she feels is a time that is too difficult for the rest of us to help her with. I believe this book can help us all deal with this and bring our entire group back together and become even stronger.

  418. I am guilty of being too busy and distracted. I want to slow down and be more purposeful in my friendships and aware enough to just “be still” with someone when that is what truly matters most to them.

  419. I just recently noticed that I have a problem with maintaining friendships. When one of my great friends experienced a horrible loss, I distanced myself because I was not sure what to say instead of just being there. I am trying to learn how to be a friend now in order to mend and keep my friendship and also make new ones.

  420. barbara rivera says:

    This is beautiful. So often we feel we have to have all the answers. After going through the biggest struggle of my life, I appreciated people who just came to be with me and said, “I have no words.” We need to be the physical presence of Jesus, willing to give a warm hug and just listen to heartbreaking stories. We need to point them to Jesus. He is able. He is enough. He knows are deepest hurts. We need to tell them to cling to Christ because He is enough. Don’t be afraid to go and minister. Just show up in the name of Jesus.

  421. I’ve had friends who “sat on the ground” with me and I’ve tried to be that to others. I would love to read this wonderful resource.

  422. Oh, this devotional is so helpful, and I’d love a copy of the book! I always need help finding God’s plan for friendships I my life.

    Thank you!!!!

  423. My friends are hurting right now…many going through trials and hurts that I don’t know how to deal with. I would love direction so I can better equip myself to be the right friend to these ladies.

  424. I would give the book to my new Bible Study friend, Mary. She moved back to this area (her home town) about 4 years ago and has many broken relationships. She recently had a long-time “friend break-up”, struggles to forgive after being hurt by many women in her life and was recently diagnosed with uterine cancer. Our group has embraced her and is loving her through this, but she needs healing to trust and form new strong, healthy relationships. She has struggled with some of the “soft truths” some in our group have spoken to her in private. I believe your book would be very helpful to her at this time. THANK YOU!

  425. I would love to share this book with my 19 year old daughter. She has struggled with keeping friendships throughout her life. She easily gets her feelings hurt and then struggles to forgive the friend that hurt her.

  426. I would like to read this book myself. My husband, who was also my best friend for the past 32 years, passed away in October. The last time I made a new friend, I was a teenager. My life as a 51 year old widow can be lonely at times. I think this book might be able to help me learn how to be a good ‘adult’ friend.

  427. A great devotional today. Spoke to me since I’ve recently been “dumped”. I will be adding the book to my reading list also.

  428. Rachael Stinson says:

    What a wonderful devotion today. It’s two-fold. A special friend is about to move nine hours away. We have so much in common and have grown very close. She is not saved by the blood of Jesus although I have been working on that. I want to give this book to her as a gift from me, but also as an aid in coming to Christ.

  429. Robin Hurlbert says:

    I would love to have a copy of your book

  430. This devotion is powerful. I have a small bible study group with young 20 somethings and we are at the close of our current study. I think this would be a blessing to young women at such an early stage in life to show the importance of good godly friends and sisters in Christ as well as being one. This devotion spoke to my heart as well as several women on my “God Girls” email ist. I would love to read this book and implement in to a new fall study possibly with young women. During these times, it is precious to have those womens in Christ to lean on and undoubtedly Iron does sharpen iron. Blessings, Toni

  431. Nichole Hamblin says:

    Moving often requires new friends in new cities. Needing a God perspective on how to be the friend He wants/needs me to be.

  432. This is such a great reminder. Would love a copy of the book.

  433. I wish I was a better friend. I always think too late about what I should have said or what I should have done. I am not always there as a friend, but need and want to be.

  434. Vicki eidse says:

    I would love a copy of this book. I sometimes feel like I don’t respond correctly to people around me and I also feel that I am not able to keep close relationships with women for long. I hope this book will help me see the needs of others around me.

  435. Michelle says:

    This devotion came at the perfect time! Going through a friend conflict right now. I have much to learn about being a better friend.

  436. Libby King says:

    My friendships have always been a very important part of my life. I am an only child whose parents passed away at a fairly young age (I was 10 and 32 at the time of their deaths); therefore, I always looked to friends for support and love. However, as I grew in age and spiritually, I learned that to have friends I must be a friend…. the kind of friend that shows compassion and doesn’t judge; even though, it’s not always easy when you see them involved in actions and/or relationships that are harmful (or sinful) to themselves and/or others. Sometimes it’s difficult for me to accept without trying to understand “why.” I would love to learn more about being the kind of friend that I want for a friend. Thank you!!

  437. Dina Wills says:

    I have a dear friend who has only been married for 2 months…last Saturday, her husband & her lost their first house to a fire. (Total loss) I would really appreciate this book to learn how to be the kind of friend God desires for me to be, especially to her at this time. Thank you!

  438. Karen Phipps says:

    I know from experience how easy it is to get all consumed in our my turmoil and think I all alone. You think the world has moved on without you and your all alone. You have been left behind in life by those you thought loved you. The sweet truth is they had their own cross they were struggling to carry. It woke me up to know that I am not alone……. I was bought and paid for by a risen savior and all I had to do was call on HIM. He is the BEST friend I could ever want. I say this to remind us all that we as well as our friends are all human, and we need to remember to realize they might be feeling the very same way. My prayer for me and you is to be a better friend with more compassion, wisdom, and tenderness for my precious friends. Blessings and Joy to you all!

    est

  439. Barb Roach says:

    I’m in this very place right now. No one even knows, but God. Thank you for this devotion.

  440. Jennifer says:

    What a great Devotion! We need to love our sisters and brothers in Christ as Christ loves us.!! Oh, how the world would come running to us, if we did this!

  441. Francine Di Prata says:

    Hello 🙂

    I would LOVE to win this copy for my future daughter in law, whom I have adored. I have intentionally (tried to!) set apart time just for her and I to pour into her life, teaching, reading and sharing Gods truths in order to build a good, solid foundation for our relationship, thus enhancing her understanding of who my son (future husband is!). It would be a tribute to our friendship 🙂 Thank you for the opportunity!
    Blessings,
    Francine D.

  442. This was a wonderful, thought-provoking devotion. It reminded me of the friend I’d like to be and often struggle to be. I would love to read the book to learn more. It also reminded me of friends I’ve had who have been there for me in times of need. Thank you!

  443. Ariel Carson says:

    I would love to have this book! It would help me so much – to God be the glory for anyone who wins one, though. It sounds like it would make a powerful difference in any woman’s life. Lord bless the author 🙂 amen.

  444. Jessie M. says:

    This was a great post and very applicable to my life. I have lost friends in the past or they have become very distant friends that I vauled as close friends. I would like to win a copy of this book so that I can learn to be the best friend I can be and nurture my current friendships and friendships to come. Thank you fo this post!

  445. Jenny kozar says:

    A friend forwarded this to me and with tears streaming down my face I realize how she is always there for me.

  446. I have a hard time finding friends who are women. I just have my husband and my parents. I would love to learn how to be the friend that I want to find. I need people in my life.

  447. Niki gardner says:

    Wow, God knows the words we need to hear at the exact time. As a busy single mom,teacher, and foster parent I feel I have let friendships slide then been hurt and angry that I feel all alone and left out. Thank you for this truth today, I would live to read this book!

  448. I had a best friend for several years. We did everything together. She is married but when I got married she was jealous and soon after stopped calling and she just stopped being my friend. This was over 25 years ago and it still hurts. I need to know how to get past this.

  449. Kathleen Auen says:

    I am a nurturer. I can be counted on to be there when one of my friends needs help. But sometimes….many times….I feel so resentful about doing it. I would like to be the type of friend who is there for others with love in her heart, not resentment. God doesn’t want me to be that way.

  450. Laura Wiggs says:

    Knowing what to say, when to say it, and how to know what to do is a huge challenge. Sometimes my comments have been misinterpreted and causes me much distress….I meant to do good, but ended up doing harm. I search diligently for advice and inspiration on what to do and say that will be most helpful.

  451. I do not have a hard time making friends. What I find to be most difficult is making the kind of friends who are genuine and the type of individuals who will stick it out to the end…. no matter what. I am blessed to have two sisters who speak truth in love into my life. However, for all those women who do not have a woman that can be that kind of support in their life – – I feel finding and making those types of friends is incredibly difficult.

  452. Vicky Miller says:

    I had a friend who abandoned me when I found out I had breast cancer. I’ve really struggled with that. Would love to read this book. Thank you!

  453. I’d love this book so I can help friends deal with difficulties. I have always had a hard time figuring out what to say or do when a friend or even family member is grieving. I’d love to be able to help them.

  454. Katherine P says:

    This sounds like a book I need to read! Thanks for all you do to encourage and teach through P31 ministries!

  455. Becca Bandstra says:

    I have two older sisters that I would love to give this book to so we all three could read it together and make our relationship with each other even stronger and healthier through God.

  456. Jennifer says:

    I would love to read this book. Its hard to keep friends in this busy world it seems. I think facebook, etc makes it worse. People misread or judge things in a way you did not mean them.

  457. D. Oehlberg says:

    I do for everyone but myself. I won fireworks for my city, worked tirelessly to help out my family in every way possible, used my own money to help teach students and even won a sweeps for Isotoner gloves for a friend whom I considered my hero. I think I need this book, because I do not do a lot for myself.

  458. Sometimes we don’t have the words to say to a hurting friend, and I needed to be reminded that sometimes just being there and letting those friends know that I am there for them are just enough. We are never alone because God is always there. A wonderful friend asked me just the other day “is God enough?”. He gave us these relationships with each other and it is up to us to make those stronger. Thank you for your devotion this morning! God Bless!

  459. Every best friend I have had has turned away. Yet, everyone at church, work and family are always hugging me, smiling, telling me what a wonderful person I am. My husband, loves another woman, so my best friend is gone. I raised daughters on my own. I have been a loner (even only child) all my life. I am always there when another needs something and I do without so another can push forward. If this book can show me how to be a better friend, to where others will actually be there for me, something to show me what I am doing wrong (some say because I am too nice) then maybe God will show me more that I am not doing right and get me on the path I need to be on.

  460. I’ve recently gone through a “friend/sister-break up” & would love to be able to handle it in a Godly way, as she’s also the Principal at the school I am employed at.

  461. I think we could all learn how yo be better friends. Great truths today.

  462. Melissa K says:

    I would love to read Heart Sisters and could benefit from learning how to forgive and become a better friend.

  463. I would like a copy so it can transform my heart and make me into a godly person who loves others like Jesus does. I have the need to know what true friendship is all about and hope to encounter those I can trust and support on.

  464. I would like a book for myself and then to share with family/friends. I have a friend who is going thru chemotherapy and another that is dealing with a close death in her family. I don’t know how to be a good friend to them. I feel awkward and always afraid that I’m going to say the wrong thing, so I tend to stay away and I know that’s not the right thing. I pray to be a better person, but just not sure how to….

  465. I would LOVE a copy of this right now! Godly friendships are so important, to find & to keep.

  466. Michelle says:

    I would love to learn different ways to be a good friend. You are never to old or to knowledgeable to learn something new.

  467. Lisa Vieth says:

    I need help with being a good friend, don’t feel like I ever know how to strengthen and encourage friends. I would love to read this book.

  468. I just had a baby on July 16th and not one of my “friends” came to visit me in the hospital or at home yet. Only family so far have come to see my sweet baby boy.
    I would like to know what I’m doing wrong as a friend that people don’t even come visit me at such an important and special time in my life.

  469. Good morning,
    I love this devotional and the story of Job and his friends…
    My story of a friend break up is rather involved, but recently after almost 5-6 years, God has given me the grace to forgive her. Thank you Jesus! I would be so grateful to win a copy of this book. I never want to go through something like that again. Thank you for your ministry!
    Sincerely
    Laura

  470. I’m more of an introvert and so often have a hard time talking to people, even my good friends, just because I don’t know what to say. I want them all to know that I care about them and love them and would love to communicate with them more on a personal basis. Maybe this book could help me to be a better communicator of my love and concern for my sisters.

  471. I have experienced my own “friend break-up” recently as someone I had become close to had to relocate due to her husband’s job. I assured her that I was committed to our friendship no matter where we lived. Sadly, her commitment was not what I had expected or hoped for. It was a hard thing but I have learned that God is really the only friend I or any of us need. I would love to read this book!

  472. Great devotion, thank you. Spoke to me in volumes, simple-to the point-yet ALL the “what if’s” make it so much harder to just BE THERE. Would love to receive the book. God bless.

  473. I think we all can learn how to be a better friend to others. I look back and remember many occasions when I could have been a better friend.

  474. This is an area in my life that I have been praying about, how to be the friend that is needed. To be Christlike, a shining light and to make the way attractive. I would love to win a copy of this book to help me be the friend that would please Jesus and be a blessing to others. Thank you.

  475. Thank you so much for the devotion, this is one of my struggles that I confront since in elementary school…thinking by now I wold had grown of problems with friends. I struggled and still struggle specially after my divorce since a good friend of the family was the cause of my divorce. I would love to win this book so I could have some spiritual guidance.

  476. I have a group of girlfriends that I have been meeting with at least once a month for almost 20 years. I have been encouraged by them and also deeply hurt at times. I want to be able to learn to let go of that hurt and forgive , instead of hashing it over in my mind and reliving it….

  477. I would love to read this book. I have had several hurting friends and would like to know how to better minister to them.

  478. THANK YOU for uplifting my wounded heart with GOD’S WORD and in turn encouraging me to reach out to uplift someone else’s hurting heart ….be blessed , Jayne

  479. Tammy Schroeder says:

    Thank you for this special devotional today in relating to “Friendship’s”. I needed this as I am currently struggling with conflict/friendship’s/doing and saying the right thing.

    I can’t wait to get the Sister Book… I know it can only guide me in the RIGHT Direction during this difficult time of my life.

  480. Angela Hankins says:

    I have a co-worker that is struggling with having her breast removed due to breast cancer, she is now having problems with her reconstruction and is very depressed. I would love to reach out to her more … it’s hard for me because I don’t know what she may need from me and my schedule to packed. But, I did sit with her during her surgery, and took food over one day. She is in my prayers and on my church prayer list. Thanks for considering giving a copy of your helpful book. All us girls appreciate you!!

  481. Kathy Van says:

    Having lived 64 years on this earth I have had my share of valleys and mountaintop experiences in life and if it hadn’t been for my faith in God and some true blue friends through the years I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I would like to share a book with one of sistas loved by God!

  482. Joye Carpenter says:

    Ì would use this book to help a friend who’s daughter has just told her family she is a lesbian
    I lost my husband a year ago, and had a very dear friend who was mia. Ì grieved that as well as my loss of my husband.

  483. Thank you for this reminder! I so appreciated the insight… I have a friend who has withdrawn out of fear and I would love to reconnect with her! Pls pray the difference would wash away….

  484. A real, true friend is something we all take for granted…and is a gift like no other! The older I get, the more I realize that we can’t do life alone. My prayer is to be a better friend worthy of the kind of friendship I need:)

  485. Tiffany Nottingham says:

    I would love a copy of this picture to read it together with some younger women in my church. Even at my age of 48 it is always so helpful to learn and be reminded of how to be a good friend.

  486. Sistafriends are so important; safe places for women of all ages, important in our growth as children of God.

  487. Friends are a special blessing and very needed. God help me to be the friend others need and point them to the “Friend that closer than a brother”.

  488. Debi Savage says:

    Please enter me for the book drawing. I share P31 books with many woman. Thanks for your ministry!

  489. If I win a copy of this book I would like to read this to give me the wisdom to help out my mother in law. She is going through a hard trial in her life dealing with family issues that is causing problems between her daughter and her husband. I struggle with the right things to do or say and believe this book would help guide me and give me helpful tips to reach out to others who are hurting.

  490. I have been going through the most difficult season of my life the last 3 1/2 yrs. I turned to my best friend of 7 yrs and for several months she was there to listen and admonish and comfort but then I lost her too. She pulled back stating she couldn’t handle what was happening to me. She apologized a few times saying that what was going on in my life was dredging up stuff in her own heart and she had to pull back. I was devastated. I didn’t understand. I fought hard to understand and just be patient waiting for our friendship to level out again. But akin with the rest of the original struggle it has yet to do so. And it’s hard. I do feel abandoned.

    What I have learned in this situation is even the best of friends quit calling once the circumstance wears on (3 1/2 yrs is a long time) they forget to check on you. Fail to call. Fail to text. Fail to really be there. It’s easier if it’s a small period of time but the longer you are there the harder it seems for people to remember. And you begin to feel like they don’t really care. That’s hard. But the wonderful thing about that is God always cares. He promises to never leave us or forsake is and you know what He hasn’t left me! He’s been there every step of the way and I am so thankful I have my Jesus! He’s always available and he isn’t wearied by my trials!!

    I want to win the book bc I think it can be helpful in my own quest to be a better and available friend.

    Thank you for this devotion. Friendship is so hard.

  491. P. S. I have had a couple of friends that have been there every time I’ve called and I have been blessed by them. God is good all the time!

  492. I have had a few conflicts with close friends over the past few years that have come as a surprise to me… maybe because of big life changes. I would love this book to learn how to become a better friend. I have also moved recently and would love to make some new deep friendships with some Godly women. I would love this book to learn how! Great devotional…. so many times our culture becomes too distracted to be there fir those who need it.

  493. Christina says:

    Thanks for this encouragement today. I want to learn to be a better friend.

  494. Wow. What an awesome reminder. I have a friendship I struggle with but I know that my friend needs me so there is a constant need for me to forgive often. I need to do a better job at listening rather than feeling like I always have to have a solution. I know that God has me in her life for a reason. Often I wanted to completely walk away but the Holy Spirit constantly reminds me of the grace that I am constantly given. Thank you for sharing this story. Truly blessed me.

  495. If I won a copy of this book I’d give it to my 12 year old daughter and we’d read it together. Friendships are very important to me but unfortunately I realize that as we have families and life gets in the way of nurturing our friendships they tend to fade. I would need some encouragement and ideas and my daughter could learn at an early age about the value of a true friend and to be one.

  496. Shannon Vandiver says:

    As I write this comment, my eyes are full of tears. Just 10 minutes or so prior to reading my Proverbs 31 email I just finished sending one of the hardest emails I have yet to write to my friend for over 10 years. As a person who is known for giving someone a piece of my mind, I gave a piece of my heart. I shared how I felt a disconnect and essentially how I needed my friend. I am typically the “strong one” so with my friend I wanted her to really check in and connect with me more and not just assume everything is okay. Long story short I have been holding in my feelings and my need for my friend without having to cue her in to “check on me” and I doubted whether or not I should’ve sent the email. But I realize it was time and that my words were a soft truth to a hard conversation. I value and want to maintain the friendship and I think this book could help me do so with God’s guidance. Thank you.

  497. Brenda gentry says:

    My heart is hurting and I know this book would help me.

  498. Kaytlyn Williams says:

    I could definitely use a copy of this book. I have been struggling so much lately because my best friend of 10 years randomly stopped talking to me. She doesn’t respond to my calls, texts, or Facebook messages. I’m left with no explanation and it hurts. I will always be there for her and remind her of that but I pray that one day we will actually speak again.

  499. I have a very dear friend who has cancer and there are many times I feel like I fail at showing up to be there for her. It is fear that stops me from reaching out the fear of what to say and worry of what she will want from me. Sad to admit. Today I will reach out to her and trust that God is enough. Thank you.

  500. Thank you for this message. I really needed this. I have been abandoned by so many friends during my greatest time of need. In response I have isolated myself. I know that my healing will come in reaching out to others who are hurting and need a friend.
    Blessings to you!

  501. I am standing for my 32 year marriage as my husband has been gone just over 2 years. In those 2 years I have discovered who true friends in Christ are and treasure them dearly. Within the last 2 months one of my longest friends found it necessary to lie and cover up to me about a trip I am usually included in, but for whatever reason (don’t want to know) I wasn’t wanted to go, so instead of being honest made up a lie she was going with her famuily and even sent fake pictures. My other friend who has been supporting me a encouraging me through my stand for my beloved husband stopped all communication with me over a misinformed statement she heard. I cleared it up with an explanation, that it was just an oversight and she misinterpreted my actions that were completely innocent. I apologized anyway and told her how much I loved her and treasured her. We made contact over the weekend and I told her no explanation or words were necessary that we were friends in Christ. I would love to read this book as Satan is surely attacking me and my family on every front. I have forgiven my other friend yet the sting, betrayal and hurt is still there and trust has been broken. Part of me wants to be so angry and I fight it everyday.

  502. I have a best friend of 35+ years who suffered a stroke that paralyzed her on her right side. She lives about an hour away from me and I found myself withdrawing after not knowing how to encourage her or be there for her. At one visit, I confessed a sin of mine to her; instead of just listening and offering hope and encouragement to me that I needed, she did speak truth that hurt me. I’ve been carrying that guilt and burden of hurt with me for at least 10 years now and can’t seem to face her. I phone her maybe once every few months and we talk for awhile, but somehow our bond was broken and the sweetness of our friendship has an underlying sour taste to it and I feel guilty and hurt and a ton of other emotions. Here she is paralyzed, and I don’t find time to be with her since SHE may be hurting too, maybe even more so. Please pray for our friendship to be reunited and for strength and courage to face the brokenness and BE THERE FOR HER. Thank you 🙂 Blessings to All! <3

  503. Swan Diaz says:

    I’ve had a several friends go through hard times this year and I did give words of hope and encouragement when I felt God gave me words for them. I’m not sure I really even know how to be a good friend though. We moved quite a bit while I was growing up and I was never really able to keep them all that close or for very long. I got made fun of a lot and let down by several friends too which led me to not really invest in friendships that much. As an adult and now a mother, I find it really difficult to be there for others as much as I would like to because of family commitments and due to a fear of offending those I consider to be my friends. Currently I’m part of a small mom and kid play/small group that is trying to help its members grow closer as friends and as sisters in Christ. This book would be a great devotional and tool for us to better support one another.

  504. I am learning how to be a friend that can just be there to listen. My best friend is going through a divorce now and we’ve shared a lot of hard times with each other the last 14 years as friends and fellow moms / wives. I would like to know how to continue to be the best and most loyal friend I can be especially now when her whole world is changing. I love the Prob 31 Ministry and all the wonderful devotions I read. I also love all the additional resources you provide to help us along this life’s journey. thank you for lifting up and encouraging women in our roles and daily walk with the Lord.

  505. Being a friend a buddy is to give from your heart unconditionally. Having a listening ear is a blessing to your friend, sometimes being still and just a hug is everything to someone who is hurting. I would truly enjoying your book and maybe it will teach me something to encourage others when there suffering with brokenness in there heart. Thank you for your bible study this morning, very encouraging. Darlajean Moore

  506. I have been abandoned and hurt by a close friend. But it taught me how not to respond when a friend is in need. Now I just need to forgive.

  507. This sounds like a good book for our ladies Bible study.

  508. Debbie Cheney says:

    This touched me today more than usual. I have a dear friend of 20 years who recently went through a divorce. I tried to be there for her, but somehow did or said something that had her literally asking me to leave. She has not told me what that was. I have tried to stay away, but have prayed, sent a card or two, texted occasionally, and still there has been no response. It hurts!

  509. I still struggle with with feelings of guilt and loss from a break up with a friend who suffered from mental illness. In order to set boundaries with this friend I felt I had to end the relationship in order to keep sanity in my own life! Even so, I miss the friendship I had with her when she was “normal”. I think this book could be very helpful to me in resolving those feelings and with moving forward to trust in new friend relationships.
    Thank you.

  510. Enjoyed the devotion today. God has been laying on my heart the command to love Him and love others in many different way this past year. I’m trying!

  511. I really enjoyed your devotion today and would love to read the book “Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Would Want to Have”. Through the years, I have become less of a good friend as I have struggled with the business of being a mother, wife and working full time. I have put much thought and prayer into how to be a better friend lately and when I saw this book I felt like God was showing me a way to do just that. I also struggle with knowing what to say when others are going through difficult times, so most of the time I don’t say anything. I would like to find ways to communicate, help others and just be a better overall friend! Blessings

  512. What a great devo. I have been struggling a lot with this topic lately and facing some very tough conversations in some friendships so I definitely needed to hear this and look forward to reading the book.

  513. Thank you, What a timely post. I have forwarded your post’s to my daughter’s. It is a wonderful highlight to see how much our Heavenly Father teaches us if we will slow down listen and learn to pray bigger prayers. No one is without sin, all a forgiven if we ask.

  514. I love this picture of friendship in Job. I struggle with investing in friends because of those insecurities and thinking I don’t have time to just be there. I want my time to be used efficiently…like I’d rather clean their house than just sit with them. I need to change my perspective.

  515. It is so cool how God shows up in the right time…I needed this reminder right after I got iff the phone with an emotionally wrecked friend, wondering whether what I said was too much or not enough.

  516. About 5 years ago a dear friend of mine was going through a terrible time. Just a year after having her first baby, her marriage was falling apart and she chose to have an affair and leave her husband. How do you walk through something like this with a friend when you disagree with all the decisions she is making? I felt helpless. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it. I wanted only to redirect her path for her and show her God’s love and forgiveness. But I didn’t know how. I couldn’t understand where she was coming from, and if I’m honest, I didn’t want to. I couldn’t see past my own understanding. In hindsight I made a choice not to see things from her perspective. I lost a friend through that time because I let my own judgments come before our friendship. Sometimes I wonder if I could have done something more to help. Or if somehow, by not being the friend she needed during that time, I pushed her away and encouraged her to continue down that path.

    I long to be the godly friend that I want for myself. Someone that can see past my shortfalls and mistakes, speaking truth in love, and walking by my side through the good times and the bad. I would love a copy of Natalie’s book. I’m in a small group with a few other women and we often talk about what it would be like to look back 20 years from now and see all that we’ve been through together. Can you imagine all the good times and bad that we’ll witness if we stick together and show God’s love and mercy to each other through the years? This sounds like a great book for us to read as a group as we share life together.

  517. I had a very amazing friend who was/is my very best friend. Somehow, some way we stopped being friends. She has blocked me on Facebook, and won’t return my phone calls, emails, texts, or regular mail. The thing is, I have absolutely NO IDEA what happened. I have prayed that God would reveal to me what I have done to hurt her so I can make things right. He has yet to answer me. I miss my friend dearly. I love her to pieces, and I would do anything to have her back in my life. I have tried apologizing for anything I have done, but she is just unresponsive. It breaks my heart because we were such great friends!

  518. Shawna Hernandez says:

    I lost a lot of friends when I divorced my husband because of infidelity. I felt like my whole world crumbled. I don’t ever want to make any one feel like I felt. Abandoned in a time of true need. I have made a few friends since but I keep them at arms length. I want to know how to be a true friend!

  519. C Puckett says:

    I would love to receive a copy of Heart Sisters by Natalie! I know it would help me in my personal journey as well as give me an opportunity to share it with my daughter! I would love to preview the book before buying it for family and friends.
    Much thanks!

  520. I would love this book because about 5 years ago my very best friend/sister of 17 yrs just dropped away. I was going through several major trials & losses, my whole world seemed to be falling apart & she just drifted away. I needed her so back & couldn’t understand why she wasn’t there for me. I had gone above & beyond to help her over & over again in her struggles & hardships. We never had a cross word, hard feelings or any disagreements she was just “gone”. Wouldn’t reply to calls or texts, was always too busy to meet. It was the most devastating & hurtful thing I’ve ever gone through. I have forgiven her, we have talked a couple of times but nothing has ever been said about the past, she acts like nothing ever happened.

  521. Korneeka Lively says:

    Hi! I feel this book will help to mend my heart from the hurt I’ve endured from a friend who was not there for me during my time of pain suffering. I feel she turned from me at the time I needed her most. She vanished without reasoning. Still today I haven’t received reason, it hurts, I cry day in and day out wondering why? She seems to have went on with life, that is centered around her relationship with her boyfriend. It seems as though my friendship or presence isn’t missed at all, I really need her, I’m willing to forgive her. Sorry this was so long but I truly believe my heart will be mended, I’ll walk in forgiveness, and will find a true friend in Jesus through this resource. Thank You, Korneeka ❤️

  522. Talk about the Lord working in mysterious ways! When I read this devotional this morning, I immediately thought of a former colleague of mine who survived breast cancer last year. I haven’t talked to or emailed her in several months, but today I decided to drop her a quick email just to say hi and see how she was doing. She immediately emailed me back. Her cancer is still in remission but her 32 year old daughter was just diagnosed with breast cancer and starts chemo next week. Both she and her daughter are having a hard time dealing with the news. I am so thankful that I wrote that email, as now I can provide prayer support to both of them. Thank you for laying it on my heart this morning to reach out to her. And any extra prayers you can say for them would be greatly appreciated!

  523. Christina Montoya says:

    I am currently in a long struggle with a friend that we just can not shake and move through. It weighs on me heavily and is hard to concentrate on other matters as this rises back up. I am I true friend? How can I be a true friend ? I also doubt others sincerity. I pray about it but I don’t think I have allowed God in this although I say I have.

  524. I would love to have this book, it has great timing. Recently, I got a call from a friend that I had not talked to in years but I often thought about her and prayed that she would come back to loving Christ as her first priority. She called to tell me that she is getting restored in the church. We live in different states now but I want to be there for her. I know this is an answered prayer and God is totally amazing. His timing is perfect!!!

  525. I have many acquaintances but not many (any?) close friends. I’d like to change this especially as my children are in their teens and getting ready to leave home. This book sounds like something I’d like to read to help me.

  526. Melanie arnold says:

    I have a friend who is struggling with some things. We had lunch on Fruday. I didn’t share any of the things I wanted to because she was just really needing to talk through things without someone giving advice. I’d like this book to read to help me realize that I am doing things right and see where I need to change!

  527. Rhonda Maupin says:

    I have always struggled finding true friends. I am 48 and finally found a best friend whom I don’t want to lose. I would love this book so that I may learn how to keep my best friend and never lose this friendship!

  528. Alejandra says:

    Before I knew Christ I had a lot of friends and I lived how popular I was. When I came to know Christ 17 years ago. I lost all my so called friends. I’ve struggled a lot to make friends at my church because the women there are from the same country and most of them are family. I would like this book so i can learn how to approach them and become friends and real sisters in Christ…

  529. I absolutely loved this devotional!! How much we depend on Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and through Him we can be an encouraging and loving friend. He also helps us depend on friends especially when the road seems too narrow and steep. This devotional reminded me of how Christ’s love is eminent in friendships. I would love to have a copy of the book to continue to learn new ways to be a better friend especially when they are hurting! Thank you for this wonderful devotional!

  530. I have recently withdrawn from 2 of my friends. Our kids have been friends since kinder garden and now they are in college, so it has been a long friendship. There were times I felt we were the kids in high school-with the drama and comparison and egos. So right now, I have no close friends to study with or talk with or cry with. I recently lost my mom, sold our house and moved, my youngest graduated and started college. I am not feeling sorry for myself, though! I feel like this is a season in life where God is changing me and I look forward to what awaits me on the other side of this time in my life. People come and go, hurt us, lie to us, gossip about us and cheat us, but I have to remember that God is always faithful to us that love him.

  531. As a single Mom of 4 boys and caregiver of my Mother who has dementia, there are days I need a friend to vent to. In saying that, I in turn want to be that person for my friends to feel they can call me to vent to as well. I struggle at times and get discouraged with myself that I am not always that friend I should be.

  532. We moved a lot while I was growing up so I got to see lots of wonderful places & make friends from all over the world. But a few years ago I fell
    into a deep depression and forgot how to be a friend or make new ones.
    I would like to relearn. I think this book could help.

  533. I would love to give this book to a woman in the Small Group that I co-host that wants friends so badly but she has so many feelings of hurt, disappointments, rejection, and abandonment from her life (childhood through adulthood-age 60) that she carries those feelings over into every Small Group, Church, and everything that she’s involved in so that it drives people away from her which causes more feelings of rejection and abandonment.
    She can be so intense that she is asked to leave a Small Group because of causing division which leads to leaving that Church and moving on to another which just repeats the cycle. I believe this book could be of great benefit to her.

  534. 536 sisters have responded before I did!

    Whew!

    And I thiught I was the only one who needed to crawl through the pain of conflict!

    Thank you for today’s post as well as this valuable book.
    Last December, a very close friend broke our friendship after I shared something painful with her.
    She simply replied,”I don’t believe you,”
    and hung up.
    Emails, voicemails and texts go unanswered.

    Hard to understand.

    So yes. I Would definitely benefit from your book.Might even share it with my
    Friend who doesn’t believe me.

  535. I’m in my twenties and still struggle to make significant friendships. I can get through the small talk and getting to know someone, but I struggle to make a deeper connection with people who I then feel comfortable really opening up to about the hard things in life, that we tend to seek out those strong friendships and lean on for support and encouragement. I want to have a friendship that us comfortable for both parties to open up and lean on each other. My husband is an awesome friend and support, but sometimes you just need a girl to talk to!

  536. April Prigmore says:

    I would enjoy reading this book, using it to encourage my own growth in this area, and share with my friends as well.

  537. My only child was born still in April. Many friends have kept their distance since then. I don’t hold it against them. I know they are unsure of how to act around me. I’m not sure what I would do if I were in their shoes. I want to learn how to “show up” for friends who might go through similar circumstances in the future.

  538. I had three hard things happen in relationships with women all in two years, and I really have never recovered. I started attending a women’s Bible study and really felt connected. Next thing, I was the one running it, and I was not far enough along on my own faith walk to be leading anyone. It fell apart and I felt awful. During this time one of the members was diagnosed with cancer, and I helped her family for two years. Only a couple of the other women from the group did anything to help. I became very close with the cancer patient, and then she died, and I felt completely abandoned. I had such different expectations from Christian women. I am still struggleing with issues from this. I have kind of isolated myself I fear, and I need to find a way to move on.

  539. Lauren Mcdonough says:

    Would love this book! Dealing with this right now!!!

  540. margaret says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book. Recently God has been calling me to make some close friends. I have not had what you call a “Best” friend since I was in the 4th grade. I mean, I had and have friends, but not anyone that I share a great deal with. I have mostly just been friends with my husband, even though he is my friend as well as many other things to me, I would love to have a good girl friend to share with. I have found that reaching out to and making time for friendships is really hard. I could sure use some Godly pointers,

  541. Nancy Crouse says:

    This is great encouragement for me because many times I do not have anything to give except my time and prayers. I know when the right time comes to speak that I don’t have to say some long eloquent speech…just a few words will do or even just a hug.

  542. Charlotte Smith says:

    Over the years I’ve dropped whatever was happening and ran to be with family and friends during illness or grieving. Once I woke and something told me to go visit a elderly neighbor I only knew in passing with a smile and a wave but this day I felt I should go there when I knocked she didn’t come but by the grace of God the door was unlocked so I went in and found her laying on the floor barely responding. To make a longer story short, I was told I saved her life that day.. That has been a life time roll for me and its beyond painful when I lose someone I love. That happened to me several times when I cared for and lost ones I loved and no one came to just “BE” there. It’s caused me to pull away and call myself a “recovering care giver” while I try to understand and except God’s plan for me. I truly feel I have lived a life of Job!! I would be forever grateful to have your book to help my healing and forgiving. God bless you for your work I look forward to reading it..

  543. Six years ago one of my closest friends lost her 19 year old son in a car wreck. I tried to be there for her but six months later she quit responding to my texts and/or emails. Shortly after that my other closet friend dropped dead suddenly of a brain aneurysm. I really struggled to have lost my two closest friends in such a short time. Then my dog died and a year later my mother died. It has been a huge struggle for me. Just recently my friend who lost her son has made contact again and we have hopefully started bonding again. I needed this devotional today!

  544. Diahann says:

    Friends mean a lot-but we should always stay focused on our BEST FRIEND, Jesus. I am lucky to have learned this through heartaches and many trials. but, now I got it! He said he will never leave us or forsake us….EVER!!!!

    Thank you for blessing us with this wonderful book~
    Diahann

  545. Elizabeth W. says:

    I enjoyed this devotional today. If I were to receive the book, I would do both of going through it and proceed to pass it on to a sister in Christ. I have often found it difficult to fully be vulnerable with other women because of past hurts but I thank the Lord for healing me from that. I desire to have that strong community, not cliche, of girlfriends whom we can have fun with, share without fear of broken trust, and pray and intercede for each other. I am 20 years old and desire to build lifelong friendships with godly ladies, and to do so, I want to first off be the friend that I would like to have as a friend: one who is loving, loyal, available, and real. God bless you!

  546. Diane Hovis says:

    I have struggled with broken friendship due to not showing up. I want to be a friend that shows up!

  547. Christine says:

    I have been praying recently, ” Lord, please send me godly friends–and teach me how to be a friend.” At the age of 46, I have come to honestly admit that friendship has been difficult for me all my life. As a result, I have believed the lie that I am just not good at friendship, and can be perfectly content with just Jesus, my husband and daughters. The Lord keeps reiterating to me, however, that we are made for relationship, and can experience greater depth of relationship with Him through friendship. I am thankful for the timing of this book, and hope it is part of the answer to my prayers. Thank you for writing and publishing it!

  548. Stephanie G. says:

    Thank you for sharing. I would like to win this book so that I could be a better friend by learning how to be there for those that are hurting.

    God Bless you.
    Stephanie

  549. Linda Rausch says:

    I would like to study this book so that I can become a Jesus-kind of friend. I have my Gold Friend, Helen, since 6th grade, she is a blessing from God. I have many other girlfriends who bless me every day and I never want to hurt anyone the way “friends” have hurt me in the past. I want to be a genuine friend.

  550. Unfortunately I am currently that friend who has been abandoned. My best friend of 30 plus years seems to have disappeared as soon as I had my first child 17 months ago. I still don’t understand why and it has something that has left me heartbroken and in prayer for 17 months now. She seems to have moved on with other “better” and more important people. Not only was it devestating because I needed her greatly during a time of post partum depression, job changes, and just being a new mommy but it felt as if she rejected my son as well. She has shown no interest in the most previous thing of my life and that’s probably worse than not being there for me. I continue to struggle almost daily, shed many tears and remain in prayer for her. I seek answers bc I’m not sure what to do with this hurt, pain, and rejection. It was the last thing I expected to happen in my life. I thought we were 30 years strong. If nothing else I have prayed to not be her in someone else’s life and for God to show me how to be a friend to others. Thanks for this devotion! I am interested in this book for sure!

  551. Fran Bell says:

    What a great topic to write about! I have always tried to be a friend that anyone would fill comfortable with sharing their hurts and pain. I think God blessed me with good listening skills and I am very grateful. Its important for people to know they can just be present.I would love to read your book! Thank you for writing it!

  552. Katie Murray says:

    I think this topic is not talked about enough, and many women my age (26) do not know the biblical truths needed to walk through conflict, including me! I am a conflict avoider, but have recently been in conflict with a very dear friend of mine. I am desparate for truth and tools to help me walk through this and come out stronger on the other side. Thank you for being bold about this topic, I think it is relevant for everyone!

  553. Last year I lost both of my parents – 6 months apart. Unexpected, heart wrenching and my family was left reeling with both the loss and all the issues that had to be dealt with. While I have a handful of what I would consider very close friends, I felt totally alone. My siblings were fighting, my husband was thoughtful but at a loss for how to comfort me – and not one of my “close” friends” were there to check in on me, sit with me or even ask how I was doing (and really mean it). It was a friend outside of that immediate circle who made the effort. Who was the friend I wish I was to others. She listened, she spoke truth to me, she shared the Word with me and her experiences with losing a loved one. She even took me to a grief class before the holidays – something that we BOTH learned from. I cherish that support to this day. And while I was a bit bitter about my other friends, I look at myself and ask what I would have done. Would I have made a more definite investment in a friend? It is easy to point at what others may not have done for us. It’s harder to be honest about what WE might have done in the same situation! This book looks amazing and I loved this devotion posting! Thank You!

  554. Kathleen Van Havere says:

    I want to be the best friend I can be. I am involved in a wonderful Single parents group. When I went through my divorce I did not have a supportive church. My emotional pain was so great and with few friends speaking out in words of comfort and support and love it was exceeding painful. I am happy to be supportive to people going through this now. I want to learn how to do this better.

  555. Our friend Kate is just such a friend to so many. In addition to raising her daughters, working full time and being there for scores of needy people every week, she is a home to the homeless, an embrace for the marginalized and a constant friend you can count on when storms gather. I would very much like to win the book to give to Kate as a small token to bless her for the many blessings she pours out unconditionally day after day. Blessings to all the Kates out there who reflect your very good article. Blessings to you as well and your book. Thank you, the communion pastor.

  556. To have a friend, be a friend! Is harder than you think.
    Still praying for that friend here in south florida.
    This is a very strange place, even in church.
    Been over a year now.

  557. Lysa McMillan says:

    I’ve got a dear friend of many years that has had one of the most difficult years of her life… sadly, due to her pain, she pushed me (and many of her close friends away) when trying to be there for her. It can be painful for both sides of the friendship. She endured some very real rejection from church leadership that should have embraced her, lost her Dad to cancer, Mom is an alcoholic, and more. I would love to give her a copy of the book and purchase one for myself too…. Friendship is one of the most important relationships God blesses us with in life – i would love to learn all i can about being a better, more Christ-like friend… And teach others in the body of Christ likewise. God told us in Ecclesiastes that two are better than one… we need each other!

  558. Nancy Hale says:

    This would be a great book to share at our women’s mentoring meetings.

  559. Becky Pollard says:

    What an inspiring message. I would love to have this book because my husband and I went through a difficult time with him losing his job due to plant shut down and he tried to go into business for himself and he ended up bankrupt. He tried to commit suicide and then we were separated for a year. I thought I was going to lose my mind. My best friend only came one time during this time. I needed a friend so bad. I think of this often because we are not even close anymore. What I didn’t depend on was God until my doctor gave me bible verses to claim each day. We were both Christians we just didn’t trust God enough to pull us through. But finally I told my husband to come home and let’s put God first in our lives and learn to trust him fully. That is what we did and now my husband teaches Suday School and I am Sunday School Director. God is faithful! All this to say when you know someone is hurting go to that person and let them know you are there for them. Visit often to let them know you care.

  560. April P. says:

    I confessed my sin and saught forgiveness from three lifelong friends – in their responses they essentially patted me on the back & slapped my face at the same time. I pray for restoration and reconciliation but remain without contact for now. Perhaps this book could offer help with healing broken friendships, and hope and wisdom for current friendships.

  561. LaVerne says:

    I was hurt by a female friend a few years back and ever since then, I find it hard to trust women. It is hard for me to open up and become vulnerable because of the hurt and pain I experienced. I am a Christian and I love God with all of my heart. I just find it hard to know who you can trust. I am currently going through a season in my life where I could really use a Christian friend, but I don’t want to be hurt again. Please pray much for me.

  562. Angie T. says:

    This book would be a valuable resource as I ministry to the ladies of our church. Thank you!

  563. Lisa Wilson says:

    I so needed this today! I’ve been hurt several times by a person that was once my very best friend. I’ve forgiven her each time, but our relationship has completely changed now. I’ve tried to regain her trust and slowly back in, she usually does it say something to mess it up. I needed her to be there for me the other day as I received bad news about two family members, I’ve been there for her always. She told me all about her day, and only said something at the end of the conversation about my family. I told her after some days that I needed her to just listen to me then encourage me somehow. I think it’s headed down splitsville for us. My sisters and I also have a lot of deep hurts and unresolved issues that we always brush underneath the rug to avoid conflict which doesn’t help us at all. I think the book would be great for us all!!

  564. Danielle says:

    So blessed by this! Thank you so much!

  565. Darlene says:

    Looking forward to reading this book and sharing it with my children! We were just discussing the importance of true friendship!

  566. Holly Carlson says:

    I would like a copy of this book because sometimes I find it so hard to get along with other women. Friendships can be so difficult and full of competition and drama. I’d love to learn more about how to grow true friendships.

  567. I have long-time friendships but everyone is far away. For some reason I’ve had trouble making new friends since I moved to this state 15 years ago. Fifteen years is a long time to be lonely. Maybe this book will help me to understand what I’m doing wrong and how to be a better friend.

  568. I have four sisters and we could all use advice on being better friends. Thanks!

  569. My friend JUST texted me that she needs wisdom due to Spiritual Warfare. I want to be not only a good friend but a wise friend speaking the truth in love. I long to be a better friend and would love to read this book.

  570. After experiencing the loss of a loved one as well as a full-time job… Many of the friends whom I thought would be standing next to me at my future wedding acted as if they didn’t have time to spend with me. What used to be a “let’s have dinner to get your mind off things” quickly became “I don’t need anymore drama in my life.” I was devastated and heartbroken and it has been very hard to forgive. I’d love to read Natalie’s book!

  571. Shirley Berry says:

    I sure need to read this book now.
    An old bossy ,friend if mine just lost her only brother.I would like to get in touch with her ,but not get back in the rut of that friendship.it was very draining.not sure what to do or say????

  572. I would love to have a copy of this book! I have always struggled with letting friends down because of overbooking my schedule. Would love to read this book!!

  573. I would like to read this book because of a very recent hurt from a friend. I want to just forgive and get us back to where we were but….does God want that for me or is His timing of this incident allowing a change in things for both myself and my friend? Is God using this incident to open my eyes to what is good and what is not so good for me in this relationship?? It is hard to be a Christian at times because the confusion of what is right and wrong in this situation does not allow me to just be me in all of this hurt…. I am hoping reading about others who have been through hurts like the ones we all go through with our friends can help me understand how to handle this in a loving and respectful way for both myself and my friend. Thank you.

  574. Norma Dearixon says:

    Great timely devotion today! The book is something that I think could be helpful to my sister and I as we are experiencing parts of this devotion of being there for one another through trials because we are afraid of making things worse.

  575. Mary Kanatzar says:

    I have 2 heart sisters and would love to have a copy of your book to learn how to be a better heart sister!!

  576. I would love a copy to learn how to be a better friend, there is always room for improvement.

  577. Lauren Bland says:

    I have recently felt God telling me to distance myself from a close friendship I have. It feels lonely at times because she’s one of my closest friends but I have conviction so heavy when I’m around her because of the rotted fruit in her life and how it influences our conversations ect. I’m fearful of getting hurt and also rejection and judgement at times when it comes to friendships. I would truly benefit from a book based on friendships as I’ve been asking God to show me how he wants me to be a friend to the small circle of friends He’s provided me to walk this walk with.

  578. I’ve had struggles with friendships befire- would love some insight on how to be a better friend to the ones I have right now!

  579. Thank you for sharing about a topic that few discuss, but affects so many. I would love to learn more through your book.

  580. I have so many friends who are hurting right now… I just feel like there isn’t enough of me to go around. 🙁

  581. I’m more posting in response to the devotion but the books are always a blessing. The devotion was so timely for me today. My family and I have been homeless for almost two months – staying with different families from our church. Many of them stepped up immediately when we had to move out of our house due to black mold. Some of the folks who we expected to check in on us, help us move, offer love, a meal, whatever, we never heard from. We were so hurt. We don’t want an open wallet, an open door all the time or (to be blunt) an open mouth with empty words. Right now what we need is open hearts. To just sit there and listen. Last night a sister from church sat next to me with her hand on my back and said nothing as I prayed. It was EXACTLY what I needed! And so was this devotion! So, Thank you!!!

  582. I would love to receive one of your books. I have gone trough a lot in my life. My brother and my sister both committed suicide and I have problems with depression also. I would love to have a friend who would go through all of my crisises with me. Thanks.

  583. Cendi Botti says:

    A friend just “dropped” me. I’m sad and confused. id like to reconcile but attempts have been awkward. I need help. This seems timely for me as I’m afraid to approach. Even considered calling her husband.

  584. Catherine Townsend says:

    I’ve had 2 “friend break-ups” and I’ve had 2 best friends die at 45 and 43. Sometimes I feel maybe I don’t know how to be a good friend. Now I’m starting over with a group of Christian friends and would love help to keep them

  585. Bridgette says:

    This devo is such an amazing blessing to me. I have experience hurt, hurt, and more hurt from several trusted friends. Perhaps I am have hurt or offended a friend or to as well unknowingly. Therefore, I am so in need of this book, which will greatly uplife, inspire, and encourage my broken and contrite spirit. I will difinitely share it with hurting others with the intent of helping them be delivered and set free from their friendship hurts.
    Dear God, please bless me with a copy of this beautiful book

  586. BZmomma says:

    Such a great column on friendship. So often we want to help by finding a solution to ease a friend’s pain or “make it all better”….And it’s SO TRUE that sometimes sharing one’s presence and being a true listener can bring incredible comfort…
    Personally, I struggle with my follow-through….I have the greatest of intentions, but I can be more of a frustration than a friend when I lack the follow through. It’s something I constantly struggle with….trying to find the right balance…

  587. Donna M Rasmussen says:

    I would love to have this book and have a friend I want to share it with. A very helpful devotional. Thank you very much.

  588. I was just diagnosed w/ MS. I want to learn more about helping others through trials that may come their way!

  589. LoriAnne Tryon says:

    I would like this book to read along with the other counseling type books I am going through. I work in a church office and often find myself with the need to be a good listening friend to many. I feel called to this ministry and want to be the best I can be through God’s guidance and strength.

    I really appreciated this devotional today. Great timing!

  590. Gretchen Scoleri says:

    I need to be as good a friend to my best friend Megan as she is to me!

  591. Whitni I. says:

    Lately I’ve been thinking about the seasons of life we go through, where some people are important to us in that season, then we lose contact with them when life points us another direction. I’ve been praying for God to help me be a friend to others in this new season of my life. I think this book would be great to reflect on as I become a friend God knows other people in my life need right now.

  592. Judy C. says:

    As a child I was very awkward and had few friends. As an adult I find I struggle with how to get close to my friends . I would love to win a copy of this book.

  593. God’s timing is perfect. I’m in this very situation with my precious neice Bethany. She and her husband have struggled with infertility, and after becoming pregnant they recently found out their son will not leave after birth. They are Christians and have chosen to carry Joshua his name spoken to Bethany by God as we all know the story of Joshua and Caleb in the Bible, and our Joshua is a courageous little fighter as he should have died early in pregnancy with no amniotic fluid, but now not far from his due date our lil man continues to fight to live. Also the meaning of Joshua is God’s salvation another reason God had chosen his name. My heart breaks for her, and my precious sister who is losing a grandchild during his birth or shortly after. I have no words. I know now it’s OK just to be there in their presence, and God can use my pats and hugs as much as he can my words. I would love to give each of them this book as I know it will say everything I can’t without the “ugly cry” I’ve got going just trying to type this. Thank you for this devotional, and for any prayers lifted up for Bethany, Andy and both sets of grandparents. Our excitement has turned to sorrow but their courageous spirit is teaching me so much. God can use this sad situation for Good.
    Praising Him in This Storm – Judy

  594. I’m walking they a very conflicted time right now with my sister/friend and it’s hard to know the right thing to do. I also have a friend that just lost her five year old daughter in an accident and have struggled with how to most encourage her. Thank you for this article and if love to read your book !

  595. DENISE KERSHAW says:

    I WOULD LOVE TO LEARN TO BE A BETTER FRIEND, I HAVE A FEW CLOSE FRIENDS THAT ONCE I READ THE BOOK I WOULD LOVE TO SHARE IT WITH THEM. THEN MAYBE GET TOGETHER AND TALK ABOUT THE BOOK!

  596. Anna Stockton says:

    I’ve been looking for a study to do with my daughters, who are 24 & 21 and going through some conflict in their circle and with each other. My millenials are challenged with finding true friendship.
    I think this would be a perfect book to go through together.
    For what HE has done,
    Anna

  597. Stephanie says:

    I would love to read the book. I have had friendships dissolve and not know why. I felt abandoned but more importantly, I want to be the best friend that I can be. I don’t ever want my friend to feel I abandoned them.

  598. Kimberly says:

    Thank you so much for the article! I am struggling very much with making new friends and also with letting go of one that I have so treasured but that has grown hurtful and “unequally yoked”. I would treasure a copy of your book Heart Sisters! God bless you!!!

  599. Great article
    I need this book. I am the friend who’s friends walked away when I needed them most. As of today I am friendless, lonely and in need of a fresh start. I won’t to learn how to be better

  600. Sometimes you just need Jesus with skin on and that what your friends are for. So thankful for my soul sisters!!

  601. Jenn Walker says:

    This book would be amazing!!! I pray for God to bring me some soul sisters!!

  602. Krisee G. says:

    I would love to win a copy!! I have been hurt severely by women friends that I have a very hard time finding women that I feel I can trust. I put up walls so that I feel I won’t get hurt.

  603. I want to be able to be there for others and reach out to them!

  604. Heidi Braden says:

    When my mom passed away, I had a few friends who “showed up.” They were just there. I needed that. Me…I tend to overthink things. “What should I say?” “What if she doesn’t want me to help?” Etc. I avoid conflict. I stay quiet. I’d love to learn how to “just be” for a friend. 🙂

  605. Darlene Seger says:

    I have had few really close girlfriends but have and do treasure each one.

  606. Justine Sta. Maria says:

    I would like to win a copy of the book for my best friend and I, so we can read it together. I stumbled upon this blog post after finishing a heart felt conversation with my best friend on the phone. Sometimes, life becomes too overwhelming and you just shut down. However, this is where God comes in and showers you with his love and comfort. In addition, God uses people to get through you and today, he used my best friend to get through me. Because of God’s goodness, He provided my friend with the right words to say- the exact words I needed to hear in order to be encouraged and motivated to keep going in life. For this reason, I thank God everyday for using people like my best friend as his messengers and I plan to share the book with her if I win a copy.

  607. Brandi Farrow says:

    I would absolutely love to read this book. It’s as if God showed me this post today! I have a co-worker/friend who is going to be having a double mastectomy with reconstruction tomorrow. Today she was at work and she was so upset. I had no idea what to say to her! I didn’t want to upset her by saying the wrong things, so I just sat near her. Sometimes I feel like I don’t know how to be a good friend in the hard times. I would love to learn how to open up more.

  608. Mandy P says:

    I went through a very difficult time about 5 years ago and needed my friends more than anything. Unfortunately, I had friends who instead of helping me, chose to shut me out as they didn’t want to be part of my troubles. I clung to my best friend and others who I had not known for very long. My one long time best friend and a friend I only knew for a few years ended up being my rock and were there for me 24/7. I am still working on forgiving those who turned their back, but pray daily for the friends that grew closer to me.

  609. Madison Guist says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book! I would use it to learn how to be the best friend I can be to my two little sisters and how to rekindle old friendships that I can feel are fading due to lack of time and long distances between us.

  610. I would love to read this book and pass it on to friends, family, and my church sisters!

  611. Nancy Wagner says:

    I would LOVE a copy of this book!!!!! I treasure the soul sisters in my life and advocate for the importance of community.

  612. Friendship is tough. It takes work. But so worth it. It doesn’t get easier as you get older. As we run through our every day fast-paced lives, it takes more effort to reach out and be a friend. To find friends. I would love to read this book and learn more on how to be a better friend.

  613. Cindy McDaniels says:

    Thank you for such thought provoking words. Our family is coming out of a very difficult time losing most of our friends because of it. It is heart breaking. We are slowly rebuilding but I still struggle. I welcome any tools to overcome this difficulty. Thank you.

  614. Stephanie Andriuoli says:

    My best friend is moving to North Carolina and I would love to give her this book in her going away box! 🙂

  615. Lynn Harrington says:

    I would love to have a copy of this book. I think I could learn a lot and apply it to a bible study I am doing right now.

  616. Would love to have this book! Struggling in this arena but have been seeking Him for direction. This post is right on time (isnt He always?).

  617. Amy Rardon says:

    This was the perfect thing for me to hear today. Would love a copy of this book.

  618. I enjoy reading your blog. It keeps me encouraged at work. I feel like I’m the lone Christian here

  619. Would love to win a copy of this book for my sweet baby girl. She struggles with a friend who wants everything from her. She thinks my baby girl should jump when she says and if she doesn’t then this friend becomes very upset with her.

    Thanks for the give away.

  620. Jennifer G says:

    I’d love to win a copy to read and share…there is a HUGE difference in my friend list since I’ve had many, many changes in my life of late!

  621. Mandy A says:

    I love this. As a deacon’s wife I sometimes find myself in a situation of being a listener to those who need to talk. I also work with women who like to gossip…this would be a great tool to have in situations like this.

  622. Sierra Fleming says:

    I would give it to my girlfriends Heather and Kristen. They both have been there for me picking me up when I was down. Win one buy two!!!!

  623. I have a wonderful friend. She has become my spiritual sister. She knows me inside and out. We are there for each other always. She brought me to the Lord and helps me keep on track when I start to falter. Thank you.

  624. God recently revelled to me that I don’t have to experience the same struggles to be there for a friend. For so long I didn’t ask the tough questions or speak the soft truth, but just prayed for someone if I was unable to relate. Pray for the person it extremely important, but God gives wisdom even if there is not experience. If God is giving wisdom, do speak truth…softly. :))

  625. I would love to win this book because I would love to learn to be a better friend to the ladies in my life.

  626. I showed up for my friend this morning — my best friend. I’m getting married in November and she is a bridesmaid. She’s been struggling with family health crises and job issues and personal issues, in the wake of all that time has basically ran out for her to order her bridesmaids dress and she felt terrible about it falling by the wayside and not having the means to get it. I told her to pick out her dress and send me her size and I would get it for her because that’s what friends. it’s not a handout it’s not a bail out it’s just what we do when our best friends need help and you want them beside you on your wedding day. She’s been there for me anytime that she could be emotionally physically financially spiritually in and I try to do the same for her. This time it just happened to be financially and then emotionally.

  627. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer the immediate sense of facing the trial by myself seemed almost impossible, and while family is wonderfully supportive, it has been without a doubt the outpouring of love and support from my girlfriends (especially the ones already going through cancer treatments) that wrapped around me and strengthened me for the fight. Along the way I became that support for someone I met during treatments and we became friends. God truly sends us what we need, we just have to be open to see it and pull it close. I am so looking forward to this book and would love a copy!

  628. Such a great devotion. I would love to have a copy of your book. My hearts desire is to be that friend. I want to slow down and allow God to use me to encourage my sister’s in Christ.

  629. In a conflict with my mom. She was my best friend and now we hardly talk. I would like this book to help us get through this rough time and come out together with God.

  630. Wow! This touched something in me. It brought back memories of a few years back when I lost two good friends because of their reactions to my hurt. Powerful, and it got me to thinking. Thx.

  631. Some of my girlfriends and I have been meeting once a week to do a Bible study together. Many times we have discussed our “issues” in relationships and how what we EXPECT of people sometimes ends up ruining a good thing. I feel like this book would be an amazing addition to our Bible study and help us to learn how we can support each other in trying times instead of expecting things of others.

  632. I would love a copy of this book to help with my friendship and sibling relationships.

  633. Judy Flint says:

    I would love to win this to learn how to be the best friend for others when they aren’t always for me!

  634. Alejandra says:

    I would love to win the book to be able to help my sisters who are also my friends. Some situations can be hard and a friend with a good advice is always appreciated.

  635. Debbie N says:

    Incould use this book to personally reflect on how I can be a better sister in Christ with many ladies that I know are struggling and need to hear from me but I flop or fudge the words or actions because I just don’t know what to say or do. I love these women and I understand pain. I want to reach out to them in a confident and loving way to help them.

  636. Lisa Roycroft says:

    I really need this.vi have had many friends help me with the death of my Mother. I truly have a desire to be a great friend to those and many more.

  637. Karen Long says:

    I would love to win a copy because I recently moved away from my best friend. I miss her terribly. I will read the book and pass it on to my friend.

  638. Christine Smith says:

    Friendships are so important and require putting the time into the relationship. I find that in this busy world the days of just stopping by to say hello are long gone. It’s very sad how impersonal we have become. I would love to read this book and find out how I can be a better friend.

  639. Maranatha says:

    I would love to have a copy of your book. I am part of a wonderful group of ladies who mentor teen girls at our church. We have a retreat every year with the girls where we discuss issues like boys, friendships, parents, school, and life in general. We are having our retreat this weekend and my topic is all about friendship. I would love to give this away to one of the girls.

    Thanks.

  640. I would love to win a copy of this book to help with several of my friendships. I’m currently not speaking to my sister in law after a fight, and it’s hard to find a middle ground to try to fix our relationship. I feel that this book would help a lot, especially since I know we’re both working on walking with Christ.

  641. I have had 2 friends move away because of family issues and it broke my heart. I want to be able to trust again and have a close friendship again. Praying that’s God’s plan too.

  642. Pam Cunningham says:

    I try to handle things on my own. I need to learn how to let people help me. I also need to learn how to better help others

  643. I really struggle with having anyone who wants to be a friend with me, to spend time with me, even though I’ve been there for so many women. I would love to learn how to be a woman that someone would want to be a friend with and would love to win this book!

  644. I want the book for me. I want to be better at just being there when needed. I loved this devotion, a word when i needed it.

  645. Carolyn says:

    I would love this book as I have a friend – a strong woman of God who needs a friend she can rely on heavily as she pastors to others. I want to be the best friend I can be to her and I know this book will offer guidance and support to enable me and encourage me in our journey together as best friends.

  646. Ever since I was a teenager I felt in my heart to help people who were hurting. As I grew that desire has grown also. I want to have christian resources to learn more on becoming a better friend.

  647. nikki smith says:

    I would love to win this book.. mostly because I wasn’t brought up in a religious home and I am fairly new in my walk of faith.. somedays are a struggle just to make it through and other days I’m so full of fire I can hardly contain it! I’ve been severely hurt in the past by a dear friend and have spent the past 6 years trying to overcome that hurt… I have other great friends (sisters in Christ) that I would love to give my best friendship possible to.. amd I believe that this book would help me on that path! Thank you so much for this give away and for sharing your God given talent! Have a blessed day!

  648. There is nothing more powerful than a praying friend!

  649. Whitney Moore says:

    I would love to receive a copy of your book. I recently “broke up with a friend”, and am having a really rough time coming to terms with it. I need to learn to be a better friend so badly. I try and pray and believe I have changed, but always mess things up in the end.

  650. Monica F. says:

    The older I get I feel the harder it is to make new friends. The ones I have just seem to get more distant from me. How do I give all I have only to get nothing in return? I would over this book to shed some light on the delicate journey of friendship

  651. I’d love to read this book – sounds like it could be a helpful one to read and highlight and mark up 😀

  652. Stephanie says:

    I’d love the book for myself & share with my best friend! Wonderful devotional.

  653. Jean Lord says:

    Yes I would like to have this book, but Linda Conn is my 2nd cousin, my sister in Christ and my best friend since we were kids needs it more. Through the years God has brought us through many trials and tribulations with our families. Right now she is going through something and I feel so helpless. She is in North Carolina and I am here in Florida. I thank God Jerry and I decided to switch phone service providers so that we can talk endless hours. I thank God He blessed me with a husband who loves me beyond compare. We both have asked our pastors, “Why does God love us so much, I’m not Job!”

  654. bethany says:

    I would love to win this book. This is a needed topic for all women at some point, whether they realize it or not. Of course, the real friend who will never let us down is Jesus only, but I appreciate learning the perspectives of others so I can learn how to reach out to those who don’t know how to allow close friendships into their heart because they’ve been hurt or don’t know to care for others and how to love them anyway.

  655. Tahler Wagner says:

    This would be so awesome for my college bible study to use this year!!

  656. I would love to win a copy for myself. I can always learn to be a better friend!

  657. Kayla Biggs says:

    I would love to have this because I want a better relationship with my in-laws, we are so different. Also, my mil is hormonal due to menopause and idk how to be there for her without getting hurt myself. In addition, I turned my back on someone who needed me because I was hurting too and she wasn’t there for me as well. I have been selfish and realize my behavior but I don’t know how to correct it. I just want better relationships with everyone around me. I want to show my kids what healthy relationships look like.

  658. Jen Portell says:

    Speaking in truth and love to a friend is a beautiful and treasured gift! Women need each other for support, encouragement and love. I’m looking forward to reading and sharing with those who deeply desire to be that friend! 🙂

  659. Becky Hubred says:

    I’ve been in that place of deep hurt. Some friends took such good care, but many, many avoided the hurt, which hurt even more. Sadly, I find myself doing the things that I didn’t like when others did to me, and I would love the encouragement of this book.

  660. I would love this book! This is one thing I was talking to a friend last week. I am working towards being a better friend. One that is present, one that is willing to speak soft truth, one that loves even when it’s difficult. I know I need help in this area as I’ve always been a friend that hides because of all the fears listed above.

  661. lily rodriguez says:

    i would like to win the book so i can read it and become a better friend and to know how to be there for my friends one of them Jessica she always there for me when im feeling sad or heart broken.

  662. I have been the one who was let down by a friend. Still hurts after almost 20 years. I forgave but it still comes to my mind on occasion. I hope I have NEVER been the one to let someone down! I would love to read how others have dealt with this. Thank you.

  663. Aimee Bartis says:

    I’d love to have a copy of the book. I’m 40 now and have finally found a group of adult girlfriends to rival my college friends. Since we are older, we have more going on. Sometimes these things are hard. I’d like to read about being a Godly friend.

  664. I would like this book, because I was recently hurt by friends who didn’t show up when I had a deep wound. I never want to be the friend who didn’t show up. I want the Lord to use me to show up for these friends and point them to Jesus.

  665. I would love to read this book and then give it to a friend.

  666. I would love to own a copy of this myself, but it would also make a great gift!

  667. Jennifer Strickland says:

    Would really like to win this book. Loved this devotion.

  668. kelly valdez says:

    I would appreciate winning a copy of this book because the truth is, I go through seasons of hiding away… I want & need the encouragement of being an ‘always there’ friend….. I need real disciplines & advice from Godly women who tell it like it is.
    Thank you for considering me.
    In Him <3

  669. Jenn Harty says:

    I have been hurt a lot, but I also have hurt friends. I would love to get this book so I can be the best friend I can be.

  670. My best friend is going through a divorce and I would love to be a better encouragement to her.

  671. Jessica Douglass says:

    My husband is looking to go into ministry soon and as a soon to be pastor’s wife I know this would come in handy. I have also struggled with making friends and would love to know ways that I can be a better friend.

  672. Kathleen Lewis says:

    This year, more than any other, I have learned the importance of having good girlfriends who share the same values and ideals. A good friend is worth their weight in gold!! I would love to win this book for myself to read and then pass on to my girlfriends as well.

  673. Caran J. says:

    Sadly, I am that friend who walked away when the tension and conflict got bad. The awkwardness and uncertainty was unbearable and I took the easy way out. I walked away! I don’t want to be that friend that jumps ship everytime the storms come. This book is exactly what I need to read! ♡

  674. Carol Stainbrook says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book to help me become a more supportive, encouraging friend.

  675. Tissy M. says:

    I always try to be a good friend and go above and beyond even when my friends do not or seem distant. I would like this book to help me grow as a woman and friend and be able to share it and pass it on when I am done with it.

  676. Lisa Stowell says:

    I would love this book for my friend and I. I recently had to move across the country and one of the hardest things I’ve done was having to say goodbye. We r sisters of the heart and know that distance won’t change that but how I miss the daily connection face to face.

  677. Tami Joslyn says:

    This is exactly where I am at in my life journey right now. I have always lived with a God and me mentality (Can you really trust humanity?). I recently decided that I was going to make a deliberate effort to form the kind of frienships that God intended to support and uplift each other. Now the next question in my journey is … How do I even do that?

  678. Cyndi Shaver says:

    I will be leading a group of ladies this fall in bible study and would like this book as a resource in leading. Thank you.

  679. I would love to win a copy of this book. To learn to be the type of friend God would want me to be is something I’d like to learn. Friendship is so valuable.

  680. Rachel Gingerich says:

    This is great! Would love to have a chance to read this book and then pass it on! My friends mean the world to me & I would love to know how to be a better friend to them!

  681. Doreen Collis says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book to where my best friend and I could read it together.

  682. I would love to read this book. Being a true friend is difficult and being honest and receiving honesty is part of a true and deep friendship. It is something I have in very few friends.

  683. Lorrie Barela says:

    I had a couple of good friends that I lost touch with…I miss our talks and all the great laughs we used to have. I tried several times to get in touch but they are busy with life. I pray one day I can be there and they can be there for me. I would love to read this book to see how I can be a better friend….

  684. Jennifer Y says:

    I am walking through heartache right now. I am so thankful this came through my facebook feed right when I needed it. He is always there and always provides! Thank you for writing this. I can’t wait to read it.

  685. Kristyn Stimits says:

    I want to learn how to listen to others just as Jesus listens to my everyday worries. I am a super awkward person when it comes to comforting someone and I want to feel the joy of being able to simply listen to someone by not saying anything at all.♡

  686. I have four sisters and we are all so different in personalities and places in our lives that we tend to butt heads often. I would love to read this book and pass it along to the other sisters. Family is forever!

  687. Andrea D says:

    If I received a copy, I would use it to learn how to deepen my friendships. I have barely had any friends in my younger days, and even those friendships were shallow. Now in the last few years I’ve been blessed with an amazing church community, and I feel left in the dust on how to have truly meaningful relationships.

  688. Bree Lafferty says:

    Friends is a main topic in my walk lately. See, I have no female friends. No one that even checks in once in awhile to see I’m ok. I struggle but am coming to grips with this. It’s ok. I still refuse to stop being a friend to all those around me. A book to encourage me especially on those really hard days when I am feeling I would like some return, would be awesome.

    Thank you, and have a blessed day!

  689. Lindsey Olson says:

    Above all else, Love.

  690. Paige Harbuck says:

    So many comments for entries. My daughter is 19 and has learned the hard way what frenemies are. She doesn’t have a best friend, nor any really good girlfriends. I want for her so much to have that one godly best friend she can lean on. I would love so much for her to learn what to look for and HOW to be that person to someone else.

  691. Meredith Attaway says:

    I haven’t been a good friend lately. One of my best friends for 16 years has been having a hard time with losing her father. He was like a father to me. I was there for her and I tried to make her smile and just tried to keep her busy. While I found out I was pregnant and was having a hard time with it. I didn’t tell anyone but my family. My friend found out by my mom telling her when I was 22 weeks pregnant. I didn’t want her to be here for me. I didn’t want my problems to be her problems. I am just learning on how to be a good Christian. I was baptized for 12 years. Here recently I have been trying to find my way back to God. I need all the help I can get. It hasn’t been easy.

  692. Kelsey Ann Larson says: