Voices of Accusation

Voices of Accusation

October 1, 2013

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1 (NIV)

Do you ever hear the whisper of condemnation? It hisses: you’re not what you should be … your past sins define you … you’ll never change.

Unfortunately I do. Self-condemnation is a default for me. If I let it, it can wipe out my confidence as a woman, wife and mom.

Thankfully, I’m just as familiar with God’s truth as I am with Satan’s lies. My heart has heard Jesus’ gentle reminders of His love and goodness, like “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1).

Although I know this truth God speaks over me, I’ve learned it’s up to me to respond correctly. If I don’t keep my ears tuned to His voice and my mind set on His thoughts, I forget God’s truths.

Condemning thoughts come back and drown out the confidence I have through Christ.

One morning I was struggling with self-condemning thoughts when I read these words written in my morning devotion: “Do not listen to voices of accusation for they are not from Me [God].”*

I opened my journal and responded from my heart:

Hello Lord, I often feel disappointed in my decisions and who I am and call myself names. But my negative thoughts aren’t the only ones I hear. My feelings have been hurt by someone else’s comments that cut me down and stole my confidence. Instead of feeling worthy, I feel like a loser. I hear You telling me not to listen to voices of accusation. Thank You for this reminder right when I needed it.

The devotion continued, “Pause before responding to people or situations, giving My Spirit space to act through you. Hasty words and actions leave no room for Me.”

Again, I reached out to God:

Lord, I spoke unkind words back to my friend. Thank You for gently reminding me to “pause before responding.” You are so faithful to remind me of what You want from me.

If left to defend ourselves from self-condemnation or the condemnation of others, we’d be defeated every time. Thankfully, we have the greatest defender in God and His Word. His truths re-build the confidence that condemnation breaks down.

Our part is to know God’s promises and believe and apply them! Staying saturated in His Word and taking time to listen to the Holy Spirit is the best way to overcome condemnation. We can supplement these through reading devotions, digging into books on our specific area of struggle, and participating in Bible studies. All these things help re-build our confidence that is in Christ.

As we take the time to listen to Him today, let’s ask God to remind us that He is with us; He loves us, and His Word is true: “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” That means you and me!

Dear Lord, when I forget, please remind me that because of the cross and because You are my Savior, I am not condemned. Help me keep my eyes and thoughts on You. And to accept Your Word as truth so my confidence stays strong in You. In Jesus’ Name, amen.

Related Resources:
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Find out more about A Confident Heart: How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Live in the Security of God’s Promises by Renee Swope.

Reflect and Respond:
What condemning thoughts do you believe about yourself?

What are some of God’s promises you can use to replace your accusing thoughts?

Power Verses:
Exodus 14:13-14, “Don’t be afraid. Just stand still and watch the LORD rescue you today. The Egyptians you see today will never be seen again. The LORD himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.” (NLT)

Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” (NIV 1984)

Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence by Sarah Young

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  1. Loved this devotion! I do struggle with feelings of condemnation. So often I feel taken advantage of and then I let my feelings of hurt tell myself that I’m not good enough or I don’t matter. So and so doesn’t care about me so there must be something wrong with me. But I know these are all lies from Satan. I need to just rely and lean into God because after all, He is the only one I need to please and be obedient to.

    • Carol Freeman says:

      Had my moments, haven’t we all. Can understand why we need to pray for those who take advantage of us, hurt us; perhaps those who hurt us from time to time, at work or even at home are really living their whole life with multiple hurts that we will never really understand.

  2. Was sending an email to my boss and having a little pity party when I saw this. “Pause before responding” was just what I needed to hear.

  3. Thank you for this calming, soothing word of hope and peace. We are often our worst enemy, giving fuel to Satan to tear us down. Thank you for pointing me toward The One who loves me unconditionally. The One who’s got me covered, covered in His blood, so only Jesus shows through.

  4. Satan is so subtle. I pray everyday that I would hear the Holy Spirit and only Him. There are so many “voices” we hear…..Help me to know which one is you Lord.

  5. Phillippa says:

    This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Even though I see evidence of being loved, some days I just can’t stand myself and therefore assume everyone else can’t stand me either. I call myself names and show myself no mercy. But even if there are things about myself that disappoint and frustrate me, praise God that His love is unconditional. Thank you for your honesty and bravery Melissa. Your words helped me so much at a time when I most needed it. God bless you!

  6. So easy to let our emotions dictate us and define us as women. I was a good mom,wife, friend today= I am good enough. Then something happens or someone says something and our souls unravel. It’s such a daily re-aligning myself with His love for me–a reminding that I am worthy because I am His and nothing else. Thank you for your beautiful words this morning…blessings, Lindsay

  7. I just hear “that voice” as I awoke this morning. “I am a failure as a mother.” Last night our older of two sons called to say he finally was tired of his drunk wife after bout after bout of drunkenness. This was after our other daughter in law told me that our younger son has had affairs for seven years. We haven in the midst of dealing with therapy on how to deal with the affair business and our DIL’s request to not talk with our son about this. Our sons love us but what did I/we do so that they both chose manipulative wives? This verse today means so much and I will send it to bot our sons as well.

  8. Thank you for this devotion today. I needed to remember that I need to cling to God and let him take over my battles. One in specific today. I am assuring myself that God will intervene and keep me calm and able to overcome.

  9. What is the Bible passage that says, ” Do not listen to voices of accusation for they are not from Me (God).” Then there was another verse, too and I would like to know where these come from? Are they Bible passages? Or is this from a devotional?

  10. Thank God for using you as His vessel this morning…I was in the battlefield of my mind thinking…”What’s the use, I don’t make a difference anyhow, I don’t really do anything that makes a difference in the kingdom or in any one’s life, every day seems to be a struggle just to get through them, life is so stressful, etc.” I know the thoughts are not of my Lord and I can’t rely on feelings. Some days are deep valleys! I know I do have to replace those negative thoughts and emotions with His truths, because I am to have the mind of Christ. Thank you for the encouragement today Melissa! God bless you…

  11. Shannon West says:

    This devotion is so awesome. I work for a domestic violence/sexual assault shelter for women and children and “Voices of Accusation” is a major component to abuse. I print out a lot of the P31 devos for our women and this one will surely hit home to most of them, if not all of them. It will also be super encouraging to our staff. Listening to the Voice of Truth can sometimes be easier said than done, but that is what we’re praying for our women! The kids have such a hard time with this too, even the tee-tiny ones! We do our best to feed the women and children love and encouragement. This is so encouraging and SPOT – ON!

  12. Yes, this is me today…lacking in the confidence I had yesterday. Looking to people for my identity and worth instead of His word. Thanks for the reminder.

  13. I so need this today. I need to be reminded that my past sins do not define me. I am forgiven. There is no Condemination becasue I am in Christ. It was as if God Was teling me as Well ” Do not listen to the Voices of accusation for they for not form me( God). Thank you for sharing that. Thank you for this Devotion. I pray that we all Look to God to fill us with Confidence today.

  14. Ethel May Miller says:

    Good morning Melissa,

    Nice to hear from you since the OBS What Happens –YES !!

    I especially appreciate the verse you chose today Romans 8:1 It was the verse my husband wanted to hear before he went to be with the Lord 21 years ago. Like me, he accepted Jesus into his heart at age 11 and spent his adult life as a devotional minister. But like all of us, sin creeps in and there is restoration that is so sweet. What struck me so vividly was that he knew he would be seeing his Lord very soon and wanted the assurance that things were right with the Lord. Not everyone gets that last minute chance, but to me it is a testimony of his life of service to the Lord whom he loved in spite of human weaknesses. It is an encouragement to us all to keep short accounts with God.

  15. As women of God, we must always remember the truth that we were chosen by God. The Lord had us in His heart, before we were ever born and became part of history — He saw us and loved us for our unique beauty. When we lose touch with our chosenness, we expose ourselves to the temptation of self-rejection, and that temptation undermines the possibility of ever growing as His Beloved women of God. We must remember that God chose us, even when the world we live in does not choose us.

    This wisdom is not my own, but that of the dear Henri Nouwen, in his book “Life of the Beloved” which I am now reading.

    Henri goes on to say that there are 3 guidelines for staying in-touch with our chosenness.

    1) You have to keep unmasking the world about you for what it is: manipulative, controlling, power-hungry and, in the long-run, destructive. The world tells many lies about who you are, and you simply have to be realistic enough to remind yourself of this.
    2) You have to keep looking for people and places where your truth is spoken and where you are reminded of your deepest identity as the chosen one.
    3) You have to celebrate your chosenness constantly. Gratitude is the most fruitful way of deepening your consciousness that you are not “an accident”, but a divine choice.

    Henri’s wisdom blessed me this morning, and I pray that it does the same for you. I am ever amazed at how the soul simply recognizes truth when it is heard!


  16. Struggle with this daily. Thanks for the reminder!

  17. Trying to heal says:

    Thanks for this timely reminder. I feel like I’m drowning lately from battling feelings of self-hate and worthlessness from sexual abuse in my past. The condemning voices we hear are not from God.

  18. Sonja Bailey says:

    I love
    Proverbs 31 as a whole each of you are so powerful… I love Jesus is Calling…the devotions are so in today… I am also doing a Women of Faith devotional in one of their Bibles…I am over whelmed ti live the exact things, words, feelings , that are a;; being given to me as I am in need of it all…
    I toll have much I hear against me and can easily forget the beautiful words of God in the cruel place called Earth and living here as life… but to be given these reminders each day or as often as each hour some days…I am truly blessed… The Love of God thru Jesus Christ is amazing…His forgiveness is equal…
    living in Jesus today and tomorrow… as your sister…

  19. Thank-you for this perfectly timed devotion. I am about to enter a meeting including some potentially highly critical people and this is just the reassurance that God is with me all the time.
    Thank-you again.

  20. Wow!!! Thanks for this word. It was like it was written just for my situation today. Needed a reminder for what I already know: “God is in control!” Especially when I have no control over the circumstances around me.

  21. Thank you,

  22. Kayla Perkins says:

    The Lord knows this is just what I needed today! I’m so glad that you and the other Proverbs 31 Ladies are open, giving real-life examples of how we can apply God’s word and will to our lives. Thank you! Be blessed today and always!


  23. I needed this one today! Thank you God!

  24. Praise the LORD! Love Romans 8:1

  25. I thank you, Lord, for all these beautiful women in Proverbs 31….please continue to bless them. It can’t be easy for them to come forward and bare their inner most feelings. Reading their stories, opens a window into my own soul. I so easily relate, in some way, to each of their experiences. Their healing becomes my healing…because You speak thru them. Their words resonate Your Truths. In You, Lord, I am made whole. Praise and glory to God. In Jesus’ name I pray…Amen

  26. Today’s devotion rang so clearly in my heart. Not only do I sometimes retreat into my self, but at this very
    moment I was trying to think of how to approach a dear friend about this very issue. Thank you for sharing
    both your story and the Word that supports it. I will use it right away!!

  27. God is so good! This has been in my inbox for a couple of days and today I read it. It’s exactly what I needed to read at this moment. He knows the pain in our hearts and if we just listen, He will bring to us exactly what we need. Thank you for your devotions.

  28. I feel so deeply condemed. This may not be the place to post such a thing, but i am lost, and my prayers feel as though they are in vain. I cheated on my husband, and I am trying to convince this wonderful, good, steady man that loved me so much that I am sorry, and my heart is shattered for what I have done. Normally, it is the husband that strays. We have been together many years and the hurt on his heart is paramount. I am wrong, and after all this time I have repented to god my father, and to my husband, and I am full of fear, ans shame and regret. At the time I felt very, very, lonely. My husband works long hours, and has little time for me. Whenever I tried to make time for him, he never wants to talk or hear what I have to say. I know he loves me, and would do anything for me, but the silence was unbearable. He wouldnt touch me, and all my efforts and prayers felt as though they were in vain. Now I sit under his condemnation, and possibly divorce, and I have cried and tried, and prayed to god to salvage this despite a horrible action on my part. Im so sorry for posting this here. I just feel so alone, and no matter how much I pray I feel like I really am alone.

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