When Nothing’s Going Right

When Nothing’s Going Right

February 4, 2016

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28 (NIV)

Lysa TerKeurst

I was discouraged.

I’d really started serving God with all my heart and spending more time in His Word than ever. But instead of circumstances getting better, they got much harder!

In two months’ time, my life went from being wonderfully fulfilling and clicking right along to being completely topsy-turvy.

My computer went a little crazy and some very important documents disappeared.

A big book deal I was excited about fell through.

Our well broke, and we went several days without water.

My kids were much younger then and required more energy than my worn-down emotions had to give. I carried around this sense of guilt for not being a more patient and fun-loving mom.

Then, on top of a host of other interruptions and haphazard happenings, my husband blew out his knee and had to have major reconstructive surgery, leaving him bedridden for nearly five weeks. I felt myself getting caught in a whirlwind of emotions.

I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. A friend of mine hit the nail on the head when she said, "Lysa, I think when you go with God to a new level, you get a new devil."

While I’m not sure about the exact theological correctness of that statement, I do know Satan hates the radically obedient soul. He hates it when a person jumps off the fence of complacency and into the center of God’s will. A spiritual battle is raging around us and because of that, life can be hard. While saying yes to God does bring blessing, it’s not easy.

If our desire for obedience is born merely out of duty, we may be quick to give up. Especially when everything in life seems to be going haywire. However, if our desire is born out of delight, out of a love relationship that burns deep in our souls, it won’t be extinguished — no matter the cost.

One of my favorite love stories in the Bible is that of Jacob and Rachel. Jacob’s love for Rachel gave him purpose and perspective, which led to amazing persistence. He served Rachel’s father for many years to earn the right to marry Rachel because he loved her that much: "So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her" (Genesis 29:20, NIV).

Do you see what love can do for a person’s view of his circumstances? When you are crazy in love with someone, you’ll do anything for him — and do it with the highest level of sheer joy. I want to be so crazy in love with Jesus that not only do I serve Him, but I do it with absolute delight — even when life gets hard and messy.

You see, a real sign of spiritual maturity is looking to God for purpose and perspective instead of comfort and convenience.

Trust me, I understand asking God for comfort and convenience, but I’ve seen that often leads me to complacency. Once God solves my issues, I move on and forget to look for lessons I need to learn from what I faced.

But looking to God for purpose and perspective forces me to learn crucial lessons in perseverance and maturity. Then I can understand the meaning of Romans 8:28, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (NIV). This does not mean that everything that happens to us will be good, but that God will work in and through every situation to bring good from it.

And let’s not miss the last four words of this verse, where we are reminded that it is all "according to his purpose." God has a purpose, and His plans to accomplish that purpose are perfect. Trusting God’s purpose, and seeking to understand that He takes all the events from our life and orchestrates good from them, leads to a changed perspective.

So although it may be difficult to maintain the right attitude with technology on the fritz and a house that hasn’t been cleaned in weeks, it’s important to look to God for that change in perspective. We can trust that in the midst of all the things that seem to go wrong, something will go right.

Dear Lord, I thank You for the purpose You place in everything. Give me Your perspective today as I struggle with some things that may not be going "right." I know You have a greater plan through it all. I love You and long to live for You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
James 1:2-3, "Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow." (NLT)

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." (NIV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
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REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Praise can help change our perspective. What can you specifically praise God for today — even in the midst of great trials?

Journal about a time in your life when you saw God use difficult circumstances for your good. Remembering His past faithfulness can encourage and strengthen us in the midst of our present struggles.

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  1. TrinaLynn Blair says:

    Thank you i neededto hear that i am notthe only one getting farther in Gods word and still having problems. Many blessings sent your way always and forever.

  2. Thank you Lysa, you nailed it, just what I wanted to hear today. Everything in my life is just ‘not right’. I need your prayers.

  3. I feel like this “unnecessary stress and heartache” roller coaster just keeps going…even when I feel like I have paid my dues and surrender with both hands up in the air, because I seriously want off of this crazy ride, it just keeps turning out well, downright undesirable. I have been reminded to keep my faith that God has this under control and he makes no mistake – I will eventually get to recognize the good that will come from all of this that I blindly call a “disaster.” Thank you for keeping my mind and heart in check during this rough time.

  4. Thank you, this is just what i needed. God bless you big.

  5. Thank you Lisa, I needed this today. May God continue to bless your ministry and you.

  6. If anyone does not feel God’s love because of the crazy circumstances transpiring around them, this kind of encouragement should be viewed as a display of His love. That he would encourage us right where we are!

    A friend texted me two days ago, saying ‘journey through your God ordained & approved life. Don’t miss your soul-step because the enemy’s darts star flying at you. That trouble is a mirage. Be steadfast.”

    May his words encourage you as well!

  7. I am 61 years and has been diagnosed with dimentia and I can not accept it! Please pray for me as I am single and my children especially my son treats me as if I am totally stupid. I need wisdom and grace as I have worked as a registered nurse in a dementia unit for more than 5 years.

    • O Hester, that sounds hard. I am sorry. Perhaps your children are as afraid as you are.

      I work in a hospital, and I often read in a chart that a patient is “pleasantly confused.” The word “dementia” sounds frightening, but one doesn’t have to know the date or who is the president to enjoy the day.

      Trust in the Lord with all your heart, Hester. Don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge God, and he will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). Don’t worry about tomorrow (Matthew 6:34). This is the day that the Lord has made. Rejoice and be glad in it (Psalm 118:24).

    • Hester, thank you for your hard work as a nurse & I will be praying for you! Your name made me think of another Hester that I knew many years ago. She was a talented quilt maker & I purchased several of her creations that are dear to me.

    • Isaiah 53:5 (NKJV) – But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed.

      BELIEVE and DECLARE His truth over your life always, anything else is a lie!
      Romans 3:4 (NKJV) – …Indeed, let God be true but every man a liar…

      I pray the relationships with your children dramatically improve. Take Care!

    • Praying hard for you Hester that you may find comfort , peace and God’s perspective through all this. As I’m sure you know, there are many wonderful souls that work with dementia patients and God will send them your way when needed.

    • So hard Hester — I totally get it… I am 62 so I feel a “bond” with you already – :) The same “decade-age” :)

      And as I write I am praying for you and asking our LORD for a word, or “treasure” of encouragement for you — Perhaps that you will see encouragement from all different places today —

      Sometimes when we know so much about a diagnosis – it is more frightening when we learn of our own “diagnosis.”

      And then that old enemy – “Fear” – comes to find residence in our hearts and minds. Don’t give ‘him’ a home in your heart – sweet “sister.” You have many years of productivity and service yet for the LORD – no matter the diagnosis –

      I find treasures of encouragement in the devotional “Jesus Calling” by Sara Young. I went there – to find a word of encouragement for you – and I saw the entry for February 4 (today!)—– and part of the devotional says this –

      “…As you live in the radiance of My Presence, My Peace shines upon you. You will cease to notice how weak or strong you feel, because you will be focusing on My. The best way to get through this day is step by step with Me…” (From February 4 – “Jesus Calling” by Sara Young)

      “But I trust in your in Your unfailing love….” Psalm 13:5a

      Seize God – “Carpe DEUM” and seize the day – “Carpe Diem!”

      Hoping and trusting that you have found some encouragement for your day…..

  8. Mary in NH says:

    see, a real sign of spiritual maturity is looking to God for purpose and perspective instead of comfort and convenience.
    I’ve got to remember this! My family has entered another season where care for an elderly family member is leaving us emotionally and physically exhausted. I’ll quickly become a whiner if I look to God for comfort and convenience (ain’t happening). But if I look for Gods purpose and perspective, I’ll gain peace.

  9. Thank you for this message today. I can so relate. When I started really getting into Gods word everything went wrong. Car problems, fighting with boyfriend. Work issues and the list goes on. I am now unemployed, so yet another item to add to the list. I wish I could say that I have handled being fired well, I have not I am still hurt and angry by all the betrayal that went into my termination. Still no job in sight and unemployment has not started. I am really trying to cling to the Lord and not get discouraged, but it is a process day by day
    This message today is a good reminder to keep fighting the good fight and continue to trust God when all seems hopeless.

  10. Yvette Williams says:

    So much of what you said about those moments when life is going haywire resonated with me. I am encouraged that God has a purpose and he will help me navigate through the haywire. Thank you, Lysa!

  11. This was right on time for me!! All the way down to the part of feeling guilty as a mom! I feel like I keep going around in this cycle of defeat. I make some progress and I get knocked back down again…but this devotional let me know that I’m truly on the right path. Confirmation to everything I’ve been reading and hearing. Thank you for sharing!

  12. Oh my days! Thank you so very much, this word of encouragement was sooooooooo timely, and as I read it I felt His love wash over me afresh, and the reminder that I am held in the palm of His hand. I sorely needed it. Thank you for sharing, and blessing me. Things are tough recently, and yet my spiritual life has never been closer. I am at a place of seeking His will, my desire is to be in the centre of His will for me, and there wait… content. Everything seems to be an uphill struggle, from finances to personal health, to even my youngest kicking off every morning before school, and zapping the last ounce of energy I have left. Yet, I know He has called me, set me apart and am waiting for the details to be revealed.
    Your word has ministered to me, as the Lord Himself. And I am grateful, so grateful for it! Sometimes the road of obedient obscurity seems so lonely, and to be reminded that I am not alone on that journey and endeavour, (both in the spiritual, and the natural – reading words by women such as yourself) assure me of being part of a bigger plan, bigger purpose and His body.
    Thank you! Abundant blessings

  13. Boy did I need to read this today. It seems my last year that the more faith I have and obedient I am, the more The Devil comes blazing! Each day I have to purposely thank God for the hidden blessings in each circumstance. I struggle daily with guilt feeling like with all the battles the Devil puts before me , I’m less of a mom. I have to practice self compassion and self love everyday to reinstruct my brain that God does not expect me to be a perfect person, or mother. Only that I continue to seek Him for guidance and direction.

  14. So timely. I love God that he can work out any situation for good, and that two of us going through the same situation would learn exactly what we needed to learn, no duplication. And that ultimately we all lean closer to Him. “Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.” Endurance cannot grow on a flat road, only on the hills, and only as we repeat the hills. Lord, help me to trust you fully.

  15. Repeat the hills to build endurance
    Hmmm
    Thanks for the insight on why the same”stuff” comes around time and time again!

  16. My God is amazing! He can move mountains, keep me in the valley, hide me from the rain. I expect a miracle everyday. And my miracles begin each day when I wake up. Big or small I can not wait to see what he does today. My life is a total complete utter mess but this is war and I will not turn back. Thank you for your words of wisdom. May the Lord bless the reading of his word Amen.

  17. Needed to hear that and be reminded. My husband fell and has to have surgery. Everywhere we turn something else is happening. Money is tight. I am trying to hold on to Gods promises because I know this is just a storm that will pass. God will turn our upside down right side up. Amen and thanks and blessings to you.

  18. Michelle Turner says:

    The Deeper my issues, the deeper I try to go in the word for understanding. Sometimes life is just hard. Not understanding why we lost my 37 year old sister with children from 4 autoimmune diseases. Thus, I go deeper in the word for perspective in my pain as my daughter now as an autoimmune disease. We still believe God is able to heal and He is still good in this situation. I pray the doctors prognosis is wrong.

  19. Exactly what I needed too today!! I’ve been finding such joy and strength and contentment with my prayer life increasing as well as reading the word. But like you said, I’ve noticed when I up my desire to seek and be intimate with The Lord , Satan definitely tried to up his game too! That’s what makes it so hard! For example, I’d pray harder for my husband to be blessed at work and this week he’s had one of the most tiring and emotionally upset weeks. But then I get the perspective that because of my increased prayer life and in my spiritual growth, God has equipped me to minister more in to my husband and serve him when he’s upset and show how awesome He is!! And then more joy comes from serving and it becomes a positive spiritual feedback loop :) Thanks everyone for sharing

  20. I definitely needed to hear this today!!!!!

  21. “real sign of spiritual maturity is looking to God for purpose and perspective instead of comfort and convenience “. As I look back, 2 years ago today, my mother went home to be with the Lord. She was a praying mom, full of the word, and loved God! 2 years ago, my husband and I were parenting the most rebellious teenage daughter you could imagine. I couldn’t see purpose or perspective, I wanted relief. Today, the same teen girl just text me how much she loved me. All things work together for them that love God resonate in my mind. Thank you for this beautiful devotion. And to Hester, my mom had dementia. However up until the day she died, she knew all her children, grands, great-grands, and remembered scripture! She remembered what was important. Praying for all my sisters in Christ.

  22. Stephanie says:

    I needed this today! I have been getting closer to Christ and spending more time with Him…you stated clearly when we take our relationship with Him to a new level, we get a new level of Satan. I had an Ah-Ha moment right then and realized I need to rejoice in these trials. He will bring me threw it and He will help me grow once I get threw it. My perspective changes in that split second of your reminder. Thank you for your message and encouragement. The dust will settle and threw the storm I have leaned on His word and His promises. He does show His mercy and gives us His grace. Thank you!!

  23. WHERE IS THAT PRISS? AND PRAYING AMISS:
    Where is that Priss?where is that Priss? These are the words my 19 month old grandson said over and over when his/ moms cat got out and could not be found. Priss is special and if you have a beloved pet you understand this. Priss took the place of another cat Ghost who had died from congestive heart failure. Priss wondered out the door without being seen on Sept.25th and I was heartbroken. I’m a mom, I worry, I guess that’s what moms do?I have been learning a lot about God and Who He really is. Learning to trust in every situation and circumstance…So I came to two conclusions. One: Romans 8:28 (KJV)
    28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. I knew that there must be a lesson and somehow this was going to work for my good. It’s there in The Word so it MUST BE TRUE.Two 2 Samuel 22:31 (KJV)
    31 As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the Lord is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him. His way is perfect, here it is right here in The Word so again it MUST BE TRUE.I struggled with Priss being gone ,had nightmares about it,one thing that bothered me in the first few days was that Priss was seen at my daughters door a few times but each time was scared off by something or someone coming or going.She wanted to come home,she tried to come home. I bounced back and forth like a yo-yo, I went from I know God is good, I know all things work for good… but I also just could not understand how this could be good?How this could be in God’s perfect will? I will admit I was down right angry at times! God do something for me? are you serious He wont even let me have my stupid cat back.Days went by weeks went by and turned into a month and then another month. In the beginning I had searched and searched, I still looked every time I was in the area where she had gone missing from but now without much hope. I still got up every morning and turned on my social media with a little glimmer of hope that maybe just maybe she had been found. Every day my heart sank and as time went on.. I had lost my Priss forever… I know people lose pets all the time, I know life goes on but it was more than this, nothing good ever happens nothing ever works out, why God why? You have a reason? what possible reason could You have for this? God You should,really You must bring her back,there is no reason for this, You can’t possibly have any GOOD reason for not bringing her home!Yo yo-ed back and forth back and forth..I just couldn’t understand, I know You can bring her back I know You can so quite simply WHY DON’T YOU?? There were still those moments of, God I know You’re good, God I know somehow someway this must be for my good? So where is that Priss? and why God oh why will You not let me have something so little and so silly as a cat? Surly You must not care, but once again back to The Word Jeremiah 31:3 (KJV)
    3 The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee. Lovingkindness?? There is NOTHING loving or kind about this. Priss is just that, prissy not big, not strong, petite and tiny. People think Priss is a kitten because she is so small and tiny. A cat like that outdoors on her own? there is no way she made it, too many things, wild dogs, other stray cats, possums, coyotes and it was getting cold, raining storming,and no food. You see she was wearing a bell so even if she tried to catch something chances are she wouldn’t. Back and forth I went, God how could You? to God I know You are good, like a yo-yo back and forth. I drove over to my daughters apt. one morning around 9:30 or so, again just looking, not even really hoping out of habit I guess? Once again I turned to God in prayer.. something humbling hit my heart, I give up Lord Jesus I GIVE UP. I prayed once again, I know You ARE good I know You ARE perfect… so if it’s not You then it must be me.. I’m praying amiss, now too me praying amiss was outside Of God’s will but in those moment I understood something more, I understood that praying amiss was also praying with an attitude a bad attitude,demanding God You must, God You really do have this wrong, but once again back to The Word (Isaiah 55:8-9 (KJV)
    8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord.
    9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.) God there is no good from this,God what do You mean,You wont let me, You wont help me? It’s done, 54 days yes I counted, 54 days Priss is gone surly she is dead? but The Word says in(Matthew 19:26 (KJV)
    26 But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.) In that moment I said God forgive me for what I have done I have sinned against You in my heart, I have sinned against You with my words, I have sinned against You even in my thoughts. I came to two more conclusions in that moment I had done it wrong and I knew I would never see Priss again…You see I have since looked it up and here is the definition of praying amiss-out of order, in the wrong way,imperfect ,in a faulty way,incorrectly…I drove home humbled and sorrowful, sorrowful for what I had done and yes I missed my cat. So Where Is That Priss? well she is right here of course snuggled up right behind me home, safe fed and loved. You see that very day Nov.18th at 4:44 sitting right here at my computer a message went into my inbox, I read the words “I’m hoping this is the right person because I am trying to get your cat back to you!” God IS good and He IS perfect in all His ways, it wasn’t Him that had it wrong ( of course) it WAS me after all. I learned a lot, through this more than I ever dreamed. One: all things do work for good,God used this to change me in a way that I didn’t even know that I needed to change. Also if He cares about the little things then how much more the big? if He does do the little things (and He will) I have no doubt that He will do the BIG things. Also she knew how to hide,silly not really.Psalm 143:9King James Version (KJV)
    9 Deliver me, O Lord, from mine enemies: I flee unto thee to hide me. When you know where to hide. See sometimes we must hide in Him to be safe.Just like Priss and the wild animals,the cold the rain and for us the enemies of our souls..hide away in JESUS He will protect you He will keep you He will feed you and He will bring you home! So you see I learned so many lesson in my season of Where Is That Priss?

  24. I needed this message today. Thank you, Lysa, and that God who strengthens me!!

  25. Thank you so much. This site, your daily devotionals, and the bible study came to me in just the right time. …that was not just a coincidence. I feel whole heartedly that God knew this is right where I needed to be right NOW. my life is a perfect disaster and a bomb waiting to explode. My marriage is on the verge of divorce and my children are living in a war zone. You have no idea how much this entire thing means to me. I thank you from the bottom of my heart and pray that my family can see the good from the storm soon and rejoice in his name.

  26. Judi meek says:

    I would like to be put on your mailing list.

  27. Sherry, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I hope you continue to be strong in knowing that God has this under control and you will soon find peace in your life. You are in my thoughts and prayers!!

  28. Can I relate!?…this past year has been one huge non-stop roller-coaster of continuous happenings ‘the death of my mother in-law, followed by my husband, breaking my wrist, almost losing my daughter while she was in labor and then surgery on my shoulder plus a host of other craziness hitting my dwindling finances…but God. Has not been easy,lots of tears and knee time…but God…but God!

  29. Very encouraging message, thank you!

  30. Has I was reading all I though was wow God you knew this is what I needed. I just got my heart broken a month ago and it still hurts deep down, the man I was seeing was not a Christian and I was not living my Christianity at all. I turn to God getting my life in track hoping God would reward me with getting us back together. But that is not how God works, God has comforted me now it’s time for perspective and renew my relationship with God before anything else thank you

  31. So many wonderful morsels in this devotion! I plan to share many of them. Thank you!

  32. tina kirby says:

    I just want to say that the daily devotions I have been getting from proverbs 31 for the past few years has helped me in my life with a lot of things.
    I get to work early everyday before anyone else and sit here and read the daily devotions and soak it in for the day.
    this one especially God knew I needed this this week!
    it makes my relationship with him even stronger.
    I share all of my devotions with the girls here at work. helps them too!
    Have a Blessed Day!
    tina Kirby from Winterville nc

  33. Whoa! Thanks for this :)

  34. After thing for bad, it started to get worse. I love God and my kids love him. I pray all the time. People say I need to pray right I didn’t know their was a right way. I use my heart witch is so big it’s an easy target. My son’s are in trouble and no dad in sight.And I am breaking from the inside out.I hide this at least I thought I did till thing just shove me down. I read try to find answers and I find none. I have asked for help and no one well listen. The whole is getting bigger and I find myself falling. This didn’t help. it made me feel like I can’t do anything right and till I figure out what I’m suppose to do. I’m betting pulled down and no one is reaching out.

    • Sandi. I don’t usually go into the comments after reading the devotion but I did this morning and saw your comment and it made me tear up at your despair but I wanted you to know I am praying for you by name. Father, God, please let Sandi know you are near and hear her prayers. Please Lord, she is calling for help and feels helpless and needs to know people love her, sisters in Christ love her and you God love her. She feels alone without the support of her son’s father and Lord I pray that support and an unexpected call reaches her soon. Please let her know she isn’t alone and to keep praying for her children. I ask this in Christ, our Lord. Amen – See more at: http://proverbs31.org/devotions/devo/when-nothings-going-right/#comment-1184728

    • Sandi,
      I believe when we are going through difficult things we are always tempted to think about who we are going to trust at that moment. I remember thinking that the people around me would be the answer to my prayers. Whenever I thought that, I got disappointed. And as I learn to trust in the one who will never disappoint, I started learning what that meant. It DIDN’T mean God wouldn’t allow really hard things in my life. But it did mean I could trust him no matter what he allowed. It DIDN’T mean from then on things would get better. And I got tripped up by that one a lot. It meant I could trust God when I had no idea what was going on. And I’m still learning how to do that. And when the enemy of my soul tries telling me that everyone else around me doesn’t have it as bad as I do. I tell him to shut up and I put my focus back on who I know God is. And if I don’t know enough about him, then I dive into his Word and find out. I’m also praying that you will find support, but if you can get to the place where you lean with all you have on God, and believe me I don’t say this lightly, then you will be in a place where you not only can get help, but you can also give help to someone else who is hurting. Believing that God cares about me when my sister was murdered. That was almost impossible. But I could not let the circumstances of my life be bigger than God. If I did, he wouldn’t be almighty. Praying for you Sandi.

      I’m not sure what people mean when they tell you to pray right. Just like you I am a mother and when my kids need something from me, I hear them. So does God.

  35. Thank you for this devotional today! I fractured my femur 13 weeks ago and it has been a challenging time beyond my imagination. Through it all, God has been so faithful and many prayers answered! Love verses in I Thess. 5:16-18! I am going back to work Monday. Please pray for me!

    • BJM,
      I just prayed for you. Sorry to hear your time has been so challenging, but one thing we can learn from things we go through is that if God knows about all the details in our lives, and he does. After all, he notices when a sparrow falls. Then God will bring something good out of all our chaos. Expect it. And I’m not saying white picket fence, perfect, kind of good. I’m just saying God does not waste. Lord, I pray for BJM. Strengthen her femur but also strengthen her heart so that she believes in your character instead of all the things that may be happening around her. Help us all God to look at who you are, more than we look at what we want you to do. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  36. Perfectly timed devotion! Thank you Lysa! Thank You GOD! Have had a tough strange week, and had the thought last night it might be an assault from the enemy. Sooooo grateful for this confirmation! Yes, a changed perspective changes everything! GOD used you to put a spiritual spring back in my step! Crucial, because I have a small group of women coming over today for Bible Study. GOD alone knows and knew how desperately I needed this! Ohhhhh praise HIM! Thank you for being HIS beautiful faithful messenger!

  37. I felt that this devotion hit home today. I have struggled with anxiety and depression and have let it consume my life at times and getting mad at those around me that I feel don’t understand. They say that I am always assuming things and not seeing things clearly and I start to feel rejected. As hard as it is for me to admit, I think they can be right. And during that time of desperation I pray that God can help me in that situation. A day or to later of praying I will feel calm and start to feel better. That’s when I tend to stop praying…I will still read my devotions in the morning when I get to work and comment on what action steps I should do, but never really follow through with prayer until the next time I feel overwhelmed and that I don’t have control over my life.

    Today God I simply thank you for letting me get out of bed today. I thank you for my job and for those select few that have stuck by me and helped me through my difficult time even when I haven’t always been the nicest to them. Thank you for always giving me another chance, even when I don’t feel that I am worthy.

  38. Thanks so much for this post today. I am in the midst of many many challenges at the moment: due with our third baby in 5 weeks, having to move out of our rental home which we thought we could stay in for another year, 6 months into a new job, financial stress, oldest daughter struggling with some behavior issues, and husband 18 months into recovery from addiction. It has seemed like so much these last few weeks and just so much weight. I’m so grateful that we can always come to the God of the universe for respite and relief. Thanks for this post today, as I really needed to hear and believe this!

    • Rebecca.
      After hearing all the trials you are facing one thing came to mind. God must have some people in mind who you will be able to encourage some day. Right now, just lean hard. We once had to move prematurely because we were renting and the landlord was dying of cancer and wanted to die in his own house. In the midst of their move, we were accused of stealing something from his garage when they could not locate it. When trials come, they are like wolves, they come in packs. Praise God, he is stronger than any trial we can face. I think people have done a disservice to us when they misquote scripture and tell us that God will never give us more than we can handle. We do get more than we can handle, but never more than HE can handle. Praying for the little blessing that is just waiting to make his/her entrance into your world.

  39. Linda Jennkins says:

    I became disabled in 2000, when doctors diagnosed me with Lupus and Fibromyalgia. At that time I was very involved in many activities of our church. I pushed myself to continue doing everything that I was doing. But God had other plans. Since that time he’s shown me that I needed to slow down and look to him for guidance of my next life goal. My body has slowed down, but there is much I can still do for my Lord.

    • Linda,
      My friend once shared with me that she had the biggest struggle in her life when God took her physical abilities and lessened them. She kept questioning him about that. I think it’s great that you have already seen you are more than what you can physically do. Praying you hear his guidance as he reveals in his time, what he has for you. As long as we have breath, we can pray.

  40. WOW!! I really needed this devotional today. Your comment about seeing a sign of maturity when you look for God’s purpose and perspective instead of comfort and convenience really hit home with me. A few years ago a friend of mine pointed out that God isn’t concerned with our comfort He is concerned about our character. I struggled with that comment then, now I understand and appreciate it. Your comment really put his comment into a better perspective for me.

    The new level new devil thing also hit home with me. I just stepped out into a ministry that I know is awesome, but challenges that I did not expect have of course risen to the surface. Last night I was saying to God that I had no idea what I was really getting into. This morning I told him that I was sticking with this and keeping my commitment. This devotional could not have come at a better time for me. Thank you!!!

  41. Since October our income diminished by $1000. That is a big chunk for us,with 5 kids.I have to hold on to God’s promise that he has a purpose for us,that he will provide for us.It’s been rough and I have had my moments but He has remained faithful and has taken care of us. I love when God reminds me that he has me and to not get discouraged.

  42. Good morning! Thank you, Lysa for this great devotional – I am going to share it with my husband as well. When you friend made that comment about “when you go with God to a new level, you get a new devil,” I really believe it. Or at least, he attacks you harder. My husband and I are pursuing a call to plant a church and ever since we have gone down this path, it has been a terrible spiritual battle. My husband has been under an intense spiritual attack and everything seems like it’s going wrong. Thankfully, that has caused me to rely on God even more so – so I can be strong for my husband and help fight this battle. And with me leaning on God more, it has made me listen to Him better for His will for me as well. I praise God for being there for us and giving us the strength to carry on with His will, even when it seems like everything is against us. Our God is bigger than any of it – and I thank Him for being on our side!

  43. Kristi Young says:

    I needed this today. I opened this devotion after finding out that my Aunt whom I consider myself close to but lives in another state, just tried to commit suicide. I feel so many things, helplessness being at the top of the list. If I had the resources I would go to her in a heart beat but financially it is clear that I am meant to stay and pray. please pray.

  44. Sandi. I don’t usually go into the comments after reading the devotion but I did this morning and saw your comment and it made me tear up at your despair but I wanted you to know I am praying for you by name. Father, God, please let Sandi know you are near and hear her prayers. Please Lord, she is calling for help and feels helpless and needs to know people love her, sisters in Christ love her and you God love her. She feels alone without the support of her son’s father and Lord I pray that support and an unexpected call reaches her soon. Please let her know she isn’t alone and to keep praying for her children. I ask this in Christ, our Lord. Amen

  45. This was an awesome message today Lysa! Thank you! I’ve been renewed in my perspective through the OBS and have been full of praise and thankfulness for this ministry and the friends I’ve met here who pray for each other and encourage each other to love God more, to love their husband more, to love their children more. It’s been such a blessing. And you are so down to earth honest with your walk, it’s inspiring. I just want to say thank you and God bless you. God has justified us through the work of His son. That is amazing love. Who can come against us if God is for us!

  46. Cheryl Gilchrist says:

    Hello! I look forward to my Proverbs 31 devotionals – they start my day! Today? This one couldn’t have been more poignant – my nerves are on edge – I’m short tempered – frustrated – discouraged, yadayadayda! After reading Lysa’s devotional I understand the reason. I’ve been doing more studying and truly soaking up what I’m reading – I guess I’ve unleashed another devil somewhere. Thank you, Lysa, for the the right words at the right time! God is soooo good! He always, always, puts the right people, the right words, the right thoughts, in my path when i need them the most. Bless you for who you are for the encouragement you give.

  47. This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. When you said looking to God for purpose and perspective forces me to learn crucial lessons in perseverance and maturity is what I need to focus spiritually on. I feel as I have come closer to the Lord I have been faced with more difficult trails then I have had in years. I also feel it is a test for me to stop using my own understanding, and start trusting God. I need to stop “just reading about it” and actually do it.

    Lord forgive me for not trusting your plan, and help give me the guidance I need to overcome this battle.

  48. Michel Hodges says:

    God’s gift of perspective is just that, a true gift. When I look back at difficult times in my life I can see now how they prepared me to tackle new challenges today. So now when I am facing a new difficulty I trust that it is preparing me for something better in the future. I have to grit my teeth sometimes to believe that but I DO believe it LOL. Hugs and prayers to all who are struggling and for those dealing with illness, addiction etc don’t dismiss the help that can be found in 12 step programs, hospital support groups and the like. While friends are a treasure for support, reaching out to those experiencing what you’re experiencing can be such a sanity saver!

  49. This really spoke to me today. As I’ve been digging deeper into learning about #BecomingMore in OBS, I’ve been having one thing after another, just not work right (getting over bronchitis, back out of place, trying to pack a motor home for a trip and not knowing how, what, where). I keep saying God what is going on?? I should change this to ‘Satan, leave me alone, I belong to the one true and faithful God, that I love’. Thank you for this message.

  50. Sonnie Jane says:

    This and on this very day is spot on- I’m both encouraged and challenged to follow God’s direction even when its not easy…. Praying for wisdom grace and even willpower to do just that.

    Thank you for what do and share ladies…. it’s helped many…………………God bless you!!

  51. Pamela Leone says:

    Thank you for sharing this post. It helped my thought process and guide me back to our main purpose…, loving & following God.
    A rough, trying morning at work can skew you which is the devil’s way of keeping us from thinking of God through out the day.
    Happy afternoon to you and all☺

  52. Sandy Moran says:

    How absolutely perfect the timing of your message. Going through some very tough and serious situations with our son. I had grabbed hold of Romans 8:28 a few days ago. And here it was in your article! This gave me even more assurance that God is working all things out for my (and my son’s) good.

  53. Brijane Hills says:

    Thankyou

  54. Lysa, thank you so much for your words of encouragement. God is a on time GOD! I needed this word on today. All things work together for those who love the Lord. I shall continue to Pray for all Women who have to juggle so many things at one time and often feeling like we are all alone, but we are never alone. Our Father is with us! Keep up the awesome work you are doing for GOD!!

  55. Thank you a heartfelt amen and hallelu -needed this right at this very moment. Thanks for hearing the voice of the Lord.

  56. I want to thank Loretta for her Priss testimony. I have been battling the same spiritual warfare. I know God hears me and is her with me thru this storm but then I see things and I start to questions all the questions you have…Why God why!?!..I’ve been praying for restoration in my family and household and in my broken marriage. Asking God to give me discernment on which way to go with my marriage and divorce has been going on for awhile now and for some reason I felt God was saying it was not time and if I prayed for my husbands salvation he would change things. And either we would reconcile or become very close friends. I prayed and prayed and last month I received a message from my husbands girlfriend saying she was moving and letting God will be done.I took it as God was removing her to restore my marriage. A couple weeks past and he then said he was leaving to Texas. It had me confused and heart broken. I felt like all my prayers,faith, and hope left that day. My 15 year old was shattered and became rebellious and cold hearted. So I been praying knowing God is working and I have to stand still and trust him and rebuild my faith up but i have days like the Priss story and say why God!?! What am I doing wrong!?! Are my prayers and praise and worship not pleasing to you God!?? But reading this story has opened up my eyes. Thanks

  57. Julia Ramirez says:

    I enjoyed todays msge I have struggle alot but I have learn to givr God my struggels and let him do his will
    After so many problems with my son I said lord I give you ny son which really is your s do your will at your own due time I thought it would never happen Well sunday my son got baptized Thank you Jesus I love you as for you know the plans you have for us. Amen

  58. I am a teacher. I had an conversation with learners regarding that we as individuals make less time to spend in God presence. Then we ask ourselves, why are my life so troubled?

  59. Thank you for this post, Lysa. I love the verse in James that reminds us to consider our trials opportunities. At the time, they don’t seem like opportunities. But when we look back if we clear our vision we can see that God did in fact, have something valuable to teach us. And we can come away with a deeper understanding of who God is. And it is in the quiet times when he says nothing that we can make the decision to believe that he is right there. Not because it feels like it, but because he promised. And he never breaks a promise.

  60. There are many times I look back on my life and can see God’s work and purpose. But let us not forget that God is our comforter. Going through 2 miscarriages and countless procedures to have my beautiful twin babies, God was surely my comforter and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. We are human and doubts and mistrust will come. BUT GOD will meet us in our disbelief if we ask him to. If we remain steadfast in our love for God, in a close relationship with him, he will meet us and guide us.

  61. Amy, I really look forward to your devotionals. I love your heart and the way you demonstrate and
    share your faith. I copied the phrase about spiritual maturity and have put it on my refrigerator and in
    the front of my Bible. I try to practice this, and when I do, I honestly find that I gain more peace than
    when I just pray for comfort and convenience. I believe it places you much closer to the holy spirit
    when you pray for purpose and perspective, and wait patiently for His guidance and wisdom. Thank you
    again for you special words of encouragement.

  62. Good day
    Thank you very much for sharing this word, I think this was so meant for me, as I have a daughter turning 12 and a son turning 5, its so hard. I’m the soft one and my husband the one that is much more firm when it comes to the word NO. This word of today gave me more courage and made me realised that to teach our children with the word NO it will make them stronger.

    Once again thank you very much for your word of today, this is just what I needed today

  63. Laura Spencer says:

    This encouragement came at just the right time. I thought it was hard to toe the line when our kids were pint-sized, but I find it to be even more so now that they are older.

  64. I am a middle school teacher and see the entitlement up close and personal everyday. It makes me long to raise my future family in the bush of Africa so our children have a thankful heart in an ungrateful world. As a soon-to-be stepmom and one day mother, I do not want to feed the beast of entitlement in this world, but nurture and raise up children ready to stand for and serve God in His Kingdom work here on earth.

  65. Aubre Andreoni says:

    God knew I needed to read this today! Such a tough time lately with my little 2 year old and most days I go to bed feeling like a bad mom, but it was encouraging this morning to read and be reminded that God is with me always, especially when motherhood feels like you are in the trenches of war

  66. Cathy Wilch says:

    Wow! Did I ever need to read this today! I have two extremely strong willed and often defiant preteen kids I’m raising and we’ve been on very rocky road lately! Our biggest battle right now is electronics rules, and it sure is tough when all their friends have phones and they have old iPods that often get taken away because of bad choices. I’ve been praying for Gods guidance, and being reminded that He is with us all the way was the shot in the arm I needed! I will remember to put on Gods armor each morning to deflect the “I hate you’s and the crocodile tears I get when I put my foot down and have to repeat No for the 50th time!! Thank you! Cathy- fellow “meanest mom in the world”!

  67. Beth Nichols says:

    Such great encouragement today! Thank you:)

  68. I needed this! I am a single mother to an 11 year old daughter! Her Dad left when she was in Kindergarten. He sees her about twice a year. She is a very strong willed child! Every day I want to quit the job of parenting but keep on. This was so helpful! I need to read it daily!!! She challenges me at everything! It is so exhausting and does make me feel like a failure! I would love to win this book!

  69. Jane Johnson says:

    It’s not easy being the “meanest” mom, but when guiding and raising children, we must remember our Lord loves those who have a disciplined heart. Our God disciplines us even as adults and loves us more. Our children make mistakes and so do we. We look to God for the guidance we need in parenting. So to follow that example in parenting, we come to understand we are children of God as well.

  70. Michaelle says:

    Thank you for this refreshing reminder!!!!❤

  71. Thank you for the encouragement today. I would love to win a book :)

  72. Raising two daughters in world where value of a women’s worth is toss aside. I want to be a Godly strong mom for them so that when they are out and on their own they know the value of their worth. They know that waiting for that one man in their life is the most amazing gift to be able to give to someone. having a Christ like character to be a awesome mother!

  73. mary benson says:

    you are spot on with your observations. Thank you for sharing your God given insights to other young mothers. I am a grandmother and it sometimes takes a long time to realize the consequences of your actions and words. I would love for my daughter to read your book.

  74. Thank you for the encouragement. Raising 2 girls is not for the weak! As the interest in male attention begins I pray my girls will make good and healthy choices. My heart’s desire is for them to be so confident in His love that they will not seek out the approval of a boy for their self worth.

  75. Thank you for the encouraging words which are just exactly what I needed to hear/read this morning. God is so good!

  76. I went through this very thing this morning. Its hard to be the bad guy! It stinks but I know it’s worth it to raise grateful kids. Thank you for the reminder!♥️

  77. Kim Travis says:

    I can so completely relate. Every day with kids is both rewarding and exhausting and I feel like a failure more often than not. I know that I’m not alone as I’ve heard so many young women struggle with these same issues. But God! God is always faithful to pick us back up…to heal our broken hearts and mend our wounds from battles with our most precious loved ones. I’m so thankful not only for His forgiveness but for His mercy that teaches me how to be merciful.

  78. Thank you for sharing that verse . . . We are commanded to be bold and courageous in all situations in life. But parenting, that a full time BOLDNESS. You raise your children as you feel the LORD is leading you. You never know what bump you might experience down the road but i do know He prepares the way . . . I never knew that all I was pouring into my 5 kids with home schooling and all that goes with having them home full time. When my husband was laid off for 2 yrs, a gift for him to be involved more with his kids. They treasured it. When he died the following year of cancer, how great a God we serve that He prepared all of our hearts to have time with my husband, their father. God is SO VERY GOOD!!! Thank you so much for sharing this encouraging story.

  79. Excellent devotion!

  80. Thanks for the encouragement. Parenting is the toughest job.

  81. Blessings of Love & Gratitude.

  82. Many, many years ago when I was your age and had a daughter that liked to test me. When I grounded her, she would keep pleading and put on a little tantrum, I held my ground. A few days later I asked her what if I had given in to her and she replied ‘ I would not have continued to respect you’. Then I knew I was doing things right.

    Thank you for your contribution to Proverbs 31

  83. Praise the Lord for this devotion!!!!
    I had to make the hardest decision of my life this weekend to withdraw my child from college because of spiritual reasons.
    I was sooo burden in making the decision !
    My child wanted to go back but the Lord showed me “no”.
    We gave scholarships !!!
    Tough decision but this devotion confirmed to me we as a family made the right choice.
    In God’s time and Gid’d will, my child will return.
    Amen!!!

  84. “Do not be afraid…..” Joshua 1:9a
    whoa

  85. Loving JESUS says:

    I read this devotion this morning after having a long heart to heart with my husband about our kids, chores, their rooms, attitudes, and the entitlement philosophy. There are many days, pretty much everyday when I feel like Mose when he felt like he wasn’t a good orator and couldn’t speak to Pharoah. I feel similar in that I fail daily, and yet I have this awesome privilege to raise three wonderful kids. I feel so unqualified and many days I wish they came with “a manual,” but praise the Lord that Jesus has the manual and He is guiding and directing their steps. Biggest and best role of my life, motherhood, but also the area that shows me how desperately we need Jesus in order to point them to Him and raise them well. Thank you so much for this devotion. God knew I definitely needed it, and I would love a copy of your book. :)

  86. Heather Odom says:

    This devotion was such a timely word for me today! We are at the stage with my oldest where we are talking college, career paths, his future in general. We aren’t just talking about something that will affect his tomorrow but something that will affect the rest of his life! I want to make sure that the decisions we are making are wise and what God has planned.

  87. What and amazing read for all parents. We are ever alone and need to remember to put our trust and faith in God

  88. I needed this advice 16 years ago! I’ve been bad about giving in. Fortunately, by God’s grace, my daughter has turned out pretty well. Maybe a little entitled but she’s kind and honest and loyal. God can do great things with our kids despite our parenting.

  89. I love this devotion and the word/picture describing the journey of parenting. My kids are now adults- I would have loved to read these words 20 years ago! 😊 However, parenting adult children can have fears and discouragement as well, and both my husband and I have wondered ” what did we do wrong or what are we doing wrong”? We are blessed to have 2 amazing married children and one grandchild (so far), I know this truth. I also know that treading lightly is needed at times while holding firm to our trust in an Almighty God for words and for direction.

  90. I am so glad to hear I was not the only parent who hesitated after a punishment. You have all these fears of your decisions. I am glad I am not the only one who questions or fears having made the wrong punishments.

  91. Oh dear. Yep…bumpy indeed. (Thankfully) Our children are grown. I say thankfully, not because I didn’t enjoy being a mom, but I am enjoying being the mom of (mostly) happy, well-adjusted, independent adults now. We were “THAT” family too. The family who didn’t allow boy/girl sleepovers after the dance. The family who had a curfew. The family who asked who, what, when, where. The family (dad) who “interviewed” our daughter’s date even when she protested with “It’s NOT a date.” (If you’re leaving the house with a boy in his car…it’s a date) We still messed up. We still said yes when I should have said no or said no when we should have said yes. But we did our best to keep communication going. When our daughter got married (our youngest) 6 months ago, we played a video of an interview she did about her dad. She talked about those “interviews” and now how grateful she is for his steadfast love. (So is her husband by the way) :) There was not a dry eye…. It was a moment I never will forget. 3 John 1:4 is my testimony.

    • Sonnie Jane says:

      Thanks for sharing this – we are young parents and learning a lot- we definitely want to raise a son after God’s heart- your story means a lot.

  92. Some moms may enjoy some of my “mom songs” at http://www.reverbnation.com/greasingtheskids Some I would recommend: I Can’t Say No, Part of Their World, I Used to Sleep All Night, Get Me to the Church… :)

  93. Toni Cooper says:

    I needed this today…I sit here thinking how I failed my daughter. It hasn’t been a good morning..filled with frustration and sadness. Today my daughter was released from the pysch ward after a suicide attempt last week. The painful part in this ordeal after five days I thought we were making progress in her accepting her disorder only to have it backfire on my husband and I. These last few days have been trying and emotional. But after reading this blog I know I have to keep going .

  94. Thank you so much for this message. I am right there in the midst of it and appreciate the long term vision that I sometimes forget. It gives me encouragement to keep you going!

  95. Bridgette says:

    What an AMAZING devotion read two days prior to my birthday. Thank you so very much!
    Awesome an understatement. We all for most part relate to this, I sincerely feel that God expects our
    no to mean no and our yes to mean yes! This honors him. Years to come our kids too will be blessed with the honor and blessing of parenting as well. Our prayer is that they remember ALL of our “no’s because they are
    certainly going to need them for their children. Amen Jesus! What comes around, goes around . . . .

  96. Bridgette says:

    What an AMAZING devotion read two days prior to my birthday. Thank you so very much!
    Awesome an understatement. We all for most part relate to this, I sincerely feel that God expects our
    no to mean no and our yes to mean yes! This honors him. Years to come our kids too will be blessed with the honor and blessing of parenting as well. Our prayer is that they remember ALL of our “no’s because they are
    certainly going to need them for their children. Amen Jesus! What comes around, goes around . . . .

  97. Vickey E. says:

    I am a grandmother who is now responsible for raising three grandchildren, ages 9, 7 and 4. What a challenge. It seems that most times they are not grateful, so I could surely use this book! And fighting each other constantly. I drew inspiration from your message today though and will now remember that God is with me, even when I am afraid to push the issue sometimes. Thanks.

  98. thank you for this devotion. It came at a heart breaking time in my life. My youngest son is a senior in high school and me and him used to be very close. Me and his Dad divorced almost 2 years ago and ever since my son has been very ugly and disrespectful to me. I have put up with a lot from him. We had a fall out this past weekend and I told him if he could not show me any respect he needed to move in with his Dad awhile. His Dad lives in Mississippi so I knew he wouldn’t move because he would want to finish his senior year. Well I came home from church Sunday and my oldest son met me at the door and said his brother had threatened to shoot him and he had vandalized the inside of the house. He had come in and packed up everything of his and left. I was so mad and hurt. I know God can take care of this. His girlfriend has put all over facebook I threw him out. It is very painful. He did not move in with his Dad he moved in with the girlfriend and it is about to kill me., I still text him everyday and tell him I love him. Please be in prayer for my family.

  99. jennifer carson says:

    Loved this post….would love to have the book. While I have two adult children, I so remember having these thoughts and praying for strength and courage. I have four precious grandchildren and another one on the way in July. would love to have this book for my daughter and daughter-in-law ( who will be a first time mom in July). thanks so much for all you do at Proverbs 31.

  100. As a mother of a 5 year old and an only child I like to give everything to him but within reason simply because we are not financially in a better shape than most. Most of my peers who have children his age have more.More toys, karate lessons, piano lessons, swimming lessons etc. I go to free kids workshops in home improvement store.Free story telling,free kids museum.I would indulge sometimes on $7 indoor playground(that is a real treat).On Christmas he gets one decent price gift and the 3 dollar store gifts.His clothes are from trift shop or the ones on sale.But one thing that makes me happy is that he does not care if it’s a dollar store toy.He does not care if some of his clothes/toys are from goodwill.
    I’m happy that when we walk on toy aisle he would say mommy I like that, a d if I say honey we don’t have money for that yet maybe next time, he will look sad but will never have tantrums at all and will just say ok next time mommy.At a young age I try to tell him he can not get everything he wants sometimes he have to wait for it.I say no often or I say next time often.Sometimes I feel bad , but I think saying no and explaining why it’s a NO is not a bad idea .Saying No does not diminish my love for my son.

  101. I am afraid of so many things especially when it comes to working with my 12 year old son with Aspbergers who feels all alone. I made many mistakes before we even knew he was struggling with this Disorder as it took so many years for it to be discovered. He can’t cope with his emotions and I am afraid at his explosive responses. I am afraid to say No , I am afraid to push him away when all he is trying to do when pouncing on me is to get connection and feel safe. I am afraid my decision to Homeschool him I just made will affect him negatively. I am afraid to fail him. I am afraid to the list could go. Every moment of every day I don’t know when his upsets or anger will show. Recently he has turned inward to the computer as his world. I am afraid to lose him. I am so thankful that God gives me courage and is with me wherever I go because I feel each day I am on a battlefield.

  102. I could totally relate to your post today would love a copy of your book! Thank you for your encouraging words and scripture. Sharon

  103. Marcy ponce says:

    This devotional gives me great encouragement! I’m a single mom of 2 teenagers and I often find myself wondering if I’m doing the right thing. I pray daily and ask the Lord to make me the mother that my children need me to be. Without His strength and guidance I would not have made it this far! Thank you Jesus!

  104. Chantel Wolters says:

    I need to hear this today. I get so frustrated when my kids just nag and nag, thinking I’m gonna change my mind. Lately, there’s been lots of stomping around and slamming doors. As bad as I feel about that, I can rest assured that I’ve held my ground but my love never waivers

  105. My sister sent this to me and it was just what I needed. Thank you for such an honest and encouraging post!

  106. Michelle Tuel says:

    Wow. Does this bring back memories. I can remember my now 16 year old coming into his younger brother’s room when I had finally succeeded in getting a very cranky baby down for a nap. Feeling neglected, my then preschooler stomped out of the room and slammed the door hard. The baby was now crying again. I too had a pile of laundry and dirty dishes. Funny thing is we had just discussed God’s unending unconditional love for His children in my women’s bible study group. I spent many days looking up to Him for guidance. Now that those years have passed, I find myself still turning to prayer and scripture as we are going through the teenage years with the kids. We can always find daily comfort in His Word, no matter what stage of life we are in.

  107. I’ve been struggling with purpose. I feel like I’m just floating along with no goals. Psalms 138:8 was a word from God. Thank you for your devotional. It was what I needed.

  108. I received this in my inbox today 10 Feb, by ‘mistake’? But its just what I needed to hear as I hold a letter rejecting my application for a work permit. I am disappointed to say the least. But I hold on to the promise that something good will come of it. I trust His Word which says the testing of my faith brings endurance. I will obey when he says in everything give thanks for this is the will of the Father. God will work in every situation to bring good from it. Amen

  109. Heather Baxter says:

    Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone in dealing with difficult situations as a parent…and the constant struggle to stick with “no!” 😊

  110. My biggest fear with parenting is having my children be disappointed in me. I have an 11 year old son and 2 year old daughter. My children know that when they get upset or angry with me, that I usually give in to their demands. I know showing weakness is not teaching them to be strong themselves in life and I want to change that and be a mother they appreciate and look up to. I believe my next step is to open myself up and let God help me be strong and courageous to stand my ground and no longer give in to my children’s demands when they don’t like the response they are given. I believe if I can keep in mind the word of God telling me to be courageous and strong that He will see me through any and all hardships.

  111. Thank you for sharing all that you did. It is reassuring to me to know I am not alone in my situation, I’m not a bad mother but standing firm and being the adult can be difficult. Thanks for the encouragement!

  112. Brenda Thornhill says:

    Thank you for “When nothing’s going right ” I needed that this morning. My two children are both adults and make me feel as through I was the worst mom in the world. They make me feel like the biggest loser as a mom that there is and ever was. I don’t know who these two people are surley they don’t believe what comes out of their mouths.I was there and I know that what they say isn’t the truth. How can they tell lies about me and hurt me to the depths of my soul ?

  113. Thank you, Wendy. Your timing was perfect. God is never late!!!

  114. Monique Ruiz says:

    Wow! Thanks so much for that. I had to stop and get an index card to write down the sentence about our kids demanding their way to see if we’ll stick with our no. God tells us no at times, and he’s the perfect example.

  115. Oh, thank God I’m not the only one. My son has asked this question of me a time or two and it has made me explode at the seems of guilt. I will always love him unconditionally. That’s why God made me his mama. I must always remember that our God loves us in this exact way. Thank you,Jesus. Have a blessed week.

  116. Sonnie Jane says:

    what a beautiful reminder of Jehovah’s unconditional love – Love it !!!

    Thank you !

  117. How wonderful to know His love endures forever even for me!

  118. Ana Mascorro says:

    I would love to have a copy of your book to give it to my daughter to help her raise my grandchildren. Thank you!

  119. Jennifer floria says:

    Thank you for the great reminder

  120. I really needed to know that God still loves me more than you know. Not enough room on my device for an app. I like the encouragement though.

  121. I have a hard time relating when it seems like my life was cursed by God. When I find myself wishing my asshole husband who just swore at me, never sorry, puts me down, was dead. Tired of being married with nothing to look forward to. I had a better life when I was single raising three kids, one mentally disabled. Life was challenging but at least it was peaceful. I didn’t have to listen to my husband cursing when I have to ride with him. I at least had a bed to sleep in. I have to sleep on the couch because of his Loud incessant snoring. I had a budget & never went bankrupt when I was a single mom for 22 years. My husband spent money as fast as I made it & kept getting more credit cards cause I was doing well with my sewing business. Now I am disabled & I feel he resents me cause I can’t work. I had breast cancer in 2014, he treated me like I was stupid cause the mess affected me. He has a problem with porn ever since I married him, which I think he had it before that. It makes me feel ugly & degraded. I think I had a better life before. At least I liked myself better. I don’t know if I want to stay married to a man who is getting older & grumpy all the time who has a horrible temper like a two year old. I found myself asking God to let him die tonight. Anyways maybe you can say a prayer for me cause I am tired of him. Sincerely Janice

  122. I also have the same fear when I say no to my kids. A lot of times I just want to give in when they beg because it would be so much easier than arguing over it, but I’ve learned that consistency is key. If you don’t let them argue with you and stick to your guns then in the long run it is better for them and you. I also pray for patience and that God will help me deal with the situation appropriately without losing my temper and yelling at them. It only stresses me out more to yell and argue so it’s a continual battle with myself to keep calm and stand my ground.Parenting is just plain hard, but with prayer all things are possible and God is always on our side.

  123. Thank-you so much for this post. It speaks so relevantly to where I have been as a mom and where I am trying to be in the present and future with two teenage daughters who we have definitely been on a bumpy road with. I appreciate you writing something about parenting older kids as the issues are different than small ones, and these young adults do challenge every confident bone in my body!!

  124. Thanks…just what I needed to hear.
    Even if the job is not what I thought it would be…I am thankful to be able to work and have a job right now.
    Even if family relationships are hard…I am thankful God can change me through them and it doesn’t mean I am the unlovable one.
    Even if my chronic health issues continue to strike fear physically, mentally and financially….I am thankful God is faithful and I have a loving husband to seek and hold onto in the middle of the night.
    Even if I am going through menopause, an old mama with three of our kids still at home, who balances the longing to be alone vs. the fear of the empty nest…I am thankful God had the audacity of even allowing me to become a mama after my abortion at 17.
    Even if…every morning I get up I can choose to put on the full armor of God and follow my Jesus wherever He sends me…praise Him along the way and enjoy the journey…all the way to heaven…what hope!
    Thanks again…

  125. Colleen Audette says:

    I love reading the devotionals from Proverbs 31, but I would like to see more devotionals not related to young children . My kids are grown and gone. Unless that is what the premis of the page is, young Mothers ? Thank you and God bless Colleen

  126. Laura McClure says:

    I’m very encouraged by Kristen’s words. I’ve never thought to apply Deut 31.6 to parenting, but it is true, He goes with us in every situation we face. In fact, parenting is not just another situation that may give us fear, it is an important job that He has specifically entrusted to us. Therefore we can assume that He has equipped up for it!

  127. This was a great devo. As a working mother I often feel fear and guilt and I doubt if I’m living up to my godly potential as a parent. This devo reminded me to stand strong in the Lord and know that as He works in me, He will work through me for the best for my children. Thank you

  128. Alicia bickers says:

    I have been very incouraged from proverbs 31 ministries!!!!!! It’s good to know I’m not the only mom and wife struggling with certain things!!!!

  129. I am afraid that I am not allowing natural consequences to be some of life’s rich lessons by swooping in to rescue them from situations out of compassion and grace, and if I am honest, to be seen as someone they can count on rather than the recipient of their displaced disappointment.

    I am working through this by trying to further icrease my ability to say no, because ultimately, they need to know self-accountability and trust in God, who will always be there with them

  130. I know we do have to enjoy our children but sometimes parenting feels like ‘what am I doing wrong’ so thank you so much for sharing. Yes, I still believe God is in control of their lives and we are just their guiding Angels.

  131. Thank you that’s how I feel right now I lost my job we moved and trying to find a job just got cast off a broken foot I really feel like what’s going on I need a job husband can’t work he’s on SSDI we are trying to be true we need a break for our finiciances I don’t know if I spelled right but reading this gives my spirit Faith hope thank you and please pray for us

  132. I have been being obedient to God’s calling to step outside of my comfort zone. I too have found that the enemy is “messing” with my life. I was feeling discouraged and wondering if it was all worth. Thank you for reminding me that I I am to be seeking God in all that I do and all that is done to me. It is about being refined and giving God the glory. I do not want to just sit on the sidelines of my Christian life, I want to participate with God’s direction and guidance.

  133. Janice Campanini-Papa says:

    Talk about hitting the nail on the head!

  134. Wow! Lysa! This is exactly what I needed today and to know that I’m not the only one going through this.
    I’ve gotten a lot closer to God in the last couple of weeks and then all of a sudden, it’s felt like the whole of hell and all its demons are against me. It’s been horrendous! What I want to know is, does it get better, does the attack subside? Because I’m so emotionally and physically exhausted from all this. Which verses are the most effective against this attack?

  135. Yes, I’ve heard that there is someone out there who is worse off than we are. I believe people who tell us that just don’t want us to share the trials we have. And even if we find someone else who has it worse than we do, that does not make us feel better because our eyes are still on what we can see, instead of the one who is invisible.

    You said that you have prayed for your children before they were here. You committed them to God. I believe they are his then. And you have the best seat in the house to pray for them. You see what they are doing, and yet, you also see the God who you committed them too.

    How sad that you lost your husband to cancer, and that it was painful. I have seen loved ones ravaged by that same disease. God was still in control. Satan would like us to feel otherwise, but God doesn’t do shifts.

    I can hear your hurting heart just wanting your children to walk in the truth. And you can have the confidence to know God wants that even more than you do. He wants it so bad he made a way.

    I believe the enemy of our souls works hard at getting us to look anywhere but at our God. And when multiple things happen, the temptation is multiplied exponentially. I’m praying for you. And not out of pity, but I’m praying with anticipation of what God is going to do. He never fails. He never stops loving or caring for us. And I don’t care what the enemy paints as a picture. God is bigger still.

    I have seen many members of my family die. But honestly, with each trial, God has tucked in truths about himself. And when I lost my sister to domestic violence, while the enemy screamed, “See, God doesn’t care,” God whispered to me that he was with her. And that’s what I know to be true. And I am certain that when she took her final breath that he carried her to heaven.

    Our God is a caring loving God, no matter what we may go through. We look at the things NOT seen. Praying for you right now. And praying for the children God gave you that he loves so much. Don’t stop praying. You want to be able to welcome them home, whenever that might be.

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