Welcome to Week 2 – The Best Yes!

Welcome to Week Two of The Best Yes study! This is Shelly and I’m so excited to be your leader for the next few days!

First things first. Here’s the intro video from Lysa, Melissa, and Nicki. (If you can’t see the video below, click HERE.)

Things You Need To Know:

  • This week, we’ll be reading Chapters 4-6.
  • Our verse of the week –A wise woman called from the city, ‘Listen! Listen!’” 2 Samuel 20:16 NIV

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Now, let’s dig into Chapter 4 today! Surely Lysa and I aren’t the only ones who make things a little more complicated than they should be? 🙂

Some of my favorite truths from today’s chapter are:

“God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.”

“We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”

“Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!”

“. . . a pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.”

“Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”

Let’s Chat:

We CAN make wise decisions. We CAN walk as wise women. We don’t have to make things so complicated. We can choose to arm ourselves with the truth of God’s Word, pay close attention to the Holy Spirit’s leading, and trust that God has empowered us through wisdom and discernment to make whatever decision needs to be made.

  • What about today’s chapter spoke to your heart?
  • Have you found that courageous yes and that confident no? If you haven’t, what is one thing you learned in Chapter 4 that can help you move into a place of victory in your specific struggle?

Everyone who comments today will be entered for a chance to win an awesome prize package that includes the book Love Does by Bob Goff AND  The Best Yes Conference Call series! Winners will be notified via email.

Coming Up Next:

Tomorrow we’ll take a closer look at our verse of the week and chat about Chapter 5.

 

 

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  1. “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.” What a wonderful promise from the Lord. He gives us wisom to make good choices.

  2. Linda Magin says:

    This has unbelievably been a key to today. Started off with 14yr son having seizure after being sick on a school camp. Been at hospital all day. He’s OK now. Needs rest and watching. Huge part of me wants to walk away and not get involved with school (long story). But after reading the chapters and praying (for hrs at hospital) my Best Yes thru the Holy Spirits leading….. with wisdom and discernment is to call them out on certain incidents at the camp that cause the virus he has been battling (& gone thru our family). Because a new grp is about to go out there next wk. Sometime the BY is a tough decision and not everyone will like what is to be said. But sometimes it needs to be done. Because I suffer nighttime seizures from lack of sleep/stress, so that will most likely be the next consequence of this whole event. Now praying for discernment and not anger as we speak to the Principal.

    • Linda, may the Holy Spirit give you the wisdom to speak the truth in love. May the words that flow from your mouth be uplifting and beneficial to the hearers, and may the Holy Spirit give you discernment to know when to be firm and when to give grace. Amen.

    • Praying for you and your son!

    • April Ferry says:

      Linda,
      I will pray for you and your son to be healed of the seizures and to have enough sleep and less stress.

    • Praying for you and your family!

    • If the BY keeps others form going through what you have, it becomes an even better BY. A camp that doesn’t attend to itself, especially as relates to the welfare of those it’s there to serve, won’t long be serving them. Not to mention what might happen if the health department were to become involved. Stand strong in knowing your BY is necessary, albeit difficult, an will be a blessing to many in the end.

    • Praying for you and your son…IN LOVE!

  3. Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.

    Today’s choices become tomorrows circumstances

    I could not pick just one.

  4. “That daily stuff . . . They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom.” (p. 41). Lysa’s discussion really spoke to me. I am in a season where I know God is preparing me for an answered prayer but He is using this study to remind me to be faithful and obedient now while being patient because His timing is perfect. I must learn to live now how I need to live later. “There was no time to delay, get panicked, or react with anxiety.”. p. 43. Now, shoot that was my standard operating procedure. Instead, I am going to stop, look for God and apply wisdom, knowledge, insight and discernment. He will lead me to The Best Yes or a confident no.

  5. A couple of things stood out in Chapter 4:
    1. “That daily stuff…are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives” (41).
    This statement really spoke to me because I often find myself looking for “big” opportunities to serve God or hear from Him that I forget to search for Him in the day-to-day. Sometimes God does give us mountaintop encounters, but just as important are the daily interactions with Him while we are in the midst of something we might consider routine or mundane.
    2. “a person who fears God [is] ‘one who sees the hand of God in everything'” (47).
    I read the above quote and was floored, and I found myself thinking– do I see the hand of God in everything? I see the hand of God in more things than I used to, but I still have a lot of growing up to do in this department. Perspective can change our attitudes, and changed attitudes is a way to prepare ourselves for the Best Yes. And, a changed attitude leads to a changed life.

  6. judy redden says:

    This has been a very enriching chapter. Wisdom. Knowledge. Insight. Discernment. None of these can be applied if I am not looking for God in all of it. Not rushing to make decisions, thinking before speaking. It really works when you are conscious of the nudging that the Holy Spirit gives you at different times in situations that seem so trivial, that daily stuff. If I am “putting my heart and mind in places where wisdom gathers not scatters” I am going to know that it is the Holy Spirit nudging.

    • Yes, so true Judy! Without searching for and seeking wisdom from God, we can’t find it! And without time spent with Him, how can we recognize His voice? I, too, am setting my heart on God and tuning my ears to hear the nudgings of the Holy Spirit. Blessings!

  7. I have made some really bad financial decisions in the past where I did not use wisdom, maybe I did’nt know how when I was younger or they seemed to be good decisions at the time. But nonetheless they were bad decisions that I as well as my family are paying for today. I am confident that through God’s word and what I learn through this study, that I WILL make better decisions in my life. Have a Blessed Monday!

    • Amen, Melissa! I love that you are seeking God for wisdom in your finances! He will enable you to make those wise choices today that will still be good tomorrow and next month and next year!

  8. Judy Daughty says:

    I have already moved on to chapter 4. This particular chapter spoke to me in volumes. I want to do all the “yes” things I can…That’s my nature. But through reading this chapter….realistically I can’t and that’s not what God wants. He has given us the gift of discernment…we need to be still and listen…Something I am working on and this study is helping and teaching me to do that.

  9. Amen, and I am ready for week 2

  10. Tonya McCoy ~ P31 OBS Ministries Team says:

    I loved in this chapter when Lysa said “we have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers not scatters.” Then as she goes on to list all the ways wisdom gathers and scatters. I want to keep my heart and mind where wisdom is going to gather and not scatter. I always want the Holy Spirit’s discernment to be alive & active in me!

  11. Gennifer Tackett says:

    Wisdom..something we all desperately need and I believe crave…but do we take the time to consistently pray for it? I love the truths about wisdom listed;)

    • Amen Gennifer! I agree that wisdom and discernment are two things that I deserately desire, but when it comes to my prayer time each day, I somehow seem to never bring them up. Thank you for reminding me that He will grant the desires of my heart if 1. I am both seeking Him and His wisdom, AND 2. Asking for them in prayer!

  12. Nicole Nista says:

    Put your heart where Wisdom gathers not where Wisdom Scatters.

    Where can I get a The Best Yes T-Shirt ?

  13. Amy W from MI says:

    I have not read chapter 4 yet but look forward to doing so with all the great quotes you all have shared.

    I did have an opportunity to gracefully decline to be a part of a church ministry. That was a big step for me because my people pleasing nature makes it very hard to say no.

  14. I too, was taken by using the mundane to start showing and learning wisdom. I often grumble about the boring details of my life, and needed that reminder that God is there, in the midst of the small things. From this moment I will look for them. As I exercise today (something only I can do) I will honor God, remembering how he created my body to move in such amazing ways.

  15. One thing that really spoke to me from Chap 4 is to not despise the daily stuff. Sometimes I allow myself to get bogged down in the routine of my daily duties. I can sometimes go about those as if they make no difference whatsoever and that if I didn’t have to do those daily tasks I could be doing something greater. This chapter helped me to realize that the daily stuff is important to preparing me for greater things. If I do my daily tasks with joy and love, I will be able to tackle larger assignments with the same attitude. I am really praying to learn to be joyful and have a loving spirit in everything I do, large or small.

    • Love that, Kylie!! “If I do my daily tasks with joy and love, I will be able to tackle larger assignments with the same attitude.” Reminds me of Luke 16:10a … “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones.” Have a blessed day! ~Steph

  16. Embrace the mundane. Wisdom in everyday life brings discernment in the big things. A person who fears God sees the hand of God in everything. Amen! I want to see and point out God in everything. Even just to stop briefly and acknowledge, yes Father, that was you! Help me seek truth, live it and be able to discern your will.

  17. I’m thankful I found this Bible study and it’s another anointed book by Lysa. I already made a big decision to NOT move forward with something I had in my mind I was going to do because it’s really not the best use of my time with what else I have on my schedule and in my plans already. Thank you for the timely message. Be blessed. Now to go read today’s chapter as I get my time in on my stationary bike this morning.

  18. Jada Harris says:

    I liked the fact that the “woman mentioned in 2nd Samuel remained nameless. To me it seemed that we can draw out a truth that God can use anyone to accomplish His mighty works if they are obedient to His leading and humble to give God the glory. I too would like to honestly reach a point iny life to further God’s works and be willing to remain in the background.

  19. Danielle Mackley says:

    Knowing how to discern the spirits voice is a challenge. Satan has been able to disguise his voice to seem like that of the spirit. So when I know my scripture, when I spend time with my Lord, THEN I certainly know whose voice it is that speaks to me.

  20. Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!
    This quote really spoke me. Well to be honest, I think it actually smacked me right upside the head! Even though God’s Word tells us to Be Not Anxience for tomorrow, I’m still that worry wart that worries about things in the future! The bills, the business, my kids, and how I’m to schedule my time! Well DUH, if I apply my BEST YES today, WHICH INCLUDES ASKING GOD FOR WISDOM AND DIRECTION, THEN I CAN FOCUS ON ONE DAY AT A TIME KNOWING MY GOD IS FAITHFULLY PREPARING ME FOR TOMORROW!
    AND I WANT ONE OF THOSE TShirts also!!!!
    Who loves Proverbs 31 OBS’s? THIS GIRL RIGHT HERE! Have an amazing week ladies! Can’t not wait to dig deeper in #thebestyes!! Thank y’all for everything you do to help us!

  21. So this chapter is helping me to call myself out on a few things that I know need work. This chapter is challenging me to do better and hold myself accountable. Really, just this chapter? So far all 4 and I know the trend shall continue. It is one of the few times that when looking honestly at myself and my choices–the good, the bad, and the ugly ones–that it is not about feeling guilty, ashamed or “bad.” Rather it is the honest look, the earnest look back in order to see what I missed when I made the choice in the moment. It is learning how to choose differently, to choose wisely, to choose with conscious awareness.

    I love that Lysa talks about the importance of our every-day decisions. Yes, we all have big decisions with big implications but those come every-so-often (or not-so-often). It’s the everyday decisions that bring us the opportunity to learn about our best yes, to practice wisdom, to implement the healthy and wise behaviors as opposed to living passively.

    There are decisions I’m wrestling with and before even hearing of this book, I knew I needed time. Now I’m giving myself the time to learn so I can make the best decision possible. I am committing myself to making changes but more importantly learning to find my best yes and use it wisely. I am committing myself to be more aware of my own fears, foolishness, and feelings that always complicate my decisions. If I am more aware of these, I can acknowledge them but also put them in check. Yes, I do get scared but if I have faith then the fear will subside. Faith before fear.

    “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth.”
    Do I know the facts, do I have the truth of the matter or opinions, instincts, and assumptions?
    “Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire.”
    What has my own experience taught me? If I do not have experience with this, what have other truths and experiences taught me that might serve me well? Who do I know that is wise that has experience and insight?
    “Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.”
    Where do I see the hand of God? Where do I see God in this situation, in this experience, in these truths?

    “She had that deep knowing inside her because she was one wise woman. She didn’t have to make it all so complicated. And neither do we. We just have to be discerning.”

    It’s time to practice so that I…
    Find that courageous yes and fight for that confident no
    Put my heart and my mind in places where wisdom gathers not scatters
    Use wisdom to make decisions today that will still be good tomorrow
    Make decisions and not make it complicated because I used knowledge, intuition and discernment appropriately.

    “Your hands have made me and fashioned me; give me discernment that I may learn your commands.” Psalm 119:73

  22. I love and highlighted the vocabulary on page 36. Knowledge, insight, and discernment.

  23. Michelle iffert says:

    I agree and have highlighted with many if your key points. Love the book and the online Bible study experience !

  24. Gena C (P31 OBS volunteer) says:

    I also love the “wisdom gathers not scatters” quote. Such a quick easy reminder when considering how to make decisions.

  25. Gail Jackson says:

    Wow so much to process. I have always wanted to own wisdom, I should say Gods wisdom here. To do this I now see I need to own wisdom in the little things by 1. Reading and praying through Gods word with wisdom . 2. Wisely applying Gods Word in my life. 3. Seeing GODLY council from GODLY wise people who know specifics about the situation. I am going to apply these 3 steps to the major decisions I face daily first then proceed on to apply to the little decisions therefore it is not such a huge step at first and will stick in my mind. So excited to put these principals into my daily lifestyle it is one step closer to living a life for God.

  26. I like one of the truths for this week that states ““God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.” We forget that God has given us His Holy Spirit and along with that discernment to know what choices we should make. Many times we are so caught up in the moment of overthinking things and we worry about how we’ll be perceived if we don’t make the “right” decisions by those who expect an answer from us. Looking forward to the discussion this week!

    • I can relate to this. I lose way to much time (especially at work) concerned about making the right decisions because everyone expects me to have the answers. I recognize and exercise discernment much better in other areas of my life. It seems the noise of the job, when the pressure is on to meet deadlines, distracts me and has me overthinking even the small things.
      The truth that speaks most to me is ” left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”
      Proverbs 3:5 comes to mind: “trust in God with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.”

  27. Irene O'Leary says:

    The questions Lysa uses to discern Best Yes choices gives me courage. “Best Yes answers are more likely to happen when we are in the habit of seeking wisdom.” So many times hindsight has shown that I really didn’t want what I tried so hard to get. Now I tend to hesitate too long and miss good opportunities. Lysa also says, “But then there are other decisions we just simply need to say yes or no to and move on.” Some things at work need to be done but I’m questioning the meaning of the headings. I need to tell them what I’ve done (resume stuff) but I don’t understand their headings in the system. They are using the information for restructuring, but my immediate supervisor doesn’t have time or answers…. and I don’t have time either…. I work in production; speed is a struggle and this doesn’t count toward production. If I can get this done right, I might get placed in a better fit work position.

  28. I so desire to stay parked on wisdom, and to demonstrate the qualities of the wise woman Lysa described in 2 Sam 20. I feel tugged between wanting to gravitate to my nature of complaining and justifying it to my circumstances. I believe it can be done with consistent daily feeding on scripture, Godly counsel, and worship. Asking for prayer for wisdom on selling a small business. This has caused such strife and stress in our family, and at times between my husband and I . I need discernment at this time.

  29. A couple things from chapter 4 really stood out to me. First, as a stay at home, homeschooling mom of two children, many of my daily responsibilities often seem mundane. Lysa says, “That daily stuff–those responsibilities that seem more like distractions–those things we want to rush and just get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life–those things that are unnoticed places of service? They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.” I often want to rush through my kids school work, so I can get to the part of the day in which I get to study and prepare for the small group I lead or spend time working on my blog. And while those things are important and things that God has called me to do, my priority Best Yesses are my children. I can’t expect to raise them to be Godly and impact their generation if I don’t slow down and take the time to teach them.
    The other quote that stood out to me was “wisdom makes decisions today that are still good tomorrow.” I hate to admit it, but I have often made impulsive decisions and realized they weren’t good ones, and then had to backtrack and change things. It’s better to take the time to think and pray through a decision. Seeking Godly counsel is also wise, and taking the time to do so will often prevent us from making poor decisions.

  30. I woke up this morning with an overwhelming urge to speak to my daughter about making wise decisions in the midst of pressure from the world. Her social circle has grown to include acquaintances she has not spent time around before. Many of these “new” friends have different values from ours, so she is faced with conversations and situations which are new and unfamiliar. I want her to pre-decide how she will approach these because the onslaught of challenging social situations will probably increase as she ventures off to college next year. This book and chapter are arming me with applicable resources to feed my daughter & son who is in college with the words of life to face life armed with God’s word. Thank you.

  31. #thebestyes – Love You ladies so much. I am going to start reading as soon as I finish typing, but I just read the title to Chapter 4 – “Sometimes I Make it All to Complicated” ok Lysa have you been in my home watching me…I do this! It is comforting to know that I am not the only one who does this. I am excited to get into the meat of these next chapters…Thank you ladies for your videos on Monday Mornings…you brighten my day and get it rolling for the week.
    Father Thank you so much for the opportunity to study with all these amazing women from all over the world! Grant us peace as we read and study your Word – the Word of Truth, give us strength as we go out into this world, and wisdom as we speak into the lives of those we see each day. amen
    God Bless Each of You today!!! (&and Everyday)
    Teresa

  32. I’m in a rough season of life right now, recently separated from my husband and attending college for the first time. I’m loving Lysa’ words as they help guide me through. Blessings to all for a blessed Monday!

    • So thankful God walks with us through those hard places, too, Annette. Saying a prayer for you sweet sister. Not by might, nor by power, but by My Spirit says the Lord! (Zech 4:6) So glad you’re a part of this community!

  33. Jenny Tinjum says:

    When we have used those questions…done what we can to acquire God’s insight and truth, then discernment of the truth should be there. It makes me wonder why it is so difficult for me lately to make decisions. Am I not seeking enough from God? Am I using my own thoughts, judgements, and desires to push ideas or choices I really would rather have? Lately big decisions in my life have left me at a standstill…..seeking God’s help, His guidance, and still feeling like I am guessing.

    • When we have done all that we are supposed to do, it is still sometimes hard to trust that we really are capable of making a wise decision, isn’t it? Especially those big ones. I sometimes wear myself out trying to find the right answer because I don’t want to mess up. BUT God assures us we can rest in Him and move forward with a confident yes when we have truly sought His wisdom in whatever decision lies in front of us. We don’t have to be double-minded or confused. We can set our hearts on Him, listen for the Holy Spirit’s leading, and walk as wise women into that place He has prepared for us.

  34. I am trying to make a decision about a friend and instead of calling everyone else about it or reacting rashly. I am praying and waiting. I hope this is the beginning of wisdom.

    • Yes, Beth! I love that you are seeking God’s heart about this decision instead of allowing yourself to be swayed by other people’s opinions.

    • Stephanie S. says:

      I’m trying to be better about this myself, Beth. I too am waiting for his guidance on a certain matter. I need to get better at following these steps.
      1) Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately?
      2) Have you been applying God’s Word to your [insert issue/question here] lately?
      3) Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation?
      (page. 36)

  35. ‘God has woven into us the ability to descern what is best’ makes me understand I have no excuse making wrong choices. Therefore,’ God has a reason for whatever that happens to us’ might not always be true. Thank you Lisa.

  36. Loved this chapter! I love the guidelines given to think through decisions: physical, financial, spiritual and emotional. I have a decision to make right now and this is helping me to have clear wisdom. But it still doesn’t stop those voices of fear from creeping in.

  37. It’s true, I make everything more complicated than it should be. I’m learning to quiet myself and listen for God. Thank you for the reminder and the encouragement.

  38. I want to be a woman in the place where wisdom gathers, not scatters…a lifestyle of wisdom.

  39. Having the difference between knowledge, insight and discernment spelled out for me explains my need for wisdom. Also, I don’t have to be known by NAME as a wise woman to make an impact on others around me.

  40. Valerie Huff says:

    This spoke to me “We’ve got to practice wisdom in the every day places of our lives. Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of those rare few who looks deeper than just the surface.” I have challenged myself to live like that. Embrace whatever God has in store for me and look deeper than the surface to see his hand and guidance in all areas. What an exciting way to live!

  41. I loved when she said that we don’t need to wait for a big neon sign to point to a direction if we are: reading and praying through God’s word, applying His truth to our lives and seeking godly counsel and insights from wise people in our lives. So many times (as I know it is addressed in future chapters) I feel paralyzed when making a decision. I feel like I am doubting myself, although really I am doubting the spirit that lives and moves within me. I so often doubt the discernment that I know is available to me by God through knowledge and insight, as she describes in the chapter. If you are like me in this paralysis remember that while God wants us to make wise choices, his promise in Romans 8:28: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” I believe if we are seeking Him, a “bad decision” in our eyes can be God’s opportunity to work if we just seek Him and surrender to Him.

  42. My take away from today’s lesson is to trust the inner voice-Holy Spirit-guidance versus questioning and over thinking everything.

  43. Never despise the mundane. That’s such a hard one for me. But if I’m looking for the hand of God in everything, including the mundane, I can’t despise it. It’s all a blessing. That is what I need to practice.

  44. osila Aaron says:

    i want.to.be guided by God in any step i take and they are many. that is why i always ask for his will no matter how painful. i hope this is wisdom.

  45. For me two things in Chapter 4 stood out….
    Over processing the what ifs and It is not about trusting myself but about trusting the Holy Spirit. My pastor’s sermon yesterday also focused on trusting the Holy Spirit. As a Social Worker I am so inclined to want to “fix everything” that I often don’t pause and pray and wait upon the Lord. Thank You for this book and Bible Study to get me to focus on this.

  46. I sure wish this book had been around when I was much younger (I am 61) and just too busy between all of my children’s activities and my own both with my profession and personal life. But I feel it will be just as important as I move forward into my last years of work and into retirement. I have heard people say they didn’t know they would be so busy after they retired and wouldn’t have time to work. I want to be able to enjoy my grown children and our 10 grandchildren as they are so important to me. I want to be able to make the best decisions that will affect my life and allow me to be both involved with them and also leave time for the things my husband and I want to do as well as my own personal activites. Thanks Lysa and your team for this great information!

    • Isn’t it awesome how no matter what season or stage in life we find ourselves in, our lives seem to parallel those of our sisters? I LOVE walking this journey with so many women who are so different yet so very similar. So glad you are a part of this community Susan!

  47. It makes so much sense when she says Discrerment is wisdom that comes for the Holy spirits reminders of that knowledge and insight. And to be where wisdom gathers. Wisdom gathers when we are living as God desires, when we are following his statutes and commands. It is then we are not grieving amd quenching the spirit. His spirit can flow freely and abundantly giving us that wisdom and discernment. Some words of our Lord to read regarding this.

    That, however, is not the way of life you learned when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,

    Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (‭Ephesians‬ ‭4‬:‭20-26, 28-32‬ NIV) Thank you Lord for giving us your spirit, a spirit of truth and power.

  48. Enjoying every minute of it!

  49. I have read and enjoyed these chapters.

  50. Scarlett Tandy says:

    I have made a few first steps toward my Best Yes. It reminds me alot of the steps we needed to get out of debt. First I have decided to stop committing to anything new until I have finished this bible study. (Kinda like shredding the credit cards to stop charging). Then I chose a few small things that I could hand off to someone else (just like Dave Ramseys debt snowball). Finally I scheduled in 1 hour a week (just like the need to create a budget) to write a teen girl small group. I have two weeks completed now. I know it might be a strange connection to getting out of debt, but it helped me having the plan in place to get out of a time debt.

  51. Naomi & Myrna spoke my heart perfectly. It’s the daily stuff that seems to build our character and seeing God’s hand in evry mundane task becomes a joy! Put my heart and my mind in places where wisdom gathers not scatters – Wow! this one is a challenge and so intuitive. you put to words what my heart was conveying but my mind could not could not. Use wisdom to make decisions today that will still be good tomorrow – This study has come perfectly timed. Thank you!

  52. Sabrina Ebert says:

    Ahead in this book…you just want to eat it all up in chunk loads 😉

    This chapter was awesome…infact it’s hard not to highlight the whole book.

    Love this weeks verse, love the blog and video messages.

    My take from chapter 4:

    Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.

  53. Nancy Silvers-P31 Ministry OBS Team says:

    This past week I made two great “no” choices that were MY “Best Yes” and it felt so good! Normally I would have gone to these two events because 1. The first one I had paid money to go to and didn’t want to disappoint my friend by not going and the 2nd one I would have gone because lots of ladies from church were going. These were great activities but they were not my Best Yes and it felt difficult at first but in the end it was great. One of my favorite quotes in Chapter Four is “discerning what’s best is something we’re capable of doing. But we must layer into out lives knowledge and depth of insight that form a trustworthy inner discernment.”
    Have a blessed day sweet sisters!

  54. This chapter spoke to me in volumes. First, in the everyday is where I find wisdom because my everyday is or should be about praising God, caring for my family and helping others. If I can find wisdom in my day to day then I can apply it in my decisions. My challenge…I am a worrier and I often project what I think will happen rather than allow things to happen. This results in unneeded worry and panic and less than wise decision making. Thank you for this book and study! Hoping it blesses not just me but all the women reading it!

  55. Missy Farris says:

    I need to trust the Holy Spirit to make decisions through me. I have always waited for a big answer. I would pray, listen, and wait for God to show me a verse that would reveal His will or impress on my heart so strongly that it was like writing on that wall. I was afraid to make a decision on my own. But the answer to her 3 questions was yes for me. So I can trust what I think is the right thing to do in some situations.

  56. Pam Wolford says:

    What a fantastic way to start my day in the wise council of all my sisters seeking “The Best Yes” just like me! God has woven the ability to discern what is best and it is evident here in the voices of these replies. Lead us on Lysa!

  57. When I read chapter 4, it just encouraged me that in order to walk in wisdom, I must really walk with God. That mean just talking with God about Everything as u go about ur day…I truly believed that if u seek after God, he will lead u in every details of ur day.. sometimes we tend to make our relationship with God complicated which lead to complicated decisions making instead of walking in the wisdom and peace of God..

  58. I can relate to this chapter! My husband has often said I make things so complicated sometimes! Ugh. My favorite truth from this chapter: ” Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.” I LOVE this! God has really been working in me for the last several years to trust Him in all things, including my decision making. This study was God led for me and I’m glad I followed his leading 🙂

  59. Oh my goodness, so much wisdom to be gleened from chapter 4! One of my favorite take aways is when we become powerfully effective decision makers we will live powerfully effective lives and spend our souls doing powerfully effective work to the glory of God!

  60. Paula McQuate says:

    In my job I have an important decision to make and I am trying to determine if it is a best yes. As I was reading chapter 4, question #1 Lysa asked the mother about preschool stood out to me. I want to read and pray through God’s Word for insight to this decision. How do I know where to look in the Bible to get insight about this decision?

  61. My disease to please causes me to turn the simplest things into that big scary box. I realize that I am spending too much time looking for a clear sign from God, instead of digging into his word and trusting what my heart is lead to by his truth. I can see the clear yes and no that I should have seen before but I have side tracked myself with turning these two decisions into that big scary box. Isn’t it like God to put me in this Bible study so I can learn how to make these decisions. I am so thankful that my daughter signed me up. I have really needed this.
    Michele

  62. Ernema Boettner says:

    “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”
    I really like this quote from the chapter. I have been clinging to Proverbs 3:5-6 as I face and make decisions how to balance my schedule between work, home and ministry. Just yesterday I got discouraged with the seeming result of an event that I spearheaded at school. The feelings of discouragement clouded my appreciation of what God has done and what He is teaching me about life in general and the nature of man. I need to stand on the truthfulness of His word, that is to trust in Him and He will make my paths straight. I can let go of the feelings of discouragement (as that of the enemy) knowing my decisions at those times of planning and working out the details for the event was what the Lord wanted me to do.

  63. Wisdom makes decisions that will still be good tomorrow.
    So true. So many live moment by moment without considering what tomorrow brings.

  64. Wisdom makes decisions today, that will still be good tomorrow. Embrace the mundane. Love these. Thank you for this bible study.

  65. Wow, this is such a great study for me right now. I am a stay-at-home mother of four, we homeschool and I have a part-time writing job that I do from home. I have a lot on my plate and I need to learn “The Best Yes”…what stands out most to me from this chapter is “It’s not about trusting ourselves…rather its about trusting the Holy Spirit to do what Jesus promise us (in John 14:26)” God has given me the ability to discern what is best…its up to me to gain the knowledge and insight to discern and make the wise decision. Praying to be a woman who fears God and looks for His hand in everything and apply that wisdom to my crazy, beautiful life!

  66. Laura Estes says:

    This Best Yes study is just what I needed! I am in awe of God’s perfect timing!!!!

  67. Love the reminder that we have to practice wisdom in the everyday, mundane places of our lives. “Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift.”

  68. The reminder I got was on p. 41…the practicing of wisdom in the daily stuff…they are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom…when you curl together the knowledge, insight, and discernment formed in your everyday-life experiences, you form patterns of wisdom. Patterns of wisdom will build your confidence to make good decisions, the kind made in the everyday and the epic.

  69. So much nourishing food for thought in Chpt 4. ” We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers , not scatters”. I am reminded of the scripture ” Above all else guard your heart for everything you do flows from it”. Proverbs 4: 23 NIV

  70. Kim Beckett says:

    Proverbs 31 OBS has been my best yes this month! Living overseas with a time zone that’s opposite of the U.S. and not having many Christian sisters to fellowship with has made Proverbs 31 OBS a true treasure find for me. What an encouragement to come home and settle in for the evening and be able to watch an upbeat video with Lysa, Melissa and Nicki, read their blog, and hear from my group leader. Thank you for your ministry!

  71. “That daily stuff…They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom…We can learn right here, right now, in the midst of all that’s daily how to become wise.” (p41)

  72. Cindy Uhrick says:

    Have to say what has stood out most for me from chapter 4 is when Lysa says, “We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers not scatters.”

  73. A few things in chapter 4 that spoke to me was: When we haven’t been doing what we can to acquire knowledge and insight of truth, the discernment of truth won’t be there. Intuition is a perception of truth, based on a gut feeling, discernment allows us to know what’s best – jut just have a gut feeling about what’s best. Best Yes answers are much more likely to happen when we are in the habit of seeking godly wisdom. We have to put out hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.

  74. Peggy Cuomo says:

    I love this: patterns of wisdom will build your confidence to make good decisions……Establish a lifestyle using wisdom, His wisdom, in all we do.

  75. Kristy Bateman says:

    I have a big problem with overcommitment, I can never say no. And then I work with an empty and sometimes cranky, heart. This book has been such a blessing so far to me, I have said no to a couple of things asked of me in the last week, things that I very much love and would love to be a part of, but I also realize that they are draining me and my ability to serve with a thankful heart. I know that it was the right thing to do in these instances, I feel a peace that has been absent for a long time. 🙂

  76. I think I’m going to have to reread this book whenever I face a time of uncertainty. Applying the truth is always the challenge for me. These chapters give me practical to steps to have the confidence needed to make the best decisions I can with what is placed before me.

  77. My struggle is remembering to apply all the great things I learn in bible studies, devotionals, church, etc. I’m motivated while in it. But then all of a sudden it’s the next day and I feel like a failure for not thinking about it in the past 24 hours. So I am hoping today to apply these points in chapter 4 to every single decision I make today. I’m a manager and have to make a lot. Hope to create a habit to just give it an extra few seconds before making that decision, so that when it comes time for a personal decision that I need help on, Maybe I will apply these things we are learning! Fingers crossed, prayer sent, rubber band on my wrist!

  78. I absolutely LOVE chapter 4! (well, I love every chapter so far!) But I’d have to say one thing that I took away from chapter 4 that really spoke to my heart was this quote…on Page 41 of the paper back..
    “That daily stuff- those responsibilities that seem more like distractions- those things we want to rush and just get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life- those things that are unnoticed places of service? They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom.”
    Wow! That was written for me in this season of my life. Raising 4 little ones under the age of 5 has proven that I’m doing a lot of ‘every day STUFF’…but now, I’ll be seeking wisdom in all of responsibilities of daily life. <3
    I'm so blessed to have the opportunity to be a part of this study!

  79. The paragraph on page 39 that starts with–Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow–really impacted me. All the wisdom gathers/wisdom scatters examples made me really thing about how I actually am spending my days, my time, my 168 hours a week. I want the things that I do today to count for good productive outcomes for tomorrow, and the next tomorrow, and the next tomorrow, and so on and so on. I don’t want to be as the old saying goes a “scatter-brain”, but rather someone who gains wisdom by using my time in wisdom gathering situations.

  80. Learning to give my Best Yes has been a learning experience for this week and making those choices purposefully, even in small things. I had several items of business that I was working on and become overwhelmed. Instead of wearing myself ragged and deciding to take on all tasks on my own, I looked to my business partner for help and put some things on her plate to lessen the stress. It was HUGE for me to say, NO, to those things that were overwhelming me and underwhelming my schedule. A HUGE YES for me this week is making strides to put my husband first, enjoy time with him, and not feel as though I need to preoccupy my time all the time with “to do’s” and the never ending list! I need to be mindful of the opportunities to work on what I need to work on and mindful of the opportunities to rest and enjoy time with him.

    • I need to do the exact same thing. Our marriage is suffering because of this, and my preoccupation with having my phone with me when we are watching TV or something and not totally focusing my attention on him.

  81. Morgyn Grady says:

    “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.”
    This definitely stood out to me and for a few reasons. The past year for me has been pretty fast paced and consisted of so many changes. August of 2013 I moved four hours away from home for college and my boyfriend of 2 years left for the Marine Corps. It was a huge change that took a serious toll on my mind and heart and I ended up pulling away from church and God. It was a roller coaster of emotions that I didn’t know how to deal with and I never felt so alone. My boyfriend came home for the entire month of December and I was so afraid I wouldn’t get any time with him so I packed up and moved back home and switched my classes to online. But once he left again, it was like starting all over and I neglected my classes and still didn’t attend church. Now, we have been broken up for 4 months and though the pain is still there, I have turned back to God, I now teach the confirmation class at my church and I am pursuing a theology degree to teach. This quote stands out to me because in between all of the hurt and fear and foolishness, I made multiple decisions that complicated things even more. I didn’t have the wisdom I needed to make the right decisions that would pull me out of the darkness. But lately, I have felt more alive. With all of the awful choices I made, it was like something inside of me died and I just repeatedly made the wrong decisions. Now that I have turned back to God and am finally listening to His calling, whatever part of me died then, has been resurrected! The Spirit is flowing through every part of me and all I want to do is share this feeling and wisdom with everyone! I feel like I can change the world again! I am so glad to say that the real Morgyn is back! 🙂

  82. I feel encouraged by the this chapter because it taught me that if I start with trying to make the right choices in small situations that I’ll get better at it ( making big choices ). I really liked the wisdom she gave about not getting stuck over analyzing good/good choices. Just do something god will be there.

  83. Struggling with being alone 10 years after my divorce. So tempted to get back into a relationship with a man who did not put God first. Read chapter 4 this weekend but really needed to hear the video this morning and read the posts!
    These reminders were clearly the Holy Spirit speaking to me!
    Thank you ladies!
    What a gift this Bible study is!

    • Randelle R. says:

      Said a prayer for you Catherine. God bless!

    • Hi Catherine,

      I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with being alone after your divorce. May God grant you the wisdom to know who you are in him, and not in this man whom you are unequally yoked with. If this man you are considering going back to doesn’t even put the lord first, HE WILL NEVER KNOW HOW TO PUT YOU FIRST. I pray that you will find time to read 2 Cor 6:14 let it speak to your soul and ask the lord to direct you in your footsteps regarding this relationship. I am a big fan of a philosopher named Lao Tzu….I hope this quote blesses your heart “Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are, when you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you”
      God’s whole world belongs to you, and with our God nothing is impossible and nothing ever lacks. Hold onto that promise and may the holy spirit continue to speak to you so you are blessed with Peace. Look at it this way, if you are feeling alone by yourself IMAGINE what it would be like being with someone who doesn’t understand why you are seeking to place our heavenly father above him? Your loneliness will multiply…remember “your attitude in your activities multiplies” Blessings to you and hang in there my dear sister in christ…This too shall pass!

  84. I smiled as I read comments from other homeschool moms….hi y’all! This is my 15th year of homeschooling….and it’s so easy to get bogged down in those seemingly everyday, mundane places. I absolutely needed the reminder to look deeper than just the surface.

  85. Lorna Leavitt says:

    I am seeking discernment and in the past have had the wisdom and did not use it but stifled it as who was I to speak. But working on this gift that God has given all of us wisdom and looking for the answer to the decision I need to make. This study has really been good and Chapter four is my favorite so far. I will be absorbed in learning the vocabulary and reframing my decision making with intent knowing God is giving me this gift. Work ON!!!

  86. As usual, it’s hard to select just one thing that really stood out to me in this chapter as there are many gems embedded within. This concept was striking, however: “Best Yes answers are much more likely to happen when we are in the habit of seeking wisdom. We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.” But I love how Lysa took it a step further and gave us examples of what that looks like, such as: “Wisdom gathers in conversations that are honoring. Wisdom scatters in conversations that are gossipy.”

    Recently I’ve been convicted of just this thing. How often do we begin an edifying conversation, even with another sister in Christ, and in the process of our “venting” it takes a turn into Gossip Land. We are called to lean on one another, for sure. To share our joys and also our challenges. But we must guard our speech as the enemy will use any little thing he can to derail us from our Best Yes. I found it encouraging to hear this confirmation this morning.

  87. So many things spoke to me in Ch 4! First….the seeing the hand of God in everything, even the ordinary. Wow…do I need to work on that one! Getting better, but needs work!
    Next, the daily stuff…seeking and finding wisdom there so that better wisdom comes for the big stuff…I think of it as practice for the big game!
    Finally, being where wisdom gathers not scatters. So important! And a great lesson to teach my kids as well!

  88. I am an impulsive woman and make quick (and often unwise) decisions. I love the 3 questions used to determine whether a discernment or wise answer is availailable. I need to slow my decisions down to evaluate whether I’ve been reading,praying and applying God’s Word, and seeking godly,wise,counsel. This is such a valuable combination for wise decision making!

  89. Hearing the voice of God. Lately, I’ve been putting together thoughts to share with my women’s group at church. Chapter 4 stamps the truth on hearing God’s voice. We cannot recognize his voice unless we are 1) regularly reading and praying 2) applying what we learn to our lives and 3) surrounding ourselves with wise people.

  90. Stephanie Buice says:

    I get myself into a frozen tangled complicated messes with decisions a lot of the time. I can’t wait to dive into Gods word more on wisdom and discernment and take it to ❤️ So I don’t have to feel that “not of God” web!! need more wisdom from Him so I can have more confidence in Him. Continued act of laying myself down and letting Him take the reigns.

  91. Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.
    Today’s choices become tomorrows circumstances.

    Oh, Lord plant these truths so deeply in my soul that they can never be uprooted.
    Make them a part of me, part of who I am in You. ♥

  92. I have done several of the bible studies and then I just stopped. But now I am back and I am so glad I am. The book is so me it isnt even funny. I look forward to rad more and becoming more connected to God and what he has in store for me!!!!!

  93. “We have to put our minds and bodies in places where wisdom gathers not scatters.” How true, yet we often see ourselves as invincible.

  94. Courageous yes….my pastor said at church yesterday that courage is being scared yet doing “it” anyways. I haven’t read chapter 4 yet but the question you asked the courageous yes stuck out! I am SO excited to read the chapter 4 now. “Wisdom makes decisions today that are still good tomorrow” really struck a cord with me. While raising children I think this quote is vital for me to dive into.

  95. Enjoying the mundane is hard for me. Becoming a foster parent, the foster parent drama, the excitement of new placements. Then suddenly one day there is none of the excitement and just a whole lot of mundane daily parenting with kids who come from hard places. I like the reminder to enjoy this, to find God in this daily grind of homeschooling and parenting.

    As a widow, I need to daily seek God and ask for wisdom and discernment. Sometimes I forget and I get into the situations where I overthink and over react.

    I am loving this bible study. Sitting here on a Monday morning, amidst 4 homeschoolers and a grumpy baby, drinking my coffee, answering questions and settling fights between typing.

  96. Randelle R. says:

    Haven’t finished the chapter yet, working on it. But I like the reminder to “put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”

  97. I love knowing that Wisdom choices we make today, will be good tomorrow. Knowing that our good decisions today won’t leave us with regret tomorrow is very validating. And it also builds confidence in our decision making.

  98. I have been so excited about this online study. It was all that I wanted and more. This book is so encouraging and I use the tools each day. Thank you ladies and God Bless!

  99. Kathy ecklebe says:

    I’m looking forward to delving into chapters 4-6. I’m an empty nester and really have taken my time for granted. Even though I am not swamped with children and activities I am responsible for the time God has given me!!!

    • Kathy, I too am an empty nester. Would like to thank you for the reminder that I am responsible for the time that God has entrusted to me on a daily basis. It doesn’t matter if we are swamped or not with activities, what’s really important is how we use our time to create the Best Yes for Him, in all aspects of our lives. Our time is a blessed gift.

      • Hey Kathy and Jean
        Empty neater– whoever thought I’d be almost there! Right now my son is about to write his final school exams (here in South Africa our school year ends in Nov/Dec) and I’m in that space where I need to know how to steward my time….. And how I could so easily waste it… Except I know it’s God-entrusted and I want to give it my best yes! So I’m praying for discernment and not intuition…Spirit-led and Word-fed direction…… And for you both that this will be the Best Season for you….

  100. Tracy Venable says:

    The part that spoke to my heart was where Lysa said that “We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdon gathers, not scatters.”

    So very true! How can I determine what my Best Yes is if I am not seeking wisdom and truth in the right places.

  101. Tami Crossland says:

    I have let fear of what people would say to me cause me to keep saying yes to decisions that I really wasn’t sure about or felt I needed to say no to. Over the weekend, I took the courage and just said no to a situation that was putting a lot of stress on me. It may have cost me being in the lives of 2 of my grandchildren but the situation was starting to affect my health. I feel a big weight has been lifted off me.

  102. I did have a big yes/ no day this past Friday. My son pre-bought a ticket to the most popular football game for his school. However, he failed to ask if he could go. In fact he didn’t even mention the game to me. It may seems cruel to have said no to this very important game (to a teenager) however, he had also been ditching school and was missing many assignments. He argued with me and then even tried to leave when my back was turned. We sat and talked and I let him know I wasn’t trying to be cruel, I was being a parent who doesn’t reward the wrong behavior. While he was mad at me and it took some time, he eventually came to me that night and told me he was sorry and thanked me for caring so much about him that I would take these steps in his life to correct him.
    This reminded me of our loving Father who corrects us to bring us back to obedience with Him. My best yes turned out to be my best no.

  103. Good morning. Chapter 4 was great. The one thing that stood out to me and I BELEIVE this will help me in my confident yes and no were the 3 questions.
    1. Have you been reading and praying through Gods Word lately?
    2. Have you been applying Gods Word to your life lately?
    3. Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation?

    Asking myself these 3 questions can help me use knowledge, insight and discernment to be a wise decision maker.

    I’m going to type these up and put everywhere I can see, so I can remind myself to ask these questions upon making decisions.

  104. Thank you for the chance to win the Bob Goff book & conference call series. I would love to add the book to my collection. Thank you for the online bible studies!

  105. Stephanie Blitz says:

    I am loving this Bible Study. I haven’t read Chapter 4 yet, but will be reading it as soon as we are finished with our schooling for today.

  106. “Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift.” pg. 43
    This section in the chapter was very timely for me. I have been struggling with the mundane routine of life. But the mundane is what life is all about if we are willing to look deeper. God has given us everything we have, including the day to day experiences, let us gain insight and wisdom through them.

  107. Wise choices today will still be good decisions tomorrow. I think that’s a good 4th question to add to the evaluation process… Will this still be a good decision tomorrow?

    No different than picking wedding items or picture day outfits and whatnot: will they date? Is it too trendy (of the moment?) WILL I REGRET THIS LATER?

    Why don’t we apply that same logic to our other choices?

  108. I really love the 3 questions to ask yourself before you make a decision. This is great, practical advice that I can start applying right away. I wrote these questions on a card and hung it up at my desk at work as well as on my mirror at home. I love that Lysa is so down to earth and I can connect with her personal stories. Her book is so easy to read!

  109. Alyssa Wilkins says:

    I cant believe we are only on chapter 4 and this book is changing the entire way I think about my future!!! Who is with me?!?!? I LOVE THE BEST YES!!! 😉

  110. Sharron Aune-Ruland says:

    I didn’t read all the comments, so I don’t know if this has already been said, but I like the “Coming up Next” heading. It helps me to know I can read just one chapter today and won’t feel like I am starting off my week behind. Thanks!

  111. Hello ladies hope you have a blessed week. That we are becoming more and more wise in making desicions that will be still good for tomorrow having everlasting kingdom impact.
    Yesterday my pastor gave a powerful message saying we need to live wisely impacting others with the word of God, because it has eternal impact in those people’s hearts.
    He also said that if we are meditating in God’s word and praying we are going to be kingdom minded and not self-minded.
    Many times living in such a hurry to do all the things we need keeps up from doing what God has in mind. The other day for example, I was waiting to order my coffee in line when a grandma came behind me and you know she started talking to me when suddenly I sensed in my heart “invite her coffee, pay for her coffee” she was having a plain black coffee. I thought oh please Lord not right now she’s never gonna stop talking I need to go. I got my coffee, I went to my table to seat with my daughter. The grandma was putting milk and sugar and she turned to me and sayd: “it’s my birthday today” my heart sank and I knew it was God wanting to bless her and tell her I love you. I could only say have a wonderful birthday. Later in that day I couldn’t stop thinking on the many times I want to hear from God but then when He talks so loudly I just don’t obey?!?! So I pray Lord give me and obedient heart and soul and mind. Quick to respond to your calling. The more we study His word He calls us to serve Him, but we need to obey. My pastor also mentioned this weekend 1 Samuel 3 when God called Samuel at night and he didn’t know it was The Lord but when he finally answered he obeyed.
    Love and blessings Xoxo

  112. I am really loving this study! This chapter hit me in several ways. First the difference between discernment and intuition. I am not strong in the intuition area but I can learn to discern! “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best”. Also to never despise the mundane but to embrace it….that made me smile because I’ve had several very memorable “God” moments while cleaning a bathroom! And lastly the story about the wise woman who keeps her head in the heat of battle….who doesn’t react but who keeps a calm spirit of wisdom and is respected for that. A worthy role model and a lofty goal!

  113. I love when Lysa talked about some decisions just need to be simply made and then we should move on without all of the complication…..find that courageous yes and fight for that confident no. If I could truly learn to do this it would serve me well. God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best, she says. I know this, but sometimes I beat myself up after saying no, feeling bad….or after saying yes and wishing I hadn’t. I need to learn the just trust Him and move on part. I’m working on that this week! 🙂

  114. I love the following quote: “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.” . Sometimes for me it is so easy to doubt my ability in the decisions that I am making but I need to remember to rely on God to help me, not my own ability, and know that he will give me what I need to discern what is best.

  115. There were so many wonderful quotes in this chapter. The one that I keep going back to and speaks most to my heart is on page 41.

    Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface. See something more in the everyday. It’s there. We can learn right here, right now, in the midst of all that’s daily how to become wise.

    Beautiful words that I, as a homeschooling mom of two, need to take to heart. It is so easy to get caught up in the everyday assignments and things that need to get done, that I sometimes look past this wonderful opportunity that I have been given to really connect with my kids. Lord, today help me to be present, even in the mundane.

  116. Antonia Tillman says:

    I just love “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.” and reading that “we must trust and use discernment because the more we do this; the more wisdom we acquire.” I too am not done reading the chapter but these have stood out to me and are underlined in the book.

  117. “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.” This is one of my favorites because so many times my fear of failure or “what if’s” can be paralyzing causing me not to make a decision. This quote reminds me that the Holy Spirit can help me keep those fears in check and discern the best choice despite the way I feel!

  118. “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.” It’s right there at our finger tips and I know this, however, at times I don’t take advantage of this ability! I so want to discern God’s best for my life! I pray that I will totally take advantage of this ability daily!

    • I am so right there with you in this prayer today Cathy! Most often I feel that discernment and struggle with making the wise choice because my heart tears in different directions. This morning I found Proverbs 2:1-11 particularly helpful!
      I join you in prayer!

  119. This one is my favorite: “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.” And I have to say how much I LOVE Bob Goff! What an inspiration and blessing he is! Thank you so much for including him in The Best Yes!

  120. I love the statement at the end of chapter 4 one who sees the had of God in everything. As a mama of two boys one a teen and one adult with two grandchildren two eldery parents,a very sweet busy husband, two dogs, a cat, and 2 fish tanks sometimes my life feels like it’s just one constant go. My good days are when i sitgo with God I don’t need to have everything together and my day is so much more pleasant so much more inspiring only because I spent a bit of time with my Savior

  121. 2 Samuel 20:16 a wise woman called from the city “Listen, listen” as I read the entire chapter I got: a wise women brings peace and solves conflicts. It’s a mother to His people… Beautiful

  122. Ann Milovich says:

    The verse of the week is speaking to me. I want to be a wise woman used by God like her…then I thought wow…she has no name so I can put my name in. Ann, a wise woman…

  123. What about today’s chapter spoke to your heart? The 3 questions: 1. Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately? 2. Have you been applying God’s Word in your life lately? 3. Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who specifics about your situation?

    Have you found that courageous yes and that confident no? If you haven’t, what is one thing you learned in Chapter 4 that can help you move into a place of victory in your specific struggle? asking myself the 3 questions, acting on them and trusting God to give me the right wisdom for my situation.

  124. “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.”
    It’s talking loud to my heart! My major struggle comes when my heart knows and my mind fights! Prayer and the truth of the Word, Proverbs 2:1-11, are my strength today!

  125. Loved the definition of the fear of God meaning being in awe of God. Have tried to explain the fear of God to others but have never been able to put it in such a way that it is easy to understand and that it is something we can desire.

  126. Jamie Rizzo says:

    I loved reading this over and over ..Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.
    Buy the truth and do not sell it— wisdom, instruction and insight as well. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭23‬:‭23‬ NIV)

  127. I keep thinking about all the decisions I’ve been making over the past months about my family’s future and well being. Is this the right thing to do? Am I doing what’s best? Am I rushing into this? Am I researching enough? Have I consulted the right people? Wisdom has told me to slow down when my husband says to hurry up. Wisdom says take each task at hand, one at a time, even though I bundle everything up into one big mess. Wisdom is also telling me to stay in my “waiting place” just a little longer even though I want things to come together NOW! I have to keep reminding myself that God is in the midst of this and is in control even though I feel out of control. God is with me so I am not alone even though I feel that way sometimes.

  128. What really stuck with me was “Put our hearts and minds where wisdom gathers not scatters.”

  129. A couple years ago, my brother moved his family to another town to join an occult which requires him to cut his family off from us. Now that we are over the shock of it, I am struggling with how to teach my kids to be discerning so they don’t ever get caught up in the same thing. I was reminded today that knowledge brings insight and discernment. So giving my kids the knowledge and teaching them how to apply it is my best defence against this. I would love to hear any other advice you ladies might have for me 🙂

  130. The “wise woman” quote was what jumped out to me. “Then the woman went to all the people with her wise advice, and they listed and acted in accordance with her wisdom.” Can you imagine begin so in tune with God and being able to discern to such a level that the community around you listen to you with no debate, questions, or ridicule? I am reminded of our Sunday sermon and the words from 2 Corinthians 2: 14 “But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ’s triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of Him everywhere. “

  131. Amanda Panik says:

    I loved reading chapter 4. Not only did it encourage me to seek God in everyday, mundane, sometimes dreaded daily tasks, but it also have me some useful tidbits to pass on to my son who just made some poor decisions this weekend. These decisions were made in the midst of his anger and could have had huge consequences. Thankfully, this happened with a forgiving friend and I think they will remain friends. At ten, you have so many life lessons to learn just to navigate the ten years to come. I am trying to impart God’s word to him and leave the rest up to God. When it comes to matters of the heart, that’s God’s department and I have to be obedient to God and trust him with my son.

  132. The part on page 39 where Lisa Spoke about where wisdom gathers and where wisdom scatters..spoke to me the most in this chapter. Reminds me of where I need to be and what I need to be doing. We need to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers…church, prayer, Bible study…great reminder for me since my Bible has been sitting not being used and my Sunday’s have been spent sleeping in because I am exhausted from the week. Time to make changes in my schedule and to discern what is important and what is not.

    • See, I have that sleeping in pro blem because I know church is good, but at our current church, not really being fed, but my husband feels committed. but working all week, I feel so exhausted and it can be so hard.

      • Keep praying about it. God will open a door for you, whether it’s at the same church, or maybe at a friend’s church’s women’s group or something like that. If He knows your desire, He will make it happen but maybe not in the way you think it will.

  133. I tend to go too much with my head on decisions….and i should be searching for more wisdom and discernment when I am making a big decision. I let the chatter overwhelm me and just jump the gun instead of praying and listening for the Holy Spirits gently promptings!

  134. For me, that courageous yes has shown itself in two areas of my life. One has been to dedicate more time to my writing and complete some very large writing projects that God has laid on my heart quite some time ago. Writing projects that I have been avoiding with every bone in my body. The second courageous yes has been to continue seeing clients part-time as a marriage and family therapist. Now, for the confident No. I need to say no to the the extra stuff that clutters our lives as a family and makes it difficult to focus on the courageous Yes decisions we have made. In chapter 4, I was really challenged by Lysa’s encouragement to “move on without all the complications.” When we have made a wise decision, we can be confident in that decision and just move forward. So for me…I am choosing to put my heart and mind in places where wisdom gathers, look for God in it all, and MOVE FORWARD. Amen. Amen.

  135. What a amazing God we serve… Thank you ladies for such a encouraging start to this week. My favorite thing I have read this morning is my number 1 key to getting me through my days. Just as lysa said. Play close attention to the Holy Spirit leading, and trust that God ….. Has empowered us through wisdom. And discernment to make whatever choices that need to be made… Amen

  136. In the past few years I have gotten much better about wiser yeses and noes, but I have a lot of room to grow. This study is helping a ton.

  137. I have a few specific obstacles in my life at this time. Being a newlywed, a new stepmom to a very involved child with his mother who is everything short of demanding, my obstacles face me daily. I yearn to trust God in my situation and sometimes I am at a void in my life. I am considering on taking on a part time job over the holidays and going in for a interview tomorrow. I haven’t made my #thebestyes yet but the 3 questions throughout Chapter 3 have helped me pray for the right path to #thebestyes. I don’t know my answer yet but I am hoping it leads to my best yes!

  138. Roberta Smith says:

    My favorite part of this chapter is the story of the wise woman. Since she practiced wisdom on a daily basis, the people trusted her wisdom. She had a reputation of wisdom. that’s what I want…not because I’m so wise, but because I know and stay connected to the One who is wisdom.

  139. God gave me an “in your face” example yesterday of my rushed schedule and not using my Best Yes, but instead saying No to the absolute wrong thing! We had a crazy weekend. Yes, the weekend had fun things involved in it , but I said Yes, to things that I “should” do or needed to do to help our family budget, or just said Yes to without really even thinking or praying it through. That left me worn and tired by Sunday evening. I had not spent any good, quality time with my girls. For me, that is what the weekend is about! My sweet 10 year old came up to me and asked if we could bake cookies in her Easy Bake Oven. It really was the last thing I wanted to do – I had just cleaned the kitchen from dinner and just wanted a moment to sit in my chair and veg out! I said can we please do it another time when Mommy has more energy – I just can’t right now. That sweet face dropped to the floor and she went running up the stairs. I had crushed her and I felt crushed too! Ugh! Not, 10 minutes later that sweet little face came down those stairs with a smile on her face and said Mommy, I just wanted to give you a hug. What?!!!! I got my lazy hiney off that chair and said let’s bake some Easy Bake Oven Cookies! That is my Best Yes and will always be!! I am taking a hard look at my schedule and praying through it with my husband to see what we can do to re-align things! That was too heart-wrenching to live through again….

    This study is amazing!! It has been on alert every single day! Thank you!!

    • Thank you Dawn for sharing this! I too struggle with saying yes to things I “should” do and have no energy left for my very energetic 11 yr old son a lot of times! Your story made me cry because it is so close to home. Praying for you today! 🙂

      • Soooo close to home for me too. Thanks so much for sharing. So often I hear myself saying, “Not now, honey.” or “Mommy’s got this to do.” I feel my heart break afterwards! It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this!

  140. What came to mind was my fears as a mom! Ever since I had kids every fear I could possibly have I have it. My emotions and thoughts take over at times not allowing me to trust JESUS with my kids lives. Making decisions becomes hard because I over think it, think negative & worry! Let go & let God! Saying YES to trusting him, asking for wisdom. Last weeks verse on the fear of the Lord will bring wisdom, looking for Gods hand in everything I do!! And saying “NO” to the enemy, my thoughts and fears!!

    This one point in the reading is awesome:

    “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”

  141. My biggest takeaway today:
    A pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.

    How can I expect to have wisdom in the big stuff if I don’t rehearse it in the small, everyday stuff. I really believe that the biggest story of our lives is told in the little things – the small acts of obedience of every day.

  142. I am 56 years old and have been a Christian for 40 years and I still struggle with “keeping the first things first” in my daily walk. The big picture seem so clear but its the little day to day decisions that are tough.

  143. Joan DeKoekkoek says:

    I want to be like the woman in 2nd Samuel who was known as being wise. I get caught up in stressful situations, and all reason flies out the nearest window. I am going to start asking the Holy Spirit to remind me of the knowledge and insight I have, and to help me make wise decisions in any circumstance. I am also still working on the courageous yes, and the confidant no. I’m not where I want to be, but praise God, I am not where I was either.

  144. The wise woman didn’t just save herself – she saved her family and community. When we “practice wisdom in the every day places” and establish “a pattern of making wise choices in” our lives, we impact those around us. Once again, God gets the glory and his people see the beauty of obedience. So much beautiful truth in this chapter.

  145. Sheila Watson says:

    Since we’ve started this study it has amazed me how many large and small moments require my #best yes!. So thankful for this study in the season I am in need of knowing how to predecide and know what my best yes will be.

  146. Deborah Herbst says:

    I am one chapter behind but . . . . I have a story of learning these priniciples. My daugher and I hosted a baby shower for a dear friend on Saturday. We sent out 48 invitations plus put in our church bulletin. As we realized the potential for 50 to 60 guests and began to realize schedule and financial and personal constraints, we decided to eliminate 2 items from the 12 item food list, give up on the cute foot shaped cookies for party favors and ask for help with punch and party game. As a result, we all had a wonderful time. What a great and powerful feeling to feel like I had conquered that “disease to please” and unrealistic expectations for myself! I believe this was a great learning experience for my dear daughter and represented a few steps of spiritual growth for me! Thank you for the marvelous impact of Proverbs 31 through the years! Do not ever think that what you are doing does not make a difference.

  147. “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.” – Love this!!!!

  148. Yvonne McCallar says:

    We do complicated a lot of things in our lives, that we don’t really need. I have to remember have the faith that He will guide us

  149. My best yes was to take time to read and dig into the book. Planning a week of events and deciding how to spend my time. Putting the ideas into action and applying wisdom to decisions.

  150. One thing I realized was I spend too much time thinking about what could wrong then I short circuit and go into meltdown mode where I start ignoring the problem and hope it goes away where as if I just took 5 minutes to address the problem it be done. Funny how me and (husband)Kyle had a argument over this exact thing last night it’s like God is literally walking me through this bible study (and the light bulb goes off how bad I needed this bible study)!

  151. Terri Juliano says:

    This entire chapter has spoken to me. When we look through the eyes of this world we will always find ourselves wanting for more but to simply live in the mundane existence of our everyday lives is what we are called to do. Like the nameless woman we are not all called to be Billy Graham but to do our part. When we seek God and look for Him we will find Him in every detail of our existence. It all seems so easy but when we complicate it because of what we have put into our heads and our hearts we lose sight of what is most important. I often look back and wish I had learned some of this when my children were little but I realize that it is always in God’s time and plan that things come along in our lives. Today I choose to be led by the Holy Spirit. God is so good to me and no matter what is in my past He has taken it as far as the east is from the west and washed me cleaned! Praise God!

  152. Daryl Ann Lowry says:

    Practice wisdom in everyday places.

    It’s so easy to just think that the BIG things need wise choices, but it’s the small things too. It can impact yourself and others when you least expect it.

  153. April Ferry says:

    My biggest take away is that wisdom is found when I study the Bible, when I serve and invest in a church, and when I am connected to a church family. I really do need to find a church that is the best fit for my introverted self to get plugged into. I prefer one that is close to me and my job. Please pray that God will direct me to one.

  154. “A pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the way for wise choices in the extraordinary.” How true this is if we teach ourselves through the holy spirit and God’s word how to react with wisdom to the everyday situations that come up then it will transfer to the unique and unexpected situations that will come.
    What an awesome blessing, to have wisdom and discernment during any moment! So glad for this book and study!!!!

  155. Enjoying this study! Good Biblical insight.

  156. Deje (Proverbs 31 OBS Team Volunteer) says:

    One of my favorite things I am taking away from Chapter 4 is “Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface.” I am really looking at this and trying to look below the surface – somethings in life can’t be taken at face value and you have to look deeper to get the complete or a fuller picture. God is opening doors for many women through this study!

  157. Wow, what a chapter. What hit me most today was the paragraph on page 39 where Lysa talks about what scatters our wisdom. I’m sad to say that 3 out of those 5 things are issues I have. Thank God, He has shown this to me and I can start to work on these things!!! I also liked that we have to practice wisdom in the everyday places. It’s so easy to go through our daily chores just ritually, not really even thinking about anything. I am going to make an active effort to be more mindful of the everyday choices!! I pray that you will all have a great day and make your Best Yes choices for today!!

  158. Irma Bustos says:

    Page-47 “A person who fears God as “one who sees the hand of God in everything.”
    This chapter was what I needed to read today, I have been praying that we make the right decision in our circumstances, and I may not understand at the moment, I do see God’s hands at work. It’s not easy somedays, but I trust God.

  159. “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow”! What a great truth! As an adult, I know I pray for wisdom every day in my decision making. How can we help our teens grab hold of this truth and see that there are life-long consequences for unwise decisions? Are their minds mature enough to comprehend this truth and how can we as adults help make it clearer for them?

  160. Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow! Amazing quote! I have to remember to embrace the daily mundane things, and find joy in those things so I can serve God while doing the daily things.

  161. Missy Davis says:

    “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision.” This statement is like the picture of most of my decision-making, even in things that I know will only benefit me. Just last week our women’s ministry held a ladies-only movie night. I decided to go, and the day of the event those three “f’s” began working on me, and I was ready to back out. But the voice of wisdom came out of my husband and he encouraged me to go. (I have a lot of “battle scars” from growing up a preacher’s kid, and they have followed me into my life as a minister’s wife-but that’s snother story.) That evening became my “best yes” decision of the week! I had a great time, and came away from the evening with a lunch date today with four others who were there.

    • This happens to me too. Only recently have I stopped..breathed…and re-evaluated what my fears and feelings are before I make a decision. And my best yes may be not to make a decision at all but to wait. A lot of bad decision-making and the consequences of those bad decisions have created the fears…which can complicate current decision making and lead to a life of bad decision-making based on fears. I think I’ve gone through years with bad decision making – flying with feelings by the seat of my pants. But I can stop the cycle with knowledge and discernment. This book is right on time.

  162. Deniere Allen says:

    What touched me most was this quote :
    “But we must be careful just simply going with our gut if we haven’t checked it against truth- based knowledge and insight.”
    I often go with my gut thinking that was God. But chapter 4 made me realize that the reason my decisions have been off is because I haven’t checked it. I haven’t been doing what I should be to gain true discernment. I have to start asking myself these questions: (I havent in the past)

    1. Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately?
    2. Have you been applying God’s Word in your life lately?
    3. Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation?

    I can stay up all night perseverating on the smallest decisions. But I haven’t gone to God like I should or I was waiting for some big sign to let me know what way to go. But I didn’t do my work

  163. A great reminder for me today was the importance of hanging around people who exemplify wisdom in their own decisions. I haven’t been surrounding myself with people who make wise decisions. As a result of that, in the last two years of my life I’ve made decisions that haven’t been the best. thank you for the reminder. My action plan is to re-evaluate my circle of friends.

  164. Elsie Isaak says:

    Wow, I love this study and there is so much I feel I need to highlight in the book. One of many paragraphs I want to take with me out of chapter 4 is, “We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters. And how comforting to know that “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best”.

  165. I’ve only really dived into Chapter 4 today, but there were 2 things that really stuck out to me. ” Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight” and “When we’ve done what we need to do to acquire the knowledge and insight of truth, then the discernment of that truth is there. We must learn to trust and use that discernment because the more we do this, the more wisdom we acquire…Discernment…allows us to know what’s best-not just have a gut feeling about what is best.” So many times I doubt a decision that I need to make and try and figure out what “my gut” is telling me, but after reading this chapter I realize that if I am praying and reading God’s word, applying it to my life and sought godly counsel about it then the decision should be easy to discern. It allows me to view my decisions in a different light, in a light that says this decision should be easy to discern and should not be difficult or something I mull over for an extended period of time. I need to seek God in absolutely EVERY decision, and thought throughout my day not just during my bible study.

  166. Jessica Fulcher says:

    God is so faithful; I love how He is so generous with his wisdom and peace. I pray that He will guide us all to make our best yes and to give us the courage to say No to opportunities that are not meant for us! AMEN

  167. Wow… I needed this chapter! It was totally a confirmation and answer to a prayer (several prayers) I had yesterday. My favorite take-aways: “Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface. See something more in the everyday. It’s there.” And “a pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.” Wow! Embracing these daily, mundane decisions as learning opportunities – as gifts from above – gives my day a whole different outlook! Suddenly the dirty diapers, the snotty noses, the pile of dishes, and the never-ending need to sweep away the dog hair are all my best yes decisions. Learning from them, learning how to keep my cool, learning how to serve with the strength God provides – all of this may not help me save a city someday, but I’m confident it’ll help me move mountains and build God’s kingdom! Amen! Thank the good Lord above for His precious daughter, Lysa, who speaks such truth and love and life into my weary heart and points me back to my Father! <3

  168. Sherrie Y (Group 12) says:

    I love how Lysa talked about the layers of wisdom and making good decisions. I have grown a lot in making quicker Yes and No decisions and this chapter just affirmed that it’s okay to do that quickly and decisively and not to let it be so overwhelming!

  169. Cindy Shick says:

    I am absolutely blown away by this study! I have taken Bible studies with Proverbs 31 before. However, I am dealing with making some major decisions in my life. These are decisions that will change the course of my life, and I have been struggling for a while. When I read this quote: ““God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.” I know everything will be fine! If I am in God’s WILL, then I could never go wrong. At first, I thought I am going crazy, I cannot do that! Now I know I can with Jesus Christ leading the way. I am experencing great frineds not understanding. I tell them no really nicely, but they cannot accept that from me. Usually, I say sure I would be glad to, but now I know what God wants me to do, and that is what I want to do. He has a plan for me, and one for them. My plan may not be the same as theirs, but they do not understand. I am praying that they do not get upset with me because I truly love them… Thanks, for an awesome Bible study. I cannot wait to read more!!!

  170. Johanna (Group 36) says:

    Since I am not sure that I have found my courageous yes and my confident no, I decided to wrote today about what spoke to my heart from chapter four. For me, when Lysa talked about embracing the mundane, it really spoke to me. That entire section did. On page 41 she says this “We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.” She goes on to say these “everyday experiences will form patterns of wisdom.” I had never thought of it like that. I had no idea the little things I do in my life would help me to learn to make wise decisions. This was an eye opener for me and will change the way I look at the small things 🙂
    God bless,
    ~Johanna

  171. “We have to put our hearts and out minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters”…. this statement put me in a moment of reflection over the past few months of my life. There have been many changes , mostly good, in my life recently and change is tough. I made several very intentional changes with myself and carved out ALOT of time for myself and family. It created some havoc with those who were on the receiving end of the “NO”. I viewed it as a selfish but necessary move for myself. I’m not viewing it that way now. It most definitely has been my BEST YES and has included God from the beginning. And how funny, at a time I was feeling a little down and questioning if I was on the right path that this particular book and bible study came along. I will now, with confidence, continue on the path I started those few months ago and pray for strength and courage to keep putting myself in those places where wisdom gathers.

  172. As I was reading today, I knew I had to reach out to a friend of mine. I texted her saying I was praying for her and she asked how I knew she needed it. She is also a very busy mom like me and I knew that she needed for me to pray for her. I know she has been struggling lately with time management and a physical injury which has slowed her down considerably so I did what I knew God asked of me, to pray for her.

  173. WOW!! I really enjoyed chapter 4. I t spoke to me in so many ways. Here are a few of my favorite things that were talked about.
    1. “Find the courageous yes. Fight for that confident no.”
    2. “Knowledge is wisdom that comes acquiring truth.”
    3. “Insite is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire.”
    4. “Discernment is the wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and onsite.”
    5. “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.”
    6. “a person who fears God as “one who see the hand of God in everything.”
    Wow! These are things that really make me think. Thank you Lysa for sharing. I am looking forward to see how God is going to change me.

  174. Debra Southern says:

    This paragraph spoke loudest to me,

    “When we’ve done what we need to do to acquire the Knowledge and insight of Truth, then the Discernment of that Truth is there. We must learn to TRUST and use that Discernment, because the more we do this, the more WISDOM we acquire.”

    because my word for this year is Wisdom, and my goal in life is to be a “Wise Woman.”

  175. Good morning girls and Happy Monday! Well — I’m trying to be as happy as I can be, but thank God for the joy and peace that surpasses all understading.
    I was able to find some time in my Sunday to read through Chapter 4. I’m so glad I did.
    The three pointed questions that Lysa asks twice in this chapter really spoke to my heart yesterday. I actually wrote them up on notecards and have a set in my Bible, my journal, and my wallet…things I have with me at any given time.
    I’m learning to live in that courageous yes and that confident no. I’m not there yet, but I am further than I was months ago. One of the many things from Chapter 4 that I know will help me move into that place even more was, along with those three questions, the quote about how wisdom makes decisions today that will still be wise tomorrow. I want to get to that point.

  176. Page 36. Three questions to ask myself before I make that decision. So black and white to me. I love it and will use it a lot from now on.

  177. Solomon could have asked for anything, but he asked for wisdom and knowledge and God blessed him with so much more. James said, “If any of you lacks wisdom you should ask God, who gives generously without finding fault and it will be given to you.”
    I love the promises in God’s word.
    Praying for wisdom in my decisions today ~ confident that they will be good for tomorrow!

  178. Jeanne Yates says:

    I think I was drawn to the part about asking the three questions when it comes to having to make a decision. My son is struggling with a hard decision and needs much Godly insight into the choice. This chapter will definitely help when I am speaking with him regarding this issue. Many things hinge on his decision. He and I are co postmasters, ( I am bonded but he does the work most of the time). He is facing a decision regarding moving away and if he does move, I am left with working the post office and do not wish to have a full time job. I am 65 and my husband is retired so do not wish to be gone all day, every day. My son’s wife is moving to the city for a better job. He and she have been estranged for over three years and he goes home only when he has money in his pocket or if she wants him to do something for her. He loves her so much but I feel she is using him. He can’t shower or eat or even sleep with her when he is over to their house because it costs too much money. Whew! I am seeing that love is indeed blind. He drove her to the city which is 8 hours away and she rented a studio apartment for herself an her 25 yr. old son, not her husband. That should give him a clue as to whether she wants him or not. Now she wants him to drive a uhaul and move her down there. I said all that to get to this: If I don’t work for him, he cannot drive her because I am the only relief person for the job. Now I need to pray a lot and ask those three questions for myself and before Oct. 6th. I believe if I don’t work for him, and he cannot drive her, he will see her true feelings. She will absolutely have a blow up. She claims to be a Christian but won’t allow her husband to live with her, rents a place only large enough for her and her son, got a job 8 hours way because she can better her position, only allows her husband around whenever she can use him for something she wants. That is not Biblical an he can’t see it for what it is. Please pray that I will dig deeply into the scriptures this week and really do what God calls me to do regarding the work for him. His name is Tracy. I don’t want to enable his wife to do what God does not want. She said she prayed about it and God opened the door for her to move. God would not want her to move from her husband would he? This was all done even though Tracy has tried to reconcile with her time and again. He was against it and she did it anyway but he is helping her move. Wow! that is blowing my mind. thanks for listening and I covet all your prayers for my self and Tracy. Thank youj

  179. Debbie Muelheim says:

    I’m enjoying the Best Yes study ! I have struggled with saying yes to many things that made me tired and tried to please but I ended up picking up things God never intended me to. I love all the scripture and the quotes that have become so much encouragement to me. I really want to learn what is God’s best in each decision I make and not be such a people pleaser. I’m growing like crazing and it is hard but I know in the long run it will give my heart such peace. Thanks for encouraging me on this journey!

  180. Jeanne Yates says:

    One more thing. One of my daughters owes me $100 from twice borrowing $50. Plus several hundred from an old phone bill that was my account with her phones on it so she could have a phone and she did not pay the bill. she had the phone lines for several years and did great. Mind you, this is a girl who always paid me back until this. Now whenever she asks for even $10 I say nope, you owe me still. However, I will feed her if she comes over and is hungry. Or her kids. but no more money until i at least get the $100 back. So I really need to heed the advice in chapter 4 and ask those questions to myself, My life is a mess with five kids and their issues. Constantly in prayer for three of them. the other two are pretty much on an even keel. Lord loves them all and they love Him but have wandered away and haven’t quite found their way back home yet.

  181. I’m a mom of 3. My youngest is 1month old and I’m nursing him. My lack of sleep leads to lack of patience in the evenings especially after dinner and getting the other kids to bed. I pray that God can give me Wisdom and patience. Sometimes it’s hard to focus on God when my mind feels like mush, lol! I know this time in my life is precious and I love my kids. I ask for prayers for patience and that I can get my newborn to sleep in his crib:) Lisa

  182. I started out chapter 4 by looking up the verses Lysa utilizes in this chapter and it was such a blessing to sit and dig into those 5 verses first! From Phil 1:9-10 I learned to pray for making wise decisions. From John 14:26, I was reminded that I have the help of the Holy Spirit. From 2 Sam 20:15-22, I learned from the E ample of one wise woman. And from Psalm 111:150 and Proverbs 9:10, I was reminded that wisdom starts with fear of the Lord. All in all, my time in these verses gave me the assurance that God’s Word is the best source to turn to in making decisions!

  183. The 3 questions Lysa asked her friends to answer as they sought wisdom to make some very important decisions really spoke to me today. I am also facing a decision about a new job opportunity and want to discern whether this is God’s “Best Yes” for me. Those 3 questions really spoke to my heart this morning.

  184. Stephanie Butler says:

    I really liked where Lysa said, ” The Best Yes is what we are after. Best Yes answers are much more likely to happen when we are in the habit of seeking wisdom.We have to put our hearts & our minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”

    In my season of life I have few opportunities to choose the best yes. I am a newly wed, and have recently moved to Charlotte, NC. I have few demands on my life right now, I’m still looking for a job. I spend most of the day at the apartment and only encounter a best yes decision when my hubby and I get tired of the same walls & each others company. I know there are more decisions coming as we start getting involved at our church & I finally find that job’ I’ve been looking for. So for now I’m preparing my self for when I need that courageous yes & confident no. I like how Lysa ended the chapter, ” Apply wisdom. knowledge. Insight. Discernment. Put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers. and then with courage, make the decision. open the box. Move forward. And determine not to make it all so complicated.” I’m learning how to apply wisdom, knowledge, insight & discernment. I’m preparing for that time when I need to make that best yes, and with God’s help I will succeed.

  185. One of my weaknesses that cause me to make things complicated is I will blow something out of proportion. I’m really good about making a mole hill from an ant hill (I think that’s how it’s said). I really need to work on this for my life would be much more simpler if I could conquer it. I’m really enjoying this bible study. I have the study guide too and I’m really learning Lot from it as well.

  186. My favorite Bible verse is Proverbs 1:5 “Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning seek guidance.” The steps Lysa listed “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth, Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth, Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.” spoke to my heart the most. I love he deep knowing, drawing us closer, deeper, longer still to be in the know…Be still and know that I am god!
    I am better at the Best Yes, working on a strong Best Yes and better NO. I am taking a sabbatical this Thursday to Saturday to just be with God and listen.

  187. “Find that courageous yes. Fight for that confident no. Know it. State it. Own it. And move on without all the complication.” For me, owning my decisions is hard. I analyze, pray, cope, stress and then when I make the decision, I find myself listening to others opinions about said opinion. “KNOW IT. STATE IT. OWN IT. AND MOVE ON…” was shocking and pivotal. I know the right thing to do…now I need to be confident in that wisdom. This chapter/book has been so pivotal that I will admit to reading way ahead… I can’t put it down and I come back and reread…I’m an underliner so my book has flags and notes and real life instances jotted down next to it. THANK YOU! This is wonderful affirming process.

  188. Shawn Hummel says:

    As I am preparing this morning to start chapter 4 I read through today’s email. I was asked often when I was younger “why do you always have to make everything so complicated?” Over time I owned it as apart of who I was. I struggled to make decisions because I might be wrong or let someone down so I often deferred to indecision. The more I fed the fear the harder it became to even make daily decisions like what to make for dinner. I blamed those around me for not helping or putting “all” the decisions on my shoulders.
    As I read the last quote in the email this morning I realized it was my “unchecked fears, foolishness and feelings” that drove and kept me there.
    So I being chapter 4 with great expectancy. I can already feel God unearthing some long buried roots to set me free.
    thank you
    Shawn

  189. Laurie Runnels says:

    Today my reading was focused out of chapter four. What really popped out at me were the three questions Lysa included regarding discerning God’s will in making decisions.
    1. Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word?
    2. Have you been applying God’s Word in your life?
    3. Have you sought Godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation?
    Admittedly, there have been many times in which I can successfully answer one or two of the questions while seeking guidance for a difficult (or even simple) decision that needed to be made; however, rarely have I ever incorporated all three. This has really opened my eyes as to where my confusion comes from when making decisions and feeling uncomfortable or unsure as to if I made the right one!

  190. Today’s choices become tomorrow’s circumstances. It is like how you can speak out loud and the devil can use your words against you and throw things your way. I think it is the same with the choice we make today leading to what we face tomorrow. Loving the study.

  191. “It’s not about trusting ourselves. It’s about trusting the Holy Spirit to do what Jesus has promised us.” This is so freeing for me when I struggle with whether or not I’m making the right decision. But knowing I’ve been in God’s word and prayed for the decision, I need to trust that the Holy Spirit is leading me the right way!

  192. I am beginning Chapter 4 today. What insight I’ve gained in chapters 1-3 already. The chapter title alone has me ready to delve in: Sometimes I Make It All So Complicated. It seems the very simple tasks become a main event when I step in to start them. I want everything to be perfect, and when it is not I become frustrated and down on myself very quickly. It is my desire to learn not to “sweat the small stuff”, understanding that in the grand scheme of things, most of what I encounter on a daily basis is small stuff! Looking forward to turning more pages on “The Best Yes”.

  193. This is what stuck out to me in chapter 4 today:
    “That daily stuff – those responsibilities that seem more like distractions – those things we want to rush and get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life – those things that are unnoticed places of service? They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.
    Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface. See something more in the everyday. It’s there. We can learn right here, right now in the midst of all that’s daily how to become wise.”

    I am working on the courageous yes and the confident no thing. I did say a confident no this weekend to something that would have been a big commitment and honestly, it was easier than expected and I felt a weight lift after I said no.

  194. Tiffani Morris says:

    I love what Lysa said on page 35, ” God has woven into us the ability is discern what is best.” What a powerful thing to think about–we already have the ABILITY to discern what is best we just have to “layer knowledge and depth of insight into our lives [pg. 35)” like we are told to do in Phillipians. I just find it so comforting that we don’t have to figure our “Best Yes’s” alone. We already have the power! We just need to gain the knowledge and insight.

  195. I read this chapter the first time at 3 a.m. because I wasn’t sleeping. I re-read it in the car on the way to my therapy appointment (recovering from knee surgery and NO, I wasn’t driving and reading at the same time!). A couple of things hit me. One is that I am all about worrying and jumping to conclusions, just like Lysa did with the box that contained the dorm fridge. My mind goes in all different directions and it is hard for me to rein it in. Even though I like to think I am logical and intelligent, my mind and emotions go haywire in some situations. The other thing is that I marked the passage about knowledge, insight, and discernment several places in the chapter. I particularly liked the examples of the mother and the decision about sending her son to pre-school and the one about the girl who was trusting her ‘gut feeling’ about changing jobs. I could apply both of those examples to my real-life situations through the years (even though I was never hanging out at bars, my Bible did sit in the drawer for several years), and the decisions made when I was surrounded by the love of my small group and Christian circle of friends have been more solid than those that were made by gut feeling alone.

  196. Reading through Chapter 4 today I found myself struggling to wrap my mind around the definitions of knowledge, insight, and discernment– three things I felt I had a handle on and have been practicing in my daily walk. As Lysa talked about how we use these to dictate wisdom in our lives and make those “best yes” decisions I started to panic. “What if I can take the first step toward discernment because I lack the knowledge and insight in that particular area of my life?” And then, “what if I make the wrong decision because I confuse knowledge and insight for that gut feeling?”
    Fear creeps in here– but I found the three guiding questions Lysa posed to her friends were just the peace I needed in my ‘what if’ moments. When my confidence is shaken and I fear making the wrong decision because I feel under qualified or lacking wisdom– by inserting these questions in that place of doubt, I feel like maybe I have a shot at a best yes after all; and that makes me happy because I desire so much to draw my heart and life closer to God.

  197. I just loved how Lisa talk about wisdom. I also enjoyed that tomorrow choices will be still tomorrow. The Holy Spirit is their to tell you to trust God. Also,the questions that Lisa asked were very helpful. I would always pray and asked God if I am making the right choices. I love this study so far.

  198. I love the quote in chapter 4 that says: “We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers not scatters”; but even better is the sentence right before which says: “Best Yes answers are much more likely to happen when we are in the habit of seeking wisdom.” What did that say???? A habit? A HABIT? Yep! That’s what it said. How do we accomplish that? A habit doesn’t become a habit until our mind recognizes the constant doing of the same thing over and over and over…well you get the picture??? So if we are truly seeking wisdom; truly seeking God in everything our mind then recognizes this as a HABIT. We will then conform our lives by doing that HABIT!!!! What a great and awesome way to say we formed a habit-a habit seeking after wisdom and God in our everyday overwhelmed lives!!!!!!

  199. “. . . a pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.”
    How sobering to see that the every day choice that we make as women, wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, friends will pave, get ready for, the extraordinary wisdom we will prove to have in the future.
    WOW!
    Since this study I have been taking EVERY thought captive and truly discerning the outcome of every ‘yes’ and ‘no’ I speak.

  200. “That daily stuff-those responsibilities that seem more like distractions…they are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We’ve got to practice wisdom in the every day places of our lives.” LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this…not only for me, but to teach my children as well.

  201. I found that worrying needlessly about anything simply robs me of the present moment or day. Although for quite some time I have surrendered my worries to God. This has been a turning point for me as it opened up new doors and blessings along the way. I do my utmost to focus on the present and talking to God when the worries or fears set in, the quiet time with my Lord, brings clarity and peace…even if I only spend a few moments of the day with Him….it feels like a gold.

  202. Chapter 4 could easily have been written with me in mind. I seem to always have a mysterious box in my foyer that I build imaginary horror stories around. I allow the fear of what may happen cloud my ability to make anything happen. I realize now that it is not me that I don’t trust but the wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit. I can answer all 3 questions from Lysa with yes but still allow fear to keep me from trusting what I know. How can I ask for wisdom if I am unwilling to trust it? I need to trust in the Holy Spirit and stop waiting for my neon sign.

  203. Loved the whole chapter! 1. Making choices today that affect tomorrow hit home. In the RUSH of life I often never give the choice a second thought until …. It rears its ult head and I realize I did not take the time to consider the consequences!

    2. Look for the good in the mundane! My whole life I just kept thinking that there were bigger plans for me and I have been missing the most wonderful gifts of all! My children and the everyday things in life. I realize that being a mother, a good understanding, compassionate mother, filled with love and knowledge to share with them about our God is my BIG!!! Thank you God for the gift of my wonderfully made beautiful children. Help me to be the mother you planned for me to be! I am truly blessed❤️❤️❤️

  204. “We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”
    Never really put decisions are really made by how my attitude is. When I keep my eyes and ears and heart consistently on HIM suddenly things become more manageable and less stressful. Decision making is much eaiser when the attitude is in check!

  205. I have to stop making decisions so complicated. I fear what I don’t understand so I need to gain wisdom by reading God’s word and seeking godly counsel from wise people, then I can discern what is the best yes. God has given me that ability. Thank you, ladies, for the awesome bible study!

  206. The daily…mundane…small…(many times)annoying…STUFF really spoke to me and grabbed my attention! “Go BIG or Go home” is normally my motto! In the past year or so, I’ve been questioning the Lord about this, this little yet powerful message that has been whispering in my ear! I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve ignored it BUT TODAY, I GET IT!!
    I can tell you, when God wants to teach you something, he doesn’t give up until the light goes on!
    Thanks Lord! Thanks proverbs online Bible study!

  207. One of the biggest takeaways from this chapter (and the book) is “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.” But I am finding that with most things it takes practice to get this right, and like Lysa says wisdom is something we need to practice. I can’t expect to make wise choices in the face of big decisions if I haven’t made wise choices in the little choices I make every day because choosing wisdom is a habit.

    One other thing that was big for me in this chapter is Lysa’s definition of the fear of God. I have always seen the fear of God as a reverential type of fear. But her definition of to sees the hand of God in everything helps me keep my heart turned to Him as I look for His hand in everything around me : )

  208. What spoke to me about today’s lesson were the three steps to take before making a decision. Often I get stuck in that fear of making a wrong decision, which keeps me from moving forward, but the the steps named in this chapter help show me that with the right counsel, a sound choice can be made. I also was struck by the fact that discernment here isn’t just a gut decision, but something we check against scripture and wise counsel.

  209. One of my favorite sentences is…”And then you look up from the inspiration of these pages and see dog poop.” For me it is the messes my children make, the animals my cats bring in. As I read this chapter I have been sitting on my patio in southern tier NY watching all of the beautiful leaves float through the air and listening to the birds chirping. It was such a great feeling of calm and great inspiration as I saw God all around. Now as I type my children are running around, hollering at each other and asking for everything in the kitchen. They have made a mess with the food I have given them, so I need to go clean both them and the floor. Then I will return to the dishes and laundry. I have such a hard time feeling like a God girl that really matters as I go through my day feeling like a failure most of the time. But I am trying to remind myself that I am enough and that God has put me where I am on purpose, he does not make mistakes. I need to see more in the everyday.

  210. I am learning to make small decisions that will still be good for me on tomorrow. The more I use wisdom to make those decisions, the better I will be at being able to use discernment when I have to make a major decision. Each day since this Bible Study has begun, I try to see God in all situations that I am faced with. Before I would look at things in a negative manner but that is starting to turn around. I ask the question, “God, what is it that I am suppose to get from this situation.” Those negative situations don’t necessarily appear bad to me anymore. I am focusing on God and if it is his will as I go about my daily life.

  211. Tiffiny Palm says:

    As I spend time with God and in His word I will have that wisdom, discernment, knowledge and insight when making decisions big or small. I can see looking back on some decisions where I didn’t have that because I hadn’t lined it up with God’s truth, prayed about it or sought Godly counsel. I rushed because I allowed my “feelings” to take over and I ended up not making the best decision and I couldn’t see God’s truth in it cause I wasn’t seeking Him. Reading this chapter is helping me to understand better what true wisdom and discernment means…I want wisdom to become my lifestyle!

  212. Katie Hansen says:

    I found myself realizing that while I have been in the word and in prayer regarding an upcoming decision I was still struggling to find my confident yes or no and not feeling sure of the right answer. I realize I need to seek the wisdom of others that are doing the same and I need to do this today so that my fear of this one decision does not continue to affect my life and stress level any longer.
    I also took a great joy in being reminded of the importance of the mundane and daily tasks. Sometimes I let my self feel guilty not serving more because I have all these little life things to manage for my family, but I appreciate the validation of the importance that is being learned in these as well.

  213. Sometimes even what I perceive as my “best yeses” feel clouded and I wonder am “I hearing God or am I hearing myself”? What I have learned is that I need to spend more time in His word before making complicated decisions. I’m afraid I don’t do that enough, instead turning to my own (or someones) desires.

  214. A heart-stopping truth: The daily stuff–that seem like distractions–unnoticed places of service– This is where we gain experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. DON’T DESPISE THE MUNDANE. EMBRACE IT UNWRAP IT LIKE A GIFT. Look deeper that the surface. We can learn in the midst of all that’s daily how to become wise. As we wisely gain knowledge through everyday stuff, grasp insights through everyday stuff, and grapple with the development of our discernment through everyday stuff to make better decisions.
    And the questions she posed for us were so helpful: Have been reading the Word? Have you been applying Gods Word? Have you sought Godly counsel? When you curl together knowledge, insight, and discernment in everyday life you form patterns of wisdom. Nuggets of gold here.

  215. Gail Heppner says:

    “And then you look up from the inspiration of these pages and see dog poop.”! I love this part of chapter 4! I am learning so much about using my knowledge, insight, and discernment that I want God’s soul dream for me to leap from my heart into the reality of the community and impact the young women I’m already praying for right now! But there’s dog poop… And dishes, and life. It’s wonderful to be reminded that these daily distractions are more than obligations and roadblocks to our God dreams, but, “are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom.” So I will indeed try to “never despise the mundane… but embrace it… and unwrap it like a gift.” Thank you for a very affirming truth!

  216. I really loved where Lysa explains how a person who fears God sees God’s hand in everything. This really touched me and was a powerful reminder that i always need to pray for God to open my eyes to see Him work. Often times the rush puts me on Auto Pilot and i’m not longer a woman who fears God but a woman who just wants to get through the day. I need a daily reminder that nothing is coincidence, that every place i am and every job i’m given to do is a gift from God, i want to see His hand, His purpose, His gift to me. Open our eyes, Lord, so that we may see you.

  217. Rachel Ramey says:

    What really stuck out for me in chapter 4 was fighting for the CONFIDENT no. Although there are times I say no (not often enough), I second guess my decision and feel guilty. I am looking forward to being confident when saying no because I used knowledge, insight, and discernment to reach my decision!

  218. In today’s chapter,I learned to slowdown and really think about these words mean:
    Insight,Knowledge and Discernment.

    I also learned from reading the releated verses in the Bible(1:9-10)that our love grows as our knowledge grows and our love grows as we think more deeply about what God is trying to say to our hearts

    A pattern of wise choises in The ordinary paves the road a demonstration of wisdom in The extraordinary…My wisdom based discernment will help me process and make the decision.

    God Bless

  219. Knowledge, Insight and Discernment -I need to acquire the truth, live the truth and let the Holy Spirit have his way with me everyday!

    The daily stuff – I need to practice wisdom in the every day places of my life.

    Love, love, love this book!!

  220. Jan Cristman says:

    I am learning so much from this Bible study. I am in a season of my life where I am really learning to walk with God. I haven’t done terrible things in my life, but some decisions were not based on knowledge, insight and discernment. My wakening nudge was when my Dad was dying last year and then went to be with God. I know that if it wasn’t for my faith I would have not gotten through that. It was at that point that I realized my faith hasn’t been what I want it to be and I have been growing ever since. This Bible study is just what I needed. Chapter 4 spoke so clearly to me. My favorite partwas: ” Find that courageous yes. Fight for that confident no.”

  221. Hi Gang,

    This bible study is my best YES!!!!
    Thank you for all that you do.

  222. I’m at a place in my life where I have recently given up my job as a teacher to facilitate a move. So rather than scale back the business of life I’m seeking wisdom to discern “the big rocks” or the “best yeses” before I’m willing to add whatever crosses my path as a wife, mom or Christian woman. This book study has been a blessing to anchor my sole, and remind me daily to cherish the family I have, the role I play within it as a wife and mother. I look forward to the brief videos and lessons each day that highlight Godly wisdom and insight beyond the chapters in Lysa’s book.

  223. Sorry for the length of this….I have a lot to share.
    I am loving this book!!! So much of this is helping me get through everything I have been dealing with lately! This book has truly been a blessing to me, just in the first week.
    Anyways, there are several things that stood out to me from Chapter 4:

    — We sometimes overthink things we already know the answer to.
    — Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth.
    — Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire.
    — Discernment (and this one, I had heard the word before, but know what it meant) is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of the knowledge and insight.
    — Intuition and Discernment are two very different things.
    — Never despise the mundane. See something more in the everyday.
    — People fear what they don’t understand
    — People let foolishness take them places they don’t want to go.
    — Feelings, left unchecked, will sometimes flat out LIE TO YOU!!
    — Flip the fear, foolishness, and feelings into a much healthier fear that leads to wisdom.

    I still haven’t found my courageous yes or confident no…but I’m working on it. Something I took away from the chapter that helps my situation specifically was in the story of the ‘wise woman’. Joab listened. He took the time to hear out the ‘wise woman’ instead of ignoring her. I feel like God is sometimes whispering to us “Listen, Listen, I’m trying to tell you something.” but we don’t. We ignore Him. A verse came to mind that I also feel applies here: Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding.”

    When we lean on our own understanding…we are doing what Lysa did with the box. When we trust in the Lord, listen, and use discernment…we can make wise decisions.
    God Bless,
    ~merideth

  224. These are all wonderful quotes! I can’t pick a favorite. I am realizing how God is tuning my heart to him, and being wiser. I’ve made my share of foolish choices. Thanks for teaching me 🙂
    I just also want to say I was incredibly blessed with week 1. I really dug into the Best Yes!
    I know one other lady that is doing this study, and she and I had a great discussion!
    I wish I knew more of you!

    • Emily,
      Isn’t it amazing how God does that? Tuning your heart to Him, that is? I’m noticing that as well. This is a great book for digging deep. Since this is my first Bible study, I’m noticing just how much I really need it!

      God Bless,
      ~merideth

  225. Kimberly C. says:

    “When we’ve done what we need to do to acquire the knowledge and insight of truth (reading and praying God’s Word, applying God’s Word, and seeking Godly counsel from wise people) then the discernment of that truth is there.” Use discernment not intuition! I’ve always said that I trusted my gut,but my gut has failed me where my God has not. Seeking His wisdom through amore intimate knowledge of Him and His truths.

  226. Alicia Lovelace says:

    What a great chapter! I love the way that Lysa broke down the differences between knowledge, insight, and discernment. I don’t think I ever really looked at them in those particular ways until now. What really stuck with me was the part where she is talking about when we do what we need to do to acquire the knowledge and insight of truth, then discernment of that truth is there. That really helps and put it into perspective that I need to do my part and acquire knowledge and insight when it comes to truth and then the Holy Spirit will be there giving me reminders of that knowledge and insight.

  227. It was really neat to hear the same messages of seeing God in everything – even the small stuff – echoed in my church Bible study class this Sunday. Great confirmation of wisdom gathering! I’ve said a confident no to an extra evening commitment that was pushing me over my limit into overcommitment and anxiety. While I really loved the thing I said no to, I have peace and joy knowing that my Best Yes is having more time to spend with my husband and letting God work within the margin. That margin is worth a confident no!

  228. What really spoke to my heart today was learning how to “practice” wisdom in the everyday places of our lives. Treasuring the the small, ordinary things in our lives. I want to be that person who takes the time to notice the little things each and every day to the glorify my Lord and Savior!

  229. I’ve been in a season of aloneness for about a year and a half. During this season I have been seeking God intentionally. Desperately seeking his face and presence. I have since developed a keen spirit of discernment. I thank God daily for allowing His spirit to dwell in me. I love how Lysa defines and describes knowledge, insight, and discernment. My past choices were made through intuition causing me an abundance of pain. I now make much wiser choices and decisions according to the Holy Spirit. I now discern and look for the hand of God in ALL choices and decisions that has to be made. Thank You Lysa :)!

  230. Looking so forward to diving into chapters 4-6. I’ve already been so encouraged. I do tend to complicate things by allowing fear and doubt to creep in. Here I go!!!!

  231. Sandra Woodard says:

    What a great chapter. My desire is to be that wise woman thati have the knowledge and insite to have wise discernment.
    To sees the hand of god in everything!

  232. I really love Lysa and team. They write what is in my head and heart. I really took away how the deicisions we may today set the direction for our lives tomorrow and boy can I see that truth as I look back over many bad decisions. I mourn for those bad decisions, but I am moving ahead and doing something about it. I really love the three questions that Lysa asked the mother who was thinking of putting her youngster in preschool. I want to use those questions all the time! This gives me hope and strength that I am on the right path. Love y’all!

  233. Kristen Dalton says:

    I love the ending of chapter 4 first the discussion on “fear of God” the need to see the awe in the everyday. Then the last paragraph the call to move forward with courage make the decision. Not to complicate things so much, something I do too often.

  234. Looking for God in it all:) Put our ♡ and our minds in places where wisdom gathers and then with courage, make that decision.
    I always think I have to be busy doing something and if I relax a bit I feel guilty. .This study is helping me to relax and re focus on what is important and what isnt:) ♡ ♥ this study:) just what I needed

  235. Wisdom! How much I’m in need of your wisdom father God. Thank you for giving the gift of proverbs 31 ministry to us. I will be forever thankful

  236. I love that a person who fears God as “one who sees the hand of God in everything.” It puts everything in perspective because God has a plan for each and everyone of us. When we try to change that we are messing with the hand of God. Who am I to do that???? God will certainly make my yes and no answers certain when I have come to him with an open heart ready to hear what he has to say even if it’s not what I want.

  237. Looking forward to week two!!!

  238. I loved how Lysa pointed out from Phil 1:9-10 that “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best”- that “deep knowing” that comes from the Holy Spirit.
    We are in the beginning stages of making a pretty big decision for our family and these truths have given me such confidence! And how practical are those 3 questions she asked?!! If we are reading and praying thru God’s word, applying God’s word and seeking out godly counsel & insight- then we can be confident that the “deep knowing” we are feeling is the real deal bc then we know we aren’t trusting ourselves to make this decision, but the Holy Spirit in us!

  239. What touched my heart in these chapters were the reminder to turn it all over to God. So many time things happen and we forget who really is in charge !!!

  240. Michelle P. says:

    Loving this study so much! Thanks Lisa and Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study!

  241. Olayemi Yemisi says:

    Yes Shelly, a wise decision made today can make our tomorrow tremendous. A wise woman should learn from the word of God.

  242. First of all, thank you for this Bible study. Thank you to Lysa TerKeurst for sharing her struggles; for a long time I felt like I was the only one struggling with the issues that I have, but now I know that I am not alone. There is hope and I am finally seeing imperfect progress. Praise God! It helped me reading that “… a pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.” I tend to get very weary of the ordinary and long for bigger things, and this helped me to see that God has me right where He wants me for now, and that He just wants me to be content and praise Him for what I have, to seek Him, look for Him in everything, and practice making wise choices with His guidance in small every day matters, because in all honesty , I’m not ready for to be making extraordinary choices yet. Please pray for me as I go along this journey. I have struggles and fears that I’ve been dealing with for well over a decade , and praying for a healing. I know that God hears me, and I wondered for a long time why He doesn’t just heal me of my struggle, just like that , because I know that He can. I now see that He wants me to do this a different way, His way, and that His healing will come but that it has to begin with a renewing of my mind and a surrender of my stubborn will and way of what I think is best. Thank you.

  243. I really like Lysa’s description on page 36 of knowledge, insight, and discernment. “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.” Lysa’s encouragement to not look down on the little , less glamorous assignments but to see them as practice for making good decisions is spot on! I have found in my own life that the more I trust God, the easier it is to trust Him!

  244. God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.

    I really appreciate this quote and the understanding that as long as we have the fear of God, which is the beginning of wisdom, and are seeking knowledge and practicing insight, then the Holy Spirit will help us to discern the truth. We don’t need that neon sign from God to tell us which way to go, just the still small voice.

  245. It is amazing to think how any decision no matter how big or small it may be, can influence someone else and you may not even know what influence you had on them.

  246. Racquel Peterson says:

    Chapter 4 is great! I really like the following quotes and they truly spoke to me because it is easy to forget that it takes the baby steps to get to the bigger steps:
    “That daily stuff – those responsibilities that seem more like distractions – those things we want to rush and just get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life – those things that are unnoticed places of service? They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.”

    I truly believe that we must let the Holy Spirit guide EVERY decision we make. I also believe that to get to the bigger stuff we need to go through the smaller stuff. (Verse my kids taught me yesterday: Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much. Luke 16:10) So, I will embrace the small things the world might find inconsequential. God will use me and the small stuff for His good — I just need to follow!

    Oh, I also loved the following definitions from chapter 4:
    “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.”

  247. The Holy Spirit reminds us of the knowledge and insight we’ve acquired to make good decisions in everyday-life.

  248. Tete Melendez says:

    Discernment ” allows us to know what’s best-not just have a gut feeling about what’s best”. I am having a bit of problem with this part because I have to make a decision to go back to school or not. I am having trouble making that decision because most of my coworkers are back in school to better themselves and to get away from bedside nursing. Every time I think about school I am full of fear and think I’m not good enough to do this. I am struggling finding t wisdom and insight into making my decision. If I go back to school I know that I will b giving up a lot of things and one of them I really can’t. My walking w God I fear I won’t have that much free time to sit down and participate in bible studies or go to to church because of all t paperwork I need to do. I hope that by the end of this study I am able to make the right choice for me. To have peace with whatever God tells me to do. I long to have the knowledge, insight, and discernment in my every day life.

  249. I love this from page 39: “Wisdom make decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.” Instead of making rash decisions I should not feel bad for taking some time to really think things through and pray!

  250. Tonya Ellison says:

    Fear. Foolishness. Feelings left unchecked. These three f’s touched my heart in this chapter. I’ve experienced all three and know first hand that the negatively impact my ability to make decisions. I would say that the biggest challenge is fear, fear of what others think, fear of making the wrong choice, just fear in general.

    I love the reminder that our choices today will carry over to our tomorrow.

  251. Stephanie Richards says:

    I’m excited and challenged to make gret decisions that will still be great decisions on years to come. My heart feels at peace knowing that is my prayer and God will enable me to make wise choices for my future!

  252. I love the reminder that we need to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives….I tend to only think of wisdom for the BIG things!

  253. I love the quote on page 41, ” Never despise the mundane…See something more in the everyday.” I know my job can feel…like I’m not making an impact. I sometimes wonder why I am where I am…what’s so big and great about being a scheduler for a surgeon? But then these moments happen where a co-worker opens up about her home life and the problems with a kid. Or how she is struggling with the fear of the unknown. These converstations happen, a nudge comes to my heart and next thing I know this boring, just another day at the office, turns into me sharing my faith and her opening a little bit more.
    I know these last few months I haven’t wanted to get out there, get involved at church beyound my Sunday routine, going out with friends; and for a season I think that’s fine…I need to regroup and look at where I thought I was headed and where I’m heading now…but now it’s making those Best Yes decisions and getting back into what God wants for me.

  254. “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”

    Too often these 3 F’s get me caught up in complications. I’m looking forward to learning how to make wisdom based decisions!

  255. Melinda Seidler says:

    I am really enjoying this online bible study. This is the first one that I have done and I really like the fact that I can do this when I am available…..I don’t miss anything. THANK YOU SO MUCH!

  256. Peg J. Ribble says:

    My take away from Ch. 4 is that we have to keep striving to be the wise woman, constantly digging into God’s word for wisdom. We have to do things to be trusted & known as the wise woman. Keep growing in Christ!! Keep praying!!

  257. I totally get why Lysa is so excited about meeting “the wise women” from 2 Samuel!! How amazing would it be to have the capability, as a working wife and mother, to “untangle reactions and use wisdom vs. wild rationality! What a great women to look up to and learn from! Reading the verse from Phillipians 1 9-10…
    “God has woven in us the ability to discern what is best” really spoke to me. We have been given the ability to be “the wise women”. This verse is such a wonderful reminder of that!
    My goal, and favorite part of this chapter would be…
    *GETTING INTO THE HABIT OF SEEKING GOD’S WISDOM.
    Application steps I am so grateful for from this chapter…
    *LOOK FOR GOD IN EVERYTHING
    *APPLY WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE, INSIGHT, and DISCERNMENT
    *PUT MY HEART and MIND IN PLACES WHERE WISDOM GATHERS, NOT SCATTERS

  258. Cathy Pangburn says:

    As a fifty something woman, dealing with change of life issues, including losing my father to Alzheimer’s last year and watching my mother struggle with dementia, I find myself in a new season. Every season of life has its challenges – there’s no exception to that rule as far as I can see.
    I am known as a wise woman in my church but that was mostly because I was the only woman above 40 years old for quite some years – LOL. You have to have lived some to be very wise. I have probably always been a overcommitted, frenzied Christian trying to do God’s will. I am learning that praying, listening, and waiting is necessary to learning his will for MY life, using my gifts and abilities he has given me. Enjoying this book so much – you just don’t know!

  259. What an awesome study!! I am learning so much! one part that has stuck out to me in Chapter 4 is a person who fears God is a person who sees the hand of God in everything!! fear in this sense doesn’t mean terror it mean being in awe of God. How awesome is that?!!

  260. Tracy Wooldridge says:

    I deal with a lot of anxiety and its hard to stay in the moment. I have found myself saying, “Ok, what is my best yes for this moment?” as to help stay in the moment and not stress about what I could have done differently at work today, or how I will face tomorrow and all the possible stresses that might come my way. Its a way to remember I CAN choose for myself what this moment holds. The last week has been less anxious as the Holy Spirit helps remind me of this truth. Hoping for real freedom!! and the ability to choose joy more and more.

  261. I’m a stay at home mom and fall very easily into surviving the mundane Lysa talks about in the book. I liked “we’ve got to practice wisdom in everyday places” I also like the her examples of where wisdoms gathers and scatters. For various reasons I’ve been pulling away from my local church and it jumped out at me when she pointed that out that that situation is where wisdom scatters. Yikes! Also wrote down the 3 questions she used to help make wise decisions that are still good tomorrow.

  262. I am definitely an overly YES person…and yes I have been very overwealmed because of it. I’m looking forward to learning how to distinguish the best yes and the no situations .

  263. I truly needed to be reminded that the ‘routine’ of daily 24/7 caregiving is how I serve. It truly made me feel humble and prayerful today.

  264. I fell for the part “Wisdom scatters when you become disconnected from your church family. I moved and didn’t continue with church going 3rd and all. My excuse. The day I caught myself up in the gossip was the day I realize my wisdom was out the window with all the other. I’m putting my heart back to looking for God in everything and wisdom is in the works. THIS BOOK AND STUDY I’M LOVING IT. THANK-YOU
    Linda hang in there and I will pray for you and your family.

  265. Yvette Taylor says:

    What really stood out for me:
    People let foolishness take them places they don’t want to go. And feelings left unchecked will sometimes lie to you.
    We have to put our heart and our minds in places where wisdom gathers not scatters!! LOVE this!!!
    I want that effective combo of knowledge, insight and discernment to be a wise decision maker. Its comforting to know through this study that I can and I’m learning. Such a blessing!

  266. Nancy Kleinheksel says:

    Slow to speak and do my own thing…always pray for knowledge, insight, and discernment from God Himself.

  267. I can see change already in my life from this OBS. Only through the work of the Holy Spirit could change come to almost 60 years of people pleasing. I had a friend call and want to use our vehicle. Now this was no emergency, mind you, and she wanted to move furniture that probably will be moved right back when she changes her mind. Anyway, my usual response is to try to help in any way possible, but my gut feeling told me “No”. So I told her why I couldn’t ask my husband to help with this during his most busy time of the year in his business. I see the hand of God in this, not only in my own life but in the life of my friend who is so compulsive. I am particularly aware of listening to God right now and I pray that this continues as I learn to discern what is best from God’s perspective. I want to be a woman of God!

  268. I was struck by the comment that the wise woman in Abel “certainly had circumstances. And tangled in those encounters, she learned how to untangle her reactions. . . And keep her cool in the midst of a battle.” As a result she was effective. It made me think of the many times I lose my cool with my husband. When I let my fears, foolishness and feelings dictate my actions, I am very effective at creating more problems and chaos! I like the suggestion of pausing and looking for the hand of the lord in the situation before responding.

  269. I Am Really Enjoying This Bible Study. I Am A People Pleaser But I Am Getting Better At Saying No. I Think The Quote That Stands Out To Me From Ch 4 Is “Wisdom Makes Decisions Today That Will Still Be Good Tomorrow.” I Often Feel Like The Everyday Decisions Aren’t That Important, Until Something Gets Overlooked And You’Re ScramblinG. crolling.

  270. I just got done reading chapter 4 & I see myself doing that by which I mean making a mountain out of a mole hill! By that I mean worrying over things raft turn out to be nothing! However lately since I started reading the proverb31 messages writing in my prayer journal a calm has come over me where I don’t panic or get as rattled as I did before! I have become a true believer in prayer & trusting God! I also like the reference if what fear of God means & that is to be in awe of him & not afraid!

  271. I found many things helpful in chapter 4. One of the most helpful was the statement about “It’s not about trusting ourselves. Rather, it’s about trusting the Holy Spirit to do what Jesus promised us:”
    I also found the differentiation of discernment and intuition to be very helpful. We are taught to “go with our gut” in our decision making in life, but it is helpful to know that even when I may see something as truth, I still need to compare it to God’s standard of truth and make sure mine matches His.

  272. I just love that Lysa really brings home that I already possess the ability to make wise decision. The Holy Spirit is already guiding me. I only have to listen. I am often so paralyzed by the idea of making the wrong decision that I make no decision at all! Yikes! That’s even worse!

  273. It is comforting to know I am not the only one who let’s her imagination run when I should relax and use wisdom. It is a good reminder to place ourselves where wisdom gathers and not scatters.

  274. “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”

    Oh my goodness have my feelings and fears made things more complicated! I am hoping to get some wisdom as I continue the study!

  275. Uncomplicating my life and learning to “listen” more for God’s advice is what really stuck with me in this chapter! This is my first bible study ever and I am new to all this but this book has really made me slow down and enjoy life a little more! I have definitely not found my best yes or no yet!! I am still working on it and taking it one day at a time. I know it takes time to adjust your life!

  276. I love what she says about decisions since I feel like right now that is something I am doing even more as a substitute teacher. I have to decide and sometimes quickly if I should take a job or not. It can be so hard for me to just decide yes or no and sometimes I take way more time then I should and then the job is gone. I also have to factor in that I have to check with my mom to see if she can take my daughter to school and watch my son , I have had to turn down some great jobs because my mom was busy or out of town. I have been praying and seeking him in these decisions and I love the when she said” God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best”. I know it will get easier and that the right jobs will come if I just pray and listen for his answer.

  277. Carissa D. Huffman says:

    Knowledge, wisdom and discernment are all linked…profound. Embracing the mundane, seein God in everything. These are definitely things I struggle with. Lord, help me to go where knowledge and wisdom gather, and not scatter. I need to gather and live the truth in the little things before I can hope to discern what to do in the epic…it seems I have heard this message before…Lord, help my unbelief!

    Blessings!

    Carissa in eastern Iowa

  278. Where wisdom gathers not scatters and I like knowledge is wisdom that comes from aquireing truth. I am going to write these out and ponder them.

  279. “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!”

    I love this! I’ve said this so many times to myself since I’ve read this in the book.

  280. sarah snyder says:

    Through the wisdom of this book I am learning to let go of the pressure of “doing” all the time and enjoy “being”; especially in God’s presence.

  281. Laura Stanberry says:

    “But then there are other decisions we just simply need to say yes or no to and move on. Find the the courageous yes. Fight for that confident no. Know it. State it. Own it. And move on without all the complication” Boy do I complicate things. I think I may may just have to post this on my desk ” Know it. State it. Own it. MOVE ON! Coming from a long line of worriers I have had to fight that fear. Some decisions well really most decisions aren’t really that complicated. Time to let my Yes mean Yes and my No mean No.

  282. Terri Satterwhite says:

    Ladies – it seems like the reading is going very fast. I realize that you need to cover a lot of ground – but it might helpful to let us know what chapters are coming for each week. Some are very long and need time to read and absorb. I am reading ahead and loving the book – just my 2 cents worth.

  283. I could completely relate to Lysa’s example about the fear of what could be lurking in the box in her foyer. Later, it really hits home when she talks about not watching, reading, etc. things that cause me to have those irrational fears and spend too much time and emotional energy trying to figure them out and make decisions. Also, I can relate to knowing what I should do and still hesitating or second guessing my knowing. Above all I learned that I don’t want to be a woman of emotional chaos. I want to be a woman of wisdom that people seek counsel from. I CAN be a woman of wisdom! I CAN make healthy decisions to set boundaries, and use the two most powerful words yes and no! I CAN get my fears, foolishness, and feelings in control when I choose to fear the Lord!

  284. Jenny Shinsky says:

    I bought The Best Yes several weeks ago and immediately read it. I am reading again for this study and am discovering even more than I had the first time. Chapter 4 is absolutely packed with useful information. I’ve seen the words “knowledge” “discernment” and “insight” in bible studies before but never have I connected them to myself. This chapter was for me. I always second guess my decisions. But now I know I don’t have to because “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.”

  285. These are all good quotes:
    “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.”
    “We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”
    “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!”
    “. . . a pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.”
    “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”
    I think the two things that spoke to me the most were the story of Lucy and Linus and the stor from 2 Samuel about the wise woman. In the Lucy and Linus story I loved how it showed that Lucy looked at something as ordinary as the fingers on her hand, but in her wisdom she knew that her hand was more powerful if she curled those 5 fingers around to make a single unit. How often do we overlook the everyday, ordinary things in our lives? I know in my life recently something as ordinary making a phone call or answering a phone call as the case last week was, that I have received such a powerful blessing.
    The woman in 2 Samuel spoke to me because how many of us would be calm enough to get the results she ws able to get when our village is being attacked? That actually reminds me of a personal story. I had moved miles from my family and started a new job in the restaurant chain I had been working in for a few years. Having worked at a restaurant off the interstate that had been robbed, I was trained to remain calm and give them whatever they ask for. Another tip I had been taught by more seasoned managers was to check the restrooms before you lock the restaurant doors or turn the outside lights off at night. This particular night, I had been at the new restaurant, in a new state for 6 weeks. I had already worked the morning shift and went home for the day, when I was called back in because the closing manager was sick. So, since I lived just a few blocks from the restaurant I went back in around 7p to work the closing shift. At closing time, as I had been trained, I left my lights on and went to check the restrooms just like I had every night I had ever closed the restaurant, but this night would be forever remembered because when I checked the mens room 2 gentleman followed me out of the restroom. They proceeded to follow me around the counter of the restaurant and pull out their guns. One took my 4 employs and made them lie down on the floor of the kitchen while the other took me to the office and held a gun to my head while I opened the safe. Thankfully, there was a friend of one of the employees eating in the dining room and when he saw the men go behind the counter with guns, he snuck out the side door and ran across the street to another restaurnt and had them call 911. It felt like forever, but in reality it was only 10 minutes before a customer (seeing the lights still on) came inside to order food and a car pulled up to the drive thru window. The man that had me at the safe, pushed me inside the safe and ran out the back door, the other man was still in the kitchen (which I did not know) when I ran around the corner from the office looking for the phone and was met with a gun to my head for a second time that night. I was ordered to serve my customer like nothing was going on, so terrified out of my mind, I calmly walked to the counter and asked the customer how I could serve him. Before he could order the parking lot was filled with police cars. My poor customer decided not to order and leave only to be detained by the police outside thinking he was one of the robbers. I was able to quickly assure them that he was not involved and that he was just a customer as another office brought the 2nd gunman from the back of the building saying he caught him running out the backdoor.
    It was hours later (6:30a.m.) when I was finally home and had just fallen asleep that my older sister (the only family I had nearby and was staying with at the time) woke me up because a police detective was on the phone for me. Of course, since I had only been home a short time and had not awakened her to tell her what had happened, I had to answer a lot of questions from her when I got off the phone.
    I am happy to report that they were able to not only catch both men, but also the get away car driver and after a long 2 years justice was served.
    Days later my manager and some corporate people met with me and told me that because I had remained calm and reacted as I had been trained, I probably saved not just my life, but my 4 employs lives too. Nothing I did that day seemed extraordinary for me, but by following the procedures I was trained to do, it was extraordinary to others. Just like that kid going across the street to call for help might seem ordinary for him, but to me it means the world.

  286. Several things spoke to me in this chapter. First was when Lysa talked about Knowledge, Insight, and Discernment and what each means and how the three work together. Along with that the verse from Jon 14:26 really spoke to me
    “But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit whom the Father will send in my name will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.”

    Finally when Lysa stated the wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow and we have to practice wisdom in all places in our lives.

    I want to keep this all in mind when I can not decide if I am making The Best Yes!

  287. Sarah McWhorter says:

    I just had an ‘AHA’ moment. I was discouraged because I didn’t think this Bible study related to me. My kids are grown, I am close to retirement and although I remember the busy days juggling work, sports, school, church etc. I don’t have the ‘hectic’ life I once had. Having said that, I still need to to know how to discern My Best Yes. If I don’t, when I retire I will say yes to every opportunity to serve Christ–making up for all the times I had to work, etc instead of saying Yes to the Best opportunities!!!

  288. I would like to be more like the woman in the story of Joab. Lysa explained how she had established a pattern of wisdom in ordinary choices in her life. So when the extrordinary came her way, she was able to save her city by using wisdom and discernment.

  289. I’ve been touched the most by the statement ‘Never despise the mundane. Embrace it.’ . I believe there are days that I rugs through that I forget to take in the smaller parts of my day and learn from it. I want to take in everything that my Lord and Savior has to offer me, big and small. I want to choose to relish in His Almighty presence. I have a desire to become courageous by learning to trust the Holy Spirit and having discernment.

  290. Cheryl turman says:

    Whether we are facing everyday opportunities or epic obstacles, might we simply do just that. Look for God in it all. I dont have to make it so complicated , which I do alot.

  291. Debbi Bailey says:

    No man wants to go toward and listen to a woman with chaotic emotions and actions.

    I think we can change that to no ONE, or no PERSON. I really wish I could remember this a little more. I tend to be crazy before I calm down. I need to think things through. Most importantly I think I need to think through my commitments, my Best Yeses…. That will make me a quiet, sought out person, instead of a wild, avoided woman!.

  292. Tonya Burgess says:

    Wow! I’m not finished with the chapter yet, but this quote hit me square between the eyes-“We have a decision to make and we have that deep-down knowing. We know what to do. We know what the answer is. We do. But we don’t go with that knowing. We over process the what-ifs and the but-thens and the maybes until we find ourselves standing around the corner listening to see if a cardboard box containing a refrigerator might sneeze.”, pg 34-35. That is so me!!! I fully admit that I do this with many decisions in my life, things I can control and things I can’t- such as my husband passing away 6 1/2 years ago. I need to trust God and know that He is in control and like Lysa says, “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.”

  293. “Don’t despise the daily stuff” Love this as right now I’m a stay at home mom and my life can definitely feel mundane at times. And I want to be known as a wise woman. I often say that I don’t have the common sense that my husband has but if I make wise decisions in the ordinary, I will have wisdom in the extradordinary. I want my husband to be able to trust my discernment in all things.
    Another favorite quote is “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.”
    Loved chapter 4!!!

  294. I am dealing with my husbands retirement from ministry after 17 plus years at the church we serve now and 38 years total. It is a roller coaster ride of emtions. I feel I am retiring also. I don’t get paid, but volunteer a lot there. I will miss it. Keeping my mind on the God things that happen everyday and making choices that will keep my faith in Him is so important. Remembering to make the best yes decisions is so needed to keep me on track. Thanks so much.

  295. What really is helping me get to my best yes. Is knowledge,insight, and discernment. I really loved this in chapter 4. We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers not scatters. Just to read the word and apply it is awesome. Also the small daily things where we practice wisdom.listen to the still small voice saying this is the way walk in it..

  296. Adriane Majzun says:

    “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!” This spoke volumes to me! It is so true!

  297. I agree with Adriane Majzun I loved the saying “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!!!

  298. I read chapter 4 on Saturday while I was waiting for my car to be smog checked. (My car passed.) The story about the wise woman in Chapter 4 was so interesting. I do not remember ever reading that story before. As for the quotes, they are all good. However, I will choose this one. “We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.” I sing in choir and yesterday morning just before the service, the choir director prayed for those of us who come from scattered places to gather together in service to the Lord and be focused on our task that morning. It just spoke right to my heart.

  299. I’m struggling with the decision to move away with my two girls to be with my active duty Marine husband. My kids are very close to their father who adores them as well. I loved the three questions to ask yourself when making a decision…they really hit home and made more feel more confident with what I’m feeling is right. Staying put. I go back and forth daily, hourly sometimes, wishing someone would just tell me what to do. I’m hoping and praying I make the right decision for my family.

  300. Chapter four was a good reminder for me to remember that life really doesn’t have to be complicated! The sentence “God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.” Really speaks to me. Discernment can (and usually) is a process. It’s okay to not give a response right away. It’s okay to say “I need time to think about this or that.” Remembering that I am capable of being wise gives me great comfort! Especially since I am a wife, mother of two young men, daughter, sister, friend, employee, co-worker, supervisor, volunteer, neighbor, well you know what I’m getting at….

  301. Jean Erichsen says:

    For years I have expressed how I feel at times as “scattered”. It is when I am overwhelmed with my life and need to step back. Chapt 4 speaks volumes to me. Wisdom in deciding when to say “yes” and when to say “no” has been lacking in my heart. So the phrase “we have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters” is my goal for the rest of my life. I am 64 and have wasted many years trying to please everyone by always saying “yes” and missing the best God has for me. No more of that! I am putting my heart and mind in bible study and prayer and expecting God’s blessings!

  302. Carrie Pugh says:

    We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers not scatters

    I love hanging out with the wise ladies from church, I soak in everything they say, listening to their experiences in life.

  303. People pleasing is a very big issue for me. I feel so guilty if I don’t do all the things I am asked to do. My husband is a pastor, and as the pastor’s wife, I feel as if I have to pick up all the projects and the jobs that nobody else does. So many things have been sent my way, because someone thinks we should do it, but nobody wants to. I am working on learning more discernment in what is my Best Yes. I am eager to find out about hot to not feel guilty about the Confident No.
    I feel I too make things more complicated than they need to be. I overthink things all the time, and when I am under attack, I rehash everything in my head for hours, or even days! I just need more confidence in who I am, and be more prepared for that Best Yes!
    Looking forward to the wealth of knowledge that is coming in the rest of the book!

  304. Besides the really good questions regarding making a decision, I really was touched by the section on not despising the daily stuff. I highlighted these sentences: ” Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift. And be one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface. See something more in the everyday. It’s there.” I guess sometimes I get caught up in the stress of life, and I am struck sometimes I don’t really remember the details of the day. I also love the Lucy & Linus story, I adore the Peanuts.

  305. Reading chapter 4….and I’m just struck by how our choices affect our future. Right now I’m surrounded by women who have made not-so-wise choices…and are reaping the consequences. And we’re talking YEARS of bad choices. It’s so frustrating…I also can see where times in my own past, when I’ve made dumb decisions…my life became crazy. And even now, sometimes things are a bit nutty because I take on too much. I just pray that God would intervene and show these ladies and myself…a better path. My heart breaks for them…they are in a pattern of destructive choices…and the consequences just keep getting worse.

  306. I am really enjoying this study….and the reading is enlightening. Lysa is real! She brings it right where i live. i like the story about Lucy and Linus… and the five fingers..”when we wisely curl together the knowledge, insight and discernment formed in everyday -life experiences we form patterns of wisdom. Patterns of wisdom will build our confidence to make good decisions, the kind made in everyday and the epic.” bringing every aspect of my day-to-day life to honor Jesus and walk in the light of His Glory. He is my “Best Yes,” shine for Jesus.

  307. Two that stuck with me:

    We need to be in places where wisdom gathers not scatters.
    Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.

    What powerful statements!

  308. “Fear, foolishness, and feelings left unchecked sometimes play a big role in our decision-making hesitations.” I can’t even begin to list the times I have let fear get in my way!! I also remember many times I have made foolish decisions. I am so thankful I chose a best yes and am fitting this Bible study into my schedule!

  309. This chapter has really spoken to me as I have been on a path to find a calmer place in my life. For years I have lived for the needs of others, rushing from one task to another always looking for perfection. I read Lysa’s book, Am I Messing Up My Kids this summer and it was the beginning of my new path. I am making a major effort to stop rushing around and in the hurry, missing my children, my husband and my own life. I love how she talks about knowledge, insight and discernment through quietly listening for the voice of the Holy Spirit to lead me on the path the Lord wants me to take. So far my school year has begun better than any other in 15 years. Thank you for helping me to find my way to a closer walk with God and the peace that can only be found in Him.

    • Me too Amy! I actually started her book “Am I messing Up My Kids” just before this bible study started. At first I was going to wait and finish it after The Best Yes was over, but I like doing them simultaneously. Like you I am really striving for a calmer place and a more grace-filled me. I am so happy to hear how much it has helped you! 🙂

  310. Cindy Thompson says:

    Amazing! God’s amazing wisdom and he shares it with us to use it in our everyday lives. I love the three questions we should ask to see if we are using that glorious gift he gives us. I know myself if I would have using the 3 questions and his wisdom I wouldn’t have been so stressed everyday. After reading chapter 4 everyday going forward I will look forward to each day and the tomorrow’s. This takes us back again to Listening to God.

  311. miranda freitag says:

    “We have to practice wisdom in every day life”

  312. Stephanie H. says:

    “The Best Yes is what we are after. Best yes answers are much more likely to happen when we are in the habit of seeking wisdom.” The three questions that Lysa asks in response to someone seeking her advice in chapter 4 was a wise decision. Lysa could have given advice to the mom and young woman based on the info provided and her life knowledge. Instead, she asked them questions which led them to seek God. She taught them how to fish so when faced with another decision, they would be equipped with the knowledge and wisdom to seek God’s discernment and not rely on intuition. I think I will do the same. Empower others to seek God to make decisions.

  313. I am a huge people pleaser. So I am awful at saying no. And sometimes it isn’t even about people pleasing. I see something I want to do so I commit to it. And then I see something else I think would be good for me and I commit to that too. And then before I know it I am committed to doing to much and I get burnt out and end up giving up on it all. This study has been so helpful to me so far! Looking forward to this week of study!

  314. Jacki Bornaman says:

    I want to be that wise woman who boldly, confidently, and directly spoke to Joab! I see her, now, as a woman who gained knowledge through God’s word and truth’s, who humbled herself, gained insight and applied it.
    The last sentence on page 43 stated; But wisdom wasn’t just her label; it was also her lifestyle.
    I long to have that lifestyle. To stay in God’s word, study it, memorize it, and apply it is my deepest desire. What a role model she is. A new one for me! I battle questions like, is this right, or should I do that. I have found that I am much better with the crazy questions after I spend time praying and going to scripture. I have a long ways
    to go! I loved Chapter 4! Thanks!

  315. Carma Yoder says:

    “My attitude of love must not be sacrificed in the altar of activity.” This quote really hit me as I am one who has always striven so hard to DO what is right, often at the sacrifice of having a loving spirit. I am by nature very task-oriented and introverted person, and I can easily lose sight of the people God has put in my path to serve because of the task before me.

  316. I will purposefully seek knowledge, insight, and discernment everyday. I want the Holy Spirit to correct me and teach me. I want the wisdom the makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow. I love this chapter!

  317. My take away this week is we have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters!

  318. Gail Harless says:

    I loved the three questions Lysa gave us to use when making a decision. My oh my, I wish I had those questions before I made so many ill-advised decisions in my life!

    My favorite line in chapter 4 was when Lysa said that feelings left unchecked will sometimes flat out lie to you. Feelings of anxiety, doubt, anger, even worry. They cannot be allowed to fester!

  319. Tonya Burgess says:

    I just wanted to say that I needed this word from this chapter today! Thank you Lysa for obeying God and writing this book and especially this chapter! I just really needed these words today.

  320. I made a decision about little over a year ago. A straight leap of faith. I had just changed jobs and even though I enjoyed the work I didn’t enjoy the environment not the lack of flexibility it offered me with my family and military commitments. I knew it was not the right fit I struggled with the decision to quite my job in the midst of a struggling economy and federal hiring freezes. I called friends and family spoke to HR and prayed. Then in a song by Jeremy camp walk by faith came on the radio. I knew my best yes. I quite the next day and since I have been blessed with a job that allow me to telework and have the flexibility in need. I work with great people doing great great things.

  321. Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!” Love this, so true!

  322. I love Lysa’s insight on p39 on WHERE wisdom gathers ~ Bible Study, church, conversations honoring to the Lord, when my mind is engaged in TRUTH! That is my biggest takeaway as I seek to make a few decisions in the near future. To put my heart and mind in God’s Word, TRUTH, and confide in a few close God honoring friends that I can TRUST to help advise me in #TheBestYes decisions 🙂

    • I agree Sarah. It is a great connection to how our actions influence our ability to discern right choices that keep us in step with God!

  323. It been really good I love proverbs 31 love study it

  324. First Bible study and OBS. Thankful for the friend who suggested this book and God leading me to open and discover myself.
    Had my first NO the other day. Was nervous about the decision, but prayed about it and have been so relieved ever since.
    It was, in my mind a wise decision and I know I am not a bad person for saying no.

  325. Kristen Jones says:

    In August I attended my first Women of Faith conference where I heard Lysa speak about this wise woman from chapter 4. When I walked away from that lesson I went to buy The Best Yes in the lobby because I wanted to start my journey toward becoming that wise woman. I want to become wise because I spent time fearing God, building knowledge and finding my discernment.

    I love the end of the chapter where it says “wasted my emotional energy.” I wrote in the margin of my book that chaos wastes emotional energy. I want to develop a peaceful spirit that doesn’t waste emotional energy. That starts with seeking wisdom.

    I have a lot to learn. This is my first online Bible study, and it’s been a great way to start my journey to discernment.

  326. What spoke to my heart about this chapter were these words: “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.” So if I try to keep myself where “wisdom gathers” and I read God’s words, and I make prayer a part of my daily life then I will be able to better discern what the best choices are. Discernment is what will give us our courageous yes or confident no. I can do this!!

  327. Monica. Anaya says:

    Never despise the mundane . I love that. We can learn from everything . All that every day stuff. And that will help us make better decisions. I think it’s a work in progress. Im still not there but hoping that every day brings me closer !

  328. I loved how Lysa wrote on the bottom of page 34, “But we do this sometimes. We do. We have a decision to make and we have that deep-down knowing. We know what to do. We know what the answer is. We do. But we don’t go with that knowing.” I need to follow her recommendation of know it, state it, own it, and move on without all the complication. My life would certainly be much easier and less complicated!

  329. I struggle with the guilt of saying no–even to simple things. So, I really liked what Lysa wrote on page 35–“But then there are other decisions we just simply need to say yes or no to and move on. Find that courageous yes. Fight for that confident no. Know it. State it. Own it. And move on without complication.”

  330. Alexa Baller says:

    What really spoke out to me through this chapter was the importance of wisdom. It is so crucial in our daily lives. Without acquiring wisdom, how is it possible to fulfill God’s will the way He wants you to? This chapter motivates me to start being a lot more aware of how much I am relying on wisdom each and every day.

  331. I actually feel like I still struggle with the courageous yes and the confident no. I have been a people pleaser all my life and have really been loving the journey to God pleasing instead, but honestly its a hard road for me. I worry so much what people will think or say about me. My takeaway from this chapter was to put my heart and mind where wisdom gathers not scatters. I have to dwell on the word of God and that will lead my heart as I ind my best yes. When I’m In the word I will know what God says about me instea of worrying about what others MIGHT say about me.

  332. The big thing that spoke to me in the chapter was the three questions Lisa asked her two friends. I have the tendency to over think and over analyze situations. Even when I feel as though I know the answers to my questions I continue to second guess myself. Seeing Lisa’s question written out on the page allowed me to think through my discussion making process as it currently stands and alter it in a less stressful way. These question allowed me to “put my heart and mind in a place where wisdom gathers and not scatters”, giving me a chance to quite my mind and the opportunity hear the knowledge and direction I am asking from the Lord.

  333. “Discerning what is best is something we’re capable of doing as we layer knowledge and depth of insight into our lives.” I was encouraged that God’s Word tells us that we WILL be able to discern what is best as we grow in knowledge and insight. Sometimes it feels like it is impossible to discern the best in a situation, but I can believe His promise that the Spirit will help me discern as I walk daily with him and develop habits of seeking knowledge and insight in the small things. I have five kids, so there is a lot of the daily “mundane”. I am being challenged from the last few chapters to slow down and pay attention to what God is doing around me and what He is saying to me in the midst of the little things. “A pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary.” p. 45 I want this to be true of me.

  334. I really loved this chapter! So much spoke to my heart! As a stay-at-home mom, the mundane makes us much of my day, as I’m sure many can relate. Today it was: not one, but two accidents from our 3 year old who is *mostly* potty trained, grocery shopping, the cat peeing on the carpet and the subsequent worry about her and call to the vet, laundry, sweeping the kitchen, etc. etc. etc. So when Lysa spoke of embracing the mundane and experiencing it as a gift where we can find wisdom, I really felt my heart lift! She challenges us to be “one of the rare few who looks deeper than just the surface” and to “practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.” I never thought that if I gained wisdom in the ordinary places (I never much look for it there, or if I intend to it quickly gets drowned out by the 5 and 7 year olds fighting, etc.), I would then more easily find it in the extraordinary places. I also really loved the comparison of places where wisdom gathers and where it scatters. I can only think of those that spend most of their time in bars, watching mindless TV, who are disconnected from their church, and who participate in gossipy conversations every day. It is very sad and I am paying more attention now to where I spend my time.

  335. Never despise the mundane… this has been an ongoing struggle for me. A great reminder that this is a training ground where character and wisdom is built.

  336. I’m working hard to put my heart and mind in a place where wisdom gathers and doesn’t scatter-love this study! 🙂

  337. I loved the story about the refrigerator box & worrying that someone was in there. In this crazy world we live in those kind of thoughts can happen so quickly. One of my favorite lines in chapter 4 is We have to put our hearts & minds where wisdom gathers not scatters. I also liked the 3 questions about reading & praying God’s word, applying God’s word, & seeking godly counsel. How those things can help us discern what’s best.

  338. Jennifer Pemberton says:

    I want to always be someone who sees the hand of God in everything (p. 47). I struggle with this in my mundane daily tasks at work. The three questions that Lysa asks regarding gathering wisdom (p. 36) spoke to me as well.

  339. I love this study and it has been great confirmation for me as I’ve been working on prioritizing things in my extra busy life right now. My favorite part in Chapter 4 is the three questions she asks about: reading and praying through God’s Word; applying His Word lately and seeking Godly counsel and insight; because recently I have given some people pretty much those same principles and I wondered if I did the right thing because they did not receive it very well. To me, it is a great reminder and encouragement of speaking the truth in love to our Father’s sheep. I also loved learning about the wise woman that I had never really knew about before and lastly, I absolutely loved the definition of the beginning of wisdom. I loved how the fear of the Lord was defined as a deep sense of reverence where we truly desire to look for the hand of God in EVERYTHING, which reminds me of so many great verses. This OBS is my first one and it’s pretty awesome!! 🙂 Thanks for letting me participate and can’t wait to see what’s next!

  340. chelsie bourque says:

    Wisdom makes decisions that will still be good tomorrow. I love it.

  341. What about today’s chapter spoke to your heart?
    We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers,
    not scatters.
    This is powerful for me, every time I’m in a situation where I feel stuck I stop and refocus my thoughts. Lining my heart and mind with God has really helped me make better choices.

  342. “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from acqiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight. The Holy Spirit helps us remember that knowledge and insight so we can display it through God judgement in our everyday life decisions.”

    We will be ill equipped without these truths. Being prepared by spending time with the One who can fill us up and direct us to our best yes decisions is crucial.

  343. I am so very thankful for this OBS and book. Thank you Lysa for following Gods calling to write it! The timing of this study is perfect in my life!! I have always struggled with saying yes to everything, all of the things were good, for example, working nursery at church on Sunday mornings, teaching 3rd and 4th grade girls on Wednesday nights, and teaching jr. high and high school on Wednesday night, running sound system at church, leading an extracurricular activity at the kids school, coaching little league basketball (due to no skills I don’t think I will have to worry about them asking me to do that one again!!), leading a bible study during the week, volunteering at the schools, and many other things, most being at the same time!! I know so many moms can relate to this, we are constantly doing, but usually we are doing to much! I found myself asking Why, why am I doing this? And I came to realization that most of the time the answer was to please people or to make people think I had it all together, and even maybe trying to be good enough in the eyes of God. That’s a really tough thing to admit. I found myself living a works based life, although in my heart I knew you couldn’t work your way to heaven, the only way to heaven is through Jesus Christ and what He did for us on the cross, but my actions didn’t express that theology! Through the past few years my family has been making choices to put our future on the path that we want. We want to honor God in every decision we make. Well through prayer and listening that path has lead us to move from Texas to ALASKA!!!! And right before winter hits too!! I’m starting to think God has a sense of humor. Going straight from 100 degree temps to freezing is quite an adjustment! Anyway, this study has come at a time in my life of a new season, a fresh start. I know I was sent here, I just don’t know yet what that reason is :). This book is helping me to make my best yes in every decision. Right now it is the decision of finding a new church home, while desperately missing the one we left behind. It’s making the decision of how we spend our time, and who we choose to spend it with. Tomorrow might be different decisions, but this study will be a tool in helping me make MY BEST YES! So Thank you all so much who have had apart in making this OBS happen.
    Love in Christ,
    Rochelle

  344. Lauren Rush says:

    I haven’t read just yet, but I wrote out the memory verse for this week, and printed my email to read later. One of my #thebestyes (best yeses) was creating a facebook group for the girls at my church who are all doing this study together. We all are going to meet twice within the six weeks to talk in person, but I thought the group could be helpful for the time in between.

  345. Susan DeArmond says:

    Chpt. 4 spoke to me in so many ways! Finding wisdom in the common, ordinary everyday things-I don’t always look for it, sadly! And I’ve been known to allow doubts and fears to complicate decisions. And it reminded me to look for God’s hand in ALL things. All these things, as well as many others.
    I’m so thankful fot this study! So applicable to my life!!

  346. Melissa Chambers says:

    Lysa always blesses me with these, “yup but OUCH” moments in her books and they are usually my big takeaways, the convicting and encouraging life altering moments that Lysa says what God has been trying to get across to me but sometimes I need to read it and highlight and have it flashing at me! My first was page 39, “Wisdom gathers when the mind is engaged with truth. Wisdom scatters when I watch hours of mindless TV…(mine are also crime shows, mostly!)” I barely had the page turned when she hit me with another one from page 41, “They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom. We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives. Never despise the mundane. Embrace it.” I not only dislike dishes (but of course love to cook) I would rather clean a toilet than scrub a pot or pan or fork. So, when I am having trouble breathing or in pain I let the dishes be the first thing that piles up but then that pile of dishes I can see from my favorite spot on the couch, where all my Jesus books, study Bibles, pens, highlighters and post it notes live so those dishes become an anchor weighing down my motivation to do what I love most, read\study. Now, this spot is also where I have spent hours mindlessly watching TV shows and you think the dishes would keep me from enjoying that, but no! I once asked God for encouragement to get those dishes done and the notion to blast worship music while doing them came flooding to me so at least now I do have something bringing me joy while I do the dreaded dishes but when I read this and had half a pile of blasted dishes it brought me back to last week and if I do these dishes who is it going to bless? Then, there was a knock at the door, a sweet neighbor boy asking if I had a quarter and that led me to realize that who I am blessing are my neighbors that are oh so close to me. I have never seen or heard this sweet boy ask anyone for anything but me: the staples like milk and sugar and a knife once even (I had the notion he may use that knife to later kill me moment just like Lysa would have) and I thought I must have a label: sweet Christian girl. Those dishes will not be a burden to me; they are going to be a mission field for me now: one plate at a time!

  347. I love the three questions to ask when facing a difficult decision. The other thing that spoke to me were related to the “wise woman”. People trusted her because of her ability to demonstrate discernment through her actions and words. It is a reminder to me that no matter how big or small, to be aware of my influence and to show my light of Christ.

  348. The reminder and reality that the daily mundane is where wisdom begins. I sometimes despise it and take the “daily routines” for granted. Since beginning this bible study, I have been reminded to respond to that “little voice”. Tonight’s Best Yes was to read Chapter 4 and comment instead of watching a show that I missed on demand. I also heard a prompting to encourage the person cleaning the woman’s bathroom at work last week. It felt awkward to say, “Thank You for what you do” and not sound condescending, but I did. She thanked me profusely and it felt satisfying that I listened to that small voice.

  349. Lysas commented of how “life has a way of ripping the power and significance right out of our scope with its constant demands. The daily stuff is the very exleriences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom.weve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives”(pg. 40 & 41) I love how this reminds me of the scripture that teaches that if God can trust us to be faithful in a few things He will put us in charge over many things (Matthew 25:23).
    If I can learn to be wise in the few, everyday, don’t seem to matter much, decisions, then I will be ready to be wise when faced with ” bigger”, ” more weighty” decisions….In a nut shell, i need to be wise in the small so I am conditioned to be wise in the big things!

  350. Chris Stidham says:

    “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!” What a powerful statement that can be applied to so many areas of our lives!!

  351. Ka'Lon Dewey says:

    Today’s chapter was amazing. There was so much information to take away from the chapter. The first thing was, we should be where wisdom gathers, and not scatters. I love that quote. It means we are intentional about our surroundings. We are guarding our hearts and our minds and our souls. The second thing I enjoy was the story of Linus and Lucy. Lysa states, “Our everyday stuff may seem as ordinary as Lucy’s hand having fingers. But when you wisely curl together the knowledge, insight, and discernment, formed in your everyday-life experiences, you form patterns of wisdom” (pp. 41-42). This statement is powerful. It tells us that we can’t have one without the other. Once you acquire them, and use them as a unit (knowledge, insight, and discernment), the decisions we make will be full of so much wisdom.

  352. Wow! Wow! Wow! What a chapter…if this is what to come and more, then i am all for it. Reading chapter 4 while on the plane home was such a serene feeling. There is something about sitting by the window, reading about God’s Wisdom while looking at those beautiful blue and white clouds. Just that reminder that the God I serve is truly an awesome God! As I read through chpt 4 I was constantly smiling, not because it was funny, but just knowing that I have some decisions to make in my life as we speak, and God was just pouring his blessings on me and helping me sift through all those pebbles in my heart. There were quite a few things that tugged at the strings of my heart, but I will speak on two. “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow” phew!!! When I read that, I had to take a moment…I seriously closed my eyes and thought of the decision that lay before me, and really pondered on how the decision that will make will affect my life int he days, months, or years to come. It seems like such a daunting task (here I go trying to make it all complicated afraid to open the box in the foyer ) Its amazing how I have not really thought about my decisions in the past, just went about making choices without so much so as praying. I realized just how important it is to ask ourselves those 3 questions : did i read and pray though gods word? did i apply Gods word to my lifestyle? did i seek godly counsel or insight from someone who is wise and knows more than i do? Without those 3 questioned answered, I realized that I will lack so much in life and continue to make unwise decisions that can lead me to put “my heart and mind in places where wisdom scatters and i will miss out “on places where wisdom gathers”. It breaks my heart to know that all it takes is time and patience in God’s word, the time i have been failing to utilize, instead i use that time so haphazardly and leads me feeling overwhelmed, confused with an underwhelmed soul. I know I said two things but this is another one that really caught my heart because God forgive me am a culprit at this one. I am constantly trying to rush through the daily things, i rarely pay attention to the small details or the small assignments that God entrusts me with forgetting that they are the very things that show him if I am ready to be assigned the bigger stuff! As humans we are always looking for that BIG NEON sign or the NEXT BIG ASSIGNMENT that we have been praying for, we forget that God always begins small, everything he does for us, to us, is a test of our faith. Luke 16: 10 pretty much captures this “If we are faithful in little things, we will be faithful in large ones. but if you are dishonest in little things, you wont be honest with greater responsibilities” So my lesson here so I can attain my victory of making wise decisions, and not allowing myself to disregard the little things in life, I need to seek Gods word, his truth (knowledge), apply his truthful word (insight) and to always remember that “god has woven into me the ability to discern what is best”. i pray that we can all oneday park our hearts, minds, and souls in a place where wisdom gathers, while remembering to embrace those small steps. Lao Tzu said ” the journey of a thousand miles, begins with one step” THE BEST YES is OUR ONE STEP!

  353. Diann Chaney says:

    This was so AMAZING! I love the questions she put forth.
    1) have you been reading and praying through God’s word lately?
    2)Have you been applying God’s Word in your life lately?
    3) Have you sought godly counsel and insights from WISE people who know specifics about your situation?

    And the promise from God in Phil.1:9-10 that when we do these things we will BE ABLE to discern WHAT IS BEST!!!

  354. The statement: Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow and in order to make wise decisions today, I will need to practice wisdom in the everyday places in my life.

    The example of the wise woman in 2 Samuel 20, was a great example of being wise daily. I hadn’t really looked at that angle before, and how amazing the elders of the community “listened” to her, and then followed through by beheading Sheba. The other statement in the same context that was made is so true: “Severe Choices usher Severe Consequences”

    I am so very thankful for the trustworthy biblical friends that I can count on to help me make wise choices. And that would be an “AMEN”.

  355. Teresa Nutting says:

    I have to admit that I have been really struggling in so many areas in my life. The questions that Lysa asked her friends really hit home. I felt like she was asking me those questions and my answer was no on all of them. So my take away from chapter 4…creating a plan so that I can say yes to those questions and begin to gain wisdom in all areas of my life!

  356. I really liked this quote. “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision. My wisdom-based discernment will help me process and make the decision.” I am horrible at making everyday decisions sometimes. But with the bigger decisions my prayer has been that God would shut the door or move my mind away from what I should say no too and fill my mind with things I should say yes to.

  357. I was hit right between the eyes with “My attitude of love must not be sacrificed in the altar of activity.” . I’m a doer. And I feel really guilty when I don’t DO things for other people, even if it means sacrificing other things that are very important, like my personal peace and the ability to do other things well. I read this chapter at noon today and was just this evening having a conversation with a friend about a task I took on this afternoon and realized…OOPS! I did it again!. I am going to have to retrain my brain to embrace this concept!

  358. Beth Anne W. says:

    “Knowledge is wisdom that comes from
    acquiring truth. Insight is wisdom that comes from living out the truth we acquire. Discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s reminders of that knowledge and insight.”
    The truth is God’s Word. Insight comes from obeying God’s Word. And then the Holy Spirit takes what we have learned and obeyed and uses it to help us make the best decisions. So ultimately it all comes down to being in the Word more and living out the Word more. That’s what will give is what we need to make good decisions. And I love that we can live this out in the mundane of daily life, not just in the big decisions. Great chapter! Gives me a lot to think about and direction to take.

  359. I am really learning so much! When I examined my heart I thought about I often make decision. .. so many are based on fears or what people will think! I’m thankful for the questions offered to help me evaluate wisely the choices and reasoning behind a decision. I also really liked the story about the wise woman and it motivates me to seek after the consistency in making wise decision so that it is who I am…. Only with Jesus and obedience can I do this.

  360. My biggest take away was the quote about being around where wisdom gathers, not scatters. I feel as Christian women, we need to surround ourselves with women of similar circumstances and that can lift us up. If we are around negativity, then that only breeds negativity.

  361. This is my biggest takeaway:

    1) Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately?
    2) Have you been applying God’s Word to your life lately?
    3) Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation?

    I need to put these reminders on an index card (or several) so that I can read them everyday.

    I need to seek Him in everything I do.

    I’m loving this book. 🙂

    Shannon

  362. This chapter spoke to that place in my heart that procrastinates on some decisions because I am not sure of what step to take or when I am so afraid of making a mistake. I love the three key questions that really point me to the fact that if I really truly believe that when I seek God I will find him, that the holy spirit dwells in e and guides me and reveals all truth to me, I shouldn’t be afraid of following my heart especially since/if I have been feeding my heart with the truth.

    I have recently improved abit regarding finding my courageous yes and confident no, I think I need to practice making wise decisions everyday and look for God’s hand in everything and trust that He is leading me in even the mundane things in my life. Most importantly it is to trust God enough to the extent that I know that even if I am making a mistake, he will be right there to catch me just because he Loves me. 🙂

  363. Sharnta Hall says:

    “You are NOT confused Sharnta, you just need to make a decision.” I’ll never forget that statement spoken to me almost 3 years ago by a dear friend of mine as she’d been a listening ear for several long months as I went over and over and over and over about a major decision in my life. Ahhh!!! How insensitive she is was my first thought to later realize the power of this statement. In fact, I have found that this statement is still as powerful today as it was when she first spoke it and reading this chapter made me so much more appreciative of it. How we can complicate simple to the point of utter confusion for ourselves. Yes there are some decisions that need to be processed and then there are other decisions we just need to say yes or no to and move on. (Pharaphrased) “Find the courageous yes. Fight for the confident no. Know it. State it. Own it and move on without complications.” I made the decision and have to be honest in saying that there have been many times in between up to now that I have said, “whew Jesus did I miss You?!” Yet the deep knowing that I often call keen discernment reminds me to bring every thought captive unto the obedience of Christ that my perception not be skewed by what it looks like or “feels” like at the moment. But to see it in The Spirit…Decreeing it until I see it manifested in the physical.

  364. We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters. This really stood out to me today. As I am just recently finding my faith (wisdom) this is something I need to remember, to focus on. Also just going theough all the daily challenges. I am a mother of r and I work 40 hours a week like many of you I start to feel burnt out, alone, frustrated, and simply tired. I am married but my husband is not a lot of help, I tend to get angry and I have praying for God to help me with this. I love my husband dearly and I trust that he doea in return. I want to be that woman who doesn’t grumble at the daily duties and I pray that this study will help me get there and that i will be able to discern what is best.

  365. There is so much good stuff in this book! One of the many things I took away from chapter four is:
    Don’t dispise the daily stuff, learn to see something more in the everyday
    Stuff.

  366. Jenna Lammers says:

    Chapter 4 is titled “Sometimes I make it all so complicated”. That’s exactly right. I do! So for me the quote about “Find that courageous yes, Fight for that Confident No” had a huge impact. I struggle with this because I feel I always have the responsibility to please everyone. I have to start looking at the decisions I make and if they are wise decisions that will still be wise tomorrow.

  367. My biggest takeaway were the three questions to use when decision making
    Wow, how these three little questions allow women to live and be in tune with God’s agenda for their life. I am definitely going to use this in my own life and my areas of influence.
    Have you been reading God’s word?
    Have you been applying God’s word to fill in the blank with the decision your wrestling with?
    Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about the situation?

  368. “Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift.” p. 41 Just this morning I was feeling a bit overwhelmed by what seems like never ending repetitive responsibilities – making sure my kids get up on time, packing lunches, brushing hair, keeping track of piano practices and homework and paying bills and all that. The section of this chapter on the importance of the mundane is giving me new perspective and hopefully will help me embrace all these tasks with a new attitude.

    • Lisa,
      I so wish I had seen your blog response before I submitted mine last night. I would have liked to link to your response. God has already equipped you with the wisdom of a new perspective…”Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6. Take Lysa’s inspired words to heart and “Embrace it”.

  369. Today’s chapter had many statements that spoke to me. However, I think that my favorite quote from this book, so far, has been from Chapter 4:

    “No man wants to go toward and listen to a woman wild with chaotic emotions and actions. But this was a wise woman, so he paid attention.”

    This quote touches me on many levels, both professionally and personally. I just love how this chapter was able to take this story from the Bible and relate it to our decision-making processes.

    I believe that I have found that courageous yes. However, I feel that I still need to work on the confident no. I hope that I will be able to learn how to be gracious but firm in my “no” as I continue with this study. One thing that may help from Chapter 4 in this area is to apply knowledge, insight, and discernment into my decisions. This will make it easier to say “no” as I take the emotional aspect out that has to do with hurting someone’s feelings. I can do this on a professional level with absolutely NO problem. However, I find that this is MUCH more difficult for me on a personal level.

  370. Sheree Bagwell says:

    Ask 3 questions when getting ready to discern what is the best yes:
    1. Have I been reading and praying through God’s word lately?
    2. Have I been applying God’s word in my life daily?
    3. Have I sought council and insight from Godly people who know about my situation?
    Phillipines 1:9-10

  371. “Never despise the mundane. Embrace it.”, reminded me of those early years with my now 16 year old daughter and the beginning/end of the week when I would shampoo, dry and braid her hair. It would take an evening and part of the next morning. She would usually fall asleep, but not before becoming antsy, as toddlers often do when required to sit in one place for any moment longer than a few seconds; this squirming often resulted in multiple re-dos of sections of her hair and my husband’s well intended “Are you done yet?”. During one such evening after work, I gathered the supplies needed and muttered to myself “I have to do her hair tonight”. I am sure I had said it many times before, but this time the words seem to hang in the air, thick and heavy (or maybe it was steam from the bath water :>). Anyway, they sounded different, regretful, resentful; but why? Why was I feeling this way about my girl?, and then I realized she was another task, another “to do” to check off for the day, like the dishes or the laundry. I had placed her in the mundane.
    But God gave me wisdom that night and told me to change my perspective from “I have to do her hair.” to “I get to do her hair!” It was a simple (uncomplicated) but powerful change that I did not realized I/we needed. As the years continued, combing or braiding or shampooing my daughter’s hair was a wonderful time that was just for us, where we talked about everything and talked about nothing, where sang songs from Barney’s “I love you” to Ariel’s “Part of Your World” to Captain James T. Kirks Monologue. God showed me how to embrace what I once classified as mundane and I am so glad I did. Now at 16, every once in while, I get to hear “mommy, can you do my hair”?

  372. I loved chapter 4. There were so many great thinks that spoke directly to me. The biggest take away for me was that I need to look for God’s hand in the everyday tasks. I often find myself looking back and seeing what I have missed. How great it would be to see, and be able to act on it in the moment. By putting this into practice, I will begin to make ” wise decisions today that will still be good tomorrow”. I can’t wait to see how God is going to use me!

  373. The three questions.. Ouch! I got called out there!
    The idea that by learning to be wise in the small things, I’ll be better equipped to handle the big things.
    2 Timothy 2:20-21

  374. Kathie Waters says:

    I found all the quotes noted above to be very moving in my own life, and also grabbed onto the three questions I need to be asking when I have decisions to make. I don’t need to make things complicated by over thinking things, just stop and pray and listen for the answer. I never used to think I knew what the sound of God’s voice truly sounded like because I thought I was not a good enough listener. I am beginning to realize I had been hearing, I just didn’t always listen!

  375. so many items in Chapter 4 made sense to me when I read them, but what I most feel spoke to me is p. 46 – we need to flip the fear, foolishness, and feelings in our decision making into a much healthier fear that leads to wisdom. I feel that part of the chapter will play a big part in me moving towards a courageous yes and a confident no.

  376. Still working on that BEST yes and knowing there are times to say no. Times it’s best for all if you say no

  377. I love the reminder that today’s decisions matter. They matter in the grander scheme- or goal which we are working to achieve. Big picture!

  378. Lisa Hawkins says:

    One of my favorite things while reading through Chapter 4 was the perspective I gained through reflection as I dove through the pages. I suddenly recalled choice after choice that I had made and which ones had been “wise” and “best yes” decisions and others that were made impulsively and irrationally. I recalled times where I was the wise woman that others listened to and other times where advice I had given or words I had spoken were completely ignored because they were “my” wise words and not “His” wise counsel. I really enjoyed the story about the wise woman in 2 Samuel as I did not recall this story but will tuck this gem in the back of my hard head for those times when I need to utilize my best wisdom and demonstrate my ” best yes” for myself and others!

  379. I struggle immensely with my reactions in what I think are unfavorable and unwanted situations. I overreact so easily, because I do not wait patiently to combine knowledge, insight, and discernment in order to thoroughly evaluation the situation and move forward in wisdom. I love this: “Tangled in encounters, the “wise woman” learned how to untangle her reactions. I am going to try to work on that this week!

  380. Love the reminders about reading and praying through God’s Word and applying it as well as seeking godly counsel.

    We have to put our hearts and our minds inlaces where wisdom gathers, not scatters.

    Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.

    Embrace the mundane, the daily grind because it is there we can gain wisdom.

    Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness, and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision.

    A person who fears God is one who sees the hand of God in everything. Love it!

  381. “Therefore we need to flip the fear, foolishness and feelings in our decision making into a much healthier fear that leads to wisdom.” Fear is one thing in my life that can derail me in a second–what if this happens, what if that is going to happen, did I hear the Holy Spirit right, is it really the Holy Spirit that I’m listening to…? I know I need to get into the truth more so that I can gain the knowledge that I need to put into practice. Because of my current circumstances, I don’t feel like I can trust myself to be discerning. Satan made a fool out of me and I’m suffering horrible consequences! I am fearing God, searching for His hand in each day even as the horror of lies and deceit drags on.

    • I’m praying for you and thank you for being so honest! God bless you! Continue to stay in the Word. Remember, you are victorious with Christ by your side!

  382. I’m not all the way through Chapter 4 but its 11:00pm. I’ve been up with a sick child since 5am(Prayers please for my 2yr son), I’ve managed to cook supper, do laundry, help my daughter with a week’s worth of homework because she missed school last week due to strep throat, complete 3hours worth of my full time work at home(with sick child), catch up on two bible studies, and do a 30 minute workout(that we are doing with the Made to Crave book), and not to mention I was on my phone half the night between issues at my work and social media…all this to say that this is not my Best Yes. I love what Lysa stated on Page 39
    “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow. Wisdom gathers bible study. Wisdom scatters at the bar. Wisdom gathers when you serve……and so on”…..My wisdom is not gathered by spending endless hours on my social media accounts, or spending hours on my phone…My wisdom will come from investing my time in the word and applying it to my life. In everything I do this week I’m going to consider the three questions that Lysa asks in Chapter 4….Have I been ready and praying through God’s Word lately?
    Have I been applying God’s Word in my life lately? and Have I sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know about the situation?
    Ladies I’m so excited to continue this online Bible study. Its already revealed to me so many things.
    Now off to bed I go so I can function tomorrow…..
    B~

  383. The thing that really spoke to my heart today was “we’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives. Never despise the mundane. Embrace it. Unwrap it like a gift.” This spoke to me because over the last five or so years I have continually struggled with a feeling of this is it? I remember always having something to look forward to such as my drivers license, turning 18, turning 21, getting married, having kids, getting a house. Well as the years have progressed and I have those things I have wondered when all the big and exciting stuff is going to happen. It dawned on me recently, before this study, that the mundane moments throughout our lives are the important moments. I mistakenly thought when I was younger that life was going to be this big, crazy adventure and don’t get me wrong it most certainly is but it is different than I imagined it to be. Reading these words was like hearing words from my heart.

    I would saying yes and no I am about 50/50. I have two children and a military husband so I learned early on that although I said yes to a lot of things I knew if I wanted to time to myself I would have to say no. I feel I can discern pretty quickly yes or no and make a good decision. There are times though where I forget and end up getting too much on plate and only then do I realize I have to scale back and make only best yes decisions.

  384. This chapter reminded me to think about the future based on the decisions or choices I make today! … I need to turn to God rather than act on impulse…gonna pray about that! Thx

  385. So many things captured my attention today.
    Love! Love! Love!
    “We have to put our hearts and our minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.”
    “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.”
    I can put this into action right now. Practical application with the three questions to help us discern wisdom in our choices. Also gives us the opportunity to change and wait on a decision until we have “developed a truth-based pattern of knowledge and insight.” I can apply this to all areas of my life. My heart is full this evening. Good night my friends!

  386. im in a situation in my career where I need to learn a hard no and yes. God will enable me to stay strong and this book has been perfectly timed.

  387. Ive been able to make some confident decisions that I know are “my” best yes and no’s. Quieting myself and seeking the Lord in my decisions lets me step forward with God confidence. Knowing that God has walked with me thru the decision brings peace. Some are yes’ s some are no and some are not yet and can be content with them all. Its a great place to be!

  388. Hi everyone!
    I hope you all had an amazing weekend! I was so excited to dive into chapter 4! I learned a lot in this chapter. Something that hit me hard was the guidance of the Holy Spirit. I actually ended up sharing John 14:26 on my FaceBook page. Jesus promised us the Holy Spirit to help us in discernment. I love how she spoke about “gut” feelings not always being the Holy Spirit. We have to make sure we are lined up with God. I may use her 3 questions when I make future decisions as well, “Have you been reading and praying lately?” “Have you been applying God’s Word in your life lately?” “Have you sought Godly counsel or insight on your situation?” In my own life, I notice that when I am able to answer “yes” to all those questions, things end up working smoothly. It’s all about what we are feeding our Spirit.

  389. Wow! These were great chapters! I really took to heart the three steps to discernment ( praying and reading God’s word, applying it, and seeking Godly counsel). I also need to focus on putting my heart

  390. Wow! These were great chapters! I really took to heart the three steps to discernment ( praying and reading God’s word, applying it, and seeking Godly counsel). I also need to focus on putting my heart

  391. Chapter 4 had so many great points. It was hard not to write all of them down. I like that she pointed out the difference of discernment & intuition. I pray often that God gives me the knowledge & wisdom I need to make good decisions.

  392. I shared with my teenage boys “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow!”. I saw them pause and think about the quote. I wish I had gotten that point when I was there age. I’m thankful for getting that point now.

  393. Really getting in to Gods word and finding answers. It’s more than just doing what you feel but actually learning to pray over the situation and understand what God is saying to you. Digging in to the word and searching scripture, praying, and seeking Him.

  394. Wow! This is my favorite chapter so far. Lysa made me giggle, and also cringe at the truths she brings forth. Cringe, because I should be doing some of these things, and before today, haven’t. But praise God, His mercies are new every morning! His grace is abundant. When Lysa asks the three questions “Have you been reading and praying. . . applying God’s word, and seeking Godly counsel?”. That’s where I cringed. I don’t always do all three before making a decision. I often “go with my gut”. But those three should be part of my every day. And when I’m anchored in Him, I KNOW I’ll make wise decisions because the Holy Spirit will help me discern what should be “yes” or “no”. Amen!

  395. Victoria Kay says:

    My favorite part of chapter 4 has got to be “We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places in our lives” We really need to embrace the mundane tasks of our everyday lives and really take the time to look below the surface of our everyday lives. I also like “We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters”

  396. I am caught up thru Chapter 4, which puts me right on track for this week. While I underlined and bracketed quite a bit, my fave point from chapter four was actually Psalm 111:10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; all who follow his precepts have good understanding.
    It actually convicted me, with previous portions of the chapter, regarding what my part is in gaining the wisdom needed to make discerning decisions. This verse, coupled with the three questions Lysa posed, are going to play a much larger and very conscious role in my life in days to come.

  397. Angela Barnes says:

    This week like every week has started off like a whirlwind. But this is my second week of being amongst strong God loving women who identify themselves to me by pouring out truths and examples of life lessons filled with biblical references for daily prayer and practice coupled with TBY. I am looking into myself, with myself through God’s eyes praying that I never stop growing and evolve into the wise woman I continue to strive to be. Keep touching my heart my sisters with your words and comments.

    Still pumping the breaks toward underwhelment to make room for the overwhelment.

  398. So I can finally answer this one…my little one tends to not like to nap and yesterday was crazy so I am finally here in one of the few quiet moments I get in the week. I have not yes found the courage to put fourth my “best yes” or my “best no” but I am loving the insight and confidence I am gaining through this study. It is exactly what I needed. I think my biggest takeaway for this chapter was the phrase “determine not to make it all so complicated”. This is the one thing I struggle with the most in decision making, especially as a parent. I am hoping through this study, that I can gain the insight I need to easily make wise decisions and not beat myself up for weeks or even longer over singular decisions that many times aren’t even that big of a deal, and for the ones that are a big deal, that I can be confident in my ability to make wise decisions and not question myself along the way.

  399. I’m a day behind…oh yes I am. But, I LOVED this chapter. I tend to get focused on something and really own it, and this was my I’m gonna own it thought….”We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.” This tied in with making wisdom a lifestyle. I think everyone knows smart people, but when I take an inventory of the wise people I know, I don’t know that there are many. I have to be intentional about being wise, relying more on God, even in my mundane moments, and I really struggle with this. When I can do this, I believe that I will have more confidence in my decision making. I’m so glad that I chose to do this study, so I can move onto my wise lifestyle.

  400. Two of the many takeaways for Chapter 4: ‘When we’ve done what we need to do to acquire the knowledge and insight of truth, then the discernment of that truth is there. We must learn to trust and use that discernment because the more we do this, the more wisdom we acquire.’

    ‘We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.’ When we start practicing, we make that wisdom ‘muscle’ stronger!

  401. In reading chapter 4 when Lysa asked those three questions I reslized that I hsve not asjed or dought eisfom before making a decision. I reacted and answered on my own. I sm so ashamed and can see why my life is so messed up. I need to spply myself to God’s word. The book is reslly bringing to light s lot of areas I need to work on

  402. I am a day behind… but wanted to say that I am so glad to be a part of the OBS study again. Having just retired to pursue projects I have had to put aside and to be available for my family- I have found that my time has not been my own. My parents health and other ‘unseen’ circumstances have caused me to loose my time for the fun projects I wanted to get back to working on…..causing me to re-evaluate their worth. The part on page 36 where Lysa asks 3 questions- helped rein me in to discern what is best. When I combine that with “so that I might bless whom?” I realize that those projects are worthwhile because they are my way of blessing others- it is a ministry. My best yes right now is trying to set aside time each week for working on those projects instead of being overwhelmed with all that comes at me, knowing those are out there hanging over my head and not getting accomplished. I am working on the confident NO. I think working on the ‘daily stuff’- to “practice wisdom in the everyday places of ” my life will help me. I think I will post in my view Lysa’s power phrase “a pattern of wise choices in the ordinary paves the road to a demonstration of wisdom in the extraordinary. The verse in Phil1:9-10 is one that I have prayed over my children for years, I think it is time I also pray it for myself .

  403. I like the story of this woman, specifically “Then the woman went to all the people with her wise advice”, and they listened and acted in accordance with her wisdom. There is a notion of a “reputation” of wisdom behind her, so that she did not have to spend a long time convincing anyone. Like most other really enviable characteristics, I don’t think wisdom is acquired quickly. It takes a lot of investment and practice in both small and large decisions. I often need to go back to people and say, “You know, I had a think about it, and I don’t actually think I will be able to do x..” It is really not as good as having said ‘No’ confidently in the first place, but people usually respect honesty. I think where we get in trouble is when we try to say we are too busy to do something, but we really just are not interested in doing it. I figure that the more I practice, the sooner I will be able to discern and say ‘No’ kindly and honestly the first time.

  404. This last spring I cam to a point of overwhelmed. I tried to volunteer at church, school and work. I felt jealous of people who said no. I would often think how wimpy they were for not helping at the level I was. Just has summer started everything came to an end. President term ended then left kids ministry. Ouch it killed me! I did not feel important. I spent the summer in prayer and now I spend time in prayer before I say yes and only help when I am sure its right. I think this study was written for me.

  405. I am learning my courageous “yes” and confident “no”. Just over the weekend I did an exercise similar to what Lysa described about determining what my obligations are and making a plan in my schedule for them. This is making me feel empowered and less stressed about when things will get done and when I will have time to so things that I want to do. There are a few things that I feel God has impressed on my soul to do: write, become a parenting coach for parents of small children, teach in some capacity. I am praying about all of these but know I need some time just to do and cope with and be thankful for the everyday stuff after a recent hospitalization and th necessity of being very gentle with myself and respecting my human limitations. This book is so what I need right now!!!!

  406. Cynthia Wilkie says:

    I know I am a day late. I am trying to catch up. What spoke to me in this chapter. About being in God’s word when making a decision. I would pray and ask wise people. But the missing step has made decision making uncomfortable.

  407. I think what spoke to me most of this chapter was the concept of “embracing the mundane.” I had been thinking of my Best Yes as this pursuit that is far off, that is something I will accomplish down the road. I see myself in a season of saying No, as I prepare for a season when I can make my Best Yes decisions. Right now, school, work, and family is just about all I can handle. But, that doesn’t mean I can’t practice widsom and Godly decision making in the everyday places. I had to laugh out loud at Lysa’s statement of looking up from the inspirational words and seeing dog poop – was reading in my back yard with my 4 large dogs and saw just that!! Today I have already felt the strain of numerous demands – our garbage disposal is leaking and we had a pipe break, one dog is sick, work is piling up, I have a mountain of homework to do – but in the midst of all of this, I can choose to become overwhelmed or I can choose to react with Godly wisdom and confidence. I can still make decisions that are wise and best for myself and my family in the mundane and daily things that come up.

  408. Good morning! I have a hard time making decisions and usually end up saying YES before I can process what I’m doing…I have the disease to please!! The thing I took away from chapter 4 is that I need to stop making everything SO COMPLICATED!! I love the quote from Lysa “Find that courageous YES and fight for the confident NO!! Know it. State it. Own it! Then move on w/out all the complication.” (p.35)

  409. Wise choices in the ordinary = wise choices in the extraordinary. If I don’t practice making wise choices in the small things how will I make wise choices in the big things?

    • Yes consistency something when I am scattered I do not have enough of. This is something that was a major take away this chapter.

      Thank you for highlighting
      Mandy

  410. Elaina Willard says:

    What spoke to me was ” We have to put our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters”. What a fantastic way to look àt it. The whole entire paragraph on wisdom points out truths we just overlook. If we stay focused on finding God’s wisdom, seeking Him daily then we will find it. I am lacking there, slipping back into the overwhelmed, then being the scattered woman.

  411. Sarah Loesch says:

    When it comes time to make a decision, no matter how big or small it may be I am always looking for ‘the best Yes’, which is a yes or no directed by God. All too often I follow my intuition or gut instinct instead of truly meditating on the decision and seeking out Gods wisdom. In order to be able to decipher Gods wisdom I need to be connected to Him on a daily basis. I need to read and apply His Word daily.
    This week I will strive to be more in the Word rather than in the World. I really appreciate Lysa asking,
    “1. Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately?
    2. Have you been applying God’s Word to your mothering lately?
    3. Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation?”
    I believe that if I can ask myself these three questions before I make a decision I will be better able to discern what God wants for me and of me.

  412. Some quotes i lovedfrom ch 4-6 is “a god-honoring attitude requires me to reflect God’s love as well as the attitude you bring to a situation will be multiplied. I never realized how true these statements are and really opebed my eyes to so many things.

    I also loved the checklists Lysa disvlosed when making decisions as i know for myself it can really narrow a lot down to helping me make my best yes decision.

  413. Amy Punches says:

    Love this!

  414. What spoke to me in chapter 4 was the quote “Left unchecked, my fears, foolishness and feelings will cause me to complicate the decision.
    Right now I am in a state of decision time and perhaps answering a call. This quote had me stopped in my tracks to evaluate what I have unchecked. Truth is fear is causing me to doubt, foolishness is distracting my focus and my emotions are causing me to over think. This is where I must put into practice wisdom from God’s truth into my decision. This is where my faith must be willing to look deeper than just at the surface.
    I am still praying and seeking the “yes or no” answer. I am still seeking God’s will. Yes, I am that person that would love for a neon sign to drop down with God saying “Yes” or “No”. But then where would the lesson of listening to the voice of the Holy Spirit be? I want discernment, not a gut feeling.
    Please pray I will find the answer that I am seeking. And that I will have peace and clarity when it presents itself. Thanks you!

    • Shannon – I will be praying for you as I am in the same situation and my unglorified and undignified request of the Lord was to give me a post it note with my assignment on it….. so sad that instead of opening my heart to hear a response I wanted the McDonalds drive through answer.

      Love and light
      Mandy

  415. The thing that spoke most to my heart was the ability to be consistent and the respect that it allows someone to have. The wise woman was regarded by all as wise because she was consistent about it she has a reputation for being wise and being dependable. I have struggled due to over commitment and perfectionism in being the unreliable and late one all the time the one that cant make a decision so instead I wait til the last minute and I am not prepared for anything. Years ago it was an adrenaline rush to have to wait til the last minute and get a paper in or do a project now it just causes me heartache with those around me, stomach acid of worry and tiredness that my body can no longer accomplish as I age. I need to read and meditate on being the person that I want to be in my heart by using “yes” and “no” to cultivate the type of reliable and organized person I want to be.

    Until reading this chapter I don’t think I ever had a real idea what discernment was other than throwing the word around vaguely like a five dollar word or something executives do to look smart. Utilizing the three questions and knowing that you have to really research and have knowledge both in God’s word and in the reality of the facts of things before making a decision. While everything is steeped in his word, the guidance of the Holy Spirit and the wise counsel he has around us I need to expand and learn about things too and take the responsibility of really honing what I want things to be and look like. For example it is not enough for me to say I want to be organized and dependable – I need to become organized and dependable and a way to do that is to learn more about tools, techniques, people and places that will help in my success of that. Recently I have read a great book that focuses on TIME INVESTMENT instead of just spending time this has spoken to my heart and the Christian author is someone that I consider that number 3 type of person that is indirectly giving me counsel in my life.

    I don’t yet have it all right but just like last night telling my students to read the bible it rang in my ears that it is time for this Catholic girl to do that too (my mom said last week that Catholics just don’t do those things – but they should – you know how mom’s talk). I have been starved of God’s word and working off the seat of my pants for way too long there is no cliff notes way to get through it, no way around it but consistent patience and quiet. To be who I desire to become the best version of myself its time to put the work in and create structures that will support not only today but for years to come.

    Blessings to all

    Mandy

  416. Charlotte Richardson says:

    I have not had the opportunity to read chapter 4,on my reading list tonight, but I have been mulling over the information from above. I think the area I struggle most with in saying yes or no is my children. We are a busy family and working to discern if some activities need to change, but when it comes to school involvement I have a hard time balancing the best answer. For instance, my kids have a jog a thon every year which requires collecting fundraising. the need to carve out time to talk to neighbors is being weighed with going to the gym for my personal health and making dinner. And today is the best day. Do I forgo a personal need for today in order to fulfill the kids need? It’s just an example of how easy I struggle with finding what the best yes is in relation to kids.

  417. Latoya Heard says:

    There was a quote in Chapter 4 that just jumped off the page at Me: “but then there are other decisions we just simply need to say yes or no to and move on. find that courageous yes. Fight for the confident no. Know it. State it. Own it. And move on without all the complication.” This spoke volumes to Me.

    If only I had read this two years ago when I started saying Yes out of obedience to man instead of obedience to God. It definitely made my life much more complicated than it had to be…it affected me, my marriage and those I came in contact with. God’s purpose for my life could not go forth because of it. I have definitely learned my lesson. And I’m still learning.

    I remember a former pastor saying We need to learn the anointed word NO!

  418. Latoya Heard says:

    There was a quote in Chapter 4 that just jumped off the page at Me: “but then there are other decisions we just simply need to say yes or no to and move on. find that courageous yes. Fight for the confident no. Know it. State it. Own it. And move on without all the complication.” This spoke volumes to Me.

    If only I had read this two years ago when I started saying Yes out of obedience to man instead of obedience to God. It definitely made my life much more complicated than it had to be…it affected me, my marriage and those I came in contact with. God’s purpose for my life could not go forth because of it. I have definitely learned my lesson. And I’m still learning.

    I remember a former pastor saying We need to learn the anointed word NO!

  419. What is really speaking to me is attitude.Having a good and positive about things going on in my life makes a.big difference. In the way I see the world around me, Getting my attitude right with.God helps me with everything that goes on. Just knowing that when I put God first and doing things that honor Him makes all the difference .

  420. What stood out to me as I read and reread over chapter four was the statement Lysa makes about putting our hearts and minds in places where wisdom gathers, not scatters.
    All my life I have been a scatter brain; often I lean toward the side of ditsy, and I struggle with keeping my thoughts together. I had gotten to the point where I was mostly okay with being considered dumb sometimes. I would always run to my mom to make the hard decisions for me, and I had begun running to my husband to do the same. I’ve found it makes me an extremely dependent person, not at all like the great P31 woman we all want to be. Reading this made me realize that God didn’t make me to embrace the inner blonde. He didnt make me to run to others for every decision. I am to seek out His wisdom, not lurk in the corner hiding from it! He longs for me – and every woman like me – to actively seek it out in a desperate search for more of Him! Thank you, Lysa, for putting into words what has taken me so long to figure out.

  421. So today I listened to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and took something off of my plate. This decision directly impacts my daughter’s involvement in a homeschool band that meets once a week, but is a 40minute drive from our home on an already busy day. She was in total agreement, not because she doesn’t like playing her flute, but because she agrees that it just adds stress into our day and it’s not a Best Yes decision to continue. Lysa, thank you for sharing your journey and equipping us so that we can become wise women as well!

  422. Wow this chapter just took a page out of my life and told the world. I’m so guilty of being that person who worries too much and runs through the WHAT IF all the time and second guessing myself. The three questions that were posed in the chapter really struck me and made me realize how more times than not I don’t take that approach to my issues. Those three questions are going to be my new direction to approaching my issues.

  423. Marsha Carter says:

    There have been many things that I have underlined in this book, The Best Yes. I have written in the margins, wrote in my journal, highlighted in my Bible and for some reason, in chapter four, I noted a quote that just leaped off the page and landed in my heart! On page 43, Lysa is talking about Abigail being wise and how people trusted her because she had been known to make wise decisions in the past. She said scripture “labeled” her as being a “wise woman”. THEN, she said what I absolutely loved…”But wisdom wasn’t just her label; it was also her lifestyle.”
    I lost my uncle this past week and I am facing a funeral this Friday. I have some family from out of town coming to stay with me and to be perfectly honest, I love them and want to see them, but I dread the distraction and having to entertain. This comes at a bad time because I have a cousin from the same family also getting married this Saturday. I have had to say to my mother, I just don’t know if I can go to this wedding or not. I will have to wait and see what the week holds. It felt good to say, I don’t know yet. Too many times I have said ‘yes’ because I WANTED to go or felt like I SHOULD go. Today, I just stated the facts; I really don’t know yet. The truth shall set you free! I knew not to overwhelm myself. This week was going to be emotional enough. I knew my children and my husband (who just had back surgery four days ago) would need all of me this weekend. And so would God. I wanted my Best Yes, to be for God and my family.

  424. Hi girls … this is a week 1 carryover but thought I’d share anyway … i just read the section on Knowledge, Insight, & Discernment … and realized that the acronym is KID!! So we can remember these three by saying this time, it’s okay to “KID” ourselves on making the decision for #thebestyes ;o)

  425. The one thing that stood out to me in reading chapter 4 is the difference between knowledge, insight and discernment. You really have it right Lysa and I had just never thought of it biblically.

  426. Some of my favorite truths from Chapter 4
    It’s not about trusting ourselves, rather its about trusting the Holy Spirit to do what Jesus promised us.
    We’ve got to practice wisdom in the everyday places of our lives.
    God has woven into us the ability to discern what is best.

    Ultimately my biggest takeaway from this chapter is to trust God and Jesus. To trust what Jesus did on the cross for us. To trust that in making these big decisions God will be there with us, providing for us. We have to trust that God has a plan for us and that we have the ability to not only make the decisions but that God has given us the ability to make capable and good decisions.

  427. This chapter 4 reminded me to see God in all things and to embrace not only the bigger picture, but everyday-life…everyday decisions and choices that God has given me the ability to discern with less complication, in knowledge and insight. The questions Lysa asked will help along with trusting that the Holy Spirit will keep God’s Word in my heart, soul and mind!

  428. God’s word addresses my approach. P 52, the word of God also instructs the approach we should have to life.
    For me, I have to be in the word more so I am inline with what my approach needs to be on that activity. So many times I have said Yes out of guilt or wanting to please people which toatlly was not the direction God wanted me to take. The stress of it all bankrupt me physically and spirtually. Life lesson learned.

  429. I am loving this book- very needed at this season in my life. I have not given a confident no yet but am using the tools given to evaluate the yes’s I have given and making sure God is first in ach of those and as anything knew comes up I am gaining the empowerment of the Best Yes and the confident no. Thanks Lysa!!

  430. vickie mullins says:

    Just getting to read it. Again. love chapter 4 love. Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.

  431. Elizabeth Evans says:

    “People let foolishness take them places they don’t want to go.” This sentence jumped out at me. Currently, I’m dealing with some women at work, who are supposed to be professionals, who act like they are back in high school. They gossip all day long. I mean it. All. Day. Long! Of course, I’m not a part of that crowd since I go to work to do my job. It has almost caused me to do and say things that I would soon regret. I am so thankful that I have God Who helps me to stay out of such foolishness. I am too old and too invested in my career to get swept away by this. I pray that I will grow significantly in wisdom by the time this study is over.

  432. I’m enjoying learning that it’s the small things from which we receive our greater blessings. Its in the smaller promptings from the Holy Spirit that orchestrate our larger destinies. Being a woman who does many things at one time and continues doing them until late in the evening I always wondered what it meant when others would say they would hear the Holy Spirit tell them to go to the store or turn a certain direction I though how stupid you really wait to hear a voice giving you these small directions, I know what I’m supposed to do everyday I don’t have time for that…lol. I could never hear that voice……I studied the Word everyday, reading the prescribed scriptures…never stopping to listen because I was continually going 100 mph 24/7. Maybe this is where I have missed hearing God…

  433. What stuck with me after reading chapter 4, “Wisdom makes decisions today that will still be good tomorrow”. I think in any decision we make, we need to see who will be hurt or what we learn from it. Also, Lysa insight by asking the 3 questions when making a decision, 1. Have you been reading and praying through God’s Word lately? 2. Have you been applying God’s Word in your life lately? 3. Have you sought godly counsel and insights from wise people who know specifics about your situation? I’ve been very lucky, I have many wise and godly people in my life. A lot of people don’t have anyone to turn too. I’ve been enjoying reading “The Best Yes”.

  434. De Jordan says:

    “The daily stuff…” “They are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of wisdom.” I have to practice wisdom in the everyday places of my life.

  435. Lara Lee Bugeja says:

    I loved in Chapter 4 how Lysa goes through how we gain knowledge by acquiring truth, insight is gained by living out these truths aand discernment is wisdom that comes from the Holy Spirit’s promptings to remember what we know. BUT . . . this is not a big “AHA!!” moment . . . it is practicing this wisdom in our EVERYDAY LIVES!!! It will not be acquired one day when we have a super-charged church service or holy experience – it is acquired by praccticing in every day. So good!!!

  436. Kimberly Holen says:

    I continually need to remind myself that the everyday little things are really the biggest blessing! Fills my heart with reassurance and guidance to be in the moment. Be unrushed !

  437. Paige Warren says:

    Hey! My name is Paige and this is my first time commenting! I am a new wife and just started dental school! My time is definitely stretched and I am catching up for the week! Out of Ch. 4 I found the part about putting ourselves in situations where wisdom gathers and not scatters to be powerful! I find that so often it is easier to go with the flow, and not always guard our hearts by the friends we choose. I struggle with this in school, being around so many science minded people and not many strong believers! This study so far has been wonderful, as it has made me consider where I am spending my time!

  438. Using those 3 questions really spoke to me! We are trying to decide about buying a house, and I don’t know if we have made sure that we have been consistently applying God’s word the way we should. I will use these questions to talk to my husband!

  439. I have not been involved with the study for the previous week. We had just purchased a house and we were moving in. Last night my husband had been debating if he should go visit a friend for his birthday or not. It was already late and he had spent any free minute trying to get the house in order (after work). I told him that he could not be there for everything; he needed to rest. This reminded me of the study and I told him that you have to determine what is best that he can not say yes to everything (he is a people pleaser) especially this week with little sleep (bed at midnight and up at 4am). We have to listen to that still small voice and that will guide our way. We have to learn when to say yes and I appreciate you writing this book. It is giving me closer on things that I had an intuition on now it is starting to bring me into knowledge. So far my favorite quote is “The decisions I (you) make determine the schedule I (you) keep. The schedule I (you) keep determines the life I (you) live. And how I (you) live my (your) life determines how I (you) spend my (our) soul.” Re-worded for me.

  440. Melchorita Fahey says:

    What I have learned in Chapter 4 that can help me move into a place of victory in my specific struggle is to put my heart and mind in places where wisdom gathers not scatters because wisdom makes decisions today that will will still be good tomorrow.

  441. I like the sentence “we can learn right here, right now in the midst of all that is daily how to become wise.” I work a lot at home. My stepdaughter is in university but still living with us, so she is home a lot. Sometimes I feel like my workday is being interrupted by her presence. I have been working with God a lot about this and found more often than not, He asks me to spend time with her anyway – that it is part of the work and the role that He needs me specifically to do. She doesn’t know Christ and has never been to church – it’s a delicate topic in the family. But she does know me and I live with her and I can do all kinds of things for her if I get out of the way and let Christ shine through me to her. From a time management perspective, it does not always seem wise, but being there for her does indeed feel like a Best Yes.

  442. I wish I had better understood the following from Chapter 4 when my children were little:
    “The daily stuff- those responsibilities that seem more like distractions- those things we want to rush and just get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life- those things that are unnoticed places of services? THEY ARE THE VERY EXPIERENCES FROM WHICH WE UNLOCK THE RICHES OF WISDOM.”

    When my children were little I was always trying to get through something to get to something else. Sometimes I actually remembered to live in the moment but it is hard when so many demands on your time are coming at you. But my Best Yes back then was caring for my family. The world often distracts us from that by telling us we can have and do it all. Something will always suffer so KNOW YOUR BEST YES…

  443. Jessica Coffey says:

    I realized that I haven’t been doing those three things that are questioned in the book — reading and praying through God’s word, applying His word in my life, and seeking Godly counsel. No wonder I’m confused half the time! I need to start there…

    I also loved connecting this chapter with last week’s in the reminder that I shouldn’t despise the mundane. My everyday responsibilities and even the smallest decisions are opportunities for me practice wisdom and listen quietly for the Holy Spirit to guide me.

  444. Ashley Hicks says:

    The daily stuff – those responsibilities that seem more like distractions- those things are the unnoticed places of service. Makes me look at the things I was dreading in a whole need way.

  445. What about today’s chapter spoke to your heart? p 41 – The daily stuff…they are the very experiences from which we unlock the riches of our wisdom.
    Have you found that courageous yes and that confident no? No. If you haven’t, what is one thing you learned in Chapter 4 to help you? p 39 – Bible study, church, connecting with the right people, mind engaged with truth… Great chapter!

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