P.R.A.Y.

Melissa SherlinHi all, it’s Melissa Sherlin here from the Bible Study Skills team! Each Wednesday, we’ll share a skill to apply to your Unglued study time … and I’m happy to start this journey of imperfect progress with you!!

In fact, imperfection may be one of my greatest areas of expertise! I’ve messed up …  A LOT! So when I read these words from Lysa TerKeurst on page 14 of Unglued, it really resonates with my heart: “What kept me from making changes was the feeling that I wouldn’t do it perfectly.”

This reminded me of the fears that came flooding when I first began studying the Bible. I knew I needed a biblical perspective on my struggles, but I was afraid I wouldn’t study God’s Word correctly. Ever been there?

This is why I’m so thankful for the wisdom Lysa gives on pages 22-23 for how to change our thought patterns. She reminds us: “We won’t develop new responses until we develop new thoughts.”

And the whole idea of developing new thoughts comes straight from God’s Word. Remember Romans 12:2a, our weekly verse? “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Week 1 Verse - Romans 12:2A (NIV)

To help me with this mind-renewing process, I use the acronym, “PRAY,” and I pray it helps you, too! 🙂

P is for Prayer

Yes! Turning to God in prayer is a powerful perspective changer — Amen?! And writing down what God reveals to us through prayer can help to process what He’s speaking to our hearts. We can ask God to:

  • Reveal any emotions we need to work on
  • Show us the other person’s perspective
  • Help us see good in others and the situation

R is for Read/Reflect

Sweet friends, God’s Word holds tremendous transformation power when it comes to our perspectives!! And we can plug into that power when becoming “Unglued” is threatening to be our reaction. We can:

  • Read a quick devotional
  • Reflect back to Bible passages we’ve recently read that apply

A is for Apply

To help us apply God’s ways in our moments of weakness, we can:

  • Create a prayer prompt (an item we wear such as a bracelet that reminds us to stop and pray when feeling unglued)
  • Recite Scripture from memory or from a card we create with go-to verses on it

Y is for Yield

Transforming our minds takes more than knowledge. To yield is to give way to GOD’S WAY when we want to come unglued. But remember friends, this is a choice. Will you commit with me today to begin YOUR imperfect progress by Praying, Reading/Reflecting, Applying and Yielding?

Let’s Chat:

Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with?

Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? If so, share it with us. If not, that’s okay. You can get a lot of great ones today in the comment section!

Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? You can use this printable as a guide:

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  1. Happy #BibleStudySkills day! Another helpful and powerful tool to get us in God’s word and spending intimate time with Jesus! Thanks Melissa S!

    O: I refer to myself as a slayer of time and I hate it! I am blessed with an abundance of time and all to often I let it slip away, waste it on nothing!
    B: My life verse is Psalm 73:26, “My flesh and my heart may fail but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” This verse keeps me grounded, encouraged and thankful!
    S: I spend a minimum of two hours a day with God – my first hour every morning and the last hour of my day. I often say this time is structured but beautiful because it is time I never allow myself to miss and is filled with pretty much exactly what we learned today. I am going to use our printable guide as a way to add another hour or two with HIM!

    • Jem Renee Morgan P31 OTeam says:

      I love Bible Study Skills Wednesday’s!!

    • Jackie P31 O Team says:

      I love how you recognize your issue with time management but it is wonderful that despite that, you still allow morning and nighttime for studying/meditation on His word…

  2. O – Feeling worthy
    B – Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in Heaven. Matthew 5:16. God wants me to shine. This speaks deeply to my heart.
    S – Writing it down is screaming out my name. I truly need to be better about recording my thoughts and what I’m hearing from God. I plan to put that into action right now.

  3. Jen Rasor says:

    Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with? Letting go of the past and believing in good things for my future.
    Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? Isaiah 55:12a-““So you’ll go out in joy, you’ll be led into a whole and complete life.” (MSG)
    Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? I think it will help me tremendously to engage in prayer, reading & reflecting, applying what I’m learning and what God is showing me, and yielding to God’s way. It will help me to stay peaceful amidst normally upsetting circumstances, and will help me to respond to people in a more Godly manner instead of reacting to people and situations when they are not the way I want them to be. It will help me actually live in the freedom that is already mine in Christ.

    • Nia Moore says:

      I love this community and being able to encourage each other with our struggles! Especially when you are going through the same thing. I struggle with letting go of the past- past failures, mistakes, limitations, etc. But I like what Paul says in Phil 3:13-14- But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
      I am encouraged with you today to forget what lies behind, but to keep my gaze on Jesus Christ. Paul was a persecutor of the brethren. I can imagine the thoughts of condemnation that threatened to attack his identity. “Remember what you used to do”…”Remember when”…but look at the man that Paul became! When Jesus calls us, it is in spite of our limitations because He knows the potential that lies dormant within us. He knows our heart toward Him. If anyone is in Christ, He is a new creation ( a new creature altogether)…all things are become new! God has great things in store!! Isaiah 49:13-14 MSG-
      Forget about what’s happened;
      don’t keep going over old history.
      Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new.
      It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it?
      There it is! I’m making a road through the desert

      • These are great verses! I too struggle with moving past – past struggles and situations where I have felt hurt!

        • The situations where I’ve felt hurt are some of the hardest for me to let go of. Especially when it’s by someone who’s not in my life anymore or who doesn’t play as important of a role in my life as they once did. If it’s someone who stayed in my life, I can usually forgive pretty easily, and even the ones who haven’t, I’ve forgiven, yet I can never quite completely let go of the hurt.

      • “Forget about what’s happened;
        don’t keep going over old history.
        Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. “— simply loved this.. really we need to encourage, trust and give hope for the one who really regret for the past and want to renew their life “As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby:
        3 If so be ye have tasted that the Lord is gracious.
        4 To whom coming, as unto a living stone, disallowed indeed of men, but chosen of God, and precious, “(1 Peter 2-4)
        very happy to join in this community -OBS..Praise the LORD

      • Wow! Thanks so much Nia! I love the verses you shared as well and your reminders from the Word with the example of Paul really touched my heart. <3

    • I love Philippians 3:13-14 too. I have quite the rocky past filled with poor choices and A LOT of spiritual warfare. It was really hard to move beyond the control that Satan placed over me. It was hard to believe that I could do any good for the Kingdom ever again when I had done so much damage. That verse helped so much. If anyone understood needing to move beyond his past it was Paul!!

      • Jackie P31 O Team says:

        Hi sara!
        What a wonderful testimony of Gods grace in your life! It is never to late and God will use your life to impact many lives. God bless!

      • I think what’s been even harder for me is mistakes I’ve made since becoming a Christian. Those are the things that I really have a hard time forgiving myself for and not condemning myself over. But you are right, if anyone understood needing to move beyond their past, it certainly was Paul!

  4. O- for me I think it’s feeling that I am worthy and truly believing that I am not the summation of my past and that he past does not dictate my future. I read it I ve heard it but yet I don’t feel yet I truly believe it see down

    B- Jeremiah 29:11 is my go to verse in times of difficulty or struggle or unknown times.

    S- I think yield is the big one for me… I’m used to bring the fixer and need to remind myself if I’m struggling and can’t get past it or its overwhelming I need to give it up to God as it was probably never meant for me to handle it fix it was for God

    • I feel your pain.

    • Nia Moore says:

      I am and have experienced the same thing. I hope you don’t mind me sharing this writing with you. I think it fits what you posted about not feeling worthy:
      A Redeemer is someone who brings honor and goodness to something again.
      This morning, I came across Psalm 107:2 (NLT). It says, “Has the Lord redeemed you? Then speak out! Tell others he has redeemed you from your enemies.”
      I hope our blogs, videos, and devotionals will motivate and encourage you to keep moving forward in the Lord. The Lord can’t be our Redeemer, if we never went through anything that caused us to lose our sense of self-worth, value, honor, or goodness. He can’t be our Provider, if we never experienced a time of lack. He can’t be our Comforter if we never experienced anything that caused hurt, loss, discouragement, or pain.
      The title of my writings will be called, “The Grace to Start Over.” Over the next few writings I will share how this name came about. The short version is that I had endured a “Peter experience.” You know, when Peter committed the most unfathomable deed? He denied Jesus, not once but three times (Luke 22:61-62). This was Peter’s road dog, Jesus. The Jesus that taught him how to pray. The Jesus that gave him power to overcome demons and heal the sick (Matthew 10:1). The Jesus who took him in, cleaned him up, broke bread with him, walked on water with him…you get the idea. He turned on one of his best friends, and this broke Peter down to his core.
      Maybe you didn’t deny Jesus, but you have experienced some pain that has hurt you to your core. Like Peter, you thought you would never do some of the things you have done. You would never become a drug addict or alcoholic, you would never commit abortion, you would never sleep around with different men or women, you would never lie, you would never cheat, you would never steal, you would never watch porn, you would never gossip, you would never commit adultery, you would never become pregnant, you would never lose your job, you would never sell your body, you would never mistreat and abuse your children the way you were as child, you would never…you would never…you would never.
      Friends, I have been there too. I was a faithful member in the church, teaching Bible study, encouraging others in the Word…when I found out I was pregnant with my second child. What were the people going to think? I was only 21 years old. How would others respond to me now? What did Jesus think? Although, I heard the Bible verse that says, “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Rom. 8:1),” I could not help but take a downward spiral into condemnation, guilt, and defeat. The enemy shut my mouth in shame. My passion for God, His Word, and the church was lost. And this…was just the beginning.
      It took me a little over a year, to get to the place I am today (and that’s just for this trial, trust me; there is much more to this story than this chapter). I have learned that God ‘hides’ hidden treasures in dark places (Isaiah 45:3). Today, I am learning what it means to be forgiven, cleansed, accepted, chosen, and unconditionally loved by a loving God and Father. He wants you to know that He can do the same thing for you, today! He can take the darkest places in your life, and use them to get the most glory from your life. He can take your mess, and turn it into a message. He can give you beauty for your ashes, joy for your mourning, and praise for your broken places. Will you let Him do that? You don’t have to decide today, but I pray that you will continue to follow me on this journey…because guess what? God will give us the GRACE to start over!
      “You are His daughter (or son)
      Whom he loves
      With you, He is well pleased.”
      Grace part.1 = God’s underserved favor, God’s forgiving mercy

      • Lynn Fuhs says:

        I too struggle with getting over my past. I made some horrific mistakes … endured a very bad marriage and have brought the garbage with me into my new one which is now over 20 years old. I feel that my husband has been decimated by my attitudes and need for control over the years. I know what the Scripture says but have a hard time applying it to my life. My self-will is another BIG problem for me which leads to failure in yielding to do the right thing even when I know what the right thing is.

      • Nia, thank you for sharing Isaiah 45:3 – what a beautiful verse! I too struggle with guilt and shame of my past! But I do believe God is working in me to bring me to a place where I will shine for Him. It’s overwhelming many times, but I remind myself of King David. He was considered “a man after God’s own heart” and yet he made some terrible choices in His life. God, showed him his sin, David repented and God put him back in right-standing with Him and even make him a great King! What an amazing God we serve! The fact that He stoops down to us while we are still in our sin (He doesn’t wait for us to get our act together), to love and comfort us is truly the most beautiful love story ever told.

    • I too struggled with letting my past go and feeling like I was worthy. I did some things in my past that I am not proud to admit. I used to go to the bars to get drunk, I got high, I squander my sexuality, I had one failed relationship after another. I was screaming for love! It wasn’t until I gave my life over to God did I feel that emptiness dissappear. However, I still condemned myself for all of the wrong doings I did in my past. It wasn’t until I read the “The Mended Heart” when I gave up my past and started to look forward. I recommend reading the book! Everyday I worship God and surrender my life to him. I give God my blank sheet of paper every morning for him to write my story. It took me awhile to wrap my head around the fact that God has forgiven me of all of my sins and has wiped the slate cleaned. So if God isn’t reflecting on my past then why should I? I encourage you to pray asking God to take away the condemnation. To see yourself as someone who is loved by God for exactly how you are! God loved you before he created the world! His love for us is unconditional and there is nothing you can do to make him stop loving you! You are a beautiful work of God who was hand crafted for a purpose! You are chosen, loved, forgiven, and redeemend! God loves you and so do we!!! 🙂

      • Thanks for sharing this! I got the book and was going to go through that OBS study on my own. Might have to wait until after this one is over to go through that. Your message gave me confirmation that I need to do that. While not knowing your past, I feel like mine pairs right in line with yours and I have been hoping for freedom from my past for over five years now, and still just can’t seem to let go of it. I know Jesus has, but I still hold onto it to my own destruction and I know that’s not what God has for me, and I know that it’s a sin to keep holding on it, I just can’t seem to let it go.. Definitely an ongoing battle of mine.

    • To every lady here, I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. I understand as I do too. I’ve learned that only Jesus can fill those places within in are so wounded and lonely, that try to trust in the Lord’s love. Yet like Ruth, leaving it behind to follow and focus on the Lord is the best way. Praying that each of us becomes the free women in Christ that He wants us to be, shining His love in the world 🙂

  5. O- sometimes I get so caught up in my to-do list that I forget what’s really important and what God has for me each day. My kids won’t remember the dishes not being done or the pile of laundry that hasn’t been folded. But they will remember the times I sat down and played a game with them, or taught them how to make cookies for the first time, or taught them how to sew or learn an instrument.
    B- Hebrews 12:1-2, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by a great cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin that so easily ensures us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that set before Him endured the cross, despising the same, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
    S- I am printing your guide out right now and plan to cut them out and laminate them so I can re use them whenever I need a new perspective on my devotions. Thanks for your guidance! I read my bible each afternoon during my kids quiet time and each night as well. I like to end my day with His word in my mind.

    • What a great way to use the printable, Janelle! Very creative 🙂

    • Janelle, You are a wise mother! I am now a grandmother, and often tell my two daughters that being a mom is the most important job they will ever have. They are both learning that dishes and housecleaning can wait, that time spent with children and sharing God’s truths with them are far more important.

      • Being OCPD, it has been hard to learn that housekeeping and dishes can wait….but I admit…I am getting better at that. lol I have found a lot of quality time with my kids while doing the dishes. We use to have a dish washer, now we don’t. I have often said that not having a dish washer has been a huge blessing because when the kids (13 & 17) or my spouse help me to do the dishes, we talk about our day, the kids tell stories about their friends, what books they are reading, etc…even a little towel fight now and then just for fun. Having them help, makes dishes go faster and doesn’t overwhelm me…leaving me more time to spend with them and opens conversation with them.

    • Gloria Hamilton says:

      I struggle here too! I am learning my house does not have to be perfect but my kids need to feel I love them

    • great idea with laminating it!! Thanks for sharing!!

    • Darla Fletcher says:

      I love the idea of laminating them!

    • Loving the laminating idea 🙂 Thank you!

    • That is a great way to use the print out. Thanks for sharing.

    • I’m sorry – which printable? Is it the one to download in the email from yesterday?

  6. O – My biggest struggle is letting go of the past, letting go of mistakes, believing that I am worthy of a future and working towards that future.

    B – My go to verse is psalm 46:5 “God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.”. It’s a good reminder for me that I am not alone, that I am loved, I have help, that I am strong.

    S – I think the “Yield” component is going to be the biggest part for me. I try so hard to control everything, to fix everything, to have a plan for everything and I need to remind myself that God has got this, to trust in His plan, in His timing and not my own. Changing my thinking and applying what I know and have learned is the biggest thing I struggle with I think.

    • Karen Wenzel says:

      Sarah Jane, (I love your name!) I agree with you and struggle with the yielding as well. I hear the Word, agree with it, but it is so hard to apply and let God do the work. We are comrades in arms together in this. Let us put on the armor of God and let us fight off all the fiery darts of the enemy preventing us from change. Will be praying for both of us 🙂

    • I struggle with the “yielding” also; it is very difficult to simply stop, reflect/read, and just turn over the need to control to God. I know he is with me and that he will take care of everything but boy is that a challenge for me. God does work for us if he is allowed too; if we hold the opportunity from him, he can not take hold of the opportunity to empower us with the knowledge, love and comfort of Jesus Christ.

  7. Kevin Schultz says:

    lately, I’ve struggled with hopelessness & fear. (In middle of a divorce)
    Jer 29:11 I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    I find comfort in hearing God tell me that He plans for me to prosper, and not to harm me. Plans to give me hope and a future. Divorce is so ugly and I was the one being “dumped”. It came at a time when I was working on recovery from 12 years of violent physical & sexual abuse as a child. I did not see the divorce coming. I refer to this verse to see that God is offering me hope! My fears are subsiding when I hear God declare He has plans for my future. The battlefield is in my mind. I have to be on constant guard to bring negative thoughts into captivity. The enemy comes to steal, kill, & destroy, but Jesus comes to give me life, & life more abundantly!

    • Lynne Atterberry says:

      Oh, I so understand! That battlefield of the mind is a terrible thing and con sometimes be so hard to get out of. Good thing we have God on our side of the battle.

  8. Nikki (P31 O-Team) says:

    O: renewing my mind at work. To stay positive and be a shining light for God.
    B: Joshua 1:9- do not be discouraged for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
    S: to stop and PRAY when frustrations arise.

  9. My biggest struggles are (1) My reaction (instead of response) when something doesn’t go right or my plans change; (2) Letting go of mistakes and regrets, etc. I need to remember to pray first instead of freaking out first. When I do pray, God always gives me a song in my heart (literally) and my prayer turns into song. And then I find that lost item I’m looking for, or I receive peace in a situation, etc. He is so good! I have several verses, but one thing I always remember from back when my husband and I went through a really, really difficult time is GOD WILL MAKE A WAY WHEN THERE SEEMS TO BE NONE!

  10. O – I have MS & other problems & sometimes I get frustrated because I can’t do all the things I used to be able to do in the amount of time it used to take. Everything takes longer & is harder to do.
    B – Jeremiah 29:11 is always my verse. I say it to myself whenever I get frustrated, because I know God’s plans for me are good & to give me a hope & a future. No matter who we are, no matter what stage of life we are in that is always God’s promise to us.
    S – spending more time in the word. I love reading Devotionals & studying God’s word, I just wish there were more hours in the day. I don’t think I’m the only person who thinks that. But I will try to set aside more than the 1 to 2 hours I spend currently. There is always the weekend to add some reading time. Anyway, this is making me think. Thank you.

    • I am with you on the wishing there was more time! Right now I journal for 30 minutes and do the First 5 app experience guide for 30 minutes, and oh how I wish I could add an extra 1-2 hours on top of that! The revelation God provides from his word makes me want to spend all my hours with him! However, I do know he is calling me not to just take information in, but live that information out. I feel like touching base with the OBS bible study throughout the day keeps feeding me in regards to that and helping me to practically live it out as well! 🙂

  11. Something I often struggle with is presuming that someone’s actions may be intended to be dismissive or hurtful towards me when they really aren’t. I tend to jump to conclusions. It causes needless hurt and sometimes distance between myself and others. I know it seems from insecurities
    I have and damaged emotions, mostly from my traumatic childhood. I pray a lot about this tendency to repeat this thought pattern. I pray and
    repeat 2 Corinthians 10:5 often. The Holy Spirit helps me with this verse and I feel like I’m gaining peace in my struggle.
    “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” 2 Corinthians 10:5
    Loving this book and Study so far? Thank you!

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      Melody, I also have a tendency to jump to conclusions and get my feelings hurt real easily. I know that with God’s help we can overcome this. Thanks for sharing. God Bless!

  12. O-Don’t try to read more into what is being said. Don’t read between the lines because there isn’t always more to what is being said. Stop! Over thinking.

    B-Psalms 118:14 The Lord is my strength and my defence, He has become my salvation.

    S-Yield to God’s way. Stop to think and pray before reacting.

    • Lynne Atterberry says:

      I tend to overthink and read between the lines too. I love our memory verse for this week. I need to work on renewing my mind.

  13. Observe –
    i feel that i don’t always look at the situation from others perspectives as i am hurt by what is said or done so i don’t see the true picture and jump straight in with sometimes not all the pieces.

    I am dyslexic so i struggle sometimes to process everything going on and in a tough situation i am blinkered to my own feelings. I struggle to say what i mean as sometimes use words in the wrong context so can b v frustrating as i need people to not rush me as i say more things wrong when i am rushed.

    I also find it hard to retain information so can also come unglued when i am told… ” i told u yesterday ….” I will b unglued as to me its sometimes like i am hearing it for the first time and i don’t remember!

    Bible –
    Proverbs 3:5 trust in the lord with all your heart don’t lean on ur own understanding.

    Stretch –
    by helping me get into a better routine of trusting in Jesus.

    • All of the above ~ While I am reading everyone posts, I think,,,,hmmmmm ~ I know I am not alone in Christ but I am also not alone with in my earthly being. I am not dyslexic but I do struggle with my memory on items that just don’t want to plant firmly in my brain; this type of “knowledge lost” happens at work and sometimes at home, mostly because my mind wanders.
      I really like your Bible verse- Proverbs 3:5

  14. Hi,
    Sometimes i fell like being saved exposes me to being insulted and humiliated alot especially because i am sensitive to what i say to people . You try to say things in the best way you can but most people just don’t want to be told they are wrong. i only speak out when i must but i feel people always look down on me. i relly believe the battle is not mine but sometimes its too much, it totally makes me angry yet i cant even fight back wen i get this response i keep wondering why. how do i renew my mind about this then?
    the verse which comes to me is usually 2 Cor 12:9 because i know His grace is sufficient for me i always ask God to give me peace about it, sometimes it comes sometimes it takes time and sometimes i struggle with it alot.
    Am hoping this study for “Unglued” will help me rest when i take it to the Lord in prayer.

    • Anne,
      A lot of my “unglued” happens when I try to convince someone that their way is wrong. I was searching about that yesterday and I found this about speech: Am I being MINDFUL–listen sincerely and show that you value the person; Is there a KINDER way to say it–impulsive/hurtful vs kind/compassionate; Am I being HONEST; Am I speaking with PURPOSE–keep words wise, sweet and short; Would SILENCE be a better option
      So, I’m trying to work on the SILENCE part and the MINDFUL LISTENING part to begin with. I thought that if I listen mindfully in silence for long enough, I might become wiser in my use of words, and, perhaps, need to use them less frequently. Just because I feel that I am right, does not mean that I need to jam it down someone’s throat. I’ve found that doesn’t seem to change their actions or beliefs. This last part is a reflection of my thoughts about what I have taken from these thoughts about speech. They are not instructions to you, as I don’t know your path.

  15. Amanda Bragg says:

    O – My husband and I have dealt with the death of our infant son, followed by infertility, fertility treatments, and a miscarriage this past summer. Sometimes I get so caught up in what the Doctors say and let myself get in a very negative head space. I forget that God is bigger than my circumstances and I need to really focus on that and renew my mind daily!
    B- My theme verse over the past few months has been Luke 1:45. In fact, I just got it tattooed on my arm so I will always see it. “And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord!”
    S- I love “to do” lists and that is how I look at this P.R.A.Y. acronym. I think it is a great place for me to begin to renew my mind and put it into action!

    • Amanda reading your words this morning I sit here in prayer for you because I’ve been through some of that my whole life – 6 miscarriages for me, the loss of a twin by my daughter and the loss of 3 babies by my daughter in law. My DIL and son have one son born with a horrible disease, but God has done miracles that don’t happen with that disease.
      My heart hurts for you knowing what you have walked through, but I can tell you I do have joy and I’ve learned is to pray and release it in His hands. I love John 14:13 that says, “Whatsoever you ask in my name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified.” Also, John 16:23-24 “most assuredly I say to you, whatever you ask the Father in my name.” My joy today and my thanks to Him is the journey that ended in a precious son and daughter who are now married and I know I would never have experienced this joy were it not for that horrible valley I walked through. Our two kids love the Lord with all their heart and I would walk thru the pain again today to have this joy. AND, you know what I know their pain as they have walked through similar journeys and I know some of your pain.

      Sweet one, keep praying, keep knocking on His door. Our daughter walked through the infertility for years and the loss of a twin. She has a precious 9-month old boy.
      Our DIL can have no more children because of the gene and our grandson’s disease, but she has been adopting eggs. She has had 3 miscarriages this year BUT we are still praying, still knocking, still believing that God’s plan is PERFECT and He will give them a child thru these eggs or the way He has planned.
      HUGS and prayers today Amanda. Stay in your studies and keep praying. Be STRONG in the Lord and NEVER give up HOPE!!!!

    • Brenda Crudele says:

      Amanda, I shared the same struggles with miscarriages and infertility and the heartbreak that comes with it all. We , by the grace of God, were blessed with a son and we longed to give him a sibling. After a long time with fertility treatments, we were financially drained and it seemed hope was lost. I grieved for a few months and one day found myself drawn to visit our church. I was alone in the quiet and allowed all my grief and sadness to pour out. In the midst of my sobs, I heard a voice speak, “Patience Brenda”. I was stunned but heard again loud and clear, “Patience….”. I was immediately filled with the love and joy that can only come form His presence! Three months later we were pregnant with our second son…..NO fertility help! Our boys are now 20 and 15 yrs old and we never forget what gifts they are! Find your hope in God and know that He intends GOOD for you!

  16. O – Patience. With everyone. From my independent, strong-willed three year old, to my opinionated grandma, to the slow driver in front of me on the street. I need to look for the blessings in these situations & relationships.

    B – I don’t have a go-to verse, but I’m enjoying getting some great ideas from the other comments.

    S – YES! I KNOW it will help me immensely. The past few weeks have been tough & it’s exactly what I need.

    • Ashley I’ve learned with those opinionated people to just listen. It works. If I argue it’s another story and they don’t listen anyway. I have one of those in my life and it is so much easier than it used to be.
      I’ve learned to pray for the slow driver in front of me or the one that almost runs me off the road. Satan doesn’t want us to do those things, but they glorify Him.

  17. O- One of my biggest struggles is accepting my physical weaknesses, keeping up with what, in my perspective, should be easy and often feeling overwhelmed.
    B- Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
    S- I believe stopping to pray will strengthen my walk with God and also remind me He can handle this so I don’t have to worry or stress!

  18. This P.R.A.Y technic can help me tremendously in my parenting. I’ve got a very smart, beautiful & defiant 4 year old daughter and a 4 month old daughter. My 4 year old is trying very hard to be big and tell me what she’s going to do instead of what mommy has asked her to do. I’ve been praying for some guidance cause sometimes I just want to beat her lol. I love her so much, she just makes me feel like a failure often when she acts like that. I don’t want to react when she does these things. I need a go to verse for this.. Thank you for writing this book and building this study!

    • Melissa Taylor says:

      Hey Heather! I’m so glad you are in our Unglued OBS! 🙂

    • Many years ago, I had a defiant 4 year old little girl with a temper only Satan could have given her; I felt that I was failing her in someway, asked myself what can I do to help her cope to grow and be a productive, nice young women. Good News, they grow with our guidance and patience (many time outs); my daughter is now a Junior at a very nice University, working on an English major and Literature minor, she has a wonderful boyfriend. This could only happen through God in our lives, pray and remember they grow by what they see us do. Your 4 year old daughter will one day be the source of your trip through memory lane in a Bible Study…LOL

  19. O – my main struggle right now is food – I need to see food as something that I only need to survive and that I don’t need a lot of it
    B – Matthew 6:27 – Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? (NIV) – a few years ago this verse just jumped up at me—-and praise God, I barely have any moments of worrying anymore. It’s amazing what He can do. Also, along with this, Phillipians 4:6-7 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
    S – I really like the prayer prompt. I will need to decide on an item that I see everyday, to make me stop and pray.

  20. Mischelle says:

    O – Trying to make it through struggles in my own strength.
    B – Psalms 46:10A”Be still and know that I am God!” (NLT)
    S – I like the idea of wearing a bracelet to remind me of the above verse.

  21. O- My main struggle now is the home front, i love to see every jar full and everything is perfect. i need to embrace the fact that i have to live on tight budget and i my kids wont starve if they eat “unbalanced” meals sometimes.
    B- Phil 4:6-7 ” Do not worry about anything, instead, pray about everything…His peace will guard your heart and mind…”(NLT)
    S- I like the prayer prompt idea,it will remind me to pray at all times.

  22. O-Definitely, Patience. I told my 12 year old son just the other day that he needed to pray for me to have just an ounce of Patience. His response, ” I think you you need to ask for a cup runneth over’!
    B- Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the programmes of your houses and on your gates, do that touchdowns the days of your children may be many in the land that the Lord swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens as are above the earth.
    S-Give it all to God! He wants it anyway. Why make myself or those around me miserable by me getting g frustrated over something when I can stop and PRAY to God at that moment for Him to take over; for Him to lead the way. Oh, it would be so much easier!

  23. O- trusting the Lord more, and spending more time in His Word; is time management struggle,to overcome.
    B- Psalms 46:10 ”Be still and know that I am God”
    S-Prayer prompt is really great. Also having a prayer list.

  24. Observe – Overcoming fears and anxiety
    Bible – 2 Corinthians 10:5
    Stretch – It has helped me God’s truth to my situations the more

  25. O: I struggle with staying calm when I am feeling overwhelmed . I work full time , am married and the mother to my 2 year old daughter. I also struggle with feeling like I’m not strong enough to be able to keep a clean house , be a good mother and wife and also take care of myself mentally and physically . I have high expectations and need to work on letting go of guilt and shame so I can enjoy life .

    B: I don’t have a go to bible verse as of right now but I hope to find some good ones in here.

    S: stopping to PRAY this week can help me give all my worries and feelings of being overwhelmed to him . I hope this will help me to not overreact and say hurtful things to my husband as well. I want to give my worries and stress to Him so I can enjoy life again

    • Jem Renee Morgan P31 OTeam says:

      Kara so glad you are with us on this study. That’s ok about not having a go to verse yet. Hopefully you will find one through the suggestions on the other comments. God Bless!

  26. Beth Stuart says:

    My “go to” scripture is in Galations—the FRUITS of the spirit. Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Goodness, Kindness, Gentleness and Self-Control. Except in my life, I need to hold “Self-Control” as what I look to first, because w/o that, I feel the other’s are hard for me. And I also call it “God-Control” instead of SELF-control….I cant do any of it w/o God. For sure! I saw a great post on Facebook the other week. It said something about, instead of ACTING like a Christian, try REACTING like a Christian. YES! This is what my “natural world” (Work, etc.) is watching for. How does my faith make me “unusual”. How can I have “uncommon reactions” to “common things”. Every day is a gift to be able to “give it another shot”. I’m not where I need to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be!

    • Beverly Stephens says:

      I like how you put that Beth; instead of ACTING like a Christian, try REACTING like a Christian. Also, How can I have “uncommon reactions” to “common things”. I really need to work on this. Thanks for sharing. I am going to write this up to remind me to pray when I feel like REACTING in a “common way” to “common things”.

    • Thank you Beth – imperfect progress like what Lysa says in the book. You are doing it!

  27. I suffer from low self self-esteem, I have my whole life since I went to jail a lot more.

    • Hi Stacy,
      I felt led this morning to tell you that you are God’s treasure! His word says that He remembers our sin NO MORE when we confess it and trust Jesus to be our Savior. We all come to Him broken, full of regret and mistakes, but He only sees us as beautiful, redeemed masterpieces! You are God’s princess and He LOVES you, no matter what. So it’s okay to love and forgive yourself, too. He has thrown our sin into the depths of the sea and will remember it no more. Take care!

    • Stacey,
      I just wanted you to know that your post touched my heart. I believe an awful lot of us suffer from self-esteem issues of some kind. I want you to know that God pursues you my dear. God has chosen to come after you and loves you so much… that in and of itself should help you to know you are worthy of Him.

      I’m going to quote something from a Kasey VanNorman study I just finished and I hope she doesn’t mind because I think this may be relevant for your heart at this time. She said:
      “If you can live by the following 2 principles, I will go so far as to say that, regardless of what happens to you, God will be so great in you that each day will be the best of your life. These foundational realities are the theme for week 4.
      *Before God formed you, he knew you. You are divinely knit together
      *Before God formed you, he set you apart for a specific purpose. You are called to a divine destiny.
      I believe with all my heart that if we would allow these truths to seep deep into our pores, we would fall so in love with Christ that we would live each moment of our present free from worry, doubt, insecurity, anxiety, depression, bitterness, jealousy, and fear”
      Kasey’s words from Jesus impacted my heart greatly. Although I appear to the outside world that I have it all together and I’m confident and comfortable with myself – I have hidden years of insecurity and self-esteem issues behind that facade.
      Clinging to the knowledge that Jesus made me just the way I am – he’s my potter and I’m the clay – means that He will provide me what I need… maybe not what I want – but definitely what I need to be His vessel using the gifts He’s given me for His kingdom. I pray today that Jesus helps you see your worth through His eyes and not your own. That you fully comprehend His love for you regardless of your past. That YOU were named by God to be one of his children. My dear friend – He pursues and wants YOU to be close to him – that is simply breathtaking to realize.
      Praying your heart will be overcome with peace and the ability to look at yourself through the lens of Jesus and how much He cares for and believes in you.

  28. Beverly Stephens says:

    O — Being overwhelmed with a busy week. I get stressed and panic — Could definitely use a “transformed mind”
    B — Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
    S — I need to remember to STOP and PRAY and be honest with God how I am feeling. I need to not allow my thoughts to be distracted by my outward world (all the voices/situations clamoring for my attention) to overwhelm me emotionally and then to think all the things that cause me to panic and shutdown. I will TAKE it to GOD and seek HIS COUNSEL/WISDOM and find my REST in HIM ALONE. So I will PRAY SCRIPTURE over myself and LISTEN FOR GOD’S REPLY. Then YIELD as I put into action what I have heard from God.

  29. Heather T says:

    I struggle with my reactions and negative words/criticism to my oldest daughter. Usually out of stress about other things.
    I don’t have any verses memorized.
    I need to find a way to not react so quickly.

    • I am guilty of this with my daughter in law; it is very easy to be critical; of course, on the flip side of the coin, she pushes to see a reaction. My relationship with her has been murky for years and I would like to learn to be stronger and remember to not react to a situation but to communicate a kindness that may plant a seed or show what God can and has done. Stopping to pray before spouting off is one of my goals to learn, it can be just a quick “God grant me the words to lead, guide and love”.

  30. Dawn Drews says:

    I am too sensitive. I take things that happen in my life too personal. I feel hurt by others so easily, feeling like it’s intentional on their part. I have a low self esteem and the hurt that I feel from others brings me down even further.
    I don’t have a verse yet. I pray I find his words that speak to me in my studies.

  31. I seem to let too many things my teenaged son says offend me. Even if he’s playing or reacting without thinking through what he says, I react badly and turn something that could be ignored or diffused into a conflict between us. Such a waste of energy!

  32. First I want to say thank you for this Bible Study. God’s timing is beyond perfect. I have seriously been struugling with becoming unglued. What a beautiful answer to my tearful prayers.
    O- I need to work on one day at a time leaving the past behind me.
    B- I am claiming this weeks scripture.. Do not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. ROM 12:2…thank you Father God!!!
    S- I will yield to God and His word to see me as He does.
    I am so thankful for His love and goodness

  33. Christine says:

    I think the worse first. I need to renew my mind that interruptions in life are what God wants for me.

    “Be still and know that I am God” is my go to verse when anxiety kicks in. I wear a necklace w a charm that has that verse. It really is a great reminder!

    Stopping to P.R.A.Y will get us focused on God and off ourselves. It can help us draw closer to Him!

  34. O- leaving the past in the past and moving forward. If other people can’t that is their problem.
    P- God help me to do the above

  35. The area of my life that needs the most help from God in renewing of my mind is exactly what we are studying here! Stress! And my reaction to things that stress me out! So thankful for this study.

    My Go to verse is Isaiah 43:18-19

    Forget what’s already happened! Look forward, I’m doing a new thing! Can’t you see it with your spiritual eyes? I am making a way for you and bringing a thirst quenching water to your soul!

    That is completely paraphrased, that’s the meaning of that verse for me and how it applies to my life! ~ be blessed ladies and stay Gold!

  36. B: Psalm 141:3 (AMP)- Set a guard, O Lord, before my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips. I use this verse daily to give it to God first. Still an imperfect work in progress, but the verse definitely reminds me to go to God first.

  37. I need renewing of my mind in dealing with a couple of people that can take me from a wonderful blessed day to totally unglued. I pause and pray, pause and take a deep breath and pause and try to think about how I let it get to that point. They are like little yapping dogs that won’t stop their barking!

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      I know what it’s like to work around people like that! I have scriptures written down I keep in my desk to help during those moments. Thanks for sharing! God Bless!

  38. I have a 4 year old daughter who I’m raising alone. I get very concerned about time, and I can get grumpy when she doesn’t feel my need to rush. I could use a little renewing of the mind when I get so impatient with her.
    Psalm 51 “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Helps me come black to the place where I am looking to God, not the clock.
    Stopping to PRAY will make me pause before I say or do something that damages my relationship with my daughter, that makes her feel like I care more about time than her.

  39. Karen Moss says:

    I think PRAY will help me when I’m tempted to worry. Psalms has lots of “go to” verses. Here is one of my favorites: “For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭84:11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

  40. O: I struggle with judgment of others – especially those that offend or hurt me. Especially one woman I work with. Holding on to grudges.
    B: Was reminded recently of Matthew 7:1! I have Psalms 19:14 and 141:3 on post-it’s at my computer.
    S: keep referring to scripture. Asking God to show me how HE sees that person. Remembering that my battle is not against the person but I am battling satan.

    • Oh gosh, me too — holding onto grudges is a big issue — right now, my target is my ex-husband and his new wife….and too much family drama to write about. Praying for us BOTH in this area!

  41. Cindy Scheller says:

    Having an unglued week… This bible study is perfect timing! I am so Thankful God has lead me to this Ministry! PRAISE GOD… Thank you staff I have loved this ministry for a couple years now! It’s exciting to tell others about it!

  42. I struggle with feelings of self-worth, and finding my JOY in the Lord….I try too hard to CONTROL everything, and forget that HE is in Control! My go-to verse which I try to focus on daily (hourly?) is Romans 12:12 – “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” I have nearly no patience, and regularly remind myself to stop and breath and PRAY. I am glad to have the printable about P.R.A.Y. to help remind me to do just that. I know when I stay strong in my prayer life, I am much less stressed, much happier, and easier to be around.

  43. Christina says:

    There are so many things that bombard my mind daily as a wife and mother. Anything from comparing my life, kids and home to others or just feeling like I’m not doing enough for the kingdom of God. When I feel myself start to sink into the pit of despair I start praising the Lord in song. Sometime hymns, or get rocking with some of the newer groups. Lately, its been by the words to No Longer Slaves by Jonathan and Melissa Helster. This song reminds me of a few verses including Jeremiah 29:11 and that he has delivered me and drowned me in perfect love. Sometimes we just need that tiny reminder of his amazing love for us and not that it is necessisarily based on our actions. He loves us !!!?

  44. Holli Strickland says:

    I have so many I almost don’t know where to start, but thankfully I do. I tell myself the same things all the time and as the devotion said this morning my thoughts must change before I can. I really need this Bible study and all you sisters in Christ to pray for me as I pray for you all!

  45. O- I really struggle with patience. I tend to lose my patience and come unglued too quickly with my children. I feel like a broken record correcting and training and saying the same words to them over and over. Some days it is very difficult to be the sole disciplinarian and teacher.

    B- My favorite verse is Psalm 73:26,
    My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
    This verse reminds me that I am weak because I am made of flesh, but God is strong because of his divinity. He will give me strength when I need it.

    S- During those unglued moments I will choose to pause, reflect on Psalm 72:36, apply God’s strength and patience, and yeild to my fleshy desire to lash out.

  46. I struggle with resentment towards my stepdaughter it seems no matter what I do to reach out I am battered and sent packing. This is effecting my marriage and my spiritual life. I also struggle with feeling like I am not good enough for others and so I try to please and I stuff things and it is destroying me.
    I have really connected with a lot of stuff in this study so far but the lock screens with verses is going to be a very real help and I love this week’s verse to remind me to focus on God and to give my thoughts to him.
    I have once again began making time to go into my prayer closet alone at the beginning of the day and to ask God for recall of his word and to constantly dwell in his presence

    • I will pray for you and your step daughter; I am also remarried, 4 years and it has been a journey between my step-daughter and myself. We have gone months with out talking, talk horribly to each other and at times could not look at each other. I often prayed for us to heal our resentment and jealousy; not to long ago, actually with in the last year, we have become each others support and shoulders in time of need. It was a battle and there was a lot of prayer but don’t give up. Some relationships are incredibly hard to build but once build on pray along with the grace of God they will carry you through the storms.

  47. Kayla Orndorff says:

    O-I struggle with holding my tongue, gossiping or even saying things in a tone that I don’t mean.
    B-I don’t have a verse that I use in times of struggle, but it would be a really good idea to find one for myself.
    S-stopping to P.R.A.Y. This week can help me to focus on Christ.

  48. Observe — Recurrent issue with husband – I need to see him as God sees him
    Bible — I have a go-to song: Oceans by Hillsong United. Surely there are lots of verses that the song built upon ( :
    Stretch — What struck me about P.R.A.Y. the most was YIELD. I continue to like to control situations. I pray and read regularly. I search for what God would want. But I often fail to turn it over to God. I try to orchestrate.

  49. Mandy Watts says:

    O: I really need to use the P.R.A.Y tactic when I’m becoming unglued with my two toddler boys! I too am a perfectionist who likes order, calm & cleanliness…which are hard to have when being a SAHM with a 2 & 4 year old! I become unglued so often…looking forward to applying this in my life.
    B: My ‘go to’ scripture is usually “You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you”, because so often I feel weak to combat becoming unglued!

    S: With toddlers I don’t have much time to think before I react so this gives me a formula / game plan for the couple of seconds I’ll have before giving my reaction to a situation…sometimes just the act of stopping & asking God to calm my nerves can make all the difference, but that’s easier said than done sometimes, so this is a great ‘check list’ for me to go thru in my mind!

  50. O-keeping my finanaces under control.I tend to do too much retail therapy. Need to turn to the word instead.
    B-Don’t have a verse yet
    S-Love the PRAY idea. will start using it!!!

  51. I have noticed that when I protect my time with Jesus in the morning, my day usually goes better. I can’t imagine how bad those bad days would have been if I didn’t take that 15 minutes or so in the morning! I turn a lot to Philippians 4 when I am struggling and I try to remind myself that God made the sun stand still for Joshua…and Joshua got himself into that fix. The relationship I struggle most with is my adopted daughter. She was 5 when she became my sweetie but when adolescence hit, it hit with a bang. There was a period of estrangement, but even now, 15 years down the road, I still walk on eggshells and she still can be extremely hateful toward me. I’ve dropped this relationship in God’s lap. Slowly, He is healing it. But it is tough. With her, I am definitely a stuffer.

  52. Love this PRAY tactic. So many times when in a difficult moment, I tend to unsuccessfully handle it on my on. This will remind me to stop and see what God says to do!

  53. Jenny Bishoff says:

    O: this week, I have felt so convicted of my “hissy fits” when my family doesn’t do things around the house…or doesn’t do them up to my standards!! Lord, help me PRAY through this struggle!

  54. When I feel like I’m going to come unglued, I repeat in my head, “Love is patient, love is kind,” over and over and ask Jesus to help me.

  55. O-I struggle to believe God wants to use me for His Plan. I was so overwhelmed this year when I took on a role at church I didn’t think I was the right person for. Over this year, God keeps reminding me that he will do the heavy lifting. My responsibilty is small, but hard for me: obey.
    B-my scripture is Matt 14:28-29 where Peter gets down out of the boat and walks on the water towards Jesus. Don’t over think things, I just need to get down out of the boat.
    S-the P.R.A.Y. process can help begin to form a habit:when things are too much for me, makes me stop and remember whose I am, and reset 🙂

  56. Vicki Sanders Johnson says:

    I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

    Philippians 4:13

  57. There is something from the Bible that keeps going through my head when I am facing something unpleasant and want to have a pity party. It reminds me that I already gave my life to Christ, so if bad things happen, allowing them to without fighting them is acknowledging that it’s not my life anymore. You are not your own; you were bought with a price. It comes from these verses:

    1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

  58. O: I compare myself to other moms and their “perfect” ways, and I feel like I can’t achieve that level of mommyhood…even knowing in truth nobody can, we are all imperfect in our own ways. It’s frustrating and definitely a “renewing of my mind” that I need God to help me with.
    B: My life verse is “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” Proverbs 3:5
    S: I LOVE the P.R.A.Y concept!I plan to use it throughout the day, especially during times when my patience is tested, I worry, or when I start comparing. God is so good and being more intentional with prayer will allow me to let go and let God! ❤

  59. Kerri Buckner says:

    I struggle with getting frustrated. I teach kindergarten and love it but some days it is hard. There are so many pressures and I get frustrated with the kids and myself when things don’t go as planned. Then coming home to a 10 month old who doesn’t sleep well. My go to verse has been I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. But I looked through comments and found a few more. I think stopping and thinking through the PRAY will help me refocus on God.

  60. O – my mind needs a new perspective in a family relationship.
    B – my go to verse is II Peter 1:3, “His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Jesus Christ.”
    S – taking time to stop and PRAY will help focus my heart and mind on Christ, not the situation.

  61. I love the PRAY graphic, and the idea of wearing a tangible reminder.
    I think I will adopt a GLUED bracelet….

  62. When I am struggling with my reactions and on the verge of coming Unglued I stop and pray Psalm 19:14 “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.” This helps me to put my focus on God and causes me to react in a way that is honoring to Him.

  63. O: I need my mind renewed over feeling rejected. I have a huge, supportive group of people but I am a wall-builder to save myself even the risk of rejection. In reality, God never forsakes me and I am never rejected by Him.
    B: I am truly awful with memorizing verses, but I have always loved our Romans 12:2 verse this week. It reminds me it’s okay to look different from everyone else… When I come Unglued, however? I need verses for THAT! Right now I just say “More Jesus and more coffee” and flip K-Love on go recenter my heart.
    S: I love acronyms!! P.R.A.Y… I think my biggest struggle is to yield… I tend to strive instead of rest in His peace.

  64. O – I need to renew my mind in reaction to being hurt by in law relationships.
    B – Proverbs 3:5-6, Jer 29:11
    S – taking time to PRAY will keep my mind focused on what it should be ….Jesus

  65. Proverbs 17:22 ~ “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit stirs up the bones.”
    Being joyful at work is sometimes a struggle for me, so this is going to be my go to verse for the rest of the week. Being welcoming, encouraging, enthusiastic, and positive to coworkers is my prayer!

  66. O: I struggle so much with “fitting it all in”. Remembering and accomplishing the million little things that keep our life, home and my work life running smoothly. Sometimes it seems the world works against me because people can’t plan in advance, don’t they know I have to put things on my calendar? Don’t they know I’m like an air traffic controller and without proper planning none of the planes get off the ground?
    B: Jeremiah 29:11. Always!
    S: I am going to apply the PRAY acronym in my dealings with others. I journal when I reflect on our reading so I’m looking forward to directing my thoughts with these prompts.

  67. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
    ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

  68. my go to verse “Set your mind in the things above, not on that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:2-3 #HolidaySurvivalGiveaway

  69. Marcia Whaley says:

    1)I”d have to say one of my little struggles (I have many) is to try not to become cold hearted towards my brother – you see, our mom died without much notice Sept. 1 of this year and our Dad is sick with stage 4 cancer (he lives in SC). My brother has not been the most responsive and helpful and I have been the one to do all the work and helping our Dad. I love my brother and I’m trying not to let his actions or lack there of completely shut him out.
    2) My go to verse is from Hebrews 4:16
    3) I think P.R.A.Y. will help me to stop briefly and take a deep breath and think before the words come out of my mouth.

    • Lynne Atterberry says:

      Marcia, I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother and then to have to care for an ailing parent. I thought it was tough when I went through the same thing as an only child. Keep praying–it helps. Remember too, that men often have trouble with being caretakers. Maybe I shouldn’t categorize, but I have seen that so many times when a man just doesn’t know what to do so they just avoid situations.

  70. Jessica Hermiller says:

    Observe — I grew up in a house where yelling was just the norm, even if we weren’t angry! But now in my married life I tend to go from 0 to screaming in a minute in an argument which makes me feel so guilty once I step back. It is an area I really need to give to God so he can change my heart.
    Bible — “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry” James 1:19
    Stretch — I think the PRAY method is a great way to get into the habit of reading with good comprehension, journaling what stands out to me, and then going out in the world to apply.

  71. I still struggle a great deal with control. I have to continue to learn to let Go and let God. Mentally I do this, but physically not so much. I come unglued with my mother in law and then get so frustrated with my husband. I have to give this relationship to God.
    Stopping to pray and meditate helps bring me back to a clear mind and an understanding that God will work everything out for good.

  72. O: my never ending battle is pride and not having control of every situation.
    B: But those who WAIT upon the Lord shall renew their strength. Is 40:31. I need to wait for the Lord’s timing, not try to manipulate the situation.
    P: I ask God to reveal any and the many emotions I need to work on.

  73. O- My biggest struggle is letting go and letting God. I am a planner and like to be in control of the situation when it involves my family and our future. My husband is getting out the USMC in 2017 and were preparing now. We’ve both felt God and heard his word. We’ve just posted our home for rent and it terrifies of me of the unknown. I am working hard to put all my trust and cares into the Lord that he has a plan for our future and I must trust and have patience in that.

    b- my go to Bible verses for this have Been 1 Peter 5:7 , Jeremiah 29:11, and Proverbs 3:5 .

    s- The PRAY process can really help me keep my eyes on God and his word. By focusing on seeking him when I feel my flesh starting to rise and my doubt start creeping in. If I can keep a calm and keep my eyes and thoughts on the cross then the fears of the unknown won’t have a place to entertain my thoughts of all the what ifs. Gods in control and I need to remember that always that nothing is impossible when He is control!!!

    Loving this study thank you printing the worksheet now to hang at my office while I work to day as a reminder to stop and PRAY!!

  74. Feeling overcommitted right now and that has me “unglued”. Taking this to the Lord for wisdom in all circumstances brings me back to the ground.

  75. Today, my goal is to find a go to verse, and put on a reminder piece on to remember. My issues are boys that just don’t listen. I have 4 boys, including triplet 8 year olds. I need to keep my cool, even though they are wrestling in their room, lying to me about brushing their teeth and not getting dressed. Yesterday was the first day I didn’t have to yell (like a mad woman) for them to listen to me. I’m hoping this is a new change! Thank you P31!

  76. I find myself getting frustrated and angry. I care for children in my home in addition to my own and sometimes things are loud and crazy and feel like I am pulled in many directions and I can’t get to everyone when they want me to (this spills into family time as well). I haven’t had a one go to verse but sometimes will be reminded of ones I have read recently. I have found a few looking in the comments and am going to find one to adopt as my go to verse. I really like thE P.R.A.Y. acronym and will be using that daily. I also really like thE prayer prompt and will be thinking about what I can use.

  77. O: patience with my kids! This is one of my greatest struggles, just lost it last night with my six year old.
    B: I start singing the fruits of the spirit song, to remind myself of the right responses, have to stop and ask my son for forgiveness because I so badly do not want him to act like I just did!
    S: I need to do a better job at pausing to think instead of just reacting in anger. Those feelings aren’t the boss of me!

  78. I need to work on empathy, sometimes its hard for to see someone else’s point of view. I also need to work on my patience level with my children.
    I dont have a verse yet. But I’m loving all the other suggestions.
    I think PRAY might help me, even if for a few moments before I react

  79. O: raising my youngest and work vs home decisions
    B: 2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4
    S: perseverance is a struggle for me at times. But fixing my eyes on the sculpture and the finished masterpiece instead of the mess I am, well, that’s a paradigm shift.

  80. Tiffany Wilkinson says:

    O-I struggle with stress. I am a kindergarten teacher, and I have a 4 & 5 year old. When I get home, I have barely anything left to give. I am praying for a job change!
    B- Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything. But in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known to God.
    S-I am going to stop and P.R.A.Y. During my lunch break today. Hopefully, that will give me energy to face the rest of the day!

  81. It is so wonderful to hear some mothers who have lost patience with their children. My children are the most more precious to me than anyone or anything but I can loose my patience with them at the drop of a hat. I have an 8 yet old and 3 yr old and I teach kindergarten. I feel so guilty at night when I get upset bc they are running around the house fighting over silly things, when they disagree w something, or you name it. I want to be able to apply things learned in this book in this area. Great ideas w verses. I have wrote a lot of verses down and going back to look them up and then write some down to use. I have also wrote down PRAY to use in the future! Will try it today. Thanks mothers for sharing about frustrations w your children now I don’t feel so awful!

  82. I’m continually amazed at God’s perfect timing. A dear friend recently introduced me to Proverbs31 ministries and this is my first OBS. It’s exactly what I need at exactly the right time. God is so good!
    O: Love the quote: “We can’t always fix our circumstances, but we can fix our minds on God.” I’m reminding myself that even though I have no control over the current circumstances, God will be with me throughout the process. It’s who I am that matters, and what I allow Him to do through me.
    B: Jeremiah 29:11 is my daily reminder that I can trust God with my life
    S: PRAY, will keep me focused and teach me to yield.

  83. My “unglued” challenge is with noise. I become so overly sensitive to noise that when my children are just being children I find myself stopping them and telling them to be quiet. In reality, they are not being that loud and aren’t being unsafe. In a matter of a few minutes they have started whatever it was I told them to stop all over again. My go-to from this study now is to find a verse to use and put it somewhere in my livingroom where I can see it and be reminded and encouraged during times like that.

  84. O-patience with my children is my biggest struggle. I need to realize they are just kids and need my guiding hand through this life.
    B-Philippians 4:13. “For I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.”
    S-I love the advice to create a prayer prompt. I recently purchased bracelets with inspirational verses on them. I was saving one for my daughter that says ‘Make Good Choices’. I think it was actually meant for me!!

  85. A verse I go back to again and again is Ephesians 6:12: for we do not wrestle against flesh & blood, but against principalities , against powers, against rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in heavenly places. It reminds me that in difficult relationships it’s not the other person I’m having problems with!

  86. My struggle is worry. I worry so much about my kids getting sick with anything throw up related, because when they do I get completely overwhelmed. I have had to speak “that Jesus came to give us life to the full” and also “that the harvest is plentiful” because I want to sit at home and be in a “no germ” bubble, but that isn’t a life to the full for me or my kids and we can have so much more impact for Jesus if we actually interact with other people.

  87. O = I definitely need to stop worrying. Worry causes me to stuff feelings and then I worry I’m going to suffer a heart attack and die. I worry too much!!!
    B = The bible verse that calms me is Isaiah 26:3. Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.
    S = Stopping to pray this week will bring me peace. Time to look for a prayer prompt!

  88. Psalms 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.”
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    ‬I struggle with fear and this scripture speaks to my soul. It reasures me that I’m not in this alone and that God is my God and that I can be still in my emotions because he’s got this.

  89. Observe- worrying about me and how I handle myself no matter what anyone says or does to me or how they treat me- react the way God wants me too.
    Verse- Philippians 3:4 worry about nothing pray about everything (I say this to myself all during the day!)

  90. O: I grew up with parents that argued and yelled all the time. I remember how it made me feel as a child, I’d often go into my brothers room to try and find some comfort from then. The three of us couldn’t stand listening to it so I knew this was something I didn’t want to put my own boys through. My husband and I have both been so stressed lately that we both snap at each other and the yelling begins! I also feel horrible about the way I react towards my boys when they make me upset. Yelling doesn’t solve anything but when I’m upset it seems to be my natural reaction.
    B: See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another. Thessalonians 5:15
    S: I need think before I speak and practice patience.

  91. I love the acronym – I think that will help right off the bat. It’s easy to recall and hopefully I will get this “new thought process groove” etched into my mind.

    I do have an area…okay…several that I need to learn to deal with in a more non-emotional way.
    One verse of Scripture I really like to repeat is: “When words are many sin is not absent but he who holds his tongue is wise” (Proverbs 10:19) It reminds me to think before I speak…sometimes? :/
    Praying through a tough spot always brings a sense of calm – my problem is that I’ve not learned to do that at all times. YET! I long to get to the place where I just say, “God? You got this?” And breathe in the peace that surpasses all understanding….amen? See Phil. 4:6-7

  92. I struggle with the little things that add up. Staying focused and connected when something gets tough often leaves me to feeling overwhelmed because it’s hard to do. Today’s chapter in Unglued reminded me that in EVERY area of my life, God is in control and I need to remember that when my feelings tend to raise my level of feeling overwhelmed. I need to shift my thought process.

  93. Just this Morning I was thinking I need to dive in more to for my Health, spiritual And physical. I am thankful for the opportunity. Being unglued in more than one area is stuff that is tough to contend with easily, but that is why we need to renew our minds to God’s word, why we need a default mode that is good, peaceful, and hopeful. I see I need to run more interference on both fronts, and that is me being active. That He is worthy of my thoughts, worthy of my focus, worthy of effort to lean on His grace. I forgot that for a while and the effects are more evident now. This study is what is needed. My verse that I go for during times like these are, well, a blank. Please share verses and I need to go back to basics.

  94. Emily Kyzer says:

    O-I’m quick to try to take back the driver’s seat once good has worked out a situation. I easily surrender in crisis but when the crisis clears I forget to leave my trust in Him.
    B- He says, Be still and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations. I will be exalted in the earth. Ps 46:11
    S- I want to be more structured in my prayer time. I have a conversation with Him before I get out of bed and when I get home but if I can commit the PRAY method in the times when I need a word in that moment I know I will be less likely to jump straight to stress and anger.

  95. My struggle is with my husband who always sees the negative of any situation or person. As soon as he enters a conversation or room, he dissects what needs to be “fixed”. I am the one who always brings up the more positive perspective and is then accused of not holding people accountable or ignoring the situation. I love him dearly and most of the time I can speak civilly to him in any given occurrence, but I’m just tired. I pray over this constantly and try to stay in the Word so I at least have God’s Word running through me.

    • Tommie – I can relate – my husband tends to have the same negativity and I am more like you. It’s draining sometimes but you are keeping close to God. Praying for your both. Keep your positive spirit – I know your husband needs it!:)

  96. O~patience with my students is definitely my struggle! I have a job to do (teach!) and how dare they act like middle schoolers and interfere with that? 😉
    B~my verse is “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my strength and my redeemer.”
    S~it’s hard to stop and pray in the middle of a public school classroom, so I try to spend about an hour each morning in Gods word and in prayer for my day. Without this time, I don’t feel ready to face the day.

  97. I tend to shut down when overwhelmed. I know I need to pray and/or read the bible for perspective but I can’t seem to process all of the emotions that are coming at once. I get lost in being overwhelmed and can’t break it down to deal with each separate thing.

  98. Adriane S says:

    Observe — The biggest is patience with my children and husband. I can lose my cool on them in an instant.

    Bible — My absolute favorite verse that I go to for almost everything is Galatians 5:22-23. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

    Stretch — I think it will help me to slow down and take the time to not only speak to God but listen. It will bring a peace and understanding that only he can bring.

  99. I struggle daily with being reminded of something I did in the past that I wish I could go back and undo. My favorite verse is Romans 8:28 and paraphrasing it is that God takes the bad and turns it for good to those that love Him.

    • Gilda we all have regrets. We don’t get do-overs. I so wish we did, BUT we do have Jesus to confess those things we did wrong, and He will forgive whatever we did in the past. Turn it over to Him, and let it go. If you need to go back and apologize to someone do that too.

  100. Psalm 139:13-16
    For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
    I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
    My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
    Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.

    My struggle is with being a perfect weight thin person. I grew up in a home where my father weighed me every morning until I graduated from highschool. I was told to not be over 110 lbs. I was able to do this until this past year when I went through menopause. I am now at 125 lbs. I KNOW that I’m a healthy weight but I have to constantly fight satan and his nagging voice teying to tell me that I don’t look good unless I’m stick thin. But God..::::…….. He says He formed my body just the way He wanted it!! All I need to do is rest in Him and His truth. Romans 12 (our memory verse) To not be confirmed to this world but to be transformed by the renewing of my mind!!!

  101. My biggest struggle at this time is worrying about my adult children and their walk with God. I need to just trust the Lord and know that He is working in their lives. I love the acronym P.R.A.Y and am definitely going to utilize it this week!! The bible verse that is coming to mind right now is proverbs 3:5a trust in the Lord with all your heart.

  102. Observe: Just one? The Big Struggle I have is thoughts of failure. I so identify with the perfectionism thing. It literally stalemates me from trying to change because it seems I’m doomed to failure from the beginning.
    Bible: Romans 12:2 has been a go to verse for me for some time. I love that it is our first memory verse.
    Stretch: I try to “pray continually”, but I like the idea of wearing something to remind me to pray when things get chaotic. My kids have tons of Rainbow Loom bracelets. I think I’ll borrow one of theirs.

    • I’m with you. Only one? (smile). I like the loom bracelet idea. My grandchildren have made me some very pretty ones.

  103. O- I am a stuffer most if the time but am an exploder often with one of my children when he doesn’t do what I ask or “forgets”.
    B-“I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.”
    S- By yielding, taking a moment and praying for patience I can learn to understand him and help him make better choices.

  104. Truthfully speaking am at my lowest point feel like the devil is trumbling all over me taking a hit from every side. Am keeping up with the bible study for have faith that this too will be over.

    • Mary K,

      I so understand where you are at right now. Try this verse, it helps me.

      “In my distress I called upon the Lord; to my God I called. From his temple he heard my voice, and my cry came to his ears.” 2 Sam. 22:31

      Mary, He does hear your cry and cares deeply.

      “And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord.”
      Luke 1:45

    • Mary K. lifting you up to the Father this morning. Stay with the Bible study and in the Word. You are loved. You are beautiful. You are a prized possession of God. Thanks for being here.
      Once when I was at my lowest a friend said, “This too shall pass.” I know by your words it does not feel that way to you today either. Hang in there! PRAY to our Father. He is waiting.

  105. One struggle I have is letting go. I realize I am not in control, but try to be at all time. There are several verses that I love to use. One that sticks out is Jer. 29:11 – I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.
    Knowing that our Lord knows everything gives me comfort.
    I think the P.R.A.Y acronym will help this week as a reminder of how to meditate and apply what we are reading. I will keep the download close to my bible as I read. Thank you!

  106. Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with? For me personally, lately, I have felt attacked in the area of my physical looks. I don’t look like I did three years ago. We age LOL! The problem is that I have never really struggled with this before but lately I have really felt down. So Last night I sat down and verse mapped our verse of the week. It helped tremendously.
    Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? If so, share it with us. If not, that’s okay. You can get a lot of great ones today in the comment section! For me yesterday it was our verse of the week. Romans 12:2a.
    Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? You can use this printable as a guide: Stopping to P.R.A.Y will help me go from focusing on my circumstances and how I feel to focusing on what God tells me in His Word. God’s Word does not return void. Amen!

  107. One of my struggles is just what Lysa said, acting out of control when facing circumstances out of my control.
    Our family verse is Proverbs 3:5-6.. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.
    Stopping before I react…remembering the things going on may be out of my control but not out of the Lords!!

  108. My go to verse right now (it seems to change when life changes) “fear not, for I ga e redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you anlaze. For I am the Lord your God” Isaiah 43:1-3

  109. Observe: I struggle with fear and doubt. Did I do it right? What if they don’t like it? etc, etc.
    Bible: Matthew 19:26 reminds me that when I think things are Impossible, I’m reminded that NOTHING is impossible for God!!!
    Stretch: I’ll just say that my prayer life needs some work. I have faith jewelry that I wear but need to wear more often.

  110. I need help with controlling my hot buttons with my daughter. When I feel like she only wants me when its convenient for her and she often uses language that I do not approve of which only makes the button hotter. I pray for understanding and patience.

  111. Sara Dismuke says:

    Hey Ladies! I would say that i overcommit so I get overwhelmed and then I become unglued over something that would nomally not really bother me as bad as it does when i am overcommitted. Also I tend to worry over things that i cannot control and that will “wind me up” and thus use this verse Phillipians 4:4-7 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
    This acronym PRAY will definitely help me keep focus everyday. God is in control and wil never leave me.. just keep talking to him through prayer and through staying in his word!
    Have a great day and PRAY!
    Sara

  112. Observe — I’m an imperfectly recovering perfectionist. I am praying to learn new ways to live a more authentic and joyful life, approaching life and measuring it not through the lense of perfect, but through the lense of growth and presence.
    Bible — I like the verse from this week, although I’m looking for others that might be fitting.
    Stretch — I can use the approach and the worksheet as a tool when I’m feeling unglued and striving to be perfect. Identifying that I am in that repetitive pattern is the first step for me.

  113. Stephanie says:

    My go-to verse is Colossians 3:12: “Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience”

    I struggle with always taking a step back & seeing from different angles from the beginning. If I could learn to do that first I could probably save myself from a lot of “Unglued” moments. But, I am a work in PROGRESS!

  114. Praise the Lord, for he is good his mercies are new every morning! Phil 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
    Blessings
    Teresa

  115. Sheila Watson says:

    Good Morning!
    O – My constant negativity and feeling of always being a failure.
    B- Psalm 56:9(NLT) My enemies will retreat when I call to You for help. This I know; God is on my side.
    S- When I stop and PRAY it gives me the strength to fight off the need to rehash it all in my mind. I see the WHOLE picture not just my misguided, poor me, version.
    Sheila Watson, O-Team

  116. I have five children and lately one of them has been arguing with me. This verse has been one that I run to: “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-5

    • Denise,
      I too have five children and am in the same situation. I have one that is mouthy as all get out and I cannot figure out where I went wrong with that one! The others are not like that at all! I fear I have failed as a mother through that one child. I get so angry that I just lash out and scream n hollar. That is not at all the legacy that I want to leave my kiddos. Thank you for sharing your go to verse. I did not have one. Prayers to you and yours!

  117. Observe — My marriage, feeling unworthy in general.
    Bible — I do like James 1:2.
    Stretch — Head off negative thoughts and get myself going in a more positive direction.

  118. My go to verse is Ephesians 3:20 “Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” I need to remind myself that it’s not about me, but about bringing glory to God.

  119. O: I struggle with feeling like a failure, daily.

    B: I need to find a good go-to verse.

    S: Perspective is everything. I need to stop the mental beat-up session before it goes on for hours.

  120. O: My greatest struggle is constantly worrying and being plagued by anxiety about certain situations.
    B: My favorite verse is Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.
    S: P.R.A.Y. will help me to give my worries and anxieties over to God and yield the control of my situations to Him where it belongs.

  121. Amy Coleman says:

    O- I struggle with the need to be in control and that is because of fear.

    B- For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7

    S- I’ve saved the PRAY off on my phone for quick reference.

  122. O – I need renewed in my mind on a complex issue with a friend.
    B – A soft answer turneth away wrath. Prob 15:1
    S – Pray first before speaking. Can’t expect good to come of it if I’m not seeking his guidance.

  123. Im struggling with a lot of stuff right now. For the past couple of years I have gotten myself wrapped up in a life that has not been very Christian like. I know that I’m better than that lifestyle. I’m trying to get it together and find the comfort and peace in the Lord that I once had.

  124. Aimee Patrick says:

    LOVE this! I have heard & done a couple of these things – but nothing ever on a consistent basis. Time to get back on track !!

  125. O: I have my own business and the next two months are my busiest time of the year, but this is also my favorite time of year so I find myself overwhelmed, angry, resentful that I don’t have time to truly enjoy the holidays and then when January comes I feel deflated.

    S: “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” (Romans 15:13 NIV)

    S: Using PRAY will help me to stop and recite my verse and then remind me that He can fill me with joy and peace when I’m so busy and starting to lose sight of this time of year. I’m really praying this for the next two months because I need to respond differently than I have in the past!!!

    • I can empathize with you! I too am in my busiest two months of the year (self employed retail business). It can be a struggle to know we’re not enjoying the holidays to the full extent like others who work 9-5 year round. I pray for us peace and endless joy.

  126. My life verse, is Gal. 5:22.- 23 The fruit if the Spirit is love joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and Self-control. There is no law against these things. I want to carry a small booklet with me with “strength” verses that I can turn to when faced with adversity or moments of weakness, or even in support of someone who is seeking my help. I love that suggestion. Also, a reminder, whether a small sticky note or necklace or an object that will help me to always remember to call on The Lord first when these things arise. I love this study. Great reminders of how to always reach out to our God.

  127. O: Recently I’ve felt like my entire life is just a mess. As Lysa says there are no quick fixes, its a process of unfolding. So I need prayer to keep moving through life and making sound decisions as the plans that God has for my life unfold.
    R: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” -Joshua 1:9
    S: Writing is my outlet and my best way to pray to God. Sitting at the end of my day and writing and reflecting using PRAY. In the hard moments, stop and breathe, pray and listen, then move.

  128. Alicia Scala says:

    O – my struggle is in keeping control of my emotions with my son and husband when things don’t go my way…..
    B – this weeks memory verse is my new go to verse! It’s on my phone and it really reason ages with me. I need to stop, pray, and let God guide my words and actions…. Not worldly selfishness.
    S- hopefully it will give me that few seconds I need to compose myself, reign in my emotions, and see things from another’s perspective. Including how God may be using the situation…..

  129. My go to verse is Psalm 40:1-3

    1 I waited patiently for the Lord to help me,
    and he turned to me and heard my cry.
    2 He lifted me out of the pit of despair,
    out of the mud and the mire.
    He set my feet on solid ground
    and steadied me as I walked along.
    3 He has given me a new song to sing,
    a hymn of praise to our God.
    Many will see what he has done and be amazed.
    They will put their trust in the Lord.

    My hope is always that someone who is watching can see good happening even if I can’t. That’s why I need to not be a freak-out-woman!

  130. O-thinking before I speak
    B-Matthew 7:12. So in everything do to others what you would have them do to you
    S-love the printable!! It will be a very useful tool in my journey this fall

  131. O-I detest our commute! We drive 100 miles a day because before we were married, my husband bought his house next door to his parents. We both work at the same place….50 miles away. We are planning to move, but it is slow going getting the house ready, etc., when we are gone over 10 hours a day. Also, my in laws don’t seem to really get why it would be best for us to have our own space closer to work, which I really get annoyed about because they have each other….my dad doesn’t have my mom here on earth with him since she died relatively young just a year and a half ago, and he is 1000 miles away. I think it is more than reasonable for us to live closer to work, and my husband is willing to move, too. My problem is that I feel like unless I keep complaining, nothing will happen to make our situation better. But I know that is not right….prayer and lovng and planning are the way to go. I need help to trust that complaining won’t force change faster. I think because sometimes I have been a feelings stuffer and really missed out on some good things because of that, I am afraid that will happen this time, too. Not sure how to walk the middle road.
    B- Jeremiah 29:11…future and hope!
    S- stopping to PRAY can help me focus on God’s unfailing love and realize that I do not have to force things in my own strength. If I ask him for help to give thanks, this doesn’t mean I am being complacent, denying my feelings, and missing out or missing God’s best.

  132. I am consumed by many thoughts but mainly fear, worry, and doubting.
    For all three areas I usually go to two verses, 1.Prov 3:5-6 “trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to thy own understanding in all your ways acknowledge Him and he will direct your path”. My second set of verses are found between Philippians;4:4-8, but I mainly rehearse vs ‘ s 6 &7,”Do not be anxious about anything but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God. Vs7 And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ.

    I desire to work on the area of A. Applying and Y. Yielding portion of the P.R.A.Y guide.

  133. O – I’m right there with not studying the bible because I’m waiting to find the “perfect” method to do a study.

    B – This is one of my favorite verses. “So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.”
    ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

    S- I plan to give the PRAY method a try.

  134. O: I think I really struggle with my perception of myself, I don’t understand what others see in me and I am excruciatingly hard on myself so I constantly feel”unglued”.

    B: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phillipines 4:13 (I recite this multiple times a day.)

    S: I think PRAY can give structure, purpose and depth to my reflective process and I look forward to getting to know myself better through his eyes.

  135. Go to verse: Phil 4:7 – And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

  136. O- my biggest struggle is finding joy. I really struggle to balance everything.
    B- Galatians 6:9 – Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. I recently read a devotion with this verse and I am really trying to focus on it.
    S-I have to turn it all over to God…

  137. O: Rejection
    B: The Bible verse I try to use when I’m overwhelmed is Zeph 3:17.
    “The Lord your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.”

    S: I love today’s word about practical things I can do. Unfortunately, God gives me His word to use and I have lots of verses written down, but in my imperfect progress I don’t stop first and seek Him very often. I tend to stay trapped under my emotions.
    Another verse He has given me that I constantly cry out is Mark 9:24. “Immediately the father of the child cried out and said, ‘I believe; help my unbelief!'” I want to believe the Father wants to heal my family. I just need help with my unbelief He will actually do it.
    I will work on P.R.A.Y to help my unbelief.

  138. O: I struggle with my patience level and reactions. Growing up in a verbally, and occasionally physically volatile home and now I find myself repeating the cycle with my girls. Recognizing the issue has been a journey and now figuring out how to stop it is my new one. Not inherently having the tools to go about things in a healthy way is a real problem for me. Lysa talks about the physiological pathways in the brain being dug deeper & deeper every time & I really relate to that. It’s been 30-35 years of wrong experiences and re-routing that wiring after all this time, especially not even being sure of what the ‘right’ way looks like, is not easy at all – but with God’s help, I’m imperfectly improving every day!
    B: I’m looking for some good ones today. I’ve never memorized a verse but I know I’ve seen some good ones here already. Planning to write some down that I can try and memorize so I can pull those up when things get tough for me.
    S: I’m still kind of learning how and when to pray right now & it doesn’t always feel natural, but I’m trying. I find that if I’m in the middle of ‘crazy’, if I can stop myself for a moment & get a word with God to help me, I do get an amount of inner calm to stop the madness. I love that I can model that to my family and sometimes my sweet 5 year old will sit and pray with me as well. I like acronyms so I’m hoping that I can just keep this nearby to improve my prayers and to prompt me to pray more often.

  139. “You will keep her in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because she trusts in You.”
    ‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭26:3‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
    http://bible.com/114/isa.26.3.nkjv
    I can have peace in the midst of any craziness – in the midst of people behaving badly – in the midst of things not going my way – if my mind (my thoughts and my will) are stayed upon God.

  140. O- I have a hard time seeing the good In myself and not feeling like a complete failure.
    B- I have not found the verse yet… I always feel like I pray incorrectly and don’t hear Him speak to me.
    S- I need to be more positive about myself and then about others and other situations… I am the hardest on myself and my own worst enemy.

    • Lynne Atterberry says:

      I don’t think you can pray incorrectly. God hears you no matter how you say it. He knows your heart and mind and I often just talk to Him like I was having a conversation with a friend. I used to think you were supposed to have a formal and I was doing it wrong, but I like just “talking” to Him.

  141. O- I struggle with food, looking fir comfort there, not in God’s word.
    B-Micah 6:8- to do justly, love mercy, to walk humbly with God
    S- turning to God and prayer for direction and advice instead of first turning to the phone/friends.

  142. Alicia Creekmore says:

    O -My action and word towards my sister-in-law. My mother and I are both working on this one. We constantly have to remind each other to stop bashing her and remember her good qualities. The problem is she keep doing things to set us offs Such as put down my church, only showing up when she need something and excepts us to put a way what we have been working on for weeks and many other things. If she was not family I would have nothing to do with her. But my brother seem to really love her and always back her up and take her side. So if we want see him some time we have to deal with her. But it not easy and loving her at time is a big challenge.

    B – No

    S -It will help me focus what I am praying for and what need to be done on my side to accomplish things.

  143. Leah hernandez says:

    My husband was active duty army for 10 years and just medically retired. He has sever PTSD (been inpatient for suicidal ideation 5x) and also suffers from a moderate TBI (brain injury)! My mother in law feel sick the day he retired and is living w us and I’m caring for all her medical needs as well.. And then 1st person I try to tend to is my 10year old.. My days are hard, the devil is hard at work… But daily I rebuke him and his evil ways. If am learning daily how to be a better mother, wife, and caregiver.. My daily power prayer;

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    The courage to change the things I can,
    And the wisdom to know the difference.

    I am strong!

  144. Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exhalteth itself against the knowledge of God. Bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. 2Corinthians 10:5…….When I’m upset with someone and want to think of judging them, I remember this verse. When Paul said to cast down imaginations, I remind myself to stop imagining that I know how to fix “them” (those who hurt me) Casting down every high thing,etc reminds me that my opinion is exhalting itself against the knowledge of God. Only God can fix them. Last but definitely not least, bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ reminds me “what would Jesus do? Or think?” How can I have these thoughts and strive to be more like Christ? Bringing them into captivity means I have the capability to choose what to think. And if I’m thinking un-Christ-like thoughts I need to get a hold of them and toss them to the side.

  145. This is great! I love acronyms and this is a great way to pause before coming “unglued” 🙂 the biggest area I need this in is in interactions with my kids…especially my 5 year old who tests my patience daily and especially at the end of the day…I do not have a go to verse so will be looking for one…sometimes I pause and just ask myself WWJD 🙂 I do like this P.R.A.Y process…i think it will help me focus on God’s Way so much easier!

  146. I quickly become unglued when I’m feeling out of control and “not good enough” in a situation. I’m a perfectionist and Satan constantly reminds me of what I did NOT get done!

    My go-to verse is James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom he should ask God who gives generously to all without finding fault. I know that no matter the circumstances, I’m probably looking at it from an emotional point of view. Asking God to show me His perspective takes my eyes off the circumstance and puts them back on Him!!!

    I love the P.R.A.Y. acronym. It will help me to stop and be still before Him so I can get myself under control!!!

  147. O — I struggle with positive thoughts. I am constantly beating myself up and always thinking the worse about EVERYTHING. I really wish my brain would stop thinking negatively.
    B —10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 KJV
    S- I think P.R.A.Y. will help me by giving me a tool to stop and do each step daily so I am not rushing or skipping any important portion.

  148. I truly struggle with renew my mind. I have aloud negative thoughts in my life for so long it has become second nature. As I continue on my road to healing, GOD continues to strengthen me and bring scripture to mind, friends to remind of HIS truths and studies to remind whose I am and practical ways to work through.

  149. O – Self love and acceptance
    B – (I have 2) Psalms 51:10 – Create in me a clean heart, O God: And renew a right spirit within me. 2. Jer. 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord. “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.”
    S – Keeping myself focused on God rather than things of this world, running the “good race,” and in all things – give thanks.

  150. I’m dealing with a lot of physical issues and recently getting so very weary of the battle. The timing of unglued is by God’s design . Want to observe more closely what triggers my emotionally outburts. Write in journal. Go to verse is Ps. 46:10 and Phil 4:5-6. The healers of prayer and thankfulness have àlways been am daily part of my journey.

  151. For me it’s that just home from work everyone is cranky and getting dinner together time that gets me unglued! I take the recycles out to the garage and pray for strength and calm!!!

  152. Lori Wheatley says:

    O – I struggle with self doubt, self worth, feelings of not being worthy and not good enough. I struggle with the notion that my past and present are so far from perfect, can God really use me? Am I really meant for ministry?

    B – I’ve got a couple!!!
    – James 4:7-8 submit yourselves to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Come near to God and He will come near to you.
    – Romans 8:28. We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.
    – 1 Cor 10:13b. And God is faithful, He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will provide a way out so you can stand under it.

    S – PRAY will help me remember to try to stay in constant communication with God.

  153. I struggle mostly with worry and holding on to control.

    Don’t have just one scripture I turn to, but always find comfort in God’s word in general

    I think this method is a good go too when I struggle to find the words to pray, I have been writing my prayers more and just writing what ever is on my mind at that given time, find it helps allot

  154. O-I also have a hard time with patience and reaction to others when things dont go right. As a mother and growing up in a abusive home I try to do the best I can and not react the way I was brought up for I dont want my children treated that way. Also other people that upset me some of it doesnt even beed a reaction but my anger towards it can cause a bad reaction I want to weed that out.
    B-a verse that helps me with everything is “the lord will fight for you you only need to be still” exodus 14:14 I forget this and try to handle things myself when I cant no matter how small or big I lean on him.
    S-Being a parent is the hardest job I will ever have I pray daily to be a good parent to do my job to plant that mustard seed to pray my children will know and grow up godly and make godly choices and that my reactions to things teaches them how to react in a godly way.

  155. I love Lysa’s perspective “I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control”. I don’t want to believe that I am a control freak, but I guess, sometimes I am. I have been working very hard to give all my cares and stresses over to God because He will take care of me. He loves me and wants the best for me and He will provide. I have been “out of control” too much of my life and I am ready for Him to be in total control.

  156. O-Rejection and loneliness. My family has moved a lot in the 8 years my husband and I have been married. Our last and probably final move was almost 3 years ago and has been the hardest. I just can’t seem to find a place to fit in at all here.
    B-Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” This is one of my favorite verses. It reminds me that no matter what I am going through God has a plan and has put me here for a purpose. He is with me through it all!
    S-Life can get busy and sometimes I forget to put God first. Stopping to P.R.A.Y can realign my perspective with God.

  157. Lynn Fincher says:

    To give God ‘s way when I become unglued stands out for me.#ungluedbook
    Thank you Melissa enjoyed the blog and keeping the breakdown of pray…

  158. O —– I could use more renewing of my mind in a lot of ways lately because I just feel like I keep getting knocked down and weighed down just in trying to make it through each day…I am very much one that seeks and notices the joy and beauty in the day/moment, but lately, I can go from encouraged to completely discouraged in a matter of minutes, so it’s a constant battle to stay focused on what HE is showing me and not getting distracted or feeling defeated in the midst of the heavy, or even the basic day to day things.

    B —– Psalm 46:10 – “Be still and know that I am God”

    S —–I think for me, it will have to be Y.A.R.P (even though it sounds funny, haha), because to think of yielding to Him and His ways literally brings a sense of calm, which would better allow me to think of what I know He’d want me to say or do (or not), which then can bring me to a place of applying what I know to the situation…then reflecting on that and reading His word if possible in the moment, then praying for God to make those things that I chose to yield to, apply and reflect on to become more a part of me and my life/words/actions. I think it all starts with yielding and ends with yielding and the other things happen in the middle, no matter what order <3

  159. Observe – One struggle is with my boyfriend – he is the person I tend to become unglued with/toward. Praying for renewal through the Word and this study!

    Bible – I don’t have a go-to verse, but I have a go-to mantra that I repeat in my head when I feel like my emotions are bubbling under the surface. I think “I want to be a blessing, I want to be a blessing.” It helps in the moment because I remember my purpose in God and how HE wants me to be/respond.

    Stretch – Prayer – it will be helpful to pray about the other person’s perspective and how God is in the situation.

  160. Tonya McCoy ~ P31 O-Team says:

    O ~ I struggle with my thoughts getting away from me and then coming unglued just because I’ve allowed my mind to run with some stupid idea I should have taken captive.
    B ~ “Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:5
    S ~ I love this acronym! I know if I just stop to P.R.A.Y. it will help me to keep my eyes on Jesus and stop my mind for getting carried away with those thoughts that will cause me to come unglued.

  161. O – I sure could use help with how I respond to my husband. These last few days I have felt God calling me to be humble. I’ve caught myself acting or reacting in a way that makes me uncomfortable and is bringing me up short.
    B – Proverbs 3:5-6 – Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
    I LOVE HOW THE MESSAGE SAYS THIS VERSE –
    Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for GOD’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.
    AMEN – I need that today.
    I also like Psalm 62:5 – Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him.
    S – This PRAY for a new perspective will help me – it will help me stop and take time to hear what God is telling me. I have a prayer prompt – it’s a ring with seven “stars” that are my birthstone. It was made by an artist in Israel. I can feel it on my finger because the band is wide – a reminder to me to look to God.

  162. VERY helpful reminders and what a great acronym, Melissa! Many thanks for letting God speak through you!
    My go-to verse is always Phil. 4:12-13 (used to be just 4:13 but God has impressed upon me the need to learn to be content in any and every situation!). Yes, I CAN do all things through Christ Who strengthens me! ALL things including NOT come unglued! Phew – thank You, Jesus!
    Another helpful-every-day verse is Philippians 4:6-7-6- Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
    God ALWAYS provides!

  163. Thank you for a new acronym to apply to my life. I tend to get upset or “unglued” if others won’t step up to the plate around the house and watch me do it all. I work 3 jobs so wish others could just help out without being told or asked so I have to work on standing there and Praying instead of getting upset.

  164. O: I’ve been struggling with patience and feeling overwhelmed.
    B: My go-to verse tends to be Phillipians 4:4-7 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
    S: Stopping to pray – this or any week – just helps keep me focused on the fact that God’s got this. That idea, more than anything else, helps me get through when I start feeling like I can’t.

  165. O – My unbalanced life of caringiving that leaves me vulnerable to a quick temper and anger. I desperately need to get my right spirit back.
    B- “May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing to you O’Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer! Psalm 19:14
    S- Love the idea of wearing a reminder! Posting key verses too in view. Great ideas!

  166. Julie Brewer says:

    Fear of rejection prompts a lot of emotional responses in me. It seems to be the root. My go to scripture is…
    God does not gives us the spirit of fear; but power love and peace of mind.
    If I stop and think about why I am reacting I can usually stop the emitions. But that’s a big IF. I would love to be able to conquer those fears so the emotions stay in check and I don’t become unglued so quickly.

  167. Observe – Staying focused on what God has done and will continue to do in my life. Facing challenges knowing that God is always in control and He will work it all out for my good.

    Bible – Proverbs 3 verse 5-6. This reminds me to surrender it all to the Lord. Trusting Him completely to do what He has promised. Not accepting situations based on my perception but accepting God’s direction for my life.

    Stretch – Letting go of the past and have a new perspective on life and what the Lord is doing in my life. Becoming more resilient in prayer and the study of God’s word..

  168. O- Worry. I am struggling with anxiety and depression. So much piled up on me at one time and I just crashed last summer. I let my worries take over instead of addressing them.
    B- I memorized the whole section in Matthew 6 on worry.
    S- stopping and praying takes the focus off me and puts it on God. It helps me to hand over what I’m worrying about to him.

  169. Crystal Castillo says:

    Observe – In this season of my life I am struggling with accepting change and letting go of past hurt that was caused by someone who I truly loved and had a great friendship relationship with. Emotions were involved and things didn’t unfold the way I thought they would or hoped for. There are times where I feel good and positive about the situation and then there’s times where I am remembered of the hurt and I quickly become unglued and begin to lose control of my emotions. The person who caused the hurt works with me in ministry so sometimes it can be really difficult to respond in positive ways towards that person.
    Bible – The one verse I always pronounce when I lose control of my emotions is Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” I have to constantly remind myself that God is in control of my life and circumstances even when things don’t make sense to me or when I don’t understand why things unfolded the way they did.
    Stretch – I truly believe that P.R.A.Y will help me see God’s perspective for my situation/circumstances a lot clearer than what I currently know now. Sometimes I still feel a little confused about the situation and I don’t want to feel that way anymore! So by doing P.R.A.Y I strongly believe I will hear God’s voice on what steps to take next in becoming the godly woman he created me to be and seeing things from His perspective and not my own. With a busy schedule I admit I don’t have that one on one time with God as much as I should especially during this season of my life, so I am VERY excited to start this and ready to hear God’s voice!

  170. Talia Prideaux says:

    O- I’m a serious overcommitter. My husband and I have a very busy marriage with full time jobs, a teenager in various activities, and we are very involved in our church and helping others. Sometimes our super busy schedule makes me unglued.

    B- Honestly, I sit in the aggravating emotions way too long and “forget” that God is just a prayer/verse away. I’ll use what I’m reading here.

    S- I think PRAY will help me to remember that I do have a choice over my emotions. It will help me to slow down and invite God into the situation.

  171. 1 John 4:4 “You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.”

  172. I need to work on when I come Unglued with my husband and children. When I’ve asked for them to do something 5 times and it seems the only way they hear me is for me yell and look like a mad woman.

  173. O- I could use a renewing with my negative and worrisome thoughts. Anxiety and depression have taken over my body and I’m learning to release to Him!

    B- I really don’t have a go to verse yet, but I will be finding one today! My go to is praise music! It it very uplifting and brings me joy, peace, and grounding.

    S- PRAY will help me implement some reminders to go to Him first!

  174. Observe- Right now I’m really struggling with the imperfections and repairs that need to be done around our home. Just last night I came unglued because of them! We simply do not have the funds to meet all these needs and it’s frustrating. I want to renew my mind to see the blessing of my home and have contentment while I wait. I desperately want Jesus to fill this void!
    Bible- Lamentations 3:21-22 “Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope: Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
    Stretch- Remembering to PRAY will help me refocus my thoughts on the good God has given me and to wait patiently.

  175. O – focusing and not letting distractions get in the way
    B – my go to verse is Jeremiah 33:3
    S – PRAY is a great reminder to put things in perspective and focus on what God is teaching me

  176. I need help with not becoming overwhelmed with daily life struggles.

    “Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.Psalm 46:10

    Stopping to PRAY will help me to rely on God more with my daily struggles.

  177. I have two things I pray:
    Help me God to be slow to speak, quick to listen and slow to get angry.
    And
    Search me oh God and know my heart. Test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:24-25.

  178. O-I struggle with worries of perfection and remembering that other people are good willed in their intentions…even when their perspective is different than mine.

    B-I most often turn to the Serenity Prayer.

    S-I’m looking forward to increasing my go to resources for prayer, reflection and application!

  179. Shayla Donaldson says:

    0- I really need to renew my way of thinking. I will start out good, believing and trusting God to do whatever He promised or I need Him to do, and then negative and wayward thoughts will make their way slowly in. Instead of casting them down, I will yield to those because it looks impossible and start stressing out about it.
    B- I have many go to verses but one that I recently turned to when I felt weighted and burdened down was Hebrews 12:1
    S-I will use PRAY to help me focus on God’s Word and His plan for me

  180. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust and he will help you. Psalm 37:5.

  181. O: Right now, it just seems as if nothing is going right. Finances, children, finacee. Just nothing. And it’s frustrating, but I also know that there is a lesson that is going to come out of my frustration in this season and that I just need to persevere and pray and it will also pass.

    B: Philippians 4:6 – Do not be anxious about anything. But in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be made known to God. – This in particular had been hard for me over the years, but I’ve learned to embrace the hardships as they come and thank God in advanced for the lesson that I’m going to have at the end of this chapter of my life.

    S: Really stopping to pray in a lot of situations will just help me from coming unglued emotionally. Anxiety is definitely a daily struggle and battle for me. So when I start to feel anxious, I try to get away from everything crazy that is going on at work or at home for a little while and I just ground myself in God so He can carry me through whatever the situation is.

  182. I need help with negative self talk and the hamster wheel of worry.

    Philippines 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I have an origami owl necklace with a cross, 4,1,3 charms as a reminder for this verse.

  183. Observe — Fear of rejection/abandonment/acceptance – I am often afraid that if things aren’t going smoothly, or if someone in my houshold gets offended by something I do or say that is honest, they will leave. It seems irrational to think that way, and it is something I struggle with on a daily basis. Sometimes subtly, sometimes strongly.
    Bible — Psalm 118:6 – The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid.
    What can mere mortals do to me?
    Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
    in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.
    Stretch — Remember that, no matter what, God will never leave me nor forsake me, and that I must always lean not on my own understadning, but submit to Him under every circumstance.

  184. O~ Struggling with finding balance with ministry and home life and lots of “changes” this year. I often feel very overwhelmed and ultimately defeated.I am not able to look at all that I have accomplished but only focusing on what I always see left undone or “to do” . This study is helping me already to “name it”.
    B~ I do not have one single “go to” verse : One reminder in all situations is Psalm 73:28 “But it is good to be near God- I have made the Lord God my refuge that I may tell of your works.”
    S~ I will use the P.R.A.Y. in my journal to be more intentional for a “focus”! Great resource….

  185. I struggle daily with coming “unglued” with my kids. I love our memory verse, Romans 12:2, and I also love 2 Corinthians 10:5b “We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” I like that the PRAY prompt forces you to stop and refocus. If I do this, and replace what my flesh wants to spew with truths from God, everyone wins!

  186. My thoughts of insecurity are becoming more frequent. That leads me to “unglue” when anyone hurts my feelings by what they say.
    “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
    ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12:9‬ ‭

  187. O – Believing in “Myself”
    B – I don’t have a go to verse, but with this online bible study, My prayer is that not only to find that perfect verse but to grow closer in the word.
    S – PRAY helps me to stay focused on what is more important thru day to day task.

  188. Karri Watkins says:

    O- my biggest struggle right now is forgiveness. I have 2 different situations right now of two family members that have really hurt me. I dwell on it a lot and let it hurt me all over again. I feel like I have no desire to forgive them but I’m the one continuing to hurt over it.
    B- I don’t have a go to verse for this but I really need one.
    S – stopping to pray would be so beneficial…instead I tend to just dwell on the pain and relive the original event where they caused the pain …I’m really trying to change this.

    • Lynne Atterberry says:

      Oh, Karri–I think you just wrote what was in my head. I have trouble with forgiveness too. I would be glad to forgive if the offending person would ask for it, but he believes he did nothing wrong. And I think you are supposed to forgive anyway. I also tend to dwell on the hurt and not let go. My mind just keeps reliving it as if someone kept hitting the repeat button. God forgives and turns the page on our sins–I need to learn to do the same. This constant negativity affects not only my health, but my relationship with others. Let go and let God should become our go to thoughts when these hurts sneak up on us.

  189. I love the P.R.A.Y. acronym mentioned in Wednesdays blog. I struggle with the Y-Yield so much. I’m praying that through this study I truly will yield by emotions to be controlled by God alone

  190. O-An extreme struggle of mine is controling my tongue. I am very opinionated and find myself spouting off when i need to remember that we re to be slow to speak and quick to listen.
    B I dont know of the exact verse but I will be finding some today to lean on.
    S-I am so thankful for the PRAY acroynym. It is things like this that are so hlepful to me. Thank you for providing this skill. I will Pray, Read, Apply, AND Yield! I love it!!

    • This is my struggle as well – I’ve been working on it, and have made a little progress but I constantly fail and then am aghast at how little I apply what I read. I read the book “Keep it Shut” and it’s a terrific book. Yet I frequently fail to apply the principal “Pause before you Pounce”.

  191. One of my sons is having a difficult time with his attitude and I’m getting sucked right into his negativity. Definitely need to renew my mind in this area! I love keeping this week’s memory verse in mind to help me. I’m also excited to implement the PRAY guide!

  192. My husband is not a believer and has a problem with alcohol. We are married 43 years today. My thoughts are what trip me up. My sweet daughter gave me Lisa’s book (Unglued) it was written for me. I am learning to respond, not react. My verse is 2 Cor. 10:5. I must let Holy Spirit take every thought captive. I also listen to Christian Radio. The song “Fix My eyes on You” has helped me. The past few months is better, even my husband is better, and now I have the opportunity to be in this study journey. I think I am in the “apply” part of Pray.

  193. Observe — my reactions when things become unglued. My temper can get the best of me.

    Bible — none, sadly I’ve never been able to memorize versus.

    Stretch – I’ve heard and done the PRAY acronym, but I don’t know how to stop in the middle of a situation.

  194. P- I am to be the kind of parent that He is! Forgiving, patient, loving, giving, understanding & the list can go on.
    R- “A tranquil heart is life to the body, but jealousy is rottenness to the bones.” Proverbs 14:30
     Colossians 3:15, “And let the peace of the Messiah, to which you were also called in one body, control your hearts. Be thankful.” Today’s PB31DEVOTION hit home for me.
    A- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
    Y- Lord I thank You for the conviction of taking time each day to spending precious moments with my child but when it comes to getting things done that need to get done, sometimes things fall apart & I know that is testing trials that You are leading me through to be stronger & persevere & I want that testing but sometimes my attitude is so poor bc things are out of my control & my family are left with feeling the repercussions of my misery! Would help me to be more graceful in my words, patient in my affliction & step away when I know what comes next can’t bring You Honor & Glory?! Amen!!

  195. O: The area of my life that needs the most renewing right now is my relationships with my 2 young sons, 14 & 10. I am single parenting in the midst of a long family crisis and I’ve grown weary with the constant battles with my boys. I tend to come “Unglued” a lot and I see the damage it causes. I’m learning that my control issues get in the way of loving and supporting them the way they need me too right now. I need God to renew my mind daily as I get into conversations with them, especially so I can see things from their perspective. Only God can do this in me and for me. I am powerless to change this on my own.

  196. Christina says:

    I struggle with being critical of others & feelings of insecurity in myself. My hope & prayer is that God shows me through this study more of who He has called me to be & how to walk in that as well as how to be more gracious to others!

  197. O-voicing my displeasure immediately, this can help me to think through what I should say before it is done
    B-Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
    S-this can help me to look at situations through the lenses God wants me to more often.

  198. Observe — I don’t need the bad behaviors of who I work with dictate how my day will be. I need to continue in joy!
    Bible — Jeremiah 29:11 God’s plans are so much better than mine. I need to remember He knows the whole picture.
    Stretch — Focusing on God’s truth helps me put things in perspective.

  199. Observe — My struggle is dwelling on negative words, actions, or what I think may happen in the future.
    Bible — My “Whatever” verse – Philippians 4:8 – this is what I need to think about…
    Stretch — Stopping to P.R.A.Y is the key to imperfect progress! I definitely need to apply and yield. I can be so reactive and impulsive, and then just seconds later I feel awful for what I’ve said and done.

  200. Stopping to reflect on a situation before I react always helps me with a more appropriate response. The trouble is remembering to stop and reflect when I am hurt, angry or frustrated in the moment. I am looking forward to using PRAY to try to help me remember to stop and put God’s perspective on the situation before I lash out and regret my response.

  201. O- One struggle that I know I could use some renewing of the mind with is in my relationship with my step daughters mom. I have a tendency to get very anxious b4 any interactions with her. I am finally at a place where I can sincerely pray for her with my stepdaughter and on own. It has taken me about 6 yrs to put the word “sincerely” in that statement.
    B- 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, “My gracious favor is all you need. My power works best in your weaknesses. So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may work through me. Since I know that it is all for Christ’s good, I am quite content with my weaknesses and with insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamitites. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
    S- Using the PRAY acronym is going to be helpful. Asking God to reveal to me what I need to work on, to use His words from scripture to restore my soul and mind and then to yield to what God’s plan is are all great reminders.

  202. Observe: first of all the first thing I see is I’m not alone with this struggle! For me it is having too many resources and books teaching me and not enough time. I’m learning to prioritize my life.
    Bible : God is within her she will not fall! Psalm 46:5
    She is strong proverbs 31:25
    Stretch: I love the P.R.A.Y I’m reminded it’s a journey not a destination!

  203. O ~ Unrealistic personal goals. I demand too much of myself, a lot and find it exhausting when working on a project.

    B ~ 2 Corinthians 13:11. I just found this as I really don’t have that “go to” verse that pertains to our study but when I read this it was like a sigh of relief.

    S ~ In all that I do, I try to do it myself. There is nothing wrong with that as long as I remember He is the one guiding me as move through life. Therein lies my issue, I need to remember that He does guide me and that it’s not just me making things happen.

  204. I could use a renewing of mind in how I verbally respond to situations and the people I love most, my husband, my son, and my mother in particular.
    One of my favorite verses is John 15:5 I am the vine and you are the branches. He who abides in me and I in him, he bears much fruit; but apart from me you can do nothing.
    Spending time with God does wonders for gaining new perspective. PRAY is going to be an awesome tool to focus my time with God and get more out of it.

  205. O-Just everyday life. I get so bogged down in the “everyday” sometimes, I forget how blessed I truly am. I lose my temper with those closest to me, those I love the most, those God has blessed me with the most, and struggle to teach/unteach the damage I do.

    B-Eph. 4:29 (and the NIV brings this one home for me) Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

    S-I know from experience, any form of prayer or PRAY can completely diffuse any situation. Many times I forget, in the heat of the moment, to call on God’s all encompassing strength, wisdom, and mercy for help. But when I do in all sincerity, there is at least a change in me.

  206. O. Keeping my cool with one of my sisters. Just can push my buttons like no one else.

    B. For I do not understand my own actions. I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.
    Romans 7:15

    S. When I find myself out of control and I stop and pray, this verse comes to me. Even Paul had this struggle. It makes me feel not alone. It’s a battle that I can fight along side of others. It calms me down.

  207. O. I need Yield to God and His Will. This is my constant struggle.

    B. I don’t have a “go to verse” yet. I just printed P31 Christa Hutchins “Life Verse” study skills and between that and reading through these beautiful sisters comments, I hope to find one I can keep in my pocket that I can reach for (often I am sure ).

    S. I just finished relating a story to a good friend about answered prayer. How I had gone back into a prayer journal of mine, and realized, how many of those prayers where I was on purposefully on my knees … and how many of them had actually been answered.
    I am so thankful for this study pointing me back in the “Good, acceptable, and Perfect” direction !

  208. O – I struggle with being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger when it comes to my husband and children. I get frustrated asking my children to do things multiple times and they do not do them. Also, struggle communicating thoughts and opinions with my husband. We are both strong willed and determined to win, especially if don’t see eye to eye on things.
    B – My go to verse is: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I also leave the room, take a break so I look to the Holy Spirit and ask Him for wisdom and guidance when I feel like “unglued” and yelling at my children. I pray in the spirit to calm me down and regain wisdom. Then re-engage with them when I feel release to. Otherwise, the “match” is on and we all want to win!
    S – For me P.R.A.Y helps me to be AWARE so it can bring forth change. A lady once told me “Awareness is the beginning of change.” I think that is what this “Unglued” Bible Study is all about….Amen!

  209. Dawn Little says:

    O- I struggle with putting God before my outbursts of anger and frustration I so need that renewed
    B- Ps116:1-2 God has brought these verses to me in recent days He loves me so much He inclines His ears to hear me and that is refreshing and reassuring especially when I know I go off the deep end at times and feel unworthy
    S- put my focus on God when I’m loosing it! Apply scripture, Go to Him first

  210. My weakness or struggle right now is food/weight and my marriage.
    The verse that keeps running through my mind is “you’ve circled this mountain long enough, it’s time to move north”
    I’m not sure how God wants me to move on. Either let go and move on or hold on and move on. If that makes sense.

  211. Shawna Wells says:

    O- My biggest is Control. I know it’s my BIGGEST hurdle…
    B- my verse has always been Psalms 139: 13-16
    “For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. My bones were not hidden from You when I was made in secret, when I was formed in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw me when I was formless; all my days were written in Your book and planned before a single one of them began.”
    ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:13-16‬ ‭HCSB‬‬
    P- I will use PRAY to keep my mind focused and renewed..,

  212. Dorothy L. Palmer says:

    My go to verse is Romans12:2. Every morning before I get out of bed. I ask God to renew my mind for that day. Then before going to sleep. I thank Him for renewing my mind that day!

  213. O – When I do get angry, I get such a narrow focus it is like I am blinded. I reason with myself knowing that I am doing it. I do stop and pray right in the midst of this reasoning and praise the Lord, He rescues me from myself!
    B – My go to is “Love is kind.” Over and over in my head I repeat this verse to calm myself down. However, today when I looked up the reference (knowing only that it was I Cor. 13) I laughed at myself to find that this verse, verse 4, actually starts with Love is PATIENT! Our Lord is so GOOD! A gentle reminder that if I had the “patience” He would like for me to develop then I could have the “kind” I ask Him to “make” me.
    S – I do believe this “funny” revelation will help me to remember that Love is also patient as well as kind and will help me to P.R.A.Y.

  214. Janet Wallace says:

    Rom. 8:35 Nothing can separate us from God!!!!!!!

  215. Nia Moore says:

    O- One struggle that I have is being renewed in the context of my relationship. My boyfriend and I have made the commitment to put God forth in everything that we do, and everyone knows when you strive to do a “God-thing” the enemy always shows up. Please keep us in prayer! 🙂
    B- One verse I came across this week is Psalm 30:8- Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. This reminds me that the battle doesn’t belong to me, but to the Lord! He will help me. He will do it. He will rescue me, cleanse me, etc. when I am facing the schemes of the enemy, as long as I submit and commit my ways to the Lord.
    S- I think that by stopping to “PRAY,” I will begin to truly be renewed by the transforming of my mind. My attitude will change. My perspective will change. I will be able to do all things that God is calling me to do through Him, “who strengthens me.”

  216. O- I am currently unemployed, for the first time in 30 years. I am struggling with God’s timing and trying very hard to humble myself before him and wait.
    B- The verse that I am clinging to is Jeremiah 29:11- “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    S- I love the P.R.A.Y. Tool! I want to commit this to memory and use it in many situations

  217. my unglued stories embarrass me. I know when I become unglued. I need to keep a verse on me to refer to often.

    I have verses on cards which help me at work. My unglued time come when I am at home. I need my cards on me at home!!

    Romans 12:2 “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”

    1Thess 5:16-18 “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

    Phil 4:8 “finally, brothers & sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.”

  218. Observe – I am struggling to trust and have faith. I am new to this, just having recently found God. I am being baptised for the first time in a couple of weeks and I’m hoping this physical act will help deepen my spiritual faith.

    Bible — My go-to verse is John 3:30, ‘He must become greater; I must become less’. I actually wear this verse on a bracelet.

    Stretch — I’ve had a lot of difficulty learning how best to study the Bible. I’ve also spent a lot of time pinning tactics on Pinterest; but I’ve yet to find one that truly works for me. By learning to P. R. A. Y. I’m hoping I’ll find a new way to absorb His Word!

    • Leigh Ann Janovsky says:

      Erin – you pretty much summed it up for me! I am new to this as well and struggle daily with shrugging off years of bad habits trying to develop new that will increase my faith and trust in God. We’ll get there!

  219. This is a great time for me to be starting this bible study. We are working on some marriage issues and the patterns after 26 years need to be changed. Thank you for the words of wisdom and reminders of using the verses. I use to do that but have gotten away from it. My first verse will be Romans 12:2

  220. When I feel that button of out of control about to be pushed I want to change my thoughts and feelings by remembering the consequences of what I have always done. Through prayer and new thoughts I will react in prayer not panic. Psalms 34: 4-6 covers me in these days.

  221. For me I become unglued at work. I think it’s all the stress.

    Didn’t have a verse, but this one from one of the comments was comforting. For I do not understand my own actions. I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.
    Romans 7:15

    I hope that PRAY will help me to not become unglued.

  222. Brandi Farrow (P-31 O Team) says:

    One struggle that I could use a renewing of the mind with is when it comes to trust. I have daily struggles with my faith. Even though I know in my heart that God is in control of everything, I still don’t trust him with all of my stuff! How crazy is that?! Thank you so much for this printable you gave us! I’m a visual person and I think that using this will help me when it comes to situations I’m facing

  223. O=Keeping my mouth shut..I need to realize everyone doesn’t need to know my opinion. I need to be slow to answer, and just listen!

    B= Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path. I have this tattoo on my foot..to remind me God is always there and I need to seek Him

    S= Stopping to pray can help me a lot..daily..if I would just do it. I lost a dear friend this week, a 40 year old father to two beautiful girls ages 1 & 3. He died in his sleep of a heart attack. So tragic to lose someone so unexpectantly..it has made me question everything. But I know without my faith this week, I couldn’t have survived. Watching his wife go through this has been so hard. But during his funeral last night she stood up..all alone during the song “I Will Rise” and lifted her hand to Jesus..praising Him, during this storm. Now that is faith..to praise Jesus during one of the darkest days of your life. But He calls us to do that. I want to do that. In order to do that I need to work on my relationship with Jesus daily..before all else!

  224. Gail Manley says:

    James 1:19
    My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

  225. I struggle with becoming Unglued at my 4 year old. When he won’t listen and repeatedly defies us I explode. I immediately feel regret,but even in the midst of the regret and knowing this is not how I should react I can’t seem to calm myself. I have learned that I have to leave the room…even if that means locking myself in a room until I have regained control. I pray that God intercedes and gives me peace and fills me with love and patience to show my child.
    Thankfully by the grace of God I have gotten better st remaining calm in such situations, however it is an imperfect progress!

  226. Observe- When I am in an disagreement/argument, I will rehash things over and over in my mind. This tends to make me angrier. I’ll come up with scenarios in my mind. These scenarios that happen in my mind do nothing to help me in the situation. I have, however, gotten myself so worked up that I take it out on the people closest to me. I usually end up yelling at my kids or my husband. This is not God’s will for me.
    Bible- After reading this blog post I really started to think about this part of me. It’s not healthy. So, I looked up Bible verses on this subject. This one spoke to me and will become a memory verse, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’” Romans 12:19 ESV
    Stretch-Through this Bible study and using the resources laid before me, I can start to change my thought processes. Instead of me rehashing and thinking how I can teach this person a lesson or what to say in an argument to convince them I’m right , I can use P.R.A.Y to allow God to help me to not always have to be right. To step back and allow God to handle the situation. P.R.A.Y will give me something else, something much more productive, to focus on.

  227. My struggle, lately, has been just giving up when I get frustrated. When I get overwhelmed, I just seem to stop doing things–putting me farther behind–making me more overwhelmed. At some point, I’m going to pop! This seems to be the opposite of coming unglued, but I suppose it’s a “stuffing” tendency.

    So I would definitely like to work on overcoming the fear of not being able to get everything done–and having the courage to finding ways to getting everything done.

  228. I need this! Simply said! Faith is a struggle today and I need to turn all over to God. I will find my verse. I have read wonderful things here this morning. Thanks to all!

  229. O – As a single, working mom of two teenagers who is going through a breakup I worry about everything. This is all very new to me. I grew up Jewish but have found my way here and am loving everything I am learning. The teacher in me loves to study so reading through everyone’s go-to verses is filling my heart with so much love. Working on worrying has been a challenge for me my whole life but I finally feel like I am in the right place and being give the “tools” to be able to look at everything so differently.
    B- I love that I randomly chose (now I know it wasn’t random at ALL) a podcast to listen to from my local Calvary Church over the weekend. It was all about worry. Phillipians 4:6 is most definitely my new life mantra! It shows me I’m on the right path when I see that this is also the favorite to so many others.
    S- I am waking up every morning earlier than I need to sit here and do my Bible study. I now know I will also sit and read through other members’ favorite versus to learn more.
    **side-note – thank you all at P31 for all that you do. You have truly made me feel, for the first time in my life, not so alone. I love you all for that.

    • Proverbs 31 Bible Studies Team says:

      Jamie, we are so glad you are joining us and growing in the Lord. Other OBSers are a great community resource. Blessings.

  230. I liked what Lysa said in the book about how we don’t want to be remembered for “when she was nice, she was realy really nice, but when she was mad, look out world!”. I’m paraphrasing, but….Lysa got me on this one! The Bible says a spring cannot produce both fresh and salt water. I’m being very aware of my feelings today and will journey to imperfect progress.

  231. I must confess yielding is difficult. I love how Lisa says that it’s more than just thinking the thoughts, you have to BELIEVE. (p. 24) Whenever I feel distrust of God’s power I remember Isaiah 55:8-9 “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts”.
    We are just stuck on the one piece when God sees the complete puzzle. If we trust He knows how it fits rather than obsessing over how it looks, we can have peace in the storm. (Pun intended?)

  232. Observe – I need to learn that my opinion is NOT the most important and I don’t have to share it!
    Bible – The Lord will fight for you; you need only be still. Exodus 14:14
    Stretch – Praying about it prior to speaking will make me stop before things just run out of my mouth!

  233. I struggle with trusting and giving over to God the thought that deeply etched behavior patterns in my marriage and family relationships can be changed. I pray for the peace to allow God to do His work and trust He will do so. I pray God restores my marriage and family relationships to ones that honor and bring glory to Him.

  234. O – I need to remember to just pray and support someone who is going thru a rough time, and not think I have all the answers or wisdom she needs. I dare not circumvent what the Lord has planned by being impatient!
    B – Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
    S – Another acronym I’ve learned is H.A.L.T. If I am too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired then the enemy is more able to enable me to become Unglued! So together I will learn to HALT then PRAY.

  235. Observe — Whew, just one, lol. Okay, I would have to narrow it down to two areas…financially and having another child. I understand and trust in Gods process, however, its still a desire of the heart to have a child with my husband. God is still working in me and I’m just going to keep leaning on His word. As far as our finances it just seems like no matter how much or how little we make, its never enough or theirs enough for 5 bills and their are 20 with their hands out.

    Bible — Right now, its “Do not conform to the patterns of this word, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” Romans 12:2. This passage is so powerful ajd speaks volumes! Its more of a revelation to the transformation we all go through.

    Stretch — Using the P.R.A.Y. tactic will help to increase my time with God, to focus more on Him and listen to what He is telling me. It’ll help to keep God as the head of my life and to depend on Him more than anything else.

  236. Brenda Thurman says:

    Good morning everyone. Sure hope you are having a great morning.
    1. My struggle is trying to figure out what I can do to help get my daughter in laws
    to like me.
    2. The bible verse I always go to is ” I can do all things, through Christ who
    strengthens me. Philippians 4:13
    3. I always stop and pray. This may sound silly but sometimes I pray the Lord will
    give me a close parking space. I pray all day long. You don’t have to get on your knees
    and pray. I pray in the grocery store, that the Lord will help me stay under a certain
    amount. You can pray anytime, even under your breath. The Lord knows what
    we are going to say or do before we even say it or know it. Yes, I pray all day long
    Have a awesome, blessed, great day everyone

  237. loving colossians 3:15! what conviction this morning. “and let the peace of the messiah” i dont think im good at letting Him control my heart. this verse is going to be said a lot today!

  238. Observe – I get defensive too quickly and/or shut down with my husband.
    Bible – Psalm 139:23-24 Search me God and know my heart, test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me to the way everlasting.
    Stretch – If I would simply stop and pray it would keep me from becoming unglued in so many cases. Using the PRAY skill will be so helpful, but the most difficult part is Yielding. I sometimes do all of those other steps and fail to Yield. Praying that I Yield more to God and His Way.

  239. After doing my devotion this morning, I went to the verse of the day from life way. This is my prayer been struggling with perfection. “Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”
    ‭‭Galatians‬ ‭1:10‬ ‭NLT‬‬
    http://bible.com/116/gal.1.10.nlt

  240. O: One struggle has been with my reaction at my child’s sporting event…a few parents are so negative and hard on the kids. My child can hear all of this during the game and I find myself very offended. I liked what we read the other day that just because we feel offended, does not mean we have to walk around offended.
    B: I like Ephesians 4:32- Be kind and compassionate, forgiving one another like Christ forgave you.
    S: Asking myself, who’s side am I on? Telling myself, I am on God’s side. I am not a Freak Out Woman.

  241. O- I am struggling in a lot of areas but the one area that God has revealed to me is being a submissive wife. I want my conduct to win my husband over without having to say a word, but instead my mouth speaks. I hadn’t been this way in forever, but lately I feel offended by his words, so I feel I need to defend myself. 🙁

    B- I surround myself with scriptures mainly at work, since that’s where I spend most of my time. “No weapon formed against me shall prosper” is one of my favorites and “Bringing all thoughts into captivity to the obedience of Christ” is another one I declare over myself. Although, I have many in my home as well! I need to be feed daily.

    S- This week’s verse is really speaking to me, I don’t want to be conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of my mind. So Im applying this to my week and my journey as He cotinues to slowly transforms me. I’m a work in progress! Thank you Jesus! 🙂

  242. I love what Lysa said about grounding yourself in the fact that God’s got this. Once I decide that I’m just going to trust him no matter what, I can work on letting go of things that aren’t in my control and be ok on the inside. I’m struggling right now with work and health issues. I want to renew my mind to know God has a plan in both of these areas of my life. Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

  243. Leigh Ann Janovsky says:

    O. Major struggle for me is discipline. I am terribly unorganized and get little accomplished as a result. My mind races all over the place and focus is hard to come by. It leads to disappointment, frustration, anger…not good stuff.
    B. My go-to verse ‘Be still and know that I am God’. Psalm 46:10. I know the verse relates to war and there is a war in my heart that only God can conquer. I need to learn to Be Still and let Him fight for me.
    S. I pray that P.R.A.Y. will help me be more focused on the Lord and less on my distractions! It’s a great acronym and I hope it helps with my discipline. But right now, I have a house to clean and it’s driving me nuts!! (see what I mean??).

  244. 1. My struggle is with thoughts about my marriage and my insecurities.
    2. My verse is Deuteronomy 20:4 For the Lord your God is he that goeth with you,to fight for you against your enemies to save you.
    3. I’m praying constantly… I think being in contstant conversation with God has helped me to catch myself sometimes before I go over theverything deep edge but sometimes I’ll get so worked up I’ll be praying and still go right over… these emotions whew…

  245. Jer 29:11 reminds me that He knows the plans for mine and my family’s lives so even though I may not be able to see what’s ahead I need not worry because He is in control….He is all knowing!

  246. My struggle is in be quick to respond in anger to my husband and children. We have been going through some life changes and I often feel as though their anger is directed at me, so I snap back. I am praying for God to allow me to feel his joy and to think before I speak.

  247. Kathy Ecklebe says:

    I have such a hard timing memorizing scripture. I know the general idea of scripture but to memorize it verbatim is very hard for me. I am the ladies director at our church and I feel it is SO important for me to model that skill!! Praying for a change of thought to have different outcome.

  248. What I struggle with is negativity. In the past when I’m feeling under confident or stressed, I’ve started to have a pity party and feel bad that no one sees how hard I’m working. If someone crosses me during one of these times, I am in danger of making snide comments or being critical. Right before this study started, I began to notice the fluctuation of my feelings and observe certain triggers for them. My go to verse is Isaiah 40:31–the crucial part is “will run and not be weary; walk and not faint” so I use this as a tool to get over the blues and just keep going, trusting that God will see me through. This week I will try the “P.R.A.Y.” strategy and see what this adds to my ability to not come unglued. I’m thankful to begin to understand this.

  249. Stephanie says:

    Only one? That’s hard☺️ I would have to say struggling with relying on Christ for ALL things. Too often I get in the habit of taking care of everything and then tear myself down if I drop a ball. Relying on Christ helps me not only in setting priorities but he helps others step up and relieve some of load if only I ask (sometimes without asking). Philippians 4:13 reminds me “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”

  250. Observe – As many people have stated stress, patience- mostly with my family, and finances are usually at the top of my list. It hits especially hard around the holidays. It is a time that you see all these “perfect, pinterest inspired” decorations, happy family photos, grand vacations and overly exorbitant gifts for young kids. It certainly makes me feel inadequate both as a parent and person. Like I am just not doing enough at home, enough at work, enough at church or enough at my kids schools. This is a big struggle for me and always something that lingers in my mind.

    Bible – On the bright side of that, I have a loving husband of 22 years, 2 kids -boy age 11 and girl age 8, a loyal hound dog, 2 obstinate cats and my mother who lives close by to help out. So I read AND repeat this verse often…”The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with JOY.” Psalms 126:3 We are all healthy, happy – most of the time, we laugh a lot and have a home with food in the cabinets. I know things could always be worse and are for many. so I try to focus on what he has blessed us with, instead of what we don’t have.

    Stretch – I will be intentional about my prayer time throughout the holiday season – and beyond. With my focus for my family and myself, that we will remember that Christmas is not our birthday, we are celebrating the life that Christ gave up for us. That we will not over extend ourselves either socially, emotionally or financially like so many of our neighbors and friends. I am going to use the prayer prompt list in my daily prayer time, because well – I love a list, and it helps me to have goals written out.

  251. Lamentations 3:22-23 Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed for his compassions never fail They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.. Looking to see others through Gods eyes and seeing the good in everyone. Wait on God, patience in the situation is always difficult. This morning I’m thankful God is working in me and my family. Everyone is dealing with something, sometimes holding our tongues is better then spewing our opinions on hurting souls.

  252. O – The brokenness of my former marriage is what I need renewal for my mind. I endured 9 years of mostly turmoil & even now, a full year after my divorce. My ex tried to maintain control of me throughout this past year which was frustrating and irritating. God worked in me to be able to claim my life back & lay boundaries as well as work on him to release me. Long story short, this has all brought out anger in him from hurt he has felt which was directed at me as well as the pain of 9 years of betrayal on his part. I have been hurting a lot and simply bawled my eyes out as I read chapter 1.
    B – I don’t have a specific go to verse…just depends on how I feel & what is going on around me. Philippians 4:6-7 has been laid on my heart a lot lately though, although I struggle to go to it in the heat of the moment: “Do not be anxious about anything but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, make your request known to God. And the Peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
    S – I think as I practice the PRAY strategy more (I already do the R fairly regularly) I think the verse I shared will be more automatic in my life and not a reminder after the fact

  253. O- This past January 1, my husband revealed that he had an affair 16 years ago. At the time he was not a Christian, not that it makes any difference, but it’s a fact in our case. He had been struggling with the Lord on whether or not to reveal this information to me, but God had instructed him to tell me, and I’m so grateful he was obedient to Him. Even though I was crushed and emotionally struggle I know it was hard for him. I’m proud of him, as he knew I could have walked out the door the very next moment. But this is an area that I am continually having to battle renewing my mind. Because the past circumstances have led to me being unworthy, insecure, and at times the scum of the earth. I will often feel like I’m a failure as a wife…which then makes me wonder if I’m even a good mother.
    B- Not long after the revelation, I would say within a week, God blessed me with His Word. He gave me a particular scripture that the moment I read it, I knew He had meant it for me…for this moment…for this year. Isaiah 43:18-19 Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! New it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. (NIV) This particular page in my Bible is marked up to high heaven as I’ve scratched other scripture that He has given me over the course of these past 10 months. He has been faithful as he strengthens me and builds a stronger, yet changed marriage.
    S- Yes, this PRAY method would be ever so grateful! Thank you! In fact, it is an expansion of what I currently do. God is not done with me yet, nor is He finished with my marriage. And through all of this He is and will be glorified.
    God bless you all!

    • Thank you Cathy for sharing this – I love this scripture passage. Good for all of us to keep in memory.
      God Bless your day!

    • Stephanie H. says:

      I’m dealing with this right now and it’s very, very fresh. My husband and I have been married for 3 years, together nearly 9. He revealed to me that he’s been having an affair with another woman for two years now back in May. I found out I’m pregnant with our first child in April. He left and only just came home 2 months ago. He isn’t even sure he wants to be married and isn’t sure he’ll ever love me again, but he wants to be involved with the baby. I’m so broken and praying all the time for God to restore our marriage. I see progress, but it is so slow and then I go and freak out (because unlike chapter 2, I AM a freak out woman) and destroy the forward progress. I’ve been praying all night for God to help change my perspective, to help me see the good in this. It’s very hard to see what good is in the brokenness of my marriage, but I’m praying and I’m trying. Imperfect progress. Every day I just want to move that line in the sand a little bit further

  254. 1. My struggle is with my relationship with my mom and my insecurities as a mom.

    2. My go to verse is from Romans 15:13. “May the God of hope fill you with all the joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

    3. I want raised consistent with religion. As I have truly found God, praying helps ground me in my life. I still have a lot to learn, read, pray. Studying the Bible and praying has already changed my perspective on life so much that I continue to use it. I only hope I can instill this in my boys early.

  255. O-I need a renewing mind in my mom o meter. I get frustrated quickly and just want to throw my hands up and be done.
    B-i don’t have a go to verse, but i am saying our memory verse over and over to myself. as well as finding some great ones in this thread.
    S-I love the idea of having a prompt to remind me to apply these principles, something to remind me in my moments of frustration to stop and seek God.

  256. Nina Smith says:

    B- A verse I seek out when I become unglued is Psalm 46:1 “God is our refuge and strength, and ever-present help in trouble.” That is such a comfort to know that whenever we might not have a situation under control God will be our refuge and He is our strength to overcome the issue, whatever it might be.

  257. Rebecca Hands says:

    Observe — I struggle with saying what’s on my mind without thinking of it first. Although I’ve gotten better I just feel like I’m always on the go and busy and when I come home and my spouse hasn’t done anything to help I instantly feel irritated and let my feelings overcome everything. I feel overwhelmed and unappreciated at times. I need to renew my mind and Let God work this out.

    Bible — My go to verse is…. I can Do ALL things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

    Stretch — I have been stopping to let go and let God handle the issues I’m facing and then go into the Truth and find out what his word has to say about my trial. I have a booklet that have created with all the verses that I feel God is speaking to me and before I start my day I read the First5 app, as I’m working out I have prayers taped on my wall that I just pray for these area and when I get to work I read over my booklet of verses. The P.R.A.Y will just help me stay focused and place God in all I do.

  258. O – I’m struggling with a couple of situations that are bringing major stress and fear that overwhelm me. I also have some health issues with chronic pain, so all of this combined just wipes me out, and I’m exhausted all the time and lose heart. I know I bring on a lot myself because I try to fight things in my own strength. It is hard for me to be still and wait on the Lord sometimes, especially in my thought life, so I tend to wear myself out with my thoughts on my situations, playing out how to handle or what to say in each circumstance.
    B – The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still. Ex. 14:14
    S – I must take every thought captive and still my mind and replace my thoughts with His word and walk and talk them out minute by minute, as that’s when my thoughts come-one right after another, minute by minute. He will fight for me. I need to remind myself constantly that He sees and knows all and us all powerful. Why in the world do I carry anything, knowing that?? “Nothing is impossible” for those who believe. I need to truly believe

  259. The P.R.A.Y. Acronym will help a lot when put to use. Especially for me. When I feel like I’m coming unglued, I’m going to start to say I need to take a break, do the following steps, give myself time to cool down seek God through Prayer Reflect Apply and Yeild to what God is saying to me on how to approach. That way I don’t just say what’s on my mind, to where I can hurt people and not take those words back, and cause damage!

  260. Christina says:

    1. The biggest struggle I have in my life seems to be my feelings about myself, and my insecurities. I struggle with my infertility issues, and feeling like I’m broken.

    2. Hebrews 6:19 – 20. “19 We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, 20 where our forerunner, Jesus, has entered on our behalf. He has become a high priest forever, in the order of Melchizedek.”

    3. P.R.A.Y. will help me stop & focus my energy on my relationship with God, instead of staying in my own head. Knowing that I can find peace and grace in Him gives me rest.

  261. Jaime fleming says:

    O: my struggle is how to deal with my kids when they are not behaving. I sometimes let it get the best of me and I don’t like how I react most of the times.

    B: this week I am leaning on the verse of the week Romans 12:2a. I need to remember not to conform to the world but to give it all to God so that my mind can calm down and be restored. I need to give glory to God when I am feeling overwhelmed and frustrated and let him ease not only my mind but my heart.

    S: I am going to try and remember to P.R.A.Y. Every time I am feeling a little overwhelmed in my life. I need to constantly remind myself that God is here with me through everything. I just need to give him my problems and trust in him always!

  262. Heather Edwards says:

    The one struggle I can say I always seem to fight with is worry. I worry about everything. Right now I worry that because I haven’t brought my children up with a church and a strong foundation of God and the sacrifice His son made for us that my children will be lost in the things of this world, and not know in three hearts and souls the love our God has for them.
    My life verse is Phillipians 4:6-7
    Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (NIV)

    By stopping to PRAY this week it can help keep me focused on God and strengthen my faith that all is in His hands. It can help me to enjoy my time and not waste it worrying about my son who is struggling greatly his senior year in high school. It can help me be at peace with my decisions I’ve made as a parent and trust that all I have done and am doing will help keep my son closer to God and he will feel His love for him.

  263. O: Finances are a continued area of struggle for myself.
    B: I use Philippians 4:13 to remind myself that I can do all things with Christ help and guidance.
    S: I think by PRAYing this week I will be able to stay focused on God and not the storm. This way I can remind myself how big God is and not how big the storm is.

  264. I am really struggling with having faith and hope that I will find a spouse and have a family. My past relationships just haven’t turned out how I hope for one reason or another. I see others having families and finding happiness in these areas, but I feel like I might never get to experience those things and will be alone. I know I am not alone because of all the great family and friends that I have and God always being there for me, but I sometimes feel like there just isn’t any hope for me to find a spouse and family which is something I desperately want! I know God has a plan for me, but I have just been struggling to keep the faith that His plan includes those things.

    My go to verse is Jeremiah 29:11 and I try to find quotes to remind me of the hope and plan God has in place for me which is bigger and better than anything I can imagine.

    I read a devotional every morning, but know I should spend more time with God which I am continuing to work on as well as praying when I feel down or when something great is happening!

  265. I really like the PRAY acronym. I have printed the download and plan to use it.

  266. O-My struggle is my weight. I used to be the “skinny girl” and now I’m, well, not. 🙂 While I’m working on eating better and exercising, I get very discouraged looking at the scale or seeing myself in the mirror.
    B-My Bible verse is 1 Samuel 16:7, “Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.” I have to remind myself that while it is good to eat healthily and exercise, those things can’t take the place of time with my Lord. When I’m more concerned with my outward appearance than I am with my inside, there’s a problem.
    S-I’m going to use the P.R.A.Y. worksheet in my Bible time. After I read, sometimes I don’t even remember what I read. I’m shouldn’t read the Bible in order to make a tick on a “Good Christian Checklist,” it is a way to commune with our Almighty God. This worksheet will be a good tool for me.

  267. O – I could use mind renewal/transformation dealing with envy/jealousy about other people’s relationships, which, when it comes right down to it, has everything to do with recognizing/acknowledging my identity in Christ.

    B – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

    S – I need to get back into doing more listening & writing down what I’m hearing from God, rather than always just talking at Him.

  268. Debbie Hernandez says:

    Good Morning OBSers.
    O-Right now it is that I am not a total failure. I feel like I keep saying the wrong things. I use to come unglued a lot and now I feel like I stuff. I have been learning that what I say needs to be necessary and honest and said with kindness. I go to the Lord and ask should I present what I am feeling or needs to be said and then I feel God prompting me to go with it and He even gives me guidance but apparently it is still not right because it is not received well. I am one that likes people to like me so when I hurt others feelings it REALLY brings me down. I have been given several challenges with family members lately and I am at a place of wanting to totally give up and stuff my feelings and not say anything at all. I am feeling sad and hurt all the time these days. I feel love from certain family members is not unconditional and that really has hurt me.
    B- Exodus 14:14 “The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still” and Romans 12:12 “Rejoice in hope, be patient in affliction and be persistent in prayer.”
    S-I will use P.R.A.Y. method to help me stay focused on the most Holy One and not on my feelings and how others feel about me because it is ONLY God who I need to worry about not others. I want to glorify Him and ONLY Him so I need to get out of my self-pity party and keep my eyes looking up!

  269. Judy Hampson says:

    O: God moved me away from my family, friends and church to a new city. I have no friends and no church. Not even sure how to go about finding one. Very overwhelming! I get frustrated and want to blame my husband for my unhappiness as it was his job that moved us away.
    B: Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you (Matt 6:33)
    S: stopping to P.R.A.Y. keeps me focussed on God and not my circumstances. I get fresh revelation and encouragement. Clearly God is wanting me to depend on Him and NOT family and friends. I’m starting to get it.

  270. O-I struggle with trying to do too many things at once and become unglued when it doesn’t work out like I hope! (especially with a two year old thrown in the mix)
    B- “I will praise the Lord at all times; His praise will always be on my lips.”
    ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭34:1‬ ‭HCSB‬‬
    S-this will help me refocus and control my emotions.

  271. O: Due to a number of events the past 15 months, I have struggled greatly with self-doubt – you know the little voice that tells you that you have lost your edge, no need to keep trying; or oh look another rejection letter – did you really expect anything different? Ugh!
    B: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 is one of my go-to verses.
    S: I think the PRAY approach can help me! I may struggle to implement it – will do my best to remember that it does not have to be perfectly implemented!

  272. Today I used the P.R.A.Y. study guide …. I think I should make several copies because it’s a great thought-provoker! Here is what I learned:
    Observe: God revealed to me that I often talk before I think, that I have an opinion on everything and usually express it! Also, how often that I question or contradict my husband (we work together on our cattle ranch…)
    Bible: My go-to verse is Proverbs 10:19 “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.”
    Stretch: I read Lysa’s devotional entitled “I Talk Too Much” this morning, and want to put these three principles in place: 1) Listening should take precedence over speaking. 2) Words should be measured. 3) Once words are spoken, I can’t unspeak them.
    Thank you so much for this week’s Bible Study Skills plan!

  273. My greatest struggle is the battle over my tongue. when I begin to become unglued the words just spew forth and I know the damage that causes everyone around me. I have many verses I rely on for strength, especially Proverbs 21:23, as I work daily to guard my mouth! I love the PRAY strategy and am thinking that I can just grab my lips as my prayer prompt reminder to just STOP the words!

  274. I’ve had a pretty difficult year going through marital problems, infertility and now the next chapter in our lives. Even though I’m in a fresh season after a very difficult one, I still struggle with keeping my emotions together but at the same time acknowledged. Trusting in God’s plan for me is something I’ve struggled with as well but I’m hoping as I deepen my focus on the Lord, He will speak to me in ways that I wasn’t able to hear before. I also remember the verse “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me” Philippians 4:13. P.R.A.Y. will keep me on tract so that I remember to stay in the Word and to reflect and apply. Putting these things into practice is only going to help my life and my understanding of my next steps.

  275. Brenda Moore says:

    I’m a stuffer that sets up barriers so I plan to use P.R.A.Y. to help me to stop stuffing and setting up barriers. I truly believe and expect that God is going to do a work in my life through this bible study.

  276. O: I think that my biggest problem is that when I have a problem instead of turning to God I turn to people. I have to remember to turn to God first. All things are possible with God. I trust God, so I am not really sure why I do not automatically think to turn to Him first.
    B: I have lots of verses that I love and that comfort me for different reasons. But I guess ultimately the verse that I turn to is Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Without Him I am nothing.
    S: I start every day with the Lord. I do several Bible studies as well as Read Thru the Word with Wendy Pope. So I read the Bible every day. I dig deeper into the things that I learn. I am learning more and more. I love the time I spend with God and in His Word. It is the best part of my day. However, I need to pay more attention to Him in prayer. Listen for what He is saying to me. Journal it. Do it. This is something that I am not very good at. Being still and listening for God.

  277. Nascent Morrison says:

    Observe — I have an opportunity to not let my emotions be changed by poor behavior of others. I tend to get angry or frustrated and it can ruin my whole day. I need to realize that my joy comes from God and no matter what someone else does I always have a reason to be joyful; I have a relationship with Christ
    Bible — I regularly recite Matt 6:33 to help me remember my focus. I also like and Hebrews 12:11; “For a moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” It helps me to remember that all we go through is for training us.
    Stretch — I think it will help me to not become unglued when I encounter triggers throughout the week.

  278. So thankful my dear friend brought this study my way. God knew just what I needed even before I knew I needed it.
    O: Trusting God has my back in all situations when I put him and his way first.
    B: Matthew 6:33. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
    S: Praying that PRAY will help me step back and focus on what is important rather than allowing my emotions to control me.

  279. O: my reaction to situations. I was raised I. A house with lots of yelling, quick to anger/offense was normal. I struggle with breaking this pattern. I’m afraid I will never truly break it. Along these lines, I also feel I will never be good enough or worthy.
    B: Jer 29:11, Eph 4:29, Philippiand 4:6-7
    S: I need to pray. Remind myself of who I am in Christ. Pray for my mind to be renewed and to truly focus on building others up.

  280. O-I struggle at times with dwelling on past conflicts and crazy situations that have happened and then worrying about other people’s perception based on lies that have been told or people pre-judging without getting to know me
    B-2 Tim. 4:16-18 “At my first defense, no one came to my support, but everyone deserted me. May it not be held against them. But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s mouth. The Lord will rescue me from every evil attack and will bring me safely to his heavenly kingdom. To Him be glory forever and ever. Amen.
    S-I definitely have imperfect progress in this area, but over time I have seen how not coming Unglued, even if it is just in private venting to a friend (because this continues the “dwelling process”), and stopping to PRAY redirects my focus and helps to change my perspective. I am definitely a work in progress, but I can look back and see how when I am successful in controlling my reactions, that is when there is progress made within relationships. Even if it is slow progress at times, little by little there is improvement.

  281. O-I have been struggling with a couple different issues, one being perfection (in that I feel the need to be and others should be too! As well as not being able to control the chaos in my life. Now, this was a month and a half ago and since then, I have made significant (imo)strides. One, giving my life back to God and two, therapy ( not ashamed to admit it!, I need it!) This includes this unglued bible study.

    B- I like the verse, ‘With man, this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.’ Matthew 19:26.

    S-I like the PRAY acronym, I hope to be able to use it.

  282. Observe — What struggle I could use renewal of mind is just waiting patiently. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in the now and the world view of wanting things now I need to be reminded to wait patiently. Particularly, with regards to things the Lord has placed within my heart as desires.
    Bible — This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast and one which enters [b]within the veil, Hebrews 6:19. I love this verse because it helps keep me anchored and reminds me the only thing that matters in this life is HIS Hope.
    Stretch — I think PRAY will help focus my time in the word more. Instead of just reading the words it will help me transform the words.

  283. Linda Estridge says:

    This may seem shallow compared to the other comments – I struggle with lots of things, but this year I’ve been trying hard to focus on getting a grip with my attitude and reactions. I didn’t realize it until the last few years, but I grew up around a lot of negativity and whining. God has opened my eyes to see that these are not qualities He wants in me. He wants me to speak life, not death. Proverbs 4:23 says “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life”. This has helped me to stop and think about what I’m about to say and to re-group and either not say it all or say it in a more positive, loving way. By practicing this, and asking for His help every day, my attitude has changed. I still slip, but that just gives me time to reflect on how bad I sounded and reacted and to ask God for the strength to do better.

  284. Shelli Fincher says:

    O – The one struggle that I could use some ‘renewing of the mind’ with is my outbursts when I am angry about something. It doesn’t happen much, but when it does, I don’t feel good afterwards. I feel like I have let God down with my reaction, even though it was provoked (usually by being falsely accused of lying, which I detest more than anything).
    B – I don’t have a verse, per say; but, there is a specific song (which I’m sure was written from and influenced by Scripture) that always seems to calm me down and help me obtain a better perspective. The song is called “Always” by Kristian Stanfill. The chorus goes like this (and, this is the part that always comes to my mind during conflict): Oh my God! He will not delay; My refuge and strength always; I will not fear; His promise is true; My God will come through, always; Always.
    S – I think P.R.A.Y. will add ammo to my belt as I go through my day-to-day. Not only will I have prayer and the song above; but now, I can work on memorizing Scripture to help me get through any struggles that will come my way.

  285. My observation is that I struggle with taming my tongue when I get angry or frustrated. I start to become unglued verbally to those closest to me like my husband and son, then I later come to regret it. My Bible verse is in Proverbs where it says that a soft answer rejects wrath but harsh words stir it up. I want to be a woman of kindness not anger.

  286. Priscilla Locher says:

    Good Morning! Happy skills day! I’m loving this study more everyday!

    O- My biggest struggle is with my ex husband, my daughters dad. We get along extremely well but every once in a while he will try and start an argument over things out of my control. I will try and shut it down before it gets started but we were married long enough he knows what to say to get me started. He is the only person that does this to me. I am normally a very calm person, easy going but with him I come UNGLUED! This study is showing me how to deal with these situations and renewing my mind so I don’t react like I always have. Changing the pattern of my reaction is my goal!
    B- In the past I have had several verses that I would go to but they were always for what I needed at that time. After reading and studying more into this weeks memory verses Romans 12:2 I believe from now on this will be my all the time go to verse 🙂 It encompasses a lot for me, thanks P31OBS to bringing it to the fore front for me!
    S- The P.R.A.Y. will definitely come in handy. I tend to pray and read but don’t always stay on top of the apply and yield. I have printed out the download and will use it often.

  287. 1) I could use help not getting upset in homeschooling. When my son won’t focus & do his work I simetimes come “unglued”
    2) my go to verse is Isaiah 40:31 “But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”
    3)I think P.R.A.Y. Will help me stop &!remember what this verse means & will help me be patient with my kiddos

  288. One struggle I could use a little renewing of the min in is about sex with my spouse. That’s a hard one to write about and not the most common one to hear women have a problem with.
    The verse that I turn to when I need to change my perspective is Philippians 4:6-7
    Stop perpetually worrying about even one thing, but in everything by prayer whose essence is that of worship and devotion and by supplication which is a cry for your personal needs, with thanksgiving let your requests for the things asked for be made known in the presence of God. This in one version than the NLT is
    Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

  289. O- I struggle with feelings of inadequacy as a mom, wife, daughter, and follower of Jesus. I know this partially stems from my need for perfection but also from my own selfishness.
    B- I need to remember that God knows my thoughts and my imperfection does not diminish his love for me. One verse that I love that reminds me of this is “The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” (‭Zephaniah‬ ‭3‬:‭17‬ NIV)
    S- I need to shift my focus and make those new thought patterns!

  290. Observe-I struggle with many things. However, most of it leads back to feeling inadequate myself in all things. I don’t feel as though I am ever enough. I also project those feelings on to other people at times. I have come to understand that feelings aren’t perfect, and listening to my feelings can lead to wrong choices. However some days, it’s still hard.

    Bible- I have recently been reading Philippians. Philippians 1:6 states, “I am sure of this, that He who started a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus”. You see, God is still working. I’m not supposed to be enough yet…just enough for right now.

    Stretch-When I stop to listen and talk to God, I always gain a new perspective on my life. I see how God wants to guide me through times of struggle and how He wants to teach me about Himself.

  291. O – I struggle with finding the time, or rather more like remembering, to pray. This is my word for the year, and it has been nothing less than a challenge. Today’s message should give me a new jump start to my prayer journey.
    B – Proverbs 3:5, Psalm 46:10a
    S – Love the acronym. Stopping to intentionally pray will help me to focus more on God and not my circumstances that make me become unglued; I will pray so the glue will hold me together.

  292. O: One of my greatest struggles is leaning on Christ for answers and not humans. Often I find myself talking constantly about a problem, yet rarely offering it to God in prayer.
    B: Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Without Him I am nothing. Love this! Love its reassurance!
    S: Love P.R.A.Y. I am going to get me a reminder bracelet to help to keep me focused.

  293. O- I need to be better about living one day at a time. I am fighting cancer so sometimes I get sim aught up in what’s going to happen in the future. I am working hard to try and appreciate what I have today and do God’s will for today and leave the future for Him

    B-Jer 29:11

    S- The PRAY technique will be useful in keeping God centered in my life. Keeping my thoughts and actions focused on Him and not me

  294. There are a few people that have been very antagonistic and disrespectful at my job and I struggle to be loving towards them. I have been trying to pray for them when those feelings come over me and I like the idea of praying to see their perspective. I don’t have a go-to verse but I find myself singing worship songs in my head when I start to feel unglued.

  295. O – Patience. I am extremely impatient, especially with my son who among other special needs has ADHD. His ADHD reactions are triggers for me. If he, or honestly anyone, doesn’t do something instantly, I become angry and impatient. I don’t know why I get so wrapped up in my needs and wants, well I do…sin.
    B – Because parenting is so stinking hard and it is a trigger for my emotions to become unglued, one of my favorite verse is about sticking with something hard.
    1 Cor. 15:58 “Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord you labor is not in vain.”
    S – I will become more focused, place Jesus back in the center of my life instead of my emotions. I can go to him to tell me the reality of what I am feeling and give me the heavenly perspective instead of my limited emotionally earthly perspective.

  296. Katherine says:

    O: My struggle is that with all of my daily to do’s I often times get frustrated and lose sight of what is important. When my days are filled with laundry, work 8-9 hours out of the home, cooking, cleaning, tending to family, etc… I often feel overwhelmed and then just become depressed/sad that my life can be like a broken record of to do’s. These are the moments I need a renewing of my thoughts to stop and pray. To stop and realize that this is life and God has a plan for me even if I can’t see it through my mountain of clothes in the laundry room.
    B: This is my first OBS and to be honest my first time even cracking open a Bible in about 15 years. My life has been crazy since I was in high school and I have reached a point in my life that I am going back to roots in Christianity. I went to a Christian private elementary and middle school and since the 8th grade I have not opened a Bible or attended church. I hope to change that from this point forward.
    S: As I mentioned above I think just stopping to pray to God and ask for his strength to be with me will be very helpful. Reflecting on my days and writing down something I am thankful for will help greatly.

    • Welcome to one awesome community, it is no accident you are here. I resonate with your first comment, I feel that way most days too! And after a while I let it all build up and I blow up! I am so grateful you have came back to God. I will praying for you on this new journey!!

  297. O. In relating to my husband.

    B. All things work together for good for those who love the lord.

    S. Absolutely. Hopefully PRAY will come to my mind before I open my mouth

  298. Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with?
    Forst thing I think of is how I hold things in and then blow up at people. I say things I can’t take back. But if I just would have addressed the issue to begin with it, I wouldn’t blow up. And I like what Lisa said, “I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control.” That really resonates with me.
    Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? If so, share it with us. If not, that’s okay. You can get a lot of great ones today in the comment section! I usually say, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Phillipians 4:13
    Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? I love the layout, it helps my mind better process. I like having a guide like that because sometimes I feel so scattered and don’t know where to begin or what to do. I think it will help me focus on my Lord and make better choices and renew my mind, in Christ’s way.

  299. Sandy Sweet says:

    O- One struggle I could use a little “renewing of the Mind” with is negative thoughts. I tend to get annoyed and have so many “pet peeves” – even that in itself annoys me!! Even my tone of voice will sound negative even though I’m not thinking I’m speaking that way.
    B- I really don’t have a go to verse yet. I’ve just really been trying to be careful how I speak and think.
    S- I like to be organized and I don’t always feel I am with prayer. I’ll even apologize to God in my prayer time that I am all over the page and ask Him for forgiveness and help! So I am looking forward to and hoping this will help me to focus better.

  300. O – My main struggle was and still is to a certain extent, feeling the need to be perfect. I should know how to do this or that right the first time. Whether it was as a kid in school, being a wife and mother, new job, even being a Nana…thank God I’m not as bad as I use to be, but I still have much “learning” I need.

    B – “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:5)”

    S – If I remember when my thoughts get in the way to P.R.A.Y. I know it will make the door to God’s thoughts open wide and all I will see is His perfection, not my imperfection.

  301. O- My biggest struggle is with my attitude at my job. It is the one place that tends to bring out the ugly side of me. The morale is low and the littlest things set me off. I know God has a plan for me though and a reason I am still there and it may just be the lesson of not becoming Unglued and submitting to Him.
    B- I can’t think of a verse right at the moment but I do like this weeks and will make this one of my go to verses.
    S- I am definitely going to try and use the P.R.A.Y. acronym! I need to make more of an effort on the apply and yield parts!

  302. Melissa H. says:

    I love the reminder that we don’t have to do it perfectly. That fear holds me back sometimes.

  303. Love this and the download – Definitely going to take them with me beyond this study
    Stretch — Having a very difficult time with an adult child – Definitely need to find a prompt – (loved the piece of jewelry idea). Work in progress here!

  304. Stephanie says:

    I really struggle with losing my temper and allowing myself to get overwhelmed by the simplest things. I often try to remind myself of the verse, do not be anxious about anything but instead pray, but I tend to snap more times than thinking about bible verse. I plan to use the P.R.A.Y. this week anytime I start to feel myself getting anxious.

  305. Observe — My go-to struggle/emotion when something slightly difficult or challenging comes up is FEAR or worry which is often rooted in pride or concern of failure. I hate that this is where my mind heads first.

    Bible — The verse I cling to is Phil 4:8 – Finally, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble…just, pure, lovely, of good report…if there is anything praiseworthy, meditate (think) on these things.

    Stretch — The study skill P.R.A.Y is a helpful acronym for sure. I am challenged most by the Y – yield and lean into the Lord, His word. This requires discipline and practice for sure I am learning.

  306. Ashley S. says:

    O- struggling with encouraging and supporting friends and family that don’t seem to appreciate it. For God to renew my mind and spirit to keep doing good where I can despite that.
    B- Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow. Lead me by your truth and teach me, for you are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in you. Psalm 25:4-5
    S- Reciting memory verses will be good for me to have God’s truth available at a moment’s notice

  307. O: Perfectionism. Feeling that anything less than perfect is failure and not worth doing, then beating myself up over it and feeling overwhelmed by feelings of negativity.
    B: Isaiah 40:31New International Version (NIV)
    but those who hope in the Lord
    will renew their strength.
    They will soar on wings like eagles;
    they will run and not grow weary,
    they will walk and not be faint.
    When I put my hope in the Lord and rely on His word and His truth my spirit is renewed and my hope is restored.
    S: I need to journal more. I need to put my thoughts and feelings in writing. I especially like the suggestion to write God’s response to my prayers. I seem to feel peace and clarity after praying but then struggle to remember exactly what was revealed to me during my prayer time. I’m going to put this into action right away!

  308. Christine says:

    “We won’t develop new responses until we develop new thoughts.” She wrote that quote in her book! It’s hit home many of times, but today in my new circumstance it rings true again! Shining new light on a net situation. I have 4 children 1 married 1 in college 1 is a homeschool high school Sr 1 is a homeschooled freshman. Thru my kids the two middle one they have brought to our family table a social issue the we as parents have to make a stand either for or against. After seeking council and praying I think we have our answer. It’s not bibally wrong but we as parents would prefer not to have this situation happen. i as the mother and my husbands help mate I need to have a new response, new thoughts!!! Only God can do this cause it will impact our family for the rest of our lives!!!

  309. O- feeling inadequate as a mother – I have an 8 month old and when our schedule gets off he doesn’t sleep well and then I come completely unglued! I know I need to calm myself down but sometimes when it’s just me dealing with him I can’t comprehend life. I need to P.R.A.Y.
    B- I don’t really have one specific Bible verse that I go to, I need to find some.
    S- I believe that it will help me in dealing with my son and keeping myself composed when dealing with stresses.

  310. Deby Allen says:

    Yes I do commit! My go to verse is
    Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all of your ways acknowledge him and he will make straight your path.

  311. Monica Palmer says:

    The devotional talks about a tranquil heart. this means a heart to free from envy. This really spoke to me today. Do not be conformed to the pattern of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:2. God reveals his love for us. God let’s our request come in perfect timing. My prayer, let me keep my eyes on God and not others.

  312. I got married 2 and half years ago to the most wonderful man I know….My husband loves me dearly but his family ( dad and two sisters) do not feel the same. Family gatherings of any kind (I am not invited) my husband goes alone. His dad is 96 years old so I feel like he has to go. I try so hard to not be upset between this rock and a hard place. I know his dad doesn’t have much longer here…. God help me to keep things in perspective and know that this is only a season and this to shall pass.. Amen

  313. Kathie Pierce says:

    O- I struggle with frustration in that my expectations and desires of how things should be; with my children, my husband, my mom (who we live with),in situations and especially myself, are not what I want them to be.
    B- Philippians 4: 11-13 is really good: “… for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
    S- I think it is good to have a little acronym to have. When I am in a sticky situation or I am feeling like I’m about to blow it is hard to pull myself back. If I have a visual in hand to take to a quiet place and then go through the 4 steps will be helpful.

  314. I have come to realize that I’ve made great strides in making wise choices in how I respond to those outside of my family/house, but I still struggle with extending that same grace-filled & patient response to those I love the most, my husband and son. I have come to the point where I feel like I’m faking responses on the outer circle because I can control them & chose how to respond. And I feel like my natural responses to my family are the true me…not a good reflection of Jesus. I WANT to choose joy in everything & speak through smiles & lean on God before responding instead of running to him with a bowed head & slumped shoulders in shame afterward. I am excited about this study & the tools offer d & the accountability. Since it’s my 2nd time through it, I am committed to getting the most out of it in full surrender, using all tools (screensaver, participants guide, devotional, weekly schedule, PRAY, etc.). I feel like this structure of 100s of other women “in my shoes” being out there, but none of them knowing the real “me”, no judgments, no social hour, no eyes to look into as they see the exposed, “raw” me, and yet the same eyes again in front of my family & at my son’s school & at work, etc. In the midst of raw emotions, I try to remember several verses “in the moment”, such as “Be joyful always. Pray continually. Give thanks in all circumstances.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18. And “May the words of my mouth & thoughts of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock & Redeemer” Psalm 19:14.

  315. Jennie Walczyk says:

    Letting negative talk -both my own and that of others bring me down. I need to take every thought captive.

  316. I am having a struggle dealing with a coworker that criticizes my work. She tattles to management everything I do that she does not like. When I complete a task that she’s involves in she picks it apart and finds fault. She is very condescending and hurtful with your tone. I will be using PRAY to learn how to not react too quickly to what she does. It will help me to think before I speak. I feel that I have to defend myself so I quickly do that; but I have to figure out is it so important to defend myself… I don’t’ know.

  317. O- I desperately need to renew my mind on my weight and physical health and not becoming “unglued” in my emotions regarding this.
    B – I love Gods word SO MUCH and yet I am drawing a blank this morning on one verse! My one word for the year is Grace so Jude 24-25 “To him who is able to keep you from falling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy……” WOW, such Grace to keep me from becomng UNGLUED.
    S- I felt a pinch of conviction on the Yield part of the skills study. I want to Yield to God with everything, my weight, my health, my family, my work, my life.

  318. Observe: During my separation and pending divorce, Jesus has pursued me relentlessly – and I’m so thankful He allowed me to accept that. He is my lifeguard, my constant in the midst of this storm. He loves me – oh how he loves me. He has been so incredibly faithful as I face this transition. My wish and prayer is to do His will and not my own. It is so easy to get caught up in the flesh – to get so caught up in how satan wants me to respond that I have realized it simply is a daily and sometimes hourly fight to stay on track. Satan doesn’t want to lose me – I was an easy person for him before and he didn’t really pay much attention to me – but now that I’m back where I belong, nestled in tight, I don’t think satan is gonna be too awful thrilled with it and I expect him to try and throw even more difficult times my way.
    Needing to pray and be mindful to continuously put the armor of God on every single day as this is a battle – make no mistake ladies – satan is in for the win – he wants us to lose our vision of who we are in Christ – he wants to remind us of how we are not worthy – how we are not beautiful enough – how we are simply not enough of X,Y or Z… but God reminds us that we are – we are worth so much more than satan could ever understand. He doesn’t care about us – he just wants numbers on his tally sheet – I’ll be darned tootin if I’m gonna be one of those numbers. He has stolen way too much joy and peace in my life – he can’t have any more!!

    Bible: I have placed scripture on note cards around my house to remind me of His word – so many different verses impact me at different moments. Some of my favorite include:
    Proverbs 31:25 – She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come
    1 Corinthians 25:27 For the foolishness of God is wiser than man’s wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than man’s strength. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.
    Col 4:6 Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
    2 Cor 4:8-9 We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.

    Stretch: I need to keep searching – keep yearning – keep making Christ a priority in my life. I need to recognize when satan is trying to attack and get my thought process off track. All sin begins in the mind. It’s how I think that eventually leads me to sinful desires and action. If I can continue to pray for God’s armor daily to be used and can recognize when my thought processes change to the beginning of sinful thoughts – I can use His supernatural strength to get through and think on thoughts that He wants me to.
    I’m so thankful for God’s renewal of his love for me – the fact that He doesn’t focus on my past and that He loves me no matter what. I’m unworthy and so very grateful that He chose me. It doesn’t get any better than that.

  319. Erica Mustian says:

    O- getting irritated with little things that don’t matter
    B- Proverbs 3:5-6
    A- Be more focused and lean into God

  320. Hope Varnedoe says:

    Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with?
    I really struggle with obsessive worrying and fear. Sometimes it’s so bad I can’t sleep at night.

    Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? If so, share it with us. If not, that’s okay. You can get a lot of great ones today in the comment section!

    Isaiah 41:10
    Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
    I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you,
    I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’

    Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? You can use this printable as a guide:

    I really think the Yield part of P.R.A.Y. is where I need to grow and will focus on that this week.

  321. Observe — That I don’t have to be perfect in my relationships…I don’t have to spread myself thin for family and friends.
    Bible — Phil 4:13I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me
    Stretch — I need to journal my thoughts and hopes and prayers.

  322. Virginia from Texas says:

    A struggle I can use a little…a whole lot of “renewing of the mind” with is the way I speak to my kids when I’m frustrated. Yesterday I noticed my 7 year old daughter’s reaction when I had an episode with her. My heart broke and I had to give myself a time out. I know it was my fault because I was not giving her my full attention to help her with her reading.
    My go-to verses are 1 Peter 3:3-4
    It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from inside you—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. That beauty will never disappear. It is worth very much to God.
    It’s a great reminder of the women I should be and the example I should give my family (especially my daughter) and I think P.R.A.Y is really going to help me with this.

  323. Christina says:

    O- my constant worrying and anxiety about all things and then I get frustrated because my husband doesn’t see the same need to worry about something. I let my mind wander to the worst possible scenario and then freak out.
    B- Philippians 4:6-7
    “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His Peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

    S- studying scripture and memorizing it will help keep that in my heart and mind and replace the worry- I’m on anxiety meds that I don’t want to be on and this is the first step to getting off of them and getting closer to God.

  324. O-I started a new contract yesterday. The workload is much more fast-paced than previous jobs I’ve had. Between the newness and fast pace, I felt overwhelmed and inadequate to handled my responsibilities at the end of the day, even though nothing terrible happened. I’m struggling to feel confident in my abilities- even when I know I’ve done great work in the past and one day (or even one contract) does not define who I am professionally.

    B-I was reminded today by my devotional that God consistently uses the least of these to do great things for His kingdom. Scripture says in Matthew 19:30 “Many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first.” I also was reminded of 2 Corinthians 12:9 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” These are so helpful for me today to gain a new perspective on my feelings of inadequacy. My go-to verse at all times is Joshua 1:5b “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

    S- I believe stopping to P.R.A.Y. this week will help me gain a new perspective on my circumstances.

  325. Galations 6:9 is my go to verse. I get so frustrated feeling like all I ever do is serve – serve my husband, serve my kids, serve my students, serve my friends, serve my co-workers, serve my community. Selfishly, I’d like a ‘thank you’ or a little help in return once in awhile. This verse reminds me that it’s not about me and that I’m doing God’s work by serving others.

  326. Wow, I love the acronym P.R.A..Y. and plan om applying it. It seems I have so msny strugglrs but the one that comes to the forefront often is automatically thinking the worse case scenario my life; forbearance! I hate it.
    Onr of my go to scriptures is Romans 8:28. As a child of the King He will use any and all situations for my good.

  327. O- I struggle with lashing out in angry tone with my kids when I have planned things to go a certain way, in my mind, and they get thrown off track. Ex. Taking to long to get ready in the mornings( this is a big one). Then I feel guilty for the way I react.
    B- I don’t know that I always go- to my Go-To verse, but I truly love and know I should follow … James 1:19 “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
    S- if I take time to PRAY I will allow myself time to see the adverse effects on the situations and the anger will diminish. Can’t wait to try this method and to know baby steps are better than no forward motion!

  328. My struggle is when my 5 y/o doesn’t listen to me or disobeys, I get so frustrated and I lash out at him. I say words and things I shouldn’t and then I feel guilty. I constantly pray for forgiveness and ask my son to forgive me. I notice I do this response when I am not in the Word. But when I am in the Word, I have more patience and am more peaceful when I respond to my son not listening or disobeying.

  329. I have so many it’s hard to pick just one, I struggle with almost everything on this post. I guess the thing I struggle with the most is coming UNGLUED with my child. Shes 6, and she knows every button to push, and it seems like she pushes them every day. I, being the adult, am trying to learn not to react, not to come unglued, but it’s not working so well. I am trying to learn to say a quick prayer when it starts….
    I don’t have a go to verse, as I am just starting to read and study the Bible, so I am not familiar enough yet to have one.

    I believe PRAY will help me in my journey….

  330. I have to renew my mind daily!!! My go to verse is Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    When I remind myself that God has plans for me and they are good, It gives me peace to stay calm and not come unglued.

  331. Kiffany Stollings says:

    Observe — One struggle I could use a little “renewing of the mind” with is – To learn to renew my mind with new thoughts when my emotions get out of control.

    Bible — One my many go-to verses I have to help me when I need a new perspective is Philippians 4:6 – “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” I usually come unglued because of anxiety.

    Stretch — How do I think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help me this week? I’m going to try the “prayer prompt” and keep the guide in front of me. I usually come unglued when my son is home, so my goal is to use the prayer prompt and the guide before I come unglued.

  332. O- one of my most recent struggles is becoming unglued with my patience. Especially over the little things that i let get to me and I overrreact before I even know what happens. Renewing my mind to give me peace when things don’t go the way I want and to stay positive in all that i do.
    B- I do not have a go to verse that I use but I have found many great examples reading through these posts!
    S- I loved the idea of using a prayer prompt to remember to pray when things get tough. I will definitely be using this suggestion! Also always yeilding to god and waiting on him definitely needs to be a priority in my life.

  333. Kristin B says:

    I am a 911 dispatcher and I am training a new hire this month. Stopping to P.R.A.Y will do wonders for me this month. She is a real nice girl and is eager to learn, which I love. I love someone who has as much passion as I do about my calling. But she has been doing some things that normally would make me snap and be ugly. Training someone and trying to make sure your guys are safe can be frustrating and exhausting. Stopping to pray, reflect, apply and yielding will help me be a good trainer for her and let her see God in me.

  334. Jessica G. says:

    I’m a stay at home mom of 2 boys, and keep a couple of other children as well. If anything can cause me to come unglued it is my children. They know exactly what buttons to push and how and when to push them. Using P.R.A.Y. will definitely help me throughout my day. I want to reflect what God is doing in my life, and I want them to see Him in me.

  335. Good morning,

    O: I am a perfectionist , a planner, little patience when it comes to little things which don’t really matter and have high expectations for myself and everybody else around me. Someone told me one that my expectations are so high that even I cannot meet them myself. Why can’t everybody have the same expectations? I was told as a little girl why postpone things you can do today….. That stuck with me…. I am still in the process of learning of not sweating the little things, A dirty/dusty house will never leave you but will be there tomorrow!

    B: My favorite verse is: Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own “.

    S: Reminders for me are: 1) My open Bible at home….2) Post- its of verses on my mirror in my bathroom and I have started a journal….I pray on a daily basis at home and at work to be able to feel compassion for the ones around me and grace. I don’t have a lot of those 2 and it is a struggle.

    • Oh Laurence, I had to laugh when I read your struggle. I could have written it. I am a perfectionist, planner and organizer. Yesterday, I told myself I am going to relax my standards a little with the help of God. What is the worst that can happen if the house isn’t perfectly cleaned? LOl! I love that I am not alone in this.

  336. O- In a season of caring for my aging parent and dealing with the terrible disease of dementia plaguing my Mom, I use the word “Redirect ” often. Dealing with family and a multitude of personalities and opinions, I must remember to redirect my thoughts to God’s Word, which is full of exactly what we need.
    B- I have written down many verses that have been shared this morning, they are powerful and encouraging. It’s all right there for our taking. The verses I keep going back to and will claim as my go-to- verses will be Philippians 4:4-7 “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again; Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
    S-Turning to God in prayer and then through His Word redirects my thoughts to His thoughts, His perspective. Putting this passage to memory and then yielding my will and my spirit to God’s way-His Plan–It’s my choice. GOD HELP ME choose your way today and make imperfect progress in how I react and respond to situations that are out of control. May my choices please You, Father!

  337. Amy Archer says:

    I need to cling to the comment made in the video that emotions are indicators not dictators. This is one I struggle with daily as a mom to 3 teenage daughters. I must be intentional to PRAY daily to hold close to this truth!!

    This week I am clinging to Romans 12:12 that says “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer”.

  338. Gosh! Does this book already hit home with me. I struggle EVERY day with frustration, anxiety and guilt b/c I often left things build and then explode. Crawling into bed last night I had already started to reflect. Earlier I had gone into my kid’s rooms and kissed and apologized for my behavior (screaming b/c they wouldn’t listen, getting angry b/c things weren’t put up or they were laughing too loud while I was trying to catch up on my DWS recorded TV show b/c I don’t have time to watch it on the night it comes on… ugh!) and each reached out to me and hugged me in their sleep and said “it’s alright Momma, I love you!”. I cry! God knows I’m not perfect and I’m a working progress… This book just helped me remember that. Xoxo

  339. Staci Schulz says:

    O – Something I have learned from another bible study is that you need to stop and observe why you have the feelings you do! Check to see where it is stemming from. I need to practice this more….
    B – My go to verse is Exodus 14:14. “The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still.” I love this verse because it is a reminder to just “be still” in those hard times and allow him to speak to you.
    S – I will apply this acronym and write it out on an index card to remind myself daily!

  340. O: yelling at my kids

    B: open to suggestions

    S: renew my mind. More time in prayer and with God to develop patience. The fruit of the spirit can only come if I’m with him

  341. O: I could use a little renewing of the mind regarding my perception of myself. I used to be very perfectionist and have really changed with each year of marriage and then after having children. Although the I made progress in the physical realm (clean and orderly home), I need to keep my mind on my identity in Christ. I feel like a failure as a mom or wife or daughter sometimes because I can’t find a balance to life – if that even exists.
    B: My go to verse is the same as the one we are memorizing except it is the whole verse. Last Christmas I got a picture that had that verse painted on it and display it in my home as a reminder to me and my family. I also like Phil 4:13, and it was the first verse I ever memorized.
    S: Using the acronym can help me dissect verses better and focus more on application of what I am reading to my life now.

  342. My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years has an ex wife that is manipulative controlling and has been down right mean in unthinkable ways to my self and my boyfriend AS WELL as their 4 chilren. I will need to be in her presence later this week. I need to find a way to renew my mind and not worry or stress about being in presence.

  343. Lora Byrnside says:

    Observe — Self-doubt. I keep myself from doing so many things because I doubt my ability.
    Bible — Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6 (NIV)
    Stretch — P.R.A.Y. is a process of moulding my perspective.

  344. Laura Eby says:

    O – I struggle with my self confidence. My “job” for the last 25 years has been to be a mommy to 3 amazing boys. Well, now they have all gone to college and I am home with a lot of time on my hands. I don’t feel that I am confident enough to know what to do with my life now. It sounds silly to me as I type this but the struggle is real.

    B – my go to verse is “I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me!” Phil 4:13

    S – I’m hoping that I will use P.R.A.Y. To help me to draw closer to the Lord and hear him when he speaks to me. I feel that I have somewhere along the line, gotten away from that. Apparently, I need to Yield! ☺️

    • Laura, actually your struggle does not sound silly but real. I am sure that when you give it to God through using the acronym P.R.A.Y. you will hear God’s still small voice. Your go to verse is one of my favorites. Trust God to led you in what’s next in your life.

  345. Observe — I could use renewing of my mind with my relationship with my best friend who is struggling through bad choices and turning away from God. I am unsure how to help her at this point other than praying for her. I feel I cannot choose to inadvertently support or enable her bad choices by continuing to be a crutch for her behavior. I pray also for more renewing in my relationship with my parents. I have been blessed with the book “honoring dishonorable parents” and can hear God speaking to me through this book. I pray I continue to dive deeper into this story and His word to find the next steps I need to continue healing in that relationship.
    Bible — “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” Philippians 4:13
    Stretch — Stopping to PRAY will help me this week to reflect deeper on my thoughts, feelings, and reactions. It will help me to not get upset, frustrated, or stressed when small unplanned obstacles arise. Just like Lisa’s response to her computer- there are many things in my life that I am realizing I may react irrrationally to. For instance, when my puppy has an accident. Just last night I had the realization that I can chose to react differently and become more proactive in my potty training. I pray a lot during the day for encouragement and God’s support but I don’t spend enough time reflecting. I think it will be a great reminder.

  346. O: insecurities
    B: Isaiah 41:10
    Do not fear, for I am with you;
    Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God
    I will strengthen you, surely I will help you,
    Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.
    S: like the acornym

  347. O – My husband…he is trying to help, not take over.
    B – Jeremiah 29:11-13
    S – I love to have something in my hands…that helps me immensely when I’m trying to retrain myself so the PRAY guide will help me a lot over the next couple of weeks.

  348. The area where P.R.A.Y will help me the most is with my son. He is diagnosed autism and I am homeshooling him. A little renewing of the mind for perspective is necessary on most days. Fear and anxiety can well up quickly in my heart as I see his peers zoom past him in many areas. A momentary though, “Am I doing the right things.” Another thought follows closely, “I am not equipped for this; I have failed.” Suddenly I am unglued. My go-to verse is Proversb 3:5-6 which states, “Trust in theLord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding, in all you ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” And there it is….perspective.

  349. I have a struggle with someone I have to interact with at church, her way of doing things drives me crazy.
    My go to verse is Philippians 4:4-9 I like the promise that if we give our cares and concerns to God He will guard our hearts and minds with His peace. And if we do this and think on things that are true and right the God of peace will be with us. Stopping to P.R.A.Y can help me a lot because I need to learn to slow done and wait on God.

  350. Christi Flores says:

    O: My struggle is at home especially with my husband and how he is with our kids. We are a blended family and he has no kids of his own and I feel like he picks on my oldest son a lot and it hurts and frustrates me. I have been praying about seeing his perception and a renewing of my mind in every aspect of myself. I am praying to see me for who I really am.

    B: My go-to verse is Philippians 4:13 and the entire book of Psalm 1

    S: I have heard of P.R.A.Y. before and used to practice it but stopped some time ago for whatever reason so now I am going to start it back up. I really think it will help my perception on so many issues in my life right now and keep my focus where it needs to be: on the Lord.

  351. Emilee Cox says:

    O- I am a personal assistant for someone who is self proclaimed “extremely difficult to work for”. I struggle with letting his words effect me all day. He snaps in the morning and I am down in the dumps all day. I know I do a good job and he knows as well but I struggle with not letting my emotions get out of control, reacting to him, and then ruining my day.

    B-2 Corinthians 4:16-18 Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal

    S-This week, and further down the line I think stopping to PRAY will help me control the knee jerk reaction I have. I can take criticism but its hard to know how to be prepared walking into a lions den everyday!

  352. I have been struggling with my role as a mom. Have struggled with seeing my 18 year old turn from the Lord, and make choices that are contrary to how she has been raised. I have felt like this must some how be my fault. I let my emotions get in the way of our conversations, and say things that I shouldn’t say. I let my emotions cloud my decisions with her. I struggle with wanting to control.

  353. My husband is not a believer so when conflict arises I have Colossians 4:5-6 on a card that is readily available if I pause & take a deep breath prior to responding. “Live wisely among those who are not believers and make the most of every opportunity . Let your conversation be gracious & attractive so that you have the right response for everyone.”
    This is followed with verse 12 “He is always wrestling in prayer for you, that you may stand firm in the will of God, mature & fully assured.” (NLT)

  354. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.”

  355. Everything about this study applies to my life (as I’m sure many others) over the last few weeks. Being out of control, most certainly! In ways I never have before. It wasn’t until an mild incident occurred and I found myself screaming at my husband and throwing my shoes around that I realized I am, in fact, out of control. Renewing my thoughts. I thought I had this in the bag. Two years in a row I took a year long study, Self-Confrontation, and it was all about renewing your thoughts. Days after my shoe throwing fiasco my husband looked wore out, I asked what was wrong, but he didn’t want to say. I continued to push until finally came clean and what he said …. ouch. But I was receiving to it and when I began to put the anger and my thought process together I realized he was right in every way. I had been telling myself so many negative things that I was beginning to isolate myself, push people away, hardening my heart.

    This was just last week and now, now I have this amazing book written by a wise amazing woman and all you OBSers out there who struggle with the same things. Praise JESUS!

  356. Sherri Royall says:

    Children seem to be what trigers alot of us. We explode at them and then the guily comes. I am hoping as I do this Bible study I will learn to focus more on God. I try to gently remind myself that patience is a fruit of the spirit.

  357. O= The blinders are off and I have been able to see where the fears originated (Proverbs 31:25). This study is already fulfilling the next step in the process needed to allow for more renewing of my mind, coming to terms with the fact that the pursuit of perfectionism can be debilitating in and of my own means. I am living in God’s perfection and enjoying the freedom it has brought. Imperfect Progress. Love that!!
    B= She is clothed with strength and dignity and laughs without fear of the future. Proverbs 31:25
    S = PRAY – Practicing living in his presence. Imperfect progress in his presence – what a beautiful place to live knowing that His truth and grace is just the power I need to be more aware of my emotions and the role they play in my life and that when I mess up He has my back and will intervene so that his perfect will is achieved despite my mess up. Consequences yes, but that will help me to “get it”….progess. 🙂

  358. Victoria Matlock says:

    I struggle with quickly lashing out abrasive comments to my family when I feel I’m not getting the respect I deserve as a mother and wife. Stopping to pray and consider what may be going on in their lives may help me to not be so quick to judge the situation. Thank you!

  359. My biggest struggle is dealing with my emotions in regard to my husband’s ex and their son. Although his ex cheated and initiated the divorce she has not truly let go of my husband. She wants a much deeper relationship/involvement with him than is appropriate. His son has many behavioral issues and although he is 15 he has been in and out of many locked facilities since he was in the fifth grade. SO, it’s a lot to deal with and I do struggle with how to handle all of it, how much to say and when to hold my tongue – and boy do I ever PRAY a lot.

    My favorite verse is actually the entire 121 Psalm. It’s been my go to reminder for several years: “I will lift up my eyes to the hills – from whence comes my help? My help comes from the Lord, Who made the heaven and earth. He will not allow your foot to be moved; He who keeps you will not slumber. Behold, He who keeps Israel
    shall neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord is your keeper; The Lord is your shade at your right hand. The sun shall not strike you by day, nor the moon by night. The Lord shall preserve you from all evil; He shall preserve your soul. The Lord shall preserve your going out and your coming in from this time forth, and even forevermore. – NKJV

    I think it will be interesting to try the P.R.A.Y. method. I believe it will help give me a new perspective and help me focus in on what God is revealing to me.

  360. April Sharp says:

    Observe-My struggle is defenetly fear and worry which to me run together…Fear of not being good enough in the lords eyes..Failing in all my works struggles…Failing in all of my life!
    Bible- I love the memory verse this week most definetly a go to verse for me (now) I also cling to Psalm 118:14 The Lord is my Strength and my Salvation.
    The study skill p.r.a.y is going to be a big help for me..I am challenged most by the y yield into his word..
    I am definitely a work in progress! Baby steps for me but moving forward….

  361. Observe: I am really struggling with one of my roommates right now. She just got a puppy, and he destroys everything. He pees everywhere, and she doesn’t clean up after him. I need a “renewing of mind” about this situation, because I know that she is struggling. I need to focus more on helping her emotionally deal with a new puppy rather than focusing on the fact that the house isn’t clean.
    Bible: Romans 8:38-39 is my go-to verse for everything. Just remembering that God loves us no matter what helps me focus on loving rather than other emotions.
    Stretch: I think that stopping to P.R.A.Y will help keep my emotions in check. If I pause and think about what I am about to say or do and focus on God’s way, I will decrease the hold that emotions have on me, which will keep me from saying something that I don’t mean.

  362. O – I struggle with family issues. I HATE that! Why can’t folks just forgive and forget?
    B – Be still and know that I am God.
    S – Having to write something down makes me more accountable. This printable will help me to concentrate on what I need to give to God.

  363. My verse is Ecc. 7:9
    King James Bible
    Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.

  364. O- Gaining control over my depression. It is something I have dealt with my whole life and after the premature birth of my son it turned into PTSD and PPD. I have fought it everyday for the last 3 years and some days it feels like it is never going to end. Rage and anger is a reaction that I never expected came along with PTSD or PPD and I struggle so hard to fight it but it gets the best of me everyday.
    B- “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God.” Philippians 4:6 NIV
    S- Remembering to turn to God before I let my anxious thoughts consume me. My son is having surgery tomorrow and I have to remember to give my worry over to God and claim the promise that he will never leave me or forsake me and that he has plans for my son that is far greater than any I could imagine.

  365. LeAne Bouydston says:

    O: What I do is walk away and take a time out when I really have to, before things really get overloaded. I ask God to help me get through the situation at hand. With a big household it is hard sometimes to manage all of my emotions on top of the kids and my husband.

    B: I love my the Psalms and Proverbs but Ephesians is my go to where it talks about putting on the amour of God. If we are ready for the battle ahead, we can’t fight it properly.

    S: Stopping to PRAY can help get emotions under control as we become more aware of them and how we do or do not control them. It let’s us see exactly where we need help and how God can help us through PRAYER and reading his word.

  366. O: I need to renew my mind with my relationships.
    B: Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Oh how I love this verse! It has become a life verse for me! God laid this verse on my heart about a year ago when I was flat on my back crying for help! I didn’t really understand what God was trying to tell me then but I understand it now. God is a good God and a God of love. Oh how he loves us and how he will always provide for us.
    S: I have “grace” tattooed on me to remind me to show grace to others as God does to us. To love one another as God loves me. I also wear a cross necklace that I find myself rubbing throughout the day. It brings me comfort to know that Jesus died on the cross for me! (and you!) During the storms in my life, I turn to God for comfort and peace. I may not turn to him immediately, sometimes I find myself picking up the phone instead of praying. But it is nice to have something tangible you can touch to reflect on what God has done for us and that his love for us is unconditional. There is nothing we can do that will make God stop loving us!

  367. My go to bible verse is Psalm 23 because when I feel unglued it usually happens as a result of some kind of fear. Fear of something else happening, fear of something else NOT happening, or fear of feeling out of control of the situation. This verse covers so much…not being alone, God taking care of my enemies, and most important not to fear! So I look at this and realize God is in control and I stop worrying about what if’s!!! Love the first 2 chapters! #HolidaySurvivalGiveaway

  368. louise johnson says:

    O-Family issues extreme…..yesterday was my birthday and I haven”t heard from any of my 4 grown sons or their families in years…..hurts more then you can imagine. Wanted to text them all Honor your father and Mother so all will go well for you but after so many many attempts to contact them have failed I have given it to God…..knowing all prayers are answered in His time.
    B – Philippians 4:6 is perfect for this situation…..”Do Not be anxious about anything….
    S – Praying, journaling and listening to bible aps are such a big help for me though sometimes a good cry really helps too.

  369. I recently cancelled my wedding and have had the hardest time coping with it. This Bible Study couldn’t have come at a better time.
    O: I have thoughts of regret, depression and failure which enables continuing thoughts of low self esteem (I am fat, ugly, unsuccessful, etc…) I often question, did I make the right decision? I need to find peace and healing with my decision. I need to stop comparing myself to others.
    B: My go to verse is typically Matt 5:16 but Jeremiah 29:11 ‘ For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ This gives me hope.
    S: I have to learn to yield to God. I need to lay my troubles at his feet and NOT pick them back up again. I have to trust the God’s plan is the best plan. I need to let go…..

  370. My to go verse is (God help me to be strong and let not my hands be weak or slack knowing that my work will be rewarded )2 Chronicles 15.7

  371. Jenny Lynne Stroup says:

    My go to verses are Philippians 4:6-7 and Hebrews 6:19. They help remind me that God is there strong secure…I just need to talk to Him.

  372. Julia Newsome says:

    I struggle with HEARING God. I’m not sure if i’m hearing what I want or what God wants. I keep asking for guidance, but i’m not sure that i’m listening, or quite know how.
    The verse that I think helps me the most is Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
    I’ve printed out the the PRAY guide and I plan to use it this week. I’m hoping it will help me hear and understand where God is leading me.

  373. As my husband and I are trying for our first baby, I try to remember Psalm 139:16 “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”

  374. O – Letting certain situations or decisions others have made annoy me.
    B – Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all of your ways acknowledge Him, and he will direct your paths.
    S- I used to journal but have gotten away from it. I like the graphic – will help me with my focus and purpose for journaling. Love the verses ladies have shared – will add to my “arsenal”!

  375. Psalm 3: 4 – With my voice I cry to the Lord, and He hears and answers me out of His holy hill. Selah (pause, and calmly think of that)!

  376. The download is very very helpful!
    I keep hearing James 1:5 over and over and over again!
    I think my P.R.A.Y will help me get my mind focused right!!

  377. Hollie Garner says:

    I’m having trouble having patience with my 2 year old. She’s so strong willed and at times do defiant… i find myself loosing my temper and yelling anf I hate myself for it. I’d like suggestions for scripture ls about parenting and patience.
    Stopping to PRAY could be a great way to defuse the situation and to give me a better perspective.

  378. O – Letting situations or others’ decisions annoy me.
    B – Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your path.
    S – Love the graphic – will help me focus. Love the verses others have shared – will add to my “arsenal”!

  379. I love the Message version of our memory scripture this week:
    “Take your everyday ordinary life…your sleeping, eating, going to work and walking around life…and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for Him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention of God…you’ll be changed from the inside out!” Romans 12:1-2

  380. O: I had a friendship that lasted 30 years. I was betrayed by my friend and hurt very badly when she started dating my brother-in-law. I actually set up the date.I have had a hard time forgiving her and letting the past go. When I hear about her from my husband or another family member, I have a hard time controlling my anger and lash out at my husband.
    B: My go to verse is Ephesians 6:11 (Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.
    S: I will use the four steps of PRAY to really reflect and apply what God is saying to me about this situation.

  381. Observe — I need to focus on refraining from negative talk in my life and speak positive life into existence.
    Bible — Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character hope. Romans 5:4 (NIV)
    Stretch — Praying will help me focus on God’s glory rather than my temporary, earthly problems.

  382. I have been struggling with spiritual and emotional battles for many years and I’m finaling taking one baby step at a time to come back to allowing my heart to be renewed by God and getting back into His Word. I have to let go of certain “affairs of the heart, physically and emotionally” and try to change my perspective of keeping my marriage and family together.
    I always turned to Proverbs for seeking wisdom and will start opening my bible again to soak up its beauty and love letters from God.
    P.R.A.Y. – something I want and need to commit to again.
    Thank you for being such Godly Woman who share real-life imperfection in progress and allowing us the freedom to share our thoughts and hearts. Love and Blessings to all <3

  383. O — Being overly sensitive & fearful of being ridiculed.
    B — “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3
    S — I’ll definitely use the printable as a guide. I need to slow down and listen to what God is trying to tell me.

  384. O- Speaking without thinking how it will make the other person feel.
    B- I have several verses I love, but one is “Let all that you do be done in love: 1 Corinthians 16:14
    S- Stop and PRAY will allow me to think about what comes out of my mouth. Instead of jumping on that person I will sit and think about it before starting the conversation. I wished I did that last night. I was into my hurt feelings and lashed out and now i am sitting here wondering why didn’t I just calm down and explain why i was so upset instead of yelling, and going over board.

  385. Missy Dennis says:

    O~ Self confidence, I am in a position of leadership, but feel my self doubting my abilities. When I feel like it is time for me to move on I am drawn back in so I know that this is where the Lord wants me.
    B~ Be still and know and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10
    S~Praying helps me shift my focus.

  386. Beth Martin says:

    Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with? I am a pleaser. I struggle with this as I can’t please everyone, but I work hard at trying to. It is exhausting and I am learning to say, “No” but it does not come naturally for me. Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? I have two Bible verses I use of late. My life verse is Matthew 6:33 ” But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be given to you.” And of late, due to an ugly experience in my life I use Ephesians 5:11 “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, instead rebuke them” Both Bible verses help me much. Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? It will give perspective to situations that come up in my daily walk, keep me in the Word, remind me to reflect and apply my Bible verses often and also to remember what God’s perspective is and apply it. Praise the Lord!

  387. I know that my struggle with my emotions stems from my past from childhood to damaged and broken relationships. I feel like a failure with controlling my emotions most times, because I make the same mistake over and over again. Then I feel embarrassed because sometimes I feel that I am justified when I become “unglued”…which is not true. I like the statement, “I can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control”. This is something that I am going to start practicing.

  388. I struggle with how to help my husband whom I love dearly. He has a spirit of fear and regret over many things and should not because he is a good man. Satan blinds him. He follows his emotions often and lives with self doubt.. We’ve been married for 30 years. We are active in our church and have a grown son. This is my desire is that he can see that emotions are not dictators. And yes, I am guilty of needing to make some changes as well. Thank you for this study.

  389. I had an observation when my body started changing I ask the Lord to guide me and protect me on every action, every thought… I always being thankful for who I am nowadays to be understandable and help others in my pace; always P.R.A.Y to keep the peace in my heart God Bless

  390. O – I’m not sure if I understand but what came to mind is my reaction to my husband when he states he doesn’t understand what I have said. I always try to use the simplest words when talking to him because of the strokes he has had. I come unglued and I know I shouldn’t.
    B – I really don’t have one for this particular subject, but I do for when I feel like a failure. “For the know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
    S – I think that stopping to P.R.A.Y. will help me this week to establish a better prayer life. However, I feel that it will help me daily just to focus on God.

  391. O – Relationship with my family (sister, mom, dad)
    B – “Be Still and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10
    S – I think this will help me in my relationship with my daughter. She is very much like me…in that she also can become unglued very quickly. And we sometimes feed off each other. If I can present an example using the PRAY process/thoughts, that may help her to see that it is beneficial and she may start doing the same.

  392. O-yielding is my my hard for me right now. Im working on that which some days are better then others.
    B- Phillipians 4:6 is my go to right now. It helps me because I know that i don’t need to be anxious and always be thankful for what Im going through right now. Its all for a purpose.
    S- P.R.A.Y will help me by being more aware of how I can respond in my circumstances. I have found with praying that I need to be more specific when talking to God, He wants to know our every thought and need. I love devotionals, they always help at the right time. Finding a prayre prompt will be fun to help me see and respond qicker. Yeilding is the imperfect part right now and that is ok. Im growing and changing.

  393. Missy Melhorn says:

    O-I seem to lose my temper so easily when my boys (ages 8, 8, and 12) start fighting. And lately it seems it’s all the time. We’ve all begun to focus on changing our behavior and our reactions. It’s like when one person is angry, it just multiplies through our house.
    B-Psalm 46-10 “Be still and know that I am God.”- It just reminds me that He’s there and He’s got this.
    S-Stopping to pray can help me diffuse the situation and a different perspective.

  394. Tiffiny Palm says:

    O-I have been struggling with a lot of things lately. Feeling alone and not good enough.
    B-I don’t have a specific verse but thinking right now taking our OBS verse for this week Romans 12:2a
    S-Will definetly be using P.R.A.Y especially when the lies and negative thoughts come in. I used to journal and it was a helpful way to get through so many things.

  395. Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with? My relationship with one of my adult children.
    Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? If so, share it with us. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, … Jeremiah 29:11 This verse reminds me that God has not designed this trying situation to damage me further and that He is in control of things, whether I can see this or not.

    Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? Remembering to step back when I stop feeling heated and to channel that furious energy into something positive and life-giving – God’s word and God’s work – can really help to soothe the troubled, turmoiled waters of my soul.

    • Ellen,
      Your post “spoke” volumes to me today as I sometimes struggle with the same thing. I love what you said about “stepping back when you feel heated and channeling your furious energy into something positive”. It’s amazing how focusing on God’s word and this Bible study can help me to control my emotions.
      Thanks for sharing!

  396. Cathy Koch says:

    O- I’ve let my emotions drive many conversations in the past & they didn’t go well. Now I am afraid to speak at all when emotions may be involved for either me or the other person. I avoid even when I believe God wants me to say something.
    B- Often I find myself repeating; “The Lord is my Shepard”. Just that part of the scripture.
    S- I printed P.R.A.Y. I want to keep it with me to read throughout the day as a reminder to take the time; slow down let God work in me & throw me.

    • Cathy, I understand what you mean as it is hard for me too. Its wonderful that you are taking steps to focus on the Lord and trusting His to shepard you. He never fails and will bring you thorough to victory as you have faith 🙂 Thank you for sharing 🙂

  397. O–I need to renew my mind when it comes to my children. I love them but sometimes don’t like them, especially when they are disobeying and/or fighting like last night.
    B–Philippians 4:8 Whatever is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, of good repute, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think on these things.
    S–when upset with the kids I need to stop and pray and hug.

  398. Renewing of my mind? I need to stop thinking or feeling afraid of rejection if I reach out to someone.
    I don’t have a go-to verse at this time, but my Bible reading and devotionals applicable much of the time.
    The use of P.R.A.Y. would help me focus and be purposeful while working through this trial.

  399. Jennifer Sanchez says:

    O: I struggle with anxiety
    B: There are so many helpful verses. Of course, Philippians 4:6 is a go to one and I try to keep it fresh by really meditating on it in light of my specific circumstance or fear.
    S: I like that acronym PRAY to make sure my mind and heart are really getting the word and applying it.

  400. Sabrina Minton says:

    I struggle with belieiving lies that others speak over me. I let fear get the best of me at times.

    I don’t have just one go to verse. I combine several different verses. I remind myself that the anxiety is not from God. He is peace. That He is with me and He is fighting for me. That He is my help and strength. I just speak the truth that I know about God.

    PRAY will definitely help me keep my perspective and focus on God in every situation.

    • Sabrina, thank you for sharing your struggle. I have a hard time with this too. You are so right that Abba Father is peace and fighting for us. He is truly greater than the one in the world, always bringing victory as we focus on Him. May you keep on your faith and truth and thank you for the reminder 🙂

  401. Christy Wheeler says:

    O: Just one? Lol…my struggle is with the kids. Mornings in particular with my youngest. She is by far the hardest to deal with. Getting dressed is a real struggle. I need to “renew my mind”.
    B: I love the verse…God has your name written in the palm of his hand. I forget the reference…but that touches me in a special way. He knows me personally.
    S: I love this PRAY! I plan to use this! And am going to share. I think it can help me refocus.

  402. Observe: My struggle is with “procrastination.” I seem to put off what I know needs to get done and it harbors more worry than what I need to allow myself to go through. I start to shut down instead of move forward. Much like Lysa mentioned about organizing her closest. I also have put off far too long what God has called me to do. He has revealed to me to go into public speaking and writing. This I have started small steps and feel the wheels are gaining some momentum.

    Bible: There are many verses that I love. Here is one I turn to when I need God to encourage me.
    Isaiah 40: 29-31
    29 He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.
    30 Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall;
    31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;
    they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

    Stretch: Reading and Reflecting is what grounds me in those moments I want to put off doing. I devoted today to one of my “procrastination” projects. I will seek out his strength to get me through and not allow me to feel overwhelmed.

    • I love these verses from Isaiah. I had to copy and paste them. I think these will help me. Thanks for posting them.

  403. O-I have to pick just one struggle? Hmmm…that’s going to be tough. Well, I am an exploder (for the most part)-if something doesn’t go my way, i get overwhelmed and freak out–this can come out in road rage (every day), if I have something planned for a while and last minute someone cancels or the plans change, and just every day nit-picky things. There really isn’t anything specific that triggers me. In my relationship, I tend to make up issues that aren’t there and get angry about them, or I get annoyed when my boyfriend doesn’t live up to the ridiculous expectations I have made for him. So, I could use LOTS of renewing of the mind and redirecting thoughts. Lots and Lots…my life is riddled with moments of becoming unglued.

    B-I don’t have a specific verse I consult, though this week I really have been using Romans 12:2a. I love the NLT version “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” I have no idea how to let God change me into a new person, but boy does that sound like a sweet deal. Gaining perspective is often painful for me because I have so much pride and then shame in how I have acted. I am open to suggestions for some verses to give me this transforming perspective.

    S-I think stopping to PRAY this week will help me be gentler in my responses and will help me to see myself the way God sees me…

  404. O- Not coming unglued when things don’t go as planned! My husband’s work schedule is day to day and early mornings and late nights! It’s hard to plan things and no when to expect him home… I need to work on just letting things go. It will all work out!

    B- Jeremiah 29:11 God knows the plan and I have to let his will be the plan. He knows what’s right for me!

    S- P.R.A.Y.ing helps me get a fresh perspective and to reflect on my progress.

  405. Shanna Freeman says:

    Observe — I am a person who struggles with accepting that I can’t do everything perfectly. I often feel like I am failing if things don’t go perfectly, in which case, I would rather avoid just avoid them altogether. I love the idea of imperfect progress is a bit hard for me. I pray that I will surrender this to God and accept that I can’t do everything perfectly, but that imperfect progress is the reality and can actually be a beautiful thing.

    Bible — My favorite verse is Romans 8:28, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

    Stretch — Focusing on God’s Word and yielding to God’s way will help me keep my eyes on Him and not my problems. I struggle with anxiety and need to turn to God and trust Him instead of letting worry creep in. I really believe that P.R.A.Y will help me to do that.

  406. Amanda Jean says:

    O: Just being content, satisfied, okay with the now

    B: But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33

    S:I think this will encourage me to actually dig deeper into the word, listen more openly to what God is trying to tell me as I pray, and focus on renewing my mind

  407. 11/4 Chat
    Right now my main struggle is with me and my boys and our morning routine when it comes to getting out of the house on time and without becoming ‘unglued’ in the process. It’s is very hard for me to reflect on a verse in the heat of moment, so it’s usually not until I am alone driving to work when I break down and cry about the way I reacted. I am prayerful and hopeful that by incorporating PRAY into my study time it will begin to overflow into my day and how I respond to the high stress situations with my 3 boys. I love them more than life and that is why this book and study is so important to me.

  408. O – definitely coming unglued at the messes my husband and children leave around the house.
    B- Ecclesiastes 3:1 FOR SURE – “There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
    S – I LOVE this concept! Especially the prayer prompt! I have just the bracelet I can use to remind me to stop and P.R.A.Y. when chaos begins to set in and set me off! I cannot wait to share this with my Life Group Ladies!

  409. O – I struggle with timing. When I think something is a good idea, I want it to happen NOW.
    B – Jeremiah 29:11 – God has a plan and it’s for our good and never for harm. Things happen for a reason!
    S – I think this idea will help me be more intentional in applying my faith. (And having true faith – not just faith in what suits me)

  410. Mary Anne Quick says:

    O: I struggle with stress related overeating.
    B: Today’s scripture is perfect Luke 14:25-33. It was loud and clear today to detach from the things of this world, they will never help me. Only God will be here for me, I must deny myself what is holding me back.
    S: I will use PRAY to help me overcome this struggle. With the help of God

  411. My struggle: I’m a stay-at-home mom and while my boys play well together most of the time, there are many times when they don’t and the noise level escalates…along with my temper at having the peace destroyed.
    Bible verses I need to memorize and apply fully: “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.” (Ecc. 7:9) “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” (James 1:19-20) “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Prov. 15:1)
    PRAY application: I love the idea of a bracelet but I think I need some sort of major symbol to catch my attention in the heat of the moment when emotions are headed toward the point of no return. I’m in prayer about asking for a change of habit and change of heart to respond gently rather than in anger. I have a history in my childhood of experiencing a verbal abuser exploding any time something didn’t go their way so it’s a terrible learned behavior that I need to pray against daily… This is not how I want my boys to react in life.

  412. I struggle with my responses to my 10 year old step daughter. I get very frustrated with her and then my responses just get worse and worse. Them I feel awful. I don’t have a go to verse for this yet, but I will. I’m so looking forward to this study!

  413. Donna Sloate says:

    I struggle with emotions like I am on a roller coaster. I minute I am up the next I am down. I want to be more even keel. One of the verses I go to is “Set your mind on things above not on things that are on earth.” I think stopping to pray can bring my prospective back to God and His wisdom.

  414. O – speaking without thinking & letting my emotions be in control.

    B – Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.”

    S – Love the PRAY acronym & will definitely try to use it!

  415. Right now I have two struggles everyday. I struggle to keep my cool in the mornings with the kids especially when we are running late. I tend to yell and scream all morning. Then my other struggle is at work. I work with mostly all women and you know how women can be we tend to gossip (a lot). I am trying to stay away from the gossip all together and then if I am present I am trying not to participate. I don’t have a bible verse as my go to verse. I just stop what I am doing and just say over and over God give me strength! I think that stopping to PRAY this week is a great idea because anytime you put God first it’s going to work out in your favor. I love the printable to help keep me focused this week. That’s night one of my daughters friends was in a car wreck and I just went to the car and prayed and prayed. I think if everyone turned to God first everything will work out.
    P.S. This is my first study but I must say how in the workd could y’all read all these posts. Cudos to you guys!!

  416. Observe — Struggling with trusting God in difficult times and managing my emotions when I get overwhelmed.

    Bible — “Be still and know that I a GOD.” (Psalm 46:10)- “Cast all our anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

    Stretch — I think will be a huge step to just stop before our emotions takeover and just be still and P.R.A.Y. It puts our mind in God’s word and hopefully that will change our response in that situation.

  417. I struggle when too many pressures happen at the same time or when more than one thing goes wrong at once. One, I handle. Toe or three “crises” at once and suddenly it’s everyone else’s fault.
    Romans 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

    I need to practice PRAY more but specifically this weekend as events will be in place that cause tensions to run high

  418. I think for me to renew my mind I must look at the world from a new perspective and that means relinquishing all my faith to God even when I am weary. With that I need to remind myself to pray often and stop trying to do things my way.

  419. Shaun Wade says:

    O-I struggle with my emotions when pertaining to conflicts. I also struggle with my “to do” list(and yes I we just got finished with that OBS. Its not the list but mainly my emotions and becoming overburdened…Im a w work in progress.
    B-Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will. and Philippians 4:13: ” I can do all through Christ who strengthens me.
    S- stopping to P.R.A.Y will hinder me from becoming “unglued”. It gives me a moment or 2 to reflect on the situation. As Lysa says in Chapter 2 ” We cant always fix our circumstances, but we can fix our mind on God”. Hallelujah!!

  420. O – I react before thinking so I need God’s help with being slow to anger.

    B – Matthew 7:3 – “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?

    S – I have to repeat that when I start to get upset with other people’s behaviors

  421. Deborah Smith says:

    Melissa shared with us about trying to do things perfectly, and I can relate to that. I rarely get it perfect, and can quit trying and become discouraged. Probably the largest challenge I face is dwelling on past hurts and/or failures. My “go to” scripture for this is Philippians 3:12-14. Paul writes there under the guidance of the Holy Spirit: “Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet, but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead. I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (NASB) This is helpful in renewing my mind and thoughts-WHEN I apply it!

  422. Just yesterday my son (who is the obnoxious age of 16) tried to get out of going to see our newest addition (My niece born last week) so he could hang out with friends (that I do not approve of) I was so upset rehearsing all the reasons he should not hang out with her. How disappointed in the fact our family plans must change to fit her schedule, and other random emotional thoughts. Instead I kept my thoughts to my self and went about our plans. Prayed for strength to stand my ground and keep with the schedule. We went saw the baby and by the time we got home his window of opportunity to see that friend had closed so he stayed safely at home and away from trouble. I didn’t have to spew my angry thoughts all over and go back and try to clean them up. GOD handled the matter for me. And not till this morning did I realized that this may have something to do with the fact I read the first three chapters of unglued yesterday morning? Wow GOD IS GOOD!!!

  423. O – Admitting when I’m wrong. I have felt the need to be right for so long, it is difficult to lay down my pride.
    B – Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.” It reminds me I don’t know everything, and that’s okay! I have Him to rely on, and he wants so much better for me.
    S – I am learning how to pray. I have learned that I can and need to be more specific, and He will show me where to go and/or what to do. He will direct my search in His word to provide me with His understanding. I like the idea of a prayer prompt. I’ve never thought about doing something like this, so I am excited to look and find something that will work for me. I am also learning to take more time to be still and find quiet time so I can actually be close enough to hear Him when he whispers to me in His still small voice.

  424. Leah Schuck says:

    I love Colossians 3:15 and Isaiah 40:28-31. They remind to let Gods peace reign in my heart and then when I’m feeling weak or stressed that God never fails or is weak and he can give me strength. I need to remember to PRAY when things begin to go crazy all at once-that is when I most feel unglued!

  425. Michelle Manna says:

    O-I am dealing with the feeling that I am doing it all alone. Mu husband has health issues and addiction issues, and sometimes it feels like I am all alone in this crazy struggle.
    B-The Bible verse I go to at all times is Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart do not depend on your own understanding. This helps me to realize that He is by my side.
    S-I am going to take the suggestion to apply using a prompt. I think if I have something physical to ware or hold onto, I would be more likely not to feel so crazed

  426. O; I fight with stress constantly! I’m went back to college and I struggle with the whole “Am I good enough?” “Do I have what it takes?” ALL the time! I need to trust that the Lord brought me here and he will bring me through it!

    B; My verse since I was saved when I was 15 has been “I sought the Lord, and He heard me and delivered me from all my fears” Psalm 34;4… I have also been using this one alot lately, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

    S: I’m looking forward to using the P.R.A.Y … I know when I feel like it’s all too much that this is exactly what I need to do!!

  427. O – I struggle with outbursts of anger, going from zero to sixty in 0.4 seconds!
    B – I don’t have a go-to verse for that particular issue, but I’ve started looking for one. My “life” verse is Jeremiah 29:11.
    S – I usually only get to the P part of P.R.A.Y. Thinking of the word pray as more than just the act of praying will help me turn those prayers into more than just conversations with God. Praying is wonderful and necessary and critical, but going further and Reading, Applying, and Yielding will take my Bible study walk to a level that I deeply desire.

  428. My struggle is with my mother. I seem to get frustrated a lot because she asks me to do things I know she can do. I take care of her since my father left her. And sometime the burden of helping her in that struggle becomes too heavy on me and I lose my control.
    My to go to verse most times is Phil 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and He who has begun a good work in me will be faithful to complete it.

    I loved the PRAY acronym and plan to use it a lot.

  429. Observe — I could definitely use help with renewing my mind from painful experiences of the past. Oftentimes, I allow them to dictate my present-day level of happiness.
    Bible — John 10:10b “I am come that you may have life and have it more abundantly.”
    Stretch — It will place my focus on eternal things and God’s plan throughout everything I have faced and will ever face in this temporary life here on Earth.

  430. How do I think stopping to P.R.A.Y. can help me this week? Well, I wish I had it last week when I exploded on coworkers. Afterwards, I felt so bad, but felt unable to stop myself. I have prayed and asked forgiveness and that the Lord would heal those I came at. Now I have away to ensure that I don’t EXPLODE in the next situation. I can pray before speaking. If I feel attacked unjustly, I tend to react and respond quickly. Now I need help to see the siutation from another perspective. Prayer is going to let me ask the Holy Spirit to keep my mouth close and understand all the dynamics of the situation before rendering a decision. As I read/reflect on the word of God and the bible study materials, the Lord will help me to establish a new approach.

  431. Observe — Impatience, especially at the end of a long day. Lashing out when I’m stressed, thinking about how I act in the mornings trying to get us out the door to school and work on time.

    Bible — Not yet, but I’m about to read all the comments and find some to write down!

    Stretch — It already has! Had a bad moment yesterday morning and learned of a disciplinary issue with my daughter after school. I prayed after both incidents and asked for guidance for better solutions in the moment. Taking a deep breath, separating my instant reaction from the reality of the situation, responding with love and gentleness (and firmness when needed).

  432. O- I need to pray for God to give me “patience ” for my family and my marriage and to learn to wait on God , His timing is the Best
    B- I love John 15:5 ….I am the vine ye are the branches He that abides in me and I in them the same bringeth forth much fruit for WITHOUT ME YOU CAN DO NOTHING . Amen
    S- Keep me focused and keep me on track so I don’t come Unglued ????

  433. Victoria Dore says:

    My go to verse is Phil 1 :6 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

  434. Controlling my emotional responses to those closest to me by YIELDING. My life is so full and hectic with a one year old, online studies (and I mean finishing a bachelors degree I’ve been slowly working on for 15 years, not this!), church activities, taking care of my home, my family and my body…I tend to explode IF I’m not filling my tank with the Lord. I’ve been striving to give Him control of EVERYTHING and that’s hard, BUT it’s working!!!! I’m not a spaz, I’m getting my school work done without feeling incredibly pressured, my relationships are improving, I don’t lose my cool at the tiniest thing like spilled milk. What an awesome transformation in just a few short days! I knew that November was going to be a month of change and every time I strive for any change, I DREAD it, and by the end of the first day, I’m over it. This time is different, I have a peace that can ONLY be explained by the Holy Spirit, truly.

    I have SO many verses, but my number one is Proverbs 23:7. So many translations, but the meaning of where the mind goes, the man follows holds true!

  435. Angela Fritsch says:

    O- Contentment is an ongoing struggle for me.

    B.Jeremiah 29:11…For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.

    S. I need to let God be in the driver seat more.

  436. Brittany Hall says:

    Observe — I am really struggling with my singleness and the hurt from my last (and only) relationship. It has really started to “define” me and I don’t want to continue down this road. I really need to renew my mind with truth from the scriptures and begin to define myself through Christ’s eyes.

    Bible — Jeremiah 29:11 has always been my “life verse.” It is a constant reminder to me that God has a plan for my future and that it is full of hope. Even in the moments that I can’t see it myself, I do my best to put my hope and trust in that promise from God’s word.

    Stretch — I love having prescriptive things like this to help keep me accountable and to remind me to pray. I think it will really help me to keep my mind focused on Him and the Word instead of allowing the enemy to continue planting lies in my heart. I definitely want to go through my jewelry drawer and grab a bracelet to start wearing that will remind me to pray and to trust Him throughout the day.

  437. Observe-I take on to much at a time. I need to learn to say no more often. Then I get stressed out and my temper gets the best of me. I could kick myself at times cause I end up taking it out on the ones I care most about (my family). So not only am I torn but I am tearing them down too.
    Bible-I do not have a go to verse as of now. This is my first ever bible study and my family and I don’t go to church often. But I will say that I can feel the lord working on my heart. I have just got to take that step and be more obedient.
    Stretch-I LOVE the PRAY perspective. I am going to put this to use in my life. I am also going to start keeping a journal today. I have often thought about it but never took the time to do it. This may be a good outlet to release some of my stress. I don’t want to hurt my kids feelings any more. I am to quick to start yelling at them when I need to just take a step back and think for a moment.

  438. My struggle is control, I want to control all situations around me and I struggle with allowing God to take care of what I can’t. I know he is there to take care of all matters but turning over that control is very difficult; when things do go as I believe they should go, then I become “unglued”.
    I am new to Bible Studies and do not have a verse yet but I am sure that there will be one that speaks loudly to me; for the moment I am using our Bible verse of the week, Romans 12:2. It is on my board in my office and will be on my refrigerator and bathroom mirror. I want to have it looking me in the face, I want to transform not conform.
    I believe that stopping to pray when the over whelming feeling of “control” takes over, it will take that burden as I continuously turn it over to God. Pray does not have to be long, I am going to try to simply pray:
    “Dear Lord, take over the power that drives me to push you out of control of my life.”
    Such a deep breath and a moment to reflect that I am pushing him out of my life, will “hopefully” allow him to work in my life.
    One step at a time towards Imperfect Progress

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      I have found that my go to verse can change depending on the situation I’m going through. So use what speaks to you right now Tina! Thanks for sharing! God Bless!

  439. My struggle is with negative thoughts and reactions

    I’ve cheated and found some great verses as I’ve scrolled through–thank you, ladies!
    Psalm 141:3 Set a guard, O Lord, before my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips(I’ll also substitute mind for mouth and thoughts for lips since one tends to lead to the other)
    Gal 5:22-23 The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and Self-control

    I am going to pray over these verses this week and try to find some verses of my own! that apply to this

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      There are awesome verses being shared so I don’t consider it cheating!! Thanks for sharing Gwen! God Bless!

  440. Angie (P31 O-Team) says:

    Observe-There are SO many, which do I choose? I think time management is the biggie right now. Yes! Even after just going through Taming the ToDo List! I either spend too much time or not enough on things. I have strategies it’s just putting them into practice and keeping them in practice!
    Bible-One of my favorite verses and one that reminds me that if I keep serving God and being Jesus girl my #1 desire then he will give me those desires is…
    Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
    Stretch-If I take the time to follow these steps, then I will be allowing God to step in and not allowing my human nature and emotions to dictate what I say and do.

  441. I need help with the little things. Spilled milk, siblings fighting, late for church, all the daily little blurps that occur in my very packed day. Often I end up frazzled, yelling and “unglued”. I am a working mother of 3 children. On my days off, I homeschool along side my amazing husband, who is a stay at home dad.

    My goto verse is Proverbs 3:5 -Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him (submit to him) and he will direct your paths.

    Prayer will help me this week to slow down. Stop, reflect, and remember to Yield, to submit, to apply God’s word daily, moment by moment.

    Thank you for this ministry and your dedication to serving women and our many needs.

  442. Colette Stetler says:

    My go to verse is Proverbs 15:1. I call it my parent verse and posted it everywhere!

    I connected with Lysa when she talks about her parenting on pages 11-14. Recognizing why/ when I come unglued has been a helpful exercise this week as I watch myself with my 3 children. I don’t want them remembering me blowing up all the time.

  443. Observe – I am struggling with finding balance in my life.
    Bible – Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
    Stretch – I think the P.R.A.Y perspective will really help me. I am trying to start putting God 1st. I am going to start journaling the things God puts on my heart during bible reading and praying time.

  444. O: Stress and letting go.
    B: Jeremiah 29:11
    S: I believe it will help me focus

  445. judy ruggiero says:

    I am grateful to God for bringing me to all of you. This is all fairly new to me but I long for the peace I have learned only the Lord can bring.. so that not only I have peace but that this will also bring peace and love to all those I come in contact with. Peace not the crazy unglued emtional wreck I have been. Thank you. May you all be blessed by this study as I am.

  446. Beth Dalton says:

    How do I think stopping to P.R.A.Y. can help me this week? I think if I begin praying before speaking or typing an email that it will help me not have to face the guilt that I would feel after the conversation ended or I pressed the send button. This study has already helped me this week. Yesterday was a very trying day and I really wanted to give a co-worker a “piece of my mind.” However, I stopped and thought about the situation on how my response would not help the situation. My mom always says to heap loads of love on those that are trying to deal with – therefore, I stopped myself from letting my anger and frustration control my response.

  447. Erica Hudson says:

    O- Patience is something I struggle with when it comes to wanting the answer in that moment, wanting to know the outcome right away- instant gratification. I will tell myself to “Be Still” but before I know it, I am obsessing with getting an answer or a result- this also goes hand in hand with trusting His will for me and staying in faith that the answer will be revealed in His time. I am a constant work in progress when it comes to real patience.

    B- My go to verse recently is “Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let the petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers., letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. Its wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life” (Philippians 4:6-7)

    S- When I pray, I feel God calming me and I feel a clarity that seems to be lost throughout day, as my husband says, when I let the devil “steal my joy”- I feel renewed through prayer and recharged. I let my guard down and just let my words flow to Him, even if they are jumbled and not perfect.

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      When I feel like there’s no way God can understand what I’m praying because nothing makes sense, I know that the Holy Spirit intercedes for me. So God understands! Thanks for sharing! God Bless!

  448. O- when my kids seem out of control
    B- no specific verse
    S- I do pray. I pray that I will see them how He sees tham and love them how He does. I pray that I will discipline in love and not anger.

  449. Observe — Just that I’ll ok today and tomorrow. I’m so curious and scared of the future. Accepting my life now as it is. Being a single parent and raising my son alone.
    Bible — Yes. I do. I John 4:4 You are of God, Little Children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. This verse got me thru some tough times in my life. Knowing that I have Jesus is all that matters. Despite what was going on around this verse really took me to another level.
    Stretch — Stopping to think and pray and just be grateful for what you have is the a wonderful thing. Sometimes we get overwhelmed with life and we don’t stop and pray. That’s me. Getting back into the word was the best thing that I’ve ever did. It gave me the stregnth to face my enemies and gave me the courage to stand up and say I’m going to be alright.

  450. Terri Juliano "P31 O-Team" says:

    I have four “kids” and a daughter-in-law that range from 17-24 and I want to be close with each of them. I homeschooled all four of my kids and I expected to never be “left out” of their lives. My daughter is away in college and she texts and snap chats but we are not as close as we were before she left for college last year. My oldest and his wife are more involved with her family then they are with us. My youngest son comes up and spends the weekends with us but he is usually on his computer. My second son is my ray of sunshine. He will drop everything and go out of his way to (most of the time) to help or visit. My go to verse…Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are OLD they will not depart from it. That old gets me every time. They are all in that age where they are trying to break out of the egg shell of their parents beliefs, ideas, ways, etc and find out who they are, what they believe and what their place in life is. These years are often spent “ignoring” the parents. I know that God is writing their testimony and that in the next couple of years they will come home and realize that mom and dad are not the enemy and actually have something of value to add to their lives. So for now I am getting reacquainted with my hubby and doing some of those things I could not do while raising kids. My heart yearns for a relationship with my children but God knows what they need and what I need to further His kingdom.

  451. Observe — I could use it for my impatience. I was actually speaking to a friend this morning about my inability to slow down. I’m always in a hurry to get no where and not really embracing and taking in what life has to offer. It’s like I’m in a hurry and don’t know why.

    Bible — can I quote the whole bible? Ha just kidding. I have so so many and most come out of proverbs or psalms but one imparticular one that I’ve needed a lot lately is Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” in today’s world it seems so much easier to just explode or not be nice because we’ve had a difficult day with difficult people. Which is why unglued is Gods answered prayer for me exactly when I needed it!

    Stretch — it gives so many other pointers and new ideas. I love them all. It will definitely make me stop and read the PRAY and actually take my time instead of rushing through what needs to be intimate and real.

    God bless you guys!

  452. O – A struggle I could use a little “renewing of the mind” with is in not exploding with my family when I’m in the midst of raw emotions.

    B – a go-to verse to help me with this struggle is Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

    S – I love the acronym because it makes practical steps easy to remember to help me not come unglued. Stopping to pray and reflect will help me to remember what to apply and yield to instead – God’s way 🙂

  453. O- I need a little renewing of the mind in the PRAY area. We are so hurried and rushed it seems I forget to say Thank You and really appreciate what GOD has done in my Life!
    B — I don’t really have a go to verse. Looking for the right one.
    S- I think that PRAY can help me learn to slow down and really think about what I want to speak to GOD about. Often times I am in such a hurry that I forget to say the Important things to Him!

  454. Gloria Hamilton says:

    I love this study and I love the PRAY skill.
    O – I struggle with perfection and not really in my home as much as me being the perfect mom who doesn’t loose it, who does all these creative things with my kids etc…
    B – I am reading Ephesians on my devotions going through a chapter a day and journaling what speaks to me. Today 1:4 says “You are chosen”. That reminds me God chose me to be a mom and specifically for my children. God will help me each day to make progress not be perfect and that it is ok to not be perfect.
    S – I am starting morning prayer time with my girls in addition to night prayers and I set up a prayer in my War Room, as in the movie, for them. I know my prayers help them pray even at their young age and I am teaching them to go to Jesus with everything. I reccomend seeing the movie War Room if you haven’t. It will change your prayer life it sure has mine.

  455. O: One struggle that I could use a little “renewing of the mind” with is a particular struggle with my mom and her husband. I am forming some anger and resentment in her decision to bring someone into our lives, as well as building a wall as we stuffers do! I am still struggling with how to see good in someone (not my mother) who doesn’t seem to have good intentions or actions (aggression, dishonesty, stealing, drinking, etc).

    B: I am in search of the verse that will be my “go to” verse in these situations. I did make a huge connection with the Proverbs31 devotion today. If I cultivate a tranquil heart and saturate myself in God’s word, then I can retrieve his word and not come unglued. It is so hard, as a mother, to not feel that protection mode and stay glued, especially when things seem completely out of your control due to someone else’s decisions. How do I appreciate the situation?

    S: I believe that stopping to P.R.A.Y. this week will allow me to focus on what I can control, react through God’s word with a tranquil heart, and yield God’s way with constant reminders from my prayer bracelet that my precious friend Katie gave me and the prayer from this mornings devotion:
    “Father, may I keep my eyes on You and not on others, so I may cultivate a tranquil heart. Help me focus on the truth of Your Word and appreciate my unique gifts, talents and circumstances. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

  456. My go it verse is Jer 29:11, just reminding my self that God has a plan for my life and I need to give it over to him!!

  457. O – Feelings of self worth.
    B – Always my go to: Isaiah 43:1 – But now, this is what the LORD says– he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.
    This lets me know that no matter how I feel this verse lets me know that HE PICKED ME!
    S – I pray this will help me choose my words differently and let Him give me the words that need to be said.

    • This is my favorite go-to verse as well! If this doesn’t solidify that we have a personal relationship with Him – a one-on-one relationship – then nothing else will. What comfort this brings me!

  458. Observe — I struggle with believing that I’m an unlikable person.

    Bible — I didn’t have a go to verse, but since you asked I thought of Psalm 139:14 “I PRAISE YOU because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are WONDERFUL, I know that full well.” Wow! Ok Lord.

    Stretch — P.R.A.Y will help renew my mind and that will affect my behavior. I’m going to put it on my mirror so I don’t forget.

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      I know it wasn’t your go to verse Rachale, but I’d say it is now and it’s a good one! Thanks for sharing! God Bless!

  459. O – Losing patience and respect for my husband – I get “unglued” with him pretty often
    B – Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace forbearance, KINDNESS, GOODNESS, faithfulness, GENTLENESS and SELF-CONTROL. (Emphasis mine – I want to be like Christ and be patient, kind and respectful to my husband regardless of the situation at hand!)
    S – If I can keep my mouth shut and try to meditate on this, I think it would really help “calm the waters” and help me to react in a more positive manner. I think practicing this would help for it to become a habit. 🙂

  460. Observe: I could use a renewing of the mind with my temper and quickness to respond with a smart comment & serious help with me taking everything so personal- I’m way TOO quick to become defensive!
    Bible: My go-to verse… Hmm. That’s a hard one. Psalm 16:8 is always a comforting, encouraging verse.
    Stretch: Using P.R.A.Y. Can help because it will cause me to pause and THINK before I open my mouth.. Seeking God and talking to Him will slow down the entire process. Looking for a prompt or having a prayer will be helpful as well. But I have got into the habit of when something happens interrupting my plans I just say out loud “God is good!” I sometimes say this over and over…. Because He indeed is good- and this helps me get my mind off of me and the situation at hand- and it causes me to think of Him. Also- whoever with me or around me gets to hear me praise Him.

  461. I am far from perfect and struggle with many things. One of my biggest struggles I deal with is having PATIENCE. At times, I feel like I am in control and things are supposed to go the way I want them to and when I want them to. As a Christian, I know that God is the One who is in control and knows my destiny. I need to work on having patience and allowing Him to work through me, placing events in my life when He feels the time is right.

    I can use the “A” in P.R.A.Y. by applying lyrics to a Christian song that captures what I need to overcome this struggle. “Spirit lead me where my trust is without boarders. Let me walk upon the waters, wherever you would call me. Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander, and my faith will be made stronger in the presence of my Savior.”

  462. O-I need a little “renewing of the mind” with my bitterness.
    B-Ephesians 4:31-32, Matthew 544
    S-I need to use P.R.A.Y. when I am coming unglued and letting my emotions take over.

  463. Observe — Obedience. I can sometimes follow through for a day or so, but then start taking the “easy” route for my day, which doesn’t provide the joy or fruit that God is calling from me for the day.

    Bible — Galatians 6:9 – Let us now grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.

    Stretch — I think those times I find myself wanting to take the “easy” route, referring to that guide would be good. There was someone who recommended laminating the printable so having that on hand as a reference to go through, I think would be a great place to go!

  464. Kay Pflueger says:

    O: I am on a weight loss journey and I struggle with seeing myself a a beautiful person.

    B: My go to verse is Jeremiah 29: 11. God has plans for me.. I just need to be patient and diligent in my walk with Him.

    S: I love the PRAY acronym!!!

    • As the weight drops off, you will start to feel more and more beautiful! Just remember you are perfect in God’s eyes!

  465. Karen Yaw-McAdoo says:

    O- I could use a little ( well, a lot) of help taming my tongue to not speak before I think a thing through. We had local elections yesterday, and some of the candidates I chose did not get re-elected. So, this morning all the gloaters are out on social media & in my office. I’ve had to really catch myself not saying snarky things.
    B- I looked up one of my favorite verses, Proverbs 15:1 which says “A soft answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” I am writing it on my hand in red ink. lol!
    S- I think that P.R.A.Y this week will help me tame this tongue of mine. Especially the prompt & immediate prayer. I’m using a bracelet this wonderful lady at church gave me. It’s red with elephants on it. I cant miss it when I look on my wrist. lol It will be my sign to stop and pray. To think before I speak. And to search my heart for God’s ways & not mine.

  466. Holly Johnson says:

    Chapter 2 was such an eye opener for me! I was floored learning about how the brain works with emotions! Also, that we won’t develop new responses until we develop new thoughts. Wow! Asking myself who’s side I am on is a game changer for me! To step back, put everything into perspective and ask whether I trust God or not is eye opening.
    One struggle I could us a little “renewing of the mind” with is all the things I cannot control. For example, my boys fighting. I can’t control whether it happens or not, but I can respond in a way that helps vs reacting because it simply drives me crazy. The end goal for them not fighting is not to “not make mom crazy”, but how does fighting serve God? I need to trust that God has their lives in His hands and He wants to use me to show a great example of how to serve God.
    My current go-to verse is Galations 5: 22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control; against such things there is no law.” Really helps put things into perspective for me.
    Stopping to P.R.A.Y. is the greatest tool I can use to unsure I’m making imperfect progress!

  467. Brenna Wolfe says:

    Observe — Being so negative and pessimistic. I have screwed up bad in the past and always think that will cause super bad things to happen to me and my family even though I’ve asked for forgiveness. I hate always being so negative and quick tempered.

    Bible — I saved Proverbs 15:1 one day and have that hanging at work. That reminds me to not be so quick tempered and spout off at the mouth.

    Stretch —It’ll make me stop, read, and think. It’ll also allow for more time with God. That I desperately need.

  468. Donna Morris says:

    My verse is Philippians 4:6-7.

  469. Observe — not to be the freak out woman
    Bible — I do not have a go to verse but am searching for one through my studies. I like lots of verses but have not found one that has spoken to my heart in a way that I know it is meant for me.
    Stretch — I think that having the PRAY as a go to action will give me the steps I need to remind myself that everything happens for a reason and that even though I do not see the why GOD does and that is where my real faith has to kick in and truly let it go to HIM.

  470. Lillian Hawthorne says:

    Observe- I struggle with a “hurried lifestyle.” Not that I have a lot of kids, activities, etc… Just the need to get “everything” done NOW! I recognize I need to spend time with the Lord, but not quite sure when? How? I pray EVERYDAY, but I need some time to be quiet to “listen” to what he has for me to hear. I also know this has a lot to do with priorities & the LORD should be my FIRST priority.
    Bible- I have several bible verses hit Psalm 46:1, comes to mind..” God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble”
    Stretch- I think P.R.A.Y. will help me re-align my day! Just knowing that he is the protector, navigator and communicator in my life. I have to make time to hear from him. There will be no excuses!

  471. Helen Gonzalez says:

    O- PRAY?….I struggle with “yielding”, I’m always tempted to try to “fix” things on my own instead of relying faithfully on God for His timing & intervention. When I step in God’s way- it’s not good…from experience!

    B- My go-to verses: These uphold me & remind me of God’s truth.
    Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, ” plans to prosper you & not to harm you, plans to give you a hope & a future.”
    1 Cor 13:13 – And now these three remain: faith, hope & love. But the greatest of these is love.
    Psalm 139:14. I praise you because I am fearfully & wonderfully made, your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

    S- This will help if I actually DO stop to pray before my emotions get the best of me. I try to read daily, that helps to prevent getting to those high-stress moments for me. Seem to apply these lessons as I have “a-ha! moments” & God reveals himself to me when I just talk to Him & truly listen!

  472. brenda stover says:

    A husband that’s not a Christian
    Psalms 46:19
    By writing out my thoughts—it will help me through it.

  473. Observe — The need to be perfect and have everything perfect around me. I am a pastor’s wife and often times I am afraid that being “myself” is not good enough. I don’t like when things I am in involved in (either directly or indirectly) aren’t perfect or in order. I complain about it. I give up trying to correct my attitude and my thoughts because I don’t think I can do it perfectly.

    Bible — Well my go to verse is 2 Timothy 4:7 – “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” I want to be able to say this at the end of my life.

    But right now I am in-depthly studying the life of Moses. This morning I was reminded of Psalm 78. The Lord continually turned away His anger, His frustration, His wrath. Verse 39 says, “For He remembered that they were but flesh, a breath that passes away and does not come again.” Verse 72 ends the chapter saying, “So he shepherded them according to the integrity of his heart.”

    Stretch — Well, already reflecting on Scripture has made me ask myself, can I remove the distractions of imperfectness around me and just shepherd my kids, my friends, those I serve, those I disciple, those around me according to the integrity of my heart? What is in my heart right now? Do I truly have a love for God and His people…or is it a love for self that creates this “unglued” feeling? God open my eyes to Your handiwork and the imperfect progress happening all around me, as well as IN me!

    • Jennifer Dobes says:

      Hi, Kristi.
      I can SO relate to your feelings as a pastor’s wife. We are a ministry family as well, and there’s a lot of pressure that comes with that. I know in my heart that God doesn’t expect perfection from me, but I often expect it from myself, and I definitely feel that everyone around me expects it…of my husband, of me, of our children. Perfection is just too big of a burden for anyone to bear! On the other hand, I think it brings freedom and relief to people when they realize that those of us who are in church leadership roles are real people with real struggles and we make mistakes just like anyone else. There’s a connection that happens when we are able to open up with authenticity and allow ourselves to be vulnerable with those we serve. Not that we should throw all our dirty laundry out in the open for all to see, but a certain level of transparency is healthy. It is not always an easy balance to find. Anyway, I don’t know if anything I have said brings any encouragement to you…I hope so! Just know that you are not alone, and there are many of us out here who share those same struggles!
      ~Jennifer

  474. Jennifer Dobes says:

    Observe — I could use a renewing of the mind in the area of my marriage and family life. Blended family life is very difficult right now, and I have found myself giving up hope and shutting down emotionally. I need to trust that God is in control and His purpose will be served through these challenges. I also need my mind renewed as far as my perspective toward my husband…I am really pulling away from him and I know that’s not good.

    Bible — Psalm 46:10 is the verse I am clinging to and constantly reminding myself of… “Be still, and know that I am God…” I have tried so hard to “fix” things, and they usually just end up more broken. All of my striving only leaves me feeling exhausted and defeated, and I need to just be still, pray, trust, and let Him do His work, remembering that He is God, He has a plan, His timing is perfect, and even when I don’t understand why things are the way they are, I need to entrust my heart and my children’s hearts into His very capable hands and trust that He will break through even when things seem impossible.

    Stretch — I really like the part about using a prayer prompt. I have some rings I wear…one is actually shaped into the words “be still” and the other has that verse engraved on the inside. When I look down at my hand and see one of those rings, it helps me calm my heart and remember to pray and trust.

    • I’m in the exact same boat as you! On top of that, my family has dealt with alcoholism on my husbands part. I too find myself pulling away and feeling like this can’t be fixed. It’s very difficult as we are a blended family with me having 2 children from a previous marriage and 2 of our own. Having a blended family is hard in itself, but put in addiction to that, only adds to the equation! I hope you guys can find something that works for you! I’m hoping this Bible study will help me to deal with my emotions and not coming “unglued” when things get crazy! Best of luck hun!

  475. Observe: I need help with a relationship that seems to be a no win situation for me. It’s a family relationship that I so desire to be more but know deep in my heart that they are not going to change and I, having faith in our Lord Jesus Christ have “hope”. I need a renewing of the mind on how to process, think and approach this. I pray about it constantly, daily.

    Bible: I have many verses that help me in difficult situations. I don’t yet have one particular verse for this situation. I love, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:3

    Stretch: I stop and pray many times, all days for this situation. I am seeing a therapist as well. I need to hear from the Lord, how HE wants me to proceed and what it is that HE wants me to do with this relationship.

    • Katie, you are NOT alone! I chose the exact same Bible verse and I too am right there with you regarding my relationship with my husband. As much as I love him, I fear he wont change. I always have “hope” and don’t want my family to be broken. Addiction has played a big part in our brokenness….but there are other areas that need to be addressed as well. Best of luck to you and your situation! Just keep praying on it and eventually God will give you your answer! I feel our gut is God’s way of speaking to us!

  476. The verse that speaks to my heart is 2 Corinthians 12:9 My Grace is sufficient for you , for My strength is made perfect in weakness

  477. bethany jacobs says:

    o- the relationship i am in right now.
    b- Jeremiah 29:11
    s- focusing

  478. Lynn Lamster says:

    O: feelings of rejection
    B: 1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world. This verse reminds me that no matter who rejects or hurts me, that because I am one of God’s children that I am stronger and will be ok. I don’t “need” any human’s approval because I’ve got God on my side and in my heart.
    S: I hope to use P.R.A.Y. as a tool to learn to slow down and not be so quick to let my emotions override. I too, loved the idea of a prayer prompt … I see a new bracelet in my future. Since I”m not a jewelry wearer, it will definitely stand out to me and serve as a reminder of my new journey and the need to stop and pray when I find myself in an unglued situation.

  479. Observe-not to let the little things bother me.
    Bible-Proverbs 19:11
    Stretch-P.r.a.y can help by giving you time to cool off and reflect on what is really important.

  480. O- I am at a loss to know how to respond to some parenting issues.
    B-Proverbs 15:1 A gentle reply turns away wrath.
    S- I want to fill my heart with God’s Word and promises so that when I feel like exploding, I will have His Word in me and be able to recall that He will help me thru whatever seems impossible or endless.

  481. Karen Sturgen says:

    O- my husband’s job. I am stuck wanting him to stay with I job I know he hates in order to make my life more comfortable. I pray for a change of heart,because I know it will only be good for us if we are both happy. I need God to renew my mind on this.
    B- Psalms 18:1 “I love you O Lord my strength” I say this several times a day ?
    S- taking the time to pray things through will only help me. I just need to remember to do it so I think the visible reminder of some type of jewelry is a great suggestion!

  482. Amber Nixon says:

    Observe: I struggle getting together with friends. I want to find a balance between spending time with my family and friends. My husband travels so naturally when he’s home I want to spend time with him. When he’s away I make excuses.

    Bible: My go-to verse is 1 Timothy 4:12!

    Stretch: P.R.A.Y is going to strengthen the areas need improvement. I’m going to say my best yes and pray while reflecting, applying and yielding.

  483. O – I am mean to my girls. I scream at them. I call them names. I say things I don’t mean. And at the end of the day, when I am laying in bed, I think about how much better off they would be if I wasn’t their mother. I have become my mother and it hurts me to say that; but I hurt more for them because I know what my girls are going through. I haven’t always been this way. I would say it started about a year ago. I’m not sure what changed but I know that I can’t continue to be this way.

    B – Open to suggestions

    S – I think P.R.A.Y. is going to help with my patience this week. By reflecting back to a bible verse or passage will give me time to think about the situation and how I really should respond instead of lashing out.

  484. Ashley Long says:

    O- I am NOT alone and no matter what happens God has my back

    B- 2 Corinthians 4:8

    S- we are currently in a huge financial crisis after my husband was laid off in June and I broke my leg in August and we are really struggling to catch up but by stopping to PRAY I can rest in Gods truth and promises and have peace in the midst of my chaos!

  485. O: parenting, money, family issues my list here could be endless. There’s so many I dont know where ro start.
    B: jeremiah 29:11 is my verse for everything 🙂
    S: remembering God’s word first instead of after I explode will be a great help.

  486. Holly Dean says:

    Observe — For me, right now, it is trusting Gods word. I believe it..but sometimes i don’t feel He means it for ME.
    Bible — Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love,
    for I have put my trust in you.
    Show me the way I should go,
    for to you I entrust my life.
    Psalm 143:8

    Stretch — I think having a plan, something I can look at to remind me of what I need to do when doubts start creeping into my thoughts!

  487. Observe: Feelings of frustration or loss of control. I often feel this way at work (I am a teacher) when things do not go the way planned. I tend to overreact and this affects everything in the classroom.
    Also, Frustration in terms of progress. I often get really frustrated with myself because I am still seemingly falling into the same patterns that I have worked so hard to change this past year. I really needed chapter 1! what a great reminder that transformation does not happen overnight and is a process! Sometimes you just need to draw a line and start over and that’s okay.

    Bible: I need one!

    Stretch: I think that PRAY can help me better understand and know God’s word and be able to apply it in my daily life. I love how it can take something from God’s Word and really dig into it so that its not just “a study” but instead a skill to learn to use in your daily life.

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      Cassie, there are awesome ones being posted in the comment so I pray God leads you to one today! God Bless!

  488. Grace Clawson says:

    I love today’s post. I needed this push this morning. I have been dealing with some very difficult issues and just needed some encouragement to constantly stay plugged into the Word and not my circumstances. Thank you

  489. Emily Sweet says:

    Observe — Relating, Communicating, and Connecting with my husband. I’ve found I came into marriage with expectations rather than a serving heart for him.
    Bible — I’m not great at memorizing scripture and grasping on to it in stress filled moments but Philippians4:6 is a scripture I remind myself of often, to lay down my concerns to the Lord.
    Stretch — It will require that I stop and consider before reacting. Yield. Yield is becoming my word for this season.

  490. O- I need to see things from another’s perspective and think before I speak (or should I say spew?)

    B- Philippians 4:6-7
    Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

    S- Whenever I do my devotions and bible study in the morning my day goes better as a whole. My mood is better so it is easier to control my emotions. I may try a bracelet as a reminder. I really like that idea!

  491. Observe: The one struggle I could use a little “renewing of the mind” with is OVERTHINKING!!! For example: I believe in my heart I’m where I need to be…that God wants me where I am but when I am “Unglued” I OVERTHINK if I’m REALLY where God wants me to be.

    Bible: My go-to verse is Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT) “For I know the plans I have for you”, says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” I plan on having this engraved on something for me to wear at one of the “wagons” at our mall. Whenever I’m struggling with my OVERTHINKING I read this!!! 🙂

    Stretch: I think stopping to P.R.A.Y will help me have less “Unglued” moments in my day!!! I’m going to need to have this engraved as suggested on a bracelet since we are soon to be in the busiest time of the year for retail AND I work @ Macy’s. 🙂

  492. O- I need to learn to be patient and wait on God to move in my life instead of taking it upon myself.
    B- My favorite bible verse today is Psalm 46:1 ” God is our refuge and strength, an ever present help in trouble.”
    S- I need to go to a quite place and not only pray but also really listen to what God is saying to me.

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      I’m so bad about getting impatient and moving before God. That’s something I struggle with and like you need to listen to what God is saying to me. Thanks for sharing Randa! God Bless!

  493. Observe — Speaking life to my sisters and brothers; I get discourage that they can’t see and feel what I feel and see in my walk with the Lord.
    Bible — Romans 8:28, And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[i] have been called according to his purpose. I have to remeber God is on my side.
    Stretch — Prayer is key to all aspects of my life, everyday I deal with something new that I don’t agree with and so I pray for the guidance of God to give me the correct attitude on how to handle.

  494. O: Just one? LOL! One of my biggest struggles is accepting my physical weaknesses, keeping up with what I think should be easy and often feeling like I failed. I’m dealing with some health issues and at times I get frustrated because even though it has always been a struggle for many years lately I can’t do all the things I used to be able to do. Everything takes longer and it is harder to do even basic daily living skills.

    B: Philippians 4:13 – I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

    Philippians 4:8 – Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

    S: I loved the PRAY acronym and plan to use the printout a lot. I pray to God a lot about anything and everything but more often for others than I probably do for myself. My prayer list is so long. I believe praying strengthens my walk with God and also reminds me He can handle this so I don’t have to worry or stress! Thinking of the word pray as more than just the act of praying will help me turn those prayers into more than just conversations with God. Praying is wonderful, enjoyable, necessary and critical, but going a step further will take my Bible study and Spiritual walk to a level that I deeply desire.

  495. Your blog really resonated with me today. This is the first online bible study in which I have participated and I feel as though it is very appropriate for me at this point in my life. I have needed guidance in my life and as you stated “needed biblical perspective on my struggles.” I look forward to renewing my perspective and refreshing my outlook on life through God.

  496. Bernice Morning Gun says:

    Let me just say that i don’t know if i am even doing this right or if my comments are being posted… 🙂
    Observe-I find myself getting irritated by my fiance just little things and i feel horrible when I have acted too tired to take him to work. He is trying so hard and he has hurt me in the past and I feel I am using this just to get back at him and I know in my heart that its not right and that i know I’ll feel bad when I act mean to him. It seem the more harder I try to just chill and calm myself I trip out by sighing and acting mad. other words I get upset easily.
    Bible – the Bible verse that comes to my heart and mind is: Proverbs 17:9 “Seek Love ; Love prospers when a fault is forgiven but dwelling on it separates close friends.”
    Stretch- Stopping to Pray and think about how i might react and the damage it might do…so praying will guide my feelings and actions. It will help me reflect and read HIS word and thank JESUS for HIS grace and mercy as well as HIS presence in my life today.

  497. Kathleen B says:

    O-I need to learn to be more patient with myself as I work on dealing with others. I need to realize that slowly I am making imperfect progress.
    B- My favorite go to verses are Matthew 6:25-34. If I can only remember not to worry so much…after all God has it all under control!
    S- The PRAY sheet will definitely be a help to me. Anything that I put in writing seems to stick and mean more to me.

  498. Observe — Feeling overwhelmed with my to-do list and staying motivated to get things done. A lot of times I come home and plop on the couch, rather than start dinner or do something productive. I then beat myself up for being an inadequate wife.
    Bible — 1 Peter 5:7 – Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
    Stretch — I think it will help me create a habit of going to God in prayer when I start to feel Unglued.

  499. Observe: Trusting God with the unknown and things I can’t control. I tend to let fear win and this is something that God has really been laying on my heart. I need to trust Him with all things and be obedient.
    Bible : Isaiah 41:10 & Proverbs 3:5-6
    Stretch: Whenever I am fearful or trying to handle a situation on my own I need to just stop and pray that I would trust God and let Him direct me.

  500. Becky Gillis says:

    Observe — What’s one struggle you could use a little “renewing of the mind” with? Since my divorce as a result of infidelity, I find myself wanting attention from men to affirm my beauty. I need to let God fill that space and focus on what He says about who I am. Bible — Do you have a go-to verse to help you when you need new perspective? If so, share it with us. If not, that’s okay. You can get a lot of great ones today in the comment section! I have so many! Right now it is Exodus 14:14. I am exhausted from fighting battles on my own. I need God to fight for me, and I need to “Be Still” and keep my hands off of things. Stretch — How do you think stopping to P.R.A.Y can help you this week? It will just help me to stay focused and it will enable me to be transformed by helping me renew my mind!

  501. O- My major struggle right now would be learning to quite my “negative inside chatter.” I am my own worst critic. I can make a mountain out of a mole hill in just a matter of minutes in my mind. I use to say that I didn’t care about others opinions of me, but I’m realizing that was a lie I was telling myself. The truth is I do worry too much about the opinion of others, thus feeding all of these negative thoughts that I’m not good enough.

    B- My go to scripture verse right now is “…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Cor 10:5b. This reminds me that is my thoughts do not line up with the Word of God, then I need to banish that thought and find out what God has to say about that matter.

    S- I think the P.R.A.Y method is going to help me stay on focus. I am a task/goal oriented person. Sometimes I felt like I was wondering aimlessly in my Bible studies. But now I feel like my study habits are becoming more purposeful. I love print outs and schedules- that is right up my Type A personality alley.

    • Jem Renee P31 O-Team says:

      I’m so with you Brandy. Sometimes I have trouble sticking to a schedule, but I like having it in place. Because if I don’t I feel like I’m just not really accomplishing much with my Bible Study. Thanks so much for sharing. God Bless!

  502. I’m struggling with a lady that I work with. Corporate office politics are just awful. There is a lady that keeps trying to micromanage me and I don’t even report to her! She is one of those busybody, in everyone’s business, loves to announce to the department when mistakes have been made etc. Its just bad. I feel bad that I can’t deal with her without getting mad and upset. I fail the test everyday to not let her get to me.
    Are there Bible verses to help me with this? I don’t like feeling like I’m a bad person becaus she makes me crazy. I want to be unaffected by her.

  503. O: Parenting-I have a very strong willed 4 year little boy who very much does things on his time and is his way-I am 3 months postpartum and having a horrible time with that-the combination of the two is resulting in me exploding when he doesn’t do something right when I ask and how I want him to do it. Conflict with my mother-in-law, we haven’t been on speaking terms for over 10 months now and throughout my husbands and my marriage we have spent more time at odds with her than not-it is exhausting mentally, physically, and emotionally. Thankfully this conflict does not affect my marriage but all the same it is my husband’s mother and I desperately long to have at least a civil relationship.

    B- I don’t have a particular verse, yet. I was reading some of the others posted and so I’m looking into some of those.

    S- using P.R.A.Y this week will give me time to stop and think before becoming unglued-helping me to make the right choice of stopping before I explode and reinforcing my effort of drawing the line in the sand and moving forward-always moving forward!

    • Carla,
      I just want to offer some words of encouragement. I too have a very strong-willed boy who was 4 years old when his little sister was born. He is now almost 17 and she is almost 13. The tantrums, fighting, melt-downs in public, etc… just about drove me over the edge. I went to a counselor with him because I thought there was something wrong with him. The counselor told me plainly that he was an 11 on the strong-willed scale of 1-10! She then gave me a book called ” Personality Plus for Parents” . I highly recommend it. What I have learned is this: strong-willed kids need to know who is in charge – they are boundary pushers and button pushers! God has an amazing plan for all children and it is no mistake that He created some of them with this personality for a reason. I can now see what an amazing young man my son is turning out to be. I know he will be a mighty warrior for Christ as he matures in his faith-walk. These strong-willed kids are born leaders. It is our job to pray, speak life into them and show them love through proper discipline. I know how hard it can be – I had plenty of days where I wanted to pull the covers over my head. I will be praying for you as you navigate through this season in your life!

      • Thank you so much for those words! We have tried a book by Dr. Dobson and I’ve implemented several things from that but since the birth of daughter things have gotten a little worse-I feel most of it is all on me-I’m having a harder time getting back to “me” since her birth. Davis is a remarkable child-he is off the charts intelligent, genuinely loving and kind, and I know that he was put on this earth to do amazing things. Knowing that someone else has been were I’ve been makes me feel better, at least I’m not the only one struggling with this!! Thank you again-your encouragement means the world!

  504. Linda Evans says:

    O-This week has been a tough week for me, starting with last Friday, my son’s 31st birthday. We have not spoken for years now, his dad and I divorced when he was 3. Tough divorce and stepmother interfernce. Anyway I found out that day he was engaged the night before and I was crushed, to think I would not be the one dancing with him at his wedding. After much crying and feeling so low, I went to church on Sunday, renewed myself for the week, to find out on Monday afternoon my daughter told me she was marrying her boyfriend that evening with none of us around. Not only were we upset, her dad as well, but she did it anyway. Talk about becoming unglued!! Due to our family situation, the question is will I be able to attend the reception in a few months they want to have.Thank God truly for my good friends and family who are there every step of the way.
    B- My go to prayer for this week and moving foward will be among others Psalm 71:3
    Be my rock of refuge to which I can always go, give the command to save me, for you are my rock and my
    fortress.
    S-Praying to remind me that God is in charge of this situation, I cannot change what happened. Being “unglued” will not turn back the clock. I need to lay this at God’s feet and LEAVE it there. Praying for peace, and listen for God to speak to my heart.

  505. Diana Derrough says:

    Observe- One struggle I need a “renewing of the mind” with is my expectations with my husband and the way I respond to him when those expectations have not been meant. It hasn’t been pretty lately (I am a stuffer, and then I explode), so I am working on this a lot right now.
    Bible- a verse that has been on my heart lately in dealing with my current struggles is Proverbs 15:1. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
    Stretch- I feel using P.R.A.Y. can help me to remember who I am in Christ and not giving in to my selfish flesh nature.

  506. O – My greatest struggle is that I think people are judging my imperfections. I have a hard time with this.
    B – My all time favorite is Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Him who gives me strength.” Reason: I cannot do anything without Him.
    S- Prayer does three things: 1) It humbles and helps me to have the right attitude and mindset. 2) it keeps me close and connected to my Creator. 3) it helps me to surrender the ugly things in me so that I may yield to Gid’s will and authority.