Beyond the Book & Blog

“Finding I AM” Study Leader, Katrina Wylie | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #FindingIAM #P31OBSHi Finding I AM OBSers! (For those new here, that’s our special name for you who join us for Online Bible Study.) I’m Katrina Wylie, executive team leader for our Words Department here at Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies. I’m also a Study Leader for our next study – Finding I AM.

I can’t wait to dig into Lysa TerKeurst’s study book, starting January 23! But today I wanted to share the many FREE options we have to help you get even more out of your OBS experience. (And please remember, these are all entirely up to you if you’d like to try ’em!)

While we’re all about great Bible study here, we also love connecting in community and having fun with our fellow OBS gals around the world! So here are all the extra options you can join …

Hang Out with Us On Social Media!

Note: Use the hashtags #P31OBS and #FindingIAM in your posts for greater connection on social media. You can also search those hashtags to see what others are sharing!

Come & Connect Through Our Study Events!

  • Extra Option #4: Facebook Party!
    Love Facebook, fun and fellow Finding I AM friends? We do, too! Join us Tuesday, January 24 at 8 p.m. ET for our Facebook party. RSVP here.
  • Extra Option #5: Bible Study LIVE!
    Want to chat it up LIVE about what we’re learning each week? Join us on Facebook each Thursday at 8 p.m. ET! Click the links below to RSVP to each week:
    Week 1 (Jan. 26)
    Week 2 (Feb. 2)
    Week 3 (Feb. 9)
    Week 4 (Feb. 16)
    Week 5 (Feb. 23)
  • Extra Option #6: Twitter Party!
    Mark your calendars! Join us Tuesday, January 31 at 9 p.m. ET for some fast and fun study chat. Simply follow @P31OBS on Twitter and use/search the hashtag #FindingIAM to join in.

So there you have it – your 6 FREE, extra options for the Finding I AM P31 OBS! And don’t worry, we’ll send reminders for each of these before they happen! I hope you’ll join us! And remember: These are all listed as extra options … because they’re just that! 🙂

Our motto is: Your life is crazy. Your Bible study doesn’t have to be. So — do feel empowered to pick and choose as many (or few) of these options that work for YOU.

Comment today for your chance to win a Finding I AM study book by Lysa TerKeurst for you and a friend! Two winners will be randomly selected and emailed.

Answer the Let’s Chat question in the comment section of today’s blog and you’ll be entered to win a copy of the Bible study book, "Finding I AM" by Lysa TerKeurst! | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #FindingIAM #P31OBS

Lets Chat:

Which extra option(s) are you planning to add to your study? If you’re a returning OBSer … which options have you already tried and loved?

Can’t wait to connect with you in the comments!

~ Katrina

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How to Get Beyond Brokenhearted

"How to Get Beyond Brokenhearted“ by Katrina V. Wylie | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #UninvitedBook #P31OBSHave you ever felt … broken?

Since we all live in this broken world, I’m going to venture your answer is yes. I know I sure have!

Join me in the video message below, to tie in a lesson from Chapter 11 of Uninvited, through a personal brokenness I’ve experienced.


Note: All of our YouTube OBS videos are now closed captioned for the deaf/hard-of-hearing. Click here for instructions on accessing closed captioning.

So, how do we get beyond brokenhearted? We find the answer in Chapter 11 … We find it in our God

“We must praise God, seek God, look to God, fear God, learn from God, honor God, draw near to God, and take refuge in God.” — Lysa TerKeurst

What a beautiful “to-do list” when we’re feeling brokenhearted!

Are you allowing your feelings of rejection to draw you into that “to-do list” with God?

That answer would’ve been “no” for me for far too long. But eventually I did turn to God in those ways. And once I did? Wow, what a difference!

It’s been 7-1/2 years since the complicated birth of my daughter. And, looking back, I can clearly see that experience didn’t lead only to brokenness from feeling rejected by God. The path kept going. And once I was ready to keep walking that path, with God, it led me to a different kind of brokenness. A desperately needed brokenness! The breaking of my self-strength and self-dependence.

I honestly don’t think I’d be here today without that breaking. It was THAT brokenness which led me to this “new here.” And can I just say THIS “here,” though far from perfect, is pretty stinkin’ cool. Because I’m closer to God, I’m stronger IN God — and I get to serve Him in amazing ways I’d only dreamed of, but never could’ve achieved or maintained on my own!

Yes, I NEEDED to be broken to get to this “here.”

But where is the new “here” God wants to lead YOU to through your brokenness? Are you ready to get beyond the panic, uncertainty and discouragement that comes with feeling brokenhearted from rejection — to let go of all the why’s and lies and instead grab hold of our God?

The “new here” God has planned for you is worth it. YOU are worth it! So, like Lysa writes, I invite you today to:

“Hold fast to Jesus and remember: This breaking of you will be the making of you. A new you. A stronger you.”

"This breaking of you will be the making of you. A new you. A stronger you." - Lysa TerKeurst #UninvitedBook | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies Week 4 #P31OBS

Let’s Chat:

Observe  To help us practice seeking, looking, calling, experiencing, fearing, learning, honoring, drawing near and taking refuge in God, in Chapter 11, Lysa TerKeurst outlines “10 things to remember and proclaim.” Which of the 10 do you need to apply most?

Bible — Spend some time in Psalm 34. Which verse(s) speak the most to you?

Stretch — Use this printable PDF to work through, with God and in your journal, one or more of the 10 application steps listed there.

You’re Invited! Have you signed up to partner with Mission India? It’s not too late! We invite you to help rejected women of India move beyond brokenhearted by signing up to pray for them here.

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Staying in the Know for Your Uninvited OBS, Week 3

"Staying in the Know for Your Uninvited OBS, Week 3" by Katrina V. Wylie | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #UninvitedBook #P31OBSHi everyone! I’m so excited to be back with you to help us “stay in the know” for all things Week 3 of our Uninvited study!!

How are you doing so far? Are you keeping up?

If you’re behind at all, I want to encourage you with two things:

  1. IT’S OK! We all tend to get a bit behind at times, so I promise you’re not alone.
  2. DON’T QUIT! Stick with it by sticking with us. In other words, go ahead and set aside whatever parts of Week 1 and 2 you missed, and then join us RIGHT HERE, where we are today.

You can always come back to those missed parts when the study is over, or if you find extra time during the study. Plus, sticking with us will help you get more out of the study because you’ll be able to dive into our discussion together … in community!

And that’s what community is all about — sticking together to help everyone feel invited in and not behind. I don’t know about you, but THAT can make all the difference for me! So who’s ready to do Week 3 together?!

Here’s this week’s video to get us started, where you’ll discover:

  • What “guarding your heart” with this week’s verse means
  • How to keep believing in your dreams when you’re experiencing rejection
  • Inspiration to “be a grace giver”
  • What’s in store for this week

Click here if you’d like to turn on closed captioning and need instructions.

If you can’t view the video above, click here to watch on YouTube.

And now you’re officially in the know! 🙂

To help you all week long, here’s your Weekly Lowdown with the daily breakdown to download, print and refer back to. But remember, this is your study. So stay in the know, but go with your flow by picking and choosing what works for YOU.


Alright, friends, let’s go!


Let’s Chat:

Observe — With two weeks of study under your belt, reflect on how things are going. Do you need to make any adjustments in the ways, times and/or places you’re doing your study?

Bible — Our verse this week is Psalm 27:1.

Psalm 27:1 (NIV) | "The LORD is my light and my salvation - whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life - of whom share I be afraid?" | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | Week 3 Verse | #Uninvited #P31OBS

Write it out, taking some time to reflect and journal on the following: When it comes to rejection in friendships, who/what do you tend to …

  • Look to, to be your “light”?
  • Turn to, to help “save” you from your circumstances?

Stretch — How’s your treasure collecting coming along? In today’s video, Study Leader Mari Taylor shared a treasure from Chapter 7 about “grace given.” Who do you need to be more of a “grace giver” with? Watch for opportunities this week to practice being a grace giver, and then journal your struggles and successes.

You’re Invited!
The Uninvited Conference Call Series continues today, and it’s not too late to join! This week you’ll hear from Lysa TerKeurst and Dr. Les Parrott as they talk about “How to Survive a Friendship Breakup Without a Breakdown.” Click here to learn more about this optional series.

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When Rejection Isn’t Just an Emotion

"When Rejection Isn't Just an Emotion“ by Katrina Wylie | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #UninvitedBook #P31OBSPatterns — they’re everywhere! From the changing of the seasons, to the math I’ve been painstakingly helping my daughter grasp, to our everyday tasks that become routine. But what about when it comes to rejection — does it have a pattern, too?

I didn’t used to think so.

For me, each new rejection has always felt like just that. Brand new … fresh, raw, random, and often unexpected with no recognizable repetition … until I read the first chapter of Uninvited.

In Chapter 1, Lysa TerKeurst refers to a person’s harsh words of rejection as a “line” spoken. And she explains how that line of rejection can lead to a label we receive, resulting in a lie we believe, becoming a liability in how we:

  • Think about ourselves
  • Interact in future relationships

Wow! There IS a pattern, even in rejection:

Line –> Label –> Lie –> Liability

In thinking back on past rejections, I can see this pattern play out. My soul connects deeply with the truth woven in Lysa’s words here:

“Rejection isn’t just an emotion we feel. It’s a message that’s sent to the core of who we are, causing us to believe lies about ourselves, others, and God.”

"Rejection isn't just an emotion we feel. It's a message that's sent to the core of who we are, causing us to belive lies about ourselves, others, and God." - Lysa TerKeurst #UninvitedBook | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies Week 1 #P31OBS

Did you catch the three potential places for lies to intertwine? Lies about:

  1. Ourselves
  2. Others
  3. God

Oh, how I need to remember this! To see where this pattern twists these lines, labels, lies and liabilities in my mind, knitting them into my heart.

Not only do I need to recognize this, but also to alter it. To halt it at the lie and replace it with truths that lead to a new label and lineof acceptance from God!

Line (of rejection) –> Label –> Lie –> Liability Truth –> New Label –> Line (of acceptance)

Who else is ready for THAT?!

Well, the good news is, ALL throughout the #UninvitedBook, we’ve got a treasure trove of truths and application to overcome rejection coming our way. But today, there’s one simple, yet powerful tidbit from Chapter 1 I don’t want us to miss!

Check out this quick video I made about this “don’t miss tidbit” and a challenge I have for us! (Note: all of our YouTube videos are now closed captioned for the deaf/hard of hearing. Click here for instruction on accessing closed captioning.)

So, do you accept the challenge? Let’s do this!


P.S. Still waiting on your book? Download the first three chapters for FREE here:


Let’s Chat:

Observe — Do you tend to struggle most with believing lies about you, others or God?

Bible — Let’s collect some treasures! Read the 12 Bible verses used in this week’s chapters. Add the ones that “move you” to your “treasure trove” and share with us: Which one encourages you most?

Stretch — Reflect on a personal rejection. Referring to the example Lysa gives on page 8, work through the following in your P31 OBS Journal or notebook:

  • What’s the line of rejection?
  • What label has resulted?
  • What lie(s) have surfaced?
  • Has a liability occurred in how you think about yourself or interact in relationships?
  • What treasure(s) from Chapter 1 stuck to you?

UPDATE! Winner has been chosen! Congrats, Mandy Jones! Giveaway ~ All of today’s comments are entered to win a copy of the Uninvited book! We’ll randomly select and email one winner.

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Top 5 Reasons to Make Our Next P31OBS YOUR Next OBS

"Top 5 Reasons to Make Our Next OBS Your next OBS" by Katrina Wylie | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #UninvitedBook #P31OBSHi from Western Washington! I’m Katrina Wylie, one of the study leaders for our next Online Bible Study, and I have two questions for you:

  • Have you ever felt less than, left out and lonely?
  • Do you want to learn how to live loved even when you feel that way?

Me too!

That’s why I’m super excited for Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst to be our next study! And guess what? YOU are invited!

Yep. If you haven’t already signed up to join us, consider this your personal invitation. 🙂

The next Proverbs 31 Online Bible study is on the book, "Uninvited" by Lysa TerKeurst! Study starts September 6. Learn more and sign up here --> #UninvitedBook #P31OBS

And, as if learning to live loved weren’t enough, here are the Top 5 Reasons we’re excited about Uninvited as our next #P31OBS … and why we think you’ll be excited, too!

#5: Our Study Leaders Are With You and For You

That’s right! We Study Leaders are excited and eager to learn how to live loved … right along WITH you. And we’re equally excited and eager FOR you too! We’ll be here providing encouragement and accountability every step of the way. Your Uninvited Study Leaders are:

We Study Leaders are excited and eager to learn how to live loved ... right along WITH you. And we're equally excited and eager FOR you too! We'll be here providing encouragement and accountability every step of the way. Here's your Uninvited Study Leaders! #P31OBS #UninvitedBook

#4: Our “Me Too” Community

Something special happens when we realize we’re not alone in our struggles. With every “me too” whispered to our hearts, hope is planted. That’s why community is one of our main focuses and why we’d love for YOU TOO to be a part of this 28,000+ growing and thriving P31 OBS Uninvited community!

#3: The V.I.P. Experience

YOU are a V.I.P. (very important person) here at P31 OBS! So it’s our goal to ensure our study fits your likes and busy life. With you in mind, we’re offering many options to personalize your OBS experience. To learn more about the options available for this Uninvited study, click here.

#2: To Get Past Your Past

Are there past rejections keeping you from moving forward? Not only can Uninvited help us learn to live loved in our present and beyond, but Lysa also addresses ways to get past our past rejections too. Um, yes please! Click here to check out what Director of Online Bible Studies Melissa Taylor had to say about this.

#1: A TON of Practical Application and Scripture-Based Truth!

To help us heal “rejection’s deep infection,” as Lysa TerKeurst puts it, Uninvited is PACKED with both practical application AND biblical truth!! What better way to overcome rejection and live loved than with truths from God’s Word and practical steps to take to apply them?!

So there you have it — the top 5 reasons to make our Uninvited OBS YOUR next OBS. Won’t you join us?

Learn more about this study and sign up here.

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Let’s Chat:

Which of the 5 reasons above most excites YOU, and why?

Giveaway! Comment today to be entered to win a copy #UninvitedBook! We’ll randomly select and email one winner.

Still need a book? Learn more about and purchase Uninvited here.

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