The “Why” Behind Our Next Study

“Listen, Love, Repeat” Study Leader, Nicki Koziarz | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #ListenLoveRepeat #P31OBS

Hi OBSers (old and new)! I’m Nicki Koziarz, and I’m here to tell you the “why” behind our next study, Listen, Love, Repeat! Hopefully after we’re through, you’ll join me (if you haven’t already signed up).

I remember the day Karen Ehman called to tell me about this concept she was working on for her next book. I was in my bedroom folding clothes, fighting back the tears as she was talking. I knew this message was exactly what our world was going to need.

And as soon as I hung up the phone with her I thought … I want THAT.

That ability to listen, love and repeat it daily, endlessly and with a whole heart.  

We have such an opportunity right now. It seems like there’s a lot of darkness around.

But it’s in the darkest places where people who love God have the best opportunity … to shine the brightest!

The atmosphere can change in any room we walk into. We can be the hope others need so much. We can bring the movement of being the goodness of Jesus to our world!

So today, I want to take those three words: Listen, Love, Repeat … and share with you how they are encouraging me to do this:

We are so busy! We’ve convinced ourselves that to be busy is to be effective. So I love that this message is challenging me to stop and LISTEN to the world around me. Listen to what others are in need of, listen to what others love so I can love them well and listen to the prompts God is putting in my heart.

And as I’m listening well, I’m discovering what it really means to LOVE others well. Not the way I want to love them, but the way they need to be loved. There’s a difference. And most of the time the latter is a little more stretching, because it makes me stop thinking of MYSELF.

Do we ever get this thing totally right? Are we ever finished living a life of listening and loving? No! There’s always more room for God to stretch our arms a little wider. So, REPEAT. And REPEAT. And … repeat.

The next Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study is on the book, "Listen, Love, Repeat" by Karen Ehman! Study starts April 3. Learn more and sign up here --> #ListenLoveRepeat #P31OBS

I can’t wait for this study — it’s going to be life-giving and life-changing! If you haven’t signed up yet and would like to, you can do so here



Comment today one thing you’re looking forward to during this study, and you’ll be entered to win a copy of Listen, Love, Repeat for you and a friend! You’ll also receive an “invite card” you can slip in your book to invite someone to join in the study! Three winners will be randomly selected and notified via email. 


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Nicki Koziarz #WaitAndSee I #P31OBSONLY A FEW MORE DAYS. That’s right, all the Wait and See OBS fun officially begins MONDAY.

Are you so excited? I am!

If we haven’t met yet, Hello, I’m Nicki Koziarz and I’m so excited to be joining you for this study.

You have waited well for this study to begin and now it’s almost time to get started! We have so many great things planned for you: videos, blog posts, inspiring social media posts, parties … there’s so much good stuff coming your way.

But as you’re preparing for this, I want to give you a little glimpse into something special.

One of the most important parts of this process is building our community.

As you begin reading Wait & See, you’ll feel very much like the author, Wendy Pope, is your friend. But, I want you to know your [almost] new friend a little more today and we want to know a big more about you.

So, here are a few things about Wendy you may not know [yet]…

  1. She loves Dr. Pepper
  2. She is a mom to Blaire and Griffin & wife to Scott
  3. She used to be one of the accountants at Proverbs 31 Ministries
  4. She loves the beach
  5. Her sweet dog, Maxi, is very much her third child
  6. She loves the show Little House on the Prairie

Wendy is a lot of fun but she also lives her life for God so well. She really is one of my go-to people for prayer and perspective. And here’s a fun fact about me and Wendy.

Before I knew Wendy, her dad, Mr. Bob, took care of my oldest daughter in the church nursery. Every Sunday he was faithfully there to rock her, give her a bottle and pray over her. It is one of the sweetest memories I have of those early days being a mom.

When I met Wendy years later and we made that connection, it was so fun.

And that’s what we want to help you do: build connections.

You have a little inside info. on Wendy, so now we need some inside info. on YOU.

I know, leaving a comment on a website might seem a little strange and you might wonder if anyone is going to read your comment. But listen, we read them. We really do!

Take a few minutes today in the comment section and tell us three things we need to know about you. It could be anything … where you live, your favorite drink or something about your life.

THEN, find just ONE comment where you find a connection with someone, and then respond back to them.

I can’t WAIT to read through your comments and SEE where we connect. [wink]




P.S. Still need a book? Click here to order a copy of Wait and See by Wendy Pope! Also, I do NOT want y’all to miss this! Our Conference Call Series kicks off in less than 1 week! Learn from four dynamic P31 speakers as they teach us what we can do when we feel like God’s not showing up. I’ll be there and I hope you will too!

You’re Invited to the "When You Feel Like God's Not Showing Up" Conference Call series! We'd love for you to join us! You'll receive solid Biblical teaching and practical application by Melissa Taylor, Wendy Pope, Whitney Capps, Karen Ehman, Sharon Glasgow, and Nicki Koziarz! Click here to purchase the calls --> #P31OBS #WaitandSee

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How To Walk Into A Room & Not Feel Awkward

"How To Walk Into A Room & Not Feel Awkward I Uninvited P31OBSHi OBSer’s!

Ever feel completely awkward when you walk into a room? ME TOO. And apparently Lysa TerKeurst does too because in Chapter 4 she tells us all about a time where she wished the room would just swallow her whole. Whew. So glad I’m not alone.

Okay, but here’s the reality, we will have to walk into rooms that make us feel uncomfortable. So let’s talk through a few ways on how to walk into a room and it feel a little less awkward. Check out this short video.

(Note: For the deaf/hard of hearing, click here to access the video transcript.)

Let’s Chat:

Observe — Are you an introvert or extrovert?

Bible — Read Romans 8:31, how does this verse help you remember even when it feels like no one is for you, God is?

Stretch — What’s an opportunity God has given you that rejection might be trying to detour you away from?


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The Rhythm of a Marriage

 Happy Friday! "The Rhythm of a Marriage “ by Nicki Koziarz | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #TheHusbandProject #P31OBSNicki Koziarz checking in with you for the last time for this study!

My friend, today I’m standing in applause for you. I am so proud of you, and I believe your marriage will continue to be blessed because of your faithfulness through this process. Amazing job!

Many of us have had so much fun working through ideas, brainstorming and cheering each other on. What a gift this community has been.  

But maybe for some of us, this hasn’t felt easy, simple or even beautiful. Maybe we didn’t even do this thing 100%.

I want you to know, it’s OK.

Just because The Husband Project OBS is officially complete today doesn’t mean all of a sudden the hard situations in our marriages are instantly better or fixed.

As I reflect on the last 16 years of my marriage, I am seeing there’s a rhythm to this.

There are times the rhythm feels great and there are times it feels messy. There are times it feels amazing and then there are times it feels as awkward as a middle school dance.

We go through days where we are head-over-heels in love with each other and then days we don’t really like each other. There are days we are incredibly considerate of each other, texting and talking throughout the day. And then we have days we barely say hello.

Marriage is a constantly changing rhythm.

And I have found when I start to forget the fact that marriage has rhythm, I can feel a little hopeless or stuck.

As an OBS community, this rhythm we’ve enjoyed the last few weeks has been fast-paced and focused. For some of us, because of this study the rhythm of our marriage feels great right now. But for others, it still feels so off-beat.

Kathi Lipp recommends re-visiting The Husband Project once a year. I think that’s great advice!

But don’t be afraid to re-visit this when the rhythm of your marriage feels like it’s having a hard time getting to the next-right-rhythm. Maybe you won’t pull out the whole process of 21 projects, but you can go back anytime and re-visit a project you know your husband loved.

Whatever you do … just keep finding that next-right-rhythm.

Because as long as we keep seeking a rhythm, the beat of our marriages will continue to go on. Just keep going until you find the beat that works for you. And when you start to believe you can’t do this anymore or your efforts are not bringing the right results, remember this …

Of all the women in the world God could have selected, you are the wife God had in mind for your husband. Reject the voice of doubt through this truth, and never be fearful of this assignment from God.

Thanks so much for joining us for this study! And thank you so much Kathi Lipp for writing this book to give us the practical tools we need to keep making our marriages stronger. You are a gift!

Let’s Chat:

What do you feel like is your greatest takeaway from this study?

A little sad The Husband Project is over? We know how you feel! That’s why we have our conference calls, they’re all recorded. Get more info here!


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Is This Doable?

"Is This Doable?“ by Nicki Koziarz | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #TheHusbandProject #P31OBSHi, friends! It’s Nicki Koziarz checking in with you today! 

Do you ever look at a project and have a momentary pause in your step before jumping in?

Beginning a project typically means you need to consider all that’s involved, come up with a plan and decide if you really WANT to do it.

So, I’ll be honest with you. I had a HUGE pause when The Husband Project first came across my hands.

My thoughts convinced me … marriage is supposed to be 100% and 100%. So if my husband isn’t working on our marriage, why should I? Then, the idea of doing 21 projects in 21 days made my heart thump a little faster. I just wasn’t sure I had the capacity to handle another “thing to do.”

All. The. Excuses.

And all the wrong motives.

But just past all these excuses and wrong motives was a little tug in my spirit to press on.

I don’t like to admit this, but I can be super selfish. I knew it was time to take my eyes off myself. And I wanted more for my marriage.

But the real question I needed to answer was this:

Is this doable?

After I read the book, I found myself saying a resounding Yes. But there were a few things that helped me settle on this doable mindset.

First, I am not a planner at all. I’m a wake-up and do things kinda girl. And whether you are a full-blown type-A personality or a little bit of a free spirit like me, this is doable — because you create your own plan.

Second, #TheHusbandProject author Kathi Lipp totally helped me see how doable this is. We’ll get more into this once we start the study, but in Chapter Two, Kathi shares the need to be flexible as we do the projects. Flexible is one of my favorite words! Why?

Because it means we have some freedom.

We have to stick with it, but we don’t have to follow every project for every day that’s listed in the book. And if plans need to change, they can change.

And lastly, this is doable if there’s a desire. We are going to have to keep the why of this study front and center in our minds. If not, we’ll constantly be swayed to give up. It took me a little bit to get the desire front and center. And if it takes you a few days to get there, it’s OK. We are in this process together.

But here’s a verse I’m praying to make sure my desire to stick this out stays strong:

“Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

~Psalm 37:4 (ESV)

I’m reminding myself, God delights in marriage and I know He knows my desire to make my marriage stronger. If you have that desire, too, He wants to help you get there! Knowing God is with us and for us through this process is probably the most “doable” part of any of this.

I’m so excited to walk through this with you. It’s almost time to get started!

Let’s Chat:

What do you foresee being one of the excuses to keep you from feeling like The Husband Project is doable?

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