Join Us for Monday Night Dinner & The Best Yes!

Hi Proverbs 31 OBS Friends!  Hope you are doing well!

I have a few exciting things to share with you today & I hope you’ll be as excited as I am!

First, an invitation to join Lysa TerKeurst and some friends for dinner tonight!



I hope you can be there! Just go to at 8 p.m. ET tonight. Nicki and I will be there at Lysa’s kitchen table and hope you will be, too!

One thing I’m really pumped about is a video that will be shown during the webcast. It’s a video highlighting our next Proverbs 31 online study, The Best Yes. The first time I saw this video, it brought me to tears. To think that we gather here to study God’s Word and biblical topics, from all over the world. It’s a beautiful picture of what I think Heaven will look like. I can’t wait for you to see it tonight!

And also, another invitation!


Our next P31 OBS will begin September 22!  Are you signed up yet?  If not, what are you waiting for?  The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst has already graced The New York Times Bestseller List and is getting rave reviews! Through this study we will take a good look at the two most powerful words we can use … Yes and No. There’s a big difference between saying yes to everyone and saying yes to God. Join us for this free six week study as we discover our Best Yes! For details and to sign up, just click here.

And finally~
We had a contest during our last week of Am I Messing Up My Kids? and there were twenty winners! Angie, our amazing and lovely P31 OBS Ministry Assistant has emailed all 20 winners! So, if you won, you have been notified via email and most of the packages have already been mailed to the winners! Congrats to our winners and there is plenty more of that to come during The Best Yes!

To sum this up, here is your To-Do List~

  1. Watch the Monday Night Dinner Webcast tonight at 8 p.m. ET.
  2. Sign up for The Best Yes Online Bible Study.
  3. Stay tuned for some fun video messages from Lysa TerKeurst, Melissa Taylor, and Nicki Koziarz over the next few weeks giving you all the details so you’ll be ready to discover your Best Yes!

This will be your last email as a member of the Am I Messing Up My Kids? study. To continue to receive P31 OBS emails, sign up for our next study, The Best Yes.

Big Hugs & Blessings,


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Wrapping Up 18

I began this week with tears because I miss two of my kids who moved up to college. I end this week with tears because our 18th Online Bible Study is coming to an end.  🙁

It is my sincere hope that you have found something special here. We have loved gathering with you as we’ve read Am I Messing Up My Kids? by Lysa TerKeurst. I was on the phone with Lysa last night and one of the things we talked about was how very special our OBS community is. It’s been fun to meet other moms of all stages of motherhood from all over the world. It’s been helpful to know we aren’t alone and that there is hope for us as moms and for our kids … no matter what the circumstances. And I think more than anything, this study has reminded me that my relationship with Jesus is the most important thing I can have for myself and for me as a mom. I don’t want to do anything in life apart from Him, especially in my role as a mom!

So, OBS #18 is a wrap … now what?

The Best Yes

We want to invite you to join our next OBS if you haven’t already. It’s The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst, already a best-seller on The New York Times list! That study begins September 22 and Lysa and I hope you’ll join us! We have a lot of great stuff planned for this study!  You can sign up here.

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We also want to invite you to join us in the North Carolina Mountains for a weekend of rest and renewal. It’s the Proverbs 31 OBS Real Life Dreams Retreat!

We are so excited about this. We think you might possibly walk into this retreat tired, frazzled, and empty. We know you will leave feeling renewed, filled with hope, carrying a God-sized dream in your heart. Your soul will be rested, but I can’t promise you won’t be sleep-deprived — LOL! Please join us! It’s going to be lots of fun. We have some great messages and teaching for you as well as hours of free time to enjoy The Cove, the beautiful mountains, some new friendships, or just to be alone.  Many ladies from Proverbs 31 Ministries and our OBS team will be there! Registration will be closed in just 16 days, so go ahead and sign up now! We want to meet you and spend some time with you! Registration and information here.

Whether you are going to the retreat or not, would you at least help us spread the word? With registration closing so soon, we don’t want anyone to miss out! Here are some ready-made Facebook posts and Tweets. Would you share these on your sites with your friends?


Could you use some R&R? A little God-ordained me-time, to get away from the hectic pace of life?  Only a few spots remain for our Fall Proverbs 31 Ministries Online Bible Studies retreat with Lisa Allen, Melissa Taylor, Wendy BlightNicki Koziarz & Steph Raquel.  The last day to register is Sept. 6. (Sorry, no late registrations allowed and we don’t want anybody to miss out!) We hope to see you there!! Click HERE for more details or to register:


R&R? A little God-ordained “me-time” in the midst of a crazy life? YES? Join me! @P31OBS #RealLifeDreams retreat:


How about we #getaway w/ @MelissaRTaylor & all our @P31OBS sisters @TheCoveNC next month? Just a few spots remain!

For all our OBS sisters, would you join us in asking God to do a mighty work that weekend?  We thank you for your prayers!

Hmmm, is that everything? Or am I forgetting something?  Oh yea~ Our big giveaway!! This is your last day to enter to win one of these books:

These ladies have generously sent us copies of their books and they want you to have them! We are giving away twenty books this week! And they are GOOD books. Check them out here!

The Best YesOur next Online Bible Study!!! Beginning September 22~  The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst

Restless image Jennie AllenRestless: Because You Were Made For More by Jennie Allen

JeannieCunnionBookParenting the Wholehearted Child by Jeannie Cunnion

InterruptedJenHatmakerInterrupted: When Jesus Wrecks Your Comfortable Christianity by Jen Hatmaker

Today is your last day to enter … and all you have to do is Chat with us! Share your comments below.

Let’s Chat:

Share your heart with us today.

What has Am I Messing Up My Kids? helped you with most?

Will you be joining us for The Best Yes?

Twenty winners will be randomly selected from all the comments this week. Winners will be announced Tues., August 26.

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What’s At the Top of Your List?

Hey, Y’all!  How’s everyone doing?

Hump Day


Happy Hump Day! We are halfway through our final week of this study. After today, we’ll be over the hump and headed toward the weekend! But before we get there, I have something that’s pretty important to discuss.

Today I want to talk about Chapter 29, What’s the Most Crucial Life Lesson?  As moms, we have so much that we want to teach our kids. There are many life lessons we hope they “get” while they are under our roof. And they are all pretty important! So how do we know what’s most important? I love this paragraph Lysa writes on page 217:

While I do want to equip my children to be well-rounded, responsible adults, I must not miss the most important thing. Of all the things I teach my children, I must place their relationship with Jesus at the top of the list. More than just going through the motions of taking them to religion classes, Sunday school, and getting them baptized, I must ask: Am I fostering in them a desire for their own personal relationship with Jesus?  Yes, these other things are important outward symbols of our commitment as a family, but what about my children’s hearts? Do they love Jesus out of family tradition or out of a personal relationship with Him?

Now, here’s the hard part. They cannot really know Him as Healer unless He has healed them in some way. 

Lysa goes on to write how this means that as a mom, we have to get out of the way. We nurture our kids, but point to Jesus for the healing.

Yes, ya’ll, it for sure isn’t easy being a mom, but aren’t we thankful that we are?

Let’s Chat:

Of everything you want to teach your children, what’s at the top of your list for them to learn?

What are some ways you can contribute to your child learning this?

Each time you comment this week, you are entered to win one of four books. Check out this post for all the details.


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We have some very exciting news …

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Congratulations Ladies! I can’t wait to meet you in person at our upcoming retreat and give you a big ole hug!  Y’all~ it’s not too late to register, so you can still join us! You can get all the details here. 

This week, our section of text is titled, Help Me to Walk My Child Toward Maturity. We have five chapters and just based on the titles of them, I need God’s help with each one!  Our hashtag #LordHelpMe is a daily cry for me! I find myself looking to God for help with my kids most all the time.

Let’s check out the titles for this week with our added hashtag at the beginning…as if we are talking to the Lord~

  • #LordHelpMe, How Can I Get My Kids to Step Up and Pitch In?
  • #LordHelpMe, What Is the Secret to Not Freaking Out?
  • #LordHelpMe, How Can I Set Boundaries?
  • #LordHelpMe, What’s the Most Crucial Life Lesson?
  • #LordHelpMe, Will This Be Worth It in the End?

I wish I had all the answers, but if I did I’d never have reason to say, “#LordHelpMe.”  And I believe that’s the way it’s supposed to be. When I add #LordHelpMe to any of my thoughts, I automatically feel empowered and not alone. Why? Because I know He’s with me.

Now look at the answer after we go to the Lord for help, and imagine His reply ~

  • How Can I Get My Kids to Step Up and Pitch In?   With My help.
  • What Is the Secret to Not Freaking Out?  With My help, I’ll give you My peace.
  • How Can I Set Boundaries?   With My help.
  • What’s the Most Crucial Life Lesson?   With My help, My Word, I’ll show you.
  • Will This Be Worth It in the End?   With My help, you betcha! (Ha ha, I’m not sure if God would say that exactly … well, actually, I think He would!)

Let’s Chat:

Is there a specific area where you have found you need God’s help on a regular basis? What is it?  When have you said, “#LordHelpMe?”

If you use any social media like Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram … use the hashtag #LordHelpMe this week. That way, we can search the hashtag and see what our OBS friends are talking about. We can also use this as a tool to pray for one another in our #LordHelpMe moments.

Don’t forget, we have a lot of give-aways this week, but you must comment to be entered! See details in this post.

Have a wonderful day OBS friends! <3

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#LordHelpMe Walk My Child Toward Maturity

#LordHelpMe, because I know I’m gonna need it.

I have four kids. Two of them left for college this weekend. Blake is a junior and Hayden is a freshman. I’ve gotten used to Blake leaving, and I’m so thankful he is thriving out on his own. But it’s a first for Hayden. Y’all, it’s no easier the second time around than it was the first. This mama is struggling adjusting to this new season of life ~

If you can’t see the video above, click here to view on You Tube.

After we moved Hayden into his dorm, we made a Wal-Mart run for a few things we had forgotten to bring. As we drove up to his dorm, Hayden said, “Mom and Dad, let me just get my stuff out of the car and go on up alone. I think it will be easier on all of us that way.”  He was right … but it wasn’t easy. We all hugged and we all had tears. We watched him walk away. He leaves our car a boy, he walks into his new life a man. I noticed our “man” wiping his eyes as he entered his dorm. My daughter Hayley Grace, my husband Jeff and I were wiping our eyes, as well.

One thing I realized as he walked away. We are sad, but it’s for a really good reason … we’ll all miss each other. Doesn’t that mean life has been good? Maybe, just maybe, I haven’t messed up my kids? (at least not this one … haha!)

We dropped Hayden off three days ago. And I’m happy to report he’s doing great!

He met the Chancellor and got a selfie with her:



He met the school mascot and got a pic with him, too!


And he’s seeing his big brother tonight and you know that makes this mama very happy! In fact, he just posted this picture on one of his social media sites ~


Kelly, a friend of mine and co-worker at Proverbs 31 Ministries, gave me a great idea. She does it with her two kids who are in college together, so I’m stealing it. I told my boys I’d pay for them to have dinner out once a week … together. Hopefully, that will encourage them to get together every now and then.

Our verse is so appropriate for me this week. And just between us, I can’t read it without tearing up. It’s so true ~

Week 6 MUK Verse


Keeping this verse in mind, let’s be intentional how we live. I told you how we are transitioning in our household. My OBS friend, Beth, watched her daughter get married this summer. And Kristy, who you know because she’s also led this study, will be watching one of her daughters begin Kindergarten this week. Both have struggled. Each change can be good, but also challenging. We are happy because they are ready and we want them to move on in life, but we are sad because we grieve the way it used to be.

I challenged you in this week’s video (last post) to claim a verse for your children, no matter how old they are. I challenge you today to live as if it were your last and rely on the Lord. It’s okay to say, “#LordHelpMe!” We need His help! Speak into your child’s life today. Maybe through a touch, a word, a text, a gift or a prayer.

Each time you comment this week, you are entered to win one of four books. Check out our last post for all the details and for a great example of #ImperfectMoms and #ImperfectBibleStudyLeaders~ haha.

Ok, Moms…Let’s Chat:

Are your kids out of the house?  How do you cope? How do you stay involved and still be their mom?

Are your kids at home? How are you taking advantage of the time you have with them? It goes by so fast, just like our verse this week says, “…my days are numbered.”

Keep reading! We have some great content this week!

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