Week 5 of The Best Yes Starts NOW!

Goodness gracious! Can you believe we are already in Week 5 of our study?

Hey friends! This is Shelly, and I am thrilled to get to pull up a chair and join you at the table again this week as we open our hearts and fill up on all that God has for us here! Every week has been packed with powerful, life-changing truths. Truths that — when applied — can set us on the right path today and change the course of our tomorrow. And guess what? This week is no different!

First, let’s sit down for a chat with Melissa and Nicki:

Click here if you can’t see the video in your email.

Things You Need To Know:

  • This week we’ll be reading Chapters 13-15 of The Best Yes.
  • Our verse of the week is: “If people pleasing were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” Galatians 1:10 (NLT)


Special Events:

  • Tuesday, October 21 @ 10:30 a.m. EDT – Conference Call #4 with Lysa TerKeurst
  • Thursday, October 23 @ 10:30 a.m. EDT – Conference Call #5 with Angie Smith, author of Chasing God
  • Thursday, October 23 @ 8 p.m. EDT – Bible Study LIVE (Free Facebook Event)

You can visit our Facebook Events page to join the conversation for any of these optional gatherings.

Now, let’s take a peek at Chapter 13.

Confession: I know first-hand the misery of being trapped in a life of people-pleasing. If you were on the conference call last week, you heard me share a snippet of my story. (It’s not too late to sign up for our conference call series. All calls are recorded!)

In that particular season of my life, I elevated my desire to feel accepted by people above my need to please God. And really, part of me thought that by pleasing people and saying yes to everything expected of me, I was pleasing God. More specifically — for me– in church and ministry.

Pleasing people isn’t always a bad thing … but when our hearts and motives are in the wrong place, both parties are just a breath away from disappointment. Because we’re human, right? And so are they. No one is ever happy or pleased all the time. When we fail to meet someone else’s expectations, we can begin to feel less than or not good enough. Especially when we give them the freedom to tell us who we are.

When we say yes to demands that are not truly part of our assignment, we take on the false responsibility that comes with it. False responsibility leads to unnecessary pressure, undeserved guilt and feelings of inadequacy.

Our value and self- worth are not meant to fluctuate with how many people we do or do not make happy on any given day (thank you Jesus). But when our heart is set on people instead of God, that’s exactly what happens. I have at times measured my self-worth by unreachable human standards and a roller coaster of good and bad opinions about me from others, based on my performance. If you’ve ever done this, you know how it can just squeeze the life right out of you!

Being rooted in Christ and understanding who we are in Him allows us to move forward in confidence as His wisdom guides our choices and direct our steps, even when others disagree.

“We are afraid of people not liking us. Not admiring us. Not being pleased with us. So we spend the best of who we are doing a million little things we know we aren’t supposed to be doing.” ~Lysa TerKeurst, The Best Yes

I don’t want to spend the best of me (anymore) doing a million little things I’m not supposed to be doing.

I want to honor God with my gifts in the assignments He has written for me.

I don’t want to invite crazy into my life (ever again) by saying yes to everything and everyone.

I want to rest in God’s peace by moving forward in the freedom to say yes or no as a wise woman who’s heart is set on Him alone.

And I bet you do, too.

Let’s chat:

  • Do you ever struggle with people-pleasing?
  • In what area of life are you most likely to fall into the trap of people pleasing? (work, church, social media, etc.)
  • Make this your declaration today: I, (insert your name), will rest in God’s peace by moving forward in the freedom to say yes or no as a wise woman who’s heart is set on Him alone.

Prize Alert! —> Everyone who comments this week will be entered to win one of three conference call series! Winners will be notified via email at the end of Week 5. 

UP NEXT: Come back tomorrow for a short DVD clip from Lysa TerKeurst and a discussion on Chapter 14.

Weekly Wrap Up!

Happy Friday, friends!

What a great week we’ve had together. But we are not done yet. :) Today I’ve got a special message for you and … I’m letting you peek into my life! So take a few minutes and check out this video.

Click here if you cannot see today’s video from your email subscription.

Let’s Chat:

I really meant what I said in the video, I want to know what your life looks like! :) So leave a comment today sharing as much or as little as you want about your day to day life.

Weekend BONUS Material:

A couple of weeks ago, Lysa TerKeurst, shared two messages at Elevation Church on the topic of The Best Yes! So we wanted to make sure you knew about this opportunity to be blessed by Lysa’s teaching and unpack The Best Yes even more! Click here to go to the website.

How Do I Say #TheBestYes Every Day?

An honest answer
    is like a warm hug.
~Proverbs 24:26 (The Message)

If your life’s a little crazy like mine, some days can feel enormously rushed.

Steph Raquel here again, and it’s so great to spend another Thankful Thursday with you!

It’s not easy to carve time out for deep, meaningful connections with God before the demands of the day take over. Between three active kiddos in three different schools, a full-time job and my fair share of “Sure, I’ll help with that …” responsibilities, life can feel pretty overwhelming at times!

But I’m also keenly aware that too much of an overwhelmed schedule means I will have a very underwhelmed soul. And I don’t want to let my hectic days get in the way of a Holy God who deeply desires my heart stays connected to His.

This week in The Best Yes reading, Lysa TerKeurst writes about “The Power of the Small No” and guess who she mentions?  Glynnis Whitwer, the Executive Director of Communications (who just happens to be my boss!) at Proverbs 31 Ministries. That’s right — half my job reports to Melissa Taylor in Online Bible Studies. And the other half involves editing our Encouragement for Today daily devotions and reports to Glynnis!

Some of you probably subscribe to these FREE devotions already and that’s awesome!  (Every day, they’re read by more than 1 million people worldwide.  Which is pretty amazing!)

P31 Daily DevotionsIf you’re not familiar with them, they’re written to bring peace and perspective to today’s busy woman … and began as a way for our P31 speaker team to encourage and mentor women from afar.

And one thing I personally love about them is that each devotion has at least two or three encouraging Bible verses connected to them. We hope that no matter how busy you are, you’ve got time to let the God of the universe encourage you with a verse or two from His Word. That’s why I love this quote from Lysa TerKeurst in a recent radio show:

“Reading the Bible can seem so overwhelming. There are so many chapters and verses. Where do we start? … Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed with the enormity of the Bible. Try reading just a verse or two and let them set the tone for today.”

As you’ll read in Chapter 11 this week, Glynnis and our entire editing team work very hard to ensure that we bring high caliber writing that relates to women in all different walks of life, and at different points on their spiritual journey. Here’s what Lysa has to say about Glynnis (p. 130 of the paperback):

“She wraps her honesty in gentleness while remaining confidently clear that this is a no. She speaks of her own need for grace. She gives hope. And she covers it all in love and prayer.”

Y’all, Lysa isn’t kidding when she ways that Glynnis has it covered in love and prayer!!

I’ll have conversations about a devotion with Glynnis, and we’ll pray for wisdom in how best to handle a topic, when to schedule certain devotions and for just the right verses (or even just the right word sometimes!) to add to a given devotion. Case in point … today, as I write this post, I just got a text from one P31 speaker, asking for prayers of protection as she’s writing her devotion, and earlier today I received an email from an author who’s battling some pretty heavy extended family stuff that needs to be bathed in prayer.

You want to talk Real Hope for Real Life? Mmm. Hmmm.

While it’s evident in P31 OBS, it’s also definitely true of our daily devotions.  I hope you’ll check them out, or share ‘em with a friend so together, we can say our Best Yes each and every day. For a little weekday encouragement in your in-box (available even when OBS is between studies!), sign up today!

 MORE THURSDAY FUN for Thurs., Oct. 16:

The Conference Call Series returns! ~ @10:30 a.m. EDT

Join The Best Yes author Lysa TerKeurst, chatting with Melissa Taylor & Nicki Koziarz about why she had to write this book.  Click here to learn more or purchase the 6-call series.

Lysa will discuss how she believes we can all live The Best Yes life! We’ll discuss the differences between living a proactive and reactive life, and how to determine your life plans and priorities, instead of others deciding them for you.

Future guests include Angie Smith and Jeff Shinabarger. Every call is recorded so you can catch it live, or at your leisure. Join our Facebook event page for more conversation! Again, these calls are still waaaaay cheaper than therapy, more convenient than meeting a dear friend at a coffee shop — and just as nurturing for the soul! :)

Proverbs 31 Bible Study LIVE! ~ @ 8 p.m. ET

RSVP to join our FREE Facebook event! Bible Study like you’ve never seen it! Fast-paced, highly applicable and FUN! Open to the public, whether or not you’re doing the study. (If you can’t join live, go ahead and RSVP to join the fun after the fact.)  Hope to see ya there!

Let’s Chat: (Answer below and you’re automatically entered into a chance to win some awesome giveaways this week!)

  1. If you already subscribe to the Encouragement for Today devotions, what do you enjoy about them? Any specific topics you’d like to see us cover in 2015?
  2. Today on our Conference Call, we’re talking with author Lysa TerKeurst herself! Do you have a question you’d like us to ask her? (If we don’t use it today, we might use it for our next Conference Call with her on Tues., Oct. 21!)