Goodness gracious! Can you believe we are already in Week 5 of our study?
Hey friends! This is Shelly, and I am thrilled to get to pull up a chair and join you at the table again this week as we open our hearts and fill up on all that God has for us here! Every week has been packed with powerful, life-changing truths. Truths that — when applied — can set us on the right path today and change the course of our tomorrow. And guess what? This week is no different!
First, let’s sit down for a chat with Melissa and Nicki:
Things You Need To Know:
- This week we’ll be reading Chapters 13-15 of The Best Yes.
- Our verse of the week is: “If people pleasing were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.” Galatians 1:10 (NLT)
- Tuesday, October 21 @ 10:30 a.m. EDT – Conference Call #4 with Lysa TerKeurst
- Thursday, October 23 @ 10:30 a.m. EDT – Conference Call #5 with Angie Smith, author of Chasing God
- Thursday, October 23 @ 8 p.m. EDT – Bible Study LIVE (Free Facebook Event)
You can visit our Facebook Events page to join the conversation for any of these optional gatherings.
Now, let’s take a peek at Chapter 13.
Confession: I know first-hand the misery of being trapped in a life of people-pleasing. If you were on the conference call last week, you heard me share a snippet of my story. (It’s not too late to sign up for our conference call series. All calls are recorded!)
In that particular season of my life, I elevated my desire to feel accepted by people above my need to please God. And really, part of me thought that by pleasing people and saying yes to everything expected of me, I was pleasing God. More specifically — for me– in church and ministry.
Pleasing people isn’t always a bad thing … but when our hearts and motives are in the wrong place, both parties are just a breath away from disappointment. Because we’re human, right? And so are they. No one is ever happy or pleased all the time. When we fail to meet someone else’s expectations, we can begin to feel less than or not good enough. Especially when we give them the freedom to tell us who we are.
When we say yes to demands that are not truly part of our assignment, we take on the false responsibility that comes with it. False responsibility leads to unnecessary pressure, undeserved guilt and feelings of inadequacy.
Our value and self- worth are not meant to fluctuate with how many people we do or do not make happy on any given day (thank you Jesus). But when our heart is set on people instead of God, that’s exactly what happens. I have at times measured my self-worth by unreachable human standards and a roller coaster of good and bad opinions about me from others, based on my performance. If you’ve ever done this, you know how it can just squeeze the life right out of you!
Being rooted in Christ and understanding who we are in Him allows us to move forward in confidence as His wisdom guides our choices and direct our steps, even when others disagree.
“We are afraid of people not liking us. Not admiring us. Not being pleased with us. So we spend the best of who we are doing a million little things we know we aren’t supposed to be doing.” ~Lysa TerKeurst, The Best Yes
I don’t want to spend the best of me (anymore) doing a million little things I’m not supposed to be doing.
I want to honor God with my gifts in the assignments He has written for me.
I don’t want to invite crazy into my life (ever again) by saying yes to everything and everyone.
I want to rest in God’s peace by moving forward in the freedom to say yes or no as a wise woman who’s heart is set on Him alone.
And I bet you do, too.
- Do you ever struggle with people-pleasing?
- In what area of life are you most likely to fall into the trap of people pleasing? (work, church, social media, etc.)
- Make this your declaration today: I, (insert your name), will rest in God’s peace by moving forward in the freedom to say yes or no as a wise woman who’s heart is set on Him alone.
Prize Alert! —> Everyone who comments this week will be entered to win one of three conference call series! Winners will be notified via email at the end of Week 5.
UP NEXT: Come back tomorrow for a short DVD clip from Lysa TerKeurst and a discussion on Chapter 14.