Why Am I Always Worried?

Hi Beautiful OBS Friends! Kristy here again. This has been a crucial week for me. I have always been a worrier. It is something I still struggle with and having years and years of worry will choke the joy right out of you. Lately, God has been stirring surrender and trust in my soul.

The Lord is my light and my salvation —
    whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the stronghold of my life —
    of whom shall I be afraid? Psalm 27:1

So …

No matter the risk or the consequence, I will put God first. I will love Him with all of my heart, soul and strength. I will love Him more than my husband Michael. I will love Him more than Kalee, Mackenzy or Emilee. I will love and seek Him first. How? I will constantly soak in His Word and Presence. Knowing that my prayers will not turn up void. Trusting in the unseen, the unheard, and the unfelt FIRST! Are you with me, moms?

Let me share a little about my stillborn daughter, Mackenzy.


Why Worry from Kristy Aiken on Vimeo.

If you can’t open the video, use this link:  http://vimeo.com/101043104

I can’t wait to hear from you today. Will you please share with us? Choose one of the questions to answer. Let’s chat, friends:

  1. If you are dealing with fear today …. Identify and write down the fears you are facing. Then pray over each of these fears and ask God to help you do battle with those fears right now. Share some of your fears with us.
  2. Are you allowing false expectations to appear real in your life? Share.
  3. Read and recite Psalm 27:1. (See above or here:  https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ps+27%3A1&version=NIV) Have your index cards ready so you can say it aloud throughout your day. Do a word search with your Bible concordance to find a verse that speaks to you about fear. Share that verse with us. Here is one of my favorites:

Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (Isaiah 41:10).

Will You Fill in the Gaps?

Dishes are piled a mile high. There is sticky jelly on my cabinet doors. The laundry—well, that has been in the washing machine for a couple of days. Half the box of crayons is thrown on the floor and most of them have been eaten. You know, multi-color waxy remnants are like confetti in our home. The remotes are missing. Socks have been eaten by the dryer monster. Please, no one go near my van. There is this smell that I can’t even describe. I think something has crawled in there, died, and I absolutely can’t find it. The chores and tasks seem endless. Here is my choice: Will I complain and worry? Can I find joy in this? These are gifts, sweet mamas. Jump up and down and sing praises to God. Because all this MESS is evidence of beautiful life in your home!

Lysa TerKeurst says in “Am I Messing Up My Kids?”… “Maybe you’ve felt a little frustrated with the shoes scattered about your home. But the next time you pick them up, instead of letting frustrations whisk you away, listen carefully to the story they tell. Listen carefully and thank God for each and every evidence of life.”

Good Morning, OBSer’s! My name is Kristy Aiken, and I am one of your leaders for this study.  I am coming to you from God-painted Southwest Virginia.  We have mountains, hills, streams, waterfalls and a Walmart. It is a stinkin’ honor to be amidst so many of you awesome moms. Oh, the sharing! Please keep it up because I am learning so much from you mamas. I have three daughters. Kalee is my intelligent, shy, respectful and full-of-life 5-year-old. Mackenzy was stillborn in 2010. (I can’t wait to share more about my story on Friday!) And Emilee is my almost 3-year-old miracle, “out of the box”, child. Here are those precious souls and my husband, Michael.

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This week’s message slapped me right upside the face. Do I trust God to fill in the gaps? Are you ready to go from worrier to warrior? Are you ready to go from joyless to joyful? I know I am. This worry business is absolutely exhausting. There is nothing we can do in our own strength to make it better. We need to stop trusting in mere people (including ourselves) and start trusting in God.  Completely! Like “go big or go home” style! The thing is, these little people are watching us and they will soak it all in. The good, the bad, and especially the ugly.”

One of our conference call guests, Jeannie Cunnion, says in her book Parenting the Wholehearted Child, “I have to daily remind myself to take hold of this spirit of self-control. When the kids are wreaking havoc and I’m ready to lose it, I have to remember that when I lose my self-control and I don’t treat our children with respect, I essentially teach them to do the same. But if I recognize that they are watching me and learning from me, and I take hold of a spirit of power and self-control, then I have the ability to bear with our children in love, gentleness, and patience.” (p. 138 of the paperback)

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This is a great week, friends. We are trusting God to fill in the gaps. Whether the gap is in your home, in your ability to be a mom, in your relationships, in your walk with God, in your marriage, or in your finances. We are not going to have human perspective. Ask God for His perspective on your gaps. Lay it ALL at the cross and LEAVE it there.  Prayer walking is a great way to get your mind off the mess and on God. I have a challenge for you. Let’s “Jericho walk” for our own houses. If you don’t know the story, please go read Joshua 6. You don’t want to miss out on how to apply this to your “Prayer Walk.” What are your gaps? What are you holding on to? Take a “Jericho prayer walk” around your house and as you actually walk around it seven times, you tell your Father everything. Be completely honest and let it out. Ask God to give you a new perspective. Let’s smash those walls Satan has built.  Can you imagine how mad the enemy would be if we ALL “Jericho walk” our own houses? Come on, sweet mamas. Let’s storm the gates of heaven together!

Let’s chat:

  1. Will you take a prayer walk? Let’s hear about it.
  2. Where are you going to post your verse this week, Psalm 27:1, so you can be more aware? Let’s see some pictures. (Don’t forget to use hashtag, #whyworry)
  3. Make a list of some things your kids like to do that you don’t necessarily like. For me that would be board games Let them know what is important to them is important to you. What is something you will say “yes” to?

I Trust You to Fill In the Gaps, Week 3

Today’s video message is such a downer…womp womp. Haha just kidding! But it does contain a “womp womp” sound that we downloaded as an app for our phone just to use it during this video. Try not to be too impressed…

If you can’t see the video above, click here to view on Vimeo. Use our hashtag #whyworry all over social media this week when posting and tweeting about the study.

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Week 3

You are in for such a blessing this week! Kristy Aiken, who is on our Executive Team here at OBS will be leading you through Week 3, titled I Trust You to Fill In The Gaps pages 83-119 (paperback). You can go ahead and start reading Chapters 11-15, that’s what we’ll be covering this week. :)

Extras This Week For You Overachievers:

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Conference Calls This Week

Wednesday, July 30- Jennie Allen

Thursday, July 31- Lysa TerKeurst

For more information on our practical yet dynamic conference call series, click here.


It’s going to be a fantastic week, let’s do this!