Week 5 Wrap-up!

Happy, happy Friday, friends!!

Congratulations on making it through another week! And thank you for being a part of the P31 OBS Community! We could NOT do this without you! Gathering here and doing Bible study with YOU is certainly one of our Best Yeses!

To wrap up Week 5 and to say hi — I made you a video! :) Take a look below!

If you can’t see the video in your email, click here.

Just so you know, I totally stress out over doing these videos! And there are usually some pretty interesting things going on around me that you can’t see. For this particular one, my homeschooling 9-year-old in the desk next to me making faces, turning things off and on, and mouthing words of desperation and need for assistance. All in a day’s work. LOL!

Even though making and publishing these videos feels a little out of my comfort zone, I know they have purpose. Public speaking is also uncomfortable for me, but I know it is one of my next Best Yeses God is calling me to. So, as I move forward, I’m holding tightly to two of this week’s verses:

  • If people pleasing were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant,” Galatians 1:10 (NLT).


  • The fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord will be kept safe,” Proverbs 29:25 (NIV).

Now, because we LOVE to hear from you (and your words matter!), let’s chat!

Let’s Chat:

  • What is your favorite takeaway from this week? How has it changed you?
  • Is God asking you to do something out of your comfort zone? Is there a verse you are clinging to as you trust Him moving forward with your next Best Yes?
  • What are your plans for the weekend? Fun stuff? Work? Worship? Setting aside some sacred spaces?

One more thing –

Have a beautiful weekend!

Peace, love, and OBS,


Proverbs 31 Ministries is Expecting …

Proverbs 31 Ministries is Expecting … YOU!

SheSpeaks Square Yes, sure, it’s a play on words, but it’s TRUE! Just 9 months from today, July 23-25, 2015, we’ll be hosting our annual She Speaks Conference in North Carolina.

If you’ll recall in last week’s reading of The Best Yes, several years ago Lysa TerKeurst began to help other up-and-coming writers and speakers improve their communication skills. But rather than meet one-on-one with every individual who asked for her time, her Best Yes decision was to create a conference for lots of people to attend at the same time and receive training. And so in 2001, the She Speaks Conference began.

From its humble roots, this annual conference for aspiring writers and speakers sells out annually and has become one of the premier writers conferences in the country. That’s what we’re talking about this Thankful Thursday!

I can only guess some of you are thinking, Why on earth are you discussing this today?

Well, it’s because we want you to know about this well ahead of time as each year, we hear from women who just wish they’d heard of it sooner, or somehow had planned ahead to set aside the funds for the conference and their travel. So maybe you’ll thank us if you get some of your SheSpeaks registration covered for Christmas this year??!!  :)

On a personal note,James 1:5 this conference is really the only one I know of in the whole country (and admittedly, I’m a bit of a conference junkie!) where the entire ministry sets three days aside to bring in every one of their leaders and staff members from around the country to share their Christ-centered wisdom.  Seriously, y’all! ALL the Proverbs 31 speakers (Lysa TerKeurst, Renee Swope and all of your faves!), all the P31 board members, plus oodles of publishing, platform and presentation experts give of their time and talent to bring you a sensational event that feeds both mind and soul!

Past She Speaks attendees have gleaned wisdom from Christine Caine, Ann Voskamp, Michael Hyatt, Shaunti Feldhahn, Jerry Jenkins and more. And the 2015 guest of honor? None other than Liz Curtis Higgs herself!  Liz was so well received as the keynote from 2012 that she’ll be back to grace us with her presence once again!!

So … if you’ve got any inkling to write or speak — to small or large groups, either in your church or to the masses — we hope you’ll prayerfully consider joining us next summer in Charlotte! {Plus, the P31 OBS leaders and volunteers have extra special fun each year! Can you say giant OBS PJ Party? Uhm … I think I just did!}

Having said that, we as a staff are already in the middle of planning next year’s workshops and would love to hear from you!

Do you have a topic in mind for a workshop you’d like to attend? Or someone you’d like to hear from?  Comment on today’s post, and you never know, it might just happen!  Registration will open next February or March, so watch for more details to come!

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The Conference Call Series returns! ~ @ 10:30 a.m. ET

Click here to learn more or get the 6-call series.

Special Guest: Angie Smith, wife of Todd Smith (lead singer of award-winning group Selah), who’s written Chasing God, Mended, I Will Carry You and What Women Fear.  She’ll be discussing the difference between chasing God or following Him — and how we can know which one we’re doing. She lives with her husband and daughters in Nashville, Tenn.  You can learn more of her story or follow her here: angiesmithonline.com. Have a question for Angie? Ask away on our Facebook event page!

Proverbs 31 Bible Study LIVE! ~ @ 8 p.m. ET

RSVP to join our FREE Facebook event!  It’s Bible Study like you’ve never seen it. Fast-paced, highly applicable and FUN! It’s open to the public, regardless of whether you’re signed up for The Best Yes study. (If you can’t join us live, feel free to RSVP to go through the exercises after the fact.)  Hope to see ya there!

Let’s Chat: (Comment on our blog today, and you’re automatically entered to win a copy of Angie Smith’s book, Chasing God!)

  1. If you previously attended a SheSpeaks Conference, what were the highlights of your experience? What practical wisdom  or workshop ideas would you love to see us offer next year?
  2. What’s one Best Yes area of your life (or even someone’s you look up to) where you’ve found you could maximize your time investing in others? What do you think holds us back from doing this more often?



The Sacred Spaces of Relationship

Our greatest assignments are found in connection with each other. That place of risky vulnerability. Of knowing and being known. That place where we feel the deepest and love the biggest.

God planted in us the need for relationship. And relationships are where we flourish.

I know that for myself, but I also discovered it just this week for my 9-year-old.

We are newbie homeschoolers. When we started in September, we each had our own expectations and grand ideas of how things would go. Often the ideas in our head don’t quite match up with the reality of our days (anybody know what I’m talking about?).

Some of those expectations have been met and some have even been exceeded, but others have fallen flat and highlighted areas that need a little TLC.

One of areas we uncovered smack dab in the middle of Chapter 15.

His soul needs time for relationship.

Yesterday, we made a list of all the ways he felt we could improve our homeschool journey. At the top of his list was friend time.

The absence of a daily connection with 15-20 of his peers has created a great deficit. So at 5 p.m. we met a friend for hamburgers and basketball in the park. What a difference two hours can make!

Not only did he need to connect with his friend, he also needed to connect with me –- to share his feelings, his emotions, his needs — to be heard. Allowing him the freedom to scribble that little 10-point list on our dry erase board opened up a channel of communication and understanding that had been blocked in the last few weeks.


I need the reminder to slow down and connect. I need the reminder that soul-connecting trumps list-completing and schedule-keeping.

Lysa TerKeurst says, “Connecting with those we love is like soul food. It’s not that we don’t have tasks to do, but rather that we don’t fill up with tasks at the risk of starving our relationships. Relationships nourish us in a ways nothings else can. It’s the relationships that help unrush us.”

I have to be intentional about the other relationships in my life, too –-

  • My husband and I spend the majority of our days going in opposite directions. This is our normal. Work takes us there. Life takes us there. We have to be intentional about finding “sacred space” for one another. Spending this time together keeps our marriage strong and helps fill in those places where the world tries to tear us apart.
  • Our eldest two children have both graduated from school and are working full-time jobs. We have to look for opportunities for connection. A weekend doing something fun. A Tuesday night family dinner. Shopping and coffee and taking silly selfies in the car. Movie night with popcorn and M&Ms.
  • I spend a lot of time connecting online. God has blessed me with some of my best friends in this amazing space on the internet. But I have friends in real life, too. I have to schedule time in for face-to-face conversations and in-real-life connecting. I need to hear friends whisper truth into those hard places and look me in the eye to say it’s going to be okay. And I want to reach across the table and be that friend, too.

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“This kind of together can only happen when we choose to experience the thrill of an unrushed yes … Leaving room in my life for the unrushed yes strengthens the fabric of my relationships so they can better withstand the wear and tear of everyday life.”

And friends, there’s a lot of wear and tear in our everyday lives, yes?

Lysa TerKeurst made a list of ways she could leave that sacred space for relationships. I’m going to share mine and then challenge you to make your own.

  • Leave space for listening to the needs of my family.
  • Leave space for face-to-face friendships and connections by setting limits with online time and connections.
  • Leave space for basketball in the park.
  • Leave space for telling funny stories around the firepit.
  • Leave space for holding hands.
  • Leave space for sitting with my 96-year-old Granny and listening to the same stories over and over again.
  • Leave space for the unrushed yes.

THIS is the kind of together we need. These are our greatest assignments.

Let’s chat:

  1. Make your own list of ways you can leave that sacred space for relationships.
  2. Make this weekend about connection. Who do you need to connect with? Find some sacred space and make it happen.
  3. What is your favorite quote or aha moment in Chapter 15?

Coming Up Next:

  • Thursday: Steph Raquel will be back on Thursday to share some exciting stuff happening within Proverbs 31 Ministries
  • Thursday, October 23, 10:30 a.m. ET – Conference Call #5 – with Angie Smith, author of Chasing God
  • Thursday, October 23, 8 p.m. ET – Bible Study LIVE (Free Facebook Event)

As we close today, let’s pray Hebrews 10:24-25 together:

Dear God,
Help us to think of ways to motivate each other, to spur one another on toward love and good works. Keep us mindful of our need for connection and relationships and let us not neglect finding and setting aside that sacred space to meet together. Unrush us. Help us to encourage one another, especially now as we draw closer to meeting You face to face.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

PRIZE ALERT! —> Everyone who leaves a comments will be entered to win one of three conference call series we are giving away this week! :)