The Rhythm of a Marriage

 Happy Friday! "The Rhythm of a Marriage “ by Nicki Koziarz | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #TheHusbandProject #P31OBSNicki Koziarz checking in with you for the last time for this study!

My friend, today I’m standing in applause for you. I am so proud of you, and I believe your marriage will continue to be blessed because of your faithfulness through this process. Amazing job!

Many of us have had so much fun working through ideas, brainstorming and cheering each other on. What a gift this community has been.  

But maybe for some of us, this hasn’t felt easy, simple or even beautiful. Maybe we didn’t even do this thing 100%.

I want you to know, it’s OK.

Just because The Husband Project OBS is officially complete today doesn’t mean all of a sudden the hard situations in our marriages are instantly better or fixed.

As I reflect on the last 16 years of my marriage, I am seeing there’s a rhythm to this.

There are times the rhythm feels great and there are times it feels messy. There are times it feels amazing and then there are times it feels as awkward as a middle school dance.

We go through days where we are head-over-heels in love with each other and then days we don’t really like each other. There are days we are incredibly considerate of each other, texting and talking throughout the day. And then we have days we barely say hello.

Marriage is a constantly changing rhythm.

And I have found when I start to forget the fact that marriage has rhythm, I can feel a little hopeless or stuck.

As an OBS community, this rhythm we’ve enjoyed the last few weeks has been fast-paced and focused. For some of us, because of this study the rhythm of our marriage feels great right now. But for others, it still feels so off-beat.

Kathi Lipp recommends re-visiting The Husband Project once a year. I think that’s great advice!

But don’t be afraid to re-visit this when the rhythm of your marriage feels like it’s having a hard time getting to the next-right-rhythm. Maybe you won’t pull out the whole process of 21 projects, but you can go back anytime and re-visit a project you know your husband loved.

Whatever you do … just keep finding that next-right-rhythm.

Because as long as we keep seeking a rhythm, the beat of our marriages will continue to go on. Just keep going until you find the beat that works for you. And when you start to believe you can’t do this anymore or your efforts are not bringing the right results, remember this …

Of all the women in the world God could have selected, you are the wife God had in mind for your husband. Reject the voice of doubt through this truth, and never be fearful of this assignment from God.

Thanks so much for joining us for this study! And thank you so much Kathi Lipp for writing this book to give us the practical tools we need to keep making our marriages stronger. You are a gift!

Let’s Chat:

What do you feel like is your greatest takeaway from this study?

A little sad The Husband Project is over? We know how you feel! That’s why we have ONE MORE conference call on Wednesday, July 27 at 11 a.m. ET! And if you’ve missed the others, don’t worry! They’re all recorded. Get more info here!

Have you signed up for our next study, Uninvited, by Lysa TerKeurst?! Sign up by clicking here. You can beat the rush and pre-order your book today, too!


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When Our Love and Perseverance Is Not Enough

"When Our Love and Perseverance Is Not Enough" by Katrina Wylie | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | #TheHusbandProject #P31OBSHappy final Wednesday of #TheHusbandProject! Katrina Wylie here, and can I just say how excited I am you’re here too?! You’ve stuck it out. Way to go, YOU!!

As we continue our final week of the study, I wanted to share a simple truth God used to readjust my focus during this crazy amazing journey of learning to bless my man daily. A truth that carries with it a hope which we can carry with us beyond this last bend of the study, and out into our everyday marriages.

Are you ready?

Upon digging into my projects, it didn’t take long for two realizations to hit my heart:

  1. My love is not perfect.
  2. Perseverance is necessary.

Profound, I know. Ha!

Actually, I bet you knew that already. And really, I did, too. But here’s the kicker — are we ever supposed to love our husbands perfectly? And can or will our perseverance ever be enough?

If so, then boy am I in trouble! Been there, tried that, failed miserably.

But if not, well, then what are we supposed to do? What goal do we aim for instead?

Cue this week’s key verse:

“May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.” – 2 Thessalonians 3:5 (NIV 84)

2 Thessalonians 3:5 (NIV84) | "May the Lord direct your hearts into God's love and Christ's perseverance." | Proverbs 31 Online Bible Studies | Week 5 verse of the week | #TheHusbandProject #P31OBS

Yes, this. Just this.

I’m guessing I’m not the only one who sometimes struggles with making the focal point all about me. But what an awesome reminder in our final memory verse for what this journey is REALLY about!

Our goal isn’t to make OUR love perfect, or OUR perseverance lasting. It’s to allow GOD to direct (manage, run, lead) our hearts into HIS love and CHRIST’S perseverance — the ONLY love that is perfect. And the ONLY perseverance which is limitless!

Our love is not enough.

Our perseverance is not enough.

But God’s love and Christ’s perseverance? THEY ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH!!

I’m so glad we serve a patient God who continually leads us back to Him when our focus needs realigning, aren’t you?

As we continue to concentrate on blessing our husbands beyond this study, and when our love and perseverance prove imperfect and not enough yet again, let’s retrieve and revisit this week’s verse, remembering …

WE don’t have to be “enough.” We just have to be willing to allow our hearts to be directed daily into THE ONE WHO IS.

Let’s Chat:

Take a moment to revisit our key verses from this study: Philippians 2:3, Hebrews 10:24, Psalm 37:23-24, 1 John 3:18, and 2 Thessalonians 3:5. Jot down in your OBS Journal what comes to mind about each and then share with us: Which one do you most need to carry with you beyond this study, and why?

Don’t forget! ~

  • The final call with The Husband Project Conference Call Series has been re-scheduled for July 27 @ 11 a.m. ET. All calls are recorded and made available for download, so it’s not too late purchase these optional calls here.
  • You can sign up for our next study on Lysa TerKeurst’s new book, Uninvited here.
  • Everyone who leaves a comment on the blog this week is entered to win an awesome prize pack!
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Consider Yourself (Un)invited

Hey y’all! Melissa Taylor here, & I have an exciting announcement that I wanted you to be the first to know.

Our next Online Bible Study will be …

Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst!



If you’ve ever felt left out, rejected, less than when compared to others, overlooked by God, hopeless, insecure or alone … this is the study for you. And it’s Lysa TerKeurst’s best book yet! (In my opinion – and I’ve read them all.)

So, hey – consider yourself officially invited to join our Uninvited OBS. Study begins September 6th and you can sign up here. Plus when you pre-order your book from Proverbs 31 Ministries, you’ll get some fantastic goodies AND help support the work we do in #P31OBS.

I hope to see all of you September 6th!


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