The Mended Heart – Week 2

newHello OBS friends, and welcome to Week 2 of The Mended Heart study! I’m Katrina Wylie, your study leader for the week. I’m also a recovering perfectionist.

Why do I share that? Well, because I used to think I had to do EVERY little thing in a study to be a good Bible study girl. (Maybe you’ve thought that, too?) But when I read this quote from one of our past studies it absolutely rocked my world!

“Saying yes to God isn’t about perfect performance, but rather perfect surrender to the Lord, day by day.”
– Lysa TerKeurst, What Happens When Women Say Yes to God

Did you catch that? I mean, like really let it sink in? Go ahead and read it again slowly. Its OK, I’ll wait …

Wow, right?!

God doesn’t want our perfect performance, friends! He wants our surrender!!

While I know Lysa wasn’t referring specifically to the topic of Bible study, it does apply here, too. We did all say yes to God’s invitation to join this study, right? And it’s my prayer we’re all here to say yes to moving forward with Him in healing our hearts too. Amen?

So, wherever you are as we begin Week 2, and no matter how Week 1 went for you, I invite you to begin anew today. Will you say this prayer with me?

Lord, I say NO to seeking perfect performance. I lay my performance down at your feet and instead say YES to surrendering to the process of healing. May my focus this week, as I work through the study, be more about surrendering to the work you’re doing in my heart, then it is about perfecting the work I think I need to do to complete this study. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Yay! I’m so excited to see what God does through our surrender! Now let’s take a peek at what’s in store and available this week …

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Week 2 Lowdown

Still waiting on your book to come in? No worries! We have the first three chapters of The Mended Heart right here for you:

Main Verse:


“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” Hebrews 4:16 (NIV)

What’s Happening This Week:

Monday - This week we’re reading Chapters 3 & 4. Haven’t finished the first two yet? That’s OK! We invite you to begin in Chapter 3 today so you can join us in the community chats this week. Each chapter’s topic stands on its own, so you can always go back to the chapters you missed at a later time.

Tuesday -

  • Chapter 3 discussion. Check your study email or the P31 OBS blog.

Wednesday -

  • Bible Study Skills on the blog with Christa Hutchins.
  • Read Chapter 4.

Thursday -

  • “The Beat Goes On” — you’ll hear from Paige Klein on how God healed her heart after the loss of her mom to cancer. Check your study email or the blog.
  • Chapter 4 discussion.
  • 5 Lessons Learned from Women in the Bible: The Mended Heart Conference Call Series ~ @ Noon ET (that’s 9 a.m. PT!)  … “Bitterness Has Potential to Ruin You – Naomi.” Sign up by clicking here.
  • Proverbs 31 Bible Study LIVE on Facebook @ 8 p.m. ET. Join the event by clicking here.

Join the conversation on social media:

For a list of where to find P31 OBS on social media, click here. Use the hashtags #P31OBS and #TheMendedHeart.

Too much to fit into your busy schedule? No worries! Remember: Your life is crazy. Your Bible study doesn’t have to be. You can choose what works best for YOU.

Let’s Chat: Answer one or answer all … we just want to hear from you!

Observe In the video, Nicki asked: “What are you guys doing for fun this summer?” For a chance to win one of two Conference Call Series, share Melissa’s, Suzie’s and Nicki’s answers, as well as your own, in the comments below. Winners will be emailed by Wednesday of this week.

Bible Where will you post this week’s main verse?

Stretch – Did you pray for surrender today? Share with us what God is speaking to your heart about surrendering.


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A Message for You from Author, Suzie Eller

MelissaprofilenaturalHi P31 OBSers!  That’s the name we give to our very special friends in this Bible study. :)

How are you doing now that we are at the end of Week 1 in The Mended Heart OBS? This week our team has been reading through your comments. Some of your stories reveal you are walking or have walked through some really tough situations. This is when we often struggle to find words to share, so we pray. We have been lifting you up in prayer this week, praising God for you being in this Bible study, and asking Him to meet all your needs, every single one of them.

Guess who else has been praying for you? The author of The Mended Heart herself, Suzie Eller.

She has a few words that she wrote just for you today that I believe will bring you hope and encouragement.

Here’s Suzie Eller …

I shouldn’t feel this way.

If I were a “good” Christian, I would be happier.

I don’t look broken on the outside, so why let anyone know what’s going on inside?

Have you ever said any of these things?

Maybe someone shushed you when you brought it up, so you learned to keep quiet and put on a good front. Or you don’t want to be that person who is seen as negative. You don’t want to stay mired in old things. You refuse to be labeled as a victim.

So you just keep going, hoping eventually those feelings will go away. You keep pushing them down, but those emotions pop up in the most unexpected and unwanted ways, only creating more shame.

May I tell you something?

You are free to hold up your feelings with open hands to a God who loves you like crazy.

He sees you.

He knows that you love Him with all your heart.

He knows that you want more – in fact, all that He offers – and desires to give it to you.

He knows that you’re sick of pushing the feelings down.

He knows you.

I co-hosted a Christian talk radio program a few years ago, and Sheila Walsh was a guest. Sheila battled with depression for years. She shared very openly about her battle and said something in that interview that I’ve never forgotten.

We all need space for grace.

What does this mean? We need to be able to tell our story without trying to make someone else feel better about it. We need the freedom to be honest.

You are free to take the mask off with God. As His child, He offers space for grace.

You are free to spill it out to Him today, and tomorrow and every day you need, until it no longer has a hold on your heart.

Speaking those feelings to God, whether in a journal or in prayer, robs those old long-buried secrets of their power. They are no longer hidden. They are exposed to His touch. He saw them all along, but you’ve surrendered them to Him and He gladly receives them.

“The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous, and his ears are attentive to their cry.” Psalm 34:15 (NIV)

Tell God how you feel. All of it.

Tell Him about the hurting parts, and the places you don’t understand.

Don’t hold anything back. Place it in His capable hands.

“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

And as you share in that sacred space of grace, healing is taking place.

The God who loves you like crazy is helping you write a new chapter in your story.


Thank you Suzie, for reminding us that God sees us, He cares, we can be ourselves with Him and He loves us like crazy! We needed that today!

Let’s close with this prayer from The Mended Heart ~


In Jesus’ Name~ And we all said, “Amen.”

Have a great weekend everybody! See you back here on Monday.

Melissa Taylor

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The Beat Goes On – Nicki’s Story

ErinWelcome, welcome!

It’s Erin Peters back with you today to discuss Chapter 2 “When People Hurt Your Heart” and introduce a very special feature for #TheMendedHeart study called “The Beat Goes On.” Each week, we will feature the story of one special lady as she shares how God brought her from broken to mended.

Today’s video features #P31OBS Study Leader Nicki Koziarz, whom you met in Monday’s video. (Remember, she’s the one who owns the beautiful farmhouse, with those cute little piglets!) Take a look at this video to hear her story …

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Wow! I’m so amazed at Nicki’s story of overcoming the lies spoken over her and learning about the grace of God through the icky-ness of how people hurt her heart.

Can you relate? I know I can. Haven’t we all, at one time or another, had something spoken over us or done to us which became a weight around our shoulders? And let’s be honest, it might have even become a crutch or excuse as well.

Suzie discusses Ephesians 1:19-21 on page 48 of The Mended Heart and shares something which blew me away like a breath of fresh air:

“Yes, Jesus took our sins upon Him at the cross, but it doesn’t stop there. That same act frees us from the effects of the sins of others upon our own heart.”

Can you believe it! Yes, you read it right. The effects of the sins of others. As in the crippling fear, low self-esteem and guilt trips which come from people either on purpose, or not-so-on-purpose. They don’t have to control you anymore!

But it can’t be easy, right? Remember in Nicki’s story, it took time for her to realize the promises of God could wipe away the stain of lies spoken about her. It took time for the processing to get her where God wanted her.

Honey, your heart may be hurting. You may be feeling like you are standing on the edge of a scary place, but Jesus is there with you. Calling you. Reminding you of His great love for you in spite of what other people have said or done or thought about you.

Let Him love you like He wants to.

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Still waiting on your book to come in? No worries! We have the first three chapters of The Mended Heart right here for you:

Let’s Chat: 

Observe — Can you pinpoint an effect of someone else’s sin on your life which is weighing you down or has become your crutch?

Bible — Take a look at each of the verses Suzie Eller lists on page 53. (1 John 4:4; 1 John 3:1; Romans 8:38-39; Isaiah 49:16; 1 Corinthians 2:9) Do any of these promises from God directly combat the effects of the sins of others on your life?

Stretch — Allow Jesus to love you and wipe away all the ick of someone else’s sin you are letting run your life. Focus on Him today instead of the person(s) who hurt your heart.

What’s Happening Today?

TMH Conf Calls
5 Lessons Learned from Women in the Bible: The Mended Heart Conference Call Series ~ @ 12 Noon ET … “Life Isn’t Fair – Leah.” There is still time for you to sign up by clicking here and all the calls will be recorded.

#P31OBS Bible Study LIVE, Tonight @ 8 p.m. ET. It’s a fast and fabulous hour of live Bible study on Facebook! Click here for more information and to join this event!


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