My friend, today I’m standing in applause for you. I am so proud of you, and I believe your marriage will continue to be blessed because of your faithfulness through this process. Amazing job!
Many of us have had so much fun working through ideas, brainstorming and cheering each other on. What a gift this community has been.
But maybe for some of us, this hasn’t felt easy, simple or even beautiful. Maybe we didn’t even do this thing 100%.
I want you to know, it’s OK.
Just because The Husband Project OBS is officially complete today doesn’t mean all of a sudden the hard situations in our marriages are instantly better or fixed.
As I reflect on the last 16 years of my marriage, I am seeing there’s a rhythm to this.
There are times the rhythm feels great and there are times it feels messy. There are times it feels amazing and then there are times it feels as awkward as a middle school dance.
We go through days where we are head-over-heels in love with each other and then days we don’t really like each other. There are days we are incredibly considerate of each other, texting and talking throughout the day. And then we have days we barely say hello.
Marriage is a constantly changing rhythm.
And I have found when I start to forget the fact that marriage has rhythm, I can feel a little hopeless or stuck.
As an OBS community, this rhythm we’ve enjoyed the last few weeks has been fast-paced and focused. For some of us, because of this study the rhythm of our marriage feels great right now. But for others, it still feels so off-beat.
Kathi Lipp recommends re-visiting The Husband Project once a year. I think that’s great advice!
But don’t be afraid to re-visit this when the rhythm of your marriage feels like it’s having a hard time getting to the next-right-rhythm. Maybe you won’t pull out the whole process of 21 projects, but you can go back anytime and re-visit a project you know your husband loved.
Whatever you do … just keep finding that next-right-rhythm.
Because as long as we keep seeking a rhythm, the beat of our marriages will continue to go on. Just keep going until you find the beat that works for you. And when you start to believe you can’t do this anymore or your efforts are not bringing the right results, remember this …
Of all the women in the world God could have selected, you are the wife God had in mind for your husband. Reject the voice of doubt through this truth, and never be fearful of this assignment from God.
Thanks so much for joining us for this study! And thank you so much Kathi Lipp for writing this book to give us the practical tools we need to keep making our marriages stronger. You are a gift!
What do you feel like is your greatest takeaway from this study?
A little sad The Husband Project is over? We know how you feel! That’s why we have ONE MORE conference call on Wednesday, July 27 at 11 a.m. ET! And if you’ve missed the others, don’t worry! They’re all recorded. Get more info here!