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If you are visiting from the Proverbs 31 devotion, welcome! I’m glad you stopped by and I hope you’ll stay a while.
Before I share my Top Ten Ways to Connect With Your Children, I’d like to share something that’s applicable to almost everyone, whether you have children or not.
I lead online Bible studies and my next one is perfect for the summer. Many people like to take the summer “off” and I can understand that, but I also think what better time than the summer to get some peace and order in your life so you are ready to go strong in the fall? My next online study will be of Glynnis Whiter’s popular book, I Used to Be So Organized. The study will take place right here on my blog and I’d love to have you join me! Author, Glynnis Whitwer will be an active part of this study, offering us weekly input and encouragement. I’ll be posting video messages again and sharing first hand the progress I’m making in my very cluttered life! There will be simple assignments and lots of motivation and encouragement. We will be digging into God’s Word as we restore order and peace to our lives. Do you need to declutter your life? Well, sign up for this study.
Sign up in the right column of my blog and get more information here. We get started June 3rd!
Those who sign up for the Online Bible study by Wednesday, May 23rd will be entered to win an Organizational Gift Pack filled with a book (I Used to Be So Organized), a daytimer, journal, pens, highlighters, post it notes, P31 Woman June issue magazine featuring someone we might know, and conference call series for this study. Winner announced Thursday morning!
If you read today’s devotion, you know I’ll do anything to connect with my children. The cool thing about me texting my kids a Bible verse each day is that now I even text some of their friends and other special young ones in my life a Bible verse also. Not because I decided to do that, but because they asked for it! If you are looking for different ways to connect with your kids, I surveyed a few trusted sources and listed a few of my favorites here in my Top Ten Ways to Connect With Your Children. I hope you find them helpful. And before you leave here today, share with me in the comment section some special ways you connect with your children.
Top Ten Ways to Connect With Your Children
By Melissa Taylor
It ranks among one of my top priorities in life. I know my time with them is borrowed. My own mother told me to make the most of the time I have with my children, because it will be gone before I know it. Wow, isn’t that the truth? But what exactly does it mean “to make the most of the time” we have with our kids? I think a lot of it has to do with the ways we choose to connect with them. There are many ways we can find to bond with our children. Here are my Top Ten.
10. Ignore your cell phone when you are with them. Let it ring and let the caller leave a message! Send the message to your child that they are #1 and way more important than anyone who may be calling you.
9. Show up. Be there for their special days, no matter how little or big the event or the child is.
8. Game Time. Playing games is a great way to just hang out, be competitive, insert values when they don’t realize it, and just have fun! There are so many fun family games. Just last night, I observed my 9 year old daughter playing “Go Fish” with my husband. It was the tiniest deck of cards you ever did see, but they were laughing and having the best time.
7. One on one time. Be intentional on having some time just for you and one of your children. For me, this is tough sometimes. I have to make this happen. For example, my daughter and I have a lot of time alone and we do a regular Mommy~Daughter date night, but my sons and I don’t. (We used to, but since they have gotten older, not so much.) I have to create that time so I try to select an activity that will intrigue them…like going to Starbucks, to a sports store just to look around, to a movie then ice cream, or sitting in the garage to listen to the drums. The activity isn’t so important as the time is.
6. Family Devotions. Priceless. If you can get your whole family together for some Family Time Devotions and discussion, do it!!!! It’s a great time to have the opportunity to bring God’s Word to life and learn to apply to real life. My kids learned how to look up Bible verses because of family devotions.
5. Car Time/Bedtime. You have a captive audience in the car, don’t let that time slip by. Talk to them. Pay attention to what they want to listen to on the radio and let them listen to it. Ask them about their day. And at bedtime, tuck them in. Again, you have a captive audience. Sometimes this is when your kids will just unload. For some reason mine seem to let their guards down at bedtime. Pray for them and let them hear you.
4. Family Meals. Whether you are a single mom or the mom of six, try to make time for a meal together. Not only does it encourage conversation, but also table manners. We used to all have breakfast together. Something we like to incorporate into our Dinner time is reporting the High-Lows: Each person reveals their high of the day and their low of the day. Quite telling.
3. Get interested in what they love even if it’s not what you love. Find out the best way for THEM to communicate. This may not be your #1 way. Follow them on Facebook. Look at their iTunes music files. Play their video games. Text them. Get to know their friends and love them.
2. Talk to them about anything! And listen too! From early on, let them know that they can ask anything, talk to you about anything, or approach you with any subject. NOTHING is off limits. Oh I have stories on this one!
1. Be available. Show your children that they matter by being available to them.
And finally, one I can’t leave off.
*Pray for them. Pray a specific verse for them. Let them know you are doing this. It may be a life verse you have claimed for them or just a prayer you have on your heart that day. This is a way you can connect with them EVEN IF THEY DON’T RESPOND TO THE OTHER 10 SUGGESTIONS.
Thank you to my Facebook and Twitter friends, P31 gals, Fab 5, and also to my own kids and husband for their ideas in helping create this list. I love you and would not want to do life without you! Xoxoxoxo
Last but not least:
Want a tween girl’s perspective on texting? Visit sweet Taylor Koziarz’ blog today. She shares her views on tween texting, what she likes about it and what she doesn’t like about it. She’s new to blogging and great young writer. After you comment here, pop on over and say “hi.” I know it would make her sooooo happy to hear from you! Comment on my blog and then Taylor’s blog and you will be entered to win the book I Used to Be So Organized. This winner will be announced on Sunday morning.
Hope you got all that. We have 2 give aways and an awesome Top 10 presented here today.
Give Away #1~ Sign up for the Online Bible Study by Wednesday at midnight and you will be entered to win an Organizational Gift Pack. Winner announced Thursday morning.
Give Away #2~ Leave a comment on my blog and Taylor Koziarz’ blog and you will be entered to win the book, I Used to Be So Organized. Winner announced Sunday morning. Make sure if you comment anonymously that you at least include your first name. Thanks!
Top Ten Ways to Connect With Your Children~ Hope you find these useful 🙂
Love and Big Blessings!