Difficult People

Hello and welcome to my blog. If this is your first time here, welcome. I’m so glad you joined me today.  For those of you who may not know, I have a devotion running from Proverbs 31 Ministries, titled Exploding. It’s about the exploders in our lives.  You know, the ones who seem to ruin the good times and point out all our bad? And they get mad easily. And well, explode on us?  Yea, them.

Maybe you know a few people like this?  I do. And honestly, I’ve had experiences where I handled them well and not so well.

Here are a few tips to help you deal with the difficult people in your life.

1.  Love them anyway~ please note, I’m saying you put up with their behavior, but most difficult people know what they’ve done and feel bad afterwards.  Let them know you love them or care, but also still be honest.

2.  Set boundaries with them.  Healthy boundaries are good.

3.  Don’t take responsibility for their behavior.

4.  Don’t be afraid to step back from the relationship.  It’s ok to take a break or walk away. (for marriage issues, seek counseling)

5. Don’t let their behavior rub off on you.  It’s only natural to want to spew back. This is when you use self-control. Remain calm.

6. Forgive them.  It will help you move forward.

7. Take a time out.  When you don’t know how to respond, don’t. Get quiet, grab some time away from this person, and pray.

When dealing directly with an exploder, try these tips from Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst:

8. Honor the one offended.~ Unglued

9. Keep your response short and full of grace.~Unglued

10. End by extending compassion.~Unglued

If you are the difficult person and you know it, don’t be ashamed. Satan would love to use that to make you think that’s just the way you are. Not true.  Seek help, prayer, God’s Word, and believe that it’s possible for you to learn to deal with your emotions in a healthy way! Because it is!

Above all, remember, we aren’t responsible for anyone else’s reactions or words but our own, so we need to make sure our reactions and words are uplifting and glorifying to God.  These tips and more will be discussed in detail during our next online study. I hope you will join me and thousands of others who are learning to  “make wise choices in the midst of raw emotions.”

The Unglued Online Bible Study with Melissa Taylor is a community of women who will join online to dig deeper into the Word and further into lasting peace.  Sign up today to join this encouraging community!

Check out our new and improved Unglued Conference Call Series. We have worked hard to make sure this conference call series is very much worth your time.  Our team is so excited about it and we hope you will sign up and join us!  Great information, Bible study, and special guests, including author of Unglued, Lysa TerKeurst.

Sign up for this online study in the right column of this blog AND leave a comment below with your favorite tip in dealing with difficult people and you will be entered to win an Unglued bundle. (book, participant’s guide, and DVD)  Winner will be announced Sunday, August 12th.


*****Organized study peeps!  Read the last chapter of our study book today, Keep it Simple. 



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Let’s Go…Unglued Time

Normally, I wouldn’t get all excited about it being “unglued time.”  But y’all, I really am.

My sweet awesome friend, Lysa TerKeurst, wrote yet another amazing life changing book. And, no, I don’t use those words lightly.

I was fortunate enough to be in on Unglued during the editing stage for the devotional that will be released later this year. And I’ve been fortunate enough to work out with and share office space with the author of Unglued. I’ve seen her live out her messages. I’ve seen her challenged. I’ve seen her attacked. And I’ve seen her rely on Jesus above all. That’s probably one reason I’m so excited to do another one of her books. I know she’s sincere, authentic, and the real deal. Nothing fake about her. What you see is what you get. Sometimes that’s good. Sometimes not so good.  Love her.

Our next study won’t be pretty. It’s going to require guts. It’s going to challenge change. Whether we are unglued or we deal with unglued people, we have to be responsible for our own actions. And there is so much Scripture to help with this. It’s not easy, but it is possible. And we need to do our part.

The Unglued Online Bible Study begins September 23rd.  If you haven’t signed up, I hope you will, I would love to study with you! You can sign up in the right column of my blog. Then check your email to confirm your sign up.

All you need for this online study is the book Unglued and computer access.  Order the book now so you will be ready.


If you are waiting for the Unglued study to start and you are looking for something to fill in the gaps, you may want to sign up for Part 1 of the Unglued Conference Call Series. Part 1 of the Unglued Conf Call series begins August 20th.  I’m so excited about these calls!  These calls will help you fill in the time until our study begins.

During each call you will be:

  • *Challenged to make time for God daily
  • *Empowered to go deeper into God’s Word
  • *Stretched in the best way to get the most out of your Bible study time


  • *A Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study leader will share a message with you to help you get the most out of your quiet time, prayer time, Bible study, and life. She will also help hold you accountable in the best, loving, supportive way.
  • *You will be given the opportunity to participate in discussion. (optional…you can speak up or remain quiet)
  • *You will be a part of a community of women, many just like you!
  • *You will receive a weekly email to check up on you.

Each call IS RECORDED, so if you can’t be on the live call, you can listen later or download it to your computer or phone.

If you would like to get started before the study begins, you can sign up here.  And please email me and let me know you’ve signed up! I want to touch base with you before calls start. This is going to be great!  I am really really excited about the conference calls during Unglued.

Drum Roll Please!  We have our first winner!!!!  Amy, wildangelgirl  you are the winner of the Unglued bundle!  Send your address to MelissaTaylorQuestions@gmail.com and we will get it in the mail to you this week!  Wa-hoo!  Thank you to all who commented about Difficult People!  We have much more to give away, so stay tuned and keep visiting.

So ladies are you ready to move forward to our next study?  Let’s go! It’s Unglued time!


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Unglued, Invitation & Welcome

Hello and welcome!  From Me 🙂

(If you cannot see the video above, click here to view.)

Unglued Conference Calls Part 1: 4 calls. Begin August 20th. Sign up to join us today! Information about Part 1 can be found Here.

Unglued Conference Calls Part 2: 6 calls. Begin the week of September 23rd. Great line up of authors, leaders, and Unglued messages just for you! Information about Part 2 can be found Here.

Unglued Conference Call Series, Parts 1 & 2 (best deal): 10 calls total. Best value, great deal. Sign up for both parts of our conference call series Here.

So, who has signed up for the Unglued study so far? Conference Call Series? How many from the Organized study are still with us? (Keep working on your organization…let’s not abandon what we’ve learned!) I’m so thankful for each of you, thanks for stopping by my blog today.

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