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Declutter Your Way to a Better Marriage

August 15, 2018
The Husband Project OBS

Alright, friend! It’s P31 OBS content manager Kendra Schwarz here, and do we have a special treat for you! Author of The Husband Project, Kathi Lipp, has something special she wants to share! Take it away, Kathi!

When I talk to women about what they want to improve in their lives, so many say something along these lines: “I want to focus on my husband this year. And I want to finally get organized. And lose weight!”

OK – so I may not be able to help you with the weight thing. But what if told you that you could improve both your marriage and your home at the same time?

It turns out that the state of our clutter and the state of our marriage could be more closely tied than we ever imagined.

Researchers at UCLA’s Center on Everyday Lives and Families (CELF) did a study that looked at the relationship between 32 California families and the thousands of objects in their homes.

To the surprise of no woman reading this, clutter has a profound effect on our mood and self-esteem. CELF’s scientists found a link between high cortisol (stress hormone) levels in female homeowners and a high density of household objects. In other words: The more stuff, the more stress. So you’re not crazy for getting all bent out of shape when your husband leaves his shoes by the front door ...

And we all know, if we’re not happy, that is going to have a profound effect on our marriage — and our husband.

There are some areas of our marriage where it takes two to pull off a big relationship boost — but when it comes to clutter, one person can make a huge difference! And even if the shoes pile back up, and the mail stays unorganized on the desk, we can still commit to having a great attitude toward our husband. This might be hard sometimes, but it could be the simplest action we take toward a better marriage.

Here are my two favorite marriage-boosting areas to declutter now:

1. The space that greets you when you come home.
My hope for every couple is that their home is a haven for their marriage. I want you and your man to walk into your house after a long day fighting the battles of the world, and land in a soft place — your home.

But that only works if you don’t have chaos and distraction greeting you as you hit the door. Wherever your first glimpse of home is at the end of the day, make sure that it rises up to greet you.

2. Your bedroom.
If your home is your haven, you want your bedroom to be your nest. That place that blocks out everything from the world and is all about you and your man. That’s hard to do when you have to un-bury your bed every time you want to cuddle up.

Stay tuned for ideas from Nicki in an upcoming study blog on how to spruce up your bedroom on a budget.

Psalm 122:8 says, “For the sake of my family and friends, I will say, ‘Peace be within you.’” That is what I want in my home. Peace for my family and friends, but especially for me and my man. How about you?

Reflect and Respond:

Which one area of your home could you spend 15 minutes de-cluttering so you and your husband can be more at peace?

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