Moving From Grief to Grace

Moving From Grief to Grace

March 31, 2015

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (NIV)

Grief hits each one of us and can come from so many different directions.

A romantic relationship gone awry. The loss of a cherished friendship. A puppy put down. Empty arms and a broken heart due to abortion. Infertility. Abuse. The death of a loved one.

Dreams with a hope and future dashed in an instant. I know. I’ve lived it, too.

A phone call changed my hopes and future as Matt, my older son, wailed into the phone about my younger son, “Kyle died last night!”

Oh, God.

NO, GOD!

Hopes, dreams, future …

Wedding invitations from his friends simply ripped my heart apart. Birth announcements of babies from those now married friends rekindled the loss. And the realization that there would be no grandchildren from him — running to me, holding their pudgy little hands or him tossing them into the sky showered with shouts of glee — hit hard.

Yes, weddings, graduations, birth announcements — all reminders of those hope-filled dreams that had been shattered — caused weeping, groaning and bitterness. My heart often wondered: Will I remain bitter or will I get better? Will I continue to dissolve into tears, or will I ever erupt into cheers for these precious friends?

At one of my lowest moments, realization and remembrance flooded my heart and mind: God lost His Son too, His only Son. The Father knew my loss, pain and brokenness oh so well.

That revelation was like supernatural glue applied to bind my wounded soul. The lost, dark, broken part receded as God proceeded to heal my broken heart with His love and light.

How about your lost plans, hopes and dreams?

Are you bitter?

Do you want to be better?

Are you ready to lay your heavy cares at the foot of the cross … and leave that burden there, so you can step into God’s plans for you? Jesus promised, “For My yoke is easy and My burden is light,” (Matthew 11:30, NKJV).

God’s plan for His Son was not what the people hoped for and expected as they celebrated the arrival of Jesus in Jerusalem that first Palm Sunday, then experienced His death on the cross by week’s end. They did not know Easter Sunday — His Son’s day — was coming.

Remember, friend … Sunday’s coming! Jesus arose from the grave by the grace of God to save and redeem us. He has plans for us that include a hope and a future, even when our plans are dashed and we can’t see beyond the overwhelming loss of now.

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,’” (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).

We lost Kyle seven years and three days ago today. Yet, out of the ashes of grief a story of grace rises — the grace of our Lord, Jesus.

Father, help me ease the grip on my grief and lay it at the foot of Your Son’s cross. Thank You that You can bind our wounds and heal our broken hearts. Remind us of Your magnificent plans for us, Lord God. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
1 Peter 5:8-11, “Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ — eternal and glorious plans they are! — will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does.” (MSG)

RELATED RESOURCES:
If you, or someone you know, are working through grief and need help experiencing the transformational joy of the Lord, Susan Mead’s new book, Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace, can help.

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Enter to WIN an autographed copy of Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace. In celebration of this book, Susan’s publisher is giving away 10 copies! Enter to win by leaving a comment here, letting us know why you’d like a copy for yourself OR whom you would give the book to, if you won. (We’ll randomly select 10 winners and email notifications to each one on Monday, April 6.)

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Reflect on how you felt when you read, “He gets the last word,” from our Truth for Today Scripture above.

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  1. Your devotion today was very helpful as our family is working thru the loss of our dad. My mom is really struggling with grief and the pain of this loss. He just passed away in February. As I finished reading the devotion I saw you had written a book about grief and amore interested in finding out more..bless you and thanks for your uplifting devotion.

    • I enjoyed reading the passage about how God has the last word in what happens in our life. Ultimately, he always knows what’s in our very best interest. Even when we’re dealing with the grief over the loss of a loved one, God can turn that into an opportunity to shower grace on someone else- even receiving unplanned grace that we may not exactly deserve at all. Agree?
      “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (NIV)
      Incredible! When we come to God in prayer, whatever we’re going through will disappear. God’s going to bind our hurts with His love. When our hearts are broken, He’ll allow brighter days to happen for us over the course of time.
      “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,’” (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).
      Awesome! What a wondrous thing to always remember! God knows the plans that He’s got for us. His plans aren’t meant to hurt us whatsoever. They are supposed to make us successful.
      “Father, help me ease the grip on my grief and lay it at the foot of Your Son’s cross. Thank You that You can bind our wounds and heal our broken hearts. Remind us of Your magnificent plans for us, Lord God. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”~ Susan Mead
      Wow! What a powerful thing to always remember! In our prayer time, we can thank God for allowing us to leave our burdens at the cross. We should even remember that we’ll eventually see brighter days ahead of us.
      1 Peter 5:8-11, “Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ — eternal and glorious plans they are! — will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does.” (MSG)
      Amen! What a wondrous thing! God says we’re supposed to keep a firm hold to His hand. Meanwhile, we’re also to keep a cool head, not allowing the devil to tempt us to be consumed by whatever he thinks is best in our life

      • Denise Brooks says:

        I had been married for 34 years to my sole mate, with two beautiful girls, a fairy tale marriage, I guess you could call it. I loved my husband so unconditionally. He was my everything. We attended church, we had successful jobs, we had successful college kids, and then they moved out, got married and the next thing I know. My world changed forever. He was running sround with a friend of mine, that I work with, a few feet away daily. After three years I waited I filed for divorce. They live together. She still works here. I just don’t undertand.. we have grandkids now. We get along well. I don’t speak and have never spoken to her again. I feel I need help. To know God’s will here.. Our kids are still torn. I am torn. How can I forgive that..

        • Christine says:

          Dear Denise:
          I can’t imagine going through the rejection and love lost with someone you thought you would grow old with. It must be devastating. The first thing that came to my mind is that you must forgive before you can start healing. God asks us to forgive or we won’t be forgiven for our sins. It will be the hardest thing you will ever do, but it can be done. Pray to God to help you, then let him shine within you and it will be possible. It may take time, but it will happen. The other thing you can do, is to give this situation to God. You can’t change what has happened and you especially cannot change the will of people. But once you release these feelings to God, he will shoulder the burden and take it from you. You will feel an amazing relief within your soul. You will begin to change internally and soul will be lifted. Continue to pray daily for yourself and others, and God will be faithful – he always is.

    • I am sorry for the loss of your son Kyle. I cant imagine. I am glad that God is your strength and comfort during this time before you see him again in Heaven.. We recently had a family in our neighborhood lose there daughter 22 suddenly. This family does not attend a church regularly and when they do they go to a Catholic church. I don’t know the family personally but I will be reaching out to them along with others in our community with cards, and meals. If I did receive a book it would be added for this family. Thank you.

  2. Racbeal Jolley-Day says:

    This post could not have come at a more perfect time! My friend recently lost her 3 week old son to SIDS. I have been really struggling the last couple of days because I don’t know what else to say. I feel like I can’t completely understand bc I haven’t lived through the loss of a child. I have ordered a few books for her and prayed that it would help and not hurt. Through your words, I see that this is the book she needs to read! Thank you so much for sharing. I pray continued healing over your family. God bless!!

  3. Becky Engel says:

    My dad passed from cancer 2013 and my grandma the next year 2014. I have two girls who are 2 and 4 and I am struggling with grief. I read the article and it seemed comforting. Would love to have the book. I think it would help a lot.

  4. Thank you for this post. Been living in grief since the loss of my boyfriend in June. Been working hard to move into Grace. Its a daily struggle.

  5. I’m in the process of losing my dad. He is my best friend and was my most present parent. We waited 10 years my husband and I to become pastors and finally got where we felt god had planned those ago for us to be . So even harder knowing he can’t enjoy it with me. He was my biggest cheerleader.

  6. I would love to get a copy of this book. I am 3 1/2 months into recovery, getting divorced and have recently lost some close friends. I really think it would help me as I grieve these losses.

  7. My niece lost her 3 year old son, her dad and father in law all within 14 months of one another. I would love to be able to give this book to her. Thanks.

  8. Rachel Anderson says:

    My sister and brother in law lost their precious baby a few months ago, I would love to gift them this book!

  9. charlotte mcdonald says:

    I have suffered a lot of losses in my life time, but this last one hurts so bad because it came with disrespect and betrayal. I dedicated 34 yrs. Of my life to being Director of a child care in a church. And I was let go because someone accused me of something and I wasn’t allowed to know what or whom or to defend myself, the church just decided to dismiss me by terminating my position and restructuring. This has been a blessing and a tramatic experience.

  10. I feel blessed, thank you.

  11. Disenfranchised grief is the grief that is unspeakable and socially unacceptable. God’s grace heals this sadness as well. Working through this type of grief is terribly lonely because it is not socially acceptable. I would really appreciate a copy of this book to experience more of God’s faithfulness in dealing with the unspeakable grief that many of us face daily.

    • I am interested in this idea of disenfranchised grief, and how or why some kinds of grief are socially unacceptable. I have found that infertility is a very lonely journey, and there are other types of grief you speak of, the unspeakable things, that so many people deal with daily. Thankful that God never leaves us alone.

    • I came to this site to find a book for a friend who recerlj lost her 37-year-old son to a rare cancer. He left behind an infant and a six year old. My heart hurts for her!

      As I read your post, I felt an immediate connection to you. I can relate to socially unacceptable grief because I’ve been grieving the loss of a relationship of my 37-year-old son and not being able to have a relatiinship with his two children, my first two grandchildren.

      It’s difficult to know who I can talk to without being judged. When he decided to exit my life, he didn’t tell me. He left it to his wife who sent many hateful texts with no explanation. I had tried talking to my son and his wife on many occasions because my daughter-in-law made it almost impossible to see my grandchildren. When I asked her why they felt the need to terminate any relationship with me, she said “No big thing. I just don’t like you.”

      In reading articles and blogs concerning the estrangement of adult children from their parents, one psychologist said that in many ways, the estrangement from a child is like a death. She also stated that it could often be more difficult since there is often no reason given; thus, there’s no closure.

      The situation with my oldest son has created stress throughout our family. I can’t talk to my husband ;my son’s stepfather) because he gets angry and is overly critical of my son even though he has been an amazing stepfather. I can’t talk to my son or stepdaughter because it makes firm feel uncomfortable and even though I don’t criticize my son, the other children hate hearing my pain and feel that I’m asking them to take sides.

      I prayed for God to give me a peace about the situation. After almost five years, I had a better Christmas than I have since the family was all together. I’ll never stop praying and the hurt is still there. But I’m so grateful that most of the time, I have the peace that passes all understanding.

      I would love to win this book to help with continued healing. I plan to buy an additional copy for my friend.

  12. Losing my mom this past December was the toughest thing I’ve ever gone through…and realizing today that I never really let myself be scared in front of her since what she was going through daily was so much more than I was facing…almost 4 months later, I really wish I had let down my guard & the strength I attempted to keep up for her and just said the words, “Mom, I’m really scared!” I really miss her!! I am scared!!

  13. thank you so much for this post! My husband left me this past fall and the divorce was finalized last month. I am really struggling with the loss of my marriage and the man who I thought I would live the rest of my life with. I am confused, hurting and trying to stay afloat when I feel like I am drowning.

    • Hello Caryn,
      I am grieving the same loss as you are…my husband left 2 1/2 years ago, and our divorce is not yet final. I am dealing with feelings of betrayal, abandonment, rejection, and such loss. On days when I am struggling the most, I just cling to the truth that God is sovereign and in absolute control; He has allowed this in His perfect love, and His presence is enough. His grace is sufficient. I have to speak these truths on days when I do not feel it at all. This helps me get “out of the pit.” I am praying for you, Caryn. God will make beauty out of our ashes.

    • I am going through exactly what you are feeling —-after a 32 relationship and 29 year marriage, my husband abandoned me without any warning on Nov.17,2015. He shoved a letter in my face after breakfast that day and it was from an attorney who stated he was seeking a divorce action against me. Betrayal, rejection and deception don’t even begin to describe my pain. I found out later he was having an affair which began on social media and had a love fling with her in Hawaii last September. I was very naive as to what was going on but could figure it all out as he was not careful at all posting his comments to her on Pinterest boards and she back to him. He fled the country to be with her. No support financially either but wants 80% of my retirement fund ( I always made more money than him) that I accumulated in the marriage. I have been retired for seven years ow and this is not how I expected to live out my days. Can I forgive him? Right now, that seems impossible. I am a breast cancer survivor (twice) and I fear the stress and anxiety will cause a return of the cancer, if not in my other breast, but somewhere else. I pray diligently to God for help in overcoming my loss and to try to forgive but the shock is so great. I realize I can’t bring him back and really don’t want to but I struggle with the uncertainties of my life every day forward.

  14. Liela LeTourneau says:

    When I began reading I thought…what does she know about grief ??… Then I saw where you experienced the death of a child !!! The hardest/worst I’ve ever had to live through… My only son chose to end his life almost 5 years ago..I remember crying out to God..”my Only Son !!!”…and hearing Him say..”I know..I gave My Only Son!!”..I would like to read the book and share it with several of my mother friends that have also had to deal with the death of their sons…thank you

    • I lost my son almost 8 years ago to drug addiction. He was the perfect son, compassionate, and caring. I had a dream just two nights ago that he had a child and was so happy. I know that I will never experience all the things in the reading today, marriage, grandchild, etc. from him. It is a battle everyday to trust in the Lord that it was his will that this happened.

    • sophoeun meas says:

      As I read this comment, I am crying remembering wailing out the same words “my only son”.!!!!!. But God already prepared my heart prior going to the ER to accept what I was about to experience. My only son only 3 years old, killed by a hit and run. I didn’t question God why, because my heart was prepared and had a weird kind of peace with God but was shattered beyond words can describe. I still suffer from time to time the spiritual warfare of anger and hatred. So I stop and ask the Lord Jesus to please rekindle in me the peace that supasses all understanding.

  15. i just left my husband of 40 years. Because of a sexual addiction. I have taken it over and over for 40 years and I am trying to finish the full forgiveness process. But just to hear God has something in my future because He LOVES me! He has plans to prosper me.

    • I am so sorry for what you have gone through and continue to go through. My husband has also had a sexual addiction, which he says he has overcome, but he has no desire for me. We will be married 28 years in a couple of weeks. I think it will be our last anniversary because of the death of our marriage after 28 years of physical, mental, emotional, financial, sexual, and even spiritual abuse. He demands grace but has none to offer anyone else, especially me, the primary target of his abuse. I need to read this book, and I would like to share it with him if he would read it. He has another “G” to deal with before GRIEF. He needs to move from the GUILT of forcing his girlfriend to abort his child 32-1/2 years ago to GRIEVING that loss to GRACE. I know my God can do it. He has to do it. I have nothing to give.

      • . . . and may I add . . . Setting, your comment really struck me because I have been wondering what “long suffering” really means . . . Will it be until my last breath? I feel like 28 years is a long time . . . until I compare it to 40 . . . You must feel like you have been wandering in the desert for 40 years waiting to enter the Promised Land. We all have a mental picture of what our Promised Land will look like. I always have to remind myself that the Promised Land God has for me is so much better than even my mental picture which often feels as though it will never come to fruition. God bless you, “Setting”. You are loved with an everlasting love!

  16. Lisa Popovich says:

    Having much more trouble than I thought I would in mourning the loss of my Dad in Jan. 20. I somehow erroneously thought that because I had actually been grieving every loss of his during a 10 year journey as his caregiver through Alzheimer’s that I would have worked through most of that grief. Have never been more wrong in my life… am desperately in need of grace and peace.

  17. my daughter was 39 weeks pregnant with Sierra Jo and when she started to have labor signs her husband went out and got drunk with the boys and came home a shot her in the head. She called me and screamed momma and the phone went dead. 10/29/12 my world stopped. I had 5 chemo treatments left and than I was going to mill creek Washington to be with my girls. Instead I had to go find a place to bury them and bring them home. My husband left me because I was broken, he also left our son. I am so lost I cry all the time if I’m not praying I’m crying. I need to learn how to go on for Kyle. He is now 14 and we have no one in the state of Texas that care about us. I have to learn to live with my grief so I can give him the childhood he deserves. Your blog helps me not to think about all the bad. Please teach me how to want to live again. I’m so so sad. My grief counselor said I have had to much and know I have to find a way to heal. I just can’t stop thinking about the report I read and how my baby never got to be the wonderful mother she is. Please help me

    • Julie, I am so,so sorry for your loss! I will be praying for you and your son.Me and my family are moving back to Texas by the end of the summer.Last summer we lost my dad very unexpected so we are headed back to be with my mom and sisters.Just know,that even though I’m not in Texas now, I already care for you and the hurt you feel.May you feel the comforting arms of Jesus.And if you’re anywhere near my area of Texas,(waco/dallas)there are lots of people I know that would love to meet and pray with you.

    • Roxann Rudzavice says:

      My heart is just broken for you and for the great loss you continue to struggle with. Both of my baby sisters have dealt with the loss of a child, one of whom was murdered and the other to a medical disorder. The loss has been debilitating to them both and have somewhat defined their lives. I am anxious to read the book and to pass it along to my sisters. I pray that you get this book. If you don’t win a copy, I would like to purchase one for you if I may. I know that our Lord walks beside us, holds us and encourages us, yet in these desperate times, we don’t often feel we’re able to feel anything beyond the grief. I will pray for you and for your son. I know you feel abandoned and alone because people just don’t understand and can’t help pick up the load you bear. I’m certain you are sometimes hard to even be around because your grief overwhelms you. Please know that you are still loved, cared for and while you may not feel you have anyone right now that can help you, there is assistance. PLEASE seek it out. There are free grief groups that you can find in your area. The Lord wants you to feel His peace, the kind that doesn’t make sense. Please ask the Holy Spirit to walk with you, to guide you, to give you His wisdom, strength and peace. If you acknowledge Him, our Lord can help you. He is willing, waiting for you to talk to Him. Since you read this devotional, you obviously already have a relationship with Him. Please acknowledge the fullness of Him. He is here. This is not fluff. Please reach out and do not give up. I’m praying.

  18. Today’s devotion has really hit home. I just lost my amazing earthly father several weeks ago. Being Daddy’s girl I have lost my first love and feel as if I have lost part of my world. I cherished every moment I spent with him and honored my father until his last breath. I miss our daily chats and sitting having a cup of tea in the morning, lunch, and running errands with him by my side. I miss him so much. Everyday day that passes seems to become much more difficult to cope with this emptiness I feel in my heart and in my life.

  19. Jennifer Lindner says:

    I lost my mom to early onset Alzheimer’s on December 23rd. the grief is starting to catch up with me now. My 4 year old has been asking is Nana J is better & can come back from Heaven now. I have a 6 month old who will never know his Nana J. I was robbed of years of memories with my mom because ofthe Alzheimer’s as well as my children. To say I’m struggling would be an understatement. I miss her so much & even though I know she’s whole again & her memory restored, I still feel it hard not to be bitter at times.

  20. I so needed to hear this message today. I loved so dearly, and lost my baby way too soon due to it being an ectopic pregnancy. Baby’s due date is this weekend and so the wounds are raw yet again.
    Thanking God for His sacrifice and for His love, grace and peace.

    • Tanesha Williams says:

      Kris…I pray God’s peace wash over your heart and mind. I know this all too well. Just went through the same loss and process in November 2014. I have definetly had to learn how God’s grace is sufficient. No one can truly explain or understand that hurt from losing someone you never even met. They just dont realize the day we “found out” we are full fledged moms who know our precious babies. The only healing balm I can fall on is the most beautiful thought is that my sweet angel is walking the fields of heaven waiting for me to join them one day….and that the most wonderful God loved them more in a moment than I could love them in their whole lifetime…day by day is how I live knowing one day we will be reunited. God bless you.

  21. Gods blessings to u on the loss of your son. this is sooohelpful. I think of God losing, and in His plan joy for the whole world.x I have lost a great deal at times ut gets bad, I think of those who place all there hope faith in an only child, only for that child who represents prosperity and a future dies. all that is left is God. but for my family when my dreams of marriage and family died, financial hope for those in poverty everything I built my life on gone.in a moment. I think of how God is more important, He is a healous God, I was envious of and angry at His possesiveness of me, He will have no competitors and promptly removed those things in order to replace them w His presence and grief that I might b comforted. my priorities have changed

  22. I’m really struggling with figuring out the grief to grace part…this book sounds awesome.

  23. Nicole R. says:

    This post was perfect, thank you for sharing. My husband of 14 years cheated and left our two kids and me. I keep grieving for my marriage, but I have learned that he was narcissistic and abusive and I believe God was protecting me by releasing him to the fleshly desires so that Biblically I was allowed to divorce, I never would have any other way. We have good days and bad days, but I grieve for the marriage I was promised and denied. I grieve for my children and what they have lost. I would really love a copy of your book! God Bless!

  24. Your book would be appreciated by my family as we have lost several young people in our family unexpectedly in car accidents over the years, as well as a special aunt to a quick illness fairly recently. Though we know the Lord is indeed near always, and He gets us through these hard times, death is certainly hard for those of us left behind, especially when it comes to our loved ones without (what seems like) any warning. Again, we also know that even these tragic events do not come as a surprise to Our Lord who takes good care of us all. Thank you for your post and for offering this helpful book. God bless you always.

  25. I’m in the midst of grief that is so overwhelming I can’t see how any good could come from it. a Marriage of 33 years has ended. There was a time when my husband now x-husband were so involved in Ministry and serving. all that has changed. My heart is broken and my desire is for God to change his heart to restore what the locust have eaten so we can be together again – as parents and grandparents for our up coming First grandchild. When I read “He gets the last word” – I actually felt hope for the first time. Really? I’m so broken and sad is God true to His word? Can he really be trusted? things I never doubted. We’ve faced many difficult things together, but that was the key word “We could get through anything as long as “WE” were together” – now I stand alone. left wondering and un-sure.

  26. WANDA MCDONALD says:

    I am 58 years old and am twice widowed. I truly feel that I need to read this book. I have an acquaintance who recently lost her husband and she was my first thought when I saw this.

  27. Perfect timing. My daughter would be 16 today, but we lost her 6 months ago. I struggle everyday trying to balance my grief for her and being present for her twin brother. Today will be hard, but I will celebrate both of my children.

    • I hear you. We lost our precious daughter in November 2014. She was 13 & beautiful on the outside and inside. I have 3 other kids at home & they are sometimes the only thing that gets me out of bed in the morning. I thank the Lord for my other children as I can still be a mom to them & it wasn’t taken from me entirely. Blessings.

  28. This was so wonderful to read. While I would love to win a copy of the book for myself, I instantly thought of this wonderful man who is part of my grief support class at church. He is so sweet and loves his wife so very much. His heart breaks daily and he misses her so. They were married 57 years. I have told him what a blessing it has been to journey this grief road with him. I only wish my husband and I could have had the same amount of time together! So if I won this book I would give it to him – to say thank you.

  29. Thank you for your blog entry today. I would love an opportunity to read the book, and share with my mom. Today is my younger brother’s birthday but it’s a special day because it’s his first birthday in Heaven. I follow Proverbs 31 on Facebook and this post could not have come at a better moment, just after midnight on his birthday. We’re hangin’ in there and managing our grief but need extra comfort during this time that can be provided through Him that we call Father, God Almighty.

  30. Joy Lawson says:

    My daddy passed away 2/18/15 Of brain cancer. We found out 1/8/15 that he had brain cancer. I thought I was prepared because he had been a CHF and COPD patient since 1996 and we have lived with the knowledge we could lose him any time but I was wrong. I was in no way prepared. I still struggle to not burst into tears through out the day and while I’m not bitter and am thankful he is healed and with his heavenly father I struggle with having happiness. I’m not quite sure when that will return. I completely related to this devotional and would love to read this book. I too would like to know how to be happy for others and their happy moments again.

  31. I lost my best friend 2 and a half years ago to cancer and I still miss her every day. I haven’t lost faith in God, but I’ve stopped asking him for anything because I’m at scared of being let down again. I’m not sure my heart could take it.

  32. This came a great time as many around me are experiencing grief from losing a loved one, a friend or facing physical or relational trials. I would like a copy to win a copy to read and be able to help those around me as I, too lost my mom at a young age.

  33. I’ve lost both my parents and my sister, all who were my world. This week we celebrate my dads birthday for the first time without him and next week he celebrates his 1yr in Heaven. I’m dreading the month of April and that’s not fair to my kids and husband. I could really use this book to help me overcome the overwhelming amount of heaviness and bitterness I struggle with.

    • Lindsay, My Dad passed away suddenly in April of 1998, I understand the dislike of the month. Although it has been 16 years I feel that my heart has never totally recovered.

  34. Betty Schwartz says:

    So glad I saw this post tonight. Im blest in that i havent lost a child– I just feel like ive lost myself and most of my life. I ha ve been married for 30 years and my husband has traveled for over 20 of those years…and I raised our 5 children pretty much on my own. Have an empty nest now and he is still traveljng.He has never been big on traditions or family unless it is something he wants. I thought he was a godly man when I married him and i do love him, but there is so much anger and resentment and I am realizing – grief – over the marital relationship and the family life…the sharing of our lives that I will never have. I cant move on because he is stll my husbanx and I love him and I made those vows 30 yrs ago and meant them…but im single but not and marridd but not and just lost and full of grief …maybe selfish but it is confusing and hurts so much. And because of his traveling and things that happendd, I have no church family, no job, no close friends – no one to share this with. I would love to have the book…hopefully to help me put my life in perspective then hopefully pass the book on

  35. My daughter had her first child at the age of 15. She had a boy and he was the joy of our lives. He drown almost 6 years ago at the age of 7. It has been the hardest thing we have ever had to deal with. Your talk of seeing friends with there children and invitations that was something I struggled with. I didn’t even want to be around my best friend and her grandson because to me it wasn’t fair that I no longer had my grandson. It was over a year before I could even have anything to do with her. I cut all connection with my friends. My daughter does not talk about it to this day she never really dealt with how she feels. It has been devastating for all of us and I know we have all dealt with it in a different way. She also had a still born little boy in 2006. So by the time she was 24 she had buried 2 children. She has two other children whom are such joy and blessings to us but there is such a hole for the ones we lost. Now we are dealing with my mom who is battling colon cancer and it has been really hard on her as she has suffered 2 brain tumors and currently she has a third tumor but the cancer has taken precedent over that tumor right now. I think the book would be very helpful to my daughter, son in law, and myself. Sometimes you feel like your the only one going through things. Then you read post like this and realize so many people are going through so many things. I pray for each and everyone that God will give you peace and comfort.

  36. My daughter left this world in Oct. of 2013, my brother 2014, my children’s father also in Oct. a year before that. My son has a deadly disease that is in serious stage now. I very much need to look up and forward. Recently had a heart attack because of the stress, last Sunday. Just financially and emotionally difficult. Please consider choosing me to win your book.
    My heart goes out to you in your loss, while graeful where grace has led you.

  37. A wonderful read. My due date for our would have been 2nd child is in 4 days. I miscarried at 8 weeks & now we are struggling to conceive again. I would love to read this book in its entirety. thank you.

  38. Grief hits all of us some time in our lives. Personally, I have lost my father and 2 sisters to cancer. I have 3 sisters, but only 1 remains here on Earth with me. My oldest sister’s husband died from cancer, too. Now, slowly but surely I am losing my mother to Alzheimers – a little more each day.
    Our 20 year old son is estranged from us. I love him dearly! It absolutely breaks my heart! I know that he claims to be agnostic. I pray that God will send someone to reach him & bring him to Jesus Christ. He’s trying to fill a void in his life that only can be filled by Jesus!
    I battle depression on a daily basis, along with several other health issues.
    I know that God has a plan for my life & will use the pain fom my life experiences. I just can’t see where that may be.
    I do have some precious bright spots in my life – 3 beautiful granddaughters, a lovely daughter & son-in-law, and a loving husband. Praise God for these blessings. I’m not sure I could survive otherwise.

  39. Cindy Barraza says:

    Our oldest son Anthony was called home on February 24, 2015 after being in a single vehicle rollover accident. I’ve experienced death before, but this is the worst pain imaginable. We are followers of Jesus Christ, we know we will see him again, but for me as you wrote, I can’t see beyond the overwhelming loss of now. I know the suffering won’t last forever and my hope is in Him. I know God does have the last word and I adhere to His promises to get me through the day. I believe my husband and myself will benefit from your book to help us along this grief-stricken journey. Thank you for sharing your heart.

  40. SUsan WIlliams says:

    My aunt lost her husband in November and last week her son died of a heart attack. I received a beautiful card from her today wishing me Happy Easter. With her still grieving she was encouraging me. I would love to bless her with your book.

  41. Thank you for this devotional. I have found in my own grief journey (hubby in Dec 2013) that once the newness of my widowhood wore off for others and they got on with their lives; any realization of what I was actually experiencing was far from their thought. And truly wasn’t thay expected? Not all, but many simply disengaged. And I had a choice whether to feel bitter about their presumed neglect or just chock it up to human nature. And truly not be bitter about it, but seek a better attitude which only served me better for the better anyway. The journey is more tolerable when I am not miserable in attitude blaming other’s supposed neglect as if it was purposeful. I’ve learned much in this journey – and the greatest is that God cares for my every tiny detail.

  42. Michelle Hontz says:

    Two families come to mind that I think could really use this book. My cousin still struggles with the loss of our Grandma 2 1/2 years later. He was raised by her and lived with her to the end so I know he is very lonely. Also some close family friends found their young adult daughter dead in her bed with her infant son in the house the same weekend my Grandma died. Drugs were involved. Her parents are now raising the baby. They are confused,hurt and bitter still. They need help! Thanks for sharing.

  43. Christine says:

    My sweet friend lost her son in a car accident close to a year ago. He was weeks away from graduating high school, but he is without a doubt in Heaven with Jesus. That is her peace, knowing her child is with Our Savior and that she will see him again someday. She clings to Jesus like no other, and I’m in constant awe and admiration of her faith without ceasing. She has been kneeling at the foot of the cross for so long, and I pray that someday soon she will be on her feet and walking with Jesus. I would love to bless her with this book.

  44. Carol Morris says:

    Heartbreak due to a broken engagement. This seems almost trivial in comparison to what others are dealing with but is real to me and I truly need healing so I can move on and feel joy once again. Perhaps I can reach out to others as I did once before when I became active in divorce ministry.

  45. After 11 years and 2 beautiful children later my husband has decided to call it quits. We have been through three deployments and 8 moves in our marriage. I went through post partum depression and came out on top by God’s Grace. I have a long road ahead of me but God will show me the way. God’s Grace is sufficient for me. Thank you for this devotion that I am reading at 2am as I wonder where I will be next year, next month, next week.

  46. A friend of mine lost her dad and two brothers within a few years. I’d like to give her this book.

  47. A friend of mine has been in a few really bad and abusive relationships. The last one has left her demoralised and unhappy and she blames herself for not being a better person. I believe this book will lift her up.

  48. What a beautiful devotional. If I won the book I would send it to my sister who lost her only son over 7 years ago. And I would keep the Kindle Fire for me. Thank you.

  49. Melissa obien says:

    Thank you so much for your words today. They came at the right time. I lost my dad to cancer in November after just being diagnosed in the summer at the age of 58. This week has been hard for me emotionally. I am a mom of 3 and this book would be perfect for me. Not just for me but especially for my mom and my 14 year old sister. I would read it and pass it on to them. It would be a good source of encouragement and help to lean to the one who cares for is most… Jesus! Thanks again.

  50. Donna Joy Lesher says:

    Thank you, what a timely devotion! Just today I was sitting in my therapist office trying to work through the heart-wrenching grief at the loss of my family several years ago. My husband and three children (twins age 5 and a little girl age 3) were walking to the park one day when a drunk driver jumped the curb plowing them down and taking their lives. Losing all 4 of them at one time has haunted me for years and I am just reaching the place where I am able to talk about it and try to get past the pain and heartbreak. I was not a Christian when this happened and tried hard not to blame God. I just shut down and pushed all this deep inside me and have never been able to talk about it until the past few weeks when I started talking to a therapist about it. I was just in her office today sobbing my heart out. I am a new Christian now and trying to trust God to help me heal! Thank you so much for this devotion, I would love to have a copy of your book, it would help me so much right now. I am sorry for your loss but feel encouraged by your testimony. My heart has truly been touched by it! God Bless you!

    • God is always with you. I am so sorry for your loss, and I am praying for you! God is always with you, always loving you, always on your side! I can’t even begin to comprehend what you have been through, but I do pray for God’s strength to be with you, each and every day!

    • Donna Joy Lesher what a thing…God our Father Our Creator Our Anchor…wrap Donna Joy in your comforting arms, saturate her every moment with your peace, bring constant joy to her life Lord for you are the Joy-giver and she needs joy in her life…my heart, mind, my every emotion is blown apart by this loss you experienced. I prayed for you and will continue praying for you…Sincere best regards from a christian sister from d Caribbean…so glad you have allowed Jesus to be your source of salvation. HE will provide the healing you need Donna Joy!

    • Dear Sister,
      My heart hurts for your loss too. I lost my 13 year old daughter this past November 2014. I can not comprehend the depth of your pain, but I can share in your tears. The tears of a broken heart of a mama and wife that aches for the ones that were lost on that tragic day. ” Beyond the Valley” by Dave Branon devotional has been a blessing for me during this time as well as the devotional ” Streams in the
      Desert” L.B. Cowman.

  51. My passed away on March 2, 2015. Im struggling witn fesr and i feel so lonely. She was everything to me. I hope God will help me. I would love to get a copy of the book. Thanks

  52. I found this absolutely heartbreaking. I pray for you and your grief and that you may continue to know that God is always with you, always loving you, always on your side.

  53. I’m so sorry for the loss of your son.

    My mom unexpectedly died 5 years ago yesterday. we were so close. soon after I had to put my pet down.
    Without God I would have never survived that gut-wrenching heartbreaking grief.
    My grandmother, aunt and brother in law who all passed away along with three very close friends hasn’t left me bitter.
    I’m hopeful that your book would be a blessing to me and then to others and encourage me to be hopeful for the future. I’ve read Jeremiah 29:11 so many times this month.

    Father, help me ease the grip on my grief and lay it at the foot of Your Son’s cross.
    Thank You that You can bind our wounds and heal our broken hearts. Remind us of Your magnificent plans for us, Lord God. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
    Thank You

    • Dear Lord bring constant comfort and healing and joy to June…my the cherished memories of her mom give her added joy…in Jesus name Amen.

  54. Karren Geary says:

    My daughter became seriously ill when she was 11, she is now 43. Over the years there were many low points and struggles, both physically and emotionally. I sometimes told people ” Hope is exhausting”. Year by year I saw her dreams and my dreams for her slip silently away. I plodded along, hanging on to the hem of Jesus’ robe. I mean that almost literally – it was so strong in my mind. You would have to be pretty close to the ground to reach the hem. What I was not aware of at the time, was the remolding of me by Christ. Who I am today is probably very different from who I would have been without this experience. Three years ago my daughter turned some kind of corner, maybe a remission. She is now married, and has her own home and job. I will never fully understand my journey, I just know that I will continue to hang on to the hem of Jesus robe. It will pull me through life in a strong and constant way. God is love.

    • Love love your testimony Karren…what amazing trust in God. HE sure is love. My faith in HIM has just increased a big notch! Thank you.

  55. I would like to give this book to my grandson’s sister. She just lost her second child. He was 9 and had been unable to walk or talk. She also lost her daughter to SIDS.thank you for this opportunity.

  56. I struggle with grief to grace and would love to read this book. Thanks

  57. tonya crutchfield says:

    I love this story. Thank you for scripture. I can now speak Gods word over my situation. Thank you.

  58. God moves in mysterious ways. My best friend recently lost her husband of 19 years in a car accident. I was immediately struck with grief to see her go through such loss. Then the thought of God losing his only son brought home some new realities for me. I had gone through abuse since childhood. Lost confidence in who I was. Went through an abusive marrage that ended only 3 years ago. Lost a child to wayward living. But it was this my very friend that told I could not grieve forever and that God expects me to grieve, pick up myself and move on. I wonder how she would do that but God lost his only son too. How can she not move on?

  59. Startina Smith says:

    I love how God uses you all through these devotions…. Today’s particularly! I’m struggling with grief, my Mother was called home suddenly and very unexpectedly from our family 71 days ago… Proverbs 3:5-6 I have clung onto. I would like book, for I need insight and some guidance on getting past this grief onward to Grace.

  60. Kami Faust says:

    5 months & 1 day ago my first grandson, Kalium-who was the ABSOLUTE joy of my life, was life-flighted from Atkinson, NE to Children’s Hospital in Omaha, NE. He passed 10/29/14 @ 9:55am. My son was arrested & is awaiting sentencing on death by child abuse sentencing. PLEASE believe me when I say that he was in a bad situation that escalated into sheer trauma. I take off at least 1 day a month & drive 4 hours to visit him for 1 hr a month. Oh, my husband announced right around New Years that he wanted a divorce, apparently, I’m not much fun anymore. My heart still aches & my soul gets very weary, but God has gotten me through!

  61. I lost my Dad 2 years ago, my brother in law 2 months ago, and now I’m dealing with a betrayal of trust in a close working relationship.

  62. Would love to give this book to a friend that recently lost a child

  63. Louise Becker says:

    Thank you for this. My mom passed away almost 7 years ago & it is still hard. Since then we have lost a wonderful young friend, my aunt, my uncle and one of my dearest friends from when we were 4. Though it is a different grief, we left our beloved home of 18 years and moved from Ohio to TN because God asked us to. It has been very hard on our family but God literally gives us nuggets of grace each day to say “I hear you, I love you and trust me.” This was a great devotional reminder. Thank you.

  64. Lost two houses. Marriage and finances in the past year. This article was very helpful

  65. Marisa Steelman says:

    While we all have experienced loss, I work at a cancer center and would love to be able to share with our patients as they and their families are going through difficult times.

  66. Hortense says:

    AMEN AMEN AMEN THANK YOU THIS WAS BEYOND SO MEANT IN MY LIFE AND THANK YOU LORD THAT I COULD PUT ALL MY SORROWS AND LONGINGS AT YOUR FEET KNOWING THAT YOU HAVE SOMETHING BETTER PLANNED FOR ME, ONE DAY ILL MEET MY FOUR CHILDREN I HAVE LOST AS EARLY PREGNANCIES LORD AS I CARRY THEM DAILY IN MY HEART AND MISS THEM DEARLY.

  67. In reading today’s devotion, it wasn’t my own grief (of which I have had plenty), but it was grief of a friend and employee that God placed on my heart. She shows strength and confidence on the outside, but the day she told me that she had been pregnant and needed a day off to have her baby “removed” was a day that I saw such hurt and loneliness in her. She had been pregnant and then suddenly she was not. Her unborn child didn’t have a heartbeat at her checkup. This was why she needed a day off.
    It has been over a month and her outter strength has returned, but her eyes show so much pain.
    God laid her on my heart. I am unsure if she knows Jesus as her savior, but she knows “of” Him. I pray for her, her healing and her salvation. I would love to give this book to her and pray it helps her in healing and in knowing our Lord.

  68. This post is very helpful as I have been in as season of grief for the last couple of years. Then on January 24th my mom suddenly and the medical examiners couldn’t find any reason for her leaving us and going to be with Jesus.

  69. Candra nunez says:

    Everyone has a story and I did loose a daughter but my heart aches for a friendship lost. It really hurts and I just don’t get it.

  70. Suzanne C says:

    Your devotion today was wonderful. I have a good friend that lost her mom last year and has
    really been struggling with her loss. I plan on forwarding your devotion to her this morning. I would love to win the book and give it to her. She was very close to her mom. I remember when I lost my dad 16 years ago on April 4th which was good Friday. I was very close to him and could not have gotten through the struggles of losing him without the Lord in my life.

  71. Nancy Fudge Sweatland says:

    My daughter was diagnosed with Juvenile onset diabetes when she was fifteen. She is now 37 with serious multiple health issues. She has a son who is 18 years old and she has struggled as a single mom. Years ago she gave birth to a still born son. He took his first breath in Heaven. He would have been 12 years old. She has struggled with the loss of this baby. The diabetes complicated her births. We both held Nicholas in our arms after he was born. I remember willing him with all my might to breathe. He was already in Heaven when he made his physical entry into this world. I would love to gift this book to my daughter so that she can move forward with her spiritual maturity in Christ from her heart not just from her head. I believe your book written with love and understanding will help my daughter to walk a path of healing her broken heart. Thank you for your consideration of my request.

  72. What a timely devotion. I feel as if I was led to this this morning as I’m never awake this early. I lost my 4 year old son 7 years ago next month. And now my marriage is crumbling and I’m already grieving the loss of it, have been for months. I would love a copy of your book.

  73. April Parker says:

    My friend from church Brittany. Her dad just recently passed away a couple of weeks ago. She was very, very close to her dad. She is having a very hard time. She has 3 children and is struggling to take care of them and really just struggling to do anything. My heart is so heavy for her. I would love to give her this book to try and help her heal in God’s grace and love.
    I also would love to give this book to my Aunt Brenda. She lost her daughter Anna about 21 years ago in a car accident. Although it was a long time ago I know she still struggles a lot. I think she also blames herself for her daughters death which of course it was not. I think this book Could perhaps heal some deep wounds of grief, guilt, and some deep scars in Jesus name.

  74. I have a friend that suffered a couple of losses and could use this book right now.

  75. The message today really hit home as we lost my baby sister at the age of 25 yesterday. I couldnt sleep and decided to scroll through my email and here was today’s devotion. I know that there is a long painful road ahead of my family and I would love a copy of this book for my mom who is strong in her faith, but isn’t seeing any hope right now. She sees the loss of her youngest child and her family in pieces. I truly believe I was meant to see this and comment on her behalf.

  76. Thank you for this devotion. I look forward to reading your book. We have some friends that are dealing with grief right now (because of death and because of marriage issues). This devotion came at a perfect time. When my husband and I lost our son 16 years ago (premature birth) it could of been very easy to remain bitter. I was a fairly new Christian at the time, and I just couldn’t understand, but some beautiful women of God came to me who had been there and helped walk through my grief. Since then God has blessed me with two more wonderful sons. I hope that I can pass on what I have learned to my friends. Thank you again. Can’t wait to read the book.

  77. God’s will, I shall win a copy of the book from Grief to Grace. Approximately 8 months ago, my ex fiancé who I dated for 5 years walked out of my life without saying goodbye or I’m not ready to get married. He gathered the ring back from me when I sent it to the jeweler for repairs. Therefore, once he left.., I’ve never spoke or saw him or my ring again. These events broke me. I literally asked God to take me away from the hurt & pain. Clearly, he didn’t answer my desire because I’m still here to tell you that God’s grace & love is real. He’s healed my heart & still working on me to understand that one day I can truly loving again without fear. Your book will be another tool to help me through this experience.

  78. After the death of my Grandparents I truly feel my mother is stuck. I believe this book could help her grow in Christ again.

  79. Thank you! We are in the process of the final days with my mother. My peace comes with knowing she does have faith & that she will be without suffering when the Lord takes her. I have family members that don’t understand why God is taking her. I believe God has a plan & through this my prayer is that they will develop a personal relationship with the Lord. I love the reference about God losing his Son & understanding our pain!

  80. Carole P. says:

    Thank you so much for the devotion. I am trying to get over the loss of my husband, and this devotion was very helpful. I do hope I get to read your book. Yours truly.

  81. Natalie Johnson says:

    Thank you for that devotional. I love the how you put it , “Sunday is coming” knowing that through the pain to remember it is short in the big picture and just as with Jesus coming back on Easter Sunday from the horrible pain the Father endured , our Sunday is coming also !
    Amen

  82. After reading your article and the comments, I can see how your book could really be the turning point in people’s lives who have suffered through their grief or are in the middle of their grief.
    I have suffered must loss in my lifetime. Too much to list here. Needless to say, it has left me a totally different person than before the losses.
    ‘The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want’ has carried me many times over. Sometimes only sitting at His feet and worshipping Him, is the only way to get through your grief, no matter what your circumstances.
    I was particularly moved by Betty Schwartz’s comment. Betty, you are loved by our Everlasting Father and Prince of Peace. He knows your circumstances and you are not alone. He is walking with you even if you do not feel it. Keep looking up to Him for guidance as He will answer sooner or later.
    For all the prayer warriors out there… Taking this list of commenters and praying over all their pain and grief, would be a blessing for them, I am sure. Because surely, we all know that Prayer Truly Does Change Things!

  83. I would love a copy of this book, first to read and then to pass on to some women who are walking in grief right now. I am a little over a year past the surprising loss of my husband and best friend. In some ways the grief is stronger now than in the early days. Now it is so real–this different-that-we-thought life. Satan has tried to keep me in a pit and I am battling daily. God is so faithful! I’d love the encouragement this story.could give, and then I’d love to share it with some younger ladies who are grieving loss too.

  84. After reading your article and the comments, I can see how your book could really be the turning point in people’s lives who have suffered through their grief or are in the middle of their grief.
    I have suffered much loss in my lifetime. Too much to list here. Needless to say, it has left me a totally different person than before the losses.
    ‘The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want’ has carried me many times over. Sometimes only sitting at His feet and worshipping Him, is the only way to get through your grief, no matter what your circumstances.
    I was particularly moved by Betty Schwartz’s comment. Betty, you are loved by our Everlasting Father and Prince of Peace. He knows your circumstances and you are not alone. He is walking with you even if you do not feel it. Keep looking up to Him for guidance as He will answer sooner or later.
    For all the prayer warriors out there… Taking this list of commenters and praying over all their pain and grief, would be a blessing for them, I am sure. Because surely, we all know that Prayer Truly Does Change Things!

  85. Andrea Jackson says:

    I would give the book to my supervisor. She is still deeply grieving her mother’s passing of 9 years ago. I would use it as an opportunity to continue sharing God’s love and grace with her to prayerfully help draw her heart to Him.

  86. Thank you for this post. I’m not sure how I feel about it, but feel that God wants me to ‘hear’ this message. My youngest son died 4 1/2 years ago. My grief journey, to date, has been all over the place. Not linear, but a mess of up, down, in , out and back again. I’ve been in a ‘bitter’ place for awhile now, and can’t seem to move out of it. I have a deep faith, and love my God and Jesus with all my heart, but it seems that no matter how hard I pray, or how much I do the ‘hard work’ of grieving, I can’t seem to get over the bitterness hump. I have read hundreds of books and while most of them helped me feel like I was ‘normal’ in my grief, and most of them validated my pain, I don’t feel my grief has ever been validated or supported by those I need it to come from. As a result…bitterness. I will look for this book and continue to pray for peace.

  87. I’d like a copy for dear friends who lost their young adult son in a car accident two years ago.

  88. Your devotion spoke to me so truthfully today. I am in the throws of sorrow and your words and the reminder of the promises of God helped me to keep praying and have hope and faith in my loving God and savior!

  89. I would love a copy of this book. I can’t put into words what I’m grieving right now but I’m doing it alone. I need help.

  90. I have a friend that lost her son this past July. Today is actually his birthday. If I win the book, I will be giving it to her.

  91. Marlene St.Onge says:

    hello, I would love to read your book. I lost my mom in February and have only been able to leave the house 4 times since she passed. She had ALS and watching her lose her battle was nothing anyone should go through. She was my best friend. I’m so lost with out her. Not a day goes by I don’t cry. I have a 15 year old son who lost his grandmother but I feel is losing me also. I don’t know how to go on.

  92. Karen Shaffer says:

    I would give this book to my daughter who has to make some decisions about grad school. Kaelah has suffered from migraines since the age of 12. She has failed most of the medication regimes available, including non-traditional ones in complementary medicine like acupuncture. She started Botox injections which can take up to a year to be effective. In addition, since physical therapy grad school is so intense the first year she may need to defer a year and would then lose her scholarship. Kaelah has worked so hard and has had to overcome many obstacles to reach this point. She feels hopeless and is struggling to find her way.

  93. In 2013 I lost my Mom, Dad, Grandma,and Aunt all from different health issues. Just recently someone I thought was a very good friend has turned away from me and I struggle with bitterness. Thank you so much for posting this devotion!

  94. Thank you so much for your devotional. At the moment I am struggling with deep grief after the traumatic death of my son. I scour the bible for words of encouragement and clarity to break through the pain. Your words have encouraged and the knowledge that God indeed does have the last word is uplifting. Thankyou.

  95. Terrie Delbridge says:

    My sweet friend Trish has gone to hospice after a long and hard battle of recurrent cancer. She is only 51 years old. She is the most amazing person I know. She opened a “A Place in Time” a food pantry where the needy can come and get food and find Jesus. She has so much faith. I have anticipatory grief everyday knowing that today might be the last. Yes I am sure her suffering will end and she will be in the arms of Jesus. I grieve for her husband, her puppy Happy and all the people she has led to Christ that might become angry and bitter at her death. Thank you for today’s devotional I needed this!

  96. I would like to give this to a dear friend that lost his beautiful daughter and now questions our Lord and savior.

  97. Jennifer says:

    Thank you.

  98. I have a friend who’s three month old son died a couple months ago. When I saw this post and the book that was mentioned, I felt it was meant for her. If I won the book, I would give it to my friend to help her grieve her loss.

  99. this topic came at an appropriate time just got news that my first cousin just passed.how is it that even after seeing the person being unwell for so long we still find death a thief?surely the word of God must come to pass.Death is a loss because christ promised that we shall live a gain, we only sleep but not die those in christ.

  100. Sheryl McKenzie says:

    This was very timely for me. Almost nine years ago a beautiful child was taken from us. I don’t say we lost her because I know where she is but the grief of all that no longer can be is overwhelming at times. I had not consider it was bitterness still in my heart until I read this today . Thanks for your posting.

  101. Angela Raphael says:

    I would like to give this book to my sister in law who lost her cousin, who was her best friend.

  102. This was so very helpful this morning. I have been dealing with the loss of my husband of 36 years, he passed 1.5 years ago. I keep thinking that it will get better, easier. But I keep getting these bouts of dispair & loneliness. He was a pastor for 30+ years & that had been a big change also. I have finally found a counselor who has been a tremendous help to me. Asking for continued prayers for my journey.

  103. Minnie Matthews says:

    Thank you for today’s devotion and the very appropriate scriptures. I know that God heals and mend the broke HEART, but I’m still struggling with that in my grief process. I still grieving for my husband that I lost 8 years and 5 months ago. My god-daughter lost her husband on Sunday from a heart attack. I need to encourage and support her through her grief, but it is so hard when I’m still dealing with my grief. Her husband’s death has brought my grief back to the surface. PLEASE PRAY FOR US.
    I have over 200 people on my email group and I’m always looking for inspiring and encouraging devotions to send out by email on a daily basis. This devotional will be my email today. I need to lift heavy hearts today because my god-daughter’s husband is the second death in my church family since Thursday. Young men’s ages 45 and 47. Their funerals at at our church on Friday and Saturday.
    Thank you for this devotional and may God continue blessing you to encourage me and many others.

  104. W. Strohecker says:

    Don’t want to be bitter. Would love to Dance With Jesus.

  105. Sara Stringer says:

    I help facilitate a Single & Parenting support group at my church. I would give the book away to a member still struggling with grief. Dealing with the intense emotions of grief can be toxic if not handled through the perspective of the Lord!

  106. Natasha Evans says:

    I would like to give this book to my friend and coworker. She lost her 25 year old son a few weeks ago in a tragic motorcycle accident. Her father, who was her only living parent, passed away unexpectedly just 5 days later. She is very heartbroken. I would love to be able to give her this book to encourage her and show her that God sees her pain and understands……Thank you!

  107. I lost my step dad to cancer 2 years ago and my first cousin to a heart problem 1 1/2 years ago. My mother and aunt are both still struggling very much. I’d love to give them this book.

  108. Whitney Rollyson says:

    I would give this book to a dear friend who is struggling with the loss of her baby 7 years ago on March 27th. My heart has been extra burdened for her knowing that she is struggling with finding the good in it when no one seems to even remember (or ignore it out of fear). I asked her just yesterday what exactly I could DO for her besides pray. I know she needs prayer but I also know there are other things I can do to help. I would love to gift her this book to see if it could help her move towards grace as she so desperately wants to and further from the anger she is constantly fighting.

  109. Donna Collins says:

    If I win I would give it to my neighbor as she has just lost her husband on January 16 of this year! Thank you for the opportunity!

  110. Claire Whittum says:

    I would love to receive a copy of your book. As much as I would love to keep it for myself as I lost my youngest daughter 9 years ago & carry a burden of grief that I have tried many times to let go, I would give it to one of my best friends who lost her 15 year old son in a horrific car accident that took his life & 2 of his friends lives back in November 2014. Her heart wrenching pain is unimaginable and incomprehensible & very raw.

  111. Wow! This article is exactly what I needed today. Our family is going through a major storm right now, and for the first time in weeks, a weight has lifted from my shoulders. Thank you. I have to check this book out, and think many family members need it, too.

  112. marlinda says:

    What a GREAT devotion this morning giving me Hope and courage to keep going forward because the Lord has his plan for my future. Thank you for sharing your time to help me with my faith and believe stronger in God.
    I would love a copy of the book for me and to share with other friends who it will help in Thier lives. Thank you again. 🙂

  113. Terri Swartzlander says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. A little over a year ago, we lost our cousin to a horrible death. Her own son killed his mother. To this day I struggle with all of the “Why’s”. He was involved with drugs and a very dark world. We had just grown close to her after years of not seeing her. All of us miss the fun times that we had with her. At times I feel as if things are getting easier and then something small sparks in my head the pain and agony she must have experienced before her death. As time has gone on, I also think of her son. He is in prison for life. I am pretty certain he doesn’t receive visitors. I know he is where he should be. He will be there for the rest of his life. He is only 34 years old. I also think of how his mother would feel if she were still alive. The pain and loneliness that is probably experienced. I pray at times for him. I pray his heart will change and he will turn to Jesus. I have also prayed that if in God’s will, maybe some day I will visit him in prison to share the love of Christ with him. Again, thank you for sharing your story. It made me think of my cousin in a totally different way. I know she is in heaven, no more tears, or pain or suffering. It also made me rethink about her son and his need for Christ!! Have a blessed Easter!!

  114. Pamela Sparks says:

    My beautiful friend Peg found out about 8 weeks ago that her husband has stage 4 cancer, and prognosis is to live life for 6 months to a year, barring a miracle of healing. He has gone through radiation and is in the midst of chemo each week. She went yesterday to pick this book up at a Christian bookstore, but it was not in stock. Her family has been ROCKED by illness, loss of employment and putting a home on the market as a result. They are all looking for a “new” normal. I would gift this book to her, and the sharing would benefit members of her family also.
    Thank you for consideration. Thank you for writing this book and sharing your story.

  115. Great post on grief and overcoming. We lost my mother-in-law on Christmas eve 2014 and my sister-in-law is having a very hard time letting go. Last week she also lost Molly, my MIL’S min pin that she was taking care of. Her dog attacked and killed her to protect his food. Please lift her up in prayer…her name is Renee. I will look into this book!

  116. Karen Maynor says:

    Dealing with kids moving out and me being the Bride to Jesus. Wondering when the holy spirit will jump in and let me know it time to give it all to Jesus.

  117. This post really hit home for me today. We lost a pregnancy on Valentines day last month at 12 weeks just as we were getting ready to share our joy with everyone. Our child would have been my husband’s firstborn (I have a 10 year old). I’d love to read this book with him to help is both move on from the pain and hurt we are both feeling still from this incident and how some friends and family have reacted poorly as well. We want God to heal us so we can use our experience to help others but know healing must happen first.

  118. In 2014, on the 30th December, I lost a much loved aunt. Just two months after that, a beloved uncle. The grief of losing the two most important people in the world to me broke my heart. And opened it to God.
    God lost his only son at Easter, and we are so lucky because of the choice that was made by Jesus. Yes, I most certainly will dance with Jesus at Easter, and wish you all a great Easter as well.

  119. I’d read this book, then pass it on to my mama, I lost my brother tragically in an accident 9 years ago this fall, and my dad suddenly, a month ago, I grieve my son whom we call a gift from God, everytime I see 9 year olds doing things he should do, it’s a struggle, and my husbands health is well, not the greatest…this book might just be what I need! i cannot wait to read this book, thank you for sharing so openly!

  120. Very thought provoking and applicable, especially at this time in my life. Thank you.

  121. Becky Jackson says:

    Oh how I would love to have your book to share with so many who have lost children, husbands, relationships, and who are going through much suffering. I’ve lost twin boys and I know the hurt of returning home with empty arms. Thank you for writing this devotion.

  122. Grace Thall says:

    Our 15 year old son had a four wheeler accident. We never got to say goodbye or kiss him one more time it was 11 years ago, but the grief is still deep your devotional was timely his birthday is April 7th, which is also our daughter’s birthday she is exactly 5 years older I would love a copy of your book as I don’t think one ever stops grieving over a loss of a child I do find comfort though knowing he is with our Lord in Heaven.

  123. This has been a real blessing to me! Thank you so much. I believe the book will be an even bigger blessing to my sister-in-law, Temi, Who has been married for 10 years, but is yet to be blessed with a child. Devastatingly, she has had 2 still-born babies and a miscarriage during this time, one very recently. I would also like her and her husband lifted up in prayer,for God to comfort them both. Much appreciated. Every blessing

  124. I would love a copy of this book to give to my mother. We lost my younger sister 15 years ago to domestic abuse. Since then my mother has allowed grief to take over her life turning to alcohol, leading to divorce and much anger causing a multitude of family struggles. Maybe this book could reach her.

  125. It will be 16 years ago for us on April 5th that I had to give the news to my parents that my 15-year old younger sister had died…very similar situation to Susan’s. What is making this year especially difficult is that 16 years ago, April 5th was the day after Easter…this year it’s Easter day. Our family tends to feel a “double” heart ache each year due to the changing Easter date.

    My 2 remaining sisters and I are all teachers, so we have a vacation day (spring break) on the day after Easter which makes the day even more difficult as we are not required to be at work – giving us more time to reflect (& feel the pain) on this day. I remember my sister’s death as the day after Easter (rather than the actual date), my parents remember both, so when Easter is not around April 5th, it’s a double-pain felt. In talking to my parents last night, this coming Easter day (April 5th) will begin with a trip to the cemetery for them. Perhaps they will find some comfort this year since the very FIRST Easter began with a trip to the cemetery…to find that He had risen!

    God has been good – for those who have recently experienced loss, He can heal!

    I’ve had my eyes on the following verse through the years and continue to use it to guide & shield me from the hurt and pain that we so often experience in life.

    Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him. – Proverbs 30:5

  126. Jan Culver says:

    I would love to send a copy to my friend, Becky. After becoming resigned to the fact that she and her husband could not have children, she found herself at the age of 40 expecting their first child. This was especially great news because the Lors had just called her dad home. They were both so excited and happy. The day came for Isabella Grace to be born. As the family waited outside for her arrival the nurse came and asked Becky’s mom to go back. Then they came and asked her pastor to go back. Something was wrong. Although every indication was that she was strong and healthy, Isabella went into distress as soon as she was born and lived just a few short minutes. Everyone was shocked and our joy turned to sorrow but for Becky it has been an extremely difficult hurdle to cross. Why had God given her this baby just to take her away the moment she was born? It has been about 9 months since she lost Isabella. I know she could use the message of this book. Please consider her to receive your gift. Thank you and please pray for Becky.

  127. My friend lost her 4 year old son in an accident, and her whole world has stopped. In 2 1/2 years since the accident, her life is still on pause. She doesn’t know Jesus, and I think this book could help open her eyes to the grace of God, which she so desperately needs.

  128. I need this book for myself because five years ago my dream of a perfect family doing the work of the Lord was destroyed. My husband went into a downward spiral of prescription drug use causing him to lose his job and all of our savings due to his poor choices. But you know what? This imperfect family was restored by the grace of our Lord and can still minister to others, especially other believers who are trapped by wanting the perfect life rather than serving a perfect God. We have a story of God’s grace, and I would love to read your story to motivate us to put ours into words. Thank you!

  129. Evva jamison says:

    Perfect. I have been grieving my husband’s death, yet he is still with us. Strange? Yep, but you see my husband fought cancer – stage 4 neck cancer and won that battle, only to be hit with a disease called herpes simplex meningitis. He was in and out of the hospital/acute care/ rehab facilities for 8 months where the virus ate various parts of his brain. His body remains with us, but not all of who he was stayed. I admit to an intense grief every time to he laughs in that new strange way – not the laugh I recalled. Or repeats his meds schedule out loud for the 15 th time in that hour because he can’t remeber any other way. I know I will get over it. I know God knows. This was a good reminder though. Thank you.

  130. Marcia Whaley says:

    This devotion really hit home as we are as a family working through struggles, like most families these days. What makes this really ring in is the fact that our family has been stricken with grief. My mom’s nephew died of skin cancer in November 2014 and then two months later her husband (my Father) was diagnosed with stage 3 Esophageal Cancer with lesions in the liver. Now she is working so hard to help her husband, the love of her life, my Dad. Sometimes I wonder “what kind of mean game are you playing on my Mother, God”? This book would be perfect for her (and me) as we work through the trials of life and try to make some kind of sense of it. I know that God’s plans are different from what “our” plans are, and we have no control – and we are reminded of that. Digging deep and remembering that Jesus is for us, He is here, always, beside us. We just have to remember to reach out.

  131. At first glance, I thought…I’m hurting. I’ll keep the book for myself. Then, I thought of a mom who’s son, (Matt) I taught my first year of teaching and who died shortly after his highschool graduation. She is now a substitute in our building and I see her every now and again. It’s been only months since his passing and I see her grasping for answers and ways to cope. I’d give the book to her. I believe her loss is far greater than mine.

  132. leane chaney says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I never looked at it that way that God knows exactly what it’s like to lose a child. My friends recently lost her daughter to cancer and I would love to receive your book to share with her. Thanks for the devotion today.

  133. Melissa Parish says:

    Your devotional hit home today as I am dealing with grief over a personal failure of what seems right now to be monumental. We also lost a long time pet companion two weeks ago and it stings. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

  134. I would love to give this book to my friend Robin. She lost her 8 year old son and only child in October in a car accident. Our boys were in the same class. She is struggling and doesn’t want to see any other children, let alone go or do anything. I know it is a struggle for her. I pray she will go from bitter to better. I love her so much!

  135. Chris Samuel says:

    Thank you for sharing and glad you are hanging on to Gods promises and His Grace.

    I however do have a thought.

    Why do all your Bible references end with credits to the companies that translated them (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV or Matthew 11:30, NKJV) ……..Can they not be just Mathew 11:30, The Bible ?

  136. I love you devotions. I really would love to read you book…
    We need it. Loss is so hard.

  137. My husband and I both lead a Griefshare support group. We are currently facilitators of our 7th group. We both have lost our first spouses as well as both sets of parents. We share our books on grief with the group after we’ve read them. Thank you.

  138. Jennifer says:

    Thank you for this devotion. It was very timely. I just lost my aunt last week to a completely unexpected virus. She was young and was my mother’s best and closest friend. Now she feels alone and broken. I would love to win a copy of this book to give to her. She has never gone through grieving and I do know she believes in God so this would be perfect for her. Thank you and God Bless.

  139. thank you for this reminder…we lost our son Brandon 6 months and 10 days ago. This is our 1st Easter without him and your words are timely.

  140. Ashante e says:

    I would love to get the book to give to my husband’s cousin. She lost her seemingly healthy son last March at the age of 20. She is seeking counseling and restoring her relationship with God. This book would surely help along the way. Please let me know if I can get a copy. This devotional definitely has a mission . Thank you

  141. We lost our dog a couple weeks ago. He was the other baby. After year of miscarriages and infertility we finally conceived and went full term. About two weeks before the birth of our miracle, we adopted a ten week old puppy. The dumbest and most perfect thing we ever did. Six year later we had him put down due to a brain tumor.
    The loss of him has shaken our whole family to its core.

    And in the wake of our grief, I feel broken. I feel like the weight of the imperfectness of the world has fallen on me and I can’t stand up.
    I need God’s perfect grace.

  142. Felicia gilley says:

    I am so encouraged. God is so faithful to bring me to This Word This Morning! I will rest in faith knowing He gets the last word. My prayers go out this morning on behlF of every post here.

  143. Stephanie says:

    Grief is such a lonely place! This devotion helps us see that this too shall pass and we are not alone. That put father is with us always.

  144. My ex-boyfriend is now seeing someone else, after being broken up for only 2 months (dated for a year). My heart is hurting, but I’m trying to see Gods plan in my loss.

  145. Genise Walker says:

    Thank you for this timely devotion. I lost my brother on June 30, 2014 and everyday is a struggle. I had a wonderful conversation of healing with my mother just on Friday. I would love to give her a copy of your book. While everyday is a struggle for me, it’s worse on my mother. She devoted her life taking care of him. He passed on in her home and we live in separate states. I am going to print this devotion and mail it to her. Thank you again for your obedience in writing this devotion. God bless you.

  146. My cousin passed away unexpectedly leaving my niece and cousin-in-law without his loving embrace, at least in the flesh. They had been sweethearts since Middle School. Church members, friends, family, co-workers have rallied around them and the church was packed for his service. They have trusted God in this and have been beautiful witnesses for believers and nonbelievers about Jesus’ peace that passes all understanding. However, because of the nature of loss and their close family love, they still feel the heavy loss of my cousin’s presence. I believe this book would be a beautiful gift for them. It seems like it would give new points of view from someone who takes an honest look at the depth of loss while confirming God’s promises. My prayers are with all here who have known loss.

  147. I believe this book could help me as I am grieving the loss of an unborn child. I lost a baby just a month ago.

  148. Angela bougher says:

    Just read your prov 31 piece. Really touched my heart. We lost our little boy, 4 years ago. He was three months old and his brothers (all under 7 at the time) still miss him as do we. There are still really tough days … It was a horrible accident and not only do we deal with grief but also the knowledge that only if we had known … We could’ve prevented it. God continues his good work in us … But would love a copy of your book ! Blessings to you and your family as those things that come up remind you of your loss as well.

  149. Life is so hard after my son s death 4 years ago

  150. Kelly T. says:

    The past 5 years have left my husband and me reeling from the amount of loss we have experienced. We lost our grandparents, three pets, my brother-in-law (age 34), and my mother (age 58). Our hearts have been so broken. We often feel very isolated in our loss because we have experienced so much of it and we are only in our early 30s! Many times we have wondered what is God’s plan in all of this and questioned why we have lost so many, especially my brother-in-law and mom, who passed unexpectedly. We have also been trying to have a baby for over two years now, and have been unable to. It has been a very tough road, filled with doubt at God’s plan and bitterness, at times.

    I can say that through the grief and loss, God has allowed me to be able to minister to others when they lose someone. I can understand and appreciate better the sadness they are going through and validate their emotions. I can pray for them, understanding the hurt they are experiencing.

    This book sounds like it will be such a blessing to so many experiencing grief. I am eager to read it and pass the blessing on to others who are going through tough times of loss.

  151. Stephanie Maust says:

    This mornings devotion really hit home and spoke to me. I am going through difficult time in my life and feel this book would help me tremendously. Just reading that God lost Jesus and good came out of that is comforting me in my situation. Thanks so much for your word of God!!! Amen

  152. He has the last word! What a powerful and bold statement. You can’t help but have pride and feel safe when reading those words. What a beautiful gift to know that God will always have the last word. He will always provide what we need. That need may change, and could be the need to heal a broken heart, but he is capable of providing for that need. There is no need to great for him to over come. Thank you Heavenly Father, for that beautiful reminder.

  153. My husband has been communicating with a girl in a foreign since he met her about 18 mos ago. He says it’s not an affair, but rather, a father daughter relationship yet pictures and text mags reveal otherwise. He refuses to submit to godly leadership, Christian counseling or anyone’s opinion as everyone is wrong and he is not in sin. Yet he won’t give up this relationship for anything or anyone. I’m living in grief over the loss of my husband’s heart to Satan’s evil schemes and also pray for his great influence as an father to our own two children as well as employer to 40 employees. He says he is doing everything for God and that his motives are pure and yet life is so very bleak and devastating when he’s so deep in his sin…please pray for my husband’s heart…and for the rest of us grieving for his soul.

  154. Helen jones says:

    My son’s wife of 17 years and mother of his 3 beautiful children walked away from the
    Marriage 5 months ago. My son works hard every day to provide for the family’s needs while she home schools. Her cold actions and control of her mother have ripped this precious Appalachian Family ‘s heart in two. She has no remorse over taking his children away from him . He loves them sooooo much and is having great difficulty not seeing his children except every other weekend. He is a fantastic dad and husband. The youngest child will be 2 in April. The situation is in the court system now. He would like custody of the children since she abandoned the home and marriage. Her mother has never allowed her to leave and cleave. Her mother has greatly harmed the marriage relationship. It is horrible to watch. Please pray.

  155. Thank you, Many friends and I are in the place of needing God in this reminder. We pray for all so suffering to find joy, to know His Presence abiding.

  156. Jennifer Gearheart says:

    I lost my wonderful Daddy on February 18, 2015 and I am going through so many emotions. I pray so much and turn to God and still get so angry, mad and frustrated since it was so unexpected. I don’t know if what I am feeling is okay. One minute I love God for seeing me through this and giving me comfort and the next I am so angry for taking him away from me. I would love to read this book to get some insight on how to go on. I would share with my step-mom to give her comfort and turn to God more.

  157. My brother died 13 months ago. I am still overwhelmed by this. Everyday is hard. Thank you for your blog post today. I would love to have a copy of the book. I think it would really help me.

  158. After just having lost my dad about a month ago this really hit me! Thanks so much for this reminder.

  159. Susie J. says:

    I have a friend who lost her husband a year ago and is struggling a lot. I feel this book will help her.

  160. I would give this book to my friend Scarlett who just lost her mom last week. It was a completely unexpected death and Scarlett is still dealing with the shock of the death of her mother. She could really use this book as she heals.

  161. This is wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing. I have two friends who each lost their 22 year old son’s a year apart. One just 2 1/2 years ago & the other 1 1/2. They both know our Lord, but the pain is so hard to deal with and I can only help so much. I would love to share your book with each of them.

  162. Inspiring words much needed this morning. Would love to have a copy of the book for myself and my mom as she is having a difficult time dealing with the loss of my brother just a few months ago.

  163. Our church lost a young lady just last summer in a car accident. It hit our small community hard, being the second high school aged girl to have died in as many summers. Her family is precious and has exhibited grace beyond measure. I would love to share this book with them.

  164. Sharon Gingerich says:

    He will have the last word….praise God! He is victor and so am I. Even when I don’t feel it. Even when emotionally I feel a wreck. (I need to keep telling myself that!) even when my emotions seem to create havoc in our marriage and home right now. I lost my Mom this past Dec. and she really was my best friend (I was an only daughter) and some days the pain and loss hits me in the gut all over again. We gardened together and I both dread and anticipate that season coming up. She will feel closer which is comforting, yet painful too.

  165. If I won a copy I think I would give it to my sister in law who just lost a pregnancy pretty far along.

  166. I was just talking with a friend last night about this very thing. She is experiencing grief from a betrayal & loss and wonders if she will ever be happy again. I would love to have a copy of the book to give her so that she can walk out of the depression this grief has brought into the grace that our glorious God offers.

  167. I have a friend and a cousin who would love this book after both experienced great losses one year ago. My friend lost her mom and my cousin lost his wife. I plan to look into this book. Thank you!

  168. I, like many others, have experienced the loss of a loved one. I lost my father to cancer over 20 years ago but still miss him daily. I also lost my best friend very suddenly 4 years ago and not a day goes by that I don’t feel that loss in my life. But recently someone who is quickly becoming a very dear friend to me has come into my life. She has experienced the tragic and sudden loss of her husband less than 2 years ago. She met someone special and is finding happiness again but it is still a struggle to move beyond the pain of losing her husband. I would like to be able to share this book with her to help her continue her healing process.

  169. I would like a copy of the book for a special friend who lost her daughter in an accident. I would also like a copy of the book for another special friend who recently lost her child to pediatric brain cancer (DIPG). This is the second child particular friend has lost. Heartbreaking. I feel this book could help.

  170. Christmas eve this year, we found out that our beloved cousin did not wake up that morning. Still no answers why a healthy and active 33-year-old woman would die in her sleep. She left a new husband, a sister, parents, and all of those unfulfilled dreams. I’d love to read this book so that it will help me to better love those closest to her (esp. those I just mentioned.) The first word that comes to mind when you ask how I felt when I read that Jesus gets the final word: Confident. I know that I can trust Him to work all things into good – He has will all my past hurt and heartache. Though I can not yet see how, I trust that He is faithful and true. Though my heart yearns for answers now, I know that upon His final word, I will be satisfied.

  171. Recently, I have lost both my parents to depression and addictions. Then my marriage fell apart. Grief consumes me at times. Overwhelms me. I have allowed this to come between God and I. Thank you for your post today.

  172. Deborah Wilson says:

    The devotion hit home. A soul sister recently lost her mother. She has become withdrawn from those around her.I think maybe your book, would help her begin healing.

  173. My wonderful friend, M. lost her only daughter to meningitis over 20 years ago. The pain is still as fresh as if it were yesterday in many ways. She has a strong faith in Christ and yet this pain is ever lingering in her life. The love between the two was so deep and so special and she does feel the ache of all the losses–never seeing her daughter marry, become a wife and a mother and each holiday is a painful reminder. I would love to give her a copy of your book! Thank you

  174. Amy Huberti says:

    I moved to NC in 2010 as I remarried! My entire family in Indiana I lost 3 family members within 2 years after coming to my new home besides the fact of leaving my family in Indiana. I haven’t gotten over losing my dad, grandma and brother in such a short time plus not able to visit very often has put me in a near depression even though I try to hide it ! My husband has watched me go from being loving fun spirited to almost depressed and some days I feel very lonely! 2 of my 3 children have left home after graduation and one is still home but a senior. I need to get to a point where I can get passed all this but haven’t gotten there yet. Some days are better than others but mostly I put on a face to try and hide how I am feeling !! I would love your book ! Thanks for listening and God Bless !!

    • Kay Parker says:

      I lost a high school friend last week. Her father was killed in a tragic accident this past December. I know her mother is going through alot right now. I would like to give her a copy of this book. Thanks.

  175. Susan Williams says:

    Nearly five years ago, we lost our only child, Sarah, to neuroblastoma, an extremely difficult to treat pediatric cancer. She is forever eleven, and battled for half of her life. My grief began many months before she died, when I realized deep in my soul that we were going to lose the war. I didn’t share that knowledge with anyone, not her doctors, and not my husband. My husband’s grief began just before she died, when our doctor said there was nothing left to do. So when she died, we were at different places in the grieving process, and that was hard. God gave me a short season to “sit on the couch.” When I got off the couch, I asked God what was I supposed to do now. “Make beauty from ashes” kept playing in my head. I began babysitting again, we began taking snacks and microwaveable meals to Sarah’s clinic, and we began working at our church’s food pantry, where we are now the directors. God is my comforter, and the source of my strength. Thank you for your words today.

  176. Isn’t God so good He can bring blessings through our deep hurts to so many! The responses are amazing! My dear brother lost his 16yr old daughter ..suicide…4yrs ago…..then his marriage ended in divorce last yr…….He knows The Lord…is getting godly counsel….but sure has a hard time….some days I wonder if he’ll make it! Other days much better…such a deep hurt in so many ways blaming self, feeling like a failure, so hopeless….yet knows The Lord is with him…so painful to watch….I hurt for him and my loss too, my beautiful precious niece, diagnosed w/bipolar and the med.
    Dr put her on certainly contributed……but God is still God..he could have stopped it! but He allowed it……so that to say “God is good all the time, all the time God is good!”
    He can bring such blessings out of our deep pain and losses! Thank you for sharing
    Your story……and seeing Him shine through you! We can be encouragers for Jesus sake! Thank you!

  177. Kathy Tyler says:

    Thank you for sharing your grief. My friend lost her husband 10 years and every subsequent loss seems to bring her down even more. I’d love to give her a copy of your book. God bless you and heal you.

  178. Josephine says:

    Would love to read this book. My dad is dying with cancer and it’s terrible to watch the struggle. Trying to remember that God is with us and has a perfect plan for our lives.

  179. Tanesia Finney says:

    Praise the Lord. We serve an Awesome God full of Love and Compassion for His. We All belong to Him for We were created in His Image. To God be the Glory for All He has done, doing, and is gonna do. His plan and purpose is Great for us All. God Bless You Woman of God. May His Blessings Continue to shower down upon you. Amen

  180. Wow. We just had another family here who lost a child who was only 14. I know three other families who have also been through this. I think I would choose to give it to my neighbor. Her son was tragically killed a couple of years ago. She is probably at the point now she could read this. Thank you for writing this book and sharing your heart.

  181. Jacki Bornaman says:

    Grace. This was God’s grace that I would read this today. My husband and I have an adoptive family here where we have lived for almost twenty years. It is this family that I grieve with. The past three years they have had loss. First it was their father, my husbands fishing buddy. Then last year we lost precious his eight year old grandson in a freak accident, then a daughter’s father in-law, then this year the great grandmother in hospice. I have prayed with this family and have felt their suffering. They question why so much. Thank you, so much, for this devotion. I will share this with them. Blessings to you.

  182. Marchelle says:

    If I won this book, I would give it to my daughter-in -law who lost her 15 year old son almost three years ago to a dirt bike accident. She has not been able to move on she misses her son so much. She is working through it but it has been so hard for her. She knows God makes no mistakes but she loved her son so much and the loss of him was so unexpected. God is a God of mercy and grace and He loves us through our pain and grief but when you have not loss a child it can sometime knock the wind out of you especially when they are so young and have such a great future ahead of them. It still seems like yesterday when we loss out precious Joshua but we know he is with the Father. I just want to be able to give her some encouragement and let her know God has not forgotten her.

  183. I’d like to get a copy for a friend who tragically lost her husband in the line of duty. She has two very young daughters who are struggling with her.

  184. I am humbled by the way you have expressed and shared . Jesus rises in my heart and I am grateful thank you

  185. This sounds as though it would be perfect for a friend who recently lost her 5 year old unexpectedly to sickness over this winter.

  186. Kim Doherty says:

    I, as well as numerous other mothers in my small town have lost children. It is not an easy experience …” To walk through the valley of the shadow of death” but you can come out on the other side. I would love to read your book and share it with others who have lost a loved one. God bless you and thank you for your message.

  187. Ronda shrimplin says:

    Enjoyed your devotion ! My nephew passed away in June due to overdose of heroin .. He had turned his life around and just out of rehab struggling every day I’m sure .. He was getting back on his feet with a new job his precious new baby girl and the love of his life and then without warning he’s gone… My sister ( his mother) died that day also as I pray for her I came across your devotion, if this book would help her I would love to get it for her…

  188. Losing a child…No one really understand until they have walked this road. My journey started September 23,2006.

    Thank you for this entry. It touched my heart.

  189. My father passed sudenly in 2006 when my twins were 4 and my daughter was 3. I have never really got “over it”. I am still angry that God took my rock away. My children will never know what an amzing man he was. Now, fast forward to today and I have been diagnosed with MS. I need my father now more than anything and I can’t call him. It stirs up the anger yet again. You rpost helped me realize that it is jus the devil trying to get into my head, trying to take away the sweet and gentle memories of my father that I do have and the realization that my father lives on through me and my children. And even though I think I am without him, I never am.

  190. Would love to read your book as my son and daughter -in-law are grieving the loss of their first baby. he was stillborn and although we are sad , we rejoice in knowing he has a perfect body and in resting in the arms of our Lord and Savior. Thank you for sharing your blog.

  191. Thank you for sharing today. I felt you were telling my story but in my life there’s an additional part. On 7/28/14 I received a call from my 18 year old son saing “mom you have to go help brother he’s hurt bad”. Little did I know that my life was about to change..about a half mike down the road my 15 year old son was in a car wreck. He was a passenger and did not make it. It was a sunny summer day and the driver lost control and hit a tree. Christopher was on passenger side and was taken Home instantly. My husband of 30 years came to crash site. There I found out that he had been having an affair for the last year and half and felt this was God punishing him. I love my husband still very much and have forgiven him but he has so much guilt over what has happened and has moved out. The devil has him and I continue to pray for Gods will and if so to restore our marriage it is with Gods Grace that I have been able to get up each day and go on. I have a 21 yr old daughter and the 18 yr old son to be a mom to. I hunger for words of encouragement and your message this am has hit home with me as I face the future unknowing. It would be an honor to receive a copy of your book to help me to strengthen my walk for I am counting on the plans that the Lord has for me. It’s what’s holding me together.

  192. Tricia C says:

    Thank you for sharing your heart. We lost our 13 year old daughter 2 years ago. It has taken a toll on our family. I feel I have been in survivor mode since she passed. While I know Gods truths I struggle with processing emotions out of fear that my strong gal appearance will crumble. I would love to read your new book. I truly believe God calls you into and through things to help others. I pray one day that can be me.

  193. Jessica Mitchell says:

    Thank you for this. I lost my daughter almost two years ago and this spoke to me.

  194. Jeri Sue Wilson says:

    Thank you so much for this article, I so needed it. I lost my dad suddenly and unexpectedly Nov 1st and have been struggling with it a lot, feeling depressed that we didn’t have more time together. And now today I am going to the visitation for my step-grandpa, the funeral being tomorrow, I’m not sure how I’m going to respond or react. I know I need to move beyond my grief and not let it consume me, but easier said than done. Four years ago I lost someone who was like a favorite uncle, a wonderful Christian man who treasured his wife; then almost 2 years ago I lost my youngest brother at the age of 42 to cancer, way too young. I know I will be reunited with each one some day, but missing each one, especially my dad. I feel that this book can help with moving me out of the fog I have been feeling, helping me get a better focus. Thank you! Blessings!

  195. I have a friend that lost her son a few years ago. I still can feel the pain in her words. I would like to give this book to her as the devotional today gave me some comforting things to share with her. I think the book would provide her with a lot of comfort as well.

  196. Oh how I would love a copy of this book. 9 weeks ago our healthy four and a half year old son didn’t wake up in the morning. The knowledge that he woke up in Jesus’ arms is so comforting, yet we grieve and mourn so deeply and my human Mama heart just wants him back in my arms–though I know he is in a much better place. Grief to Grace–that is my prayer for our journey. http://www.irisparr.com

  197. My cousin lost her twin daughters (19 years old) in a car accident in 2013. She is holding on to Jesus and her grief. She needs to experience Jesus’ truth that He heals the brokenhearted. I would definitely give this book to her hoping that she can see the healing that Jesus offers.

  198. In July of 2008, our little twin granddaughters were born prematurely and perished. They were in another country. Rebecca and Maria were not brought back for burial. Their grieving parents shared little of what happened, isolating themselves for the better part of a year, and discussion of the girls is taboo. We lost not only these precious girls, but our son and his wife as well. Time does not heal everything, as the old adage says. God alone can bring healing from this multiple loss. I’d like to read your book because any resources for healing are welcome here. It wasn’t long after the girls died that we lost my father to an aggressive brain tumor and custody of my son when we moved 37 miles. After several years of hard losses, healing resources are always welcome.

  199. Thank you so much for sharing! I have also had a hard time when my son’s friends get married and have children. Our son went home in May 2009 at the age of 22 by way of an auto accident and we did not get to say good bye. This past Monday was a year that my dad went home due to illness but I had the privilege of being his caretaker for 11 years and his death was expected but still hard. The Lord has given me the strength, comfort, peace and love to face each new day that He blesses me with, for that I’m grateful.

  200. Holly Bauman says:

    I would like a copy for myself. I recently lost my grandma earlier this month. I’ve also lost friends lately as well. When I was little I lost my sister. I lost my two sweet babies to miscarriage and the pain of them all is still there. I love to get close to people and to love them making the lost hard on me even more.

  201. SonyaFredo says:

    i lost my dream job in July 2014, then in September the dr gave us the news that my mother had a rare form of breast cancer then in November they removed her right Breast by Dec24 the cancer had returned my mom passed in Feb. I can’t get up every day her house needs to be cleaned out but I can’t even go in the house. I pick the phone up to call her to just lay it back down.i know I will see her again due to the fact I rededicated my life to Christ and she passed away the very next morning. I am an only child and she singlehanded raised me! There are days I cry all day long

  202. Pamela Plexico says:

    A sweet young girl at my church lost her beloved Grandmother after a horrible fight with cancer. She has been devastated. She continues to try to heal but just can’t seem to find her joy again. My heart breaks for her. She was strong for so long during her Grandmother’s battle with cancer that she can’t let go and just cry and ease her pain. I would love to win this book to give to her so that she can find some inner peace and joy again. She is too young to have it stolen from her.

  203. LaVerne Crenwelge says:

    I lost my brother in Sept of 2014 and would love to have this book for my mom who struggles with lost of a son she is very angry and also struggles with a spouse who is not well that she herself is getting poor in health a sad situation.

  204. Nanette Fontenot says:

    My dear church friends just lost not only their daughter, but her unborn child all in one day! Everything was going along as normal and she was due in 2 weeks. For an unknown reason that only God could orchestrate, the mother and child died abruptly and without explanation! The sweet husband and his 3 year old son, the mother and father, the sister and her children, ALL of those involved are grieving the loss of this precious young lady. I will give the book to the family to minister to them during this very tough time in their lives. They are amazingly strong in the Lord and are a testimony to His love for all of those around!

  205. I lost my brother in December 2011. He was killed in action in Afghanistan. Out of my grief, I have found joy in working with other grieving families to offer them hope. I’d love to read your book and possibly share it with those families.

  206. With grief, a lots of times think of a loss of a loved one, but it can also be the shattered hopes and dreams of a child who has gone astray. I truly experienced how God “heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds” . My son is in jail as I write this, and has been for 5 months, awaiting sentencing on drug related charges of a friend of who died of a heroin overdose. God has reminded me so many times, in articles like this,”that Sunday is coming, Jesus arose from the dead by God’s grace, to save us and to redeem us, and He has plans for us that include a hope and a future, even when our plans are dashed and we can’t see beyond the overwhelming loss of now.” Those are very healing words, and I hold onto them. I am currently writing about how God has helped me through this, how He has been my Rock. My heart breaks for the author, of how she lost her beloved son, Kyle, my son, is also named Kyle. It has been 5 months since I have hugged my son, I will again, but Susan won’t be able to ever hug her son again, but she is finding healing in her writing and helping others. My heart goes out to you, Susan, may God continue to use you and bless you, and mostly comfort your mother’s heart, as I’m sure the pain never completely leaves. But you have The Great Comforter, and he is so full of love and grace. I would look forward to reading your book, and share it with others. May God bless you.

  207. Lois Peterson says:

    Thank you for this devotional. My son Erik was killed in an avalanche in Alaska in December. At that time there were 3 memorial services for his incredible life (2 in Alaska and 1 here). Since then his body has been recovered and we head back to Alaska to spread his ashes. As the only remaining Christian (praise God Erik gave his heart to the Lord!!!) I am looking for ideas for the service that will give others the hope I have. This devotional was such a blessing!

  208. Would love a copy of this book as I work through my own grief of childhood abuse. Thank you.

  209. Christine says:

    I would love to have a dear friend read this book. She has experienced the deaths of 5 close family members and most recently her husband of many years. She is really struggling and the devil has encouraged her to isolate herself and has put thoughts of suicide in her mind which she has so far been able to resist. I know that she would read this book and I would be honored to give it to her.

  210. Cindy Bishop says:

    Thank you so much for your devotion today regarding grief. I am interested in receiving a copy of Susan’s book on “Moving From Grief to Grace”. I am a hospital chaplain and encounter all kinds of grief daily. I am always looking for a book on grief to recommend to patient’s, staff and families. Again, thank you for your devotions which I read daily before work. They are a tremendous encouragment!

  211. My sister-in-law is not saved. She lost her oldest son due to bacterial meningitis. He was 14. She wears her grief like a cloak, only half-smiling when smiling is the gesture she feels pressured to give. We have wanted a way to reach her in this pain, a way to point her to Jesus. I would love to give your book to her. She needs to hear it from a sister who has been in the deep dark, one who found the Light despite tragedy.
    Thank your for your courage to write such a book. God bless you and all the others who posted before me. {hugs}

  212. My beautiful God daughter lost her husband of 9 years who died in his sleep one week ago Saturday. He leaves 2 precious boys behind, age 7 and 3. The 3 year old was recently diagnosed as autistic. I would give her the book. Thank you for your words of comfort.

  213. Beth Porter says:

    I have read several of these posts. We will hopefully all benefit from your book either by winning one or buying a copy. I personally would want one first for my mother who really is not prepared to lose my dad. He is in hospice care and she isn’t coping. He tries to protect her. I’m praying a book like this would be perfectly timed for this journey. I would read it next and then share it with my brother.
    I, like another post I read am in transition with loss is so many ways. Losing my dad, empty nest- so I have lost my children being home, loss of love and touch as my husband and I are separated. So much going on! My neighbor I would let read this as well. Her husband is dying of cancer while she is recovering from breast cancer as well.

    I know not everyone will get a book but if you will pray for all those losses here on all these posts that will be a gift to us all as well. These names I pray for daily are Chuck and Janet (my parents), Rick and Cheri (my neighbors) and for the following names that God knows why: Steve, Cindy, Tom, Nicole, Joshua, John, Janet and Harry (struggling with Alzheimer’s ), Norm, Bill, Jai (his mom is in a medically induced coma for burns ). God hears our prayers and we are all looking as humans, ways to feel Gods healing.

    Thank you for the chance to win, the prayers for all of us dealing with loss of so many kinds. Bless you for sharing your journey.

  214. Jackie Milschewski says:

    Just found out yesterday that my mom’s cancer has become untreatable. While we celebrate her long life and cancer fight(she’s 87). The sadness of the loss to come seems unbearable. This devotional brings some peace.

  215. I can see how the supernatural glue helped you through your pain. It’s amazing to realize how God went through just what you did. I would give this book to a recent widow that could surely use something to relate to.

  216. My father passed away unexpectedly in Feb. I am having a hard time and found your devotional very comforting. My children are having a hard time as well. He was the only grandparent they ever knew. We made sure that they spent quality time with him and they are feeling the loss as the all had special relationships with him. I would like to read your book as I learn how to navigate this new chapter in my life with out my dad.

  217. Your devotion spoke to my heart this morning due to two families I know losing their sons this week. Just prior to Easter. Your insight will help them cope with their loss and allow their grief to be comforted by the reminder that God lost his only Son. Jesus bore the burden of all our sins. I would love to share your book with these women as well as my sister who lost her daughter. God is our Healer and seeing the verses you referenced from God’s word comforts. We in our humanness can not always see or comprehend God’s plan for us because we are not God. We hold tight to the truth the He makes ALL things good for those who serve Him. I fell asleep praying for a perspective to share with those who have experienced the loss of a child and awoke to your devotion. As I will be attending two “celebration of life” services in the near future, thank you for blessing me with your insight into God’s word. God is awesome and he loves us sooo much!

  218. Patricia says:

    I feel so unworthy to be commenting, but I do have issues in my life. I still have both my sons and I feel very blessed. I do want things for them in their life that seem very slow in coming, but I have hope for prayers to be answered! I am sorry for your loss, Susan. You are a strong and brave woman of God, may He wonderfully bless you.

  219. I would first share this book with a friend who lost her father last month. Then I would read it in hopes to transform my grief from infertility to grace. After scrolling through the long list of others grief I am overwhelmed with the amount of hurt in this world.

  220. A friend lost he 17 yr old granddaughter, I feel this book may help in her healing

  221. Nancy Whobrey says:

    I have always taken losing a beloved one or even a beloved pet very hard. I know they’re in heaven & it’s a time to rejoice. I miss them so. My dear mom, grandparents, pregnancy, aunts & uncles have all passed away & even some dear pets. I am blessed to have my dad, siblings & my husband, children & grandchildren

  222. Tracy McC. says:

    I would love to read this book with my daughter who is now 14. My husband, her dad, passed away unexpectedly from a massive heart attack on August 23rd. We are working through the first year of “firsts.”

  223. Merinda Flynn says:

    Two years ago my oldest brother passed away unexpectedly. He was my rock..my go to guy/friend. No matter what he thought I was the best. Though I understand he is in a better place my heart feels very empty. A copy of your book may not just help me but my mom who is not a believer. Thank you for sharing.

  224. This message was exactly what I needed today; that my Sunday is still coming. I’m grieving for so many things I feel like I’ve lost. I recently learned my husband was involved in a long term affair. This took place during my pregnancy and after the birth of our child. I’m working very hard to forgive and reconcile with him as he seems repentant, but I’m hung up with the grief over all of my losses. The loss of my memories, the bond we should have shared over our baby boy, the person I thought he was, etc. I think this book would be very helpful for me in dealing with this grief and moving on in the path to true forgiveness and reconciliation.

  225. My best friend amd brother who was just 30 died 17 months ago. He died 2 dayd before I gave birth to my baby girl. It’s been extremely difficult and most days still feel like a blur. I want to be fully present for my children but it is such a struggle!

  226. Thank you for your message today. My family is still dealing with the loss of my mom. I would like to read your book and share it with my father and sisters and members of my church who are grieving. Thank you.

  227. I needed to hear this today! So thankful for your devotions and ministry ❤️

  228. sophoeun meas says:

    Thank you for today’s message, it was tailored for me. I recently lost my 3 year old Son to a hit and run. He was my only child. This passage today gave new light to an old wound. Healing came from words written in an ancient Book spoken through a vessel, which was you. I still continue to grieve, but I grieve with hope and I look forward to reading the devotions daily because it starts my day off right. Thank you for that extra dose of encouragement and may God bless you. Sophoeun Meas.

  229. Lisbeth L. says:

    Good morning,
    Although I have not experienced the loss of a child, parent or cherished loved one, I can certainly appreciate the insight from one who has experienced such a gut-wrenching loss. We all will take our turn(at one time or another)in this “hot seat” of devastation and loss. As I work through my own personal spiritual growth in so many other areas, I find comfort in hearing personal testimonies from God’s children, how they cope and hope for triumph from their grief. For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us [Romans 8:18 ]

  230. Betsy Fowler says:

    This message spoke so well to me today. Seven months ago we lost our special needs daughter. I am still missing her so much as she was my world and everything in my life revolved around her as she was total care in the end. We knew for years this day would come but you are never ready. Kimberly was 26 years old and such a sweet reflection of God’s love. I would love this book to help heal and would gladly pass it on to other Moms who will be facing this one day. Thank you!

  231. Just seeing the large number of people who have already commented and knowing that it is grief that unites us is overwhelming in itself. I lift up each one of you in prayer. A close friend just said goodbye to her daughter to suicide. God has shown up in a mighty way in their family but of course, there are still struggles. Please pray for them.

  232. Thank you for acknowledging the many causes of grief. So many times I find that no one seems to understand delayed (or never fulfilled ?) romantic hopes, a grandmother who will not be part the life events I dreamed she would be, the loss of a teacher, the broken dreams. I keep thinking I should be able to snap out of this, to not cry at the least little thing, to be able to get on with life with some semblance of happiness. Time alone heals nothing, I’ve concluded. Ignoring the pain doesn’t work either. Help finding grace — finding joy again? — would be most appreciated.

  233. I feel my life is over and have lost hope for any future of good most days the past 3+ years.
    But I love what you wrote that God will have me put back together and on my feet….thanks for giving me help to make it through another day.
    May God bless you!

  234. Would love a copy. Thanks for sharing…still navigating the sorrow and grief of losing our son Jacob at 21 days.

  235. patricia ann says:

    The ONE thing I wanted in life, the only thing I really wanted in life was to get married and have my own baby, (or babies). But, at 22 I was raped, became pregnant, and being a Waffle House waitress, my Mom and I discussed it and she thought it would be better for me to have an abortion, as she feared I would blame see the rapist and blame the baby. I wanted to keep it, but let her persuade me to have the abortion. I was never able to have children after that. It still breaks my heart every single day that I gave in to my Mom and had that abortion, and I grieve for the child I didn’t have. I get angry at stories of people who have children and abuse or kill them. How is it they are allowed to have these precious treasures, only to abuse and discard them, when someone like me, (and there are others like me, I know) are denied the joys of parenthood? For years it was anger I felt, but over time I have released the anger, as I know it only poisons the mind and the heart, but I still grieve from time to time.

  236. Jenelle Moore says:

    I would give this book to my mother in law. Friday will mark two months since my father in law left this earth. We are all believers and know he is in Heaven celebrating with Christ. I wish I could take all her pain away.

  237. Thank you for encouraging me.

  238. Carol Watkins says:

    On August 15, 2014 my nephew, Daniel died in a one car crash. My sisters only son. We were very close, kindren spirits you might say. Daniel was born on my birthday 30 years ago. He has a daughter from a failed marriage that looks and acts just like her daddy Daniel. We are in the year of 1st now, 1st holidays, birthdays, his daughter’s 1st…without Daniel. It’s heartbreaking. This story hit home and if I were to win the book, it would be for my sister. We are also experiencing a 1st. It has been the first time we have ever discussed our faith in Jesus and experienced God at a deeper level. Up until Daniel’s death she assumed she was saved. Now she’s not so sure. Daniel accepted God with childlike faith and his death has forced us to talk about things we never would have before. God told me in my heart to speak at Daniel’s funeral because He was using his death to save to souls of all the people Daniel’s life touched, and that was many! I read the story of Jesus’s death to prepare to speak and it comforted me to KNOW that God understands grief. Now I want my sister to understand as well. Thank you for your story that will touch many. Carol

  239. Sounds like an awesome book to read — I lost my husband to cancer last month & though I know he is better off, sometimes it gets so lonely. The reality of it all saddens my heart, at first it was easy, but now that I’m left alone more & more and with the first holiday without him after 43 years together I’m worried that I will shut down. God isn’t feeling close & though I know that He’s still here & that it’s me who is drifting away. Your message has helped, thank you for restoring my link with God.

  240. What a great reminder! I have recently dealt with bitterness myself. It’s been 2 years since my divorce and I’ve still been dealing with the hurt and rejection caused by my ex towards our kids. And because I had been carrying around that baggage for so long, I was becoming an angry and bitter person. After finally getting fed up with feeling so consumed by these feelings, I finally came to the conclusion that I need to stop worrying about things I can’t control and let God take the burden. It’s been a process nonetheless, but since making that choice I feel a weight has been lifted and God has renewed my soul. I have never felt more alive and purposeful than I do today. To God be the glory!!

  241. I would love to share this book with a friend of ours. She lost her husband a year ago and is having such a hard time finding joy again, or not feeling guilty about being joyful without him. Thank you

  242. Melanie Zuehls says:

    Just what I needed. I lost my infant son 5 years ago and I just can’t seem to get through this bitterness its so hard on me when I see others having little baby boys and seeing all of their hopes and dreams come true when I’m grieving for my son. When I lost him I lost all of my hopes and dreams and it seems as if no one quite understands why I can’t just be who I was before. Since his death I have welcomed 2 baby girls into our family they are such a blessing and bring so much joy to my life yet I still yearn to hold another baby boy and be able to experience all that crazy boy stuff. Recently I had a miscarriage and I feel it just brought me back a whole lot of steps as once again so many hopes and dreams were ripped from me. Thanks for the devotion today!

  243. Pat Bass says:

    I loved your post and what you said about remaining bitter or getting bettet. I faced that choice in 1980 & 1981 when my 29 year old sister died in her sleep and then my daughter was born 6 months later and then died after 2 heart surgeries at 2 months old. It was a very long process of grieving from both of my loved ones so close together, but I knew I didn’t want to live the rest of my life being bitter. I thank God for His help over the years. I couldn’t have come this far without Him.

  244. So many devotions to choose from and Proverbs 31 always has a message for me that applies deeply to something in my life at that very moment! Keep a firm grip on faith!!! Thank you from a dancer who needed this devotion today! Live and prayers!

  245. In eighteen months we lost eleven loved ones plus close family friends. That was in 2009-2010 and I with others in the family still struggle with grief. From losing my son-in-law at 43, my sister, my mom and cousin, Uncle, the hurt just keeps hurting.It just seems we never had time to grieve each loss. The book may be able to help us to realize God can use our grief in some way to bring good from the losses.

  246. Courtney says:

    I am bitter and would like to get better. I am in a marriage that is so broken. I was discussing with a friend last night about bitterness & how God wants to heal me of the bitterness that is taking root, but I don’t know how. She told me to ask God how, and today I saw your devotion. I pray that maybe I will find the answer how to process the grief of a broken and painful marriage, and learn how to let God deal with my bitterness, because I don’t want to get worse. Thank you.

  247. Jessie Rollick says:

    I would give the Book “From Grief to Grace” to my friend Amber who is unsaved and preparing to lose her 8 year old son in 2-6 weeks due to the return of his leukemia for the 4th time.

  248. Losing a relationship with my daughter and granddaughters has been the worst loss I ever imagined experiencing. It is not due to death, but by rejection, which makes it even harder to suffer through. If there is a way to dance through this grief, then please send me the book. I long to laugh and dance again without this pain.

  249. Your devotional has given me reassurance and these positive words will stay in my mind. My daughter is suffering with pain in the loss of a friend in an accident that she was with him till paramedics came. I keep reading and rereading your words today. Bless you!

  250. Michelle Smith says:

    Your devotion really hit home with me today. My nephew, at age 23 was killed on a motorcycle accident two years ago and my heart hurts so much seeing his mom and dad. And his sister and brother still grieving as they try to reesemble their lives. No, it will never be complete until they are reunited at home with God but I wish there was so much more that I could say or do. But I know the only thing that I can do is pray. This book may be able to help deal with some of the pain and I would love to have a copy to give to them as they are so precious to us all.

  251. It been 11 years since our daughter 14 1/2 passed away from complications of a surgery due to cancer. It seems we are drawn now to those who are also going through the grief of losing a child and there are so many who could benefit from reading you book.

  252. Stephanie Easterling says:

    Inspired. Proud of you my friend. ☺️

  253. Oh my I LOVE seeing my sweet writing friend Susan’s devotional here today. I am so excited to read her new book and ‘lay my heavy cares at the foot of the cross”.

  254. God gave His one and only son so we may have eternal life. That says it all and how we are loved. God heals our pain and celebrates out joy, but we must allow Him in! There isn’t anything more loving then that. Thank you for your post and the reminder as we may forget. .

  255. Laurie Krause says:

    I have experienced so much grief in my life time. On April 14th I will mark the 1 year anniversary of my husbands death. This past year can best be described as the year I battled a raging storm. I have stuck with our Lord even when I can’t or don’t want to continue on. Occasionally I have begun to see a flicker of sunlight.

  256. Denise Hilterman says:

    For the last two years, I have been grieved by what alcohol has done to our now 40 years of marriage. That drug is not a respector of persons. I think this book would help me focus on Christ instead of the heartache going on here.

  257. The book would be a absolute blessing for my cousin who lost her son 8 months ago.

  258. Jennifer says:

    How timely is this devotion! We lost our baby Matthew in March 31, 2007, and although the pain and grief has lessened over the years, this date never passes without us thinking about that terrible weekend. God blessed us almost 4 years ago to the day with another healthy delightful son, who while not ever replacing his brother,
    has helped heal the wound. Thanks for your openness!

  259. Having lost both my mom and my FIL to cancer and now dealing with family drama created by my dad’s wife, I would love to read this book.

  260. I lost my mom of age 62 unexpectedly in 2014 due to a sudden medical issue. My mom was a foundational part of my life and my children’s life. It has been very difficult and continues to be hard not having her present as part of our lives; I am trying to rest on God amidst this. I would be grateful for this book for myself and to share with my three sisters and my dad.

  261. I lost my brother in January, my MIL in March and my cousin is critically ill. I know that they are with God and one day we will be together again. I have lost both parents and both brothers and I am only 56 years old. I don’t like saying lost because I know where they are, they are with our wonderful Heavenly Father, in his Glorious Kingdom without pain, sorrow or sickness. One day we will all be together again… That is why I hate using the word lost because in reality they are found…
    My sister in law and my MIL were very close (as my Dad and I were)… I would love to have an autographed book for her…. I believ it would help her heal.. Thank you and May God continue to be with you, bless you and give you the creativity to keep this wonderful blog going.

    Sincerely,
    Rachael

  262. Amy Frahm says:

    God’s timing is perfect, and his grace always comes at the exact time we need it! Since my son, Cole, chose to take his life 07/13/2014, I have been working through my agonizing grief, with Jesus. That is why I would love your book, to continue into the next phase of learning and grief work, because it is certainly work. And it is also a choice to become better or remain bitter; this is so very true.

    Thank you for sharing your pain and love – and yes, Jesus ALWAYS has the last word!

  263. I lost my brother suddenly last summer and still grieve yet today. I would, first, read this book and then share it with my mom who misses him more than what I could ever know. I would also share it with his wife and his children and our other siblings. He died too young at age 57 and we all feel his absence.

  264. This was what I needed today. I have been struggling with the loss from a miscarriage along with infertility issues. I sometimes wonder if I will ever be able to look at a pregnant woman and not feel jealous.

  265. Thank for allowing the Light of the Lord shine through your brokeness; for being a living testimony of the Heart of God for the broken hearted. Sharing your words with a dear friend who is in a prolonged season of grief over the loss of her sister, father and mother in the past three years. Praying that it will be a ray of hope in her time of sorrow.

  266. I’ve been a part of Proverbs 31 ministry for sometime and I have to admit there are days that I don’t read the devotional but the title today drew me in. I”m living in grief right now but finding HOPE in Jesus Christ. I’m learning in grief right now and hoping to share that with others, I”m growing in grief right now in hopes of being the VERY THING that God created me to be. I lost my husband about 4 months ago,. It was totally unexpected. He was truly my Knight in Shining Armor. He was my gentle giant. This has been the hardest things i’ve ever had to endure . ( and there has been a lot) I too am writing thru this process and seeking God every step of the way. I want losing HIM to count for something. I’d love to read your book ….

  267. Wendy G Bronson says:

    My husband & I love, care for & watch over our beautiful 84 years young friend Jean. Last year her precious Don went home to Jesus. They married when she was 20. The year before thier oldest son Glen passed. Jean cries often & feels lonely. Her faith in Jesus is strong, but her heart is grieving. I would love to give her this book if I win the give away.

  268. Thank You for sharing the daily devotional. Today’s topic of Grief is a tough one. I have had many losses in my life. I have worked through grief in the loss of a parent, grandparents, relatives and friends. I have also grieved the loss that is related to divorce. I have co facilitated grief support groups at church and yet I find when it is “my grief” it is a difficult road. I have had the privilege of being a hospice volunteer and helping others work through their grief but know that setting healthy boundaries is very important. Thank You for sharing on these very important topics .

  269. Some friends of mine recently lost their child, she went into labor early and they were unable to save him. They are focusing all their anger on God instead of reaching out to Him for healing and comfort. No words seem to help at this time, was hoping this book might speak to their hearts.

  270. Sherri mylander says:

    I am sorry for your loss. What encouraging words you have written. I would like to give a copy of your book to my dear friend Linda who is devastated by the death of her mother.

  271. My dear friend’s boyfriend lost his college age son three years ago. She is childless but a Christian as he is. While many of us have lost parents, friends, or even siblings, the loss of a child is so different. They would like to take their relationship to a deeper level but can’t get past the guilt of “letting go” of the grief. She has prayed, and while she knows God is in charge, is really struggling. I think your book seems perfect.

  272. You captured that feeling of grief in your writing today. Thank you for also writing what it feels like to let go of it. I have a family who has continued to struggle with grief because my husband, a stroke recovery patient, is so limited. I would love to give a copy of this book to my youngest son.

  273. Tomorrow will be one month since my beloved mom passed away. We found out she had breast cancer in late February and she was gone March 1st. I am an only child and my biological father left when I was 3. I am now 52 years old and feel as though I am orphaned. I cannot seem to get past the blinding sadness and the overwhelming feelings of loss. I pray every morning for strength but feeling more and more lost. This book sounds exactly like what I need to read to help me get from grief to grace. Thank you for writing on a topic that touches so many hearts.

  274. Lori Markatos says:

    Thank you for your article. It really hit close to home. I lost my beautiful daughter Kelly at age 22, in Sept 2013, the day of my 25th wedding anniversary. She was in her senior year of college. She was in her victory lap as she called it for school. Classes had only been for one week, when tragically she died. What you wrote about, the events of our children’s friends, are so difficult for me to participate in and enjoy as well. When I was invited to graduation in May of 2014 it was an extremely difficult day, a day full of non stop crying, I simply couldn’t control myself. I was so so sad, that my girl, was not there celebrating her victory of graduation. I too long to have grandchildren, and of my three children, she would have made a marvelous mom – she already nannied for many children and they absolutely adored Kelly. I couldn’t wait for her to be a mom. And a wedding – my girl Kelly so badly wanted a glorious wedding marrying the man of her dreams, who would provide for her and love her like no other. The way I cope, is knowing that there is no better love than the love of Jesus, and with love being what Kelly desired more than anything, God took her and said come to me and I will give you love as you’ve never experienced it. I would like to read your book.

  275. Thank you for this devotion. I am 60, and have been widowed two times in this past 6 years. I felt I would been fine as a single widow for the rest of my stay here on earth. Was not looking for “love” again…. then a wonderful Christian man stepped into my life. I am sure this is God’s handiwork. We are engaged (he’s a widower), and he knows just how I feel. We have a friend that was widowed 2 years ago when his wife of 40 years was tragically killed in a car accident. He is a Christian, but has fallen to so much doubt about God. If I won this book I would definitely give it to him. Thank you for this wonderful article of devotion. Always, IHS, Sherree’ .

  276. Thank you for this beautiful devotional. I also know the loss of a son, whom went to his eternal home 6 yrs ago. At age 33. There is nothing but the complete grace of our Lord that has carried me through this. His mercies are new every morning as we continue each day to pray through our grief.

  277. As I sit in a waiting room anxious to be called for a job interview, I read this story. Suddenly, the overwhelming feelings of rejection, deceit, fear, and grief that I have been experiencing for nearly a year now come to light. At this point I realize that this day can be the day that these feelings can change, I can move forward, I can gain back my self confidence and self worth. Thank you for letting me realize that that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it is the Lord guiding me out of the darkness! Thank you for sharing your story!

  278. Helen Johnson says:

    As I read your devotion, my neighbor came to mind. She just lost her 23 year old son this February unexpectedly. Your devotion has shed some light on what she must be going through and what she needs to focus one. The book sounds like a great gift for anyone who is expeirenceing deep loos and grieving. Thanks for sharing a little of your journey.

  279. Kimberly says:

    I lost my three month old son one week ago. I’d love the strength of this book.

  280. Janet Williams says:

    Our family recently lost my dad after a long battle with dementia. I am at peace with his passing , but my mom is struggling after serving as caregiver 24/7 for almost 9 years. My heart aches for her as she meets the challenges of learning to live her life again.

  281. This is a very timely and perfect morning devotion. We just learned a week ago that my missing brother’s remains were found. Our family has likewise suffered the loss of my father, my grandfather, two surrogate grandparents who took my family in & were extremely close to as well as an “adoptive” uncle. It’s just nice to share with others in knowing that God is mighty and able to provide for our needs in these dark and low valleys in life. But we are meant to be His Light for others as well. He has given me this: “My grace is sufficient for thee.” I am clinging to that because it is only through him can me and my family heal from the heartache we’ve endured these past three years. God bless and heal all these broken hearts and may each one turn to Him – the only One in whom we can receive true healing.

  282. Ginger M. says:

    I lost my Dad a couple of weeks ago. I would love to read this with my Mom.

  283. I would love to give this book to my mom.

  284. Two years ago we lost my father-in-law. He was the glue that held the family together, and it has been hard on everyone since his passing. You are so correct, the little reminders tend to stir up the emotions again. All though it is easier for us kids because we have our families, but my mother-in-law feels all alone. We are there for her, but it isn’t the same. She has lost the love of her life and her best friend. I feel that maybe this book would really help give her some comfort and strength on how to move on from this terrible loss.

  285. Sandy Stone says:

    God’s timing is amazing. Today’s devotion on grief was so helpful. I have a very special friend who has had 2 tragic accidents happen in their family within one week. I will definitely be going to the bookstore this week to get a copy of this book to give to my friend.

  286. Angela Wyatt says:

    A year ago last month my pastor and his wife lost their daughter after a lengthy bout with cancer. She left behind a husband and a two year old son. I would like to give a copy to her mom and dad! God bless you!

  287. My son’s best friend took his own life almost 3 years ago. His parents are believers but have turned away and have become very angry with God. Their marriage is struggling as well. I would love to give them a copy of this book and see how God could use it.

  288. I would enjoy a copy for myself to read and then pass it on. We lost our son 3 years ago this Saturday. We know the pain all too well. During our grief God laid the burger on my heart of “why not him”, instead of all the “why’s” we focused solely on that. Jesus died for us, so why not our son…to reach a lost soul, life is precious, live with a purpose. Thank you for this post today, God’s timing is always perfect!

  289. Carol S. says:

    This devotional was so timely. My husband passed away suddenly just a few weeks ago and left me a widow of 7 children. I have been struggling since then to complete the piles of paperwork and details which come along with such a loss, and to find our new “normal” as a family. I am often gripped by waves of grief and trying to find ways to help us all cope with everything we are facing. Through it all, I know that God is still good and I am grateful my late husband is now in heaven with his Savior.

  290. Debby Gilliam says:

    I would love to be able to pass these words along to my daughter, who is a single mother of two boys. She is buried in grief from the sudden loss of her father and trying to raise her sons without a father figure in their life. The emotional and financial struggles have beaten her down and each day is just a dark void of sadness.

  291. As I read the devotional today I realize how much I still am in grief as I suffer from anger, depression, and frustration lots of the times. I lost my mom at age 15 and even though I’m now 46 I still haven’t deal with grief. I believe God lead me to this site long ago to help me and it surely has. I would read the book and then pass on to my husband (we are currently separated) as he lost his daughter and is grieving also. I see the hurt and pain in him and pray God heals his heart too. Thank you.

  292. Joyce Reed says:

    Thanks for sharing – we are navigating new waters in Sunday School. Our newest Sunday school member, Terry returned to Sunday School for the first time Sunday in over 3 months. She has been with her grown son and his family as he fought and ultimately lost his battle with cancer since before Christmas. Now we will be learning how to be a better friend with her and how to help her move on from grief to grace. I’m sure your book will be a great help. Please pray for us as we navigate these uncharted waters.

  293. Tracy Bockbrader says:

    I know many who could use this book, friends and family members. Thank you for today’s devotion. It hit home today. My cousin and her two daughters were taken from us a few years ago. We are approaching her birthday. It gets a little easier, but the pain never goes away–especially for my aunt.

  294. I have come to realize that grief can be experienced beyond the death of a loved one. It can show up from leaving a job, to ending an unhealthy relationship. I have also realized that if grief is not dealt with, it can cause havoc on one’s life. I am 47 years old. I lost my father when I was 27 years old due to a heart attack. My mother died 4.5 years ago from Parkinson’s disease. Her mother, my grandma, died 6 months later. And to top it off, my mom’s sister committed suicide 9 months ago. I am trying to understand grief and process it instead of stuffing it deep down inside but sometimes the pain is so hard to deal with. And if all that was not enough, I just figured out that my husband is passive aggressive and feel like our marriage has been one big lie. I think this book can really shed a lot of light on how to process grief and give it to God, which I so desperately need to learn to do.

  295. We lost my 36-year old sister almost 7 years ago to lung cancer and I still struggle with anger over how it has affected my family. I question the role of God in her illness and in my life today. I haven’t walked away but sadly, I think the scales could tip in the “why bother” direction at any time.

  296. I know the grief that comes from burying children. Two sons and a daughter are already with Jesus. While my heart has been permanently changed, I am not bitter. I would love to give a copy of this book to my friend who is grieving the more recent loss of her daughter.

  297. I could barely read this one through my tears. My son Kyle would be 9 this April. We lost him in utero to hydrocephalus. The doctor told us our only option was to end the pregnancy. We didn’t know any better or ask any questions. We weren’t believers at the time and this decision haunts me daily. I’ve gone through counseling but nothing seems to heal that hole in my heart. I know I am forgiven, but not sure I can ever really forgive myself.

  298. Elaine Segstro says:

    I would love to read the book and share it with my friend Trudy. I don’t want the devil to have a stronghold in my life. Life can be so hard and has been hard with rebellious children, ageing parents, and other disappointments that weigh us down and rob us of the joy God wants for us.

  299. The day after Christmas we found out my cancer was terminal and my mom was undergoing unexpected emergency surgery at the same time and we lost her. Reeling from my diagnosis and losing mom on top of it was rough. I know God has a plan but it hurts. My heart is breaking for my husband and grown children. I don’t want them to have to go through this. As a wife and mom, I want to fix it but I can’t. I think your book might help them after I am gone. I know God will be with them but oh the ache in my heart.

  300. Pat Crouse says:

    My husband passed away 6 years ago when my daughter had just turned 16. She is still having a hard time with the loss of her dad. She is now almost 22 and can’t seem to get off the ground. I would love for her to be able to read this book. If we can’t win a copy I will definitely purchase one for her.

    Thank you for your daily blessings. So many times it is exactly what I need to hear and I also love sharing them with friends.

    Pat Crouse

  301. I really appreciated your story, Susan. I have a friend whose teenage son was murdered a couple of years ago. I remember, in trying to help her feel less alone in her grief, reminding her that God, too, lost His son to murder. When I read your story, and you drew the same comparison, it quickened my spirit.
    I believe that my friend would benefit from your book “Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace,” and I hope that you may send her an autographed copy.
    You are so right when you say we’re all touched by grief. Thank you, again, for your story.

  302. It’ll be 8 years in August when my dad died, all too soon. That was the beginning of so many other losses. In many ways I’ve changed. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same. Sometimes it feels like the worst is past & then it wells up again – I guess it’s my “thorn in the side”. I would surely love this gift basket, not only for myself but to share with a friend who lost both parents in the space of 10 months! Thank you for sharing.

  303. Patricia says:

    I need healing… I feel like nobody understands me. I’d love to read this book.

  304. Bridgette Kemp says:

    WOW! GOD knew exactly what I needed today when I read this.. the 2-year anniversary of my son’s homegoing, Easter morning 2013! The pain is still there but I celebrate that he, and I, are at peace… thank you for this message, and I thank GOD for always being right on time! …for my angel, my beautiful son RIP Breylan Jermayne “BJ” Smith 020890-033113

  305. Patsy Butler says:

    My son, Jonathon, died at the age of 19, 19 years ago. Yes, time has healed much of the pain. Jesus is very real in my heart and mind. I know I will see Jonathon again in God’s glorious mansion.

  306. Christina says:

    This is my 4th season of grief in my life–I have lost both of my brothers and both parents–Sometimes it is almost impossible to remember that God gets the last word. He wins! Always. This is a good reminder

  307. I am currently leading an infertility support group and I would love a copy of your book to use as a resource for group. Thank you.

  308. Anne Lopinsky says:

    I would enjoy a copy of this book. My birth mother, whom I’d met only once, died three weeks ago leaving me with the responsibility of settling her estate in addition to all the unanswered questions. This has hit me much harder than I would have expected. It’s over. Now I’ll never know. An entire life I wasn’t a part of. Family I never knew. The grandchildren she never knew. I’m angry with her and sad at the same time. It’s a roller coaster of emotions.I’m grieving for someone I didn’t know and who apparently was interested in knowing me. This is crazy.

  309. I am sorry for your loss. I would love to win a copy of your book to give to my brother. He too lost his son and grief has overwhelmed him. He struggles with daily living and enjoying life and your perspective would be a welcome touch.

  310. Sue Gronholz says:

    My friend and coworker lost her son 7 years ago and is still having a difficult time. I would love to share this book with her! Thank you!

  311. shegoesabout says:

    Three weeks ago my youngest son died (23)…..nine months ago my eldest son died at 25….I don’t think I’ve processed it yet. But every moment of every day I remind myself that God is sovereign and that He can bring good out of the tragedy.

  312. Both of my parents died within 6 months of each other 4 years ago. It was so hard losing both of them in such a short time but I also lost my sister and her family. Not through death but through anger that goes along with the grief. It is so hard to understand.

  313. Sweet sister – thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so deeply sorry for the loss of your precious son. I, too, lost a son. My Robert was born still in August of 2008 and it’s left an indelible mark on my soul. I’ve had some very dark days since then and miss my son everyday. But I’m also so thankful for how the Lord has redeemed my loss for His glory, as I’m now a graduate counseling student studying to be a Christian Counselor who specializes in grief, trauma, and crisis. I would love to have your book in my counseling library to share with future clients. Thank you again for taking your grief, loss, and pain and using it to walk alongside others who struggle. God bless!

  314. linda taylor says:

    Your message jumped at me as it reminds me of how many times I try to lay my burdens down at Jesus feet but first thing I know – I’ve picked them up again. You have been through so much more than I – nothing can be worse than losing a child – May God bless you and give you His peace that passeth all understanding. . Thanks for this opportunity.

  315. So many grief stories, they all break my heart. Goes to show you, you NEVER know what someone is going through. My cousin just lost her 20 year old son in a car accident on his way to work. He left behind a wife and twin boys and a newborn baby girl.
    You just never know when that unwelcome phone call will come.

  316. This past Sunday our Pastor did a message entitled “There is always a third day,” referring to the day Christ rose from the grave. Things will always get better, it might be 3 days or 3 months or 3 years, but there is always the day when things will get better! That was such a reminder of hope for me!

  317. Mary Ann says:

    Thank you for reminding us once again that we can leave our grief at the cross and God will make good of it. My loss is heavy, losing my husband, Mom, two brothers and brother-in-law to cancer and Dad to a brain aneurysm. So much loss for my two children, 19 and 15 in a short period of time. Would love to read the book to help guide them in the grief process as well as myself.

  318. Heather Younger says:

    I lost my grandfather at 9:20 last night. He was diagnosed around 2 months ago with lung, liver and bone marrow cancer. He didn’t want to do chemo because he did 1 week of it and it wiped him out almost to his death bed. His immune system was gone and he spent almost a week in the hospital. My prayer this morning as I was taking my fiance to work was, Lord, let something glorious happen in my life through this. Whether I draw closer to you, grow in faith or have understanding about death. Just let something great happen. My grandfather planted a seed in me a long time ago along with my grandmother. It was those kitchen table talks from child hood to adolescence that repeat over and over in my head. He always let me know how God loved me so much that he sent his son to die for me. These things money can’t buy and I’m forever grateful for. I cherish my memories and thank God for placing him in my life. I would definitely want to read this book and also would share it with my Nani. She needs strength right now. Thank you.

  319. Your devotional today really hit home. I would love a copy of you book to help me work through the pain of losing my brother. My best friend lost her dad and is stirring up emotions I thought I had come to terms with. 5.5 years without him has been hard.

  320. My brother passed away from cancer 2014 . Our family are struggling with grief. I read the article and it seemed comforting. Would love to have the book. I think it would help a lot. –

  321. My husband is having a liver biopsy tomorrow. I don’t know what the future will bring, but I pray that my husband in rooted in God’s love and light.

  322. Patricia A Olson says:

    As I watch my niece and nephew and Sister-In-Law walk each day as they lost their Father, Husband and my Brother at age 47, I pray that they can somehow find peace from the suffering and grief they hold on to after 11 years. I so feel they need something more than our forever prayers and support from his family. Perhaps this book would help. As we celebrate Holy Week, the promise and eternal life we are promised is so clear to us, but seems to be sorrow for them. Thank You for your ministry. So sorry for loss as well. Until you meet again!

  323. Katie Pearson says:

    I have a friend whom I believe would greatly benefit from this book. Her 13 year old daughter committed suicide less than two months ago, and yesterday was her daughter’s 14th birthday…or would have been. She secretly saw her daughter the day before she committed suicide, but prior to that, she had been in a very difficult custody battle and had not been able to see her children for two years. She has two other children, a son in high school and a daughter in elementary school. She does have custody of her other daughter, and she says that she is her light, and the only thing that gets her through the day, along with Jesus and her husband. Her son, she has still not been able to see, even with the death of her daughter.
    The father of the young lady who took her life is a hurtful man and has alienated my friend and her entire family. He did not even permit my friend to attend her own daughter’s funeral. She instead had a memorial service. When the obituary was posted online, the stepmother, who promoted such cruelty, was listed as the biological mother and my friend was not even mentioned. Literally hundreds of people left messages to the girl in the guestbook letting her know how much her mother loved and missed her…and the guestbook was subsequently shut down.
    My friend is so hurt, and lost by the death of her child. But she has shown nothing but strength and grace. When she could have been furious with her ex-husband (as I would have been), she has asked people to focus on her daughter, and on remembering her. Yesterday in celebration of her daughter’s birthday she and her family released 14 balloons-for 14 years-so that they would reach her daughter in Heaven. She has held on to the fact even though her daughter’s life was so painful, she is now in Jesus’ arms, looking down on her mommy and smiling.

  324. Renae Arlt says:

    I am going through a very painful unwanted divorce. But my friend, Mary Lynn lost her 19 yr old daughter in a car accident 4 years ago. She is still struggling as a believer, to see the future. She is stuck in her grief and loss. My pain and loss is very great to me. But my friend’s loss is so much deeper. Please choose her to receive this book. I can not begin to imagine the pai of loosing a child. I have a son and I have a daughter with 3 beautiful children. I am so blessed.
    Thank you. This devotion today came on the heels of deep hurt last night and a fresh would early this morning. This devotion was sent from God to help me this morning. I am so very grateful!

  325. Just wanted to add to my post. Today would have been his 21st birthday.

  326. This one spoke to my sad heart this morning. After the loss of a relationship with the man I thought I’d marry, I am currently going through the roller coaster of grieving emotions. It’s been almost 2 months and I’ve gone from being inconsolable to angry to feeling at peace. I thought I’d made my peace with this, but the last few days have threatened to prove me wrong. I’m back to feeling grief and confusion. I know that God is not the author of confusion, but my mind and my heart alike are starving for answers. I have prayed countless prayers begging God to take this hurt away and to just allow me to move on and not notice the small reminders of my failed relationship. I know in time I will rarely take note of the things that seem so glaring to me now. I am clinging to God’s promise of hope and a future; I will have my happy ending and it will be God’s perfect will that leads me there.

  327. Barbara Blyler says:

    I buried a son 10 years ago. Many dreams were crushed. I go to a grief retreat each year
    Hopefuly this book would be a useful tool to help the new mom’s that come . Losing a child is terrible, I wish this on no parent

  328. This blog came at the most perfect time. As of yesterday my father has been gone 13 years. He died when I was 10 and my younger sister and I had to grow up without him. I was always the biggest daddy’s girl. Family members always comment how much I look like him and how proud he would be of me. The hardest part isn’t that we lost him, but that he committed suicide, and because of that we can never know why or if something could’ve been done. In some ways I’m still grieving because it’s such a hard thing to process as there are so many unknowns. I would love to read your new book! I’m always so encouraged by stories of people who have experienced such grief and turned into a story of hope.

  329. I would love to get a copy of this book…going through some really painful situations – my ex-husband is being spiteful with our kids. he has custody of them & when he doesn’t get what he wants from me, he takes it out on me & them by not allowing me to pick them up. :'(
    i need to know how to cope with this, how to know that this is God’s plan, how to know that this will pass…i’m a good person, why do these things happen to me. i never wanted my kids taken away. i’m a good mother… 🙁

  330. I really needed this devotion today. My Dad died two months ago and there are days that have been very difficult for me. I know that Jesus knows my heartache. Also, I am taking care of my Mother, who has Alzheimer’s. I feel that I am grieving because I have lost her in a sense already.
    I am so thankful to Jesus for His love and salvation.
    I would love to have a copy of the book I know that this book would he helpful to me in dealing with the grief I am going through at this moment. In a way, I have lost both of my parents even though my Mother is still living.

  331. I would love to receive a copy of Susan’s book! My personal budget is extremely tight and my family just faced a significant loss in the past month. My grandfather died suddenly and very unexpectedly of a heart attack at 76. My last conversation with him was about him playing softball in light of recent shoulder surgery that didn’t go as planned and making plans for me to come see him. I would love to be able to give this book to my grandma and to pass it around my family. May God bless you for being such a blessing to others!

  332. Susan Elizabeth says:

    Thank you for this. My husband was called Home to Heaven over 4 years ago. I realize reading this I’m not through my grief of my plans… dreams with him.

  333. A woman in my spinning class @ymca her 17 year old daughter committed suicide 3 wks ago. Would like your book for her!!thank you.

  334. Kimberly Ruiz says:

    Sounds like a great book! I would give a copy to my dad

  335. I appreciated this morning’s devotional about grief. It comes in so many forms and can put us at such a vulnerable place for Satan to enter in and further undermine our relationship with God. Remembering that God also lost/gave a son, his only son, for each one of us while we were still sinners does help put things into perspective and knowing that God is faithful to his promises to heal us and restore in his way/timing what we have lost. I would like to give this book to my niece and her husband who lost their 7 wk old son to SIDS last summer or my friend who lost her 45 yr old daughter in a car wreck a couple weeks ago. Her husband is also undergoing treatment for an aggressive mouth/throat cancer.

  336. I am going thru a difficult time trying to accept a situation that can make me bitter or better. Thank you for this devotilonal today that again keeps my focus on going thru the grieving and moving into God’s grace-the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.
    I copied this devotional to remind me of God’s grace whenever I become discouraged.

  337. Nish Embry says:

    Your message had me pull over this morning. I’m struggling almost daily with the loss of my Dad. He was only 56 and died of heart disease almost 2 yrs ago. He was the pillar of strength and the heart of our family. There are 4 of us (siblings) and all married with children and we miss him dearly. The waves of grief have changed so much for me. I go through moments where I feel like it is manageable and then, I just struggle to deal. God is SO faithful and I know he is our healer, but sometimes, I’m overcome with grief in ways that it paralyzes me. My husband is my rock, but I feel like even he feels at a loss for me. Would love to read your book and learn about grief to grace!

  338. What great timing. I’ve watched so many of my friends suffer loss in the last few weeks. Miscarriage , cancer, loss of parents, car accidents it’s been very tramatic for them to say the least. I have wanted to share a good Christian bookl with some of them, I didn’t know which one. This is like an answer from God!

  339. Thank you for sharing your story. If I was chosen I would bless my sister in law with your book. She has just lost her son 12 days ago; there have been services in 2 states, with the final service this past Saturday. It’s been a very difficult journey having to fly back and forth and travel with his body. I cannot imagine the pain you have gone through; but it tears my heart to see the anguish she is going through. Only JESUS can heal! God bless you on your journey. Oh Gloriuos Day, Sunday is coming, Happy Easter!

  340. We also lost our son – he was only 21 years old – 12 years ago. everything you wrote about getting wedding invitations, never having grandchildren from him, etc, was like I was writing those lines. Our faith has brought us closer to God through this horrible loss and we have been able to witness to so many others. God does have plans to prosper us but manybe just not like what we thought.
    I would love a copy of your book to read and then to share with others.
    Blessings to you and your family.

  341. I have a friend that lost her 15 year old son in November, two weeks later her father, and in January her mother passed away. I can’t even imagine what she is going through. She has such an amazing heart and I love her since of humor. Please keep my friend in your prayers she a wonderful woman. I would love to give her copy of your book.

  342. Sarra Hamilton says:

    Thank you Susan for your devotion. My middle child’s birthday is in 18 days and she’s been gone for almost 10yrs. Those 2 verses you included in the devotion, were the ones I clung to and still do. God is good and one day I will be reunited w/my child who struggled for every day she had here on earth, but is safe in His arms.

  343. It has almost been seven years since my husband died of cancer. We had knowledge of it for 7 months. Since that time, my eldest two daughters have married, both of them I grieved over but not knowing why. I understand better after reading your post. I have a granddaughter coming in June. My prayer will now be that I won’t grieve the loss, but rejoice in the gain of this new life God has given me. With this being Holy week, I have pondered many times already about the losses of Mary, Jesus, John, and the rest of the disciples. One never knows what is ahead of us but it is the better choice to make the best of today – no matter – because we DO KNOW God has the greater plans for our lives. Thank you so much for sharing your losses and your griefs. Would love to have your book . . . thank you for the offerings of giving them away.

  344. One of my best friend’s died last month. Throughout his six week decline in health and since his death I have watched and felt the pain and sorrow of my friend/ his wife of 25 years and three beautiful young kids (13,17 and 23). We had a memorial service for him this past weekend and over 250 people attended. It was an amazing display of God’s love. Despite the scriptures shared, prayers lifted up and kind words exchanged, this “tragedy” is going to be felt or a long time. A constant reminder of God’s love and his plan for us is necessary. As Christians we know God has a plan, but sometimes that plan hurts to the core. My friend and her three children are grieving now. Whether I win the book for her or not, please pray that they would be able to get their strength from the Lord, and that with each passing day they would be able to turn their grief to joy.

  345. Gretchen Scoleri says:

    Have had lots of grief in my life/ would love to have a copy of this

  346. Emily Fell says:

    My 2 day old daughter passed away 6 years ago. She had a fatal birth defect.
    It still effects me today. I have two rainbow babies now. But I still miss her!

  347. I have an employee that is grief-stricken due to the loss of a young friend in a terrible car accident. She and her husband are struggling to get past the loss and they need our prayers. Thanks you for today’s devotion – I will be sharing this with her.

  348. Christine says:

    I’d like a copy for my mom and I who lost my brother 14 years ago. We miss him so much and sometimes it’s just like yesterday we got the news.

  349. Terrie Hinojosa says:

    I would give this book to my Mother who’s only son was murdered when he was only 28 years old and just buried a daughter one year ago on Valentine’s Day. I would then borrow the book to read for myself.

  350. Joanie johnson says:

    From grief to grace, that God heals the broken hearted is so potent. Your so right as God watched His own son suffer and die, but He was so lucky to hold Jesus and be with him just a few days later. I only wish this for my sweet sister in law who lost her 18 year old son to drugs last Spring. She so longs to hold and protect him again. To see her, feel her pain and feel so helpless for her still hurts my heart so terribly and it was her son, her sweet child.
    I would love to send your book to my sister in law. I would first take it to our woman’s Wednesday Bible Study and as we lay hands on the book pray that God will reach her inner soul, heal her deep pain, and allow her peace again.
    Thank you for our settle snd for reaching out to the broken hearted.
    God bless~
    Joanie Johnson

  351. I lost a son 14 yrs ago April 6. He was 17 and our oldest. I still have lots of trouble getting thru this. Most days are good. But then the good days have out weighed the bad. Anniversaries are my hardest to get thru. My ex husband has never been supportive to me. He told me it was my fault we lost him. Even tho he took it back, I still live with this each day.

  352. Teeah Grim says:

    I would like a copy of this book to read and share with my husband. Our daughter passed away 4/29/2014. We finally had a daughter and just when I thought I could have everything including her. She was taken. I have to pull back & remain ‘humble’ remembering that all I ‘need’ is Jesus. I wanted her, but I have to want Jesus more. He is truly everything.

  353. Good morning,

    Thank you for writing this devotional. I just loss my senior pastor last August, who was like a father/grandfather to me, my husband loss his job (which was our major source of income) and I am battling with infertility after having 2 surgeries (one this past summer, right before my pastor died). I am a 32 year old pastor’s wife and would love to buy this book, but do not currently have the income. I fight daily to go from grief to grace. Thank you again for this on time message and I am praying for everyone else struggling with tremendous levels of grief I can only imagine.

  354. I lost my mother last month. Yesterday would have been my parents 54th anniversary. I was searching for something to help with the grief my family is going through. Three years ago my brother lost his son at the age of 13 to brain cancer. Not only did the article help me with my grief, it helped me have a glimpse into what my brother is and will be going through. Losing mom was hard, but losing Collins was unimaginable. Thankfully we have the knowledge that mom and Collins are together now and we will all be together again one day.

  355. I would share the book with my Mom who lost my Dad 1 1/2 year ago and recently lost two sisters ten days apart one on March 10th the other on March 20th. May my Mom’s soul find rest in the Lord.
    Every breath is a fresh start!

  356. Wendy Finlan says:

    I would read it for myself then pass it on. Lost my dad 8 years ago to cancer, sometimes it feels like yesterday. I dance with Jesus, he has helped me so much but I have come to realize that there are other ways to loose people. I feel like I’m loosing my mom who I thought dealt with my dad’s death but now with what she is going through I’m thinking maybe not so much. She has lost the ability to be able to read her bible because of dengeration of her eyes and can’t hear very well. I feel like she has lost her connection to God. She said she feels sad and has descended back into alcohol. So I know there is more than one way to loose somebody you love. Thank you for you devotional, it had helped.

  357. Nilda Cotto says:

    I would love to read that book. That is a very good way to ignite the desire to know God, through reading. Many non-Christians are avid readers and this is the opportunity to introduce Him in their lives. Thank you very much for this devotional.

  358. Amy Yoder says:

    My beautiful, full of life, best friend lost her son just before Christmas last year. Four months later my daughter was the victim of a horrific crime. I would love to have the book for both of us to read and grow from.

  359. I just laid to rest a dear friend of mine yesterday. She was 39 years old and died in her sleep las thursday night. She left behind a husband and 2 young children. I know so many members of her family could be blessed by this book.

  360. I would love a copy for my parents. Two years ago my sister was killed in a car accident and life as we knew it changed dramatically. My parents are still walking that tight rope of emotions and questions of why. We all had. A hard time. I worked with her every day, and she was my only sister however eventually I fell back on my faith and god has made my faith in him even stronger and without losing her I don’t know if that would have happened. Unfortunately my parents have not reached that
    Place yet. I would love to give them a copy of this and hope that it will help heal them

  361. Beautiful devotion. I’m forwarding it to my mom now. I would also love a copy of the book for her. In two years time, she’s lost her mom, brother, and son (my brother). She’s also currently taking care of my stepdad in hospice. God’s grace has sustained her but I know this book would be a blessing to her. Thanks for sharing!

  362. I lost my mom last May and today her brother passed away. I needed to hear these words so much as I still miss my Mom very much, though her health was very bad. Depression sometimes overtakes me and I turn to God and ask him to lift me from this pit of darkness that I am in. He answers my prayers and I feel this was a message from him this morning because he knew I needed to be reminded that he is always with me. I want to honor my loved ones with beautiful memories not tears. I know they are with Jesus and that is the best ending of all.

  363. Thank you for your inspiring words. They were definitely spoken in due season! God bless you!
    Susie

  364. Thank you for this devotional. I lost my dad at the beginning of this month & I would love a copy of the book for myself and to pass on to my mom.

  365. Cindie S. says:

    Good Morning! I would love the opportunity to win and read your book! I have lost 19 family members within the past 24 years. One of them was my mother 7 years ago and I think the book would be such a blessing!!

  366. I have empty arms and a shattered heart. My spirit has been shattered. I try. I do. I give it 100% to get better. I pray. I cry. I hide. I worship. I cry again. I hide again. I was so scared of him. I ask God to save us and I still have empty arms and a shattered heart and spirit. Much like you wrote, seeing other peoples chubby cheeks and little feet shatters me again. But the scripture does state He heals the broken hearted. I just have to wait to be healed.

  367. Madonna M says:

    I really appreciated your devotional today about how you’ve worked from “Grief to Grace” as you’ve processed your grief over losing your son seven years ago. Our family, too, is working through our own grief due to the loss of our (almost) seven year old grandson, Eric. He was born with a lot of medical problems, and went home to Jesus in January 2010. I think one of the hardest parts of all of this for myself and my husband as grandparents, is that your own heart is broken and you’re watching your daughter, son-in-law, and other grandson, as well as other family members in so much pain. But, the grace of God is there to carry us through. For that I am eternally grateful. I thought I would write to enter this book give away not just on my behalf, but on my daughter’s. I think your book would be very helpful to her. She is planning on starting a grief group at sometime in the near future. (She is waiting on God for His timing on it), and I think your book would be a great resource for not only my daughter but for those who will be joining the group. Thanks for considering this request. God bless you and the Proverbs 31 Ministry!

  368. My Sister and Brother-in Law lost both of their sons. Their youngest died when he was 9 months old. Their oldest passed away suddenly at the age of 31 on March 27, 2014. . They found him dead in his apartment. My brother-in-law is coping thru alcohol and my sister thru shopping. My heart breaks for them. I have no idea what the pain must be like. This book may be just what they need to help them begin to heal.

    In Christ,
    Karen

  369. My neighbors and very dear friends have three sons. Their middle son, Austin, passed away last year on April 24th in a car accident on his way home from work that morning at the age of 20. Their family spent Easter together just a couple weeks before and made memories that they will cherish for eternity. As this Easter approaches, along with the sad anniversary of his death, the pain my friends feel is very raw. I think this book would come at the right time to hopefully bring some light into their lives and help them look ahead to a brighter future. Thanks so much for your posts!

  370. Mary Williams says:

    This devotional was so touching along with the video that goes along with your book. I have a dear friend who lost her only son and grandchild in a car accident several years ago at the hands of a drunk driver. She is still grieving and hurting, you can see the pain from her heart in her hands. It hurts her to even talk about it, the tears just flow from her eyes. Yet she holds the pain inside and is very with drawn. She love reading inspirational material and this book will touch her heart and I believe will bring about a change in her life. Thank you for writing a book that will help others see God’s hand in grief and for sharing this video. It has touched my heart and I know it will touch others.

  371. Kim Warner says:

    This hits home very hard for me. My husband of over 35 years died 2 weeks and 3 days ago of a massive heart attack. No goodbye no warning just gone in a few short minutes. I was out of town 6 hours away visting our niece who was ill, with my daughter and my husbands sister in law, when we got the call he had been taken to the hospital with chest pains. He was there less than 10 minutes and was gone. He was only 58 years old and I am 55. I am a strong woman of God but my life has been completely shattered. My heart is broken into a million pieces and I’m so sad and devasted that he is gone. I could really use this book to figure out a way to cope with this tragic loss and find a way to live without him. We were so much in love and making plans for his retiretirement so that we could enjoy life more by moving to a lake house and doing some traveling. Now all those dreams are shattered. I feel robbed of my future. People say you can still do it but without him there is no joy in it. He was my one and only Love, my high school sweetheart, my best friend and whole world. We have 3 adult cchildren. One lives 4 hours from me, one lives in Colorsdo, which is 12 hours away, and one lives in Australia. I Have many friend a and my parents So I sm not completely alone, but without him I am empty and lost. GoD is my strength right now and my only hope to make it through this, but honestly I just miss him so much that I still feel completely alone. Going to sleep and waking up without him everyday is the hardest part. It is realising over and over that He is gone and I’m,still here. I have heard every cliche there is. He is in a better place, he is dancing with Jesus, he isn’t suffering any more, you will see him again some day, it will get better in time, find joy in your memories, youre not alone, God will get you through this, everything happens for a reason, and on and on and on. None of that helps right now. The bottom line is I miss him terriby, I’m broken and devasted, I want him back. I will find a way to get through this with God as my strength but for now anything I can find, like this book, will help me learn to cope with losing my soul mate and one true love. Any one who would pray for me and my family would be appreciated very much. My children and grandchildren nneed prayers as well. Thank you first listening
    Brokenhearted
    Kim Warner

  372. I would give the book to a friend whose husband died almost a year ago and it is coming up on his birthday as well. It hurts to know she is hurting so much.

  373. Beverlie Jones says:

    A friend from school is preparing for her daughter’s transition to be with Jesus. I can’t imagine the hurt and pain she is going through and I thought this book might help her along the way. I pray for her and I know God has her and her daughter in His hands, but sometimes we need to hear encouraging words and I think this book may be just what she needs. Thanks for listening and please keep Sherri Finch Merritt in your prayers and her daughter Aja.

  374. Linda Whitcomb says:

    I also lost a son many years ago. He was 3, it was the worst thing I ever went through, but God showed up and thats how I made it.

  375. My friend and coworker lost her beautiful daughter and granddaughter in a horrible car accident November 15, 2014. She is a woman of faith and an inspiration to so many. I would love to give her this book!!!

  376. I would appreciate a copy of the book for myself. I am seeing a therapist and dealing with the loss of my relationship with my daughter–or maybe I should say the daughter that I knew. To make a long story short–my daughter had been living one life with me and leading another life of drugs and living with her boyfriend and more. I was completely blindsided. I am working my way from grief to grace but could use all the help I can get.

  377. Misty Butterfield says:

    I really needed to hear this today. I’ve been dealing with a divorce for a few years. I was really broken and lost and made many bad choices the last few years. I am finally giving it all to God and I am slowly recovering. Thank you for sharing.

  378. Kimberly says:

    oh your devotion today has so hit home to me! I am currently going thru a separation/divorce and have a 3 year old daughter, was married almost 21 years and all I ever wanted was a family of my own, it took us 18 years! I had breast cancer in 2010, turned 40 in March 2011 and had Kalee Dawn in May 2011, she was 11lbs 2.8oz the best blessing I have ever received! she is my joy and my everything & I am devastated going thru a separation because her dad chose to commit adultery on me and abandon us and kick me out and has treated me like a bag of trash and has been extremely hateful to me and has done me real dirty….so they are happy I am struggling with everything! yes, my hopes and dreams are shattered and will never be! But if I give my ALL to God he does have a better plan for me! I am tired of crying, I am tired of grief, I am tired of disappointment, I am tired of feeling like a “nothing” I want better, the BEST for me and my girl;) so please pray for me that I get to that level real soon and believe that there is happiness for me and someone to love me and my girl – I wanna be the best mommy ………love, Kimberly M.

  379. Have you ever noticed there are no resources for grandparent infant loss?

  380. I very recently lost my wife to lung disease. We were married 36 years. She was my best friend and soul mate. I don’t know what I would do without my faith and the support of my church, family and friends. Even still it is so hard to move forward, taking one step at a time, one day at a time. I could use your book to help me continue to follow Gods plan for me.

  381. Thank you for your words! Last night I was reading about the little boy who died in the Boston marathon bombing. I wondered how any parent could live after such an experience, and it started to scare me. Your words remind me not to be scared. God is always with us. I pray that I never go through such a thing, but I also know that God comforts those who do. He wants us to live, not a life of fear, but a life of love!

  382. Lois Bogenschutz says:

    My sister is going through a very difficult time right now in her life. She has started reading Job for inspiration, encouragement and strength. You are so correct we must always remember Jeremiah 29:11- his plans are to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Although my sister did not experience a physical loss of a person or animal, she really has been assaulted by satan with many major things at once. we must keep in mind the tapestry God is making – we only see the back (earthly or fleshly view) – God sees the front, the real picture (Godly view).

  383. Rachel D. says:

    My husband and his sister lost their mother in 2005 & it has been hard for both of them. .would love to have this book. .thank you so much

  384. Merideth says:

    Yes but how do you help someone, a young someone get through that grief, when they believe that God is the bad guy…that He allows those things, that He is the reason we suffer in the first place, not Satan, because He allows Satan to roam around and harm us? How do you explain the cross to someone who blames God because He is the Creator? This young friend quoted Job to me as she was trying to understand her loss and her anger towards God. She wants to believe, but, I’m not sure she is there yet. She wants to know why does God allow the suffering if he can stop it in an instant. My friend is in a very fragile state, and I have tried explaining to her that we only see a piece of the puzzle, but God sees the full picture…she says she still doesn’t understand. Quite frankly, I can relate to her frustration, but I’m not sure how to answer her when the only answer I’ve given myself for YEARS is that God knows more then we do and some things we don’t understand…sometimes we don’t get the answer for a long time. My friend is not a patient person, which makes it harder for her. I just wish I had a better answer then what I have. Thoughts?

  385. Wow. So many people dealing with loss here. This past year has been a year of loss upon loss. In April I lost my mom, in September my only daughter and best friend got married and moved 3 hours away, in November our 16 1/2 year old dog had to be put down, in December my mother-in-law passed away, and now in March we found out we are being moved.(My husband is a United Methodist pastor and we get moved in the itinerant system) I AM JUST SO TIRED FROM ALL THIS LOSS! I would love to have a copy of this book to help me regain some of my joy again. I pray every day, giving this all to The Lord, but sometimes it’s just so hard.

  386. Deacon Mike Murphy says:

    Susan:Thank you for your reflection today on grief. I lead a small Grief Support Group at our church and am always looking for resources to assist in the sharing process. I think the experiences you had and described in your book could be of help to me and our group.
    Peace
    Mike

  387. Brenda Hall says:

    This is so encouraging. While my bitterness is due to a different kind of loss this spoke volumes to me. My loss is so minimal compared to the grief and loss you have experienced and you have managed to find grace in the midst of it. THANK YOU for sharing this. My son had a friend who committed suicide in March of last year at the age of 14. If I were chosen to receive a FREE copy of the book I would give it to one of his parents (they are divorced) and I would purcahse another copy for the other parent.
    GOD BLESS YOU!

  388. Susan Plovic says:
  389. My husband has stage 4 lung cancer that has metastized to his ribs and spine. Although my husband is still with me, I feel that this book may help me navigate through the grief to come. I was blessed by this devotion.

  390. Ann Dillon says:

    Thank you so much for this devotion and for writing the book on a subject with which so many struggle. How do we deal with expectations that are unmet – of course, Jesus is our only hope for comfort. You have written from your pain. May your message reach further than you ever imagined. Blessings!

  391. Bobbi H. says:

    This was PERFECT for me…my daughter was involved in a drowning accident on June 6th, 2014 with 4 of her friends. She was swept over a dam by the current…the 4 boys she was with (1 was her boyfriend) jumped into the swirling water after her. 2 of the 4 boys passed (2 were able to escape uninjured), my daughter survived with an anoxic brain injury and is in a persistent vegetative state, so it is as though I too lost my daughter that day. To all of us parents of these 5 kids, they were all like our own children. We all continue to grieve for our children…the lost and the ones survived. It is difficult to sometimes deal as I lost the daughter I knew that day. I experience the anger, the hurt, everything…and often feels like a knife in my chest seeing the happy kids living their teenage years while I care for my daughter day in and day out. Yet, I AM happy for them…I continue to encourage and be positive for the 2 surviving boys to live life. I have an older daughter also…this has impacted her so severely that I often feel as though I lost her also. She and her sister were best friends..they knew everything about each other…were always together…except that day…I need to find a way to help her back, be happy again…live life in a positive way.

  392. This past year has been hard as we have lost our mom and also our grandma and recently our sister’s boyfriend committed suicide and I would love to share this book with her as she is really struggling.

  393. Emily Jordan says:

    My mom lost her mother almost a year ago now. My Grandma would have turned 100 this March 29th. My mom still struggles with it from time to time and misses her mother. Maybe this book would help her sort through those feelings of loss.

  394. My sister lost her best friend and husband of almost 20 years last January. She is trusting in the Lord but is having a very difficult time living out her daily life without him. Having no children to surround herself with, only work and her pets, she grieves for him daily. She is in a grief support group which is helping immensely, but when I read today’s encouragement, I felt this book could reach her on a different level and help to assuage her pain. My heart breaks for her!

  395. Since losing my nephew to suicide, each family member lost since that time has been excruciating painful for myself and my two young adult children. It’s hard to grasp someone taking their own life and how they must have been in such despair. I hope to win this book so we can share in the healing process as well as the grief we are suffering.

    • We lost my husbands son, my bonus son that we raise to suicide one year this past March. He was just 25 and left a wife and two sons who were. 1 month and 2 1/2 at the time. I am a believer and aim holding close to Jesus. My husband believes, but is not quite where I am and it is causing depression in him. We have gotten involved in the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention by forming a team to walk in the Out of the Darkness walk. They have lots of support resouces. This may help wi your situation. Blessings to you. It is the hardest loss I have ever experienced in my life.

  396. Heather Miller says:

    My father passed away last November. I would give this book to my m8m and I’d read it too.

  397. Barbara Miller says:

    My son Cris died in a car accident 8-16-1992 he was 21. His birthday was 2-20. My husband never got over loosing him and this year Jer (my husband) was having a terrible time. His mother who is 95 and my mother who is 87, both got sick and life was kind of spiraling. I prayed that the good Lord would take them peacefully so be it and asked his will be done. On 2-17-2015 I got a phone call from Denver Health, mu husband was on the way to the Dr’s office and had a massive heart attack and did not survive. That was not the answer to my prayers I had in mind. He died 3 days before my sons birthday. Both mothers recovered and are doing fine. I am still trying to put all of this in prspective. I know the Lord has something in mind for us, but right now it’s hard to figure out.

    Barbara Miller

  398. Velma Moss says:

    I lost my son almost 12 years ago in Iraq. He was on his way home for a R and R visit right before Thanksgiving. So, I am quite familiar with grief. Last thanksgiving, I lost my oldest sister. She had a heart attack and it was sudden. On February 18th, my mother was diagnosised with Stage 4 Cancer. She died on February 28th. I am still dealing with my sister’s death and now I have to deal with my mom’s death. It is hard. I just keep praying for strength to make it through each day.

  399. Laurie kaiser says:

    I lost my daughter September 14, 2014, she was 33 years old.. She left behind 3 children and a family who loves her very much. Every day is a struggle with constant reminders of what we have lost. I read my bible and any book I can get my hands on about Jesus and heaven and try to find comfort in them. Thank you for your words and sharing your experiences with us. God bless you and comfort you.

  400. Thank you for sharing the message of God’s mercy and healing. Through your words and the words of so many who have told of their losses, I was reminded in a very large way that so many of us may look and sound like we are doing ok, but the pain inside is a constant companion. I will share this devotional (and the book) with my family. We have had three family members deaths, two of which were “freak accidents”, in 18 months. Regardless of whether or not we were given time to “prepare” for their deaths, their absence from us on earth continues to hurt. For all of us are grieving, I pray that we will feel the comfort of Jesus today.

  401. cheryl cantilli says:

    I have lost both my parents (only child) but those griefs I was able to handle because I know they are with God. Although I miss them very much. The losses I grief are in a sense not permanent but my granddaughter and her mom moved away and my son fell apart. He is now a drug addict and has nothing to do with the family. I miss him so much and I grief the utter waste of it all. M daughter, her husband , my grandson recently moved to the other side of the country as well. I’m struggling because I feel so alone.

  402. Thank-you for sharing your storing. It is comforting to know we can rise from any situation or any loss with God’s grace. I would love to share this book with a friend who’s husband will have passed away a year ago in April.

  403. I would love to win this book for a dear friend who lost her 2 1/2 yr old boy last year.

  404. Danielle says:

    It’s so hard when going through the grief process to see a way out. There are so many emotions between anger, guilt, unforgiveness, feeling lost. I placed my son up for adoption a year ago. I found a couple who have been trying to get pregnant for awhile to the point it was affecting the wife’s health. I have one child and a single mother, I couldn’t afford another child and give him what he needs. It was the hardest decision of my life. I will never get over it. I have come along way and have turned toward God. It’s a constant struggle. People have told me for my unselfish act God will bless me. It’s heart breaking. I’m very interested in reading your book. Thank you for your insite and helping others through the pain.

  405. Denise Laurence says:

    Thank you. Your message today is timely. I lost my husband suddenly 10 days ago. My prayer warriors pray for my wounds to be healed. I am thankful for His faithfulness as I know that one day soon this season will pass.

  406. Tami Conrac says:

    I would like a free copy of this book to give to my friend. Her husband past away 10 months ago. I feel like this book would help her through her grief. Thank you!

  407. This was on time and needed the encouragement, He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. What a joy that we have such an Awesome God! My Mom was just diagnois with stage 4 lung Cancer, asking for prayers for her Salvation.

  408. Amanda Lawrence says:

    Thank you for this. It could not have come at a better time for my family. My brother and sister-in-law just lost their 16 year old son in a car accident a week ago. I wish there were something more that I could do for them other than simply be there and pray for them. This journey has just started for them, and I would hope that this book may give them some sense of peace in the coming days.

  409. This message I found to be a beautiful reminder to appreciate each day and the love ones we encounter daily. Time is too short here on Earth.

  410. If I won the book I’d use it for my husband and myself. We lost our first child February 1 of this year after only six weeks of knowing that we were pregnant. It was hard seeing the heartbeat one day and knowing the next day we’d lose it. I’ve had that thought before that God lost his son too so He knows what we’re going through. But because the pain is so fresh we’re still really working through the grief. There are days it just consumes me still.

  411. Michelle Fye says:

    This could not have come at a more perfect time for me. My grandmother died in the spring of 2013 and my mother in the fall of 2014. I have never known grief like the loss of my mom. Based on the overwhelming number of comments it is proof of those verses from 1 Peter that we are not in this alone. Grief is universal.

  412. Shannon Crowder says:

    Thank you for this today! It was so much needed. I would givee this book to my sweet Mother who lost her Mother in January. My Granny was a few days shy of turning 99 years old. My Mother took care of her in her home for the last 10 years. My Mom has been having numerous health issues since Granny passed that the doctors say are stress related. She would be greatly encouraged by your book. Thank you!

  413. Thanks for sharing your story with us. That must be really hard…it tore at my heart. The loss of a child has to be the worst pain ever. I still grieve the loss of my mother, who passed away 2 years ago at the age of 86, and that is the natural order of life. Take care and have a Blessed Easter. Hugs and love to everyone who posted on this site.

  414. I just stared at the title of today’s devotional because just a few minutes before I was thinking “how am I going to move past this loss?”. I know the Lord is sending His helpers to minister to me so that I can minister to my husband. We lost my father-in-law one week ago and my husband’s family has just fell apart at the seams. My strong faith has always carried me with not much sway, but I’m crushed. My heart breaks for the loss, my heart breaks for my husband and to watch him be hurt by his family during this time has been unbearable. I’ve always been one that would think depression could just be snapped out of, but my desire to do anything is gone, maybe this is depression? I recognize that satan is reeking havoc on our family and I know that our battle is not with flesh, but my desire to even battle seems to be dull. I know God’s promises are true and I know He is faithful….I just need some strength to hold on to Him. Thank you Lord for loving me right where I am.

  415. My dear friend lost her husband of 19 years after a brief illness. Sbe remains strong. Homeschooling their 2 daughters. It has only been 2 weeks. I would like to share this with her as a means of encouragement.

  416. Lisa Garner says:

    I am a Christian Counselor and lead a grief support group – I would love to read excerpts from this book in each group session to help these sweet ladies deal with their pain. Also, My husband has suffered two painful losses within a few months and even though I help others, I can’t help him. I’m hoping this book will help him. God bless you for your willingness to follow him and help others.

  417. Christine Bowers says:

    This was the perfect devotion this morning that I needed. Back in November I was to be married. A week before the wedding he told me he couldn’t marry me. Things just weren’t adding up. He had been staying with me for a few months till we bought a house. I was living with my parents. He also had cancer. I started going through his things and here he was stealing from me and taking things from me and my kids such as jewelry and mp3 players. Then he stole my moms mothers ring. He stole special jewelry I had for my kids set aside. I went to the pawn shop to see if the had them. They said no but he had been there to pawn other things. He pawned my kids ps3 games, my old cell phones and gift cards that my kids had. I then called the cancer center to see about his next appt. They had no record of him ever being there or him being in there system. He didn’t even have cancer. Here the last 2 years of my life were a lie. The house we were to buy a lie. When I confronted him. He couldn’t even look at me at all. He denied everything. When I grabbed him to look at me I never seen such a mean and cold look my life. I slapped him and he told me to not touch him ever again. My world was torn apart. He never loved me. My 2 years were a total lie. I felt like a total piece of Crap. I wanted to die. My psychiatrist told me he is a sociopath. I will never understand him. It’s been so hard to move on. I had a major trigger at my life group the other week which didn’t help. I suffer from major depression and anxiety. I also had a major prescription drug problem and alcohol problem which has been really touch. I have been sober for a year. But with this I have been taking some pills. To be honest I really just want to end my life. I got laid off from my job over two years ago. Lost my apartment. Would have been homeless if my parents wouldn’t have taken me in. My children deserve a better mom than me. everyone always says things will get better but they don’t. The hurt just never goes away.

  418. I would like to have the book for myself and my Mom. I have my own battles that I deal with from abuse and now my Mom has been diagnosed with cancer.

  419. Nancy Barlass says:

    I lost my mom just over 2 years ago and still need to complete the grieving process. A sweet friend lost his dad only days ago. I needed this post. I need to read this book.

  420. Thanks for your devotion today, I lost my dad, my father and mother in law in the last 28 months, I struggle everyday with these losses and I feel your book would be helpful for me. Thank you and God Bless you.

  421. Robin Tooman says:

    Lost my husband, Todd, to cancer on August 3, 2014. He was stage 4 metastatic when diagnosed, so he lasted less than 6 months and died in hospice care at home. Our dog had to be put down and my 22 year old daughter lost her job that same week. My church has been a blessing & helped me in many ways but I find it so, so hard to attend services. Todd was a youth leader and so visible in our church community that he touched many lives in many ways. A couple weeks ago, my beloved 96 year old Uncle Bob passed away. I didn’t have a father and he was everything to me, always my advocate. I needed one. I exist today because he convinced my mother not to abort me. I cared for him diligently as he aged and was with him when he died. Today’s devotional speaks to many situations I have encountered through these trials. So much loss… I am having a hard time with faith in general. Thanks for listening. Peace.

  422. Jeanette Beck says:

    I am dealing with the loss of my mother on January 23, 2015. I had been her caregiver for 51 years because I lost my father at 18 year old. This has really been hard dealing with. I miss her so much but I know she is in a better place. I try everyday to lay my thoughts at his feet but it has been one of the hardest things I have been through. I keep reading my devotions and scripture to help me through. I pray every day that God will give me grace to handle this.

  423. I would love your book on grief for that is my trial and heart ache right now. Within a short time I have lost 5 relatives and 3 of them mane women in my life I conversed with weekly the silence of communication and fellowship brings the sting of sorrow more acute to me. I lost my mom 2013 cancer, my mother in law just before Christmas along with great aunt and uncle and my grandma on January 8 th f this year. My heart is overwhelmed at times with sense of grief and loss. I have peace they are in heaven but pain of loss of presence here on earth with loving conversation and prayer we would share together.

  424. I just lost my mom 16 days ago, Mar.14th. I have been wanting a book to read to help deal with this, other then scripture of course. This email is perfect timing.
    So sorry for everyone’s loss, at least we are not alone.

  425. Your message resonated with my soul today. I delivered a stillborn on January 6, 2015. He was due in two weeks. My husband and I were devastated. We ask God to give us a son and he did only to take him away. We don’t understand why this happen. We’re trusting and believing that God makes no mistakes. It’s because of his grace and mercy that I didn’t lose my mind. I’m coping daily with the lost of our son. God is giving me guidance and peace through this ordeal. We ask that you pray for us. In Jesus name Amen.

    • Felicia,
      I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Our son was also born still exactly a month later than you on February 6th. We were 4 weeks from our due date. It is so incredibly hard to understand and I don’t think we ever will until we are reunited with our precious sons someday. What a reunion that will be! I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I will pray for you and your family and would appreciate you doing the same for mine.

  426. Thank you for sharing. I would really like to give a friend a copy of your book. She is struggling with the loss of her child. I actually have two friends who are. I can’t imagine their pain but I know God knows.

  427. Thank you for sharing Susan. I have a sister who is grieving many things. This post has already been forwarded to her and I’ll suggest your book. Hers is not my story to tell but I ache for her and pray for her to find peace.

  428. I love getting the daily devotions from P31. Today’s message was expecially touching. The Father of my children lost his mother 3 years ago and his Father almost 3 months ago, now we are going through a divorce. We, and the kids, are coping as best we can; but all of this is hard on all of us, especially Paul! I love him and care about his health and well-being, but we both know we are not good together! I hope to be able to win a copy of the Grief to Grace book to read and share with Paul and the kids.
    Prayers appreciated!!

  429. Really thanks for your heart! Thanks for expose your soul to us!! You are stronger and warrior woman in Crist. I will love read your book, im from dominican republic, God is bring into being a dancer to express his heart to every one. And i think i need to read you!! To express joy, peace, love…..
    God bless you!

  430. Kathy Branson says:

    I would love a copy of this book for my husband and I. In oct of 2013 my daughter went missing and was murdered. In April 2014 his mother had a massive stroke and died in sep from complications. In March if 2015 we had to put my husbands dog to sleep. It’s been slot and it would really be nice to learn how to turn grief into grace.

  431. After 12 years of a disconnection with my lifelong best friend, I started to pray that God would
    reconnect us. Then 2 months later while standing in the foyer of our church, someone come from behind and put their arms around me, yes it was my friend. God answered my prayers. We had no idea that when I began to pray for her and our relationship that she also had started attending our church. I learned she was battling cancer. We spent the next 18 months together growing and sharing our love for the Lord. I will cherish this time God gave us together because she passed away last month. Last night, on the way home I called another friend and sobbed asking will it ever get easier? I miss her so much! Just like God always does I received your blog today, it was just what I needed. I thank God for giving you these words to share.

  432. This devotion made me think of a friend and co-worker that lost her only son on January 13th of this year! I’m praying that your book will be a tool that can help her to move from her grief to grace. Thank you for your devotion!

  433. This message couldn’t have come at a better time ! My husband passed away from cancer Oct. 30 . 5 months ago yesterday. Couldn’t sleep last night. Miss him so much!! One minute I’m asking God why why did You take him from me, then asking for His forgiveness.
    This message was my reality check. Thank you.

  434. I so needed to hear this message today. I was literally driving to work today talking to one of my best friends and I said, “I don’t want to be bitter, but I am.” We found out 8 weeks ago this Thursday that our baby’s heart had stopped beating. We were four weeks from our anticipated due date. It was in that terrifying moment that we found out we had a little boy. A little boy that would foever change our lives. I have really been struggling why he was taken from us. I am trying to come to the realization that we will never understand why our perfectly healthy baby isn’t here with us right now. All we are asking God for is peace. Peace to get through each second of the day. We no longer live for tomorow, we live to get by each second. Our journey to become parents has never been easy one. We had two miscarriages prior to being blessed with our daughter and now this. I don’t want to become bitter, I want to become better. I have pep talks with myself each and every morning when I get out of bed. I know that God has given us the strength to literally get out of bed each day. I often say, “This can either break me or this can better me.” I choose losing him to better me as craxy as that sounds. I so needed to read this today. God put this message in my path today. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. No parent should ever have to lose their child. But as you said, how great is it that we have a God that knows what it is like to lose his only Son as well. I would love the opportunity to read this book on this new journey we have been led to.

  435. Marcia Lowry says:

    Susan,
    Thank you for sharing this devotion with me today. I lost my precious younger sister, Susan, 12 years ago this past February so I understand. It was difficult for me and there are days it still feels like it just happened. I was with Susan at her death from lung cancer which was very painful to watch. Your devotion touched me today during this Holy Week. Thank you for sharing this incredible loss but for telling me that we have a Hope in Christ.
    Blessings on your day,
    Marcia

  436. I would share this book with my neighbor whose husband passed away almost a year ago.

  437. Gail Buckenara says:

    A lovely Christian couple at the church I attend just lost their beloved sister and sister-in-law to cancer just this past Sunday. Thoguh their faith is strong, their grief is still very raw. To keep a bedside vigil and watch a loved one ppass away in front of your very eyes I can only imagine the helplessness they would feel. Though they both know of God’s great and comforting love it can sometimes seem a little distant at times like this even for the strongest Christian in their daily walk. Funeral preparations, helping other family members to grieve. All those first anniversaries to come and special family celebrations where one member won’t be there.
    I would love to give this gook to them to help them through this time.

  438. At 24 weeks…our granddaughter, Kendalynn, was born into the arms of Jesus on March 5th, 2015. It has been such intense grief for all of us, but especially my daughter-in-law and son. I think this book would be a blessing to them.

  439. Dianne Witham says:

    I was my brothers caregiver for 13 years and he passed away on January 3 2015. I lost my mom q months ago. My sister has emphysema and 33% lung capacity. I married a year ago and when my brother passed I moved 8 hours away from my sister and son . I am devastating at all the loss of so much. I feel guilty for leaving my sister and so far my husband hasn’t agreed to let her come live with us. I cry all the time. I feel guilty because I’m not the woman he married. I had no idea I would be this devasted

  440. Carol Wotring says:

    My sister-in-law is in need of a book such as this. Since my father-in-law died, she has lost her job due to health issues, her house is in foreclosure and she has no money. She is in deep depression and cannot seem to pull herself up from the depths. We have tried to help her as best we can, but she needs spiritual help! I don’t think anything else will work. We are going through some traumatic times ourselves and sometimes it is too much. Thank you for reaching out through your , pain and sorrow and ministering in this way. God bless you!

  441. Pat Rueter says:

    This devotion was just what I needed! We lost my 28-year-old grandson, Austin, to suicide November 2, 2014. As you can imagine, we are devastated. If I am awarded a copy of this book I will give it to my son and daughter in law, who are struggling. Thank you so much!

  442. I am struggling with bitterness and grief. My husband and I tried so hard to have a baby but were never successful. And now I have lost my precious husband.. I feel so alone. I am having trouble finding joy in the midst of my loneliness.

  443. I would love to win a copy for a friend, I too have been through a divorce and the depth of despair of losing a life time of dreams and hopes. But now I see this family’s divorce being drastically harder and longer (its been on going for over a year)and its weighing heavily on them all, I can’t help wanting to reach out and find a way to help.

  444. Martha Ybarra says:

    My older sisters passed away in 2013 and my Dad in 2014. My mother is having a very hard time. I found her crying alone sometimes. She stays in her room all the time except for Sundays when we go to church. We, try to help her the best we can. We have to force her to go out to dinner or go shopping. My mother is a spiritual woman but she seem to lose her way after my sister passed and then my Dad. I think this book would make her see their is life after death and it’s okay to go on living.

  445. Kristin Perkins says:

    My family and I lost my brother June 27th,2009 to what we believe or have wanted to believe was a gun accident. However, the coroners and sheriff’s ruled it as a suicide. The loss of my brother has been very difficult to accept but the loss of my brother due to suicide has been even harder to accept. As I write this I still can feel the pain of loosing Him. This June will be 6 years since he’s been gone. I have gotten married and have had two children. My sister has gotten married and has two children. My cousins are all getting engaged or getting ready to have babies. My brother’s girlfriend is now engaged and going to be married. It has been very difficult for us all to accept the loss of my brother and move on with life. However, It has been even worse for my mom loosing her son. I know loosing a brother was very painful for me but I don’t know what it’s like to loose a child. I never want to know what it’s like. I have seen my mom go through so much pain and heartache from the loss of her son. My mom didn’t just loose her son though. Prior to loosing her son in 2007-2008 my mom became very ill and was diagnosed incorrectly with progressive MS and lost all movement of both of her legs because of the misdiagnosis. My mother was then later diagnosed with a rare disease called Arteriovenous malformation fistula and they told her she may never walk again. Today is March 31st 2015 and she’s still wheel chair bound. My mom has given up on physical therapy where she was walking with a walker. My mom is a very positive and strong woman! However, she has endured a lot of pain and I desire to see her well again. I want to see her walking and GRIEF FREE!!!!! My mom and sister both accepted the Lord prior to my brothers death and my sister actually heard the voice of God tell her my mom would be healed (not wheelchair bound) during a church service prior to my brother passing. However, grief HIT my family and I hard after my brother passed. My walk with Christ hasn’t been the best and my mom/sister just walked away. In about 3 months it will be 6 years since my brother has passed and we still don’t have a tombstone on his grave. My mom can’t get herself to do it. I’m ready for this dark season to pass and I feel like for me it’s coming. However, I want my sister and mom to be with me! I want them to experience his AMAZING GRACE & LOVE AGAIN!!!! PLEASE CONSIDER GIVING MY FAMILY A BOOK—WE NEED IT!!!

  446. Diane Richardson says:

    I would like very much to read this book. My son was in a car accident, has spent thirty five days in I.C.U. and can not get started on his needed physical therapy because of a high tempature. We need the Grace and Hope only God can give.

  447. Delores McPherson says:

    I would love to share this book with my friend who recently loss her husband of 44 years. He fell and broke his shoulder. The x-rays exposed stage 4 lung cancer and within a couple of months, he was gone. Just days before he passed his oncologist told them he was improving and they would resume chemo and radiation soon. No time to prepare, total shock. She is dealing reasonably well but I think this book would definitely help her immensely.

  448. Violet Morales says:

    I’m replying because I’d like to give the book, if won, to my younger sister, Angela Armstrong, whose husband, Howard, died of a massive heart attack unexpectedly on Christmas Eve just 3 months ago. Thank you.

  449. Shirley Randle says:

    WOW!…I so enjoyed your devotional I was go enter contest but there are others that need it more than me. My son was murdered 5 years ago..on my way to the hospital I angrily said “LORD!..you brought this to me you go have to carry me through it!!….He has..HE ALWAYS KEEP HIS PROMISES…I pray that all on here will seek HIM!!…TRUST IN HIM!!..I promise you if you have as close a relationship with GOD as you did with whomever/whatever died in your life you can survive DEATH OF ANYTHING…..JESUS already won the VICTORY!!…you just have to want to accept that as truth and live like you’ve won…IT’S ALL ABOUT JESUS..you haven’t lost anything…YOU GAINED!!!..

  450. My friend’s two daughters were diagnosed with a serious chronic heart disease. The 15 year old died in Nov after an unsuccessful heart transplant. The 13 year old has already had two heart transplants, and is now in her last days, as the doctors have nothing else to offer. My friend has been the constant support as a single mother, and this is so devastating to her. I would certainly give her the book and buy extra copies for others I know.

  451. Your blog post hit home today. I lost my mom to ovarian cancer 2 years ago this month, then 7 months later, my dad died from a blood clot and, I’m fully convinced, grief. I was entrusted to handling the estate and many, many tough decisions. I thought I was working through my grief well. But, life happens and things change and suddenly I’m an uncompassionate person to other things that are happening around me. The verses from I Peter were a great reminder to me to stay alert and know that things just don’t only happen to me. Thank you for your words reminding me that Sunday is indeed coming, oh glorious DAY! He is in charge and if I let Him, I will be on my feet for good and yes, He does have the last word! Have a blessed day.

  452. There are so many grieving responses on this link. Your book and Gods timing of it will be healing to so many. Praise God. My son died at 13 three years ago and my only brother last year. Loss is so painful. I miss them daily and do wonder when the tears will stop for me and our other 6 teenagers. Saying time will heal doesn’t seem very effective. It would be very nice to read how the Lord is healing you. Thank you for the opportunity.

  453. My friend’s husband of 35 years passed away almost a month ago from ALS at age 54. He was diagnosed 3 years ago and she has been his wife, friend and caregiver. She feels lost right now but she has faith that with time she will not hurt as much as she hurts now. Time heals all wounds and I continually pray for her to move from grief to grace.

  454. This was exactly what I needed today – thank you so much!

  455. Hertha Larson says:

    My 18 year old niece passed away from a car accident 3 weeks ago. An old friend I grew up with sent me this and I am so grateful. It couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you!

  456. Kristen Jackson says:

    This post came at the perfect time for me. I so needed it as I continue to walk through grieving great loss. Several things you said were exact words the Lord has already given me, so reading your post was confirmation. The passage in 1 Peter 5 is a promise God gave me several years ago during an incredibly difficult season of my life. I appreciate your words so much. I would love to read your book.

  457. Angelique Bland says:

    I truly needed to read this today and I’m ready for the MORE which God has promised to all of us (His believers).

    (((HUGS)))

  458. I lost my daughter on December 23 2014, she battled cancer and the Lord took her home at the and of 17. It has been hard for me not to have her with me and today’s devotional had hit right at home with how I am feeling, everything is still fresh in my mind. I would love to have this book, my faith in the Lord is still strong, but the enemy tries to come against me and steal my joy. To know that I am not alone in this walk helps me with my everyday feelings of her being gone, that what I feel isn’t wrong, that the bitterness, anger, frustration and all those other feelings are normal during times of grief, but remembering that God knows my pain and every tear that falls from my eyes, he gave his only son, so he knows.

  459. This devotional today really touched me, as my dad past away in dec 2012, and there are dreams and hopes that I’ve been waiting for. But I would want to give this book to a lady in our church who has gone through 2 losses in 2 years; her daughter, and her sister. I believe this book could really help her.

  460. Thank you for sharing your story. Things have happened and I’ve gone from sad, bitter, angry to accepting. I feel numb to some situations and have no emotions about it and others I can feel as they happen, joy, sadness and happy. If God brings us to it, he will help us through it–that is so true and I believe it. I’m in a situation where I feel like I have no control over it at all–and I don’t even know when or how it will end. I think all we can do is get up every day, be grateful for the time we have and the people we have in our lives because you never know what each day will bring. That’s just me!

  461. This was just what I need to read today! Thank you so much for writing these words and choosing the exact verses I needed to read. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that it’s exactly what I needed.

  462. I’ve lost so many people in my life. My mom, dad grandparents, but the worst was my son last year. I can go for days and be fine and then out of nowhere I’m back to the beginning. I hate what my life has become.

  463. Sonjia Kerr says:

    Interesting that I should read this just after returning from the cemetery. I had gone to look at the headstone placed on the grave of our precious grandson. He was still born on Jan 22 of this year. We are people of strong faith, but this is a very difficult circumstance to reconcile with the Truth. God has been so faithful and one day we hope to find joy instead of tears. Thank you for the reminder and encouragement.

  464. Unexpectedly lost my 5 year old daughter 4 months ago. Miss my Jackie….

  465. Heidi Morrow says:

    My husband and I have walked a difficult road of infertility for 9 years, and have been grieving that we will never have the chance to have biological children. It has been a hard dream to let go of and to understand what God’s purpose is for us. We have seen glimpses of His grace and goodness along the journey, and for that we are so thankful.
    I am also a caregiver for a friend with a terminAL illness. As her time on earth draws to an end, I struggle to know how I will be able to deal with losing her and how to be an encouragement to her family. Your book sounds like a wonderful resource. Thank you for your ministry. It is evident that Your personal pain has not been wasted, but that God is using that to bless so many others.

  466. Angela Black says:

    If I won I would give the book to my sister. May 2nd will be four years since her husband committed suicide. This happened a day after celebrating their seventh anniversary. That following March she lost her dad to cancer. She has had to deal with so much. She has also been diagnosed with a rare thyroid cancer and she has had brain surgery to remove a an aneurysm. She is one of the strongest women I know but she still feels weak sometimes. This book would help her so much.

  467. Dianne Studebaker says:

    My brother-in-law lost his wife of 25 years in January. I would love to read and provide him with a copy of your book to help him know that he is not alone in this journey of grief. Thank you for taking on this ever-present and ever-painful subject.

  468. Would love to read and share your book with family members who need to know what grace is. God Bless and best wishes for your famly.

  469. I am currently working through the loss of my children’s father. He passed March 18th 2014. He turned 39 on the 26th of February then had a heart attack 3 weeks later. My. daughters whom are now 12 and 11 have been still taking hard. He actually died right in front of my 12 year old as she was getting ready for school! To this day she still feels as if she didn’t do enough to save him! She ran and got her g-mother. When that didn’t help she ran and got her g-father. As he was performing CPR and that wasn’t working she call 911. She was 11 at the time. I do my best to let her know that she truly did all she could have done and more than the average 11year old would even know what to do in a panic situation. My youngest daughter is struggling also with the fact that she feels like she doesn’t have that closure because she didn’t have time to say he last words, and that he won’t get to see her graduate high school, college, walk her down the isle, etc. I would love to be able to have the opportunity to acquire a copy of the book but unfortunantly cannot afford to buy it. Please take us into consideration in the give away? For I’m will to do whatever it takes to restore my daughters happiness. They are my world and until God calls me home i will continue to give them my all. Thank you so much for your testimony! God’s glory is what we live for and our lives are about guiding others to God’s kingdom! Your testimony has reached out to so many.

  470. Patty Thel says:

    Wow,it is so amazing as I scroll thru the comments……So many hurting people and so many souls needing help. As I opened this devotion this morning, I just was amazed as a always am about God’s timing. Last night at Life Group one of our group asked us to pray for his friend . The man’s 22 year old son had died not too long ago and the grief is just incapacitated him. He has three other sons but can’t see thru the fog to be there for them or let them help him. I just want you to know that I am printing your devotion and will get it passed along to him. I will look for your book please help one of these other hurting people with the free copy. God has truly given you the ability to help others thru your pain and your son lives on! Thank you!

  471. This post could not of come at a better time! Two years ago; I lost my Dad in a motorcycle accident, so when I read the title of this message, I opened my email right away!!! Little did I know; this message was geared towards the bitterness of plans gone wrong with my sons father. I thought I finally reached the “healing” part of all the hurt he caused when he left his family for another woman then married her. I often get tied up in the “‘me, myself and I” look at life that I forget God has gone through the exact same hurts as you mentioned. Because of this post, I can freely admit I am still wounded my by ex and its carried into my son and I’s relationship. I lay it down at the cross TODAY!

  472. Holly Miller says:

    We experienced 2 deaths before the Holidays in 2014 in one week. We were attending the funeral and life celebration of a best friend in Indiana, who died suddenly in an accident at work. We just got back from the dinner and then got word that our daughter was killed in a shooting accident in St. Louis. Double shock!! Would love to have this book and share it with others. Thank you!!

  473. Wow The Lord has blessed me today with this devotion. I lost my Dad in December, he was my best friend. I don’t know how to go on most days, but then I get a message like this one and I know who is in control. Thank you Jesus

  474. Shawnette Kirkwood says:

    I so desperately want the book. I’m going through a grieving time right now within my marriage and I want it restored so badly.

  475. Susan, thank you for sharing your story. God bless you and your family.

  476. Angie Thompson says:

    Todays devotion was just what I needed. I would so love to read the book.
    Thanks for listening to God and posting what we need hear just when we need it.

  477. I have not experienced the loss of a close loved one but have been through divorce, my daughter being molested, rebellious teens & now my husband lost his job 8 months ago. I’m slowly working my way from grief to Grace.

  478. I became pregnant after three surgeries because of endometriosis with the help of in vitro fertilization. We lost our baby when I was in the 10th week. I am very thankful for you Susan to realize that even after such loss as yours there is hope for being better. I still believe God has plans for me as a mother! I pray for every Mom and Mom-to-be!

  479. I lost my 19 month old daughter 10 months ago. It is a daily struggle to give myself grace. While you say that God lost his only son, I always think that He knew that he would rise again. God doesn’t have to live a life time without His child. I would love a copy of the book.

  480. Rebecca Seitz says:

    I have put out the Easter decorations and look to a long time favorite contemporary gospel song that plays so dear to my heart, and this time of year especially! Nichole Nordeman’s “Why” from her This Mystery album. An Easter Special for sure, and I also think it helps during times of grief and growth in the realization of God’s Grace. I would love to see a copy of Dance with Jesus, From Grief to Grace given to a dear friend Carolyn Horstmeier, who lost her daughter to a tragic accident about five years ago. Every year she and her other children honor “Ashley” by putting on a children’s event in the small town where the family lives. There is always a donation to some children’s programming by the family. I know Carolyn is a Christian and like most of us her faith wanes when life gets tough. I believe this book will help her continue her path and give her more strength to carry on in Christ’s love.

  481. Paula Smith says:

    I just lost my best friend of 28 years! We have been through everything in our adult lives together including helping raise each others kids! These words today are very comforting in that I love that He has the last word! But I also am cautioned by the fact that we can’t let our guard down! I and my family are grieving but I am more concerned about her husband of 26 years and her daughters. Her oldest lost her biological father to pancreatic cancer less than a year before her mom was diagnosed with the same horrible disease! I really want to give a copy of this book to her! She has been through a lot and now she is taking on the responsibility of the adult sister who has had brain tumors and now has seizures and cannot live on her own at this time. Dad is a truck driver. I feel as though she is in the position to be a great influence to her step dad, sister, and her own two young children who are also greaving for their grandmother! She needs this!

  482. Meri Rosser says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement, and I look forward to reading your book. I lost my only child in August of 2010 and will never forget that phone call. My life changed that day forever! Looking back, I can see that God was preparing me for this loss. At that time, I had moved to a new location, didn’t know anybody, but had found a great church and became a member a month before Benjamin’s passing. If it hadn’t been for God and my church family, I never would have made it through. God knew the storm I was going to go through, he prepared me for it, and to this day, he carries me through. God Bless you and your ministry.

  483. Leshia Wisener says:

    I just read From Grief to Grace and it really hits home and apparently it has touched so many others. It has just been the 3rd anniversary of my children’s dad’s death. He was killed tragically in an auto accident. This has been the most devastating event in our family’s lives. We were married 20 yrs. and even though we were divorced, he was the love of my life. I would love to read this myself, let my children read it and also their grandmother ( his mom). Thank you very much for your message and for giving us a chance to get a copy of your book. Love in Christ.

  484. Last year, I lost my father-in-law, my ex-husband and mother in a total of three months. But my children (who are grown now) are having a difficult time. Especially my son who blames God. Ron is his name and my daughter shares a lot of God’s healing words with him. He won’t listen to me. So I just pray for him. It woul be nice to get a copy so that we can share it with each other, and others through this difficult
    Time.
    God bless you.

  485. Thank you for this article. I shared it with a family member who lost her 10-year old son almost one year ago. She stated that she has felt bitter ever since and expressed interest in your book. I ordered the book for her and told her it was on its way to her. She said that she had just visited Barnes and Nobles looking for a book on grief and she couldn’t find anything and she felt your article/book is confirmation why she didn’t find anything that day! I pray Gods’ healing power for all those that are mourning the lost of a love one. For all those who mourn will be comforted! Precious Holy Spirit, please comfort them like only you can!!!
    Blessings,
    RT

  486. I have a dear friend that lost her husband this past summer. I feel she could benefit greatly from reading the book. Thank you for always sharing the word of God with us!

  487. Anne Marie Murray says:

    This devotional was shared by a friend who is sharing her grief over the loss of a dear mutual friend of ours. This applies to all of us who are grieving for our friend but especially for her husband Bob, who not only lives without his wife who passed away on Feb 28th, 2015 but also is grieving for his forever 28 yr old daughter who also passed away on Aug 10, 2014. It seems unbearable to imagine facing each day with out our loved ones but fortunately Bob knows and loves the Lord and knows that he has plans for him. I think he would benefit from the reminder of that through reading your book. God bless you for sharing your story in the hopes of lifting others up.

  488. I would give this book to my 14 year-old grandson who called me last night, heart-broken because his dear friend, Pastor Rick, passed away from a massive heart attack. Pastor Rick was like an uncle to him. He and his mom, dad and sisters have pulled up roots and moved to Michigan just last October. Pastor Rick and his family have made them all feel welcome, taken them under their wings and helped them to cope with a new culture, new surroundings. They were all six born and raised in South Georgia and moving to Michigan was a great change. He felt overwhelmed when he learned his mentor had died. We talked for a long time and I believe he is dealing with it much better but this book would be of even greater help.

  489. Terri Miller says:

    I want better, not bitter.

  490. I needed the Encouragement you have provided. My daughter lost her husband in the fall in a tragic accident. And I have a friend who is now walking through the last days with her youngest child, loss is inevitable however, the way we handle it either makes us better or makes us bitter……always ready to learn more about the former. Thank you

  491. I lost my mother 10 years ago and I’ve used that experience to mentor others who have experienced loss. In the midst of my grief, I found such comfort in the Scriptures and through the mentoring of others who had dealt with loss from a Christian perspective. A young lady in our church recently lost her mother to cancer and I would like to share this book with her to strengthen her faith and hope.

  492. Anyka Harris says:

    This book would help 4 of my siblings. 2 of my brothers and 2 of my sisters have lost a child. 2 was tragic shootings, 1 suicide and the other sickness. I would share this book with each of them. If we lived in the same city I would make it a weekly reading night. So we could read it together and help console one another. May God continue to bless you and keep you as He uses you to share your loss and joy of what He’s done in your life through this situation. God bless you!!!! Have a blessed day!!!

  493. karen carrier says:

    Praying for healing. Divorce mom’s passing breast tumor bought a home. Lost my job met a man. Liked each other then he just plain stops calling. Heartbroken. Daughter needs Christ. She’s a mess idk. Life. Been a Christian received 2nd gift holy spirit last March. Closer to the Lord than I’ve ever been. Just can’t seem to get past the lonliness in my heart. Karen

  494. My father recently lost his wife of 28 years. I would live to share this book with him

  495. I plan to share this book with my neighbor. She lost her special needs daughter at age 12. She just told me over the weekend that she just feels empty. I think this book would help her work through this difficult time.

  496. This sounds like just the book for me, I have been grieving a cherished friendship and I feel like I’m not quite sure how to move on, besides daily giving it over to God.

  497. We lost our 5 year old nephew last year Easter weekend! It is such a hard time for my brother and sister in law. I would love to give them this book to help begin the healing process

  498. Thank you so much for today’s devotional. I have been grieving the loss of my grand baby the past few weeks. Your reminder, God Knows. And the verse from Peter, do not be caught sleeping. I have been very lazy with my Bible, God, Me, prayer time lately. I allowed myself to be under attack and have not been equipped to fight them. I am again. Christ Loves me and supports me and heals me. Thank You.

  499. Thank you for sharing your loss. My sister lost her daughter in a car accident February 25, 2008, the day before my Mother’s birthday. 4 kids, and she alone perished, the others walked away. My sister has not recovered; my mom never recovered. Bitterness and loneliness has been heavy in their hearts since then. Our mother passed away on the same day, 5 years later; February 25, 2013. I believe that was God’s gift to my sister and to my mom, that they would reunite that very day and that it would bring peace to my family, especially my sister, her husband and son. She is still finding her way, but it is such a struggle. I would share this with her.

  500. What a powerful devotion! So sorry for your loss. My heart went out to you while reading this. I am inspired in your faith and trust in God to help you overcome your grief. I know several who would benefit from your book, but I have a couple of young women in mind who recently lost their mother to cancer at what I consider a young age. This would help them tremendously. Thank you for sharing your heart. God bless you!

  501. My husband and I lost our firstborn child when he was six days old. Though that was a very difficult time (seventeen years ago), the Lord sent laborers and granted us a peace that can only come from Him. I have read books over the years and have had many opportunities to share with other families who also struggled with the loss of a child. My family and I pray for babies and their families every day. Thank you for sharing your story and God’s grace in your life. I would love to read your book and pass it on to whoever the Lord sends my way.

  502. Such a timely encouragement! Nine years ago I lost my oldest son. Last year on the anniversary of his death I lost my mother. 8 weeks later Daddy joined her in heaven. I continue to deal with the grief but the healing seems so slow. Any words of encouragement keep my eyes focused on my daily walk and help me not to be consumed with the pain of loss. Thank you for addressing this subject so aptly.

  503. Thanks for today’s devotion- I need to be reminded of the sacrifice God made for all of us and our sins and what grief that must have been. It seems as if there is so much grief in the world all around us at home and far away- it’s the hope and faith we have to cling to in our Savior , Jesus Christ that can keep us going daily.
    I hope I win a copy of the book! Thanks!

  504. My grandma died this past December 25th and it has been so hard on my Mom, who was her caregiver after she fell and broke her hip over a year ago. My mom is barely hanging on to her faith. If I won this book, I would love to give it to her. Thank you for writing on loss and heartache and bringing hope into the situation.

  505. this morning, one of my small group friends sent me today’s devotional. It hit home. What a gift. I would love to win a copy of from grief to grace. my mother died on march 2nd. it was very sudden and unexpected. although she was 81, we thought we would have her for so much longer. people from her family of her generation lived will into their 90s. i was particularly close to her and, in fact, my two teenage girls and i had been living with her since September of last year. she was such a supportive and loving woman. although she was not a christian, she supported my walk and, i felt, was becoming curious about Christ through watching me.

    The past week has been particularly difficult for me. being in her home with the constant reminder of her not being here but being surrounded by her things. it’s a gift, but it hurts. time goes on for everyone, but i feel stuck. i know this is part of the process and will get through this.

    just this morning, i received a call from my sister that my father was admitted into the er. so much to bear at the moment. the devotional was helpful, the book may be even more so. thank you for considering me.

  506. Hi I very much enjoyed reading the devotional today. I would love to win this book, I can identify so much with what it says, I always feel like I am watching my friends but where is mine. When is my promise coming through, i think this book would be a great encouragement to me.

  507. Laura Allman says:

    I am dealing with a hard situation…prayers needed. My daughter’s father is an alcoholic and he’s getting worse.

  508. Toni Chiarulli says:

    Years ago I went through four straight years of losing a loved one. First my fiancée, then my 15 year old nephew, then my father and most devastatingly of all, my 10 year old granddaughter who was kidnapped, raped and murdered. I somehow made it through with the help of God, my job and my friends, but it was a long process. Now again I have gone through another 4 or 5 years of tragedy. Among it all was the death of my mother and two years ago the death of both my sons within three months. I am almost 78 years old and my health has been failing, some in part to age and the rest to all the stress. Since my sons passed I have been dealing with depression that is hard to overcome. I believe that the chronic pain that I suffer daily adds to that depression. I used to be very involved with my church but have found myself drawing away from the church and my friends more and more. My church does offer grief counseling but I have avoided going because I am afraid that I will just sit and cry and relive everything. Even though I read the scriptures daily, I am hoping that this book can help me, too.

  509. I have been going through a really hard time in my life right now and I would love to read this book for various reasons.

  510. Karen D'Angelo says:

    I would give the book to my sister Cindy who was hit 2 mo. ago with a rare syndrome that has her very weak and now in a wheelchair. She can’t drive or even practice walking with her walker unless someone is right there with her. I know first hand the horror of extreme weakness and landing in a wheelchair because I had a small tumor inside my spinal cord that, according to the doctor had to be removed. The pain specialist nurse told me “You are like in the hands of God with this amazing doctor”. He had said I would back to work in 2 – 3 weeks. That was 12 years ago. I never got a 2nd opinion or sued but the doc said maybe in a year I would be back to normal. For me, normal is a struggle walking with my walker and leg braces or riding my scooter and not going back to work as I had known it for 17 years. I feel the scripture and comforting messages in the book would help her (and me at this later date in my life journey & recovery) continue to work hard on her recovery and inspire others with the love she has for our precious Father.

  511. Cendi Botti says:

    I’m close to a family that lost their father. Which means; a husband and a son as well. I know all three women who reflect each status: Mother, wife, daughter. Mothers aren’t meant to outlive their children. Wives aren’t meant to raise children alone. Eighteen year old girls need dads. If I won, this book would be a gift to their family.

  512. ;I would love to have a copy of this book, First to read and be able to share with others who are grieving, and then to pass on to my daughter who lost a stepson about 6 months ago but can’t get past the grief. She has only been living for the Lord about two years and could really use the encouragement. Thanks so much for sharing this devotion!

  513. Betsy McGoogan says:

    We have a free book library at our church office. We also have a bereavement ministry at our parish.
    This book would be a tremendous addition for our library and for use by the bereavement ministry. The book would get tremendous use. I would guess that many would like one of their own after they read it.

  514. i would like to pass on a copy of the book to a friend who is grieving the loss of her child. I have moved from grief to grace in my life, with the deaths of my beloved Mother and husband, so I know the comfort God can bring and that He can and does bring joy out of mourning and even in the midst of it. It may not seem like it at the lowest points, but it does come and then we are able to help others who travel the path behind us 2 Corinthians. 1:3-4

  515. Joanne Belin says:

    I lost my daughter 11 years ago on April 8. She was 34. I still have waves of grief. I don’t expect not to as I lost a part of me (literally since I carried her). A mother’s love runs very deep in the soul. Reading this devotion brought to my mind how God must have felt when He has to let his only Son die. I also can relate to the first part of this devotion where this person is missing all the events that could have taken place in her lost loved one’s life had she lived. I do too. I miss not having memories of what her future would have been. I feel robbed of a future life of the life I created. I think this book would be a comfort to me. For I never intend to forget her.

  516. The gift of grief…oh now well I know the pain! My best friend passed away at the age of 32 – I was not ‘prepared’ for the ache but Jesus met me and ministered to my brocken heart; He took my Mom home in 95, my brother-in-law in 99, my husband in 06, my Dad in 09, a sister-in-law in 10 and one in 11 – yes, there’s still sorrow at times but God so gently holds me. He’s used II Cor. 1:3-5 in amazing ways in comforting me, then using that to comfort others. Just was reading through some journals after my husband passed away – the tears were flowing as I saw how God was my comforter, my provider, my husband! Oh dear ones, He grieves with us, catching our tears! I would love to have a copy of the book to read then share with others who are in sorrow! My heart goes out to your family in the death of your son yet thankful at how God is using it and turning the ‘mess’ into a message!

  517. Lost my husband of 46 years just eight months ago and some days are good others I just miss him so much but God is so good with His comfort.

  518. Thank you so much! I have a friend that really would benefit from this book!

  519. Thank you so much for this! Although my loss was not a life, it was (I thought) a plan for an important part of what my life would be. Your statement about God losing a son reminded me that his desired plan – The Garden of Eden – was also lost through poor decisions made by humans – just like mine. I literally burst into tears as that realization poured over me a few minutes ago. And I am still marveling at the other implications – God immediately put Plan B into action – and he can do that for me too. You truly are bringing healing through this ministry.

  520. This was such a timely message for me, and further proof that God gives us what we need just at the right time. I have been suffering a deep depression and while I in therapy and take medication I still find it so very difficult to pull out of it. It is so complex, and started with the death of my mother due to negligent medical treatment, including being dropped TWICE by staff in the hospital where she had gone to heal and recover. Instead she suffered a subdura hematoma, excruciating pain, and suffered needlessly until her far too early death. I still struggle with this loss 11 years later and though I’ve tried not to I still blame myself for not doing things differently. Oh I know it is easy in hindsight to find fault with yourself and think “if only I had done this” and logically I know that all things happen for a reason and that God has a master plan that is not always obvious to us. Still, I grieve and I find that instead of lessening I feel the loss more. Especially as I struggle with watching my oldest daughter, who always brought us all such joy and was such a sweet and loving child, become addicted to drugs, lose all sense of her own self worth, and become involved in an abusive relationship. She became pregnant, we offered her support and prayerful guidance, I even said give the baby to me. I believe she would have had the baby but the father refused any involvement with her if she made that choice. When we said have the baby and give it up for adoption, there are so many wonderful, loving couples who desperately want a child to love and nurture, who would rejoice at the opportunity to live and provide for a child of their own, the father said “no child of mine will be given up for adoption and raised by someone else.” Can you imagine that? He doesn’t want this child but he won’t allow this child to be adopted and raised by loving, caring, adoring parents who would be able to provide a life that he cannot and does not want to provide himself. We worked so hard for my daughter to make a plan that would provide her treatment for her addiction, medical care for her and the baby, and a chance for a life for both of them. She was there and then the devil took her back to her abusive boyfriend who had convinced her no one would love her like he would. Yeah, right. Love doesn’t abuse and control and force you to do things that in your heart you don’t want to do. In the end my daughter had an abortion, with much pain (physical and emotional) and complications. I know she grieves the loss of her child and I am tormented by the decision. We had hope for her, for her recovery and a path to a new life, when she voluntarily entered rehab out of the area. She was doing so well and began to feel good about herself and her accomplishments. It was the best I’d seen her in a very long time. She had even found a new boyfriend in the program who treated her the way she should be treated – with love and respect, acceptance for her as herself, and support of their joint goals for a better life. Then tragically he relapsed and died and she lost her love and hope for a new and better life. She kept it together for about a month, then overwhelmed with grief and lacking a strong enough sober support network, she relapsed and turned back to the horrible, abusive person who had contributed to so much of her emotional pain. She continues to grieve the loss of the boyfriend who loved her for her and the new and better life that was so close to her grasp. Her family grieves the loss of what could have been, for her, and for the damaged and fragile family relationships that were beginning to heal and are truly missed. And I continue to grieve and have such painful feelings of remorse and guilt over not being able to do more for my daughter. My heart just aches so and I feel helpless and for the first time since my daughter began her struggle with addiction I have a hard time finding hope. I know that her choices are hers alone and that I cannot control others or life and its tragedies. I need to find that hope again, and I pray that God will fill me with His grace and love, and give me the wisdom and strength to do his will and guide me to do the right thing. He has given me so many blessings for which I am so grateful. I am trying to remain focused on those blessings and be in the present, both for my other children and my husband, as well as myself. I love the Serenity Prayer – God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference. In my support group we replace “things” with “people” and change the last line to ” the Wisdom to know its me.” I know intellectually that the only person I can control and change is me and how I react to life’s ups and downs. If I lay my grief and sorrow at the feet of The Lord and believe that all is possible when we have faith in Him, in His mercy and grace He will carry me, heal my grief and help me did peace and hope.

    I would love to read your book. Your story spoke to me and I believe your book will do the same. Thank you for sharing your story and for showing me that I, too, can find hope, peace, and happiness again.

  521. I am the birthmother of a 23 year old son that I placed for adoption at birth. Healing is slow. So many missed memories and lost dreams. I wait with expectation for the day with no more tears and no more sorrow.

  522. Priscilla Wyndham says:

    At this moment in my life I am not (thank God) suffering from any loss. However, I want each and every one of you who have written these testimonies to know how heavy my heart is for you, and I have actually cried a few tears for you. No loss is greater than that of God’s only Son, so I pray that remembering this will help lighten your load.

  523. I would so love to read this book. What a wonderful devotion this morning. I have been divorced for 10 years. Would so love to be married again.

  524. Sonnie Jane says:

    Some of the sadest comments i’ve read in a long time…. my heart breaks for all of you and pray to God almighty for grace comfort strenght whatever you need Jesus is all that and more. May you sense His closeness because He’s truely closer than we think….. Lord help us all!!!!

  525. Angela Smith says:

    I would read it and then pass it on to my children. My husband died suddenly while my children were young them 3 months later my grandfather died and then 3 months later my mom was driving to be with us and was killed in a car accident. Then a few years later my brother was murdered and my step mom died 3 weeks later. I’ve been through a lot and went through deep depression. I’ve had a good counselor that has help me and friends and family but it’s still hard at times. Thank you and God bless you for sharing your heart.

  526. I would love to have a copy of this book to give to my friend and coworker. She grew up in a very abusive home and was taken from that environment by child protective services. She is a lovely young woman and has a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful children and is currently working on a doctorate, but she really struggles with feeling like a failure and a lot of anxiety as a result of the abuse she suffered. She is still grieving. I forwarded this devotional to her and it really spoke to her.

  527. I would love to read the book moving from grief to grace because that is what I am trying to do but seem to be stuck in grief. I lost my husband of 40 years to a sudden death, he was never sick died in front of me with no warning at all. All I have is Christ.

  528. Stephanie says:

    I have lost both of my daughters. Alicia in 1974 from SIDS (3months & 3 days old) and Rachel in 2005 after 2 liver transplants (21 years old). I have also lost the rest of my immediate family so it’s just me now. I’m finding it really hard to move to grace. Your article really touched my heart and I did pray the prayer and asked for help to lay it all at Jesus’ cross. I’ve only been a Christian for a couple of years and am still learning so very much. I would love to read your book because I believe the insights will help me. I also have 2 friends who have lost children and I think that they would benefit from reading it too. I intend to pass it on to them and then get it back to read over and over.
    Thank you for writing this article. The 29th was the 10th anniversary of Rachel’s passing and I really needed this article today!!!
    Sincerely,
    Stephanie

  529. JUDITH FLYNN says:

    I love your words and today is the first day I saw any information from you. I plan to follow your blog as I can…and continue to be inspired!~!~! thank you for this today..made my day….
    sincerely,

    Judith Flynn

  530. Thank you Susan for your testimony! We all, every single one of us, have the work of grief in our life. As we grow older it is more than once! I’ve lost two husbands now and have written a book about the difference in that remarkable work when God is in your life. I love reading and supporting other authors who write of this difference. Without it we are left bitter and resentful. See Journeys Through Grief: With and Without God for my story.

  531. I want to be better not bitter over the losses I’ve had. I would Also share with a friend who lost her husband

  532. I’m going to send this devotion to a friend who has been in a long term care facility for over a year. Last week he had one let (just below the knee) amputated. Now that he is out of the hospital, he has an intestinal infection that is caused by being on antibiotics for such a long time. He has no home (co-workers had to move all of his belongings out of his apartment) and he has no real hope. It is hard to watch someone go deeper and deeper into depression – we keep thinking he will hit rock bottom – and everything just seems to keep getting worse. I share devotions with him and always let him know I am praying for him. Maybe a book like this would help him.
    Thank you for the wonderful devotion today.

  533. You just don’t know how much this has helped me. Thank you so much for your testimony, three yeas ago I lost my beloved mother, and recently I was betrayed by someone who I thought was a true friend. My soul was broken, I was blaming God, and I was about to lose my faith until I read your testimony. Thank you so much!!!!

  534. THANK YOU. You get it!!!!!!! I was voted most likely to have the most kids. I wanted a house full of children, but for medical reasons I could not have children. Due to the circumstances of my failed marriage it was not healthy for a child in my home, so adoption was out. I envy those who have children and will have grandchildren. I used to “borrow” kids to fill that void. The pain is just to much any more. Jeremiah 29:11 gives me hope and strength. Thank you for your understanding words in today’s devotion. I don’t want to be cynical, bitter, angry or hurt. I want that joy back.

  535. Jasmine Rodriguez says:

    I would like to give a copy of this book to my cousin who just lost his wife to her battle with thyroid cancer yesterday. She was only 36 years old and such a sweet, wonderful person but I trust that the Lord needed her more. My cousin is trying to be so strong with this but with losing both his parents and now his wife; I know that he could use an uplift and an outpour to fill him back up.

  536. Susan,

    What a devotional! I am praying for you and your family. While it’s not the loss of a loved ones life, I am struggling with the loss of a relationship with a sibling. Due to bad choices on their part and their continual attacks against me and family (I am not totally innocent in my response to them either). I have come to the conclusion that I cannot keep a relationship with them, still have my mental health and protect my family.
    I so want to release the bitterness!! And I feel like God has really been nudging my heart on this matter this past week. Thank you for this devotional and the reminder that Resurrection Sunday is coming!!

  537. Thank you so much for your testimony!!!!! On April 20th it will be three years that I lost my beloved mother, it has been so hard. Recently I was hurt and betrayed by someone I thought was a friend and I could trust. My soul was broken, I blamed God, and was about to lose my faith. Then today, I read your testimony, thank you so much, you just don’t know how much it is helping me right now. May God continue to bless and keep you always!!!!!

  538. This was just what I needed ! My husband passed away 10/30/14. I have gone from asking why to asking for forgiveness for even thinking such a thing. I miss him terribly, and everyday is spent crying, laughing, having fun-feeling guilty for that. I knew that he belonged to God, and was just on loan to me here. But, the pain of losing him never goes away. This devotion was my reality check. Realizing what Jesus went through for us sinners- is overwhelming !!!! I believe your book would really help me cope with my grief. Thank you

  539. I would appreciate your book autographed or not. I can not afford it. My husband left after my son died. I’m raising my sons daughter and just don’t have any extra funds. If you feel lead please send me one. 6762 WARNER AVE APT T5W
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    THANK YOU! and if you don’t. God bless your ministry anyway he can that you need!

  540. My brother died at the age of eighteen from an accidental carbon monoxide poisoning and at age twenty five I didn’t handle his death well at all. From the pain of his dying I became overprotective of my children and fearful something would happen to them or my husband to the point of depression. From that experience I put loved ones who have died in a place in my heart and mind where I think of them being not dead but “away”. My dad died 15 years ago and I still haven’t grieved his loss fully. Mom died last October and it’s the same with her death. It’s easier to NOT have to deal with those feelings and guilty by denying in my mind that they are truly gone. This book could be exactly what I need to finally learn how to let the grief surface to be dealt with appropriately.

  541. Susan,
    Thank you for sharing your story. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son.
    I would love to give this book to my adult children (22 and 20) who after 6 years are still struggling with the loss of their father and my husband on Christmas Day 2008. I just recently remarried and they are so far away from understanding why I would do such a thing. They see our relationship as unnessary. I pray so much that God would help me to understand their hearts. I want them to know they are unconditionally loved by both me and their Heavenly Father.
    May God continue to bless you and your family.

  542. Christy C. says:

    I have a prodigal daughter who left home unexpectedly and I have only heard from her a couple of times. I became an empty nester without warning and I have grieved on many levels. I think this book would help me put things into perspective. Thanks for your ministry and this opportunity.

  543. Geri Hutson says:

    My youngest child , almost 6 years old, had a stroke her second week of kindergarten. She had something wrong with one kidney, which caused her blood pressure to sky rocket, and she died a week later… It’s been 3 years; still miss her every day- I know she is dancing with Jesus!! Still hurts. you feel like no one gets it, but your words about God’s only son dying too really spoke to me !! Thank you

  544. It’s been two years and four months since my best friend, who was like a sister to me, took her life. People say that time heals all wounds. I can’t testify to this. I grieve for her every day, and have been slowly slipping into the dark. Maybe your book will help me to grasp and cling to the Light.

  545. Terri C. says:

    I would love to give a copy of your book to my friend Letty who lost her 19-month-old daughter last November. Thank you.

  546. Maria Burdett says:

    I so enjoy reading your devotions everyday! I can almost always connect with each and everyone! My dad went to be with our Lord 5 years ago and I still want to just hear his voice one more time! I dream my dad often, at least once a week. That in itself keeps me content. Right now I am very sad with my granddaughter’s mom who moved her to Houston last summer. Lex lived half of her week with us, came to our Church,came to my school where I teach, and we had her in competitive cheer. From being with her on a daily basis to hardly ever talking to her is very hard for all of us. When she does come to visit we are allowed very little time with her. My son, who is Lexi’s dad, is not a fighter and did not contact a lawyer whenever they moved. He did not want Lexi to think that her parents would fight because of her. Lexi loves all and we miss her greatly. I pray and pray but I truly cannot find a happy place. I am not at peace. I am just sad. I have other sweet gran babies that I love with my all of my heart but I am not complete. I know, let go and let God. Forgive,forgive,forgive. Thank you for your wise words!

  547. Lynn Aguiar says:

    Thank you for that devotion….my dad went into the arms of Jesus just 20 days ago. I would like the book for my mom, 89. They were married 65 years and she has never been separated from him until now. We are saddened by this loss and at the same time happy to have the assurance he is with the Lord. Thanks.

  548. I want to say alot but I have lost my grandson it would be seven years this April. The lord spoke to me the moment I heard he was murdered. But his mother and is struggling so. And even though she is trying to pick up her life. It is like a book that keeps opening but closes right back up at every chapter in her life. She feels as though her help and support is mariquina and that is a lie from the devil. And it is effecting her health to. Even though I believe she is in deniel. But if i were to recieve your book I would ask the Lord to bless it that it would help to turn her life around. Away from the evil ones way of thinking. Into the light of Gods healing. And giving her hope and life also for my grandchildren. And than let it go on down through the family because we all sufferered. Well I guess I did say alot. But it is on my heart. Thank you for your encouragement today.

  549. Dianna Delaney says:

    I lost my father 2 years ago April 3rd. I know he is in heaven and I know I will see him again; however struggling with grief and depression. I have been seeing a couselor for help but I just don’t seem to be getting past this.
    I want to do this new normal and trying to find any options to help.
    Thank you so much.
    Dianna Delaney

  550. karen bohannon says:

    I would love to win a copy of this book. I lost my beautiful Mom Dec.11,2013. She was my best friend and we lived together and did everything together. We were our only family and I am having a really hard time moving past my guilt because i was not always a good daughter. And I still have a hard time believing she is really gone. I know this would help me so much.

  551. I felt blessed by this post. My grief is rising again as my lost baby’s due date is quickly approaching… again. He or She would have turned one. My grief has still not turned into grace… years of infertility and loss have chipped away at my joy and my faith. I’d love to have the book, as well as use it in my daily work of being in hospice care. I sit with the grieving and the dying day after day. I know myself and many of my families would benefit from knowing God’s grace is with us through this journey.

  552. Marlynn Gonzales says:

    I am sorry for your loss. Our youngest child and only son was Killed in action in Iraq in December 2008. It is only by God’s grace that we get through each day. Our sadness is not for our son who is in the presence of the Father, but for the milestones we are missing. Reading your blog helped me to see that those are normal feelings. T.J. Would be 27 this coming Monday. His friends are getting married and starting families. He would have been a wonderful father! We miss him every day!

    At first, I was sad every day. Then, as time passed, the 28th of each month made me sad (he was KIA on 12/28). Now the sadness comes on his birthday and on the anniversary of his death. It never lasts long as I feel God’s amazing peace and comfort wash over me!

    Thank for your wonderful words at just the right time!

  553. Margaret says:

    Your testimony shared with us today was very uplifting. I shared it with my friend Cindy. She is about to lose a limb as the result of botched-up knee surgery — 8 surgeries and 3 different knee replacements. She see her loss of a leg as the end of her life. I continue telling her she can minister to others (her chosen passion after retirement) from a wheel chair or with a prosthetist. I feel she needs to read your book. My desire if I’m lucky enough to receive a copy is to give it to her so she can recognize how she can live with this change in her life. Thank you.

  554. Susan G. says:

    This is the hardest thing we must endure on this earth I’m sure…grief. So glad our God is bigger than the grief and knows how to comfort us and heal us…in time.
    Thanks for this Susan.
    May He ever be near.

  555. Cyndi W. says:

    Looks like your post has struck a chord in many people! i have a friend whose son was killed in a motorcycle accident April 12, 2014 and have grieved for and with her. Grace has gotten her through this year but knowing all the “right” answers has not removed the pain or the questions. God WILL get her through this… of that, she is confident.

  556. Jennifer says:

    This is a woman whom God can use to help my grief heal. I’d really love a copy of her book but if not, this one devotional speaks volumes. My season of grief has been an extended one, 28 years now and the layers of grief and lots combine to create a symphony in a minor key but hopefully one that brings glory to my Saviour.

  557. Donna Taylor says:

    The last five years of my life have been the hardest I have ever endured . The devestation of my life and that of my family has seemed to have no bounds . The grief has left me believing I will never know joy again . I want to feel confident in Gods plan for my life . Know that he does have a plan and that I will feel joy again . This is my daily prayer .

  558. Samantha Hudson says:

    Your devotion felt like I was reading my own thoughts. My son passed away 2 1/2 years ago and now as all of his friends are marrying and having children it is like a knife through the heart. I picture the beautiful children he would have had, my grandchildren that are never to be and I weep and grieve. Thank you for the reminder that God too lost a son in a horrific way so that I can have eternal life, my son can have eternal life, all of us who chose Him. One day we will meet again and no more tears will fall, I wait in anticipation of that day. Thank you again for sharing!

  559. This devotion spoke deeply to me. In the last 5 years I have had so many losses; 2 immediate family members, my beloved dog, both my children moved away, business financial losses, physical problems and the list goes on. Life seems hard, more sorrow than joy. Maybe the book would help me pass my “test”.

  560. I have learned through the sudden loss of my father and through ‘preparing’ as loved ones are relieved of their cancer battle and made their way to glory that grief is a journey and most importantly, that every grief journey is different. I participated in and eventually led a Grief Share support group which really did help with the stages of grief and trying to find more of the better and less of the bitter. I continually look for books and devotions to share with those who are on their grief journey. This book would be a great resource to share.

  561. Linda Ames says:

    I found this post in a facebook group I recently joined. I have purchased so many books that say they are helpful for people grieving the loss of a loved one, but so far, nothing that truly speaks to me. I lost my husband just 4 short months ago from a heart attack. I was not prepared at all. He was the strong one, he helped hold me together. I just feel like if I didn’t have my faith and that hope, I would just crumble into a million tiny little pieces. I just thought we would have so much more time…. So much more to share…. So much….. and its all gone. I just miss him so, so much. I would live to read this book on grief. The idea of Dancing with Jesus??? I wish….

  562. Ginger West says:

    My only sister just lost her husband to cancer. They battled it together for 4 long years in hopes of him being able to see his only son graduate this June. He fought a strong fight but left us on March 13th of this year. My sister and nephew are struggling with their new future without him. Not only will my sister’s life change with her son soon leaving after high school to attend college or join the Navy, but now will find herself without her other half. I have encouraged her to turn to God. She isn’t strong in her faith and I think this book would benefit her so very much. HE is our refuge! Thank you for writing this book and sharing your story to help others. God Bless!

  563. Debbie Huyghe says:

    My husband left the children (4) and me last june, he is living with a girl-friend now. Each day I have to choose to trust God no matter what, some days that goes “easy”, other days it is wrestlingn and falling and getting up… again and again.But He promises He is always there, so I just keep on going and put my hand in His.

  564. I would be blessed to read from grief to grace. These past 5 years have been filled with much of life’s challenges and changes. Not only would I love to experience the healing power of God’s grace, through this book or any other means through which he provides, but for my family and friends as well. May God’s healing relationship and love cover each one of you and yours.

    Blessings

    Anna S.

  565. This was perfect for today. I would give this to my dear friend who was shaken to her core yeaterday. She has had her world torn apart by the selfish choices of her spouse. She doesn’t know where to start and how to go on. She has a strong faith, but her trust and heart have been broken. She will stay strong for her daughter, but she is in the depths right now. I feel helpless as to know what to do for her, but pray. Thank you for your healing and inspiring words.

  566. Donna Mae Fleet says:

    My beautiful 11 year old granddaughter Abbygale was killed in a head on car crash in Jan. of this year. I can’t begin to tell you the sorrow I am feeling. She was such a beautiful young girl, and now I’ll never see her grow-up to become a young lady, and a mother with children of her own. My son Trevor, his wife Julie, and other little girl, Jaelyn, 9. years old, are grieving in a way that I can’t even imagine!!! I pray that God will be with them and help them in their time of sorrow! If I was given one of the copies, I would share it with them.

  567. Bless you for this timely post about moving from Grief to Grace. Yesterday we celebrated my great-niece at her memorial service. Her name was Graci, named for the Grace of God. She was born into the arm of angels, never took a breath here on earth. She entered Heaven at full-term a healthy baby from a healthy pregnancy. It was a double cord accident. Our hearts are broken, still we celebrate because our beautiful Baby Graci is in the arms of Jesus and we will see her again. Praise God her mommy and daddy ran to the cross in their darkest hour and have been pressing into Him since. Challenges lie ahead, but they will be OK because they love the Lord and He loves them more. I am breast cancer survivor, lost a sister to cancer, lost a 40 year marriage to domestic violence and experience estrangement from my precious children and grandchildren as a result. My children do not seek the truth and are in strongholds through their own pain. But our God is bigger than all of this and He loves us despite our brokenness. God heals and restores. I would be blessed to have a copy of your book. In Him, ~V

  568. Irma Trejo says:

    We recently lost a baby cousin. It shook our family to its core. She was only 6 weeks old. Beautiful baby Azalea. I cannot even put into words the pain I feel for her mom. I look at her and cannot fathom the pain. The pain in my heart being nothing compare to her grieve. Todays devotional speaks so loudly to the place we find ourselves in. It feels as if things have not been able to find its balalnce. I appreciate so much you sharing this, as I will share it with her. I am getting her the book. Please keep her in prayer.

  569. Cynthia Maynard says:

    Praise Jesus that we do not have to remain in our grief. His grace is sufficient for all we are burdened with.

  570. This article was a God send from Heaven above. I experienced the loss of my son Travis on 6/6/11. Travis was treated at the ER, and release and died in his sleep later that night. There is nothing more painful than the loss of a child. My best-friend Pam since this article to me, and couldn’t have been at a better time. I had a terrible ride home from work on Monday, and was crying, and angry at God. I have many times questioned why it had to be my son, and not me instead. No one should have to experience the loss of a child. I wake up in the mornings, and go to sleep with him on my mind. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t miss him. This article really hit home, especially with Easter right around the corner. The time of Grief to Grace couldn’t have been more timely. I know my son is in Heaven, and for that I live to see him again one day soon.

  571. Thanks for sharing Life is difficult still somedays. Several years ago God told me my boys were being sexually abused… I was incredibly distraught as they were only 5 and 8 . It was a very good friends son…we went to church with them. Now they struggle with friendships …trust as well as their sexaulity and I weep for them. But I trust in God and know tomorrow is a new day.Please pray for my boys to survive this and be able to trust again

  572. glenda robinson says:

    The old saying “walk a mile in my shoes”,I would not want any person to suffer the loss of a child.However, I had no idea how many life’s have been touched by this grief. I lost my daughter in an auto accident in 2010. She was 28 years old and had 2 little boys, who I’m raising now. Please let GOD lead you in your search for a recipient of your book. There is way too many hurting people.

  573. I needed that be reminded of this today. It’s been almost 4 years since my best friend took her own life. Loss is painful enough but to know someone you love was hurting so much and thought ending their life was the only way out. God has been at work healing my heart but some days it feels like there will always be an empty place because of this loss. It was very reassuring to read the God has the last word section as I really needed that today.

  574. I would love to give the book to my parents. My younger sister passed away recently, leaving behind 5 young children. We all need support and guidance.

  575. I have been a widow and know the sorrow of loss, and now I want to encourage others….

  576. So many comments– too many to read at this moment. And so many crying out in grief and sorrow.
    There are times I think I can’t bear more grief, and another wave comes along. Sometimes the waves are residual from past storms, and other times they overwhelm, forming from new losses. Wave upon wave.

  577. Cindy Baker says:

    Thank you so much for your post today. My daughter-in-law and family are struggling with the loss of her mother due to ALS. God is good and your post could not have been more timely. I am looking forward to reading your new book and possibly sharing with her family.

  578. tina breegle says:

    HI, my heartbreaking has been of longstanding, so long that i feel it is impossible to heal myself. always my treasure has been my relationship with God. my journey this way started when i put my heart out to God on
    a couple of life issues from the deepest part of my heart and those issues have remained for over 40 years.
    i feel insecure because i can’t stop being afraid when jesus plainly says don’t be afraid. i pray almost daily for his grace and his blood to cover me. i would appreciate it if i could receive one of your free book copies. i want my special relationship back in my emotions. thank you

  579. Rene James says:

    I just lost a very special niece this last friday. I know she is with Christ. This realy helpped.

  580. Linda shaw says:

    Would love the book. Going through breast cancer treatment and this sounds like a great book for support and encouragement

  581. A dear close friend lost her son unexpectedly last month; the reason for his death is still unknown and I can only imagine how that must leave an open wound in her heart. While she has faith, her grief is still immense. While I’m sure time will help lead to eventual acceptance, at this point your book, and your testimony upon your own deep loss, would undoubtedly be welcome reading for my friend. Thank you for sharing your life, including the pain we all must bear, and for reminding us where our strength lies.

  582. Thank you for the encouragement. I’d love to share your book with a dear friend who recently lost her 10 year old son.

  583. Jennifer says:

    This book would so help my husband who lost his daughter 16 years ago March 24… I know he has never forgiven or healed. I too am trying to heal from our marriage being so broken and my many lost dreams. Thank u for sharing your story… God bless

  584. Donna Hovis says:

    This has really touched my heart. We lost our youngest son ANDY to a car wreck where a man my age was on drugs and hit ANDY headon. Andy was on his way to college at 830 in the morning. I am trying so hard to find some peace to find some forgiveness for the awful man that took my baby boys life. I have had to stay strong for my husband and my older son. This has taken our happy home and broke it. We are just broken. I would love to read your book. Thank you for all you do. Andy’s mom forever

  585. Tania Kallish says:

    I would love to get this book for my friend Antoinette. She just lost her 24 year old son to an overdose right before Christmas and is truly struggling. We are all trying our best to be of comfort to her but none of us really know what to do.

  586. Sue Henley says:

    I would love a copy of the book even though after losing my husband, my mother and others, I have the hope of eternal salvation with Jesus and look to seeing them again in Heaven.

  587. I would love to have a copy of your book for my sister-in-law. Her mother died about a month ago and she would benefit tremendously from the book.

  588. A friend of mine’s husband was killed in a car accident while riding in a taxi on Valentines day of this year. This book would be very helpful for her dealing with grief..

  589. Bellyn Whitteker says:

    I have many friends who have recently experienced loss, including myself and my son. My son’s fiance’ ended her pregnancy early. My sister who just lost a son to cancer. My friend who just lost a childhood friend to cancer. So many losses and yet…Sunday is coming!! God does not promise this life will be easy. He does promise to walk by our side through the season of mourning. The promise is that Sunday is coming!! I love that phrase. It gives me hope. Thank you so much for your devotional today.
    Many blessings to you as you continue to share the gift God has placed in your hands.

  590. Kathleen Lintelmann says:

    Thank you for your insite. 8 months ago my beloved husband of 35 years died suddenly while on a walk with me. My shattered dreams are difficult to wade through, but God is still good. He supplies my needs 24/7. I would love to read ur book and then I would give it to others friends who have lost loved ones.
    Thank you,

  591. Florence Rogers says:

    It will be 11 months on April 6 that I too lost my son, Jerry. My heart is so burden with grief, and I too said to myself that God lost his one and only son. Jerry was the youngest of three girls, and he was the only son. I can’t come to grips that he is no longer with me. I keep thinking that he will walk through my door, and give me my hugs and kisses like he always done, but I know that I will never be able to touch or speak to him in his earthly body ever again. Please keep me in your prayers, as I embark on one year anniversary.

    Thank you,

  592. My heart is overwhelmed at all of the comments. Thank you, Susan, for sharing the path of grief you have walked and I pray that many continue to be blessed by the grace of Jesus you are sharing.

  593. Grace Crapitto says:

    I would love to win this book to give to a close friend of ours who lost his mother several weeks ago. The whole family (husband and three siblings) would benefit so from reading this book. She was such a dynamic person and was the one who held the family together through the loss of two sons. Her husband is having such a hard time without her and I truly believe this would be such a blessing to him and the children.

  594. I would like to give a copy to my sister. We lost our mom a couple of years ago and then our dad the following year. It has been a lot of grief and sadness but I have been able to lean on my faith. I am at a different point in my spiritual journey and so I feel like it has been easier for me to cope with the losses. My sister could use a nudge from God to help her along in her grief. We both have days that are so hard but she seems to have them more frequently. I worry for her because we are pretty much all the family we have left for each other. I pray she will receive comfort from God because I know our parents are enjoying the fruits of heaven.

  595. Almost 6 years ago our first daughter was born stillborn 2 weeks before her due date. As if losing a child wasn’t hard enough, last year both my parents died. I Could identify with every birth announcement, wedding, etc. is just another painful reminder

  596. I would share the book with a friend who was recently widowed.

  597. I loved your devotional today. Such a great reminder that He is for us.

    I would definitely send the book to my sister, Tammy. She lost her son, my nephew at age 19 in a car accident. He has been gone 9 years this November. I’m so proud of where my sister is today in her healing. She has been so strong and keeps putting one foot in front of the other every day. I know she is so deeply hurt by his loss, and missed him terribly. We all do. He was such a sweet boy, our Justin Robert.
    We pray he is dancing with the angels in heaven and we will all one day meet again.

    Thank you!

  598. Lauren Mangin says:

    The truths in “Moving from Grief to Grace” were a gift from God to me today and I will pass them along to a group of women tonight. I help to lead a group at our church for wives whose husbands have chosen sexual sin. These women hurt so deeply. We are in the section of our material where we examine the personal losses because of unfaithfulness in our marriage – a step in moving through the grief process toward acceptance of what our Sovereign God has allowed. It is so hard. I woke up this morning, knowing how difficult tonight will be with the women, praying for over an hour before getting up. Our book will tell the women to “lay their losses at the foot of the cross” tonight. I asked the women to put more words around that thought – what does it really mean to put anything at the foot of the cross. They are words that we Christians say much too quickly before actually considering the cost. But the cost is actually our gain! When we die to our own desires, demands, expectations, and revisit what actually did happen on the cross – our Creator becoming an embryo in a young woman’s body, living a very difficult life without sin, taking the punishment that He did not deserve, but we did – all because we are loved by Him more than our human minds and hearts will ever fully comprehend in this life on earth. When we remember that we, the betrayed wives, need the cross as much as the men who have been unfaithful, and revisit the most horrific injustice that was ever committed in history past or yet to come (Jesus’ crucifixion), we have to be moved to deep humility and a willingness to lay our lives down at the cross – gaining peace, joy, amazing grace, and true life. It’s true – when we die to self, we actually experience the richest life. Will we love our Savior and live a life that is from a heart of appreciation for the greatest, most expensive gift that we will ever be given – God’s love & grace poured out for each of us on the cross? So, thankful for the words this morning. I needed the encouragement to speak tonight to this group with confidence in our Lord’s purposes that are always for our true good, even when they include unspeakable pain. He is God Who loves us perfectly. The cross proves it. I pray that this group of women will begin the movement from grief to grace – please pray with me that they will understand what it means to lay their losses, grief, and much more, at the foot of the cross and find what true life is all about.

  599. Michelle Melde says:

    I have lost both parents.I feel the same bitterness toward people who get to spend time with their parents at Holidays, everyday communications and especially at the kids games when grandparents are in attendance. Thank you for the reminder that bitterness needs to leave and better can happen.

  600. I have a dear friend who has lost both of her parents. She has also lost a sister and a son. I know that she struggles with her thoughts of them. I know that holidays and fun family times are hard since those important people are no longer in her life. I would gladly pass the book on to her.

  601. Hello Ms. Susan Mead,
    Thank you for this devotion. The transparency flows right off of every word you wrote. I am thinking to purchase this book for my sister in law who just recently lost a boyfriend. His name was Anthony Hill, and I am sure if you google him you will see what happened 🙁 He was shot by a police officer…She is not taking so well, but I am in constant prayer for her and constantly pouring out love to her every minute I can. I am forwarding this devotion to her. Thank you again for this helpful read, which I am sure will give her hope.
    Janel Bess

  602. I lost my husband, my best friend, after 41 years and have been devastated by the grief. Faith and spending time with God in prayer and silence have been a comfort. God’s plan was truly different than our plan and I know I need to surrender to God’s plan and be open to whatever it is and hope that I can discern His plan. His love is so great for us. I am hoping my suffering can become joy as was experienced by Jesus’ disciples after His resurrection.

  603. My mom lost my stepdad several years ago. She is still working through her grief. Would love to give this book to her.

  604. Thank you for sharing the story of the loss as well as your restoration. My husband came home one day in a hospital bed. I cared for him for 2 years all alone. We had been together for 34 years. It was just he and I as he was very introverted. On 7-10-2014 he passed. He said he was leaving me now, then closed his eyes and remained still for 3 days. I read the Bible the entire time. When he went into that final moments on earth a wonderful spirit filled hospice nurse helped me , help him let go and enter the light. I prayed that Jesus would meet him and help him home. He took two more breaths and passed at 3:37 am. Numbers of the Bible. I knew Jesus had met him! :)….. I am now trying to learn to interact with people again, but in a spirit filled way. I am restoring Randy’s Harley as I promised him I would, will finally be able to ride this year. Want to always allow God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit to work through me when I meet other riders along the way. Have read Keep It Shut. Am reading When Women Learn To Walk In Faith. Your book would help me to get past the grief . Thank you!

  605. I would love a copy of this book for my Auntie! She lost her son at age 26 to a complication with his Hemophilia 🙁 it was fast and unexpected and she tries so hard to go on but is really struggling! There have been times she herself has wanted to die just to be with him but she also knows that is not Gods plan. She is a very early believer and I just wonder if this book could help her not only heal but strengthen her faith. I am definitely praying that if she needs this book God gives me a sign 🙂

  606. Grief to Grace… is that even possible. 4 weeks ago today I lost my 4 year year old son. He was under the care of our neighbour and tragically drowned in their swimming pool as they left their gate propped open. Im so angry that his life was stolen. I prayed wholeheartedly for 4 days believing in complete healing but it wasn’t to be. Why didn’t God show up? We were so faithful… perhaps this book can assist me through this fog?

  607. Carolyn R says:

    What a beautiful reminder of the truth that we have a Father who understands our grief and His Son came to bind up our wounds. I would share this with church family who have recently experienced loss.

  608. Thank you for sharing your hurt in losing your son. I just lost my husband ten days ago to cancer. Our girls and I are grieving, trying to make sense out of something that never will. I saw your post and knew the Lord had directed me to find this in my email today. Thank you for giving me hope that we will get through this by His love and grace, moving us forward in His plans to comfort us and give us hope that we will heal with his love and mercy.

  609. As I sit down to write my sisters story, I can’t help but feel a knot in my stomach and tears in my eyes. 2014 was one of the hardest years for my family. However, we know that we are still so blessed! For one day we will no longer feel pain and suffering and we will get to see our beautiful babies again! Though I contemplated having to actually write out this story, I knew there comes beauty from ashes. This is my sisters story…

    My sister Marissa Schindler and her husband Trenton found out they were expecting in April. My family was ecstatic! At 16 weeks they had a revealing party here in Arizona. Once the first piece of cake was cut, it was confirmed that a baby girl was growing in her belly. Again, ecstatic! As the weeks went by, we found out that their baby girl was going to be named Payton Elizabeth. Not only did we get to feel her move but we got to witness the joy and excitement that these new parents were experiencing. Again time went by and as it did, Riss’s belly didn’t seem to be growing like it should. Riss is very active so we thought she was just going to have a small baby. At 33 weeks an ultrasound confirmed that Payton had multiple heart issues and possibly a syndrome called DiGeorge Syndrome, which is a deletion syndrome caused by a defect in chromosome 22. With the pain of this news, I completely trusted God that this was His plan and we would work through the open heart surgeries and also the outcome of this syndrome. Which was still not certain at this point nor did we fully know the severity of it. We prayed and prayed that somehow the doctors were wrong and that Payton would be born healthy. Waiting on pins and needles, Riss was back and forth to the doctors. They had to drive to Glenwood 2 hours away because they couldn’t do it in Meeker were they live. The doctors became worried the further into pregnancy because now her amniotic fluid was extremely low. At 35 weeks they sent them to Denver (4 hours away) to see a specialists. At that ultrasound the doctor told Riss they were going to admit her to the hospital to see if they could increase her amniotic fluid and monitor her. I remember that being a Friday because my parents had driven out there the day before to be with Riss and Trenton during this appointment. I got the call that afternoon around noon that they were admitting her. This was a sisters intuition, as I call it, that I needed to be there for my sister, even though my dad urged me to wait, that everything was going to be fine. I got on a flight that day at 5 o’clock with my 13 month old son, Colton. Those next 2 days we waited to see the progress with her fluid. Though we were extremely nervous, we did share some good memories and good laughs! Then Monday came, March 3rd. I remember waiting in the waiting room downstairs with Colton while my parents were on the 5th floor with my sister and Trenton. As the time passed, my stomach grew weaker…what was taking so long? As my parents rounded the corner to the waiting room, I recall seeing my mom with her hands in her face. I couldn’t really tell if she was laughing or crying because they were still pretty far away. As they got closer, neither of my parents could speak and my mom literally fell to the ground. In panic I asked what was going on. My dad was unable to talk, so my mom barely got out the words, ” Your sister is going to deliver within a couple days and Payton was not going to survive.” They were just told the news that Payton didn’t have DiGeorge syndrome, but something worse, Trisomy 13.

    The next couple days were a blur. We didn’t sleep or eat much and every waking moment was spent with Riss and Trenton. March 5, 2014, 36 weeks along, they induced Riss to start her labor. The doctors said they didn’t want to prolong the inevitable. While being with Riss and Trenton during this time, most of what I can remember is the strength that they showed and their love for one another. This unbearable event that was about to take place, truly showed me that my little sister was my “hero!” Then early that evening they checked Riss progress and discovered that her water had already broke and she was ready to push. They prepared Riss and Trenton that Payton would most likely not be born alive, so they took her heart monitor off. While my parents, Trenton’s parents and grandparents, myself, and his brother waited in the waiting room, we all sat in silence. What words were left to say? Within a half hour, a little past 8 pm, Trenton came out and told us all to come back to the room. With what felt like sand in my boots, I slowly walked to her room not knowing what was awaiting us. There in this hospital were most people on this floor were celebrating the birth of their child, my sister sat in a room with a purple ribbon on it. Which meant a child was either dead or was not going to make it. As we went in, I can’t even describe the love and beauty that was in that room. Payton was absolutely beautiful and alive! This was Riss and Trenton’s biggest wish that they would get to meet their daughter, what a blessing! Over the next 4 hours we all loved on that little girl. Trenton’s grandpa actually got to baptize her. What a touching experience right there in that hospital room! Payton was such a little fighter just like my sister! Not only was she born alive but she beat so many odds.

    Just a little after midnight, March 6th, in my dad’s arms, Payton went to be with Jesus. Though that day and night was the hardest in my life I felt extremely blessed to have been there in that room, and got to meet my niece. Those 4 hours I will cherish forever!

    With a lot of unanswered questions, the scientist and genetic counselor in Denver confirmed Payton had Trisomy 13, which occurs in about 1/17000 babies. Trisomy 13 is a chromosomal condition associated with severe intellectual disability and physical abnormalities in many parts of the body. Individuals with Trisomy 13 often have heart defects, brain or spinal cord abnormalities, very small or poorly developed eyes, extra fingers or toes, an opening in the lip (a cleft lip) with or without an opening in the roof of the mouth (a cleft palate), and weak muscle tone. Due to the presence of several life-threatening medical problems, many infants with Trisomy 13 die within their first days or weeks of life. Only five percent to 10 percent of children with this condition live past their first year. Payton did have 3 chromosome 13’s and parts of her 9 were missing. They tested both Riss and Trenton and discovered that this is a defect that Riss passes down. Though Riss is healthy and normal her chromosome 9 and 13 are balanced, therefore no indication she had this defect. Afraid what could happen in the future, the doctors told them their future kids would have a 80/20 chance this would happen again. As the weeks and months passed, my whole family and Trenton’s dad got a tattoo in Payton’s honor.

    Riss and Trenton decided that they wanted to start trying again and after a couple months they discovered in September they were expecting again! Given what the doctors knew at this point, they wanted to test Riss between 10-12 weeks to see if this baby was a carrier as well. Just before 12 weeks they took the drive to Denver once more and were tested 2 weeks before Thanksgiving. It was a Friday and again we awaited the news. That weekend seem to pass by so slow! Monday morning came and the genetic counselor called Riss and told her that baby only had 2 chromosome 13’s. Praise the Lord! And she was having a boy! Which no one knew except me, this was my sister’s and I’s vow to each other that we would tell each other first! I felt honored and excited, but somehow still felt fearful. Then came that Friday, the week before Thanksgiving. We received a mass text from Riss that the final tests had come in. These test revealed that baby boy did only have 2 chromosome 13’s but parts of it were missing. Not only that but he had 3 chromosome 9’s. I remember falling to my knees in my kitchen as I read that text. I was so angry at God, how could this be happening again? How much more could my sister and Trenton face? That afternoon Riss and Trenton drove home to Arizona from Colorado so we could all be together. This was a hard week because it was Thanksgiving and we felt like what do we have to be thankful for? We felt empty. While being in Arizona Riss and Trenton deiced to name their baby boy Gabriel Joseph. Which means God is my strength. I thought it was such a perfect name because during these trials both Trenton and Riss portrayed such strength, which clearly was not their own! That following week after being back home they drove to Glenwood again to have an ultrasound. At this ultrasound they were told that Gabriel would not survive. The extra chromosome and severity of the missing 13 would bring no quality of life. That following week, December 8th 2014, our precious Gabriel went home to be with his sister Payton. Again with unbearable pain in our hearts, we joined as a family and had to believe there was a bigger plan than what we saw.

    As Christmas came, we all drove 13 hours out to Meeker Colorado to be with my sister and Trenton. We were going to spread both Payton and Gabriel’s ashes down the river outside of their house, but in their hearts they weren’t ready to do so. We all wear a camo bracelet with Gabriel’s name on it and have tattoos for him as well. As you can see 2014 was definitely a struggle for my family . Though our faith was tested it was not shattered! My sister and Trenton are incredibly strong people and share such an astonishing love for one another! They have decided that they cannot emotionally face these circumstances again and will be doing invitro this year. Even though the doctors still stand by the 80/20 chance, the risk is far too great. In the next couple months they will begin this process. They are seeing a fertility specialist in Arizona and have also found a lab in New Jersey that will test for the specific defect with chromosome 9 and 13. Since it’s pretty rare, this process will be emotionally and financially draining! Since last year many people have asked what they could do to help.

    Most of all we are in need of prayer! Prayer that this process works and my sister has good eggs. This is never a guarantee, but they will need strength and safe travels with coming and going between Colorado and Arizona. The more people praying the better! I am also asking for you to pass this along to friends and family through Facebook and email. For someone out there may have some resources that would beneficial to them. Lastly, any financial support would be much appreciated! This will be an extremely costly process for them but will be completely worth it to ensure a healthy baby! All money donated and raised will go 100% to the invitro process. Any donation amount will help! From the bottom of my heart I thank you in advance for any support you can give! I know my sister and Trenton will be abundantly overwhelmed with support!

    Romans 8:18- I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.

    Give this info. to family and friends: http://www.gofundme.com/m90d68

    Nicole Lunsford

  610. Kate Sublette says:

    Wow. I didn’t have a chance to read the devotion before work so I waited. When checking email tonight I gir s caring bridge update on a good friend. She is a amazing teacher from the high school my kids go to and she is battling cancer. Her daughter Kelsey just announced they put her in hospice. I would love to give the book to Kelsey and her sweet sister Kaley. It is so hard losing a mamma when she is still young. These two girls are in college and are at a hard age in life to be with out there sweet mamma.

  611. What a great read….I would definitely give this book to my cousin who unexpectedly lost her husband at 41yrs old…he was suffering from PTSD. I know this book would be a tremendous blessing to her and her children.

  612. Elissa Ali says:

    I would love a copy of this book as I am suffering through grief with the loss of my mom the loss of hopes and dreams for my daughter who has a drug addiction and my son who does not seem to want a relationship with me. I have been trying to turn it all over to our Lord who does indeed know these losses but it’s hard. I loved this message today. Thanks for all you do at Proverbs 31 Ministries

  613. thank you for this encouraging message…I would like to give this book to a dear and spiritual friend who lost her husband one year ago. Thank you.

  614. Kristen Costigan says:

    I would love to share this book with a dear friend who lost her 23 year old son last June in a tragic accident. My heart aches for her and her beautiful family as they grieve his loss. Thanks for the beautiful devotion and for sharing your story.

  615. Just what I needed to read today. I am grieving today. I’m not grieving a death but a situation. The words “Are you bitter or do you want to be better” jumped out when reading them. A reminder that I don’t want to allow bitterness to seep into my being.

  616. A very good message to read. I would give a copy of your book to my friend who lost her husband in January and it will soon be 12 yrs that she lost her daughter in a tragic car accident. I appreciate writers who can convey sympathy, encouragement and hope to those who grieve. Thank you.

  617. I lost my 16 year old son to suicide just 6 months ago. I was at home with him, I feel like a failure as a parent and to God for not protecting his precious gift to me. Shortly after my 19 year old daughter moved out of our home. My husband works long hours, I am home alone the majority of the day. I suffer from PTSD and sadly have many triggers in addition to the guilt, loneliness, and sadness. I have many people praying for me and my family, but each day is still a struggle. A former coworker has recently experienced this same tragedy, I want to be able to help her, but I feel I am not strong enough to do so. Maybe this book would help the both of us.

  618. I would give this to my best friend Grace who lost her husband recently. Would love to bless her!

  619. My niece, Dusty, was tragically killed in a car accident on January 11, 2014. She was only 17. I was very close to her the whole time she grew up. It just so happened that the accident was close to where I live and so I was the one that had to confirm it was her. It was devastating. My life has not been the same. I miss her so much. I struggle every day with anxiety and depression. At only 33 years old, I have had to quit my full-time job to try getting my life back together. I know she is with our Lord, but my heart still aches. I do want to get better. I do want to move past this grief. Please consider sending me the Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace book. After reading it, I would like to share it with my brother (Dusty’s dad) and my mother (Dusty’s grandma).

  620. This is encouraging to me. I have buried 3 loved ones in 3 years. Live in a dead marriage and surrounded by abusive and neglectful people. God is changing my circumstances.

  621. I am grieving the loss fo my mom on Feb 18, 2015 and having a very difficult time with it. Dancing with JESUS would help to transition to a state of grace.

  622. Elaine Embrey says:

    I lost my husband on November 29, 2014. I am still going through the grief process. I am doing well but know that grieving leads to healing. I am open to anything to read to help me through this difficult time.

  623. This really hit home for me “Do you want to be bitter or better”. I lost my husband in a traffic accident and struggle everyday with the anger I feel at the loss of the most amazing person I have ever known and love as well as the loss of our entire future together. I think I need a book like this to help me with those feelings and how to deal with them.

  624. Your blog entry could not have come at a better time..a better day!
    For over a year now I have been going thru the grieving process of losing my “Best Friend” of over 45 years when I discovered my version of a “Best Friend” apparently was not at all in line with her version – even though she continued to call me her “Best Friend”. Events unfolded showing me a deep lack of loyalty – of being there for me when I NEEDED her most. I discovered I was either being lied directly to or there was her lying by omission. And, there was more. It all added up to the point I truly can say I felt my heart breaking…the pain was HORRIFIC! We became friends at age 12, so we shared every aspect of our lives from our teenage years, dating, the early years of our marriages, the loss of my son, raising our families together, dealing with life as our children each left “the nest”….I NEVER imagined our friendship as anything but deep & life long!!! I tried to have the conversation necessary to get everything out in the open and figure out if our relationship stood a chance of being repaired, but she avoided, avoided, avoided… I even set up a counseling appointment for us. She wasn’t able to attend (she truly had a family issue come up). One visit & the counselor had heard enough. Her advice was that I was dealing with someone with a Narcisstic personality. I needed to accept that she was never going to change. I needed to be prepared to grieve. I needed to walk away!
    I continue to pray for her on a daily basis. I feel I am getting stronger – certainly stronger than I was a year ago. Yet today she contacted me with information that let me know SHE was in control of a family situation – wanting to let me know in her “subtle” way that she could still penetrate and hurt me. Sometimes it is just too much and I am back to crying ….. upset over the past/upset over a present I never dreamed I would be living.
    THANK YOU for your beautiful post! It showed me I am not alone. It showed me that others suffer grief in their own ways in their own lives. It gave me the visual I needed to not just “get thru this”, but served as a reminder that the Lord has great plans for my life AND I can stand strong in the knowledge He will see me thru this!!!

  625. I would love this book! This post gives me hope that the grief is not forever. I lost my husband in October. He was a highly respected church leader, youth worker, teacher,coach and camp counselor.
    I came home from work with our 6 year old son to find about 8 police cars that was serving a search warrant on our home. After they tore our home apart they put our son in protective custody and then arrested my husband for sexually abusing minors. I had no idea. I went to court 2 days later and got custody of our son and a 5 year protection no contact order. I’m grieving what was and people don’t know what to say or how to help. I’m angry, sad and broken hearted. I have lost my husband, our home and a lot of friends. Im grieving with no closure because I can’t even talk to him or ask questions. I’m just left wondering. The trial is this summer & he is held without bond. I have no idea how I will ever have joy again. I need hope that my son and I will be able to move on.