When Negative Thoughts Are Running Your Life

When Negative Thoughts Are Running Your Life

March 31, 2017

“Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.” Proverbs 4:23 (NCV)

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I knew they were there, but I tried to ignore them and deny their existence.

They controlled how I felt in the morning, and when I went to sleep. They would often cause my emotions to feel out of control, making me feel out of control, too. They would dictate how I reacted to situations or conversations. They often caused me to feel offended, angry or hurt, whether it was truly justified or not. They never ceased to remind me of my shortcomings and flaws, making me feel inferior and often without value, and they constantly tried to pull me down with discouragement or hopelessness, stealing my peace and joy.

Who are “they,” you ask?

My thoughts.

You see, life had been unusually hard for many months due to a painful situation in my marriage, and as a result, my negative thoughts were running my life.

I didn’t want to feel sad, but my thoughts stayed consumed with all the things that made me sad. I didn’t want to feel unhappy, but my thoughts constantly drifted toward focusing on my unhappy circumstances. I didn’t want to feel discouraged or fearful, but my heart was heavy, and my negative thoughts were weighing down not only my emotions, but my outlook on life. In fact, my thoughts often made me feel as if I were sinking mentally, emotionally — and at times, even spiritually.

Our key verse today give us wise advice on dealing with thoughts: “Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life” (Proverbs 4:23).This passage was written by King Solomon for the benefit of his own sons.

As I read this chapter, I noticed although Solomon was king, he didn’t focus on advising about royal matters like how to handle money, job responsibilities or best tips for leading the kingdom. Instead, he spoke of more important things such as the value of controlling their thoughts, which determine how they felt and how they lived.

Solomon teaches us to be careful how we think, because the quality of our thoughts will always determine the quality of our life.

Whatever our minds focus on is what will play out in our lives and eventually shape who we are. Our thoughts turn into feelings that have the power to control our lives, gradually steering us and possibly our faith, in a direction we do not want to go. King Solomon knew this to be true, and counsels us to be careful about what we think and feel. He knew it’s often our thoughts, not our circumstances, which cause us to sink.

Our thoughts have power and can easily begin to run our lives, controlling our words and actions, feelings and emotions — even our peace and happiness. When disappointment crushes our dreams, when people hurt or anger us, or when problems seem overwhelming, it’s easy to get caught in the rip-current of negative thoughts. And when we think negative thoughts, we feel negative feelings, leading to believing life is negative overall.

During this season of life when I realized my thoughts were running my life, I bowed my head and admitted to Jesus how I had allowed emotionally-fueled thoughts to sink my joy, my hope and my faith. I embraced His truths that just because my circumstances weren’t positive, didn’t mean I couldn’t be.

When I intentionally change my thoughts, my life changes as well. And so can yours.

Lord, at times I feel as if I’m sinking — in my attitude and thought patterns, even in my faith. Forgive me for letting negativity have power over how I feel, think and live. Fill me with a fresh breath of optimism today, and help me learn to transform my thoughts, heart and life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

2 Corinthians 10:5, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (NIV)

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Is it possible your thoughts about your circumstances are causing you to feel like you’re sinking in heart and mind, more than the actual circumstances themselves?

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  1. Thanks for bringing that verse to my attention today. Love the wisdom.

  2. I have always struggled with negative thoughts I am in constant battle with my negativity. I have to tell myself over and over to stop, sometimes I yell at the devil for filling my head with everything thing that is bad instead of good. With Gods help and being more aware that God doesn’t want me to focus on what I can’t change I am slowly winning the battle. Thank you for this devotion !!

  3. Negative thoughts running your life will ruin your life. Fixing your thoughts on God will fill your life with goodness and grace.

  4. I am in a very trying season, but your devotion helped me realize how exacerbated my idea is of how trying it is because negative thoughts and feelings magnify all that is and feels wrong about it. It’s affecting my sleep. And I cry sometimes. I know deep down in my heart and my mind that everything happens for a reason, and it will all be okay. I am devoted to following God through all this. I am only in a season where God has asked me like He asked David to be sent away to be kept safe and learn war. I am thankful for this season and how God is not only protecting me but also preparing me for His best as He teaches me how to take captive these thoughts and feelings and operate on a higher level. I am thankful for His hope! The last couple of sentences represent a shift that your devotion today helped come along. Thank you!

  5. Thank you. It’s been a tough few years for me health wise and this is something I struggle with. Your devotion was very timely and very needed today.

  6. I so needed to hear this. God’s timing is perfect. Thank you for your faithfulness.

  7. Mary in NH says:

    Negative thoughts have taken me down on more than one occasion. Loss of a much loved job two years ago lead me to a season of feeling insecure in my present job. With every struggle and set back, I’m learning to put a God spin on the situation. I’m learning not to see myself as irresponsible but human, capable of mistakes and forgiven. I’m not incompetent, but working inHis strength to learn new skills. I’m not what my past failures say I am, but I am new in Christ!

    • You are responsible, you can make mistakes, you are competent and he will instill in you the new skills you need to thrive in your new place of work.

      You are simply a human being, wjo despite flaws and all, is still truly, madly and deeply loved by God!


    Later I am going to Rephrase your prayer for my life situations.
    This devotional is inspiring on how our words show truly where our heart is when life is throwing rotten tomatoes of trials and tribulations in our life. We have two choices stand strong or stand discouraged. We need to place the shield of protection and armor over us with whatever we are facing.
    Even myself needs reminded this daily. For we are all guilty of being carnal with our tongue. Our Tongue shows where our heart and mind is let alone allows the devil to win or the Lord to shine.
    When we need to be spiritual Warriors. I know where I was at a point of discouragement because of what life curves were constantly being sent my way with an endless long season of what was prevailing. To where I still battle. But I try to be more positive, and not defeated. Even today I face another trial and tribulation in the household. What could be another heartache another trial. But I am only waiting to see what may prevail. For you see there is another surgery, another lack of work, six months to a year– before will know if anything will work right, and a time to see how much in debt there will be before the end of the tunnel may see the light. But no matter what I know we will survive and get through. Because a loved one has been ill for over 30 years. To where we have come close to being homeless or with a home many times before. After to many double digit surgeries, sickness, and struggles, you get to a point where you no there is no more you can do, but wait and see what will prevail. Worry is for fools. Because it gets you no where. Friends disappear because they don’t understand. But Thank goodness the Lord sends people you don’t even know as angels to help you along the way. Because many times there is no one else who cares what it prevailing. When life hits you hard, YOU Pray! YOU Read the Word! YOU Stand Strong and not be discouraged!! Then Place some Praise Music on and Rock the neighborhood with the Music. Just like I have on right now!! Because the devil is being defeated. You surrender it ALL to the Lord, whatever the situations and let the chips fall as they will. Because no matter what, you know you are a Spiritual Warrior through Christ. To where however long the trial and tribulation is, you will get through. One just has to place on the full head of armor and say Satan you are defeated. My Lord is in control!!! Because no matter what the situations are that will prevail. Satan you will be defeated. For the Lord on high is glorious. Holy Spirit anoint my head, my hands, my feet, my ears, and my tongue. May your will be done not mine OH! Lord!!
    Rephrase to the prayer in the devotional
    Lord, at times I feel as if I’m sinking in the strongholds of the situations that are set before. Help me with my attitude and thought patterns. Let my heart and mind be cleansed by you. To show the I have in me a faith that shines your light and love.. Forgive me for letting negativity have power over how I feel, when life stinks with what trials and tribulations have been set before me. Help me to think with more positive out the negatives of life. Let me be a Spiritual Warrior to show you in how I live. Fill me with a fresh breath of the Holy Spirit to stand with a full shield of Armor to Conquer the things that the devil is trying to take from me. Give me a peace with a love that overflows, to be what you will mold me to be to transform my thoughts, heart and life that would only be pleasing to you. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    • Bethany Nelson says:

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I needed to hear that all today.

      • Bethany may God and Jesus give you peacefulness and grace that only God and Jesus can give you. In Jesus Name I pray Amen and amen Thank You God and Jesus for answering this prayer. In Jesus Name I pray Amen

    • Hello….I just read your post & feel a lift in my outlook. Thank you. The past 2-1/2 years have been very difficult ones. I survived colon cancer, then became a widow after 26 years of marriage. Now a new hurdle. Possible breast cancer, as my son is about to be married. At a time when my family is so happy, and I should be, I am consumed with negative thinking and it has been very hard. I have always been a great believer in God, and pray daily. I too believe that everything in this life happens for a reason. Thank you for your post, and God bless you.

  9. Amen!

  10. Yes my thought life has gotten best of me at times. When life feels overwhelming instead of thinking I sing You are my strength. Strength like no other reaches to me. That helps me to redirect my thoughts & destroy negative thoughts & bring my mind in obedience to God’s word.

  11. Jane muthoni Karuga says:

    Am a great fun of proverbs 31 ministries a great great blessing to my life and daily walk with the Lord. How do I purchase the recommended books from Nairobi Kenya?

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  12. Thank you for this!! I seem to be caught up in too much negativity these days at work & at home, even though I have so much to be grateful for. I need to read this every day!

  13. Melissa Larsen says:

    Thanks this really hit home. I had to realize this earlier in the week. This just confirmed it. Thank you, Lord.

  14. Keisha F. says:

    I usually read the daily devotions but never post. I really enjoyed today’s lesson. I struggle with negative thinking and have for years. It’s time to change my thinking regardless of what things may look like. Thank you!! Be blessed everyone.

  15. This message came into my inbox at the precise moment when my thoughts were running my life and feeling physically ill to the point where I couldn’t breath. Thank you for these encouraging and uplifting messages. I can’t tell you how many times they have ministered my heart and my spirit.

  16. It amazes me every time how the Lord gives me a word through these devotions JUST when I need it! I know He is all knowing but to realize He is thinking of me and knowing the struggles I have and leads me to a word that I need. He doesn’t want me to fail in my struggles, He wants me to know what His word says and to overcome. I’ve been dealing with negative thoughts lately which lead to negative and bitter thinking towards others and myself. Thank you Proverbs 31 for being Spirit led and ministering to women like me 🙂

    • Same!!I just pray about it and then when I saw the devotional for today I was wow! He knows that’s what I need for today.God is good to us

  17. A great message for not only today but every day. Thank you Tracie!

  18. Qualandria says:

    Every proverbs31 seem to be designed just for me. Lately, I have been struggling with negative thoughts and anxiety. But, I feel like God is showing me through his work how to overcome. Thank you for this devotion.

  19. Amy Jeanne says:

    I did a Bible study on what is taught about loving the LORD our God with all our mind a few years back and was very surprised by the result. I commend this to everyone. I also wanted to share a favorite poster which impacted the seriousness with which I took the issue of taking my negative thoughts captive: “Be careful of your thoughts, your thoughts become your words; Be careful of your words, your words become your actions; Be careful of your actions, your actions become your habits; Be careful of your habits, your habits become your character; Be careful of your character, your character is your destiny.” Reminds me that this is no small matter. We should know this, since Jesus said we can murder with our thoughts, but it has been a good reminder to me what an important issue this is to God.

  20. Sue Ellen says:

    As I started reading this, I thought, ” I could have written this myself” because it is so real to my thought process and how it affects literally everything in my life. I am absolutely aware of how incredibly blessed I am, and to God be the glory, and I am aware of the negative and insecure thinking and what it Is doing to me and how I fail at controlling it. Thanks to God for hearing my prayers and making me aware that I’m not alone and that I have the power within me to learn to stop this behavior.

  21. Thank you so much for this devotion. How powerful the message is for me today! I have just come out of a long season of negative events in my personal life and I wish I would have realized before this how powerful our thoughts can be and how they have that power to ruin relationships among other things. I am praying God will help me to change my thought patterns and bring me back into wholeness of mind and spirit. God bless you.

  22. I love today’s devotion! I went through a pretty dark time several years ago and my thoughts were truly destroying me and everything I held dear in my life. But thank God for praying sisters and brothers! God not only brought me up out of the pit, but he changed my thinking. As my thinking changed, so did my life. I truly began to see things and people, and even myself, in a whole different light. Seeing AND focusing on the good in the people in my life instead of the negative, which most of the time were pretty petty, but nevertheless used by the enemy to destroy what was truly good in my life. I can’t thank God enough for what he has done in my life these past several years! The following scripture is what I strive to live by each day.

    Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. NASB

    The enemy still tries to trip me up, and at time he is successful, but not for long. I just have to remember and think about what God has done in my life, and my perspective of a situation or someone changes.

    I never want to go back to that dark place in my life, so I choose to think on what is good!

    • Can you tell me more how you were able to get out of that dark plave. I am.im one now and have been for momths..I need advice..prayers..etc. I canr seem to get out of this and I can’t take it much longer. Would love some advice what helped you.

      • GODONLYKNOWS says:

        Mary.. First get down on your knees and tell the Devil YOU HAVE NO HOLD On ME!! Then ask Jesus into your heart and to forgive you of your sins. Then ask Jesus to cleanse your mind, your body, and make you a new person in Him. Then if at all “possible” drop all the people in your life that make you feel in your dark place. Only if these people are verbally hurting you with words, would I advise this. If you cannot “possible” drop them, then stand as Warrior to the ones offending you. Don’t let them tear you apart. Then START each day with a Prayer! Lord Anoint my head, my hands, my feet, my ears, my eyes, my heart, my mind, and body that I may be shielded by you. Then start looking for the blessings out of the circumstances that are making you feel low and dark. There is a tunnel even at the long dim valley. But there is a Bright light no longer how long the tunnel may be. Read and look in the Bible where Jonah was in a belly of a whale for 3 days, Moses had the children in the wilderness for 40 years even though they actually had not traveled very far from one distance to another. Start devouring the word is in the Bible. Find uplifting scriptures!! Read about how many people over came what they were going through in life circumstances in the Bible. Digest the uplifting words of encouragement in the Bible. Then start singing Praises to the Lord. Take a BIG jar, and place a tablet by it. Start daily writing whatever blessing you have encountered for the day. Bills paid, this chore done, groceries purchased, the sun is out, the children if you have any did this or that, my spouse if you have one did this uplifting, just keep finding anything and everything to be Thankfully blessed with. IF you feel you cannot find anything to be blessed with. Then write I made it through the day. Place each of these papers of blessings in the jar. Watch the jar grow. On the dark down days dump that jar and start reading the goodness of God Blessing you. You will see those days will be no longer darker as they once were. To where a bright light will start emerging. Believe me I went through some mighty fierce storms and had my self in a deep darkness at one time for a long time. I then started dusting my shoes off, and cleaning house of everyone who brought me down, things in life that discouraged me. I still had some severe medical and financial issues to bring most people down. But through GOD’s Grace!! I have learned to Pray and Praise when those days seem difficult with different news that could sink any ones heart. I look more for the beauty out of the ashes of the troubled winds that could bring some one carinal down. But instead say SATAN BE Gone!! By the Blood of Jesus Make me New by You!! Then I rock the house, or the car with Praise Music and start singing to get through the Moment. Just like a good scripture is to read is how Paul and Silas beaten and broken and in Jail sang Praises that the Gates of the Jail Opened UP!! You can overcome too.

        Dear Lord, Praise be to you! You know what adversities have even hit my own household the last 24 hours. But by YOUR Mercy and Grace you have shown your Power already on the circumstance. I PRAISE YOU For that. Help me to continue too be a strong Warrior especially with you. Dear Lord! Help Mary, help her be set free from the darkness. Break the chains that bind her in Jesus Name. For I know that season of darkness. And by your being their always even at the points when I didn’t want you, you still stood there waiting. Show Mary you are there RIGHT NOW There with her. Satan YOU HAVE NO AUTHORITY!!! BE GONE BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS!! Dear Lord send a flood of tidal waves of Peace that Passes all understanding to Mary right now. Let her see the flood lights shining through the circumstances that are making things NO LONGER DARK!! That Through you she can be a Warrior. Let her be flooded with people that uplift, encourage, and strengthen her with your Power and the Anointing of the Holy Spirit!! In your Precious Name! AMEN

        Now Mary go Rock the house with Praise music.

  23. Wow, so convicting for me for. I have also been hurt in my marriage and since have been feeling down, sad, hurt, frustrated and fearful that we won’t be able to “fix” our problems and our marriage . I can relate to not wanting to feel these emotions but every time we are faced with a new problem or we disagree, my mind would directly go back to those hurtful situations. It is a daily struggle for me to keep my thoughts positive and I can see how this affects the other areas of my life as well… I pray for the Lord to change me from the inside, out. I pray he will change my thoughts, mind, my heart and my way of living so that I can live in peace, happiness and joy. Amen

  24. CRISTINA says:

    This devotion came at a perfect timig. Negative thoughts try to discourage me and make me feel as if what I am go through right now is my future. But the word of God and having faith is what brings me back up and reminds me that God has a purpose through this trial. I continue fighting for my marriage, even if my Husband already left the home, but I don’t give up and I continue to pray. I have to constantly remind myself that “I walk by faith and not by sight”. God Bless everyone. The word of God is the best weapon against any negative thoughts or words spoken against us.

  25. Julia Bettis says:

    What an excellent devotion! I really needed that exhortation! Thank you!

  26. Changing my thoughts is easier said that done and I have difficulty just turning if off especially when I’m in a waiting season. Thanks “GODONLYKNOWS” for those timely words. I choose to stand strong, preserver in spite of the circumstances. My husband and I are waiting to see how God handles a situation with my daughter. We are not alone in this battle.

  27. The Lord never seizes to amaze me, I am currently in the middle of a separation with my husband, and the negative words he would continuously speak to me left me feeling unloveable, unable to commit, unable to be faithful, and worthless. This devotion could not have come at a greater time, as I prayed last night of not letting my husbands words become my thoughts, as they so often did. I praise you Jesus for always showing me unconditional love, even when I sin and act with my flesh and not my spirit, thank you for reminding me that I am not all the negative things I hear, or have done, and that you are merciful providing a new day a new chance to do better then the last, in your holy name I pray Amen

    • Cristina says:

      Amen. God is faithful. Just stay strong and continue praying. God Bless you. I will pray for you and your husband

  28. Leanne Valasek says:

    Thank you so much for this verse. I’ve been struggling with negative thoughts and letting them rule my life and this new found relationship with my boyfriend Ryan. Please pray that God will help me turn my thoughts around. I feel like I’m going crazy .

  29. Today’s message was just what my son and I needed to hear. He was feeling fearful about going into sit in on a math class today. Earlier I was in the school guidance counselors office registering my other son for high school. I left the office after getting him enrolled and found him telling me how embarrassed of me he was. I know it is a typical teenage thing for kids to feel this was but I was hurt. Then the negative thoughts started in on my mind. You do ask stupid questions. I embarrassed him by asking questions about things that are all found on the school website. If only i had taken the time to look at it. Which I didnt look at. He had he know the clubs the school had to offer. I didnt but I asked the counselor. He was embarrassed.
    I started stewing over what other questions I had asked during the meeting that may have embarrassed him. I couldn’t think of anything specifically that I had asked that was not a resaonable question to ask. Then negative thoughts started playing out in my head I know I must not get offended by my son. Carrying an offense against someone you love only puts a wedge between you. I had to let the anger go and not let my heart hurt. The truth is he is growing up. I only have 3 more years with him to teach him love him and help him. And not give up and let the thoughts go to a negative place. I still have time with him to help him on his growimg and maturing into a young man. I cant get caught up in offenses.

  30. Thank you. When I saw the title for today’s devotional my first thought was, “you gotta be kidding me.” Just last night and early this morning I have been in a battle with my thoughts. The beginning of this devotional is me. This came at the very precise time God wanted me to have it. I cry out to God wishing He could speak ‘audibly” to me like in the Old Testament… Even though He didn’t speak in a burning bush in my backyard His voice came through loud and clear this morning by reading this devotional. I also thank everyone for responding. Knowing I am not alone in this is also a blessing. I have work to do in this area but I want God to work through me and I want to be His servant wherever and whenever He shows me…

  31. I am struggling hard with my thoughts right now. My husband walked out on my 5 kids and I to just enjoy his life and have no responsibility. I have allowed my thoughts to dictate my day. I really needed this devotion. Thank you.

    • Cristina says:

      I will pray for you. God is good and faithful. He is in control of everything. I wanted to share with you that my Husband left as well and I have 3 kids. I have to remind myself to take it day by day. God will help us get through this journey. He will never forsaken us. I pray that the Lord almighty will give you the peace, strength, comfort and wisdom you need in this season. And I will also pray for your Husband that God will direct his paths according to His will. God Bless you and your family. God Bless your precious children.

  32. I needed this today and in this season of my life…thank You…

  33. Having dealt with anxiety for 20 years, the re-emergence of it (and panic attacks) 7 months ago has left me depleted, afraid, weak, and filled with dread. I realize now that my automatic thoughts are negative, suspicious, and doubtful. While I’m sure that some of my battle is due to other circumstances, my thoughts have not been on what is lovely, pure, righteous, etc. It’s all been fear! Thank you for this very timely devotional.

    • GOD ONLY KNOWS says:

      A… Fear stands for this..something the Lord laid on my heart when I went through a fearful battle myself the other year.
      F. ….ighting
      E…nemy with an
      A….rsonal of
      R. igheousness!!
      When you are fearful!! Tell the devil, by the Blood of JESUS Be GONE!!! Then take and start reading and digesting the word. Then start singing PRAISES!!! with Worship Praising MUSIC!!
      When the panic attacks, and anxiety hit. Decipher what the root of them are that are causing you to be upset over what may pass through. YOU CAN DO IT!!! YOU CAN BE A SPIRITUAL Warrior!!! Stand STRONG not defeated. The more you break the chains of anxiety and worry, fear, and panic attacks you will find you can be a deliverer and one day give your testimony on how you OVERCAME those attacks by the devil For he likes to rob, steal, and take away our power to defeat him by the BLOOD of JESUS!!
      DEAR LORD, I know where you have delivered me by these attacks that A has been dealing with. BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS!! I ask you to send a TIDAL WAVE of your LOVE AND JOY!! to show A, that through it all you are there and by your stripes we can be delivered. Send A your abundance of understanding that what trials and tribulation they are going through that by YOU and only YOU!! Alone can give them a peace that passes all understanding. In your precious name. AMEN!!!

  34. Thank you so much sending this post out. The very thing I needed right now in my life. I just ordered tracie’s new book.
    Praying this book will help me see things differently! God bless you!!

  35. Oh how I needed this…. My thoughts have been exactly like this. I recently got divorced on the 9th & I found out yesterday that my ex-husband just married the OW. I’ve tried to renew my mind & focus on God’s promises but it’s so hard. I sometimes feel like Gods presence isn’t with me. Please keep my family in prayer

  36. Thank you sister for this life changing thought!!! I am struggling with negative thoughts due pressure around. Definitely I need HIS grace to shift my thoughts 180 degree and see HIS hands in everything 🙂

  37. Thank you for this devotion today. I really needed this for the season of my life and the heartache that I am dealing with when it comes to my sister and I relationship.

  38. This devotional spoke to me so personally, I just had to comment and say thank you. Im definitely saving this to read in times if struggle..
    For me personally, I’ve always struggled with negativity & tried to rise above, but could never identify it. I married my husband quickly without hardly knowing him, and after the fact, couldn’t believe who I married. The devil plays into this so much and my thoughts to my husband were exactly this devotional. I had too remember God has forgiven us all, and we are a new creation. And rise above all my negative thoughts, when I do that, the Lord has blessed me more than I could’ve imagine.
    Thank you again for this great devotional. I’m sure in the years to come I’ll read it many times over!

  39. Dear Tracie,
    Thank you for sharing this! I’ve known I needed to work on this at times in my life. Times when I should of been swept away by joy, but I let my thoughts sabotage the goodness that God was showing me. This is such a true and life-altering word. Thank you.

  40. Cathy Lee Z says:

    I am so appreciative of this devotion today- it was exactly what I needed to hear. I gave up “worry” for Lent, yet find my thoughts sneak back into worrying patterns whenever I stop being vigilant. This reminds me I can choose to redirect my thoughts.

  41. Susan G. says:

    A powerful verse 2 Corinthians 10:5!

  42. I loved this article! I have been consulting, coaching and volunteering with women for over 25 years. Our thoughts and suppressed emotions can surface at any time like hidden computer viruses. I prayed for something that would help women at a deeper level with these self-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs and found a quick, easy technique. It is a blessing to all women and incorporates our Creator in the process.

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  44. Traci,

    Thank you for writing this book. I plan on getting a copy as soon as I’m able. This is an answer to prayer for me. I have struggled with negative thinking for years. It has impacted my marriage and family life. I have continually prayed for God to change my thinking. I have felt so much peace within as I read today’s devotion, and scrolled thru your blog. Thank God for answered prayers. I can’t wait to be able to get this book! I’m ready to experience a life change. I can’t count the times I asked for God to “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!

  45. All the comments seem to agree and support the statements in the post. Are there any dissenting opinions that are posted? I asked because I was reading it and some things jumped out at me. Solomon did talk about handling money, etc in proverbs so I wondered why it was stated that he didn’t. The parts talking about thoughts making our life what it is sounds dangerously close to what Joel Osteen, Joyce Meyer, etc falsely teach. That we should be theological magicians and our thoughts and words bend reality and to some degree even God to our will. That sounds so much like making myself God, the same thing that Adam and Eve fell into, the same thing we all fall into and need to repent and be forgiven of. We want control, we don’t like that we don’t have control. We think that God’s word is not sufficient, we don’t trust him. For this and all other sins he died, that we would be saved. Sometimes the em-PHA-sis is on the wrong syl-A-ble when we make this about what we need to do, what if instead we made it about what Christ did, and does for us and in us. What if it is about his actions and not ours? What if we trust him and find out that our life is all about continually receiving the grace and mercy and forgiveness that he keeps giving us? What if we realize that we are beggars and come before him with nothing and he gives everything? Lord grant us discernment to learn who you are and to marvel in the glory that you so willingly show in granting us mercy. Help those who are despairing to hear your word, to know that they are forgiven, to be granted Godly pastors to help them understand this, and to apply the balm of your Gospel to their troubled soul. May all come to you Lord and be saved, through Jesus Christ who lives and reigns with you and Holy Spirit, One God, now and forever. Amen.

  46. Jody Chesen says:

    This posting spoke directly to my heart today. Thank you.

  47. So much of our thoughts are based on fear in the negetive circumstances in our lives. A very close friend of mine called them evil forbodings. When those thoughts enter into my brain And I feel the check of the Holy Spirit, I rebuke them and thank God for his love and guidance. It is always about the trust we place in God and his son Jesus. The words of the song I Will Trust always tun through my mind at those times. Thank you for this message of wisdom today. What a good reminder.

  48. I did not have an opportunity to read this yesterday because God knew I needed it today. I struggle with negative self talk regarding my eating disorder. I was praying for scripture to help and God provided. Thank you for being His vessel.

  49. I am going through a rough season now, someone is telling me that I’m not a Christian and I’m questioning my faith, yet I know that its Satan trying to make me slip up

    • GODONLYKNOWS says:

      Dear SJB.. Ask the Lord what it means to be a Christian? Ask him to reveal to you the right scriptures on what it means to be a Christian. I once heard a Pastor describe a Christian is someone who is in Christ.
      The “someone” who saying your not a Christian is from their own judgement. Even Jesus was judged by people, he was crucified by man not understanding, and he still is crucified by people today not understanding. BUT!! OH!! How WONDERFUL it is to know that Christ is not what some carinal people think he is in their views. To where those that “BELIEVE and RECIEVE him” know the true Christ Jesus. As for the one who says you are not a Christian, ask them to tell you “why?” they feel your are not a Christian by their views. But be prepared for the answers. Then show them by scripture that you have already prepared yourself with for battle on what the Lord says in the Bible on what it is to be a Christian. Make certain you have a shield of armor n what the Bible describes in armor on for the battle to be prepared on what discussion will be said both ways. Look for the scripture on how Stephen was stoned. People can stone others by judgement. But they need to read the scripture that says to take the board out of their own eye before they cast judgement on another. We are all daily being molded in a form of what Jesus would want us to be. Not what man wants. But what Jesus wants!! Don’t let the devil have a flea step to a miles step in breaking what you are trying to be a Warrior for Christian. Tell the devil to be gone BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS! Then each day armor your self with the word of the Bible and to have the Lord daily mold you freely and willingly by your heart to build you stronger into what the Bible describes is a Christian.

  50. My marriage is very unhealthy and I am becoming the same so this has been very timely. Thank You.

  51. I am grateful for these wonderful words from so many who have been through so much. I had implicit trust in my husband of 28 years and after finding out about his multiple infidelities 18 months ago, negative thoughts have consumed me constantly. In trying to make our marriage work with little effort on his part, I finally realised that God’s will has to be done and I had to change my ways for that to happen. God is the only One who deserves our trust and in whom we should believe and hope – because He will never let us down. He has proven this by giving His life for us when we did not deserve it.
    Even now, when God works positively in my life and in His own time, the negative thoughts creep in and I have to make a herculean effort to drive them away and focus on God – only prayer helps with this. The negative thoughts do make things seem worse than they are!
    Family life is definitely under attack from the evil one and he wants our families to a apart. We have to fight with the full armour of the Almighty to preserve the family of God.
    May the unfathomable Love of Jesus Christ sustain us all.

  52. In dark place now..please pray for me to get out. Been going on too long. I need miracle

  53. Darlene says:

    Only if I had read this word before coming into work. I often get negative thoughts and its hard to control them sometimes I just want to sit and cry. But when I read Gods word and devotions I get over it but only I can learn to control the negative thoughts before my actions reflect them :/ its a hard process for me. Please keep me in prayer I really needed this

    • GODONLYKNOWS says:

      Dear Lord, Show Darlene to be a Spiritual Warrior in you. Show her to place on the full armor of you. Let her be strong in your shield by your love and the Holy Spirit anointing. That when the words come her way that could destroy her carinal nature, let them drop like flies and immediately do not penetrate her mind, body, or soul. Let her be able to show your unconditional overflowing love for the people who curse her with harmful words. Bless her and keep her forever strong in your loving arms by your precious love, and joy. IN YOUR PRECIOUS NAME!!AMEN

  54. You were talking to me!! This helped me a lot today for I struggle with negative thoughts but I no longer want this to be apart od my life no longer. I will write these scriptures down and place them on my wall. Thank you!

  55. My divorce was finalized last summer. I struggle with constant negative thoughs about the other woman and my ex-husband. I don’t understand why they get to be “happy” and “in love” while my 2 littles and I are so hurt. i have to make a conscious effort to redirect my thoughts when they take over and focus on Jesus. I pray it gets easier, right now it is still so hard not to focus on the negative which drives me crazy.

    • GODONLYKNOWS says:

      Dear Lord Show Kim that you are there with her right now. Let her know how to forgive and to move on. Let her know the peace that passes all understanding. By your stripes she can be healed. In YOUR Precious Name Amen

      Kim take a chair and sit it in the middle of a room with only you and the chair. Then act like the ex husband is sitting there and vent out your words you are feeling in being hurt. Do the same as if it was his new wife. Then confess your own mistakes. Then get down on your knees and ask the Lord to forgive you as you ask for forgiveness for those that have hurt the heart you have. Then ask Jesus in your heart and to bring you into his salvation light to make you realize that you can be forgiven, just as you will forgive those that have hurt you. Then ask Jesus to show you a newness by is stripes of healing to take all the hurt away. Then go and believe me this is hard but you will feel even more released by contacting the ex husband and the new wife and say forgive me, as I forgive you. Then say I wish to make things new with a fresh start. For we have 2 children we need to all bless together. Then let things not show that the devil has control. But by the Blood of the newness of Jesus IN you, YOU will be able to move on as a new creature with Jesus helping you.

      • GODONLYKNOWS says:

        I someone mistyped the one word.. the one sentence with the is, when it was to be
        Then ask Jesus to show you a newness by His stripes

        • GODONLYKNOWS says:

          How in the world? The word someone was supposed to be some how I mistyped the one word. SORRY!! For the misspelling earlier.

      • Thank you so much for your suggestions. Forgiveness is a process for me but you’re right I need to ask for his forgiveness too.

  56. Hi, the whole thing is going well here and ofcourse every one is sharing facts, that’s really fine, keep up writing.

  57. Julianne says:

    This is exactly what I needed this morning after a night of horrible dreams. I’ve realized more and more in the past few months the destructive thought patterns that I’ve allowed to basically run most of my adult life. I heard a lecture once from a neuropsychologist that it takes time and repitition to write over those pathways with new ones. The same reason a baseball pitcher practices his pitches over and over again so that they are imprinted on his brain. Takes time and discipline.

  58. I have been struggling with this for a while. I am trying to stay positive and believing God have a plan for me. I have lost my job and insecure of my nextjob. I have let negativity take over and feel like I am drowning and have no control. I do not want to live in negative thought anymore. I am trying to stay positive and not allow this to consume me. Very hard to do.

  59. This is so important in living in victory, however, it is something that we must remind ourselves of each day. Controlling our thought life really does make a difference, especially when walking through storms. Thank you for sharing on this subject.

  60. Shirley says:

    I read the devotion at just the time it is needed. God is always on time. Thank you.

  61. Francisca says:

    As always everything i read is timely and valuable, i have let alot of negative thoughts creep into my life because of negative advice from so called family. I’m wiser now as I continue to wait on the Lord he will make everything to completion in his own time. I continue to stay positive.

  62. Lynn (Male) says:

    I’m going through a difficult time in my life right now and as I’m sitting here listening to K-LOVE, Lisa Terkeurst’s spot came on and it led me here. And as I was reading, the Casting Crowns song East to West came on. I find it amazing how things seem to fit together at the right moment.
    Even though I’m still hurting, it did give me a small glimmer of hope.

  63. Jeanette Mericle says:

    Tracie, thank you for being real and transparent. This is what makes Proverbs 31 so exceptional. All of you, who we have the privilege to read devotions from, show us real transparent honesty that changes lives and helps us take steps toward a very real relationship with the Lord. You ladies are simply incredible in what you do for the kingdom of God! I thank God for you and the team of Proverbs 31 ministries, and I am continually sharing with others about this ministry! Thank you for giving to the Lord, for I have a life that’s been changed because of it! God bless Proverbs 31 Ministries!

  64. I can’t begin to tell you how badly I needed this. This season of my life is not a pleasant one at all. The past couple of years have been filled with much pain and heartache. My son married only to be divorced a year later from a lady suffering BI-polar and alcohol addiction. My daughter has been in and out of relationships and is not walking with God. i find myself blaming “me” and feeling so out of control. I am affected by others talking about me and hurting my feelings. I am angry at my daughter and her boyfriend(s) for living in sin. Last night I just lust it when I learned she was in yet another dating game. I know my negative thinking is controlling me and I want it to stop. I never imagined in all of my life that being a Christian would be so hard. I never thought other people could hurt me like this.

    I have made a decision today to STOP thinking I have to be in control of my life and just allow God to fill me with His Hope and Peace, I want it and I long for that desire. Why do I worry so when I know that I know that God is.able to do above and beyond what I ask and what I need in my life. I would covet your prayers for me and for my family. Dottie

  65. Danesha George says:

    I’ve really been feeling alone and like my life is falling apart because my emotions are running wild. My thoughts are driving me crazy I want to think positive and feel better but I can’t because my thoughts are right there waitting to take it away from me. I’m thankful to be able to come to proverbs31.org and get some great encouragement.

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