“If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit.” Galatians 5:25 (CSB)

As we get further into this new year, chances are that you’re adjusting to change in some form.

Maybe one of those changes is that someone you did life with last year is no longer here. And not because they passed away; instead, they chose to walk away.

First of all, I’m so sorry. I don’t have to know the details to know that relationships can be so complicated.

Secondly, I also know the roller coaster of emotions that come after a falling-out. From deep sadness and grief to the aches of loneliness to wondering why they left to anger that grows into resentment and even numbness … it’s all so hard.

Then you have a moment of clarity and come to this realization: Yes, they left. Maybe you know why, or you don’t; it doesn’t really matter. Either way, this moment is not the whole story.

Friend, can I encourage you today? Their leaving is a loss. Loneliness is horribly painful. But there is a God who is with you in the midst of that pain.

I’ve been in your shoes, and I know how tender your heart must feel. But I also want to share these three truths with you:

1. Even when we feel abandoned, we have the never-fleeing presence of the Holy Spirit. The absence of the person who left may be making you feel worthless, but the presence of the Holy Spirit who stays is a reminder to you that you have unsurpassed worth (Psalm 139:7-10).

 

2. This relationship may have ended, but that doesn’t make you a failure. If no one else has ever said this to you, I want to say it to you: You are not defined by your successes. You are not defined by your failures. Your value and worth come intrinsically from being made in the image and likeness of God. And nothing can shake that.

In case you’re not fully convinced, look at Romans 5:6: “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly” (ESV). My favorite part of this verse is “while we were still weak.” We aren’t bothering God when we feel weak; He delights in helping us. Through mistakes and regrets, our own sinful choices, and the hurtful decisions of others, we may feel broken, but we aren’t beyond the reach of our Savior.

3. The best is still yet to come. At some point, we have to decide to leave behind what was and embrace what will be. When you are ready to take that step, just know the Spirit of God is with you as your guide, just like Galatians 5:25 says: “If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit.”

Though you’re experiencing heartbreak right now, I pray this is a time of closeness with Jesus like never before. You are loved, friend.

Lord, though I struggle to believe it at times, I know You are close to me in my pain. Even when I feel lonely, abandoned or hopeless, You are here. I am not alone. Your Spirit is here. Your presence is here. Your power is here. I entrust every part of my life to You, my good and gracious heavenly Father. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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Psalm 116:1-2, “I love the LORD because he has heard my appeal for mercy. Because he has turned his ear to me, I will call out to him as long as I live” (CSB).

When was the last time you cried out to the Lord in your loneliness? Today, remember that He is a God who turns His ear to you.

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